1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,640 The traditional man does not and should not exist anymore. 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,320 You cannot ask for stay at home wifey privileges if you don't 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:07,800 have stay at home wifey money. And despite whatever dating 4 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:11,040 content you may be seeing online about wanting or wanting to be a 5 00:00:11,040 --> 00:00:12,960 traditional man, the. Man, that'll Take Me Out, 6 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:15,840 encourage me to be a better person, things of that nature. 7 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,080 The world that we're living in makes it abundantly clear that 8 00:00:18,080 --> 00:00:21,200 the traditional man that we're all seemingly looking for is 9 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:22,920 nothing more than a boogeyman of the past. 10 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,840 Because nothing about our current society is traditional. 11 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,040 You have to be fit. You have to be worldly, well 12 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,160 spoken, and be able to be articulate in a conversation to 13 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:32,240 communicate because a woman is really going to need 14 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:34,240 communication because it's going to get emotional. 15 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:35,680 You got a few minutes. Let me explain. 16 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:37,440 I'm looking for a traditional man. 17 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,480 The traditional man, or just traditionalism in general is 18 00:00:40,480 --> 00:00:43,560 something that you hear a lot in online dating discourse nowadays 19 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:45,640 and this yearn for traditionalism is coming from 20 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,520 both sides. It's coming from men saying that 21 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,960 they hold traditional values and are looking for a traditional 22 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:51,720 partner themselves. Oftentimes with that meaning 23 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,240 that they expect a certain level of obedience from their partners 24 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:57,400 and that they expect a traditional division of Labor. 25 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,360 With that usually meaning that the man basically just goes to 26 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,320 work, takes care of finances, and the woman does the cooking, 27 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:04,519 cleaning, emotional labor, and pretty much everything else. 28 00:01:04,519 --> 00:01:06,880 And we'll unpack that later because there is a lot that goes 29 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,160 into that and there's actually a lot of media representation of 30 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,960 that and the flaws in some of that and some recent shows like 31 00:01:11,960 --> 00:01:14,440 Euphoria and Pop the Balloon that add a little nuance to 32 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:15,840 this. But we also see a sort of 33 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,720 yearning for a traditional man from women, which is actually a 34 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,680 different kind of man than the man that men are saying are 35 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:22,960 traditional. Does that make sense? 36 00:01:22,960 --> 00:01:24,760 I don't know. OFT times associating a 37 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:27,400 traditional man with a sense of stability, a sense of leadership 38 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:29,760 and confidence both financially and emotionally. 39 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:31,960 The online discourse about wanting a traditional man 40 00:01:31,960 --> 00:01:34,080 because having one allegedly allows women to live in their 41 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,160 divine feminine and be just a girl. 42 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,400 Well, I'm here to say that I believe that both sides are a 43 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:42,280 little misguided in what they believe a traditional man to be. 44 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,960 Because again, I do not believe, especially for Gen. 45 00:01:44,960 --> 00:01:48,560 Z, that the traditional man exists anymore, nor do I feel 46 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,240 like he necessarily should. It's no secret that we exist at 47 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,360 a time right now where things like conservatism and 48 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:56,280 traditionalism are on a rise. Wanting to get back to the good 49 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:59,280 old days is in fashion right now and we've seen that play out in 50 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,160 many different areas. One of the areas that is 51 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,560 especially interesting to me is in dating. 52 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,160 We see things like trad wives and trad lives trending on 53 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:08,560 TikTok with people romanticizing traditional gender roles like 54 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,960 the woman staying home and being in the kitchen and taking care 55 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:12,160 of the kids and cooking the meals. 56 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,200 But like yasifying it to make it seem like it's something that's 57 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,080 progressive and like your own choice when reality is just 58 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:18,960 repackage misogyny. You have content geared towards 59 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,200 men talking about how they should be providers, alphas and 60 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:23,560 high value. Essentially broifying misogyny 61 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,560 even more so that men can play out the role of being the boss. 62 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:28,680 And in my opinion, this is all just gender LARping. 63 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:29,960 And there's actually sources to back this up. 64 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,640 According to a study connected by the BBCA study that surveyed 65 00:02:32,640 --> 00:02:36,440 23,000 people worldwide shows that as many as 31% of men in 66 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,800 their teens and 20s believed that a wife should always obey 67 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,200 her husband, while 13% of older men aged 60 and over agreed with 68 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:44,960 the same statement. The findings show that in a lot 69 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:47,440 of ways, women's rights are being rolled back and public 70 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:49,920 attitudes towards women's rights are unfortunately going in the 71 00:02:49,920 --> 00:02:51,760 wrong direction. According to Penny E, chief 72 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:55,000 executive of UK based women's rights organization The Fawcett 73 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:57,160 Society and her view, a contributing factor to changing 74 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,480 attitudes is the shocking levels of misogyny both online offline 75 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,080 that boys are exposed to. Just in the way that young men 76 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:06,200 are being taught that the way to happiness is wealth, cars, girls 77 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:07,760 and physical strength. There are women being taught 78 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,040 that the way to happiness is a really traditional idea of 79 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:11,600 femininity. Going further to say that some 80 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,840 of that is trad wife staying in the kitchen, aesthetically 81 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:16,200 pleasing content, but there's a darker side to that which is 82 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,840 about subservience. If the man is providing, does he 83 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:20,920 therefore rule the home? She asked rhetorically. 84 00:03:20,920 --> 00:03:22,880 It just feels like things are going in the wrong direction, he 85 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:26,080 says, adding that it's affecting both the young men and young 86 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:27,280 women. And this brings me more 87 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:31,000 specifically as to why I believe that traditional men, or if you 88 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:38,400 will, just don't exist. I think these men are forgetting 89 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:41,840 the other half of the bargain, which is if you want a woman who 90 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:45,200 is going to be a traditional, a traditional wife who's going to 91 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,280 do all your cooking, cleaning, whatever, you have to take care 92 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,600 of her. You have to be able to afford 93 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:54,080 all of the bills because she's not going to be working like 94 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,760 she's going to stay at home and take care of your house. 95 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,240 That's what a traditional housewife does. 96 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,840 Because when you think about the concept of a traditional man in 97 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,000 the sense that a lot of people imply, it is a man that is 98 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,280 married with kids that's able to provide for their whole family. 99 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:09,040 They exude this feeling of masculinity and confidence and 100 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:11,520 are able to just like walk in and rule any room that they live 101 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:12,880 in. And I don't know if this is news 102 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:16,240 to you, but like it is very hard, if not impossible to have 103 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,040 any of that in the current world that we live in. 104 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:20,079 Like, let's just unpack the economic peace for a second. 105 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:23,640 In what world can average person on a single salary provide for 106 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:28,200 an entire family? I'll wait. 107 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:30,760 I'll wait. I'm sorry but what the hell does 108 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:32,720 it mean for a man to lead a household? 109 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,040 Like what does that actually mean? 110 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:37,120 Have you seen the video of the woman? 111 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:40,080 She's been married for like about a year and she's talking 112 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,480 about how her husband is the leader of the house but she 113 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:47,040 manages everything and how she's trying to figure out, since 114 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:52,040 she's an assertive woman and her husband is not quite assertive, 115 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,720 how this dynamic should work for them and how he should lead the 116 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:57,960 household. A lot of Gen. 117 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:01,200 Z men who claim that like I want a trad wife, I want my wife to 118 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,280 be a stay at home mom. Like, you know, all these, you 119 00:05:03,280 --> 00:05:07,240 know, trad wife Larpers, I'm going to call them because they 120 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:10,840 do not have the money to provide for a real trad wife and they 121 00:05:10,840 --> 00:05:13,000 are not even interested in securing the money. 122 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,560 According to the Labor Bureau, in Q3 of 2025, men in the US 123 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:21,680 made a median of $1338 weekly. And that's at most a little 124 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:24,680 under $70,000 a year, assuming that you're working 40 hours a 125 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:28,200 week, 52 weeks a year. All pre tax, mind you. 126 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:30,320 And that kind of salary is supposed to provide a life for 127 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,520 both you, your partner and your kids. 128 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,200 No, no. Maybe back in the 1950s, sure. 129 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:40,000 But in 2026, yeah, that's not providing for nothing unless you 130 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:43,760 live in Bumble America. And even then it is pushing it. 131 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:46,640 And I'm not saying that it's impossible to provide for a 132 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,160 whole family on that salary, but it's definitely not as feasible 133 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,200 as it used to, and it's especially not going to be 134 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:53,160 possible for younger people. Like the concept of 135 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,840 traditionalism in a traditional man just does not hold up in 136 00:05:55,840 --> 00:05:58,120 2026. And I think it's crazy to expect 137 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:00,720 that of yourself and to expect that of others given the space 138 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:02,760 that we are all in. And something even crazier, in 139 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:05,120 my opinion, is to not be a traditional man yourself and to 140 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,040 expect a traditional woman. How does that work? 141 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:08,160 And you know what, I want to be fair. 142 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:10,520 If y'all like this video and the video does well, I'll do a Part 143 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:13,080 2 follow up series talking about why traditional women don't 144 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:14,680 exist either. Because again, personally, I 145 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:17,080 don't believe that the whole concept, traditionalism for men, 146 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:19,440 women or otherwise is applicable or even a thing for Gen. 147 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:20,720 Z or just young people in general. 148 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:23,040 Because if we're being so real, what traditions are we 149 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:24,840 following? Like we see this issue almost 150 00:06:24,840 --> 00:06:26,840 directly played out in shows like Euphoria. 151 00:06:26,840 --> 00:06:29,000 If you've seen the first episode of the latest season, you know 152 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,200 that this plays out almost bar for bar between the relationship 153 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,400 of Nate and Cassie. These are two people that are 154 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,080 desperate to be living out the traditional fantasy with Nate 155 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:39,880 wanting to be the traditional man and Cassie wanting to be the 156 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:43,040 traditional woman in a sense, or I'd more so say that Nate 157 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:44,760 wanting Cassie to be a traditional woman. 158 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,240 But as we can tell from the first episode and what I think 159 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:49,040 is going to be their whole subplot throughout the whole 160 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,640 season, that just does not hold up for people of our generation. 161 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:53,680 Because, mind you, at the point in this season, these characters 162 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,600 have to be around 2324, and they're already engaged, living 163 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,680 in a beautiful house, doing the whole traditional fantasy. 164 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,680 Like Nate goes to work and Cassie stays home and does 165 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,680 whatever she wants to do. But as the show points out for 166 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:03,960 Nate, he's struggling with money. 167 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:05,560 He's not making money. It's all a ruse. 168 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:07,560 And we're going to see that come crashing down on him. 169 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,000 But he's still desperate to cling to this traditional idea 170 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,240 of what marriage is supposed to be, what a man is supposed to 171 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:13,920 be. But he clearly cannot live up to 172 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:15,320 that. And we're seeing the downfalls 173 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:16,880 of that. He has a sort of inflated 174 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:19,640 lifestyle about himself, owning a cyber truck, incredibly 175 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,480 expensive car, seemingly owns a really nice house, but struggles 176 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:24,840 to afford the nice wedding that his wife to be wants. 177 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,160 And then on Cassie's side, she's playing the stay at home wife 178 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:29,400 but isn't really living up to the traditional wife standards, 179 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,480 wanting to do her own thing on the side, whether that be TikTok 180 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,160 or now only fans to help provide for the bougie wedding that she 181 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:36,040 wants for herself. Based on probably what she's 182 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,160 seen on social media, they're both trying to perform their 183 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:40,800 gender roles to the Max. And it's clear that that's not 184 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,800 working because even in conversations that they're 185 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:45,080 having around their wedding, Nate tries to do the traditional 186 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:48,000 man thing of like controlling conversation and the couple's 187 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,600 decisions because he is the breadwinner and the man that 188 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,400 makes the money. Directly asking Cassie, how are 189 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:53,920 you making decisions when you don't make any money? 190 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:54,920 Like I'm the one that makes the money. 191 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,920 I'm the breadwinner here. With Cassie then pushing back, 192 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,760 saying that she's going to start an only fans if he can't provide 193 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:02,560 the provider life that she wants for herself or the provider life 194 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:04,080 that she thinks she wants for herself. 195 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:05,880 Based on probably what she's seen on social media. 196 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,600 And despite both of them thinking that they're living the 197 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,840 traditional life, Nate can barely afford providing for the 198 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:11,880 two of them and all of the things that they own. 199 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,480 And Cassie is being lewd or provocative on the Internet and 200 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:16,480 likely going to start an only fans to make your own money, 201 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:18,240 which is not traditional in that sense either. 202 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,520 And that example aside, at the end of the day, I think that 203 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:22,920 traditionalism and being a traditional man for the sake of 204 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,840 this video is just a trap for both men and women because it 205 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:27,920 essentially limits the possibilities for what you're 206 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:29,560 able to do and the type of personality you're able to 207 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,400 express and the type of person you're able to be. 208 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:33,440 Because inevitably, if we want to go back to traditionalism and 209 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,840 go back to how things used to be, that does mean a repealing 210 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,520 of rights and freedoms and autonomy for women specifically 211 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:40,280 and autonomy for men generally as well. 212 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:41,760 It locks you into these two roles. 213 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,400 And I don't believe that for most people, they want to be 214 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,800 fulfilling those roles anyway. Like we see this weaponize 215 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,200 against people all the time to sort of manage other people's 216 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:50,800 behaviors. But this course online around 217 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,280 men wanting to be baddies themselves being on tables and 218 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:55,720 kind of taking over club culture in the way that women used to 219 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,160 telling things like the sassy man apocalypse or like who won't 220 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,280 be the boys of it all. Essentially dissuading men from 221 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,120 wanting to be baddies themselves or just be more liberated and 222 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:06,320 not be as like hyper masculine locked into your gender role as 223 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:08,440 traditionally seen for men. And then of course, as we know, 224 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,080 traditionalism and traditional men have historically been used 225 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,600 against women's rights, women's general safety and autonomy. 226 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,280 But we don't necessarily think about all that like that people 227 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,520 spout things online about wanting traditionalism back, 228 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,320 wanting a traditional man or traditional woman back. 229 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,720 And I think a large culprit behind that are some of the 230 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:24,760 propagated figureheads on social media right now. 231 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:27,360 Like, I don't know, fresh and fit, Andrew Tate, sprinkle, 232 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:30,080 sprinkle or any other kind of polarizing over generalizing 233 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:31,680 kind of dating content on social media. 234 00:09:31,680 --> 00:09:33,320 Because a lot of these people that I mentioned tout 235 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,440 traditionalism and wanting to be a traditional man or wanting a 236 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:37,480 traditional woman, but don't actually live traditionalize 237 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:38,920 themselves. Like the concept of touting 238 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,440 yourself as a traditional man while on live, screaming and 239 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:43,840 pouting on a podcast, inviting trickers on your show to 240 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:47,120 humiliate them, having actual trafficking rings and literally 241 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:49,080 0. Emotional intelligence is not 242 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:50,920 traditional in the slightest. I'm sorry. 243 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:53,080 And also a bigger point that I don't feel like people are 244 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,720 talking about enough when we want to talk about the existence 245 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:58,240 or not of traditional men or just general traditionalism. 246 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,640 A lot of y'all's very existence is antithetical to 247 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,160 traditionalism to begin with. And let's just RIP the Band-Aid 248 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,320 off because when we want to talk about traditionalism in a 249 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:09,760 traditional man, we have to look into what traditional meant at 250 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:12,400 the time and who is seen as traditional. 251 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,640 And unfortunately or fortunately, because if you're a 252 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:17,320 person of color, have a child that wedlock or in some cases, 253 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:19,840 if you want to be really extreme, having premarital sex 254 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:22,360 and or if we really want to stretch the definition are not 255 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:24,760 of this country, then you automatically eliminate yourself 256 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:25,800 from the traditional dating pool. 257 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,320 Like you are no longer traditional in the traditional 258 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:29,880 sense. Like the traditional lifestyle 259 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,160 in the traditional man was never meant for you. 260 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,960 When we look at the traditional side of traditional, that was 261 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:38,160 essentially just for your average middle class white man. 262 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:40,400 And if you are not of that group, hate to break it to you, 263 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:42,880 but you could never Max out on your traditionalism because it's 264 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:45,760 not who you are. Like that label was never meant 265 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:47,640 for you. So to see so many people of 266 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:50,360 color claim to be a traditional man and yearn for that, it's 267 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:52,400 just so wild to me. Because that is a definition 268 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:55,120 that was never meant to be inclusive of us, nor should we 269 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,960 really want it to be because it is so limiting and who it allows 270 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:00,560 you to be, who it allows you to be interested in and the life 271 00:11:00,560 --> 00:11:02,640 that you're allowed to live. And none of those things hold up 272 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,960 in modern day because we no longer live in a traditional 273 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:06,720 world. And that's not necessarily a bad 274 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:08,200 thing. That is the whole capstone of 275 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:09,240 this. There isn't necessarily a 276 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:11,720 problem with wanting to be traditional or making sense of 277 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:13,760 that, however you will. I just don't think that we 278 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,760 should be punishing ourselves or really be yearning or itching 279 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:20,320 for it as bad as we are because that's just not the world that 280 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:21,840 we live in. But I can understand where 281 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:24,080 people are coming from and why people are looking for it in 282 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:25,520 this time. According to a Vice article, 283 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:28,000 nearly half of Gen. Z women choose the trad wife or 284 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,240 traditional wife path. Miriam Webster defines A trad 285 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,560 wife as a married woman who embraces traditional gender 286 00:11:32,560 --> 00:11:34,680 roles and values. The word is particularly used 287 00:11:34,680 --> 00:11:37,600 for a young woman who chooses to be a homemaker and shares her 288 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:39,680 lifestyle online. It's closely associated to the 289 00:11:39,680 --> 00:11:43,360 2020 social media trend, widely viewed as ultra conservative. 290 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:47,080 According to an Edu Birdie study, 47% of women in the study 291 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,960 said that they wanted the trad wife path when asked to rank 292 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:52,600 their dream lives out of trad wife, girl boss, hustle, digital 293 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:55,040 nomad or trophy wife. But the caveat being, of course, 294 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:57,320 being a trad wife doesn't always involve getting up on your 295 00:11:57,320 --> 00:11:58,840 career. While the man of the dynamic is 296 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:01,280 typically deemed as the provider, the trad wife often 297 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:04,120 still pursues her own creative endeavors without burning 298 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:05,840 herself out. After years of being told to 299 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,840 hustle harder, many women are just tired, says Alex Nico. 300 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:11,080 Research shows that Gen. Z women are more marriage 301 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:13,520 oriented than millennials. They seek a calm routine. 302 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:15,840 Insecurity, well-being and balance are very important to 303 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:17,400 them. For some women, this is exactly 304 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:19,000 what the tried wife lifestyle promises. 305 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,800 In times of mass uncertainty and fear like the ones that we live 306 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,480 in right now, it's understandable why people want 307 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,160 to look to the past when things seem to be more calm, seem to be 308 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:28,760 more stable, and expect that and want that of themselves and 309 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:30,480 their partners. We see this sort of thing all 310 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,800 the time and while that may be the knee jerk or safe reaction 311 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,360 to that, I don't think that it is the right reaction to the 312 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,040 moment that we're going through. We don't need to meet the 313 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:39,800 current moment with failures of the past. 314 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,000 No shade because even if we look back to the traditional life, no 315 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,560 one was really happy. No one really walked out of 316 00:12:45,560 --> 00:12:47,760 traditional relationships feeling super fulfilled and 317 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:48,960 happy. And oftentimes when you hear 318 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:51,760 stories like that, that seems to be more of the exception rather 319 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,320 than the rule. I feel like instead we need to 320 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,400 be looking at modern solutions to the modern problems and 321 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:57,960 redefining what we're really looking for. 322 00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:00,320 Like if we want that sense of security and we want that sense 323 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,560 of stability in an ever changing world, we can try and find that 324 00:13:03,560 --> 00:13:05,480 through newer and more progressive and more inventive 325 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:07,280 ways than just the ones of the past. 326 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:09,800 Because we have to learn from our previous mistakes, not just 327 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:11,120 repeat them. Because at the end of the day, 328 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:14,840 the traditional man did not and does not benefit really anyone 329 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,040 in today's modern world because the majority of us are not 330 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:19,560 making the money to be able to sustain that kind of lifestyle. 331 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:22,320 And if you really get into it, I don't know if that's necessarily 332 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:24,920 a lifestyle that you want to be living anyway, but I to each 333 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:25,320 their own.