1 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,400 If I was preaching in English, my title would be Hey Fool. 2 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:11,720 If I was preaching in Afrikaans, my title would be Yekhan 3 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:16,840 Yokhatsin. But I'm preaching in English, so 4 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:20,080 it's going to be Hey Fool. And it's nice to see you all. 5 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,440 I actually met the financial director of F Bob outside. 6 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:29,160 She's told me she's retiring. It's a bit worrying when you 7 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:31,800 retire from EV, Bob. You know what? 8 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:35,040 What does that mean? You know, I said, well, I mean, 9 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:36,800 is that long term? Is it short term? 10 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:40,480 How does it actually work? You know? 11 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,440 And her sister is the head of Credit and Standard Bank. 12 00:00:44,480 --> 00:00:46,160 And she said, I said it was a man. 13 00:00:46,160 --> 00:00:49,680 So the two sisters brought up by their dad who fulfilled two 14 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,880 major roles in South Africa. But we're talking about death 15 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:54,920 and we're talking about life, and we're talking about wisdom 16 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,360 and stupidity and all of those things. 17 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,120 And we're going to look at Ecclesiastes 10. 18 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,160 Stephen, you preached so well last week and we're going to 19 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,080 just take the next couple of weeks just to land. 20 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:06,480 We're going to go 10/11/12 finished. 21 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,560 Is that cool? Learn the lessons. 22 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,600 And today it's hateful. So it's a little bit like 23 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:14,600 boring. It's not like as exciting as the 24 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:16,760 last few weeks. It's a little bit line upon 25 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:18,440 line. A couple of wisdom things. 26 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:20,160 What's clever? What's not clever? 27 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,240 You know, a lot of life is good and evil. 28 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,480 We make decisions on good and evil, but the Bible also helps 29 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,040 us make decisions on wisdom and foolishness. 30 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,760 And so actually there's some things that are not evil, but 31 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:36,200 they're foolish. Like, is it evil to have a 32 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:37,880 bottle of wine with your friends at dinner? 33 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:41,120 Of course it's not. Is it wise or foolish to go and 34 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:42,800 drive with your family afterwards? 35 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:46,040 Well, it's foolish. Is it? 36 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:49,200 Is it good or evil to to have drinks with your colleagues 37 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:51,480 after work? Well, it's not evil. 38 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:54,960 Is it foolish to be staying late at night with women of the 39 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:56,520 opposite sex while you're married man? 40 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,000 Of course it is. It's very foolish. 41 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,600 Is it evil to answer your cell phone in the car? 42 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:03,560 I wouldn't say it's evil. Is it foolish? 43 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:07,280 Absolutely. And so, So Proverbs and the 44 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:10,160 books of Wisdom, Finding Sofia, that's what we're studying. 45 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,600 Finding Sofia is actually about not just living a good or evil 46 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:15,720 life. It's about living a wise or 47 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:19,040 foolish life. And the Bible says that the fear 48 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:20,800 of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. 49 00:02:21,640 --> 00:02:25,480 Psalm 14 says that's the fool who says there is no God. 50 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:29,160 And so it's actually we all have knowledge, but wisdom is the 51 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,840 applied knowledge. It's when we actually take the 52 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,080 knowledge and we start working out in relationships. 53 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:37,120 And the Bible's full of that. How does a group this size 54 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,360 actually get on? We need some wisdom. 55 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,040 We need to act. Stop acting foolishly and not 56 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:48,200 good or evil, just wise, you know, just act wisely, you know? 57 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,840 So that's what we're going to look at today in in Ecclesiastes 58 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,720 10. And I'll read to you the 59 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:59,080 Afrikaans version as we get through some of it, because some 60 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:00,400 of you have already seen your cuts. 61 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:04,120 And if you think it's your bottom, it's not. 62 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:13,360 It's a pit. Yeah. 63 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:15,120 Don't. Don't send me letters. 64 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:19,120 I've got enough. I've been offending people on 65 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:23,600 purpose publicly to see if you can put for many years. 66 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:28,160 Thank you, thank you, Kathy, thank, thank, thank you, thank 67 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:33,440 you, thank you for many years because we preached on whether 68 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,000 you can absorb insult or not. And I've noticed you have a 69 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:41,480 very, very low absorption rate because it just comes back in 70 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:44,400 all sorts of means and forms. But I'm going to continue to do 71 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,240 it until we understand the ways of God. 72 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,440 I don't do it for my benefit. I do it for yours. 73 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:57,960 Of course, chapter 10 and verse one, as dead flies give perfume 74 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:02,480 a bad smell. So a little folly outweighs 75 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:05,520 wisdom and honor. Just a little folly. 76 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,640 Let let me let me give you a definition of foolishness. 77 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:17,320 Foolishness is characterized by impulsive disobedience. 78 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,720 Wickedness is planned disobedience. 79 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,640 Foolishness is impulsive disobedience, self-centered 80 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:28,400 arrogance, and a rash disregard for the holiness of God. 81 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:35,840 It's often guilty of hot anger directed at self or others, self 82 00:04:35,840 --> 00:04:40,920 centeredness and the hatred of discipline, correction and 83 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,880 wisdom. Don't tell me what to do, I'm in 84 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:48,040 charge, the book of Ecclesiastes reminds us. 85 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:51,440 It doesn't all look pretty, but God is in charge and you're not 86 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:58,000 Amen. So what we've learned from F Bob 87 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:04,200 is that we are completely sure that we are going to die. 88 00:05:04,840 --> 00:05:06,800 We are completely sure that we are going to die. 89 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:12,400 The Bible says even to you, good businessman, you can't go to 90 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:14,760 this town and that town and make money because you don't even 91 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:18,760 know what tomorrow holds. So we are living here today and 92 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:22,560 we are completely unsure of what is going to happen tomorrow, but 93 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:26,680 we live our lives from uncertainty to certainty. 94 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:33,160 What we should be doing is living our lives from certainty 95 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,720 to uncertainty because it'll change every decision that we 96 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:41,000 make about money, relationships, time and even the words that we 97 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,320 share. Does that make sense to you? 98 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,400 So I know I'm going to die. So I didn't have to know how I 99 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:50,800 actually want to live. I preached last week in Durban. 100 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:53,960 I was preaching. I had an amazing time. 101 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:56,800 One of my friends, one of our spiritual fathers, his son got 102 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:59,360 ordained. So Danny Sun and this beautiful 103 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:00,720 girl called Danny walked up to me. 104 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:02,640 She's stunning. She's 52 years old. 105 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,760 She looks like she's 25 years old. 106 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,480 And she was just full of God. She just walked up to me. 107 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:10,640 And I used to be a very radical preacher when I mean, you think 108 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:15,320 I'm radical, I'm, I was wild. I would literally just stop, not 109 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:17,760 talk for 10 minutes and try and hear God. 110 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,960 And she said 27 years ago, you were preaching in the church 111 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:25,800 and, and you just stopped and everybody got uncomfortable and 112 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,200 you just stopped. And you paced up and down like I 113 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,400 used to do before you guys intimidated me. 114 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:37,920 But I'm coming after you. You're not going to wear me 115 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:41,600 down. And she said you just walked up 116 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:43,160 and down, up and down. She was a Catholic. 117 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:44,520 She was there for the first time. 118 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:46,800 She said I was so uncomfortable. I didn't know what was 119 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,360 happening. I was out and you just stopped 120 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,800 and you and you pointed at me. You said your name is Danny. 121 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,000 I've only ever done that three or four times in my life. 122 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,320 I don't hear God like that. I said your name is Danny. 123 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,720 Stand up Danny. I said stop dancing before the 124 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,360 Princess of Men and start to dance before the King of Kings. 125 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,920 And God will keep you young your whole life so You Can Dance with 126 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:06,040 him forever. She said. 127 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,400 I just landed from the Seychelles with the Prince of 128 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,200 Saudi Arabia had invited me and my friends to go and dance 129 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,680 before him, She said. I spent my life dancing before 130 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:16,680 the Princess of Men. I said from that day I stopped 131 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,600 and now I just danced before the King of Kings. 132 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:20,600 She said. I felt my feet melt into the 133 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:23,240 floor and as she was talking, I felt the Spirit of God just come 134 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,920 upon me. As she was talking, she said, 135 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:29,080 Rory, God has somehow kicked me young so that I can keep 136 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,360 dancing. I said, what do you do now? 137 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:32,520 She said, I Just Dance. I teach dance. 138 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:34,800 I learned dance. I put dancing productions 139 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:37,040 together, but I danced before the King of Kings. 140 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:40,320 And then another man came to me. His name was Graham. 141 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,000 I said, how you Graham? He said, hey, Rory, you know, my 142 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:43,480 brother's in Pretoria and he's sick. 143 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,200 He's in Steve Beaker Hospital. I said, Graham, when last did 144 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:47,360 you see him? He said, I haven't seen him. 145 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,880 I didn't even know that he was in hospital and, and, and Clint 146 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:51,600 was there. I said, Clint, we've got to get 147 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:53,720 Graham. So Clint flew Graham up to 148 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:56,280 Pretoria, picked him up at the airport and for three days took 149 00:07:56,280 --> 00:08:00,560 him to Steve Bika Hospital. And then Anthony disappeared 150 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,840 into the heavens. Friends, we were doing an 151 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:05,800 ordination. I just reminded I meant to 152 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:08,960 prophecy over people. And Anthony needs to be 153 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:11,560 reconciled with his brother who hasn't seen him for a couple of 154 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:13,480 months. And when that happens and 155 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,280 Anthony goes, Graham sent me this beautiful message to say 156 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:18,920 thank you for Clinton. Thank you for three CI for 157 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:23,240 looking after that which is certain, that which is certain 158 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:26,640 Anthony's death so that the last four days or five days of 159 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,800 Graham's life could be used aiming towards that which is 160 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:33,039 certain instead of living with the uncertainty of how is his 161 00:08:33,039 --> 00:08:36,159 brother going to be. And I don't know if your name is 162 00:08:36,159 --> 00:08:39,039 Danny or where you dancing, but I want to tell you today, God, 163 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:42,000 God has got a purpose for us that one day we're going to die. 164 00:08:42,159 --> 00:08:45,920 But until we die, we spend every day that we've got dancing 165 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:49,000 before the King of Kings, not trying to impress the Princess 166 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:58,480 of man. The heart of the Let's stand if 167 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,360 you can. Some can't. 168 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:03,960 I know that. I understand that the heart of 169 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:08,160 the wise inclines to the right. But the heart of the fool to the 170 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,560 left? Stand on your right leg if 171 00:09:10,560 --> 00:09:15,720 you're right legged. Not so easy, eh? 172 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:18,800 How you doing, Oscar? You're right. 173 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:30,800 Sorry, but I just saw your face on your left leg. 174 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:36,360 Which one's easier? Oh, both. 175 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:38,640 Oh praise Jesus, you've been saved. 176 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:42,440 Hallelujah. Oh praise God, both. 177 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:44,840 Of course one's easier than the other because we're right-handed 178 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:47,720 and we're left-handed, so every one of us has got a better 179 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,920 leaning. Every one of us got a better 180 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:53,840 leaning. It's easier on your natural 181 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:59,440 leaning. The Bible says the heart of the 182 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:04,680 wise leans towards the right, the heart of the foolish leans 183 00:10:04,680 --> 00:10:08,160 towards the left. So the question we need to ask 184 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:12,880 is we need to orientate our hearts to lean properly. 185 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:17,960 Now if you take a left hand pin, if I'm right-handed, some of 186 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:21,040 your left, the other way around, if I take a left hand pin, it's 187 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,520 very hard to write with the left-handed because I'm 188 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:27,200 naturally right-handed, so it's natural. 189 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:30,480 So in order to learn how to write with the left hand, I need 190 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:34,920 lots of practice. I'm born a Sinner, I get saved 191 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,720 again, I'm immediately everything changes. 192 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:42,720 But then I've got to learn how to write according to my new 193 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:45,920 nature and speak according to my new nature. 194 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:49,080 But there's something inside of me that wants to lean the other 195 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:52,640 way. But I've got a new nature, and I 196 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:55,000 have to start working with that new nature, and I've got to 197 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:56,600 start speaking with that new nature. 198 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,600 And so when the Indian people and black people and I've grown 199 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,600 up in an Afrikaans home, I've got a new nature. 200 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:12,050 So your nature would be to lean this way, but we have to learn 201 00:11:12,050 --> 00:11:15,480 how to lean this way. So you can't come to church and 202 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,760 lean one way on a Sunday, Hallelujah. 203 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:23,400 And on Monday you lean another way. 204 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,520 You with me. So it's not good or evil. 205 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:31,800 It's just wisdom or foolishness. Come stand with me, Christian. 206 00:11:38,820 --> 00:11:40,060 I've, I've said with me, just look at this. 207 00:11:40,060 --> 00:11:44,780 Just look at me. So, so you can't teach 208 00:11:44,780 --> 00:11:47,200 brotherhood. You, you, it's I'm born again. 209 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:48,640 He's born again. He's from Congo. 210 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:50,880 I'm from South Africa. He never spoke English. 211 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:55,240 I only spoke English. And now God puts us somehow 212 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,960 through a whole manner of means, puts us in the same church. 213 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:04,120 And when a woman walks into the room, they sit down. 214 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:05,480 That's honor. When a woman walks into the 215 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:07,800 room, I stand up. That's honor, I think. 216 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:09,320 Oh heck, now we're going to have to. 217 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:10,680 Should we sit or should we stand? 218 00:12:10,680 --> 00:12:11,960 Should we lean left? Us, we right? 219 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,120 Well, let's go on a journey. Let's eat together. 220 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,840 We have done this last few weeks 3 or 4 times. 221 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:18,840 We've met together because we're going through changes. 222 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:21,480 We're speaking about them, we've prayed together, we cry 223 00:12:21,480 --> 00:12:22,440 together. Is that true? 224 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:26,520 To understand each other? We eat, we talk, we pray, we 225 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:31,200 laugh, we love, and then all of a sudden we realize we're 226 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:36,680 leaning in the same direction. Amen. 227 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:42,040 And it doesn't come, friends. It doesn't come with people that 228 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:44,040 you play paddle with because everybody plays. 229 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:45,840 Everyone who plays paddle plays paddle. 230 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:50,240 It's the guys who don't play paddle that you have to learn 231 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,960 how to lean with. It's easy to lean with people 232 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:56,200 that are the same as you. Afrikaners call it swertsuk 233 00:12:56,200 --> 00:13:01,200 swert in English. It's like, like for like, but 234 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:03,960 actually the church, it's the island Swert. 235 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:07,160 That's, that's, that's what Proverb is teaching us. 236 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:09,680 And so there's no point in coming and having coffee with 237 00:13:09,680 --> 00:13:13,040 the same group of friends. The, the, it's like, hey. 238 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:15,920 And then all of a sudden when, when we start getting this get 239 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:18,320 on to your left leg or your right leg, all of a sudden we 240 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:21,760 start to dance together. And then we start to yeah, yeah. 241 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:23,840 We've had a, we've had a few altercations. 242 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:26,840 We've had a few upset sets. We, we, we haven't spoken to 243 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:28,920 each other for some time. You know, we've been working 244 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,840 together for 25 years now. Christian and I, we've had to 245 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:37,120 learn some things, but but now actually we can live on one leg 246 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,360 each because I can stabilize them and balance them. 247 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:47,080 Is that right? And now God takes this thing and 248 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:48,920 he says, listen guys, not good or evil. 249 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:51,920 Why isn't foolish? I need you to actually balance 250 00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:56,360 each other out. We're not getting very far, but 251 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:03,400 anyway. Even as he walks along the road, 252 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:06,200 the fool lacks sense and shows everyone how stupid he is. 253 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:10,280 If a ruler's anger rises against you, do not leave your post. 254 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,440 Calmness can lay great errors to rest. 255 00:14:14,680 --> 00:14:18,960 You know when your boss gets cross, Stop talking about him at 256 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:22,720 tea time, we'll come back and bite you. 257 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:28,320 There's an evil I've seen under the sun, The sort of error that 258 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:32,000 arises from a ruler. Fools are put in many high 259 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:35,640 positions, while the rich occupy the low ones. 260 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:45,480 Mark Twain says this. Suppose you were an idiot, and 261 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:47,400 suppose you are a member of Congress. 262 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:56,280 But I repeat myself. What do you think of our 263 00:14:56,280 --> 00:15:04,200 government of national? Fools are put in many high 264 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,880 places while the rich occupy the low ones. 265 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:12,040 I've seen slaves on horseback while Princess go out on foot 266 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:16,360 like slaves. Whoever digs a pit may fall into 267 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:23,120 it as yay a Hut krava saw yay yo hutsin. 268 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:28,840 That's where it comes from. In case you didn't know, comes 269 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:32,240 from Ecclesiastes. Whoever breaks through a wall 270 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:35,320 may be bitten by a snake. Whoever quarry stones may be 271 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:37,880 injured by them. Whoever splits logs may be 272 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:40,760 endangered by them. If the axe is dulled and its 273 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:44,120 edge unsharpened, more strength is needed, but skill will bring 274 00:15:44,120 --> 00:15:46,760 success. If a snake bites you before this 275 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,920 charm, there is no profit for the charmer. 276 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:53,760 Words from a wise man's mouth are gracious. 277 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:58,880 The some Bible say win favor. Words from a wise man's mouth 278 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:01,240 are gracious. But a fool is consumed by his 279 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:03,720 own lips. At the beginning his words are 280 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:08,360 folly, at the end they are wicked madness and the full 281 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:15,680 multipliers words hectic. I recently stayed with one of my 282 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,640 friends, been a friend for many many years. 283 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:23,760 But about six months ago him and his wife decided to end every 284 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:28,320 relationship that they have where gossip, slander, criticism 285 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:32,440 was part of the language. They decided to end their 286 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:36,040 friendships. It's cost them about 75% of 287 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:39,880 their friendships, but when you go into their home, it feels 288 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:46,840 like their home is clean. Not vacuumed, not shampooed, not 289 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:48,680 serviced. Just clean. 290 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:52,240 Entertain, absolutely no criticism. 291 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:54,640 Entertain no gossip. Entertain. 292 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,640 No slander. And when you sit in that home, 293 00:16:57,640 --> 00:16:59,000 it feels like peace has come there. 294 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:05,640 We're all guilty. No one knows what is coming. 295 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:07,480 Who can tell him what will happen after him? 296 00:17:07,839 --> 00:17:09,319 A fool's work. Where is him? 297 00:17:09,319 --> 00:17:11,079 He does not know the way to town. 298 00:17:11,319 --> 00:17:14,119 Woe to your land whose king was a servant and whose Princess 299 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:16,800 feast in the morning. Blessed are you a land whose 300 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:20,240 king is of noble birth and whose Princess eat the proper time for 301 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:21,920 strength and not for drunkenness. 302 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:26,000 If a man is lazy, thereafter sag and his hands are idle, the 303 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:30,360 house leaks, a feast is made for laughter, the wine makes life 304 00:17:30,360 --> 00:17:32,720 merry. But money is the answer for 305 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:34,720 everything. For all you rich guys breathe 306 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:38,920 the sigh of relief. You have worked hard, you've 307 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:40,400 built businesses, you've built up. 308 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:43,320 Your house is paid off. You can go on holiday. 309 00:17:43,360 --> 00:17:47,840 Praise God, enjoy it. Church makes people feel guilty 310 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:52,480 because they're rich. Enjoy your money, it's easy. 311 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,040 Money is the answer for everything. 312 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,480 How should we go and hold that overseas money? 313 00:17:57,280 --> 00:18:00,000 How should I bless my wife for her birthday money? 314 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:03,000 What should I do for my kids when they finish school? 315 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:07,040 Money. It's awesome, but be careful. 316 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:13,160 Do not revile the king even in your thoughts, or curse the rich 317 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:17,600 in your bedroom, because a bird of the air may carry your words 318 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:20,680 and a bird on the wing may report what you say. 319 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:25,200 Have you ever heard that saying? A little bird told me you heard 320 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,720 it. Don't complain against your boss 321 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:33,440 because a little bird will tell him five things. 322 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:37,200 And we finished. How are we doing now? 323 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:39,600 Scripture. Not easy to preach on. 324 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:44,520 Point number one. Small things have got huge 325 00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:48,760 consequences. A dead flyer gives perfume a bad 326 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:51,560 smell. A little folly outweighs wisdom 327 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:55,640 and honor. A little decision can have 328 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:59,040 massive they used to make because they didn't have showers 329 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:02,600 in those days and they didn't have they used to make big balmy 330 00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:06,280 perfume, like a like a waxy candy type of perfume. 331 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:08,720 They used to make it and they used to get flies that were 332 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,840 attracted to it and the flowers would come and if the fly came 333 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:13,440 in, that would spoil the whole perfume. 334 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:18,240 Only take one or two flies. You can go to a restaurant and 335 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:20,600 you can put your drink there and if a fly comes, just a small 336 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:22,480 little fly comes and lands in your drink. 337 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:24,160 What do you do? Take the fly out and keep 338 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,480 drinking the drink. No chance. 339 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:30,520 I've never seen anybody do that. I remember going to a meal with 340 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:33,840 a guy called Brad, somebody who was a AOG pastor, and he went to 341 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:35,720 this restaurant. He was sitting down. 342 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:39,400 He ordered this massive steak and spinach and butternut. 343 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:42,720 And inside the spinach was a was a curly hair. 344 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:50,440 Yes, one of those. He took it out. 345 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,440 How many hairs do you need to spoil the meal? 346 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:57,720 We both lost our appetite immediately. 347 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,400 It was like, I don't want any of that, he said. 348 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:01,640 But there's nothing wrong with the steak. 349 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:03,680 No, no, no, no, no. But the but the hair in the 350 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:05,840 spinach spoiled the steak and the butternut. 351 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:09,760 Go back. You see, it just takes a little 352 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:12,960 bit of madness to spoil a whole lifetime. 353 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,280 Friends, I'm watching it. I'm I'm watching it as a pastor. 354 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:19,880 I've seen men, you've seen them public men, men who have run 355 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:25,080 global ministries all over the world, spent 4050 years of 356 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,120 serving God, building up ministries. 357 00:20:27,120 --> 00:20:31,080 Incredible. And one moment of madness. 5 358 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:35,080 minutes, one minute, 3 minutes, 1 little fly in the whole bomb 359 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:40,480 can ruin their whole reputation. And so friends I can't live 360 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:43,880 with, I don't know what's going to happen tomorrow. 361 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:47,120 So I'll just do whatever I like with my sexuality and my 362 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:49,920 finances and my words and all those things. 363 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:53,360 Though I've got to know this. One day my funeral will be held 364 00:20:53,360 --> 00:20:54,880 here. I hope I get a special price on 365 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,680 EVOB. My funeral will be held here. 366 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,240 And if my funeral is going to be held here, then I have to make 367 00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:06,840 sure that for 25 years or 30 years I've been in the ministry 368 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,480 and 32 years that I've been married to this woman. 369 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,280 I have to make sure that when my children stand up, they're going 370 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,640 to speak to me about a husbanding that has been 371 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:19,680 faithful. Not 5 minutes of madness which 372 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:24,200 can catch any of us anytime because we allow foolishness to 373 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,800 come instead of radically dealing with it. 374 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:31,880 Is it OK to meet with a woman of the opposite sex in an office? 375 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,360 Yes, it is. Is it evil? 376 00:21:33,360 --> 00:21:35,320 No, it's not evil. Is it wise? 377 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,400 No, it's not wise. So the only time I meet a person 378 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,600 of the opposite sex, there's always a camera in the room. 379 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:44,240 That room is Cameron up or my doors open or there's another 380 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:48,040 person there. It just saves the day that my 381 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,200 children will speak about me as a husband and say, actually he 382 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,440 stood up on his wedding day and he said he would be faithful. 383 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:56,720 He has been faithful. Now friends, I can't say I will 384 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,920 be faithful because but I have to make sure that I'm leaning to 385 00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:03,400 the right and not to the left. And the moment I start leaning 386 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,440 to the left, I've got to cry out for help and say to guys, you 387 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,320 know what guys, I'm about to do something in 5 minutes that's 388 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,360 going to ruin my life. And some of you are sitting here 389 00:22:12,360 --> 00:22:14,680 by the grace of God and I'll speak to you at the end of it. 390 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,640 But some of you are sitting here who have ruined your lives by 5 391 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,000 minutes of madness. Just 5 minutes. 392 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:24,200 I, I, I had a, we had a black preacher friend, Elliot Sanjika. 393 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,200 He used to stand in the pulpit at Glen Ridge, beautiful man 394 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,960 with his black face and the tears you just streamed on his 395 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:31,920 face. And he'd say young people, young 396 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:39,360 people, young people, 5 minutes, 5 minutes can mess up your life. 397 00:22:39,360 --> 00:22:44,120 Just takes one fly to mess up a whole drum. 398 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:48,440 It just takes one hair to mess up a beautiful meal. 399 00:22:50,120 --> 00:22:51,360 You think, Rory, this is hardcore? 400 00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:54,400 Yes, it is hardcore because we have to know, Does God forgive? 401 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:57,840 Yes, he does. But friends, it's better to lean 402 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:02,480 towards wisdom than to act like fools because foolishness causes 403 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:06,480 havoc. Let me talk about sexuality. 404 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:12,200 I have a friend of mine whose children just had an encounter. 405 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:13,920 Just an encounter. Young encounter. 406 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:20,200 Young children moved overseas. Not sex, just a little bit of 407 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:25,200 foreplay. That foreplay, no penetration, 408 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:32,880 ended up in a pregnancy. That pregnancy has changed. 20 409 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:37,040 years of that family's life. 15 minutes. 410 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,120 You've got to sit here someday and think, I'm going to die one 411 00:23:42,120 --> 00:23:45,400 day. And so I'm going to have to live 412 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:52,960 my life in such a way it's only 80 years, that for eternity, for 413 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:59,120 eternity, my sexuality, my words, for eternity, I'm 414 00:23:59,120 --> 00:24:00,520 building something that will last. 415 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:06,480 Amen. Now, if you've messed up, it's 416 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,520 good to hear the truth before you hear the grace. 417 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,040 Because it's grace and truth that set us free. 418 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:22,000 It's grace and truth. The second thing is how do we 419 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:27,640 treat other foolish people? It says when a man is angry, 420 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:32,360 when your boss is angry. Stay on your post and keep calm. 421 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,280 You know what's better than two angry people? 422 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,800 One angry person, one angry person. 423 00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:48,560 There is not a single argument that my wife and I have had and 424 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:49,640 we haven't had many. Fortunate. 425 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:53,480 It's not a single argument because by God's grace she 426 00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,840 stayed at her post. So sometimes I'm foolish, 427 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,800 sometimes I'm foolish and I blurt out and what I get is just 428 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,800 a dead response. So I've got 2 choices. 429 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:09,400 I can roll her or I can let her calmness change me. 430 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:15,000 You can look at every single road rage incident that you have 431 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,520 been a part of. I I spoke to a man this week. 432 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,200 I said if you ever pulled a gun out on someone, He said yes, 433 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,280 just once in a road rage incident. 434 00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,000 I said, oh, really? He said, yeah, yeah, I was. 435 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:26,440 And I said who pulled the gun out first? 436 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,640 He said he pulled it out first. Of course. 437 00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,480 Can you imagine friends, the next time the guy pulls the gun 438 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:37,960 with his with his hands or with his proper gun, imagine instead 439 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:42,560 of responding with anger, you keep your place, you stay at 440 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:49,440 your post like Jesus did as Kathy says, I've been irritating 441 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:53,280 you for 12 years. Can you imagine instead of being 442 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:57,080 angry and writing letters, you just kept your post and instead 443 00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:59,440 of losing your peace, you just disordered and said God, will 444 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,960 you deal with him quietly? Just deal with him. 445 00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:06,320 I'm I'm being serious. I'm being dead serious. 446 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,280 Stephen and I have a have an amazing relationship. 447 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:13,160 Amazing. We we had we had a difference of 448 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:18,440 opinion on Friday and we chatted it through and and before I even 449 00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,880 got home, he sent me a message. He said, hey, raw, so great 450 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:22,960 chatting, so great to know we love each other. 451 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:30,720 I think wow. And he said he's my favorite and 452 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:37,520 I'm his so so you imagine friends. 453 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:43,600 Can you imagine how many times a response of anger, legitimate, 454 00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:50,440 legitimate, 100% legitimate, has cost dear friendships and work 455 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:54,240 opportunities and work opportunities? 456 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:58,800 When your boss shouts at you unfairly and you absorb it, the 457 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,680 blessing of God will be there. It'll be called Wisdom. 458 00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,920 And then we got covenantal relationships called marriage. 459 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,680 And marriage is hard when a linear person walks with a 460 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:18,040 cyclical person and one body is hot and 1 body is cold and one 461 00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:29,280 likes the air con and one. But we're covenantal #3 Wisdom 462 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,120 protects us from everyday mistakes. 463 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,160 Wisdom protects us from everyday mistakes. 464 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,800 It says if you dig a hole you will fall into it. 465 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,400 If you cut wood you will get splinters. 466 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,600 If you hit a stone you will get a chip. 467 00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,400 I was thinking as I was preparing of Mark Boucher. 468 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:50,480 Mark Boucher, if a if a fast bowler was bowling, Mark Boucher 469 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,480 would put a helmet on his head. That's just wise. 470 00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,280 Is it evil or good to put a helmet on? 471 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,880 Well, not really. Just wise or foolish. 472 00:27:57,120 --> 00:27:58,800 Put a helmet on his head, the guy would bowl. 473 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,520 If the ball came and hit him, there'd be no problem. 474 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,560 And then one day, after hundreds of Test matches, he took his 475 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,600 helmet off because there was a spin bowler bowling. 476 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,560 The spin bowler bowled, hit the Bale, the Bale hit his eye. 477 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,080 And I think he's had 16 hour operations. 478 00:28:13,360 --> 00:28:16,080 Mistakes happen. Everyday life. 479 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,560 Mistakes happen. You go to work, mistakes happen. 480 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,120 I walked into the church just now. 481 00:28:20,120 --> 00:28:24,440 There was a boy at Kids Ministry who's dislocated his finger. 482 00:28:29,120 --> 00:28:31,800 And so it's his nephew and her dad's a doctor. 483 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,400 So they're busy having a talk in church about the nephew and the 484 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:36,360 doctor, and they can't get hold of the dad and they can't get 485 00:28:36,360 --> 00:28:38,640 hold of the doctor. But all of a sudden the doctor 486 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:40,560 and the dad went down. Then that's life. 487 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,760 Life happens. But we can actually avoid some 488 00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:46,360 of those things from happening. You can actually. 489 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,240 When a guy walks, have you ever seen it? 490 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:53,920 When the guy's walking? You say, hey, can't say, I can't 491 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:57,240 say, I can't say Hut scene. That's not being rude. 492 00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,360 You just know that behaviour unchecked, you're going to see 493 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,800 your Hut. That means you're going to fall 494 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,760 into your own hole. You keep drinking like that, 495 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:07,960 Sir. You're going to see your own 496 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,120 Hut. Are you telling me no drink? 497 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,000 I'm just telling you too much drink on your Hut scene. 498 00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,640 Amen. So it says there are two things 499 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,040 you must do. One of them, you mustn't just 500 00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,840 keep smacking harder it harder it you must sharpen the blade. 501 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:27,920 You must actually get some skill so you can avoid mistakes. 502 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,880 My neighbors or some of my neighbors are woodworkers and I 503 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:37,760 hear that machine. I know so many people who've got 504 00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,480 fingers missing. I hear those machines and I get 505 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,320 a funny feeling inside my stomach. 506 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:49,840 I mean, and I'm going to build this warehouse and I see those 507 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:52,440 Royby things and I was at my friend's house recently in 508 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,040 Durban and his son-in-law was just like really good work 509 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,360 woodwork and I was going on to cello to buy outside furnace 510 00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:02,480 like 40,000 Rand for and his son built this amazing suite of 511 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:06,080 furniture for like 7 grand. It's absolutely magnificent. 512 00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:11,880 But it's like, no, I think, well, I should just do that, but 513 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,160 my fingers are worth much more than that. 514 00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,600 Yes, all your Hutsing. Yes, all your finger for lure. 515 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,640 Yes, all your thrower for lure. Yes, all your friend for lure. 516 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:27,560 Yes, all your job for lure. Because you're not working with 517 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:33,440 skill, you're working with dangerous things without the 518 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,360 necessary attachments. That's what he's saying. 519 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,080 Don't get into dangerous situations unless you're skilled 520 00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:44,320 how to handle them. You just saw your hot scene, 521 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,040 friends. I don't have a pornography 522 00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:49,720 problem. And in all my years of I think 523 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:53,240 every man struggles with this, but I haven't in all my years of 524 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:56,000 being on Internet, on the computer on this, I've never 525 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,480 seen a pornographic image in all my years. 526 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,560 Maybe because I haven't googled it, but I've never seen an 527 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,560 image. But I preach a morning on a 528 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:05,120 Sunday and I preach a evening on a Sunday. 529 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:09,320 When I get home at night, when I get home at night, on a Sunday 530 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:13,200 night when I'm tired, I cannot watch TV by myself because I 531 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:17,160 don't know what's inside me. And so it's not wise for me to 532 00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:21,440 watch TV unless I watch it in my bedroom and it's golf and my 533 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:24,960 wife is next to me in the bed. It's not wise. 534 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:30,120 And so actually I need the skill to turn off the TV so that I can 535 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:40,640 actually live with wisdom. Instead of foolishness, the 536 00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,880 second part of it, it says don't let the snake come out and bite 537 00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:45,440 before the charmer plays his flute. 538 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:47,960 Sometimes we need to. When you're dealing with 539 00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:49,400 dangerous things, we must hurry up. 540 00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,120 Like Joseph hurried up when Potiphar's house because he 541 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,320 realized Potiphar's wife was in trouble, so he ran. 542 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:57,600 When the snake comes out, you must play your flute quickly so 543 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:00,160 that dangerous thing can start dancing and stop biting people. 544 00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,200 So there's sometimes we take time because we need skill and 545 00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,280 other times we take haste because that thing is dangerous. 546 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,040 You with me? How we doing overtime, Clint? 547 00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:18,040 Oh, why overtime? Let's see how we go here. 548 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:37,760 OK, We'll do the rest next week. Wisdom prevents us from foolish 549 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:40,120 talk. Wisdom prevents us from foolish 550 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:43,120 talk. Wisdom prevents us from foolish 551 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,520 talk. Even everyone notes. 552 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:48,560 So let me read Paul Tripps where he says about words. 553 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:50,960 Remember FF David? What's that? 554 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:52,200 FF David? Fr David? 555 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:57,800 Words don't come easy to me. How can I? 556 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:05,160 You guys wouldn't. You weren't born Sunny say Sunny 557 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:09,160 sells Yeva sucker, so skips Yeva sucker, so skip again. 558 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:14,200 Omar, Angels, Afrikaans, Captain Vandy, sailor, Rhonda Vein, 559 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:19,280 Hetni Brika Mariamud brika Hoku van de Khan and your hatfall. 560 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,680 Words don't come easy to me. Words, friends, words. 561 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:28,840 Communities are fashioned by words. 562 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,680 Friendships are fashioned by words, and it says this. 563 00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:38,680 The words of the wise man are gracious, but the words of the 564 00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:44,760 fool, but the words of the fool consume destructive. 565 00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:53,360 The Bible uses words like poison and fire and an open grave to 566 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,800 describe words. This is my friend Dion. 567 00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,520 Can you imagine, Dion, if my words over your life? 568 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,240 We spent Easter together? When I came to Pretoria, the 569 00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,120 first Easter I had, he invited me to his house for Easter. 570 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,480 This Easter, I invited him to my house. 571 00:34:09,639 --> 00:34:12,440 We have had 12 years of sharing gracious words with each other. 572 00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:14,960 Is that not true, Dion? We have built a friendship 573 00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:17,800 around gracious words. It's how we've built it. 574 00:34:18,159 --> 00:34:20,199 I've been through stuff, you've been through stuff, you had a 575 00:34:20,199 --> 00:34:22,760 garage, I've got a garage. We've traveled to business 576 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,440 together and all we do is we speak gracious words to you and 577 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,040 our friendship exists. Afrikaans man and English man, 578 00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,400 our friendship exists because of gracious words. 579 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,560 Can you imagine if a little bird just flew past? 580 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:39,760 Just a little bird flew past and came and landed next to Dion and 581 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,520 said, you know, Dion, I was at dinner the other day and this is 582 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:48,560 what Rory Dyer said about you. 12 years of friendship gone, 583 00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:55,199 gone. 12 years gone says your words must be gracious. 584 00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:01,280 I want to say to you, if you here, Sir today, if you've just 585 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:07,160 come from jail today or this week because you did something 586 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,160 in 5 minutes that has defined the last 20 years of your life. 587 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,440 And I want you to sit under my gracious words that tell you 588 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:18,080 that my God, however foolish you have been, that my God can 589 00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:19,560 rescue you and heal you and redeem you. 590 00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,800 Because in this house we speak about grace and we speak about 591 00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,200 second chances, and we speak about third and 4th and 4th and 592 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,280 6th. Your actions will have 593 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:33,880 consequences, but grace will redeem them from the pit. 594 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:41,400 This is what Paul Tripp says. Listen to the talk that goes on 595 00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:46,440 in your home. How much of it is impatient and 596 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:55,120 unkind? How often are words spoken out 597 00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,320 of selfishness and personal desire? 598 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,080 How easily do outbursts of anger occur? 599 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,560 How often do we bring up past wrongs? 600 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:09,200 My wife is historical. You mean hysterical? 601 00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:16,560 No, I mean historical. How do we fail to communicate 602 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:19,280 hope? How do we fail to protect? 603 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:23,440 How often do our words carry threats that we've had it and 604 00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:27,520 are about to quit? Stop and listen and you'll see 605 00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:30,520 how much we need to hold our talk to the standard of love, 606 00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:34,440 and how often the truth we profess to speak has been 607 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:43,360 distorted by our own sins. I think everybody in this room 608 00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,560 needs to repent about how they've spoken about their 609 00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:48,640 bosses. It's foolish. 610 00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:51,720 The birds will carry it and it'll come back and haunt you. 611 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:55,280 Husbands, I just want to say this to you as we close. 612 00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,040 I've got a few more points when we're going to close. 613 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,880 The Bible says that you wash your wife with your words. 614 00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:05,320 You wash your wife with your words. 615 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,760 It doesn't say you dirty here. It doesn't say you accuse her. 616 00:37:09,240 --> 00:37:11,120 It says you wash her with your words. 617 00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:15,120 Ephesians chapter 5. When people tell me my wife 618 00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:18,240 looks beautiful, it is a compliment to me. 619 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,160 I've spent 32 years, the first nine years, critical, 620 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:29,920 judgmental, harsh. The last 25 or 26 years, Wash, 621 00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:37,000 kind, gracious, peaceful, loving, gentle. 622 00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:42,680 Because when all of this goes, I've just got her. 623 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,000 He's got 18 months and he leaves home and I've got to get this 624 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,120 going and then we've got to build a church that looks like 625 00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:51,320 God. And so I've got to take an 626 00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,640 Indian man who's so different to me, grew up as a Buddhist or a 627 00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:59,720 Hindu, grew up in alcohol. I didn't have alcohol. 628 00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:02,000 And now we've got to work hard to dance together. 629 00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:09,680 Come, Dennis, come Christian. Come here, Hon. 630 00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:22,680 Actually, Sue, why don't you come make a circle? 631 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:23,840 Make a circle. Make a circle. 632 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:28,240 It takes you into your circle. Stand on one leg. 633 00:38:28,240 --> 00:38:34,360 Sure. Hey, guys, we're going to have 634 00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,000 to walk for God. Yes, we're all going to die one 635 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:38,080 day. All of us, guys. 636 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:40,880 So all of us. Black, white, rich, poor, young, 637 00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,680 old. We're all going to have to work 638 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,280 this thing out. We're going to have to learn how 639 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,400 to control our tempers when others are cross with us. 640 00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:47,800 We're going to, we're going to have to. 641 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,600 We're going to have to use all our resources. 642 00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,640 Hey, guys, I'm feeling like I'm leaning to the left. 643 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:55,080 Hey, don't worry, brother. Lean on me, lean on me, lean on 644 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,040 me, lean on me, lean on me. He he ain't heavy. 645 00:38:58,040 --> 00:38:59,280 He ain't heavy. He's my brother. 646 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,040 He ain't heavy. He's my sister. 647 00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,960 Let's change our legs and go the unnatural route and say you see, 648 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:07,920 we can still hold each other. Don't, don't, don't leave. 649 00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:10,880 Just be careful with your words. Be gracious, be gracious. 650 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,000 Lots of people have hurt me. Lots of people have been 651 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:16,680 encountering me. Be gracious, be gracious. 652 00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:20,160 Be can't be forgiving. Find grace. 653 00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,800 We start to build a community. Yes, Amen, Amen. 654 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,920 Little bit by little bit, little bit by little bit, we start to 655 00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:37,040 build the community. I close with One Corinthians 656 00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:38,520 chapter 1, if you can put it up, please. 657 00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:45,800 And we and we, close brother, think of what you were when you 658 00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,840 were called. Not many of you were wise by 659 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,680 human standards. Not many were influential, not 660 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:53,280 many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things 661 00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:56,600 of the world to say in the wise. God chose the weak things of the 662 00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:00,000 world to shame the strong. He chose the lowly things of the 663 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,680 world and the despised things and the things that are not to 664 00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:07,080 nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before 665 00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:08,440 him. It is because of Him that you 666 00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:11,160 are in Christ Jesus. Who has become for us wisdom 667 00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:14,760 from God, that is our righteousness, holiness and 668 00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:16,600 redemption. Have you done something stupid 669 00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,400 in 5 minutes that affected your life? 670 00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:23,640 Have you bad mouthed your boss and trust Jesus today and let 671 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,520 the righteousness, holiness and redemption of God come upon your 672 00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,520 life. Therefore it is written with Him 673 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:35,120 who boasts boast in the Lord. God bless you.