1 00:00:01,700 --> 00:00:05,900 Wonderful to see you tonight. I'm thankful to have everybody 2 00:00:05,900 --> 00:00:10,100 here so we can study the Bible together once again, and I've 3 00:00:10,100 --> 00:00:12,600 been really encouraged by the singing tonight. 4 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:17,600 It has been very healthy for me to lift up the name of the Lord 5 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:19,500 in these songs. To thank the Lord. 6 00:00:19,500 --> 00:00:23,400 For all he's done. We serve an awesome God, and 7 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,600 it's just a privilege to be his child, right? 8 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:31,000 There's so many times. Just little things and the fact 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:36,200 that God commanded us to sing what a pleasure, it is to obey 10 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:39,800 that command whether you like singing or not, it's not what 11 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:42,100 I'm about. But the fact that we get to do 12 00:00:42,100 --> 00:00:45,100 it something together, we're all teaching each other. 13 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:47,400 How great God is? What a blessing. 14 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,600 It made me think about as we were singing and how we get to 15 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:56,800 do this together. A scripture that I hope can help 16 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:01,600 introduce this idea and why I think this is so important and 17 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:09,000 that is First John chapter 4 verse let's do 19 through 21 so 18 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,300 if you have a few Bible it's on page 1868. 19 00:01:14,100 --> 00:01:18,800 And first, John chapter 4, verse 19 through 21. 20 00:01:19,900 --> 00:01:22,200 And this is what that scripture says. 21 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:28,600 We love him. Because he first loved us. 22 00:01:29,900 --> 00:01:35,900 If someone says I love God and hates his brother, he's a liar. 23 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:41,300 For he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen. 24 00:01:42,300 --> 00:01:44,500 How can he love God when he's not sing? 25 00:01:45,500 --> 00:01:48,500 And this commandment we have from him that he who loves God 26 00:01:48,500 --> 00:01:53,300 must love his brother. Also You know, that scripture 27 00:01:53,300 --> 00:01:57,900 there is a kind of a catalyst for several the sermons I've 28 00:01:57,900 --> 00:02:02,900 presented throughout this series of studies we've had and that is 29 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:06,300 asking you all to be introspective about your 30 00:02:06,300 --> 00:02:08,800 relationships among this congregation. 31 00:02:09,900 --> 00:02:14,000 And to think about one another and how you can help each other 32 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,900 with Doctrine, right? That's what we talked about them 33 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:21,300 on Wednesday, right? And how we can help each other 34 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:25,600 to overcome doubt, like what we talked about last night and I 35 00:02:25,608 --> 00:02:29,600 think a follow up to last night about overcoming doubt is to 36 00:02:29,700 --> 00:02:33,800 build a culture where we feel comfortable and safe to confess. 37 00:02:34,300 --> 00:02:39,200 And if the church is not a place where that happens, Brothers and 38 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:42,800 sisters, our members will find somewhere where they can. 39 00:02:44,300 --> 00:02:48,700 Whether that be for younger, Folks, at school, for those who 40 00:02:48,700 --> 00:02:53,600 work with their workmates neighbors family, that maybe 41 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:57,200 aren't Believers. What I'm saying, is we naturally 42 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,400 will find people that we get along with that. 43 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,300 We feel comfortable with and we'll start to Bear our soul to 44 00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:06,700 them. How strange that God's people 45 00:03:06,700 --> 00:03:11,800 would feel uncomfortable to Bear their heart with other 46 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:15,100 Christians and feel more comfortable to do it with people 47 00:03:15,100 --> 00:03:19,100 in the world. Now, here is the, the study 48 00:03:19,100 --> 00:03:23,100 outline and many of you have already had the chance to snap 49 00:03:23,100 --> 00:03:25,600 this QR code. If you don't know how to snap a 50 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,600 qr-code, I'm I'm sorry. But you'll probably have to wait 51 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:32,500 till after services to figure it out, but it's up there and all 52 00:03:32,500 --> 00:03:36,600 this will be Is the PowerPoint on your phone so you can follow 53 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,200 along. If I go too quickly, you can 54 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,900 have it for additional study later on every time I presented 55 00:03:42,900 --> 00:03:46,300 this topic, I've had people come up and say oh that was just too 56 00:03:46,300 --> 00:03:49,300 much too much content. So I've broken it into multiple 57 00:03:49,300 --> 00:03:51,800 sermons, it didn't work. I put it back into one. 58 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,500 So I'm just going to let you study on your pace. 59 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,900 If I go too quickly tonight we're going to briefly look at 60 00:03:57,900 --> 00:04:02,500 an exposition or an overview of James chapter 5 verse 13 through 61 00:04:02,500 --> 00:04:05,100 16. This is The scripture that I 62 00:04:05,108 --> 00:04:09,400 think is essential to understand about why we need to build a 63 00:04:09,408 --> 00:04:12,000 culture and our local Congregation of safe confession. 64 00:04:12,300 --> 00:04:15,900 Then we'll talk about the that idea of safety and ask this 65 00:04:15,900 --> 00:04:19,600 question, why do we need it, you know, safety that sounds like 66 00:04:20,399 --> 00:04:22,800 something that those snowflakes need, right? 67 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,600 They want their safe space and they just can't handle the real 68 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,300 world. And yet, I think what we'll find 69 00:04:28,300 --> 00:04:31,500 is the Bible does talk about there is value in this concept 70 00:04:31,500 --> 00:04:33,400 of safety. We need to figure out how to 71 00:04:33,500 --> 00:04:37,800 Build it internally so that we are comfortable with who we are. 72 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:43,500 We feel a sense of peace with what God has given us and when 73 00:04:43,500 --> 00:04:47,400 we had trauma in our life, so whether you have experienced 74 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:51,900 some sort of physical, emotional sexual abuse, and there is just 75 00:04:51,900 --> 00:04:54,000 a lack of safety because of those events. 76 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:58,300 I want you to know that you can overcome for the power of God, 77 00:04:58,300 --> 00:05:02,200 and you can find that safety. Again, also, as a congregation 78 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:05,000 we should talk about how How to build it relationally. 79 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,100 And then finally, we'll do a case study on what safety looks 80 00:05:08,100 --> 00:05:11,200 like in a project and one of The Parables of Jesus Christ. 81 00:05:11,300 --> 00:05:14,700 So let's begin. James chapter 5 13 through 16. 82 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:20,600 I will present this as a section on how to not grow weary. 83 00:05:21,100 --> 00:05:26,800 Now the premise that we often hear about is prayer They are 84 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,700 connected but how I'm going to present this is, this is a 85 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:34,500 how-to guide of not to grow weary and lose heart. 86 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,800 So for me, I outlining is a very helpful way to study. 87 00:05:39,100 --> 00:05:42,800 I'd like to show you this scripture as an outline and then 88 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:44,400 read it. So, instead of reading it as a 89 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:49,800 block paragraph, consider, this outline that I now have on the 90 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:52,900 board. Then it says, is anyone among 91 00:05:52,900 --> 00:05:55,000 you suffering? Let him pray. 92 00:05:55,300 --> 00:05:57,200 Is anyone among you? A cheerful. 93 00:05:57,300 --> 00:06:00,200 Let him sing praise. Is anyone among you sick? 94 00:06:00,300 --> 00:06:04,300 Let him call for the Elders of the church and let them before I 95 00:06:04,300 --> 00:06:06,800 read it. I just want to emphasize with 96 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,300 you as we've read. Hopefully, you have visually 97 00:06:09,300 --> 00:06:12,400 seen. There's three questions, right? 98 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:16,700 Three questions that he then answers and this third question, 99 00:06:16,700 --> 00:06:20,100 takes a little bit more time to answer is anyone among you sick, 100 00:06:20,100 --> 00:06:23,200 let him call the Elders of the church and let them do two 101 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:26,100 things. Pray for him and anointing him. 102 00:06:26,300 --> 00:06:29,300 Oil in the name of the Lord, and then it describes what that 103 00:06:29,300 --> 00:06:32,300 process does, the prayer of faith will save. 104 00:06:32,300 --> 00:06:35,000 The one who's sick and the Lord will raise him up. 105 00:06:35,100 --> 00:06:39,500 And if he's committed sins, he will be forgiven therefore based 106 00:06:39,500 --> 00:06:42,000 on these questions and their answers. 107 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,600 Therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one 108 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,500 another that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man 109 00:06:48,500 --> 00:06:51,400 has great power as it is working. 110 00:06:51,700 --> 00:06:55,200 Let's take a few minutes to break this outline down and 111 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:59,900 consider. James has questions the first 112 00:06:59,900 --> 00:07:04,500 section that we'll look at is how we strive personally 113 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:10,000 internally how we strive to not grow weary and he asks each of 114 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,300 us. These two questions are any of 115 00:07:12,300 --> 00:07:15,500 you suffering and are any of you cheerful. 116 00:07:15,900 --> 00:07:19,600 And I want to visualize this on a spectrum because James uses 117 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:22,900 Greek words that represent the farthest of far. 118 00:07:22,900 --> 00:07:25,800 The are you in the lowest of lows? 119 00:07:26,900 --> 00:07:29,700 Or are you in the highest of highs? 120 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:32,600 And this emotional experience that you're going through as you 121 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:36,000 go through life? As tribulation comes as trial 122 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:40,900 comes as good times, come as Joy comes, you're going to find 123 00:07:40,900 --> 00:07:44,800 yourself in the lowest of lows and in the highest of highs. 124 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:50,600 What do we do in the lowest of lows and the highest of highs we 125 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:55,400 could look back and we should pray when we're suffering and 126 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:59,800 were cheerful, we should be singing praises, right? 127 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:04,300 That's this is how we're to not grow weary now, I want to 128 00:08:04,300 --> 00:08:07,400 emphasize for just a moment because it's just in the back of 129 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:12,000 my mind in our culture and especially our church culture, 130 00:08:12,300 --> 00:08:15,300 that a lot of times the emotional experience. 131 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:21,100 Gets relegated to the bottom because it's not truth, right? 132 00:08:21,100 --> 00:08:25,700 And so we say things, like when it comes to interpreting the 133 00:08:25,700 --> 00:08:28,800 Bible, your emotions don't matter, the truth matters. 134 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:34,100 And I agree with how there is objective truth that all of us 135 00:08:34,100 --> 00:08:36,500 are intended to follow. But I would also like to share 136 00:08:36,500 --> 00:08:41,100 with you that God's way includes the emotional experience and 137 00:08:41,100 --> 00:08:43,200 that we need to make room for the emotional experience. 138 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:49,700 Because emotions are Valid Psalm 147 verse 3 talking about God, 139 00:08:49,700 --> 00:08:54,200 he heals the Brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. 140 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:58,300 God cares. When we are in distress, God 141 00:08:58,300 --> 00:09:00,700 cares. When we are on the top of the 142 00:09:00,700 --> 00:09:06,500 world he wants us to mourn when others are morning as the book 143 00:09:06,500 --> 00:09:09,200 of Romans says he wants us to rejoice when others are 144 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,600 rejoicing. And I don't have time to go into 145 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:15,200 all of this. That this is an emotional wheel. 146 00:09:15,500 --> 00:09:20,100 We use this in therapy a lot, especially with men, no offense 147 00:09:20,100 --> 00:09:24,400 men, but culturally were not really trained on how to do 148 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:30,900 anything other than to be mad sad, and glad right? 149 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:33,100 Kind of grunt our way through those emotions. 150 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:36,600 And what I went through therapy training, I was sad mad and glad 151 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:38,900 and they're asking me, but, but you've got to be able to help 152 00:09:38,900 --> 00:09:41,900 your clients experience deeper richer emotions. 153 00:09:41,900 --> 00:09:45,400 And I was going, he said me, man. 154 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:49,900 So this emotional experience that people have often times put 155 00:09:49,900 --> 00:09:51,700 on these beautiful colored spectrums. 156 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,700 It's important for us to see that Jesus experienced a wide 157 00:09:55,700 --> 00:09:59,100 range of emotions and it's healthy and appropriate that we 158 00:09:59,100 --> 00:10:01,700 can too. Now, I'm not interested in you 159 00:10:01,700 --> 00:10:07,300 manufacturing, fake emotions or fake experiences are forcing 160 00:10:07,300 --> 00:10:09,900 things because you feel like that's what others want you to 161 00:10:09,900 --> 00:10:12,400 do. I'm just trying to make space 162 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:15,400 for the emotional experience. Now let's look at this. 163 00:10:15,500 --> 00:10:20,600 This middle section right here. We have a couple of answers to 164 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,000 questions about how we personally strive, not to grow 165 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:25,500 weary. We're going to be praying. 166 00:10:25,700 --> 00:10:29,000 We're going to be singing. That's not the only answers but 167 00:10:29,100 --> 00:10:32,100 it's ones that are good enough that James put it in the Bible. 168 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:37,500 The here's the second section and that's about what to do when 169 00:10:37,500 --> 00:10:41,200 we're still weary. So let's say, for a time, you've 170 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:44,400 been in the lowest of lows and so you've been praying and 171 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,400 you've been praying You've been praying and it's just not 172 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:50,000 working. You're just so low that you 173 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:53,300 can't get out of it. Well, thankfully, this section 174 00:10:53,300 --> 00:10:55,900 is put here to help us appreciate that. 175 00:10:55,900 --> 00:10:58,000 You're supposed to interact with others. 176 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:03,100 You interact with others. So he says, is any of you sick, 177 00:11:03,300 --> 00:11:06,000 let him call on the Elders of the church and let them do two 178 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:08,900 things, pray over him anointing with oil in the name of the 179 00:11:08,900 --> 00:11:10,900 Lord. Now it's not the intention of 180 00:11:10,900 --> 00:11:15,800 this sermon to go deep down into the weeds of what it means to be 181 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:20,300 anointed in the name of the Lord, I will have a slide to 182 00:11:20,300 --> 00:11:23,600 show you the weeds, but I'm going to ask you to look on that 183 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,200 on your phone or on your smart device later on on your own in 184 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:30,100 great detail. Here's the the point that I'll 185 00:11:30,100 --> 00:11:36,300 be making the words sick in this area of scripture. 186 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:42,900 Contextually are talking about being weary and a better 187 00:11:42,900 --> 00:11:49,800 translation would be is anyone among you weary let him call for 188 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,000 the Elders of the church and let them pray over him. 189 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:55,300 Anointing him with oil, in the name of the Lord, and the prayer 190 00:11:55,300 --> 00:11:59,200 of faith will save. The one who's weary the Lord 191 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:02,200 will raise him up and if he's committed sins, he will be 192 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,600 forgiven. And why this makes more sense 193 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:10,100 with weary is because sickness is not directly tied to sin as 194 00:12:10,100 --> 00:12:14,000 far as did you get cancer? Well, that's because you lied 12 195 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,900 years ago and the Lord remembered it and he threw that 196 00:12:16,900 --> 00:12:20,900 cancer into you because that's the price you get to pay. 197 00:12:21,900 --> 00:12:25,900 That's not the kind of God we serve if however, as I'm 198 00:12:25,900 --> 00:12:29,600 presenting it is weariness, there is weariness. 199 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:33,700 That's associated with an emotional experience, but 200 00:12:33,700 --> 00:12:36,600 there's also weariness associated with Sim and there 201 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:42,500 are times when I may be sad, glad or mad, just because life 202 00:12:42,500 --> 00:12:44,600 has me down. And they're signed, there's 203 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:47,900 times when I'm mad or I'm sad because I brought this on 204 00:12:47,900 --> 00:12:53,100 myself, sin has consequences, you get a DUI, there's 205 00:12:53,100 --> 00:12:57,600 consequences to getting a DUI. Right, that we understand that 206 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:01,200 legally, we should understand it, spiritually as well. 207 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:06,000 Now here is the briefest of brief talking about the views. 208 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,000 There are people who think that we literally should anoint with 209 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:12,100 oil and their explanation is this. 210 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,600 Here are my objections to that claim. 211 00:13:15,100 --> 00:13:18,400 But thirdly, what, I'll ask you to consider on your own as 212 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:20,500 spiritually. It's talking about weariness. 213 00:13:20,900 --> 00:13:24,300 Here's the reasons why. And here's what someone might 214 00:13:24,300 --> 00:13:27,100 have an objection about Now briefly. 215 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:32,400 We have things we can do on our own, we have things that others 216 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:34,900 can do for us. So here's the conclusion 217 00:13:34,900 --> 00:13:40,200 therefore you are asked to confess your sins to one another 218 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:43,800 that's one form of weariness and you pray for one another, that's 219 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:46,300 another form of weariness to overcome that. 220 00:13:46,300 --> 00:13:50,400 You may be healed, the prayer of a righteous person has great 221 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:54,700 power as it is working. So what I want you to do is to 222 00:13:54,700 --> 00:13:59,200 remember that there are two types Soooo of weariness, we've 223 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:03,400 got one type that is sin based and we've got another type. 224 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:08,400 That is simply emotional based and we do not grow weary 225 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:13,300 according to James 5, when we talk about it, Right. 226 00:14:13,500 --> 00:14:16,700 So there's going to be times when you talk about your sin 227 00:14:16,700 --> 00:14:21,700 problems and you're confessing to someone that you trust. 228 00:14:21,900 --> 00:14:25,700 I need help. Maybe I have an addiction issue. 229 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:28,700 Maybe I have a behavioral issue. Maybe I have an anger issue, 230 00:14:28,700 --> 00:14:31,400 whatever it is, we're confessing sin. 231 00:14:31,900 --> 00:14:34,700 There's other times, when instead of at the back door, 232 00:14:34,700 --> 00:14:37,600 when you see each other at Services, you know, I don't know 233 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:40,000 what the number one question that a Christian as a Christian. 234 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:45,500 How you doing? And it's not a question. 235 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:49,500 It's really a statement and you know it's saying hello. 236 00:14:50,900 --> 00:14:53,100 And if one were to say how you doing? 237 00:14:53,100 --> 00:14:56,000 And the other says, well I'll tell you man, it's been a hard 238 00:14:56,300 --> 00:14:59,500 hard week and I am just, I can't sometimes we're going. 239 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:03,900 I just ask you how you're doing. I want to know that I'm not 240 00:15:03,900 --> 00:15:07,400 interested, right? The English language is bizarre 241 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,100 sometimes. And what I would challenge us 242 00:15:10,100 --> 00:15:13,700 with is that when we're asking how you doing, you really should 243 00:15:13,700 --> 00:15:18,700 ask, how are you doing? So that someone feels safe 244 00:15:18,700 --> 00:15:23,000 enough to say it's been Been a hard week and I've been down 245 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,700 here and I can't figure out how to get out of it. 246 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,900 Okay. So when those people get to that 247 00:15:28,900 --> 00:15:33,200 last little row and they're down there at the doldrums then how 248 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:37,300 do we help them get out of that we re experience. 249 00:15:37,300 --> 00:15:38,900 So that's the first part of our study. 250 00:15:38,900 --> 00:15:43,700 Hopefully now we feel better about James 5 and we know that 251 00:15:43,700 --> 00:15:46,300 there's some valuable teaching there that says that we're 252 00:15:46,300 --> 00:15:49,500 supposed to confess our sins to one another, we're going to pray 253 00:15:49,500 --> 00:15:51,800 for one another. The prayers of a righteous 254 00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:55,700 person availeth much, but let's talk about safety and why that 255 00:15:55,700 --> 00:15:58,900 word is very important in this conversation. 256 00:15:59,100 --> 00:16:04,400 Did you know that the word safety or safe in the Bible that 257 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:08,500 we see in English? Actually comes from several 258 00:16:08,500 --> 00:16:12,200 Greek and Hebrew words in the Old and New Testament and they 259 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,300 paint a beautiful picture of what it means to be safe. 260 00:16:15,700 --> 00:16:20,200 Now, we use that word sometimes casually, right? 261 00:16:20,300 --> 00:16:24,900 Like Somebody's running to first base and they're safe, they made 262 00:16:24,900 --> 00:16:28,800 it right as we with our kids, when we play hide-and-seek and 263 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:33,300 they are running to get to the couch before dad's chasing them 264 00:16:33,300 --> 00:16:38,300 down, they're diving through the air in there, safe, right in the 265 00:16:38,300 --> 00:16:43,300 Bible, you can look these up and Hebrew and in Greek many times, 266 00:16:43,300 --> 00:16:45,100 they'll translate into English as safe. 267 00:16:45,100 --> 00:16:49,300 But other synonyms are that that we're secure, right? 268 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,600 That we're at peace. That we've escaped from some 269 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:57,900 great problem that there was Deliverance and someone has 270 00:16:57,900 --> 00:17:02,500 broke free, that there's Refuge, we've run into the Lord, he's a 271 00:17:02,508 --> 00:17:05,900 strong tower. As the Bible says in Proverbs 272 00:17:05,900 --> 00:17:09,200 18:10, the righteous run into him and they are safe. 273 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:14,099 In Luke 15. 27 is we're going to talk about later the scriptures 274 00:17:14,099 --> 00:17:18,300 will call and safe and sound whenever they come home. 275 00:17:18,300 --> 00:17:21,900 And that safe and sound is talking about about a wellness. 276 00:17:21,900 --> 00:17:26,000 And I love how it's used in first John or rather, second 277 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:30,000 John chapter 1, where it talks about, how we are to be of sound 278 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:33,700 mind. So mental health, emotional 279 00:17:33,700 --> 00:17:35,900 well-being. These things are biblically 280 00:17:35,900 --> 00:17:39,900 based, we are to be of sound mind safe in the mind. 281 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:43,500 Safe, that we've been rescued safe, like an anchor. 282 00:17:43,500 --> 00:17:46,100 That is sure in the middle of a storm. 283 00:17:46,100 --> 00:17:48,900 The boat can drop its anchor, and it's safe, even though the 284 00:17:48,900 --> 00:17:54,100 winds are crashing all over it. It so it's easy, maybe to listen 285 00:17:54,100 --> 00:17:57,400 to the news and listen, sometimes I can be guilty of it 286 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:02,300 as well and we hear people use a word say well, this is my safe 287 00:18:02,300 --> 00:18:07,500 space so we just go poof. What a Nancy for thinking that 288 00:18:07,500 --> 00:18:09,800 they need to be safe. We don't need to be safe. 289 00:18:09,900 --> 00:18:14,200 We do, we really do. We need to feel comfortable 290 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:18,600 enough to talk to someone that we feel safe with who in the 291 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:22,300 Bible would be a good example of someone who felt safe Apostle 292 00:18:22,300 --> 00:18:23,900 Paul. And I'm going to show you a 293 00:18:23,900 --> 00:18:27,200 scripture here where he talks about himself and I'm going to 294 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:31,000 ask this question at the bottom. How was Paul able to confess 295 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,600 this? Now I've emphasized some words. 296 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:36,500 Hopefully, we can read it. It says As and I thank Christ 297 00:18:36,500 --> 00:18:38,600 Jesus. Our lord who has enabled me 298 00:18:38,900 --> 00:18:41,400 because he counted me faithful putting me into the ministry. 299 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:44,100 Although I was formerly a blasphemer. 300 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:49,200 A persecutor and insolent man. But I obtained Mercy because I 301 00:18:49,208 --> 00:18:52,000 did it, ignorantly in unbelief and the grace of our Lord was 302 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,700 exceedingly abundant with faith and love which are in Christ 303 00:18:54,700 --> 00:18:57,300 Jesus. This is a faithful saying and 304 00:18:57,300 --> 00:19:00,600 worthy of all acceptance that Christ Jesus came into the sent 305 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:05,000 into the world, to save Sinners of whom. 306 00:19:05,500 --> 00:19:09,100 I am chief. How is he able to talk so freely 307 00:19:09,100 --> 00:19:11,600 about that. And here's a guy that is a 308 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,200 blasphemer, a persecutor an insolent, man. 309 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:17,600 Some might call him a murderer, putting Christians, in jail. 310 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:21,100 And and if they were then executed later that he could 311 00:19:21,100 --> 00:19:23,700 have all sorts of things and yet, here he is just kind of 312 00:19:23,700 --> 00:19:26,500 broadcasting it freely. By the way, this is what I was, 313 00:19:27,100 --> 00:19:31,400 and I'm the chief of Sinners. I'm the worst of Sinners and I 314 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:34,900 would suggest that Paul was safe. 315 00:19:35,500 --> 00:19:39,600 Take all those words that we used and biblically the way that 316 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:42,900 they are used, we could say he was safe and his relationship 317 00:19:42,900 --> 00:19:45,800 with his Lord. Meaning he felt comfortable to 318 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,700 bring this to the master, but he also felt comfortable and 319 00:19:48,700 --> 00:19:50,500 talking about it with his Brethren. 320 00:19:50,700 --> 00:19:53,200 Notice what he says? Jesus enabled me. 321 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,500 Jesus counted me. Faithful, Jesus. 322 00:19:56,500 --> 00:20:00,500 Put me into a Ministry. And therefore I obtained mercy 323 00:20:00,700 --> 00:20:03,500 and Jesus, Grace was exceedingly, abundant and Jesus 324 00:20:03,500 --> 00:20:06,800 saves Sinners. I'm the chief And so, I obtained 325 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:10,100 Mercy. He felt comfortable in this and 326 00:20:10,100 --> 00:20:12,600 he wants us to feel comfortable in it too. 327 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:16,100 Because he says, however, for this reason, I obtained Mercy 328 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:21,600 that in me first, Jesus Christ might show all long suffering as 329 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,200 a pattern to those who are going to believe on him for 330 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,400 everlasting life. Paul is intended to be a pattern 331 00:20:28,900 --> 00:20:32,400 where you and me. Should be like him. 332 00:20:33,500 --> 00:20:35,300 And we can talk about what we used to be. 333 00:20:36,500 --> 00:20:39,300 We can talk about what we are presently struggling with. 334 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,900 Now we're not going to, you know, celebrate the sin. 335 00:20:43,900 --> 00:20:47,600 That's not what it's about. But it is about talking about 336 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,200 how we used to be one way and then the Lord has done some 337 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:54,400 wonderful work in our life and now we're different or the Lord 338 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:56,800 is trying to work through us. But man were just having a 339 00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,000 really hard time and we need help to get through it. 340 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:04,900 Now at this point in the sermon, as we go on to the next Point, 341 00:21:05,900 --> 00:21:08,400 I've had several people naturally fall into one of two 342 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,700 groups, you're either really ready to help. 343 00:21:12,300 --> 00:21:15,800 You're like let sit on the safe person and I'm ready to go. 344 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:17,500 Find those people that don't feel safe. 345 00:21:17,500 --> 00:21:21,400 I'm going to make them or you're the person is about ready to get 346 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:25,100 out of here and say, this is way beyond my comfort zone. 347 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:27,600 Nobody here knows what I've done. 348 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,500 Nobody knows what my life is like and I do Don't know if I 349 00:21:30,508 --> 00:21:33,200 want to talk about it and so the best illustration I've ever 350 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,900 found is this. Eva. 351 00:21:38,700 --> 00:21:43,000 It's ostrich, chasing a zebra giraffe, screaming. 352 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:46,100 Let me help you. And so happens in the church. 353 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,300 We get so zealous to want to help others. 354 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:54,200 Sometimes we forget that, maybe they're not where we are in this 355 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:59,300 emotional process. I remember one time I had a dear 356 00:21:59,300 --> 00:22:03,000 friend that I gave a sermon very similar to this and I encourage 357 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,700 the church to, you know, get to know each. 358 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:08,600 Each other and get to know each other about the parts of their 359 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:10,400 life that maybe they're not ready to share. 360 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:14,000 And he said, he had come someone come up to him after that, 361 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:18,400 sermon who had never spent time with him other than a, hey, how 362 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,400 are you? And the very first question that 363 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,900 they asked was tell me about your sister who has it been 364 00:22:23,900 --> 00:22:29,000 faithful for the past 10 years and he was just not ready to 365 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:32,600 have that conversation. It wasn't he wasn't safe. 366 00:22:33,500 --> 00:22:35,500 Now that other person felt very safe. 367 00:22:35,500 --> 00:22:37,000 I am. This person was probably 368 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,900 thinking I'm totally safe and I'm a safe person and so I'll be 369 00:22:39,900 --> 00:22:42,800 able to ask him this question. So this is why I'm going to have 370 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,700 a few of these thoughts just to remind you. 371 00:22:45,700 --> 00:22:49,200 It's okay if you're not quite there yet or maybe if you're 372 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,100 overzealous, that's okay too. Now I want you two to know at 373 00:22:52,100 --> 00:22:54,500 this moment in the sermon. It's okay. 374 00:22:54,500 --> 00:22:59,900 If you don't feel safe and it's okay to not understand others in 375 00:22:59,900 --> 00:23:01,900 the moment. So maybe you're just totally 376 00:23:01,900 --> 00:23:04,300 their butts. What else in the congregation 377 00:23:04,300 --> 00:23:08,300 isn't it's okay to not want to open up to everyone. 378 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,300 Right. It's okay. 379 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,600 If someone doesn't want to open up to you, that's important. 380 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,400 Especially if you're a helper type of person and you're 381 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:20,900 insulted or offended. If somebody doesn't want to talk 382 00:23:20,900 --> 00:23:25,000 to you about their problem, this is kind of a tricky sentence. 383 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:29,300 It's okay, if you're not someone elses safe person. 384 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,100 Even though you feel safe with them. 385 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,700 So, I've seen this happen among friends where one friend thinks 386 00:23:36,700 --> 00:23:39,000 the other is their best friend, and they're just going to pour 387 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,700 out their heart to them, whereas the other person wasn't ready 388 00:23:41,700 --> 00:23:46,300 for that. It's okay to want this safety 389 00:23:46,300 --> 00:23:51,800 that you see in others, and it's okay, if it takes more time than 390 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,800 you expected. So, let's just take a breath. 391 00:23:54,900 --> 00:23:57,800 As we jump into this third part of the study, and that is 392 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:02,000 talking about what's going on in your heart, how to build 393 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:08,000 internal safety. Now, this is from a training 394 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:12,200 seminar that I went to and I know this is very small but it 395 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:15,700 says, how can I Come more secure a grounded theory of earning 396 00:24:15,700 --> 00:24:18,100 secure attachment Biola. Why? 397 00:24:18,100 --> 00:24:21,300 I don't even know how to say that, oh, aloof for w a and Fife 398 00:24:21,300 --> 00:24:24,700 schleiden and winning. And so this was at the Texans 399 00:24:25,100 --> 00:24:26,900 annual marriage, and family therapy conference. 400 00:24:26,900 --> 00:24:30,200 And as they were giving this presentation about research, 401 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:34,100 they've done on how to build safety within a person I thought 402 00:24:35,300 --> 00:24:38,000 You stole that from the Bible? I know you stole from me. 403 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,200 You're going to say that that's this therapy thing but I know 404 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,400 you did. So I took the pleasure of 405 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:47,800 capturing it back for the Bible even though they might not claim 406 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,100 it comes from there. So we're going to look at an 407 00:24:50,100 --> 00:24:52,200 illustration in the form of a house. 408 00:24:53,100 --> 00:24:56,100 I have had some experience with home renovation but please do 409 00:24:56,100 --> 00:25:01,400 not base this house and the way it's constructed off of sound 410 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,900 practices that we have in the real world but we're going to 411 00:25:03,908 --> 00:25:07,500 start with this concept. What happens when you're here 412 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:11,100 and sin and weariness is beating down on you and you've got to 413 00:25:11,100 --> 00:25:15,000 build this internal safety so that you can talk to someone. 414 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:18,700 You know, maybe you're afraid to talk to somebody in this place 415 00:25:18,700 --> 00:25:21,700 because you're afraid they won't know what I've been through. 416 00:25:22,100 --> 00:25:24,900 They will judge me. They will look down on me. 417 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:28,000 Now, I can say all day long. No, they won't. 418 00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:31,600 But until you feel safe, it's going to be hard for you to 419 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,000 overcome that. So, here is a research backed 420 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,900 method. You build internal safety that I 421 00:25:36,908 --> 00:25:40,600 think is biblically based and here's the roof and notice, I 422 00:25:40,608 --> 00:25:42,600 started with the roof. You never start with the roof 423 00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:45,800 when you build a house. However, there are internal 424 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:50,900 changes and there are relational changes that will shelter you 425 00:25:50,900 --> 00:25:53,500 from the storm. So the question is, how do we 426 00:25:53,500 --> 00:25:57,800 build these internal changes? And how do we build relational 427 00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,500 changes? So, now, we'll start down at the 428 00:25:59,508 --> 00:26:03,000 bottom with the foundation and this is the foundation to build 429 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:04,900 safety coming from Romans chapter 12. 430 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:09,100 L've verse 1 and 2 which says we are to be transformed by the 431 00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:12,500 renewing of our minds. So that's a command. 432 00:26:13,500 --> 00:26:16,400 Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 433 00:26:16,700 --> 00:26:20,400 And the same way that communion is a command that our worship, 434 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:25,000 the items in it are commanded. Transformation is a command 435 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:28,500 mental renewal. Well, how do we do that? 436 00:26:28,700 --> 00:26:32,000 How do we transform our minds? I'm going to show you four 437 00:26:32,100 --> 00:26:36,000 research-based ways that people have come to feel safe. 438 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:40,700 Number one, people state by being intentional today. 439 00:26:40,700 --> 00:26:44,500 I'm going to do x y z to try to build a little safety. 440 00:26:44,700 --> 00:26:50,500 And I like, what Colossians 3:1 says, set your mind on things 441 00:26:50,500 --> 00:26:52,600 above. Not on things of this world, so 442 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,100 am I? Set is healthy and necessary to 443 00:26:56,100 --> 00:26:59,100 build safety and overcome trauma in your heart. 444 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:04,800 Number to overcome setbacks, meaning you will take a risk and 445 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:09,300 somebody might let you down, Bible says in John, 16:33 in 446 00:27:09,300 --> 00:27:13,500 this world, you will have troubles, but be of good cheer. 447 00:27:13,500 --> 00:27:15,700 I have overcome the world and friends. 448 00:27:16,300 --> 00:27:19,300 If you have a mindset where you're going to say, I'm going 449 00:27:19,300 --> 00:27:23,300 to take a risk but kind of like I said, last night this Person 450 00:27:23,300 --> 00:27:24,700 that I'm going to take a risk with this. 451 00:27:24,700 --> 00:27:28,200 Isn't my Lord and Savior. Jesus Christ is, and this person 452 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:31,000 may let me down. So I got to remember that they 453 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:35,100 might let me down, Jesus doesn't let me down, but this person 454 00:27:35,100 --> 00:27:38,300 might having that in your heart is helpful. 455 00:27:38,300 --> 00:27:41,200 Number three, having surrogate attachment. 456 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:46,300 So we might call this an adopted or chosen family and the Bible's 457 00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:49,400 full of surrogate attachments. You could write down if you're 458 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:55,000 taking notes in Ruth 1:15. This Young foreign woman, her 459 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:59,000 husband dies. The family is pretty much wiped 460 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,700 out, except for her mother-in-law, right? 461 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,400 But her husband's gone. So she could just go back to her 462 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:07,500 people. But she tells this woman that 463 00:28:07,500 --> 00:28:10,500 she's not really related to anymore, but she decides she's 464 00:28:10,500 --> 00:28:12,800 going to go with her. She says your people. 465 00:28:12,900 --> 00:28:17,500 They're going to be my people, your God is going to be my God. 466 00:28:18,300 --> 00:28:23,400 And so this young woman Ruth has a surrogate attachment to Naomi 467 00:28:23,900 --> 00:28:26,900 in Romans, chapter 16. Verse 15. 468 00:28:26,900 --> 00:28:31,200 The Apostle Paul says greet Rufus, chosen in the Lord and 469 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:35,100 greet, his mother and mine and it's one little thought and I 470 00:28:35,100 --> 00:28:38,200 wish I could expand it so much more than this. 471 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:41,900 But Paul look to this woman like a mother. 472 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:46,400 So, my question for you all is, do you have people in the church 473 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,400 whom you look to and they're like a brother to you, like a 474 00:28:49,408 --> 00:28:53,600 sister to you, like a mom, like a dad, a spiritual family, like 475 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:55,500 this is what we're supposed to be. 476 00:28:56,600 --> 00:29:00,300 Galatians chapter 3 talks about how when we are baptized into 477 00:29:00,300 --> 00:29:03,000 Christ. What we all put on him through 478 00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,900 baptism, and there's no longer Jew nor Greek slave nor free nor 479 00:29:05,900 --> 00:29:08,400 male or female but we're all one in Christ. 480 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:14,200 We are a surrogate family and that's research base. 481 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,100 So this is why I'm saying, I think they stole it from the 482 00:29:16,100 --> 00:29:20,600 Bible number for therapy and education. 483 00:29:20,700 --> 00:29:24,500 Proverbs chapter 20 verse 5 says that a the heart of a man is 484 00:29:24,500 --> 00:29:27,900 like a deep. Well, But a man of understanding 485 00:29:27,900 --> 00:29:32,200 can draw it out and so I do think it is healthy and helpful 486 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:36,000 to reach out to others who have training to help you overcome 487 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,600 traumatic experiences. So now that we've got the 488 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:42,000 foundation, let's build the walls of internal changes and 489 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,600 relational changes so we can look at this research based 490 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:50,700 method of an internal change and that is to relinquish the victim 491 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:55,000 mentality. Now I don't say that in like an 492 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,800 insulting way like oh you're Just a victim and get over it 493 00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,500 because sometimes you've been through the ringer but the Bible 494 00:30:01,500 --> 00:30:05,100 suggests and research suggests that if we put on the mindset, 495 00:30:05,100 --> 00:30:08,900 this, I'm more than this. I'm not going to have a name tag 496 00:30:08,900 --> 00:30:11,300 for about the rest of my life. That says, this is how I'm 497 00:30:11,300 --> 00:30:15,000 identified as by this trauma, I will put that down and put on 498 00:30:15,008 --> 00:30:19,000 something else that you were able to overcome that trauma 499 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,600 quicker. Philippians 4:13 says, I can do 500 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:27,100 all things through Christ. Who strengthens me a second, 501 00:30:27,100 --> 00:30:30,500 step is to redefine, one's identity and work. 502 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:35,000 So by taking off a victim mentality and putting on, in 503 00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:42,300 this context, putting on Christ Putting on his identity, I love 504 00:30:42,300 --> 00:30:48,200 what John 8:36 says. So who the sun sets free is free 505 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:51,500 indeed, and one of my favorite songs, I don't know if it's in 506 00:30:51,500 --> 00:30:54,600 this folder or not, but it's, that's the how the chorus goes, 507 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,800 who the sun sets free is free, indeed. 508 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,700 And then we all sing together. I'm a Child of God. 509 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,800 Yes, I am. I love that phrase. 510 00:31:04,300 --> 00:31:06,900 I love saying it, with my brothers and sisters, what we're 511 00:31:06,900 --> 00:31:09,200 all calling out together. This new identity. 512 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:13,900 This new worth, where it doesn't matter, what I used to be, and 513 00:31:13,900 --> 00:31:17,500 what I used to do. I'm not I'm not measured by that 514 00:31:17,500 --> 00:31:22,400 anymore, I measured by Jesus and he says, I'm a child of God and 515 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:25,100 so what else can I declare bait? Yes, I am. 516 00:31:25,500 --> 00:31:30,300 So this is how we construct internal changes towards safety. 517 00:31:30,300 --> 00:31:33,400 It takes time. And while we're doing that, 518 00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:37,300 research also suggests that you must make relational changes. 519 00:31:37,300 --> 00:31:39,300 You can't be an Island by yourself. 520 00:31:39,700 --> 00:31:45,100 And so we are to do our best to make peace with the past, what 521 00:31:45,100 --> 00:31:48,900 some call the family of origin. And so, if there's abuse in the 522 00:31:48,900 --> 00:31:52,800 family that you grew up with, if there's poor relationships with 523 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:56,700 friends in your past part of your life, then we are to try 524 00:31:56,700 --> 00:31:59,500 our best to make peace with it. And I want to read Romans 12 525 00:31:59,500 --> 00:32:04,000 verse 17. It says if it is possible as far 526 00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,400 as it depends on you live at peace with everyone, it's 527 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,400 important. Remember this you might want 528 00:32:09,500 --> 00:32:12,900 Want to make peace with someone else but they might not want to 529 00:32:12,908 --> 00:32:19,500 make peace with you and it's not your job to make them make peace 530 00:32:19,500 --> 00:32:21,100 with you. Remember, if you're the ostrich 531 00:32:21,100 --> 00:32:24,800 you let me help you, right? We can't force someone into a 532 00:32:24,808 --> 00:32:28,500 relationship but I love how the scripture says as much as it's 533 00:32:28,500 --> 00:32:32,300 possible with you. Meaning you have a job to do and 534 00:32:32,300 --> 00:32:36,600 that's to try To do your best to make peace. 535 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:43,300 And finally, we take small risks of trust and as James 5:16 says, 536 00:32:43,300 --> 00:32:46,700 which is a command confess your sins, to one another. 537 00:32:46,700 --> 00:32:50,300 This is when you take a risk with somebody at church and you 538 00:32:50,300 --> 00:32:54,400 find someone whom you may be are close to or you feel like 539 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,600 they're a safe person and you're able to say, hey, can we get a 540 00:32:56,608 --> 00:32:59,800 cup of coffee? So, I want to talk about and 541 00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,100 that cup of coffee at whatever place here in town or if you 542 00:33:03,108 --> 00:33:05,200 don't like coffee get Whatever, I don't care. 543 00:33:05,300 --> 00:33:08,100 The point is, you're going to spend some time and it's going 544 00:33:08,100 --> 00:33:10,200 to take time. This isn't something you talk 545 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:13,100 about 30 seconds and you say, great talk and walk away. 546 00:33:13,100 --> 00:33:16,100 You might need to take an hour or two or three and that's 547 00:33:16,100 --> 00:33:19,000 small. Risk built on making peace with 548 00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,000 your past leads to relational changes. 549 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:24,400 And these are research-based methods that we can grow 550 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,900 stronger inside. One of my favorite verses that 551 00:33:26,900 --> 00:33:31,000 I'm going to close with on this section is First John chapter 3, 552 00:33:31,300 --> 00:33:35,800 verse 19 and 20, and it says by this We know that we are of the 553 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,100 truth and shall assure our hearts before him. 554 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,900 For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart 555 00:33:42,900 --> 00:33:46,700 and he knows all things. As I have learned when it comes 556 00:33:46,700 --> 00:33:50,400 to people who've been through trauma or of had past 557 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,400 experiences, a lot of guilt there. 558 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:57,000 The whole lot of self-doubt and inability to let go of that 559 00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,300 past. And one of the things about this 560 00:33:59,300 --> 00:34:02,600 scripture is to remind these people as they're building this 561 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:03,800 house. God. 562 00:34:04,100 --> 00:34:07,500 Greater than your heart. And so, when you're having 563 00:34:07,500 --> 00:34:11,900 trouble building it remember, God is greater, he knows all 564 00:34:11,900 --> 00:34:15,800 things and he is able to help you overcome. 565 00:34:16,199 --> 00:34:20,300 Now, there's a book called safe. People wouldn't, you know it and 566 00:34:20,300 --> 00:34:24,900 these psychologists list the characteristics of someone who 567 00:34:24,900 --> 00:34:27,100 is safe and someone who's not safe. 568 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,699 And I'm just going to we're going to plow through it in 30 569 00:34:29,699 --> 00:34:33,199 seconds, okay? They believe a safe person is 570 00:34:33,207 --> 00:34:38,300 somebody who's honest and gentle and Wrecked humble and 571 00:34:38,300 --> 00:34:41,900 self-aware able to listen and receive the truth. 572 00:34:42,100 --> 00:34:46,400 They act on the needs and they don't just hear they grow and 573 00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,199 work towards personal Improvement and then unsafe 574 00:34:49,199 --> 00:34:53,000 people are dishonest and defensive they withdraw or 575 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:56,199 Stonewall they manipulate they flatter. 576 00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,800 But they do not confront with truth, they may apologize. 577 00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:03,200 They don't change their behavior and they lack personal insight 578 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,200 and awareness. But you know, what's better than 579 00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:09,700 a book is the Bible Bible the Bible, I think summarizes it 580 00:35:09,700 --> 00:35:15,600 this way love suffers long and is kind love does not. 581 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:19,100 Envy does not parade itself. It is not puffed up. 582 00:35:19,100 --> 00:35:23,400 Does not behave rudely, this not seek its own is not provoked 583 00:35:23,700 --> 00:35:26,100 thinks. No evil does not rejoice in 584 00:35:26,107 --> 00:35:30,100 iniquity, love rejoices in the truth Bears. 585 00:35:30,100 --> 00:35:33,500 All things believes all things, hopes, all things endures, all 586 00:35:33,500 --> 00:35:36,500 things, love, never fails. Al's. 587 00:35:36,500 --> 00:35:40,100 So as we're building safety, here, we are at this last slide 588 00:35:40,100 --> 00:35:43,900 as we're building safety. We got to remember that a safe 589 00:35:43,900 --> 00:35:48,300 person is able to take on a lot of these character traits, and 590 00:35:48,300 --> 00:35:51,300 then be aware. That sometimes there's some 591 00:35:51,300 --> 00:35:53,600 false character traits that we try to put on. 592 00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,200 For example, this one flattery but does not confront with 593 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:58,500 truth. We think we're safe. 594 00:35:58,500 --> 00:36:02,700 When we just kind of let someone do whatever, that's not a safe 595 00:36:02,700 --> 00:36:04,400 person. Safe person is going to 596 00:36:04,408 --> 00:36:09,600 challenge somebody to Truth. Okay, here we are very quickly 597 00:36:09,700 --> 00:36:12,200 how to build congregational safety. 598 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,200 So, now, let's start talking about this group of people here. 599 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:18,700 How do you work together towards making this a safe space? 600 00:36:18,900 --> 00:36:22,100 It's important to remember that a church is made up of various 601 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:26,500 types of relationships and a question that you might be 602 00:36:26,500 --> 00:36:29,000 asking. And if not, I want you to ask 603 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:34,100 it, with me is, am I supposed to be this to have this deeply 604 00:36:34,100 --> 00:36:36,300 personal and vulnerable relationship with everyone? 605 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:40,000 Here. Well, I think that's an ideal 606 00:36:40,100 --> 00:36:44,400 that we want to strive for, but I want you to just take a deep 607 00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:49,700 breath and think to yourself, I don't have to be that close with 608 00:36:49,700 --> 00:36:56,100 every single member, why not? You might be a little bit upset, 609 00:36:56,100 --> 00:36:57,300 why not? I thought I was supposed to be 610 00:36:57,300 --> 00:37:00,200 close with everyone. Well, I'm going to use Jesus as 611 00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:03,300 the example, okay? And I want you to consider that 612 00:37:03,300 --> 00:37:06,500 Jesus had various types of interactions and relationships 613 00:37:06,500 --> 00:37:10,800 with his followers. Jesus had a multitude. 614 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,500 That would be like his public interactions. 615 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:18,800 Jesus had the 12, which is an Outer Circle. 616 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,700 That's what I'm going to call an Outer Circle of Friends of 617 00:37:21,700 --> 00:37:24,800 safety. Then he had the three Peter 618 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:28,400 James, and John and these three. They got to spend time with him 619 00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:32,800 in ways that no one else did. They got to see special Miracles 620 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:36,800 that no one else saw. And even when they went to pray, 621 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:40,700 he went a little farther with Peter James and John before he 622 00:37:40,700 --> 00:37:44,300 went off to Pray by himself. But you know, Jesus also had a 623 00:37:44,300 --> 00:37:47,900 long time. And I Define that as a healthy 624 00:37:47,900 --> 00:37:50,500 personal form of safety, where we have a boundary to say, you 625 00:37:50,500 --> 00:37:54,500 know what, I need to kind of recharge right now before we 626 00:37:54,500 --> 00:37:59,000 have this conversation, my question is in which of these 627 00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:02,000 was Jesus, not his authentic self. 628 00:38:03,700 --> 00:38:06,500 And I would say, Jesus was authentic and every single 629 00:38:06,500 --> 00:38:08,800 scenario. He may have acted differently 630 00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,600 with the multitude than he did with his and her 3, and the same 631 00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,700 way that we might interact with each other differently at a 632 00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,400 church lunch, or after services. And there's a lot of people, a 633 00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,300 lot of conversations, kind of loud, and maybe it's a little 634 00:38:22,300 --> 00:38:25,200 overwhelming, that's probably not the best time to be 635 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:31,800 vulnerable. And so it's okay to not have 636 00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,600 that deep connection with everyone. 637 00:38:33,700 --> 00:38:35,900 But here's my question. Who's your three? 638 00:38:36,900 --> 00:38:40,100 Do you have a theory? And I do think it's a flexible 639 00:38:40,100 --> 00:38:41,900 number. You could have one or two or 640 00:38:41,900 --> 00:38:43,300 three or four. Like you don't have to have 641 00:38:43,300 --> 00:38:45,400 three. God got to. 642 00:38:45,900 --> 00:38:49,400 I'm one short. No no I want you to think about 643 00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,300 who are the three that you consider in that group. 644 00:38:52,300 --> 00:38:55,600 It might be your husband or your wife. might be a brother or 645 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,900 sister might be a best friend, it might be a neighbor there 646 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:03,400 naturally our relationships here that have that already but there 647 00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:06,200 also may be people who don't have those relationships, who 648 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:10,200 were there three and how can we help them grow research, 649 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,800 suggests that healthy relationships are built through 650 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:16,200 connection as this study shows at the bottom and a lot of times 651 00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,900 I understand the research you hear that title and you go duh 652 00:39:21,300 --> 00:39:23,800 everyone knows that and that's how research works a lot of 653 00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:28,600 times as they They research the things that maybe the rest of us 654 00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,300 had already figured out, but social scientists really got to 655 00:39:31,300 --> 00:39:33,700 look at the details. A lot of times healthy 656 00:39:33,700 --> 00:39:38,000 relationships are built through connection and I want to read 657 00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:43,600 this scripture and then explain this pyramid of connection that 658 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,600 Caudill and Drake and and some counseling services put together 659 00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:51,600 in 2020. First, John 1:7 says, but if we 660 00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,500 walk in the light as he is the light we have Fellowship. 661 00:39:54,700 --> 00:39:58,400 With one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ, his son 662 00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:02,000 cleanses us from all sins. If we say, we have no sin, we 663 00:40:02,008 --> 00:40:04,300 deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 664 00:40:04,700 --> 00:40:07,600 If we confess our sins, he's faithful and just to forgive our 665 00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:10,100 sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 666 00:40:10,100 --> 00:40:13,900 So this scripture is emphasis on fellowship and fellowship takes 667 00:40:13,900 --> 00:40:17,100 three things. It takes you, it takes another 668 00:40:17,100 --> 00:40:19,200 believer. And as we'll see in a little 669 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,500 bit, I'll have the word god up here. 670 00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,500 It takes three for Fellowship to work properly. 671 00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:27,900 Early, but it's important to remember that manufactured 672 00:40:27,900 --> 00:40:30,100 connection where you're trying to force something. 673 00:40:30,500 --> 00:40:33,300 It's lonely, and it's discouraging. 674 00:40:33,300 --> 00:40:38,800 Let me give you an example. Research shows that, if you want 675 00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,400 to have an intimate relationship, and I'm not 676 00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:45,400 talking about sex which we usually use with the synonym of 677 00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,500 intimacy. But what the way I'm presenting 678 00:40:47,500 --> 00:40:51,200 it tonight is just a deeply personal and very close 679 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,100 connection that can be platonic as friends. 680 00:40:54,300 --> 00:40:57,600 It Between Marriage Partners as well, but we're really 681 00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,100 interested. We want to be vulnerable. 682 00:40:59,100 --> 00:41:02,100 We want to have this intimate relationship but you can't just 683 00:41:02,100 --> 00:41:05,700 jump into those. It's not possible. 684 00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:11,100 Now, it can happen very quickly, but we start with truth and that 685 00:41:11,100 --> 00:41:14,700 means that two people have to have something in common, a 686 00:41:14,700 --> 00:41:17,900 shared sense of meaning. And with that shared sense of 687 00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:21,800 meaning, then they move up that relationship pyramid into safety 688 00:41:22,100 --> 00:41:25,100 that they feel comfortable to talk to one another Other about 689 00:41:25,100 --> 00:41:28,400 that shared sense of Truth and as they feel comfortable talking 690 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:31,200 about it suddenly now they trust each other that they can move 691 00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,800 Beyond. Maybe that one thing that 692 00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,700 brought them together, maybe it was, you know a work friend and 693 00:41:36,700 --> 00:41:40,100 all the things you talk about is work but then you feel safe to 694 00:41:40,100 --> 00:41:42,900 talking about work. So then you can bring up some 695 00:41:42,900 --> 00:41:46,000 other issue that's on your mind and that's how we get to 696 00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:49,400 vulnerability and intimacy. But when you try to manufacture 697 00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:53,500 it and this person is desperate to have a vulnerable intimate 698 00:41:53,500 --> 00:41:57,200 connection with Our friend right or with your marriage partner 699 00:41:57,300 --> 00:41:58,800 and a lot of times, this is what happens. 700 00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:02,500 And marriage want persons reading a book, the other person 701 00:42:02,500 --> 00:42:05,400 watching TV or something, right? They're not interested in this 702 00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:06,900 book. And this book has got some great 703 00:42:06,900 --> 00:42:08,500 stuff. I mean, it's going to save our 704 00:42:08,500 --> 00:42:11,200 marriage and it's going to take us to the next level. 705 00:42:11,300 --> 00:42:13,800 And so we start trying to implement the things of this 706 00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:18,300 book and our partner wasn't really there for any of that. 707 00:42:18,300 --> 00:42:21,200 And so what happens and this isn't a marriage. 708 00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,400 This is just a friendship example up here but this person 709 00:42:25,100 --> 00:42:30,100 is ready to move into safety, but the other is not This person 710 00:42:30,100 --> 00:42:33,600 is ready to move into trust and the others not and as this 711 00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:38,100 person starts to divulge things and they're moving into this 712 00:42:38,100 --> 00:42:41,300 place where I lie trust you and I'm talking about this stuff. 713 00:42:41,300 --> 00:42:45,500 Why aren't you talking back? Why aren't you opening up to me? 714 00:42:45,500 --> 00:42:48,800 Because it's manufactured. And it will only end up in 715 00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:52,400 loneliness and discouragement and very quickly that friendship 716 00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:54,500 is become superficial all over again. 717 00:42:55,300 --> 00:43:00,800 So what are we supposed to do well with God at the top. 718 00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,800 And this is why the I have this scripture here when we have 719 00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:07,300 fellowship with one another I think fellowship and 720 00:43:07,300 --> 00:43:10,400 relationship or two very close words. 721 00:43:10,700 --> 00:43:14,100 But with that inner three or the person that you're trying to get 722 00:43:14,100 --> 00:43:17,000 closer with, you want to be vulnerable with you start with 723 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:20,900 the sense of Truth together and you move into safety together 724 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,100 and you start trusting each other. 725 00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:27,200 And then we're Are able to open up about a problem. 726 00:43:28,300 --> 00:43:31,400 And someone divulge is, man, I've had a porn addiction for 727 00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,500 the past 20 years and I don't know how to stop. 728 00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:40,400 Or. I lost my job last week and I'm 729 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,700 going to lose everything, but I haven't been able to talk to my 730 00:43:43,700 --> 00:43:46,800 wife about it. I'm just pretending to go to 731 00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,500 work, right? So we get, how do we get to 732 00:43:49,500 --> 00:43:51,200 these points? Because we build these other 733 00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,200 things in common and then we get to intimacy the closest thing. 734 00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:59,000 And what I'm suggesting to you is the way that we get there is 735 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:05,900 that we're both pursuing God. And by pursuing God with someone 736 00:44:05,900 --> 00:44:09,600 in the congregation, trying to get closer together and trying 737 00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:13,900 to create that sense of safety. This is how it is accomplished. 738 00:44:14,500 --> 00:44:15,900 We can talk more about that afterwards. 739 00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:21,900 In conclusion, I simply want to share with you, the prodigal, 740 00:44:22,100 --> 00:44:27,400 The Prodigal father and brother and how they are an excellent 741 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:31,900 example of someone who's safe and someone who's not safe and 742 00:44:31,900 --> 00:44:35,500 so I'm going to share some visual aids with you up here on 743 00:44:35,500 --> 00:44:39,700 the board and we will briefly review the parable. 744 00:44:39,700 --> 00:44:43,600 And that is that there was this prodigal or this son who told 745 00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,400 his father that he wanted to go off into a far country. 746 00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:49,400 And so, his father gave him his portion of the inheritance. 747 00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:53,900 And he went off and squandered his life and his living in that 748 00:44:53,900 --> 00:44:56,600 place. And after a series of very 749 00:44:56,600 --> 00:45:00,000 embarrassing and Unfortunate Events, he decides to come home 750 00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,800 and when he comes home to his father, he tells Him, I've 751 00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,000 sinned against heaven and against you and I'm no longer 752 00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:09,500 worthy to be called your son. And what I want to emphasize 753 00:45:09,500 --> 00:45:15,600 here is that the father was safe in two ways in this relationship 754 00:45:15,900 --> 00:45:19,300 first. He was safe and that he didn't 755 00:45:19,300 --> 00:45:21,300 go with the son to the far country. 756 00:45:22,700 --> 00:45:26,200 That's important to remember. And I think sometimes it's easy 757 00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:31,500 for us to excuse sin and to make allowances for our friends and 758 00:45:31,500 --> 00:45:33,800 our family. When they're trapped in sin with 759 00:45:33,808 --> 00:45:38,000 the father, didn't do that. The father there is an Open Door 760 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,900 and he waited for the sun to return, but he wouldn't go with 761 00:45:40,900 --> 00:45:42,500 him. That's a safe person. 762 00:45:43,500 --> 00:45:48,300 But when the sun came back, that safety is made manifest and how 763 00:45:48,300 --> 00:45:52,400 the father responds, he runs to meet and he picks him up. 764 00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:56,600 And he hugs him, he kisses him. He calls for a robe to be put on 765 00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,300 him a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. 766 00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:03,200 And even though the sun is completely broken, the father 767 00:46:03,300 --> 00:46:08,000 calls out my son, My son was lost and is found. 768 00:46:09,100 --> 00:46:13,900 He's alive again. Now, as the parable continues, 769 00:46:13,900 --> 00:46:18,700 the older brother who had didn't leave and had not wasted money 770 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,000 in. Prodigal living finds out that 771 00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,800 the younger son has returned and not only has he returned, but 772 00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:29,800 the father is now celebrating him and he is frustrated and 773 00:46:29,900 --> 00:46:33,300 angry with what has happened here and so he won't even go 774 00:46:33,300 --> 00:46:36,700 into the party. The father has to walk out and 775 00:46:36,700 --> 00:46:40,200 talk to him. And in angry he says, for the 776 00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:45,400 first time in the Herbal the, your son wasted, his money on 777 00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:48,400 prostitutes. It never said that up till that 778 00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:49,800 point, it did say, prodigal living. 779 00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:52,800 And it's likely that he had wasted the money on prostitutes. 780 00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:58,000 This is the first time The older brother is not safe. 781 00:46:59,500 --> 00:47:03,400 Because he's interested in Justice and revenge and Judgment 782 00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:07,000 at all costs. Instead of what the father who 783 00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,800 had a boundary that he wouldn't cross, but when that sun came 784 00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:11,900 back repentant he was ready to forgive. 785 00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:19,500 Now the moral of this story is that just like the older brother 786 00:47:19,500 --> 00:47:23,000 and the younger brother both in a way were lost and needed to 787 00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,400 repent and come back to the their father. 788 00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,900 So, were the Jewish people that Jesus was working with, and the 789 00:47:29,900 --> 00:47:34,300 Pharisees who judged and looked down on those who were tax 790 00:47:34,300 --> 00:47:37,300 collectors and sinners. Has Jesus is trying to call both 791 00:47:37,300 --> 00:47:40,600 sides to repentance and what I'm trying to advocate for with 792 00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:44,500 safety. Is that if you want to be safe 793 00:47:45,100 --> 00:47:48,400 for others than we do have a moral boundary that we don't 794 00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:50,700 cross. But when others are willing to 795 00:47:50,700 --> 00:47:54,600 come back and open up and and to be vulnerable with us, that 796 00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:56,700 we're not going to demand a pound of Flesh. 797 00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:01,100 We'll help them find the Lord, that's our Bible study tonight. 798 00:48:01,100 --> 00:48:04,000 And I know that's a lot of. A lot of information that we've 799 00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:09,300 gone through, we've covered for big concepts of how to not grow 800 00:48:09,300 --> 00:48:13,900 weary, according to James 5, how being safe is a biblically 801 00:48:13,900 --> 00:48:18,300 appropriate concept, how to build internal safety so that we 802 00:48:18,300 --> 00:48:23,000 feel comfortable to reach out. And then how congregationally or 803 00:48:23,100 --> 00:48:26,000 relationally, we understand that this is a journey. 804 00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:27,300 We're going to go through together. 805 00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:30,800 Sir with someone we're not going to expect them to be vulnerable. 806 00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:34,000 We get to just be stonewalling towards them. 807 00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:37,400 I hope some of this was helpful information for you and I'd like 808 00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:41,400 to show you this animation and read the scripture as we offer 809 00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,100 the gospel invitation. I love. 810 00:48:43,100 --> 00:48:46,500 It's one of my favorite images on baptism and it says in Romans 811 00:48:46,500 --> 00:48:51,800 6:3, and for do you not know that as many of us as were 812 00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:55,800 baptized into Christ were baptized into his death? 813 00:48:56,300 --> 00:49:00,300 Therefore We were buried with him, through baptism into death 814 00:49:00,500 --> 00:49:03,700 that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of 815 00:49:03,707 --> 00:49:07,300 the father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 816 00:49:07,900 --> 00:49:11,200 And I think, what we've talked about tonight is a part of this 817 00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:14,800 gospel process. We have to walk in newness of 818 00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:19,200 Life who we are. After baptism is just as 819 00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:23,600 important as getting baptized. Right? 820 00:49:23,900 --> 00:49:27,300 And so friends, if anyone here has it been baptized there were 821 00:49:27,300 --> 00:49:29,500 about to have a gospel invitation and I want to 822 00:49:29,508 --> 00:49:32,100 challenge you to think about according to the scriptures how 823 00:49:32,100 --> 00:49:37,100 Faith leads us to hear the word. And to believe the message to 824 00:49:37,100 --> 00:49:40,500 repent of our sins and confess that Jesus Christ is the Son of 825 00:49:40,500 --> 00:49:44,500 God and be baptized, and that baptism puts us in Christ and 826 00:49:44,500 --> 00:49:46,500 without baptism, we're not in Christ. 827 00:49:47,700 --> 00:49:52,300 But part of that ism is who we are afterwards and Who We Are. 828 00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:57,500 It's should be people who are safe and a congregation is safe 829 00:49:58,500 --> 00:50:00,600 and if you've had struggles without than this gospel, 830 00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:04,200 invitation is also for you where you can come forward and start a 831 00:50:04,207 --> 00:50:07,400 new page in a new life living for the master, there's want to 832 00:50:07,408 --> 00:50:09,400 be the class, please comes. 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