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Our lesson is simply entitled 
love. 

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In fact, we're going to be 
focusing on First Corinthians, 

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the 13th chapter and we're going
to read just a few verses. 

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What I'd like to do is I'd like 
to break down Verses 4 through 

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8. 
We often read the chapter of 

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love as it is called and as we 
read this and we talked about 

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it, we typically talk about the 
context. 

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We talk about the end of the 
chapter. 

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By love, will never cease. 
We talked about various things, 

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but what I want to do this 
morning, Because I want to focus

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of how these definitions. 
The attributes of Love, apply to

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you. 
And me, I think that's really 

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important. 
How do they act out in our lives

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today? 
Not just how it applied to them,

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but how does it apply to us? 
This moment and as a way of 

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introduction like to read from 
Hebrews the sixth chapter and 

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verses 1, the Bible says 
therefore leaving the discussion

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of the elementary principles of 
Christ. 

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Let us go to on to Perfection 
not laying again, the foundation

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of repentance. 
It's from dead works of Faith 

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towards God and I hope by the 
end of this lesson. 

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This verse will make sense to 
you. 

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What it means is that we're not 
going to talk about the very 

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basics of Christianity, but 
we're going to go on to 

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Perfection when it go on to 
completion and I think loves one

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of those ways that we do that. 
If you would turn your Bibles 

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over to 1st Corinthians, the 
13th chapter and verses for like

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to read these verses as a way of
kind of focusing. 

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What we're about to do. 
First Corinthians 13, starting 

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in verse 4. 
Love suffers long and is kind 

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love does not envy. 
Love does not parade itself, is 

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not puffed up. 
Does not behave itself. 

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Does not behave rudely, does not
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thinketh no evil does not 
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rejoices in the truth Bears, all
things believes all things, 

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hopes all these endures, all 
things love Never fails. 

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And so these are the attributes.
I'd like to break down to be 

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completely honest with you. 
I don't think I'm going to get 

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through them all. 
It's a lot of information here 

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to be talked about but I I want 
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this I want to give a little 
test to us. 

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It's a love test. 
Now don't be alarmed. 

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I'm not gonna hand out papers. 
I'm not going to answer you, ask

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you to give me answers, but I am
going to give you a test and I 

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want you to answer it within 
yourself. 

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Do you? 
Show love as a Christian and so 

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the first characteristic of love
says that love suffers long. 

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Well, the tells us a great 
wealth of information. 

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First of all, it tells us that 
love is patient. 

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The patient's is a very 
difficult thing to have 

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sometimes especially when you're
going through hard times, but it

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also has a deeper meaning, it 
means to be long tempered that's

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a word. 
We don't really use an English 

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being long temper. 
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Mean, well, it's the opposite of
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short-tempered, we know what it 
is to have that person in our 

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life that short-tempered right. 
You don't want to go ask him a 

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question. 
You don't want to go around him 

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because well, he's 
short-tempered, he's gonna get 

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mad, you know. 
Have you ever seen somebody like

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that? 
That really short-tempered. 

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They tried to show you 
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I know a number of people at 
work like this, they show you 

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something that just expect you 
to remember the 30 steps and he 

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just showed you and when you ask
them a question to get all 

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irritated at you, The first 
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it is long tempered. 
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It is patient with people. 
Remember that verse in Matthew 

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forgive our brother? 
Remember that verse that little 

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Parable? 
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have four shot, forgive my 
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Jesus said no, Seventy Times 
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parable. 
They simply means that we had to

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forgive people numbers of times 
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Christ forgives us, our God, 
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is when somebody does something 
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It's hard, isn't it? 
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somebody does something that I 
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hurts my feelings, it is hard to
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But the Bible says that 
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consider, we weigh the facts. 
We endure, no matter what is 

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going on or surrounding us. 
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James says, like this and I love
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letter. 
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James writing is James Wanted 
for says, but let patience have 

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her perfect work that ye may be 
perfect, and complete lacking 

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nothing. 
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And so with that comes kindness 
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we're about to talk about. 
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love is kind of an encompassing 
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patient? 
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is beyond our control, you know,
I was trying to think of a real 

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good example of this. 
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during World War 2. 
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well those people had 
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those people to go through that.
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is, when you're in that 
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long-suffering you choose how 
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You don't get mad or frustrated,
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no matter how they treat you. 
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love and I think out of all the 
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about this is probably one of 
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achieve because it requires a 
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These verses go on and it says 
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Now I've heard this idea that 
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to be honest with you, I started
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I started looking up definitions
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it really mean to be kind, does 
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people? 
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give gifts or to do good things 
to people, expecting something 

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in return? 
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I don't think so. 
So what does it mean to be kind?

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What does it mean to have the 
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kindness? 
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Hints love is not sharp tongue. 
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considerate of people. 
Now I want to Define what I mean

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by this, because I really 
struggled with this, with myself

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of trying to find what it really
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And I think a lot of times we 
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nice guy, and let me explain 
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That's the person that really 
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Nice things for selfish reasons.
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you when you're doing something 
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to hurt your feelings. 
The relationship. 

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He's the person that maybe we'll
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in return. 
He's the person at work. 

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That always is Buddy buddies 
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he's in sincere. 
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selfish act. 
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speaking about here. 
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Is the opposite Kindness is 
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choose to do it. 
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benefits Us in some way we do it
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What means that when we pay 
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when we go and help somebody 
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that, whatever it maybe we don't
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Now that's a hard thing to do 
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patient. 
Doesn't not the greatest example

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of this is the Good Samaritan. 
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giving about the Good Samaritan.
Now there's a whole wealth of 

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information is lessons on 
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You can talk about here, but 
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by this man, that was suffering.
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to him. 
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it enough to kind of know what 
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help and he went on, but what 
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Well, you helped him. 
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He took him to an end. 
He gave money, he said, take 

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care of this, man. 
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If it requires more money, when 
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Do what you can to help this, 
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Now, that's real kindness. 
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He was ready to do, right by 
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And he expected nothing in 
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Matthew 7 verses 12, he says 
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to do to. 
You do also to them for, this is

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the law in the prophet. 
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Christianity, treat other people
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people with kindness because 
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He goes on and I think out of 
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here, this is probably the worst
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Not envy. 
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today, you think you can be a 
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a little bit and still be a 
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I have another thing coming for 
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jealousy, bitterness. 
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other people. 
That's literally what means to 

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be envious. 
Now doesn't sound like those are

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things that a Christian should 
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opposite of contentment? 
People who feel this way, we'll 

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never find happiness. 
I can promise you that there was

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much psychology around this idea
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and that's the idea of being a 
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Whether we're poor or Rich, no 
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where to be content and so we as
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See the problem with being Envy 
it's we start looking externally

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as set of internally and when we
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we start evaluating what their 
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There's a problem there's a 
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We're not comparing Apples to 
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I'm not you, you're not me. 
We're not the same people we 

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did. 
We weren't raised the same. 

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We don't come from the same 
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We don't have the same network. 
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And when we start looking to 
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problems that we'll only if I 
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we run into a real problem 
because that's kind of the root 

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of where jealousy comes from. 
James says it like this Jamie 

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says and 3 verse 16 says, for 
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confusion and every evil things 
are there and how true of a 

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story that is Romans 1 and 29. 
Listen to this, I love this 

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because this is what God thinks 
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The envious Romans 129 says 
being filled with all 

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unrighteousness. 
He's listening off of a list of 

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sins here. 
All unrighteousness sexual 

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immorality wickedness 
covetousness, maliciousness full

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of envy Do you know what the 
next word is murder? 

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The very next word is murder. 
God sees no different from us. 

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Being full of envy and murdering
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There is no difference in God's 
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Well, let's give it an example 
of this, and then we'll move on.

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We all remember that story back 
in the Old Testament of Cain and

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Abel, right? 
Cain became jealous of his 

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brother and it welled up in him.
He was looking externally trying

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to figure out. 
Well, why am I not Prosper? 

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Prospering like my brother is 
why don't I have those things? 

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Why don't I have favored in 
God's sight, he knew what he 

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should be doing when you read 
and you kind of study that help 

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came knew what he should be 
doing. 

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He fact he had a conversation 
with God and he wasn't satisfied

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with what God had to tell him. 
God. 

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Basically, you know, you look 
within stop looking without the 

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Bible says that his countenance 
fell, he became long face, he 

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became sad And boiled up a 
bitterness jealousy, and came to

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a point that he murdered his 
brother. 

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There's pause and think about 
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I'm close with my family, I 
don't know about you, but I'm 

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close with my brothers. 
I could never imagine being so 

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jealous of somebody else's 
Prosperity that I would murder 

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them, especially my brother He 
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not parade itself. 
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boast. 
Love does not boast or brag 

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about itself really. 
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So this is pride boiled up to 
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people should hear what you have
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accomplishment. 
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boasting or to be bragging. 
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It's the complete opposite. 
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your shortcomings and to 
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I don't know if you've ever done
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really evaluated yourself, and 
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Where's my problems? 
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point a finger at somebody like 
this is it. 

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Well, you got this problem. 
You've got that for all. 

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I see that but I tell you it is 
much more difficult to point 

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your finger up yourself and see 
your own faults. 

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Because you have to admit, you 
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thing for us to do. 
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not boastful, does not brag it 
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his shortcomings. 
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tell you, it's nearly impossible
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Humility means to be powerful, 
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think about this Christians and 
all of their being bring their 

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mind, the body, their actions, 
everything about us. 

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We bring in subjection. 
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God's word. 
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thing to do, you got another 
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change your mindset, it's hard 
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It's hard to change your 
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Christians are really some 
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If you look at it that way, 
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person to ever exist yet, he was
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human being that will ever be 
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Is control over what you have 
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Proverbs 16:18, says Pride goes 
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haughty spirit before the fall 
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That is James. 
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Says but now, your boast, your 
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such boasting is evil. 
Boasting is an evil thing and it

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is not what God wants for you. 
And I It's when our pride builds

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up and it explodes in an outward
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And you know, these people every
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tell you about their prosperity,
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No matter what's going on, 
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hola. 
I landed this till, oh, I did 

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this. 
So I got in with this person ol,

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I sold this famous person shook 
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They'll do something to tell you
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Because they think they're so 
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The Bible says love does not 
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That is that love does not brag 
the root of this is the next 

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point that Paul makes it says 
love is not puffed up, that 

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means literally to blow oneself 
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It is pride at its root. 
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inflated concept of One's Own 
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That's really what it is. 
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important than what you are. 
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That's what it means to be. 
Puffed up. 

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Hey, so the Bible says here, 
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That is not our characteristic. 
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dim the outward appearance of 
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condemns the inward feeling of 
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Listen to what Romans 12 and 3 
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says, not to think of yourself 
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and that's true. 
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ourselves. 
When we start thinking, we're 

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special, or we start thinking, 
we got everything figured out or

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that we start thinking that, you
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Look at me. 
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Like I said, this is the source 
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Think about it from this 
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spiritual gifts because Paul is 
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these people had, you know, the 
power of tongues the power of 

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knowledge, the power of healing,
all these spiritual gifts, And 

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some did it? 
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especially Geo to those who have
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Don't be proud of it. 
Don't think of yourself more 

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highly than you ought to. 
I'll bring that in today just 

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because we're educated just 
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Bible are just because we know 
more of life does not mean that 

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we should think of ourselves 
higher than we ought to we're 

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all the same in God's sight. 
An example of this, in the 

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somebody I work with some time 
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It was a co-worker once he'd 
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Puffed out his shoulders back, 
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every time he spoke to you he 
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If you have met somebody like 
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Everything that comes out of 
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No matter how innocent it makes 
sound was always talking down to

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you as he was better. 
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office. 
Everybody knew this guy. 

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In fact, he himself joked about 
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know me, I'm a very curious 
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I like to ask questions and so I
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I decided I was going to go ask 
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I got them alone. 
I said, why do you why are you 

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so prideful? 
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What's the point? 
I'll never forget this response.

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He said, I act this way because 
I deserve respect and that's 

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what he thought of himself. 
I deserve respect. 

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Here's the fact. 
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that's why no one showed him 
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And if you're walking around 
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tell you. 
People can see it and they 

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understand it. 
And you will not be respected in

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Man's eyes or in God's eyes, but
we walk around with pride. 

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The Bible goes on here and it 
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Ruth, Lee. 
This is a big one because I've 

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ran into this. 
I'll tell you I came from the 

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world 15 years ago and I've had 
some mean, things done to me 

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before I became a Christian, but
the most hurtful things that 

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have ever happened to me came 
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Being rude. 
What does it mean to be rude to 

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be rude? 
Love does not conduct yourself 

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in a way that is contrary to. 
What is acceptable? 

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So, it's a little bit more than 
just plain being rude. 

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It really means not to do 
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contrary to what is acceptable 
by most people. 

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Now that plays out in various of
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means to be unseemly. 
It is disgraceful. 

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Dishonorable disrespectful. 
It is somebody who doesn't care?

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What? 
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I remember a story that a 
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hope this is not a I really do. 
I don't think so if anybody in 

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here but I hope it's not us. 
I'm not going to give names, I 

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don't want anybody to know what 
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preacher was holding a gospel 
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And a bunch of the Brethren 
decided Saturday morning, they 

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were going to get together and 
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They were all going to have 
coffee together and they would 

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just going to have a good time. 
So the big old long table of all

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these men got together and they 
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Now, this place was absolutely 
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Evidently there were a number of
people who decided not to show 

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up to work that happens from 
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And so these young lady was the 
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there and she was running around
with her head cut off like a 

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chicken. 
She was trying to get plates 

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out. 
She was trying to fill coffee. 

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Now, here's the sad part of the 
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congregation was sitting at this
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And he didn't think his coffee 
was getting filled fast enough 

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and he called this young lady 
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he thought about his coffee, not
being filled. 

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She went away crying and left. 
Whatever he said hurt her so 

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much as she broke down in tears 
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Listen, Matthew 5:14 says, you 
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A city that is set on a hill. 
Cannot be hid. you know, the sad

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part of that story is That man 
ruined his opportunity to save 

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that soul. 
Because he was rude. 

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And how sad it with us when we 
are rude. 

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And when we behave in an 
unacceptable manner, Because we 

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think more highly. 
Or whatever. 

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The reason. 
How sad that is when we hide our

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light, we hide our faith. 
And there is no way that young 

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lady thought he was a Christian 
because he was rude. 

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I'll move on here and it says in
these verses says does not seek 

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its own that, is that love is 
not selfish. 

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Selfish person is not conduct. 
A seven person is only concerned

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about his own pleasures and his 
own desires and its own 

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gratification. 
He doesn't care about other 

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people. 
He doesn't look to other people 

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love on the other hand, 
considers the wants and needs of

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others. 
That's do, we consider the wants

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and needs of the people around 
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Do we put other people first 
before ourselves? 

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Are we that type of person that 
doesn't really care what people 

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think? 
I've heard many people, I'll be 

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honest with you, I used to be 
that way. 

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I don't really care what people 
think, we should care what 

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people think we shared should 
care how people perceive us. 

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We should care about us being 
selfish or not selfish. 

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This generation that you and I 
lived on live in is the me 

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generation. 
Everything about the generation 

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that we live in right now. 
Everything on TV all the 

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advertisements, all the 
philosophies is all about me. 

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That's the world we live in. 
We're taught this from a little 

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kid. 
What do we tell our children? 

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Go get the best job. 
Go get the best education. 

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Go get the best car. 
The best house, the best things.

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Me, me me you're receiving so 
bad that the bank's advertise 

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credit cards for vacations. 
Think about that going into debt

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to go on a vacation. 
That's a me generation and it's 

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a sad thing that happens to 
people. 

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You never happened a little 
early on in this letter here and

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Corinthians the 6th chapter. 
We would call just a little 

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while before this the Brethren 
were suing one another and it 

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got so bad that they were going 
into the community and a 

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community recognize that these 
brother were having all kinds of

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conflict. 
And what did Paul tell them? 

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And some he said stop being 
selfish. 

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Maybe take the wrong maybe as 
they say knuckle under who cares

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and move on. 
The world sees what you're 

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doing. 
Sees that you're being selfish. 

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And that's not right. 
That's not considerate, and 

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that's not okay. 
Love, considers the actions. 

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And the of light that love 
considers, the actions of itself

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in light of what the world 
thinks about it. 

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Love does not seek its own next 
lie. 

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I'm going to speed this along 
here nextly. 

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The Bible says that love is not 
provoked. 

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That is that love does not get 
angry easily. 

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Now, here's another hard thing 
because I know a lot of people 

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get angry very easily. 
Have you ever seen someone that 

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is mad all the time? 
They just walk around angry 

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frustrated, something with the 
enema, just irritating. 

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It seems like they have a chip 
on their shoulder, doesn't it? 

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I think there's something 
special. 

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They are bitter. 
And no matter how small of 

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wrongdoing that is done. 
They are frustrated by it. 

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And see the Bible says that we 
are. 

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Not like that. 
When wrongdoing happens to us, 

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we don't become bitter over it. 
We don't become angry and 

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frustrated over it. 
We have a different attitude, we

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have a different demeanor. 
Have you ever seen a 60 year old

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man? 
This is the story that reminds 

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me of this in line at a, I don't
know. 

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Walmart or something like that. 
Well, I seen at one time this 

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man at Walmart, I think he was 
60 65 years old. 

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I don't know exactly how old he 
is. 

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But he was standing in line. 
He was yelling at this person 

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behind the cash register because
he thought they should be able 

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to change the price of something
as if they had that power. 

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Now, here's a man that supposed 
to be tempered aged supposed to 

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be mature. 
Have all those things that when 

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company age, right? 
But he demonstrated. 

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None of them, man. 
He was mad as Nels at this 

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person. 
He was going off. 

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Let me tell you something about 
anger. 

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Anger is not something you 
inherit as my cat has 23 toes. 

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No, no. 
Love is something you learn. 

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And just as fast as you learn to
be angry and learn to get 

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frustrated, you need to unlearn 
it. 

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And that is hard to do and it is
not easy. 

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But the Bible says that love is 
not easily provoked. 

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I want to make one point on 
this, and the reason why I think

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it's so dangerous for us to get 
frustrated, be better, and to 

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get angry at things. 
What is the most powerful weapon

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in the world? 
Think about it for a moment. 

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Did you say the nuclear bomb? 
That's what I said. 

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Let me tell you there's a weapon
more powerful than nuclear bomb.

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And that's our tongue. 
It's the most dangerous thing. 

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That man, man has It has moved 
and reshaped this world multiple

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times. 
It has killed more people than 

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anything else and it is more 
dangerous than anything you 

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could ever imagine. 
And when you get angry and when 

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you're bitter, when you walk 
around for chip on your 

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shoulder, guess what? 
You're going to build that 

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weapon wrong and you're gonna 
hurt somebody in ways that you 

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don't want to hurt someone, we 
need to be mindful the way that 

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we talk the way that we act, 
because it has impact on this 

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world and on one another We 
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podcast, put on by the Church of
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