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Good evening, everybody is great
to be here with you to worship. 

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And now to study God's word 
together, we're going to be 

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studying in Colossians chapter 
3, verse 17 through 21. 

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If you'll turn with me there, I 
don't know if Terry thought he 

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was funny, giving me the section
on the home and how wives are to

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treat their husbands husband to 
treat their wives and not a 

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parent. 
But he gave me a good challenge 

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that I think I learned a lot 
from. 

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So thank you for that and now 
you have to deal with it. 

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So we're going to go ahead and 
read those verses to begin 

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beginning. 
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chapter 3, it says, and whatever
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the name of the Lord, Jesus 
giving. 

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Thanks to God the Father I threw
him wives submit to your own 

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husband's at his as is fitting 
in the Lord. 

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Husbands love your wives and do 
not be bitter toward them 

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children obey, your parents in 
the and all things for this is 

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well pleasing to the Lord. 
Fathers do not provoke your 

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children less, they become 
discouraged. 

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Okay so this is our the 
landscape of what we're going to

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cover tonight. 
Now let's go back up to the 

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first verse. 
I love how this starts out he 

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says, and whatever you do in 
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Do all in the name of the Lord 
Jesus. 

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So this gives us a good starting
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We're going to look at 
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He's going to say is based on 
the premise of what he just said

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it makes everything else. 
He's says, okay, because this is

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on Jesus Authority and 
everything we do. 

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This is supposed to cover every 
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not something we take our 
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and one section. 
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navigate our relationships, 
another area of our life. 

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These areas of our lives are 
where we, where we ignite 

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godliness there, the mediums 
through which we involve 

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godliness in our lives. 
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everything we do is in the name 
of our Lord Jesus. 

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So that first question says, 
what is meant by the phrase? 

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Do all in the name of the Lord 
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So it's not saying that we need 
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the Lord Jesus. 
By speaking those words, I go to

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school. 
Today, I go to work today in the

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name of the Lord Jesus and we To
say those words, that's not what

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it's saying. 
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the name of the Lord Jesus is, 
is it's acting knowing that 

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that's who are acting on behalf 
of he says, in word or indeed, 

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if that's who we're speaking on 
behalf of that is who were 

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operating on behalf of in this 
and in our life and that's hard 

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to focus on all the time, when 
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that is, its kind of 
overwhelming. 

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I'm the one who speaking for God
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supposed To show people what 
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And that's a big thought, but 
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5:20 says it tells us that we 
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Earth and Ambassador is somebody
who who leaves the country on 

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behalf of the country and goes 
and speaks to another country 

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and their representatives. 
It's a representative for for 

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the country or part of. 
So, our US ambassador, may meet 

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with a rep meet with an 
ambassador of China and they 

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discuss operations. 
They discuss relationships from 

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each side. 
And that's what we are for God. 

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We are a representative for God.
We are acting on behalf of God, 

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here, in everything we do. 
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to cover anything we say, and 
anything we do and, you know, 

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it's, it would be kind of silly 
if you had an ambassador who 

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just sat around and did nothing,
you just sat with his feet up 

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all day and didn't go make any 
interactions who if you had a, 

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you know, someone else, maybe 
they're their assignment was a 

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CIA agent. 
If they just sat around and did 

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nothing, if we have a position, 
And we need to stand up to our 

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position. 
It's not like we can shrink away

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from this and say I know that's 
that's great for some people but

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I just don't want to be that. 
We're called to be an ambassador

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because no one else is going to 
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And it's important that we do it
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like Christ is gonna be here, 
picking up our pieces all the 

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time and physically if I go 
about my daily life Christ isn't

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standing there, talking to 
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Okay? 
He was a jerk today. 

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He was not very kind you and he 
didn't do what he should have 

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been doing it. 
He didn't help you guys. 

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Like you should have but that's 
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Really like a Christian 
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A christ-like person is someone 
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pick up our pieces all the time.
It is. 

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Our job to be Christ's 
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live. 
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everything in the name of the 
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Jesus is something that should 
govern everything we talked 

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about going on from here. 
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summarize, it is the 
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and the purpose of working for 
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So moving on to the next verse 
Verse 18, do the second half of 

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verse 17 says, do all in the 
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Jesus giving. 
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him. 
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thankfulness. 
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shirk away from shy away from, 
is the chance that we get to be 

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a part of this. 
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Christ. 
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you will. 
What if God said, you know, you 

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messed up so you can never be a 
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You can never be a part of what 
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You know, that be disappointed. 
We'd be on the outside looking 

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in, but God tells us you get to 
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You get to act as my Ambassador 
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God, the Father through him and 
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It's an attitude of thankfulness
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we accept it and we're going to 
be doing everything we do with a

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thankfulness toward God. 
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submit to your own husband's as 
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So what we just said, Everything
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name of the Lord Jesus. 
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wives wives need to act toward 
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of the Lord Jesus, let's 
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So we're acting on wiser to act 
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and the way they act and how are
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act toward their husbands to 
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is fitting in the Lord. 
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notice on that is the OWN the 
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He could have said, well, I've 
submit to men like in statement,

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but I think it's important here 
and what he says is that he says

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submit to your own husband's, 
women are not an inferior being.

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There is a headship crisis. 
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Christ, man. 
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of things that God set it up in.
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the wife's are in any lower 
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of lesser value. 
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he says to submit to your own 
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This isn't that there's a direct
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man, any situation. 
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note as we move forward. 
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given here is to submit. 
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I want to focus as a universal 
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Christians to be submissive as a
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throughout scripture. 
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most probably the most impactful
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in general, that is what Christ 
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He took his will and he put it 
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everything you see in Christ's 
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want, but I'm going to set that 
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I'm going to set aside 
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here here in heaven. 
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aside and go to my people. 
I'm going to set aside what I 

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want over and over. 
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set for us was one of 
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And so instead of looking at 
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as a negative thing, this 
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It's not, it is a position of 
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It is, I have this power but I'm
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It's kind of like gentleness. 
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a strength controlled Like, like
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thing, but I'm going to give, 
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myself and handle this and give 
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whatever. 
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So this concept of submission is
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verse 21 through 23. 
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one another, to one another, in 
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commandment for everyone to 
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So this is primarily an 
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all Christians. 
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command toward the women to be 
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and the command that's going to 
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love your wives. 
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Those are both commands for all 
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and do not be. 
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Those are the love to not be 
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something we're all commanded to
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But I think these two are 
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for the man and one for the 
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areas that we commonly fail in 
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first and is maybe the husbands 
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feel certain way and they turned
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That's a maybe that's a first 
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Maybe the wives first reaction 
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not acting. 
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admit to that. 
But so this, these are ways that

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God is pointing out perhaps that
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focus on and if we're in one of 
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wife, In Philippians 2 verse 3. 
We're told to do nothing from 

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selfish ambition or conceit but 
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exciting. 
More significant than ourselves 

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to look at to the other to the 
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As more important than our own. 
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question asks, well, how does 
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Husband is important to notice 
these Concepts as a whole to 

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know, how this can be 
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life is that they are you weird 
to look at no one else's needs 

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above our own and a wife can do 
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needs of her husband, and taking
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And in many different ways and 
companionship, and strength, and

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encouragement support. 
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there. 
It is, it is something that the 

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wife should be looking for and 
submitting to sometimes take 

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what she wants and set aside and
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Husband that how the question as
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How does a wife submit to her 
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I think is important to note 
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the Lord that you don't just 
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If you're a wife, you submit to 
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Lord. 
First things that are, okay, 

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that God wants us to do first. 
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it's a discretionary command is 
what can I do for him in this 

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situation? 
What can I do for him and this 

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situation? 
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how to best submit to her own 
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and helping him. 
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addressed in First Peter chapter
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There it says that wives are to 
submit going to turn over there 

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real quick. 
Why is likewise be submissive to

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your own husband's that? 
Even if some do not obey the 

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word, they without a word, may 
be won by the conduct of their 

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wives. 
So, what you just said there is 

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that if you have an unbelieving 
husband, even if you might not 

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believe the word of God Alone, 
maybe because of your actions, 

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your submissive attitude, your 
your godliness, you can change 

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him. 
And I think that is a critical 

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part of everything we've 
discussed here is the power of a

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submissive. 
We'll have it your way out of 

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tude and changing hearts. 
For both the woman and for all 

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of us to have a submissive 
attitude, I don't know. 

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One thing that can turn 
someone's head faster as when 

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they expect you to do one thing 
in a selfish way and to act in 

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their own interest and you say 
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I know I wanted this and it's 
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but no, we're going to do it 
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I'm going to sacrifice on my 
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the upper hand somehow and that 
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people are going to say, wait 
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They can have a double. 
Take. 

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What do you mean? 
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Give up something for me. 
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No you can have it. 
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We're going to do it your way. 
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wives and do not be bitter 
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So this instruction for the 
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Some of these things, I'm not 
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because I will maybe leave for 
the older man or someone else to

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fill in these gaps because I 
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on, but one of the things as I 
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why can a husband get bitter 
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expectation that was not met for
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If you had a friend who was 
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you that you guys had been close
friends for a long time and they

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betrayed you or they went, you 
know, they did something 

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contrary to you. 
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and dry that creates a certain 
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don't feel from anyone else. 
People can make you angry on the

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side of the road, people can 
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You're going about your daily 
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something that's deeper seeded 
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they should have done better for
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husband's approach 
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see this wife when, you know, 
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this, the this perfect being 
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they're just so overwhelmed with
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human. 
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like this woman is everything 
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to make me happy in any way. 
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to feel like, well, this person 
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wife failed me on this and so 
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bitterness comes in, where his 
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high that when she didn't meet 
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bitter because she should have 
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That's just some thoughts. 
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think that speaks to the need 
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expectations. 
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Fingers at myself. 
As I'm the one who's kind of 

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stepping on Deck to this, but to
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that yes, you, you want to 
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to choose, someone is going to 
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But there's a point where she is
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God. 
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like you, she's a lot like any 
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So, to have wise expectations 
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for anyone in our lives. 
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fostering, good relationships, 
but the message to the men is to

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love the wife, to show them like
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And another scripture it says to
bear with them and understanding

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and to dwell with him and 
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to know them because that will 
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estimation for them. 
They're not going to be gone. 

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Let's get to know them how they 
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Let's get to know them in the 
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That That will help us interact 
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So, to dwell with him in 
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bitter and to love, that's the 
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Going on in verse 20, it says 
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all things for this is well 
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So the instruction to Children 
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I had one Cole was younger. 
He had to write like children 

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obey your parents in the Lord. 
For this is right. 

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Honor, your father and mother 
for this is the first 

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commandment with promise Cole 
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something that you shouldn't 
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I think he, he, you know, my 
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something, but he told me 
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But he did anyway, whatever went
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Did something. 
And he had to write like 150 

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times that whole scripture out, 
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pages of that. 
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this scripture is it something 
the child can do to glorify God?

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You know, we can wonder, how can
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How can I make God? 
Feel something that's, that's a 

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fascinating thought and for a 
child for someone who's 

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underneath the parent underneath
their roof, it's as simple as 

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doing what they say and it 
doesn't feel like that's a big 

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deal, but Odds is, it makes him 
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And that's all we need to know. 
I think to really soak in that 

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awareness, that it's that 
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And I can do that today and I 
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I can get to God in a way that 
will make him happy by by 

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obeying my parents because for 
because God sets up parents, as 

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kind of the first authority 
figure in our lives to where we 

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learn Authority. 
We learn, we learn how to 

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ultimately handle God. 
By the way, we handle our 

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parents by The way we submit to 
our parents, by the way, we obey

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them and show respect to them. 
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take that picture going to set 
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how to interact with that 
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fathers, in our Earthly mothers.
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We're told in the fusion 6 verse
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told the children on your 
parents and and the best way to 

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do that regardless of whether 
they are in the Lord whether 

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they're not is to obey them 
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them shows them honor. 
Now, as this question States is 

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ever permissible for a child to 
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where the Ephesians 6 verse 1 
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believe. 
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child to do something that is 
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is always the primary head in 
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He's the primary figure of 
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may be the head of the child the
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In the situation that you have a
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something, contrary to God's, 
will the child is still honoring

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the parent by doing what God 
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obeying the parent because of 
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getting they're still honoring 
their parent because as as their

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parent, it is their job to 
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And so if that child Will obey. 
God first that is an honor to 

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the parents in reality, whether 
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it or whether the parent is 
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The highest honor that can be 
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I don't know if I made that 
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parents and all things 
regardless of whether their 

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instruction is wise or unwise. 
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your children less, they become 
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I was I was I was talking to 
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He said that his favorite 
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exasperate, don't exasperate 
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a way that that kind of Beats 
them down the bludgers them and 

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doesn't it doesn't help them 
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Because as a parent the job of 
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raise up a child to build them 
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not to take body shots that 
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it's to build them up and one of
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Parents shouldn't say something 
to a child that they can't 

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respond to like name-calling or 
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That really don't the child is 
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How do I respond? 
I can't like improve with with 

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ridiculing comments. 
I can't be better with with the 

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grading comments. 
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suggested were to give words 
that children can respond to and

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Obey and improve upon. 
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given as I understand as he was 
telling me from a culture where 

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the parents had authority to do 
really too much, they have the 

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authority to even give or take 
the child's life. 

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And so they had to be reined in.
They had to learn to wield that 

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power in that control with, with
a Godly attitude instead of a 

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