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What's going on? 
Ian Roberts is Quito Savage.com.

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Today. 
I've got special guest Frank, 

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rich on the podcast, Frank has 
been in the Fitness and 

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Nutrition space for quite some 
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He's competed as a bodybuilder 
in the NPC. 

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He has done a whole lot of 
entrepreneurial work and 

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building businesses, but it 
really started gaining momentum 

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when he started speaking out 
about how he recovered from his 

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addiction towards pornography. 
So I got on the podcast type 

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figure out. 
Honestly. 

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I was intrigued by how he was 
able to blend the carnivore 

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world with his nutrition into 
overcoming his Addiction to 

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pornography. 
But this is a message that I 

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feel like, a lot of people would
benefit from hearing. 

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A lot of people struggle with 
this, and a lot people aren't 

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open and honest about not 
transparent. 

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So this is a valuable content 
here for sure, for anybody that 

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needs this information or know, 
some that needs this 

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information. 
So without further Ado, sit 

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back, relax and do the podcast 
with my good friend, Frank rich.

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We are live. 
Frank. 

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How are you brother? 
I'm doing great, brother. 

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How you doing? 
I'm doing wonderfully. 

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Well, man, we got connected. 
I think I heard about you. 

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Originally through Danny Vega, 
good, good buddy, Danny and then

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you were on the low-carb hustle 
podcast when the three of us 

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were still doing that. 
And then we like man we gotta 

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get a podcast together, just two
of us and that is what today is 

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all about. 
So glad to have you man. 

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Yeah, man, I'm really, really 
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And, you know, yeah, we Danny 
connected us, you know, I was, I

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was familiar with you prior to 
prior to that connection, you 

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know, with, with what you're 
building over there, with the 

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keto break, you know, I've been 
in and out of carnivore for a 

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while, you know, I don't really 
claim to like, I don't really 

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identify as a keto person but, 
you know, I was obviously aware 

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about you what you're doing. 
And then yet Danny connected us 

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had a great conversation on the 
for bus with you Danny and Adam 

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and then I had you on my show. 
Which was an amazing 

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conversation. 
And yeah, we jump through a 

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couple of hurdles and ran into 
some roadblocks to make today 

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happen, but I'm really a real 
excited about about where this 

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conversation going to go. 
Yeah, man. 

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I'm as well. 
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I mean if somebody goes to your 
Instagram right now, most of the

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branding is, you know, kind of 
sit around overcoming porn 

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addiction, but you've been able 
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your nutrition, so, I'd love to 
kind of hear more about your 

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backs to him and I had those two
worlds, come to kalon. 

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Yeah. 
Wow, great. 

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Great, great place to start 
here, obviously, for for you and

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your your audience. 
So my background for the last, 

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you know, 15 years or so has 
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space from working in gyms to 
personal training to managing 

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Jim sales to leaving kind of the
gym space, but still keeping. 

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That is a major part of my life.
I was also competitive 

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bodybuilder for about a decade 
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So I've always had Hard passion.
I'm a former athlete as well 

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overcame, you know, some some 
weight issues in my, my early 

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20s. 
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Love with the sport fell in love
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able to do, when you dedicate, 
you know, your life through 

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structure habits routines and 
all the things that, obviously, 

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you talked about with, with your
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And obviously the what it takes 
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if I got a taste of some of that
early on in the fitness space, 

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because I was able to, you know,
Jump Right In and have some 

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success in transforming my body.
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Now, with the working on doing 
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It's obviously evolved over over
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So with everything that I was 
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space with chasing, you know, 
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level with studying 
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Like she's always kind of taking
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to achieve more and I've had and
I've had some success but with 

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all that going on, at the same 
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behavior that like, I would 
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For a long time, I didn't 
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anything wrong with it, and I 
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boys sometimes it's like we we 
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this. 
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me, I'm 30. 
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that's an important context for 
today's conversation because my 

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introduction of porn didn't come
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men that I speak to today. 
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pornography at 5 or 6 years old.
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magazines and it was it was like
a pretty hard core like in Tense

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magazine. 
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like it was pretty pretty 
graphic and kind of fast forward

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into, you know, my teens, we 
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dial-up internet. 
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obviously dating myself a little
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Probably. 
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Yeah, definitely. 
Definitely different than today.

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We wouldn't be able to, you 
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This audio call Wade way back 
then, but but with all that 

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going going on, Robert, I, you 
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addition and I Didn't I didn't 
understand it was an addiction 

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at the time, you know. 
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long and drawn out, you know, at
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I, you know, I was introducing 
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really strong men and I don't 
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what we did somewhat discuss 
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is a big part of my life now and
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Christ and late, 2018, that 
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my life and in January. 
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So I get saved in in late 
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The next couple of months. 
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stumbling around, like, not 
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doing. 
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I, how do I read? 
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When am I supposed to go to 
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Who do I talk to like have? 
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So I really just started 
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areas where I wasn't living up 
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that was now trying to live by. 
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I I looked at other areas where 
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improvements. 
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through some Financial 
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I was having a business that was
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were having some huge issues 
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So, that was crumbling. 
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apart in front of me. 
I had another business in the 

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fitness space. 
I was trying to get started and 

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it wasn't catching any traction.
So I ended up, I was drinking 

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quite a, quite a bit back then. 
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into the new year of 2019. 
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overweight, just As I just kind 
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build my fitness brand, I needed
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I'm like, Nita transformation 
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people away and like a short one
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I could show that in my own 
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catalyst that I could maybe kind
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some people into a program. 
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with the carnivore, I'd seen 
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I actually stumbled across the 
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Peterson because my girlfriend 
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long story short, I'm like, you 
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This is probably going to be the
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I know I can commit to eating 
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wanted to see what it was all 
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And as anybody that's ever done 
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carnivore detox like a reset. 
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I cut out coffee. 
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I dropped 21 pounds. 
I went from like 18 percent body

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fat. 
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physical transformation. 
Action was incredible, one of 

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the best 30 day, you know, 
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I've ever done. 
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me? 
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The Clarity that I began to 
receive and I've talked about 

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this with more and I know your 
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Maura Danny's wife, the 
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I began to experience late into 
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profound and so to kind of speed
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I'm having some, I'm having some
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purpose, kind of, kind of in my 
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February. 
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this, I decided to keep it going
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on a February, 14th of 2019. 
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this carnivore diet that I was 
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I was having a conversation with
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highly respect and out of the 
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He had actually brought in it. 
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looking into some of the issues 
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I was trying to get a deeper 
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this impacting our brain? 
Is this really an addiction? 

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If it is an addiction with the 
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Why doesn't it seem like it's 
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drug addiction, alcohol 
addiction because I had wrestled

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with some of those issues while 
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I talked about my alcohol at the
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I also had a pretty bad drug 
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was able to kind of just one day
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Like, I'm just done with this. 
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So when Zack brought that up to 
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it kind of felt like it was my 
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Because at this point, I was 
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I was trying to read books on 
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So after stack shared me with 
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Kind of some of the things that 
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through. 
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it kind of seemed like there was
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make a step in the right 
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And I remember, just looking at 
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saying, thank you brother, for 
appreciating that I've never had

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anybody, you know, share 
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I think I think it was for a 
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right then and there I was like 
man, this is something I've been

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looking into myself and I think 
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it. 
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pretty committed. 
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We were about four years into 
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We had moved in together. 
It was Rocky Ash, but we are all

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set the same time my trying to 
figure out like, okay, what does

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the future look like for us, you
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time and energy into this and 
there were certain things. 

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We saw eye-to-eye on as far as 
the future but there are things 

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in policy needed to get worked 
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And I remember telling Zach like
if I'm really going to, you 

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know, move forward with 
Stephanie, like I need to get 

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started my life and she needs to
know So after having a 

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conversation with in that day, I
said, you know what, Zack I'm 

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committed to getting inside of 
my life and I need two things to

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happen after after today. 
I need you to hold me 

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accountable. 
Are you willing to do that? 

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We check in on me. 
If I call you, if I need someone

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to talk to you. 
Can you be that person for me? 

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He said absolutely brother. 
Whatever you need. 

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I'm here for you. 
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let Stephanie know so that drive
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I was at the gym that day. 
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own and I wrestled with this 
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we actually, I had convinced 
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I wasn't going to tell her, so I
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way. 
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He was completely unaware prior 
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She was not unaware that I 
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watched porn because it was, it 
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able to see in my own life. 
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How to get away with but she had
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addiction Robert, it was pretty 
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got a virus on the computer like
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whole thing set up, and there 
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you leave the house, he returned
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downstairs like so I've kind of 
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the keys hit, hit the door and 
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the cleaning up that it out like
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doing in this and that? 
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porn, which I think, you know, 
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feel real. 
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this is the computer. 
This is why I'm doing, this is 

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what I'm committing to doing, 
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the computer apart, like a 
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Middle, so I had two pieces 
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She gets all emotional. 
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couple of friends and and Robert
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what the next, you know couple 
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me, but the world that I saw 
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try to describe it, right? 
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Look outside and like I would 
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people, no longer as as objects.
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that there was a there's going 
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purpose coming in my life. 
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four months into it, I'm getting
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I just feel I'm writing this, 
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Hi, I'm writing this like sense 
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alive as I was in those moments,
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my family, my brother like, hey,
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but it's have a porn addiction 
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feel amazing. 
You want to hear about it? 

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about it because I knew that 
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that consumed it and did they 
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So that led me to to launching 
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8th of 1019 and Robert. 
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start a podcast back then there 
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There was no coaching program. 
There's nothing other than I 

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have a story of a journey. 
I was unaware about this. 

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I chased a lot of human 
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I accomplished a lot in my life 
from businesses and bodybuilding

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and just just, I felt like I was
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this out of my life. 
Like showed me a You don't need 

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it. 
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even understand how truly 
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world and putting this message 
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that I was having now with other
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So I was still running, you 
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page. 
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business on the side as you 
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selling eBooks. 
Were people like making a couple

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Grand a month. 
Nothing, nothing amazing. 

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Nothing to write home. 
Tired through, but when it up 

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happening, is when people reach 
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Frank. 
Thank you for your great 

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program. 
Thank you for you know, your arm

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specialization yet an inch on my
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It was now like Frank. 
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Thank you for your vulnerability
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come in. 
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Do you think you can help me? 
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something I was interested in 
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particular, like maybe there is,
maybe maybe there's A sign 

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there. 
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maybe that's something you 
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fast forwards, you know, the 
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about January late, January of 
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business marketing and events. 
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They taught this little, it's 
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it's basically, it's like a hand
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audience, you have an idea about
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they're interested in. 
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certain amount of people to 
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following Monday, and within 24 
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I had about five or six people 
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I'm looking for Five Guys that 
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I'll coach you over the next 
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one on one. 
I'll help you break free from 

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this and build a new life 
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Raise their hand and stepped up 
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didn't mean half side. 
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didn't even have built yet, but 
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going to treat this like a case 
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the first two people that that 
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and obviously they got a 
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that course now, but what it is 
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curriculum week by week because 
I was getting real time feedback

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as I was implementing things. 
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this doesn't make a lot of 
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You tweak, this. 
Can you modify that but one 

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thing I built in right from the 
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protocol, which was a carnivore 
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I done Twisted it modified it a 

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be rolled out in. 
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don't want to be as strict in 
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typical carnivore diet was 
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fasting protocol. 
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everything and why I believe 
that At that has become an 

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integral part of, of our 
coaching, is, it's learning the 

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ability to deny yourself. 
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struggling with a compulsive in 
addictive behavior with 

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pornography. 
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self-control. 
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self-discipline. 
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a chemical addiction as drugs 
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Many of it is behavioral-based. 
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is when you ate fast. 
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short-term fasting. 
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we, we push them into a 48-hour 
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When you learn some of those 
self control through, what 

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you're putting in your mouth. 
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harness that in other areas of 
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So I'll pause because I feel 
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lot longer than you had 
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their nutrition protocol has 
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because I believe it. 
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just have self control and self 
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more thing here. 
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connection between the gut 
health in the brain. 

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I also believe that there's a 
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microbiome plays when you do a 
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ability to maybe go through the 
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brain needs. 
I think it kind of opens up your

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ability to have rational 
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But a lot of it, a lot of the 
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diet in there, in the fasting, 
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discipline side of things. 
No, I love a man. 

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That makes a lot of sense. 
I feel like, I feel like, you 

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know, nutrition and how it, how 
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your day-to-day life and 
activities is so so important 

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and often times overlooked. 
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exercising discipline and 
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I eat the food you eat and that 
having like a direct, you know, 

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carry over to something else. 
You could be struggling with IE 

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porn addiction, or whatever type
of addiction that is. 

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And this is something that I 
mean very much. 

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I don't know many people that 
are open about it. 

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So I feel like you being an open
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impressive. 
It's very admirable because for 

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whatever reason, this is such a 
taboo topic. 

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And I feel like there's, I mean,
you probably know the 

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statistics. 
I mean, there's probably more 

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guys that struggle with this at 
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I would imagine, right? 
Yeah, man, and you know, the 

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fact that every, it doesn't 
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I get interviewed, I get 
interviewed. 

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Quite a bit and it's always set 
up, you know, you didn't, you 

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didn't open up today with that, 
but a lot of times, it's right. 

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It's like the podcast host. 
Will kind of set the audience 

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up. 
Okay guys, we're going to have 

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the taboo, you know, sensitive 
conversation today like so if 

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you're uncomfortable with that, 
like maybe this episode isn't 

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for you. 
And for me, I've got to the 

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point, you know, I've been 
obviously having this 

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conversation for three years. 
Now, one thing has been great. 

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As I do feel, it's beginning to 
get more accepted, you know, 

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mainstream lies. 
And what's been, what's been 

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cool to see is Some of the 
bigger players like in this 

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podcasting, space are are having
the conversation now, like 

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Rogen's had doctorado Lemke, who
wrote dopamine Nation on and 

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opens up the book with some of 
her own personal issues with 

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erotic novels, but then she has 
a lot of her client and patients

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stories through the book. 
So she's opened up and talked 

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about it, a lot of a lot of the 
big your shows. 

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So I feel the conversation is 
beginning to get more accepted 

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but there was a 2019 In Barner 
Barna research study. 

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And I think so. 
Here's the interesting thing 

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with when these statistics of 
the right is its there's 

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obviously it's all dependent 
upon the people willingly open 

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to share what they're going 
through. 

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But I mean that research study 
said that about seven out of ten

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men and MIT to viewing porn on a
regular basis and then about 

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half or forty to fifty percent 
of those men admit to having 

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kind of an issue. 
That is uncontrollable. 

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Now, is that an addiction? 
Is it just an uncontrollable 

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behavior? 
And this is entering Also, with 

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the word Addiction because 
pornography addiction is not 

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clinically accepted in the DSM-5
at this point as far as an 

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addiction. 
Now, whatever that means I don't

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care because I know it's an 
addiction. 

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I know it's destructive on on 
people's lives. 

448
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,000
But I also don't believe that 
everybody, that watches porn is 

449
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:16,700
addicted to it. 
Now. 

450
00:22:16,700 --> 00:22:19,700
Obviously, I have my, you know, 
my values in the way that I see 

451
00:22:19,900 --> 00:22:22,600
things today. 
I don't believe that there's any

452
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,300
good, that comes out of it. 
Because first second, exposure, 

453
00:22:25,500 --> 00:22:28,400
does begin to change the 
neurochemistry. 

454
00:22:28,500 --> 00:22:32,900
A of your brain, but about 70% 
of men, view it regularly, and 

455
00:22:32,900 --> 00:22:37,000
here's a shocking stuff, Robert.
As I've obviously shared my, my 

456
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,500
my faith here 57% of pastors 
admit to having a problem 64 

457
00:22:41,500 --> 00:22:44,500
percent of Youth pastors, and 
it's having a problem and only 

458
00:22:44,500 --> 00:22:48,700
7% of churches have any type of 
program or course or anything 

459
00:22:48,700 --> 00:22:50,700
dedicated to solving the 
solution. 

460
00:22:50,700 --> 00:22:54,500
So one of the reasons I have 
decided to plant my fags who 

461
00:22:54,500 --> 00:22:59,200
deep in this space, as I believe
that this is what Here to do. 

462
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,700
So. 
So I do believe that this is a 

463
00:23:00,700 --> 00:23:04,200
purpose for my life, a tree at 
least right now in this moment. 

464
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:08,200
28, have these conversations 
that we're having here today, as

465
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,100
much as people are willing to 
talk about, I want to be at the 

466
00:23:11,100 --> 00:23:13,700
Forefront of raising the 
awareness. 

467
00:23:13,700 --> 00:23:17,400
Educating people on what's going
on, providing, you know, stories

468
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:21,100
and hope and inspiration. 
But also with what we're doing 

469
00:23:21,100 --> 00:23:25,600
at my company rebuild recovery, 
like helping guys through to 

470
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:28,000
finding the freedom in their 
lives. 

471
00:23:28,500 --> 00:23:31,600
I know, I know you specialize 
with guys, but but this just 

472
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,800
takes a pretty alarming from a 
female standpoint to write like 

473
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:37,100
there's quite a pretty big 
subset of women that struggle 

474
00:23:37,100 --> 00:23:38,000
with it as well. 
Right? 

475
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,600
Yeah, it's growing. 
I mean obviously, you know, it's

476
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,800
growing much quicker in in the 
younger, the younger 

477
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:46,800
demographic. 
Now here is the interesting 

478
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,100
thing though. 
Robert is the male and female 

479
00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:54,500
brain are different like you. 
And I have a different brain and

480
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,600
your wife in any female that's 
best listening to it. 

481
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,800
Just as far as How it stimulated
and how it responds to certain 

482
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,500
things. 
The male brain is visually 

483
00:24:03,500 --> 00:24:05,800
stimulating. 
This is backed up in wired, for 

484
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,700
intimacy by William Struthers 
where he, he kind of explores 

485
00:24:09,700 --> 00:24:11,700
like why? 
This is the case. 

486
00:24:11,700 --> 00:24:14,800
So you and I are obviously more 
visually stimulating. 

487
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,900
That doesn't mean that there 
aren't women that have a higher 

488
00:24:16,900 --> 00:24:21,300
sense of visual stimulation 
women though tend to struggle 

489
00:24:21,300 --> 00:24:23,900
more and kind of the erotica 
space. 

490
00:24:23,900 --> 00:24:28,200
So I think because the female 
brain is more creative obviously

491
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,100
female. 
Emails crate. 

492
00:24:29,100 --> 00:24:32,800
That's what they're here to do. 
I mean, at the fundamental core 

493
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:36,400
they are to create the Minutemen
are too, but I'm saying like 

494
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,700
inside of the woman's body. 
So the female brain is 

495
00:24:38,700 --> 00:24:42,900
stimulated through like creating
the visual images in in her 

496
00:24:42,900 --> 00:24:44,100
brain. 
So you see a lot of women that 

497
00:24:44,100 --> 00:24:46,300
struggle with more the erotica 
stuff. 

498
00:24:46,300 --> 00:24:47,800
Obviously. 
This is why 50 Shades of Grey 

499
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,700
become the number one selling 
book of all time so forth and so

500
00:24:51,700 --> 00:24:53,200
forth. 
And also on a Lemke talked about

501
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,400
like I told I share that. 
So doctor on and lemke's 

502
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,200
actually the Stanford medical 
director for diction. 

503
00:24:59,700 --> 00:25:02,700
She shares how she being a 
professional this base and 

504
00:25:02,700 --> 00:25:05,700
working the last 30 years 
helping people through sex. 

505
00:25:05,700 --> 00:25:10,000
Addiction got caught up in a 
Twilight series and openly 

506
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:11,800
shared shared her struggles and 
issues with it. 

507
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,900
But yeah, it's you see the 
numbers drastically rising and 

508
00:25:14,900 --> 00:25:17,600
younger girls, you know, I get a
lot of women there that do reach

509
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:22,000
out to me and, you know, it's 
not that I can't help him. 

510
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:25,600
But as a business guy, you know,
you kind of want to get clear on

511
00:25:25,900 --> 00:25:27,700
on an avatar. 
I understand. 

512
00:25:27,700 --> 00:25:29,800
I'm very You know, directing the
way that I speak. 

513
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:34,000
I'm very harsh and and I don't 
think a lot of women resonate 

514
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:35,600
with the way that I deliver 
things. 

515
00:25:36,300 --> 00:25:39,100
But but what we have I mean, 
could it could it help a woman? 

516
00:25:39,100 --> 00:25:41,400
Absolutely. 
I've just said, hey, I'm here to

517
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,700
help them then and it's also 
kind of ties into like a deeper 

518
00:25:44,700 --> 00:25:47,100
Mission. 
I just, I believe we're 

519
00:25:47,100 --> 00:25:51,200
struggling with just a major 
epidemic of weak man across the 

520
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,700
world. 
And if we could get men to step 

521
00:25:54,700 --> 00:25:57,600
up, level up and become the men,
they were all created to be. 

522
00:25:57,700 --> 00:25:59,700
I think a lot of you We see 
going on in the world today 

523
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,400
would would go away. 
Now the another one more thing 

524
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,100
to maybe just to kind of kind of
bring up here is the children. 

525
00:26:07,100 --> 00:26:08,500
Right? 
Because I talked about me, I was

526
00:26:08,500 --> 00:26:12,500
I was six and it was magazines. 
Well, it's no longer the first 

527
00:26:12,500 --> 00:26:13,900
time they're getting introduced 
to this. 

528
00:26:13,900 --> 00:26:16,300
It's no longer magazine. 
It's they're finding it on the 

529
00:26:16,300 --> 00:26:18,800
phones or finding on devices are
finding on the tab list and 

530
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,200
that's the shocking number. 
Because right now, it's about 

531
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,800
ten and a half to 11 years old 
is the age of first exposure. 

532
00:26:24,900 --> 00:26:26,400
And that number is just 
drastically. 

533
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,300
Declining obviously. 
It's kids are getting phones and

534
00:26:29,308 --> 00:26:31,500
devices at a much younger age 
gaily. 

535
00:26:31,500 --> 00:26:34,200
So, maybe just if there's 
parents and, you know, listening

536
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,300
in the audience today, maybe 
that's something to at least 

537
00:26:36,300 --> 00:26:39,400
begin to get a deeper, 
understanding of how these 

538
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:43,800
things find your children of, 
and what you can do, if your 

539
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,300
kids are already having phones 
and tablets what you can do from

540
00:26:46,300 --> 00:26:49,000
the preventive standpoint. 
Yeah, it's crazy man, but we got

541
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,600
we got our baby on the way, you 
know, son. 

542
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:57,400
You can be here in like a week 
or so and like I just look at we

543
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,300
actually went out to dinner. 
Nice crust on them. 

544
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,500
And it was like prom that I 
guess because there's a whole 

545
00:27:01,500 --> 00:27:04,100
bunch of high schoolers at 
dinner all dressed up and 

546
00:27:04,100 --> 00:27:06,600
whatnot. 
Hey, I'll just look so freaking 

547
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,600
young man. 
Like I'm, I don't feel like I 

548
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,900
look old. 
I'm 30 miles looking at them. 

549
00:27:10,900 --> 00:27:13,800
And I'm like, man, they all look
crazy young and then I'm like, 

550
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,500
shoot, I gotta I gotta keep keep
ranjha my son, you know, you 

551
00:27:17,500 --> 00:27:20,200
know, under my wing. 
Make sure he doesn't screw up 

552
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:23,000
or, you know, fool around and 
get himself in trouble, sleep 

553
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,100
with anybody to Young wind up 
with kids unnecessarily and just

554
00:27:26,100 --> 00:27:29,900
mess up in life, and I'm like, 
These kids, these kids are doing

555
00:27:29,900 --> 00:27:32,100
things. 
Wait, earlier than I ever 

556
00:27:32,100 --> 00:27:33,800
fathomed. 
I mean, I don't ever recall 

557
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:36,800
looking at porn to I was like 
later on in life, like 

558
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:40,300
teenagers. 
I mean, I stopped pretty early 

559
00:27:40,300 --> 00:27:41,700
on once. 
I started the business because 

560
00:27:41,700 --> 00:27:44,800
for me being in business like 
that that was like 

561
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,000
all-consuming. 
Like I went full bore into 

562
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,700
business and I don't have time 
for anything else and anything 

563
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:52,200
anytime I was like looking to 
pour my this is incredibly 

564
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:55,800
unproductive waste waste of time
and that pissed me off. 

565
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,800
So I just like not productive 
with this. 

566
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,200
I'm just gonna go for Warn the 
business that was my quote 

567
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:01,700
unquote cure for solving that 
problem. 

568
00:28:01,700 --> 00:28:05,800
I haven't looked at porn since 
he has been years now, but most 

569
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:07,500
people aren't going into 
business. 

570
00:28:07,500 --> 00:28:09,500
So I don't know what the 
solution to them and be so I 

571
00:28:09,508 --> 00:28:11,500
think having something like what
you're talking about with this, 

572
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:15,300
you know, clear-cut course with 
steps that guides them through 

573
00:28:15,300 --> 00:28:18,700
how to be disciplined and 
dedicated, you know, with a road

574
00:28:18,700 --> 00:28:21,800
map is the way to go, but the 
idea that we would even have to 

575
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:25,100
have this conversation with the 
youth, you know, in 67 years 

576
00:28:25,100 --> 00:28:26,600
old. 
It's just mind-boggling. 

577
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:28,200
Yeah. 
Well, first of all, right. 

578
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:33,100
Thank you for, thank you for 
sharing that and just my 

579
00:28:33,100 --> 00:28:35,100
respect. 
And just an appreciation, for 

580
00:28:35,100 --> 00:28:37,600
who you are, is just shot 
through the roof here, even more

581
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:38,800
today than already did respect 
you. 

582
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:43,100
But what we need to understand 
right is, is pornography, is 

583
00:28:43,100 --> 00:28:46,400
free. 
So these sites in where the 

584
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:50,600
stuff is, is distributed and 
deliver through operate just 

585
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,900
like every other social media 
platform out there and what that

586
00:28:53,900 --> 00:28:55,700
what I'm trying to get to. 
And when I want to people to 

587
00:28:55,700 --> 00:28:59,100
understand, is if you're not 
paying for something, That means

588
00:28:59,100 --> 00:29:01,800
you're the product. 
So when we're on Instagram, when

589
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,300
we're on Facebook, those those 
devices are free, but the 

590
00:29:04,300 --> 00:29:07,800
product is your attention, and 
your time, obviously, these 

591
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,800
companies are leveraging your 
eyeballs through marketing. 

592
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,100
You understand. 
This is a business owner. 

593
00:29:12,100 --> 00:29:15,400
I don't know if you do paid, as 
I'm sure you do do paid ads in 

594
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:18,200
your company. 
But so the same thing happens in

595
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:23,400
the porn space, right? 
So, how do we get more products 

596
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:26,600
to our site? 
We hunt them down. 

597
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,000
So I have, I The conversation 
with Maura bring her up again, 

598
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,100
you know, they've got the two 
boys and this is like maybe this

599
00:29:36,100 --> 00:29:39,700
was shortly after I had I 
launched a podcast. 

600
00:29:39,700 --> 00:29:42,000
So Danny and more. 
I remember having dinner with 

601
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,700
them and sharing them what you 
know what I was going through 

602
00:29:44,700 --> 00:29:47,100
and they were just fired up and 
I remember getting a text or 

603
00:29:47,100 --> 00:29:49,900
call or something from maybe 
maybe we were going to church 

604
00:29:49,900 --> 00:29:52,400
together at time. 
Maybe maybe it was on Sunday. 

605
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,300
She's like, she's like Frank. 
I was Dean was downloading. 

606
00:29:55,300 --> 00:29:56,800
It was Dean or death. 
I don't know which one it was 

607
00:29:56,800 --> 00:30:00,800
Dean was downloading a video. 
On YouTube and porn 

608
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:04,600
advertisement sites started 
started coming up like literally

609
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:07,800
right there on and they have the
parental blocks and devices and 

610
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,000
everything. 
So we chosen, we just need to 

611
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,500
understand, man, like, they 
don't need to go find it. 

612
00:30:12,500 --> 00:30:15,600
Like I, when I was a kid, I had 
to go into my dad's drawer. 

613
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,600
I had to lift the socks up, and 
there it was. 

614
00:30:17,700 --> 00:30:20,400
I had to go hunt for it. 
It's hunting these kids down. 

615
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,600
And, and the way that these 
algorithms work like, okay, we 

616
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,300
know that this is a point. 
We know that there's two 

617
00:30:26,300 --> 00:30:28,400
eyeballs here, do whatever we 
can to get them. 

618
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,200
To our site. 
Because once he's there, we got 

619
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,700
them. 
And, and, and I'm not saying 

620
00:30:33,700 --> 00:30:36,400
that there's people sitting 
there doing evil things or 

621
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:38,500
anything like that. 
This is the way, the algorithms 

622
00:30:38,500 --> 00:30:42,500
are written that we need to do 
whatever we can to get people to

623
00:30:42,700 --> 00:30:45,200
our sites. 
So yeah, this is a very 

624
00:30:45,900 --> 00:30:49,100
important discussion here to 
have because we need to 

625
00:30:49,100 --> 00:30:52,800
understand as much as we can 
have the conversations. 

626
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:56,000
Put the blocks of think that our
kid is the best kid. 

627
00:30:57,300 --> 00:31:00,700
There will come a point in every
young person's life. 

628
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,400
When they're, I see something 
that their brain is not yet too 

629
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,600
developed to handle and it's 
going to find them. 

630
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,300
So, yeah, we got to, we got to 
do what we can and I think it 

631
00:31:09,300 --> 00:31:12,100
starts with what we're doing 
right here today, Robin just 

632
00:31:12,100 --> 00:31:14,900
having this conversation. 
Yeah, I think you know, I've 

633
00:31:14,900 --> 00:31:17,300
been doing a lot of thinking 
about how I want to paint like 

634
00:31:17,300 --> 00:31:20,700
getting you don't want to be, so
overly protective and Shout to 

635
00:31:20,708 --> 00:31:25,600
them to a point that they are, 
you know, pushed away from you 

636
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,700
and there, they seek out. 
The things that you wish, they 

637
00:31:28,700 --> 00:31:30,700
don't seek out, I mean, that 
kind of backfires. 

638
00:31:30,700 --> 00:31:34,800
It's shown to backfire many a 
time, but I think, I think 

639
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,500
honestly, all the kids that I've
become acutely aware of all the 

640
00:31:37,500 --> 00:31:38,100
kids. 
I know. 

641
00:31:38,100 --> 00:31:40,200
And I look at their parents, 
look at how their parents 

642
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,800
parent, I look at, you know, 
they're their attitudes. 

643
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,900
And one thing that I've have one
common theme that I've 

644
00:31:46,900 --> 00:31:50,300
recognized is that the parents 
that are incredibly patient with

645
00:31:50,300 --> 00:31:53,800
their kids and take the time to 
truly explain and have a 

646
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:57,100
communicative, a communicative 
relationship with them as to To 

647
00:31:57,100 --> 00:31:59,000
why they should or should not do
things. 

648
00:31:59,100 --> 00:32:01,000
And then take the time to 
explain that why? 

649
00:32:01,300 --> 00:32:03,500
And almost talk to them as if 
they were adults. 

650
00:32:03,500 --> 00:32:08,300
Like those those kids far away 
exceed from an attitudinal 

651
00:32:08,300 --> 00:32:11,400
standpoint the, the rest of the 
kids and they just like seem to 

652
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,400
have a firmer grasp and 
understanding as to, you know, 

653
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,300
who they are as an individual, 
their self-awareness is better. 

654
00:32:17,300 --> 00:32:20,000
There. 
They're more in tune with what 

655
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,900
they they can and can't do what 
they should and shouldn't do. 

656
00:32:22,900 --> 00:32:25,700
So, I feel like just simply 
taking the time as a parent to 

657
00:32:25,700 --> 00:32:28,700
talk to your kids. 
With, you know, certain degree 

658
00:32:28,700 --> 00:32:32,200
of respect, even though they 
don't really have lymphedema, 

659
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,500
hadn't lived, much of Life at 
that point but like talk to them

660
00:32:34,500 --> 00:32:38,400
as if they, you know, garnered 
some respect and then explain to

661
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,200
them why things are the way they
are. 

662
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,400
That seems to have a lot more, 
you know, holding weight than 

663
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,100
not. 
Yeah. 

664
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,800
No, that's that's that's that's 
that's a powerful point there. 

665
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,300
And, you know, I think I want 
to, you know, maybe challenge 

666
00:32:50,300 --> 00:32:53,100
some of some of the audience 
here with where I want to go 

667
00:32:53,100 --> 00:32:58,200
next. 
You know, we know, That in order

668
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:02,500
for your message to drive home, 
whether it's a message from a 

669
00:33:02,508 --> 00:33:05,300
marketing standpoint, whether 
it's a message, they're trying 

670
00:33:05,300 --> 00:33:08,200
to share with the world or are 
trying to share to your kids, 

671
00:33:08,500 --> 00:33:11,800
that message only going to be 
100, print 100 percent received.

672
00:33:12,500 --> 00:33:15,300
It's coming from a place of true
authenticity. 

673
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:20,600
I spent last week in Nashville 
at a business events from, I'm a

674
00:33:20,608 --> 00:33:24,400
business coach in inside of 
running seven, the rebuild 

675
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:25,700
recovering hosting podcast house
to do. 

676
00:33:25,700 --> 00:33:28,900
So some Coaching on the side as 
part of a mastermind. 

677
00:33:29,300 --> 00:33:33,600
So we had our annual event last 
week in Nashville and just 

678
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:36,900
brought in Powerhouse speakers, 
like in the fitness space just, 

679
00:33:36,900 --> 00:33:39,100
you know, just people crushing 
it in like crushing it in 

680
00:33:39,100 --> 00:33:42,100
business and just delivering 
powerful talks of inspiration, 

681
00:33:42,300 --> 00:33:44,900
tactics, strategies and hopes, 
but kind of underlying theme 

682
00:33:44,900 --> 00:33:49,000
across the entire weekend was 
true authenticity, or walking 

683
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:53,700
into alignment with the words 
that you say actually match the 

684
00:33:53,700 --> 00:33:55,300
actions that you're that you're 
taking. 

685
00:33:55,500 --> 00:34:00,000
So I shared I stared statistic 
here earlier, that's about 70% 

686
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,900
of men admit to regularly 
viewing pornography. 

687
00:34:03,100 --> 00:34:07,200
So if every man listening or 
every father, listening to this 

688
00:34:07,300 --> 00:34:11,500
episode, right now, left today, 
left, this, this podcast and 

689
00:34:11,500 --> 00:34:14,699
went and had a conversation with
his kids, his son or anybody 

690
00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:18,900
about why they need to not look 
at pornography, 7 out of 10 of 

691
00:34:18,908 --> 00:34:22,199
those men. 
We're not getting authentic, 

692
00:34:22,199 --> 00:34:23,800
message. 
That message will not be 

693
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:28,100
received by that child because 
Howard, can you tell somebody 

694
00:34:28,100 --> 00:34:31,500
not to do something that you're 
regularly participating in? 

695
00:34:31,699 --> 00:34:35,199
So I would challenge any father 
and he parents that before you 

696
00:34:35,207 --> 00:34:37,100
go have the conversation with 
your kids. 

697
00:34:38,699 --> 00:34:44,000
Look in the mirror first, even 
if it's not an addiction, even, 

698
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:47,900
if it's something that you just 
consumed, every once in a while,

699
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,400
I'm a stress-free standpoint or,
you know, it's been a long 

700
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:53,100
weekend. 
The wife's away. 

701
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,300
I got in an argument with 
so-and-so or I just can't deal 

702
00:34:56,300 --> 00:35:01,500
with this pressure and I'm not 
telling anybody at their back. 

703
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,000
Like, I don't want this to be, 
like, good, bad type of thing. 

704
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:08,000
That's never were I want to go. 
I just I just understanding how 

705
00:35:08,500 --> 00:35:13,100
Being authentic about how true 
Integrity Works in this world. 

706
00:35:14,300 --> 00:35:16,200
That would be my challenge 
there, to, to the men before you

707
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,900
go talk to your kids. 
If it's something that's is in 

708
00:35:18,900 --> 00:35:20,800
your life. 
Talk to yourself first. 

709
00:35:21,100 --> 00:35:22,000
No, I, totally agree. 
Man. 

710
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:25,600
Me, I've thought about future 
conversations. 

711
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:29,200
I have with my son and like I'll
split test them almost like, 

712
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,900
which one is going to carry more
weight and I could say, I could 

713
00:35:31,900 --> 00:35:34,200
sit him down and get that. 
Hey, look, Raja don't look at 

714
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:38,300
poem because I said, so and 
that's why and I don't imagine. 

715
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:39,300
That's going to carry much 
weight. 

716
00:35:39,300 --> 00:35:42,600
I feel like heels, hear me say 
that and then be more inclined 

717
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:45,200
to do just the opposite. 
Or I can sit him down about. 

718
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:49,600
Hey, look, some this is 
something that I did way back in

719
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,400
the day, is a complete and utter
waste of my time. 

720
00:35:52,500 --> 00:35:55,600
Once I recognized that and stop 
doing that. 

721
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,700
It was actually living life in a
productive manner. 

722
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:01,100
All the things that ever wanted 
to start to fall into place and 

723
00:36:01,100 --> 00:36:03,300
you can do that too. 
Here's the steps to do. 

724
00:36:03,300 --> 00:36:06,000
So by the bing, bada boom. 
I feel like that, you know, 

725
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,600
obviously I'd go into more depth
in that but I feel like that Is 

726
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,200
going to carry a lot more weight
like admit where you've 

727
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,400
misstepped and then illustrate 
what you learned in that process

728
00:36:15,900 --> 00:36:18,000
and how that change your 
thinking and actions going 

729
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,700
forward and the better outcome 
that resulted from that? 

730
00:36:20,700 --> 00:36:23,100
Like that's just more relatable.
It's more honest. 

731
00:36:23,100 --> 00:36:25,200
More authentic is more genuine. 
It's all the things that you 

732
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:31,200
want to be and should be Yeah, 
and that message for you is 

733
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:34,700
going to kind of drive home so 
much harder to because the kid 

734
00:36:34,700 --> 00:36:37,900
is going to see that in you 
probably ever before he's able 

735
00:36:37,900 --> 00:36:41,900
to actually understand what it 
is that you're saying. 

736
00:36:41,900 --> 00:36:45,100
Just be from the way that you 
operate and live out your life. 

737
00:36:45,100 --> 00:36:48,200
You know, I know how you treat 
your business. 

738
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:49,700
I know how you treat your 
training and how you treat your 

739
00:36:49,700 --> 00:36:51,200
clients. 
I know obviously how you're 

740
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:53,200
treating your family and 
everything is you're trying to 

741
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:54,600
do. 
So that message is going to come

742
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,600
through. 
Very Crystal, Clear first in 

743
00:36:56,600 --> 00:37:01,200
your actions and Then followed 
up with With your words, I think

744
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,600
that maybe there's a great dirt.
I know there's a great resource 

745
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:05,600
out there. 
I want to plug something right 

746
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:07,200
now. 
So there's a great organization 

747
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,700
called protect young eyes. 
The founders Chris McKenna, 

748
00:37:10,700 --> 00:37:13,000
who's actually, he's the 
director of marketing for 

749
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,300
Covenant eyes, which is a 
accountability software, and he 

750
00:37:15,300 --> 00:37:18,900
has this kind of nonprofit. 
So, what they do is they just 

751
00:37:18,900 --> 00:37:23,900
provide education tools and 
resources for parents and people

752
00:37:23,900 --> 00:37:27,900
that have children in their 
lives of how to start having 

753
00:37:28,100 --> 00:37:30,500
this conversation. 
And one of the things that Chris

754
00:37:30,500 --> 00:37:34,200
said to me, when I had them on 
the show is porn, should be the 

755
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:39,100
most popular word in your home. 
Not from a like celebrating it, 

756
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,300
but just like like I talked 
about the beginning. 

757
00:37:42,300 --> 00:37:43,800
Why does every single 
conversation? 

758
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,100
I have about this right here, 
episodes got to start with one 

759
00:37:46,100 --> 00:37:49,000
of the taboo conversation. 
If you just get it if you just 

760
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,200
get it out there in the front 
and in the open from the 

761
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,800
beginning, it's not that it's a 
bad thing. 

762
00:37:53,900 --> 00:37:56,000
It's that it's a dangerous 
thing, you know, like kids know 

763
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,500
what drugs are, they know what 
alcohol are they should 

764
00:37:58,500 --> 00:38:02,000
understand that this Has many of
the same effects in our lives, 

765
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,300
in our brain and how it impacts 
on how it impacts us as well. 

766
00:38:05,300 --> 00:38:07,200
So Chris McKenna, protect your 
eyes. 

767
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:11,100
If people want to maybe look in 
and maybe get equipped in in and

768
00:38:11,100 --> 00:38:13,500
begin to understand like how can
they at least begin to have some

769
00:38:13,500 --> 00:38:14,500
of these conversations with 
their children? 

770
00:38:14,500 --> 00:38:16,600
He would be the best resource to
go to. 

771
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:18,600
Yeah. 
I think, you know, like I look 

772
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:20,900
at my life and I look at my 
Integrity. 

773
00:38:20,900 --> 00:38:25,200
I look at the things that I 
stand for and there's nothing 

774
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:28,200
that I'm not willing to discuss 
have a conversation about, like 

775
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,400
there's nothing, there's no. 
Stone stone that. 

776
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,000
I want to leave on turn, like, I
want to be the best version of 

777
00:38:33,008 --> 00:38:35,100
myself and I think I can't do 
that. 

778
00:38:35,100 --> 00:38:38,400
Unless I'm 100% genuine 
authentic, and I think people 

779
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,800
appreciate that affect. 
The reason I have a plan from 

780
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,500
the reason I have an army into 
the first place is because I 

781
00:38:43,500 --> 00:38:47,700
just tell people how it is and I
document my journey and that 

782
00:38:47,700 --> 00:38:50,100
holds weight with people, 
because they've been there 

783
00:38:50,100 --> 00:38:52,700
themselves, they've done that, 
or they're wanting to do that. 

784
00:38:52,900 --> 00:38:57,700
And, you know, we live in this 
world, in which case people are 

785
00:38:57,700 --> 00:39:00,700
so protective. 
You know, they don't want talk 

786
00:39:00,700 --> 00:39:02,400
about certain things. 
They don't want to discuss 

787
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,200
certain things. 
They're worried about how the 

788
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:08,500
World Views them. 
Personally. 

789
00:39:09,100 --> 00:39:13,100
I like, I like that. 
I don't have any sponsorships in

790
00:39:13,100 --> 00:39:14,900
the podcast because I like to 
talk about whatever the heck. 

791
00:39:14,900 --> 00:39:17,300
I want to talk about and be just
100% transparent. 

792
00:39:17,300 --> 00:39:18,800
I feel like people appreciate 
that. 

793
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,300
If that's why my podcast has 
grown. 

794
00:39:20,300 --> 00:39:24,500
I feel like people, appreciate 
real people. 

795
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:28,000
And like you said, more often 
than not, people have looked at 

796
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,200
porn at some point of them off. 
Now. 

797
00:39:29,300 --> 00:39:31,700
People have struggled with 
eating too many carbohydrates 

798
00:39:31,700 --> 00:39:32,900
and having an addiction to 
Sugar. 

799
00:39:33,100 --> 00:39:36,500
There's so many people drink, 
too much people, people do all 

800
00:39:36,500 --> 00:39:39,600
these things and excess. 
So like to think that you were 

801
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,900
this black sheep and nobody 
could possibly understand what 

802
00:39:42,900 --> 00:39:45,600
you've gone through. 
So you better not talk about it 

803
00:39:45,607 --> 00:39:48,000
is, it's just not reality. 
I feel like at some point 

804
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,700
another we've all done one or 
multiple of these things. 

805
00:39:50,700 --> 00:39:54,000
We've all learned from those 
mistakes and with that 

806
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:55,600
knowledge. 
You can either hold it inside 

807
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,200
yourself and it not help anybody
else or you can be honest and 

808
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,000
transparent with it. 
Stop worrying about what box the

809
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:04,200
world puts you in and just 
simply be authentic and in doing

810
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,800
that. 
You're likely going to help a 

811
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,000
hell of a lot more people. 
Yeah. 

812
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:09,400
I know. 
I think the difficult part for 

813
00:40:09,408 --> 00:40:11,500
people do with with 
vulnerability, right? 

814
00:40:11,500 --> 00:40:14,900
Is it's, it's like, it's like 
flipping the mirror around on 

815
00:40:14,900 --> 00:40:18,400
you now, it's like, you almost 
expose yourself to yourself. 

816
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:20,700
Like, if you just keep it 
bottled up, you don't talk about

817
00:40:20,700 --> 00:40:22,100
it. 
It's like you don't actually 

818
00:40:22,100 --> 00:40:25,100
have to to address it and this 
is where like shame and guilt 

819
00:40:25,100 --> 00:40:29,200
comes comes into to the picture,
but the minute that you admit to

820
00:40:29,300 --> 00:40:32,300
To either yourself or to one 
other person that you have dis 

821
00:40:32,300 --> 00:40:34,300
Vice in your life, or you have 
this compulsive need. 

822
00:40:34,300 --> 00:40:35,900
If it's just like, you know 
what? 

823
00:40:35,900 --> 00:40:38,700
I'm supposed to be working, but 
I'm watching Netflix or yeah, 

824
00:40:38,700 --> 00:40:41,100
instead of going to the gym. 
Like I just ate up, you know, 

825
00:40:41,100 --> 00:40:43,300
pint of ice cream. 
Like even just openly admitting 

826
00:40:43,300 --> 00:40:46,300
to like an accountability 
partner that like, you're not 

827
00:40:46,300 --> 00:40:49,400
doing what you say you're going 
to do is now expressing to 

828
00:40:49,408 --> 00:40:51,700
yourself. 
Like, dude, you're, you're not 

829
00:40:51,700 --> 00:40:54,300
living up to you to your 
potential, like, you could be 

830
00:40:54,500 --> 00:40:57,700
more and it's like sometimes we 
just fall into this trap of 

831
00:40:57,700 --> 00:41:01,900
comfort of, like, Yeah, I'm a 
potentially could be doing more 

832
00:41:01,900 --> 00:41:05,000
but it's just comfortable to be 
here in this little place. 

833
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,600
And just speaking on on you and 
kind of how, you know, you'll 

834
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,600
talk about anything. 
This has been, this has been the

835
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:15,700
story of My Success these last 
two years, you know, for for 

836
00:41:15,700 --> 00:41:19,700
almost 3 years. 
So in 2017 to like 2020, like I 

837
00:41:19,700 --> 00:41:23,800
struggled it to get this Fitness
business off the ground because 

838
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:26,800
I wasn't eight number one. 
There was a part of my life that

839
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:29,200
I wasn't even like willing to 
look at. 

840
00:41:29,300 --> 00:41:31,600
Cash, so there's no way I was 
fully authentic to the people. 

841
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,900
I was trying to help and the 
people that were following me, 

842
00:41:34,100 --> 00:41:36,300
but I was also, I was just a 
secondary version. 

843
00:41:36,300 --> 00:41:39,000
Like the way that I would create
content as I would sit in front 

844
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:42,500
of the computer and consume like
n videos of other people's stuff

845
00:41:42,500 --> 00:41:44,800
and like take notes and said, oh
he said this, let me make sure I

846
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,800
say that as well. 
So basically, just taking with 

847
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,100
somebody else to saying is like,
okay. 

848
00:41:48,100 --> 00:41:50,000
I'm going to say it exactly the 
same thing. 

849
00:41:50,100 --> 00:41:52,300
Now, I content is literally 
like, the camera goes on. 

850
00:41:52,300 --> 00:41:54,300
There's no scripts. 
There's nothing like the message

851
00:41:54,300 --> 00:41:58,000
just comes through me. 
It literally just it's the most 

852
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:00,800
authentic that can possibly Be, 
I don't edit my videos. 

853
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:04,100
I'd slip words all the time. 
I say the wrong thing, but it 

854
00:42:04,100 --> 00:42:07,200
resonates with people because 
I'm not trying to a say that I 

855
00:42:07,207 --> 00:42:10,800
have all this figured out life. 
At least I have I have the porn 

856
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:15,300
recovery side, you know, figured
out and that's and that's why 

857
00:42:15,300 --> 00:42:17,500
we're having a success. 
But I believe the podcast is 

858
00:42:17,500 --> 00:42:19,200
taken off. 
The way it has, I believe our 

859
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,100
company and our coaching is 
taking off the way that it is. 

860
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,800
Because of the first time in my 
life, not only am I showing up 

861
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:28,000
100% authentic to the world in 
the people that I know. 

862
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:31,400
But more importantly, And in the
message, I'm trying to share 

863
00:42:31,900 --> 00:42:34,300
through our social media and 
through all of our content. 

864
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,000
Yeah, 100% man. 
I mean, I did the same thing 

865
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:38,000
when I first started putting out
its YouTube videos. 

866
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:42,100
Like I had my first video. 
I think I must have done like 15

867
00:42:42,100 --> 00:42:44,200
takes on it and then I can just 
get pissed off. 

868
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:47,200
I'm like this is going to take 
forever to generate any 

869
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:48,900
worthwhile content. 
Like it's never going to stick. 

870
00:42:48,900 --> 00:42:49,900
I'm never going to build up 
momentum. 

871
00:42:49,900 --> 00:42:53,900
So then I just said screw it. 
I'm doing you know one take, I'm

872
00:42:53,900 --> 00:42:56,000
leaving the mistakes in, it's 
just going to be how it is. 

873
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,800
It's going to be authentic and 
then, you know, try to do that 

874
00:42:58,800 --> 00:42:59,800
with everything. 
My life to. 

875
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:01,600
I mean, it's hard to be 
vulnerable. 

876
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:05,800
It's hard to be honest until you
start doing it and that becomes 

877
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,500
your norm. 
And then it becomes increasingly

878
00:43:07,500 --> 00:43:11,600
easier to the point where it's 
so much easier to be authentic 

879
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,500
and be genuine and just be 
upfront and transparent than it 

880
00:43:14,500 --> 00:43:17,800
is to try. 
And you know be perfect and be 

881
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,400
like this perfectly shaped mold 
of what Society what you think 

882
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:23,600
Society wants you to be? 
Because that's just freaking 

883
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,200
exhausting and I mean if you 
wearing a mask all the time, 

884
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,100
then you can't ever take it off 
work. 

885
00:43:29,300 --> 00:43:31,100
With me. 
It's like I don't have a mask. 

886
00:43:31,100 --> 00:43:32,900
I never have to take it off 
cause I'm never wearing it and I

887
00:43:32,908 --> 00:43:36,600
can just be me and I'm not 
constantly drained and exhausted

888
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,300
by exerting energy on being 
somebody that I'm not. 

889
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,000
I feel like people. 
Appreciate that more. 

890
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,500
Yeah. 
Well, you know, I think true 

891
00:43:45,500 --> 00:43:49,800
like true vulnerability like in 
a way it's almost transcending 

892
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:53,200
like the typical human 
condition, you know, and, you 

893
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,900
know, I don't want to like I 
don't want to come across as 

894
00:43:54,900 --> 00:43:56,800
like this, you know, 
bible-thumper preacher. 

895
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,300
Anything like I don't want to do
that, but I've spent, you know, 

896
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,200
A lot of time in in Genesis 
first. 

897
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,600
And, you know, when Adam and 
Eve, like they take a bite of 

898
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,500
the apple, right? 
Like their eyes are open and 

899
00:44:09,500 --> 00:44:13,700
they they they know that they're
naked and what do they do? 

900
00:44:13,700 --> 00:44:16,900
They cover themselves up? 
I don't think that's a story of 

901
00:44:16,900 --> 00:44:18,400
the first. 
Two humans, eating an apple and 

902
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:21,200
covering themselves with leaves.
I think the metaphorical story 

903
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,800
revealing to us that a part of 
the human condition part of 

904
00:44:23,808 --> 00:44:27,200
self-consciousness is that you 
are aware of your own 

905
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:30,500
shortcomings. 
So the human In human nature is 

906
00:44:30,500 --> 00:44:34,000
to cover yourselves up, not 
expose yourself fully, not open 

907
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:35,800
up your heart fully to the 
world. 

908
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:38,100
I think that there is a true 
element of like, yet to 

909
00:44:38,100 --> 00:44:41,000
transcend who you are. 
You have to transcend a part of 

910
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,800
the human condition to get truly
vulnerable and authentic. 

911
00:44:45,300 --> 00:44:48,700
Yeah, and I mean just from like 
an entrepreneurial content 

912
00:44:48,700 --> 00:44:53,000
creation standpoint like your 
ability to generate quality 

913
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:57,800
content at scale is only going 
to be achieved if you are. 

914
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:01,000
And I think Only be achieved if 
you are being authentic because 

915
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:03,200
like we were saying earlier if 
you try to make it all perfect 

916
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:06,100
and pristine and proper. 
I mean you just are not going to

917
00:45:06,100 --> 00:45:09,700
generate near as much quality 
content and that's obviously not

918
00:45:09,700 --> 00:45:12,300
going to be good because content
drives everything, you know. 

919
00:45:12,900 --> 00:45:14,700
Yeah. 
You want you want to traffic, 

920
00:45:14,700 --> 00:45:16,100
you know, you want eyeballs on 
your stuff. 

921
00:45:16,100 --> 00:45:17,900
You got to be showing up, 
literally everywhere, you know, 

922
00:45:17,900 --> 00:45:19,900
talking about creating content 
at scale. 

923
00:45:19,900 --> 00:45:23,100
So when I went all in on this 
thing, so I launched a business 

924
00:45:23,100 --> 00:45:27,000
in, like late, January February,
just right before, covid is when

925
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:28,800
I had those first two clients 
that jumped onboard. 

926
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:30,700
Help me. 
Build a curriculum for the first

927
00:45:30,700 --> 00:45:32,800
six months or so. 
I was running parallel things. 

928
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:35,800
I was, I was, I was ahead of a 
marketing agency at the time and

929
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:37,300
I was just doing a little bit of
coaching on the sides. 

930
00:45:37,300 --> 00:45:39,700
I have a handful of clients that
were like the entry-level point 

931
00:45:39,700 --> 00:45:42,700
for me. 
And then in July of 2020 is when

932
00:45:42,700 --> 00:45:44,100
I was, I was going to go all in 
on this thing. 

933
00:45:44,100 --> 00:45:47,500
And so I walked away from my, 
from my job, in the marketing 

934
00:45:47,500 --> 00:45:49,800
agency and I was like, okay, I 
got to make this thing work now.

935
00:45:50,100 --> 00:45:52,400
And I remember hearing a video 
from Russell Brunson. 

936
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:54,100
I'm sure. 
I don't know if, you know, 

937
00:45:54,100 --> 00:45:56,100
Russell, as he said, he's the 
founder of clickfunnels. 

938
00:45:56,900 --> 00:45:57,800
He said he want to change a 
life. 

939
00:45:57,800 --> 00:45:59,100
Want to never struggle for leads
again. 

940
00:45:59,300 --> 00:46:02,100
Commit to doing one video a day 
on any social media platform and

941
00:46:02,100 --> 00:46:07,600
you will never not have leads. 
So I'd actually broken up with 

942
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:09,300
Stephanie. 
I talked about 70 but I've 

943
00:46:09,300 --> 00:46:11,800
broken up with her right when I 
went all in on the business owes

944
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:15,000
July and I moved is the first 
day. 

945
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:17,100
I woke up in my new place. 
I was kind of like I feel like 

946
00:46:17,100 --> 00:46:19,900
I'm starting my life all over 
because I wanted and I thought I

947
00:46:19,908 --> 00:46:22,400
was going to marry Stephanie but
also had this new business. 

948
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:27,000
So I'm like wow, like everything
is completely new to me and I'm 

949
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:28,800
like Frank you're going to be in
this apartment for at least the 

950
00:46:28,808 --> 00:46:32,300
next Year, what's one thing you 
commit to doing to change where 

951
00:46:32,300 --> 00:46:33,900
your life is at? 
So you're not in exactly the 

952
00:46:33,900 --> 00:46:37,700
same point a year from now and 
said you can commit to doing one

953
00:46:37,700 --> 00:46:40,600
video every single day on 
YouTube. 

954
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,800
In our first video went up for 
the force of I had to YouTube 

955
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:46,300
channel already, but I'd always 
been inconsistent with creating 

956
00:46:46,300 --> 00:46:49,100
the content. 
So on July 28th, I put the first

957
00:46:49,100 --> 00:46:52,800
video up of what now has become 
almost two years. 

958
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:54,900
Consistently of never missing a 
day. 

959
00:46:54,900 --> 00:46:57,300
So I started five. 
I started at five days a week 

960
00:46:57,300 --> 00:46:59,000
for the first year and a half 
Monday. 

961
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,000
Friday. 
And then in January of this 

962
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,400
year. 
I went all in on seven days a 

963
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:08,200
week and sensual I 28th of 2020.
I have not missed a post and 

964
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,600
it's just just speaking to, you 
know, the ability to create, you

965
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:14,000
know, at scale just because like
I said, it's it's authentic is 

966
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:17,000
every video Perfect. 
No, does do all of them take off

967
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:20,100
know, we've had a couple that 
have had some some massive 

968
00:47:20,100 --> 00:47:25,200
success massive in terms of like
context for our numbers, but 

969
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,500
that's what's that's what's been
the lifeblood of our business. 

970
00:47:28,700 --> 00:47:30,300
Yeah. 
And Daily, they need Vlogs are 

971
00:47:30,308 --> 00:47:32,100
no joke, man. 
I'm done several stints where 

972
00:47:32,100 --> 00:47:36,400
I've done like daily Vlogs and 
like that, that'll mad respect 

973
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:39,900
for their that's impressive. 
Another thing that I want to 

974
00:47:39,900 --> 00:47:42,300
touch on and you probably know 
that there's probably an actual 

975
00:47:42,300 --> 00:47:43,600
Bible verse on this. 
I don't know. 

976
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:47,300
I just like the quote, but it's 
something to the effect of an 

977
00:47:47,300 --> 00:47:49,100
idle. 
Mind is the Devil's Playground 

978
00:47:49,100 --> 00:47:50,800
or something is like, is that in
the Bible or is it just some 

979
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:52,100
cool quote? 
Yeah. 

980
00:47:52,100 --> 00:47:54,500
I know know somewhere. 
I mean, somewhere in there. 

981
00:47:54,500 --> 00:47:59,000
I mean, yeah, I'm not the best 
at pulling scriptures, but, you 

982
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:01,100
know, If we definitely heard 
that and I know, I know it's 

983
00:48:01,100 --> 00:48:02,000
back scripturally. 
Yeah. 

984
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,600
Yeah, and I feel like that's, 
you know, with with porn with 

985
00:48:05,700 --> 00:48:08,500
alcoholism with drugs with 
anything. 

986
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:14,100
I feel like if you're bored in 
life, the the likelihood that 

987
00:48:14,100 --> 00:48:16,700
you're going to go down this 
dark path and it become 

988
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:21,700
habitual, and become somewhat of
addiction is just exponentially 

989
00:48:21,700 --> 00:48:23,900
Amplified. 
I mean, when I started like when

990
00:48:23,900 --> 00:48:26,300
I when I got all my shit 
together in life, from a 

991
00:48:26,300 --> 00:48:29,400
business standpoint, from a 
relationship standpoint, Point 

992
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:33,600
from quality habit standpoint, 
like all of that happened at 

993
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:37,400
about the same time. 
I got crazy freaking busy with 

994
00:48:37,500 --> 00:48:40,200
building the business around 
something I was passionate about

995
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:43,400
and when you're super passionate
about something like for me it 

996
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:46,100
was you know, natural kid doing 
bodybuilding building a brand 

997
00:48:46,100 --> 00:48:47,400
around that and Diving deep into
that. 

998
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,800
Like when you're passionate 
about that, you don't have time 

999
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:54,600
to waste Washington's stupid ass
porn, or drinking a bunch of 

1000
00:48:54,900 --> 00:48:58,300
alcohol, or doing a bunch of 
drugs, because your Zeal and 

1001
00:48:58,300 --> 00:48:59,800
zest for life. 
Is that thing that you're 

1002
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:01,800
passionate about is just 
all-consuming. 

1003
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:05,000
Like that is everything. 
That is what, you know, that is 

1004
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,400
your life. 
But that's your oxygen. 

1005
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:11,000
And when you go all into that, 
you recognize how much time and 

1006
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:12,800
energy and effort. 
It's going to take to really 

1007
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:14,800
Excel with it and actually build
true momentum. 

1008
00:49:15,100 --> 00:49:17,200
And once you realize that it's 
like you want to do that and 

1009
00:49:17,207 --> 00:49:19,300
more than you want to do any of 
this other stupid stuff that 

1010
00:49:19,300 --> 00:49:22,300
could be wasting your time. 
So not being bored, not just 

1011
00:49:22,300 --> 00:49:24,800
being idly. 
Complicit and complacent in life

1012
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:27,900
is I think. 
Also one of the key actionable 

1013
00:49:27,900 --> 00:49:30,600
steps that any Nobody needs to 
take, they're trying to break 

1014
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,900
free of a bad habit. 
Yeah, it's, you know, it's 

1015
00:49:33,900 --> 00:49:36,600
sedation, right? 
You know, we were bored. 

1016
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:40,600
So we seek something that is 
going to, you know, literally 

1017
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:43,400
change our neurochemistry or 
change our physiology. 

1018
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:45,900
So we don't, we don't feel bored
anymore. 

1019
00:49:45,900 --> 00:49:48,000
It's like we just try to make 
that feeling, go away. 

1020
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:49,500
We don't know how to not feel 
bored anymore. 

1021
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:52,100
Go do something. 
Yeah, go do something 

1022
00:49:52,100 --> 00:49:54,000
meaningful, go do something 
that's more aligned with a 

1023
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:57,000
bigger purpose and calling for 
your life. 

1024
00:49:57,800 --> 00:50:00,700
Now, with porn consumption. 
I can speak to how it impacts 

1025
00:50:00,700 --> 00:50:02,900
your ability to focus set, clear
goals, stay on task. 

1026
00:50:02,900 --> 00:50:05,200
They go around it because the 
part of the brain that is 

1027
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:08,100
impacted. 
Most do porn is your prefrontal 

1028
00:50:08,100 --> 00:50:10,900
cortex, which is where executive
functioning reasoning ability to

1029
00:50:10,908 --> 00:50:15,300
process bigger goals and also 
hijacks your dopamine receptors.

1030
00:50:15,300 --> 00:50:17,800
So dopamine is a molecule of 
motivation. 

1031
00:50:18,100 --> 00:50:22,100
So, our dopamine system is set 
to release and drip out dopamine

1032
00:50:22,300 --> 00:50:24,500
when we're in the pursuit of 
meaningful goals. 

1033
00:50:24,700 --> 00:50:27,100
So, if we have between, if you 
have a business, we feel like 

1034
00:50:27,100 --> 00:50:29,000
it's a bigger calling and 
purpose on our life. 

1035
00:50:29,100 --> 00:50:32,400
Life, literally doing anything 
that is moving us towards 

1036
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:35,300
success in that business. 
You will get a hit of dopamine, 

1037
00:50:35,500 --> 00:50:39,000
you know, if you're, if the kid,
is anybody building like the 

1038
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,300
dopamine is coming like when 
you're going to the gym? 

1039
00:50:41,300 --> 00:50:44,300
Like it's like so you got to 
have these goals and and, and 

1040
00:50:44,300 --> 00:50:46,300
bigger things that you're 
working towards, that are Beyond

1041
00:50:46,300 --> 00:50:48,600
you and who you are. 
But when is that happening with 

1042
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,300
porn the minute first? 
Second consumption, like your 

1043
00:50:51,300 --> 00:50:54,700
dopamine system is now firing at
these like super normal levels. 

1044
00:50:54,700 --> 00:50:57,800
There's books written on this a 
great study that was done with 

1045
00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:01,800
butterflies out of Where it is 
supernormal stimulus effect. 

1046
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:04,600
Like so we get exposed to 
something that is that we 

1047
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:07,000
believe is real like watching 
pornography. 

1048
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:10,300
Even think we're just we're just
consuming, like regular sex. 

1049
00:51:10,300 --> 00:51:13,400
It's never the case. 
The models are obviously more 

1050
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,900
enhanced the video, the 
production of all these things, 

1051
00:51:16,100 --> 00:51:17,900
so there's supernormal element 
to it. 

1052
00:51:18,100 --> 00:51:21,000
So when's it happening is now 
your dopamine is your receptors 

1053
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:24,500
like, well, I can get I can get 
levels of this hit like this 

1054
00:51:24,500 --> 00:51:27,600
High over here with porn. 
Why would I want to create goals

1055
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:30,600
in my life when I can just Go 
get more pornography because 

1056
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:32,000
it's going to give me a feeling.
I'm not going to be able to 

1057
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,200
replace anywhere else in the 
world. 

1058
00:51:35,500 --> 00:51:37,800
Yeah, it's I didn't think my 
like that, man. 

1059
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:41,700
And then, I'm assuming, once 
you're doing that, it really 

1060
00:51:41,700 --> 00:51:44,200
distracts from the ability to 
have any type of meaningful 

1061
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:48,000
relationship with an actual 
human being, because you've got 

1062
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:51,500
that skewed reality. 
That's not reality, constantly 

1063
00:51:51,500 --> 00:51:52,800
gnawing at you in the back, your
mind. 

1064
00:51:54,100 --> 00:51:55,800
Yeah. 
So that's where the like, you 

1065
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:58,000
know, the sexual 
objectification. 

1066
00:51:59,100 --> 00:52:01,700
No, what are this on a TED Talk?
I guess. 

1067
00:52:01,700 --> 00:52:05,100
They like they had some like, 
some brains can set up where 

1068
00:52:05,100 --> 00:52:07,200
they were able to see certain 
parts of the brain that were 

1069
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,900
firing, what people were 
watching pornography. 

1070
00:52:10,300 --> 00:52:13,900
And when you, when you consume 
porn the parts of the brain, the

1071
00:52:13,900 --> 00:52:16,900
air that lights up is a part 
that Associated like with 

1072
00:52:16,900 --> 00:52:18,800
objects. 
So if we see like an object like

1073
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,300
on my desk right now, there's a 
water bottle. 

1074
00:52:20,300 --> 00:52:22,300
Like so if I see that I want to 
go grab it. 

1075
00:52:22,300 --> 00:52:25,100
It's like my brain needs a fire 
object figure out how to pick 

1076
00:52:25,100 --> 00:52:26,300
that up. 
There's a different part of our 

1077
00:52:26,308 --> 00:52:28,300
brain that fires in 
relationships. 

1078
00:52:28,300 --> 00:52:30,500
Like there's a, there's a 
Component of like the connection

1079
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,600
there, but if you train yourself
that, when you see people 

1080
00:52:33,600 --> 00:52:35,700
because you watch porn every 
single day, or whatever, the 

1081
00:52:35,700 --> 00:52:39,200
case may be, you're not training
that the physical form, whether 

1082
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:42,300
it's on a screen or in person is
an object. 

1083
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:45,900
So this is where the 
objectification part comes comes

1084
00:52:45,900 --> 00:52:47,900
into play. 
And then, yeah, I think just, 

1085
00:52:47,900 --> 00:52:52,500
you know, if a guy is exposed to
it too young in this is this is 

1086
00:52:52,500 --> 00:52:56,000
something. 
I've been trying to talk a lot 

1087
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:59,500
about because a lot of people 
think that poor Graffiti 

1088
00:52:59,500 --> 00:53:03,200
addiction is sex addiction, but 
I've talked to hundreds of men 

1089
00:53:03,500 --> 00:53:07,300
that are caught up in this thing
and have never once like been 

1090
00:53:07,300 --> 00:53:10,500
intimate with a woman because 
what they've condition 

1091
00:53:10,500 --> 00:53:13,900
themselves is like what we're 
supposed to get and feel and 

1092
00:53:13,908 --> 00:53:15,900
experience. 
Like what we're watching on TV 

1093
00:53:16,100 --> 00:53:18,900
and you and I both know, like 
the type of porn, that that men 

1094
00:53:18,900 --> 00:53:22,600
are watching is not what like 
real intimacy is about. 

1095
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:25,400
I think they get conditioned and
then it just creates this like 

1096
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,800
inner one, paranoid and anxiety,
you know, they're living in 

1097
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:30,600
guilt and shame because They 
know that they're showing me 

1098
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:32,600
this haven't talked about it. 
So that's a whole nother thing 

1099
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:35,000
with like where they are as far 
as I can State of Consciousness 

1100
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:37,900
that you just can't openly 
approach a woman because the 

1101
00:53:37,900 --> 00:53:39,900
minute they do like they're 
going to be sweating like, 

1102
00:53:39,900 --> 00:53:42,400
Palms, sweating. 
Just paint like shaking and 

1103
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:44,900
everything but then the 
objectification part just 

1104
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,100
understanding. 
Once again, I, we have a lot of 

1105
00:53:47,100 --> 00:53:48,600
like, Neuroscience built into 
the program. 

1106
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:50,400
I've worked with a lot of 
doctors and just trying to get a

1107
00:53:50,408 --> 00:53:52,800
deeper understanding of this. 
It literally is changing like 

1108
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,200
how your brain fires when you 
when you see people. 

1109
00:53:55,800 --> 00:53:57,800
Yeah, I think I think that's 
super important man. 

1110
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:00,900
I feel like, you know, It all 
goes back to self-awareness to 

1111
00:54:00,900 --> 00:54:02,600
like, once you break free of 
that. 

1112
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:05,100
You know, what is reality? 
You know, what you're you know, 

1113
00:54:05,100 --> 00:54:08,700
where you stand on certain 
things, you know, you know, how 

1114
00:54:08,700 --> 00:54:11,800
to communicate with people as 
people you gain more self 

1115
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:17,100
awareness and perspective like 
it's truly mind-boggling, how 

1116
00:54:17,100 --> 00:54:20,100
much more productive you'll 
become in life and how much more

1117
00:54:20,100 --> 00:54:24,000
confident you'll be in life. 
Once you know who the hell you 

1118
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:25,800
are. 
And you can't possibly know who 

1119
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:28,900
that is if you're constantly 
living and diluting. 

1120
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:33,800
Yourself in some false reality, 
100% 100% brother. 

1121
00:54:34,300 --> 00:54:35,400
What do you what excited about, 
man? 

1122
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:37,100
What do you got going for? 
You still building out the 

1123
00:54:37,100 --> 00:54:39,700
course or you're adding to the 
course or house the house. 

1124
00:54:39,700 --> 00:54:41,200
The course currently? 
Yeah. 

1125
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:43,900
Brother know. 
So Corsa is course, has been 

1126
00:54:43,900 --> 00:54:45,300
done. 
You know, we're always, we're 

1127
00:54:45,300 --> 00:54:47,200
always updating are always 
acting role. 

1128
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:49,900
As you know, putting a new 
trainings new models in there. 

1129
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,600
So that's that's been good. 
You know, we've had a couple 

1130
00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:54,800
hundred guys. 
Now, succeed through that 

1131
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,700
platform that program. 
What I'm most excited about is I

1132
00:54:57,707 --> 00:54:59,500
mean, this will be the first 
time I've actually About this 

1133
00:54:59,500 --> 00:55:03,100
here, openly is where we're 
launching an ongoing, support 

1134
00:55:03,100 --> 00:55:06,200
kind of Brotherhood community. 
So for, you know, the last two 

1135
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:09,500
years, I've had kind of one kind
of one solution. 

1136
00:55:09,500 --> 00:55:12,700
There's been one core offering, 
you know, we offer this this, 

1137
00:55:12,700 --> 00:55:14,200
it's called the reboot, you like
program. 

1138
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:16,100
They seem so, there's one 
program, you can kind of. 

1139
00:55:16,100 --> 00:55:18,600
There's three different tiers of
it, depending on the access that

1140
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:22,100
you need to myself for the team 
here, but I've ran into two 

1141
00:55:22,100 --> 00:55:24,200
problems, Robert, and you'll 
understand this as a business 

1142
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:25,900
guy, right? 
Is I've had a four-month 

1143
00:55:25,900 --> 00:55:29,100
program. 
Obviously can go a lot of You 

1144
00:55:29,100 --> 00:55:32,900
can help a guy's a lot in a 
matter of four months, but I 

1145
00:55:32,900 --> 00:55:35,400
almost felt like I've let some 
of these men down because once 

1146
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:38,500
they graduate complete that 
course, I have it at anything on

1147
00:55:38,500 --> 00:55:39,700
going. 
Yeah, they could work in the 

1148
00:55:39,700 --> 00:55:40,900
Fitness business that they 
wanted to. 

1149
00:55:40,900 --> 00:55:44,300
I'm trying not to bring on a 
whole lot of new clients and the

1150
00:55:44,308 --> 00:55:46,900
Fitness business because I want 
to stay focused to what the 

1151
00:55:46,900 --> 00:55:49,400
mission is. 
So I felt like I've let some of 

1152
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:52,100
these men down because I just 
haven't had any ongoing support.

1153
00:55:52,100 --> 00:55:54,300
I've also struggled as a 
business owner because every 

1154
00:55:54,500 --> 00:55:57,500
month or four months, I'm having
to refill the pipeline from a 

1155
00:55:57,508 --> 00:56:01,000
lead generation standpoint like 
not a Move as far as LTD for a 

1156
00:56:01,008 --> 00:56:03,500
customer. 
So one of the things I was 

1157
00:56:03,500 --> 00:56:06,200
getting clear on this past week,
when I was at, when I was at the

1158
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:09,100
event that I was at is what the 
ongoing support is going to look

1159
00:56:09,100 --> 00:56:13,000
like. 
So it's not ready as of yet. 

1160
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:16,200
And won't be till probably 
August or September of this 

1161
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:19,400
year, but we're going to be 
launching a an ongoing monthly 

1162
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:21,800
Community called Brotherhood 
redefined. 

1163
00:56:22,500 --> 00:56:24,500
So it'll be an extension. 
Obviously. 

1164
00:56:24,500 --> 00:56:28,900
I want guys to go through the 
reboot your life course. 

1165
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:32,200
First, I still want to focus 
predominantly on helping the men

1166
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,800
that are struggling with porn. 
But I also think that this 

1167
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:36,900
community will be there from in 
that maybe don't really have a 

1168
00:56:36,908 --> 00:56:39,800
major problem with porn. 
Just need a community, be 

1169
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:42,600
involved in just need a Band of 
Brothers to do life with. 

1170
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,300
So we're bonus out and we're 
going to focus on rebuilding men

1171
00:56:46,300 --> 00:56:48,400
in the five key areas of life 
and I believe those are Faith 

1172
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:50,500
Fitness Finance, family, and 
freedom. 

1173
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:53,400
So while some self development 
work in there one, you know kind

1174
00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:56,500
of one course or one kind of 
project per month to kind of 

1175
00:56:56,500 --> 00:56:58,800
help the guys, you know grow 
their mindset. 

1176
00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:02,700
Our belief systems, right bigger
Visions for the life, how to 

1177
00:57:02,700 --> 00:57:06,200
play in a structured a, so very 
task and kind of self oriented. 

1178
00:57:06,300 --> 00:57:07,500
They'll be the fitness component
to it. 

1179
00:57:07,500 --> 00:57:10,300
So wall kind of go through a 
monthly group work out together.

1180
00:57:10,900 --> 00:57:12,500
They be a major Faith component 
to it. 

1181
00:57:12,500 --> 00:57:15,300
That I'm bringing on people to 
help me build out that area of 

1182
00:57:15,300 --> 00:57:17,800
it and then just really kind of 
like, the ongoing support 

1183
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:19,400
Community. 
I think that's something that 

1184
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:21,300
you're seeing come up a lot. 
You're saying a lot of these 

1185
00:57:21,300 --> 00:57:25,200
men's group, you know, really 
begin to kind of like spark up 

1186
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:26,700
on the Internet. 
That's probably the thing. 

1187
00:57:26,700 --> 00:57:30,200
I'm most excited about. 
But then just continuing, you 

1188
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:34,500
know, to raise the awareness on 
this through conversations like 

1189
00:57:34,500 --> 00:57:37,200
this and then, you know, helping
men. 

1190
00:57:37,300 --> 00:57:40,200
So we have some, we have some 
big visions and goals what we're

1191
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:43,800
going to do here in the world. 
And yeah anything I can do to 

1192
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:46,200
support the men out there, but 
most excited to answer. 

1193
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:49,000
Your question, was the young 
community that we're going to be

1194
00:57:49,008 --> 00:57:50,700
launching a pretty soon. 
It's awesome. 

1195
00:57:50,700 --> 00:57:52,700
It's funny. 
You say that because Crystal and

1196
00:57:52,700 --> 00:57:55,000
I are building out this whole 
other entity. 

1197
00:57:55,300 --> 00:57:57,900
It's gonna be a long long 
process, but it's basically 

1198
00:57:57,900 --> 00:58:02,500
going to be The five core 
tenants or pillars, spirituality

1199
00:58:02,500 --> 00:58:06,000
health wealth relationships and 
self-development size kind of 

1200
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:08,500
celebrate. 
Well, I mean, yeah, I mean, 

1201
00:58:08,500 --> 00:58:12,200
well, you know this right? 
Like success is Success like the

1202
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:16,700
principles are proven they're 
there and it's in, it doesn't 

1203
00:58:16,700 --> 00:58:19,300
matter what you're trying to to 
succeed in, you know, so I got I

1204
00:58:19,300 --> 00:58:21,900
got some other friends that have
like, you know, 5ms muscle 

1205
00:58:21,900 --> 00:58:26,900
mindset marriage mission and in 
something else, but no, that's 

1206
00:58:26,900 --> 00:58:27,600
amazing. 
Loser. 

1207
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:30,300
Those are all things. 
Like the reason you're picking 

1208
00:58:30,300 --> 00:58:34,100
those five pillars reason. 
I'm picking mine is because if 

1209
00:58:34,100 --> 00:58:37,100
we step back and look at like, 
those are things that every 

1210
00:58:37,100 --> 00:58:40,900
single human being has in their 
life in some form or fashion. 

1211
00:58:40,900 --> 00:58:45,500
So like it's an incredibly broad
spectrum, but it's incredibly 

1212
00:58:45,500 --> 00:58:48,500
relatable and you want to be 
able to help people, you know, 

1213
00:58:48,500 --> 00:58:52,800
find that fulfillment via honing
in on those five pillars, or six

1214
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:55,500
pillars or whatever, you know, 
however, people divided into 

1215
00:58:55,500 --> 00:58:58,100
their buckets, so to speak. 
But but I mean, life, I mean, 

1216
00:58:58,100 --> 00:59:02,200
we're all like I said, We're all
people, we all use the same type

1217
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:04,600
of fulfillment and, you know, 
self-improvement. 

1218
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:08,000
So I think what you're doing is 
very, you know, very actionable,

1219
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:09,500
very tangible. 
And I feel like you're making a 

1220
00:59:09,508 --> 00:59:11,400
positive impact. 
A lot of ways, especially with a

1221
00:59:11,408 --> 00:59:16,300
topic that people aren't really 
talking about, but yet so many 

1222
00:59:16,300 --> 00:59:18,700
people are struggling with. 
So I tip my hat to you, man. 

1223
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:21,100
Yeah, man. 
Why really, I really appreciate 

1224
00:59:21,100 --> 00:59:23,400
that. 
And yeah, you know, obviously 

1225
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:26,700
I'm a, you know, I'm a marketer 
so I'm like, I need to have 5S. 

1226
00:59:26,700 --> 00:59:28,800
So that's that's where, you 
know, that that all came. 

1227
00:59:28,900 --> 00:59:30,800
Into play. 
And I think maybe, you know, the

1228
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:34,700
one thing that would maybe kind 
of separate my community from 

1229
00:59:34,700 --> 00:59:37,000
maybe, you know, everyone else 
that is, that is out. 

1230
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:40,400
There is the freedom component. 
So understanding that, you know,

1231
00:59:40,500 --> 00:59:43,900
I planted my flag in the 
addiction world. 

1232
00:59:44,700 --> 00:59:48,400
Now whether it's porn addiction,
or gambling, or drugs, or 

1233
00:59:48,400 --> 00:59:51,200
alcohol, we all have these vices
we talked about it here here. 

1234
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:52,400
Today. 
We all have something in our 

1235
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:54,300
life, probably right now, even 
you and I still may be to this 

1236
00:59:54,300 --> 00:59:57,500
day, like there's probably 
something that that we're doing 

1237
00:59:57,500 --> 01:00:01,800
that maybe has its grip. 
Us more than we want it to, it's

1238
01:00:01,800 --> 01:00:04,300
just an ongoing struggle for, 
for every single one of us. 

1239
01:00:04,300 --> 01:00:07,000
So that's, that's, that's, 
that's where I'm really excited.

1240
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:11,200
Is is like maybe just having 
something in ours that you're 

1241
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:14,500
not going to find in any other 
community with really. 

1242
01:00:14,500 --> 01:00:16,300
Just a tackle, you know, 
attacking the freedom. 

1243
01:00:16,900 --> 01:00:19,300
I totally respect that man. 
I feel like, you know, we all 

1244
01:00:19,300 --> 01:00:20,900
like you said, we're all 
struggling with something. 

1245
01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:23,900
I work too much. 
Like I'm a workaholic, I love, I

1246
01:00:23,908 --> 01:00:25,500
love it. 
So I can easily justify but 

1247
01:00:25,500 --> 01:00:27,300
those are probably the ones you 
gotta watch out for the ones 

1248
01:00:27,300 --> 01:00:31,600
that are easily justifiable. 
Yeah, I mean, well first baby 

1249
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:33,300
first, baby is coming right for 
you. 

1250
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:36,200
Yeah. 
Yeah, so I'm not a father but 

1251
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,900
you know, it's probably one of 
the last boxes that I have left 

1252
01:00:38,900 --> 01:00:42,700
to check in my life, but I do, 
you know, I've been very 

1253
01:00:42,700 --> 01:00:45,300
intentional about getting around
some really incredible men, 

1254
01:00:45,300 --> 01:00:48,400
these past few years and every 
single one of them, you know, so

1255
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:51,000
I'm surrounded by entrepreneurs.
Just like, you know, I've been 

1256
01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:53,300
I've been very fortunate to get 
connected and through some 

1257
01:00:53,300 --> 01:00:55,400
circles. 
Just when people out there 

1258
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:58,300
changing the world, every single
one of these guys do that, I 

1259
01:00:58,300 --> 01:01:00,000
talk to him. 
Out there just having massive 

1260
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:04,200
impact, whether building Empires
or working a nine-to-five there 

1261
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:05,900
like something shifts inside of 
them. 

1262
01:01:06,100 --> 01:01:08,700
The minute that child, you know,
comes comes into the world. 

1263
01:01:08,700 --> 01:01:11,400
So maybe that's maybe, that's 
kind of kind of sitting there 

1264
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:12,800
waiting for you and maybe that's
all. 

1265
01:01:12,900 --> 01:01:14,200
Yeah. 
All you need to kind of get free

1266
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:16,600
of some of that, you know, 
overworking or whatever it is. 

1267
01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,600
It's a man's gonna be in. 
It's going to be a new frontier 

1268
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,700
for me, but also my love it to 
doing. 

1269
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:24,600
I respect you. 
I appreciate what you're doing. 

1270
01:01:24,700 --> 01:01:26,500
If there's ever anything I can 
do for you, by all means. 

1271
01:01:26,500 --> 01:01:28,800
Hit me up. 
Let me know where people go to. 

1272
01:01:28,900 --> 01:01:30,900
Find out more about you and 
follow along. 

1273
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:34,200
Yeah, I see but I appreciate you
too. 

1274
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:38,300
And thank you so much for this. 
This was a great conversation 

1275
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:41,300
went, you know went around 
topics that you know, I've 

1276
01:01:41,300 --> 01:01:44,300
talked about before but I really
just love our flow here man, and

1277
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:46,600
it's an to you man. 
If there's anything you you know

1278
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:49,400
I can ever do for you, you know,
where you know, where to reach 

1279
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:52,100
me by people that want to, you 
know, maybe connect with me more

1280
01:01:53,300 --> 01:01:55,200
if you're not showing what 
pouring you just, you just like 

1281
01:01:55,200 --> 01:01:58,200
these conversations. 
You just, you know, like you 

1282
01:01:58,200 --> 01:02:01,900
just want to hear more talks and
conversations. 

1283
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:03,800
About leveling up in your life. 
So I have a podcast. 

1284
01:02:03,800 --> 01:02:06,700
We don't always address porn 
anymore in the podcast. 

1285
01:02:06,700 --> 01:02:09,300
It's really tackling those five 
key areas and life. 

1286
01:02:09,300 --> 01:02:12,300
That's a super human life. 
We had Robert on a couple months

1287
01:02:12,300 --> 01:02:13,800
back. 
So that may be a great episode 

1288
01:02:13,800 --> 01:02:16,800
to get started with be 124 
episodes in there. 

1289
01:02:17,600 --> 01:02:19,800
Now, on the point of dicks side 
of things, if you guys want to 

1290
01:02:19,800 --> 01:02:23,100
connect with me personally, find
me on Instagram, it's Coach 

1291
01:02:23,100 --> 01:02:25,600
Frank Rich. 
You can check out our YouTube 

1292
01:02:25,600 --> 01:02:30,100
channel, same channel name, 
Coach Frank Rich, if you want 

1293
01:02:30,100 --> 01:02:34,500
any information on, Our coaching
and the company rebuilt recovery

1294
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:37,800
that can be found at rebuilt 
recovery.com. 

1295
01:02:38,300 --> 01:02:41,200
And if there's a guy listening 
or even a woman like like like 

1296
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:44,400
we talked about earlier, right, 
you know, the the tools work for

1297
01:02:44,400 --> 01:02:47,600
women as well. 
They're struggling with this and

1298
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:50,500
maybe you want to maybe take 
some of the first steps in 

1299
01:02:50,500 --> 01:02:53,100
getting free from it. 
I have a free book. 

1300
01:02:53,300 --> 01:02:57,500
It's an e-book, but it's at the 
7 step guide.com 7 is spelled 

1301
01:02:57,500 --> 01:02:59,600
out. 
So these 7 step guide.com, you 

1302
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:01,800
can download the seven steps to 
living life. 

1303
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:06,000
Corn, we walk you through. 
You know, I'm stating the 

1304
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:08,900
problem getting clear on the 
impacts writing bigger vision 

1305
01:03:08,900 --> 01:03:12,400
and goal for your life, and then
how to take that goal and kind 

1306
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:15,400
of build into a plane where you 
begin to walk out and live a 

1307
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:17,200
pain-free life. 
Awesome, man. 

1308
01:03:17,200 --> 01:03:19,100
Well, I will make sure to link 
out to all those sites. 

1309
01:03:19,100 --> 01:03:22,800
Make these people to find you 
and the resources just keep 

1310
01:03:22,800 --> 01:03:23,700
killing them. 
And keep doing what you're 

1311
01:03:23,700 --> 01:03:24,800
doing. 
Keep shedding light keep 

1312
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:29,000
fighting the fight and stay 
Savage brother likewise, 

1313
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:30,100
brother. 
God bless you and thank you. 

1314
01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:30,600
Take care.