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Hello, ladies and gents Robert 
Sykes keto Savage.com. 

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And today I have special guests.
Daniel Hale on the line, Daniel 

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reached out to me a few weeks 
back, sent me an email, I read 

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the email and I immediately had 
Crystal print it off. 

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And we share it with the entire 
crew because emails, like, this 

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is, literally what gives my life
purpose stories? 

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Like what Daniel is about to 
share with you on this podcast? 

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Gives you perspective in life? 
Life is short, life is finite 

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the things that we allow 
ourselves to be consumed with, 

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oftentimes don't really Matter, 
his story matters his, his 

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daughter, Bridget his daughter 
Grace, his wife, they matter, 

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and his perspective, towards 
them, as a result of what 

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happened to his daughter. 
Bridget is incredibly profound 

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and it's motivated and shaped 
his life to this point going 

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forward. 
And I have no doubt that you 

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will take a lot out of this 
podcast. 

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We talked about mindset, we 
talked a little bit about keto, 

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but we talked about life's 
perspective and really doubling 

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down on what is important in 
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And ensuring that you're living 
a life. 

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That's in line with your best 
self, not only for yourself, but

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those around you, the 
relationships in your life, I 

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thoroughly thoroughly enjoyed 
the conversation. 

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I have no doubt that you will as
well. 

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So without further Ado, sit back
relax and do the podcast with 

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Daniel. 
Daniel, we are laughs. 

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How are you, man? 
I'm good. 

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How are you? 
I'm doing wonderfully. 

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Wonderfully well. 
So I'm excited to bring you on 

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here today because you sent me 
an e-mail, a few weeks back and 

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like the email. 
It hit me, man. 

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Like I printed the email off, I 
put it on the board. 

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I shared it with the crew here 
and like getting emails like 

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that from you. 
And others is literally the 

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reason I do what I do. 
So thank you for the email 

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because you give my life 
purpose. 

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I appreciate that. 
But I love to kind of just dive 

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in and talk about your story man
because what you've done is not 

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I mean I'm sure other people out
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I have a similar story or know 
some of this helmet had a 

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similar story and it's 
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motivating. 
And it's worth telling man. 

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So just kind of I don't want to 
read the full email, but just 

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kind of give the listener some 
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here. 
All right, so I guess it kind of

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goes back to just a little bit 
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I grew up, I was I was in pretty
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I played Sports, you know, 
soccer basketball but I didn't 

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eat very well. 
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because I was always really 
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know, playing sports all the 
time and I went to college and I

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ended up going to Rutgers and I 
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sports there. 
So I basically my playing Career

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just ended and I kept eating 
like like garbage and drinking 

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and I just kind of gained a lot 
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So by the time I was in my mid 
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pounds and then in in 2018, my 
wife and I we both kind of 

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struggled with our weight and we
would go on diets and just yo-yo

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back and forth and So, I would 
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for five months, and then, you 
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whatever I was doing was so 
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I could never stick to it long 
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about June of 2018. 
My wife, we found out, we were 

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pregnant with our first child 
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it wouldn't register. 
I haven't weighed myself in a 

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while and I guess I was in a bit
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So I told my wife, I said, I was
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I think there's something wrong 
with our scale and she's like, 

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oh well, I've used it recently 
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with it, and it turned out that 
I was just I exceeded the max of

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the scale so I looked it up and 
it was it went up to 350 pounds.

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So here are, who was in June of 
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I was over 350 pounds. 
We were about to have a baby and

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I just kind of, I was, I was 
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Mmm. 
So So then I decided, all right,

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I'm going to have a baby. 
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I need this, this needs to be 
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health under control. 
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some basic things, like, giving 
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meals at home and just some real
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That, when you weigh that much 
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see results right away. 
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our entire world changed. 
We went Just a routine checkup, 

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and we found out that our unborn
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Trisomy 18, which is a genetic 
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severe to the point where most 
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term and those that do survive, 
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So here we were, I was in the 
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I thought was going to be this 
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totally rocked by that, you know
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So we went home and we had to 
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going to continue with the 
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that we were going to go through
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and give this baby a chance that
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have. 
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deciding, what name we were 
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We did find out through the 
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going to have a girl. 
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Bridget and then we started to 
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want to use the name Bridget 
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going to be with us very long if
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something pretty profound that 
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trajectory of my life. 
She said well if we decide not 

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to name her Bridget then we're 
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you're not good enough for this 
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We're going to save it for a 
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And I was like you're right, 
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So we're just going to name her 
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in my head thinking like well 
what's the point of this whole 

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help Journey if this child is 
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I'm not going to get the play 
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of evaporated right when she 
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yes whatever whatever I would do
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for this child, no matter how 
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how long she lives for because 
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So that kind of just set me on 
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months during the pregnancy. 
I just dove into podcasts, it's 

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where I found your podcast. 
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I went into learning about 
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things. 
Everything Health Sleep water, 

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everything resistance training 
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I got down to like the low 300s 
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Our 2019. 
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actually was amazed the doctors.
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with us, very long, but she will
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ended up, you know, driving the 
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and like a bassinet and because 
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the most of the cases, they only
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March 21st, 2019, she passed 
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devastating as it was. 
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the new beginning for me because
I've just been on this health 

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Journey ever since while she was
here, those 31 days were kind of

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difficult to stick to anything 
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you know what she needed every 
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over that following April, first
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called I called them Bridget 
challenges and I would pick some

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habit or something that I Do for
31 days to honor her and I just 

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started doing them over and over
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them. 
And that just I learned about 

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low carb keto, I did that, I did
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And I picked up all kinds of 
different habits through that 

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process and I guess fast forward
to now, I've lost over a hundred

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and thirty pounds and I've 
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the last year and a half. 
And it's It's just me and my 

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wife have just kind of used this
tragedy. 

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This thing that you know we 
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This terrible thing that 
happened to us and we really 

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look at it as the best thing 
that ever happened to us and we 

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feel like we're the luckiest 
parents to get to have been 

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apparent to Bridget and it has 
completely changed our lives and

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you know we can get into all of 
that but that's kind of the 

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story that brings us up to you 
know, today and everything I'm 

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getting. 
I'm getting Goosebumps right now

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man. 
Like like when you sent that 

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email, Kind of breaking that 
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It's like like the whole world 
right now is upside down on its 

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head. 
Like people are people get so 

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uptight about the the simplest, 
most superficial surface level 

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things and when I saw that email
and I read that email, I saw 

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your pictures, you had like a 
before and after picture there 

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you went to detail about Bridget
and it's like this right here is

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what matters in the world. 
Like this is what's important. 

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All the other bullshit, Is just 
that it's just bullshit, doesn't

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matter. 
This matters and I reached out 

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and I hit man I'd love for you 
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tell this story because this is 
what people need to hear. 

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I was driving today with Crystal
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by all the media and the noise, 
and just the pollution out there

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in people's thoughts and I 
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know, we just need to like, go 
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Enjoy each other. 
Enjoy the people in our local 

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community. 
In focus on relationships and 

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the people that matter and here 
you are, living your life with 

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your wife, in an attempt to be 
the best father that you can be 

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for a daughter that you are most
you know certain is not going to

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live more than a few hours but 
you feel compelled to be the 

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best you can be as if she was 
going to be there with you for a

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lifetime like that is what 
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So if nothing else I hope people
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life. 
And know that this this time our

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time on this Earth is short, we 
shouldn't squander it for things

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that don't matter. 
I know. 

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That's that's where it all kind 
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the and I wasn't living that way
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I was letting all kinds of 
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I wasn't taking care of my 
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I was working at a job. 
I was having awful anxiety. 

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I was a teacher and just having 
terrible anxiety with all of 

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that. 
I just I was nine and I was 

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using food and alcohol to kind 
of deal with all that and then 

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here came this, this little you 
know being who just completely 

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changed everything you know it's
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present, there's nothing more 
present than those 31 days of 

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just doing whatever she needed 
and not there was no what's 

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happening next week or what's 
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things like that. 
And since It's very difficult to

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let. 
He do like someone cutting you 

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off in traffic or things like 
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It's hard to let them bother you
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something like that. 
So as hard as it is, it's really

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a blessing. 
And and the reality is you kind 

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of have that choice when you 
when you go through things 

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because we're all going to go 
through crazy things and that's 

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what's I learned is it's we have
this choice and me and my wife 

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been very intentional. 
We talked about it. 

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We said and from the very 
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have her and lose her and spend 
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devastated, which we are. 
But we could we could do that. 

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And then just feel sorry for 
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gain weight. 
And no one would judge us. 

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Everybody be like, well that's 
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What they went through and make 
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basically like you had this. 
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happened. 
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and then you did nothing about 
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were in this like, point in our 
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something about it. 
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Bridget and we just try to live 
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pregnant and you made the 
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and you can have a more fit and 
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able to play with your kit. 
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honorable respectful thing to do
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looking very you know certain 
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more than a few hours because 
this disorder did you like was 

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there a moment there where you 
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throwing all the physical and 
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Aspirations away. 
Oh absolutely. 

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Yeah, I'd be lying. 
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of all this is not that it's 
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thing happened and I immediately
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kind of screw it. 
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the point? 
What are, you know, and and it 

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was that conversation with my 
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were going to name her Bridget, 
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If because we didn't have it, 
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If we were going to terminate 
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deciding not to and then me not 
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journey and not naming her. 
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doing it like hey f Way. 
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situation. 
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wrong with that. 
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considered. 
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go Oh, this other route we have 
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I mean I know you say that all 
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decided. 
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there was definitely I don't 
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was definitely a lot of thoughts
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the point of being healthy but I
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step back and see the big 
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is even a bigger picture because
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girl named Grace. 
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months old and she's perfectly 
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floor and play with her. 
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for Bridget even though knowing 
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is paying dividends with my new 
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just it ended up just just kind 
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I knew I Was preparing myself 
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what it was for and then now I'm
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would I would venture to say 
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appreciation for Grace is 
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exponentially as a result of 
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process with Bridge like there'd
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mean, we did think. 
I mean, it was very challenging 

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going. 
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multiple children. 
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talked about, you know, we're 
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to have more children and we're 
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Again that's a lot of this is 
just honoring Bridget with 

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living our best life. 
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when you when Katie got pregnant
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to happen again but it didn't 
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type of disorder that like 
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jeans, it was a genetic freak 
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mmm. 
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either one of us carries that 
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rare thing that you know the 
odds of it happening again would

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be crazy. 
So yeah, you know, we do. 

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We had Grace and then, you know,

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we you think I got we're going 
to enjoy every moment because we

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know what it's like to lose a 
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So we're not gonna and we trust 
we use that kind of like we 

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think of Bridget as our North 
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saying there are times when just
jump being a parent is difficult

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and it's not all I wish. 
Every moment I could say oh you 

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know she's crying and it's 3:00 
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difficult. 
I'm glad that she's with us. 

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I mean I do overall have that 
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is just any parent, it's 
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But I think the overall Outlook 
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I think we let a lot less things
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what we've been through. 
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Like, if you never get 
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would say something wrong with 
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I mean like it's human to have 
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all things what you've gained 
from everything. 

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With bridged is the perspective 
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And like like your analogy to 
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traffic like rather than just 
going you know, crazy on the 

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person that cut you off, you can
just breathe and automatically 

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go to that part in your mind and
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gained composure of yourself, 
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anything left for like it's all 
about perspective and once you 

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have that perspective, it puts 
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into context and that bigger 
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Yeah. 
Yeah, it is. 

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And it's, it is something that 
just it needs to be practiced 

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day in day out. 
And it's not this magical thing 

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that where you have, you know, 
something that's so tragic 

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happens that it's easier. 
You know, the whole traffic 

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example. 
I mean it's still it took me a 

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while for it to still not let 
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Bother me. 
You know this what I've been 

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through now. 
I can tell myself when something

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happens, I just take a deep 
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This this this is really not a 
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I know what a real big deal is. 
But again it's no, it's no magic

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pill, it's still a skill that 
you have to practice like not 

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allowing things to bother you 
and or not even that you don't 

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want to like fight it. 
You just you almost allow it but

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this is taught me kind of taught
me to search out the kind of the

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skills and the things that you 
can use to not allow things like

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that to you know, wreck your 
day. 

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Yeah totally. 
And I feel like, you know, like 

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you said most people People in a
similar situation earlier on 

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about most people, but a lot of 
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similar situation would have 
allowed that to be there, you 

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know, quote unquote out for 
life. 

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Like it's easy to point to that 
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Reaching Your Potential because 
you have something that's so 

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drastic that a lot of people 
can't even comprehend it and 

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they just like are okay with the
fact that you're not aspiring 

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for more than you are, but the 
way you've approached it is in 

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order for me to honor Honor 
Bridget and and make right on my

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word to be the best I can be for
her. 

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I can't get away with that. 
So I've got it, I've got to go 

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all-in. 
Like when you emailed me, you 

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had said something to the effect
of, you know, you do that 31 day

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in remembrance of her 31 days 
alive, you do something 

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challenging. 
And I think one of them was like

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a 31 mile walk, and then you'd 
like 31 miles of rowing before 

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you before you allowed yourself 
to send an email to me or 

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something like that. 
Yeah yeah. 

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So so it all Started. 
It was that April person after 

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she passed away on March 21st, 
and on April 1st, I started like

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a Bridget challenge. 
That's the bridge account is it 

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just 31 days of something to 
either start a habit or to 

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whatever. 
And then that summer, I came up 

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with the idea of, on the 
anniversary of her passing which

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would have been March 21st of 
2020. 

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I decided I was going to walk 31
miles because I was really 

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getting into walking and longer 
walks. 

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And so I my challenges, my 
ended, my little 31-day 

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challenges were kind of geared 
towards to get me ready for that

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and then, that was, yeah, single
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I did that and then I got back 
to doing, you know, I'll do it. 

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My challenges here and there and
then and then when it got to be 

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closer to this year or actually 
probably like fall of 2020. 

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I just thought I would thought 
about what am I going to do 

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next? 
For the anniversary of her 

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passing. 
And I was really getting into 

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rowing on my home run our. 
So I was like, oh, how about I 

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row 31 miles? 
And I try to give myself rewards

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but unlike what I used to do, 
which was I used to, once I lose

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a certain amount of weight, I 
would reward myself with like 

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junk food which now looking back
is completely ridiculous and 

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very silly, but I now reward 
myself with things Is that are 

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either going to further my 
health or you know, whatever and

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you know, gratitude is something
that I really focus on a lot 

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too. 
And this year, I decided that 

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once I completed this, my reward
was to email you and just let 

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you know how appreciative I am 
of your podcast and everything 

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that you and Crystal do and your
bricks. 

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And it really just everything. 
So, yeah, I didn't allow myself 

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to send that email until I 
finished. 

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So this year, I rode, 31 miles 
and when it gets to be the For 

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this year, I'll start to think 
about something kind of 

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challenging that I'll do next 
March 21st and I just played on 

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doing it at every year. 
Just as a way to keep me, hold 

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me accountable and to pay honor 
to her and they're really 

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difficult things that forced me 
to just, you know, keep myself 

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in shape. 
Do you ever get, like, anxiety 

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in the day? 
Like the day before you commit 

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to that challenge, you like 
really anxious, like almost 

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dreading it. 
But the same time knowing that 

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if you don't Don't do it. 
You'll just not be able to look 

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yourself in the eyes in the 
mirror again. 

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Yeah, I definitely have an 
anxiety. 

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I don't think it's, I don't 
think it's really dread. 

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It's more of kind of. 
It's interesting, though. 

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Because I battled anxiety and 
the past. 

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I mean, it's one of the reasons 
that I left teaching. 

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I had just awful anxiety. 
And now, I actually have my own 

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math learning center where I 
just work for me and my wife, 

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you know, we just have our own 
business. 

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So I know what? 
Like, so, it wasn't that type of

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anxiety of like Dread but it's 
more of just like being anxious 

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and looking forward to it. 
And then there is a part of me 

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that's a little worried. 
Like, what if I can't do it? 

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Mmm, but the things that I've 
committed to at least so far, 

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there's no time limit on them. 
So, in my head, I know that 

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like, I will eventually get it 
done. 

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So I and I just know that I will
eventually because I know the 

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kind of motivation Ation that I 
can kind of derive from myself, 

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just thinking about Bridget. 
Yeah. 

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Yeah. 
There's definitely some some 

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butterflies that the night 
before I attempt them. 

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Well, 31 miles of walking and 31
miles of rowing. 

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I mean, either, those are, those
are no joke, man. 

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That's intense. 
No, I know. 

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I'm not trying to, you know? 
Yeah, I know they were very 

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difficult in in different ways. 
The walk took me almost eight 

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hours, so that's a long time of 
walking but it's not Like I had 

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to get it done in a certain 
amount of time or I was done 

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like I could have taken 12 hours
if I needed to, you know. 

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So I knew I was going to finish.
I just didn't know, you know how

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long it was going to take me. 
I mean, I guess there's always 

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the option of where I could just
like bunk out and just like when

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I was rowing I did worry about 
that a little bit but it didn't 

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his night. 
I really trained for them 

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leaving. 
I don't just like do it. 

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I really like I wrote a lot 
leading up to it and the two 

446
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weeks before I always do like 66
Six to like, seventy seventy 

447
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,900
percent of it to make sure that 
I know that I can do it. 

448
00:25:19,900 --> 00:25:23,600
So, I really systematically 
trained for these things to, 

449
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,300
which is more of the, you know, 
one of the benefits of doing 

450
00:25:27,300 --> 00:25:30,000
this. 
Every year, is that it forces me

451
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,800
to not, just wait until that 
day. 

452
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,200
I have to kind of all year 
round. 

453
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,400
Keep myself in shape and help. 
Hold myself, accountable. 

454
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:41,000
Have you kind of like tease your
mind a little bit and thought 

455
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,500
about what next is going to 
hold? 

456
00:25:42,500 --> 00:25:44,200
Like, even a little bit and I 
said, you're gonna wait till the

457
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:48,000
fall, but Ideas at all. 
No, I really. 

458
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:52,100
I don't. 
My wife keeps telling me I 

459
00:25:52,100 --> 00:25:54,700
should do a thirty one minute 
plank. 

460
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,400
That would be brutal, it would. 
Yeah, I would have to, you know,

461
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,300
and see that would be something 
that would make me more nervous 

462
00:26:02,300 --> 00:26:05,900
because I could easily at 20 
minutes, just like be done and 

463
00:26:05,900 --> 00:26:09,100
then I wouldn't do it. 
So I kind of you know, I don't 

464
00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:11,400
know if I want to put that much 
pressure on it. 

465
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,400
So I don't know if that's just 
something that she thinks would 

466
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:19,100
be a good idea. 
So maybe one of these years but 

467
00:26:19,100 --> 00:26:20,900
now I really I really Only 
don't. 

468
00:26:20,900 --> 00:26:24,700
I mean I've talked about buying 
a bike and getting into riding 

469
00:26:24,700 --> 00:26:26,700
so maybe it'll have something to
do with that. 

470
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,500
But no, I really I really 
haven't thought about it much. 

471
00:26:30,500 --> 00:26:33,500
I put so much effort, I just did
it very recently. 

472
00:26:33,500 --> 00:26:36,900
So now I'm kind of just I'm 
actually really taking it easy 

473
00:26:36,900 --> 00:26:40,100
because last week I actually had
an emergency appendectomy. 

474
00:26:41,100 --> 00:26:44,100
So right now I'm just I'm not 
doing any exercising. 

475
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,700
Well, just happen to do that and
train for throughout the year, 

476
00:26:47,700 --> 00:26:48,900
man. 
I mean like the before, and 

477
00:26:48,900 --> 00:26:50,500
after pictures, you sent were 
Ugly. 

478
00:26:50,500 --> 00:26:54,800
I mean you went from like said 
350 plus pounds to, you know, 

479
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:57,900
you're super fit right now. 
I mean you look like you can get

480
00:26:57,900 --> 00:27:00,800
up and wrote 31 miles and 
that's, that's impressive. 

481
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:02,200
Yeah. 
Yeah. 

482
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:08,000
It's been it's been crazy. 
It's hard to believe that this 

483
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,900
it's been kind of a whirlwind. 
It's hard to believe that it 

484
00:27:10,900 --> 00:27:13,800
actually happened. 
It's very hard to believe. 

485
00:27:13,900 --> 00:27:17,600
Oh my, my habits now are just so
ingrained, but sometimes when I 

486
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,900
stop to think about it, what I 
do in a day is so Different than

487
00:27:20,900 --> 00:27:25,300
what it was years ago. 
It's just it's hard to believe 

488
00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:30,000
that you can just slowly by 
little by little make these new 

489
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:33,100
habits that they just become 
your normal. 

490
00:27:33,700 --> 00:27:36,000
Then is at, I thought I could on
this person. 

491
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:40,400
Yeah, that is a topic that I 
have up most interesting and I 

492
00:27:40,408 --> 00:27:43,700
think that's honestly probably 
my biggest strong suit in life 

493
00:27:43,700 --> 00:27:47,800
is that I like to figure out the
things that will yield the 

494
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,100
positive outcome that I'm 
looking for that. 

495
00:27:50,100 --> 00:27:54,900
I In sustained doing every 
single day of my life and just 

496
00:27:54,900 --> 00:27:57,900
commit to it, no matter what, 
and just chip away at it year 

497
00:27:57,900 --> 00:28:00,600
after year, after year. 
And that's, I mean, at the end 

498
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,800
of day, that's just habit. 
It's all just habits, and it's 

499
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,000
like, brushing your teeth every 
day, but if you do it long 

500
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:10,300
enough, that it just becomes the
norm and you, I mean, it's like 

501
00:28:10,300 --> 00:28:14,600
investing in, you know, like a 
the market like if you have that

502
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:18,600
compounding interest over time 
like where your, where your end 

503
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:23,800
result is just so far. 
Above the peers, your peers who 

504
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,500
are not investing in themselves 
in some form or fashion like 

505
00:28:26,500 --> 00:28:29,700
that, it's just drastic. 
So like for you personally, what

506
00:28:29,700 --> 00:28:33,400
are some daily habits that you 
just are non-negotiables? 

507
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,800
I meditate now, it's twice a 
day. 

508
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,800
It's first thing in the morning 
and last thing before I go to 

509
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:46,400
bed, it's not at the actual 
moment now. 

510
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,700
Because like I said, I just last
week randomly, my stomach was 

511
00:28:49,700 --> 00:28:52,600
bothering me and I went to the 
ER, and by the next morning, 

512
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,600
they took my appendix out. 
So I'm recovering from that. 

513
00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:05,000
But normally its resistance 
training walking Prioritizing my

514
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:11,100
sleep. and the probably the 
biggest non-negotiable is 

515
00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:17,700
cooking and making all my meals 
at home and Not hardly ever 

516
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:23,300
eating anything that's processed
or, you know, outside of whole 

517
00:29:23,300 --> 00:29:25,600
ingredients made in my kitchen. 
Yeah. 

518
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,500
So important, how has doing that
impacted, like, your 

519
00:29:29,500 --> 00:29:31,300
relationship? 
Like as your wife because she 

520
00:29:31,300 --> 00:29:34,500
probably didn't expect you to 
have like this 180 degree shift 

521
00:29:34,500 --> 00:29:36,500
at the onset of all this. 
It just kind of happened. 

522
00:29:37,700 --> 00:29:42,800
Yeah, I mean she we she also has
struggled with her weight. 

523
00:29:43,300 --> 00:29:49,200
So from the moment when she was 
nine months pregnant with 

524
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:53,500
Bridget to where she is now, 
she's lost over 80 pounds. 

525
00:29:54,300 --> 00:29:58,100
She has done, she hasn't been 
fortunate enough to do all the 

526
00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:02,500
physical challenges as me 
because she's for basically this

527
00:30:02,500 --> 00:30:08,300
two and a half year Journey for 
me, you know, 18 of those months

528
00:30:08,300 --> 00:30:11,400
she's been pregnant. 
So you know she hasn't been able

529
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,200
to do all those with the as far 
as nutrition goes, she has 

530
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,700
really been doing much of the 
same. 

531
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:20,300
Just much of the we kind of are 
attacking this together. 

532
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,500
Just making all of our meals at 
home. 

533
00:30:22,500 --> 00:30:25,300
So yeah I've been really 
fortunate that it hasn't been 

534
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,500
you know sometimes it can be 
difficult if you are doing 

535
00:30:28,500 --> 00:30:31,300
different things but we are. 
We're both pretty much all on 

536
00:30:31,300 --> 00:30:35,700
board with the way that we eat 
and the type of meals that we 

537
00:30:35,700 --> 00:30:39,300
prepare and We're doing that now
for our daughter Grace. 

538
00:30:39,300 --> 00:30:42,400
We're just kind of giving her 
whole food and real food and so 

539
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:44,200
yeah, we're definitely on the 
same page with that. 

540
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:48,100
So it's been her progress, like 
I said, has been slower because 

541
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:51,400
two pregnancies during that time
I've been fortunate where I've 

542
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:55,200
just been able to just see a 
steady, you know, increase in 

543
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:59,100
all of all of the things I've 
been doing but but you know, 

544
00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:02,300
she'll be right back on it, you 
know, we're, she's we're 

545
00:31:02,300 --> 00:31:03,700
probably going to have more 
children. 

546
00:31:03,700 --> 00:31:07,000
So it's just even more on her. 
But that's, I guess, the kind, 

547
00:31:07,100 --> 00:31:09,200
Way, that's kind of the way it 
goes. 

548
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,000
Totally. 
Totally and and y'all both 

549
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,100
branched out and built your own 
business before everything with 

550
00:31:16,100 --> 00:31:19,100
Bridget or after it was a little
bit of both. 

551
00:31:19,100 --> 00:31:21,600
So I told you I'd really battled
anxiety. 

552
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:23,700
I love I love math. 
I've been at Sea, I was a 

553
00:31:23,708 --> 00:31:29,100
teacher for seven years and I 
loved it but it was just 

554
00:31:29,100 --> 00:31:31,500
something about all the students
and having. 

555
00:31:31,500 --> 00:31:34,700
So I would I would be the type 
of person that would have 25 

556
00:31:34,700 --> 00:31:36,900
students and 23 of them would be
paid attention. 

557
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:40,900
Tension doing a great job and 
two of them would be misbehaving

558
00:31:40,900 --> 00:31:44,600
and not learning and that would 
just bother me and I couldn't, I

559
00:31:44,608 --> 00:31:48,000
couldn't get past that. 
I feel like now I actually have 

560
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,300
the tools to deal with that, but
interestingly enough. 

561
00:31:50,300 --> 00:31:53,100
But at the time I didn't and it 
was just, I can't wait till 

562
00:31:53,100 --> 00:31:58,000
Friday and I can't wait to go 
out and buy some beer and eat 

563
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,700
some pizza and eat crappy food. 
And I was just on this hamster 

564
00:32:02,700 --> 00:32:06,900
wheel of that. 
And I, finally, and this was all

565
00:32:06,900 --> 00:32:08,500
before. 
For Brigitte I finally just 

566
00:32:08,500 --> 00:32:12,000
decided like I don't want to do 
this, I'm going to just start. 

567
00:32:12,500 --> 00:32:15,800
I started tutoring on the side 
and that started to pick up. 

568
00:32:16,100 --> 00:32:18,700
So I ended up quitting teaching 
and just was tutoring on the 

569
00:32:18,700 --> 00:32:22,300
side and I was just driving to 
people's homes and doing in-home

570
00:32:22,300 --> 00:32:26,800
tutoring and I kind of started 
my own business so that had 

571
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,200
started right before everything 
with Bridget. 

572
00:32:29,900 --> 00:32:34,100
And then right after Bridget 
passed away, my wife had worked 

573
00:32:34,100 --> 00:32:38,500
at a job for about 10 years that
that maybe even longer that she 

574
00:32:38,500 --> 00:32:42,800
really didn't like and wasn't 
really going anywhere. 

575
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,700
So she decided that after 
Bridget it, I'm not going to go 

576
00:32:46,700 --> 00:32:49,300
back to a dead-end job that I 
don't enjoy. 

577
00:32:49,300 --> 00:32:53,100
So we did she did she does not 
teach math or anything. 

578
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:57,200
So we decided that we would just
open up a learning center and 

579
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,700
she would run it and I would 
tutor and we would just do that 

580
00:33:00,700 --> 00:33:03,200
because that would be something 
that we could do together. 

581
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:07,800
That would be more, you know, in
line with us trying You know, be

582
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:12,000
happy and yeah so that's kind of
where we're at now. 

583
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,700
We have a it's where I'm at 
right now. 

584
00:33:13,700 --> 00:33:17,800
We have a Learning Center, I do 
online tutoring and my wife run 

585
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,500
for business. 
We want to expand to make it 

586
00:33:20,500 --> 00:33:22,400
bigger. 
But during covid, it's just been

587
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,300
me. 
But at least by having our 

588
00:33:25,308 --> 00:33:28,100
Center, I can I can tutor people
back to back all day. 

589
00:33:28,100 --> 00:33:30,700
I don't have to drive in between
and lose all that time. 

590
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,600
Hmm. 
So yeah, so that's that's it. 

591
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,900
We're just, we're just committed
to kind of building this 

592
00:33:35,900 --> 00:33:37,700
business together. 
That's awesome. 

593
00:33:37,700 --> 00:33:39,100
And what is the name of the 
business? 

594
00:33:40,700 --> 00:33:45,200
So you're friendly math tutor. 
What what, what genre of math, 

595
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:50,300
like, what level of mathematics 
everything from? 

596
00:33:50,300 --> 00:33:53,500
I have Elementary actually this 
morning, I had some Elementary 

597
00:33:53,500 --> 00:33:55,400
School students that they are 
home-schooled. 

598
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:58,500
And I am their math, teacher all
the way up. 

599
00:33:58,500 --> 00:34:02,900
To I have students that are in, 
I've online students at like, I 

600
00:34:02,900 --> 00:34:06,700
have a student at Wake Forest 
University, whose in calculus 3.

601
00:34:07,300 --> 00:34:08,800
So I can do. 
Yeah. 

602
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:11,900
Anything from basic. 
Math all the way up to the high 

603
00:34:11,900 --> 00:34:16,900
level cow man. 
That math was like my subject 

604
00:34:16,900 --> 00:34:19,199
that I did not agree with I mean
not that I didn't agree that I 

605
00:34:19,199 --> 00:34:22,300
just was not naturally gifted 
towards mathematics when it came

606
00:34:22,300 --> 00:34:26,199
to trigonometry and statistics 
those clicked for whatever 

607
00:34:26,199 --> 00:34:28,100
reason. 
Like I could do those like night

608
00:34:28,100 --> 00:34:31,500
and day and I enjoyed trig and 
statistics but everything else 

609
00:34:31,500 --> 00:34:35,500
that calculus I don't like guys.
Yeah. 

610
00:34:35,500 --> 00:34:38,400
Well the statistics makes sense.
It sounds like with all the all 

611
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:39,800
the tracking you do and all 
this. 

612
00:34:39,900 --> 00:34:41,300
Stuff that you're into the 
steps. 

613
00:34:41,300 --> 00:34:43,800
Definitely, I'm totally into 
that. 

614
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:47,300
That's why I love tracking. 
And anything like that, I love 

615
00:34:47,300 --> 00:34:51,000
because I just I've always loved
math totally till I mean. 

616
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:56,300
So it's so, you know, useful, 
like people in mathematics is 

617
00:34:56,300 --> 00:34:58,200
everywhere. 
Like, people don't realize how 

618
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:59,800
much math is a part of their 
life. 

619
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:01,700
What's your? 
This is totally off on a tangent

620
00:35:01,700 --> 00:35:03,200
here. 
But I'm curious, you know, like 

621
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,200
with when I was in school, 
everything was manual. 

622
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,100
Like you had to know how to do 
long division. 

623
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:09,800
You had to do all of this with a
pencil. 

624
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:13,800
Paper and nowadays is that the 
case so much in the scores are 

625
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:15,100
pretty much just use a 
calculator. 

626
00:35:16,300 --> 00:35:19,000
There's, I mean, they definitely
use calculators for things but 

627
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:23,300
there's still now, it's much 
more of like, we know that you 

628
00:35:23,300 --> 00:35:26,300
can eventually use a calculator 
and a computer to look all this 

629
00:35:26,300 --> 00:35:28,400
up. 
But it's more of kind of using 

630
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:32,100
the math to get kids to 
understand how to think. 

631
00:35:33,100 --> 00:35:37,300
And that's at least my Approach.
I don't, I don't ever like have 

632
00:35:37,300 --> 00:35:39,800
kids memorize formulas because 
they'll always be able to look 

633
00:35:39,900 --> 00:35:41,300
Them up. 
I want them to kind of 

634
00:35:41,300 --> 00:35:45,300
understand like and it's really 
just applicable to life like 

635
00:35:45,300 --> 00:35:49,800
when when would I use which 
formula in which situation and 

636
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,000
being able to make those 
decisions? 

637
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:55,500
Just like you know, when we're 
talking about health like when 

638
00:35:55,500 --> 00:35:58,300
am I going to use? 
What, when am I going too fast? 

639
00:35:58,300 --> 00:36:01,100
When am I going to use? 
He do, when am I going to use 

640
00:36:01,100 --> 00:36:03,800
this? 
It's just about knowing when to 

641
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,300
use which tool in the toolbox. 
And that's at least how I kind 

642
00:36:06,300 --> 00:36:08,400
of go about it. 
I still think there might be 

643
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:10,300
some old school teachers. 
Out there. 

644
00:36:10,300 --> 00:36:13,400
But I think for the most part 
everybody's going towards the, 

645
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,700
you know, let's get the kids to 
learn how to think and just use 

646
00:36:16,700 --> 00:36:20,400
math as a vehicle as opposed to 
you know remembering just a 

647
00:36:20,408 --> 00:36:22,900
bunch of rules that they're 
going to forget any way that 

648
00:36:22,900 --> 00:36:24,700
they could just look up whenever
they want. 

649
00:36:24,700 --> 00:36:27,000
Yeah. 
Are you a spreadsheet junkie 

650
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,400
like a million different 
spreadsheets kind of. 

651
00:36:29,408 --> 00:36:33,500
Yeah, everything we do not Excel
is, I probably should with a 

652
00:36:33,500 --> 00:36:36,700
high level of understanding of 
mass, just because, but I can 

653
00:36:36,700 --> 00:36:40,500
definitely, I have a lot of 
different spreadsheets and I do 

654
00:36:40,700 --> 00:36:44,300
all my workouts. 
I always track and I do these, I

655
00:36:44,300 --> 00:36:47,400
do these things called micro 
work out because I don't have 

656
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:51,700
really the time with a newborn 
and as much as I work. 

657
00:36:52,100 --> 00:36:55,600
So I only work out in like 10 15
minute increments in between all

658
00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:00,500
my students during the day. 
But I write down all of my sets 

659
00:37:00,500 --> 00:37:04,600
and Reps and like, I calculate 
my volume and I just try to beat

660
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,000
that the next week depending on 
which day it is. 

661
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:09,800
So I am always writing things 
down and track. 

662
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,000
In all that kind of stuff. 
Yeah. 

663
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,400
Yeah. 
I think you mentioned that in 

664
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:17,000
the email, which was what was 
interesting because like most 

665
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:18,800
people, you know, they're 
lifting and they have like a set

666
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,600
time. 
I'd run our lunch hour or 

667
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,400
something, to go lift for 45 
minutes, or an hour and a half 

668
00:37:23,700 --> 00:37:25,900
and you're doing it all. 
You don't like a full day's work

669
00:37:25,900 --> 00:37:28,900
out in, you know, 10-minute 
increments throughout the course

670
00:37:28,900 --> 00:37:31,000
of a day. 
I would imagine it's probably 

671
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:33,600
harder to get a really good pump
and blood flow when you're doing

672
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,300
that. 
But your recovery between sets 

673
00:37:36,300 --> 00:37:39,900
is is significantly better. 
So do you feel like you've You 

674
00:37:39,908 --> 00:37:43,200
know, been able to lift more 
weight and gain more strength 

675
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:47,300
with that style protocol. 
Yes, but it's taken much longer.

676
00:37:47,300 --> 00:37:49,000
So yeah, I thought about that a 
lot. 

677
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,100
I actually heard the idea. 
I don't know if, you know who 

678
00:37:51,100 --> 00:37:53,600
Brad Kearns is. 
He's from yeah blueprint 

679
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,800
podcast. 
Yeah I first heard the idea from

680
00:37:55,800 --> 00:38:00,400
him a couple years ago and I 
again my old mentality in life 

681
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:04,000
would have been like it was more
of just an excuse but it was 

682
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:07,400
like I don't have an hour and a 
half two hours to go to the gym 

683
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,300
and do all this. 
So I'm just, you know, I'm just 

684
00:38:09,300 --> 00:38:11,800
not going to Resistance 
training, which is, you know, an

685
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:13,600
obviously a terrible way to look
at it. 

686
00:38:13,700 --> 00:38:17,600
So now I looked at it as well. 
I got this business that I got 

687
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,400
to spend a lot of time, you 
know, getting going. 

688
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:26,000
And we at the time, we had 
another baby coming and I didn't

689
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:30,000
have the time to do that, and 
but I follow people like you and

690
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,900
I learn a lot about how about 
Progressive overload. 

691
00:38:32,900 --> 00:38:35,500
And I learned a lot about how to
build muscle. 

692
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,400
And I combine and I thought 
about the micro workouts and I 

693
00:38:39,408 --> 00:38:42,900
was like, whoa, All right, if I 
can't do that, maybe I can do 

694
00:38:42,900 --> 00:38:44,900
this. 
And it'll just take longer. 

695
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:46,500
And that's kind of been what's 
happening. 

696
00:38:46,500 --> 00:38:49,300
I'm sure where I'm at. 
Now, the muscle that I have, I 

697
00:38:49,300 --> 00:38:52,800
could have built in 5 for 5 
months, I don't know. 

698
00:38:53,100 --> 00:38:56,300
I really have no idea, but I 
just know after two years, I 

699
00:38:56,300 --> 00:38:59,500
definitely have more muscle than
I did two years ago and I can 

700
00:38:59,500 --> 00:39:03,500
definitely lift more. 
Like I said, I usually do like a

701
00:39:03,500 --> 00:39:06,700
push-pull legs day and I just 
repeat them and then take a day 

702
00:39:06,700 --> 00:39:09,700
off. 
So I like my push day of just do

703
00:39:09,900 --> 00:39:14,600
push-ups and some kind of like 
power bombs or something for my 

704
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:20,300
triceps and I continuously I try
to each week, do more than the 

705
00:39:20,300 --> 00:39:23,900
week before and if the week 
before I was able to do five ten

706
00:39:23,900 --> 00:39:26,800
minutes sessions, I kind of do I
just calculate my volume and 

707
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:31,500
sometimes that takes an extra 
session or it takes me just 

708
00:39:31,500 --> 00:39:33,900
increasing the weight but I'm 
always trying to beat it and 

709
00:39:33,900 --> 00:39:37,000
then I usually do again, 
learning from you and other 

710
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:40,800
people I do take like deload 
weeks so I I do all that stuff, 

711
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:44,400
but just over a way longer 
period of time, but it's totally

712
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,400
fine. 
Because I'm, I'm a 38 year old 

713
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:49,700
dad who's I'm in way better 
shape than I was two years ago, 

714
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,600
and I'm not trying to compete or
do anything. 

715
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:55,500
So, for my goals, it fits my 
life perfectly. 

716
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,100
Yeah. 
If you stop and think about it, 

717
00:39:57,100 --> 00:40:01,100
I mean, like getting up and 
moving and exerting, some energy

718
00:40:01,100 --> 00:40:06,100
and effort every hour for 10 
minutes is probably more in line

719
00:40:06,100 --> 00:40:09,400
with our, you know, evolutionary
upbringing than just having like

720
00:40:09,900 --> 00:40:12,200
You know, most of the day being 
sedentary in front of a computer

721
00:40:12,500 --> 00:40:16,100
and then it can find window of 
an hour hour and a half to lift 

722
00:40:16,100 --> 00:40:18,200
really hard. 
Like it makes more sense that 

723
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:21,500
you're just constantly moving. 
And I mean, I feel like that is 

724
00:40:21,500 --> 00:40:24,900
probably it bodes better form, 
like a longevity standpoint, I 

725
00:40:24,900 --> 00:40:28,300
would think possibly. 
And it really the biggest thing 

726
00:40:28,300 --> 00:40:30,000
is that it just, it fits my 
life. 

727
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,300
So my wife makes my schedule. 
She runs all the business and 

728
00:40:33,300 --> 00:40:36,600
everything for the Learning 
Center and I, you know, I said, 

729
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:39,100
you know, give me these little 
10, 15 minute breaks in between 

730
00:40:39,100 --> 00:40:41,500
students. 
So from her perspective, she's 

731
00:40:41,500 --> 00:40:46,300
at home with the baby and from 
and I'm at The Learning Center, 

732
00:40:46,300 --> 00:40:48,300
which is only like about ten 
minute drive away. 

733
00:40:48,300 --> 00:40:51,200
So we've kind of again, I got a 
lot of this from viewers, like, 

734
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,700
you know, think about what you 
want your life to be in a couple

735
00:40:53,700 --> 00:40:55,600
years and then you just like 
make that happen. 

736
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:59,100
So we now we just got a 
townhouse that's really close to

737
00:40:59,100 --> 00:41:01,600
our Learning Center. 
So I have a really short 

738
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,600
commute, which again, I planned 
out. 

739
00:41:03,700 --> 00:41:05,200
Used to have a 45-minute 
commute. 

740
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:09,700
Now it's like 7 minutes and we 
plan the schedule. 

741
00:41:09,900 --> 00:41:13,500
From my wife's perspective I 
leave, you know, like today I 

742
00:41:13,500 --> 00:41:17,900
left at 9:45 this morning and 
when I get home at about 6 

743
00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:21,200
o'clock tonight, I'll have an 
again right now. 

744
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:24,000
I'm not working out because of 
the appendectomy, but normally 

745
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:26,200
on a Friday I'd be working out 
all day long. 

746
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,400
And by the time I get home, I 
can be totally present. 

747
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,500
I can just walk in the door and 
be ready to play with Grace and 

748
00:41:32,500 --> 00:41:34,100
be ready to help my wife with 
dinner. 

749
00:41:34,300 --> 00:41:36,800
I don't have to like squeeze in 
a workout because I've already 

750
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:37,600
got it. 
Done. 

751
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,400
And for my wife's perspective, 
she Don't have to like see me 

752
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:44,800
working out instead of helping 
her it's just an easier thing 

753
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,900
to. 
It's like built into my work 

754
00:41:46,900 --> 00:41:50,500
schedule is my working out. 
It's like part of my work day. 

755
00:41:50,700 --> 00:41:52,700
Yeah. 
And it's that kind of symbiotic 

756
00:41:52,700 --> 00:41:57,600
relationship between everything 
that is so different than my old

757
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,500
kind of compartmentalised. 
Like, yeah, hundred percent man.

758
00:42:00,500 --> 00:42:03,400
I mean, the moment you can kind 
of figure out what life you want

759
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,800
to live and then dial everything
in so that it benefits that 

760
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,200
goal. 
The outcome is just so much more

761
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:10,800
fulfilling. 
Much more sustainable. 

762
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,500
I mean like everything that we 
do in a day to day is something 

763
00:42:13,500 --> 00:42:17,300
that yields the outcome that I 
am Desiring for the 

764
00:42:17,300 --> 00:42:19,500
end-all-be-all big picture. 
And I feel like when you're 

765
00:42:19,500 --> 00:42:23,500
doing things like that, you you 
don't get tired of it. 

766
00:42:23,500 --> 00:42:27,200
Because you understand that what
you truly desire is being worked

767
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,200
on with every single thing 
you're doing, like, there's 

768
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:32,100
hardly ever a moment in my life 
where I'm like, this is just 

769
00:42:32,100 --> 00:42:34,500
such a waste of time because 
it's not contributing to what my

770
00:42:34,500 --> 00:42:37,400
overall goal is like that never 
happens and because it never 

771
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:41,000
happens, you're able to enjoy 
Everything you do much more. 

772
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:44,600
Yeah, it's true. 
I mean, II and I can always just

773
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,600
compare it to how I used to 
because it's such a stark 

774
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:51,800
difference. 
And I know I had, you know, 

775
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:54,600
Sunday nights were just filled 
with anxiety because Monday 

776
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:56,800
meant, I had to be back at work.
And then Friday nights where 

777
00:42:56,800 --> 00:43:03,300
this Hardy and, you know, and 
just this cycle of and now I, I 

778
00:43:03,300 --> 00:43:06,300
mean, today is Friday and I know
it's Friday because I, you know,

779
00:43:06,300 --> 00:43:09,300
I know what day of the week, it 
is and my students today. 

780
00:43:09,300 --> 00:43:12,800
I wish them a good weekend but 
other Nat it's just like, 

781
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:14,500
intellectual. 
I know what a weekend is, but 

782
00:43:14,500 --> 00:43:17,200
other than that I don't even it 
doesn't mean anything because 

783
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:21,000
yeah, work all day tomorrow and 
I look forward to it and I have 

784
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,900
I have Tuesday's off and I just 
have a very rare. 

785
00:43:24,900 --> 00:43:27,600
I've Thursday mornings off where
we always do something with the 

786
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,200
baby and we just have this. 
It's like every day is just a 

787
00:43:31,207 --> 00:43:34,200
good day and you just some days,
I don't even really think of it 

788
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,000
as a job. 
But again, that's because we 

789
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:40,400
work for ourselves and we decide
what's important? 

790
00:43:40,500 --> 00:43:43,100
And what we decided Decide what 
we do every day. 

791
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:48,200
So yeah it's just it really is 
incredible to kind of have that 

792
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,400
feeling of where weekends don't 
mean anything and holidays, 

793
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:55,600
don't mean anything and it 
sounds depressing in some ways. 

794
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,500
But it's not when you're 
actually kind of living it that 

795
00:43:58,500 --> 00:44:00,800
way. 
What sounds even more depressing

796
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:06,200
is hating five days of the week 
and living for the two that 

797
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,800
aren't even your career path. 
Like that to me is the epitome 

798
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,100
of depression right there. 
Yes. 

799
00:44:11,100 --> 00:44:12,900
Yeah. 
I mean, Me, it was my career 

800
00:44:12,900 --> 00:44:14,700
path. 
I mean I love math and I love 

801
00:44:14,700 --> 00:44:18,800
teaching but I just kind of the 
anxiety and the school system it

802
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:20,500
was you know I just wasn't able 
to. 

803
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,000
I was dealing with discipline 
more than actually teaching math

804
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:26,600
and I knew that I loved the 
after school, where kids would 

805
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,300
come for one-on-one tutoring and
I basically just took that 

806
00:44:29,300 --> 00:44:34,500
little aspect and made it my 
business, but yes, I know and 

807
00:44:34,500 --> 00:44:36,900
especially my wife always talked
about. 

808
00:44:36,900 --> 00:44:40,000
I used to have these awful 
depressions when I got back from

809
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:41,600
vacation. 
Mmm. 

810
00:44:41,900 --> 00:44:45,000
Like that one week where we 
would go away and then I would 

811
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,000
come back and it would take a 
week to recover. 

812
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:51,000
And I mean, now I'm with covid, 
we don't really go on vacation 

813
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:54,800
but before I did go on a 
vacation since this kind of 

814
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:56,700
transformation and it was so 
different. 

815
00:44:56,700 --> 00:44:59,900
It was, I enjoyed every minute 
of a caishen and I enjoyed 

816
00:44:59,900 --> 00:45:03,200
relaxing but I also when I got 
back the next day, I was ready 

817
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:07,500
to get back to work and there 
was no like hangover or 

818
00:45:07,500 --> 00:45:11,100
depression because like you 
said, it wasn't like, let's hate

819
00:45:11,100 --> 00:45:13,000
my life. 
Weeks out of the year but just 

820
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,900
only enjoy it during the 
Vacations or the holidays. 

821
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:19,200
Yeah, that's super important. 
Like that's that, I mean, heaven

822
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,400
like a yin-yang relationship 
benefits. 

823
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:25,000
The whole that to me is not near
the same thing as like this 

824
00:45:25,300 --> 00:45:28,000
work-life balance. 
Like when I think of that, I 

825
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:32,000
feel like something else is is 
distracting so that you can 

826
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:35,000
improve something up because 
there's like a one suffers to 

827
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:36,500
gain another. 
Whereas, with like this 

828
00:45:36,500 --> 00:45:38,700
symbiotic relationship, 
everything is improving the 

829
00:45:38,700 --> 00:45:41,900
whole that to me. 
And it's just, it's just Just 

830
00:45:41,900 --> 00:45:45,700
more productive as well. 
What's it like working with your

831
00:45:45,700 --> 00:45:47,700
wife? 
Like I was I was talking to 

832
00:45:47,707 --> 00:45:51,900
somebody today and we were 
talking about how you know, most

833
00:45:51,900 --> 00:45:56,200
people have a relationship where
they go to, they go to work and 

834
00:45:56,300 --> 00:45:59,200
everybody has you know like 
spouse has a different career 

835
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,700
path and you come you meet in 
the, you know, the end of the 

836
00:46:01,700 --> 00:46:05,100
day for dinner and some quality 
time together and like Crystal 

837
00:46:05,100 --> 00:46:06,600
and I mean we do every single 
thing together. 

838
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,400
Like we honestly don't see each 
other that much throughout the 

839
00:46:08,408 --> 00:46:09,900
course of the day. 
I'm in one building. 

840
00:46:09,900 --> 00:46:12,700
She's in the other building but 
we Go out together and 

841
00:46:12,700 --> 00:46:15,100
everything that we do is for the
same business. 

842
00:46:15,100 --> 00:46:17,800
So with you and your wife 
working for y'all, you know 

843
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:20,900
combined business there is that 
has that been a really good 

844
00:46:20,900 --> 00:46:25,400
thing for you. 
It has actually you'll like it 

845
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,800
probably would have been even 
before. 

846
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:31,100
But since Brigitte I mean it 
just changed our whole 

847
00:46:31,100 --> 00:46:35,900
perspective on on everything and
just even how we treat and just 

848
00:46:35,900 --> 00:46:41,500
how we talk to each other and 
when you grieve that deeply, 

849
00:46:41,700 --> 00:46:45,900
With someone, we just really 
have learned, you know, kind of,

850
00:46:45,900 --> 00:46:49,000
when to give each other space, 
when to allow the other. 

851
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:53,600
And when you grieve over a 
child, it's very different 

852
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:57,000
because you're both in it 
together. 

853
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,700
Obviously, it's one of the few 
situations where you're both 

854
00:46:59,700 --> 00:47:02,800
grieving for the exact same 
thing in the exact same person 

855
00:47:03,900 --> 00:47:06,900
and they're both your child. 
But at the same time, people 

856
00:47:06,900 --> 00:47:09,300
grieve differently and we plan 
to learn that through each 

857
00:47:09,300 --> 00:47:10,900
other. 
Did we deal with things 

858
00:47:10,900 --> 00:47:13,400
differently? 
And I think going through that 

859
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:18,000
before we attacks kind of having
a business together has just 

860
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:21,600
made all the difference. 
So we both know how different we

861
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:22,800
are. 
We play to each other's 

862
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:26,400
strengths so we were kind of 
doing that in the grieving 

863
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,900
process and so I think that's 
just another kind of like we 

864
00:47:30,900 --> 00:47:34,500
call them gifts from Bridget 
that in this post, Bridget 

865
00:47:34,500 --> 00:47:37,600
light. 
We I think we're much better 

866
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:39,300
off. 
It's not to say that we don't 

867
00:47:39,300 --> 00:47:41,700
ever have disagreements but it's
about kind of how we got. 

868
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:45,400
All about those disagreements 
and how we handle them and how 

869
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:49,300
we have boundaries too, you 
know, we have our our life and 

870
00:47:49,300 --> 00:47:52,300
we have work, we do have some 
boundaries set up, but there's 

871
00:47:52,300 --> 00:47:56,200
it's also a huge gray area. 
And yeah, we've I think we've 

872
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,300
navigated a quite quite well, to
this point. 

873
00:47:59,500 --> 00:48:01,800
It's awesome in. 
That's that's that's what's all 

874
00:48:01,808 --> 00:48:05,900
about like having having your 
companion by your side that 

875
00:48:05,900 --> 00:48:08,900
Embraces you for your 
differences, but plays to your 

876
00:48:08,900 --> 00:48:14,100
strengths and your both able to 
Accomplish the combined goal, 

877
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:16,200
much better. 
I mean, like I look at what 

878
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:19,300
Chris and I've been able to do. 
And I mean, I was big into 

879
00:48:19,300 --> 00:48:21,900
business and bodybuilding before
I ever met her. 

880
00:48:21,900 --> 00:48:25,900
But I would not have been able 
to bring it to the point that I 

881
00:48:25,900 --> 00:48:29,100
have without her by my side. 
And even if I could, I wouldn't 

882
00:48:29,100 --> 00:48:32,300
have wanted to because what is 
the point of life, if you do all

883
00:48:32,300 --> 00:48:36,100
this thing, all these things, 
all this, all these great dreams

884
00:48:36,100 --> 00:48:38,300
aspirations, you have, but you 
have no one to share it with. 

885
00:48:39,500 --> 00:48:42,200
Yeah, it's true. 
Now it's it's the same exact 

886
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:45,400
thing for us. 
I mean the two of you obviously 

887
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:48,500
what you do is totally different
but it's been it's been a big 

888
00:48:48,500 --> 00:48:52,000
inspiration for us as we 
followed the what you are doing 

889
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:55,800
and we've almost been trying to 
kind of emulate that that idea 

890
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:58,600
of just working on this business
together but we have separate 

891
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:03,200
kind of things that we do or 
jobs that we do within this. 

892
00:49:03,900 --> 00:49:08,700
But just kind of making that 
again, fit our life and just the

893
00:49:08,700 --> 00:49:12,700
one Like you said, I'm kind of 
not for the whole work-life 

894
00:49:12,700 --> 00:49:15,200
balance because then it becomes 
kind of two polarizing. 

895
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:17,400
Hmm. 
And what he said, one thing has 

896
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:22,000
to suffer but but this kind of 
way of going about it and yeah, 

897
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,000
I think you're right. 
I don't think there's a way it'd

898
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:26,700
be very difficult to do it by 
yourself. 

899
00:49:26,700 --> 00:49:29,500
It's so much better to have 
someone else kind of along for 

900
00:49:29,500 --> 00:49:33,100
the ride and now that we have a 
baby like we even think in the 

901
00:49:33,107 --> 00:49:35,700
future of like she now fits into
that. 

902
00:49:35,700 --> 00:49:39,100
It's just this whole we're just 
on this journey together. 

903
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:41,700
Ooh life and we're all just like
figure it out together. 

904
00:49:41,700 --> 00:49:44,000
So it's awesome, man. 
That's awesome. 

905
00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:46,700
I'm super excited for him. 
I'm super excited for what's to 

906
00:49:46,700 --> 00:49:48,400
come. 
What is to come? 

907
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:53,500
What are you excited about? 
Well, as far as this business 

908
00:49:53,500 --> 00:49:57,000
goes, we're now that the 
vaccines are here, were really 

909
00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:00,000
hoping that we can this this 
Learning Center that I have. 

910
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:03,000
I have several stations set up 
here so I could have multiple 

911
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:07,100
people tutoring at the same 
time, so I'm hoping to hire some

912
00:50:07,100 --> 00:50:11,100
other tutors and get more people
People get more students that we

913
00:50:11,100 --> 00:50:13,400
can reach in just kind of grow 
our business. 

914
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,600
So, it's not just me tutoring 
because honestly, I can only I 

915
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,600
can only tutor so much. 
And right now, I'm actually 

916
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:21,300
working more hours than I 
probably would like, but, you 

917
00:50:21,300 --> 00:50:22,800
know, we got to get this 
business going. 

918
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:24,700
So I'm hoping to hire some 
tutors. 

919
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:27,400
So I can tutor a little less, 
but we can still kind of grow 

920
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:32,300
the business and then other than
that, just trying to have a, I 

921
00:50:32,300 --> 00:50:34,200
have an Instagram that I post 
on. 

922
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:37,500
Briefly, I'd like to do more 
with that. 

923
00:50:37,500 --> 00:50:41,600
I just haven't had time. 
So I'd like to I'd like to grow 

924
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:45,400
that more and just kind of share
my story and reach more people 

925
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:48,500
that way. 
But yeah, they're the two big 

926
00:50:48,500 --> 00:50:51,000
things. 
Things for me coming up and what

927
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:54,100
state are you located in again? 
I'm in New Jersey. 

928
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:55,100
New Jersey. 
Got you? 

929
00:50:55,100 --> 00:50:59,000
Got you. 
So, the So currently, the 

930
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:00,700
tutoring is, it all, is it all 
done, remotely? 

931
00:51:00,700 --> 00:51:03,200
Or is it out of it in person? 
Yes. 

932
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:04,800
No. 
It's all remotely and it. 

933
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:08,900
Actually, it was in person and I
used to drive to people's homes 

934
00:51:08,900 --> 00:51:11,900
and then it transitions when we 
got the Learning Center, people 

935
00:51:11,900 --> 00:51:15,000
were coming here, but I was 
doing online tutoring before 

936
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:18,500
covid, even hit. 
So I was kind of set up for 

937
00:51:18,500 --> 00:51:20,100
that. 
And as soon as covid hit and 

938
00:51:20,100 --> 00:51:23,100
everything went online, we were 
like ready to go. 

939
00:51:23,100 --> 00:51:27,500
So now I'm a hundred percent 
online and I'm hoping the kind 

940
00:51:27,500 --> 00:51:30,100
of stay that way. 
I mean it just gives us kind of 

941
00:51:30,100 --> 00:51:33,800
a far more more of a reach. 
And like I said, I have students

942
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,900
that are kind of Some students 
that are in other states that 

943
00:51:36,900 --> 00:51:41,100
I'm able to tutor online. 
So I'm kind of hoping to keep 

944
00:51:41,100 --> 00:51:45,000
that going, even when covid kind
of passes. 

945
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:48,900
I'm hoping that parents, you 
know, it's not good to send your

946
00:51:48,900 --> 00:51:51,900
kid to school and zoom all day. 
There's a lot, you know, they 

947
00:51:51,900 --> 00:51:54,300
need to be going to school and 
interacting with kids and 

948
00:51:54,300 --> 00:51:57,700
teachers, but for like one hour 
a week, I think that I'm hoping 

949
00:51:57,700 --> 00:52:01,800
that I can still do the online 
tutoring for a parent's 

950
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:04,800
perspective, just doing one hour
a week while the kids up in 

951
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:06,400
Bedroom. 
You don't have to drive them and

952
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:09,100
drop them off. 
We're hoping that we can heal 

953
00:52:09,100 --> 00:52:12,400
grow the online business, even 
more even after covid kind of 

954
00:52:12,408 --> 00:52:14,300
passes, totally man. 
Totally. 

955
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,500
So what is the the website for 
for that if people are 

956
00:52:17,508 --> 00:52:19,800
interested in? 
What's the Instagram profile for

957
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:23,100
people? 
So the website is just your 

958
00:52:23,100 --> 00:52:26,700
friendly math. 
Tutor.com, that's all the 

959
00:52:26,700 --> 00:52:32,700
information about the tutoring. 
And for the Instagram I'm it's a

960
00:52:32,700 --> 00:52:37,700
motivational Dan. 31, 
motivational, Dan 31. 

961
00:52:37,700 --> 00:52:41,400
I like it, and now I'm a lot 
more but I'm, you know, the 

962
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,800
business took over and I just 
haven't been posting much. 

963
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,700
I'm really open to get back to 
that to kind of interact and 

964
00:52:46,700 --> 00:52:49,600
reach, reach more people that 
way just about the story, not 

965
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:51,800
nothing to do with math. 
That's all just about my kind of

966
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:54,800
fitness journey. 
Nah, man, the story is amazing. 

967
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:59,000
So I highly encourage you to 
spread that story and get it in,

968
00:52:59,100 --> 00:53:02,100
you know, in front of a lot of 
people and I feel like what 

969
00:53:02,100 --> 00:53:04,800
you're doing is just I mean, 
nothing short of amazing. 

970
00:53:04,900 --> 00:53:06,800
And the reason you're doing 
everything you're doing and just

971
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:11,400
the motivation behind it all 
like the date, the 31? 

972
00:53:11,700 --> 00:53:17,500
I mean, all of that stuff. 
Tell you what my 31st birthday 

973
00:53:17,900 --> 00:53:21,200
be turned 30 this year. 31 after
that, we have to do something 

974
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:24,300
crazy and I think of a challenge
from a 31 birthday and we'll 

975
00:53:24,300 --> 00:53:28,600
have to regroup and go run at 31
mile marathon or something. 

976
00:53:28,900 --> 00:53:32,800
Wow, that would be awesome. 
Yeah, I'm all for it, man. 

977
00:53:32,900 --> 00:53:34,200
I'm all for it with Daniel, I 
can't. 

978
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:36,600
Thank you enough. 
Take the time, I truly, truly 

979
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:39,700
appreciate you sending that 
email to me and initiating this 

980
00:53:39,700 --> 00:53:42,400
conversation to begin with. 
I admire their story. 

981
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:44,300
I respect to story, I respect 
the hell out of you for what 

982
00:53:44,300 --> 00:53:46,000
you've done. 
If there's ever anything I can 

983
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,600
do to help in any form or 
fashion just let me know. 

984
00:53:49,200 --> 00:53:51,000
Yeah. 
Thanks I appreciate everything 

985
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:54,100
that you and Crystal do. 
I mean all you could do is just 

986
00:53:54,100 --> 00:53:56,100
keep I listen to all your 
podcast. 

987
00:53:56,100 --> 00:53:59,900
Keep making those bricks their 
big part of my diet and yeah, 

988
00:53:59,900 --> 00:54:02,300
just I thank you so much for 
having me on here. 

989
00:54:02,300 --> 00:54:04,800
I'm truly appreciate it. 
Absolutely man. 

990
00:54:04,900 --> 00:54:06,400
We'll take care and keep in 
touch brother. 

991
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:07,600
All right. 
Thank you.