1 00:00:00,100 --> 00:00:02,000 What's going on? Ladies and gents, Robert Sikes 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:06,400 keto Savage.com and today I have special repeat guests, Marcus, 3 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:20,500 Aurelius Anderson, Mindset Extravaganza is about to 4 00:00:20,500 --> 00:00:23,200 be undertaken. So without further Ado, how are 5 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:25,000 you man? Paradigm phenomenal? 6 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,700 I love talking to you and I like you said, our conversations are 7 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:32,200 always a enlightening. So I'm looking forward to get 8 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,600 another one of these and continue to many more in the 9 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:35,700 future. I agree man. 10 00:00:35,700 --> 00:00:37,000 I agree. That's always a pleasure 11 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:38,500 catching up with you. I feel like every time we get 12 00:00:38,500 --> 00:00:41,700 off the phone I feel much more just like at peace. 13 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:44,900 Peace with where I'm at in life, but then also much more, you 14 00:00:44,900 --> 00:00:47,200 know, excited and ramped up about where I'm going. 15 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,400 Like, it just is a mindset. I don't know. 16 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,200 It's like a reboot almost. Yeah. 17 00:00:51,300 --> 00:00:53,800 Yeah. We re download some software, 18 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:55,700 get some upgrades and then just keep pushing forward. 19 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,000 She chairman, do you remember the time frame of our last 20 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:00,700 podcast? We've talked several times since 21 00:01:00,700 --> 00:01:04,500 then, but I do remember, when we recorded the last one, was over 22 00:01:04,500 --> 00:01:06,900 a year ago, I believe. Wasn't it over a year ago. 23 00:01:07,700 --> 00:01:09,100 That wouldn't surprise me. It's been a while. 24 00:01:09,100 --> 00:01:11,700 It's been a minute. It's crazy because I know you've 25 00:01:11,900 --> 00:01:16,300 A lot, you know, happened to your life since then I've had a 26 00:01:16,300 --> 00:01:17,700 lot happened to me since then as well. 27 00:01:17,700 --> 00:01:20,900 I feel like I'm coming coming at you from a very different 28 00:01:21,100 --> 00:01:23,000 Foundation now than I was a year ago. 29 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:24,700 I was, I was still pretty broke a year ago. 30 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,400 Yeah. You you had tremendous success 31 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:32,400 and you've improved in Leaps and Bounds and many facets and I've 32 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,400 already told you about officially congratulations, on 33 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,100 your engagement, that's phenomenal, very happy for you 34 00:01:37,100 --> 00:01:42,000 and Crystal again, like you said, you've really expanded You 35 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:43,900 you're truly taking the entrepreneurial journey and now 36 00:01:43,900 --> 00:01:47,100 you are truly scaling. The Aikido brick is destroying 37 00:01:47,100 --> 00:01:50,200 it. You're a lot of the programs 38 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,200 that you have or just really revolutionizing what's going on 39 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,300 in the space and then it's really helping get to other 40 00:01:56,300 --> 00:01:58,600 people. You've run that Marathon since 41 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:04,200 we spoke the first time you really kind of dealt into a an 42 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,000 extended fast. Which again these are all the 43 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:08,900 ways that we really push ourselves and ask more of 44 00:02:08,900 --> 00:02:12,200 ourselves and if if we don't you know try to push the Is at least 45 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:14,900 in some capacity. It's really difficult for us to 46 00:02:14,900 --> 00:02:18,700 continue to evolve and you've absolutely did a phenomenal job, 47 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,300 you know, doing that over the last, you know, 12 months. 48 00:02:21,300 --> 00:02:24,400 So, I'm really impressed with you when I certainly appreciate 49 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,700 a man, but I definitely don't want this podcast be about me by 50 00:02:27,700 --> 00:02:30,000 any means, but I'm excited to hear what all you kept going on 51 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,400 because you've been, you've been just crushing it on the front as 52 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,000 well. Speaking of fast, you just 53 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,200 concluded your 5-day fast. So kind of give us some insight 54 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:41,100 actually before before we dump it, jump into the weeds here for 55 00:02:41,100 --> 00:02:43,500 anybody that has Has not heard of you has not listened to the 56 00:02:43,500 --> 00:02:46,100 prior podcast or doesn't know who you are. 57 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:49,700 Can you give us like a little quick bio on Marcus Aurelius 58 00:02:49,700 --> 00:02:52,300 Anderson? Absolutely, I'm Marcus release 59 00:02:52,300 --> 00:02:53,900 Anderson. I'm a tedx speaker. 60 00:02:53,900 --> 00:02:57,700 A keynote speaker, best-selling. Author of the book that get to 61 00:02:57,708 --> 00:03:00,600 diversity. My tedx talk is by the same name 62 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,200 that give to diversity and clearly, that's kind of what I 63 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:06,800 speak around. That's why in my wheelhouse, but 64 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,600 it really lends itself really well to leadership as well as 65 00:03:10,100 --> 00:03:11,600 being a personal development, of course. 66 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:15,700 Just a little bit of a back drop in 2012, always preparing to 67 00:03:15,700 --> 00:03:19,300 deploy with the US Army. I suffered a severe, spinal 68 00:03:19,300 --> 00:03:21,300 injury, a disc in my neck was ruptured. 69 00:03:22,100 --> 00:03:25,000 They send me to the hospital immediately because I was having 70 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:26,800 a hard time. Just breathing, I was paralyzed 71 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:31,400 from the neck down and when they operate on me, I lose me on the 72 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,400 operating table twice. So I Flatline completely. 73 00:03:34,700 --> 00:03:36,800 So when I wake up in the ICU, the doctors here a 74 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,600 congratulatory says, hey, you know, we launched you a couple 75 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:41,200 times, but you live to tell the tale mr. 76 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:44,100 Anderson But unfortunately, even though they were able to bring 77 00:03:44,100 --> 00:03:47,400 me back to the land of the living, I was told listen what 78 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:49,300 you have right now which is paralysis has but you're going 79 00:03:49,300 --> 00:03:50,500 to have for the rest of your life. 80 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:52,600 So start wrapping your mind around that. 81 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,300 And that's when I really kind of began my. 82 00:03:55,500 --> 00:03:57,800 There are many Falls and there are many injuries and many 83 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:00,200 adversities in our lives. But for me, that was the 84 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:03,800 probably the lowest point. And the must have followed were 85 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,100 when I really had to take a lot of deep soul-searching and 86 00:04:07,100 --> 00:04:10,800 brutally honest, reality checks and kind of call myself on my 87 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:14,100 own, you know, Yes, and that's when I really started kind of 88 00:04:14,108 --> 00:04:17,100 crawling back up and seeing what I was really made up because 89 00:04:17,700 --> 00:04:19,800 it's so interesting. And I saw this in the military. 90 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:22,700 I've seen this in martial arts is Canadian in training as well. 91 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,600 We all have these Concepts and we all have these beliefs about 92 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:29,900 what we think we'll do when we Face something hard and we 93 00:04:29,900 --> 00:04:33,400 assume from this precious vacuum which we live, that that's what 94 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,100 we're going to do. But there are many times that 95 00:04:36,100 --> 00:04:38,200 I've seen people that I thought that would be incredibly 96 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:40,000 resilient. I've seen them Buckle Under 97 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:42,900 Pressure, I've since I've seen Seen some people that I thought 98 00:04:42,900 --> 00:04:46,700 would never be able to get above and beyond any hardship and 99 00:04:46,700 --> 00:04:50,100 they've completely leveled up and and Rose to the occasion 100 00:04:50,300 --> 00:04:54,000 because of adversity. So it's very important to put 101 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:58,500 yourself within that tether often because if you don't do so 102 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,100 it's really, really easy to start lying to yourself in all 103 00:05:01,100 --> 00:05:03,400 of a sudden. Now, when you actually run into 104 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,800 something really difficult, you really don't know what you're 105 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,500 made of. And if you find out at the last 106 00:05:07,500 --> 00:05:09,500 second, it's almost like jumping, you know, falling in 107 00:05:09,508 --> 00:05:11,600 the water and then realizing, oh, I don't know how to swim. 108 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,100 It's too late. Now you have to already have 109 00:05:14,100 --> 00:05:18,000 this mentality built up within you and for my life between 110 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:21,100 martial arts and all kinds of other things I've been through. 111 00:05:21,500 --> 00:05:24,400 That's what actually ended up serving me and really helping me 112 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,800 get through my, my difficulty. And, and now that's a, that's 113 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:31,100 why I'm the man that you're speaking to you today about not, 114 00:05:31,100 --> 00:05:33,500 I love a man like I've got chills up and down my spine 115 00:05:33,500 --> 00:05:35,900 because we really do Vin to them on the first podcast to. 116 00:05:35,900 --> 00:05:38,300 So, if anyone has not heard that one highly, highly, highly 117 00:05:38,300 --> 00:05:41,600 recommend you listen to it, but I mean, I'm on the same page. 118 00:05:41,700 --> 00:05:46,500 100% agree with you like the adversity and just having having 119 00:05:46,500 --> 00:05:49,900 hard shit happened to you, is what defines you and makes you 120 00:05:50,300 --> 00:05:53,600 who you are and mold you into somebody that can actually be 121 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:57,400 resilient towards life. So I love it, man. 122 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:00,700 I love hearing stories of people that have just gone through hell 123 00:06:00,700 --> 00:06:03,900 and back. And I love putting myself 124 00:06:03,900 --> 00:06:06,100 through hell and back. Kind of like this magic, is 125 00:06:06,100 --> 00:06:09,400 this, you know, way almost, because I just know that anytime 126 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:13,000 I'm doing something that's hard. Coming better for it's almost to 127 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,600 a fault to the point where, like I'm doing things unnecessarily 128 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,100 hard but I'm not gonna like it. Always pays itself board. 129 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,300 I agree. And, you know, my book came out 130 00:06:23,300 --> 00:06:26,700 and then David Goggins book has come out a few months ago and 131 00:06:26,700 --> 00:06:30,000 it's really neat to because I had some people that came at me 132 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,100 sideways with this whole, you know, how is it virtually a 133 00:06:32,100 --> 00:06:34,500 gift? How can you think that and the 134 00:06:34,500 --> 00:06:36,500 people that are saying that are coming from a place, where 135 00:06:36,900 --> 00:06:39,300 they're either in hardship, or they don't want to face hardship 136 00:06:39,300 --> 00:06:41,600 and that's why that truth is not. 137 00:06:41,700 --> 00:06:45,000 Ring with them. But then David goggin has come 138 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:47,400 out recently which even when I was in the military we would 139 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:49,600 hear Whispers of his name. You know. 140 00:06:49,700 --> 00:06:52,200 Before you know you were in Pre Ranger school and you would hear 141 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,000 about it and you'd hear about this guy that was running until 142 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:58,600 his feet were breaking and he was pissing blood but that was 143 00:06:58,700 --> 00:07:02,000 what he needed. And the reality for him is he 144 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:05,400 had such deep seated demons that that was literally the only way 145 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:10,500 to truly exercise them from him. So like you say having that 146 00:07:10,500 --> 00:07:13,000 hardship is important. But hearing him come out and 147 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:18,100 hearing him come at such a very, you know, divisive kind of end 148 00:07:18,100 --> 00:07:20,400 of the spectrum. It really kind of helps people 149 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:24,000 see how important that is and just like you say, I was the 150 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,400 same way I push my body to a fault, I literally felt a lot of 151 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:31,800 issues and a lot of sympathy ology before my my fall as it 152 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:36,000 were, but I like you said, I my mind continually just push my 153 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:39,800 body because as a soldier as an entrepreneur we do not have the 154 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:41,600 luxury of who's saying to ourselves. 155 00:07:41,700 --> 00:07:43,600 Eggs. Elavil, I don't feel like doing 156 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,800 this for oval. I'm tired and it's an 157 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:49,900 interesting distinction. No, because for us, sometimes we 158 00:07:49,900 --> 00:07:52,900 understand this is just an emotion and I can control this. 159 00:07:52,900 --> 00:07:55,700 So I'm going to push through this, I don't have to want to do 160 00:07:55,700 --> 00:07:58,400 it to do it. I don't have to be in the mood 161 00:07:58,500 --> 00:08:00,200 to do these Sprint's, or to pick up this. 162 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,600 Wait to do it, but we can get through it. 163 00:08:04,100 --> 00:08:07,200 The other thing is there is kind of that cautionary aspect of 164 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:10,300 Footwear like you say, sometimes, you know, we don't 165 00:08:10,300 --> 00:08:13,200 want to do irreparable damage. But you know, Gardens forty 166 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,900 percent rule is absolutely in play and even if we can push 167 00:08:15,900 --> 00:08:20,700 ourselves to, you know, 41% of 42% or 43%, that compared to the 168 00:08:20,700 --> 00:08:24,000 average human being is, is above and beyond will ever experience 169 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,000 in their lifetime. I had really hoped to. 170 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:30,100 I've got David Goggins book, that's like the next step in my 171 00:08:30,100 --> 00:08:33,000 cue to listen to inaudible. We can't hurt me. 172 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:38,000 And I kind of wanted to listen to it before are recording 173 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:40,799 today, but the same time I almost didn't want to because I 174 00:08:40,799 --> 00:08:42,000 wanted to see what would happen. Happened. 175 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:45,900 And then kind of use that as momentum to go into the book, 176 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:48,500 but I mean your book is awesome as well. 177 00:08:48,500 --> 00:08:52,600 I mean, like, like I think when we met initially, I had just 178 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:55,200 finished reading the obstacles the way for the first time. 179 00:08:55,900 --> 00:08:59,200 I'm Ryan holiday and, and I had talked about that book on this 180 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:01,800 podcast multiple times. I'm sure my listeners are tired 181 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:06,700 of hearing me say it but that book your book and then I'm sure 182 00:09:06,900 --> 00:09:09,300 can't hurt me. But by Goggins is literally 183 00:09:09,300 --> 00:09:11,600 probably going to be my three trifecta. 184 00:09:11,700 --> 00:09:14,400 We're just getting in there and digging deep when you need to, 185 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,400 you know, that's exactly what it is and you'll get to see you 186 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,800 know, you get to hear the same theme but you get to hear it 187 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:22,100 from different from different points of view. 188 00:09:22,100 --> 00:09:27,900 And since you mentioned holiday and Goggins, you know, I would I 189 00:09:27,900 --> 00:09:29,800 feel that I'm sort of like a meeting between the both of them 190 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:31,500 because I tried to have that edge. 191 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:36,700 But I also try to have that cerebral capacity because if all 192 00:09:36,700 --> 00:09:39,400 you have is the intellectual component that's going to 193 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,400 alienate the people that are really about doing shit and had 194 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,900 the blue-collar work ethic and then the people that just want 195 00:09:44,900 --> 00:09:47,400 to push push through. If you don't have that edge and 196 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:49,900 if you don't have that, authentic reality, then it's not 197 00:09:49,900 --> 00:09:51,400 going to ring true with them and they're gonna be like, well, 198 00:09:51,408 --> 00:09:54,000 this guy is just talking about your flowery bullshit, that's 199 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:57,600 easy to say and and that's what separates, you know, that's 200 00:09:57,600 --> 00:09:59,400 where the rubber meets the road and that's when you can really 201 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:02,100 see what somebody's made of as opposed to somebody who's just 202 00:10:02,100 --> 00:10:05,500 trying to pontificate and wax poetic about something that they 203 00:10:05,500 --> 00:10:07,500 may, or may not have actually experienced themselves. 204 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,100 Yeah, 100% agree. A lot of mindset books, man, 205 00:10:10,100 --> 00:10:13,200 they, they are not. Relatable at all. 206 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:17,300 And I do they fill you up with a bunch of, you know, hoorah 207 00:10:17,300 --> 00:10:19,800 motivation, but nothing sticks. You know, like, nothing is 208 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:23,500 applicable that you can actually use on a day-to-day basis, which 209 00:10:23,500 --> 00:10:25,600 is one of the reasons I really like, you know, Ryan holidays 210 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:27,900 work. Because like, even if you're 211 00:10:28,100 --> 00:10:30,100 even if it's not something that's, you know, quote, unquote 212 00:10:30,100 --> 00:10:33,500 hard, like, even if it's not a insurmountable obstacle in your 213 00:10:33,500 --> 00:10:37,100 life, but if you just go through the day-to-day and then your you 214 00:10:37,100 --> 00:10:40,900 find yourself having you know, emotions are strong opinions 215 00:10:40,900 --> 00:10:44,000 towards something. That that could cause you to do 216 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:46,900 or say something that would not be optimal. 217 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:50,000 I mean, just simple, like I catch myself amongst all the 218 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:52,900 time, I'll get flustered over something, stupid and just 219 00:10:52,900 --> 00:10:55,800 minuscule, and then I'll like take a step back and recognize 220 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:57,900 that look. What just happened, is not 221 00:10:57,900 --> 00:11:00,400 making me have these emotions. I have complete control over my 222 00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:02,700 emotions. How I respond is totally within 223 00:11:02,700 --> 00:11:04,400 my own grasp. That's exactly it. 224 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:08,400 And almost like with meditation, you know, we're all practicing 225 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,500 stoics in some capacity. So there's never Perfection when 226 00:11:11,700 --> 00:11:14,500 Going to be completely stoic. And, and have this complete 227 00:11:14,500 --> 00:11:17,200 resilience mentally, and be able to just allow things to roll off 228 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:19,700 of us. But just like you said, it's, 229 00:11:19,900 --> 00:11:22,600 it's the exercise of catching yourself, and they bring new 230 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,600 about yourself back to that Center, you know, ends in and 231 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,100 taoism whatever it is, they call it. 232 00:11:27,100 --> 00:11:28,700 They talk about that. And that's exactly what it's 233 00:11:28,700 --> 00:11:31,000 about. There are going to be 234 00:11:31,100 --> 00:11:34,900 undulations of our of our emotions, but the idea is to be 235 00:11:34,900 --> 00:11:38,200 aware of them to be cognizant of them, and then not to allow them 236 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:40,500 to control us and understand that we're the ones that are in 237 00:11:40,500 --> 00:11:42,600 complete control. And having that radical 238 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:45,700 accountability is what really separates. 239 00:11:45,700 --> 00:11:48,000 Like I said people that are truly successful in the long run 240 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:51,400 compared to people that, you know, grind for a couple of 241 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:55,200 years and burnout or people the end up inadvertently just sort 242 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:58,200 of, you know, completely losing their their focus. 243 00:11:58,500 --> 00:12:01,200 And now it's impossible for them to get anything really, where it 244 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:02,900 should be in the amount of time that they have. 245 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,100 So, I absolutely agree. And that's the other thing to 246 00:12:06,100 --> 00:12:09,100 Goggins was so incredible. Because not only was he able to 247 00:12:09,100 --> 00:12:10,900 take that discipline because I've seen people that have apply 248 00:12:10,900 --> 00:12:13,700 discipline first. Him for example, in college, but 249 00:12:13,700 --> 00:12:15,800 they didn't have the physicality and then I've seen people that 250 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:19,700 are just animals as athletes that had this, you know, this 251 00:12:19,700 --> 00:12:21,500 natural inclination to be very physical. 252 00:12:21,700 --> 00:12:23,600 But yet, then when you put them in a position to say, okay, 253 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:25,200 well, we have to memorize this manual. 254 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,900 Get to study the ranger handbook to understand, how to Ambush 255 00:12:27,900 --> 00:12:30,800 correctly, that was their shortcoming. 256 00:12:31,100 --> 00:12:33,900 But for Goggins, he just took that ideal of discipline and 257 00:12:33,900 --> 00:12:35,700 says, listen I'm going to do this. 258 00:12:35,700 --> 00:12:38,200 When I do things physically, I'm going to do this when it comes 259 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:41,100 to the discipline of diet and then when it comes to learning 260 00:12:41,100 --> 00:12:44,200 something, I'm he you'll read about it and I'm sure you've 261 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:47,700 heard about it, but he talks about if he needs to to 262 00:12:47,700 --> 00:12:50,000 understand Emanuel. He had to get that manual. 263 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:53,700 He has to write out amongst all the material about 10 times to 264 00:12:53,700 --> 00:12:55,700 really. Truly get it into his hard drive 265 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:57,600 and he said, that's the only thing that he could do. 266 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:01,100 So even in the intellectual capacity, he was still using 267 00:13:01,100 --> 00:13:04,700 that resilience and that just work and just grinding it onto 268 00:13:04,700 --> 00:13:07,800 his, you know, to his brain. So that he could actually recall 269 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,300 it as needed under those times of stress. 270 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:14,500 And I've always wanted to be able to do those kind of things, 271 00:13:14,700 --> 00:13:16,500 but in my mind for a while, I thought that there was a 272 00:13:16,508 --> 00:13:20,500 separation but he is an incredible example, that really, 273 00:13:20,500 --> 00:13:24,300 really reinforces the idea that discipline as the overarching 274 00:13:24,900 --> 00:13:28,600 premise, in addition to, you know, mindset and some other 275 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,800 things, those are things that will they are evergreen. 276 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:35,100 They will always be correct, and they will never, they will never 277 00:13:35,700 --> 00:13:38,800 falter in the process. And that's why it's so important 278 00:13:38,900 --> 00:13:41,500 to exercise discipline, and so many different degrees. 279 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,900 He's so whether it be fasting, whether it be a cold shower, 280 00:13:43,900 --> 00:13:46,000 whether it be working out when you don't feel like it. 281 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:47,800 Whether it being getting up when you don't feel like it. 282 00:13:48,300 --> 00:13:51,500 We're again, like you said, having the ability to step back 283 00:13:51,500 --> 00:13:55,000 and look at either a conversation or somebody's view 284 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:59,300 on something, it is, you know, contrary to our own. 285 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,900 That's what allows us to really level up and continue to evolve 286 00:14:02,900 --> 00:14:06,100 as opposed to moving backwards. Because, if we're really honest 287 00:14:06,100 --> 00:14:08,300 with ourselves, we are either moving forward in some of these 288 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:10,100 capacities or we're moving backwards. 289 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,300 There is very little Raw emotion. 290 00:14:12,500 --> 00:14:16,100 And so we have to be very objective and keep ourselves 291 00:14:16,100 --> 00:14:19,100 with that kind of self auditing mindset to keep us going 292 00:14:19,100 --> 00:14:20,700 forward. I can play the angry, man. 293 00:14:20,700 --> 00:14:24,600 I think, I think a lot of people and I'm a big believer in the 294 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:28,700 fact that people should, you know, be very self-aware. 295 00:14:28,700 --> 00:14:31,100 I think people like a lot of self-awareness these days 296 00:14:31,100 --> 00:14:34,300 especially with like the dilution that, you know, social 297 00:14:34,300 --> 00:14:36,900 media, everything plays, but being truly self-aware and 298 00:14:36,900 --> 00:14:39,800 knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are and leveraging 299 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:43,100 your strengths and you So focusing on that rather than 300 00:14:43,100 --> 00:14:45,600 putting all the emphasis on your weaknesses is very key. 301 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,200 I'm all for that. But at the same time, there are 302 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:51,400 so many areas in life where, you know, you have to be able to 303 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:54,000 bring up those weaknesses and then being able to apply 304 00:14:54,500 --> 00:14:57,300 discipline towards those is going to be, you know, a 305 00:14:57,300 --> 00:14:58,900 Paramount importance, the middle. 306 00:14:58,900 --> 00:15:02,700 There's a lot of things that I do really well at and naturally 307 00:15:02,700 --> 00:15:06,100 gravitate towards. But those things in and of 308 00:15:06,100 --> 00:15:08,900 themselves would never be enough to give me the whole picture to 309 00:15:08,900 --> 00:15:11,600 succeed. To the to the level that I would 310 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:14,500 want to. So, I mean, like classic example 311 00:15:14,500 --> 00:15:17,400 be like, you know, making a website or learning how to edit 312 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:19,400 a YouTube video. That that is not something that 313 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:21,800 comes naturally to me. So I have to go in there and you 314 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:23,800 know, upon the discipline figure out how to do that. 315 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,100 Watch a bunch tutorial videos and just learn. 316 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:31,600 And so many people, you know, strive for a greater life or 317 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,400 something more in line with their passions. 318 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:37,000 Like they, they made to that desire to become a professional 319 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,100 athlete or something, but they don't know how to manage 320 00:15:39,100 --> 00:15:41,400 themselves in the market. So from a business perspective 321 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:43,800 they met have that natural Talent with the sport or 322 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:47,900 whatever they given you know trade is our skill said but you 323 00:15:47,900 --> 00:15:50,200 have to apply the discipline to the other areas in order to 324 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:53,200 bring that overall goal. Closer you absolutely have to. 325 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,400 And like you say, if your self-awareness isn't there, then 326 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:58,400 it's impossible for you to even be cognizant of the fact that 327 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:01,800 you're weak in one area. So I was talking to somebody, 328 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,400 not too long ago who are very good at just like you said, 329 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:07,600 they're very good at their profession, but then when I 330 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:09,700 pointed out, a couple of places where they were changing their 331 00:16:09,700 --> 00:16:13,000 armor, They can improve, they wanted to just sort of, you 332 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:16,700 know, disallow that they wanted to dismiss it but that in and of 333 00:16:16,700 --> 00:16:19,100 itself is shows that that's where they need to work. 334 00:16:19,500 --> 00:16:23,100 And again just like with the website or whatever it is if you 335 00:16:23,100 --> 00:16:24,900 can write a check and let somebody else take care of it, 336 00:16:24,900 --> 00:16:26,500 that's fine. But there is a tremendous amount 337 00:16:26,500 --> 00:16:29,800 of edification that you get from trying to do it yourself and the 338 00:16:30,100 --> 00:16:34,300 importance of that is just like with, again, like the prince 339 00:16:34,300 --> 00:16:36,900 reading about Machiavelli. Are this kind of ideals? 340 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,500 We need to read those types of things, not necessarily because 341 00:16:39,500 --> 00:16:43,400 we had that It that mentality that idea of trying to you know, 342 00:16:43,500 --> 00:16:46,500 screw somebody over as it were or be just ruthless in business 343 00:16:46,900 --> 00:16:50,300 but we need to be aware of that so that we don't get victimized 344 00:16:50,300 --> 00:16:52,400 by it as well. It's the same thing when you're 345 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:54,200 if you have that knowledge that you were talking about the 346 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:56,800 website. Now if you go to somebody else's 347 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:59,700 website or if you go to somebody who sent you to there's you have 348 00:16:59,700 --> 00:17:02,200 the wherewithal and you have this knowledge to be able to say 349 00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:04,300 yeah well I can tell that this was you know kind of thrown 350 00:17:04,300 --> 00:17:09,800 together haphazardly on you know WordPress and that kind of tells 351 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:12,599 you a little A bit of where their priorities are, but if you 352 00:17:12,599 --> 00:17:14,800 see someone and you look at you like man, this thing is smooth 353 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:17,300 is very user-friendly. Like, the way transitions, you 354 00:17:17,300 --> 00:17:20,000 see, at least that person was smart enough to have somebody 355 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:23,400 else that can do the work, that maybe they aren't as inclined. 356 00:17:23,500 --> 00:17:25,800 I completely agree, man, what do you think? 357 00:17:26,300 --> 00:17:29,800 Like I know this has been a keen interest in my leg because you 358 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:32,400 know I feel like I'm very self-aware. 359 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:34,900 I feel like I've got a pretty good grasp on where my 360 00:17:34,900 --> 00:17:39,600 weaknesses are and you know can then act on improving upon them 361 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,300 but And maybe I'm just totally oblivious and I'm not self-aware 362 00:17:43,300 --> 00:17:44,400 at all. It's impossible. 363 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:50,200 But how did, how does one go about recognizing and being 364 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:51,400 self-aware? Like, we all know that 365 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:53,400 self-awareness is important but there's so many people. 366 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:57,000 I feel like that are just delusional and there seems to I 367 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:59,300 mean, I don't know how I would even explain to somebody, okay? 368 00:17:59,300 --> 00:18:01,700 This is how you become self-aware. 369 00:18:01,700 --> 00:18:05,800 Like what, what is the the roadmap to self-awareness so to 370 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:06,800 speak? Because there's a lot of people 371 00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:09,800 that would benefit from knowing how they are actually. 372 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,400 Viewed in society and what their actual weaknesses are as opposed 373 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:14,900 to where they, you know, have these these, you know, 374 00:18:14,900 --> 00:18:16,900 self-imposed thoughts that may not be anchoring. 375 00:18:16,900 --> 00:18:19,700 Yes and that's a great place to start and we can start from 376 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:22,300 macro or micro but usually it's easier to start from like a very 377 00:18:22,300 --> 00:18:26,100 small thing and then move out Ed my let, he's an incredible 378 00:18:26,100 --> 00:18:29,400 entrepreneur, the Mi light show, max out, the book, best-selling 379 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,100 author, incredible, incredible entrepreneur. 380 00:18:32,100 --> 00:18:34,700 And he made a comment. He was talking about. 381 00:18:35,500 --> 00:18:37,400 There were a lot of people that will go through these kind of 382 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:39,900 things and they'll try to do so many things. 383 00:18:40,100 --> 00:18:43,400 All at one time, but and he was saying how a lot of the thoughts 384 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:47,500 that we have in our mind around 85 to 90% of them, the thoughts, 385 00:18:47,500 --> 00:18:50,500 and the actions that we do are almost on autopilot. 386 00:18:50,900 --> 00:18:53,700 So for a lot of us, we had this default settings, we get up in 387 00:18:53,700 --> 00:18:57,400 the morning, we could coffee, you know, we check email, social 388 00:18:57,400 --> 00:18:59,300 media, whatever it is, we cannot do that without thinking about 389 00:18:59,300 --> 00:19:00,800 it. So if you want to talk about 390 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:03,300 your self-awareness and see where you're at, look at the 391 00:19:03,300 --> 00:19:06,900 things that you do every day on autopilot and see where you 392 00:19:06,900 --> 00:19:09,900 stand with that step back and take a good hard look and say, 393 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:11,900 Say, you know, am I even enjoy my coffee? 394 00:19:11,900 --> 00:19:13,700 Can I even taste it? Really because if you're 395 00:19:13,700 --> 00:19:15,400 drinking your coffee, while you're on the phone and doing 396 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:18,400 something on the computer, you really not even tasting that 397 00:19:18,500 --> 00:19:20,800 that coffee. If you're working out and you're 398 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:24,400 thinking about something else, you may not be focusing on that 399 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:27,100 mind-muscle connection nearly as much as you probably could have. 400 00:19:27,500 --> 00:19:31,300 And the overlying concept for all these things is to have the 401 00:19:31,300 --> 00:19:34,400 the idea of quality over quantity in all that we do. 402 00:19:35,100 --> 00:19:37,800 So have quality in this conversation have quality and 403 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:41,300 your your attention level. Quality in the food that you 404 00:19:41,300 --> 00:19:43,300 consume have quality in the movements that you do. 405 00:19:43,300 --> 00:19:46,100 When you work out, you're going to get a hell of a lot more out 406 00:19:46,100 --> 00:19:48,200 of doing one all outset to failure. 407 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:51,300 If you have complete mind-muscle connection compared to doing, 408 00:19:51,300 --> 00:19:53,600 you know, five-pump sets where you're really not getting a 409 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,100 whole lot out of it. So that would be the place that 410 00:19:56,100 --> 00:19:58,400 I was started as just start examining the things that you do 411 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:01,100 every day that you kind of do without thinking about and then 412 00:20:01,100 --> 00:20:05,200 find the presence in that and by doing that that will help you 413 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:07,700 see presence that everything else that you do and then you 414 00:20:07,700 --> 00:20:09,900 can expand and everything else if it's a conversation. 415 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,300 Ation, you have every morning. If you see your significant 416 00:20:12,300 --> 00:20:14,100 others say, Hey, you can morning or how are you? 417 00:20:14,300 --> 00:20:16,200 It's a fine. Stop for a second. 418 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:18,200 And look, look at her body language. 419 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,600 Are they fine? Are they just saying it and then 420 00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:23,900 kind of a lot to dictate the rest of your behavior from that. 421 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:26,700 So just taking a small examination at those ideals 422 00:20:26,700 --> 00:20:29,200 would give you a pretty good indication where your level of 423 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:32,300 self-awareness is or probably areas where you can improve as 424 00:20:32,300 --> 00:20:33,700 well. So it seems like it has like a 425 00:20:33,708 --> 00:20:36,500 pretty pretty close parallel to just being present so 426 00:20:36,500 --> 00:20:40,600 self-awareness and being in the moment, kind of Then hand. 427 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:47,100 What about as it relates to your place in like a community or 428 00:20:47,100 --> 00:20:48,900 like Society? So to speak like that, this is 429 00:20:48,900 --> 00:20:53,000 a, this is a tricky topic because, you know, part of me is 430 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,100 on the side of look, I don't care what anybody else thinks. 431 00:20:56,100 --> 00:20:59,300 I'm just going to do me. Put my head down and work. 432 00:20:59,300 --> 00:21:02,200 And the other part of me is like I care what everybody thinks 433 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:06,200 because you know we're all a networking, you know, unit 434 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:09,600 machine and the more efficient all those moving parts and 435 00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:11,300 pieces. Has you know flowing work 436 00:21:11,300 --> 00:21:13,600 together the better. So it's kind of like you know 437 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,900 two sides of the same coin. Yeah it can be a slippery slope 438 00:21:16,900 --> 00:21:20,100 and a lot of times you have to do kind of a combination of both 439 00:21:20,100 --> 00:21:21,900 just like what you were discussing because his two sides 440 00:21:21,900 --> 00:21:25,300 of the same coin. I have to be able to work 441 00:21:25,300 --> 00:21:28,000 ruthlessly and focus on my own things. 442 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,500 But what I have to do is I also had to make sure that I have 443 00:21:30,500 --> 00:21:33,900 some sort of ethos or some sort of, you know, compost at this 444 00:21:33,900 --> 00:21:35,200 pushes me in the right direction. 445 00:21:35,700 --> 00:21:40,100 So if my idea is to become successful financially I have I 446 00:21:40,100 --> 00:21:42,700 understand that with that, I'm able to use that money to 447 00:21:42,700 --> 00:21:44,200 leverage it towards something else. 448 00:21:44,500 --> 00:21:47,300 So for example, every nonprofit that's ever asked me to come 449 00:21:47,300 --> 00:21:50,300 speak. Their goal is to be able to 450 00:21:50,500 --> 00:21:53,500 bring me in, to be able to raise money for their service. 451 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:58,500 Having said that, if I have the, the wherewithal financially to 452 00:21:58,500 --> 00:22:00,800 be able to write it, write them a check and give that to them. 453 00:22:01,100 --> 00:22:03,400 Now, I'm able to do more good with that in the process. 454 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,800 So understanding where I stand in the environment like you were 455 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,300 saying. But also seeing, you know, being 456 00:22:09,300 --> 00:22:11,200 able to look up. Enough and say okay, where can I 457 00:22:11,208 --> 00:22:14,000 do the most good work and I contribute, where can I help? 458 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,300 And then, where is an area that again? 459 00:22:16,300 --> 00:22:19,300 We talk about networks. There are so many things that we 460 00:22:19,300 --> 00:22:22,400 could get done, if we can reach out to our Network and ask, you 461 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:25,900 know, maybe second or third Hanley if they understand, you 462 00:22:25,900 --> 00:22:28,100 know, something that we could do to try to improve whatever this 463 00:22:28,100 --> 00:22:31,100 is, it's it's incredible. Where we can do the same thing 464 00:22:31,100 --> 00:22:33,800 with everything from like during the holidays, or with homeless 465 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,700 veterans. There's a lot that can be done. 466 00:22:35,700 --> 00:22:38,600 So we have to be able to take care of ourselves. 467 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,000 You know, kind of kind of the You're putting the oxygen mask 468 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,200 on ourselves before we're trying to help other people out. 469 00:22:43,500 --> 00:22:47,100 It's a, it's difficult to pour from an empty vessel, so we have 470 00:22:47,100 --> 00:22:49,600 to maintain our own, you know, structural Integrity, as it 471 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,800 were, to allow us to capacity to be able to help others in the 472 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:54,600 long run. So that's it. 473 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,300 And again, it is a slippery slope because for most of us, I 474 00:22:57,300 --> 00:23:00,500 think you're the same way. I am, we're very much about 475 00:23:00,500 --> 00:23:03,400 extremes. Moderation does not behoove us. 476 00:23:03,700 --> 00:23:06,000 And so lots of times you have to once a month. 477 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,300 What I do is I had these five different circles and I look at 478 00:23:08,300 --> 00:23:10,400 these different areas. So like a I look at my own 479 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,400 personal development, like, at my financial development with my 480 00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:14,400 business. I look at my physical 481 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,400 capacities, I look at my relationships, and I look at my 482 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,700 spiritual awareness, and at any given time and these five 483 00:23:20,700 --> 00:23:23,900 circles, I can look back. I'm a month and maybe I crushed 484 00:23:23,900 --> 00:23:26,900 it business, but maybe my workout slip, or maybe my 485 00:23:26,900 --> 00:23:29,300 business, my workouts were awesome that maybe my personal 486 00:23:29,300 --> 00:23:32,600 development wasn't there. Or, you know, maybe I was able 487 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:34,900 to spend a lot of time in those three areas but then I didn't 488 00:23:34,900 --> 00:23:37,200 get to spend time with my family or my relationship slipped. 489 00:23:37,700 --> 00:23:39,700 If you can do this this will kind of help you. 490 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,600 Back and have a very objective idea of where you stand and you 491 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,000 remove the emotion from it. Because you're just looking at 492 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,300 this, like then diagram this on paper and by doing so that 493 00:23:49,300 --> 00:23:52,400 allows you to have a very truly stoic rationalize. 494 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,100 Look at what's going on as opposed to trying to justify our 495 00:23:55,108 --> 00:23:57,800 Behavior, either in a positive or negative capacity. 496 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,700 Whether this is this is really project managers. 497 00:23:59,700 --> 00:24:01,500 So what are your five circles again? 498 00:24:01,500 --> 00:24:03,600 Because I'm getting something very similar of like these five 499 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,300 pillars that I try and you know, Focus my efforts on. 500 00:24:06,300 --> 00:24:09,500 So what are your five? The first one is just in the 501 00:24:09,900 --> 00:24:12,300 Different ways to go about it but we can talk about business 502 00:24:12,300 --> 00:24:15,100 and finances and I put those in one Circle and all these 503 00:24:15,100 --> 00:24:17,000 circles, you can break them up into different things. 504 00:24:17,300 --> 00:24:18,900 You could actually say businesses one and then 505 00:24:18,900 --> 00:24:21,000 financials another, because if you don't own your own business 506 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,700 you may be thinking. Okay about investing. 507 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,700 So that's one Circle, personal development is another Circle. 508 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,200 So that's about what I'm doing to make myself, you know, better 509 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,800 in a person development capacity, the physical capacity. 510 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:37,500 So and and within that, that diagram, I always think about my 511 00:24:37,500 --> 00:24:38,800 workouts. I think about my diet. 512 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,300 I think about fasting. And then my relationships is why 513 00:24:42,308 --> 00:24:44,200 I look at as well. Looking at my relationship with 514 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,500 my significant other or people in my family or people within my 515 00:24:47,500 --> 00:24:50,400 network. And that I also look at just 516 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:53,200 what I'm doing for myself, what I'm doing to educate myself. 517 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:57,900 So if I'm trying to learn more in the specific arena for a 518 00:24:57,900 --> 00:25:02,000 skill set or if I'm trying to get better at something, that I 519 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:04,900 know that I'm slipping on those kind of things, helped me a lot. 520 00:25:05,700 --> 00:25:09,600 And what that does is like, I said, lots of times, I'll pour 521 00:25:09,900 --> 00:25:12,100 My energy into a couple of those hookers or three of those 522 00:25:12,100 --> 00:25:15,200 circles and then realize that I have to continue to come back to 523 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,900 these other ones. So again it's not always going 524 00:25:17,900 --> 00:25:22,000 to be balanced, but it's should be at least about having some 525 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,700 sort of consistent, lack of balance to be able to, you know, 526 00:25:25,700 --> 00:25:27,600 create some sort of balance overall, when it's all said and 527 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,500 done. I'm really just like a perfect 528 00:25:29,500 --> 00:25:31,400 segue minimum at the just jump on it while it's there. 529 00:25:31,500 --> 00:25:36,200 But I want to, I want to pick your brain on the subject of 530 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,600 balance, because I am kind of, I don't know. 531 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,900 Like I've got the Five Pillars similar to yours. 532 00:25:41,900 --> 00:25:43,600 I'm probably can't think of them on the spot. 533 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:48,100 But I think like, career /, business finances, one, you 534 00:25:48,100 --> 00:25:50,500 know, family friends. Relationships is one 535 00:25:50,900 --> 00:25:56,100 spirituality, whatever that may be for the individual as one and 536 00:25:56,100 --> 00:25:58,500 then like health and nutrition is one. 537 00:25:59,100 --> 00:26:02,300 And then she was my, my fifth one self development, I think 538 00:26:02,300 --> 00:26:04,300 was my fifth one. So basically, pretty similar to 539 00:26:04,300 --> 00:26:09,300 yours and I'd try and do something towards all of those 540 00:26:09,300 --> 00:26:12,200 five. I've and, and you know, each 541 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,200 chapter of your life is very different or often times, it is 542 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,200 very different. So like when I was broke and 543 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,500 didn't live close to family and I was, you know, trying to build 544 00:26:19,500 --> 00:26:23,100 a business and just basically lock myself away and grind, you 545 00:26:23,100 --> 00:26:26,100 know, every other aspect suffered except maybe my 546 00:26:26,100 --> 00:26:28,100 training that was pretty good. But like my family, my 547 00:26:28,100 --> 00:26:30,100 relationships, all that was just down the tubes. 548 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:35,600 And I don't necessarily think that I could have gone as far in 549 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,100 business, at that time. If I had tried to have a sense 550 00:26:38,100 --> 00:26:40,900 of balanced amongst all five pillars, Because you know, 551 00:26:40,900 --> 00:26:43,400 you're going to find points on your life, where you have to 552 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:48,100 pull from the interest earned. So to speak in the other other 553 00:26:48,100 --> 00:26:52,200 pillars, other circles in order to bring you, no lagging ones 554 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:53,600 up, at least, that's what I think. 555 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,700 I feel like they can't all be balanced at all times. 556 00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,600 So, I've kind of adopted this, this mentality of, you know, 557 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:03,700 focus on those those five core elements of your life or 558 00:27:03,708 --> 00:27:08,000 whatever those may be for you, but then balance itself is kind 559 00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:10,000 of bullshit. Like, I don't think, I think His 560 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,900 bullshit. You know, like so many people 561 00:27:11,900 --> 00:27:17,000 seek balance in life and I feel like you're going to get a lot 562 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:20,500 farther, a lot more efficiently if you kind of have an extremist 563 00:27:20,500 --> 00:27:25,500 mentality and you just go all in and then work on that, as 564 00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:28,500 opposed to trying to equally bring all levels and all aspects 565 00:27:28,500 --> 00:27:30,900 of your life up simultaneously, if that makes sense. 566 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,700 You've read my book. So you hear about my idea of 567 00:27:33,700 --> 00:27:36,300 what a true priority is compared to what everybody else does. 568 00:27:36,700 --> 00:27:38,400 And these five colors are important. 569 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:42,100 These five circles are very But again, even within those five, 570 00:27:42,100 --> 00:27:46,900 we can really only focus our most energy on maybe two or 571 00:27:46,900 --> 00:27:50,700 three of them. So, just like you're saying and 572 00:27:50,700 --> 00:27:53,000 just like, you were saying before with business, it's very, 573 00:27:53,500 --> 00:27:56,400 you know, are our priorities what we shift and undulate, as 574 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,900 are our careers and our lives develop. 575 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,600 So what you do at 25 compared to what you do at 35, or probably 576 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,000 going to be different, they're all going to be important. 577 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,400 But hopefully you from a business standpoint, you want 578 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,400 constantly have to be grinding 16 hours a day The way you did 579 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,100 when you were younger. And that's where we have to find 580 00:28:13,100 --> 00:28:15,600 that medium. And just like, with in my book, 581 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:20,000 I talk about this when it comes to any of these things when it 582 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:23,700 comes to being successful, people say it's a marathon and 583 00:28:23,700 --> 00:28:26,500 then people say that it is a Sprint but the reality is it is 584 00:28:26,500 --> 00:28:30,300 a marathon and the Sprint is a marathon of Sprints. 585 00:28:30,900 --> 00:28:32,900 So you're going to have to sprint in a couple of these 586 00:28:32,900 --> 00:28:35,400 Arenas quickly. Very hard for those two or three 587 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,200 things. So again with business, maybe 588 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,700 relationships and maybe some of your workouts me Be compromised 589 00:28:40,700 --> 00:28:42,600 slightly, but that's what's necessary. 590 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,300 And then again life happens. So if you're working really hard 591 00:28:45,300 --> 00:28:48,700 on your business and your, your physical physicality is in great 592 00:28:48,700 --> 00:28:50,700 shape and then there's a death in your family. 593 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,300 Well, you know what? That kind of stops a record for 594 00:28:53,300 --> 00:28:55,100 a second. You have to really address this. 595 00:28:55,100 --> 00:28:57,200 You don't really have the option with the opportunity to decide 596 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,600 that you don't want to deal with that, that have to be taken care 597 00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:00,500 of. That's a fire that has to be 598 00:29:00,500 --> 00:29:03,600 taken out right now. And then hopefully, once that's 599 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:05,800 taken care of, of course, you're going to be a lot of 600 00:29:05,808 --> 00:29:09,000 repercussions from that, but the idea is to try to refocus and 601 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,700 then we double your efforts. Back into those things so that 602 00:29:11,700 --> 00:29:13,600 marathon and that's pretty mentality. 603 00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:18,200 Have to go hand-in-hand. And we can't always do one or 604 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:19,700 the other as well as who is like to. 605 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,400 But again, by being able to go through and re-evaluated or, you 606 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,700 know, having goals that are consistent, that are measurable, 607 00:29:26,100 --> 00:29:28,100 that's the key. And without those things, it's 608 00:29:28,100 --> 00:29:31,300 really easy for us to get kind of caught up in the semantics or 609 00:29:31,300 --> 00:29:34,800 chase our tails, and that's where so many people get lost. 610 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:38,200 It was so important to have, I talk about goal setting, the 611 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,500 idea with the goal is a goal is only as attainable as it is 612 00:29:41,500 --> 00:29:44,200 specific. So how many people, I mean, 613 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:45,900 we're in February. Now, how many people do we In 614 00:29:45,900 --> 00:29:47,800 January, the city want to be in better shape. 615 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:49,500 They want to make more money and they want to feel better about 616 00:29:49,500 --> 00:29:51,400 themselves. All those things are great but 617 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,200 they're vague at best. If you tell me that you want to 618 00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,800 lose 10 pounds of if you want to lose 10 pounds of fat, if you 619 00:29:56,800 --> 00:30:00,400 want to gain muscle, if you want to be and you know, lift, you 620 00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:03,700 know, 315 and you wanted to make an extra 20 grand a month. 621 00:30:04,100 --> 00:30:06,600 Now, those are very specific ideas and those are measurable 622 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,500 and once they're measurable and we have a deadline. 623 00:30:08,700 --> 00:30:11,600 Now we can reverse engineer and hold ourselves accountable but 624 00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:17,200 with that kind of mentality your again sort of wishing at best 625 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:21,000 and being a wish, which prettier wish whisper preneur. 626 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,300 So to speak is not going to help you get any further in business. 627 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:26,800 No, I totally agree, man. I've always kind of I like New 628 00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,200 Year's because I feel like it he gives, you know it at least in 629 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,700 my mind, I kind of like wipes, the Slate clean and I can you 630 00:30:32,700 --> 00:30:36,300 know, re-attack all the white boards and and notebooks that 631 00:30:36,300 --> 00:30:38,600 I've gotten the office with just like this new Zeal. 632 00:30:38,700 --> 00:30:42,400 But I've always kind of strayed away from the idea of having a, 633 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:43,800 you know, quote, unquote resolution. 634 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:47,300 So to speak. I try and think Of goals, and 635 00:30:47,300 --> 00:30:51,300 Visions more in the terms of like themes, like each year as a 636 00:30:51,300 --> 00:30:54,200 theme and everything. I do in that year has been 637 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,400 moving me closer and in line with that theme in some form or 638 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,900 fashion, but that's much more sustainable. 639 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:04,500 And actionable than just like a, an arbitrary resolution that 640 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,200 anybody anybody can wish for and people don't even realize what 641 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,200 the word resolution means. They, that means there's 642 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,800 something that's on Rizal. So if you're doing a New Year's 643 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,300 resolution that means that you have an entire year of stuff 644 00:31:15,300 --> 00:31:18,100 that is, Been unresolved. And if it's taken you 12 months 645 00:31:18,100 --> 00:31:20,100 to resolve something, then that's something you should have 646 00:31:20,100 --> 00:31:22,400 already figured out. So, like you said having this 647 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,800 theme or having, you know, a couple of, you know, a quarter 648 00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:28,100 quarterly ideals or whatever it may be, that's in my mind, a 649 00:31:28,108 --> 00:31:32,600 lot, that helps you push a lot further a lot faster and the 650 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:34,400 classic, you know, entrepreneurial question of, how 651 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:38,100 can I achieve my 5 year goals, in six months, that really makes 652 00:31:38,100 --> 00:31:39,800 you compress time? That really opens up your 653 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,700 thinking and that really gives you a chance to get shit done as 654 00:31:42,700 --> 00:31:44,800 opposed to saying. Well, you know, this year, I 655 00:31:44,808 --> 00:31:46,500 didn't make what I wanted. Like the next year will be 656 00:31:46,500 --> 00:31:48,000 different. It's like well if you don't 657 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,000 change what you did last year, chances are this coming year, 658 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,000 won't be any different either. So there's that brutal reality 659 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,200 as well as having that courageous optimism 660 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:57,700 simultaneously to push you forward. 661 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,500 Please Angry completely. I'm gonna I've got a question 662 00:32:00,500 --> 00:32:03,700 for you here and I don't know the best way to even word this 663 00:32:03,700 --> 00:32:07,200 and I'm going to use like bodybuilding for me as my as my 664 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,200 vehicle to illustrate this but I'm curious to see what you'll 665 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:13,200 say. So with with bodybuilding as 666 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,700 with most things in life, you know, it's the Out of, you know, 667 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,500 constant consistent disciplined effort over years and years and 668 00:32:20,500 --> 00:32:24,600 years. However, in moments of like 669 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:29,900 contest prep or just really Extreme Action. 670 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,900 When I'm on the total opposite in the Spectrum and I'm just 671 00:32:32,900 --> 00:32:36,700 going all-in and I kind of like just get into this dark place. 672 00:32:37,100 --> 00:32:38,900 I love that. I love that. 673 00:32:38,900 --> 00:32:41,100 I love it. It makes me feel like I'm alive, 674 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,900 but at the same time, it's very damaging and that really 675 00:32:44,900 --> 00:32:48,800 sustainable and Gets in my head in a very negative way. 676 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:52,800 Like it's so incredibly positive, but it's also got like 677 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:55,700 the same strength towards negativity. 678 00:32:55,900 --> 00:32:59,300 And I love it. Empowers me, but I feel like it. 679 00:32:59,700 --> 00:33:03,100 It's damaging for the long term and I'm sure a lot of people can 680 00:33:03,100 --> 00:33:06,000 relate with this, with whatever. They're given thing is, you 681 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:10,700 know, whatever that may be. But this year I'm considering 682 00:33:10,700 --> 00:33:13,300 taking a different approach towards like my next competition 683 00:33:13,300 --> 00:33:15,500 prep, I'll be prepping for a show early. 684 00:33:15,700 --> 00:33:17,100 Next year. So I'll start prepping the 685 00:33:17,100 --> 00:33:19,800 latter part of this year. But for the first time, I've 686 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,100 started tracking my workouts, I've started, you know taking a 687 00:33:23,100 --> 00:33:26,600 much more numerical measured approach as opposed to just 688 00:33:27,100 --> 00:33:31,100 being instinctive and getting in my head and like for instance 689 00:33:31,100 --> 00:33:35,500 rather than doing a set until absolute failure and then doing 690 00:33:35,500 --> 00:33:39,000 another 10 reps that sacrifice form and just like pushes me to 691 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:43,700 that you know, Insanity level, I'm only doing you know, one or 692 00:33:43,700 --> 00:33:45,600 two reps beyond what I did last week. 693 00:33:46,300 --> 00:33:52,100 And I'm curious to see if having a much more modest much more 694 00:33:52,100 --> 00:33:58,000 measured approach is going to be advantageous from a long game 695 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:03,100 perspective or it's hard for me man because I want I feel weak. 696 00:34:03,100 --> 00:34:06,400 I feel like pathetic if I don't push myself to that Instagram, 697 00:34:06,900 --> 00:34:09,100 but at the end of the day, I have to look and see what is 698 00:34:09,100 --> 00:34:12,100 going to provide the best most favorable outcome. 699 00:34:12,699 --> 00:34:17,800 And I'm curious to see if it's the Intense, more sustainable 700 00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,400 method or the balls to the wall, I think it's going to have to be 701 00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,500 a sort of a marriage of both of those and it's important like 702 00:34:24,500 --> 00:34:26,800 what you're talking about now to be able to do that. 703 00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,600 Because we see so many people that are very dogmatic in their 704 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:34,500 mentality when when Arthur Jones and like men sir and even during 705 00:34:34,500 --> 00:34:38,199 a case to a certain extent we're preaching sort of the antithesis 706 00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:39,699 of what everybody else was talking about where they're 707 00:34:39,699 --> 00:34:42,600 talking about a couple of sets to True muscular failure. 708 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,500 And then allowing the body recover, that was that flew in 709 00:34:45,500 --> 00:34:48,900 the face of the Idea of you know, two hours workouts with 710 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,500 set after set up for Seth trying to chase the pump or whatever. 711 00:34:51,900 --> 00:34:55,500 So the beautiful thing about the way you think is you're thinking 712 00:34:55,500 --> 00:34:58,300 of it just like you're talking about, this is Antiquated, I'm 713 00:34:58,300 --> 00:35:02,400 looking I'm collecting data. This is an experimentation, you 714 00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:04,300 know what, work before we're going to go with this and we're 715 00:35:04,300 --> 00:35:07,100 going to see where we stand at the end of the prep and by 716 00:35:07,100 --> 00:35:11,000 keeping your emotion out of it and being Logistics logistical 717 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,600 about it. That's where it's, you're going 718 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,700 to get a lot of material. Even if you don't do as well as 719 00:35:15,700 --> 00:35:17,300 you want, To now you would like, you know what? 720 00:35:17,300 --> 00:35:19,900 Now I know now there's no question in your mind because if 721 00:35:19,900 --> 00:35:24,800 you just Without any kind of, you know, any kind of thought 722 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,600 behind it. If you just like, would grind 723 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:29,000 year after year, after year. And now your turn up, your 724 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:30,400 shoulders, your knees or your back. 725 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:34,100 And now it's unsustainable. When if you think back on your 726 00:35:34,100 --> 00:35:36,200 career and think, man, you know, I wish I would have taken one 727 00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,100 prep and just sit back and looked at it logically and 728 00:35:39,100 --> 00:35:41,800 taking the emotion out of it and just looked at it and said, you 729 00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:43,700 know what? Because I see what you're doing. 730 00:35:43,700 --> 00:35:46,700 I see it on your story on Instagram and stuff your PR in 731 00:35:46,700 --> 00:35:48,900 continually. It seems like every exercise 732 00:35:48,900 --> 00:35:51,100 that I see on there. Just like this is a on front 733 00:35:51,100 --> 00:35:52,900 squat, a funeral. Last one up here on this. 734 00:35:53,300 --> 00:35:56,400 So by coming out of from that Antiquated standpoint, I think 735 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,800 that's going to help you a lot. And then I also think that will 736 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:02,700 happen as we both know, as the prep gets more intense, you're 737 00:36:02,700 --> 00:36:04,700 going to have to be able to channel That Emotion, you're 738 00:36:04,700 --> 00:36:07,200 going to have to be able to channel that that savagery to 739 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,200 push you through. Don't want to go any further. 740 00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,500 So to be able to maintain the pace that you're doing. 741 00:36:11,500 --> 00:36:15,000 Now, you're going to have to be able to couple those together 742 00:36:15,300 --> 00:36:17,300 and coming from that standpoint is going to help you a lot. 743 00:36:17,300 --> 00:36:21,800 And again there's so many people that I've seen that are very We 744 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,500 see it in the gym all the time, this person that's doing the 745 00:36:23,500 --> 00:36:26,400 same work out the same way for the last three years and they 746 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,000 look exactly the same. They haven't changed their body, 747 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,100 the saying, they're doing, whatever it is. 748 00:36:31,500 --> 00:36:34,500 And lots of them are, you know, talking more than they are 749 00:36:34,500 --> 00:36:36,000 working on, and that's fine, that's up to them. 750 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,600 But their goals are clearly different than what yours are. 751 00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:41,700 So, it's important to have that self awareness. 752 00:36:41,700 --> 00:36:44,100 And a good look at yourself objectively, because you may 753 00:36:44,100 --> 00:36:46,700 find in six months, he may surprise yourself entirely. 754 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,200 So the darkness is very important because it's in us for 755 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:53,500 a reason every emotion We have within our bodies from love to 756 00:36:53,500 --> 00:36:56,900 hate, is there has been placed in us for a reason for, but and 757 00:36:56,900 --> 00:36:59,600 it was put there by God or the universe or whatever you believe 758 00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:03,300 in for a reason. So to completely divorce 759 00:37:03,300 --> 00:37:07,000 ourselves from these things, is that our own Peril because 760 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:09,600 again, that darkness is what helped me survive. 761 00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,700 That darkness is what helped me get through. 762 00:37:11,700 --> 00:37:15,000 What I went through, having said that, I see so many people to go 763 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,800 through adversity and they do one of two things, if you absorb 764 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,800 of adversity and you learn the lesson from it, you will We'll 765 00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,000 have exponentially increased amounts of empathy for other 766 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,700 people. You will be able to see a person 767 00:37:26,700 --> 00:37:28,200 who's fallen down and says, hey look at that. 768 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:31,100 We guess you know you're actually looking at this a man. 769 00:37:31,100 --> 00:37:32,300 I remember what it's like to fall down. 770 00:37:32,300 --> 00:37:34,400 I went to help them up or at least have empathy towards them. 771 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,200 There are other people that I've seen and I think we've all seen 772 00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,500 that have gone through tremendous hardships or at least 773 00:37:39,500 --> 00:37:42,700 their interpretation of what a tremendous hardship is to them, 774 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,800 because adversity is an individual thing. 775 00:37:44,900 --> 00:37:48,100 It's not a competition, it is objective to each of us. 776 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:49,800 I mean, it's subject to, I'm sorry. 777 00:37:50,900 --> 00:37:53,900 If we go through adversity and we don't learn the lesson then 778 00:37:53,900 --> 00:37:57,100 that is the set point and we will never develop beyond that. 779 00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,500 So these are the people that are emotionally angry all the time. 780 00:38:00,500 --> 00:38:02,500 These are the people that have chronic pain. 781 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,700 These are the people that are pessimistic about all things and 782 00:38:04,700 --> 00:38:06,900 they're the people that are telling you, man. 783 00:38:06,900 --> 00:38:08,900 I must be easy. You know, it's nice to, you 784 00:38:08,900 --> 00:38:11,000 know, wow, look at you must be nice to be able to own your own 785 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,500 business and be successful. Well, they don't see what you 786 00:38:13,500 --> 00:38:15,600 went through, but all they do is they're just looking at where 787 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:19,100 their hardship is and because they allowed that poison to 788 00:38:19,100 --> 00:38:21,800 really just stay in them. We're going to go beyond that 789 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,400 and so whether they be 20 years old or 70 years old, they're 790 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,700 going to live that existence for the rest of their days until 791 00:38:27,700 --> 00:38:32,500 they understand the being and that that darkness is not going 792 00:38:32,500 --> 00:38:36,200 to serve them long-term. And Tom, will you talks about 793 00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,100 it? He calls it the 80/20 ideal of 794 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:42,700 20% Darkness 80% positivity, because he calls that Darkness 795 00:38:42,700 --> 00:38:45,300 very corrosive and I think that's a pretty good word for it 796 00:38:45,300 --> 00:38:48,400 because it in the end it kind of destroys us from the inside out 797 00:38:48,500 --> 00:38:50,400 if we're not able to temporarily something important. 798 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,600 Positive. He's had a lot of really good. 799 00:38:52,900 --> 00:38:56,200 Really good gyms in there, man. Like I this this is good for me. 800 00:38:56,200 --> 00:39:01,400 I like I like the idea of not dealing in absolutes, so even if 801 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:04,600 I approach this competition with with zero emotion and think of a 802 00:39:04,700 --> 00:39:08,200 very, you know, scientific approach to it, you know, and I 803 00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,700 find that this this method was not as good then I can always go 804 00:39:10,700 --> 00:39:14,000 back to what I know works. So this is not an absolute. 805 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,100 Like I don't have to live in that by this technique which can 806 00:39:17,100 --> 00:39:20,300 be applied to anybody in any form or fashion with anything. 807 00:39:20,700 --> 00:39:25,800 So that's key and then channeling emotions, it doesn't 808 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:30,700 make sense like the whole stoica mentality is, is largely based 809 00:39:30,700 --> 00:39:34,400 on not that is, so not having emotion, but being in complete 810 00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,900 control of your emotion. And I like the idea of 811 00:39:37,300 --> 00:39:39,700 harnessing that darkness and trying rather than trying to 812 00:39:39,700 --> 00:39:42,300 remove it completely. Because I mean, honestly, some 813 00:39:42,300 --> 00:39:45,100 of the biggest breakthrough moments in my entire life have 814 00:39:45,100 --> 00:39:48,400 come from just leveraging that Darkness to the hilt. 815 00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:53,900 So I think it would be remiss for anybody to want it to wish 816 00:39:53,900 --> 00:39:56,300 it away. So I think, you know, 817 00:39:56,300 --> 00:39:59,400 recognizing that it's there and embracing it almost is 818 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,900 absolutely key. That's good, man. 819 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,600 Philosophy or any ideal or any concept. 820 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,600 It's only as functional to us as it is when it comes to serving 821 00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:17,900 us, And in a very objective manner. 822 00:40:17,900 --> 00:40:22,800 So if I just looked at stoicism and I was very dogmatic about 823 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:26,000 it, then I become limited by it. I it becomes a crutch. 824 00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:29,800 It becomes something that I hide behind to justify or corroborate 825 00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:33,900 my own excuses in some manners. I'm very much of the opinion 826 00:40:33,900 --> 00:40:38,800 that philosophy is simply truth and it's the reason why it was 827 00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:40,700 named what it was. It's just simply because of the 828 00:40:40,700 --> 00:40:42,900 time period and the location of where they were. 829 00:40:43,300 --> 00:40:48,200 So the daoist you nose in Stoicism different. 830 00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:50,200 Religions, obviously, of talked about these trees because 831 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,500 they're Universal. But I also like the idea of 832 00:40:52,500 --> 00:40:55,400 Bruce Lee, who was like just like, you know, you absorb what 833 00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,600 is useful? You just car, but he's useless 834 00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,200 and then you add What specifically your own. 835 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:02,100 And the thing that people don't remember about that is that in 836 00:41:02,100 --> 00:41:04,800 and of itself doesn't mean that has to be set in stone. 837 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,700 So what may be serving and useful to you this year in this 838 00:41:08,700 --> 00:41:12,000 prep, may not serve you next year, but without that data and 839 00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:15,200 without that worthless objectivity to look at it and 840 00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,800 take the emotion Ocean out of it, it would be impossible for 841 00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,800 you to know that and you would simply be just pushing yourself 842 00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:26,000 based on emotion or logic and as a human animal we have both of 843 00:41:26,008 --> 00:41:30,400 those within us for a reason. And so, like I said, if if I'm 844 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,400 on the street and somebody attacks me or somebody else and 845 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:37,700 they have a weapon, my logic probably will not be at the 846 00:41:37,700 --> 00:41:40,400 Forefront because once that adrenaline has me and I just 847 00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:43,500 react, that's what's going to be the most important thing. 848 00:41:43,500 --> 00:41:45,200 That's where my fight-or-flight instinct comes in. 849 00:41:45,700 --> 00:41:48,600 And that's why the skill set has to be in place. 850 00:41:48,700 --> 00:41:51,100 Not only from a martial art standpoint but the idea to be 851 00:41:51,100 --> 00:41:54,000 able to have this mentality in this truth about us but to also 852 00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:57,100 be able to shove it in the back and the Wayside so that we can 853 00:41:57,100 --> 00:41:58,700 get done what has to get done right now. 854 00:41:59,500 --> 00:42:02,800 And that's what the beauty of the dance of life is. 855 00:42:02,900 --> 00:42:05,800 There's always, this transition between one thing, and another, 856 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:09,000 and there's always this new thing that we're trying to move 857 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:13,200 towards and lots of times. Lots of times, this by her own 858 00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,900 choosing, lots of it is kind of forced upon us and that's when 859 00:42:16,900 --> 00:42:19,900 we actually learn. If what we believe is correct. 860 00:42:20,100 --> 00:42:22,900 And if what we're made of is true, I completely agree. 861 00:42:23,300 --> 00:42:25,100 Are you familiar with the country Marcus? 862 00:42:25,300 --> 00:42:28,700 So he was at this, this conference this past week and he 863 00:42:28,700 --> 00:42:32,400 said, one thing that really stuck, he said, I forget things 864 00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,500 like morning but you know how like something bad happens and 865 00:42:35,900 --> 00:42:39,500 we go through it and after it's all said and done, we almost 866 00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,800 always say, I'm really glad And that happened. 867 00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:45,100 It happened for a reason. I learned so much from it. 868 00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:48,200 Like that's almost that's I mean I don't know of any example 869 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,500 where people don't say that. Like, there's always some way to 870 00:42:50,500 --> 00:42:53,500 justify that and have learned from it. 871 00:42:53,700 --> 00:42:58,400 He made a really good point on making an active, you know, 872 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:04,900 approaching anything - like that in the moment with that 873 00:43:05,700 --> 00:43:09,600 forward-thinking mentality of the afterthought, if that makes 874 00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,600 sense. So, you know, rather than 875 00:43:11,900 --> 00:43:14,700 waiting for it to be over and saying I'm really glad that 876 00:43:14,700 --> 00:43:19,600 happened saying that as you're going through it and being 877 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:23,700 conscious of it, and I feel like like that that's just basically 878 00:43:23,700 --> 00:43:27,700 no waited to, you know, define stoicism but looking at that 879 00:43:27,700 --> 00:43:29,500 way, I think is going to resonate with a lot of people 880 00:43:29,500 --> 00:43:33,300 because you know we all can learn from these bad things in 881 00:43:33,300 --> 00:43:38,300 life but it takes genuine effort to recognize when it's happening 882 00:43:38,700 --> 00:43:43,000 and actually be in support of the most Really crucial and its 883 00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,700 key. The the reality is when I got 884 00:43:45,700 --> 00:43:49,800 injured, when I woke up in a bed at 40 years old, you know, broke 885 00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,900 divorced that rent unable to move all this knowledge. 886 00:43:52,900 --> 00:43:55,100 I already had I've been doing martial art since I was 11. 887 00:43:55,100 --> 00:43:58,600 I've been studying philosophy in one way shape or form, you know, 888 00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:02,800 since I was 13 or 14. But the thing was in that moment 889 00:44:03,300 --> 00:44:05,500 when the shit hit the fan and it was happening to me and not 890 00:44:05,500 --> 00:44:07,700 somebody else. I don't want to hear all that 891 00:44:07,700 --> 00:44:08,900 stuff. That was like a bunch of Flowery 892 00:44:08,900 --> 00:44:10,400 bullshit. Like it didn't serve me. 893 00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:15,000 It was a bunch of Pap because this didn't help me right now. 894 00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:18,200 And I and if you would have come up to me and said, well, Marcus 895 00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,300 you should be grateful. I would have spit in your face 896 00:44:20,500 --> 00:44:23,300 because I want to be able to punch you but that was the most, 897 00:44:23,300 --> 00:44:25,900 you know, have a Serial thing. I probably could have done. 898 00:44:25,900 --> 00:44:27,800 Would have been doing a lot of cuss words out yet? 899 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,900 But I knew deep down that there was that I should be grateful 900 00:44:31,900 --> 00:44:34,700 for something but I couldn't find any gratitude where I was 901 00:44:34,700 --> 00:44:37,900 at. So again that's why it's so 902 00:44:37,900 --> 00:44:40,100 important to have this mentality, a fixed before you 903 00:44:40,100 --> 00:44:44,300 get into the hardship. Because if you wait until that 904 00:44:44,300 --> 00:44:47,000 time, if you're in the heat of battle is too late to learn to 905 00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,800 fight. If you wait until you need it, 906 00:44:50,100 --> 00:44:52,400 it's already too late. So that's why it's so important 907 00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:55,500 to again, just like with that mentality had that enlightened 908 00:44:55,500 --> 00:44:57,100 attitude before it happens to you. 909 00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,500 And then again, just like before I knew, all these truths when I 910 00:45:00,508 --> 00:45:03,100 was injured, it didn't really seem to make any sense because I 911 00:45:03,100 --> 00:45:07,700 didn't look at it because it was very, it was a brutal reality to 912 00:45:07,700 --> 00:45:10,700 have to face honestly. But once I was able to look at 913 00:45:10,700 --> 00:45:14,700 it and take and take my desire out of it, it took my emotion 914 00:45:14,700 --> 00:45:17,400 out of it and just kind of go the direction that I was being 915 00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,100 pushed. That's what really helped me. 916 00:45:19,100 --> 00:45:22,100 It's almost like I had clients that want to be successful 917 00:45:22,100 --> 00:45:26,300 financially but they have like two or three problems in front 918 00:45:26,300 --> 00:45:27,500 of them. Like they're not very good. 919 00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,800 Good when it comes to like CEOs or Executives. 920 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,400 They want to make a lot of money for this quarter and they want 921 00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,100 to make these bonuses. But yet their people skills are 922 00:45:35,100 --> 00:45:38,000 horrible and when they try to coach their team as their 923 00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:41,300 communication sucks, like they just go to the people and say, 924 00:45:41,300 --> 00:45:44,200 okay you want me to do? X Y and Z and they walk out and 925 00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,100 then when I watch them, they said we'll see. 926 00:45:46,100 --> 00:45:47,500 I coach my people every Monday like that. 927 00:45:47,500 --> 00:45:48,900 I don't see why they're not hitting the numbers. 928 00:45:49,500 --> 00:45:51,900 Well, you, you have to lead. By example, you have to give 929 00:45:51,900 --> 00:45:55,100 them an idea that you at least give a shit about them as a 930 00:45:55,100 --> 00:45:57,400 person as opposed to just having this. 931 00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:01,100 All Taskmaster mentality and if all you do is push the gas down, 932 00:46:01,100 --> 00:46:03,900 if all you have is the accelerator down there is 933 00:46:03,900 --> 00:46:06,000 nowhere for you to go if that's not working. 934 00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:07,700 You had to be able to shift your death. 935 00:46:07,700 --> 00:46:10,100 Be able to transition? Yes, take your foot, off the gas 936 00:46:10,100 --> 00:46:12,400 through the pump, the brakes once in a while to be able to 937 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,500 give that separation. And so, that's why it's so 938 00:46:15,500 --> 00:46:18,800 important to be able to have separate gears and to have the 939 00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,700 capacity to put the foot down, not only on the gas, but also on 940 00:46:21,700 --> 00:46:23,900 the brake is necessary. And that's where it's really 941 00:46:23,900 --> 00:46:25,500 difficult. Because for most of us again, 942 00:46:25,500 --> 00:46:28,200 like we're talking about extremes, there's your Extremes. 943 00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,200 You have one foot on the gas and the one from the break. 944 00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:32,100 You're not going to go anywhere, but you make a lot of noise. 945 00:46:32,300 --> 00:46:34,800 So the idea is to know when to do each of them and that it be 946 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:38,000 able to adapt as the situation evolves. 947 00:46:38,300 --> 00:46:40,000 Yeah. And see like to me this, this 948 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,300 this is just like keep importance. 949 00:46:43,300 --> 00:46:46,500 Like people need to think proactively towards this because 950 00:46:46,500 --> 00:46:48,300 those hardships, those moments of adversity. 951 00:46:48,300 --> 00:46:51,000 Those obstacles will happen. It's not like this. 952 00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:54,500 Something that's like this, maybe looming, it's like this 953 00:46:54,500 --> 00:46:56,200 will happen. If it doesn't happen, then 954 00:46:56,200 --> 00:47:00,000 you're probably not living life. If boldly enough, I agree, I 955 00:47:00,300 --> 00:47:04,000 adversity is an inevitability and like you said, the reality 956 00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:08,800 is, if if if you're not pushing as hard as you possibly can, 957 00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,800 then you're not going to go as far as you can with the time 958 00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:13,500 that you have. And if you're achieving all of 959 00:47:13,500 --> 00:47:16,600 your goals easily, then you're simply not asking enough 960 00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,700 yourself. Bruce Lee says that a goal is 961 00:47:19,700 --> 00:47:22,600 always meant to be achieved. It's simply something to shoot 962 00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:25,900 towards and even antivirus Ella was saying, listen, you know, if 963 00:47:25,900 --> 00:47:29,900 you're trying to make 10 million dollars, you'd better be 964 00:47:29,900 --> 00:47:33,000 shooting to make a hundred billion dollars because into 965 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:34,800 entrepreneurial Endeavor. They're going to be times when 966 00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,100 you fall down, or they're going to be things outside of our 967 00:47:37,300 --> 00:47:39,700 control, that just happen. And sometimes it's to our 968 00:47:39,700 --> 00:47:41,700 advantage to sometimes is to our disadvantage. 969 00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:45,100 But that's why having this this operating system, this this 970 00:47:45,100 --> 00:47:47,800 philosophy Is what's going to help us? 971 00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,300 Because that's what builds the resilience in and again like you 972 00:47:50,300 --> 00:47:53,700 say like what Aubrey Marcus is talking about or Marcus Aurelius 973 00:47:53,700 --> 00:47:57,300 was talking about, we control what we can control and then we 974 00:47:57,300 --> 00:48:00,100 try to absorb the knowledge from that situation as best we can. 975 00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:03,700 And if we look at it objectively, it will probably 976 00:48:03,700 --> 00:48:06,100 bring them for something that we already know or something that 977 00:48:06,100 --> 00:48:09,800 we forgot about. So for me, line there unable to 978 00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:13,100 move, I had a lot of regret because I realize that I've been 979 00:48:13,100 --> 00:48:15,300 given a lot of opportunities in the four years of my life at 980 00:48:15,300 --> 00:48:18,400 that point. And that I had just wasted a lot 981 00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,800 of that time. I had screwed around a lot and I 982 00:48:21,808 --> 00:48:24,400 felt like God or the universe was taking it away from me. 983 00:48:24,400 --> 00:48:26,900 Like okay, we give you 40 years, we gave you all this capacity, 984 00:48:26,900 --> 00:48:30,100 all this intelligence, all this physical ability and you 985 00:48:30,100 --> 00:48:32,000 squandered it. So we're going to take it back 986 00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,700 and we're going to give to somebody else's going to use it. 987 00:48:34,300 --> 00:48:37,900 And that was my big, big kind of kick in the ass moment where it 988 00:48:37,900 --> 00:48:40,900 made me realize that if I ever can get out of this bed and walk 989 00:48:40,900 --> 00:48:44,900 again, I will never ever compromise and I will ever never 990 00:48:44,900 --> 00:48:48,700 ever wait to On the things that really mean the most to me in my 991 00:48:48,700 --> 00:48:52,100 life and that made my club. My priority is very clear that 992 00:48:52,100 --> 00:48:55,300 made my goals very clear. And now I just try to operate 993 00:48:55,300 --> 00:48:57,600 within those confines. Every moment that I'm breathing 994 00:48:57,600 --> 00:48:58,900 and then they gave me chills man. 995 00:48:58,900 --> 00:49:04,400 Like, I feel like the idea of self-entitlement just literally 996 00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:06,400 that's probably drives me more crazy. 997 00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:08,500 Any other you know than anything else in life? 998 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:12,800 Like I feel like like so many people think that they deserve 999 00:49:13,100 --> 00:49:16,300 something that deserve to just live life on their terms. 1000 00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:19,800 Terms, you know, living their passion day-to-day, they deserve 1001 00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:24,300 to have all the stuff handed to them but you deserve nothing in 1002 00:49:24,300 --> 00:49:26,100 life. Like the fact that you're even 1003 00:49:26,500 --> 00:49:32,300 on this planet is a gift and if you squander that or live it any 1004 00:49:32,300 --> 00:49:35,500 waking moment of it with the thought that you know, this is 1005 00:49:35,500 --> 00:49:40,400 your god-given right to just be here and do as you please, then, 1006 00:49:40,500 --> 00:49:44,000 then you're you're sadly mistaken because I feel like, 1007 00:49:44,500 --> 00:49:49,600 you know, you have to Look at this opportunity and this gift 1008 00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:52,200 for what it is and then every single waking moment of your 1009 00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:56,000 life, be dedicated to just pouring yourself into it. 1010 00:49:56,300 --> 00:49:58,900 So you're constantly adding more value than you take because you 1011 00:49:58,900 --> 00:50:01,200 deserve nothing. I absolutely agree. 1012 00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:04,200 Just the fact that you're breathing is means that you're, 1013 00:50:04,500 --> 00:50:07,200 you know, beyond even that means you've got a lot more than a lot 1014 00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,000 of other people are doing, you know, as we speak, there are 1015 00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:11,900 people fighting for Life as we speak. 1016 00:50:11,900 --> 00:50:14,200 There are people that are having a hard time finding clean water 1017 00:50:14,700 --> 00:50:18,600 and it's funny because Cuz just like you were mentioning the 1018 00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:20,900 reality is they say, You Don't Know What You Got Till It's 1019 00:50:20,900 --> 00:50:25,200 Gone, but that's not the case. We know what we have, but we 1020 00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:28,600 assume that we will always have and that's what separates like 1021 00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:30,800 the person. Who's this, this person who's 1022 00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:33,300 constantly taking taking taking, and this person is constantly 1023 00:50:33,300 --> 00:50:36,200 giving giving giving. And, you know, as well as I do 1024 00:50:36,900 --> 00:50:38,900 when it comes to business, when it comes to entrepreneurship, 1025 00:50:38,900 --> 00:50:42,100 when it comes to life, the more you give the more that it comes 1026 00:50:42,100 --> 00:50:44,200 back and benefit you in be huge. You it's just that. 1027 00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,200 A lot of times just like I was like I said before, we assume 1028 00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:50,800 that we will always have it. It's the same thing with this 1029 00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,200 people expect like immediate reciprocity, they think. 1030 00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:56,500 Well, if I if I'm not sure this person that I should see an 1031 00:50:56,500 --> 00:50:59,300 extra $500 in my bank account this afternoon, that's not how 1032 00:50:59,300 --> 00:51:00,800 it works. You're planning to each, you're 1033 00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:05,200 putting out this ideal. But again, what that does is 1034 00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:08,000 that creates momentum not only in your life but it packs the 1035 00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:10,700 people around you and that creates momentum around them. 1036 00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,000 So even the ideal of they say that you're the average of the 1037 00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:17,400 five people that You surround yourself with the most that's 1038 00:51:17,700 --> 00:51:21,400 that's true but they don't see. The real thing, what you're 1039 00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:24,600 really doing is you're the average of the five emotions 1040 00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:28,600 that you're feeling continually. So if you're around five people 1041 00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:32,100 that are positive that are uplifting that wants you to win 1042 00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:34,600 that are taking you in the ass to be better and celebrate your 1043 00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:36,400 victories. Absolutely, that's what you're 1044 00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:38,800 going to propagate in your life but if you're around five people 1045 00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:43,200 that are like pessimistic hate on, you are resentful. 1046 00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,100 Are you know, - about everything else in their lives. 1047 00:51:46,100 --> 00:51:48,400 They're not taking care of themselves, obviously, that will 1048 00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:49,600 bleed over into everything that you do. 1049 00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,300 And again, like I said, in our lives, were create a momentum 1050 00:51:52,300 --> 00:51:54,800 one way or the other. So either, we're creating 1051 00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,100 momentum into something positive or we're creating momentum into 1052 00:51:57,100 --> 00:51:59,600 something negative and it is up to us to make that choice. 1053 00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,400 Every single moment with every option, with every thought, with 1054 00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:05,100 every breath of the take and if we can continue to do that, we 1055 00:52:05,100 --> 00:52:08,100 will feed forward. That positivity meaning, not 1056 00:52:08,100 --> 00:52:11,600 just this esoteric, positive idea, but this positivity and 1057 00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:14,400 improving ourselves, you know, physically emotionally 1058 00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,400 financially, Really and it's because the other direction as 1059 00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:20,400 well. So that's what I love about 1060 00:52:20,900 --> 00:52:23,800 taking like stoicism and a lot of these other philosophical 1061 00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:27,100 ideals, they're very pragmatic if you can put them in that 1062 00:52:27,100 --> 00:52:30,300 right place, but if you just sit around and drink coffee and talk 1063 00:52:30,300 --> 00:52:32,500 about it, and you don't actually do anything to push yourself. 1064 00:52:32,900 --> 00:52:35,200 Then it's really difficult to even comprehend what this deal, 1065 00:52:35,200 --> 00:52:37,200 which were talking about, where the dollars were talking about 1066 00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:39,600 or Bruce Lee was even talking about because we haven't 1067 00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,200 actually achieved it. So that's why it's so important. 1068 00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:44,800 Again goggin says, you know do some of the stocks every day. 1069 00:52:44,900 --> 00:52:46,700 Day. So when you on that last set or 1070 00:52:46,700 --> 00:52:49,300 that lasts forever, you're taking that cold cold shower or 1071 00:52:49,300 --> 00:52:52,700 your, you know, reducing your calories for a fast that's key. 1072 00:52:52,700 --> 00:52:56,300 Because without that kind of push you will never ever that 1073 00:52:56,300 --> 00:52:59,600 adversity is the Catalyst that forces us to get stronger much 1074 00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:01,200 in. The same way that last rep for 1075 00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,300 that last set is what makes us our body. 1076 00:53:03,300 --> 00:53:06,400 It makes our muscle adapt because until we do that, we're 1077 00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:07,800 kind of going through the motions. 1078 00:53:08,300 --> 00:53:10,400 And that's why it's so important to understand it from the 1079 00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:14,300 beginning completely agreement, I feel like you and I have a 1080 00:53:14,308 --> 00:53:17,300 very Alec on this stuff. So you and I can talk about 1081 00:53:17,700 --> 00:53:22,700 these these Concepts and it's like a it's like a shared 1082 00:53:22,700 --> 00:53:25,900 appreciated, respected understood language between us 1083 00:53:25,900 --> 00:53:27,100 and anybody else that's listening. 1084 00:53:27,100 --> 00:53:30,400 It's also gone through some of these these situations and been 1085 00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:33,900 in this kind of environment, but for anybody that that may not 1086 00:53:33,900 --> 00:53:37,800 be, or may not have gone through such a such a ordeal. 1087 00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:42,400 What are some like, like, like his mindset is a pretty abstract 1088 00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:45,200 thing, like when it's there, it's Parent. 1089 00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:48,600 It's in everything that we do but it's hard to really you know 1090 00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:50,500 Point your finger at and quantify. 1091 00:53:50,500 --> 00:53:55,900 But what are some like tangible action related items that you 1092 00:53:55,900 --> 00:53:58,900 would that you do on a day-to-day basis that somebody 1093 00:53:58,900 --> 00:54:00,600 listen to this could also Implement. 1094 00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,400 I mean, one just kind of thinking about what we just were 1095 00:54:03,408 --> 00:54:05,100 talking about with the people you surround yourself. 1096 00:54:05,100 --> 00:54:09,100 Like I think auditing your friend list on like a quarterly 1097 00:54:09,100 --> 00:54:13,500 basis or like a biannually basis makes total sense like actually 1098 00:54:13,500 --> 00:54:16,200 write names of people. You spend time with an audit 1099 00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:18,700 them, like you would anything else in a business deal and 1100 00:54:18,700 --> 00:54:21,200 figure out if they're truly adding value to your life? 1101 00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,800 If there's truly a benefit that's coming from then if 1102 00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:25,300 they're making you a better person. 1103 00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:29,600 And if not, then, act accordingly, but like that, lot 1104 00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:32,700 of people would hear me say that and think that that's - of me. 1105 00:54:32,700 --> 00:54:36,700 But if you don't actually do things to improve your certain, 1106 00:54:36,700 --> 00:54:40,500 your, you know, environment your situation, then, nothing will 1107 00:54:40,500 --> 00:54:43,100 ever change. The thing is, like you said, 1108 00:54:43,100 --> 00:54:45,800 mine said can be abstract but What I'll do is I'll give you 1109 00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:49,200 just a couple of simple things you can do, one of them is micro 1110 00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:52,300 adversities every day, so something small that makes you 1111 00:54:52,300 --> 00:54:55,400 uncomfortable every single day. I talked, I mentioned cold 1112 00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:57,700 showers, but if you did the kind of person who doesn't want to 1113 00:54:57,707 --> 00:55:01,300 get into a cold shower and try to blame half breathe and, you 1114 00:55:01,300 --> 00:55:04,300 know, have that shock to your system, you know, right now it's 1115 00:55:04,300 --> 00:55:07,000 cold outside. So maybe if you realize that 1116 00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,700 you're going to be walking from your car to your office, maybe 1117 00:55:09,700 --> 00:55:13,000 don't wear your jacket and just kind of walk slowly and really 1118 00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:15,700 ask yourself man you know is this It's really that bad. 1119 00:55:15,700 --> 00:55:19,300 Is this the fear that I so, you know, was afraid of and just 1120 00:55:19,300 --> 00:55:21,500 kind of breathe into it. And what that does is that's a 1121 00:55:21,508 --> 00:55:25,400 very, very small thing but that's a small drop in the 1122 00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:27,200 bucket. It's a small deposit into your 1123 00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:29,700 account of resilience, so to speak, right? 1124 00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:33,500 So this is a small compounding thing and now when you walk away 1125 00:55:33,500 --> 00:55:36,300 from work, now you go back again here, like, and it wasn't nice, 1126 00:55:36,300 --> 00:55:38,500 cause I thought it was or a little bit stronger than I 1127 00:55:38,500 --> 00:55:42,000 thought I was. Again, the idea of maybe doing a 1128 00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:46,500 little bit more cardio, even if you prolong your like delay, 1129 00:55:46,500 --> 00:55:48,400 your pleasure a little bit. If you're used to eating lunch 1130 00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:51,500 at noon and you can wait until 12:30, it's like, wow, you just 1131 00:55:51,500 --> 00:55:55,800 showed your mom your body by using your mind, your mind set 1132 00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:57,900 that. I don't have to eat at noon and 1133 00:55:57,900 --> 00:56:01,700 then again as you and I have found out fasting we realize 1134 00:56:01,700 --> 00:56:05,000 that our body was designed to be able to not eat for literally 1135 00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:08,400 days, maybe even weeks at a time because if you and I are like 1136 00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:11,700 prehistoric, man, 200? A thousand years ago, we may not 1137 00:56:11,700 --> 00:56:15,000 be able to kill another bison. We may kill that bison, eat it 1138 00:56:15,100 --> 00:56:17,600 and now we may not eat for a few weeks but that's okay. 1139 00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:19,200 Because our body is designed to do that. 1140 00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:22,600 It's understanding and respecting what our body does. 1141 00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:25,500 But also being understanding of the idea, the notion that we can 1142 00:56:25,500 --> 00:56:29,700 harness that as we need to, and if we put that into play every 1143 00:56:29,700 --> 00:56:32,600 day, whether it be having a conversation with somebody that 1144 00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:36,000 maybe don't agree with and you listen to their standpoint ask 1145 00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,200 yourself is what they're saying really hurting me. 1146 00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:42,000 Is it really that big of a deal that they Eve X instead of Y and 1147 00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:44,500 then does it hurt. I mean, I can have a 1148 00:56:44,508 --> 00:56:47,100 conversation with them and not even agree with them but it 1149 00:56:47,100 --> 00:56:48,800 doesn't hurt me. It's okay for me to listen to 1150 00:56:48,800 --> 00:56:51,500 them or you can listen to whatever slant of political news 1151 00:56:51,500 --> 00:56:55,100 that you want to and and hear other sides of the story and say 1152 00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,500 ask yourself. Why do I disagree with that? 1153 00:56:57,700 --> 00:56:59,800 What what why does that does that threaten me in some 1154 00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,700 capacity I can listen to this person's belief system and not 1155 00:57:02,700 --> 00:57:03,900 have to believe what they believe. 1156 00:57:04,500 --> 00:57:06,800 And if we're able to do that and develop that kind of mental 1157 00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:10,800 callous or as a Scoggins As he's like, you know, your couch, your 1158 00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,500 hands assembly could callous your mind. 1159 00:57:12,900 --> 00:57:15,800 If you can do that allows you, the opportunity to grow stronger 1160 00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,700 in that resilience and then put that practicality in it. 1161 00:57:18,700 --> 00:57:21,100 And what you had that idea of being able to absorb, some sort 1162 00:57:21,100 --> 00:57:25,200 of hardship would be walking in the cold or not eating that 1163 00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,800 bleeds over into everything else that you do in your life. 1164 00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,000 So now when you're at work and they say, hey when you just 1165 00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:33,100 spend the stay an extra hour later it's getting old but hurt 1166 00:57:33,100 --> 00:57:34,900 and pissed off about, you're like well I'm just going to push 1167 00:57:34,900 --> 00:57:38,200 through it and then again, that gives you more confidence in 1168 00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:43,600 yourself that And it's that having that you develop this 1169 00:57:44,500 --> 00:57:49,300 sort of belief within yourself, you believe your own hype after 1170 00:57:49,300 --> 00:57:52,400 a while, but if you aren't doing the work, if you are pushing 1171 00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:54,600 yourself, then when somebody says, hey, you're really doing a 1172 00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:56,900 great job and then you beat yourself up, mentally, because 1173 00:57:56,900 --> 00:57:58,400 you don't think that you are doing a good job. 1174 00:57:58,900 --> 00:58:00,500 That's when it's really difficult for you to get to the 1175 00:58:00,508 --> 00:58:01,800 next level. And then it becomes a 1176 00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:04,500 self-limiting belief, which becomes a self-fulfilling 1177 00:58:04,500 --> 00:58:05,800 prophecy when it comes to your mind. 1178 00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:10,400 So I agree, I agree. What are some like I know what 1179 00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:15,100 is when make this personal here? What is the biggest obstacle in 1180 00:58:15,100 --> 00:58:17,300 your life right now? Like, what is going on in this 1181 00:58:17,300 --> 00:58:20,600 chapter in your life? That is is proving difficult? 1182 00:58:20,900 --> 00:58:24,700 And what are some things that that is touchy those far. 1183 00:58:24,900 --> 00:58:27,500 Now, I'm in a position where a lot of people are vying for my 1184 00:58:27,500 --> 00:58:30,400 attention, which is very, you know, that's a big compliment 1185 00:58:30,700 --> 00:58:35,900 and I want to help everybody. But I also understand now that I 1186 00:58:35,900 --> 00:58:38,100 simply there's not enough hours in the day and there's only one 1187 00:58:38,100 --> 00:58:42,800 of me So just like with this, I mean I'm very selective about 1188 00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,900 who I'm on podcast with now. You know, I respect you very 1189 00:58:45,900 --> 00:58:49,800 much in many Arenas and that's why we're talking again. 1190 00:58:51,500 --> 00:58:55,000 But I, you know, if we try to re spend respond to every DM or 1191 00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:59,200 every email that's sent to us, it's very daunting and frankly 1192 00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:02,400 it's it's a there's no way we can win doing it. 1193 00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:06,600 So for me, it's about allocating my time to True priorities, but 1194 00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:09,700 being even more specific and having a true It's principal 1195 00:59:09,700 --> 00:59:13,200 true 8020 ideal of saying. Well, I could go speak here and 1196 00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:16,500 make x amount of dollars or I could go speaker and make less 1197 00:59:16,500 --> 00:59:19,600 money, but make more impact or get more potential speaking 1198 00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:22,400 engagements or more coaching potentials are more code or more 1199 00:59:22,700 --> 00:59:25,100 Book Sales. So it's about looking at the 1200 00:59:25,100 --> 00:59:29,000 long game and then understanding that time that I have is very 1201 00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:31,300 precious. So what do I want to do with 1202 00:59:31,300 --> 00:59:32,600 this? Even if I have an opportunity to 1203 00:59:32,607 --> 00:59:34,900 go off in the weekend is begin, make x amount of dollars. 1204 00:59:35,300 --> 00:59:38,000 Maybe I can do that. I can push and grind but in the 1205 00:59:38,008 --> 00:59:40,200 grand scheme of things it may Be better for me to stay home. 1206 00:59:40,200 --> 00:59:43,300 Maybe if I'm feeling sick or maybe, if I'm trying to spend 1207 00:59:43,300 --> 00:59:46,200 time with my loved ones, that may be more important than, you 1208 00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:49,300 know, a few thousand dollars or even twenty thousand dollars 1209 00:59:49,300 --> 00:59:52,600 speaking or doing an event. If it's not going to serve me in 1210 00:59:52,600 --> 00:59:54,700 the long run because that money is going to be gone. 1211 00:59:54,900 --> 00:59:58,400 Eventually better time as we both know is something that is 1212 00:59:58,700 --> 01:00:02,200 very precious and it's a non-renewable resource at what 1213 01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:05,700 point does and this is going to be highly individualized. 1214 01:00:05,700 --> 01:00:08,900 But you know, when you when you first start out you almost have 1215 01:00:09,100 --> 01:00:11,100 Just say yes to everything. Like be a Yes, Man. 1216 01:00:11,100 --> 01:00:13,200 Like everything that you do. I mean every speaking 1217 01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:16,800 opportunity, every DM, every email, every everything you just 1218 01:00:16,800 --> 01:00:20,300 sleep on it and then at some point there's a shift that 1219 01:00:20,300 --> 01:00:24,700 occurs and you you have to become more exclusive because in 1220 01:00:24,700 --> 01:00:28,500 being more exclusive you're going to bring a higher quality 1221 01:00:28,500 --> 01:00:31,700 work and you're going to have a better better a game so to speak 1222 01:00:31,700 --> 01:00:37,600 when you when you do perform. What how does one finds it like 1223 01:00:37,800 --> 01:00:41,900 largely Financial based? Or is it more like fulfillment 1224 01:00:41,900 --> 01:00:43,800 based? Like how does one quantify when 1225 01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,800 that shift occurs? And that's that's a great 1226 01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:49,000 question and it's a perfect, you know, entrepreneurial question. 1227 01:00:49,700 --> 01:00:51,600 And like I said at the very beginning, you know, if you're a 1228 01:00:51,607 --> 01:00:53,400 speaker and you're making a couple thousand dollars to 1229 01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,300 speak, you're going to be saying, yes to everything, 1230 01:00:55,300 --> 01:00:57,100 you're going to go to Rotary clubs are going to go everywhere 1231 01:00:57,100 --> 01:00:59,700 that you can, that will have you speak but then eventually, you 1232 01:00:59,700 --> 01:01:02,100 get to a point where you raise your price enough to where now 1233 01:01:02,400 --> 01:01:07,100 you value that time more. So you'll get to a point and 1234 01:01:07,100 --> 01:01:09,800 we're all object--, I mean we're all unique so we're going to be 1235 01:01:09,800 --> 01:01:11,900 some people weren't they say I make an x amount of dollars per 1236 01:01:11,900 --> 01:01:14,300 year from speaking. I don't want to take any more, 1237 01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:17,500 they're going to be some other people where that money will 1238 01:01:17,500 --> 01:01:19,800 always be a driver and they won't be satisfied until they're 1239 01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,900 made a hundred million dollars. So you have to find out what's 1240 01:01:22,900 --> 01:01:25,300 really important to you and where you want to be in that 1241 01:01:25,300 --> 01:01:28,600 endeavor. Now as you and I both know, as 1242 01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,100 we continue it as, as entrepreneurs as you continue 1243 01:01:31,100 --> 01:01:35,000 with business and personal development, there are Lead 1244 01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:38,900 thousands of unforeseen opportunities that are on the 1245 01:01:38,900 --> 01:01:42,000 path and sometimes, they'll follow this guy and hit us right 1246 01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,100 in the face. But sometimes it's just about 1247 01:01:44,100 --> 01:01:46,200 being self-aware enough to look around us too. 1248 01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:49,100 So you're going to be saying, yes, a lot of times until you 1249 01:01:49,100 --> 01:01:51,800 get financially where you want to be, whether it be out of debt 1250 01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:53,300 or making a certain amount of money. 1251 01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:55,900 And then after that, you'll start realizing that the money 1252 01:01:55,900 --> 01:02:00,100 is not the most important thing. And a great example of this is I 1253 01:02:00,100 --> 01:02:04,300 talk about in my book, is that If you ask a 25 year old person, 1254 01:02:04,300 --> 01:02:08,600 listen, I can make you a multimillionaire right now, but 1255 01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:13,400 you'll be 75 years old. Would you rather be, you know, a 1256 01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:15,300 hundred million dollar, you know, have a hundred million 1257 01:02:15,300 --> 01:02:18,700 dollar net worth and be 75 or would you rather be broke right 1258 01:02:18,700 --> 01:02:20,700 now? But have all the time that you 1259 01:02:20,700 --> 01:02:23,600 have before you and even a person 225 realizes the 1260 01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:26,400 importance of time because every single one of them will say I'd 1261 01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:28,700 rather be broke right now and live my life and have this 1262 01:02:28,700 --> 01:02:31,900 experience then to be at 75 years old where they feel their 1263 01:02:31,900 --> 01:02:34,700 life is sort of over and had this financial success but not 1264 01:02:34,700 --> 01:02:36,900 be able to have the wherewithal to do anything with it. 1265 01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:39,700 And that's kind of the way that we should be looking at 1266 01:02:39,700 --> 01:02:42,200 everything that we do in life and business and I mean, you're 1267 01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:43,600 doing it. Well, you're scaling incredibly 1268 01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:46,700 well, you making tremendous impact, tremendous ways in this 1269 01:02:46,700 --> 01:02:50,000 entire Endeavor, especially in the key, do, you know, community 1270 01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:52,900 and even, you know, that's why I'm doing some of the things I'm 1271 01:02:52,900 --> 01:02:54,200 doing. Now, I would rather put on my 1272 01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:58,100 own event and have a high caliber of people that show up, 1273 01:02:58,100 --> 01:03:00,700 then have then go to a bunch of other people's events. 1274 01:03:00,700 --> 01:03:05,000 I said, I started saying no to pitch fests, you know, years 1275 01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:07,200 ago. But even now a lot of people 1276 01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,200 People would try to get me to come there and then even if I 1277 01:03:09,207 --> 01:03:11,200 don't pitch, they're going to be pitching. 1278 01:03:11,500 --> 01:03:13,600 So I had to be much more selective about where I'm 1279 01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:16,100 speaking. And if that means that I say no 1280 01:03:16,100 --> 01:03:19,700 to more money, I'm okay with that because I would rather have 1281 01:03:19,700 --> 01:03:23,600 a little bit more of my own time and frankly Integrity than to go 1282 01:03:23,600 --> 01:03:26,900 out there and have a very predatorial kind of mindset 1283 01:03:26,900 --> 01:03:30,000 about what's going on. And I think no matter what it 1284 01:03:30,000 --> 01:03:32,300 says, I've got like a very hard line drawing with regards to my 1285 01:03:32,300 --> 01:03:36,800 Integrity like no matter, no amount of money or or time or 1286 01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:41,700 Prestige can ever, you know, breach what I value my integrity 1287 01:03:41,700 --> 01:03:44,300 at that's it's not worth it at that point. 1288 01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:45,500 Yeah. What's your integrity for sale? 1289 01:03:45,500 --> 01:03:47,000 It's just a matter of time before you fall. 1290 01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:50,200 So speak speaking of different events and where you're 1291 01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:52,400 allocating your time, talking about this one that you've got 1292 01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:55,500 coming up, man, I'm I'm you invited me to come. 1293 01:03:55,500 --> 01:03:58,800 I'm very excited to come Chris and I are both going to be there 1294 01:03:59,100 --> 01:04:02,600 and I'd love to just kind of flush out the the event itself 1295 01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:06,600 and what all we can expect. Yeah, I'm so stoked to have you 1296 01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:08,200 there and And to have Crystal there. 1297 01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:11,500 And what this is is what I've seen in so many different events 1298 01:04:11,500 --> 01:04:15,500 and I've been to all of them. And I've seen every speaker that 1299 01:04:15,508 --> 01:04:18,200 you can think of and I've, you know, even share the stage with 1300 01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,800 some of them. And what I find so often is that 1301 01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:23,600 even if they're the best speaker in the world, they had the best 1302 01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:26,900 material in the world. Once that person leaves the 1303 01:04:26,900 --> 01:04:29,900 event, they're excited for sometimes Tim and sometimes 10 1304 01:04:29,900 --> 01:04:32,300 days but then they kind of go back to where they were. 1305 01:04:33,900 --> 01:04:36,300 The event that I'm doing on March 30th and Tulsa, Oklahoma 1306 01:04:36,300 --> 01:04:38,600 is called, do the work. So what we're going to do is 1307 01:04:38,600 --> 01:04:40,100 we're going to actually go through and we're going to 1308 01:04:40,100 --> 01:04:44,100 actually do the work and it's all going to revolve around 1309 01:04:44,100 --> 01:04:46,000 this. This triangle of control is what 1310 01:04:46,000 --> 01:04:49,100 I call it or this triangle of power and that triangle is based 1311 01:04:49,100 --> 01:04:52,000 on mindset because this is something that we always have 1312 01:04:52,000 --> 01:04:55,000 power over that, we always have control over Viktor Frankl says 1313 01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:59,000 between stimulation and reaction and action is our ability to 1314 01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:01,400 choose so that's the first part of it. 1315 01:05:01,400 --> 01:05:04,300 The second part of that triangle is the Idea of what we put in 1316 01:05:04,300 --> 01:05:07,500 our body so that could be food. That can be water, that could be 1317 01:05:07,500 --> 01:05:11,000 lack of food that can be lack of water that can also be what we 1318 01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:13,600 consuming in a social contents component. 1319 01:05:13,700 --> 01:05:16,200 So what books are we reading? What social media re listening 1320 01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:20,300 to what news are you listening to or where you fasting from? 1321 01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,700 If you're just out? Even on social media whatsoever, 1322 01:05:22,700 --> 01:05:27,000 just to give yourself a chance to, you know, really relax and 1323 01:05:27,000 --> 01:05:28,400 kind of see what's really important to you. 1324 01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:29,800 That's the second part of the pyramid. 1325 01:05:29,800 --> 01:05:33,400 And then the third part comes down to again, Again, what 1326 01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:35,300 you're trying to do from a fiscal standpoint. 1327 01:05:35,700 --> 01:05:38,000 So going through and what kind of workout are you doing? 1328 01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:40,600 But what are you doing to really push yourself and all those 1329 01:05:40,600 --> 01:05:44,400 things come together. So if you're in a 3x5 room and 1330 01:05:44,400 --> 01:05:47,300 they say, listen, you know, you can't really do anything here, 1331 01:05:47,700 --> 01:05:49,900 you can do burpees, you can do push-ups, you can do sit-ups and 1332 01:05:49,900 --> 01:05:51,000 that's the physicality component. 1333 01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:53,500 You could have, you can also decide how you feel about if 1334 01:05:53,500 --> 01:05:56,100 you're eating or if you're not eating and then you can also use 1335 01:05:56,100 --> 01:05:58,300 those kind of ideas about putting them all together. 1336 01:05:58,600 --> 01:06:01,900 So for your listeners, who don't know I'm an instructor under 1337 01:06:01,900 --> 01:06:04,400 Bruce Lee's protege. Guru Dan inosanto. 1338 01:06:04,700 --> 01:06:07,000 So I have direct links to Bruce Lee and I've Loved she can do 1339 01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,300 Bruce Lee's martial art for as long as I can remember. 1340 01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:13,100 So I'll be teaching some of Bruce's martial arts you can do 1341 01:06:13,100 --> 01:06:16,100 well on there because I wanted to put, I want to show the 1342 01:06:16,100 --> 01:06:18,800 parallel not only the philosophy, but the practicality 1343 01:06:18,800 --> 01:06:21,200 of that martial art. And so, no, we're not going to 1344 01:06:21,207 --> 01:06:23,500 put on gloves and do UFC stuff, but we're going to go through 1345 01:06:23,500 --> 01:06:26,000 and we're going to talk about the concept, the principle. 1346 01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:27,900 Why he had his right side forward because I was the 1347 01:06:27,900 --> 01:06:31,000 strongest side compared to everybody else why he was able 1348 01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:32,800 to take components of Wing Chun that were very functional. 1349 01:06:32,900 --> 01:06:34,400 Oil. And then put it into a very 1350 01:06:34,600 --> 01:06:38,200 useful manner compared to say, a boxer, How This lends itself to 1351 01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:39,500 everything else that we're doing in our lives. 1352 01:06:39,500 --> 01:06:43,200 The idea of, you know, absorbing what is useful, this coming with 1353 01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:45,900 his useless in Annapolis, specifically grown as he says, 1354 01:06:46,500 --> 01:06:48,300 and then we're also going to put the physicality. 1355 01:06:48,300 --> 01:06:50,300 So we're going to be doing some, some hiking. 1356 01:06:50,300 --> 01:06:52,300 We're going to be doing some marching, and then we're going 1357 01:06:52,300 --> 01:06:54,900 to actually take those ideals and put them into. 1358 01:06:55,200 --> 01:06:56,500 How do we apply this to business? 1359 01:06:56,700 --> 01:06:59,000 How do we apply this mindset into our relationships? 1360 01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:01,900 How do we apply this in the personal development and then 1361 01:07:01,900 --> 01:07:04,200 put them all together? We're not just sitting on our 1362 01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:06,900 asses talking about stuff and waxing, poetic and it's not just 1363 01:07:06,900 --> 01:07:07,800 a boot camp where you're out there. 1364 01:07:07,800 --> 01:07:10,500 Just, you know, getting smoke all day but now you haven't got 1365 01:07:10,500 --> 01:07:12,600 anything out of it. Other than, and I'm sort on 1366 01:07:12,600 --> 01:07:16,000 sweaty, it's all this realm that goes across everything that 1367 01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:18,100 we've done. And every person that we see 1368 01:07:18,100 --> 01:07:21,400 whether it be the samurai or the stoics there is this Renaissance 1369 01:07:21,800 --> 01:07:25,100 Man, kind of thing where you have all of these facets and 1370 01:07:25,100 --> 01:07:26,700 you're hitting on all of these cylinders. 1371 01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:29,200 And that's the key for us to go to next level and all these 1372 01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:31,200 things. And again, there is going to be 1373 01:07:31,200 --> 01:07:32,700 a lot of things that are going to be. 1374 01:07:32,900 --> 01:07:35,600 Pushing us, not just physically, they're going to be questioning 1375 01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:38,400 ourselves in a lot of different Arenas, but that's what we need 1376 01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:41,500 to do. And even if, even, if we don't 1377 01:07:41,500 --> 01:07:45,500 push ourselves in every possible capacity, the idea is to to find 1378 01:07:45,500 --> 01:07:47,500 those areas in those chinks, in our army that we don't normally 1379 01:07:47,500 --> 01:07:49,900 have, and to shine a light on those shortcomings. 1380 01:07:50,200 --> 01:07:51,800 So that's what we're going to be doing. 1381 01:07:51,800 --> 01:07:54,700 There is going to be a big day and I'm also going to have my 1382 01:07:54,700 --> 01:07:58,600 really good friend, Matt ganyan. They're speaking as my keynote 1383 01:07:58,900 --> 01:08:01,700 and just like I said before, this is not going to be a Pitch 1384 01:08:01,700 --> 01:08:03,700 Fest. Going to be a price. 1385 01:08:03,700 --> 01:08:05,900 You pay you're going to get there and then I'm just going to 1386 01:08:05,900 --> 01:08:09,500 give you a mazing wealth, amazing value amazing knowledge 1387 01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:12,100 Mass not going to pitch. I'm not going to pitch and this 1388 01:08:12,100 --> 01:08:15,200 is going to be more of a the group of people that are coming 1389 01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:18,800 or going to be so incredible. These are areas of opportunity 1390 01:08:18,800 --> 01:08:22,200 to be able to collaborate to be able to know network. 1391 01:08:22,300 --> 01:08:25,500 But also adversity, really brings people together. 1392 01:08:25,899 --> 01:08:28,399 And to me I look at this like almost like a graduation. 1393 01:08:28,399 --> 01:08:31,200 This is the first of its kind that I've done and the people 1394 01:08:31,200 --> 01:08:33,200 that are at this, this first event Point. 1395 01:08:33,200 --> 01:08:36,000 There's really going to be a very cohesive strength to them. 1396 01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:39,300 And these are people that, you know, not only is friends, but I 1397 01:08:39,300 --> 01:08:41,899 hope even from for some people with their business oriented. 1398 01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:44,100 This is an opportunity a to find people that are kind of a 1399 01:08:44,100 --> 01:08:46,399 similar mindset. And then that networking 1400 01:08:46,399 --> 01:08:49,100 capacity is going to be tremendous in the future as 1401 01:08:49,100 --> 01:08:50,899 well. So so thank you for letting me 1402 01:08:51,300 --> 01:08:53,899 bloviate about that but I'm really excited to have you 1403 01:08:53,899 --> 01:08:56,000 there. I'm hoping down, he's going to 1404 01:08:56,000 --> 01:08:59,899 be able to make it to and there's a lot of stuff I have in 1405 01:08:59,899 --> 01:09:02,100 store for you guys and I think it's going to be unlike anything 1406 01:09:02,100 --> 01:09:04,800 else you've ever Minutes, so I'm stoked. 1407 01:09:04,800 --> 01:09:08,399 No, I'm incredibly excited to me because I feel like I got mine 1408 01:09:08,399 --> 01:09:11,399 set, obviously is a huge, huge part in my life. 1409 01:09:11,399 --> 01:09:15,200 And, you know, my success and or lack of success. 1410 01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:17,200 You know, I feel like it all comes back to mine said, but 1411 01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:22,300 there's very few things that I do to be proactive with mindset, 1412 01:09:22,300 --> 01:09:23,899 at least, in my opinion. I feel like I should always be 1413 01:09:23,899 --> 01:09:27,000 doing more. My mind says is much more kind 1414 01:09:27,000 --> 01:09:29,399 of like a consequence of just the things that have happened to 1415 01:09:29,399 --> 01:09:32,700 me as opposed to the things that I've actively pursued. 1416 01:09:32,800 --> 01:09:35,800 Dude. So I'm really excited for this 1417 01:09:35,800 --> 01:09:38,800 because it's going to be like a very clear direction that I'm 1418 01:09:38,800 --> 01:09:43,100 taking to improve upon it. Proactively, and I have utmost 1419 01:09:43,100 --> 01:09:44,800 respect for you, and what? All you've gone through and all 1420 01:09:44,800 --> 01:09:47,000 you've done. So it'll be awesome to learn 1421 01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:48,100 from you, man. Well, thank you. 1422 01:09:48,100 --> 01:09:51,200 I'm excited to have you. And like I said, the people are 1423 01:09:51,200 --> 01:09:54,400 going to be there is going to be a really, really high caliber 1424 01:09:54,400 --> 01:09:57,900 people. And I'm just really excited to 1425 01:09:57,900 --> 01:10:01,600 see how everybody responds and what everybody gets from it. 1426 01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:04,700 And then in March, It's a say one teach but to learn. 1427 01:10:05,000 --> 01:10:07,700 So I'm going to be getting a lot of knowledge and a lot of 1428 01:10:07,700 --> 01:10:09,800 reinforcement from it and I'll probably learned a tremendous 1429 01:10:09,800 --> 01:10:12,600 amount about stuff that I didn't think about because I'm going to 1430 01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:15,600 have that very empty cup that white belt mentality as we go 1431 01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:17,600 through the material. So it's going to be awesome. 1432 01:10:17,700 --> 01:10:18,800 I'm excited. Learned some martial arts. 1433 01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:21,900 Man, I've always, I've always wanted to learn martial arts 1434 01:10:21,900 --> 01:10:23,500 have always. I mean, I think, at some point 1435 01:10:23,500 --> 01:10:27,400 in life, that will be an outlet that I really pursue, I haven't 1436 01:10:27,400 --> 01:10:30,300 been able to add that to my pillar, like we were talking 1437 01:10:30,300 --> 01:10:33,500 about, you know, previously. But I definitely We want to 1438 01:10:34,300 --> 01:10:36,700 pursue that going forward so this would be a good 1439 01:10:36,700 --> 01:10:38,000 introduction for me. Yeah. 1440 01:10:38,000 --> 01:10:39,900 It's going to be a great foundation. 1441 01:10:39,900 --> 01:10:42,700 And the beauty of it is nobody's going to walk out with the 1442 01:10:42,708 --> 01:10:44,300 certification or as a black belt. 1443 01:10:44,300 --> 01:10:48,400 But the nice thing is if you can even hold on to a few of those 1444 01:10:48,400 --> 01:10:51,900 tools or a few of the ideals even for a like, if you take a 1445 01:10:51,900 --> 01:10:54,000 person who's never done martial arts their entire life and you 1446 01:10:54,000 --> 01:10:57,000 teach them how to throw a punch and kick, you will see them 1447 01:10:57,400 --> 01:11:00,000 stand a little bit more erect. Their shoulders will be back a 1448 01:11:00,008 --> 01:11:02,200 little bit further when they walk, they don't have their head 1449 01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:03,400 down. Now they look look more. 1450 01:11:04,300 --> 01:11:06,100 I wouldn't say a predator but they definitely don't look like 1451 01:11:06,100 --> 01:11:08,400 prey because they had that. So Polly. 1452 01:11:09,000 --> 01:11:11,400 So that's why to me, martial arts has been so important 1453 01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:14,200 because the martial arts are the vessel by which you're able to 1454 01:11:14,200 --> 01:11:18,800 create mindset. And that's the way that that's 1455 01:11:18,800 --> 01:11:20,100 what makes you move forward with it. 1456 01:11:20,100 --> 01:11:21,600 So that's, that's why I love it so much. 1457 01:11:21,600 --> 01:11:24,000 And, you know, even people that just want to get in great shape, 1458 01:11:24,000 --> 01:11:26,200 that's fine. But I think that if they look at 1459 01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:28,500 it, there's a lot more to that that they can get from. 1460 01:11:28,600 --> 01:11:31,100 Yeah, I totally agree, man. I mean, I haven't like, I said, 1461 01:11:31,100 --> 01:11:34,800 I haven't done any martial arts previously, but I can appreciate 1462 01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:37,800 and respect how, you know, having the right approach 1463 01:11:37,800 --> 01:11:40,400 towards that. It's just like a parallel. 1464 01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:43,600 And a synonym for Life, man. I mean, you know, living with 1465 01:11:43,600 --> 01:11:45,300 confidence, living with belief in yourself. 1466 01:11:45,500 --> 01:11:49,500 Being a predator and not pray living boldly and with purpose, 1467 01:11:49,500 --> 01:11:53,600 I mean, that all his kind of embodied in in the art of 1468 01:11:53,600 --> 01:11:55,800 martial arts. Yeah, it's so true and it's, and 1469 01:11:55,800 --> 01:11:56,900 it's like, I said it lends itself. 1470 01:11:56,900 --> 01:12:00,800 Well, to entrepreneurship, you know, if I'm trying to learn 1471 01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:04,100 Bruce Lee says, I don't fear. The man that is done, 10,000 1472 01:12:04,100 --> 01:12:06,200 techniques. One time, I fear, the man who 1473 01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:08,100 has done one technique 10,000 times. 1474 01:12:09,500 --> 01:12:12,400 So that we had that reinforce that reinforces that idea of the 1475 01:12:12,400 --> 01:12:15,800 fundamentals and how, anybody who is extremely successful in 1476 01:12:15,800 --> 01:12:18,100 business. They have a couple of things 1477 01:12:18,100 --> 01:12:20,200 that are really in their wheelhouse and they just Crush 1478 01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:23,300 that and they own that space. If they're trying to do a bunch 1479 01:12:23,300 --> 01:12:24,200 of other stuff. That's okay. 1480 01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:26,300 But they're going to dilute their the results. 1481 01:12:26,700 --> 01:12:27,800 It's the same thing with martial arts. 1482 01:12:27,800 --> 01:12:31,600 If I can teach you to punches and to kicks and then train, you 1483 01:12:31,900 --> 01:12:35,000 and push, you and wait until you're tired and do it in the 1484 01:12:35,000 --> 01:12:37,600 middle of the night and wake you up with it and do it when your 1485 01:12:37,600 --> 01:12:41,000 Ambush now, you have this. Built into your system, but the 1486 01:12:41,008 --> 01:12:44,100 way that I do it when I add adrenaline to it now it 1487 01:12:44,100 --> 01:12:47,700 hardwired into your system about five times harder and faster 1488 01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:49,500 than it would. If you were used to sit there 1489 01:12:49,500 --> 01:12:50,900 and just do it like two days ago. 1490 01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:53,800 So I've been doing, I've been teaching martial arts for 25 1491 01:12:53,800 --> 01:12:56,300 years. I've learned martial arts from 1492 01:12:56,300 --> 01:12:57,900 some of the best people in the world. 1493 01:12:58,100 --> 01:13:01,000 I've learned martial arts from even in the military and done 1494 01:13:01,000 --> 01:13:04,200 things with, with police, force and stuff, learning, and 1495 01:13:04,200 --> 01:13:06,500 teaching them. So, I see what works and what 1496 01:13:06,500 --> 01:13:09,100 doesn't work and no, this is not going to be like something. 1497 01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:11,300 Or we go up there and try to beat each other up but I'm also 1498 01:13:11,300 --> 01:13:14,200 going to give you something that is functional and practical that 1499 01:13:14,200 --> 01:13:17,900 you can walk away with us and just that self-confidence alone 1500 01:13:18,100 --> 01:13:19,600 that's going to be something. Like I said it's going to help a 1501 01:13:19,608 --> 01:13:22,300 tremendous amount of people. And again those small micro 1502 01:13:22,300 --> 01:13:24,900 adversities are going to be who view, you know, with huge 1503 01:13:24,900 --> 01:13:27,700 dividends on the investment you know, in the future for that 1504 01:13:27,700 --> 01:13:30,700 Roi. And I honestly incredibly 1505 01:13:30,700 --> 01:13:32,200 excited, man. Like this is going to be a great 1506 01:13:32,200 --> 01:13:36,700 week and I've got, you know, no doubt about that at all and what 1507 01:13:36,700 --> 01:13:38,300 making his last weekend in March, right? 1508 01:13:38,600 --> 01:13:40,600 Yeah, will be more. Artists will be Saturday and 1509 01:13:40,600 --> 01:13:43,400 then all day Saturday will do everything and then Sunday 1510 01:13:43,400 --> 01:13:46,700 morning will have sort of a breakfast and kind of a time and 1511 01:13:46,800 --> 01:13:50,400 give everybody a chance to network and kind of give us you 1512 01:13:50,400 --> 01:13:52,600 know kind of their thoughts or if there's any questions or 1513 01:13:52,600 --> 01:13:55,400 anything moving forward. But the idea is to get them 1514 01:13:55,400 --> 01:13:58,000 definitive skill, set to get them, a definitive plan and give 1515 01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:01,100 them a definitive goal when they're leaving. 1516 01:14:01,400 --> 01:14:03,200 So it's not just something that they feel good about and they 1517 01:14:03,200 --> 01:14:07,300 just throw the, the existence, I mean, throw the opportunity and 1518 01:14:07,500 --> 01:14:10,300 experience away the opportunity. Unity and the experience is 1519 01:14:10,300 --> 01:14:12,800 tremendous. But what they take from that and 1520 01:14:12,800 --> 01:14:15,400 what they put into action is going to be even more important. 1521 01:14:15,400 --> 01:14:18,000 That's also done. And is this, is there still any 1522 01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:21,800 open slots or like if anybody listening would be Keen to go 1523 01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:23,800 there's there's a few slots. Absolutely. 1524 01:14:23,800 --> 01:14:26,500 And I'm trying to keep it to where I don't have any more than 1525 01:14:26,500 --> 01:14:29,200 30 people there. Because I my mind if I have more 1526 01:14:29,200 --> 01:14:31,800 than 30 people and I'm doing the all the teaching myself, it's 1527 01:14:31,800 --> 01:14:34,000 going to be hard for me to get them the quality that I want to. 1528 01:14:34,100 --> 01:14:36,200 So if you want to do it get in there and get the slots now 1529 01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:39,100 before they're all take. And what's the the website too? 1530 01:14:39,300 --> 01:14:42,700 And for that are you can just go to Marcus release Anderson.com. 1531 01:14:42,800 --> 01:14:46,200 Or if you go to, you know, there's any of my social medias. 1532 01:14:46,200 --> 01:14:49,200 If you go to my bio, it's going to have the link to my do. 1533 01:14:49,200 --> 01:14:52,900 The work live event and it's all on there and you'll be able to 1534 01:14:52,900 --> 01:14:55,500 get all the information that you need and get signed up and get 1535 01:14:55,500 --> 01:14:56,800 your spot before they all disappear. 1536 01:14:57,100 --> 01:14:59,200 Awesome, awesome. I'll link after that is shown us 1537 01:14:59,200 --> 01:15:01,700 to so people can easily find it and get on it. 1538 01:15:01,700 --> 01:15:04,800 Take advantage of it marketers. There's very few people, I could 1539 01:15:04,800 --> 01:15:08,000 talk to for 77 minutes and it feel like seven minutes but 1540 01:15:08,000 --> 01:15:10,100 you're one of them. I get mad. 1541 01:15:10,100 --> 01:15:12,300 I feel the same. Yeah, no I mean this this is the 1542 01:15:12,300 --> 01:15:14,500 second podcast we've done. We've been on the phone call. 1543 01:15:14,500 --> 01:15:17,400 I said several times since the last podcast but we'll have to 1544 01:15:18,300 --> 01:15:19,400 you. One of the one of the people 1545 01:15:19,400 --> 01:15:22,000 that were just going to have to do like a like a regularly 1546 01:15:22,000 --> 01:15:25,800 occurring podcast because I feel like every time we talk it turns 1547 01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:28,000 into something that other people would benefit from hearing. 1548 01:15:28,000 --> 01:15:30,200 But also it just it does me wonders. 1549 01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:32,300 Hopefully it does something for you but it doesn't me wonders. 1550 01:15:32,300 --> 01:15:35,200 At least know. I, I absorb a tremendous amount 1551 01:15:35,200 --> 01:15:38,400 from you and like I said, seeing what you're doing and seeing how 1552 01:15:38,400 --> 01:15:40,200 you're holding yourself. From the Integrity with which 1553 01:15:40,200 --> 01:15:44,700 you work that that inspires me because as, you know, in this 1554 01:15:44,700 --> 01:15:48,300 space that's a that's more the exception than the rule when it 1555 01:15:48,300 --> 01:15:49,700 comes to this. Appreciate it, man. 1556 01:15:49,700 --> 01:15:53,600 It's a, it's something. I'm very proud of and I feel 1557 01:15:53,600 --> 01:15:55,800 like we were saying about integrity, like I'm nothing I 1558 01:15:55,808 --> 01:16:00,400 ever do in life is ever going to breach that because that's what 1559 01:16:00,500 --> 01:16:02,300 that's who I am. Like my word is my bond. 1560 01:16:02,300 --> 01:16:05,500 You know, like if anything I mean nothing even comes close. 1561 01:16:05,500 --> 01:16:09,700 I mean, no sacrifice is worth losing your Equity for. 1562 01:16:09,900 --> 01:16:12,100 I absolutely agree. And at the end of the day, 1563 01:16:12,300 --> 01:16:15,000 that's all we really have. So, if you, if you sell that 1564 01:16:15,000 --> 01:16:17,700 out, or if you break that, then you really have your left with 1565 01:16:17,700 --> 01:16:20,000 nothing in your empty agreed agreed. 1566 01:16:20,500 --> 01:16:22,100 Well, Marcus until next time, Anna. 1567 01:16:22,100 --> 01:16:25,800 I guess I'll see you in person in March, but let's definitely 1568 01:16:25,800 --> 01:16:27,700 keep in touch. And if you need anything from 1569 01:16:27,700 --> 01:16:30,400 me, man, you've got my number so definitely don't hesitate to 1570 01:16:30,400 --> 01:16:32,700 reach out. Absolutely, I appreciate the 1571 01:16:32,700 --> 01:16:34,500 opportunity. I'm humbled and honored always 1572 01:16:34,500 --> 01:16:37,300 to be able to speak with you and we'll get you. 1573 01:16:37,600 --> 01:16:41,700 I'll talk to you obviously. In a few days but also have to 1574 01:16:41,700 --> 01:16:43,400 have you on my podcast. I'll be honored to have you on 1575 01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:45,300 there and percent man. Count me in for sure. 1576 01:16:45,300 --> 01:16:46,900 I'd love to. All right, I'll talk to you 1577 01:16:46,900 --> 01:16:48,000 soon. My friend, thank you for having 1578 01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:49,300 me. All right, take a Marcus.