1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,640 Well hello ladies and gents, Robert Sykes, Keto, savage.com. 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,960 And today I've got special guest Dylan Abea on the line and we 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:10,080 dive deep into mindset and psychology around getting out of 4 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:13,800 hard times, making forward momentum and just finding your 5 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,920 purpose in life and working towards that purpose so that you 6 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:18,240 can find some sense of fulfillment. 7 00:00:18,240 --> 00:00:21,360 He went through a tough breakup that kind of was the catalyst 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,760 for him to improve his health and nutrition. 9 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:27,360 He stopped his binge eating and just got his life together. 10 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,480 And these are all things that that we've all heard at some 11 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:34,200 point or another know to be true, but just kind of fleshing 12 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:36,440 it out from his perspective and kind of going back and forth as 13 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:40,480 to how we each as individuals, but then also recommend people 14 00:00:40,480 --> 00:00:43,240 find their sense of purpose and stillness and clarity. 15 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,000 I think it's good to hear. So I'm excited for the 16 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,440 conversation. Without further delay, sit back, 17 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:50,880 relax, enjoy the podcast with Dylan 18 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:02,760 and we are live. Dylan, how are you Sir? 19 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:05,120 Very well, thank you. How are you? 20 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:06,440 I'm great. I'm great. 21 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:07,680 Where where are you calling in from right now? 22 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:12,080 I'm curious. Lee in Borneo in Malaysia, 23 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:14,120 Malaysia. Very nice, very nice. 24 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:20,080 So we got connected via e-mail. I believe one of your team 25 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,680 members reached out to me pitching you as a guest on the 26 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:26,480 podcast, and you have definitely figured out the Instagram 27 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,760 algorithm and drawn a ton of momentum there. 28 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:31,600 You're motivating people. You're inspiring people in the 29 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,000 health and fitness space. I'd love to kind of just dive a 30 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,840 little bit deeper into what got you in the space to begin with, 31 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:38,960 man. I mean, you're you're a fitness 32 00:01:38,960 --> 00:01:45,560 model by trade, correct? So I got into into working out 33 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:52,880 and into growing sort of posts on Insta through initially my 34 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:55,560 life, my personal life blowing up. 35 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:02,000 And I had to find a way to re channel all the things that my 36 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,080 personal life blowing up a breakup triggered. 37 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:09,680 And there's a couple of ways you can go with things going wrong 38 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,880 in life and one is to go down the route of destruction, 39 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,960 drinking, drugs etcetera, etcetera. 40 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:21,560 Or you can choose take the energy from all those emotions 41 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:26,200 that are triggered by. Not great things happening in 42 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:30,920 your life into other things and I chose to re channel it into 43 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:40,520 working out and then channelling and talking about my emotions 44 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,800 and my cope mechanisms that I was using to deal with my 45 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,120 emotions, sort of writing about them. 46 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,320 And expressing them through photography, videography, and 47 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:52,440 writing. And then engaging with other 48 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:55,440 posts and other feeds that were of interest to me. 49 00:02:56,120 --> 00:03:00,680 And I found that interesting. And I found that engaging for 50 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,240 myself. It helped me connecting with 51 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,320 different people, people who were aligned to the things that 52 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:10,080 I was interested in. And that gains again, as I say, 53 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:11,840 more exposure. People I would. 54 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:15,960 I would post their stuff. They would post my stuff then. 55 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:19,080 Again by accident, I had a couple of articles written about 56 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:22,680 me which then increase exposure further. 57 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:25,760 I love it. I feel like the we all go 58 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,080 through dips and valleys in life, but when you're able to 59 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:31,720 channel that into some form of positive, you know, outlet like 60 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:35,240 training and proper nutrition, all the good comes from it. 61 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:39,040 Would you mind kind of fleshing that dark time out a little bit 62 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:42,440 more, like when you were going through that break up when you 63 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:46,520 were at the the lowest point, did you like immediately know 64 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,520 that you needed to have a positive outlet there or was 65 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,880 there some lag time in in in finding then? 66 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:58,000 So that's really interesting that you cut to the chase and 67 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,320 you talk about dark points. And I think talking about dark 68 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:07,240 points, analysing dark points is really key and really important. 69 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:13,080 So I talk about that on my on my socials, the Dark Side or like 70 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,480 the Dark. Moments and the dark thoughts, 71 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:20,079 because they're really key to like, not be afraid of because 72 00:04:20,079 --> 00:04:23,400 that's where the gold is found. That's what the treasure is. 73 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,920 That's where you'll really find out a lot about yourself. 74 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:32,200 And so to your so we're on the same wavelength, bandit, which 75 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:36,360 is awesome. So in that, in the moment of 76 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:40,080 breakup, I definitely had an epiphany in the moment of 77 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:43,800 separation that she wanted me to like. 78 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:50,320 Lose it. And I knew that that's what I 79 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:54,120 wasn't going to do. So she wanted she wanted you to 80 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:55,680 fall. She had some malicious intent 81 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:59,400 there. Without a doubt, and for 82 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:04,840 whatever reason, that that dawned on me in the moment, 83 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,440 literally in the moment, in the physical moment of leaving my 84 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:12,880 house, our house, to going to my parents. 85 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:20,200 I knew that that's that she would want me to act badly, 86 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:24,000 behave badly, and I wasn't going to do that. 87 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:28,280 So that was the first epiphany, as it were, because I realised 88 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:32,520 at that point that that was not going to be helpful to me and I 89 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:35,320 wasn't going to lose. I wasn't just going to give away 90 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:40,880 my life through being triggered or my buttons pushed by someone 91 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,840 else. That's key, man, I feel. 92 00:05:43,840 --> 00:05:48,840 Like, I've been diving a lot into Stoicism and basically not 93 00:05:48,840 --> 00:05:53,480 letting things outside your control dictate your destiny, so 94 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:56,040 to speak. And I feel like when you have 95 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,920 people, especially people that you're close to like your spouse 96 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:03,880 or significant other, if they I mean you obviously want them to 97 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:08,920 be in your corner on your team. But if that's not the case, I 98 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:13,000 would imagine stripping away the negativity from someone that 99 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:16,640 close to you has got to be hard, even if you are practised stoic 100 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:18,240 and things are outside your control. 101 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:23,720 Oh, it's it's gut wrenching. It's tough. 102 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:28,240 There's categorically no two ways about running from that, 103 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,000 those facts. It absolutely is. 104 00:06:31,280 --> 00:06:38,400 But to your point about sterism, it's how you. 105 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:42,080 Responds to a situation. That's key. 106 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:48,440 And that's the only thing that we can really control, our 107 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:52,920 thoughts and our response. You would hope that the one that 108 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:56,400 you love, or the ones that love you or your best friends or your 109 00:06:56,400 --> 00:07:00,080 bosses or whoever it might be, are on your side. 110 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:06,240 But if they are not, where we go wrong, I think, and where 111 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:12,600 society goes wrong, I think is. Is that we sort of put 112 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,840 expectations on those people who we think are meant to be in our 113 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:17,880 corner to do the right things by us. 114 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:23,480 But what I mean they don't. We lose it or we get upset or we 115 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:29,320 get angry, but really what we should be doing is learning how 116 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:34,760 to respond to situations. If the people who we think are 117 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:37,920 in our corner all of a sudden do things that. 118 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:45,040 Aren't good for us, or helpful to us or nice to us, because 119 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:49,240 invariably at some points somebody will do something that 120 00:07:49,240 --> 00:07:53,800 upsets us. So the key is not to hang our 121 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:59,440 code on expecting everyone else to do right by us. 122 00:07:59,920 --> 00:08:02,840 Really what we should be doing is learning how to respond to 123 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:06,920 situations if they're not the way that we want them to be. 124 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:13,160 And the start of that is understanding that we actually 125 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:19,960 have in our power the control to manage our thoughts and to 126 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:23,200 choose what we think and to choose how we respond. 127 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:29,120 Totally agree. Is there any particular, like 128 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,600 people hear these things, they know them to be true. 129 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:36,039 Like, you can say that and we all know it to be the right 130 00:08:36,039 --> 00:08:39,559 response, but it's often times it's always easier said than 131 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:40,880 done. So when you were going through 132 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,720 this, personally, you left her, she left you, you moved back to 133 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:47,920 your folks house. Like what did that journey look 134 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:49,960 like? Like, were you diving into 135 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:54,840 specific podcasts or you know books or resources? 136 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:58,960 Like what was the catalyst for you to be able to kind of have a 137 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:01,920 road map as far as how to get through that dark point? 138 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,720 Didn't have a road map. I just took every day as it 139 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:10,240 came. I knew that I wasn't going to go 140 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,960 down destructive route. That was a choice in that 141 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:16,440 epiphany, in that moment that I had leaving the place, that I 142 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:19,720 wasn't going to go down to a destructive route because I knew 143 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:21,600 that's what she wanted and I knew that wasn't going to be 144 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:24,680 good for me. It gets me nowhere and it gets 145 00:09:24,680 --> 00:09:27,080 you nowhere. Being upset gets you nowhere 146 00:09:27,680 --> 00:09:30,200 being frustrated, sad, etcetera. You're going to have these 147 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:34,120 feelings. But to act on them doesn't get 148 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:37,640 you anywhere. So I had that epiphany and that 149 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:41,000 moment where I was like, I'm not going to go down to the 150 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,320 destructive route. I understand those feelings are 151 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,600 going to come to me. Instead I'm going to re channel 152 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,920 them into just working out. That was my initial first thing. 153 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:54,640 Just be active, be not distracted to the point whereby 154 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:56,920 you're. Ignoring your feelings, I 155 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:59,040 because I didn't do that. In fact, I did the opposite of 156 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:01,280 that. I delved into my feelings. 157 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,480 But I when I was upset, or when I was sad, or when I was 158 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:07,280 frustrated, or when I was anxious or when I was upset, I'd 159 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,320 go to the gym. I go work out. 160 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:18,640 And really that was me making an active, conscious decision to do 161 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:21,320 something. And I think being active is 162 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,920 really, really key and when it comes to thoughts. 163 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:30,400 Like you say, everyone has read about what I've just said and we 164 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:34,680 all know these things and it's really I use the analogy of 165 00:10:34,680 --> 00:10:37,840 eating a chocolate Now I I have a sweet tooth. 166 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:43,920 I was 27 kilos or nearly 60 lbs heavier than I am today. 167 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:49,880 And I used to binge and chocolate, and it used to be a 168 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:55,160 case of just I was addicted. To well wasn't it so as addicted 169 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:58,080 it was just I used to go without eating thinking I'm on a diet 170 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,320 and then I get to 3:00 in the afternoon and be really really 171 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:03,120 tired and need an energy boost and I go and binge on chocolate. 172 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:09,160 And so now when it comes to those thoughts of a chocolate or 173 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,680 having a cake or having something sweet where it's full 174 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:15,960 of sugar, I literally the thought comes to my head right I 175 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:17,760 want a chocolate. I'm craving chocolate. 176 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:19,440 I want something sweet. I'm hungry. 177 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:22,720 I want to crank energy boost and. 178 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:27,480 I can allow that thought to take me over. 179 00:11:28,560 --> 00:11:31,720 Or I can tell that thought to go to hell. 180 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,680 And the more you tell that thought to go away, literally, 181 00:11:37,680 --> 00:11:42,200 you have to be actively. No, you silence that thought and 182 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:46,440 you have to actively tell that thought actively in your mind, 183 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:49,560 tell that thought to go away. I'm not going to listen to you. 184 00:11:49,560 --> 00:11:51,320 I'm not going to listen to you. And then you don't listen to 185 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,560 that thought and you. You make that thought quieter 186 00:11:54,560 --> 00:11:57,440 and quieter, Quieter and then you put the chocolate down and 187 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:01,560 you don't eat the chocolate. And you do that once and then 188 00:12:01,560 --> 00:12:06,680 you do it a second time, 1/3 time it becomes empowering. 4th, 189 00:12:06,680 --> 00:12:10,320 5th, 6th time, 10th time. All of a sudden that that voice 190 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:16,240 that says have that chocolate is very, very far away and the 191 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:20,960 confidence you gain from repeatedly, consistently. 192 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:25,520 Being persistent with ignoring or quieting or telling that 193 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:28,480 thought to go away. The more confident you gained 194 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:35,880 that, oh, I can control myself from not eating the chocolate. 195 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:43,840 And you build your confidence in that realm as you go along. 196 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,480 And then all of a sudden you're not eating chocolates, you're 197 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,600 eating an apple or you're eating. 198 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:56,640 Better food or you've started to eat the nutrition plan or the OR 199 00:12:57,680 --> 00:13:05,920 that you decided to invest in as opposed to the high calorie fat 200 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:10,360 saturated food that you were eating before you've actively 201 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:14,360 you act. I actively made a decision to 202 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:17,920 write I'm going to be enough a meal prep plan for a bit. 203 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,120 I'm going to invest money in that for a bit. 204 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,960 You you're actually doing those things and you're then you're 205 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:30,800 actively working out more and the combination of the two is 206 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:35,480 then showing results. Were you and then any type of 207 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:39,320 training or nutrition protocol prior to the breakup or was all 208 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,800 this like a totally new new sensation to your life? 209 00:13:43,680 --> 00:13:46,440 I was all I always used to work out but never had proper 210 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:49,160 results. Because I was eating really, 211 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:52,360 really badly, I always thought that working out and being fit 212 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:55,200 meant just going to the gym. I never really understood 213 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:58,200 nutrition. In fact, my relationship with 214 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:01,240 food over the years has been diabolical. 215 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:04,280 Yeah, I. Feel like really bad. 216 00:14:04,880 --> 00:14:08,280 I feel like whenever you introduce something new in the 217 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,400 same time frame as something that you're trying to get over, 218 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:15,480 like the break up for for instance, that newness can 219 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:19,040 create some form of excitement that acts as a beneficial 220 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,280 distraction in the short term. But then as you're saying, once 221 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:24,080 you continue to do it for a length of time, it just becomes 222 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,920 habitual and then you get the compounding effect of the 223 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:29,560 benefit. But I think definitely 224 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:32,080 introducing something new, like for you bringing in this new 225 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:35,400 dietary plan the moment the breakup occurred or shortly 226 00:14:35,400 --> 00:14:39,720 thereafter, like giving you so giving yourself something out of 227 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:43,200 the normal context that you can truly get excited about to 228 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:45,200 distract you from the negatives is key. 229 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:50,200 Absolutely, Absolutely. I changed Also, the gym that I 230 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,680 went to, I was really bored with my gym. 231 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,840 I was working out a lot to deal with all these emotions, right? 232 00:14:56,080 --> 00:15:00,200 But I was then getting bored of the workouts that I was doing. 233 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:03,760 So I joined a new gym that gave me a whole new environment, a 234 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:09,880 whole new group of people who I was around who were very on 235 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:13,640 point in there. Training like athletes were 236 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:17,840 going to this gym and people who were again, so you back to the 237 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:19,640 question of like Instagram growth. 238 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:23,440 I was around people again by accident that were in the 239 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:30,600 reality TV show type environment or in the sort of media space or 240 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:31,840 in the modelling space, whatever. 241 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:35,240 And so I was around these types of people who then motivated me 242 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:39,400 further beyond just the aesthetics of looking. 243 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:43,560 Better from being in shape, but because it was an occupational 244 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:48,080 hazard and also actually genuinely were interested in 245 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:51,960 being fit, being healthy. And So what also came from that 246 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:57,640 was the motivations to eat better. 247 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:01,800 They taught me more about food, they taught me more about what 248 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,000 was good for your your diet, what wasn't good for your diet 249 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:08,560 and so I learnt from them. You know, experts in these, in 250 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:13,040 in, in these, in this field. And so then again, also another 251 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:17,280 change the people I was around and that's another big factor 252 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:19,920 who you, who you surround yourself with. 253 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,120 The conversation is just different. 254 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:24,440 Yeah. I think one's environmental 255 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,680 factors is absolutely key. If you're surrounded by the 256 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:28,880 negativity, it's just going to be more likely to seep into your 257 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:32,440 life and your thoughts. So just simply change the gym 258 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:35,720 atmosphere, change the people in your inner circle. 259 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:42,080 All that is very much so key when it comes to, you know, 260 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:46,600 changing the environment. A lot of people kind of relapse 261 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:48,560 so to speak and they go back to old habits. 262 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,280 How did you hedge against that so that you, I mean you 263 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:54,240 inherently know the direction you need to be taking, the 264 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:58,520 trajectory you need to follow. Did you have any tendency to 265 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:00,800 relapse and go back into this negative thought pattern? 266 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:04,359 Or were you able just to see the results so profoundly, so 267 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,880 quickly that that kind of led to the momentum to keep staying the 268 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,520 course? For sure. 269 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:13,640 I had lapses, without a doubt. And we all have lapses. 270 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:17,000 Even the most strong, even the strongest minds would have 271 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,079 lapses, lapses. Even the strongest athletes, 272 00:17:19,079 --> 00:17:22,359 even the most, you know, Polish athletes that I was surrounded 273 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:25,720 by have lapses and we all have them. 274 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:33,000 And to think that we won't is is not realistic the key. 275 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:38,600 Is to be aware of that. When you get into those moments 276 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:43,480 when you are in those lows, to know that you're in that low, 277 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:47,040 you become aware of it. And because you've created 278 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,320 through consistency, through persistence, through discipline 279 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:56,880 habits, you become aware of difference between that low 280 00:17:56,880 --> 00:18:02,560 point and that low moment and. Not being in that moment and you 281 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:07,440 know the difference, and actually lapsing back into those 282 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:16,440 moments should be almost used to your benefit, because it allows 283 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:22,600 you to differentiate between a low and a high such that when 284 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:28,360 you're in the low, you know it, you become aware of it, you 285 00:18:28,360 --> 00:18:31,640 embrace it. Then you tell it to go away. 286 00:18:33,120 --> 00:18:35,240 Yeah. I was listening to interesting 287 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:39,120 podcast the other day about dopamine and when you're 288 00:18:39,120 --> 00:18:41,760 experiencing a high, and I'm assuming the same is probably 289 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:43,320 true in reverse when you're experiencing a low. 290 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:47,680 But when people are at the apex of the pinnacle of something 291 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:51,280 they've accomplished and they have this massive rush of 292 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:53,360 dopamine, they feel like they're on top of the world and 293 00:18:53,360 --> 00:18:57,160 unstoppable. They spend so much time, energy 294 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:01,920 and focus on celebrating that high that once it's over they 295 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:04,360 have a a physiological dopamine crash. 296 00:19:04,360 --> 00:19:06,920 But then that often times results in a psychological 297 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:11,280 depressive low because they don't have that thing that's 298 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:15,520 driving them anymore. And one of the recommendations 299 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:19,360 through this podcast was to celebrate that win. 300 00:19:19,360 --> 00:19:23,840 Be conscious of it, but don't put it on such a pinnacle in 301 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:29,000 such a zenith that it becomes a catalyst for you to experience a 302 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:31,480 deeper low. So basically just congratulate 303 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,200 yourself, but do so in a very, you know, mindful manner. 304 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:38,520 And I would assume the same is true in reverse with those lows, 305 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,160 not to put them on the same pinnacle. 306 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,640 Absolutely correct. Absolutely correct. 307 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:52,880 I think the key is to elevate the low. 308 00:19:54,920 --> 00:20:00,760 And I guess in some ways, bring down the unrealistic high so 309 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:07,120 that you get to a more consistent median that you can 310 00:20:07,120 --> 00:20:13,800 sustain more consistently. Yeah, I think, you know, energy, 311 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:18,760 excitement, feeling down, like all these things are cyclical in 312 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,600 nature and we all experience them to some degree. 313 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,680 So not, I think, just simply being aware of that fact. 314 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:29,680 I mean, one can't realistically expect to always be on a high or 315 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,480 hopefully always be on a low. People certainly don't get 316 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:36,160 depressed and they seem to be stuck in a a through they can't 317 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:38,480 break free of. But I think if you were 318 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:42,680 objective in one's own life and recognize that these things are 319 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:44,880 cyclical in nature, that you are going to have highs and lows. 320 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:48,840 And just to embrace those and try to lean on habits first and 321 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:50,680 foremost. Like if you have good habits, 322 00:20:51,120 --> 00:20:53,280 like I always tell people, if I feel like the entire world 323 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,080 around me is falling down, but I've at least got consistency 324 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,840 with my nutrition and my training, that can be the 325 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:01,960 foothold that I use to climb out of whatever hell I find myself 326 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:03,600 in. But if I didn't have those two 327 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,520 things, then I would likely fall apart. 328 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:10,280 So I think regardless of what those strongholds are, everybody 329 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,560 needs to have something that they're having control over, 330 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:15,480 that they can use to pull themselves out of whatever 331 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:19,480 depths they find themselves in. Absolutely agree with that. 332 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,480 I absolutely agree. When I find myself either 333 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,720 anxious or not in a great place so I don't feel good about 334 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:30,680 stuff, I go straight to the gym. I hit the gym, that's my way to 335 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:38,720 my thing whereby whereby I can go and ALM myself, ALM my mind 336 00:21:39,360 --> 00:21:42,760 and I fully agree with that and everyone needs to work out what 337 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:51,160 their thing is and. I couldn't agree more with that. 338 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:54,920 But also I think it's important. And one one thing that I found 339 00:21:54,920 --> 00:22:00,240 or a big thing that I found helpful to me is, is 340 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:03,880 understanding. And there's lots of lots of 341 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,920 things online and in socials about this as well. 342 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:15,040 And it's about energy, and it's about the fact that everything 343 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:19,920 is energy. Whether it's anger, frustration, 344 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:28,160 sadness, happiness, joy, it's all energy, right? 345 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:34,440 And our emotions trigger energies one way or the other, 346 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:41,400 and it's our decision as to how to use that energy. 347 00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:51,920 So I can I can for example. Be really angry about something 348 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:56,720 that someone has done to me and I can shout back at them and use 349 00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:01,800 my energy that way, or I can choose something different and 350 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,080 and understanding. Be aware where the fact that 351 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:08,120 it's our choice on how to respond is key. 352 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,880 There's this really amazing story in Buddhism that my mother 353 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:15,520 taught me or told me like when I was a kid and I just sort of. 354 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:21,240 Brushed it off but it's this and I think the Lord Buddha. 355 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,240 And this isn't a religious thing, this is just a story. 356 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:33,560 Back in the day when the Lord Buddha was practicing Buddhism 357 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:37,560 and teaching his teachings, he was gaining more and more people 358 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:40,120 following him. I I call him the the original 359 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,480 Instagram or the manual Instagrammer? 360 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,520 He was, he was as he was teaching his following at 361 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:51,320 teaching his, his what he had learned from reaching Nirvana, 362 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:55,320 he was gaining more and more people from the incumbent 363 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,840 religion to come and join and practice what he was teaching. 364 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:01,880 So becoming Buddhist versus the incumbent religion. 365 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:06,440 And back in the day, in that time there were the people in 366 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:08,760 the incumbent religion were getting, some of them were 367 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,800 really angry about the fact that this Lord Buddha was taking all 368 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,840 these people. He's not taking these people. 369 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:16,200 He wasn't taking anyone. These people were just following 370 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,360 him because they were liking what he was teaching. 371 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,960 And some people in the incumbent religion not really angry about 372 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,680 this. And so one day, Lord Woodard was 373 00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:29,120 under the Bow Tree, meditating as he always did. 374 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:33,360 And this young man comes rushing up to him and screaming, angry, 375 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:37,080 furious at at Lord Buddha. Like screaming at him saying 376 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:42,320 he's a fraud, he's a, he's a, he's a criminal, he's a liar, 377 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:46,680 He's all these negative back screaming at Lord Buddha. 378 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,600 Lord Buddha is obviously there, meditating. 379 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:55,840 He opens his eyes and he asks the young man if you were to 380 00:24:55,840 --> 00:25:00,160 give me a present. And I don't accept it. 381 00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:03,000 Who does the president belong to? 382 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,560 And the young man like confused at this most ridiculous question 383 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:09,680 because like he's screaming a little bit the saying you're a 384 00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,960 fraud, you're criminal, you're this, you're that completely, 385 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:20,920 well, I guess, I guess the president's mine and Nordic says 386 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:27,360 the same with your anger. Yeah, I like that. 387 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:34,520 And so and so it's our decision on how we respond. 388 00:25:35,360 --> 00:25:40,800 Lord Buddha could have angrily responded back and if he had, 389 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:47,800 the young man would be triggering and controlling how 390 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:55,640 Lord Buddha acted. Instead, he re channelled. 391 00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:01,280 What the young man was trying to trigger in him and controlled 392 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,080 how he responded the way he wanted to. 393 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:15,160 And back to your point about lots of different emotions, it's 394 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:21,960 important to embrace sadness, anger, depression. 395 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,760 We all had these low points. That's. 396 00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:31,800 That's part of human life, but I think what's important for us to 397 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:41,760 understand is to be aware that we can decide through our 398 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:51,280 thoughts and through our minds how we allow those thoughts and 399 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:56,080 emotions to manifest. And that's to understanding that 400 00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:00,320 all of those thoughts and emotions are energy, and it's up 401 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,680 to us to decide how we want to use that energy. 402 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,600 Yeah, I completely agree. I mean, there's so many things 403 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:09,000 that come at us, especially since the Internet and social 404 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,320 media, like we're just inundated with different triggers, 405 00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:18,560 different inputs. And it's very, very easy to kind 406 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:25,200 of let those initial emotions take hold and overrule objective 407 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,080 thought and reason. And one thing that I've been 408 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,120 really trying to incorporate is having like a dedicated time 409 00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:36,560 every single day where I journal gratefully and then pray. 410 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:40,240 But then also just after I finish training for the day 411 00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,360 before, I allow myself to do anything else, really. 412 00:27:44,360 --> 00:27:47,000 I just breathe. Let myself return to a 413 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:52,280 parasympathetic state and focus on the here and now. 414 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,000 And what that has allowed me to do, as simple as that sounds, 415 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,680 has been absolutely transformative. 416 00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:02,800 Like, I don't feel like a reactionary state towards 417 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:04,840 anything that comes my way in a negative way. 418 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:09,280 Like I I'm able to just take things in and then be objective 419 00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:12,600 with how I respond to them and respond with reason and 420 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,200 rationale. And you're absolutely right. 421 00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:19,520 We don't have control over every input that comes into our lives, 422 00:28:19,520 --> 00:28:25,240 but we have 100% control over our response to those inputs. 423 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,080 And you could respond negatively, positively. 424 00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:32,120 You can respond with a cool head or a hot head, and how you 425 00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:36,200 respond often times dictates the final outcome. 426 00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:40,640 So you you owe it to yourself and others to respond in a cool, 427 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:42,920 calm and collected state with reason or otherwise. 428 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:48,200 You're just barking up the wrong tree. 100% I I fully agree with 429 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,720 everything you said there, there, and and critically what 430 00:28:51,720 --> 00:29:03,080 you said about living in this moment and drawing yourself back 431 00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:07,920 to this very moment, the very moment that we're in, because 432 00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:15,640 that is a really powerful way to bring your thoughts back from. 433 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:24,800 Distant shores, Bad shores, Choppy waters, bad thoughts and 434 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:30,040 letting and and and if your mind is running away, it's a really 435 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:39,200 powerful way to move away from from those dark moments and 436 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:45,520 thoughts living and. Being grateful for this moment 437 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:52,080 here and now is a really, really powerful tool And again to your 438 00:29:52,080 --> 00:30:01,040 point, it's a really simple way to re centre yourself and that's 439 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:09,080 another big big big point is that to keep things simple and 440 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:13,800 that is another. Another thing that I think a lot 441 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:19,000 of people misunderstand about how to help themselves is that 442 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:25,240 actually the very simple, straightforward things can be 443 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:29,160 the most powerful. And to your point about bringing 444 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:33,800 yourself back to this moment, to the very present moment is a 445 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:41,720 really powerful, simple way to calm, calm oneself if they're 446 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,560 off. In a bad place? 447 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,520 Yeah, totally, completely agree. I feel like that it's 448 00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:49,240 interesting that we're recording this podcast. 449 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:54,240 I I just finished a 33 week competition prep for five 450 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,600 different bodybuilding shows in which I drop my body fat down to 451 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:03,080 3% and was very little calories. And it's interesting because 452 00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:07,480 towards the end of that, I mean, I just simply did not have the 453 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:12,320 physical ability to, you know, be functioning at an incredibly 454 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:14,880 high rate. So like, taking these moments of 455 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,520 stillness and tranquility kind of became a necessity to go 456 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,680 throughout the day. Now that that is over and that 457 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:26,360 mental weight has lifted, it would be very easy for me to 458 00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:31,320 just kind of go back to normal and allow myself to feel rushed 459 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:34,400 and hurried throughout the day. But I've tried to lean on the 460 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:38,120 same habits that were paving my way to success throughout the 461 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:42,880 prep and taking those, you know, planned moments of silence and 462 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:47,200 solitude and do that now that the show is over so that I don't 463 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:54,280 lose that, you know, just that that transformational, I guess 464 00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:55,880 perspective that has come from that. 465 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,920 And I feel like that that is key. 466 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:05,720 Like when things are going bad, it is easier to fixate on what 467 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:10,640 you know has to be done and take those moments and just like pray 468 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:13,720 and meditate and whatnot. But like a lot of people, when 469 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,120 things are going good, they pay that no mind, no attention. 470 00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,120 It's not on the forefront of their thoughts. 471 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:24,760 But I think making it a a really intentional effort about keeping 472 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,600 that as a constant in your life, whether you are in a high or a 473 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:32,280 low, is paramount because that's going to keep those waters 474 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,960 smoothed out regardless of what's going on in your life. 475 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:40,040 Yep, absolutely. Absolutely critical. 476 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,360 There's no two ways about that. I couldn't agree more. 477 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:47,240 So on that note, do you have, like you know now that that 478 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,320 breakup is is history, You no longer have the disordered 479 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,680 binging on chocolates? Like, do you have like a daily 480 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,760 practice or routine that you've incorporated in your life and 481 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:03,120 maintain that you just don't deviate from in order to stay on 482 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:11,160 the straight and narrow? Well, I think that it's it's, I 483 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:15,600 allow myself to be flexible one way or the other. 484 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,320 I will work out one way or the other. 485 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,920 I will make sure that I eat the right food. 486 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:25,440 And I think that another thing that I think is something that 487 00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:30,680 scares, I think a lot of people is like, you know, the thought 488 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:33,560 that you have to be military like. 489 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:40,720 Position on point as if you're in some sort of boot camp type 490 00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:46,800 effort where you cannot deviate from the line in one second and 491 00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:51,600 I think that that for one minute I think that type of thought, 492 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:58,800 process or vision of what it is to eat well, work out. 493 00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,400 Have consistency. Be disciplined. 494 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,560 Always. It almost like scares people 495 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,040 into thinking, Oh my God, this is going to be a horrendous 496 00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:13,280 ordeal to have to like, go through, to get, to get, to get 497 00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:15,080 in shape. So I allow myself to be 498 00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:20,199 flexible, you know, it's not like I have to be in the gym. 499 00:34:20,679 --> 00:34:23,600 At 6:00 in the morning, every single morning or six in the 500 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:27,000 evening, if I have to be in in a little bit later or if I have to 501 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:31,639 go in during the day or I'll be flexible with things, you know, 502 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,520 But I'll just make sure that one way or the other I will. 503 00:34:35,639 --> 00:34:38,920 I will go. And that comes through through 504 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:44,159 having created good habits, because there are days I do not 505 00:34:44,159 --> 00:34:47,679 want to go to the gym. There are days I have no 506 00:34:47,679 --> 00:34:49,719 interest. In fact, a few weeks ago there 507 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:53,360 was like a period of like 3 weeks where I was like, I just 508 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:57,240 don't want to go, but I just went because it was a habit that 509 00:34:57,240 --> 00:35:02,360 I created as part of my routine that that's where I go almost 510 00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:04,920 like. A creature and a nocturnal 511 00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,600 creature in the jungle or something, they just naturally 512 00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,040 go to their cave, or they naturally go to get food, or 513 00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:16,240 they naturally go to, I don't know, make their nest. 514 00:35:16,240 --> 00:35:21,480 It's just something that if you overtime create good habits, 515 00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:28,880 working out or eating well just becomes part of your routine and 516 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:30,640 that. It becomes something that you 517 00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:33,680 just do, like brushing your teeth when you wake up in the 518 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,400 morning, like getting in your car or getting on the bus or 519 00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:40,640 getting on the train and go to work or having your lunch. 520 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:44,680 Those aren't things that you think about doing, they're just 521 00:35:44,720 --> 00:35:46,520 automatically things that you do. 522 00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:53,560 And so in terms of routine and in terms of plan, it's more a 523 00:35:53,560 --> 00:36:02,680 case of creating good habits. For my daily, weekly, monthly 524 00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:09,680 routines that I do as par for the course, that is more 525 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,600 important than saying, right, I'm going to schedule 5:00 in 526 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:14,600 the morning, I'm going to wake up, I'm going to go for a run. 527 00:36:15,240 --> 00:36:17,640 Because life doesn't always work like that, right? 528 00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,240 Life ebbs and comes in, ebbs and flows, and sometimes this 529 00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:27,320 happens, or that happens and so. I think being a little bit 530 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:32,480 flexible with that approach is important. 531 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:37,280 So long as you've created good habits in your routine over a 532 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:42,520 period of time, and you make working out, you make eating 533 00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:46,560 well part of your routine, you will just naturally deviate to 534 00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,720 them. Yeah, I totally agree. 535 00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:53,960 I don't know the exact quote, but one of my favorite words to 536 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,040 live by, so to speak, is, you know, we all have these 537 00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:58,760 ambitions, these lofty ambitions. 538 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,840 We all would like to look better, look leaner, be 539 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,920 healthier. But we don't rise to the level 540 00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:09,280 of our ambitions, We fall to the level of our systems. 541 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:13,640 And having those habits in place is crucial. 542 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:17,320 And I think it's important that the habits that we have are ones 543 00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,520 that we truly enjoy. You may not enjoy them 544 00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:21,920 initially, if you were coming from a place of not having a 545 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:26,280 healthy relationship with food or a background in training, the 546 00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,760 idea of being active or eating cleaner may seem daunting and as 547 00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,360 a negative. But once you get to the point 548 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:35,760 where you truly enjoy the outcomes of those healthy 549 00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:39,880 habits, more so than you enjoy the temporary high that comes 550 00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:44,240 from deviating from them, it becomes much easier to maintain. 551 00:37:44,240 --> 00:37:47,080 And if you have these systems in place that you can always fall 552 00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:50,680 back on, the likelihood that you will continue to trend in the 553 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:54,720 right direction over time is significantly amplified. 554 00:37:54,720 --> 00:38:01,480 So like I try to dissect my day on a regular basis to figure out 555 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:04,680 what day-to-day tasks I'm doing that are contributing to my 556 00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:09,920 overall betterment or demise. And anything that is not serving 557 00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,600 me well, I try and intentionally remove. 558 00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:16,440 And I think you know like we again we all know that to be 559 00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,160 true, but we have a hard time putting it into action. 560 00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,320 I mean so many people and I'm guilty of this. 561 00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:25,240 Like one of the things that I've I just recognized yesterday that 562 00:38:25,240 --> 00:38:30,880 I do as a habit that is not good is check my e-mail on my phone 563 00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,320 if I'm out of the office. Like if I'm at my computer in 564 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,480 the office, I'll I'll typically just look at my e-mail at 565 00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,720 structured times. But if I'm out and about, I'm 566 00:38:38,720 --> 00:38:40,240 looking at my e-mail on my phone. 567 00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,920 And that just constantly acts as a distraction for the present 568 00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,720 moment. And social media is is, you 569 00:38:46,720 --> 00:38:50,880 know, very guilty of that. Like people, if they took an 570 00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,840 analysis of their day, they would be blown away at where 571 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,240 they spend their time. And where they spend their time 572 00:38:56,600 --> 00:39:03,480 is what makes up their habits. Yep, 100 percent, 100% agree. 573 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:11,320 I I I think your point about having systems in place and they 574 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,000 were the things that were my coping mechanisms. 575 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,800 To Get Me Out of low points and dark places for you to be able 576 00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:26,760 to things, systems to be able to lean on that are part of your 577 00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,920 routine, part of your habits are really, really key and figuring 578 00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:36,400 out what they are for you is is different for each person and 579 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:43,160 that's what's key and once an individual. 580 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:49,320 Learns what's right for them, works out what's right for them, 581 00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,400 and it's a process to be able to do that. 582 00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:58,240 Then putting those in place becomes far more natural, as 583 00:39:58,240 --> 00:40:02,960 opposed to doing something that somebody else wants. 584 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,120 And that's another big, big point, right? 585 00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,320 It's it's figuring out what's right for you, what aligns with 586 00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:13,000 you, what you really want. Because again, to your point. 587 00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,600 What? What are you doing? 588 00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:22,960 What you're doing is what you're doing getting you to where you 589 00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:27,120 want do. And that comes down to whether 590 00:40:27,240 --> 00:40:33,040 what you want is overridingly more important to you than doing 591 00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:35,520 things that aren't getting you to that point. 592 00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:40,680 And if you truly have set an ambition for yourself that you 593 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,640 actually do what that actually does align with you, does 594 00:40:43,720 --> 00:40:47,800 actually does engage you, you will every single time choose 595 00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:51,440 the thing that puts you in the direction of where you want to 596 00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:55,560 go as opposed to not going to the gym as opposed to eating 597 00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,520 that chocolate as opposed to going out and getting wasted. 598 00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,880 You will always choose a thing that switch you further closer 599 00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:06,280 to that thing that you want because that's actually what you 600 00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,120 overridingly want. So what you want has to 601 00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:15,880 overwhelm me, overwhelm what you the distractions. 602 00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:19,560 And so people ask me like, well, how do you find that? 603 00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:20,920 Like, yeah, I don't know what that is. 604 00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:25,680 I'm like, you do know what it is, because we all know what we 605 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:27,800 like. We all know what we want. 606 00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:33,040 We just have to ask ourselves quieter my mind, I tell people, 607 00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:39,040 go go to a quiet room on your own, calm your mind, close your 608 00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:43,720 eyes and ask yourself, what do I want? 609 00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:48,160 And the things that come to mind are those things that you 610 00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,840 actually want, that actually align with you. 611 00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:57,240 Write them down, start to explore them, Start to do things 612 00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:04,240 that you that that are to do with those subject matters. 613 00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:07,680 And as you go along you'll do more and more things in that 614 00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:13,080 vein and you get to the point whereby you you find what you 615 00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:17,320 really want to do. That is your overall undying 616 00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:20,440 ambition. I think people know what they 617 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,080 want, They just don't follow through with them. 618 00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:28,440 And that's and that's really and it to your point where where you 619 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:33,520 have these overriding huge ambitions, they're too big. 620 00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:37,680 When they're this, like, I want to lose 100 lbs. 621 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,240 It's like, Oh my God, that's like ridiculous. 622 00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:44,560 You just have to break it all the way down to little bits. 623 00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:51,760 And if it's really what you want, if you really ask yourself 624 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:57,800 what you want and you write that down and you then take steps to 625 00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:03,480 small steps each day to get yourself to that big ambition, 626 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:07,320 that big goal. At the end, you will find 627 00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:12,960 yourself doing more of what you want as opposed to more of what 628 00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:15,920 is a distraction. I completely agree. 629 00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:20,160 I feel like the distractions that we all face in life become 630 00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:23,360 much more. Prominent when we don't have a 631 00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,600 clear vision of what our purpose and intentionality for the day 632 00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,760 is. And I feel like so many people 633 00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:34,000 don't give them theirs, give themselves the time to fine tune 634 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,080 what that purpose is. Like so many people are going 635 00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:40,400 through life right now without a driving factor that gives them a 636 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,280 sense of purpose. Like I like waking up and going 637 00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:45,320 to work every day, 'cause I know what I'm working towards. 638 00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:48,240 And that didn't come to me instantly. 639 00:43:48,240 --> 00:43:50,840 I had to seek that out. But. 640 00:43:51,720 --> 00:43:55,320 Like you said, when if you give yourself that stillness and 641 00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,920 actually sit with yourself in your thoughts, you gain much 642 00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,680 more clarity as to what that desire is. 643 00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:05,120 And hopefully that desire is something bigger than oneself. 644 00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:09,120 Because if it's just self-centered, you're not likely 645 00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:10,800 going to have the staying power to stick with it. 646 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:12,920 But when you're actually contributing to something that's 647 00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,280 working towards the betterment of humanity. 648 00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,120 And the world around you, it becomes much easier to adhere to 649 00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:23,560 it and if it is a lofty goal and you can finesse out and tease 650 00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:28,000 out the the day-to-day actions that lead to finding success 651 00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:32,040 towards them. It becomes very clear what is 652 00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:35,080 and is not necessary in reaching that goal and it becomes much 653 00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:37,760 easier to remove the distractions that aren't 654 00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:41,840 contributing towards it. So few people allow themselves 655 00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:44,240 to be present in their thoughts because. 656 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:46,680 I don't know if it's because they lack confidence in 657 00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:52,840 themselves or they're seeking somebody else's input, but 658 00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,400 simply having the confidence to be alone in your thoughts and 659 00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:59,600 actually tease out what those thoughts are and what they mean 660 00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,280 and how they impact your day-to-day is crucial, 661 00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,440 Absolutely. I think one of the big reasons 662 00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:11,160 why people don't find their purpose and are distracted from 663 00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:18,640 their purpose is because they are overwhelmed by what society 664 00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:24,920 says they should be doing. They are are over consumed of 665 00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:29,960 what society and their friends and their family and their 666 00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:34,120 bosses and their work people and what the TV says and what social 667 00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:40,560 media says is is what one should be striving towards having and 668 00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:51,480 being, which is different from what a person may want. 669 00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:57,720 If society says the goal should be you need to go to school. 670 00:45:57,720 --> 00:46:01,920 Get straight A's, go to Ivy League, go and walk on Wall 671 00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,920 Street, Go and get married, go and have kids, have your kids in 672 00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:11,040 private school. Go on big holidays, shop in the 673 00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:13,280 most amazing shops, have all the big brands. 674 00:46:13,720 --> 00:46:22,720 If if you're working towards that grocery list of criteria 675 00:46:22,720 --> 00:46:29,360 that society says parts of society says are what you should 676 00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:33,600 be achieving. When those things aren't 677 00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:40,080 actually what you want, you become consumed with the wrong 678 00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:45,640 things and you lose your way from what your purpose is. 679 00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:54,640 And then people forget themselves because they're too 680 00:46:54,640 --> 00:47:02,160 worried about trying to achieve things that the neighbours and 681 00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:05,480 society tells them they should be doing because they want to 682 00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:12,600 fit in, as opposed to doing what they actually want, what that 683 00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:16,760 what actually aligns with them. And this is where all the 684 00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:20,480 problems come from. Because of anxiety, of 685 00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:26,360 depression, of anger, of sadness, of jealousy of all 686 00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:32,920 these negatives come from them. The disalignment that a person 687 00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:37,040 will feel from chasing the things that they are taught to 688 00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:43,280 chase, as opposed to figuring out what they actually want and 689 00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:49,600 what their likes and interests and engagement and purpose 690 00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:55,000 actually is. How do you toe the line between 691 00:47:55,560 --> 00:48:00,280 not being ignorant to the world around you, but then also not 692 00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:03,920 allowing the world around you and societies to subject you to 693 00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:08,000 its demands and interests? Like like the news for instance. 694 00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,960 Do you spend much time watching the news? 695 00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:14,280 Does that create a net negative or positive in your life? 696 00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:22,360 So just to be clear, I was bully traded by what society told me I 697 00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,640 should be. I talk about this on my socials 698 00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:27,320 as well. Fully. 699 00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:32,400 I have to go to school, get straight A's, go to university, 700 00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:36,560 work on Wall Street, do this, do that etcetera, etcetera. 701 00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:44,480 All these things fully brainwashed by that until this 702 00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:55,840 break up occurred and I started to reflect, think about things 703 00:48:57,200 --> 00:49:02,080 and understand well, I'm part of the reason why that broke up 704 00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:06,920 occurred because I went into something with someone who I 705 00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,880 knew there were red flags, but I ignored them because I was too 706 00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:14,080 hell bent on being in that relationship. 707 00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:17,520 Because that's what society and all my friends and everyone said 708 00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:19,680 I should be doing. Because that meant that I would 709 00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,800 then fit into what everyone else was doing as well and then then 710 00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:24,960 I would be accepted and loved etcetera, etcetera. 711 00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:28,760 Right. So I've been in the place 712 00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:33,840 whereby I was fully throwing the line to what society tells me I 713 00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:37,240 should do. I was fully throwing the line 714 00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:44,720 into, you know, everything out on the news. 715 00:49:44,720 --> 00:49:50,840 And, you know, I think that the pandemic, for example, really 716 00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:58,000 brought to my mind how much nonsense there is out there that 717 00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:03,760 we are fed from news channels. And that actually made me think. 718 00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:07,560 I've got to know that it's out there, but then discern for 719 00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,920 myself what I think is right and what is wrong. 720 00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:15,600 I know myself, I'm not a bad person. 721 00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:19,160 I'm here to do the right things for people. 722 00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:25,080 My intentions are absolutely positive and to help others. 723 00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:28,800 I might doesn't mean I always make the right decision, but I 724 00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:33,280 know my intentions are absolutely pure in that regard. 725 00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,840 And so I have to see all that information out there, all the 726 00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,120 information that I am presented with. 727 00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:46,120 And because I've realized the difference between buying into 728 00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:50,000 what society tells me, because I realized and see what we were 729 00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:54,520 fed through the pandemic. A lot of lot of it was nonsense. 730 00:50:55,360 --> 00:51:00,440 Some of it was, was, was, you know, you know, COVID-19 exists. 731 00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,280 It does kill people who had underlying issues. 732 00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,880 But a lot of the stuff, that other stuff that we were told 733 00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:13,520 was total garbage. I now I'm more discerning on how 734 00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:18,680 much of the news I'm taking in as real. 735 00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:25,320 I'm making my own opinion on those not just being blindly, 736 00:51:26,240 --> 00:51:29,560 arrogantly dismissive of the news and news channels because I 737 00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:31,520 do listen to them. Absolutely, Because you need to 738 00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,480 know what's going on, but you need to just be discerning as to 739 00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:40,040 what you're taking in so that you have more of a balanced view 740 00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:45,160 as to what's going on. Yeah, I think the the more the 741 00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:48,320 more time you spend alone in your thoughts and being 742 00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:53,560 objective towards reality, the better you become at discerning 743 00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:57,360 what is not reality. And I feel like, yeah, there is 744 00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:00,280 a lot of people out there with ulterior motives that are there 745 00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,040 to try and sway you one way or the other. 746 00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:08,600 And it's so critical for us to not be swayed so easily. 747 00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:11,200 I mean, you have to be able to think for yourself. 748 00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:14,000 You have to be able to have common sense, critical thinking 749 00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:16,400 skills. And so much of that comes for 750 00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:20,880 just simply with just simply, you know, looking at the world 751 00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:24,200 around you in a present state and being objective in that. 752 00:52:24,240 --> 00:52:26,760 And I feel like if you're just constantly rushing from one 753 00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:30,640 thing to the next, allowing distractions to take hold and 754 00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:36,400 allowing anxiety to seep in, you can't possibly capitalize on 755 00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:40,560 that objective present. You know, sensation. 756 00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:43,720 So yeah, I could not agree with you more man being more 757 00:52:43,720 --> 00:52:46,880 discerning with the the news and information that we're 758 00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:50,080 innovative with this key and then having structured times to 759 00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,800 intentionally remove yourself from it. 760 00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:58,520 Like if you can't make an action that will reflect an outcome of 761 00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:01,880 that information coming in, then how important is that 762 00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:05,520 information to come in in that instant if that is not serving 763 00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:08,320 you well or if you cannot? Impact it in any form or 764 00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:11,440 fashion, for good or bad? Then it's probably not an 765 00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:14,720 incredibly high priority for you to consume it in the 1st place. 766 00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:21,320 Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. And it takes, it's the skill to 767 00:53:21,320 --> 00:53:28,640 be able to become, to be able to like become to be able to petite 768 00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:32,040 information that comes in and information that comes in that 769 00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:36,800 you don't understand, don't figure, go and research about 770 00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:37,760 it. Go and figure it out. 771 00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:41,880 Go and go and find out what's going on and go and understand 772 00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:46,480 and understand the facts and you know you'll go and do that if 773 00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:50,280 it's important enough for you. But I think that you're 774 00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:55,800 absolutely correct in saying it's it's key to develop the 775 00:53:55,800 --> 00:54:03,360 skill set to become critical, not critical in a in a in a 776 00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:06,760 negative sense, but to be able to critique, to be able to 777 00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:09,880 discern, to be able to make your own opinion. 778 00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:17,840 And that's again something that we are taught not to necessarily 779 00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,840 have, right. We're taught to just go along 780 00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:26,320 with what the conveyor belt of of what we're fed to be the 781 00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:31,120 case, as opposed to actually thinking for ourselves. 782 00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,600 OK, well, what do I think about this? 783 00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:35,280 What I think about how this should work? 784 00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:37,400 What do I think about what's just happened? 785 00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:39,680 What do I think about how things should be? 786 00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:44,120 What do I think about? You know, what's my own thought 787 00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:48,760 on this as opposed to just accepting what you're told? 788 00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:53,560 Yeah, 100 percent, 100%. Well, let me put you in the hot 789 00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:54,880 seat here, Dylan. What? 790 00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:59,040 What is it that is driving you to get out of bed in the 791 00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,120 mornings currently? What is your purpose at the 792 00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,960 moment and what is a distraction that you have in your life that 793 00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:09,520 you knowingly are allowing to, you know, remove some of that 794 00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:12,920 for momentum that you know you need the correct course on? 795 00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:24,400 I'm super interested in impacting other people's lives 796 00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:29,560 for the positive. I'm super interested in helping 797 00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:33,040 people become the best version of themselves, whatever that 798 00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:36,640 version might be. It might not be anything like 799 00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:42,800 me, but it's more about helping an individual be the best 800 00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:47,520 version of what they are, whatever that might be their own 801 00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:52,520 uniqueness. I'm super piper interested in 802 00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:57,720 that the amount of feedback I I've had from my social over the 803 00:55:57,720 --> 00:56:00,640 years and I and I said, as I said to you, my social media, my 804 00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:03,320 my Instagram is a total accident. 805 00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,960 I was never allowed on social media before my prior 806 00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:12,360 relationship. She didn't want me on Instagram 807 00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:16,400 or Facebook or you know, or any of these types of things. 808 00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:19,640 It was a total accident and it became a channel for me to be 809 00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:22,440 able to express myself, from which I got a lot of positive 810 00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:24,840 feedback on more how did you do this or how did you do this? 811 00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,960 Or, you know, I was at the gym just now actually and one of the 812 00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:32,640 guys there was like, you know, you're, I want to do what you're 813 00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:36,040 doing. I'm like, well you can, you just 814 00:56:36,040 --> 00:56:43,160 have to decide and take steps to work towards that goal. 815 00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:49,800 And so my drive every morning is to is to work towards that. 816 00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:52,040 Now how does that actually physically look like? 817 00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:54,480 Well, actually I'm, I'm actually super excited about the fact 818 00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:57,320 that I'm I'm about to launch a new website that is going to 819 00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:03,120 have an AI function on it that allows people to to ask any 820 00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:04,720 questions to the talks I talk about. 821 00:57:04,720 --> 00:57:08,880 And it will have quite a bespoke functionality, AI functionality 822 00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:14,040 that that filters from all of my written work to give them a 823 00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:19,960 response to help people wherever they may be, whatever time zone 824 00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:24,240 to, I don't know from for inspo or motivation or whatever it 825 00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:29,160 might be. And so that is a channel whereby 826 00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:34,960 a first level channel as it were that I want to work towards 827 00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:41,080 building to ultimately as I say, help people help themselves. 828 00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:49,920 That is super interesting to me. That is super engaging. 829 00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:53,480 Additionally, like being out in Asia, I was spent quite a bit of 830 00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:57,920 time in Bali as well and and and learning and seeing a whole what 831 00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:04,640 I call new economy of digital nomads and people earning money 832 00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:10,400 online, whether it be online PTS or people on, you know Amazon or 833 00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:13,040 running their own businesses or entrepreneurs. 834 00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:18,160 It's a real sort of energy and vibe as they say in what I call 835 00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:23,600 a new economy, an economy that is different from the 836 00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:27,880 traditional economy of let's just say Wall Street or banking 837 00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:34,200 or or accountancy or any of the traditional forms that we are, 838 00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:40,640 are you know beyond end all to to to work in. 839 00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:50,520 And so in in that sense, sort of reinvention into creating a 840 00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:54,640 platform whereby it's not just an Instagram account, for 841 00:58:54,640 --> 00:59:00,960 example, but goes way beyond that to give people the ability 842 00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:11,040 to tailor asking questions that can help them in a more bespoke 843 00:59:11,120 --> 00:59:15,240 manner. I think that I think leveraging 844 00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:19,400 modern day technology, but then doing so in a way that brings 845 00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:22,320 people back to these fundamental core truths like we've talked 846 00:59:22,320 --> 00:59:25,800 about is definitely bridging the gap in a positive way. 847 00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:29,520 So those are all super exciting things ahead for sure. 848 00:59:29,520 --> 00:59:32,800 I really like the idea of having so that people can go onto your 849 00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:35,440 new site. And then just pull back from any 850 00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:37,560 of the the written word or content that you've put out 851 00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:39,760 there because you are definitely reaching a massive audience. 852 00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:43,400 I mean you've got a huge Instagram profile and it's seems 853 00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:44,800 to be growing on a regular basis. 854 00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:48,880 What what do you find as a distraction from this in your 855 00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:52,080 current life? Like do you have any notable 856 00:59:52,080 --> 00:59:55,560 distractions that is, you know, keeping you from moving forward 857 00:59:55,560 --> 01:00:03,000 on this or no? There's there's nothing like 858 01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:13,680 well I I think ultimately it's the day job you know at some at 859 01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:17,440 some point I mean I I definitely want this to be something that 860 01:00:17,440 --> 01:00:26,240 is again it's it's it's the platform isn't about me it 861 01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,480 genuinely isn't and I know so many I've had so many people 862 01:00:29,480 --> 01:00:32,160 come out you're not you're you're a narcissist you're like 863 01:00:32,160 --> 01:00:35,000 a self-centered you're this but I'm like it's this isn't about 864 01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:38,920 me. Yes fine I like nice pictures of 865 01:00:38,920 --> 01:00:43,200 me on on my socials who doesn't right. 866 01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:49,040 But that's not the goal. The goal actually people look 867 01:00:49,040 --> 01:00:51,240 back in some of my posts, but I talk about my transformation is 868 01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:55,320 to show the difference. We've seen what was and what is, 869 01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,080 but more importantly how you continue that. 870 01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:05,680 And so the biggest that's that's something that is the big goal, 871 01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:10,840 right, to to have something that's bigger than just way 872 01:01:10,840 --> 01:01:15,000 bigger than just me. I don't see my platforms is 873 01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:17,840 about me. I see them really about about 874 01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:22,440 helping others. So that's the goal that I want 875 01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:27,000 it to become a full time thing and that's what I'm building 876 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:28,880 towards. I love it. 877 01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:32,080 I love it and and on a day-to-day basis what's in my 878 01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:34,360 way. The only thing that ever is in 879 01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:41,000 my way actually is me. Yeah, that's powerful stuff, 880 01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:42,280 man. I completely agree. 881 01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:46,560 I think leveraging, leveraging your reach on social, getting 882 01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:50,360 people to come to truth with this or come to grips with this 883 01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:53,960 truth and reality. That's awesome, man. 884 01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:56,000 I'm excited for what the future holds for sure. 885 01:01:56,000 --> 01:01:58,680 And I think, you know, kind of going back to what you were 886 01:01:58,680 --> 01:02:00,520 saying about intentionality, like you know what your 887 01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:02,080 intentions are. People may come at you and say, 888 01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:04,880 hey, look, you're a narcissist. All you got on your profile is 889 01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:06,560 pictures of you without a shirt on and stuff. 890 01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:09,440 But like, you know what's driving you, you know in your 891 01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,400 inner in yourself, What's your intentionality behind? 892 01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:13,960 It all is. And if you can be at peace with 893 01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:17,600 that, then who cares what the haters are saying, right? 894 01:02:17,600 --> 01:02:20,840 And that's exactly, absolutely on point. 895 01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:29,360 I know what my intention is, and it's not about the shallowness 896 01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:37,760 of aesthetics. Again, I I want to be in the I'm 897 01:02:37,760 --> 01:02:41,560 trying to be the best version of me and I know my intentions are 898 01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:48,360 about helping others see that it's possible to lose 60 lbs and 899 01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:52,280 maintain it and continues to evolve and understand that it is 900 01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:59,680 an ongoing day-to-day effort. You're absolutely right that 901 01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:02,520 those are mine says like I have so many haters come to me. 902 01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:06,120 I'm like, OK, I know where I'm coming from. 903 01:03:06,120 --> 01:03:09,640 I know what it is like. It's like, it's like the analogy 904 01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:14,720 really is like, if you lie about something, a liar for example, 905 01:03:14,720 --> 01:03:18,360 when they're caught out, they will start to feel anxious, They 906 01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:20,200 will start to feel bad. They will. 907 01:03:20,200 --> 01:03:25,120 They know when they're caught out versus someone who's telling 908 01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:28,680 the truth, they're at peace. Even if it's in a horrible 909 01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:33,480 situation, they can still be at peace because they know that 910 01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:37,800 they are telling the truth. Versus a liar will be absolutely 911 01:03:40,920 --> 01:03:45,120 in a bad space inside themselves, and they know. 912 01:03:45,560 --> 01:03:47,320 We know. We each know the truth. 913 01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:51,320 We each know our truth. And to your point, if your 914 01:03:51,320 --> 01:03:57,360 intention is right and pure and of your purpose, you can brush 915 01:03:57,360 --> 01:03:59,680 anything off. You can continue forward 916 01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:05,320 regardless. 100% ma'am. If you know yourself and where 917 01:04:05,320 --> 01:04:09,920 you're coming from, you are most certainly empowered and you can 918 01:04:09,920 --> 01:04:11,760 be confident in that approach. So. 919 01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:14,120 Yeah, we're we're speaking the same language for sure. 920 01:04:14,120 --> 01:04:15,320 Man, I'm loving everything you're saying. 921 01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:18,440 Likewise, my friend. Likewise. 922 01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:20,400 Yes, Sir. Well, Dylan, where do people go 923 01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:23,280 to find out more about you, follow you on social and just 924 01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:24,760 kind of dive deeper into your world? 925 01:04:26,080 --> 01:04:32,280 So main main Protocol is on Instagram at Dylan Obeya and 926 01:04:32,280 --> 01:04:36,640 very, very shortly I'm going to be launching my new website at 927 01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:40,760 dylanobeya.com which as I say will. 928 01:04:42,120 --> 01:04:45,280 And the second phase will have the AI functionality whereby 929 01:04:45,280 --> 01:04:52,440 people can like ask questions and a bespoke Taylor Dancer will 930 01:04:52,440 --> 01:04:55,800 come back to them from what was built in that space. 931 01:04:55,800 --> 01:05:00,280 So Instagram and. Website Awesome. 932 01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:02,320 I will link it to that. Make it easy for people to find 933 01:05:02,320 --> 01:05:03,840 you. I really appreciate the time, 934 01:05:03,840 --> 01:05:04,920 Dylan. I mean, everything we've said 935 01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:07,160 today is stuff that people have likely heard before. 936 01:05:07,160 --> 01:05:09,760 They all know it to be true. But just simply. 937 01:05:10,240 --> 01:05:12,680 Kind of like we were in the very beginning, surrounding yourself 938 01:05:12,880 --> 01:05:16,080 with the right people and consuming the right content that 939 01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,080 keeps you in the right frame of mind is key. 940 01:05:18,080 --> 01:05:20,480 So for people that have heard this before, simply hearing it 941 01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:23,480 again, maybe from a different angle of perspective, I think is 942 01:05:23,480 --> 01:05:25,720 super valuable. So thanks again man. 943 01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:29,880 I really appreciate the time. Likewise, I really, really 944 01:05:29,880 --> 01:05:31,760 enjoyed this. Well, thank you. 945 01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:33,400 And we'll talk soon, man. Take care. 946 01:05:34,480 --> 01:05:35,680 Take care. Thank you very much.