And welcome to another episode, O Faces.
I am your host, Mr. Mocha. We are on the cutting board.
Keep music going, keep music going.
And this is unique episode because today I'm getting called
out. I'm getting challenged for some
things that I've said in the previous podcast.
And I got double D Vixen and Jay here, Double D and I, you know,
we, we started out with a pretty much ballroom bar room brawl
downstairs. We were throwing chairs at each
other. You know, she tried to body slam
me. So we decided we're going to
save the same for the podcast. All seriousness, we are at
Splash Mocha Houston 2024. We're recording this with some
guests in hanging out with us. This is an exciting podcast to
me personally because everybody who knows me know that I say
what's on my mind and I don't filter it.
I'm a firm believer that the world is too filtered, so I'm
not going to filter it. I'm going to speak my truth.
But I also believe that if you go onto a public forum and speak
your truth, you should be challenged.
And because I'm so loud and not going off the line, people don't
challenge me. They just whisper about it.
Now I want to start off on how I I met Double D Vixen and Jay.
So I met Jay first. I was at the desk and Jay walked
in. I wasn't aware that I had
already spoken to their. Their couple hadn't spoken to
Double D Vixen. I didn't know I had spoke to her
before. Jay walks in to Mocha and I will
give a guy a hard time who I know is confident.
Jay's a good looking guy. He walks in.
So I see him back straight eye contact.
So I, you know, like I do with all the other guys who I know
can take it. I just sit right in on them.
So we're at the front desk bantering back and forth.
His wife walks in. He says, oh, you're Mr. Mocha.
Then you say so. So he shook my hand and his wife
comes in. She shakes my hand.
Then she hugs Goliath. All right, so I'm still kind of
going back and forth with like, I'm still kind of giving him a
hard time. So we Fast forward.
I see him later on that night. I I go out and this this guy,
all right, he came in looking like a good looking guy.
I walk over a guy looks like a fucking rock star.
I'm like, what the Hell's going on here?
This. Guy here is ready like save.
Some pussy for the rest of us. So I'm giving him a hard time
because he looks good. He had the cowboy hat on, you
know, got his hair done. You know, he had the nappy beard
when he first came in and I he, he done combed his beard out,
you know, I see him. Yeah.
And I saw him, so I knew he was going to be somebody my wife
would like. So she randomly comes up and I'm
and I know I see her look at him.
I'm like, OK, so now I'm talking to them and his wife, Double D
Vixen is standing next to him, not really saying anything to
him, not saying much, but she's standing there.
Now me being me, I am not sharp enough to know when I'm being
snubbed. And the one thing I liked about
her is she realized I didn't realize and she let me know
you're being snubbed. Now the question is, Double D
Vixen, why was I snubbed? Do.
You want me to say what I I told him on the way here?
Let, let let me have it. Mr. Mocha thinks he's going to
get it. He ain't going to get it.
Get what? Get get pussy.
Mr. Mocha can dream. Let's get that straight.
Mr. Mocha is hoping the reason. I said that is because of how
how you were when it was so so I wasn't intending on being on
your podcast. I didn't know that it was going
to be a podcast episode. I just was on.
I happened to be on Twitter one night and I saw that it was like
a live, what is that Twitter space?
And I just tuned in and you had I think 2 guys on there.
You guys were talking about Splash and being a single guy
and the lifestyle and Splash and just all the different dynamics
with couples and their. It was their perspective, a
single man in the lifestyle and attending Splash.
So once you guys started talking about Splash, I can't remember
the comment that was made, but there was something about
couples. And most of the talk was about,
you know, being respectful and then approaching the husbands.
And, you know, usually it's the husband's going out to the
single guys and saying, hey, my wife's interested in you.
So I can't remember what it was you said, but it got to the
point in the podcast where you you were like, hey, if anyone
wants to chime in, whatever. And I was like, yeah, I do.
So I said our experience at the 2022 Houston Splash, and I said,
yeah, we went in, had day passes, like all day passes and
walk in trying to smile, like, you know, we didn't know there
was a whole thing, right? And we're a stag vixen couple.
And so we knew that a lot of the couples, there's a, there's a
high volume of cut couples here. And that's just not our dynamic.
But we still wanted to go in, you know, open mind and look
approachable. And no one was talking to us
like nobody. And I kind of started to get a
little insecure. I was like, what the Hell's
going on? Like, do we look like assholes?
Like, are we being antisocial? Like, and a couple guys came up
to us introduce themselves and I guess they're like veterans, you
know, have been coming to splash for a minute and they kind of,
yeah, they, they told us like the whole dynamic that's
typically, you know, this is the, the guys aren't trying to
snub you. They just, they want to be
respectful, you know? And so we're like, yeah, I
appreciate that. So we, I'm telling you about
this on this podcast and our experience.
So then you, you go on this whole tangent about, you know,
it's husband and blah, blah, blah, the whole respect thing.
And you said, I'm not trying to be, I can't remember exactly how
you phrased it, but it was something along the lines of,
I'm not trying to be rude, but this is on your husband.
I blame your husband. He should have been approaching
the guys and you kind of went on a little tangent there and I
said, Oh no. She took this shit personal.
I see. I took it personal.
I was like. I laughed at.
It she took it so but. She's protective of me, man.
So yeah. And can I pause you?
Here yeah, go ahead so she's she's she's saying it and I
think the I have the Full disclosure all right I am very
direct and I tend to be brusque often times so.
Me too. Yes, and for so I, I, I say this
all the time with depend depending upon the husband.
I always say me and me and Mike see this is our ongoing debate.
Our ongoing debate is Mike's. He's always said is more the the
guy's responsibility. And I've always said the husband
responsibility, especially Jay, stand up for me.
Please stand up. Thank you.
All right, Especially when the husband looks like this guy, OK
and and when I say that for listeners to understand, Jay is
a good a big guy, he's an attractive guy and when you look
at him, he's intimidating. I.
Don't see? That you don't have to see it,
but you do see it because when I was talking, when me and me and
his wife were having this conversation and he was standing
watching. And it reminds me, there's this
meme where there's this mother cat and there's a kitten and you
can tell they live in the house with this pit bull.
And the mom is introducing the pit bull to the kitten.
But the entire time the kitten is playing with the pit bull,
the mom is staring at the pit bull making sure he doesn't give
her a reason to attack it. Now the whole time her and I
having a debate, he was very friendly, but the entire time
his eyes and his body was pointed at me to make sure that
I didn't go too far. He knew that she probably would,
but because she's a kitten, she's going to paw at the
Pitbull. She doesn't know it can eat her,
but he knew it could eat her and he was ready to attack the
Pitbull. That, my friend, is what a man
is supposed to do. But that same mentality,
behavior, body language, stance makes other guys nervous to
approach. So from my standpoint, being the
same guy who you remember my first year here, Mister East
Coast, remember my first year here, when everybody's like,
dude, fucking smile and I'm like, what?
Am I supposed to walk around like a happy idiot?
Yeah. Like that too?
Absolutely. Wait, say it again.
Say it again. We.
Don't want to kiss your? Wife calls it resting Dick face.
I got resting Dick face. I apparently have resting bitch
face. Yeah, yeah.
He's right because I seen y'all last night and this is my first
year of Splash and I was like, oh, she looks amazing.
And I and I literally took two steps forward, looked at you,
and it went somewhere else. OK, so now, so now hold on.
He didn't even know with this. No, it's not.
So hold on, you like?
People and you can you can interject.
He's had no problem talking to us.
But no, go ahead. Soccer cheese.
Interject please So here's the
thing, what you don't know, you are cool.
You can feel that energy. But there has been some guys
what we don't know as bulls. Are you the couple that's like
I'm here, but I really don't know if I want to be here.
I'm really not sure what's going to go happen.
So I'm going to take this. I'm here because my wife really
wants to be here, but I don't want none of y'all motherfuckers
to come around My wife stance and we can't tell the
difference. That's where there is.
That's where he's, I agree with him on the man's responsibility
to let you know I'm open. Your muscles will show them, OK,
if you do anything, it's a problem that's going to show it.
You going up to someone and letting them know I'm not one of
those husbands because there are, I've approached a couple of
husbands and I just felt like the dude was sticking his chest
out a little bit and I'm like, OK, brother, I'm not, you know,
I'm not trying to put her in a headlock.
So that's what we're discussing. We're not talking about the
other side. These gentlemen know how to
approach. I know like you say, oh, you're
so comfortable. Well, because I've been through
that and I'm fine with the you know, she's here, but she's not
here, right? Right.
That's what you got to take. We didn't know that there.
So what the guys that we ended up meeting when we were here in
2022, they were telling us, they said, listen, we thought that
you were a guy that apparently there is a kink that it's kind
of like a showing the like wife off.
It's like, hey, they get off on like I want to show my wife off,
but I don't want anyone to touch her.
Yes, that's what they and we didn't know that that was a
kink. We didn't know that was a thing.
Really. Kink is called insecurity.
Why? Would you come to an event?
My question was like bro, why would you come to this event?
You spend all this fucking money.
You know what I'm? Saying, but you're being
logical. Yeah, I mean.
That's you're being logical, which is I was being logical.
But here's the thing, I'll say this.
She was offended he wasn't. As soon as I explained it to
him, he was like, because the way it was explained to me was
the same way. It was.
No, it wasn't gentle. It was big ass Dmitry walking
up, putting his hand, his meat hook on my shoulder.
Like hey, stop looking like fucking security, you're scaring
men away from your wife. Oh, that makes sense.
We went back and forth and I enjoyed the conversation because
it's very difficult to change my mind.
She was able to change my mind in the conversation.
Not about me thinking it's his responsibility to go out because
you're a scary looking dude and you have a good looking wife and
people just ain't going to want to walk up to you because
there's a good looking wife with a guy who's not scary looking.
OK. And then also a lot of these
guys, and this is something that I had to learn with Misses Mocha
where she's told me, hey, my wife likes threesomes.
But it got to a point where I had to stop because a lot of
guys are more comfortable sexually with the guy who they
feel superior to. So you don't give off inferior
vibes. So now that means you got some
guy who wants to be in a room having sex with a woman where he
feels like he's got one up on the husband.
And you're looking like that. You're looking like a fucking
you, looking like you, looking like a predator, like you got a
lion sitting in the room staring at you.
Unless you're in the room with another lion, it doesn't work.
So now these guys are looking and unfortunately for us, I go
around and when you I was standing with you, I'm a clown.
I'm a clown for a reason with my friends because then they feel
safe. But unfortunately I had to go
out there and Dimitri pushed me a lot.
Hey man, go talk to these guys. And now my wife is my wife is
dirty like she want Dick. She's is that your vagina?
No that. Was.
That was that was badge, wasn't it?
More badge. You're such a perfect so, so so
that was so but the the thing that I would say, her and I
going back and forth, I attacked her like I would attack Mike C
when we had this conversation and her thing was basically, I
told you I was new. Learn how to fucking talk to new
people. I was.
Like wow, you steal your ground. And that's when I tapped out
she's. Still the ground.
Oh, you. You.
I was. There because originally I was
talking to them. I was talking to them originally
and then he came over and she, yeah, she went and I had.
To start throwing punches, so. What you're saying?
You could have ended that whole thing by saying stop clock.
Oh, Nah, Nah, she wasn't, she wasn't here, shot clock.
No, she wasn't here, shot clock. She she went in that she was
like all. The attack.
So tell me what I should have done.
I would say this, so you had struck me in the conversation
when I was on the the Twitter Space podcast, a thing you
struck me as I, I got off of that call whatever, as I was
like, this is a cocky motherfucker who is used to
having women fawn all over him. Like Oh my God, he's so sexy
like. I want more fawning.
One and they are just like throwing the pussy at him like
all day every day. And I'm like please, like that's
how I would. I don't like cocky guys.
I like you, got a cocky. Guy he is.
Quiet. Confident Like.
He's cool because we had chatted before we came, so I knew he was
a cool dude. We are the most unserious.
Like we love all genres of comedy.
Like we love stupid like Will Ferrell, SNL, you know, I think
yeah, goofball. Like he is the biggest if if you
can make me laugh, you're in. Like if you can banter back and
forth, talk a little shit, like you're good with me.
You're good people. So fucking quick quitted.
And I'm like in the shower. I'm like, yeah, I should have
said. That that's that's me with.
My wife, literally. It hits me after the fact like
and he can just pop it up. But you said that's from being
in, you said that's from being in high school.
Y'all would have to like check each other like and I'm not that
like I come back with something but then I'll take it to the
next level. So when I come back I'm like
going for your core. And he's like, God damn.
Like I was just joking. Yeah, like so I go zero to 60
like unintentionally. Oh yeah, She came.
She came in all guns blazing. She let me know that she thought
I was arrogant. She thought I was.
Cocky are you not used to having women for a pussy at you?
Your wife would know best. He is definitely very arrogant.
She doesn't. Thank you.
But he's arrogant on the like on the outer court.
He once he gets that's like him on the podcast, that's him.
Like if he's in a like professional world, he's very he
comes off as very arrogant. That's how I didn't talk to him
for three weeks after we met because I was like, I liked his
Dick, but he was really arrogant.
And I don't know if I could deal with that.
But the more like you get to know him, the better he is about
he's just not. I'm friendly from the get go.
I'll be unfriendly if I decide I don't like you, but I'll I'm
friendly from the get go. He's not unfriendly, he's just
more guarded if that makes sense.
He's like. We're.
Here we're professional. I don't know where your
headspace is. I don't know where my headspace
is but I've had to tell him to meet you side to tell him
several other people. Like dude, stop walking around
like a security guard because if he smiles he looks kind of
friendly. Yes, yes.
You. Can't say that to me because you
do the same thing. This fucking guy, he's like,
yeah, that's a great smile as I walk into him, like.
That's how he was. Yeah, I know.
That's why you turned around. He called it, he said resting
Dick. But that's how I think I come
off like I don't know, I'm like I'm the biggest impact.
Like I get I'm a people pleaser. Like I'm just naturally like I
want to make sure everyone in the room is like comfortable
everyone. I would never want someone to
feel like humiliated or uncomfortable.
And but if I'm just like, he jokes all the time, like I'll
just be reading because I need to put my glasses on.
I'm like reading something on the phone.
I'm looking like this. He's like, is everything OK?
I'm like, yeah, I'm just reading some, he said.
It looks like you're like reading the worst news ever.
Is it, is this something that I mean, because during the
conversation I was like, yeah. I mean, he got a point, you know
what I mean? And again, I knew not knew you,
but we had we had talked a little bit before then to let
you check in. Hey, how you guys doing?
You know, we, we again, we talked on Telegram.
Before. But is it something that
possibly could be? Just read your shirt, sorry.
I. Know.
I just read your shirt and we felt happy the same.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Is it is this something that you
that could possibly be true, but you haven't noticed it because
you live with him, you all you're with him all the time.
So you see that other side that people here don't see from him.
I will say, yes, I get, I can, I can understand it to a point
because when we first met, he had been Mr. Bachelor, like
having girls throw themselves at, buy him stuff, like show up,
you know, bring him food. He'd be like, thank you.
So I got punished for his behavior.
I she projected his bullshit on me.
We were complete strangers when we met like we we had no mutual
friends. Like he literally walked up to
me at a bar. So when I found out from a
mutual or from my friend, she had some coworkers that a few of
the girls knew him and they were like, Hey, tell your friend, you
know, be careful. He's he, he gets her, you know,
like he gets around. He's used to having women, you
know, fart all over him. As soon as I found that out I
was like. But you told like never denied.
It but you also said you were like if you had been a yes
woman, I wouldn't have. I saw him as a rebound.
I was like, look, I just broke up with a guy a few weeks before
he walked up to me. I was like, fine as fuck.
I just want to fuck him like, and he was the one that was
like, hey, I really like you. I want to like take it slow.
And I was like. Definitely it was.
A. It was a.
Like you had. We had great conversations.
Smart fucking conversations. Yeah, you're a deep thinker.
So I knew that he was used to having girls throw themselves at
him. And I was like, I'm, I like what
you said yesterday. You said that you're stubborn.
I was like, Yep, I felt that, like, got it.
But that's how he. Was the challenge.
Also, yeah, I liked. And again, rebound.
I was still fucking married when I met him.
I mean like they. Were separated.
They were. But I was not like legally.
Not wait hold on, I said that wrong, not that I wouldn't have
still fucked her if she was. I don't want you guys to think
that I was trying to claim decent because I still would
have. However, in that she was
separated at. The time but same I like
literally just wanted some Dick and he he would give me.
I called him my vacation because there's one day a week I was his
Monday chick. He was my Monday Dick.
It was the only day of the week we didn't have our kids.
So I would go to his house and it felt like vacation.
He listened to me. He responded like, well, to me,
and I was in my mind, it couldn't be real.
You got good Dick. You're really nice.
But when I met, you didn't seem really nice.
You were kind of scary, but you had a good Dick.
We all went, We all circled back around to the Dick a few times
before I was like, OK, maybe he's like, we're really good
Dick, right? Yeah, I I like that.
That's The thing is like if you come off as cocky, I feel like
you're overcompensating for something and then you find out.
Not bad. Let's see it but.
I feel like the end of the day, I'm like my goal because I have
all brothers, I'm the youngest and I'm the only girl, so I'm
used to like ready to fight, like let's go.
She was, she was, she was ready. So I, if I see that you're
coming off as you think you're the shit and your shit doesn't
stink, I'm like, no, you're a bully and I fucking hate
bullies. So I'm going to break you down
like I'm going to cut to your core because I'll give it right
back to you. But I find out that guys that
are like that, they're the most sensitive motherfuckers.
I think they're. At their core.
Oh yeah. Very sensitive, Very sensitive.
Question to you, Mr. Mocha. I just thought what you just
said. So being like somebody new into
the splash, how would like single guys in this splash
really approach a couple if they feel intimidated?
It's just something you just got to get over.
Or is it? How does that even work?
You know what I'm saying? Because honestly, I I seen y'all
last night and I girl, you're like amazing.
I was like. Yeah, I mean, I, I told her
that, but she didn't believe me. But I told her that today.
I didn't tell her yesterday. When we get to we had my
experience last night. So so this is what I will say to
you, and this is because I know that I intimidate people.
Reserve stag Mister East Coast there, Jay.
I look at a guy, I look him in his eyes.
I feel that he's strong and then I engage him because I have
created a circle of guys around me.
Because if you ever met my sisters, my sisters are fucking
savages like my sisters. Like we talk to each other.
Like my wife, the first time she heard me and my sister talk,
she's like, what is wrong with y'all?
There's no filters, you know, instead of having.
What's wrong with? Y'all.
Yeah, yeah, the first. Time I heard it be a little.
Bit what happened to? My professional that went out
the window. We.
And my friends we instead of
speaking 100 words, we speak directly.
I can speak direct to my friend if you know that there's no bad
intentions behind it. So when I see a guy that I
didn't know, none of the situation when I first met him
and automatically I was, I was talking to him like I knew him.
But then they're guys who come in and I look in their face, I
look in your eyes and I feel like they're more gentle.
So I tone myself way down. I told myself down.
I told my personality down. Because the one thing I never
want someone to be afraid of me. I don't get off on someone being
afraid of me. You know that that that does
nothing for me, my wife. I like being afraid.
Of you, you should. But so, so, so all of my guys
like Mister East Colmes will tell you if there's and you guys
saw when I was standing there talking to you guys coming up
fucking with me, Big J come up poking me in the head, right
that I give it. But I take it you know what I'm
saying? And that to me is the mark of
that says a lot. I deal with people based upon
how they deal with others. If I see you and you're mean to
people who are weaker than you, I lose respect for you 100%
saying if you see me. Like even during our
conversation, I was still very careful with you, not just
because of the pit bull, but because listen, I mean, let me
help you understand this and you'll get it this time.
If you ever seen my daughter's play with mine, disagree with
you on that. If you I keep doing it too.
If you ever saw my daughter when she played with my 120 LB
Pitbull, she had No Fear of it. She would ride his back, pull
his tail, do his nails. Now we have a.
Video. Yeah, but here's the thing.
She was afraid of bugs, and when he was around she wasn't.
She was afraid of nothing when he was around, but she and her
mind could not perceive him being violent, yet she felt
completely safe with him. You don't worry about him being
violent to you. But you know, if I push you out
of the chair right now, you can say all the tough guy, I'll
fight you, but you know who's going to be climbing on top of
me. So you do understand what he
represents, but you don't want to accept that when these other
men walk in and look at him, men automatically see a threat in
other men. That's the first thing we see.
That's the first thing we. Describe it though, it makes it
sound like to me it's like someone that's over masculine,
over like doing that cocky, whatever.
Like. He's that's that's.
How it? So that is what men, that's
being in the world of men. That's what we deal with every
single day. As a man, what keeps me from
disrespecting another man's home, what keeps all these guys,
guys in here at Bay is the constant threat of violence.
That's how men live our lives. As a lady, you don't have to
live that way. Wait.
Let me just let. Me just OK, wait, hold on.
If you got up and slapped me right now, let's be honest.
What's the what's the chances? Do you think I'd slap you back?
Give me 10%. Twenty percent, 30%.
Not what you think is fair, but what are the chances?
Zero. OK.
If he got up and slapped me right now, what's the chances
I'm slap him back? Oh yeah.
A. 100 So So here's the thing real quick, we just answered the
truth of it is, and we know this, we feel this constantly.
You don't have to. We do.
Virtual state of violin 100%. Yes, absolutely.
But a different type. Yeah, a different type.
So it's not the same. We're talking apples and orange.
Let. Me tell you a scenario.
So we before it was the day before we left to come here, we
had stopped at a store and it was we were leaving the stores
at night time, right. So there's a difference between
when I go to the store by myself versus going with him.
So we walk out of the store and I'm looking at my phone and like
there was some sketchy where where we're from, like it's not
a great city at all, but he like I was looking at my phone and he
was like, damn, he was I didn't realize he was taught I was in
the middle of texting you. Hey, look up.
Like got some guys over here. Yeah.
And so, but that's The thing is because when I'm with him, I'm
not, it's not that I'm not, I'm always going to be just from
living where we live. Like you have to keep your head
on the fucking swivel. Like don't matter if he's with
me or not. Like that's just the city we
live in. Like, but when I when he's with,
I told him I was like, it's a whole different story.
If I came to this store at 8:00 at night and those guys like I
probably would have been on the phone with him the whole time,
like go into my car like I would I'm fit.
Women are constantly as she said, and it like it's.
Different. Not by.
Myself and you're you, you just made my point.
So you only took a piece of both.
You took a piece of what I said. So now, based upon what you just
said, when two of us are in the room, the constant threat of
what could happen is what keeps it peaceful.
It's, it's the whole nuclear arms thing.
The only reason I'm not going to start fucking with you is
because I know you got nukes. I got nukes.
That's a constant state of male life.
So for you guys, you are in a different state of danger
because you have people who perceive you as weaker.
So therefore they're going to attack you or may attack you
because you're weaker. You and I, two men are assessing
each other to determine is it worth it?
How much damage am I going to take for that?
So that's the assessment that we live with.
So when you're talking about the male mentality in an environment
like this, for a guy to walk up and approach a beautiful woman,
I'm assessing my threat and I see a lesser threat with an
equally beautiful woman or acceptable beautiful and I'm a
move in that direction. So my point I.
Just got to say something. Oh please.
Yeah, jump in. Get in there.
Come on. I'm really confused.
This is our first time here, right.
So the whole afternoon kind of some topics have come up about
how do you approach the wife? How how does how, how to how to
or vice versa, how, how do you connect with somebody right.
So part of the reason we come here, right, is because I can't
take her to a regular bar someplace and it and and hope
quote that a guy's going to come up and float or flirt with her.
Excuse me, right, I bring her here because we we enjoy that.
Hopefully somebody's going to come up and flirt with her.
That flirt doesn't mean that anything's going to happen.
It's a conversation, right? But now I'm kind of hearing, OK,
I'm the one that needs to to coordinate that right, which is
OK. But from the same sense, I think
it's just as easy for a single guy to come up to to us and
approach me and go, hey, right there, this in the wrong way.
But man, you got a beautiful leg right there and I can go, well,
thank you. Let me introduce you to Ron.
Exactly. And then that opens it up and
if. They want to flirt.
They can flirt right? If it gets too handsy or too
whatever and he's not polite, then I can step in or she can
take care of herself. That's the that's exactly the
like, that's how that's how we were expecting guys to come to
us and it not like aggressive, like, you know, way, but just
like approach us and I'm like, why is it always on the husband?
Think about it this way. There's two people.
One knows something and one doesn't.
Your husband knows everything. He knows how he should approach.
He he might even know what the guys you're attracted to.
I don't know shit about you. What I know is tall, good
looking muscles. That right there for me is why?
Because I was me and Michael see your good friends, me and Damien
will get on a three-way call and talk for hours, right?
I was not, I was undecided until I was like, oh wait a minute, I
know as a husband because I'm stabbed.
I know my wife is like if you ain't playing with her, you
doing some really fucked up shit because she'll grab your ass.
But a lot of guys still don't know.
So I know they don't. That's why it is.
Now, as far as addressing you, you don't have to be obvious.
You don't have to be running around.
Hey man, this is my wife. Fucker please please fucker
please. That's how it felt.
You.
Can have a little bit more open stance.
You can put a smile on your face.
You can say, hey, how's it going, Sir?
When he walks by, there's thing the husband can do because I
don't know, I go to you. You're very beautiful.
This guy, I don't know if they're stag and vixen couple.
And plus, when I found out interracial, a lot of other the
interracial couples that I've seen at Fort Lauderdale, for
example, the dude was like almost had his wife in a
headlock and I was like, I'm not approaching that couple.
Why? Can I interject?
All right, I want to say what happened last night?
So you talk about looking approachable, saying like, hey,
yeah, she's down, like whatever. So last night I we were, you
know, mingling in the play area. One of the guys introduced us to
another guy. And I am.
So I think also I must be giving mixed signals or something
because I don't know, I asked the guy.
I was like, oh, OK, so for me to even go, it's not necessarily my
thing to just be out there fucking in the play areas.
But if I've built up because I'm an extrovert introvert, and if
I've built up like had a few drinks, like I want to try this
out. And so I was going to do the
wife watching room. So the guy, I asked him
beforehand, I said, hey, do you, because a lot of the guys, you
know, well, it's kind of I guess mixed.
Some people play in the playroom, some don't, don't
bother me either way. And so I asked him on the front
and I said, hey, do you play in the in the wife watching?
He's like, Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. I said, OK, cool.
So I'm about to go around the corner and I'm going to get on a
mattress. And he was like, OK, cool.
So we go over there. I'm literally like legs open,
like rubbing on my pussy. He's sitting right there and we
have these, all these guys like come like once.
It's on either side of you. I'm being very accommodating.
Accommodating So he is doing exactly like hey, she's hey, no
threat here, right? I'm opening myself up, I'm
looking open. I'm telling guys like you can
fuck her like she's here to get fucked on this mattress.
Nobody is fucking coming on the mattress.
Hold on. So I literally stripped down
butt ass naked. I was like, maybe if I get on
all fours and so I'm all fours, I'm like what the fuck?
And so no one literally and like.
No, see, I was there. I know I walked.
By SO can I tell you what I'm thinking?
Hold on, fuss. So then I I knew there was a guy
that was leaving today and he we've been messaging.
So I was like, what the fuck? And I'm like looking at him, he
was like, we're both. So I immediately got in my head,
yeah, like I was on like I was about to be done for splash like
done. Fuck this.
Like I've done the opposite. He did the opposite of what
y'all are talking about, which is being open literally telling
guys, hey, you can fuck her. Like she's on this mattress.
Like come on, like here it is putting it on a platter for you
and still no fucking attention. And so I was like, something's
wrong with me, like something is wrong.
And so we went up to the room, guy came by the room.
He was like, wait, what the fuck?
And everyone, everyone we've told is like no one came up.
Before we left, though, the guy that I had, he had told me he
had played in the playroom or the wife watching room.
And I said, yeah, dude, you told me you put I literally.
And he was like, oh shit. I thought it was like a
performative art thing. Like he's like just watching.
I'm like, I'm just sitting here running on my clit like.
This is what I thought. So body language he'll talk to
you about. So here's what you did, brother.
I'm telling you, he's like this. Because he's just, he likes
looking at my pussy. So I thought I walked by.
I was like. God.
Damn it, but I thought she was. Performative and she's just
doing this stuff for him until I walked by.
I'm going to tell you another situation where I did play.
So I was in a club in Colette, same situation, but the husband
was like this. He sat next to the thing and he
said right, right. She laid down, did exactly what
you did. I laid down.
We had a great time. It was beautiful.
The difference is if you like this brother.
You know it sucks. You know how many couples come
in? But he never play.
But he, like you said, is the insecurity of the.
I just want to show y'all what I got.
And it sucks. He likes looking at my pussy so
he's just his intrigued so. Can I Can I?
Can I explain something? To you guys, so I'm explaining
this. The stuff that I'm saying is
100% based upon experience. You know how bad it feels for
your wife to come home and cry because she feels unattractive
like that Breaks my heart. I've I've I've been through
watching her cry and feel unattractive and what's wrong
with me? And we went through so much for
so many different years. And unfortunately when I say
it's your responsibility, you as one man to another.
Nobody's job is to please my wife but my own.
And I will do whatever it takes to make sure she leaves her
happy. My ego is not bigger than my
wife's pleasure period. Like we like it got to the point
where when we play with other couples, I I would never pull my
Dick out first. I would never start fucking till
she was already fucking. This is this is multiple times
of her being upset multiple times with some guy wanting to
play with her. And then we start and I start
playing with his wife. Then I just said, fuck it, I'm
going to let you play by yourself.
She like threesomes. We invite a guy over.
I come down the room, he's rock hard.
I'll pull my Dick out start playing with her.
Now he's soft and limp. Now he goes home.
She comes upstairs. Daddy was wrong with me.
That's that's the. That's terrible to me.
So when I say it's your responsibility, you don't have
to understand it, but he understands.
He understands. At the end of this week, I want
my wife to go home satiated and happy.
So I will do whatever it takes. I will go through whatever I
will. Yeah, she won't be satiated, but
that that's kind of where where I say like, I remember, like you
listen to the podcast we've talked about.
I can remember her going on a date and the guy coming in like
30 seconds and she getting in the car and calling me breaking
into tears. So now it's what am I doing
wrong? And I, and I'm a man, I
understand this. So my mentality is this.
Right now my wife can float all around Mocha because over the
last couple years I have made sure I've shaken as many hands
as I can. I've talked to many people as I
can. I laughed and joked with as many
people as I can. I have like, I have a thing
where I will go up to a guy and just say hey, just to let you
know, the wife finds you attractive.
So when you see us together later, feel free to come over
all of a sudden, yeah, all of a sudden doing.
That last? Night.
Well, no, no, I get it. And still no one would fuck me
now how many you know how many years?
Because I was. Still in the dungeon?
Yeah, but so for me, there was many years and lots of tears and
lots of trial and error to where now I have learned where we go
to a new place. You have some guys like we'll
get lucky, but we'll get guys like him or you or who walk up
and just start talking to me and talking to my wife.
But the one thing you will notice, even if a guy comes and
talk to your wife, he keeps doing this to you.
You. Know what that is?
That's the constant threat right there.
OK, I'm going to speak to her and look, is it OK?
Speak to her and look, is it OK? Speak to her and look, is it OK?
That's what we do. So my advice over the time, like
there's no question that you're an attractive woman.
There's no question. And you've actually got a good
personality, you know, once you get past all the prickly knife
poking, you know, you know, I got a couple scabs.
But I'm good, you know? Yeah, you.
See mine, I'm in the same situation, but that's what I was
saying. I know that the delivery, Oh my
God, listen, my my boys keep me humble.
They don't let me get away with shit.
I mean, but so, so I think over time and once people get to know
you and you start to really get into the circle, that'll all go
away. You know, once they know, like,
oh, yeah, he's cool. And like he said, because him
and I've had this conversation, you don't realize that I'm just
as nervous about rejection as you are.
Like I look at these attractive women here and I am not
guaranteed to be successful. She has a whole plethora of
guys. So for me, I'm nervous, I'm
concerned. I want to make sure that I am
pressed and I'm not guaranteed. So there's a lot of stress in me
coming up to you. And you're saying to yourself,
why the fuck? Why won't they come up to me?
And I'm saying to myself, man, man, I hope the guy like the
husband gives me like a sign. Just just.
But what happens when they are giving?
You. What happens when they are
directly saying hey you can go fuck her, still don't?
Listen, we're going to bring, I told you, we're going to bring
you some better guys. I knew I will say this.
It raised itself. I'm out, so I will say.
This. I apologize, I am selected on
who I'm like, I'm not just saying like, hey, it's a fucking
buffet, like come on, I'm open. You know, I am selective.
I will say that. And so it has.
I think that's where he's because he's like, I don't know
who you're feeling or who you're not.
So I've had to learn that and myself and take that lesson and
say, OK, because he if it were up to him and I let him have
full reign of like, Hey, you make the calls.
He would have a fucking guys like coming out our door, like
our room, just a revolving door. It would be he'd be like, yes,
go take it. But the thing for me, so like I
I've done a few content things where I've gone by myself and
like just shot content and he stayed at the house and you
know, he's like just come back to me, blah, blah, blah.
Like that's a huge turn on for for me.
I don't like it that much. I don't like playing without him
watching because for me the turn on like is when I'm fucking
someone and I'm seeing how turned on he is.
It's my people pleasing nature. It just like it makes me even
more excited and like I really want to get into cuz I see how
turned on he is and that makes me like I guess a slight
performative thing. I don't know it, but it's to me
doesn't feel performative because it's like a safety thing
where it's like, oh, I feel like I'm going to lose myself in this
fuck session right now because I see how turned on he is and that
makes me even more turned on. I don't necessarily like I've
done it a few times like going. He would somebody that we're
very close. With yeah, like he's like, hey,
if I know the dude, like I'm totally cool with you going,
meeting him at a hotel, fucking coming back.
And that's just not it for me. Like I'm not really.
In at home with that tingly feeling in your stomach he
loves. It.
We were talking about yesterday about, you know, it feels like a
roller coaster. Yeah, bro.
I mean it's. Yeah, that's what I like about.
It you get to, you get to swim in a different level of emotions
when your wife is off playing or going there and once you embrace
them and misses Mocha, you guys are your, your story is very
similar. And there's this we, we went
through, we we've gone through a lot.
We've been through a lot. And with my wife, like I'm a
very logical person, which sometimes maker wants to punch
me in the face. So like with her, I'll say, OK,
honey, if we go to a place and there are 125 men there, there's
only about 30 that you want to fuck, OK?
And not a 30 that you want to fuck, OK?
When you're in the mood for me to watch, only about half of
those guys going to be comfortable when you're
watching, when you in the mood for me to join, OK, Only 1/4 of
those guys. Now those guys that you tend to
want are going to be the the top tier guys that everybody wants.
So now you're in a situation where like for you, if you're
saying, man, the guys that I want aren't available, No, the
guys that you want aren't available because you're
attracted to a guy like that. OK, You're attracted to a guy
who's used to getting what he wants for the most part.
So that means all the guys that you're attracted to are going to
be more like him. So that means that you have to
understand what you're trying to get and what you're attracted to
and then realize that in this environment, because the
environment makes a big difference and the timing was.
A good thing this morning. That was a good point.
Timing and environment. In this environment, as
attractive as you are, No, I'm stop calling you attractive.
Well, not you. Her, Her, her, her, her.
Attractive as she is. You know and attractive as the
ladies are here, you have to understand this there's.
A lot of beautiful females. Here I, I, if I come to you
being the kind of person I am, I'm going to come to you humbly
when I want to play with you because I feel like what I'm
asking for and what I'm offering are of equal value.
I am not going to downplay your value because I know that I'm
only attracted to a small percentage of ladies here.
And that means everybody's going to be attracted to them.
And when it comes to that, if I come to you and say, hey, I
would really like to play with you, I am nervous.
And if you give me a bunch of Flack now outside the people
like the like, if I know you like all everybody who I know
they're smart asses, they're going to like, it's always
bantering. But if I just met you and you
make me feel like I need to worship you to play with you, go
fuck yourself. Not you, not.
You. But.
I thought. You were bow down to the.
Superior penis I shall lay like penis on upon the table.
She kicked me in the nuts. If I tried that, I'm not going
to do that. I noticed a movie this
conversation first started. It was a it was it was opposite
on the on the base side. But as y'all got to talking I
realized that y'all both said the same thing.
You know what I'm saying? You said your own daughter feels
protective because of her because y'all pit bull because
it's so fucking big. I'm scared of animals like all
of them so but. When the.
Daughter is scared of bulls too. Score everything when your
daughter's with the dog, there's No Fear factor and that's OK.
But you said the exact same thing because when you was in
the hood and you went to the store and if you wasn't with
him, you're going to be on the phone with him because you
understand that hey, my protector is not here.
But when he was there, you walking around, bumping into
walls, you. Know.
What? I'm saying because.
You know, so it goes back to my SO, then it goes back to this,
but y'all both agreeing and y'all always disagree and y'all
still agree but it goes back to this.
When I see you, could you keep a smile on your face and you're
fucking beautiful. I would have sex with you.
Every last compliment she gets. No more.
You had enough. Look at her head.
I can't even move. Get your head off me.
I would do something bad to you everyday in front of him.
The problem is this is. Your.
This is your protector like he's his wife protector.
So at the end of the day, no matter what guy, I don't care if
they they could be Brock Lester, they're still going to take the
time to say is it OK with you? Now his problem is he has a it
doesn't matter face. He's just like.
Yeah, who? Who wants that face?
Staring at him when you're trying to get hurt, you're
trying to get an erection and this guy's over he.
Looks like he's going to beat you with a.
Guitar not going to work if you do the whole thing.
You might get hit with. A.
Flute upside the head. You know how you want to I've.
Been looking at this. But that's but that's us that
you, you're going to have a small percentage of guys here
who are going to be comfortable walking up to him, having a
conversation, talking to her. And then even her personality,
her personality is similar to my wife's personality.
No, I like strong personalities. I'll talk to you for a few
seconds. I've talked to you.
I mean, even the blushing shy when there, I've heard her when
she engages, she knows what's on her mind.
I'm attracted to that. So the problem is not the
problem. The beauty is.
I understand that you reduce the playing field for yourself
because you don't want a weak guy.
You're not going to be turned on by a weak guy.
You would have been turned off by me.
No, I can't do wet blanket. Yeah.
If you don't have a backbone, if you can't talk shit and banter
with me like. She came and attacked me and she
was trying to see if I would back that shit up when she saw
me in person. She was waiting for, oh, she was
red. She was.
She hit me. You, the military, this is.
A question to you, all right, so you've been doing this right.
This is you missed the mocha for a reason.
You did, so you've been doing. It's been.
Nice to me. My father like this is this is
what I've been going through since I've been here.
A couple will say, hey, are you available at 2:00?
I'll say yes. Then another couple will say,
hey, are you available at 2:00? And I'll say yes.
And then the third couple will say, hey, are you available at
2:00? And I'll be like, yes.
And you make you give us all the bad God damn name.
Lock that shit off. You had a guy.
You guys. You guys your Dick doing the
scheduling, but that's my Dick wrote you in here and it wrote
you in there. I've had that with a guy that
has like he wanted to meet me in 2022 and this whole like he was
like, I'm never going to meet you, blah, blah.
And I'm like, dude, I literally am in your face right here right
now and you're with another couple.
I'm not going to like just be an asshole and come up to you and
be like, when I sit here with a couple and you're going to go do
your thing. I would never try to step on
somebody's, you know, that has something lined up, but he's
like what He's like, I guess we're just over going to and I'm
like, dude, that's on you. I've told you, I'm here, I am
available and then your your ghost for you know, and then
it's like 30 minutes, an hour later and then I've already got
something lined up. Now I will say we have ourselves
more so him thinking with your Dick, he'll double book.
He'll be like, Yep, she's down. Yep, Yep, come on.
And then he's like, oh fuck, double book.
Like. But that's the other thing is a
lot of guys we've met so far this this, this time around are
not like with having other guys join like they want just a
single like just them, just. The first time, just the first
time. Some guys you know.
No some. No, so, so to answer your
question, I would say this, there are, there are a lot of
people here and you're going to want to play with a lot of
people. I I am very careful to not
schedule a time. I know there are people who I
would like to play with, but timing is always off.
Like if if you just finish, if she just finished playing, she
may want time to to rest, rehydrate, you know, definitely
take a shower for playing with me because I don't want, you
know, but but often times while you're playing, she's not.
And then like I said, you know, we only got so many bullets in
the gun. OK.
You know, they have renewable resources.
You know, we don't, you know, they cannot fuck us any day of
the week. Like that's not a competition we
should try to engage in, you know, and then you you have to
choose. Do I want to be the guy who
shows up to a woman who I really want to play with?
And I'm trying to push limp Dick in her.
And now the worst thing is this. It's not even about your ego.
Now you have this poor woman walking around questioning
herself. Now she's thinking, is it me?
It's the young. Ones that I have had.
Horrible. Luck with because I'm like
putting in some fucking. Work like.
They that you're attractive, they want to have sex with you,
their Dick is dead, but in their mind they're like.
Maybe you need to give the old. College try and then they go in
there and it don't work so they're.
Getting a forever, I mean. I don't, but I'll.
Look over at him and I'm like. Don't do that shit to my.
Wife, I see that face. I'm like.
Yeah, I've been putting some work in here.
It's always the older the older guys are like it seems like they
seem more self aware of their limits like what you just
described. Because I'm an older guy.
Like you know the old saying you got 2 bulls, the young bull and
the big bull the and then the young bull run down the hill to
try to try to get get some but then the big boys.
Walk down and fuck them off. Walk down.
Because. You're going to wet yourself out
trying to run. And then also the question is
like, we all have a different motivation here.
Like we one of the fellows and I talked, there's a lady who we
both seen we both want to play with and she's only a group sex
person. That's not me.
I I have AI can't fuck with ATV on like I'll be fucking and I'll
hear something on the nature channel.
Like what that bird dive did you go to?
Mouth Dick's gone. Dick is gone.
I was enjoying the flogging but like I having ADHD like that's
why I was like I want to be blindfolded so I could like
really like get into the sensory play and I was enjoying flogging
was awesome but I couldn't fully like engrossed myself in the
experience because I hear his loud ass laughing like just
hanging. I'm just like.
Yeah, come back tonight. He'll get you some.
He'll get you some ear for ear. Plugs or headphones, not the.
Same way I can't like and so I'm.
Fucking I don't. Care what it is, if something
off the topic be heard, I'm like.
Wait, what? Was that.
And then with me, with my This is where my arrogance comes in.
But my arrogance is this. If I'm not the best person she's
ever had sex with, that's fine, but I'm damn sure you're not
going to be the worst. OK, who?
Are. You talking?
About. We still have negotiation.
To go into you and I, you've hurt my feelings.
I want to wrestle. Oh, this is going.
To be. Fun.
I've got back problems on this. I'm not wrestling you.
So, so if your motivation is to, to, to take care of her and do a
good job, because like I said, we're going to go back to how I
feel about my wife. He will tell you the first time
he played with my wife, I came, gave him a hug, slapped him up,
was like, hey, man, I'm a little worried at first, a little
worried, but you came through. She came out happy because my
wife is, she cannot lie with her face.
She's a bad liar. She came out she's like now we
friends. That's what that's that's what I
want everybody to experience when I touch them and I know
that I'm not going to be able to do that if I fuck too many
times. There's women who I want to play
with this mocha, but it's not going to happen because if the
bullet if the guns out of bullets, I'm not going to go in
there and push, push rope. You know, I'm very particular
about myself. I tell people if I give you my
number and we decide to play, you need to give me 20 minutes.
I'm going to go shower. I'm not bringing.
I'm not bringing, you know, used balls to your room or you know,
extra salty. I have a whole procedure.
My wife is the same way. My wife is not going to.
My wife is going to clean herself up when she goes in.
She knows me personally. Don't make me look bad because
I'm not going to make you look bad if you not up for fucking.
Don't go in there and fuck that man.
Go in and blow his mind. If you have that mentality,
you're not going to double book, you're not going to double
schedule. You're not going to over fuck
yourself because otherwise what's the point.
And believe you me, if you get my wife some lame Dick she going
to tell her friends. It's game.
Yeah, I'm bad. She going to tell no see but now
but see after years that's her version of.
Telling because if he give out some good, some supreme pain,
she's like Oh my. God the Dick was so good he hit
me the head with twice. What if they had like a bad day
that day or you know, whatever. Like you always get like one
time. If you give me one time a bad
day, that's cool. We can still try again.
You couldn't say that about me. I always give people a show
because there may be a day that Mister Mochas went in and had
some fine ass chick and he comes out and he's like, I'm having a
malfunction. I'm mad at him.
I'm like, what the fuck you're representing?
Us. And I'll tell her, I'll tell her
I'm not going to sit there with a limp Dick for 20 minutes.
I'm going to say, hey, I'm sorry, you know, I'm not
functioning at the moment. You know, if if I feel better
later and you're willing to give me another chance, please do.
If not, I understand. I'm not about to sit there
because we've been there where some guy sitting there trying to
push rope for 20 minutes like and now she was she giving me
the side. I like, get him off me and I'm
like, all right. Buddy, that's some awkward shit.
Oh yeah. But maybe that's something when
you guys have these, I mean, I'm, I'm, I don't know what
y'all talk about when you guys have the, the single guy like
meeting that needs to like, I get the communication because
we've also talked about this, which is the thing about I told
him this. I said the thing I find like and
funny about the lifestyles you get on any podcast and what is
the number one topic lifestyle people talk about all day long
and they preach this shit. Communication, communication,
but communication, talking about it and practicing it is two
different things. And single guys, couples,
whatever your dynamic is, it's very interesting because this
couple or this single guy might be like you and be very self
aware, know his limits, feel comfortable expressing, hey, I
can't give you what I want to. I am interested in you.
This is nothing against you. Like hit me up tomorrow,
whatever. Or this couple might be, you
know, great communicators and then they get with someone
that's like trying to push that. You know, I just find it
interesting that all these lifestyle podcasts and people
have been in the lifestyle for years and years and years.
They talk about it, but what we've witnessed is in practice,
they'll be preaching about it, but actually practicing it.
You see the like miscommunications.
You see the little things if you're an observant person, but
with the single guys to that point is them being more like
telling them hey, especially the younger ones, if it's not
happening, you need to like you need to be the one to say hey
right now is not the time, blah blah blah.
Like because I feel like they don't they can't read the room.
Someone in the chat said that they were like, I just think in
general in society people have a hard time reading the fucking
room. That's true.
That being said, though, you, you're putting a broad spectrum
into one situation. You know what I'm saying to?
I'm not saying the single guys or the young guys, but your,
your, your comment is based off of a situation.
Because I promise you, Mr. Mocha or myself, if we can't, I'm just
going to be like, hey, you know I can't do it, right?
Now, but we. Would appreciate.
That we would appreciate. That we are.
A small. Percentage We are a.
Small percentage. But she's speaking on a small
percentage. No, no, she no, she believe it
or not, in my opinion, she's speaking on a large percentage
and to the communication point. No one wants to take
responsibility for communication, OK.
That's why in my opinion, it's the husband's job, because it's
my job to make sure my wife is happy.
My wife come here and get Dick. It ain't none of your job to
please my wife. You are going to give her some
pleasure but it's my job to make sure she's good and my
household. Everything is my responsibility
from the dishes to the God damn feeding and education of the
kids. How I was delegated is one thing
but her pleasure is my job and I will do whatever it takes.
So that being said, that's why I say I put it on the husband.
Me and Michael see the basis all the time because if my wife come
in here and she leaves unhappy, you know who she mad at?
You know who suffer? She say I ain't mad at you
daddy, but I got to look at her face.
He laughing because he know right Dick.
You know when she come home and she upset because somebody gave
her some lame Dick, you know who suffered this guy.
So now what I do is I make sure when we go to the clubs, you
know, I have my my little things that I do.
There's certain guys when I read the guy, there's certain guys.
I got to step back, you know, just like with you.
Like when you came in, I was joking with you, messing with
you about that. I know I can joke with you.
We've been poking each other randomly the whole time.
I know I can do that. My job is to learn to read the
guys. That's what I do.
I learn to read the couples because I would much rather have
no sex here and let her fuck everybody she wants to then her
go home with that disappointed look in her face so nobody wants
to take. And you're right, communication
is the worst thing within a lifestyle because everybody
wants someone else to be responsible for communicating.
I don't need nobody to communicate with my Dick.
Where'd he go? Because it goes back to what you
just said, goes back to what he just said.
Because there's some people that you can talk to and you don't.
You don't know because I know me.
You know her, she knows you, but I'm that third.
But I don't know y'all. Yeah, and it's two against one.
It's two of y'all. It's.
One of me. I don't know what to say.
I don't know what to say and or how to say it.
So if you beat me down in the lobby and you say hey, let's go
to our room and fuck now my eagle going to say hell yeah,
we're going to go upstairs. Then my Dick don't get up.
I don't know how to leave the room.
I'm like, well damn. So something motherfucker,
eventually it's going to do something.
I mean. Maybe.
It might not get all the way to Harvard.
We're going to get you something, you know what I'm
saying? So with that, it's like going
back to what he says, it's hard for the guy who goes, who's the
outcast to interact and entertain and even say anything
because what you going to say? You know, it's like, my bad Sir,
my bad, ma'am. I don't want to say that.
But it's just as uncomfortable for the female to speak up if
she can't or she's not feeling it.
Like there's been times I've been playing with guys and I'm
like, I don't know if he took something because he's going
really hard. He's going really long and I
can't take it. I don't know how to speak up in
that situation. Well, that's easy for you to say
in perspective. God's like that, though.
God's like one female step out. They be like, oh, she's got that
well. But females don't necessarily
know that, and not everybody's the same way.
So it's kind of like we all have to get to the point where we can
be in that uncomfortable space and speak up because at the end
of the day, we all are uncomfortable.
You know what I do? I actually say that I'm going to
pee and then take a few deep breaths.
I usually do pee. I could pee anytime of the day.
And then like I just go back in the room.
Like OK Ari, like can we take a break?
Like maybe we can come back to it later.
Especially if I've sucked the Dick or something till my face
freaking hurts because that's happened a few times because I
like a challenge. So that's cool.
I'll sit here and suck it for 30 minutes.
Hopefully it gets hard, but that's your time limit when you
hit 29 minute, one more minute and then we're going to be done.
But I try not to make it awkward for anybody.
I just say like maybe we can do this later, like or don't say
anything at all and start putting my clothes back on like
no big deal. I mean it's going to be I feel
like it's going to be awkward either way when that happens
because the guys, most guys get embarrassed.
I'm not embarrassed for you because I've been married to Mr.
Mocha for a long time and that motherfucker has a finicky
penis. If there's too many things going
on in his peripherals, it goes down.
If he's in like, great, he won't do like group play, He won't do
whatever. Something could smell weirder in
the room and he'll be like, oh, I couldn't do it because there,
because there somebody had wings in their room and I couldn't
stand the smell of the wings while I was getting my Dick
sucked. I'm like, you're focused on the
wrong thing, but that's OK. I could fuck in a room full of
people. As long as you know, nobody's
touching my asshole, I'm good. But I mean, there are ways
around it, and it's not for that in particular for me.
It's never comfortable. It's not.
There's not a comfortable way to just say like, sorry dude, your
Dick's not working. We don't have to get our Dicks
to work. So I try to, I don't have a
Dick, so I don't have to get that to work.
So I just take it with, well, I don't have to do that function.
So I mean, the guy may be in his head.
There's been plenty of times I'm just having sex and I get in my
head, you know? Yeah, my pussy dries out.
Maybe I don't know, but I can just put Lube on it doesn't
matter. I I don't have to have a
functioning part, you know, So you.
Suck my Dick for 30 minutes, I'm going to sleep.
That's what Mr. Mocha does. It's OK.
So say I need you to either fuck me or suck my Dick till I fall
asleep. OK?
No problem. No problem.
Look, man. Look at me.
But no. Going back to the way beginning
when it first started, you are you look amazing.
Thank you. I seen you last night once
again, you like you. Are.
So you are intimidating and then it's like my thing is being new
to Splash. I don't know who knows who.
So some people come just for their people, you know what I'm
saying? And that's in my mind like,
well, they might be here for the people they're talking to.
So when I seen y'all last night, you all, you were smiling, but
you were standing. There like security guard.
I really don't want to be here, right So.
Security guard. OK, I'm going to let.
Them enjoy their people who they're talking to already have.
People. We're going to fix that, right?
No. But that with that too, though,
when they talk in the single guide meeting, like one of the
guys that one of the meetings I was actually in, they say don't
approach the couple, like let the girl kind of look at you and
then you know then so you would have to.
I mean, I just look at a guy like steak.
If I want to have sex with them. I'm not and I apologize about it
later because I probably like super pervy, But I mean, no, I
can't help it. That's the.
Thing is like I can come off as very extrovert but like truly in
my like inner core I'm an introvert.
So like, I think that I can give off mixed signals, like where
I'm like, Oh yeah, I'm down. But like, I'm waiting for the
guy to be like, you know, hey. You just ask because here they
want, they want like that's what they told the guys to let the
couples ask you. So there may be some guys here
that have been to several, several mochas and they will say
like, are you playing, Would you like to play, blah, blah, blah.
But for the most part, I I have to advocate for myself, you
know, I have to say, can I play with your Dick leader after the
podcast? Maybe.
And usually like, you know, but not even in that way.
But you know what I mean? Like I mean.
You you can. I want to.
That was the plan. I told you after the podcast.
Sorry, we're all subject. But you know, that being said,
like I understand your perspective, you guys's
perspective too, Yeah. I think that for me, it's like
in my single days, I am old fashioned in the sense of like,
I never pursue men. Like I was used to having guys
pursue me. Like, so coming into life into
this situation where it's typically like you just said,
the women are like, hey, if I do attractive, I want to fuck you,
blah, blah, blah. Like that's awkward for me
because I'm a natural introvert where I'm like, yeah, I might
see someone I want to fuck. I'm like, oh, I want to, you
know, see if that vibe is there, but like it almost I'm like to
me last night, how I felt it was, I felt like I was like
having to beg for Dick, like literally opening myself up,
like come fuck me like and nobody would.
Back to what her husband just said though.
That's when you communicate with him.
You communicate with him. Because they do also tell them
in the meetings that the guys you need to talk to the husband
first. And that was the problem was he
was telling guys, hey, you can go fuck her.
And they still weren't coming. Like that's what they thought it
was some performative piece. And that's why I was like, OK, I
get that. It's now OK.
It's on him to like tell the guys like, yes, you can go fuck
her. She's she's open.
She's here on this mattress, right?
But. You shouldn't have to.
You shouldn't have to approach the guys.
He did that. Yeah, yeah, he did that.
He did that and still nobody can just.
Do a helicopter, do a helicopter, put your Dick in her
mouth. And then people will start
coming over. They'll be like, OK, that's just
another dude that's not even her husband.
And then you can just stop calling them.
Here you go. She's good to go.
You just need. A few minutes with this mania
and. I got you, you just got to tell
me you want to fuck. Good at giving references then.
You'll get annoyed because everybody will think that you're
their best friend because she's everybody's best friend.
So her friends generally are like, oh, you want to smoke?
Like hey. Put y'all a royalty in this
motherfucker. There's no such thing.
Yeah.
The reason I say there's no such thing is because we started
coming here because we wanted to go to a place where we didn't
know people and we're both outgoing.
Being outgoing. I realized that for me to say hi
to every guy and talk to every guy and make him comfortable
with me opens him up to just not seeing me as a threat.
My first 15-16 years in the lifestyle, I had to tone myself
down because I got into a lifestyle where being a black
guy in a lot of the circles I was in, I had to realize that I
was intimidating husbands and things like that.
So for a lot of years, I made sure I tone myself down, tone
myself down, tone myself down. I'm aware of who I am.
I'm aware of my presence. I'm not confused about it.
Sometimes I forget and I need a reminder, but I'm weird.
I'm usually there to help you out.
I'm. Like Daddy?
You're talking to people. That's why I pinned it on you,
because you have the personality and energy.
You should be the fucking mayor. And and when I say you should be
the mayor, it's why not. You're in this lifestyle.
But for that only, like he said, that does actually help her
because then they're like, Oh no, somebody says, oh, this
guy's intimidating. They're like, Oh no, he's not
temptating. He's cool as shit.
You know, just being nice to this girl because I have people
that don't want to fuck me. When they found out that I'm
married to him, that's why we walk around separately, but
don't tell him that I'm OK. No, no, no.
But once people started talking to him because they I had a few
guys like, Oh no, I'm not fucking you.
Like I got to go talk to your dude and I'm like, no, you
don't. I was so confused.
I'm like, I don't. It's not wack.
We we survive. We survive life by identifying
patterns. That's how we survive.
If you walk into a situation where 80% of the guys who look
like you with a wife, like her behave this way, I mean, if 80%
of the time your parachute wasn't going to open up, you
wouldn't jump out the fucking plane.
For these guys, it's the same sensation of walking up and
getting denied. We know what denial feels like.
It's it don't feel good. So that being said, that's why I
it's experience. It's experience saying dude, for
for you, it's a compliment. It's a compliment that you're
intimidating. And then on top of that, once
you make guys comfortable for them, they feel good knowing
that, knowing that you know you're a cool guy and she's
going to have a better experience.
When the guys like you and they're comfortable with you,
that's that's huge. When they like you and they're
comfortable, you like these guys who know me.
You have certain husbands who get weird if you fuck his wife
too good. I shit you not, that's a huge
percentage. Huge percentage of guys get
upset if you fuck his wife too good.
I. Even if they encourage their
wife. Even because I I've seen
husbands cry. I had a husband threaten me
recently OK it. Was good times.
But he wouldn't. He initially said that though.
There's a huge percentage of guys in their mind, they've been
with this woman X amount of time and they brought her here
sexually. You come in and they're like,
yeah, I want you to. I want you to do get her there.
I want you to do this. In their mind, you can only
bring her here. In their mind, they know her
limit. They push this car as.
Fast as it can go. You bring it here and now
they're like, who the. Fuck is she and.
What you do and now they're upset with you.
So now. That's happened to a friend of
ours. Yeah.
The husband was like, yeah, that's true.
I didn't think about that. Yeah, they're not.
Of course, because you guys, I always see the couple, you're
actually the hunters. There's two of you, one of me.
Once you start understanding the prey that you're stalking,
you're going to be more successful at it.
You know what I'm saying? So that that's where with me, I
know I've come across rough. And to her point from the very
beginning, I should explain myself better instead of just
whacking her over the head because I wasn't.
Talking. But wait, did you know her?
No. So that was why he doesn't
explain things to people that he doesn't care about or no, when
he meets you, that's a true statement.
He's first of all, you do that to her children.
OK, You RIP the Band-Aid real quick.
He's the he's the he's the boss's house.
OK, but he and it's not it's I don't think, because I know him
and the intent is never mean. He's just super fucking direct.
I told guys here, if you want to have sex with me, you have to
say I want to have sex with you at five O 1 and 30 seconds PM
because I live with this motherfucker.
And that's the only way I'm going to know.
If you're just like, hey, you know, whatever.
I'm going to be like, oh, hey, how are you?
Because I'm a little bitchy sometimes.
I'm not always the brightest crown in the box.
I'm like, OK. And then he's like, baby, that
guy wanted to play with you. I'm like, oh, did he?
He didn't say anything. Yeah.
So is it That's what when I had to become more direct.
He'll be like he just needs to smile.
That's it. But you're still controls an
illusion. As he always says.
You're the person in control. You're the pussy.
Pussy has power. He's just here as a let me
explain the Pitbull, OK? I call it at home.
Releasing the Pitbull. That is because I can take care
of myself. He knows that I completely do.
Just like you said, I go places by myself.
I was home with all of our children for years by myself
without him. If I what we call release the
pit bull, that means it's really bad and somebody's done
something really, really mean. Really, really bad.
So that's what he meant by like the pit bull.
He is, like you said, gentle Giant.
You know that cowboy doesn't know that.
You know Dick doesn't know that he doesn't know that you know
that I know that he's not a Dick.
If everyone else in the world thinks he's a Dick, I'm OK.
With that, she's not afraid. Right, exactly.
But that's what I was saying, like gentler what releasing the
pit bull for us is. I've had enough of the doctor's
office. OK, you can come with me next
time and talk to them because clearly I don't speak English.
So I I say this. I I say she.
Went to. A doctor's appointment.
So I say this like, look, I'm crazy, right?
Like I, I, I, I'm crazy, but if, but if, but I can still talk to
you logically and like, you know, I can receive what you're
trying to tell me if you're not hearing me and you're still like
trying to argue or whatever the situation is.
If it gets to a point where I'm fed and I'm done, I'm like, hey,
handle this. That's because I'm, I always
tell people I'm like, I'm crazy if you think I'm crazy.
Like if it gets to that point where someone is like crossing a
line, if he has to step in, like, I'm sorry dude.
But. But he's very like, he's sharp
with it, yeah. But he just said wait, wait,
wait, wait. He just said he was going to be
real cool with it. So Mr. Mocha is definitely super
cool with it, but he looks like he's about to kill.
Like that face that you're making right now, He looks like
about to kill someone. So you don't have to say shit
with your words. You're saying shit with your
face. That nurse is going to put the
IV in the correct vein with you sitting there.
A guy came in and gave me an IV one time.
I was fucking sweating. Mr. Moko is just sitting there
chilling, doing nothing. His whole hand was shaking.
He didn't say or do anything. He was just chilling you.
Talked. About actually, what I said was,
listen, her veins are fragile. Are you experienced in this?
If you're not, please get somebody else because she's
already terrified of needles and I don't like seeing.
Her no, I was no we were past the terrified of Needles Park
and. Then right there right there was
enough to put fear into any MD who's trying to find your van.
They've. Been building for 10 years, not
my but but you know that pain you experience when somebody
like to see her, that nervous look in her face, it it hurts
like it makes. I'm not an anxious person, but
when I see her in any sort of discomfort, it makes me anxious
on the inside. I can't take any of this pain.
It's like your kids and your wife.
I wish I could take it the last two years if I could have taken
that pain. So for me, I'm OK humbling
myself, communicating whatever it may be, doing the research,
figuring out the science. And that's the only
responsibility that I challenge husbands with, like make sure
she's happy, make sure and whatever it may be, because I
don't need her to humble herself.
I will do that. Now there's times when I like
her first mocha. She's in there walking through
there's you know, this is Dick heavy, right?
I just don't know which Dick to choose.
And usually we go to parties. There's two dudes that she can
fuck. There's 100 here.
She's like daddy that's just in the hey, come to the room to
room to room. I don't know what to take.
They're dudes. No, no, no.
Let's start from the beginning. What'd you actually do When we
got in the room, baby, what the fuck?
And I was like, what the fuck? What?
There's a whole bunch of Dicks. Just pick one and just do it.
And I'm like, but I don't know who to pick.
Like I've never done this before.
But here was the problem. We'd only been to couples
parties before that. Couples you have to talk to for
five hours sometimes. Sometimes you get lucky and
they're down to fuck just like you, and they just want to go to
the room. But it's usually like the
smooshing. The people want to socialize,
they want to dance a little bit. And then, you know, maybe at
3:00 AM play. So the concept of coming to a
party and me walking up the cowboy and saying like, hey, I
want to play with you. And him playing with me was
alien, right? Fucking alien.
So when he comes, we get to the room, he yells at me.
He never raises his voice. His tone changes.
If it goes low, we're good. If it goes high, we're in
trouble. The red light if we're, if
we're, if there's a higher option.
But I'm not. Yelling.
Yeah, So we call it yelling. So he yells at me in the room.
I cry a little bit. I was being a sense of a bitch.
It was overwhelming. I get overwhelmed quickly.
I do too. So I get in the room, I cry a
little bit, dry up my tears. He's like, who do you want to
fuck? And I was like the tall guy.
I want to fuck the tall guy. I said stay right here.
I walk over. I was.
Excuse me. Thank you.
All right. You see the lady staying up
there? Right here?
That's my wife. No pressure.
She finds you very attractive. Would you like to play with her?
Yeah. And then she comes down like.
And after that it was just like, OK, this is like, but the first
party, he was like my emotional sport human.
I normally now we don't have to be together because I we know
enough people that it's not, I'm not scared to be alone.
But that party too, he was definitely like my advocate,
just hey, like my wife finds you attractive.
And like they did say, I don't normally agree with like the
whole machismo like alpha, like like women worship their men
type thing. I'm waking being a little
bratty, a little bratty maybe for later.
But I mean he really does what I the way I look perspective for
me is that what I can't do he can.
I can put that on him. So even when he's a Dick head
and I just say, well, I'm sorry, he's being a Dick head.
Had I known he was mean to you, I wouldn't have apologized in
the beginning because we didn't know each other.
And I've been like, she just, she just might be some troller
from Twitter. We don't know.
But now we meet each other in person and I'm like, Oh my God,
you were so mean to her and now I'm mad at you.
She's. Automatically.
On your. Side, there's no question.
Yeah, but you? Do to her.
Overall, you can as your as your person if you feel, especially
if you're as cute as you are and you feel like a bunch of people
are not talking to you, girl walk around with me.
But I also feel like the vibe was different last night because
there were a few people that said like it, that I think maybe
people got here earlier in the week too, and people were kind
of tired yesterday. We heard that people go balls
the wall like Thursday night or like maybe Wednesday, like we
got in Thursday morning. But I wanted to bring up what
you said about the medical part of it.
Like I had to have a hysterectomy and like the guy
that was Wheeling me from the OR to the room, like I was like he
was bumping into everything. Like I was coming up out of
anesthesia. So by the time we got up to the
room, he was there and he as soon as he made eye contact, I
looked at him and I just had like, like starting to cry.
And this nerd, if I wouldn't have been fucked, I would have
fucked her up because she goes, she went crying until she saw
you because he saw the look in my face because he immediately
his reaction is what's wrong? What happened?
Like I was like, they're fucking bumping me.
And I'm like feeling all of that.
And it was like that look of like, that's my safe space.
So when I made eye contact, like getting wheeled into that room
and he saw my face and he was like, what happened?
Like that was just like, he was immediately like on high alert.
So I wholeheartedly like can relate to that.
And then that part of being who I am, it relates to every single
thing. My kids the.
Same. I come home.
And the kids had her pissed off the first thing I asked.
Did I do something wrong? Did I do something to offend?
You did I do something to offend you?
That's always my question. And then she told me it's the
kids. I'm like, thank God these people
because it's not me, you know what I'm saying?
And then and and so that's how we are the kids.
Everybody knows because she's going to get she won't take it
out on those people. She'll take it out on me.
I'm the one not going to get in the pussy And like you know what
I'm saying? You piss her off, I come home.
Now I'm sitting. There with a dry Dick.
So I go out there and attack these people, let the kids have
it, and I'm like. FY he's never spanked our kids
in the entirety of our our relationship.
OK, He has not had to. His tone changes.
The tone change. But but it, it goes everywhere.
It goes everywhere from and, and it's, it's, it's equal.
It's I protect her from myself. You know, my wife is very, very
sharp, but she doesn't carry the awareness that I carry.
That's not that's not her. Again, not the brightest crown
in the box. I am all over the place.
It's. The mocha bit smoker.
I apologize, I got the pee pee. Not having to ask.
We just don't want you pissed in the.
Cup in front, it's not that kind of part.
Bro it was nice. You ain't you ain't doing
nothing, man. Why do you fuck?
Did you just? Stand up.
See, I'm trying to tell you. If y'all ain't doing nothing, If
y'all ain't doing nothing, when y'all ain't doing nothing.
Holla at your boy. Are you going to?
Be. Honest, I'm going to be whatever
you need me to be and I promise you I tried.
I tried to get you last night and it's intimidating her.
Mr. Morgan said it personally and said it out loud.
I feel like that was a lie. You're lying to her right now
because I saw you fucking somebody in the wife watching
her room because I came in to check out.
Your penis. How about when I tried to?
When I tried to talk to? I was like wait, how big is his
Dick is That is like a medium size.
I could probably do that. When I tried to talk to him as a
couple, it was just like, I walked up.
I was just like, OK, they're not into this shit and I'm.
Wearing. Here, if we weren't into this
right, we are into a lot of people.
There's a lot of couples here that's here right now.
There's are like I was. Paying the money to come to.
This that makes zero sense to me because you're looking for
another couple and y'all just want to have fun with the female
and I'll be like OK I understand that.
You know, I'm saying because some couples just want other
couples. But this then go to another
naughty Nolan's or some other like a lifestyle where like
couples are the focus. To me it's like this is a hot
wife event, right? So the focus is the wife getting
fucked. Like that's the fact.
Like I get that there's couples and there's all different type
of dynamics, but like to me it's splash mocha.
It is catered to wipes. When people hear splash Mocha,
they're like, Oh yeah, I want to go.
Or it's just like, if you want to go to Belize, you know what
I'm saying? The name, the name is Self Hose.
Wait, so when people, so when couples come to Splash Mocha,
there's couples that just come to splash Mocha just because
they got the money and they don't care, they want to come as
bad smoker. And they can say they've been
here. They can say, you know it was.
A flat smoker. We did that.
We met a couple couple of couples.
And they and they maybe it's maybe their first step as well
into especially with the interracial part of it that this
is some areas it's hard to find that.
They're in room. I never thought of it.
So they. Come and then kind of test the
waters. How do I feel when a black man
is talking to my wife? You know, and so, and you got to
understand from a black male perspective, not that I, I am
one, but I'm married to one as well.
And that can be into. I don't know exactly who really
is here that is going to be approachable or that I can
approach, or if they're here to kind of use my energy for their
own sexual stuff. Not actually my body and who I
am, but just the threat of possibly fucking as well.
Wives. That are just coming to abuse
the husbands because the husbands really want them to go
to splash. And we met a couple and they say
they both want to be here. But she's also like, how much
more do I have to walk around tonight?
So you never know. That's how I feel when I'm the
end cowboy. Like how much longer do I have
to walk around, wait for her? Bed for us because I don't even
know what's going on, but do what y'all do.
Y'all a couple and y'all met a couple.
You see what I'm saying? So it's easy for a couple to
talk to a couple in real life. Oh, when we first met, my wife
was near. My wife only stopped because she
saw him. She didn't know what was going.
On. She saw him stop and it was
like. I did not mean to be like.
We. Just shook hands for a long.
Time. Yeah, we.
Did it was a really long like it was like the Will Ferrell like
step brothers at the end like. Yeah, you started.
To apologize, I was like, I didn't even see what's because I
was. Too busy going on.
My. Own girl.
I got you. I got you.
Y'all got it. Hey, the rest of y'all, the rest
of y'all vacation. Don't be all outstanding, I'm
telling you. Yeah.
OK. I can't hear Mr. Mogram.
I appreciate you coming in. Yes, Sir.
All right, Mr. Mocha, you got to
end. It we're going to wrap it up.
I appreciate you guys coming in and listening and hanging out
with us. Wife, can you hump his leg in
the back of the room? I'm like a regular.
Person, I apologize my. We thought this was the wife
watching room. So we'll wrap the episode up.
Thank you guys for. Coming in.
Thank you for having. Thank.
You and this right here, I'll tell you one two things.
When you go downstairs to hang out, do not hang out on the
perimeter. The perimeter was the worst
place to be. Be in the middle, in the mix.
Yeah, the perimeter. The perimeter.
People hang out on the perimeter.
Who are watching, who aren't approachable or who are nervous?
And so for you, if you're in the middle also, what happens is you
tend to be in earshot of conversations and people who
want to talk to you can have an excuse to speak to you or an
excuse to interact. A lot of times, you know, you'll
hear a joke and then you can kind of kind of gently move in
there. But if you're on the outskirts,
you're far away from everything and people.
So it's it's the small things, you know, body language,
obviously this right here, which is something that I'm a
terrible, terrible that no, I've had I've had fighters tell me
like, dude, you look like you're about to attack somebody.
Like just got my hands. Arms are comfortable like that.
Yeah, they are. Sometimes I like to put them on
my dudes like I'm cold. So I just hold.
Your titties. But besides that, if you, if you
do those small things and then like this right here, you're
open right now. You're not usually this old.
If you take this energy out there, you're going to make
friends. You're going to have people in
your face. They're going to want to talk,
they want to play with you. You will get to that point where
you're just like, OK, there's too much Dick coming back.
And you better not complain, yeah?
We just say maybe you're swimming to see a Dick.
So until next time, thank you for joining us and thank you for
coming on to correct me and my poor behavior and we will see
you back soon. Give it to you get pulling your
head, bring it over to this mid so I can see your legs trip.
I got it somewhere easily that you just like a porn me swimming
air and when rod on the sea.