1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,280 Top five male Canon events. I feel like every guy has 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:04,560 moments. Wait. 3 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:07,040 Who's this? YouTube Paul talks life. 4 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:11,440 I feel like every guy has moments in their life where they 5 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:14,880 experience something that no one would have warned them about, 6 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:19,960 and moments that would shape who you become and how you think and 7 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:23,560 move through the world today. I'm talking about the top five 8 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:28,000 Canon events that every guy has probably gone through. 9 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:33,760 So starting off the list, as much as I hate to say this would 10 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:38,280 be discovering corn for the first time, I think every guy 11 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,040 out there can remember the first time that they were exposed to 12 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:42,880 it. No, actually, I can't. 13 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:44,720 I actually can't. I remember. 14 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:47,880 I remember looking up. Yeah, no, this is like a 15 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:49,960 relatable thing for guys. Sure. 16 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,640 Yeah, no, it is bothering me. His tools aren't repaired as 17 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:55,840 well, but I'll ignore that. I like that it's Minecraft while 18 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:58,600 he's yapping. But yeah, I remember the first 19 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:02,480 time I had a curiosity. I used to look up nude beaches 20 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:07,120 on Google when I was 10. And I've said this before, I had 21 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:10,320 an iPad many at the time and I didn't know what Incognito mode 22 00:01:10,320 --> 00:01:11,560 was. So I used to look up nude 23 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,720 beaches or boobs. Like I would just Google boobs 24 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:20,320 and like, I didn't know like, like porn sites wouldn't show 25 00:01:20,320 --> 00:01:21,400 up. I would just Google the word 26 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:24,880 boobs and it would show up as recent searches and I couldn't 27 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,120 get rid of it. So what I would do is I would 28 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:32,640 look up WWE superstars to kind of like filter the list down. 29 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:39,640 So when like if my mom checked my iPad and she clicked on 30 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:42,120 Google, it wouldn't show up. It would just show up like 31 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:46,720 Sheamus, The Undertaker, John Cena, Roman Reigns, Dwayne 32 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:48,160 Johnson, you know, stuff like that. 33 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:54,040 Then I would look, I would watch, I would, I would Google 34 00:01:54,040 --> 00:02:00,120 like this is probably when I was like 12, I probably around 11 or 35 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:01,480 12, I found out what like porn was. 36 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:09,520 But I, I used to Google like naked boobs on YouTube and it 37 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:13,480 would show I would watch Japanese porn because that at 38 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:17,080 the time, at the time they had Japanese porn, but it was all 39 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,400 blurred. So it was just like basically 40 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:25,920 censored Japanese porn censored. No, it wasn't. 41 00:02:25,920 --> 00:02:28,760 No, it wasn't hentai. It was like real people, but it 42 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,680 was just censored. And then I remember there was 43 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,840 this one video where it was just actually like somebody's like 44 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,440 boobs. And I remember, dude, that was 45 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:43,200 like, Oh my God, eye opening. I think I went to school the 46 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,440 next day and told my friends about it and then I don't 47 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,360 remember when I I don't remember like finding porn now, But that 48 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,320 was probably like the downfall. Girls kissing. 49 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:54,440 No, I I didn't used to look up girls. 50 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:56,440 I what are you saying? I feel like that's more like 51 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:02,320 like a like a gay awakening for a woman is like a woman. 52 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,680 I've heard like women I know go. I used to look up girls kissing. 53 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:11,040 I'm like, OK, but yeah, anyways, what was I going to say? 54 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,680 Oh my God, that just distracted me. 55 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:16,720 Oh my God, I used to. I used to be so nervous when I 56 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:20,040 was in like fifth grade that whenever I would have to kiss 57 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:21,840 somebody, I didn't know how to kiss anyone. 58 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:27,240 So I would Google kissing tutorials and I would now this 59 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:31,000 is so cringy. I would Google kissing tutorials 60 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:33,880 and I would like practice, I swear to God. 61 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:38,160 And I was in like fifth grade and I was like, bro, my looking 62 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:40,360 back at it, I'm like, who the fuck did I think I was going to 63 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:43,360 be kissing? However you were exposed to it, 64 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,640 I am truly sorry for you. I was exposed to it from a young 65 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:49,960 age as well. I don't remember exactly how. 66 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,720 Oh, dude, like I remember being in 4th grade, like 4th grade, 67 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,680 like that shit, I had to, we had to do like public speaking for 68 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:01,680 the first time. I would go home, do my homework, 69 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:05,920 and then just, you know, I would go to the bathroom. 70 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:08,400 I'm taking a shit. I was not taking a shit. 71 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,880 I believe it was some sort of advertisement or something. 72 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:18,200 Advertise warned us and told us how destructive this habit and 73 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:21,240 how bad this stuff really is for you. 74 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:25,280 No one told us that it can. It has the ability to rewire 75 00:04:25,280 --> 00:04:27,800 your brain and completely change your perspective in the way that 76 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:31,400 you see woman and your confidence in the way that you 77 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:33,920 talk to people. You view people as objects 78 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:39,480 rather than as human beings. And it's lust and corn is one of 79 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:43,680 the most disgusting things on earth, but yet every single man 80 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,320 has probably fallen victim to it. 81 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:51,160 And this is just one of those things that probably every guy 82 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,120 goes through and it's just consider the norm. 83 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:55,880 But yeah, it doesn't have to be the norm. 84 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:59,240 I don't understand why it's so normal for people to stumble 85 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:00,880 upon this, especially from a young age. 86 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:03,120 It's way too accessible. Because you're going through 87 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:07,520 puberty, you have infinite access on Google, and you're 88 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:12,880 biologically just obsessed with that shit. 89 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:16,600 Dude, being a guy, being a guy going through puberty was like 90 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:20,640 so wack. Because dude, you were just like 91 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:24,200 randomly I got it. Feels like uncomfortable talking 92 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,920 about this, but like, you have to go give a speech. 93 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:29,120 It's fucking 2:00 PM, Nothing happens. 94 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:32,440 You got to tuck that shit in the waistband, man. 95 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:35,000 You're just walking around with a fucking ruler in your pants. 96 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,080 You know, it's just like, what are you doing? 97 00:05:37,280 --> 00:05:40,760 Like, what do you do, You know, like it just sucks. 98 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:45,640 Like that part sucked. And I know, you know, I'm not 99 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:47,720 sitting here saying, oh, being a guy's hard. 100 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:49,560 It's not being, it's not hard being a guy. 101 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:54,080 I'm just saying that's like a was the problem then, you know, 102 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:57,160 like for a woman, it's like, yeah, you know, you have to deal 103 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:00,600 with periods and massive hormonal swings. 104 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:03,200 That's way worse, but. That's how no. 105 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,320 One still dude. Oh my God, I was embarrassed. 106 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:09,880 How bad this stuff really is for you and how has the ability to 107 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,640 completely affect you and your perspective, especially on woman 108 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,240 and how you approach relationships and what you 109 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:21,360 expect out of woman before you've actually experienced. 110 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:27,720 Well, that's the the problem is Corn enforces this weird mindset 111 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:33,040 into young men of what sexual intimacy should be and creates a 112 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:38,600 level of aggression in men that is not good because of fetish 113 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:44,640 based content that promotes A weirdly fantasized version of 114 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:47,480 how intimacy is. Like, it's not normal. 115 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:50,280 Like I'm not saying it's bad if like both partners are into 116 00:06:50,280 --> 00:06:53,200 this, but like, you know, there's like weirdly like almost 117 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:58,520 abusive level stuff that like is like, you know, normal to watch 118 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:00,880 in a corn sense. Finally somebody says it. 119 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,040 I'm not the first person to say that, but that is a problem with 120 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,360 you, you know, like it's not, you know, slapping somebody in 121 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:07,440 the face. Woof, what the fuck? 122 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,080 Doing all this like degrading shit, It's like, I don't know 123 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:11,960 why that's something that people get into. 124 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:15,240 The second candidate event that probably every guy has gone 125 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:18,360 through or is going to go through is finding out that your 126 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:22,640 day one or some of your closest friends are snakes. 127 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:25,400 I think everybody has that moment where you know. 128 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:29,160 I don't think that's, I don't think that's guy specific. 129 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:33,440 Can I say I think that's anyone that's, I think that's the 130 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:37,120 transitional period from like middle school to high school is 131 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,040 like the realization that like your friend group you've had 132 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:42,720 since you were a kid is not the friend group that you're going 133 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:44,480 to continue to have the rest of your life. 134 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:46,320 And maybe that's not the case for some people. 135 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,000 Like some people really do just maintain their friendships 136 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:51,560 throughout their entire life. But like most of the time, it's 137 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:54,760 like the people that you go into high school with are not the 138 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,080 going to be the people that you leave high school with. 139 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,480 You're going to, because that's also where you become like a 140 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:04,720 person slowly, like high school and early college is where you 141 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:08,920 like develop your own personality and core beliefs on 142 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:13,480 life that you realize like, yes, you're able to be friends with, 143 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:17,640 you know, anybody in in the very surface level sense. 144 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,080 But like, it's easier to be friends with somebody when all 145 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:23,040 you talk about is fucking Pokémon and playing cards when 146 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:26,440 you're 10 years old, you know, versus where you're like, what 147 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:29,080 do you think about life? How are you going to have a job? 148 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:31,920 What is your goals in life? What do you have aspirations 149 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:33,640 for? What do you for? 150 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:37,480 How, what do you feel about, you know, drugs or all this other 151 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:42,919 shit? Like they they had full full 152 00:08:42,919 --> 00:08:47,080 trust in someone and that person stabbed them in the back. 153 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:49,440 Obviously, metaphorically not. Politics. 154 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,560 Yeah, literally. That also builds. 155 00:08:51,840 --> 00:08:58,240 Where's this zombie? And they, you know, other things 156 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:01,000 got hard and they, they were never there for you. 157 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:03,080 They only hit you up when you need something. 158 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:05,080 You heard they were talking smack about you. 159 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,200 You saw them hanging out and you asked to hang out with them and 160 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:11,200 they said you can come if you want. 161 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:12,760 There's so many different things that. 162 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,800 You could come if you want. That's like, yo, you're not 163 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:21,120 really invited, but we're not going to say anything if you 164 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:24,480 want to pull up. Shows to you that a friend that 165 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:28,120 sucks is fake. There's a ton of signs out 166 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,680 there. I think yeah, your friend being 167 00:09:30,680 --> 00:09:33,800 fake where it's like you're you're in a friend group of four 168 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,200 people and then three of them do something without you and don't 169 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,760 tell you like that's like really lame. 170 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:43,040 I think like you also learn like what friends are real or not 171 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:46,400 based on like a level of like loyalty and respect in terms of 172 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:49,120 like flaking. Like I think people that flakes 173 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:54,000 suck and are unreliable friends and sometimes the worst friends. 174 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:58,280 I think it's like I could put up with somebody that I disagree in 175 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:03,240 like certain belief sets more than somebody that like actively 176 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,040 just flakes. A lot of my friends or people 177 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:09,440 who I called my friends would only hit me up when they needed 178 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:11,000 something or. Needed something? 179 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:13,080 They're only your friend when it's convenient. 180 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:17,280 That's loyalty as well. That's not the respect aspect. 181 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,160 That's loyalty of a friend. Only pull up if you need if if 182 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,440 they need something or it's convenient for them. 183 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:25,440 Like the biggest thing is like, and obviously there's excuses at 184 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:27,640 times, but it's like, hey man, I need help. 185 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:29,400 This is like more of an adult thing. 186 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:34,280 I need help moving. They're free that day. 187 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:37,040 Nah, I'm not coming. I don't want to. 188 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,000 Yo, sometimes you just got to do shit you don't want to do for a 189 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,160 friend, bro. It's like, that's like, like to 190 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,080 the point where there's like they're your family member. 191 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,920 And probably the most painful part is realizing that you've 192 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:50,640 trusted these guys and you've been friends with them for 193 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:57,760 years. But it it just, it hurts finding 194 00:10:57,760 --> 00:11:01,680 out that they stabbed. Like I had two friends bro. 195 00:11:01,680 --> 00:11:04,400 I knew some real friends. Real ass friends bro when I 196 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:06,760 built my first PCI didn't know what I was doing. 197 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,800 They just did it like they were like we'll help you. 198 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,880 Stayed with me for like 5 hours trying to figure out how to 199 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:14,920 fucking build a computer. Now I just go to a micro center 200 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:18,240 but like that was like oh wow that's like real shit. 201 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:21,800 Like this is not for them. It doesn't help them in any way. 202 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:25,200 In the back and they weren't actually your true friends for 203 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:27,480 as long as you thought they might have been. 204 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,080 The next Canon event that I think every guy should go 205 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:34,320 through, not that everyone has gone through, but I think this 206 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,880 is one of the Canon events that everyone should go through is 207 00:11:37,240 --> 00:11:39,400 fumbling an absolute 10 out of 10. 208 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,720 I'm talking like the girl of your dreams, like literally like 209 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:46,440 the most perfect woman. Like you know she was there for 210 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:48,280 you. You can tell she wanted you and 211 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:51,840 you guys clicked and you fumble her for whatever reason, either 212 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,400 you waited too long, you overthought it. 213 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:59,280 You heard rumors about her you were insecure, you didn't think 214 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,720 you had it in YouTube bag someone like that whatever it 215 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:07,520 may be this is one of the most eye opening experiences because 216 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:11,000 fumbling a 10 out of 10 it won't change you the. 217 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:16,440 Way you said that. For, I don't know, forever, 218 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,280 because at one point another you got to get over it, but it will 219 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:22,560 change you as a man it will. I don't even think that. 220 00:12:22,560 --> 00:12:26,120 I think it's more like not even the like fumbling experience. 221 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:27,800 Sure. I feel like one that's like more 222 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:30,840 meaningful though is like getting out of a first 223 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:35,320 relationship dude. Like your first girlfriend in 224 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:40,640 high school, you know, and like breaking up and like that sucks. 225 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:45,160 Like and then you like that's like the first time you're like 226 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:50,120 understanding like oh shit, man. Like this is what also being 227 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:53,720 really upset about losing somebody's like like do the 228 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:57,040 first breakup. I think the first breakup is 229 00:12:57,040 --> 00:13:00,200 something is usually most people's worst breakup bro. 230 00:13:00,680 --> 00:13:04,240 Like not knowing how to handle that getting beat like being so 231 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:06,360 like I guess like distraught to the point where you're like, I 232 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:10,480 don't really want to eat like I'm not hungry. 233 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,640 Why do I why? This is a weird feeling I've 234 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,960 never had before. Like that sucks. 235 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:18,960 Was broke your first serious breakup? 236 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:21,160 No, and that was probably the best one. 237 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,920 Like the best way that could have been handled. 238 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,960 I'm talking about like freshman year in high school, My freshman 239 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:31,040 year in high school girlfriend, we dated for like 4 months and 240 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:35,480 broke up and I swear to God bro, I didn't want to eat food for 241 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:41,040 like a week. I remember being so upset like 242 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:45,640 that shit sucked. That was like because I you 243 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,000 don't know, it's like kind of like an experience thing. 244 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:52,040 Like when you go through a breakup the first time, it's 245 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,560 like, I've never done this before. 246 00:13:54,560 --> 00:13:57,720 What do I do? A week, More like a month. 247 00:13:57,800 --> 00:14:00,360 Well, no, you're, I'm saying it takes you a while to get up to, 248 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,920 to get over it. But I'm saying that the, the 249 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,600 initial first week is like the worst. 250 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:08,160 But then, you know, after it gets easier because you 251 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:11,040 understand how to deal with it. But it's like, Oh my God, bro, 252 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:13,840 the first time I remember being like my mom was concerned. 253 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:16,560 I remember my mom being like what do I do? 254 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:20,560 Like my my son's not like I remember I lost probably like 5 255 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:22,640 lbs in a week. Fumbling an absolute 10 out of 256 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:24,440 10 when I. Was a freshman will. 257 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:28,560 Do something to you that I, I can't even describe. 258 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:36,000 I don't know, like it just it shows you that there's something 259 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:38,680 wrong with you. Like you think to yourself, how 260 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:42,240 did I possibly fumble that? And it's a great question. 261 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,400 How did you fumble that? People might have asked you, but 262 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:48,960 no one asks. Yo, you want me to make you feel 263 00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:51,760 better about fumbling? Fumbling in that sense, the 264 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:55,080 first time you fumble, even if you didn't, the odds that you 265 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:58,200 would have stayed with that person forever is about a .1% 266 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,480 chance. High school relationships, hate 267 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:04,640 to say it, very very very very very rarely end up in marriage 268 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:08,160 and very rarely end up in successful marriage that doesn't 269 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:10,640 end in divorce. Your high school relationships 270 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:15,240 tend to just be relationships that are learning about how to 271 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:20,840 be with someone and how you can, you know, be a boyfriend or be a 272 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:24,080 girlfriend or how having a significant other is. 273 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:27,120 And then it changes. And that's just the intro, 274 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,520 right? Because then you get into a 275 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:33,000 college relationship and it's like, OK, now I'm learning how 276 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,320 to be with somebody where we have our definitive values on 277 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:37,600 who we are as people. I'm starting to learn what I 278 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:40,080 like in an individual. And then you get to the point of 279 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:43,320 like, we have jobs. How do we handle finances 280 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:45,520 together when you're in high school and your sophomore's in 281 00:15:45,520 --> 00:15:47,000 high school and you have a relationship, relationship 282 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:50,560 you're not worried about? Like, what do I do for like, 283 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:52,880 like, yeah, you have to have money to like, take him on a 284 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:54,880 date. Now it's like, yo, we're living 285 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:59,920 together. How do we like, manage bills and 286 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,880 like, car payments together? What's the dynamic going to be 287 00:16:04,880 --> 00:16:07,200 in that way? And it's like, so you kind of 288 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:14,360 like build that, I guess resume over time of what you're a, what 289 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:16,960 you ideally want in a relationship and how you 290 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:22,000 perceive relationships yourself. It's bothering me on this wood 291 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:28,000 staircase that he built, he has sideways planks on all of them, 292 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:32,200 but this one and this one are vertical. 293 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:36,840 Like, I don't know, sorry I don't know what I'm trying to 294 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:40,160 say here, but. How do you notice that? 295 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:44,200 I don't know. Fumbling A10 out of 10 will will 296 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:47,800 will be one of the best things for you, as harsh and sad as it 297 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:52,080 sounds, because it will teach you to stop hesitating and just 298 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:54,000 go. Oh my God, it's bothering me so 299 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:56,320 much. It's bothering me so much right 300 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:59,000 now. For something just go all in on 301 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,760 it because why? What do you have to lose? 302 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:05,400 So fumbling a 10 out of 10 could have been from not talking to 303 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:07,960 whatever approaching her and you always wanted her. 304 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,119 You guys clicked, but you, you didn't talk to her enough, 305 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:11,520 whatever it may have might have been. 306 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:15,000 But one thing you got to realize is that in 100 years from now, 307 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:16,280 you're not even going to be here. 308 00:17:16,599 --> 00:17:19,480 I can almost guarantee you no one is going to remember you. 309 00:17:20,079 --> 00:17:22,920 And that sounds harsh, but it's also one of the most freeing 310 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:25,520 things ever. So why would you not just go for 311 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:29,280 something and try, right? Because if you go for something 312 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,320 and try and it doesn't work out, at least you have. 313 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,520 Fortune favors the bold John Wick tattoo. 314 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:37,280 Actually a tattoo I want to get next. 315 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:41,040 Stepping out of your comfort zone is the entire part of 316 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:43,840 successive life. If you never step out of your 317 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:46,560 comfort zone, you will never achieve anything. 318 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:51,360 Being uncomfortable sucks, but being uncomfortable is a pathway 319 00:17:51,360 --> 00:17:53,200 to success. Whether it be in relationships, 320 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:54,800 whether it be in work, and whether it be in life. 321 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,040 If you're not uncomfortable, sometimes you're doing something 322 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:01,520 wrong and that's what it is. You're not stepping far enough 323 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:05,520 to where it doesn't feel right. Befumbling A10 out of 10 girl 324 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,400 that you really wanted and you know you could tell she wanted 325 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,720 you is different because it's it's the what if that's what 326 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:15,560 hurts. It's the what if that sucks the 327 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:17,640 most. It's what could have been where 328 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:21,680 you guys could have gone with the relationship who what you 329 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:23,800 guys could have become, right And that's. 330 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:27,840 Fucking empty your inventory man. 331 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:33,840 The next Canon event that I think almost every guy has gone 332 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:36,640 through or is going to go through, as harsh as this one is 333 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:39,680 going to sound, is realizing that you're probably never going 334 00:18:39,680 --> 00:18:41,800 to make it pro in your sport. Damn. 335 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:47,600 Well yeah, I never really thought I'd be gone pro, but I 336 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:51,200 remember when I broke my foot, I qualified for nationals in 337 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:54,720 track, broke my foot, same race and then never ran again. 338 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:56,720 And I remember being like fuck, I'm not going to run in college. 339 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:58,600 And it's not, I could have went back. 340 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:01,640 But I remember going like damn bro, I just get stress fractures 341 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:04,840 all the time. I had stress fractures 3 times. 342 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:08,600 I always had shin splints. My feet are all fucked up. 343 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:11,080 And then I like broke my sesamoid bone in my foot and I 344 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:12,800 was like there's just no point in me running. 345 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:17,680 And I remember that was sad. And then I started TikTok and 346 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:23,680 now and now that's how I'm here. I realized that wasn't going pro 347 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:28,840 when I really I I couldn't play anymore because I just I racked 348 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,080 up too many injuries. I pretty much destroyed my body 349 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:35,360 just playing soccer for 3/4 hours everyday and just grinding 350 00:19:35,360 --> 00:19:38,640 for my goals. And then I realized that the 351 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:41,320 doctor literally told me if I keep playing I'm going to tear 352 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,040 both of my groins. And that at that point I 353 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:45,960 realized like. Both of my groins. 354 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:52,200 My dreams are not going to work out the way they will and it's a 355 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,760 freeing feeling, but it's also one of the worst feelings 356 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:57,880 because again, it's it's the what if the what could have been 357 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:00,800 of you, what you could have achieved and done regarding your 358 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:03,040 sport. But for me it also we. 359 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,360 Need the beetroot seeds. Justice. 360 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,480 The beetroot seeds. I'm sorry, I'll subscribe. 361 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,040 I'm being too. I'm being too. 362 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:12,920 I just got to stop paying. I'm paying too close attention 363 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:15,920 to the Minecraft gameplay. Used to calm cause me a ton of 364 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:20,520 stress and when I stopped playing I kind of felt free in a 365 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:24,800 way. But realizing this is a really 366 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:28,240 not fun Canon event to go through. 367 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:31,000 But I think it is extremely vital for character development 368 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:33,800 as. Well, I think it's character 369 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:37,600 development and understanding that you have to divert your 370 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:41,120 goals in life beyond one thing that you look forward to. 371 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,120 Like your purpose could be a multitude of things, not one 372 00:20:44,120 --> 00:20:46,640 individual experience. You forced to quit your sport or 373 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:48,400 just realizing that you're not going to make it pro. 374 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:52,480 Whether you're not good enough for whatever it may be, it's it 375 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,560 opens up your eyes and helps you realize that. 376 00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,840 What do you think of pro athletes? 377 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,760 Pro athletes don't experience that. 378 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,840 So like I they're mental in life has to be so much different. 379 00:21:04,120 --> 00:21:07,200 To find out who you are without your sport, Me without soccer. 380 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,720 I didn't know who I was and it took me a long time to figure 381 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,760 out what I was going to do with my life and where I'm going to 382 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:14,280 go. We got the sex farms in this 383 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:16,480 server, Jesus. So if I didn't play soccer, 384 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:20,760 because soccer was all I really imagined I, I did, I never had 385 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:22,880 any other dreams other than becoming a professional 386 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:25,640 footballer. And when that failed, I was 387 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:28,080 forced to look at my circumstances and where I'm 388 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,160 headed with my life and what I'm going to do. 389 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:36,200 The 5th and final Canon event that I think a lot of do the 390 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:38,520 guys go through is discovering the gym. 391 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:42,000 So whether you were the Super skinny kid like me growing up 392 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:45,800 all the way up until start of high school, right that you you 393 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,040 get it's. Usually start of high school, I 394 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,040 feel like for most people, that's when I started working 395 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,560 out. I was 135 lbs going into my 396 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,000 freshman year and I was 160 leaving. 397 00:21:56,080 --> 00:22:00,640 So I gained 25 lbs in a year. That was awesome. 398 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:02,840 And I remember I used to think I was jacked then. 399 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:07,680 But yeah, no, the gym's great. I think like being I, I think 400 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:12,600 the, the gym is also like an outlet for a lot of people. 401 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:17,160 And I think discovering that that young is really good as a 402 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:20,200 means of doing something that's healthy for you and also having 403 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,520 like a mental emotional escape. Pushed around and made fun of. 404 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:28,480 Or if you know, you know when people would put their fingers 405 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:32,520 around your wrist and try to get all their fingers around it, if 406 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,120 that if this makes sense like they would. 407 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:38,760 Oh, I used to. Well, I used to do this or I'll 408 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:45,920 go. And I would do like, I remember 409 00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,720 I would do this in school when I was like a freshman. 410 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:52,360 I would like just just gauge the measurement of my arms off of 411 00:22:52,360 --> 00:22:56,480 like or like my calves or quads. Discovering the gym is one of 412 00:22:56,480 --> 00:23:00,760 the biggest Canon events because it helps you realize that you 413 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:04,760 actually have control. Yo, I believe that if you could 414 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,680 carry a case of water on your shoulder, you're fully chilling 415 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,480 regardless bro. Like if you kid, I mean maybe 416 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:13,560 not because you could just be big as hell and be able to do 417 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,560 that and then just be unhealthy otherwise. 418 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:19,960 But I'm like, I remember I've whenever I'm carrying stuff, I 419 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,840 think back to that like being a kid and having to help carry the 420 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,400 groceries and like struggling with like 4 bags. 421 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,560 And now when, when you, when you try to bring the groceries in, 422 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,640 it's like a one trip challenge and you've like 10 bags in each 423 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,480 hand. And I'm like, this would kill me 424 00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:38,600 when I was a kid over how you. Look and you feel and once you 425 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,560 start seeing some progress, it shows you that anything is 426 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,520 possible in life. You can transform the way that 427 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:44,880 you looked. I know that I did. 428 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,080 Then you fall off the stairs. No. 429 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:50,400 Then you get to the door and you go and you're like. 430 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:58,080 Then you get to the door and you're like, and then you got 431 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:03,440 you got to kick it back and you move in a little sidestep and 432 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,360 you you have the one bag. There's like eggs in it and 433 00:24:06,360 --> 00:24:08,720 you're like, fuck, the door just slammed on it started. 434 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:14,760 Of grade 9, I was ninety, 8590 lbs like and five foot 2 and 435 00:24:15,120 --> 00:24:19,360 I've put on a good amount of muscle like people not to glaze 436 00:24:19,360 --> 00:24:23,240 myself, but I get compliments on my physique now, which I'm super 437 00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,720 proud of to say because I used to get made fun of. 438 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:27,840 I was probably one of the skinniest kids in my class and 439 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,840 then I realized that that's not how I want to be anymore and I 440 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:34,920 want to put on muscle. This is one of the things that 441 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,280 it teaches you discipline. Oh, OK. 442 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,040 Where are your crystal bottoms? OK. 443 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:41,400 Oh, OK. Sam. 444 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:43,560 Sam. So looking over here, Sam's 445 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,520 going to put on a lot of. Muscle the gym gives you 446 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,880 confidence and. It oh, I'm going to compliment 447 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,400 all my own physique. Oh, OK. 448 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,840 Teaches you that now. That's I don't think that's self 449 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,440 glaze. You are able to transform your 450 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:58,400 life and achieve the things that you never thought might have 451 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:03,560 been possible before. Discovering the gym is a really 452 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,160 good thing because it bleeds into every area of your life 453 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:11,320 regarding hard work. So these are the top five. 454 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:15,920 I'm not dying young. Canon events that I ideally 455 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:19,840 honestly would say every single guy has probably gone through or 456 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,960 is is going to go through. Some of them are are necessary 457 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,720 in my opinion for character development. 458 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,880 I hope you guys enjoyed this video and I'll catch you guys in 459 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,280 the next one. Bro that was a fun little rant 460 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:31,840 man. Paul talks life. 461 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:33,920 What a fucking YouTube video brother. 462 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,200 Get the Minecraft gameplay up. That's all I could fucking say, 463 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,040 pal. All right, if we're farming 464 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:42,120 wheat, let's empty the inventory first, right, maybe. 465 00:25:42,120 --> 00:25:44,760 And here's another thing. I I know you're doing the rant 466 00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,480 while you're playing the game. I think you were too focused on 467 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,120 the rant, brother. The game, the game. 468 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,120 You just maybe hit a parkour segment. 469 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,120 The worst is when you're watching a rant. 470 00:25:53,120 --> 00:25:54,320 They got a Minecraft video playing. 471 00:25:54,320 --> 00:26:00,520 They hit a parkour segment and they and they miss the jump flow 472 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,320 state lost. Now I'm now I'm pausing the 473 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:03,880 video. I'm going. 474 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:07,480 What am I watching? Let's go just miss the jump. 475 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,800 Fuck chat. It is time for a sponsored 476 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:13,280 segment.