1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,000 Hey there, it's Melissa Brunetti, and welcome to the 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:16,450 Mind Your Own Karma podcast. Hey there, Karma crew, Thanks 3 00:00:16,450 --> 00:00:20,370 for joining me for this episode of Mind Your Own Karma, The 4 00:00:20,410 --> 00:00:24,690 Adoption Chronicles. As always, I'm so grateful to 5 00:00:24,690 --> 00:00:29,530 have you here with me, tuning in as we navigate the many layers 6 00:00:29,530 --> 00:00:34,640 of adoption stories together. Today, I want to share an update 7 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:38,560 from last week's episode. It's something small but 8 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,200 significant for me. As you can imagine if you 9 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,040 listened last week. If you didn't catch last week's 10 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:50,720 episode in a nutshell, about a month ago, I learned about my 11 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:56,600 birth mother's cancer diagnosis. While I'm still working to find 12 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,920 out more details about her condition, I've decided to take 13 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:03,920 a small step forward that feels safe and manageable for me. 14 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,280 I am going to send her a get well card. 15 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:12,520 Now, this might not sound like a big deal for many of you, but 16 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:17,280 for me it's huge. It's a huge moment to just pause 17 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:21,960 and acknowledge her situation without pushing myself into a 18 00:01:21,960 --> 00:01:24,360 space that I might not be ready for yet. 19 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:29,040 It feels like the right thing to do for now, and it keeps the 20 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:33,000 lines of communication open in a way that I'm comfortable with. 21 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,560 What's kind of interesting is that even as I make this 22 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:42,600 decision, I find myself still not feeling a lot of strong 23 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:47,600 emotions surrounding this. There are moments when it 24 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:52,840 crosses my mind, but it just doesn't feel overwhelming or 25 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,760 super deeply personal yet, and I think that's OK. 26 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:01,760 I've learned through my journey that feelings don't always come 27 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:06,640 on demand, and sometimes neutrality can be part of the 28 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,240 process. Although, you know, the thought 29 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:14,680 of losing her before I do process this is kind of a scary 30 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:18,360 thought. But I can only control myself 31 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:22,080 and do what I can to cause no regrets on my end. 32 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:27,080 And maybe that's why I'm not feeling much because the 33 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,840 history's been repeated rejection, so why put too much 34 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,000 of myself out there? And I'm sure a lot of you can 35 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,640 understand where I'm coming from with that. 36 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:42,760 And to be fair, after talking on last week's episode about how 37 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,520 trauma can distort our interpretation of things 38 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:52,160 sometimes, I am fully aware that what I feel to be multiple 39 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:56,640 rejections from her might just be a misinterpretation on my 40 00:02:56,640 --> 00:03:00,560 part of her really trying to navigate her own trauma. 41 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,680 So I just want to put that out there. 42 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,320 It doesn't negate my feelings at all. 43 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:11,320 Because my feelings are valid. And because I don't communicate 44 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:15,160 about or I'm not able to communicate any of this to her, 45 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:19,840 what do I have left but to see it as it is? 46 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,240 It's not right or wrong, it just is. 47 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:28,360 That being said, I've been reflecting on how this situation 48 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,400 touches other parts of my adoption story. 49 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:36,160 Her diagnosis has me thinking more about her life and even my 50 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:39,160 own health history. Obviously, I will keep you all 51 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:42,920 updated as things unfold. And with that, let's dive into 52 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:51,120 today's episode. So again, I'm so glad you've 53 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:55,880 joined me today as I dive into a topic that's both personal and 54 00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:01,520 universal for many adoptees, the search for home and belonging. 55 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:06,400 As adoptees, we often hear that home is where the heart is. 56 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:11,040 But what happens when your heart feels scattered or disconnected, 57 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:14,840 or you can't feel it at all? So today, we're going to explore 58 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,880 what it means to find home within ourselves. 59 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:22,400 Because let's face it, at the end of the day, no matter where 60 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:27,320 we've been or who we've been with, we are our own home. 61 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:32,400 Yet the complexities of adoption and being an adoptee can 62 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,560 sometimes make it feel like we aren't a safe place to land. 63 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:42,760 When you don't know who you are or what you're about, you are a 64 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:47,160 stranger even to yourself. And so many adoptees are 65 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,240 frightened of the journey to find themselves. 66 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:55,480 What am I gonna uncover? What if I don't like myself? 67 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:58,480 What if I can't handle what I find out? 68 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:02,960 And these are all super valid questions and fears when you've 69 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:07,760 been overwhelmed by life circumstances and it feels like 70 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:09,760 there is no hope. But there is. 71 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:15,280 This feeling of not belonging can lead many of us on a 72 00:05:15,280 --> 00:05:18,840 perpetual search through multiple relationships, multiple 73 00:05:18,840 --> 00:05:22,840 jobs, multiple friendships, or even multiple places to live. 74 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:28,880 We're searching for that sense of safety and belonging, often 75 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,760 without realizing that it's something that we can cultivate 76 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:35,600 within ourselves. In today's episode, I'll share 77 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:39,040 my thoughts on this journey and why it's so common among 78 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:45,720 adoptees and how I was able to embrace the idea that I am my 79 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:49,600 own home. So let's talk about the search 80 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:54,240 for home for so many adoptees. This search is a reoccurring 81 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:55,920 theme throughout our lives, isn't it? 82 00:05:56,280 --> 00:05:57,960 It's not always obvious at first. 83 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,640 Sometimes it looks like bouncing between jobs, trying to find a 84 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,800 career that feels like the perfect fit. 85 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:09,480 Or maybe it's having multiple relationships looking for that 86 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,400 person who will finally make us feel whole. 87 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:17,760 And other times, it's about physical spaces, moving from 88 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:21,360 city to city, state to state, or even country to country, hoping 89 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:25,080 that the next place will feel comfortable and secure. 90 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:30,520 For me, I've experienced this search in different ways. 91 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:35,440 I've had moments where I've questioned if I ever truly feel 92 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:39,680 settled or rooted anywhere. It's kind of like a tree that 93 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:44,360 the roots are growing on the surface, ready to like, bend OR 94 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:48,080 break at any moment because you're not strongly rooted where 95 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:51,440 you are. And what I've come to realize is 96 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,720 that this search is deeply tied to our adoption stories. 97 00:06:56,840 --> 00:07:00,920 Being separated from biological families can create this 98 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:04,960 underlying feeling of displacement, like we're always 99 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,600 looking for something we can't quite name or find. 100 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:11,880 And that's part of our fog, isn't it? 101 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:16,840 I've had the privilege of hearing so many adoptee stories 102 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:22,080 now, and it's truly amazing how even though we have all had 103 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:27,200 different experiences, there's so many common themes they just 104 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:30,880 cannot be ignored. Themes that society sweeps under 105 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:34,560 the rug and are unwilling to accept. 106 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:39,200 And belonging and feeling at home is a huge one for us that 107 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:44,080 people just don't understand. It's as if we're trying to fill 108 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:47,360 a void, but that void isn't necessarily outside of us. 109 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,360 It's really an internal longing, isn't it? 110 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:55,640 It's a desire to feel safe and at peace within ourselves. 111 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,600 And when that peace feels out of reach, we often try to find it 112 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,640 externally. And that might feel like a 113 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:06,600 temporary fix, but it never lasts, does it? 114 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:10,120 It doesn't. All the things that we try to 115 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:14,120 distract ourselves with, to feel better, just to get through 116 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:17,000 another day operating in survival mode. 117 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:23,320 When we operate every day in survival mode, At some point it 118 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,760 all becomes too much to carry. And maybe you feel that way 119 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:32,640 right now. I know that space all too well. 120 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,480 I did it and it literally almost killed me. 121 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:39,039 I was forced to make the journey to find myself. 122 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:43,360 But I haven't regretted it. Not for one single day. 123 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:46,000 And I promise you that you won't regret it either. 124 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:52,200 It's not easy, but what's worse is living in misery every day. 125 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:56,080 Living in fear of the unknown can be debilitating. 126 00:08:57,080 --> 00:09:01,560 But what's beyond that fear? What's waiting for you out there 127 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:04,960 in the unknown? There could be some heartache, 128 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:08,000 but what if there is peace and joy? 129 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:12,360 What if there is a feeling of belonging no matter where you're 130 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:16,360 at? That's what's on the other side. 131 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:21,280 So why does home feel so complicated for us adoptees? 132 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:27,000 I think a lot of it comes down to the idea of safety, emotional 133 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:30,240 safety, to be specific. When you're adopted, even in the 134 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:33,600 best of circumstances, there's often an underlying sense of 135 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:37,040 instability. You start your life with this 136 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:42,320 major rupture, being separated from your biological family, and 137 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:46,280 that can create this subconscious belief that the 138 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:52,080 world just isn't a safe place. And if the world doesn't feel 139 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:57,240 safe, it can be hard to feel safe within ourselves. 140 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:02,520 For many adoptees, this lack of internal safety shows up in how 141 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:06,800 we interact with others. Maybe we're people pleasers, 142 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,000 always trying to keep the peace so we don't risk losing the 143 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:15,040 people that we care about. Or maybe we keep people at arm's 144 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:17,160 length, afraid to let them get too close. 145 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:21,800 Either way, it's hard to feel at home when you don't trust 146 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:27,200 yourself to be a safe place. How are we supposed to trust 147 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,280 anyone else in that circumstance? 148 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:35,800 So what can we do? We can recognize the way 149 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:40,000 adoption has shaped our sense of self and find ways to rebuild 150 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:45,480 that trust with ourselves. It's not an overnight process. 151 00:10:45,680 --> 00:10:47,560 Man, I wish it was, but it's not. 152 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:52,640 But it does start with small steps, being honest about your 153 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:56,240 feelings, setting some boundaries that feel good to 154 00:10:56,240 --> 00:11:01,440 you, and reminding yourself that you are enough just the way you 155 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:05,160 are. Realizing that it just doesn't 156 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:08,680 matter how others perceive us, because that really doesn't 157 00:11:08,680 --> 00:11:11,760 matter. So why are we wasting time and 158 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:15,160 energy on what others say or think about us? 159 00:11:16,560 --> 00:11:20,280 Instead, let's focus on what we can control, which is our 160 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:25,520 thoughts and our actions. If you feel a sense of pride in 161 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:29,880 yourself, it really doesn't matter what others think of you. 162 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:34,760 If you know in your heart that you are doing your best and are 163 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:38,960 continuing to focus on yourself, your goals, and your dreams, 164 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:43,360 that's the key to freedom and happiness. 165 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:48,760 You do have control over that. You might not have been able to 166 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,880 control a lot of things that have happened to you, but you do 167 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:56,720 have control over your thoughts and actions, and that is all 168 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,000 that you need. That's it. 169 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:04,520 Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired yet? 170 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:09,680 Because no one's going to make you make the changes that need 171 00:12:09,680 --> 00:12:11,600 to happen for you to feel better. 172 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:15,680 No one is going to save you but you. 173 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:21,920 And the good news is you have the power to do that right now, 174 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:25,520 in this moment. It might be a small something 175 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:29,280 that you want to accomplish, or it could be a huge rearranging 176 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:33,280 of your entire life. Just start. 177 00:12:38,860 --> 00:12:43,300 So how do we embrace the idea that we are home? 178 00:12:44,660 --> 00:12:47,660 For me, it starts with understanding that home is not a 179 00:12:47,660 --> 00:12:49,660 physical place or a relationship. 180 00:12:49,660 --> 00:12:54,920 It's a feeling, it's that sense of peace and belonging that 181 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,520 comes when you accept yourself fully. 182 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:02,280 Flaws and all. We all have them, all of us. 183 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:06,360 And sometimes what we see as flaws can actually be what makes 184 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:10,680 us unique and can actually become a superpower if we allow 185 00:13:10,680 --> 00:13:15,640 it to be revealed. For instance, when I was a kid, 186 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,920 I was able to sense and see things that others didn't sense 187 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:24,120 or see, and I was terrified. Some people call that 188 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:27,880 hypersensitivity due to our trauma as adoptees, but I have 189 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,880 used that in my career as a healthcare worker and now in my 190 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:33,840 somatic practice with my clients. 191 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:39,280 I am way more empathetic and intuitive, which now is a gift 192 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:43,520 that I can use to connect and better understand what others 193 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:48,600 are going through. And that connection allows for a 194 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:52,240 faster and more effective result for those that I work with. 195 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:59,600 So something that felt so crippling as a child has really 196 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:03,040 morphed into a huge advantage for me and my clients, for both 197 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:09,640 of us. Another thing that's helped me 198 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:13,280 on this journey is practicing self compassion. 199 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:16,920 This is huge. As adoptees, we can really be 200 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:21,080 hard on ourselves, especially if we feel like we're not living up 201 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:23,640 to expectations. I really hate that word 202 00:14:23,640 --> 00:14:27,880 expectations, whether those are our own or someone else's. 203 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:32,000 And let's be real here, expectations are most likely 204 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:34,640 coming from outside of ourselves. 205 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:40,560 It's a fear that we will upset someone else and we allow that 206 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:45,640 fear to dictate what we do. But self compassion reminds us 207 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:50,320 that we are human. We are allowed to make mistakes. 208 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:53,680 We're allowed to feel lost. We're allowed to take our time 209 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:57,440 finding our way. So be kind to yourself and don't 210 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:01,880 allow others judgments sidetrack you from your goals. 211 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,640 Make that the motivation to accomplish them to live a better 212 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:11,080 life. Another thing that's been 213 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:15,680 helpful is reconnecting with my body through somatic practices. 214 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:21,720 But the more I've worked on grounding myself and tuning into 215 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:26,280 my physical sensations instead of tuning out, the more I've 216 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,560 started to feel at home in my own skin. 217 00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:33,880 Your body has a language and it's always trying to tell you 218 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:37,800 something important. And when we tune out, we are 219 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:41,880 opening ourselves up to mental and physical disease. 220 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:46,960 I cannot tell you how many patients I see on a daily basis 221 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:51,360 at work that have thousands of dollars invested in tests that 222 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:55,120 find nothing. Absolutely nothing. 223 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:59,720 Science is finding out that when we don't communicate with the 224 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:04,480 feelings and emotions we are experiencing, those things get 225 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:08,400 stored in our bodies and can manifest as illness. 226 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:13,280 It is a fact. We have to start tuning in and 227 00:16:13,280 --> 00:16:17,280 listening, getting rid of all kinds of things our body is 228 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:20,720 storing and caring for us that no longer serve us. 229 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:25,680 And this therefore makes room for parts of us that need to be 230 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,880 revealed in order to have a sense of inner peace. 231 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:34,760 And finally, I think it's important to surround yourself 232 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:39,760 with people who make you feel seen and valued for who you are, 233 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:45,720 whether that's friends, family, or a supportive community. 234 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:50,280 Having those connections are huge and can remind you that 235 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:52,720 you're not alone on this journey. 236 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:57,760 Surround yourself with people that energize you. 237 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:02,200 If you are still struggling with exactly where to start, I want 238 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:06,440 to give you this suggestion. Write a list of things you would 239 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:13,680 like, another list of things that you want, and a last list 240 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:18,880 of things that you would love. They don't have to make sense, 241 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:23,200 just write them down. Take the list of the things you 242 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:27,880 would love and number them in order of importance to you. 243 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:33,480 Take the top two and every day start working towards those two 244 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:37,520 things. If you find yourself working on 245 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:41,240 other things or scrolling for hours on TikTok, then you have 246 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:45,280 the time to set aside for some things that you really want. 247 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,760 How bad do you want them? Because no one's going to do it 248 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:53,320 for you. But you have to be ready to do 249 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:57,080 some work. You might not feel ready and you 250 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,880 might even feel scared. And in those moments are when we 251 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:04,960 accomplish the most and feel the most proud of ourselves. 252 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:10,920 Just do it anyway and I promise you, you will feel so good about 253 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:15,600 yourself. Stop allowing long term 254 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:21,760 suffering and make the choice to achieve long term peace and joy 255 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:26,680 in your life. As we wrap up today's episode, I 256 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:28,560 want to leave you with this thought. 257 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:32,480 Home isn't something you have to search for outside of yourself, 258 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:36,440 It's something you can create within. 259 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,240 Yes, the journey to finding that sense of home can be 260 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:45,200 challenging, especially when adoption adds so many layers of 261 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:51,320 complexity, but it's also one of the most rewarding journeys you 262 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:55,000 will ever take. And then you can help others 263 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:58,800 that are struggling on their journey too, and it's a great 264 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,280 feeling. If you are struggling, don't 265 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,280 forget that. I am a Somatic Mindful Guided 266 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:08,200 Imagery practitioner and I would love to chat with you about 267 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:12,760 whatever it is that you want to grow, diminish, or achieve in 268 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,560 your life. Just go to 269 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:19,680 somatichealingjourneys.com to schedule a free consultation 270 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:22,440 with me. If you would like to be a guest 271 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,920 on Mind Your Own Karma, you can DM me or e-mail me at 272 00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:32,800 mindyourownkarma@gmail.com. There is another adoptee out 273 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:35,280 there needing to hear your story. 274 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:40,080 Thank you for being here with me today and for sharing this 275 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:43,560 space. If this episode resonated with 276 00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:46,920 you, I would love to hear your thoughts or stories about your 277 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:48,840 own search for home and belonging. 278 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,880 All the ways to get in touch with me are in the show notes. 279 00:19:55,280 --> 00:20:00,160 Until next time, Karma crew, take care of yourselves and 280 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:03,400 remember. Take what you need and leave 281 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:07,520 what you don't. And always remember to mind your 282 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:10,280 own karma. I'll see you next time. 283 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:16,520 This podcast is created for educational purposes by the 284 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:20,200 telling of adoption experiences. The views expressed in this 285 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:23,600 podcast may not be those of the host or Mind Your Own Karma.