1 00:00:22,770 --> 00:00:28,210 It is very, very cold where I live, the 2nd Baridi Nima 2 00:00:28,210 --> 00:00:30,450 Taseka. I've been constantly reminded 3 00:00:30,450 --> 00:00:35,370 that I am single and I live alone and that I have not been 4 00:00:35,370 --> 00:00:39,330 having sex as much sex as I would like to have. 5 00:00:39,410 --> 00:00:42,210 And the weather is not making it as easy. 6 00:00:42,410 --> 00:00:44,410 It's not making it easier. It's so crazy. 7 00:00:44,570 --> 00:00:48,050 But today I want to talk about love and orgasms. 8 00:00:48,290 --> 00:00:50,720 I've done an an explanation episode before. 9 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:55,440 Like any aleon ataku incorporate G sports nappy sports nakaku 10 00:00:55,440 --> 00:01:00,040 explain orgasms so that we're able to understand what exactly 11 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,760 our bodies go through or how we feel or what's happening 12 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:08,240 internally and what exactly an orgasm means before that. 13 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:10,200 Are there any new changes in my life? 14 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:15,280 My life is pretty peaceful and quiet so there's not much drama 15 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:19,320 or anything new to report except that I just want to have this 16 00:01:19,320 --> 00:01:23,520 honest conversation about how the older I get, the more sex I 17 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,240 want. My libido is increasing but then 18 00:01:26,320 --> 00:01:28,840 my awareness is high. I am much more. 19 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:33,080 I am smarter than I have ever been, like I'm more responsible. 20 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,360 So it means I feel like the more successful I become at 21 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,560 everything I'm doing and the more successful I come even in 22 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:42,880 my body as a person, as a human being, not just 23 00:01:42,960 --> 00:01:47,160 materialistically, but just the more I grow and elevate myself, 24 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:51,520 it's like the less people that are eligible to date. 25 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,400 It's like you're able to keep relationships, especially 26 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,880 heterosexual relationships. You're able to keep 27 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:01,760 relationships only when you're maybe I don't, I don't know. 28 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:05,280 I don't know how to put it. Nikama okikwam janja Shiv sama, 29 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,639 if you ask too many questions and you have you're able to 30 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:12,960 communicate your needs openly. So many people are shying away 31 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:16,240 from that. So those that are stuck in 32 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,920 relationships, it's like they're forced to settle so that these 33 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:23,720 relationships can walk, which is so crazy because it has me 34 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,080 thinking, OK, maybe relationships are not supposed 35 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,000 to last forever. Maybe tunafishana pakapale 36 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:33,280 tunafika ekif kapat into modjajiski cuando la quivol 37 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,720 amaku grow then it's OK to part ways. 38 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,920 Other than that, I don't have any other updates on my life. 39 00:02:38,920 --> 00:02:42,800 I think I'll just give snippets of personal experience stories 40 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:46,400 the more I continue to talk about orgasms and the G sport 41 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:49,520 and all that. So let's get started. 42 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:07,200 So Love and Orgasms, when I picked the name Love and 43 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:12,720 Orgasms, I think it was in 2019 or 2020, I used to have another 44 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:16,240 blog which was called Bobby Bomb. 45 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:20,720 It was on one press and that's where I started out. 46 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,880 I started out on one press before I was able to get my own 47 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,280 website. So I was dating a software 48 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:32,360 engineer at the time and he he really, really was an an I can 49 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,160 say he I don't know, he was a nice guy. 50 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:38,240 I think that's when I started dating really, really, I was at 51 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:39,400 a Sudoku. Explain Ajay. 52 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:44,080 But anyway, as I said, so far engineer, meaning he was rich as 53 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,360 hell and I really enjoyed my relationship with him because 54 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:50,720 for the first time I was not the breadwinner in my relationship. 55 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:53,440 OK, that's a lie. I had been dating breadwinners 56 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,880 before that. Let me just say he was. 57 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:59,440 At that point he was better than everyone else I had ever dated 58 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:03,400 because he was just a nice guy who always wanted nice, well, 59 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:05,680 things for me. He always wanted me to succeed 60 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,960 and to win. The relationship was mostly 61 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,880 geared towards making sure I was comfortable and everything was 62 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:14,400 taking care of. So Bobby bom ikafungwa kosababu 63 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,519 of my sexual content. You see, the thing with talking 64 00:04:17,519 --> 00:04:21,680 and talking about sex, posting about sex is I get shadow band a 65 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,960 lot. My views in a katanga Kosabu now 66 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:28,960 gangajiya sex it doesn't matter kamani sexual education I'm a 67 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:33,320 kamani porn on social media you get censored a lot. 68 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:36,760 All this has been very difficult to put my name out there, even 69 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,360 for opportunities, because even when I approach companies, come 70 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:43,320 and see sex affiliated, they're usually like, OK, I don't 71 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,080 understand how we can work together. 72 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,400 And it's so crazy to me how sex is such a taboo topic, when to 73 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,400 me sex is just like money. It's like talking about money, 74 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:54,560 food. This is something people do 75 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:57,520 every day, everywhere. All sorts of people, religious 76 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:01,520 people, atheists, homeless people, rich people, everyone is 77 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,080 having sex. But still, the conversation is 78 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:08,480 so censored. Sidri Sidri Nafanini Nowishna, I 79 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:11,760 hope I'm trying to change this narrative in the little way that 80 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,480 I can. But honestly, I wish I could 81 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:17,720 cause this awakening everywhere where people are able to say, 82 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,880 OK, let's talk about these things because these things are 83 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:24,240 happening. So this guy, I told him about 84 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:26,440 the issue I had. I used to have to mention an 85 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,800 issue once and he used to take care of it immediately. 86 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,280 Man, I really normally miss him sometimes because he was very 87 00:05:33,280 --> 00:05:35,680 reliable. He was always present when I 88 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:37,720 needed. It was just really, really 89 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,360 amazing friendship. I always enjoyed being friends 90 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:41,400 with him. Cosmo, clearly. 91 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:46,440 I think money isn't things in relationships. 92 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:54,640 So you didn't text me bro. Even if he hadn't texted me, he 93 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,760 had already paid for everything or everything was seeking help. 94 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:00,600 So I really didn't. I never felt like he was 95 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:03,760 neglecting me or he was ignoring me. 96 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:06,440 He offered to do the web website for me. 97 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,880 I told him my website is getting locked, I need your help, how 98 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:11,120 can you? I didn't even tell him I need 99 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:13,760 your help because I didn't even know what he really did for a 100 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:16,240 living at that time. And then he told me you know 101 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:17,840 what, I'm going to build your website. 102 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:23,240 This man just went and built me my website, did everything. 103 00:06:23,280 --> 00:06:27,440 Alipanga kitu AKA transfer kilakituk tokakoyi website 104 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,520 builds zotte zayo website for like a year. 105 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:36,240 He paid everything, security, domain name, hosting fees, all 106 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,320 the fees that were ever needed, he paid and he just gave me the 107 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:44,000 password and and told me, yeah, you can go ahead and and use 108 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:48,120 this website. He was and he would invite me to 109 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:52,080 his home so that we'd chill out and create together and I could 110 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:55,240 tell him what I was thinking. Well, I didn't know he really, 111 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:57,480 really had a huge crush on me at that time because that's the 112 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,240 first time we started hanging out. 113 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:02,200 By the way, when I was telling him about Ishida website at a 114 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:06,280 two quarter to Mens of Katyana, he was just my friend and he did 115 00:07:06,280 --> 00:07:07,720 that for me. Imagine. 116 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,400 Imagine at a surgery commanding Lipa and I didn't have money. 117 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:13,320 This is when I was still living at home. 118 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:16,680 I was very, very broke. God bless him wherever he is. 119 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,000 So this guy Akan Tangan is there. 120 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:20,800 And I remember that day he gave me a call. 121 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:22,800 He was like, I've finished everything you want. 122 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:24,800 I've he really went all out for me. 123 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:28,200 And he asked what do you want to name this website? 124 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:31,400 And I didn't have a name because the young boy and I told Bobby 125 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:33,000 Boom. Bobby Boom was such a random 126 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,800 name because my name is Bobby. My friend said just call it 127 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:37,840 Bobby Boom. And that's exactly what I did. 128 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,240 But then asked myself, what? What do I want to talk about? 129 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:45,000 What am I, what am I doing? What's this awareness I'm 130 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:48,000 creating about? And I realized my niche was 131 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,240 relationships and sex. So I said instead of calling it 132 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:54,440 relationships and sex, names that are words that are closer 133 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:59,160 to those that zeno nisha non gaggia relationships and a sex 134 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:02,960 sonica ficaria too randomly. Love and orgasms, I don't even 135 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,160 know where it came from. I just said love and orgasms and 136 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:07,760 he said Are you sure? I had a few other names that I 137 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:11,120 thought about for a couple more days, but Love and Orgasms felt 138 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:14,640 like it fits, like it was perfect for this. 139 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,960 And when I think about it deeper, it might seem like it's 140 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:20,200 just about relationships and sex. 141 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:25,080 But then love is a doing what love is a is a noun. 142 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:27,960 It's a thing that happens. It's a feeling you have. 143 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:30,840 It's a decision you make. It's a life you live. 144 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:34,760 It's a it's an existence. Love is freedom. 145 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:39,320 It's being, it's, there's so many ways I could explain what 146 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:41,720 love is. And orgasms is usually the 147 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,280 reward you get from sex, the reward you get from the 148 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,720 relationship that leads you to sex. 149 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:51,200 So love can create orgasms, right? 150 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:55,640 So I just started thinking how in this state of existence, how 151 00:08:55,840 --> 00:09:00,040 when we exist in love and we treat ourselves well and we just 152 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:04,520 exist in freedom and we feel good and love is everywhere, The 153 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:08,440 orgasms are the consequences of this proper love. 154 00:09:08,680 --> 00:09:11,600 So he existence here. Freedom, not happiness, not 155 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:15,360 living a good life, being conscious, being aware, being 156 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,680 present, being amazing. It comes with the rewards. 157 00:09:18,680 --> 00:09:22,480 It comes with you achieving the goals you want, you being able 158 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:24,440 to exist as the person you want to become. 159 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,760 You becoming a better person, making more money, becoming 160 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:31,160 hotter, becoming sexier, anything that you might call a 161 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,280 reward. It starts coming about when you 162 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:36,600 start to truly exist as yourself and love yourself completely. 163 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:41,640 So love and orgasms is a state of existence that brings 164 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:47,520 rewards. Like how you can't even make 165 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:50,200 sense, Apple, like me, in my head, it makes sense. 166 00:09:50,560 --> 00:09:54,600 And so I thought today I'd start by explaining what orgasms is. 167 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:58,040 And I captured a lot of my research from Rena Malik. 168 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:00,480 She's a urologist and pelvic surgeon. 169 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:04,360 She talks a lot about the body, the pelvic area and how it's 170 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:08,480 linked to the brain and the spinal cord because she does a 171 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,040 lot of spinal cord injury surgeries. 172 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:13,800 And it's just fascinating to listen to her because I'm 173 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:18,040 learning so many things about my body and how it all translates 174 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,920 into becoming this pleasurable sex life. 175 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:25,600 So for me, for as long as I can remember, sex has always been a 176 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:30,200 very spiritual experience. It's a state where I lose my 177 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:34,320 mind and I I go away. I go go into another universe, I 178 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:38,720 go to another planet in my mind. I mean, sex is as much physical 179 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:41,400 as it is emotional and psychological for me. 180 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:46,520 But Sasa, it just feels like I get into this deep state of 181 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:51,520 consciousness and two away. That's one way I'm normally able 182 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:55,000 to tell if I'm having pleasurable, satisfying sex or 183 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:57,840 if I'm just having sex that feels like nothing. 184 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:00,000 The gullies understand what I mean. 185 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:02,600 You can have sex with someone and you feel nothing. 186 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:05,680 Nothing. It can be the biggest Dick, the 187 00:11:05,680 --> 00:11:10,800 best everything, but sometimes you just don't feel anything. 188 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:13,400 It's not about the person you're having sex with. 189 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,120 It's just the state of mind you're art in. 190 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:19,960 And that's how I'm able to tell sex feels really, really right. 191 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:24,520 And it feels good for me when I zoom out into another world. 192 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:28,360 And so many people have been able to corroborate what I'm 193 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:30,000 saying. And that's why so many people 194 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,840 have this deep sleep after sex. You just go into another world. 195 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:36,480 It takes you elsewhere. It's like a whole trip. 196 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,520 That's why sex for me has to be a certain way. 197 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:41,800 It has to make me feel a certain way. 198 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:45,920 It has to feed my soul, my heart, not just my body. 199 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:49,560 You could give me the the biggest, best Dick, but if I 200 00:11:49,560 --> 00:11:53,480 feel no connection to that person or that situation, it's 201 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,280 just going to be a Dick. It's not going to do anything 202 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:58,880 for me. And I try to teach people how to 203 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:03,120 have such amazing sex that blows your mind and takes you out of 204 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:05,240 this world. There's this guy I was seeing a 205 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:08,720 couple years back. We had a sex relationship and 206 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,320 when I was into him, I really, really was obsessed with the 207 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,200 sex. The sex was amazing and I loved 208 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,120 it. But when aliens are too Cora, I 209 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,960 can say oh I'm busy. I don't reply messages all the 210 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,600 time. I just started detaching 211 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,960 emotionally and after that sex just started feeling like 212 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,960 sandpaper. It felt like nothing. 213 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:31,360 It's like you even start to get disgusted that this person is 214 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,800 touching your body and is there because there's no connection. 215 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:37,240 It's just a Dick. It's like AI don't know how how 216 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:40,840 to explain it but I'm sure so many girls can understand what I 217 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:42,920 mean. I can't speak for the girls and 218 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,040 I would try to explain to him that sex for me was a state of 219 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,400 mind more than it was anything. I would try to show him that 220 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:53,760 this is the emotional state that I needed to be in for me to 221 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:56,040 enjoy sex. But he constantly kept 222 00:12:56,040 --> 00:13:00,760 destroying the connection in a in a shanga too unnatural death 223 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:03,880 una shanga too kufil nikama. You're attracted to them 224 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:06,440 anymore. I realized anytime I have this 225 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,200 conversation with men, they really don't get it. 226 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,440 They don't understand. They're like, like there's 227 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,160 another guy I was talking to Josie, and he was saying music 228 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,440 conversation you casual sex Nini Nini not to me a toys. 229 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:21,320 It's like he he he was getting annoyed by the fact that I'm 230 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:24,960 trying to advocate for sex that makes sense and satisfies women 231 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:27,200 especially. So he was saying he was trying 232 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,440 to sell to me at the old casual sex. 233 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:31,840 And I was trying to explain to him casual sex really does 234 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:34,960 nothing for me. OK, yeah, I might not. 235 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:37,080 But then why? I don't want to have sex. 236 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:44,000 The tiny Level 3, level 15. So what's the point? 237 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,720 What's the point? My toy alone near level 10. 238 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:52,080 Emotional connection. Because I know there's no 239 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:57,400 anxiety that's going to follow this sexual encounter. 240 00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:00,120 There's no feelings of guilt. There's no feelings of 241 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:02,800 overthinking. I can just use my toy and sleep. 242 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:07,760 I won't care about if my toy might have an STD if my toy 243 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:12,240 cares that those pills really fuck you up emotionally. 244 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:15,560 If my toy is going to check up on me, I really have no time for 245 00:14:15,560 --> 00:14:18,000 that. It's safer emotionally and 246 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,920 psychologically. There's no anxiety that follows 247 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:23,240 the sex. When you get to experience sex 248 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:27,600 that blows your mind and, and kind of, I'll tell you 249 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:31,040 chemically, you'll understand what I mean and you'll never 250 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:34,960 really settle for anything less. It's kind of like salaries. 251 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:38,160 You go to a job that pays you 20 K and then you go to a job that 252 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,760 pays you 150. You will never go back to a job 253 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,160 that pays you 20 K. You will never. 254 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:45,960 What's the point? Because at this point, you've 255 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:49,240 already learned how to make the money on your own, in your own 256 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:52,800 way, because you must sustain your lifestyle whether you have 257 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,080 a salary or not. And that's something I'm also 258 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:59,360 learning as an unemployed person who's running her own things and 259 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,720 doing her own things. Especially as someone who 260 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:06,000 consistently speaks on sex and companies are afraid to partner 261 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:10,040 with me because of the sexual intonation behind everything. 262 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:16,040 Trust me, Akunam tukuna stress kamini wiki rentiki pika nabardo 263 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:21,440 lazima Tunisia my technical change lifestyle young, but I 264 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:27,920 never really I'm never in a state where I say, you know 265 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:30,960 what, I'm going to go back to a job that pays me 10K Why? 266 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:35,640 Why I can make I have to be. I have your brain kind of adapts 267 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:39,520 to a higher standard and then you have to maintain it 268 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:41,360 automatically. And that's how life is. 269 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:44,920 I think so many people I don't want to give to say this is 270 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:48,720 right, but I've seen so many people have kids when they have 271 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:52,040 nothing and then they have a kid and all of a sudden their life 272 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:54,760 starts bossing up. Now they've realized or even 273 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,600 people when they buy a car, they weren't really financially 274 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:00,800 stable before that, but after that they know they have to have 275 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:04,000 fuel, they have to service the car, they have to detail the 276 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,360 car. It just comes your your mind 277 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:10,280 adapts to improvements and it keeps you on the frequency where 278 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:14,520 you want better and you have to maintain better, especially when 279 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:18,160 you're committed to a journey of just having amazing experiences 280 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,400 that make you a better person in general. 281 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:23,920 Sesamini I already know how to have mind blowing sex. 282 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:28,120 There's no way I'm settling for sex that's mediocre or boring. 283 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:30,760 Or inaboto. Some of the ways to achieve 284 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,800 orgasms is by figuring out aerogenous zones. 285 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:39,840 So aerogenous zones, New Zealand zones una una una question 286 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:42,920 related, the areas in your body where if touched or if 287 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:47,240 stimulated, they cause some some kind of excitement or some kind 288 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,160 of response. And this is because these areas 289 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:52,960 are very sensitive for stimulation and arousal. 290 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:57,080 Examples of these areas are like the mouth, the neck, the 291 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,560 nipples, the anus. I'll talk about the anus because 292 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:05,040 today I want to, I want to focus mostly on men because men do not 293 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:08,560 know about the G sport. I think it's important that I 294 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:12,240 tell you guys more about that in time, but before that. 295 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:20,240 So these erogenous zones, everyone has them. 296 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:24,680 It's just areas where can be aroused through stimulation by 297 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:28,960 either being touched or leaked or tickled because they're very, 298 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:30,880 very sensitive. And these areas are very 299 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:32,720 sensitive because of the nerve endings. 300 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:36,360 Some areas on the body other than Zealous and Amisha 301 00:17:36,360 --> 00:17:40,760 mentioning chemical inner thighs or I realized that men really 302 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:42,760 really like when their nipples are sucked. 303 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,360 They won't always let you know, but it's true. 304 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:49,280 And also some people are also very sensitive behind the knees 305 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,200 a la Fuqua perineum in it a perineum. 306 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:55,400 I hope you need a perineum that space between the Dick and the 307 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:58,640 anus very very sensitive when you lick it. 308 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:04,120 I saw a tweet some guy saying I see his girl used to want to 309 00:18:04,120 --> 00:18:08,120 scissor him like that, like her vagina on his perennial. 310 00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:11,880 Anyway, people are very creative when it comes to sex and as long 311 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,040 as you're able to find what you like and that's why I keep 312 00:18:15,360 --> 00:18:18,000 advocating for people to try new stuff out. 313 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:21,480 This guy I used to date a couple of years ago. 314 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,920 If you go to my blogs, you can read about it. 315 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,680 His name is Randy. I've written a couple articles 316 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,120 about him. This guy, he never he used to 317 00:18:29,120 --> 00:18:32,640 only want traditional sex like I'll SX normal too. 318 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:36,400 He would be adventurous, but most things I used to have to 319 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:39,360 beg or to like try and coerce him. 320 00:18:39,360 --> 00:18:43,480 So it just became pointless sex And you see free in a natural 321 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:46,720 linear Lasmo trek who convinced him to let's do this like it's 322 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,680 it's not safe. It doesn't feel safe anymore and 323 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:53,400 you're overtime just my attraction to him and me wanting 324 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:56,280 sex from him. Aliens Atuka because most times 325 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,160 we were never on the same page about stuff. 326 00:18:58,360 --> 00:19:02,080 I'm very willing to try new things out and to put myself out 327 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:03,920 there. But he, he wasn't really the 328 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:05,320 same. He was the opposite. 329 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:09,360 He liked to have traditional safe sex. 330 00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:12,480 Now, I mean, I think I'm a bit too wild for that at this point. 331 00:19:13,360 --> 00:19:16,040 I mean, missionary in a Bamba. But you know, the more 332 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:19,200 comfortable you get, the more you want to try new things out 333 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,240 with your partner. He wasn't having it. 334 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:25,000 And actually sex with him is what made me realize I was done 335 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,120 with casual sex. Like I couldn't do it anymore 336 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:31,120 because I wanted to be with someone who I was able to tell 337 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:34,240 things like this. Also, you can't do such things 338 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,840 in one one night stands. I mean you can, but I mean you 339 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:41,680 can't have the conversation that leads to consent before you do 340 00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:43,520 it. And that's also something that 341 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:47,360 has become very important to me. Consent as having sexual 342 00:19:47,360 --> 00:19:50,360 conversations before we even jump into the sex. 343 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:53,280 It's very important to me. This is why before I sleep with 344 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,000 someone, I always become the friend fast. 345 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,960 Most of the people I've had sex with, I was friends with them 346 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:01,920 for two 3-4 years. Even before I had sex with them. 347 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:05,000 Sex is such a big deal for me and it's not a tea. 348 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:08,360 Everything has to be perfect. It's just if I can help it, if I 349 00:20:08,360 --> 00:20:12,720 can be a bit more responsible so that I can be able to enjoy the 350 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:16,480 kind of sex that I want, then I have to do these things. 351 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:18,160 I have to be intentional with sex. 352 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:21,120 It's also because, oops, kind of sex emacia. 353 00:20:21,120 --> 00:20:24,760 I can't really do that anymore because now I'm a grown up and I 354 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:28,120 have to be responsible. Brains can have been done when 355 00:20:28,120 --> 00:20:31,880 people are doing this, these types of research and in the 356 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,600 brain, the place where the places that activate when you're 357 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:39,880 feeling pain are linked usually the same with the places that 358 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,840 are activated when you feel pleasure. 359 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:46,120 And that's why sometimes people link pain and pleasure to each 360 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,200 other. So a lot of things happen when 361 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,080 you're orgasming, the way your body feels, it can activate like 362 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,080 unintentional sounds it, it can make your body shake, it can 363 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,880 make you release fluids. It can make orgasms are just a 364 00:20:59,880 --> 00:21:03,360 whole thing. That's why you really have to be 365 00:21:03,360 --> 00:21:05,720 comfortable with the person that you're think. 366 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,080 This is my opinion. Maybe Nicole Shai, like you 367 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,600 mean, I feel if you need, if you want me to get nastier with you, 368 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:15,800 the nastier you need me to be, the more comfortable and safe I 369 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:19,080 have to feel. So the G spot, for me to explain 370 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,960 the G spot, I kind of have to talk about the anatomy of the 371 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,320 female body a little bit. Let's start with the clit. 372 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,040 I hope you guys know what the clit is or where it is. 373 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,920 If you don't know, please, you'll have to Google clitoris. 374 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:35,480 And then you see the clit. Its makeup is similar to that of 375 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,680 the penis in men decade. They can be likened to each 376 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:41,800 other because they're very analogous and actually they do 377 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:46,280 develop from the same tissues and they have a lot of nerve 378 00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:48,440 endings. The same way the penis reacts 379 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,720 during stimulation is the same way the clitoris reacts during 380 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,440 stimulation. Sexual stimulation, especially 381 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:58,960 it gets enlarged during erection, it gets engorged with 382 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,360 blood. It just they have so many 383 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:03,400 similarities. It's like that the same thing. 384 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,760 It's just different in The xx chromosomes and in the XY 385 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,280 chromosome. So every woman has three holes, 386 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:13,480 the urethra. This is where the susu comes out 387 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,640 of the vagina. This is where the baby comes out 388 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:20,080 of, which is the bath canal. And then the anus inside the 389 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,280 vagina. There's a lot of nerves. 390 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,160 There's a there's a you should listen to the episode where I 391 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,560 talk about squatting. I kind of explain what the 392 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:32,880 skin's glands is because this is is where the fluid for female 393 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,080 squat comes out from. So quite your skin's glands. 394 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,040 The monarch was sexually aroused. 395 00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:42,240 The more fluid in a build up. And how to make a woman orgasm 396 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,360 is by applying pressure on the skin's glands. 397 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,880 We can apply pressure harpo. We can apply pressure harpo ETA 398 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,320 relief. Not one of the squat in a 399 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,200 tokanga. I felt good, but I didn't really 400 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:57,840 is it nothing I I can say I came, but I didn't really 401 00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,840 orgasm. And he knew because I'm a 402 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,120 squatter and he was so disappointed. 403 00:23:03,120 --> 00:23:06,120 He was like I failed. And that made me realize this 404 00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,200 guy. He's, you know, men are really 405 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,600 interesting. I realized long a long time ago, 406 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:15,600 being in the sex industry, I realized that some people have 407 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,160 sex with you because they like the way you look. 408 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,080 It's nothing deeper than that. Or for whatever reason, they 409 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,760 want to have sex with you. And sometimes they want to have 410 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:27,280 sex with you to conquer you, like to make you, not to make 411 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,960 you orgasm. And if they don't do that, then 412 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,960 they feel like they've failed or like they've not achieved what 413 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,480 they wanted. And this, it kind of annoys me 414 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:38,240 because it makes me feel like I'm an experiment because 415 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,400 Kitambo, because of my blog, most men would want to associate 416 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:45,440 with me or to sleep with me just to say they slept with me, just 417 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,840 to say they made me squat. And it's really, it's like, bro, 418 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:53,400 sex is so much more than squatting than you being able to 419 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:56,920 say you made me squat. Sex is how comfortable did I 420 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,480 feel? Was I safe with you? 421 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,400 Did it feel good? Did I enjoy the whole process? 422 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,880 It's not just. And I realized for men, it's 423 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,920 mostly about the coming, the nothing, when for women, it's 424 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:12,200 about the whole experience. It's about from the beginning, 425 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:15,480 like how you speak to me, how you made me feel throughout the 426 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:20,120 day, the foreplay, the way you treat me, the way you make it's, 427 00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,960 it's a lot of things. It's not just meeting and 428 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:25,280 parking. And then I, not at ECG, could 429 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,080 explain. I keep talking about it and 430 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:32,040 nobody really understands, but as long as the girls understand 431 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,720 what I'm saying, then it's OK. I feel hard. 432 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:38,600 It's literally a whole process. When I noticed he was like that 433 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:42,760 and I noticed even when we got to having sex, he was very 434 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,000 present. He was not like gone. 435 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,720 You know how when you have sex and it takes you to another 436 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,360 dimension? He was having sex with me like I 437 00:24:50,360 --> 00:24:54,720 was Mika, my Annie and Annie observe an Anglia reaction. 438 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,920 Young one attacker. Who the other person is or what 439 00:24:57,920 --> 00:24:59,440 they're feeling or what's going on. 440 00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:01,640 Sex is supposed to be a mutual thing. 441 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:05,040 I'm not supposed to leave that place feeling like you fucked 442 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:09,400 me, like you used my body to nut or you're just trying to get a 443 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,920 satisfaction out of making me nut. 444 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:15,280 It's supposed to be a wholesome experience where we're both 445 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,040 deeply enjoying the process together. 446 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:19,840 And this is where the G spot comes. 447 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:24,160 Because once I see someone is trying to experiment with me, I 448 00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:28,240 also pull out G sport discussions in the in the in the 449 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,840 man, it's called the P sport because it's the prostate. 450 00:25:31,120 --> 00:25:34,440 But I'll get to that in a bit. When you apply pressure hypoqua, 451 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,400 skin's glands, that's how you squat higher. 452 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,560 So let's move to the men. The men also have something 453 00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,480 similar to the G spot and it's called the P spot. 454 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:48,120 This is the prostate, the prostate gland, the male G spot. 455 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:53,480 And it can be reached using a finger to people who do butt 456 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,920 play or as play, they know what I'm talking about. 457 00:25:56,040 --> 00:26:00,000 I have an episode on anal sex. I link it in the description so 458 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,240 that you can get to understand more about that. 459 00:26:02,360 --> 00:26:06,160 It's just below the bladder, the same as the G sport in women, 460 00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:08,800 very close to the bladder. The skin's glands is very close 461 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,840 to the bladder. In men, it's just below the 462 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,920 bladder. And when you stimulate the 463 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:19,120 prostate gland, it causes intense orgasms and it's very 464 00:26:19,120 --> 00:26:22,200 sensitive to the touch. When you just apply pressure 465 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:26,840 like this to the prostate gland, it causes the craziest orgasms. 466 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,160 Like I said, I'm a very open minded people and pass on and I 467 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,400 like to have sex with people who are also open minded because 468 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,920 then you get to try so many new things and you get to enjoy so 469 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,720 much together without any fear. You guys can bring things up if 470 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,160 someone is not comfortable, cool. 471 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:45,240 But then I always say don't. I always say don't knock it till 472 00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:47,800 you try it. Like for the men, the prostate 473 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:53,680 gland is inside the anus eco quahoga, but most men, they feel 474 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:58,560 like bad play emasculates them like it's gay or like it's 475 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,440 disgusting. But they're just refusing to 476 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,400 acknowledge that when you stimulate the prostate gland, 477 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:06,760 which is in the anus, it causes orgasms. 478 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,600 Once you get to experience that kind of orgasm, I promise you 479 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:14,240 will never settle for less. I used to date some guy I've 480 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:17,080 dated a lot. I used to date this guy who the 481 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:21,200 first guy I ever had bad play with and I really really used to 482 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,080 enjoy having sex with him because he was so open minded. 483 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,320 We used to try so many things. He actually taught me so much 484 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:32,160 about sex and he let me do stuff on him, try things on him and I 485 00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,680 realized I actually enjoy that kind of stuff. 486 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:40,240 I enjoy seeing my partner enjoy sex, not just do sex to me. 487 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,880 Like I love to see them enjoy the sex. 488 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:47,360 And then when I saw his body reaction to me fondling with 489 00:27:47,360 --> 00:27:51,840 like the rimming stuff and the milk stuff and massaging his 490 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,040 prostate, when I when I saw that, I was like where this is 491 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,080 something I really, really like. This is a pleasure I would love 492 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,120 for my partner to enjoy. I haven't really ever done it 493 00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:04,600 again since then. This is like four years ago. 494 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:08,520 Five years ago because I've not been having consistent sex. 495 00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,920 But then again, I've not met a partner who I've been 496 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,240 comfortable enough with to even bring such things up. 497 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:19,640 So I hope I'll start dating soon and I'll date an open minded 498 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:22,920 past someone who I will have lots of sex with and who will 499 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:27,720 let me do all these things. So let me let's talk about ways 500 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:33,080 in which to improve sex and maybe help you achieve orgasms. 501 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:37,240 So people have talked about a lot of things that make them 502 00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:42,280 reach this space where they're able to enjoy sex, and I just 503 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,000 want to touch a bit on it. Sex largely for me, it's an 504 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,200 issue of security and comfortability. 505 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,520 As long as I feel really, really good being around you, then 506 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,320 anything goes. But Kama hakuna connection 507 00:28:54,480 --> 00:29:00,200 gumusana kosabusiezi ongaya CSI communicate One of the best ways 508 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,440 to improve your orgasms is through relationship 509 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,880 satisfaction. Relationship satisfaction. 510 00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:09,200 It builds a really, really safe connection for you, which 511 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:12,200 enhances communication between you and your partner. 512 00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,480 It makes sex easier because if you're happy in the 513 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,840 relationship, especially like for the both of you, if you got, 514 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,840 let me say both, assuming you're just having sex, two people, if 515 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,600 you two people in the relationship are satisfied with 516 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,360 the relationship, happy, you're enjoying the relationship, 517 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,800 there's not much stress going on, then automatically the 518 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,560 orgasms are better. If you guys are friends, you 519 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:39,280 care about each other, there's just a better connection between 520 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,840 each other, improves your sex life automatically. 521 00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,320 That's why I keep telling people you need to work on yourself so 522 00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,480 that you can be the kind of person who's able to exist in 523 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:54,360 safe relationships so that you can attract safe relationships 524 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,240 so that you can be able to enjoy sex better. 525 00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,240 Whatever you want to call it, whether your situation shipping 526 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:04,320 a tender masojini nini, a masojini, whatever, as long as 527 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,000 you feel safe and you're satisfied and you enjoy it, you 528 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:12,200 don't feel used, you don't feel manipulated, you're not anxious, 529 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,760 you're not worried about many things, then automatically it 530 00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,520 increases your chances of better orgasms. 531 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:22,160 Something else that people have incorporated in order to enjoy 532 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:26,560 orgasms is toys and fantasy. This is things like DDSM or 533 00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:30,000 fetishes and kinks exist. Just throwing yourself out 534 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,480 there, learning more things about yourself sexually, getting 535 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:37,160 to know what is it I enjoy what do I like does this guy another 536 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,960 guy I also dated, he used to also like butt play. 537 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,840 I didn't do butt play things with him because I wasn't 538 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:44,960 comfortable yet with him to get there. 539 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,920 But when I noticed this is the kind of stuff he liked I I would 540 00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,160 give him sex stuff like I would get I got him a butt plug. 541 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,560 He told me it even after to a channel and he told me that but 542 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,280 like significantly improved his sex life. 543 00:30:58,280 --> 00:30:59,760 It just made things better for him. 544 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,120 He uses it even when he's wanking because you know your 545 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,320 pressure poker Pro Street It excites him and makes him 546 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,240 happier. And that generally makes me 547 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:12,480 happier because through him communicating his needs, showing 548 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:16,960 me what he liked, I was able to even gift him in a good way, you 549 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,120 know. So that's something he uses even 550 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:22,200 after me and I love it. I love it for him and also 551 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,920 mutual stimulation. This is something I like like to 552 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,480 do with my partner, like wanking together. 553 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,840 Wanking together over the phone. It can be audio, it can be 554 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,400 video. It can be in person. 555 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,320 He's wanking. Yeah, You, you're wanking there 556 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840 watching each other, turning each other on. 557 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:40,680 You see, you can't do such things. 558 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,760 Come out on a confidence. Let's move on a confidence crazy 559 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,040 and say the best way to build this confidence is if you guys 560 00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,600 have a connection and you're able to have proper 561 00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:53,160 communication about the sex you want, then you can do all these 562 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:56,800 crazy stuff with each other. Safety and consent. 563 00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,760 Nothing is as sexy as consent. Someone having discussions with 564 00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:04,360 me before sex, asking me questions, finding out if it's 565 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,280 what I want, not just surprising me. 566 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,600 There's so many times people have done things to me that 567 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,640 shocked me like we're making out and then he starts choking me 568 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,400 and it's the first time we're making out. 569 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,160 We've never even had a discussion about choking and 570 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:19,120 stuff like that and you've not even asked me for consent. 571 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,760 That's weird. Or someone trying to put his 572 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,240 penis in your in your butt without asking you or without 573 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,240 finding out if it's something you're comfortable with. 574 00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,680 Bro, why would you do that? It's a it's a whole conversation 575 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,320 we have to have and it's just really, really weird when people 576 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,880 assume everything goes without having these discussions with 577 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,000 their sexual partners. Remember Kama hakuna consent 578 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,120 rape. I'm a coercion, not be a 579 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:47,640 coercion rape Atacama mukapo together no comfortable and then 580 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,600 you go ahead and do it. That's rape. 581 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:53,920 Anytime someone's you ignore someone wanting something or you 582 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,200 do not out if they're comfortable, if you do not make 583 00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,040 them comfortable enough to want it, that's coercion. 584 00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,000 That's rape. That's why discussions, 585 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:06,840 communication has to be very, very open before any sexual 586 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,240 interactions. That's my opinion. 587 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,440 That's what I feel. I feel like before we fuck, 588 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,640 we've got to talk about it. I'm, I never put myself in 589 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:17,680 situations where it's like we've never brought sex up. 590 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,360 The last time I did that, I really, really regretted it. 591 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,480 It really hurt my feelings because it was just you're 592 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:27,240 touching someone wanting to experiment with you to see what 593 00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,880 you're like when they really have no feelings for you or no 594 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,360 care for you. It leaves you feeling very used 595 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,200 when you're not. You leave the environment 596 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,120 feeling. Did I even consent? 597 00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:40,000 Like, OK, yeah, we were in that environment and things got 598 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:41,960 steamy. But we've never really talked 599 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:44,160 about this. Is this what I really, really 600 00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:46,040 wanted? And then you start to feel 601 00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:50,000 guilty because you didn't say no, so meaning you accepted. 602 00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:53,240 So is it really rape? It's just a whole Gray area that 603 00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:56,560 that I don't like. So for that I always say have 604 00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:59,440 the discussion before you have sex with each other. 605 00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:03,440 And for women, like I said, remember the clit is just like 606 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,840 the penis. They have the same genetic 607 00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,960 makeup. Clitoral stimulation is a big 608 00:34:09,159 --> 00:34:14,000 yes, meaning these X why people, they have to know where the clit 609 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:15,400 is. They have to find it. 610 00:34:15,639 --> 00:34:19,880 You have to demand that they find the clit because that's 611 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:21,880 where the sensitive NAV endings are. 612 00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,880 That's what will stimulate you the most. 613 00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:28,280 That's where utam eco some people not from penetration, but 614 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:33,320 largely most females, most women, they orgasm through 615 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:37,480 clitoral stimulation and this can be using the tongue, using 616 00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,880 manually and also during sex. That's why I see the ring in a 617 00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,719 Bam Banga Evo. I see tweets about lesbians 618 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,800 talking about how they Cesar for like 8 hours. 619 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,320 It totally makes sense to me. It's possible. 620 00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,520 I feel like it's possible because that kind of 621 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:56,440 stimulation, especially when you've used the Rose toy, you 622 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,720 know exactly what I mean. It's very over stimulating but 623 00:34:59,720 --> 00:35:05,400 it's very very enjoyable and you orgasm faster than normal. 624 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:09,320 So I'd say try new things. Focus on the foreplay now. 625 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:15,880 Foreplay 4 play In the Sema 4 play, see Tuna patana, Chafu. 626 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:21,360 Foreplay is it starts from the way our relationship is, how we 627 00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,960 relate to each other, how we speak to each other, what we 628 00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:29,880 talk about, how you treat me, how you make me feel, how 629 00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,920 everything. It's about our conversation from 630 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,520 that morning when you woke up. Good morning, beautiful. 631 00:35:35,720 --> 00:35:37,840 I miss you. I want to see you today. 632 00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:41,200 Can I take you out to dinner? It's not come to my house at 633 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:45,960 7:30 and this text is being sent at 6:30 PM and he come to my 634 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,640 house in one hour and then when Endo, Nadina and Columbia, you 635 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,200 know, I'm really, really busy. Your Uber is outside. 636 00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:54,320 I've called for you on Uber, bro. 637 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,840 I'm gonna stimulation, I'm gonna foreplay Unica. 638 00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,280 It's about it's the whole process. 639 00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:05,320 It's about how we laugh with each other, how we enjoy each 640 00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,960 other's company, how we relate, how we do things together. 641 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:11,640 All of that is foreplay. And I would like for people to 642 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:15,040 understand that the more you are kinda and the more 643 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:19,120 dissatisfaction in this sexual relationship, the safer, the 644 00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:22,800 more comfortable, the better I feel then the better the sex 645 00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:25,120 automatically. It's a direct correlation. 646 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,000 If you don't talk to me, then we're not fucking. 647 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,360 If you don't care about me, we're not fucking. 648 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:32,360 It's not going to do anything for me. 649 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:36,480 So I hope I've explained in my own little way what the G spot, 650 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:42,520 the P sport orgasms, foreplay and things that improve orgasms 651 00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:45,400 in both women and men. Well, I hope you've been able to 652 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,880 understand. Please feel free to ask me any 653 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:51,720 questions that you might have. I'm interested to listen and to 654 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:54,320 learn as well. 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