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I'd like to talk about how I use
my femininity to get everything 

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I want and how it works out for 
me. 

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And listen before you come for 
me. 

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I'm not a femininity coach or 
suji What, what, what? 

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And I have nothing against these
people, but I just want to share

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my story because a lot of 
people, a lot of women 

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especially have been asking me 
this question. 

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And recently my mom also asked 
me and I realized I want to talk

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about how we complement each 
other because it's something 

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I've noticed that is very I 
don't know. 

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I haven't seen in any other 
relationship I've been in before

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this one, so maybe you can tell 
me what you think about it after

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the episode, but I just want to 
share. 

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So femininity is attributed to 
the typical generals, which 

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aren't necessarily true, but 
some of these things kind of 

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make sense, especially for me. 
So what I believe to be 

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femininity is exactly the way 
you are as a woman. 

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Femininity looks very different.
It can be different in many 

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ways, but it is just an energy 
that you exude that shows you 

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are, you know, feminine. 
I don't I don't know any other 

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way to explain it, but I will 
explain how I present and then 

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maybe you can think about how 
you present as a feminine 

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person, whether you're a man or 
a woman for yourself. 

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Femininity is an energy. 
It can present in any agenda. 

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That's why there's these men who
are considered feminine and 

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that's why there's or have 
feminine energy. 

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I'm sure you've handled OK, but 
if I'm feeling if I use these 

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words too many times, I might 
lose some of you. 

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But please just stick with me. 
I promise it makes sense. 

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Juicy. 
I was going through it 

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emotionally as fuck. 
I was actually really, really 

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throwing up piss and I was very 
Moody and my mom was trying to 

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be sweet, but I was being very 
short with him. 

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And immediately he noticed, he 
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So he said, I'm coming to get 
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I'll take you somewhere where we
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eat and you can relax. 
I'm sure it will make you feel 

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better. 
And he took me somewhere really 

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romantic, actually somewhere 
really, really sweet. 

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And then while we were having 
lunch, he asked me, you know, 

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what makes you the way you you 
are, what makes you so much the 

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way you are? 
And it made me think about how I

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am or how people perceive me to 
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And I'll just tell you some of 
the things that I've been told 

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that I am. 
I'm very sensual. 

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I'm very soft spoken. 
I'm very calm, sweet, to be 

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honest, behind the closed doors.
I don't entirely think this is 

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how I am. 
I'm very loud. 

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I'm very impatient. 
Sometimes I get angry. 

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I'm very Moody. 
But who I am is a spectrum. 

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I'm not just one thing. 
I'm a million things and I am so

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many things and I am everything 
and nothing at the same time. 

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Valar Mogulis. 
But how people perceive me 

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externally, like I'm this soft 
spoken woman who always smells 

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so good and cares a lot about 
how she looks, how she feels, 

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how she dresses and I'm fun and 
sweet and gully. 

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And it's true. 
I am all these things. 

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And something that I've realized
is that me being all these 

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things has been attracting not 
only in romantic partners, but 

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I'm realizing even in my friends
who are women, it is making me 

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attract people who are very 
complementary of my energy, 

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people who are very steadfast 
decision makers, strong, 

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confident leaders, creators, 
bosses. 

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And listen, this is not the only
thing that they are they 

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remember they also are a 
spectrum of so many things. 

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But I'm realizing how the people
in my life currently are showing

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up for me is that they're so 
ready to love me and give to me 

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and nourish me and just pour 
into me. 

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As opposed to the older 
relationships where people are 

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just trying to take from me, use
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I'm me at me, leave me broken 
and dusted. 

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Right now it's very much the 
opposite. 

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I'm in very, very loving 
relationships all the way from 

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my family to my romantic 
relationships, to my 

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relationship with my cat, to my 
relationship with my landlord, 

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with my business partners, with 
everyone around me is just 

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loving me in the right way. 
And this is because I'm very 

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authentic. 
Remember I said femininity does 

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not necessarily attribute to any
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It's just about you being very 
authentic in the way you are. 

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Even a tomboy can be feminine, 
can have feminine energy because

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it is how you present, it is how
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It is your authentic, beautiful,
genuine energy. 

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And the wholeness of embracing 
this energy for me has made me a

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bit more calm, has made me a 
better listener, a better 

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receiver. 
It helps me rest more. 

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It has made me softer and 
slower. 

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And a direct reflection is of 
this is because it has made me 

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much more attentive. 
I'm able to be there for the 

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people that I love because now 
I'm way more calm. 

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And it has also made me way more
beautiful. 

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I feel like energy is very 
contagious and my beauty, like, 

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yeah, my, my face is pretty, but
I'm noticing a lot more people 

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loving the energy around me, 
loving being around me, just 

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loving the peace and kindness 
that is coming when I'm around. 

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And it is because I am 
attracting exactly what I am. 

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And this is helping me 
consistently receive and enjoy 

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the things that I want while 
also being able to rest. 

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At this point of my life, I'm 
able to be super, super present 

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and more graceful. 
You'd have to have met me before

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to understand exactly what I'm 
talking about because these are 

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the kind of compliments I've 
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And it's it's not something I'm 
sure an audio podcast is going 

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to explain everything. 
And I could go as fast to say, 

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you know, it's all it's because 
my hair is always done. 

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My nails are always done. 
My makeup is always good. 

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My clothes are, I could say it's
all that external stuff because 

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yes, it does help. 
It does help in, you know, 

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keeping me looking like a very, 
very feminine person. 

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But it's not that. 
It's more about the way I feel 

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about myself on the inside. 
It's the way I'm loving myself 

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more. 
It's the way I treat myself and 

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the way I prioritize my life. 
This is what is pushing me 

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towards everything that I 
require. 

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I'm able to attract everything 
and more, and it's just so 

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beautiful because I'm 
consistently receiving from the 

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universe, from everywhere. 
I have no worries in my life. 

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I'm able to rest, I'm able to 
receive love, and I'm able to be

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loved in the ways that I love. 
I realized that it's so 

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automatic. 
The exchange is so automatic and

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I did not realize how much I 
also gave by being able to be a 

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soft and slow and sweet woman. 
It has also made me more 

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forgiving. 
It has also helped me able to 

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let go easier, to accept change 
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And ladies, let me tell you 
something, especially I say 

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ladies because ladies, I know 
most times you're told, you 

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know, don't be too emotional. 
Your emotions will be the death 

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of you in emotions. 
Let me hear it from me right 

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now. 
Emotions are a woman's 

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superpower. 
Your emotions are as your 

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womanness. 
I don't care if you're a stud or

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if you're trans, with all 
respect, as long as you're a 

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woman and you know you have a 
woman's emotions, harness those 

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superpowers. 
Your emotions are always going 

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to be your superpower. 
You're supposed to feel, and 

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you're supposed to feel deeply 
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This is what guides you towards 
making decisions. 

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We're not like men and I'm not 
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I'm just saying your emotions as
a woman will always put you 

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straight ahead. 
This is why it's your job to 

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become emotional intelligent. 
It's, it's super important that 

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you're able to manage your 
emotions, control your emotions,

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regulate your emotions because 
once you do these things, no one

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can use you, no one can control 
you, and no one can make you 

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feel bad about being so powerful
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So make it your priority without
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affecting other people to walk 
on your own emotions, to walk on

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your femininity, to walk on 
making sure you're being very 

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authentic and true for yourself.
And remember, this energy is 

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only for the people who deserve 
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It's only for the people who, 
when you're in FICCA Bay, people

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who understand who you are and 
what having your energy around 

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them is and what it means. 
Not everyone gets to experience 

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the softer, slower, sweeter, 
kinder, more graceful, most 

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forgiving side of you that that 
side is specifically kept for 

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the people who actually truly 
love you with all their heart. 

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So you have to be very 
intentional with who you choose 

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around you is discussed 
friendships on another episode, 

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which I think you might like if 
you go listen to on how to tell 

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if you're in the right circles 
or how you should or how to feel

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about the relationships you're 
in right now. 

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So that maybe you can assess and
realize that the more you work 

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on yourself and the more your 
boundaries are raising, the less

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tolerant you are of bullshit and
the less tolerant you are of 

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anything that is not fulfilling 
you and your life as a woman 

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especially, you need to be very 
choosy. 

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All this to say that I have a 
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He's such, he's basically 
everything I've I've been 

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wanting and it has nothing to do
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I mean, yes, my energy is 
complementary, but this is who 

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he is even without me. 
He's just a very strong present 

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man. 
He's very protective. 

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He's very kind, very soft in his
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very, you know, have you ever 
just seen a man walk into a room

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and you know that's a man? 
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It keeps you wet all the time, 
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I say that to speak for myself, 
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It just makes me horny all the 
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You know, there's this memes 
that talk about when men used to

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be men and they used to build 
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Exactly. 
Not these men who ask you these 

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days. 
What are you bringing to the 

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table at the OSG? 
What? 

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What complaining at he Oh, you 
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No, a man who's just a man. 
He keeps you horny, fucked and 

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fed, and that's exactly what you
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So the only way to receive is by
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I've talked about this because I
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ago and I met this lady who was 
asking me about, you know, 

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Bobby, how, how do you get? 
Because she noticed as soon as I

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walked into the restaurant, so 
many people were willing like 

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were asking if they could buy me
stuff or they could pay my tab 

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or they could take care of me. 
And this happens to me all the 

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time. 
I've been window shopping so 

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many times while broke and 
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Or I've been at the supermarket 
shopping, someone will pay my 

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bill. 
Or it's not because I'm the 

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best, or I'm the hottest or I'm 
the only person who you know is 

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grabbing attention. 
It's because you truly in your 

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mind, have to believe that you 
deserve good things for people 

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to notice. 
And you'll realize everything is

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working in the good for 
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Receiving stuff is just one 
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That's not the only thing that 
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It's about the life that you're 
living, the kind of standard 

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that you set for yourself, the 
relationships that you have 

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receiving in all ways, not just 
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If you try and be authentic to 
yourself, at least come back and

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tell me in the comments about 
how it has changed your life and

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how you've been able to start 
receiving from the universe and 

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from the people around you. 
Because they can notice that 

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your energy is beautiful and 
your energy is calm and kind and

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graceful. 
And they want to do everything 

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in their way to make sure that 
you're comfortable and beautiful

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and safe. 
And thank you so much for 

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listening to me. 
My name is Roberta Bobby. 

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If you want to see my face more,
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I host a segment called 
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on there, and I'm also on the 
Citizen TV Daybreak show every 

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Tuesday morning at 8:00 AM, 
which is a social show where we 

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talk about relationship, 
intimacy, and everything around 

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that. 
So come along and grow with me 

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and learn with me. 
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your feedback and tell me what 
you think or what you want to 

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hear more of because I'm here to
make sure that you enjoy 

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listening. 
Until next time, Kaheri.