I'd like to talk about how I use my femininity to get everything
I want and how it works out for me.
And listen before you come for me.
I'm not a femininity coach or suji What, what, what?
And I have nothing against these people, but I just want to share
my story because a lot of people, a lot of women
especially have been asking me this question.
And recently my mom also asked me and I realized I want to talk
about how we complement each other because it's something
I've noticed that is very I don't know.
I haven't seen in any other relationship I've been in before
this one, so maybe you can tell me what you think about it after
the episode, but I just want to share.
So femininity is attributed to the typical generals, which
aren't necessarily true, but some of these things kind of
make sense, especially for me. So what I believe to be
femininity is exactly the way you are as a woman.
Femininity looks very different. It can be different in many
ways, but it is just an energy that you exude that shows you
are, you know, feminine. I don't I don't know any other
way to explain it, but I will explain how I present and then
maybe you can think about how you present as a feminine
person, whether you're a man or a woman for yourself.
Femininity is an energy. It can present in any agenda.
That's why there's these men who are considered feminine and
that's why there's or have feminine energy.
I'm sure you've handled OK, but if I'm feeling if I use these
words too many times, I might lose some of you.
But please just stick with me. I promise it makes sense.
Juicy. I was going through it
emotionally as fuck. I was actually really, really
throwing up piss and I was very Moody and my mom was trying to
be sweet, but I was being very short with him.
And immediately he noticed, he noticed something was wrong.
So he said, I'm coming to get you.
I'll take you somewhere where we can just look at wildlife and
eat and you can relax. I'm sure it will make you feel
better. And he took me somewhere really
romantic, actually somewhere really, really sweet.
And then while we were having lunch, he asked me, you know,
what makes you the way you you are, what makes you so much the
way you are? And it made me think about how I
am or how people perceive me to be.
And I'll just tell you some of the things that I've been told
that I am. I'm very sensual.
I'm very soft spoken. I'm very calm, sweet, to be
honest, behind the closed doors. I don't entirely think this is
how I am. I'm very loud.
I'm very impatient. Sometimes I get angry.
I'm very Moody. But who I am is a spectrum.
I'm not just one thing. I'm a million things and I am so
many things and I am everything and nothing at the same time.
Valar Mogulis. But how people perceive me
externally, like I'm this soft spoken woman who always smells
so good and cares a lot about how she looks, how she feels,
how she dresses and I'm fun and sweet and gully.
And it's true. I am all these things.
And something that I've realized is that me being all these
things has been attracting not only in romantic partners, but
I'm realizing even in my friends who are women, it is making me
attract people who are very complementary of my energy,
people who are very steadfast decision makers, strong,
confident leaders, creators, bosses.
And listen, this is not the only thing that they are they
remember they also are a spectrum of so many things.
But I'm realizing how the people in my life currently are showing
up for me is that they're so ready to love me and give to me
and nourish me and just pour into me.
As opposed to the older relationships where people are
just trying to take from me, use me.
I'm me at me, leave me broken and dusted.
Right now it's very much the opposite.
I'm in very, very loving relationships all the way from
my family to my romantic relationships, to my
relationship with my cat, to my relationship with my landlord,
with my business partners, with everyone around me is just
loving me in the right way. And this is because I'm very
authentic. Remember I said femininity does
not necessarily attribute to any gendered role.
It's just about you being very authentic in the way you are.
Even a tomboy can be feminine, can have feminine energy because
it is how you present, it is how you are.
It is your authentic, beautiful, genuine energy.
And the wholeness of embracing this energy for me has made me a
bit more calm, has made me a better listener, a better
receiver. It helps me rest more.
It has made me softer and slower.
And a direct reflection is of this is because it has made me
much more attentive. I'm able to be there for the
people that I love because now I'm way more calm.
And it has also made me way more beautiful.
I feel like energy is very contagious and my beauty, like,
yeah, my, my face is pretty, but I'm noticing a lot more people
loving the energy around me, loving being around me, just
loving the peace and kindness that is coming when I'm around.
And it is because I am attracting exactly what I am.
And this is helping me consistently receive and enjoy
the things that I want while also being able to rest.
At this point of my life, I'm able to be super, super present
and more graceful. You'd have to have met me before
to understand exactly what I'm talking about because these are
the kind of compliments I've received.
And it's it's not something I'm sure an audio podcast is going
to explain everything. And I could go as fast to say,
you know, it's all it's because my hair is always done.
My nails are always done. My makeup is always good.
My clothes are, I could say it's all that external stuff because
yes, it does help. It does help in, you know,
keeping me looking like a very, very feminine person.
But it's not that. It's more about the way I feel
about myself on the inside. It's the way I'm loving myself
more. It's the way I treat myself and
the way I prioritize my life. This is what is pushing me
towards everything that I require.
I'm able to attract everything and more, and it's just so
beautiful because I'm consistently receiving from the
universe, from everywhere. I have no worries in my life.
I'm able to rest, I'm able to receive love, and I'm able to be
loved in the ways that I love. I realized that it's so
automatic. The exchange is so automatic and
I did not realize how much I also gave by being able to be a
soft and slow and sweet woman. It has also made me more
forgiving. It has also helped me able to
let go easier, to accept change and to be more confident.
And ladies, let me tell you something, especially I say
ladies because ladies, I know most times you're told, you
know, don't be too emotional. Your emotions will be the death
of you in emotions. Let me hear it from me right
now. Emotions are a woman's
superpower. Your emotions are as your
womanness. I don't care if you're a stud or
if you're trans, with all respect, as long as you're a
woman and you know you have a woman's emotions, harness those
superpowers. Your emotions are always going
to be your superpower. You're supposed to feel, and
you're supposed to feel deeply because this is your guidance.
This is what guides you towards making decisions.
We're not like men and I'm not saying men are not emotional.
I'm just saying your emotions as a woman will always put you
straight ahead. This is why it's your job to
become emotional intelligent. It's, it's super important that
you're able to manage your emotions, control your emotions,
regulate your emotions because once you do these things, no one
can use you, no one can control you, and no one can make you
feel bad about being so powerful because of your emotions.
So make it your priority without ever intentionally negatively
affecting other people to walk on your own emotions, to walk on
your femininity, to walk on making sure you're being very
authentic and true for yourself. And remember, this energy is
only for the people who deserve it.
It's only for the people who, when you're in FICCA Bay, people
who understand who you are and what having your energy around
them is and what it means. Not everyone gets to experience
the softer, slower, sweeter, kinder, more graceful, most
forgiving side of you that that side is specifically kept for
the people who actually truly love you with all their heart.
So you have to be very intentional with who you choose
around you is discussed friendships on another episode,
which I think you might like if you go listen to on how to tell
if you're in the right circles or how you should or how to feel
about the relationships you're in right now.
So that maybe you can assess and realize that the more you work
on yourself and the more your boundaries are raising, the less
tolerant you are of bullshit and the less tolerant you are of
anything that is not fulfilling you and your life as a woman
especially, you need to be very choosy.
All this to say that I have a very, very masculine man.
He's such, he's basically everything I've I've been
wanting and it has nothing to do with me.
I mean, yes, my energy is complementary, but this is who
he is even without me. He's just a very strong present
man. He's very protective.
He's very kind, very soft in his own way, very sweet, very calm,
very, you know, have you ever just seen a man walk into a room
and you know that's a man? Exactly.
It keeps you wet all the time, especially as a feminine woman.
I say that to speak for myself, especially being myself.
It just makes me horny all the time.
You know, there's this memes that talk about when men used to
be men and they used to build stuff with their hands.
Exactly. Not these men who ask you these
days. What are you bringing to the
table at the OSG? What?
What complaining at he Oh, you should also buy me flowers.
No, a man who's just a man. He keeps you horny, fucked and
fed, and that's exactly what you need.
So the only way to receive is by working on yourself.
I've talked about this because I was with my friends a few days
ago and I met this lady who was asking me about, you know,
Bobby, how, how do you get? Because she noticed as soon as I
walked into the restaurant, so many people were willing like
were asking if they could buy me stuff or they could pay my tab
or they could take care of me. And this happens to me all the
time. I've been window shopping so
many times while broke and someone will pay my bill.
Or I've been at the supermarket shopping, someone will pay my
bill. Or it's not because I'm the
best, or I'm the hottest or I'm the only person who you know is
grabbing attention. It's because you truly in your
mind, have to believe that you deserve good things for people
to notice. And you'll realize everything is
working in the good for yourself.
Receiving stuff is just one example.
That's not the only thing that helps you receive all you want.
It's about the life that you're living, the kind of standard
that you set for yourself, the relationships that you have
receiving in all ways, not just financially.
If you try and be authentic to yourself, at least come back and
tell me in the comments about how it has changed your life and
how you've been able to start receiving from the universe and
from the people around you. Because they can notice that
your energy is beautiful and your energy is calm and kind and
graceful. And they want to do everything
in their way to make sure that you're comfortable and beautiful
and safe. And thank you so much for
listening to me. My name is Roberta Bobby.
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