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Hello everyone and welcome to 
the United States show. 

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My name is Crystal. 
This is my partner shine and 

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together. 
We are unites co-founders. 

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We are hosting this lovely event
weekly the unite show every 

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Thursday night at 6:15. 
So, we're having different 

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themes, and different speakers 
every week. 

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And tonight, we are doing, 
finding love, and maintaining 

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Harmony in relationships. 
Plus, we're going to have a 

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little singles mingle time at 
the end with lots of Q&A as 

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well. 
So, stay tuned. 

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That's what you're in for. 
And we've got three wonderful, 

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special guests with us today who
have some lovely tips and tricks

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for not only doing well in your 
current relationship. 

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But if you're looking how to 
attract the person you're 

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looking for and really create 
Some solid foundations in your 

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future relationships. 
So I'd love to introduce and get

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everyone to say a big, hello to 
our guests. 

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We have joy. 
Regina up here, in the top with 

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her Christmas tree. 
We've got silver over here, and 

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Georgia and silver are a 
wonderful couple, although 

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they're currently not 
locationally together as they're

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working separately at the 
moment. 

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And then we've got dolphin down 
here who is on the road in 

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Sacramento. 
Did he freeze or he's just 

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sitting really still out. 
There we go. 

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Hi doll. 
Welcome. 

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Welcome. 
We're going to start off with a 

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really quick. 
We don't want to get into 

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backstory yet, but a lovely. 
Lisa people will know kind of 

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what they can expect from you 
guys so I'd love for you to do a

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little hello. 
This is what I offer to the 

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relationship world. 
This is why it matters to me and

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I'm going to bring you some 
juicy tips and tricks. 

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So if you guys could each do one
of those for our wonderful 

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guests and then we're going to 
get into some fun questions, so 

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whoever wants to start take it 
away. 

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Or we can pick up. 
Hi I am Georgia morally. 

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Also notice a medic counselor 
Georgia and I am the other half 

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of my beautiful partner in love 
Life and Legacy Mr. Silver story

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over here and we have been on 
the Journey of relating for the 

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last four years. 
Through all the thick and thin. 

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We are truth-tellers that is our
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And so we talked about 
relationships in a way that is 

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very authentic and we navigate 
love from a place of Truth, club

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and transparency. 
We are currently creating a 

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life. 
We are having a baby in March at

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47 years. 
Young. 

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Jung, woo. 
Way to go us and that's a whole 

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new chapter of relationship. 
So I think crystals question of 

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what we bring, our what I bring 
to the holds of relating would 

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be. 
I bring the dissolving of 

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patterns in relational patterns 
and some people call them 

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triggers activations, traumas. 
So that's what I bring to the 

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Abel. 
Thanks so much of a to be here 

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tomorrow to see well, thank you.
Yes, yeah, it's so beautiful. 

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I'll follow on from my beloved. 
And yeah, just just delighted to

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be here to share the radical 
truth of my coexistence, and 

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co-creation with way for my 
lover, Georgia, I truly believe 

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it's, it's been like a arranged 
marriage, Absorbs by a higher 

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power than both of us. 
We were just we're kind of 

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unlikely couple yet. 
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exceptionally together. 
It's just like this, this 

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perfect perfect match to I 
couldn't have possibly chosen 

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myself and By that. 
I mean, there's just there's 

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just layer after layer of depth 
that George and I are willing to

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go to together and that that is 
one of the keys that will go 

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jump into in this session today.
What I'm what I'm going to offer

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as a few. 
A few curveballs and a few a few

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bombs to shake things up as I 
love to do when I share the 

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radical truth which I truly 
believe those are. 

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Access to our authenticity in 
the depth of relationship that 

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we truly desire. 
Let it yay. 

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Telling me you go dump it. 
Cool. 

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Yeah. 
So I mean I've been doing work 

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in the realm of relating and 
relationship for over 20 years. 

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It is my life. 
It's everyone's life, but it 

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happens to be my life's work and
the two primary projects. 

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I have right now is one is 
called relation flicks its 

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education based platform around.
And relationships where we 

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invite Educators and live 
broadcasting and writers 

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community in a whole bunch of 
other resources for people to 

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level up their love and 
relational skills. 

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And then the other one is my 
personal coaching work, which is

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very much about integrating. 
What is unintegrated in our past

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and through that, enabling us to
to really come into the full 

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potential of our relationships. 
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Well, thank you, dolphin 
beautiful. 

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Hello. 
Now, I would love to if any one 

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of the guests wants to share a 
quick intro of who they are and 

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what they're hoping to get out 
of this call. 

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And if you have any questions, 
maybe just wait till we've gone 

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through everyone and then we can
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We want to do a lot of Q&A to 
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it really valuable for, for the 
people on the call. 

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So if you want to share, you 
don't have to, yeah. 

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It just gives us a sense of 
whether you're single and 

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looking, Or someone whether 
you're in a relationship and 

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looking for ideas or support or 
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And then that will give our 
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guidance as well as we're going 
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too. 
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Would anyone like to say hello? 
And I haven't brought you here 

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and happy to jump in and then 
what brought me here is, I've 

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always interested to hear and 
learn more about relationships. 

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I have great relationships in my
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Of which is a partner so that's 
the relationship. 

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I'm still seeking and always 
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where I can make that connection
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Thank you. 
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Michelle. 
Anyone else? 

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Go to jump in? 
It's okay. 

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If you don't want to okay, 
please Teresa and I just 

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happened to see on dolphins, 
Facebook feed that this was 

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happening now. 
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hour ago and so I thought, oh 
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Yeah. 
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anybody but I'm in a place in my
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ready to be in like a high 
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some Sometimes is difficult to 
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I'm living in Costa Rica right 
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Yeah, it's pretty awesome. 
But I'm going to be leaving soon

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to go live somewhere else for a 
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So I'm kind of a bit nomadic. 
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So I'm in an interesting place 
in my life, I guess you can say.

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Lovely. 
Thank you for being here. 

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And thank you for sharing 
beautiful. 

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I think Georgia and silver met 
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Maybe. 
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That's right. 
And Chris and I have a fun fun 

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story to share about how we met 
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Yeah. 
What are we talking about 

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Melanie? 
Or whoever is behind Space 

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Village that see you want to 
share By the way, I'm sorry. 

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If my name is not showing 
beautiful, of course, Sean, 

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Kelly awoke know me. 
And, you know, I moved to be see

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a couple of years ago before I 
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and A few years before that I 
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life of an entrepreneur you both
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find the right person. 
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time-consuming. 
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like this and oh, I don't have 
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So they form definitely looking,
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relationship and I'm planning to
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Now that I have, you know, 
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travel again without any hassle 
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escape the winter. 
Maybe next year and celebrate my

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birthday somewhere. 
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You know, nice. 
I'm here to see if we can find 

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that right person. 
I'm like madly, thank you for 

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sharing that. 
Thank you, welcome. 

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Good to see him in video form, 
at least, not just Facebook text

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Melanie do with my app. 
That's why you see like, All of 

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my zoom meanings are around my 
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had to change it to us. 
The social setting. 

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Exactly, we'll bring you some 
social quick, quick plug. 

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If anyone is looking for Grants 
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just connect with Nazar, yes, or
an apple community building with

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four events and workshops 
Allison or Melanie. 

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Do you want to have a quick 
quick share of what your, why 

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are you here? 
And what you're looking for. 

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Yes, Melanie. 
Yeah. 

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Yeah, I'm here because I always 
like to learn about how to 

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relate to others. 
I find that it's not something 

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that comes easy to me, like, in 
Friendship acquaintances. 

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I'm a Solo Traveler. 
I like that term. 

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Someone had shared it with me a 
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I'm like, I like that term. 
I going to use it. 

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And yeah, I'm actually quite 
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You know what? 
Some, my status per se, but I'm 

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always open to if a man comes in
my life, wonderful, but I just 

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find that. 
That it's really hard for me to 

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jibe with other people and for 
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important to have the Friendship
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I really like them? 
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It's just, it's really hard for 
me to like, drive with someone 

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and be like, oh, you're super 
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Like, yeah, it's just, I don't 
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I'm okay with it. 
So, yeah, it's like to learn 

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more. 
I love that you. 

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Yeah, that's beautiful. 
Thank you for sharing. 

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Let's see. 
Listen, we're just getting a 

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quick touch on what bringing 
everyone here if they're in a 

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relationship where if they're 
looking for, kind of the next 

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steps to support them in finding
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So if you just want to share 
that and then we're going to 

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carry on, okay, I've been single
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think the universe is wanted to 
be need to be that way for a 

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while. 
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me and who who I am and where 
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And so I feel that it's time to 
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connected in in whatever way 
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or connections, or different, 
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And and I feel like the The, the
partner part will evolve from 

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that, as long as I'm, I'm on my,
my right space and right flow, 

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and if the universe allows it, I
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great. 
Yay. 

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Hello awesome. 
Thank you everybody so good to 

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hear from everyone. 
So, I'll give just a very brief 

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because I think we know most of 
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And I just celebrated our 
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Tuesday. 
So, we met seven years and I 

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know it's as sign point. 
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I'm really proud of seven years 
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romantic relationship. 
I feel like that not to belittle

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any relationship where you're 
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But for me personally, it has 
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accountability and showing up 
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don't like each other, we need 
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So it's definitely added a whole
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relationship, which I'm very 
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We're still in love with each 
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different relationship 
backgrounds. 

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I was a serial monogamist shine 
as my fourth serious partner and

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I almost did back-to-back since 
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relationship, long-term 
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relationship, and married. 
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partner. 
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background coming into our 
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little bit more. 
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the world in his relationships 
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commitment relationships. 
So, it was interesting for us to

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come together and kind of, 
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relationship and our values and 
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So we're excited to be sharing 
some of that with you and part 

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of what really sparked this 
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show Once We host a lot of 
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and consistently, we seem to 
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We have a couple, lovely couples
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speakers here tonight, but a lot
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of you on the call who are 
really beautiful people but kind

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of haven't found that match yet.
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do it and what do I need to do 
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So yeah, we've definitely. 
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support our community, and we 
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more, lovely experts. 
If you will, to share some ideas

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would be really helpful to our 
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And we have also started a 
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So, we're really committed to 
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your lives. 
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here. 
You can add anything shine? 

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No, I'll share it to go. 
But yeah, if, if any of the 

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participants here have A burning
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anything that you're curious 
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find the right person or 
whatever, if you want to, if you

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want to ask that and then 
different people can share as 

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are. 
You have your hand up? 

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Yeah. 
So how does this work? 

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Because this is my first time 
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Do we, are you gonna put us in 
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like, a five minute quick 
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Facebook I'm not sure how this 
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So we're going to start for the 
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going to pick the brains of our 
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I know especially George on 
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I think they have to leave at a 
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We want to make sure we use our 
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So we're going to start by. 
If you guys have any burning 

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questions, how do I deal with 
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How do I let go of that? 
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this? 
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round-robin where you're going 
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Raise your hand, ask your 
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to take turns or all of them 
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Preferably not at the same time 
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to go into a bit more social 
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connect and actually start to 
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single experiences with each 
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guys in moving through that in a
more intimate way. 

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I don't think there's enough 
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go Go in separate groups, 
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I think we can just work 
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speaking. 
So that's my thought. 

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And yeah, we'd love to start. 
If you guys don't have any 

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burning questions, we've 
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like to bring forward from the 
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So thank you. 
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So if you do have a question, 
put your hand up either 

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virtually with the little icon 
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will call on you. 
Nothing yet. 

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Okay, cool. 
So let's it says, I think 

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everyone on the call is single 
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a relationship. 
So why don't we do a round robin

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of what the best tools are for 
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to attract that relationship. 
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if anyone wants to go go free. 
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What would you say is kind of? 
I know. 

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I know a lot of times. 
It's like you do you? 

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Your work and I think our 
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same page with that, but please,
yeah, carry on with that. 

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And what would you say is the 
best way they can line up for 

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their next special? 
Somebody silver. 

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I think you're going to take it 
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Yeah, I can certainly speak to 
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because I come across so many so
many men and women that are are 

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single and literally talk 
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And I find that incredibly sad 
to be honest. 

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So really my, my thoughts on 
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they're looking for the one and 

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even if they enter into 
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they're automatically going 
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their head and eliminating them 
through certain preconceptions 

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of how it's going to go if they 
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So they talk themselves out 
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up, you know, in long periods 
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and then getting comfortable 
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And I you know, my my challenge 
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have some fun. 
Go on some dates and just have 

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some fun with with no 
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just just have some fun. 
I mean that's how George and I 

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met we were not looking for love
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and and here we are in the most 
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This has been absolutely 
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So get out there have some fun 
date data, few people and you 

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don't have to have sex with 
every person that you date. 

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I really want that to sink in. 
There's so many levels of 

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connection, one can have and 
explore all those levels of 

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connection. 
It's not just like friendship 

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and fucking, it's like 
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There's absolutely everything in
between. 

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So explore that as my night 
encouragement, to all of you. 

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Huh. 
That's really, that's really, 

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that's really good advice. 
And I think that's really. 

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I've seen that a lot exactly 
what you started off by saying 

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that, you know, so many people 
looking, but they actually talk 

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themselves out of dating because
they have all these ideas. 

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Whether it is you know what you 
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You know I need to find the one 
I've been recently at some of 

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our Gatherings, we've been a lot
of people come in with. 

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I'm looking for my next best 
person. 

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But all men in North America are
assholes and I'm like that might

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or you know all women are crazy 
and I'm looking for a woman, I'm

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like, mmm, you know, and I know 
they're kind of venting and they

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know that they need to do a 
little work with that piece, but

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it really is a good place to 
start is like, what is your, 

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what is your idea about what 
dating is is going to bring me 

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to? 
If it's I'm doing it to find the

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one that's a lot of pressure on 
every Single date or if you're 

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doing it kind of trying to find 
the non-crazy, the only non 

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crazy woman or non crazy man in 
North America. 

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That's a lot of pressure and 
you're going to be holding that 

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up that checklist up as you know
every time they say anything, 

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ever go evidence evidence 
evidence. 

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So yeah, I'd say that's really 
really good. 

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Advice going having fun lower 
your expectations as much as you

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can just to yeah, enjoy each 
other's company. 

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How about dolphin and Georgia? 
What are your thoughts? 

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I'll go. 
Yeah. 

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I mean you mentioned it Crystal 
for us to like, who we spend 

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time with when we're long, is is
a really important aspect of 

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what attract someone. 
So you know I think if there is 

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a sense in us that but being on 
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challenge. 
In peace. 

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And then, so there might be some
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Like I'm good with me and then I
move into life and I play and 

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then I move into life and I date
and then I move into life and I 

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meet people I think that's 
really, really important. 

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A couple other things that I 
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I mean, there's a million but 
I'll focus on two. 

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Are you clear what relationship 
is about for you? 

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It seems like a funny question 
but when I work with couples 

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that are struggling, one of the 
primary pieces that I Right off 

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the bat. 
And a lot of people I work with 

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haven't really deeply explore. 
Like, what is your relationship 

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for? 
What is it in service to? 

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What are you really about? 
What is, what is your 

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relationship of vehicle for in 
your life? 

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And if you don't have a good 
workout sense of that, you're 

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kind of going to relationship 
blind and, and we will often 

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misuse relationship now. 
If you don't know those things 

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and you're just going to meet 
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that's cool. 
But if You really want a 

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relationship but you don't yet 
know, relationships are really 

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out for you and that there's a 
mismatch. 

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So I encourage people that are 
looking for a real partnership. 

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You need to be able know within 
yourself and and able to 

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articulate to another 
relationships. 

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Really mean to you, but they're 
about what they're in service 

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to. 
I think that goes a long way to 

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being able to have meaningful 
conversations with people to get

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a sense, hey, are we on the same
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Is this a relationship to 
pursue? 

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So, that's a really Powerful 
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The other one where are the 
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with spending your time? 
I've actually spoken with lots 

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of people who are complaining 
about not finding people who 

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work and live be in singing. 
So what we find Not be with us. 

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Good at jump in for a second 
dolphin breaking up for everyone

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else or is it just me and 
know-it-all 10 seconds or so we 

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lost you. 
Yeah you can maybe take your 

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camera off because you are 
breaking up in the camera. 

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Yeah. 
Yeah. 

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I'm using starlink which I 
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addition to all of my eternity 
issues. 

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There's not too big. 
How's my audio right now. 

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It's a little bit better. 
The floor. 

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Yeah, really what? 
I'm speaking to is do we have a 

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sense of are the kinds of people
we want to be with spent their 

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time and and take a little bit 
of time to figure that out. 

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What kind of communities? 
They're part of what activities 

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do they do. 
If we're in places where the 

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people we want to be with are 
not hanging out. 

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Of course, we're not going to 
find matches for ourselves. 

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So so those pieces Are simple, 
but actually really important, 

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beautiful. 
Yeah, that's that makes a lot of

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sense. 
A lot of common sense. 

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I know a lot of women and 
they're kind of like, oh yeah, 

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I'm looking for guys and looking
for guys, I can't find anyone. 

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And then I like all the guys at 
the clubs and the bars are just 

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jerks, and I'm like, hmm like 
how much can you really you 

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don't get to know someone when 
it's loud and you're yelling at 

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each other and if you're 
actually looking for a 

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relationship that might not be 
the best, Best environment to 

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really get to know someone and 
to connect. 

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So yeah, good point, find out 
where they go. 

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So so Jade, anything that to the
how to find your sweetie 

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conversation. 
Then as I see your head, yeah, 

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yeah. 
I'll just quickly stuck on both 

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a couple of things, silver and 
often said, and you know, first 

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and foremost, I think the 
exploration of relationship is 

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really a beautiful place to 
start to Silver was sharing. 

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And if you don't know that in a 
business, we sometimes, do you 

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know, value vision mission. 
Vision Values. 

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And in order to have a Mission 
Vision value system for 

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relating, you need to explore 
and you need to connect to 

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others without any pretense of 
judgment or like slower was 

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saying any end goal. 
And really, what you're doing is

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you're in that process, you're 
learning about yourself and your

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learning about what your needs 
and desires are and you want 

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polarizing, your energy in the 
direction of One person, you're 

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you're really being Discerning 
and practicing this level of 

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discernment and then I love what
dolphin was saying about choose 

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dates. 
Like, choose your next 

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adventure. 
Like, come on, screw dating apps

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right? 
Carissa your, it's not working 

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for you. 
Let's move, you know, choose 

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your next adventure and and 
Every part of your life. 

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Start to infuse that sense of 
personal Adventure. 

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Go to the coffee shop, I have a 
wonderful meditation. 

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I do with the women, I work with
called Who's That Woman and it's

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basically just like getting you 
ready to walk into any 

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environment and feel the energy 
of what you desire from Life, 

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Like Making Love To Life first 
and foremost. 

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And that doesn't have to be 
perfect. 

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No, you don't have to have like 
the Eternal perfect self-love 

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model in order to get into a 
relationship that you desire and

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self-acceptance is a big piece 
of it. 

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So like get into life, get into 
Adventure show up in spaces for 

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people are like Who's that 
woman? 

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Who's that guy, right? 
And it's about this inner 

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resonance that you are admitting
and the people that you want in 

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your life will come, they will 
arrive. 

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So what's your next adventure? 
Where are you going? 

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00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,900
What are you going to explore? 
That's me. 

455
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,000
I love it. 
Beautiful Georgia. 

456
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:35,500
So good, that's great. 
I really like the idea of 

457
00:29:35,500 --> 00:29:38,400
thinking about it. 
A lot of, I think a lot of our 

458
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:42,000
people in our community are in 
some kind of business, some kind

459
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:46,600
of entrepreneur, and as 
entrepreneurs, we often do a lot

460
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:51,200
of case test stud, like asking 
our customers. 

461
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,900
What do they need? 
We're finding out, you know, how

462
00:29:53,900 --> 00:29:56,300
does our product work? 
Do they like, do they like our 

463
00:29:56,300 --> 00:29:57,900
service? 
We're researching surgery. 

464
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,600
We're checking things out and I 
I feel like one of the things 

465
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:06,300
that I think a lot of us miss, a
lot of when we're starting out 

466
00:30:06,300 --> 00:30:09,000
or looking for a relationship 
is, we're kind of looking for 

467
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:13,100
that. 
Like fall in love Sparks energy 

468
00:30:13,100 --> 00:30:17,500
moment and forgetting that, you 
know, we're stepping into 

469
00:30:17,500 --> 00:30:19,900
someone else's world. 
We've got ideas, they've got 

470
00:30:19,900 --> 00:30:23,500
ideas and to kind of I love that
idea of like looking at it. 

471
00:30:23,500 --> 00:30:25,200
Like, you know, it's an 
adventure. 

472
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,700
It's like I'm getting 
information. 

473
00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:29,600
I'm doing reconnaissance, I'm 
checking stuff. 

474
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:31,500
About how am I showing up in the
world? 

475
00:30:31,500 --> 00:30:33,000
How are they showing up in the 
world? 

476
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:37,000
And, and kind of relaxing a 
little bit of that like fall in 

477
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:41,100
love, and it has to be this idea
that maybe you've never even 

478
00:30:41,100 --> 00:30:44,300
experienced, or you've only seen
it, you know, in a movie or 

479
00:30:44,300 --> 00:30:48,700
online and really, yeah, doing 
some, letting it be like, fun, 

480
00:30:48,700 --> 00:30:54,100
and research and exploring. 
And yeah, yeah, when Crystal and

481
00:30:54,100 --> 00:30:59,600
I met, I had been dating women 
and not really feeling. 

482
00:31:00,500 --> 00:31:04,300
The what I wanted out of a out 
of a relationship. 

483
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:08,100
And so I just said, you know, 
I'm attracting women that are 

484
00:31:08,100 --> 00:31:11,000
not what I want right now. 
So I'm just going to stop like I

485
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:15,900
could just tell that something 
was off with with by who was who

486
00:31:15,900 --> 00:31:19,400
I was attracting. 
And and then for Crystal, she 

487
00:31:19,500 --> 00:31:22,600
had just gotten out of a 
relationship and and got dumped,

488
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,900
and she was feeling kind of low 
and both of us at the same time,

489
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:32,200
around the same time, sort of 
And we're going to, we're going 

490
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,200
to live our best life. 
We're going to make ourselves a 

491
00:31:35,208 --> 00:31:37,100
10/10. 
We're going to be as happy as 

492
00:31:37,100 --> 00:31:38,900
possible on our own and not 
date. 

493
00:31:39,300 --> 00:31:43,200
And that we both sort of decided
note like forget this, we're 

494
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:44,900
done for a minute. 
We're just going to focus on 

495
00:31:44,900 --> 00:31:47,500
ourselves and and that was right
around the time. 

496
00:31:47,500 --> 00:31:52,600
I met Michelle and I was working
working with this lovely, human 

497
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,500
William and running events. 
And it was it was this 

498
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,500
entrepreneurial fun excitement 
and I just got into this flow. 

499
00:31:59,700 --> 00:32:02,800
Whoa, and I was just feeling 
amazing and not dating at all. 

500
00:32:03,100 --> 00:32:06,900
And Crystal was just got back 
from a retreat and was, was in 

501
00:32:06,900 --> 00:32:09,000
her Zone and really working on 
herself. 

502
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,700
And I think it was like three 
days after she said, I'm Anna, 

503
00:32:11,700 --> 00:32:13,300
has four days four days after 
she's like. 

504
00:32:13,300 --> 00:32:14,900
Okay, I'm going to take a whole 
year off. 

505
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:21,100
I was committed to being casual,
because I had never done, casual

506
00:32:21,100 --> 00:32:24,500
dating, and I'm like, let's try 
casual clearly. 

507
00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:27,600
I'm missing something. 
I'm too, I'm, I like threw 

508
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,500
everything into all my 
relationships. 

509
00:32:29,500 --> 00:32:32,700
I Like they were my everything 
in that, made it painful when 

510
00:32:32,700 --> 00:32:34,900
they ended and who am I without 
it? 

511
00:32:34,900 --> 00:32:37,800
So I was like, I think I should 
just do what these other people 

512
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:42,500
do and just be casual and I was 
very committed to casual and it 

513
00:32:42,500 --> 00:32:44,900
lasted for days until I met you 
times. 

514
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:49,500
I failed that one but I think 
that the piece where you done 

515
00:32:49,500 --> 00:32:52,000
see well. 
So there are the way that you 

516
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,400
hear about like women who get 
pregnant after they've been told

517
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:59,100
their infertile right after they
adopt, it's like once once the 

518
00:32:59,100 --> 00:33:02,500
edge Goes away of whatever 
you're really, really want this 

519
00:33:02,500 --> 00:33:05,300
baby and it's not coming and all
your focus is there and then 

520
00:33:05,300 --> 00:33:07,300
when you get a baby, you adopt a
baby. 

521
00:33:07,300 --> 00:33:09,200
It's like all the resistance 
goes away and then you can get 

522
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,400
pregnant. 
And I feel like there's a part 

523
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,100
of that. 
In this in society, we've built 

524
00:33:14,100 --> 00:33:17,400
up this, all this thing. 
And even when we were sort of 

525
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,300
talking about earlier, it's 
like, you know, getting through,

526
00:33:19,300 --> 00:33:20,900
it's like what? 
There's nothing wrong. 

527
00:33:20,900 --> 00:33:23,300
Like, it's not a bad place to 
be. 

528
00:33:23,300 --> 00:33:25,500
It's fine. 
It's just, it's part of life, 

529
00:33:25,500 --> 00:33:27,900
right? 
And so I think just 

530
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,300
understanding Meaning that it's 
a for me. 

531
00:33:31,300 --> 00:33:36,000
Anyways it's an energetic 
Dynamic and the way that silver 

532
00:33:36,100 --> 00:33:38,800
said that he couldn't have 
planned and that it was some 

533
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:42,700
sort of it felt like it was some
sort of other worldly connection

534
00:33:42,700 --> 00:33:45,900
that brought them together 
because it was, it's too 

535
00:33:45,900 --> 00:33:48,300
perfect. 
Like there's too many pieces and

536
00:33:48,300 --> 00:33:50,800
it's just crazy. 
And I feel the same way with me 

537
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:54,100
and Crystal like the overlaps 
are just crazy. 

538
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:59,500
And and so I think there is a 
really important energetic. 

539
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:05,700
Piece to it for me of being a 
vibrational match to the person 

540
00:34:05,700 --> 00:34:09,800
that you're wanting to attract. 
And for us, that meant both of 

541
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:13,100
us getting into that state, on 
our own, and just feeling really

542
00:34:13,100 --> 00:34:17,199
excited and empowered. 
And and I think because there's 

543
00:34:17,199 --> 00:34:23,400
so much ideas and people have so
many bugaboos about love and 

544
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,900
relationships. 
The fact that we were saying no 

545
00:34:25,900 --> 00:34:29,100
to it and actively not looking 
for it, sort of release the 

546
00:34:29,107 --> 00:34:30,400
resistance. 
It's a crystal. 

547
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,400
She was like, a casual, and I 
guess I was in an open enough 

548
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,300
place to. 
Yeah, go ahead. 

549
00:34:35,300 --> 00:34:37,900
Well, I think that's the piece I
wanted to tack on to that is. 

550
00:34:37,900 --> 00:34:42,000
We weren't saying no to 
relationships because we had any

551
00:34:42,300 --> 00:34:44,800
bad feeling about them and 
that's a difference. 

552
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,000
And I feel like a lot of people 
are like, well, I can't date 

553
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:52,400
this type of person or that type
or in this country or they've 

554
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:56,199
got ideas, which are they're 
putting walls up and I was 

555
00:34:56,199 --> 00:34:58,900
really in. 
I'm not going to look for a 

556
00:34:58,908 --> 00:35:01,700
relationship. 
Bishop not like I'm not ever 

557
00:35:01,700 --> 00:35:03,900
going to have one. 
Just I'm not going to be seeking

558
00:35:03,900 --> 00:35:06,900
one because that had been my old
pattern when I was alone was to 

559
00:35:06,900 --> 00:35:10,600
seek a relationship and this was
I'm not going to seek one but 

560
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,900
what I was really a up was I 
wanted community and I wanted to

561
00:35:13,900 --> 00:35:16,500
be around people and I wanted to
connect with people and I wanted

562
00:35:16,500 --> 00:35:19,700
to collaborate and I wanted to 
be around other people. 

563
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:24,200
Like dolphin was saying like to 
put yourself around people that 

564
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:27,600
are like what you want, like 
what you want to be, like the 

565
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:29,100
kind of people you want to be 
around. 

566
00:35:29,100 --> 00:35:32,900
And I Really realizing a lot of 
the people I had been around. 

567
00:35:32,900 --> 00:35:36,100
Were heavier, they were in a 
little bit of a struggle. 

568
00:35:36,100 --> 00:35:38,300
They were in a bit of a fight 
and I was like, I really want to

569
00:35:38,300 --> 00:35:41,400
be around people who are like 
excited about the future and 

570
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:44,600
changing the world and doing 
good things for the world and 

571
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:46,900
humanity. 
And I just want to be Juiced up,

572
00:35:46,900 --> 00:35:49,300
being around those people. 
I don't need to be dating them. 

573
00:35:49,300 --> 00:35:51,000
I don't need to be having sex 
with them. 

574
00:35:51,300 --> 00:35:54,200
I just want to be surround 
myself with these type of 

575
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:58,700
people, and that's why, when I 
was introduced to shine and then

576
00:35:59,100 --> 00:36:01,800
met him. 
I'm more a few months later it 

577
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:05,000
was really, he was 100% exactly 
who I wanted to be around. 

578
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:08,800
He was excited about Humanity. 
Loved connecting people, there 

579
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,300
was always a swarm of amazing 
people around him. 

580
00:36:11,300 --> 00:36:15,600
I'm like great, this is exactly 
what I'm looking for, in my life

581
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,200
right now. 
So he was actually a perfect 

582
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,200
match for me. 
Energetically what? 

583
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,300
I was putting out and the same 
for him. 

584
00:36:21,300 --> 00:36:24,700
He was looking for collaborators
co-creators, people to play with

585
00:36:24,700 --> 00:36:26,700
people to jam with people, to 
build with. 

586
00:36:26,900 --> 00:36:29,500
So the romantic thing was 
something that wasn't in our 

587
00:36:29,700 --> 00:36:33,400
Conscious Forefront, but because
it wasn't, there it actually 

588
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:35,800
allowed us to connect and I 
really believe. 

589
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:39,100
If I had been looking for a 
relationship, I definitely would

590
00:36:39,100 --> 00:36:44,200
have not chosen shine in that 
moment because my idea of what I

591
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:48,200
needed was based on my first 
relationship was like this. 

592
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,800
So I can't have that in my next 
relationship was like this. 

593
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,700
So I've got to cut out this and 
this because that's where that 

594
00:36:53,700 --> 00:36:57,600
came from and on my third 
relationship super fun but no 

595
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,000
future, no plan. 
Okay, so I Have anyone. 

596
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:04,500
So now my window of what was 
acceptable for me in a romantic 

597
00:37:04,500 --> 00:37:09,100
partner, was quite small and 
shined, and not fit many of my 

598
00:37:09,100 --> 00:37:12,000
boxes. 
For a very long time, I was 

599
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:15,300
determined, we are casual. 
He was the best I could do for 

600
00:37:15,300 --> 00:37:18,800
casual wear casual. 
I'm just dating him because he 

601
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:22,300
really didn't match a lot of my 
boxes and the same. 

602
00:37:22,500 --> 00:37:25,000
I had two kids. 
When we met, I still have two 

603
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,100
kids. 
They haven't gone anywhere and 

604
00:37:27,100 --> 00:37:32,300
they were much younger. 
My You was two and a half, I 

605
00:37:32,300 --> 00:37:33,600
think. 
And I just stopped breastfeeding

606
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:38,200
in my, I had a five year old 
toddler and so I came, I was a 

607
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:41,400
package deal. 
I came with with babies and 

608
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,100
shine was really determined to 
do. 

609
00:37:44,100 --> 00:37:45,700
Business was very focused on 
business. 

610
00:37:45,700 --> 00:37:49,300
He had spent a lot of time in 
his past working with kids and 

611
00:37:49,300 --> 00:37:52,000
working with people was with 
disabilities and special needs 

612
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,300
and had put a lot of that energy
and he's like I don't want to be

613
00:37:55,300 --> 00:37:59,700
like taking care of kids like 
that's not on my agenda but We 

614
00:37:59,700 --> 00:38:02,700
both kept like, okay, this part 
feels really good. 

615
00:38:02,700 --> 00:38:06,300
Let's just soften the edges 
around these pieces that he 

616
00:38:06,300 --> 00:38:10,100
leaves his socks on the floor. 
I can't be with him which is a 

617
00:38:10,100 --> 00:38:12,700
real thing that I bought a few 
times and I think. 

618
00:38:15,100 --> 00:38:18,500
So I feel like really that we 
were committed to actually not 

619
00:38:18,500 --> 00:38:22,400
being committed to each other 
helped us move through that 

620
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:26,900
early phase where we write each 
other off and that's what Joe 

621
00:38:27,100 --> 00:38:29,400
silver was talking about, you 
know, not kind of right? 

622
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,900
In people off right away. 
So yeah, yeah. 

623
00:38:33,300 --> 00:38:37,000
So we have children, silver only
for another half hour or so so I

624
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:42,300
want them to if anyone has a 
specific question for for 

625
00:38:42,300 --> 00:38:45,000
Georgia and silver or if they 
have they just are not 

626
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:46,400
necessarily have your hand 
raised. 

627
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,800
Yeah, mazhar sorry. 
Yes, I wanted to share 

628
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:54,200
something, you know, to address 
Carissa's. 

629
00:38:54,900 --> 00:38:56,500
She said, something very 
interesting. 

630
00:38:56,900 --> 00:39:00,200
What filters do you use? 
You know, what kind of filter 

631
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:04,600
should be using when you're, you
know, getting to know someone, I

632
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,100
used to have these filters all 
the time. 

633
00:39:07,900 --> 00:39:12,400
When I was younger, I had this 
list and if she didn't matter, 

634
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,300
you know, match my mom, then 
she's out. 

635
00:39:15,500 --> 00:39:18,600
And then what, as I evolved it 
became more about you. 

636
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,600
You know, having matched like 
goals. 

637
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,800
They don't have to be identical 
but at least, you know, the 

638
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:27,800
foundation of having the life 
goals and then I realized there 

639
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,900
was one thing that was even more
important. 

640
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:33,100
After, you know, dating based 
on, you know, matching life 

641
00:39:33,100 --> 00:39:35,300
goals, I found out that none of 
this matters. 

642
00:39:35,300 --> 00:39:39,500
There's only one thing that 
matters in my opinion and that 

643
00:39:39,500 --> 00:39:43,800
is you know that both of us 
should be open to self growth 

644
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:48,600
and you know, you know, doing 
the self development work and 

645
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:52,600
All this stuff because if that 
Foundation doesn't exist, like, 

646
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:54,900
you know, cell growth and self 
development, then the 

647
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:58,600
relationship will not be able to
evolve so whether you take it 

648
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,800
from a spiritual level or just 
from like a human behavior 

649
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,600
pattern or psychological level, 
whatever you want, you know, 

650
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:09,500
label it what matters is being 
open to that kind of development

651
00:40:09,500 --> 00:40:12,900
because this is how any 
relationship can grow. 

652
00:40:12,900 --> 00:40:16,200
And like you both said you both 
had lots of boxes, you didn't 

653
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,600
fit, you know, with each other 
and it Don't matter because you 

654
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,700
had that organic chemistry and 
things of old of time. 

655
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:27,600
Because as if we, let go of 
attachments just like Georgia 

656
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:29,600
said, Georgia said let go of 
attachment. 

657
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:32,400
When we let go of attachment 
what you know of certain 

658
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:36,500
expectations, then we really get
to discover what this person's 

659
00:40:36,500 --> 00:40:39,600
about. 
You know, like when I think of 

660
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:43,100
how, for example, both Americas 
were discovered, nobody said oh 

661
00:40:43,100 --> 00:40:44,900
I hope America is going to look 
like that. 

662
00:40:44,900 --> 00:40:48,200
You know, they just went on an 
adventure takes up their boat. 

663
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:50,700
They've got Right. 
People, the right crew, and they

664
00:40:50,700 --> 00:40:53,100
were just, you know, having that
adventure. 

665
00:40:53,100 --> 00:40:56,100
Of course, there is also the, 
entrepreneurial side of how to 

666
00:40:56,100 --> 00:40:58,700
navigate a boat and all that, 
and using maps and everything. 

667
00:40:58,700 --> 00:41:02,400
So, there is a mix of, you know,
pleasure and Adventure at the 

668
00:41:02,400 --> 00:41:06,300
same time, you know, makes to a 
professionalism at, you know, 

669
00:41:06,300 --> 00:41:09,100
this is, I think this is what 
would describe your 

670
00:41:09,100 --> 00:41:11,000
relationship. 
You will discover the Americas 

671
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:16,400
into ever exactly. 
That might be a really good if 

672
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,400
no one has a specific question, 
that might be a really Lee good 

673
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:23,900
Next Step that especially 
Georgia and silver could address

674
00:41:23,900 --> 00:41:27,700
would be once you've kind of 
maybe met someone that you're 

675
00:41:27,700 --> 00:41:33,400
interested in what without 
getting in our way of starting 

676
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:38,700
to measure them with criteria. 
How do you kind of make sure 

677
00:41:38,700 --> 00:41:41,400
that you're, you know, kind of, 
I think a lot of people feel 

678
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,800
like I don't want to invest too 
much time if this isn't going to

679
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,400
go somewhere. 
And so make sure that those 

680
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:48,600
values kind of lineup, do you 
have some ideas for those? 

681
00:41:48,700 --> 00:41:55,600
Those next steps. 
Yes, I do. 

682
00:41:57,100 --> 00:42:00,100
And yeah for everyone. 
That's single this listening. 

683
00:42:00,100 --> 00:42:02,800
I just I just want to stack on 
what you mentioned Crystal, you 

684
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:06,400
know, George and I didn't take 
many of each other's boxes 

685
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:11,800
either the beginning and we 
really, really grew to love each

686
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:18,700
other and and that was because 
of a couple of key elements and 

687
00:42:18,700 --> 00:42:24,300
and one of those was Truth, 
radical truth. 

688
00:42:24,300 --> 00:42:28,000
We were we were willing to speak
Our Truth. 

689
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:32,200
We were willing to ask really, 
really good questions instead of

690
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:36,700
having all these unanswered 
questions in our minds and then 

691
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:41,900
answering them ourselves, 
without actually asking the 

692
00:42:42,800 --> 00:42:46,000
person that were with, you know,
it was, I've got this feeling 

693
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:49,300
that this is going on. 
Is they actually happening or, 

694
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,300
you know, where do you want this
to go? 

695
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:54,000
How deep do you want this 
relationship to be? 

696
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:57,600
You know, what, what is going on
in your life right now? 

697
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:00,100
Are you seeing any other anybody
else? 

698
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:07,800
You know, just just call it out.
Whatever is in your mind, be be 

699
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:12,500
brave enough and courageous 
enough to name it because then 

700
00:43:12,500 --> 00:43:15,500
it's not nikoline away at your 
brain and talking yourself out 

701
00:43:15,500 --> 00:43:18,500
of what could be an incredible 
relationship. 

702
00:43:19,700 --> 00:43:22,200
So that's the first tip I would 
give. 

703
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:26,800
And then the second one is, is 
willingness, I mean, that's what

704
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:31,000
George has had in abundance, 
their willingness to go deeper 

705
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:38,000
and that is a key key element to
to the longevity of any any 

706
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,500
relationship. 
And you know, if you're looking 

707
00:43:41,500 --> 00:43:47,700
for harmony the only way you're 
going to find any form of 

708
00:43:47,700 --> 00:43:51,700
Harmony and Chappelle is to 
accept those, not going to be 

709
00:43:51,700 --> 00:43:59,700
harmonious. 
And that reminds me of an 

710
00:43:59,700 --> 00:44:06,300
incredible quote from dr. 
John Muir, demartini and he says

711
00:44:06,700 --> 00:44:10,300
I gave up trying to be happy 
because it was making me sad. 

712
00:44:13,900 --> 00:44:17,500
If we're constantly looking for 
everything to be perfect, 

713
00:44:17,500 --> 00:44:21,500
everything to be like it was in 
that honeymoon period. 

714
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,600
If we're constantly looking to 
be happy. 

715
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,300
And, you know, passionate and 
sexy group going to be 

716
00:44:28,300 --> 00:44:31,600
disappointed because that's not 
how relationships are. 

717
00:44:32,300 --> 00:44:35,000
I mean, Georgia of Georgia. 
And I have discovered an 

718
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:39,800
incredible depth of intimacy. 
Even through those periods when 

719
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:43,600
we've not been making love, 
we've deepened our intimacy. 

720
00:44:43,700 --> 00:44:48,900
In so many other ways. 
So, I don't know if you want to 

721
00:44:48,900 --> 00:44:52,200
stack on that honey. 
Over to you. 

722
00:44:56,100 --> 00:44:58,500
Thanks lover. 
That's best the truth. 

723
00:44:58,500 --> 00:45:03,100
But is the radical truth and to 
stack on what silver saying 

724
00:45:03,100 --> 00:45:05,600
around radical truth. 
And this is a really, really 

725
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:09,200
important one. 
So often you'll hear things that

726
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:14,900
don't that might not feel good 
and might not feel right for you

727
00:45:14,900 --> 00:45:18,500
in that moment. 
And it's likely that that could 

728
00:45:18,500 --> 00:45:22,200
be something to do with 
something that has occurred in 

729
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,400
your life and your past, maybe 
in the formative years. 

730
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:28,800
At some point, you know, I'll 
give you an example. 

731
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:33,800
So silver, right out, the gate 
said to me and I don't want a 

732
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:38,700
relationship now, I was really 
happy being single and being 

733
00:45:38,700 --> 00:45:41,300
who's that woman. 
I was having a great time. 

734
00:45:41,300 --> 00:45:46,100
So I wasn't actually looking for
a relationship but to hear a man

735
00:45:46,100 --> 00:45:51,100
say those words activated 
something inside me that I had 

736
00:45:51,100 --> 00:45:56,300
two choices and so when you're 
in a space of dating, And you're

737
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,700
meeting people and you're 
connecting and you're practicing

738
00:45:59,700 --> 00:46:04,400
radical truth objectively having
a boundary and energetic 

739
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:08,700
boundaries so that when I heard 
those words I could see them 

740
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:13,700
feel them as His truth and it 
wasn't a reflection of me. 

741
00:46:14,500 --> 00:46:16,400
And so I thanked him for his 
truth. 

742
00:46:17,500 --> 00:46:21,400
And I went on with my life and 
then he showed up again. 

743
00:46:22,500 --> 00:46:24,700
And then he knows that. 
And what are you looking for? 

744
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,800
I was like, well, I'm definitely
not looking for a sexual 

745
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:32,600
relationship and it kind of just
went on from there. 

746
00:46:34,100 --> 00:46:42,800
And so being able to own your 
own stuff in the middle of some 

747
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:45,500
of these harder truths. 
As you're getting to know, 

748
00:46:45,500 --> 00:46:48,300
someone is really important 
because if we're constantly 

749
00:46:48,300 --> 00:46:51,800
triggered or activated for our 
nervous system is activated by. 

750
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:54,600
Other person's truth. 
We aren't going to get to know 

751
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,900
them. 
We are going to get to know 

752
00:46:56,900 --> 00:46:58,600
them. 
If we're automatically 

753
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:01,100
eliminated, silver was like, 
well, then you don't want a 

754
00:47:01,107 --> 00:47:03,000
relationship. 
See ya? 

755
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:04,800
Just because of the way I 
received it. 

756
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,800
You know, I didn't want a 
relationship, who can relate to 

757
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:09,800
that, I don't want a 
relationship that I received 

758
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:13,600
that in a way that was like, oh 
darling. 

759
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:18,500
If I had allowed that, we're not
worked with it in my own nervous

760
00:47:18,500 --> 00:47:24,800
system, we might not be here 
today. so it's really important 

761
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:29,700
Edge that in, in, in relating 
Dynamics, especially when you're

762
00:47:29,700 --> 00:47:35,400
getting to know someone, Wow. 
Thank you. 

763
00:47:35,500 --> 00:47:38,000
Thank you. 
I love this. 

764
00:47:38,100 --> 00:47:41,800
Does anyone have any questions 
for George and silver while we 

765
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,100
have them? 
They're kind of a big deal. 

766
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:54,200
This is actually just came to 
mind for me. 

767
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:58,500
So I've had intimate Partners at
different stages of my life that

768
00:47:58,500 --> 00:48:01,700
are not relationship Partners 
their friend. 

769
00:48:01,700 --> 00:48:04,600
It's a friend been gypped. 
Type partnership. 

770
00:48:04,700 --> 00:48:07,900
And I've had people say to me, 
that's stopping you from 

771
00:48:07,900 --> 00:48:11,700
actually finding someone. 
And I don't feel it is because 

772
00:48:11,700 --> 00:48:15,700
to me I've separated the two. 
Any thoughts on that? 

773
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:20,300
Great question. 
Yeah, Michelle. 

774
00:48:20,300 --> 00:48:25,000
What people think watch for 
rhetoric that isn't your own 

775
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:30,400
personal belief, just push it 
aside because your sexuality and

776
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,300
where your what are your 
exploring and your life is 

777
00:48:33,300 --> 00:48:40,500
beautiful and it has absolutely 
no reflection on the the person 

778
00:48:40,500 --> 00:48:43,800
you're meant to partner with the
being that is to be your 

779
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:47,300
partner. 
In fact, it only encourages 

780
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:51,800
Bridges that in even more 
authentic way. 

781
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,600
So that's my personal 
perspective. 

782
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:57,700
You might know I love that 
because I'll say to that Georgia

783
00:48:57,700 --> 00:48:59,600
for me. 
What it does is it removes? 

784
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,900
The sexual aspect of meeting 
someone new. 

785
00:49:02,900 --> 00:49:05,800
Because a lot of people, that's 
the thing that's on their mind, 

786
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:08,200
how I wanted somebody to have 
sex with, when you take that off

787
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,500
the table here, approaching I'm 
approaching them, the person. 

788
00:49:11,500 --> 00:49:14,600
As the person sex has nothing to
do with it. 

789
00:49:14,700 --> 00:49:17,400
So that's kind of great. 
That works out real well. 

790
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:22,700
Well then, doesn't it. 
Yeah, I think, you know, and 

791
00:49:22,700 --> 00:49:25,900
this really speaks to choosing 
your belief system your values. 

792
00:49:25,900 --> 00:49:29,100
What's right for you? 
There is so much information on 

793
00:49:29,100 --> 00:49:32,800
the internet like you could just
be bombarded with people's 

794
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:35,700
opinions and ideas. 
So really choosing what feels 

795
00:49:35,700 --> 00:49:41,000
right for you is is really key. 
So I appreciate that share a lot

796
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:47,300
if anything I think stacking on 
that Michelle you know. 

797
00:49:47,500 --> 00:49:52,300
Sir, all about connection and as
I said earlier there's the 

798
00:49:52,300 --> 00:50:00,400
connection has a vast vast scale
to explore and to play with. 

799
00:50:01,100 --> 00:50:06,500
And you know, just before I met 
Georgia, I was I was really 

800
00:50:06,700 --> 00:50:10,900
exploring every aspect of that I
could in the wrist there's some 

801
00:50:11,700 --> 00:50:15,700
some women that I was with where
I would, like, I just walk 

802
00:50:15,700 --> 00:50:17,200
around the house. 
Naked, you know? 

803
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:19,100
Or we didn't and we both do 
that. 

804
00:50:19,100 --> 00:50:23,000
We just have everything hanging 
out, would be naked and we'd end

805
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:28,200
up dancing naked in the in the 
bathroom while we're brushing 

806
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:33,100
her teeth just just giggling 
like like teenagers. 

807
00:50:33,100 --> 00:50:37,500
They were high. 
And are, you know, having a bath

808
00:50:37,500 --> 00:50:44,200
with with somebody else and just
just being really present in the

809
00:50:44,500 --> 00:50:48,600
in the Beauty and the the 
delight and then Messy of that 

810
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:52,000
without needing to be anything 
other than that. 

811
00:50:52,700 --> 00:50:54,600
It didn't need to go any 
further. 

812
00:50:55,900 --> 00:51:02,500
And that's, that's the beauty of
radical honesty as well. 

813
00:51:02,500 --> 00:51:07,200
And radical, truth is just being
able to be fully present in that

814
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:10,700
experience. 
Good. 

815
00:51:10,700 --> 00:51:13,700
I love that. 
I just wanted to add a little 

816
00:51:13,700 --> 00:51:16,400
bit of. 
I love Abraham Hicks. 

817
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,900
And what? 
What they talk about is that 

818
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,200
like the universe sort of knows 
what you want. 

819
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:24,700
And the way that you line up 
with those synchronicities, that

820
00:51:24,700 --> 00:51:27,700
you couldn't have planned that 
are just seemed amazing. 

821
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:31,200
Is is just following that little
breadcrumb trail of like, does 

822
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:34,200
this feel better his does this 
feel good? 

823
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:39,800
It is this and not from like a 
bad place of like a like I need 

824
00:51:39,900 --> 00:51:41,900
I need a fix. 
I'm feeling terrible, I need 

825
00:51:41,900 --> 00:51:43,300
something. 
It's like no I'm just I'm 

826
00:51:43,300 --> 00:51:44,600
feeling good in. 
Ooh, this feels fine with. 

827
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:48,200
That's interesting and whether 
you might Standard are not like 

828
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:51,400
that's the path towards what you
want and so as long as it's real

829
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,400
and I can tell from your face 
when you ask the question is 

830
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:55,100
like, yeah, it's fun. 
It's great. 

831
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:57,900
So it's like perfect. 
That's that's I think that's the

832
00:51:57,900 --> 00:51:59,800
only thing to pay attention to. 
Yeah. 

833
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:04,000
You're putting yourself in the 
vibration of what part of what 

834
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:07,500
you want. 
So just because you're also open

835
00:52:07,500 --> 00:52:10,800
to a relationship that has other
components. 

836
00:52:11,300 --> 00:52:14,900
I really love attraction doesn't
agree that you can't. 

837
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,700
It would be the same as saying, 
like, Don't bother working your 

838
00:52:18,700 --> 00:52:21,600
job because then the lot, you 
can't win the lottery because 

839
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:23,400
you're canceling one without the
other. 

840
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:26,500
So I think it really is. 
I mean, obviously, as long as 

841
00:52:26,500 --> 00:52:29,400
you're checking in and it's 
still feeling super fun and 

842
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:34,800
valuable and useful, more is 
more is more so yeah. 

843
00:52:35,300 --> 00:52:42,500
Yeah, you go girl, munication is
key as well exactly. 

844
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,300
Anyone else have a question for 
a Georgian, silver. 

845
00:52:46,300 --> 00:52:51,500
They've got 20 more minutes. 
Alice. 

846
00:52:55,400 --> 00:53:00,800
I tend to have a really busy 
life, busy work and busy family,

847
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:05,200
and a lot going on, maybe even a
little more than that average 

848
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:14,000
person. 
And I enjoyed meeting people and

849
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:17,700
I have a good time, but I have a
hard time not compartmentalizing

850
00:53:17,700 --> 00:53:23,000
my life into different sections.
Us and being a little more open.

851
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:26,600
And I'd like to learn how to be 
a little more open that way. 

852
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:29,600
I think I don't know if my 
question is clear. 

853
00:53:34,700 --> 00:53:39,100
Yeah, you could just just sort 
of, you know, drop into that a 

854
00:53:39,107 --> 00:53:42,800
little bit more and share with 
me a little bit about what you 

855
00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:46,400
mean by like to be more open. 
So what I heard you say was you 

856
00:53:46,408 --> 00:53:50,800
have a full life busy life, we 
tend to compartmentalize. 

857
00:53:51,500 --> 00:53:56,600
And so, you would like to create
more space for openness or maybe

858
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:58,500
you could. 
I think so. 

859
00:53:58,500 --> 00:54:05,400
And, and relationships, whatever
that looks like, I A family 

860
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:10,200
life, where part of my family 
doesn't really like socializing 

861
00:54:10,700 --> 00:54:14,600
because I'm a mom of two boys 
and they don't, they don't like 

862
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:18,200
the extra perks. 
So I find it hard to keep the 

863
00:54:18,200 --> 00:54:23,300
balance and although, I'm open 
and willing and I think I think 

864
00:54:23,300 --> 00:54:28,200
in some ways they are too, I 
find it difficult to put into 

865
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:32,100
place in reality because I have 
about this much time left in the

866
00:54:32,100 --> 00:54:33,800
week. 
Yeah. 

867
00:54:33,900 --> 00:54:40,100
Yeah, I hear that and often 
these these domestic quarrels 

868
00:54:40,100 --> 00:54:43,400
motherhood. 
It's a, is a role is a beautiful

869
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,900
role. 
It's a wonderful role and it 

870
00:54:45,900 --> 00:54:49,200
does tend to take precedent over
opportunities to connect with 

871
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:52,800
others. 
And I really hear that and feel 

872
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:54,700
that. 
And so what you're asking is 

873
00:54:54,700 --> 00:54:57,300
like where do I, how do I, how 
do I do this? 

874
00:54:57,900 --> 00:55:01,600
And it might be something as 
simple as you know, really 

875
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:03,800
acknowledging might be a piece 
of you. 

876
00:55:03,900 --> 00:55:07,900
Needs to check in with self. 
Like, how much do I give to 

877
00:55:07,900 --> 00:55:10,400
myself? 
How much am I willing to receive

878
00:55:11,100 --> 00:55:13,300
and my boys? 
I don't know how old they are 

879
00:55:13,300 --> 00:55:16,700
but you know, can someone once a
week? 

880
00:55:16,900 --> 00:55:19,500
Take them. 
Can I make time? 

881
00:55:19,500 --> 00:55:23,400
And why am I not making time? 
Get curious with yourself. 

882
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:26,200
Can my boys? 
I don't know how old they are. 

883
00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:33,700
Again the 13th they can but they
have some they have some stuff. 

884
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:37,100
Yeah, there's some stuff. 
Yeah. 

885
00:55:37,900 --> 00:55:42,600
Like they have like things that 
they don't want you to go out or

886
00:55:43,700 --> 00:55:44,400
yeah. 
They have. 

887
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:48,200
They have some stuff right? 
Yeah, it's okay. 

888
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:52,100
Got it. 
Okay, so I guess I guess it's 

889
00:55:52,100 --> 00:55:57,100
really about giving yourself the
gift of that openness. 

890
00:55:57,300 --> 00:55:59,600
Hmm. 
Creating space for yourself 

891
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:05,500
permission to to embark. 
On that. 

892
00:56:05,900 --> 00:56:11,300
And to cut that we mom's we have
a codependent tie. 

893
00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:15,500
You know, we really do and that 
ties beautiful as it is. 

894
00:56:15,500 --> 00:56:18,700
Sometimes means to be 
relinquished a little bit to 

895
00:56:18,700 --> 00:56:23,200
make space for ourselves and 
everybody thrives everybody 

896
00:56:23,300 --> 00:56:28,400
ultimately thrives when mum has 
more more space for herself 

897
00:56:29,100 --> 00:56:33,400
believe in him so that would be 
my feedback on that. 

898
00:56:34,900 --> 00:56:40,300
Okay, firstly, I just want to 
acknowledge you Alison because 

899
00:56:40,300 --> 00:56:43,500
when you when you came on you 
you really mentioned that you 

900
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:50,400
consciously took time to to 
discover who you are and into to

901
00:56:50,500 --> 00:56:54,900
work on your own authenticity. 
And I think that's a beautiful, 

902
00:56:54,900 --> 00:56:59,600
beautiful stepping stone for, 
you know, transitioning to being

903
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:03,700
open to meeting somebody being 
open to love. 

904
00:57:03,900 --> 00:57:10,700
Of being open to to receive. 
And I want to I want to share 

905
00:57:10,700 --> 00:57:14,600
this with everybody. 
That's such a vital part of 

906
00:57:14,600 --> 00:57:19,100
being able to meet someone is 
being open to receive. 

907
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:27,900
So I encourage everyone of you 
to ask yourselves and I open to 

908
00:57:27,900 --> 00:57:33,000
receive And listen and see 
what's there. 

909
00:57:33,700 --> 00:57:36,200
See what's there? 
Because you may discover that 

910
00:57:36,200 --> 00:57:38,700
there. 
There is something that Society.

911
00:57:38,700 --> 00:57:44,600
Well, it's like holding onto you
and, and keeping you closed. 

912
00:57:46,700 --> 00:57:50,800
So, am I truly open to receive 
just asking yourself that 

913
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:58,200
question numerous times and 
listening without judgment as to

914
00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:03,600
what comes up. 
And just by listening to the 

915
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:10,800
answers that inevitably appear 
that can open you up. 

916
00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:15,700
That can dissolve that that 
Shield or that that barrier that

917
00:58:15,700 --> 00:58:20,600
was there. 
That was there from a previous 

918
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:25,200
experience and just really 
getting that you are a different

919
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,600
person. 
Now, to to the person that had 

920
00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:33,700
that previous experience. 
That perhaps made you guarded or

921
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:40,600
put the shield up right? 
It's okay to to let that shield 

922
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:48,000
down and be be open to receive. 
Okay? 

923
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:51,500
There's a there's a really 
lovely Abraham but I speak in 

924
00:58:51,500 --> 00:58:53,900
Abraham. 
Abraham parables in the lovely 

925
00:58:53,900 --> 00:58:58,200
Abraham clip of woman who's 
talking about their family dog. 

926
00:58:58,500 --> 00:59:01,300
And the dad was like, No, no 
dog. 

927
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:04,300
Like absolutely not and one of 
the kids is like I don't know 

928
00:59:04,300 --> 00:59:05,800
what I really want to talk. 
I want to take care of it. 

929
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:08,200
One of the kids really wanted to
talk and she was kind of 

930
00:59:08,200 --> 00:59:15,400
indifferent and and they sort of
found this dog that was so 

931
00:59:15,400 --> 00:59:18,800
perfect for all of them that 
they all just fell in love with 

932
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:23,000
it and it and if they would have
kind of tried to like make a 

933
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:27,200
collective decision, whatever 
their ideas about the dog were 

934
00:59:27,300 --> 00:59:32,600
at odds but when one of them got
Into alignment with the dog and 

935
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:35,900
just focus purely on what they 
wanted and why they wanted it. 

936
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:39,200
They attracted a dog that 
matched everyone's desires. 

937
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:42,500
So that came up for me with your
boys is like you don't really 

938
00:59:42,500 --> 00:59:46,100
have to pay attention to what 
they're saying from probably a 

939
00:59:46,100 --> 00:59:49,400
triggered place you can like 
ignore that as much as you can 

940
00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,800
and just and just focus on what 
you want. 

941
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:55,600
And what Georgia said I love is 
like when when you really focus 

942
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:58,000
on what you want and fill 
yourself up, everybody wins 

943
00:59:58,200 --> 00:59:59,500
because you're more available to
them. 

944
00:59:59,500 --> 01:00:01,300
You have more love to Give your 
filled up. 

945
01:00:01,300 --> 01:00:04,500
It's like it's and and they will
see that even if they can't 

946
01:00:04,500 --> 01:00:05,900
maybe put their head around 
right now. 

947
01:00:05,900 --> 01:00:06,900
Yeah. 
Yeah. 

948
01:00:06,900 --> 01:00:07,800
In truth. 
I know. 

949
01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:12,700
I know it's about me. 
I know it's my know and I think 

950
01:00:12,900 --> 01:00:15,700
one, one final piece on this 
too. 

951
01:00:16,500 --> 01:00:20,000
Especially as a busy person, 
busy Mom myself. 

952
01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:23,600
I know it can feel like I can't 
even you know carve out the time

953
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:27,500
for like my bath or workout or 
like the thing and you. 

954
01:00:27,500 --> 01:00:30,100
How can I carve out the time to 
date or two? 

955
01:00:30,300 --> 01:00:34,900
New person into my life and what
I try and do when I feel like I 

956
01:00:34,900 --> 01:00:36,800
don't have time for something 
that I want to do. 

957
01:00:36,900 --> 01:00:40,300
Is I try and just pre pave. 
It pre Paving is something 

958
01:00:40,300 --> 01:00:43,700
Abraham Hicks talks a lot about 
or I step it forward, in my 

959
01:00:43,700 --> 01:00:45,600
mind. 
I imagine it moving forward, 

960
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:48,300
even if I can't move forward 
with it because then 

961
01:00:48,300 --> 01:00:52,000
energetically, even if you go 
on, no date, your children have 

962
01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:55,500
don't change their opinion like 
you have no physical, things are

963
01:00:55,500 --> 01:00:59,100
changing, but you can date in 
your mind, you can show up. 

964
01:00:59,100 --> 01:01:01,900
You can imagine In it, you can 
do it. 

965
01:01:01,900 --> 01:01:04,700
So to see, and so fun, and so 
exciting. 

966
01:01:04,700 --> 01:01:07,600
And, and just that feeling, and 
everyone's going to feel so 

967
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:08,900
good. 
And like sign said, like, it's 

968
01:01:08,900 --> 01:01:10,900
going at this. 
The person's going to come in 

969
01:01:10,900 --> 01:01:13,300
and they're without attachment 
getting too attached to how it's

970
01:01:13,300 --> 01:01:15,300
going to look. 
But everyone's going to feel the

971
01:01:15,300 --> 01:01:17,100
benefit of this. 
I'm going to fill the. 

972
01:01:17,100 --> 01:01:20,300
In fact, I'm going to feel like 
I have more time in my life not 

973
01:01:20,300 --> 01:01:21,900
less time. 
How is that even Pion? 

974
01:01:21,900 --> 01:01:25,200
Even know how that's possible. 
Like just juicing yourself 

975
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:29,800
lining up yourself and Abraham 
does this like put a hundred 

976
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:32,700
dollars in your wallet and if 
you're feeling scarce about 

977
01:01:32,700 --> 01:01:35,100
money and when you go shopping 
instead of like I can't afford 

978
01:01:35,100 --> 01:01:38,400
that and I can't afford that be 
like I could buy that but I'm 

979
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:40,900
not gonna I could buy that but 
I'm not good at. 

980
01:01:40,900 --> 01:01:43,400
So I do that we did that. 
When we were lining up with this

981
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:46,200
house, we went shopping for 
houses and we're like they 

982
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:48,000
weren't even available. 
We drive down the street. 

983
01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:50,900
We like, I like that one. 
I like that one. 

984
01:01:50,900 --> 01:01:53,200
Who would be fun to live? 
Here, it would be fun to live 

985
01:01:53,200 --> 01:01:55,800
here. 
And so even you're not taking 

986
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:58,700
time out of your regular life. 
You're not dating but you're 

987
01:01:58,800 --> 01:02:01,500
walking down the street and 
you're like, ooh, that's a nice 

988
01:02:01,500 --> 01:02:05,700
one, that's a nice one, go 
shopping, imagine what it would 

989
01:02:05,700 --> 01:02:07,700
be like with them. 
Imagine what their life could 

990
01:02:07,700 --> 01:02:09,200
be. 
Like imagine what it can like 

991
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:11,800
you're stepping instead of 
going, I don't have he's 

992
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:13,500
beautiful. 
I don't have time to date him. 

993
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:15,200
He's love with but I couldn't 
date him. 

994
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:19,100
My kids would he like that's if 
that's the message try? 

995
01:02:19,100 --> 01:02:22,600
Like I could not gonna today. 
I'm gonna talk to that's okay. 

996
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:26,900
But I could and stepping it 
forward and then when the guy 

997
01:02:26,900 --> 01:02:29,000
does Is show up. 
You're going to be so much 

998
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:31,500
further. 
Along your path of it, being 

999
01:02:31,500 --> 01:02:34,200
fun, and easy and exciting 
because you've done that work 

1000
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:37,100
already. 
Yay. 

1001
01:02:37,500 --> 01:02:41,800
And before we run out of sorry 
I'm just gonna, yeah, I was just

1002
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:44,600
going to quickly add. 
If you don't mind to that for 

1003
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:47,500
Allison, for what I do with 
clients who are really busy is 

1004
01:02:47,500 --> 01:02:51,300
start to book some time in your 
calendar for you, and start like

1005
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:55,400
two hours, start with a movie 
night, then go to a day. 

1006
01:02:55,600 --> 01:02:58,400
And then you can go to, like a 
It's sort of like date night 

1007
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:00,500
date. 
Time with yourself, looking it 

1008
01:03:00,500 --> 01:03:04,100
in your calendar and keeping and
doing something for you in that 

1009
01:03:04,100 --> 01:03:06,100
time. 
Because then when you have 

1010
01:03:06,100 --> 01:03:09,800
someone you want to date, you 
will have time in your calendar 

1011
01:03:10,400 --> 01:03:13,300
and that's but it's Gotta make 
it and keep it and not moving 

1012
01:03:13,300 --> 01:03:15,500
and not like no, no, I won't do 
that. 

1013
01:03:15,500 --> 01:03:19,400
Make sure it's time for you. 
Nice, good one. 

1014
01:03:20,100 --> 01:03:23,700
I want to make sure before we 
lose Georgia and summer. 

1015
01:03:23,700 --> 01:03:26,600
We're not losing them. 
They just have given us this 

1016
01:03:26,600 --> 01:03:27,600
much of their time. 
Time. 

1017
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:29,500
And then they've got other 
people that need them in their 

1018
01:03:29,500 --> 01:03:32,200
lives. 
I'd really love for you to 

1019
01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:34,900
share. 
I actually don't know because 

1020
01:03:34,900 --> 01:03:38,400
we've had other conversations 
but is there are you guys doing 

1021
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:40,900
workshops right now? 
Are you doing couples coaching? 

1022
01:03:40,900 --> 01:03:43,400
How can? 
Because everybody who's tuned 

1023
01:03:43,400 --> 01:03:45,700
in, I'm sure it's going to be 
like, these guys are amazing. 

1024
01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:50,000
I want more Georgian silver and 
we are not going to host them 

1025
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:51,700
every week. 
So you're going to have to find 

1026
01:03:51,700 --> 01:03:55,100
other ways to connect with them.
So what are do you have 

1027
01:03:55,100 --> 01:03:56,800
workshops coming up? 
Do you have events? 

1028
01:03:56,800 --> 01:03:59,200
What are ways? 
That people can connect with you

1029
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:03,100
and get more of the Georgian 
silver love and you guys do 

1030
01:04:03,100 --> 01:04:06,000
stuff together and separate and 
yeah. 

1031
01:04:07,900 --> 01:04:10,300
Take it away. 
Thanks Crystal. 

1032
01:04:10,700 --> 01:04:15,100
Thank you, Crystal. 
And yes, of course, we actually 

1033
01:04:15,100 --> 01:04:19,700
took a bit of a Hiatus from our 
business together in order to 

1034
01:04:20,500 --> 01:04:26,100
follow our own internal desires 
around what we wanted to bring 

1035
01:04:26,100 --> 01:04:28,100
forth in the world for this last
year. 

1036
01:04:28,900 --> 01:04:34,300
I'd say that that's an highly 
recommended relational tool is 

1037
01:04:34,300 --> 01:04:36,700
to follow the path of 
Independence. 

1038
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,400
In your in sovereignty within 
your relationship. 

1039
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:44,000
So I am currently working 
globally with women. 

1040
01:04:44,100 --> 01:04:46,200
I am a somatic, therapeutic 
counselor. 

1041
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:49,600
So a lot of the work I do is 
about injured integrating 

1042
01:04:49,600 --> 01:04:55,500
intergenerational trauma, 
formative years, trauma, and 

1043
01:04:55,900 --> 01:04:58,700
really creating a more peaceful 
easeful authentic and 

1044
01:04:58,700 --> 01:05:03,500
pleasurable, life for women. 
And we also work together doing 

1045
01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:07,900
couples mentorship. 
We do have an Week program. 

1046
01:05:08,200 --> 01:05:11,500
So we work with couples to 
mostly with couples who are 

1047
01:05:11,500 --> 01:05:14,500
deeply triggered an activated in
their relating experience of 

1048
01:05:14,500 --> 01:05:18,000
each other. 
As we as we all know, we come 

1049
01:05:18,000 --> 01:05:25,300
together often and we mirror 
these great, wonderful things, 

1050
01:05:25,700 --> 01:05:31,100
these wonderful things, these we
mirror, these mirror, these 

1051
01:05:31,100 --> 01:05:34,400
nervous system responses. 
And so we really support couples

1052
01:05:34,400 --> 01:05:37,300
to come through those. 
And we can be Reached through 

1053
01:05:37,300 --> 01:05:40,600
Facebook and all capacities, as 
silver honey. 

1054
01:05:40,600 --> 01:05:43,000
Do you want to share a little 
bit about what you're up to 

1055
01:05:43,000 --> 01:05:44,900
these days? 
So uniting all the good in the 

1056
01:05:44,900 --> 01:05:53,400
world, Thank you, lover. 
Yes, I'm really focused on 

1057
01:05:53,900 --> 01:05:57,400
creating strategic Partnerships 
to unite all the good in the 

1058
01:05:57,400 --> 01:06:00,800
world. 
I have taken a short break from,

1059
01:06:00,800 --> 01:06:04,700
from coaching, from our love 
life, Legacy program, that 

1060
01:06:04,700 --> 01:06:06,300
George and I were running 
together. 

1061
01:06:06,700 --> 01:06:11,700
However, we are still taking on 
the, the old client, if it's a 

1062
01:06:11,700 --> 01:06:13,900
good fit. 
So, feel free to reach us. 

1063
01:06:14,300 --> 01:06:19,400
Reach out to us about that. 
I'm also Also cooking up an 

1064
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:24,300
exceptional men's program as 
well for for all the men who 

1065
01:06:24,300 --> 01:06:28,800
feel like they have a higher 
purpose within them to help them

1066
01:06:28,800 --> 01:06:33,800
find that that mission, that's 
bigger than themselves. 

1067
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:39,400
So that's that's really what I'm
focusing on at the moment and I 

1068
01:06:39,400 --> 01:06:41,800
know you wanted some tools as 
well. 

1069
01:06:41,800 --> 01:06:47,400
So Georgia Georgia mentioned one
of them which is Is 

1070
01:06:47,400 --> 01:06:51,400
Independence. 
Really focusing on on your 

1071
01:06:51,400 --> 01:06:58,300
individual aspirations and not 
getting to two entangled in 

1072
01:06:58,300 --> 01:07:02,500
those together, having having 
different interests and I'm 

1073
01:07:02,500 --> 01:07:05,500
living five days. 
Apart, from, from Georgia, the 

1074
01:07:05,500 --> 01:07:13,500
moment, which has been has been 
wonderful and fruitful as as far

1075
01:07:13,500 --> 01:07:18,400
as giving us some some space to 
just breathe and Really come 

1076
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:22,100
back home to to who we are as 
individuals. 

1077
01:07:22,100 --> 01:07:25,900
So that you know, when it does 
come to the weekend, we're 

1078
01:07:25,900 --> 01:07:29,000
absolutely yearning to be 
together. 

1079
01:07:29,100 --> 01:07:34,600
So that's that's also also a 
good, a good tip. 

1080
01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:39,500
And one thing that's really, 
really supported us because 

1081
01:07:39,500 --> 01:07:44,000
we're, we're a power. 
Couple were very powerful 

1082
01:07:44,100 --> 01:07:47,200
leaders in our oh and right, 
where we're both creators. 

1083
01:07:47,300 --> 01:07:51,600
Were both for our goals were 
very, very, very similar. 

1084
01:07:51,600 --> 01:07:57,600
We have, we have strong traits. 
And one thing that's really 

1085
01:07:57,600 --> 01:08:03,300
supported at us as a couple is 
to take turns in leading and 

1086
01:08:03,300 --> 01:08:05,100
George has been a big advocate 
of this. 

1087
01:08:05,100 --> 01:08:09,200
She really LED this and 
encourage this into a 

1088
01:08:09,200 --> 01:08:12,400
relationship and I have to 
admit. 

1089
01:08:12,400 --> 01:08:18,899
It's it's, it's only recently 
that I have Really been able to 

1090
01:08:19,500 --> 01:08:23,200
really 100% let George and lead 
on certain things. 

1091
01:08:23,899 --> 01:08:30,800
I realized that I had this this 
element of needing to to watch 

1092
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:34,200
over or control how how 
everything was done. 

1093
01:08:35,700 --> 01:08:39,800
And I just recently relinquished
that, you know, when Georgia 

1094
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:44,600
was, was letting out our 
basement suite, for example, 

1095
01:08:44,600 --> 01:08:48,399
it's like, I don't, I don't need
to be involved in this at all. 

1096
01:08:48,399 --> 01:08:55,700
You know, why, why am I 
micromanaging and just being 

1097
01:08:55,700 --> 01:08:58,100
able to do that in a 
relationship and read in 

1098
01:08:58,100 --> 01:09:04,399
different sectors of of life is 
incredibly powerful. 

1099
01:09:04,500 --> 01:09:06,899
Why do we call it leading and 
leaning? 

1100
01:09:07,100 --> 01:09:11,899
So it's very consciously chosen,
you know, you can feel the 

1101
01:09:11,899 --> 01:09:14,300
energetic, swing a pendulum 
swings. 

1102
01:09:14,700 --> 01:09:19,500
Okay, I'm going to lean, okay, 
I'm going to lead, okay, I'm 

1103
01:09:19,500 --> 01:09:21,500
going to leave. 
Okay, you lead. 

1104
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:29,000
So it's it's it's a real, really
beautiful pendulum, the way it's

1105
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:31,000
things naturally, quite 
naturally. 

1106
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:35,300
But also consciously, It 
prevents a lot of Confrontation 

1107
01:09:35,300 --> 01:09:37,500
as well. 
A lot of a lot of arguments, a 

1108
01:09:37,508 --> 01:09:44,500
lot of discourse. 
You guys are so inspiring. 

1109
01:09:44,600 --> 01:09:47,399
I love it. 
I want to be George and silver 

1110
01:09:47,399 --> 01:10:06,100
when I sleep. 
Internet, Michelle jump in with 

1111
01:10:06,100 --> 01:10:08,100
the question related to that 
meeting and leading. 

1112
01:10:08,100 --> 01:10:11,600
So when one is leading, do you 
confer with the other at all or 

1113
01:10:11,600 --> 01:10:16,600
do you just let them? 
I think so. 

1114
01:10:16,600 --> 01:10:24,400
I am very Alpha and so being 
more Omega is somewhere I really

1115
01:10:24,400 --> 01:10:26,300
enjoy. 
And when I was living abroad in 

1116
01:10:26,300 --> 01:10:29,300
Bali, I was way more in that 
Omega space. 

1117
01:10:30,100 --> 01:10:32,500
It's an energy. 
The energy is so different and I

1118
01:10:32,600 --> 01:10:37,800
I find this role of motherhood 
and poem making and running a 

1119
01:10:37,800 --> 01:10:42,100
business and motherhood's very, 
very Alpha by the way. 

1120
01:10:43,000 --> 01:10:48,200
It's it's not it's not a 
particularly Omega rule, so 

1121
01:10:48,200 --> 01:10:52,000
you're you're in this. 
So being in Canada being in the 

1122
01:10:52,000 --> 01:10:57,300
western life, I'm much more 
activated in that awful role. 

1123
01:10:57,800 --> 01:11:05,400
And so, in my interrelating 
dynamic, I watch for that hyper 

1124
01:11:05,400 --> 01:11:09,000
aroused State and I just tone it
and dial it back because I can 

1125
01:11:09,000 --> 01:11:12,300
relax like it's nice for me to 
be able to relax. 

1126
01:11:12,300 --> 01:11:20,200
I'm sick and tired of running 
the show and so it's been about 

1127
01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:25,900
safety creating safety where he 
I trust him to take the helm who

1128
01:11:25,900 --> 01:11:28,700
swings are still working on it. 
I mean it's a work in progress 

1129
01:11:28,700 --> 01:11:32,100
Michelle, but it's it is it is, 
it is Is a constant 

1130
01:11:32,100 --> 01:11:34,000
conversation. 
And then there are some days 

1131
01:11:34,000 --> 01:11:37,100
where it's very effortless. 
Like it seems very obvious he's 

1132
01:11:37,100 --> 01:11:40,400
going to do all the elephant and
I'm going to do the Omega e and 

1133
01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:45,700
vice versa or vice versa. 
Yeah. 

1134
01:11:46,700 --> 01:11:50,800
You know sometimes with renting 
the basement Street for example 

1135
01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:53,300
you just need like a five-minute
had our conversation. 

1136
01:11:53,300 --> 01:11:56,500
What are we achieving here? 
What are the numbers were 

1137
01:11:56,500 --> 01:11:59,500
working with? 
Okay great let's go and five 

1138
01:11:59,500 --> 01:12:01,000
minute. 
I don't conversations are one of

1139
01:12:01,008 --> 01:12:02,700
the Biggest relationship 
techniques. 

1140
01:12:02,700 --> 01:12:06,600
You can also give you don't need
to have these long drawn-out. 

1141
01:12:07,100 --> 01:12:10,400
Blabbity blah has just made a 
5-minute, idle conversation, 

1142
01:12:10,700 --> 01:12:13,300
great, even set the timer on 
your phone. 

1143
01:12:13,700 --> 01:12:16,100
Love it. 
It's like it's like detail 

1144
01:12:16,100 --> 01:12:17,700
factual. 
We do need the feeling in the 

1145
01:12:17,708 --> 01:12:20,000
history right now. 
This is not space holding. 

1146
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:23,900
This is like I love it and I 
think we're going to take that 

1147
01:12:23,900 --> 01:12:26,700
one on. 
Yeah it's great or you just kind

1148
01:12:26,700 --> 01:12:31,800
of get into to all the stuff and
it's just it gets it gets a bit 

1149
01:12:31,800 --> 01:12:35,400
dull and you get a bit into this
these very domestic roles which 

1150
01:12:35,400 --> 01:12:39,800
are really boring like that. 
You want to, you want to take 

1151
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:43,300
the fun out of your life. 
They're managing a household 

1152
01:12:43,300 --> 01:12:45,600
cleaning toilets together. 
I hold all these young people 

1153
01:12:45,600 --> 01:12:48,700
who are like I can't quit this 
move in together in my quiet. 

1154
01:12:50,600 --> 01:12:53,000
You can see. 
In toilets together another day.

1155
01:12:53,000 --> 01:12:56,700
Like exact you can do it on 
vacation when it's fun for you, 

1156
01:12:56,700 --> 01:13:00,500
it doesn't. 
Yeah, that's the rush. 

1157
01:13:03,500 --> 01:13:07,200
I would love to hear you speak. 
Come on and see ya. 

1158
01:13:07,200 --> 01:13:11,600
Share a moment dolphin before we
lose well and and Jordan silver.

1159
01:13:11,600 --> 01:13:14,100
You can tune in and watch the 
replay and catch because we're 

1160
01:13:14,100 --> 01:13:16,600
hopefully getting a few more 
minutes of dolphin as well here,

1161
01:13:16,700 --> 01:13:18,200
but we do want to honor your 
time. 

1162
01:13:18,200 --> 01:13:20,200
So if you need to pop off, thank
you. 

1163
01:13:20,200 --> 01:13:22,100
Thank you so much. 
Thank you so much. 

1164
01:13:22,100 --> 01:13:28,900
I really enjoyed being here with
you today and yeah, thank you. 

1165
01:13:28,900 --> 01:13:30,300
Thank you, shine. 
Thank you Crystal. 

1166
01:13:30,300 --> 01:13:32,600
Thank you to everyone. 
Thank you. 

1167
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:35,000
Yeah, thank you. 
Thank you both so much and thank

1168
01:13:35,000 --> 01:13:37,300
you to everyone. 
That's that's shown up today. 

1169
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:41,600
It's a while since George and I 
have done a podcast together and

1170
01:13:41,600 --> 01:13:46,500
it's really really got those 
juices flowing and really a 

1171
01:13:46,508 --> 01:13:51,000
great affirmation to to the work
that we're constantly committed.

1172
01:13:51,100 --> 01:13:57,100
To in supporting others as well 
as deepening our own 

1173
01:13:57,100 --> 01:14:00,800
relationship. 
So this evening has been an 

1174
01:14:00,800 --> 01:14:04,500
affirmation of that. 
So I really encourage you all to

1175
01:14:04,800 --> 01:14:12,700
to live fully and love fully. 
Beautiful. 

1176
01:14:12,700 --> 01:14:15,300
Thank you so much. 
Thank you. 

1177
01:14:16,800 --> 01:14:19,000
Dolphin. 
Were you going to chime in here 

1178
01:14:19,000 --> 01:14:21,600
and share your? 
I know we didn't kind of get to 

1179
01:14:21,608 --> 01:14:24,300
go back and forth with you but 
please feel free to take a 

1180
01:14:24,300 --> 01:14:27,900
little you can address all the 
points or just your general 

1181
01:14:27,900 --> 01:14:32,200
overview as well because yeah, I
know you have so much value to 

1182
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,600
offer and I love your 
perspective on relationships as 

1183
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:36,100
well. 
Yeah, I'm going to I'm going to 

1184
01:14:36,100 --> 01:14:38,000
hang out and wait for it for a 
few minutes. 

1185
01:14:46,600 --> 01:14:51,600
I've enjoyed listening. 
I mean, just lots of Beauty in 

1186
01:14:51,600 --> 01:14:53,800
what's being shared. 
And I just appreciate when other

1187
01:14:53,800 --> 01:14:58,300
people have really done the Deep
Dives and worked with pieces and

1188
01:14:58,300 --> 01:15:02,500
work with people and bring back 
the insights of how relating 

1189
01:15:02,500 --> 01:15:04,400
really works. 
So mostly I've just been 

1190
01:15:04,400 --> 01:15:08,200
enjoying, I've been working on 
my router situation but also 

1191
01:15:08,300 --> 01:15:12,300
obviously very much in the call.
I don't know how fast. 

1192
01:15:12,300 --> 01:15:23,500
I'm just much better by the way.
So here we are, you know I don't

1193
01:15:23,500 --> 01:15:28,000
know that I have anything 
particular to add you know that 

1194
01:15:28,000 --> 01:15:32,300
the people in the room that are 
looking for love, I think one 

1195
01:15:32,300 --> 01:15:34,700
thing that I like to include 
which is just the 

1196
01:15:34,700 --> 01:15:38,200
practicalities, you know, we all
bring in things that were 

1197
01:15:38,200 --> 01:15:41,200
attracted to. 
And and so I think that's worth 

1198
01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:44,500
exploring within ourselves. 
Like what am I attracted to some

1199
01:15:44,500 --> 01:15:46,400
of what we're attracted to is 
innate? 

1200
01:15:46,600 --> 01:15:49,200
Some of what were attracted to 
is like, really good and 

1201
01:15:49,200 --> 01:15:53,700
representative of what will draw
us towards a good partner and 

1202
01:15:53,700 --> 01:15:56,600
it's good for us to recognize 
that in this modern human 

1203
01:15:56,600 --> 01:15:59,500
culture. 
Some of what we've grown to be 

1204
01:15:59,500 --> 01:16:03,200
attracted to is actually not 
good and so you know, for us to 

1205
01:16:03,200 --> 01:16:08,200
to do some some deep 
investigation and some listening

1206
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:12,200
and some learning about how I 
would describe it as integrated 

1207
01:16:12,200 --> 01:16:14,800
attraction, if my attraction is 
integrated. 

1208
01:16:14,800 --> 01:16:17,300
It means the things that I'm 
drawn to you are naturally 

1209
01:16:17,300 --> 01:16:21,000
aligned and good for me and an 
inviting of my full potential 

1210
01:16:21,000 --> 01:16:23,000
and the relationships, full 
potential. 

1211
01:16:23,600 --> 01:16:26,200
The last integrated, my 
attraction is the more I'm going

1212
01:16:26,200 --> 01:16:30,200
to have old unresolved 
relational pieces that are kind 

1213
01:16:30,200 --> 01:16:33,300
of informing who, and what, and 
where I'm attracted to. 

1214
01:16:33,800 --> 01:16:36,900
And so that piece around 
understanding that aspect of 

1215
01:16:36,900 --> 01:16:40,300
ourselves and how we are drawn 
to relationship and then also 

1216
01:16:40,300 --> 01:16:44,600
including how others are drawn 
to us so that people might be 

1217
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:47,700
attracted to us and that Be 
coming from a really good 

1218
01:16:47,700 --> 01:16:51,000
healthy place, but they also 
might be carrying their own 

1219
01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:56,000
unintegrated attractions and and
I like this lens because it's a 

1220
01:16:56,008 --> 01:16:57,700
little bit like playing in the 
sandbox. 

1221
01:16:57,700 --> 01:17:00,900
You know, we all have a Sandbox.
We're walking by checking each 

1222
01:17:00,900 --> 01:17:04,300
other out and sandboxes look 
good, or not good to us. 

1223
01:17:04,300 --> 01:17:09,500
And, and that's worth including 
in the whole process of meeting.

1224
01:17:09,500 --> 01:17:13,600
One another, getting a sense of 
how we relate of what we're 

1225
01:17:13,600 --> 01:17:17,400
looking for, of what we want to 
create together, and And as we 

1226
01:17:17,400 --> 01:17:21,100
go, I loved what was said 
earlier, which is so simple. 

1227
01:17:21,100 --> 01:17:24,900
But so obvious is like, if the 
way that we're operating allows 

1228
01:17:24,900 --> 01:17:28,600
us to more and more know 
ourselves to more and more know 

1229
01:17:28,600 --> 01:17:32,200
what we love and what we want. 
And what we value then that's 

1230
01:17:32,200 --> 01:17:34,600
going to be a way in which we 
live. 

1231
01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:39,100
That overtime relationships will
naturally get better and better.

1232
01:17:39,400 --> 01:17:42,200
Our discernment about 
compatibility and Alignment will

1233
01:17:42,200 --> 01:17:44,100
naturally get better and better 
over time. 

1234
01:17:44,500 --> 01:17:47,300
So any idea we have of like 
getting Ting it, right? 

1235
01:17:47,300 --> 01:17:49,900
Or finding the one I think it's 
worth throwing that out the 

1236
01:17:49,900 --> 01:17:54,900
window and and get good at play,
get good at Discovery, get good 

1237
01:17:54,900 --> 01:17:57,800
at listening, get good at asking
questions. 

1238
01:17:58,100 --> 01:18:01,300
And, and most of all, and I 
think this is where Georgia 

1239
01:18:01,300 --> 01:18:04,300
silver and I really lineup is 
like get good at speaking. 

1240
01:18:04,300 --> 01:18:08,800
The truth and hearing the truth 
because in that we have 

1241
01:18:08,800 --> 01:18:15,400
something really trustworthy to 
build our relationships on Oh 

1242
01:18:15,400 --> 01:18:20,300
good, thank you for sharing. 
Well said, yeah, I love it. 

1243
01:18:20,900 --> 01:18:23,400
I'm glad we stayed. 
Yeah. 

1244
01:18:23,800 --> 01:18:27,200
Well, thank you for creating a 
Vortex. 

1245
01:18:27,200 --> 01:18:29,000
The three of you and the two of 
us. 

1246
01:18:29,000 --> 01:18:32,500
So the five of us creating a 
Vortex, I feel like a 

1247
01:18:32,500 --> 01:18:36,200
possibility too because of 
course you have lovely tips and 

1248
01:18:36,200 --> 01:18:38,200
tricks but you know, we didn't 
touch on this. 

1249
01:18:38,200 --> 01:18:41,500
But dolphin is also in a 
wonderful relationship with his 

1250
01:18:41,500 --> 01:18:44,700
sweetheart and he has an awesome
little baby anymore. 

1251
01:18:44,800 --> 01:18:48,100
They stay with us a little bit. 
I missed been like what two 

1252
01:18:48,100 --> 01:18:51,400
years ago when he was a baby. 
And now he's not any more, I'm 

1253
01:18:51,400 --> 01:18:53,200
sure. 
Yeah. 

1254
01:18:53,800 --> 01:18:58,100
So dolphin is also an in a 
wonderful supportive, committed 

1255
01:18:58,100 --> 01:19:02,300
relationship, and I feel like 
sometimes, even one of the 

1256
01:19:02,300 --> 01:19:06,400
deterrence for dating can be 
like, is it even possible? 

1257
01:19:06,400 --> 01:19:08,200
Doesn't even exist. 
I've just had crappy 

1258
01:19:08,200 --> 01:19:10,000
relationships. 
My parents had a crappy 

1259
01:19:10,000 --> 01:19:12,000
relationship. 
Everyone I know is in a crappy 

1260
01:19:12,000 --> 01:19:15,200
relationship and I feel like 
what we've created Which is 

1261
01:19:15,200 --> 01:19:19,100
really fun as a little Vortex of
possibility and that all of us 

1262
01:19:19,300 --> 01:19:22,800
were not in these relationships.
Not, we haven't been in these 

1263
01:19:22,800 --> 01:19:26,100
relationships for 100 years. 
It's been different amounts of 

1264
01:19:26,100 --> 01:19:29,700
time, but it's not even been 
most of our adult life in these 

1265
01:19:29,700 --> 01:19:32,400
current relationships. 
And that it really is a 

1266
01:19:32,400 --> 01:19:38,100
possibility to to find your 
person to line up to connect. 

1267
01:19:38,100 --> 01:19:41,800
And there is some things you can
do in between until you get 

1268
01:19:41,800 --> 01:19:44,700
there. 
But yeah, it's a lot of just 

1269
01:19:44,800 --> 01:19:48,400
just kind of believing, putting 
yourself around people that are 

1270
01:19:48,800 --> 01:19:50,300
doing it. 
That are happy that are in 

1271
01:19:50,300 --> 01:19:53,100
relationship that have good 
values around it. 

1272
01:19:53,900 --> 01:19:57,400
And checking not only because 
we're feeding ourselves our own 

1273
01:19:57,400 --> 01:19:59,200
information. 
But checking, you know, what are

1274
01:19:59,200 --> 01:20:02,500
you exposing yourself to are? 
You exposing yourself to a lot 

1275
01:20:02,500 --> 01:20:04,400
of TV shows? 
And a lot of heartbreak, and a 

1276
01:20:04,407 --> 01:20:07,800
lot of people that have a lot of
challenges because if that's not

1277
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:11,300
the reality want and 
relationship, then put yourself 

1278
01:20:11,300 --> 01:20:14,700
around awesome people who are 
doing what you're hoping to. 

1279
01:20:15,100 --> 01:20:17,900
Kind of aspire to be. 
So thanks, guys. 

1280
01:20:17,900 --> 01:20:20,900
I feel like we did that tonight.
We who? 

1281
01:20:21,000 --> 01:20:22,600
Absolutely. 
Absolutely. 

1282
01:20:22,600 --> 01:20:26,700
Thank you so much fun. 
Thank you all and see you next 

1283
01:20:26,700 --> 01:20:28,100
time. 
Yeah, yeah. 

1284
01:20:28,100 --> 01:20:35,000
I'm against all the best. 
I so good. 

1285
01:20:35,200 --> 01:20:38,700
It's funny. 
The the idea of like a 

1286
01:20:38,700 --> 01:20:43,300
relationship, being this thing 
that you're moving towards. 

1287
01:20:43,600 --> 01:20:45,500
Oh, hello Deon. 
Anna, welcome. 

1288
01:20:45,900 --> 01:20:50,300
Hey, hi. 
We're just we're just friends. 

1289
01:20:50,300 --> 01:20:54,800
Listening from 11 to 2 of the 
speakers just left him and we're

1290
01:20:54,800 --> 01:21:00,000
all just jamming a little bit. 
And there's this idea of like 

1291
01:21:00,000 --> 01:21:03,900
relationships being this thing 
that you're moving towards and 

1292
01:21:03,900 --> 01:21:07,400
it's this big goal in this dream
and this thing and to me, it's 

1293
01:21:07,400 --> 01:21:09,800
kind of like starting a business
where it feels really fun and 

1294
01:21:09,800 --> 01:21:12,900
sexy to think about it. 
But actually doing it, it's like

1295
01:21:12,900 --> 01:21:16,800
it's a thing and especially And 
depending depends on the 

1296
01:21:16,800 --> 01:21:18,400
relationship. 
I think there can be really easy

1297
01:21:18,400 --> 01:21:23,000
ones and and more challenging by
enough for me, a lot of of this 

1298
01:21:23,000 --> 01:21:26,800
relationship and having a 
business together has been like,

1299
01:21:26,800 --> 01:21:29,400
okay, like here's here's your 
shit about this. 

1300
01:21:29,700 --> 01:21:32,300
Here's your shit about this. 
Like here's what's not Heroes, 

1301
01:21:32,300 --> 01:21:33,400
what you haven't killed about 
this. 

1302
01:21:33,400 --> 01:21:37,100
Like, it's just hard a lot and 
it's intense and it's like in 

1303
01:21:37,100 --> 01:21:41,300
your face and and crazy. 
And so it's not like, it 

1304
01:21:41,300 --> 01:21:47,100
definitely is not like, oh, like
this is easy and fun. 

1305
01:21:47,100 --> 01:21:52,300
Only like it's lovely and 
amazing and worth it and it's a 

1306
01:21:52,300 --> 01:21:56,400
lot like it's been challenging 
and work and but but fun in the 

1307
01:21:56,400 --> 01:21:58,200
way that starting a business is 
because it feels like we're 

1308
01:21:58,200 --> 01:22:01,300
building something. 
It feels like I'm growing and 

1309
01:22:01,300 --> 01:22:05,000
getting better and and I can see
the progression and and we've 

1310
01:22:05,000 --> 01:22:08,900
really evolved and move through 
different phases and so it's 

1311
01:22:09,000 --> 01:22:13,800
it's it's fun but yeah, 
definitely II don't have any 

1312
01:22:16,100 --> 01:22:20,900
Negative things about like just 
being being playful or being 

1313
01:22:20,900 --> 01:22:26,400
single or whatever because it's 
like it's that any any anywhere 

1314
01:22:26,400 --> 01:22:29,600
on the Spectrum or my we're all 
in relationships with with you 

1315
01:22:29,600 --> 01:22:31,700
know, the world and with each 
other, no matter what. 

1316
01:22:31,800 --> 01:22:34,500
But any spectrum of of like, 
intimate relationships or 

1317
01:22:34,500 --> 01:22:36,900
friendships relationships, I 
think are so valuable. 

1318
01:22:36,900 --> 01:22:39,600
And at, and it's so okay, 
wherever you are on that 

1319
01:22:39,600 --> 01:22:41,200
Spectrum. 
Like, it does, it doesn't have 

1320
01:22:41,200 --> 01:22:44,400
to be a full on thing. 
Right here, you're living 

1321
01:22:44,400 --> 01:22:45,500
together. 
I'm doing the whole thing 

1322
01:22:45,500 --> 01:22:46,900
because cleaning each other's 
toilet. 

1323
01:22:46,900 --> 01:22:50,600
Yeah, it's, it's because it is, 
it's like, it feels like it's 

1324
01:22:50,600 --> 01:22:52,900
starting a business. 
It's a, it's a project. 

1325
01:22:52,900 --> 01:22:55,400
And one of the things that's 
been really interesting with 

1326
01:22:55,800 --> 01:23:00,000
Crystal, and I, that the my 
relationship before Crystal, and

1327
01:23:00,000 --> 01:23:02,400
I've heard a few people talk 
about this, where, like there's,

1328
01:23:02,400 --> 01:23:04,100
they have three main 
relationships. 

1329
01:23:04,100 --> 01:23:06,900
The first one is the first love.
It's this big thing. 

1330
01:23:07,100 --> 01:23:11,600
The second one is a mirror. 
That's like your exact. 

1331
01:23:11,700 --> 01:23:15,400
Like you, like you're dating 
yourself and it, Example this 

1332
01:23:15,400 --> 01:23:18,100
stuff and it's super intense and
it's very fiery and passionate 

1333
01:23:18,100 --> 01:23:21,600
but also kind of just functional
and you both really like the 

1334
01:23:21,600 --> 01:23:24,100
same thing. 
So it's like as a partnership 

1335
01:23:24,100 --> 01:23:27,200
that can be challenging because 
neither of you really want to do

1336
01:23:27,200 --> 01:23:28,400
the things. 
The other one doesn't want to do

1337
01:23:28,400 --> 01:23:31,500
because you're very similar and 
then there's this and then the 

1338
01:23:31,500 --> 01:23:34,000
third relationship where you 
meet someone who's a really good

1339
01:23:34,000 --> 01:23:37,900
match and who sort of fills out 
just like a business partner 

1340
01:23:37,900 --> 01:23:39,400
would wear. 
Like you're really good at 

1341
01:23:39,400 --> 01:23:42,100
operations, they're really good 
at marketing and sales. 

1342
01:23:42,100 --> 01:23:44,400
I'm like okay you can actually 
have a business together because

1343
01:23:44,400 --> 01:23:48,200
you You have like harmonious 
skill sets and I feel like 

1344
01:23:48,200 --> 01:23:49,900
that's me and Crystal to it to 
you. 

1345
01:23:49,900 --> 01:23:54,200
Like we really are a good fit 
and we like the stuff that the 

1346
01:23:54,208 --> 01:23:57,500
other person doesn't like in the
like living of life in the 

1347
01:23:57,500 --> 01:24:00,400
decisions and finances. 
A lot of it. 

1348
01:24:00,400 --> 01:24:03,900
Yeah, we have preferred that the
ones that we really, neither 

1349
01:24:03,900 --> 01:24:06,600
must like, actually those are 
the ones we hire out. 

1350
01:24:06,600 --> 01:24:08,700
Yeah. 
And that's really important for 

1351
01:24:08,700 --> 01:24:11,500
we ask for support from the 
community or someone to help us 

1352
01:24:11,500 --> 01:24:14,700
out with because it's not worth 
forcing each other into it. 

1353
01:24:14,900 --> 01:24:19,900
So yeah, one thing I was going 
to top on that and oh my 

1354
01:24:19,900 --> 01:24:23,800
goodness isn't gone. 
Yeah, that's okay. 

1355
01:24:23,800 --> 01:24:25,200
Okay, I want to own a welcome 
Kai. 

1356
01:24:25,200 --> 01:24:29,600
So we haven't acknowledged to 
hello Kaiser and Indiana cases, 

1357
01:24:29,600 --> 01:24:32,500
Crystal's mom. 
And she must be a master of 

1358
01:24:32,500 --> 01:24:33,700
relationships. 
Now, she's been. 

1359
01:24:34,000 --> 01:24:36,400
She's been doing it from. 
She had six kids, and she's got 

1360
01:24:36,400 --> 01:24:39,900
a beautiful husband, and Deanna 
welcome. 

1361
01:24:39,900 --> 01:24:43,900
Do you want to share both of you
just a quick intro and who you 

1362
01:24:43,900 --> 01:24:46,500
are and what's your relationship
to relationships? 

1363
01:24:53,200 --> 01:24:54,900
We can't hear you Deanna. 
Okay, yeah. 

1364
01:24:54,900 --> 01:25:01,300
Sorry. 
I know, it's so funny because 

1365
01:25:01,600 --> 01:25:04,500
Facebook, I was just on there 
and it was like, this is like 

1366
01:25:04,500 --> 01:25:06,100
starting and I was like, oh, 
it's happening now. 

1367
01:25:06,100 --> 01:25:08,500
So I just click. 
So, super cool to be here. 

1368
01:25:10,200 --> 01:25:16,500
Yeah, so I actually help people 
get into relationships and I 

1369
01:25:16,508 --> 01:25:21,100
call myself a radiant love coach
and that is because it really 

1370
01:25:21,100 --> 01:25:24,200
comes from Honoring our Divine 
Essence and who we are. 

1371
01:25:24,600 --> 01:25:28,100
And so, I love what you were 
saying around. 

1372
01:25:28,200 --> 01:25:31,000
You know, we get triggered in 
all these beautiful different 

1373
01:25:31,000 --> 01:25:34,900
ways because it's an opportunity
for us for our soul to evolve 

1374
01:25:35,200 --> 01:25:37,000
and to learn the lessons that we
need. 

1375
01:25:38,100 --> 01:25:40,000
And I think you're lucky if you 
just have those three 

1376
01:25:40,000 --> 01:25:42,300
relationships and then you get 
into like the perfect one. 

1377
01:25:43,700 --> 01:25:46,800
Wow, I was like, oh man. 
No I definitely didn't just do 

1378
01:25:46,800 --> 01:25:49,000
that in three. 
Like it took me a few more than 

1379
01:25:49,000 --> 01:25:53,400
that but yeah, I mean And you 
know just committing to doing 

1380
01:25:53,400 --> 01:25:55,700
the work, becoming the best 
version of yourself. 

1381
01:25:55,700 --> 01:25:58,600
You know, I literally manifested
my dream partner. 

1382
01:26:00,100 --> 01:26:03,300
God literally I had to like calm
down. 

1383
01:26:03,300 --> 01:26:07,000
Stop distracting myself like get
present and was like, literally 

1384
01:26:07,000 --> 01:26:09,900
guided to Vancouver and spirit 
was like that's where your 

1385
01:26:09,900 --> 01:26:12,800
partner's going to be. 
And I had done, they say, you 

1386
01:26:12,800 --> 01:26:16,000
know, that expression when 
preparation meets opportunity, 

1387
01:26:16,000 --> 01:26:18,500
like I had done all the 
preparation. 

1388
01:26:18,500 --> 01:26:21,100
I was so clear in what I wanted,
I noticed in here because it 

1389
01:26:21,108 --> 01:26:24,300
talked about Abraham Some like 
aligning to like what you really

1390
01:26:24,300 --> 01:26:27,600
want. 
Like I made a vision board with 

1391
01:26:27,600 --> 01:26:31,400
all the Google images that I 
found like specifically for like

1392
01:26:31,400 --> 01:26:35,200
everything that I wanted. 
I had this long exhaustive list 

1393
01:26:35,200 --> 01:26:39,900
for a partner, like I did my 
work and then Spirit, literally 

1394
01:26:40,500 --> 01:26:45,500
put me down, put me next door to
my now husband and 40 days from 

1395
01:26:45,500 --> 01:26:48,600
the day that I moved into that 
apartment. 

1396
01:26:48,700 --> 01:26:51,700
I met my husband on a Friday 
afternoon because I said, Hey to

1397
01:26:51,700 --> 01:26:55,700
a Hot guy and literally like, 30
minutes later, we were on our 

1398
01:26:55,700 --> 01:26:57,500
first date and an hour and a 
half. 

1399
01:26:57,500 --> 01:26:59,500
After that, we had our first 
kiss and then we were never 

1400
01:26:59,500 --> 01:27:02,800
apart from that. 
So I love what you guys are 

1401
01:27:02,800 --> 01:27:06,400
talking about about really just 
like a lining to like the Law of

1402
01:27:06,400 --> 01:27:11,000
Attraction and using everything 
in your life, as a learning 

1403
01:27:11,000 --> 01:27:13,800
opportunity to really become 
your best self. 

1404
01:27:13,800 --> 01:27:16,600
And then when you meet your 
partner, then they're going to 

1405
01:27:16,600 --> 01:27:18,600
trigger you an all new ways that
you did. 

1406
01:27:22,800 --> 01:27:25,300
Even just talking to my, I just 
got off the face time with my 

1407
01:27:25,300 --> 01:27:27,700
husband because we're in 
separate countries right now. 

1408
01:27:27,700 --> 01:27:31,100
But he, you know, I was like, 
did not want to take personal 

1409
01:27:31,100 --> 01:27:34,400
responsibility for things like, 
I just wanted to like, you know,

1410
01:27:34,400 --> 01:27:36,400
skate away from it. 
And he was the one that like 

1411
01:27:36,400 --> 01:27:40,500
really held me up to it and 
like, made me, you know, had me 

1412
01:27:40,800 --> 01:27:43,600
deal with the things that I had 
been avoiding my entire life. 

1413
01:27:43,600 --> 01:27:46,500
And so, I just love what you 
guys are saying is that, like, 

1414
01:27:46,500 --> 01:27:48,700
you know, continuing to be in 
relationships, we all have 

1415
01:27:48,700 --> 01:27:51,700
special relationships, like, 
we're all here to help each. 

1416
01:27:51,900 --> 01:27:53,500
Other and to teach each other 
things. 

1417
01:27:53,500 --> 01:27:56,300
So so yeah. 
That's a little bit about me. 

1418
01:27:56,800 --> 01:27:59,100
Thank you for sharing. 
That's a great story. 

1419
01:27:59,100 --> 01:28:03,000
Yeah, that's that's really good.
You were missed the beginning 

1420
01:28:03,000 --> 01:28:05,900
but where there was a couple 
questions about, you know, if 

1421
01:28:05,900 --> 01:28:09,500
I'm busy and how do I make time 
for dating and that such a good.

1422
01:28:09,500 --> 01:28:12,300
Reminder, if you've done the and
we were talking about doing the 

1423
01:28:12,300 --> 01:28:15,700
pre Paving and doing the lining 
up work and you've kind of done 

1424
01:28:15,900 --> 01:28:21,800
those pieces and then I had a 
teacher who said he was really a

1425
01:28:21,900 --> 01:28:25,200
More shy and socially awkward, 
but part of his job being a 

1426
01:28:25,200 --> 01:28:28,100
coach and being a trainer was to
meet people and connect. 

1427
01:28:28,200 --> 01:28:31,300
So every time he had an event to
go to, he would say maybe I'll 

1428
01:28:31,300 --> 01:28:33,900
meet my next best friend there, 
you never know, and just like 

1429
01:28:33,900 --> 01:28:38,200
this fun and excitement, and 
it's such a good reminder to 

1430
01:28:38,200 --> 01:28:41,000
that, you know, you can be 
walking down the street and meet

1431
01:28:41,000 --> 01:28:43,300
your next partner. 
You don't have to go on a dating

1432
01:28:43,300 --> 01:28:48,000
site and a nap and have a whole 
formal thing about it, if 

1433
01:28:48,000 --> 01:28:51,900
especially more easily, if 
you've done the lining up, I 

1434
01:28:51,900 --> 01:28:55,200
work in that piece is really? 
Yeah, really valuable. 

1435
01:28:55,200 --> 01:28:56,900
So thank you for reiterating 
that. 

1436
01:28:57,800 --> 01:29:01,600
I say two more things on that to
actually just because it's so 

1437
01:29:02,200 --> 01:29:06,500
one is really like what you just
said is like approaching 

1438
01:29:06,500 --> 01:29:08,700
everyone as just like a new 
relationship. 

1439
01:29:08,700 --> 01:29:12,400
So you take the pressure off of 
any relationships like oh this 

1440
01:29:12,400 --> 01:29:14,200
is going to be my husband. 
Oh wait, but he's not 

1441
01:29:14,200 --> 01:29:15,800
six-foot-two. 
So he can't be my husband. 

1442
01:29:15,800 --> 01:29:19,500
It's like all this like these 
expectations around ourselves. 

1443
01:29:19,600 --> 01:29:23,600
Yeah, and this Shoot. 
Now I'm at I've just lost for 

1444
01:29:23,600 --> 01:29:26,500
what the second one was that 
you've you inspired me about but

1445
01:29:26,500 --> 01:29:30,000
yeah I just think that you know 
letting that down and just 

1446
01:29:30,000 --> 01:29:33,100
having fun with it like 
releasing that thing in not 

1447
01:29:33,100 --> 01:29:34,200
knowing when it's going to 
happen. 

1448
01:29:34,200 --> 01:29:36,900
But like really surrendering I 
think that's the other thing is 

1449
01:29:36,900 --> 01:29:40,500
like the big shift that happened
to me was surrendering my 

1450
01:29:40,500 --> 01:29:44,000
timeline and realizing that I 
was on God's timeline and like 

1451
01:29:44,000 --> 01:29:45,300
if it's either. 
Yes. 

1452
01:29:45,300 --> 01:29:48,600
No, or not right now, trusting 
the not right now and something 

1453
01:29:48,600 --> 01:29:51,500
better is going to come up and 
like that's like what I have to 

1454
01:29:51,500 --> 01:29:52,800
like. 
Like really, really help. 

1455
01:29:52,800 --> 01:29:56,800
People like remember is just 
surrendering that something more

1456
01:29:56,800 --> 01:30:02,400
magical than you could have. 
Expected is coming full. 

1457
01:30:02,500 --> 01:30:08,700
Yeah, this is good. 
Thank you. 

1458
01:30:09,000 --> 01:30:11,700
That reminded me of the piece 
that I wanted to jump in with. 

1459
01:30:12,200 --> 01:30:15,400
I was recently having a good 
conversation with somebody. 

1460
01:30:15,400 --> 01:30:20,200
I know who quite well, who's in 
a long-term polyamorous 

1461
01:30:20,200 --> 01:30:21,700
relationship. 
He's been in Nepal. 

1462
01:30:21,900 --> 01:30:23,800
A relationship for quite a 
while. 

1463
01:30:24,200 --> 01:30:27,500
And he feels like he's, you kind
of an expert now or at least 

1464
01:30:27,500 --> 01:30:30,400
very well-seasoned. 
And I was kind of digging in and

1465
01:30:30,400 --> 01:30:33,100
asking him a couple of 
questions. 

1466
01:30:33,100 --> 01:30:34,900
That's not something I have 
experience with. 

1467
01:30:34,900 --> 01:30:38,700
So I was curious and he was 
really saying, of course, the 

1468
01:30:38,700 --> 01:30:42,600
number one thing that Georgia 
and silver who were on before 

1469
01:30:42,600 --> 01:30:46,700
and dolphin have really talked 
about is communication 

1470
01:30:46,700 --> 01:30:50,200
communication, communication and
honesty, honesty honesty, and he

1471
01:30:50,200 --> 01:30:54,500
was saying how most of the 
people he's engaged within the 

1472
01:30:54,500 --> 01:30:59,600
polyamorous world. 
Do a really good job of being 

1473
01:30:59,600 --> 01:31:02,900
very clear with boundaries, very
clear with communication because

1474
01:31:02,900 --> 01:31:04,700
they're kind of coming into the 
relationship. 

1475
01:31:04,700 --> 01:31:07,600
Knowing that there can be lots 
of hurt feelings. 

1476
01:31:07,600 --> 01:31:11,500
There can be lots of triggers. 
This is a bit of a more 

1477
01:31:11,500 --> 01:31:13,600
complicated situation. 
There's more people involved, 

1478
01:31:13,600 --> 01:31:16,700
there's more feelings involved. 
So he said, when it works really

1479
01:31:16,700 --> 01:31:18,800
well, there's very clear 
boundaries. 

1480
01:31:19,000 --> 01:31:23,900
Who does what where, when why 
how with Like it's a very clear 

1481
01:31:24,300 --> 01:31:26,500
almost. 
I was saying, it sounds like a 

1482
01:31:26,500 --> 01:31:29,300
business that sounds like when 
you're getting involved with a 

1483
01:31:29,300 --> 01:31:32,200
business partner and you saying 
these are your roles, these are 

1484
01:31:32,200 --> 01:31:35,200
my expectations of you. 
These are my expectations of 

1485
01:31:35,200 --> 01:31:38,800
myself, showing up. 
He said it was very, very, the 

1486
01:31:38,800 --> 01:31:41,800
successful ones in the best ones
are when they're, they're just 

1487
01:31:41,800 --> 01:31:45,600
so honest and so clear with each
other and I was joking, but I'm 

1488
01:31:45,600 --> 01:31:49,200
not really joking and saying he 
should host a workshop on 

1489
01:31:49,200 --> 01:31:53,700
polyamorous philosophies for the
Monogamous relationship because 

1490
01:31:53,700 --> 01:31:57,800
I think it would be so valuable 
and I we started off a little 

1491
01:31:57,800 --> 01:32:00,300
bit with this at the beginning 
of our conversation here 

1492
01:32:00,300 --> 01:32:05,800
tonight, talking about how a lot
of there's a lot of baggage that

1493
01:32:05,800 --> 01:32:08,300
we bring into the idea of dating
and relationships. 

1494
01:32:08,300 --> 01:32:14,400
A lot of romantic fantasy, sexy 
porn, whatever the bits are, 

1495
01:32:14,400 --> 01:32:17,100
that you've built, your ideal 
relationship on. 

1496
01:32:17,500 --> 01:32:21,100
And a lot of that is not 
necessarily much of a reality 

1497
01:32:21,100 --> 01:32:23,800
often. 
And that you come in with that, 

1498
01:32:23,800 --> 01:32:26,900
like, oh, if I don't feel this 
or it doesn't right away, then 

1499
01:32:27,200 --> 01:32:31,500
I'm going to write this off and 
I feel like if we more, if those

1500
01:32:31,500 --> 01:32:34,400
who are looking for a monogamous
relationship, approached, it 

1501
01:32:34,400 --> 01:32:36,600
much more. 
Like, these are the things, this

1502
01:32:36,600 --> 01:32:38,500
is the way I want to show up in 
a relationship. 

1503
01:32:38,500 --> 01:32:41,900
This is what I'm hoping to you 
know how I want to be involved, 

1504
01:32:41,900 --> 01:32:45,600
how I don't want to be involved 
like what this person was saying

1505
01:32:45,600 --> 01:32:48,700
he experienced in these 
polyamorous relationships. 

1506
01:32:48,900 --> 01:32:51,600
I feel like we would do a lot 
better as a society. 

1507
01:32:51,800 --> 01:32:56,800
In dating, if there was a lot 
more of that, almost not 

1508
01:32:56,800 --> 01:33:00,500
calculated in a cold way, but 
kind of thoughtful way of 

1509
01:33:00,500 --> 01:33:05,600
entering a relationship instead 
of getting swept away or swept 

1510
01:33:05,600 --> 01:33:08,400
off in our own minds of what 
we're expecting the relationship

1511
01:33:08,400 --> 01:33:10,100
to be. 
So I feel like that's something.

1512
01:33:10,500 --> 01:33:14,200
I'd love to explore one day, 
maybe in the future, is to have 

1513
01:33:14,200 --> 01:33:17,000
someone give a talk from that 
perspective, because I think 

1514
01:33:17,000 --> 01:33:20,400
that would be really valuable. 
And for a lot of us who are 

1515
01:33:20,400 --> 01:33:23,200
entrepreneurs and In the 
wellness world, a lot of people 

1516
01:33:23,200 --> 01:33:25,700
in our community who will be 
listening in. 

1517
01:33:26,400 --> 01:33:28,600
It's a good reminder. 
You know, you don't jump into a 

1518
01:33:28,608 --> 01:33:32,700
business relationship with no 
conversations about what you see

1519
01:33:32,700 --> 01:33:35,100
it turning out. 
What's the end goal for the 

1520
01:33:35,100 --> 01:33:37,600
business? 
How do we want to work together 

1521
01:33:37,900 --> 01:33:41,100
and have a lot of, those kind of
what people would call like hard

1522
01:33:41,100 --> 01:33:44,700
conversations, but you make sure
that you know, those are in 

1523
01:33:44,700 --> 01:33:48,700
place so that you can actually, 
you know, relate and connect 

1524
01:33:48,700 --> 01:33:51,600
together. 
So that was an interesting. 

1525
01:33:51,700 --> 01:33:55,100
I thought I had and I'd love to 
actually, I would be curious if 

1526
01:33:55,100 --> 01:33:58,700
dolphin if you have any thing to
add into that, too. 

1527
01:33:58,700 --> 01:34:03,000
With your, I know what's 
relation flicks for anyone who's

1528
01:34:03,000 --> 01:34:08,200
just tuning in, Dolphin has a 
wonderful company project, 

1529
01:34:08,200 --> 01:34:13,000
passion and relation flick, real
lost. 

1530
01:34:13,000 --> 01:34:19,500
The relation flicks in sharing 
this kind of information with 

1531
01:34:19,500 --> 01:34:22,900
the community so I'd love to 
hear kind of your Two cents on 

1532
01:34:23,700 --> 01:34:24,900
on. 
Yeah. 

1533
01:34:24,900 --> 01:34:27,900
Having more of that clear. 
Communication like you would in 

1534
01:34:27,900 --> 01:34:30,700
a polyamorous relationship in a 
monogamous one. 

1535
01:34:31,900 --> 01:34:35,100
Be beneficial for people. 
Yeah, beautiful. 

1536
01:34:35,700 --> 01:34:40,900
Yeah, I mean, what comes to me 
is that in a monogamous 

1537
01:34:40,900 --> 01:34:45,600
relationship, it becomes quite 
easy, because there's a 

1538
01:34:45,608 --> 01:34:47,900
Simplicity to it. 
You and another, even though 

1539
01:34:47,900 --> 01:34:53,800
it's very complex, we can start 
to get Overly simplified around,

1540
01:34:53,800 --> 01:34:56,200
what's required for this 
relationship to continue. 

1541
01:34:56,600 --> 01:34:58,100
Really, just two. 
People have to choose to be 

1542
01:34:58,100 --> 01:35:02,600
there and if we're not doing 
things, well, we can still stay 

1543
01:35:02,600 --> 01:35:05,300
together. 
When you start to add more and 

1544
01:35:05,300 --> 01:35:09,000
more people. 
It becomes increasingly clear 

1545
01:35:09,200 --> 01:35:14,000
that the relationships and the 
kind of network of relationships

1546
01:35:14,000 --> 01:35:15,800
are only as strong as their 
weakest link. 

1547
01:35:16,200 --> 01:35:19,100
So as you invite more people 
into the equation, there's more 

1548
01:35:19,100 --> 01:35:22,700
complexity, there's more stress 
and pressure On the people that 

1549
01:35:22,700 --> 01:35:24,200
are holding all of the 
connections. 

1550
01:35:24,600 --> 01:35:28,800
And, and it's, you know, I 
always talked about when you add

1551
01:35:28,800 --> 01:35:33,400
a person to an intimate Dynamic,
three people. 

1552
01:35:33,400 --> 01:35:37,800
Instead of two people is not 
like plus 1, it's exponentially 

1553
01:35:37,800 --> 01:35:40,800
more to hold its exponentially 
more to take care of. 

1554
01:35:40,800 --> 01:35:44,300
There's, there's way more 
required around. 

1555
01:35:44,300 --> 01:35:47,400
Making sure that needs are met, 
making sure that Clarity is 

1556
01:35:47,400 --> 01:35:52,000
there in what's agreed to. 
And so, I think what we can Can 

1557
01:35:52,000 --> 01:35:56,100
take from people who have found 
a way to be effective in their 

1558
01:35:56,100 --> 01:35:57,500
in their polyamorous 
relationships. 

1559
01:35:57,500 --> 01:36:02,700
Is that in some ways. 
Many people have become quite 

1560
01:36:02,700 --> 01:36:07,200
complacent and lazy in their 
monogamous relationship and 

1561
01:36:07,200 --> 01:36:11,200
then, I don't mean that in a 
mean way or to wag a finger, but

1562
01:36:11,200 --> 01:36:15,000
just to say it's a little bit, 
like growing a garden, you know,

1563
01:36:15,000 --> 01:36:18,200
most of us want, all of the 
fruit and vegetables of the 

1564
01:36:18,200 --> 01:36:21,700
garden, but we don't necessarily
want to dig in the dirt and 

1565
01:36:21,800 --> 01:36:25,000
That's not how Gardens work. 
If you know you can go to the 

1566
01:36:25,008 --> 01:36:27,500
store and buy something that's 
sort of like the fast-food 

1567
01:36:27,500 --> 01:36:30,700
approach to to dating or 
relationship. 

1568
01:36:30,700 --> 01:36:34,000
You can just get someone else to
do the work and then you can go 

1569
01:36:34,000 --> 01:36:37,400
and get the fruit. 
But something happens when we 

1570
01:36:37,400 --> 01:36:39,800
know how to grow food on our 
own. 

1571
01:36:40,100 --> 01:36:43,400
There's something intrinsically 
meaningful to us about the fact 

1572
01:36:43,400 --> 01:36:45,600
that the food that we're putting
in our bodies, the food that we 

1573
01:36:45,600 --> 01:36:49,000
created. 
And so, for those of us that 

1574
01:36:49,000 --> 01:36:51,600
care about that, kind of 
authenticity that the care about

1575
01:36:51,800 --> 01:36:55,500
The, the origins of the fruit 
that we eat, it becomes 

1576
01:36:55,500 --> 01:36:59,300
incumbent on us, to learn, to 
grow, and to be able to have 

1577
01:36:59,300 --> 01:37:01,000
that, that level of 
communication. 

1578
01:37:01,000 --> 01:37:05,900
So, you know, in a few words, I 
agree with you, Crystal and the 

1579
01:37:05,900 --> 01:37:09,400
application, and implication of 
that level of communication is, 

1580
01:37:09,600 --> 01:37:13,400
is not easy. 
There are simple principles that

1581
01:37:13,400 --> 01:37:16,800
really supported and being 
effective, but the application 

1582
01:37:16,800 --> 01:37:20,500
requires more maturity, more 
responsibility, more willingness

1583
01:37:20,500 --> 01:37:23,100
to hold our own peace. 
Cesare own emotions as they 

1584
01:37:23,100 --> 01:37:28,100
arise and more of a willingness 
to speak utter piercing. 

1585
01:37:28,100 --> 01:37:32,100
Truth in the interest of more 
authenticity versus the interest

1586
01:37:32,100 --> 01:37:34,900
of comfort or getting immediate 
needs met. 

1587
01:37:35,100 --> 01:37:37,700
So, you know, I think when we 
look at what effective 

1588
01:37:37,700 --> 01:37:42,200
communication is it's, it's what
what kind of communication 

1589
01:37:42,400 --> 01:37:45,400
provides the deepest, most 
meaningful relationships over 

1590
01:37:45,400 --> 01:37:49,500
the longest time span. 
And, and I lay that out as a 

1591
01:37:49,500 --> 01:37:54,100
kind of Target that we can start
to shoot for around is my 

1592
01:37:54,100 --> 01:37:56,500
communication about meeting an 
immediate need, which is, you 

1593
01:37:56,508 --> 01:37:59,000
know, that's fine. 
But if meeting the immediate 

1594
01:37:59,000 --> 01:38:02,100
need is disconnected from what 
nourishes, the individuals in 

1595
01:38:02,100 --> 01:38:05,600
the relationship long term, what
you have there is unsustainable 

1596
01:38:05,600 --> 01:38:12,100
relationships. 
So good. 

1597
01:38:12,600 --> 01:38:15,000
Thank you. 
I love that analogy of the 

1598
01:38:15,000 --> 01:38:16,800
garden. 
I think that's a really good. 

1599
01:38:17,300 --> 01:38:19,000
A good thing to keep in mind as 
well. 

1600
01:38:21,300 --> 01:38:26,600
Is there anything that anyone 
would like to share questions, 

1601
01:38:26,600 --> 01:38:31,100
answers ideas, open open for, 
for whatever? 

1602
01:38:31,300 --> 01:38:33,100
Yeah. 
We'd love to if you have more 

1603
01:38:33,100 --> 01:38:37,000
questions, kind of on dating 
relationships in general and 

1604
01:38:37,000 --> 01:38:41,800
then I feel like because we did 
say that we wanted We did want 

1605
01:38:41,800 --> 01:38:46,400
to move into having a little 
singles mixer time. 

1606
01:38:46,400 --> 01:38:50,100
And I think what we want to 
really use that time for is to 

1607
01:38:50,300 --> 01:38:54,000
hear from you guys as to how we 
can support you in creating some

1608
01:38:54,000 --> 01:38:58,800
fun singles events, how we can 
support you in meeting those 

1609
01:38:58,800 --> 01:39:02,800
people that you're looking for. 
So we definitely want to make 

1610
01:39:02,800 --> 01:39:05,000
sure that we have time to hear 
from you guys about that as 

1611
01:39:05,000 --> 01:39:07,200
well. 
So yeah, you can also share what

1612
01:39:07,200 --> 01:39:09,600
you're looking for. 
As soon as maybe your, your next

1613
01:39:09,600 --> 01:39:14,500
sweetie is This on YouTube. 
Exactly, yeah, don't have any 

1614
01:39:14,500 --> 01:39:17,900
step on up. 
Thanks. 

1615
01:39:18,300 --> 01:39:23,700
I know earlier. 
Dolphin had mentioned something 

1616
01:39:23,700 --> 01:39:26,500
about integrated attraction. 
I just wanted to know if there 

1617
01:39:26,500 --> 01:39:29,300
could be maybe an example of 
because that's a new term to me.

1618
01:39:29,300 --> 01:39:32,500
So I'm just wondering if there's
maybe an example for that. 

1619
01:39:33,800 --> 01:39:37,800
Oh, good question. 
Yeah, I'll give you an example 

1620
01:39:37,800 --> 01:39:41,300
from my work history. 
I used to work with an agency 

1621
01:39:41,300 --> 01:39:46,900
called safe team, and the woman 
who founded it, this amazing 

1622
01:39:46,900 --> 01:39:49,000
woman. 
Man named Anita Roberts and she 

1623
01:39:49,000 --> 01:39:51,000
had a really challenging 
childhood. 

1624
01:39:51,000 --> 01:39:54,400
There was a lot of kind of abuse
of power and control. 

1625
01:39:54,400 --> 01:39:58,800
There was there was physical 
abuse or sexual abuse and she 

1626
01:39:58,900 --> 01:40:02,400
managed to Parlay that into some
really powerful empowering work 

1627
01:40:02,400 --> 01:40:04,900
for teenagers. 
So she created work that 

1628
01:40:04,900 --> 01:40:08,300
supported young people and being
more, clear, more self-aware, 

1629
01:40:08,300 --> 01:40:11,100
more empowered than she would 
tell this story when she was 

1630
01:40:11,100 --> 01:40:17,000
doing the work. 
She would say that because power

1631
01:40:17,100 --> 01:40:19,100
Actuality. 
We're kind of wrapped together 

1632
01:40:19,100 --> 01:40:24,000
with abuse for her when she was 
little, she had a very strong 

1633
01:40:24,000 --> 01:40:27,200
attraction to men that were 
essentially dangerous. 

1634
01:40:27,600 --> 01:40:33,700
So she would feel aroused when a
man who was not, not necessarily

1635
01:40:33,700 --> 01:40:36,100
mature able to hold his own 
emotion. 

1636
01:40:36,800 --> 01:40:39,900
Often men who had issues with 
anger, these were men that she 

1637
01:40:39,900 --> 01:40:43,200
found very attractive. 
This is an example of what I 

1638
01:40:43,200 --> 01:40:45,100
would describe as unintegrated 
attraction. 

1639
01:40:45,600 --> 01:40:49,500
So these are aspects Of how her 
attraction system developed an 

1640
01:40:49,500 --> 01:40:52,200
early life. 
And that the attraction, of 

1641
01:40:52,200 --> 01:40:56,400
course, snub the parental 
figures, our survival to a 

1642
01:40:56,400 --> 01:41:01,400
developing child, our ability to
relate and connect with them 

1643
01:41:01,400 --> 01:41:04,800
from an evolutionary 
perspective, is what allows us 

1644
01:41:04,800 --> 01:41:07,200
to survive. 
And then we naturally become 

1645
01:41:07,200 --> 01:41:11,100
attractive to those figures in 
the way in which they raised us 

1646
01:41:11,100 --> 01:41:16,200
for better or worse. 
Now, an integrated attraction 

1647
01:41:16,200 --> 01:41:20,300
system, I mean that in spite of 
that being the history that 

1648
01:41:20,300 --> 01:41:23,000
enough integration and healing 
has taken place where the 

1649
01:41:23,000 --> 01:41:27,100
attraction is no longer rooted 
in things that match or mirror 

1650
01:41:27,400 --> 01:41:30,100
the dysfunctional dynamics that 
were there in her childhood. 

1651
01:41:31,000 --> 01:41:34,200
So that instead of being 
attracted to these men that were

1652
01:41:35,000 --> 01:41:39,000
sort of dark and and aggressive 
and not able to manage their own

1653
01:41:39,000 --> 01:41:43,400
emotion, the attraction system 
would would over time develop in

1654
01:41:43,400 --> 01:41:48,700
a way where she would see a man 
who was able all to be present, 

1655
01:41:48,800 --> 01:41:52,700
who was curious, who was 
playful, who know who knew, how 

1656
01:41:52,700 --> 01:41:56,300
to handle, and hold his own 
emotions, who was responsive to 

1657
01:41:56,300 --> 01:41:59,400
the needs of others and an 
integrated attraction system, 

1658
01:41:59,400 --> 01:42:01,200
would be attracted to those 
things. 

1659
01:42:01,300 --> 01:42:04,200
Because those are the things 
that allow relationships to to 

1660
01:42:04,200 --> 01:42:08,300
thrive over time. 
So I hope that kind of makes 

1661
01:42:08,300 --> 01:42:11,100
sense. 
It's a term that I've coined and

1662
01:42:11,100 --> 01:42:15,800
it just makes sense to me in 
terms of how an integrated or an

1663
01:42:15,800 --> 01:42:19,100
integrated nervous system will 
relate to being attractive 

1664
01:42:19,300 --> 01:42:22,800
attracted to other individuals 
based on the kind of Attraction 

1665
01:42:22,800 --> 01:42:25,600
template that we got from 
drawing up. 

1666
01:42:27,400 --> 01:42:28,700
Yeah, that makes sense. 
Thank you. 

1667
01:42:28,900 --> 01:42:35,600
So would it be a good idea to 
maybe figure out what was the 

1668
01:42:35,600 --> 01:42:40,900
unintegrated qualities of our 
past or patterns or beliefs or 

1669
01:42:40,900 --> 01:42:44,300
just maybe kind of mentally or 
physically? 

1670
01:42:44,300 --> 01:42:48,300
Write down a list of like oh 
this is what I desire for my 

1671
01:42:48,300 --> 01:42:51,600
integrated attraction to occur. 
Yeah. 

1672
01:42:51,600 --> 01:42:55,600
So both of those are helpful and
what I would what I would say 

1673
01:42:55,600 --> 01:42:58,600
about. 
But the journey is your life, 

1674
01:42:58,600 --> 01:43:00,300
will tell you what's on 
integrated. 

1675
01:43:00,500 --> 01:43:04,500
So we can dig and we can go back
in time and we can reach into 

1676
01:43:04,500 --> 01:43:08,500
memories and that's all good. 
And can be very potent in terms 

1677
01:43:08,500 --> 01:43:12,300
of having transformation. 
But the reality is, is that we 

1678
01:43:12,300 --> 01:43:15,900
are so intelligent that we will 
naturally intuitively 

1679
01:43:15,900 --> 01:43:19,800
unconsciously recreate. 
The very dynamics that are not 

1680
01:43:19,800 --> 01:43:22,400
yet integrated in us in our 
adult relationships. 

1681
01:43:22,900 --> 01:43:24,900
So you don't have to go very far
now. 

1682
01:43:25,000 --> 01:43:27,500
Now, if you're you Being single 
for a long time. 

1683
01:43:27,500 --> 01:43:32,300
So it's also possible that that 
we create a dynamic within 

1684
01:43:32,300 --> 01:43:36,200
ourselves where we create so 
many barriers to intimacy and 

1685
01:43:36,200 --> 01:43:39,500
relationship so that we don't 
have to really show up and face 

1686
01:43:39,500 --> 01:43:42,700
those pieces. 
And so that might be a part of 

1687
01:43:42,700 --> 01:43:46,300
your journey is looking at how 
and where you make it 

1688
01:43:46,300 --> 01:43:49,000
impossible. 
I use that word kind of 

1689
01:43:49,000 --> 01:43:53,000
colloquially, but you make it 
very challenging for you to find

1690
01:43:53,000 --> 01:43:56,700
someone and or for someone to 
find you and To really explore 

1691
01:43:56,700 --> 01:43:59,000
relationship. 
Like you the way you stated it 

1692
01:43:59,000 --> 01:44:02,900
in my in my memory of the call 
is it's like you just have 

1693
01:44:02,900 --> 01:44:05,400
trouble finding people you're 
attracted to and you find that 

1694
01:44:05,400 --> 01:44:08,500
the people that kind of show up 
in your life, you know there's 

1695
01:44:08,500 --> 01:44:14,400
just not this spark and so you 
know exploring why that is and 

1696
01:44:14,600 --> 01:44:17,500
is it possible that there's 
there's enough value and 

1697
01:44:17,500 --> 01:44:20,900
exploring relationship that 
don't necessarily match your 

1698
01:44:20,900 --> 01:44:24,900
picture of what needs to be 
there but but there's enough 

1699
01:44:24,900 --> 01:44:28,600
presence there's Willingness 
there's enough curiosity where 

1700
01:44:28,600 --> 01:44:31,800
you're both going to learn and 
grow through the experience of 

1701
01:44:31,800 --> 01:44:35,100
being in relationship. 
And I think that doesn't have to

1702
01:44:35,100 --> 01:44:38,800
be just Intimacy in terms of 
friendship, in terms of all the 

1703
01:44:38,800 --> 01:44:43,000
ways in which we can connect. 
Again, I have so much trust in 

1704
01:44:43,000 --> 01:44:46,100
our unconscious ability to 
recreate the very things that we

1705
01:44:46,100 --> 01:44:48,400
need. 
So that we can heal and put our 

1706
01:44:48,400 --> 01:44:51,700
past to rest, but conscious 
awareness presence and a 

1707
01:44:51,708 --> 01:44:55,000
willingness to feel everything 
that arises in that is required 

1708
01:44:55,000 --> 01:44:57,000
for that to really be be 
fruitful for us. 

1709
01:44:59,200 --> 01:45:01,500
Wow. 
Well, said dolphin, very 

1710
01:45:01,500 --> 01:45:04,900
interesting. 
Yeah, to to add in on to that. 

1711
01:45:08,000 --> 01:45:11,000
I think that's, that's what I 
was kind of touching on a little

1712
01:45:11,000 --> 01:45:15,900
bit at the beginning, that a lot
of my relationships early on 

1713
01:45:15,900 --> 01:45:19,700
were, oh, I can't be with 
someone like this because I was 

1714
01:45:19,700 --> 01:45:21,800
and it didn't work. 
So I've got a swing. 

1715
01:45:21,800 --> 01:45:24,500
It was this pendulum swing from 
trigger to trigger. 

1716
01:45:24,900 --> 01:45:27,400
So they were like this. 
So I have to be with someone 

1717
01:45:27,400 --> 01:45:28,900
like this and then they were 
like this. 

1718
01:45:28,900 --> 01:45:30,300
So I have to be with someone 
like this. 

1719
01:45:30,300 --> 01:45:33,800
So, like dolphins said, I made 
it almost impossible for myself 

1720
01:45:33,800 --> 01:45:38,600
because the window of eligible 
available people Lived where I 

1721
01:45:38,600 --> 01:45:43,300
lived was very small and that 
met all my criteria. 

1722
01:45:43,700 --> 01:45:48,300
And I think that's that's a 
piece to kind of check out. 

1723
01:45:48,300 --> 01:45:51,800
And like dolphin was saying, you
don't need to necessarily know 

1724
01:45:52,600 --> 01:45:55,200
what are all your triggers are 
all your pieces because they 

1725
01:45:55,200 --> 01:45:59,900
will show up but you can do 
Abraham-Hicks talks a little bit

1726
01:45:59,900 --> 01:46:01,800
about this. 
Of course you don't want to 

1727
01:46:01,800 --> 01:46:04,300
spend a lot of time thinking 
about your past relationships 

1728
01:46:04,300 --> 01:46:06,200
and things that didn't work. 
So you don't want to be stirring

1729
01:46:06,200 --> 01:46:08,800
that up but you can use it as a 
springboard. 

1730
01:46:09,200 --> 01:46:12,100
I didn't like it when this 
happened, so I do want this to 

1731
01:46:12,100 --> 01:46:15,500
happen. 
I didn't like it that he put his

1732
01:46:15,600 --> 01:46:20,300
his whatever above what I 
thought, you know, should be 

1733
01:46:20,300 --> 01:46:21,900
there. 
So I'd love someone who spends, 

1734
01:46:22,200 --> 01:46:25,500
you know, more time, you know, 
in a way that works for me or I 

1735
01:46:25,500 --> 01:46:28,400
didn't like that the way he was 
as a parent. 

1736
01:46:28,400 --> 01:46:32,000
So you know, I want someone to 
be more involved with their kids

1737
01:46:32,000 --> 01:46:35,200
or whatever the piece is that 
you're swinging from instead of 

1738
01:46:35,200 --> 01:46:39,100
just kind of reacting to it. 
I have to look for someone who 

1739
01:46:39,100 --> 01:46:43,200
isn't like this trying to really
stack yourself up with what's 

1740
01:46:43,200 --> 01:46:46,600
the opposite of that. 
So that's been my experience and

1741
01:46:46,600 --> 01:46:49,400
that's what I was doing a lot 
before I met shine was really 

1742
01:46:49,400 --> 01:46:52,600
instead of like, I don't want 
someone like this. 

1743
01:46:52,800 --> 01:46:54,400
I really tried to go. 
Okay. 

1744
01:46:54,400 --> 01:46:58,800
These were the things I didn't 
like now really spend, like, 90%

1745
01:46:58,800 --> 01:47:00,900
more time than I spent on making
the list. 

1746
01:47:00,900 --> 01:47:04,100
I didn't like really juicing up,
so I didn't like this. 

1747
01:47:04,100 --> 01:47:06,500
So I mean, I want this and this 
and this and this and it like 

1748
01:47:06,500 --> 01:47:08,000
that. 
So I want this innocent So 

1749
01:47:08,000 --> 01:47:10,900
really spending making sure that
you're kind of attracting 

1750
01:47:10,900 --> 01:47:14,600
instead of actually attracting 
the things that you don't want 

1751
01:47:14,600 --> 01:47:17,300
which is where some of that 
unconscious comes from. 

1752
01:47:17,500 --> 01:47:20,700
And like Dalton said, don't 
worry if there's bits in there 

1753
01:47:20,700 --> 01:47:24,300
that you don't know you're 
running because there are and 

1754
01:47:24,300 --> 01:47:27,600
you'll Attract it and you'll get
to deal with it and then you'll 

1755
01:47:27,600 --> 01:47:30,700
have that awareness about it. 
And like we said at the 

1756
01:47:30,700 --> 01:47:34,100
beginning and like, Georgia and 
silver said as well, they 

1757
01:47:34,100 --> 01:47:37,500
weren't actually, what we 
weren't, what we were each other

1758
01:47:37,500 --> 01:47:41,000
were Looking for, they weren't 
lined up at the time. 

1759
01:47:41,000 --> 01:47:44,000
They met either. 
For this being this perfect love

1760
01:47:44,000 --> 01:47:46,700
affair. 
It was really there was just 

1761
01:47:46,700 --> 01:47:50,600
enough pieces in the moment and 
enough openness to be able to 

1762
01:47:50,600 --> 01:47:55,000
keep seeing it through and I 
think that's a piece to that was

1763
01:47:55,000 --> 01:47:58,400
it silver said at the beginning,
kind of don't cut yourself off 

1764
01:47:58,400 --> 01:48:00,900
before. 
You've even started and being 

1765
01:48:00,900 --> 01:48:04,900
open to trying it out. 
Checking it out, not having this

1766
01:48:04,900 --> 01:48:07,000
big expectation of it needing to
be. 

1767
01:48:07,700 --> 01:48:12,600
Something life-changing but that
just that willingness can grow 

1768
01:48:13,000 --> 01:48:17,700
into a relationship and 100%. 
I know, shine and I would not 

1769
01:48:18,000 --> 01:48:21,200
have would not be together if we
hadn't both been willing to show

1770
01:48:21,200 --> 01:48:25,600
up in what to me and him seem 
like a rather mismatched 

1771
01:48:25,600 --> 01:48:29,700
relationship at the beginning. 
So yeah, I actually met another 

1772
01:48:29,700 --> 01:48:34,000
guy who was dating a woman with 
kids or just broken up with a 

1773
01:48:34,000 --> 01:48:37,500
woman who had kids and he really
was like, are you? 

1774
01:48:37,700 --> 01:48:41,500
Sure that you want this because 
it's a thing like it like if you

1775
01:48:41,500 --> 01:48:45,200
like it's a thing, like be sure 
that that's what you want and it

1776
01:48:45,200 --> 01:48:48,500
wasn't what I wanted at all. 
Like I actively was like not 

1777
01:48:48,500 --> 01:48:51,400
looking for that and I wanted to
only focus on the business and 

1778
01:48:51,400 --> 01:48:56,600
have no distractions and it was 
so my mental mind was like, 

1779
01:48:56,900 --> 01:48:59,700
okay, this is fun. 
But in about like, a possibly 

1780
01:48:59,700 --> 01:49:02,500
things like it wasn't even like,
oh she doesn't work out enough 

1781
01:49:02,500 --> 01:49:04,800
where she eats meat and I don't 
like, it was not something that 

1782
01:49:04,800 --> 01:49:07,800
was, you know, not me. 
Not having kids was not We 

1783
01:49:07,800 --> 01:49:09,400
actually ever going to be an 
option. 

1784
01:49:09,400 --> 01:49:11,900
So it was like the number one 
biggest. 

1785
01:49:11,900 --> 01:49:14,700
Yeah. 
Biggest deterrent for what shine

1786
01:49:14,700 --> 01:49:16,200
thought he was looking for in 
the moment? 

1787
01:49:16,200 --> 01:49:22,500
Thank you, Deanna, and by and I 
kept meditating and getting into

1788
01:49:22,500 --> 01:49:25,900
the Vortex as best I could. 
And I kept receiving this 

1789
01:49:25,900 --> 01:49:29,400
message when I would meditate 
and get quiet and I would ask 

1790
01:49:29,400 --> 01:49:33,100
the question that it's like, no,
this is really good for you. 

1791
01:49:33,100 --> 01:49:36,400
This is what you want. 
Give it a like, stay with it. 

1792
01:49:36,400 --> 01:49:39,900
Just don't don't Don't don't go 
don't like throw it away. 

1793
01:49:40,200 --> 01:49:45,000
Just stay with it and and that's
been a big way that Crystal and 

1794
01:49:45,000 --> 01:49:48,200
I have both balanced when things
get really hard. 

1795
01:49:48,800 --> 01:49:52,100
Is we've gone through enough 
Cycles where we know that when 

1796
01:49:52,100 --> 01:49:54,800
we feel really good, it feels 
really right. 

1797
01:49:54,900 --> 01:49:58,300
And like it is a good fit. 
And so, even if we can get 

1798
01:49:58,300 --> 01:50:02,200
ourselves into a bit of a spin, 
which I don't do this anymore, I

1799
01:50:02,208 --> 01:50:04,800
don't know, of course of those 
but I think we've kind of 

1800
01:50:04,900 --> 01:50:10,500
spiraled a bit out of this but 
Where where we might in the past

1801
01:50:10,500 --> 01:50:13,200
be sort of doubting and I was 
just the right thing and are we 

1802
01:50:13,200 --> 01:50:16,500
is this what we really want and 
and now that we've been through 

1803
01:50:16,500 --> 01:50:20,600
enough cycles and we know that 
when we feel really bad we can 

1804
01:50:21,200 --> 01:50:26,000
create these stories that aren't
true and and then that can lead 

1805
01:50:26,000 --> 01:50:30,800
to, you know, decisions and 
things that by like I said you 

1806
01:50:30,800 --> 01:50:32,200
want to say something quick. 
Before you go. 

1807
01:50:32,800 --> 01:50:35,300
No, okay, you're good. 
Thank you, Mom. 

1808
01:50:37,900 --> 01:50:43,800
Was it Cycles tuning in? 
Yeah that we've just sort of 

1809
01:50:43,800 --> 01:50:46,200
easy. 
We've just sort of learned that 

1810
01:50:46,600 --> 01:50:49,600
the thing to do when we're 
feeling bad is to get feeling 

1811
01:50:49,600 --> 01:50:53,400
good and not trying to deal with
anything that feels bad and fix 

1812
01:50:53,400 --> 01:50:57,600
it or like talking through or 
whatever, it's like, just like, 

1813
01:50:57,600 --> 01:51:00,700
leave the room, take some space,
get feeling better. 

1814
01:51:00,700 --> 01:51:03,600
And then, you know, if you need 
to talk about something repair, 

1815
01:51:03,800 --> 01:51:07,500
whatever, proactively create a 
plan. 

1816
01:51:07,600 --> 01:51:10,200
For the next step but just 
yelling at each other or being 

1817
01:51:10,400 --> 01:51:14,400
being mean to each other like 
you know venting when there's 

1818
01:51:14,400 --> 01:51:16,200
not the other one can't really 
hold spaces. 

1819
01:51:16,300 --> 01:51:19,500
We found to be very 
counterproductive because it 

1820
01:51:19,500 --> 01:51:22,600
just creates more repair to do 
later and and I'm guessing you 

1821
01:51:22,600 --> 01:51:25,300
know, in the worst case, 
scenarios for four people, it 

1822
01:51:25,300 --> 01:51:28,200
ends up in the relationship 
ending because they're just 

1823
01:51:28,200 --> 01:51:31,600
like, I don't, I can't deal with
this is too much and and so it's

1824
01:51:31,600 --> 01:51:33,700
that thing. 
So yeah, I think that's a good 

1825
01:51:33,700 --> 01:51:36,800
piece to remember to especially 
when we're kind of all, you 

1826
01:51:36,800 --> 01:51:38,700
know, talk oh. 
It's lovely being in 

1827
01:51:38,700 --> 01:51:43,200
relationship and it's so fun and
and to really remember that 

1828
01:51:45,000 --> 01:51:48,500
never in our relationship was 
there especially at the 

1829
01:51:48,500 --> 01:51:52,400
beginning not thoughts of. 
I don't know if this is going to

1830
01:51:52,400 --> 01:51:55,900
work and that it was hard and 
there was a lot of that and for 

1831
01:51:55,900 --> 01:52:01,300
me being through many long-term 
relationships before shine where

1832
01:52:01,300 --> 01:52:05,300
I had had those thoughts and 
then yes, eventually it did end 

1833
01:52:05,500 --> 01:52:09,400
and it was very painful. 
It was really hard for me to 

1834
01:52:09,400 --> 01:52:13,400
meet those times with myself 
where I was with shine going. 

1835
01:52:13,600 --> 01:52:15,600
Okay. 
Here's the beginning of another 

1836
01:52:15,600 --> 01:52:18,100
relationship. 
I'm feeling the same way. 

1837
01:52:18,100 --> 01:52:21,200
I felt in those other 
relationships and those ended 

1838
01:52:21,200 --> 01:52:24,100
and I was right and it didn't 
work and all that stuff. 

1839
01:52:24,100 --> 01:52:26,600
I proved myself, right? 
So why does going to be 

1840
01:52:26,600 --> 01:52:29,200
different right now? 
And it was really hard for me. 

1841
01:52:29,200 --> 01:52:33,700
Not to pull that history with me
and jump out early and sell and 

1842
01:52:33,700 --> 01:52:37,500
sabotage the relationship early 
because it did come up a lot. 

1843
01:52:37,600 --> 01:52:42,300
For me and it was something like
shine said with my kids. 

1844
01:52:42,300 --> 01:52:45,400
And for me there was a lot of 
things that a lot of ways that 

1845
01:52:45,400 --> 01:52:48,500
he reminded me of my exes which 
was really scary because I 

1846
01:52:48,500 --> 01:52:51,500
thought I'm going to end up in 
the same position and a lot of 

1847
01:52:51,500 --> 01:52:55,700
ways when he did not remind me 
of what I thought I needed in a 

1848
01:52:55,700 --> 01:52:59,600
partner and of my ideal. 
So I kind of had to proofs like 

1849
01:52:59,600 --> 01:53:01,800
my future projection of what I 
wanted. 

1850
01:53:01,800 --> 01:53:04,900
He didn't match a lot of that 
and my past history, I was 

1851
01:53:04,900 --> 01:53:07,400
pulling up with me. 
He did match a lot. 

1852
01:53:07,600 --> 01:53:09,700
Not. 
So it was really scary for me 

1853
01:53:09,700 --> 01:53:13,100
and I had to do exactly like 
shine said and I had to really 

1854
01:53:13,400 --> 01:53:16,100
walk away. 
We created early on I had 

1855
01:53:16,100 --> 01:53:19,400
insecurities of him cheating 
when we were fighting so I 

1856
01:53:19,407 --> 01:53:21,800
thought if we don't fix this 
fight right now, he's going to 

1857
01:53:21,808 --> 01:53:24,800
go off and cheat on me. 
So I had to be vulnerable with 

1858
01:53:24,800 --> 01:53:27,600
him about that and share that. 
As soon as I could in the 

1859
01:53:27,600 --> 01:53:32,300
relationship and we came up with
a deal that we had some good 

1860
01:53:32,300 --> 01:53:35,700
communication about it and that 
we would not end the 

1861
01:53:35,700 --> 01:53:38,800
relationship when we were 
feeling Not about it in a fight 

1862
01:53:38,800 --> 01:53:43,100
and we would not cheat or go be 
with other people without a 

1863
01:53:43,108 --> 01:53:46,000
community conversation. 
First and shine felt really 

1864
01:53:46,000 --> 01:53:48,500
solid, that that's not his Mo, 
that's not how he's going to 

1865
01:53:48,500 --> 01:53:51,400
behave. 
And so that really I needed that

1866
01:53:51,400 --> 01:53:52,800
even though he's like, I've 
never do that. 

1867
01:53:52,800 --> 01:53:56,300
Of course, but I needed that 
reassurance and I asked for that

1868
01:53:56,300 --> 01:53:59,700
really clearly, and I had to do 
Reality Checking when we were 

1869
01:53:59,700 --> 01:54:01,600
fighting. 
Okay, you're walking away. 

1870
01:54:01,600 --> 01:54:03,500
Are you going to go cheat on me?
No, I'm not. 

1871
01:54:03,600 --> 01:54:05,400
Okay, I just needed to hear 
that. 

1872
01:54:05,700 --> 01:54:08,900
And I did that for a long time. 
Time at the beginning because 

1873
01:54:08,900 --> 01:54:11,900
that was a big piece. 
I was pulling up with me but it 

1874
01:54:11,900 --> 01:54:14,200
was I was not saying you have to
fix me or change me. 

1875
01:54:14,200 --> 01:54:17,300
I was saying this could be 
supportive for me to feel, okay,

1876
01:54:17,300 --> 01:54:20,600
to let this go right now, so he 
can walk away. 

1877
01:54:20,600 --> 01:54:24,200
And then I had to do the work of
what am I pulling up? 

1878
01:54:24,200 --> 01:54:28,300
Why am I feeling bad about him? 
What are the pieces that I have 

1879
01:54:28,300 --> 01:54:32,900
really activated in my psyche 
around relationship and around 

1880
01:54:32,900 --> 01:54:34,900
shine? 
And are they true? 

1881
01:54:35,100 --> 01:54:39,100
And a lot of times I could see 
A, they weren't true. 

1882
01:54:39,100 --> 01:54:41,100
And B, I was just in the shit 
anyway. 

1883
01:54:41,100 --> 01:54:45,600
I was feeling bad and our deal 
with each other was if I feel 

1884
01:54:45,600 --> 01:54:49,200
bad about shine leaving his 
socks on the floor which I keep 

1885
01:54:49,200 --> 01:54:51,600
bringing up but it was a real 
thing for me at the beginning of

1886
01:54:51,600 --> 01:54:54,500
a relationship. 
If I feel bad about that, I 

1887
01:54:54,500 --> 01:54:57,000
would check and do. 
I feel bad that good about 

1888
01:54:57,000 --> 01:55:00,500
everything else but just bad 
about this and the answer was 

1889
01:55:00,500 --> 01:55:03,500
100% know. 
I always felt bad about a lot of

1890
01:55:03,500 --> 01:55:06,900
things including the socks, 
which were terrible is so 

1891
01:55:06,900 --> 01:55:09,900
painful. 
But really, I was actually 

1892
01:55:09,900 --> 01:55:12,400
having a bad day and feeling bad
about a lot of things and they 

1893
01:55:12,400 --> 01:55:15,300
were the trigger, were the 
Catalyst or the final straw. 

1894
01:55:15,600 --> 01:55:18,400
So I made myself a deal that I'm
not going to talk to him about 

1895
01:55:18,400 --> 01:55:20,700
the socks until I'm feeling 
really good. 

1896
01:55:20,900 --> 01:55:24,100
And then if it's still a real 
thing then we can like sign said

1897
01:55:24,100 --> 01:55:27,200
we can create some systems and 
here's the laundry basket. 

1898
01:55:27,200 --> 01:55:28,500
I've never heard about the 
socks. 

1899
01:55:28,500 --> 01:55:31,200
So obviously she did a good job 
because I don't remember ever 

1900
01:55:31,200 --> 01:55:33,500
having any conversation or 
knowing about this before 

1901
01:55:33,500 --> 01:55:36,700
tonight and what I found was of 
course when I was in a good 

1902
01:55:36,700 --> 01:55:39,200
place in the Text. 
I got ideas for how to 

1903
01:55:39,200 --> 01:55:41,900
communicate it in a way that 
obviously didn't feel triggering

1904
01:55:41,900 --> 01:55:45,600
or scarring for him, and the 
behavior was able to shift and I

1905
01:55:45,600 --> 01:55:47,700
was able to let go of my 
expectations. 

1906
01:55:48,100 --> 01:55:52,300
So I think that's a piece to to 
keep in mind when you're hunting

1907
01:55:52,300 --> 01:55:54,600
for this relationship where 
you're in the beginning of a 

1908
01:55:54,600 --> 01:55:59,900
relationship to really check all
those red flags and all those 

1909
01:55:59,900 --> 01:56:03,100
warnings of course, you know, 
you might end up on a date with 

1910
01:56:03,100 --> 01:56:06,700
someone who's just a hell? 
No, and that's fine, but check 

1911
01:56:06,800 --> 01:56:09,500
where those are. 
Those red flags real is that is 

1912
01:56:09,500 --> 01:56:12,900
that past, I'm pulling up and 
putting on this person's face. 

1913
01:56:13,100 --> 01:56:16,300
Is it future stuff that I'm 
like, oh they do this? 

1914
01:56:16,300 --> 01:56:18,800
There's no way we can be 
together in ten years if they do

1915
01:56:18,800 --> 01:56:22,100
this, like, just kind of like 
you can make a mental note and 

1916
01:56:22,100 --> 01:56:25,300
you can be like sure I'll 
readapt address this on day 10 

1917
01:56:25,400 --> 01:56:28,300
you know, I can give yourself a 
break like if it's still a thing

1918
01:56:28,300 --> 01:56:31,200
and it still comes up, we can 
talk about it but let there be 

1919
01:56:31,200 --> 01:56:34,300
some space because so much of 
it, we're just picking up from 

1920
01:56:34,300 --> 01:56:37,800
where we left off and especially
if you left off in a bit of Ask 

1921
01:56:37,800 --> 01:56:40,500
which normally we do, because 
that's what ended the 

1922
01:56:40,500 --> 01:56:43,000
relationship. 
You know, give yourself some 

1923
01:56:43,000 --> 01:56:46,200
time to build some Foundation 
where it's comfortable and fun 

1924
01:56:46,200 --> 01:56:50,700
to be with someone before you 
dig in and fix things and change

1925
01:56:50,700 --> 01:56:53,300
things and make sure that you're
completely compatible at the 

1926
01:56:53,300 --> 01:56:58,100
beginning. 
So yeah, I Michelle, thank you 

1927
01:56:58,100 --> 01:57:00,300
so much for being here, for 
being here has really 

1928
01:57:01,000 --> 01:57:02,900
encouraged. 
Thank you so much really great 

1929
01:57:02,900 --> 01:57:04,100
to hear everybody. 
Thank you. 

1930
01:57:04,100 --> 01:57:06,700
Dolphin and really great to use 
well and thanks for everyone 

1931
01:57:06,700 --> 01:57:08,700
else. 
Dating love you shine. 

1932
01:57:08,700 --> 01:57:11,100
And Michelle is one of the 
first. 

1933
01:57:11,300 --> 01:57:15,400
She was one of the first ones in
our new singles group that we 

1934
01:57:15,400 --> 01:57:18,000
have formed. 
And she actually did the thing 

1935
01:57:18,000 --> 01:57:21,100
that we asked everyone in the 
group to do, which is to start 

1936
01:57:21,100 --> 01:57:23,700
putting yourself out there, say 
what you're looking for, say, 

1937
01:57:23,700 --> 01:57:27,500
what you're open to receive, how
you want to connect with people,

1938
01:57:27,700 --> 01:57:30,100
and to start putting yourself 
out there because we love 

1939
01:57:30,100 --> 01:57:33,000
connecting people and that's 
what's really fun for us and we 

1940
01:57:33,000 --> 01:57:34,900
keep coming across people in the
community. 

1941
01:57:34,900 --> 01:57:38,600
So we'd love to hear from you so
that we can Some connections 

1942
01:57:39,100 --> 01:57:40,300
dolphin. 
You go yet? 

1943
01:57:40,300 --> 01:57:42,200
Gonna love you. 
We love you doll. 

1944
01:57:42,200 --> 01:57:44,500
Thank you for being here. 
It can. 

1945
01:57:44,500 --> 01:57:48,800
Yes, can you share with people 
because they've I'm sure enjoyed

1946
01:57:48,800 --> 01:57:54,300
your wisdom, has noticed self. 
Can you tell us and we'll share 

1947
01:57:54,300 --> 01:57:57,500
the links of course but what 
you're offering the relationship

1948
01:57:57,500 --> 01:58:00,000
community and how they can play 
along with you. 

1949
01:58:00,500 --> 01:58:01,800
Mmm. 
Yeah. 

1950
01:58:01,900 --> 01:58:05,800
Relation flicks.com is the 
education platform and and again

1951
01:58:05,800 --> 01:58:08,800
we're just warming up there's 
going To be so much on the 

1952
01:58:08,800 --> 01:58:13,000
platform that is for people 
looking for self awareness, self

1953
01:58:13,000 --> 01:58:15,600
development relationship, 
communication conflict, 

1954
01:58:15,600 --> 01:58:18,300
resolution intimacy development,
like all of that's going to be 

1955
01:58:18,300 --> 01:58:21,100
there and all sorts of forms. 
So go and check out relation. 

1956
01:58:21,100 --> 01:58:25,300
Flicks.com, we have, yeah, we 
have annual plans that are 

1957
01:58:25,300 --> 01:58:29,300
really, really accessible, as 
well as monthly subscription and

1958
01:58:29,500 --> 01:58:31,300
the other side is my personal 
work. 

1959
01:58:31,300 --> 01:58:35,200
Mostly, you'll see me writing on
Facebook and posting on 

1960
01:58:35,200 --> 01:58:39,700
Instagram and on Instagram. 
My link Tree on Instagram. 

1961
01:58:39,900 --> 01:58:44,100
If you want to speak with me 
about working directly with me 

1962
01:58:44,200 --> 01:58:46,900
at the unique offer, right now 
for people that want deep 

1963
01:58:46,900 --> 01:58:50,100
long-term support for 
transformation and sustainably. 

1964
01:58:50,100 --> 01:58:54,600
So just check out my Instagram, 
which is Dolphin Casper with AK?

1965
01:58:55,400 --> 01:58:57,000
They're using to find you 
online. 

1966
01:59:01,200 --> 01:59:03,100
Amazing stuff, everyone 
wondering. 

1967
01:59:03,100 --> 01:59:06,400
Yes that is his real name 
dolphin Casper. 

1968
01:59:06,400 --> 01:59:10,400
Whether hey I love dolphin and 
we really appreciate you and 

1969
01:59:10,400 --> 01:59:13,400
thank you for everything. 
You've really been a huge 

1970
01:59:13,400 --> 01:59:17,500
support to us and United and 
it's just such a such a joy to 

1971
01:59:17,500 --> 01:59:20,000
have you in our lives and 
appreciated, your wisdom. 

1972
01:59:20,000 --> 01:59:23,000
And thank you very much and 
congratulations on semester for 

1973
01:59:23,000 --> 01:59:26,600
everyone, relation flicks. 
So like Netflix, but with for 

1974
01:59:26,600 --> 01:59:30,100
relationships. 
So yeah, it's an amazing space 

1975
01:59:30,100 --> 01:59:33,200
that dolphin is holding for our 
community, so do check it out 

1976
01:59:33,200 --> 01:59:36,200
and reach out if you need help, 
finding the links or getting 

1977
01:59:36,200 --> 01:59:39,500
connected to dolphin and 
Ecstatic to support you with 

1978
01:59:39,500 --> 01:59:42,900
that. 
Well, thank you both. 

1979
01:59:42,900 --> 01:59:44,100
I love you. 
Thanks for having me. 

1980
01:59:44,100 --> 01:59:48,900
I look forward to more and yeah,
we'll be connecting in finding 

1981
01:59:48,900 --> 01:59:50,100
each other more and more as we 
go. 

1982
01:59:50,800 --> 01:59:54,200
I love you so much. 
Send love to your family for us,

1983
01:59:54,200 --> 01:59:56,500
much love. 
Yeah I think you will do. 

1984
01:59:57,500 --> 01:59:58,100
Cheers. 
Thank you. 

1985
01:59:58,100 --> 02:00:00,700
Dolphin. 
Yes, I have a question. 

1986
02:00:01,100 --> 02:00:03,300
I know this. 
You night show is new this 

1987
02:00:03,300 --> 02:00:05,300
month. 
So I was wondering if you might 

1988
02:00:05,300 --> 02:00:09,500
have plans to do or 
Relationships the monthly or 

1989
02:00:09,500 --> 02:00:13,300
every few months or you let us 
know when you're ready to share.

1990
02:00:14,400 --> 02:00:17,900
Yeah, we're definitely feeling 
like there's, of course, million

1991
02:00:17,900 --> 02:00:20,000
subjects that we're excited to 
talk about. 

1992
02:00:20,000 --> 02:00:23,800
So, last week we did Marketing 
in mindfulness which was super 

1993
02:00:23,800 --> 02:00:29,100
fun and really interesting and 
next week we have got talking 

1994
02:00:29,500 --> 02:00:32,000
your Tech questions. 
So bringing your Tech questions 

1995
02:00:32,000 --> 02:00:35,900
to actually our unite Tech Team,
so for people building their 

1996
02:00:36,400 --> 02:00:38,600
websites. 
If they Help with ads any kind 

1997
02:00:38,600 --> 02:00:41,800
of tech questions we really want
to support the community in 

1998
02:00:42,200 --> 02:00:44,600
learning more about that and 
getting the support they need. 

1999
02:00:44,600 --> 02:00:47,800
So that's going to be next week 
when we have lined up after that

2000
02:00:47,800 --> 02:00:50,000
ribbon. 
It's like a vision board kind of

2001
02:00:50,000 --> 02:00:54,100
manifestation by and thought you
know, for New Year's coming up. 

2002
02:00:54,200 --> 02:00:57,200
Yeah, lining up for our new 
year, getting your, you know, 

2003
02:00:57,200 --> 02:01:00,400
your perspective relationships 
on there and being nice and 

2004
02:01:00,400 --> 02:01:03,500
clear. 
So we definitely we don't have 

2005
02:01:03,500 --> 02:01:06,600
yet set like that. 
Every once every month we're 

2006
02:01:06,600 --> 02:01:09,900
going to do a Relationship one, 
but I do think that it feels 

2007
02:01:09,900 --> 02:01:14,600
like it is, we always listen to 
what the community's asking for 

2008
02:01:14,600 --> 02:01:16,300
from us. 
And what we're getting, a lot of

2009
02:01:16,300 --> 02:01:20,800
requests about and relationships
is definitely a high up there. 

2010
02:01:21,000 --> 02:01:24,100
So I do think we're going to be 
cycling in some kind of 

2011
02:01:24,100 --> 02:01:26,500
relationship thing, pretty 
regularly. 

2012
02:01:26,800 --> 02:01:29,800
And then the other piece that we
want to do for anyone who's 

2013
02:01:29,800 --> 02:01:32,500
wants to check out our unite 
singles group. 

2014
02:01:32,500 --> 02:01:34,500
So you can find that on euphy on
Facebook. 

2015
02:01:34,500 --> 02:01:39,100
It's just unite singles and What
we wanted to really do with that

2016
02:01:39,100 --> 02:01:43,500
is start to use it as a little 
bit of a platform for people. 

2017
02:01:43,500 --> 02:01:46,500
Like I said, Michelle already 
did share just a little bit 

2018
02:01:46,500 --> 02:01:49,500
about what she's looking for, 
what she's opened for we want to

2019
02:01:49,500 --> 02:01:52,600
be able to share resources on 
there will of course, share the 

2020
02:01:52,600 --> 02:01:57,200
replay of this call and to start
really finding out what will be 

2021
02:01:57,200 --> 02:02:01,000
useful and valuable for the 
singles in our community and how

2022
02:02:01,000 --> 02:02:04,300
we can support them better and 
definitely if more calls like 

2023
02:02:04,300 --> 02:02:06,800
this are helpful to, you would 
love to hear that there. 

2024
02:02:07,400 --> 02:02:10,300
And then I'm sure we'll probably
get in some polls and things for

2025
02:02:10,300 --> 02:02:16,300
what will be most supportive and
we do as we are in the Vancouver

2026
02:02:16,300 --> 02:02:18,400
Lower Mainland. 
We're also excited to 

2027
02:02:18,500 --> 02:02:22,200
potentially host some meet ups 
as well, and get actually 

2028
02:02:22,400 --> 02:02:25,900
everybody in a room together and
connecting together. 

2029
02:02:25,900 --> 02:02:28,900
And we do have a lot of other 
people in our community who have

2030
02:02:29,000 --> 02:02:33,400
a lot to share on the kind of 
more conscious relationship 

2031
02:02:33,400 --> 02:02:35,200
angle. 
So we'll hopefully be getting 

2032
02:02:35,200 --> 02:02:38,500
some different speakers as well.
Come in and talk. 

2033
02:02:38,500 --> 02:02:42,300
And yeah, yeah. 
All kinds of fun stuff planned. 

2034
02:02:42,800 --> 02:02:44,700
Great. 
And some, I know at the 

2035
02:02:44,700 --> 02:02:48,000
beginning when you started 
recording, you said that you did

2036
02:02:48,000 --> 02:02:51,200
live on Facebook, you do live on
Instagram and then you put this 

2037
02:02:51,200 --> 02:02:53,500
on YouTube as well. 
I'm just wondering where you put

2038
02:02:53,500 --> 02:02:56,500
all the content, exactly, you 
know, the only show that YouTube

2039
02:02:56,500 --> 02:02:59,400
link the most. 
It seems to be a good place to 

2040
02:02:59,800 --> 02:03:01,400
funnel people. 
And then we'll also put it on 

2041
02:03:01,400 --> 02:03:05,800
United and almost of are like, 
channels that can can host this 

2042
02:03:05,800 --> 02:03:08,000
video. 
Yeah, we might take Little clips

2043
02:03:08,000 --> 02:03:09,700
and put them on Tick-Tock or 
whatever. 

2044
02:03:09,800 --> 02:03:12,000
Yeah yeah. 
Okay thank you. 

2045
02:03:12,200 --> 02:03:17,000
Yeah thank you for your kind 
here. 

2046
02:03:17,100 --> 02:03:18,600
Apologies. 
I feel like it was false 

2047
02:03:18,600 --> 02:03:21,200
advertising as we haven't done a
single mingle and don't really 

2048
02:03:21,200 --> 02:03:25,500
know what to do about it. 
Other than if you guys want to 

2049
02:03:25,500 --> 02:03:27,700
show you have an idea. 
Yeah, I was thinking if you guys

2050
02:03:27,700 --> 02:03:29,600
want to share a little bit 
about, you know, who you are, 

2051
02:03:29,600 --> 02:03:32,600
what you're looking for, that 
could be a way to just sort of 

2052
02:03:32,600 --> 02:03:37,000
share. 
And then I have a selfish Unite.

2053
02:03:37,600 --> 02:03:41,200
Question of the end, what I was 
thinking especially because it's

2054
02:03:41,200 --> 02:03:44,500
a bit of a more intimate group 
and it might feel intense for 

2055
02:03:44,500 --> 02:03:47,500
people to be like, hi this is me
and this is what I'm looking 

2056
02:03:47,500 --> 02:03:49,300
for. 
Although we're totally open to 

2057
02:03:49,300 --> 02:03:53,500
hold space for that as well. 
What I would love to use this 

2058
02:03:53,500 --> 02:03:57,800
for is a little bit of a, you 
guys are obviously our Target 

2059
02:03:57,800 --> 02:04:00,600
for this community and who we 
want to support. 

2060
02:04:00,600 --> 02:04:06,300
So like exactly what Melanie was
asking, what would be valuable 

2061
02:04:06,300 --> 02:04:11,300
for you in Being supported by 
unite in your single to 

2062
02:04:11,300 --> 02:04:18,800
non-single journey and also we 
could do a little bit of if you 

2063
02:04:18,800 --> 02:04:21,600
want to what I was thinking. 
If there was more of us and we 

2064
02:04:21,608 --> 02:04:24,400
would do more of a mingle. 
What we would get people to do 

2065
02:04:24,400 --> 02:04:28,800
is just kind of share a little 
bit more informal instead of 

2066
02:04:28,808 --> 02:04:32,100
like this is me what I'm looking
for but kind of like this is 

2067
02:04:32,100 --> 02:04:34,100
what I value, these are my 
values. 

2068
02:04:34,100 --> 02:04:36,300
These are maybe some of my 
mistaken beliefs that I'm 

2069
02:04:36,300 --> 02:04:39,800
working on, I love It was kind 
of just unraveling that so that 

2070
02:04:39,800 --> 02:04:43,200
we can be a little bit of a 
support for each other in this 

2071
02:04:43,200 --> 02:04:45,900
community. 
And I think my intention is that

2072
02:04:45,900 --> 02:04:48,500
that then spills out into the 
group as well. 

2073
02:04:48,800 --> 02:04:53,200
We're in the group were able to 
kind of share that and support 

2074
02:04:53,200 --> 02:04:56,200
each other in that as well, 
where you can say, hey, I'm 

2075
02:04:56,200 --> 02:04:59,100
wanting to start dating but I'm 
feeling nervous about this or 

2076
02:04:59,100 --> 02:05:01,900
that. 
So yeah, that was kind of. 

2077
02:05:01,900 --> 02:05:04,100
Thanks Alice, not but thank you,
Allison. 

2078
02:05:04,100 --> 02:05:06,800
I know we've run a little bit 
long here and we appreciate 

2079
02:05:06,800 --> 02:05:08,800
everyone. 
Coming and maybe we'll just have

2080
02:05:08,800 --> 02:05:13,200
to have a whole mother singles 
event and rally everybody and do

2081
02:05:13,200 --> 02:05:18,500
that again soon. 
Thank you, Alison. 

2082
02:05:19,300 --> 02:05:23,400
I was actually going to share 
this week on the Facebook group,

2083
02:05:23,400 --> 02:05:27,900
but I didn't have time to write 
up what I wanted, but I plan to 

2084
02:05:27,900 --> 02:05:29,900
do that this week. 
So I think I'll just do that 

2085
02:05:29,900 --> 02:05:32,400
instead of sharing here, because
I'm going to be going as well. 

2086
02:05:32,400 --> 02:05:36,300
But amazing, thank you so much 
for being here and we're really 

2087
02:05:36,300 --> 02:05:38,800
excited to keep supporting the 
community. 

2088
02:05:38,800 --> 02:05:43,500
And it feels like this is, yeah,
I'm really I need, and I sure 

2089
02:05:43,500 --> 02:05:46,900
wish there was someone holding 
the space when I A single. 

2090
02:05:46,900 --> 02:05:50,400
So yeah, we're like you found a 
wonderful guys. 

2091
02:05:50,400 --> 02:05:52,500
So work so well. 
Exactly. 

2092
02:05:52,500 --> 02:05:55,100
Well, that's kind of why we 
haven't done a little bit of 

2093
02:05:55,100 --> 02:05:56,900
this. 
In the past is really, we're 

2094
02:05:56,900 --> 02:05:59,700
not, we don't need to, you know,
we're in a relationship. 

2095
02:05:59,700 --> 02:06:01,800
So, you know, what's the point 
of us hosting? 

2096
02:06:01,800 --> 02:06:04,700
Like, singles events and then we
were really getting the message 

2097
02:06:04,700 --> 02:06:07,800
that people are like, hey but we
need like, you know, support and

2098
02:06:07,800 --> 02:06:10,400
inspiration. 
And you guys hold such great 

2099
02:06:10,400 --> 02:06:12,800
space for that. 
So we're like, okay, I guess, 

2100
02:06:13,700 --> 02:06:18,800
yeah, I do have an idea. 
Within the unite, singles group,

2101
02:06:18,800 --> 02:06:23,100
I was thinking that if we want, 
we can kind of host or suggest 

2102
02:06:23,100 --> 02:06:26,300
an event and then we can plan 
ourselves instead of you guys 

2103
02:06:26,800 --> 02:06:29,100
organizing everything because I 
know you guys have lots of 

2104
02:06:29,108 --> 02:06:30,900
groups and lots of things going 
on. 

2105
02:06:30,900 --> 02:06:36,600
So we can initiate ourselves to 
like, create an event and I love

2106
02:06:36,800 --> 02:06:39,000
only support that we on the same
page. 

2107
02:06:39,000 --> 02:06:41,200
That's what we were really 
hoping for is it would kind of 

2108
02:06:41,200 --> 02:06:45,600
be like, hey, I'm going for a 
walk on the beach and does 

2109
02:06:45,600 --> 02:06:47,000
anyone? 
To come. 

2110
02:06:47,000 --> 02:06:51,000
This is my area and that it 
doesn't have to be again, like, 

2111
02:06:51,000 --> 02:06:54,200
oh, you can only come if you're 
a male because I'm female and 

2112
02:06:54,200 --> 02:06:58,500
I'm interested in men that were 
supporting each other. 

2113
02:06:58,500 --> 02:07:02,600
You guys are supporting each 
other in having these, you know,

2114
02:07:02,600 --> 02:07:04,500
like, okay, we'll go for a walk 
and it's going to be with a 

2115
02:07:04,508 --> 02:07:06,900
couple other women, but we're 
all going to talk about 

2116
02:07:07,000 --> 02:07:09,600
conscious relationships and what
we're attracting and bring that 

2117
02:07:09,600 --> 02:07:12,600
mindfulness to it and support 
each other and changing our 

2118
02:07:12,600 --> 02:07:14,600
beliefs, and that it doesn't 
have to be. 

2119
02:07:14,600 --> 02:07:17,700
Oh, they're just dates or It's 
just meeting up with people that

2120
02:07:17,700 --> 02:07:21,100
I'm interested in because like 
we were talking about earlier 

2121
02:07:21,400 --> 02:07:26,000
on, we need to what really 
supports Us in attracting the 

2122
02:07:26,000 --> 02:07:28,600
relationships that we're looking
for is putting ourselves around 

2123
02:07:28,600 --> 02:07:30,500
people that believe it's 
possible to. 

2124
02:07:30,500 --> 02:07:34,100
So yeah, I just having a 
discussion on relations 

2125
02:07:34,100 --> 02:07:36,300
relationships. 
Yeah, yeah. 

2126
02:07:36,400 --> 02:07:39,300
Having a fun event like going 
bowling or going to a restaurant

2127
02:07:39,300 --> 02:07:41,600
or like something fun. 
I feel like that's where I've 

2128
02:07:41,600 --> 02:07:46,100
met most of my people that I've 
been become intimate with this. 

2129
02:07:46,300 --> 02:07:49,200
Like events and parties have 
been doing fun things. 

2130
02:07:49,200 --> 02:07:53,000
I've never, I've literally never
gone on a date that I like just 

2131
02:07:53,000 --> 02:07:55,700
where I like dating app or 
you're like, oh let's go on a 

2132
02:07:55,708 --> 02:07:59,000
day like I always just meet 
people through things and yeah 

2133
02:07:59,000 --> 02:08:02,500
just kind of happens. 
So yeah it's that's that's cool 

2134
02:08:03,700 --> 02:08:07,600
no don't feel like you're 
stepping on any toes step on in.

2135
02:08:07,700 --> 02:08:10,900
Oh yeah suggest create events 
for the group to you feel like 

2136
02:08:10,900 --> 02:08:14,000
yeah we're going to go to this 
restaurant, you know, when works

2137
02:08:14,000 --> 02:08:16,100
for everyone or I'm you know I'm
going home later. 

2138
02:08:16,200 --> 02:08:18,600
Excuse darling. 
Once you start it will pump, it 

2139
02:08:18,600 --> 02:08:21,900
will will keep on will invite 
people and we'll get it going. 

2140
02:08:21,900 --> 02:08:24,700
Yeah. 
But I'll be more than glad to be

2141
02:08:24,700 --> 02:08:29,100
a Corgan iser, because I do have
experience in organizing events 

2142
02:08:29,600 --> 02:08:32,200
back when I used to do meet up 
perfect. 

2143
02:08:32,200 --> 02:08:35,400
Well, I'd love to coordinate to 
have Melanie if she's open to 

2144
02:08:35,400 --> 02:08:38,100
that as well. 
Amazing, amazing. 

2145
02:08:38,100 --> 02:08:40,200
Now, we're talking so good. 
I love it. 

2146
02:08:40,200 --> 02:08:43,700
You guys will be our two core 
coordinators and we will 

2147
02:08:43,700 --> 02:08:46,100
coordinate with you and we'll 
get some stuff happening. 

2148
02:08:46,200 --> 02:08:49,200
Inning. 
Yeah, yeah, I love it into that 

2149
02:08:49,200 --> 02:08:51,000
Melanie. 
Are you open to that suggestion?

2150
02:08:53,000 --> 02:08:55,200
She might have stepped away, 
shut us up to it. 

2151
02:08:55,300 --> 02:08:58,700
All right, how are you doing? 
Nazar, do you have anything you 

2152
02:08:58,700 --> 02:09:02,700
want to share before? 
We not really just the app 

2153
02:09:02,700 --> 02:09:05,700
thing, you know, it's the 
Android build is about to be 

2154
02:09:05,700 --> 02:09:09,100
launched this one tomorrow, if 
not next week, the latest. 

2155
02:09:09,100 --> 02:09:11,000
And what's that, what's the 
elevator pitch? 

2156
02:09:12,000 --> 02:09:14,500
The pitch for a space Village? 
Yes. 

2157
02:09:14,500 --> 02:09:18,500
Yeah, well yeah, that's simple. 
Its platform or Property Owners,

2158
02:09:18,500 --> 02:09:21,600
you know, an event planners can 
connect because I've been 

2159
02:09:22,600 --> 02:09:25,500
looking for, you know, places to
rent to host events and 

2160
02:09:25,500 --> 02:09:27,900
property. 
Do you know think of a new 

2161
02:09:27,900 --> 02:09:29,200
Marketplace? 
Yeah. 

2162
02:09:29,200 --> 02:09:31,900
Because real estate, you know, 
it's not working anymore. 

2163
02:09:31,900 --> 02:09:34,700
So now that's fantastic. 
That's a great idea. 

2164
02:09:34,700 --> 02:09:37,400
So we will know, all the good 
places to host a singles meet 

2165
02:09:37,400 --> 02:09:37,900
up. 
It. 

2166
02:09:38,200 --> 02:09:43,900
Yeah, well, we'll get there. 
That's that, that sounds really.

2167
02:09:43,900 --> 02:09:46,400
That sounds really cool. 
If your intention with it is to 

2168
02:09:46,400 --> 02:09:50,500
maybe one day, sell it, we might
buy it. 

2169
02:09:51,700 --> 02:09:53,800
We're going to want to build 
something similar. 

2170
02:09:53,800 --> 02:09:57,000
So yes, I'm using, you know, 
Club advisor platform. 

2171
02:09:57,000 --> 02:09:59,400
It's a really unique platform, 
word, censorship free. 

2172
02:09:59,400 --> 02:10:01,200
So this is the big Beauty, 
right? 

2173
02:10:01,200 --> 02:10:03,600
No data mining being sold to 
third parties. 

2174
02:10:03,600 --> 02:10:07,100
Not nothing like that. 
So cool, and congratulations. 

2175
02:10:07,100 --> 02:10:08,800
Good for him. 
I'm really happy for you. 

2176
02:10:09,200 --> 02:10:12,800
Yeah, whoo. 
Yeah, signing and he while 

2177
02:10:12,800 --> 02:10:16,700
you're while you're here and we 
have you any thing that you 

2178
02:10:17,300 --> 02:10:20,600
would like support with either 
personally professionally and 

2179
02:10:20,600 --> 02:10:25,300
also Is there anything that 
you've seen on you from unite or

2180
02:10:25,300 --> 02:10:29,700
us on social or email? 
But also on the platform itself 

2181
02:10:29,900 --> 02:10:32,600
that you were like, oh, this 
isn't working or this could be 

2182
02:10:32,600 --> 02:10:36,300
better, or I'd rather I want 
this Builder is just I'm just 

2183
02:10:36,300 --> 02:10:39,600
looking for General General 
feedback, right. 

2184
02:10:39,600 --> 02:10:43,900
I honestly have been very busy 
with, you know, like the app and

2185
02:10:43,900 --> 02:10:47,600
everything, so I didn't really 
do a thorough check on over 

2186
02:10:47,600 --> 02:10:49,200
unite, but I'll definitely do 
that. 

2187
02:10:49,200 --> 02:10:53,100
But I think, in my opinion, And 
I think they're, it's offering a

2188
02:10:53,100 --> 02:10:54,900
bit too much, so one can get 
lost. 

2189
02:10:54,900 --> 02:10:59,200
So we can have it more focused. 
I think it would make it easier.

2190
02:10:59,300 --> 02:11:02,700
That's the, you know, the, you 
know, the very, you know, 

2191
02:11:02,900 --> 02:11:06,200
surface level, you know, opinion
until I dig deeper and give you 

2192
02:11:06,200 --> 02:11:08,900
a proper flutter, got it. 
Are you talking about the app or

2193
02:11:08,900 --> 02:11:12,400
just unite social in general? 
I think you like, social in 

2194
02:11:12,400 --> 02:11:15,400
general. 
It's like it's doing so many 

2195
02:11:15,400 --> 02:11:17,400
things that gets confused, a lot
going on. 

2196
02:11:17,700 --> 02:11:21,100
Exactly, okay, cool. 
Yeah, that's great feedback. 

2197
02:11:21,300 --> 02:11:23,800
Back. 
We're definitely thinking about 

2198
02:11:23,800 --> 02:11:27,100
that. 
Yeah, awesome brother, lovely to

2199
02:11:27,100 --> 02:11:29,400
connect with. 
You biting me this was great and

2200
02:11:29,400 --> 02:11:32,100
looking forward, you know, to 
seeing how we can create the 

2201
02:11:32,100 --> 02:11:34,300
next event or co-organized next 
event. 

2202
02:11:34,600 --> 02:11:39,300
Yeah, we actually don't have a 
meet-up yet so if you want to 

2203
02:11:40,600 --> 02:11:42,000
Not or not, we don't know how to
use it yet. 

2204
02:11:42,000 --> 02:11:45,500
So yeah, I would learn and 
create a United meet up here and

2205
02:11:46,700 --> 02:11:49,900
look into that. 
But maybe we'll be using space 

2206
02:11:49,900 --> 02:11:52,200
villager pants instead, right? 
Because that's perfect. 

2207
02:11:52,400 --> 02:11:57,600
Yeah, that's right, Android. 
Build, this is out there, I'll 

2208
02:11:57,600 --> 02:12:00,200
definitely reach out to you and 
see how we can utilize it. 

2209
02:12:00,200 --> 02:12:02,900
And have some kind of 
partnership or collaboration, 

2210
02:12:02,900 --> 02:12:05,800
you know, of unite and see how 
broken value to each other. 

2211
02:12:06,100 --> 02:12:08,300
That sounds great. 
Yay, hello ma'am. 

2212
02:12:08,300 --> 02:12:11,300
Really, really nice to connect 
here and Appreciate you and what

2213
02:12:11,300 --> 02:12:14,200
you're doing in the world and we
will connect soon. 

2214
02:12:14,300 --> 02:12:17,400
Yeah, have a good night. 
Tell me go.