1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:04,280 Hi, I just did a shot of tequila because I'm doing a solo episode 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:08,280 improv and completely unplanned and I'm still getting used to 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:12,320 liking this feeling of staring into a camera and saying things 4 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:15,120 to myself for an hour. So bear with me. 5 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:19,200 But I thought today we could talk about getting your spark 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:22,920 back. I have lost my spark many many 7 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:24,560 times. So many different things can 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:29,400 cause you to get in a rut and lose your spark and ultimately 9 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:31,160 kind of feel like you've lost yourself. 10 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:33,680 And I just want to talk about how to get out of that, how to 11 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:37,040 get your fucking spark back, OK. Because we don't have time to 12 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:39,320 walk around dim and sad. We don't. 13 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,320 We have a short lifespan that's bumming me out. 14 00:00:43,160 --> 00:00:45,880 I don't want to talk about short lifespan. 15 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,920 So the tequila is kicking in. OK, But I've talked about this a 16 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,640 couple of times. The thing that really gets me, 17 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:56,160 not like that it gets my spark back but motivates me to get my 18 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,920 spark back, is the fact that it really is finite. 19 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:01,720 We don't know what's going to happen tomorrow and like best 20 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,360 case scenario, we're living until old age and going 21 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,200 peacefully in our sleep. I can't. 22 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:13,120 But this got so morbid so fast. And so I think about how we need 23 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,200 to be more in the moment, more present, more grateful, because 24 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,600 right now we are filled with youth and we should be 25 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:22,040 vivacious, OK? We shouldn't be walking around 26 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,040 with no spark. Nobody has the time. 27 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:25,920 Sorry for that. Like, morbid rant. 28 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:27,960 I don't know if I should be doing solo episodes. 29 00:01:27,960 --> 00:01:29,760 Was that scary? Should I redo that? 30 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,160 All right, here's an alternative intro in case I change it. 31 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,120 No, you know what? I got to stay true to my 32 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:35,720 original thoughts. It was morbid. 33 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:37,640 It is what it is. That's how I feel about it. 34 00:01:37,960 --> 00:01:41,760 We're going to move on. OK, the first part and the worst 35 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,120 part of figuring out how to get your spark back. 36 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,040 What do you call it? A spark or a sparkle, A light. 37 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:49,960 This is how I know that things are in alignment. 38 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:51,360 I don't know if you guys heard Angelito. 39 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,120 It was producing everything always and is incredible. 40 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,400 He just said that the people before me, they were bravo 41 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:59,800 people and that someone asked her, did you get your sparkle 42 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:01,520 back? I came up with this topic like 43 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,440 20 minutes before I filmed and now I feel like I feel good 44 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,680 about it. OK, so the first part of getting 45 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,919 your sparkle, your spark back, your light, whatever it is, is 46 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,120 you're going to have to take a real hard look. 47 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:16,440 And I know this sounds obvious, but it's something that we avoid 48 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,800 at what the fuck caused it to go away in the 1st place? 49 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,240 What snuffed your flame? It can be a pervasive thing 50 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,320 that's still going on and you're going to have to address 51 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:29,480 whatever it is and cut it out. For me, the last time I lost my 52 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:33,200 spark, let me think, Oh my God, I've lost my spark so many times 53 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,560 in the last two years. I actually have a scenario for 54 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,400 each category. The last time I lost my spark 55 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,960 was in a relationship that just like was not doing it for me. 56 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:44,880 It took me a long time to let go of. 57 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:48,800 I didn't want to face the fear of the unknown that was on the 58 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:51,000 other side. And I did not get my spark back 59 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,320 until I made a very hard decision to leave a long term 60 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:55,640 relationship. It sucked. 61 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:57,880 But then I very quickly got my spark back. 62 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:00,480 I think I said on the Amy Chan episode, like I feel like I've 63 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,840 been freed from a basement. I see the light. 64 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,240 I'm now frolicking through a field of daisies. 65 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:08,080 And it's not because of him or because of the relationship. 66 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,520 It was just that it wasn't what was meant for me. 67 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,520 It wasn't aligning with me. And because of that, I was 68 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:18,240 existing in a world that felt false, that felt fake. 69 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:22,040 I was waking up and I was going through the emotions every day 70 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,720 because I didn't want to deal with the switch up. 71 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,280 And because of that, I started to lose myself. 72 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:32,400 Like you can feel that feeling inside when you start making 73 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,880 decisions consistently that no longer align with what your soul 74 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,200 like, really wants and feels is right. 75 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:41,720 And we do that because we crave comfort and the unknown is scary 76 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:43,720 and we don't know what the unknown's going to feel like, 77 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:47,080 but we know this feels OK. But we're losing ourselves in 78 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,240 the process. The time before that I lost my 79 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:54,440 spark because I went through a really like dramatic career 80 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:59,320 thing and I was like, oh, I don't know what to do in this 81 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,280 scenario. And I lost something that I was 82 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,080 like very, very proud of and that I put so much effort and 83 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,360 work into, but it wasn't aligning with me. 84 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:13,040 Again, the same pattern every day I was showing up and forcing 85 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:17,760 something that wasn't sitting right with me to continue on 86 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,880 because it was afraid of the unknown and what would be next 87 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,320 and how everything would go. And I think the same thing 88 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,000 happened to me in other scenarios with my career where I 89 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,960 worked for somebody for a company that I no longer enjoyed 90 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:30,560 the format that was going on there. 91 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,320 Like I had way too much work on my plate and my salary wasn't 92 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:36,880 high enough or I didn't love my boss and how tumultuous that 93 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:39,040 felt because we never knew what we were going to get when she 94 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,680 showed up. There's been so many scenarios 95 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,400 where that has absolutely zipped my spark away. 96 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:46,560 A career change is arguably a lot harder to make than a 97 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,400 relationship change because it dictates your finances, which, 98 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,240 you know, changes everything in your life. 99 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,680 But once you make that change and you start doing what you're 100 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:58,080 passionate about in a way that you feel like fulfilled and free 101 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,080 buy it is a day and night difference. 102 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,280 OK. And your situation also, by the 103 00:05:04,280 --> 00:05:08,080 way, and in any category here, if we're talking about romantic 104 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:11,320 or career or friendships or family or whatever it is, 105 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,840 whatever's dulling your spark, your sparkle, it doesn't have to 106 00:05:14,840 --> 00:05:17,960 be bad. It can be a scenario where 107 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,800 everything's just OK, but it's not great. 108 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:24,880 I think that that's the number one cause of this spark being 109 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,400 dimmed is that we settle for things that are OK because we're 110 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,560 afraid to go looking for what is great. 111 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:34,680 We're on a floating space rock, you guys, we're in the middle of 112 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:37,400 a Galaxy that is a speck amongst others. 113 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:42,000 It's just, it's too much. And it's also absurd, in my 114 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:46,640 opinion, to not try to aim for what you really want and desire. 115 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,040 I used to listen to this commencement speech, the Jim 116 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:52,400 Carrey hot topic right now. Jim Carrey did all the time when 117 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:54,800 I was scared. And what he says in it was that 118 00:05:54,800 --> 00:06:00,040 his father was a great comedian, but he was so afraid to fail 119 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,040 being a comedian and not be able to support his family that he 120 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,120 got a job doing what he thought was safe. 121 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:09,840 He got a job as an accountant and one day he was laid off from 122 00:06:09,840 --> 00:06:13,480 his job that he didn't fucking like as an accountant and he 123 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:15,400 lost everything. And he couldn't support his 124 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,840 family, which was the outcome that he feared about pursuing 125 00:06:18,840 --> 00:06:21,240 being a comedian. And it happened anyway. 126 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,040 So you might as well go after what you love and what you 127 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,760 really want to do because you can fail at what you don't want. 128 00:06:26,840 --> 00:06:30,120 Also harsh harsh reality. But like, you can literally fail 129 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:34,120 at the mediocre. Safe choice too is super cool in 130 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:36,560 that way. He also wrote a $10 million 131 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:40,320 check for himself in the memo he wrote for acting services 132 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:41,880 rendered. And he used to carry it around 133 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:45,080 in his wallet every day and he would visualize he was like 134 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:48,440 visually manifesting someone handing it to him and giving him 135 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:50,240 accolades for his acting performances. 136 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:53,600 I think it was the Dumb and Dumber franchise. 137 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,360 He got paid $10 million a couple years later. 138 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,320 So he's just like an interesting case study. 139 00:06:58,320 --> 00:06:59,720 But I love that commencement speech. 140 00:06:59,840 --> 00:07:02,080 You should listen to it. I think if you're struggling to 141 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:04,880 make a career move, it is a super valid point to be like, 142 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:09,280 OK, I can fail at what I think is safe, so let me try to go 143 00:07:09,280 --> 00:07:12,160 after what I love to do and give that a shot anyway. 144 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:14,160 I implore you to do that, especially when you're 20. 145 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:19,760 It's like, get out there, OK, Then we have other ways to dumb 146 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,680 ways to die, million ways to lose your sparkle. 147 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:25,800 We have family. If you have a great family, you 148 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:29,000 are wealthy, you are so lucky. If you have a dysfunctional 149 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:33,560 family, which I think majority of people experience in some way 150 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,160 or another, then you probably know what it's like to lose your 151 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:39,840 sparkle because some crazy instance has occurred. 152 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,640 Somebody said something to you, somebody's done something, 153 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:45,040 someone's called you out. I had someone write in like 2 154 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,000 episodes ago about how every time they talk to their mom, 155 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,760 even though they were like 25, successful, doing well, had a 156 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:53,520 great job, they were proud of themselves. 157 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:56,160 Their mom made them feel terrible about about themselves. 158 00:07:56,480 --> 00:08:00,480 She'd make comments about her weight or how she wasn't doing 159 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,800 enough in her career. She just always came away 160 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:05,200 feeling like she wasn't enough for like she was never going to 161 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:09,640 get praise from her mom. And I think that's not uncommon 162 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:13,280 to feel from a parent or from an elder in your family. 163 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:16,960 It can really dull your sparkle. As you guys know, I, I don't 164 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,080 stay in contact with my dad or his side of the family and 165 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:23,480 that's new for me. I grew up with a dad and then 166 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,880 that happened when I was 25. When you set boundaries that 167 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,920 need to be set and you work with therapists to do it and you 168 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:34,000 process and you get through the transition period of that, you 169 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,320 do get your spark back. Whether that means just like 170 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:39,039 setting a boundary and not talking to them as much or like 171 00:08:39,039 --> 00:08:41,880 saying, hey, let's not talk about my weight or my career or 172 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,760 my love life or whatever. Or, you know, it's an extreme 173 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,040 scenario like I found myself in where you have to set such a 174 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:50,080 strong boundary that you don't speak anymore. 175 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,640 There's a way to find your way back to yourself after 176 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:57,120 experiencing something like that and feel good again. 177 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,960 Dealing with dysfunctional families is not really talked 178 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,560 about that often, and it's almost like a little taboo to 179 00:09:03,560 --> 00:09:05,560 address. So I'm happy to do it because I 180 00:09:05,560 --> 00:09:06,880 think we need to be talking about it. 181 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,200 Oprah just did an episode recently, and it was just full 182 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:12,800 of people who no longer speak to certain members of their family. 183 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:16,080 And it was kids and parents and aunts and uncles and sisters and 184 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,120 brothers. It's more widespread and 185 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:19,320 happening more often than we know. 186 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,520 Like I also get DMS from you guys all the time sharing that 187 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:25,120 experience with me that you guys go through it too. 188 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:29,400 So just know that like, that is one of the quickest ways to lose 189 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,400 your spark, but it's not impossible to get it back. 190 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:34,360 And then of course, friendships. Friendship breakups suck. 191 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,160 They almost suck worse than romantic relationships. 192 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,400 There's no way around that. When you build a strong platonic 193 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:44,960 friendship with somebody and you lose that, it feels like losing 194 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,720 a sibling, at least for me. I'm an only child, so I 195 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,040 developed very strong relationships with my best 196 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:51,360 friends. I've known most of my friends 197 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:52,840 for decades. We've been best friends for 198 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:56,520 decades, and if I lose one of them, which I've had happen, 199 00:09:56,560 --> 00:09:59,000 it's devastating. It will absolutely cause you to 200 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:00,880 lose your spark in the same way that a breakup would. 201 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,960 Now that we've addressed the root cause, the root causes, we 202 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:09,240 need to address the fact that you are not going to be able to 203 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:11,680 get your spark back where you lost it. 204 00:10:11,680 --> 00:10:15,000 You cannot heal in the environment that exhausted you. 205 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:18,320 Your Spark very rarely returns in the same place where it 206 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,440 disappeared. As challenging as it is to make 207 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,200 a large change in your life surrounding romantic 208 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:28,400 relationships, family, friends, career, if you want to get your 209 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:31,000 spark back and glow again, you have to do it. 210 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,120 The rest of this episode is only going to be beneficial to you if 211 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,200 you go ahead and you make the hard choice and you get rid of 212 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,880 the thing that is doling you. How to do that is another topic, 213 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:45,360 and I've got probably 50 episodes on that by now, so just 214 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,320 flip through the catalog and find one that is relevant to 215 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,360 whatever you're going through. But I talk about that sort of 216 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,640 thing very often. So let's get past that and let's 217 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,880 talk about how to actually get the damn spark back, OK? 218 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:59,400 Of course, you're going to have to acknowledge the grief and the 219 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:03,560 sadness that come when you make such large changes in life. 220 00:11:03,560 --> 00:11:06,080 Let's even Fast forward past that a little bit, OK? 221 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:09,320 Past the point of letting go, past the point of processing. 222 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:13,000 It's going to start small. Usually when I start to get my 223 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,560 spark back, I realize it in a moment where I'm like belly 224 00:11:16,560 --> 00:11:18,440 laughing for the first time in a long time. 225 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:21,720 One of those things really, like I'm getting apps right now, or 226 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:25,760 it comes in a moment where you spend a little extra time 227 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,320 getting ready before you go somewhere and you're like, you 228 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,360 know, what the fuck was I sad about? 229 00:11:30,680 --> 00:11:34,840 I look good, I feel good. Put on a song that makes you 230 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:38,400 feel really good for me as a song from the 70s will do it for 231 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:40,600 me. I've been listening to Ring My 232 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:43,760 Bell every day and dancing to it. 233 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:47,160 Like pick a song that makes you want to get up and do something 234 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:50,000 and dance a little bit around your room like Britney Spears. 235 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,640 If you guys have ever seen Crossroads, we need that energy. 236 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:57,480 Like there's genuinely something healing about dancing in a big 237 00:11:57,480 --> 00:12:00,200 T-shirt with a hair brush microphone around your room in 238 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,040 the mirror. This is going to sound woo woo, 239 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:04,440 but it literally changes your energy. 240 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,680 Like you're operating at a higher frequency, You're 241 00:12:06,680 --> 00:12:09,760 happier, You're releasing serotonin, you're releasing 242 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:13,720 dopamine leaky scientifically to getting your spark back, there's 243 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:16,240 many ways to do it. These are all the annoying tips 244 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:19,520 that you hear where you're like, OK, like I have to journal and 245 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:22,200 workout and leave my house and get ready. 246 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:25,920 Yes of course you have to do all of those things, but I think if 247 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:28,800 you want to speed run getting your spark back every single 248 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:32,480 day, force yourself to dance and jump around to a song that gets 249 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:34,160 you going. Secondary benefit there, if 250 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:35,680 you're dancing and jumping around, you're getting a little 251 00:12:35,680 --> 00:12:37,640 lymphatic drainage in the morning, you're going to feel 252 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:39,840 better already. I also think you can shock 253 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:43,320 yourself out of feeling like shit with an ice roller. 254 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,760 Like order one off of Amazon, put spoons in your freezer, or 255 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:49,440 just dunk your head and ice water. 256 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,160 I was taught a long time ago by my therapist is if I'm having a 257 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:54,840 panic attack, like you need to touch something cold, it'll snap 258 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,680 your nervous system out of it. And so even if you're not having 259 00:12:57,680 --> 00:13:01,120 a panic attack, but you're just feeling kind of blah in a funk, 260 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:02,640 shock yourself out of it in the morning. 261 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:05,880 As a matter of fact, like a fun little combo to do is play the 262 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:08,520 song, dance around and you're waiting for your coffee, your 263 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:10,200 macho, whatever you're making in the morning. 264 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:13,240 And then put something cold on your face, under your eyes. 265 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:16,520 But your spark is usually going to come back quietly in little 266 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:19,360 tiny ways before it shows up loudly in full force. 267 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:22,480 The next thing that you're going to want to do is start getting 268 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,720 ready in the morning everyday. I hate it. 269 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:28,560 I don't like doing it myself, especially when I'm in a slump. 270 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:32,200 I want to have no makeup on. If anything, I want to focus on 271 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:34,240 skin care, if I even have it in me to do that. 272 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:36,120 I want my hair in a bun. I don't want to give a fuck 273 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:38,160 about it. I want to wear sweatpants and a 274 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:41,880 tank top, and I want to throw on sunglasses or a hat if I have to 275 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:43,360 go into public and call it a day. 276 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,760 But that's not going to make you feel good about yourself. 277 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:49,480 You're going to feel better when you look in a mirror and you 278 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:51,640 feel good about the way that you look. 279 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,160 Unless you're somebody who genuinely like you look in the 280 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:57,560 mirror and you're like, I feel better now than I do when I'm 281 00:13:57,560 --> 00:14:01,080 done up, then so be it. Whatever it is to your 282 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:02,960 appearance that makes you feel better. 283 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,320 So I'm not saying it needs to be doing your hair or your makeup 284 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:09,440 like whenever you feel your most beautiful, do that every day in 285 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:11,320 the morning. There's actually something 286 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:15,120 called enclothed cognition. The clothes that you wear can 287 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:17,000 influence your mental state and behavior. 288 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,080 So a famous study at Northwestern University found 289 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:22,640 that when people that wore clothing, they associated with 290 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,120 competence like a lab. So there's another thing we need 291 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,800 to all put on fucking lap in the morning, have their focus and 292 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:31,800 confidence improve. Doing your hair or your makeup 293 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:35,840 or dressing for the part that you want can actually shift your 294 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:38,920 mindset and your perception, not just your appearance. 295 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:42,400 The brain responds to signals and when you start showing up 296 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,920 looking put together, the brain starts believing that you are 297 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,120 and that your life is. And sometimes you got to fake it 298 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:51,400 till you make it. OK, and also routines, which is 299 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:54,560 why I keep saying like every day, let's start a routine has 300 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,480 been shown to lower stress and stabilize your mood. 301 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:01,320 And so part of why people feel calmer during beauty routines is 302 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:03,480 because your nervous system is telling you that you're safe 303 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:05,280 again. So if you're someone who gets to 304 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:08,600 sit down with no time limit and a fun playlist and maybe a glass 305 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,320 of wine and do your makeup for a couple of hours before you go 306 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:14,560 out and you're like, why was that more fun than the actual 307 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,720 going out act itself? It's because your brain was like 308 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:20,560 plummeting your cortisol and you were relaxed and entering like a 309 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:22,600 meditative Zen mode while you're doing it. 310 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:25,440 Little rituals like that I think are good to have. 311 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,800 It doesn't have to be getting ready or getting dressed up 312 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,720 again. If you feel better on natural, 313 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:34,200 like wonderful easier. But I do think that there's 314 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:38,200 something behind dressing for the life that you want and 315 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:39,600 getting ready for the life that you want. 316 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:42,720 There's also something called the facial feedback hypothesis. 317 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,640 OK, so it shows that your facial expressions influence your 318 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,640 emotions. And so when people see 319 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:50,320 themselves looking more polished or smiling in the mirror, you 320 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:52,800 can actually influence their mood and self perception. 321 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:56,160 So looking happier can make you feel happier. 322 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:58,440 Your brain partially believes what it sees in the mirror. 323 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,240 Psychologists talk about identity signaling, which is the 324 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:05,880 idea that your actions reinforce your belief of who you are. 325 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:08,480 When you take care of yourself, it quietly teaches your brain 326 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,400 how much you matter to you. OK, the next thing you're going 327 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:13,920 to do is your physical environment. 328 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,960 You're going to change it. Your environment either drains 329 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:19,960 your energy or it feeds it. And sometimes the quickest way 330 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:23,080 to change your mindset is to change your environment. 331 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:26,520 And not all of us can just like up and move and switch homes. 332 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:29,760 So the next best thing is like redecorating in whatever way 333 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:33,240 that you can change something. Painting a wall, moving a couch, 334 00:16:33,240 --> 00:16:37,200 changing the layout of your bedroom, getting fresh bedding. 335 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:39,800 If you're going through a breakup, throw out your sheets, 336 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,640 get new ones, Go get flowers. Literally like go to Trader 337 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:47,160 Joe's and get $10 flowers. Whatever it is that you can do, 338 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:50,520 change something, Change the flow of the room. 339 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:52,920 The rug that was in the living room, it's in the bedroom. 340 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:54,920 The dining room chair is an accent chair now. 341 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:59,520 Like switch shit up because it changes the energy in your 342 00:16:59,520 --> 00:17:01,360 apartment. And when you are in a rut and 343 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:04,040 your light has been dimmed, things are stagnant. 344 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:08,400 So you need to get it moving. You got to switch something up. 345 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:12,079 You want to get real into it, do some Feng shui, figure out the 346 00:17:12,079 --> 00:17:13,599 way that things should be flowing. 347 00:17:13,599 --> 00:17:16,760 My aunt likes to do that, and her space feels great. 348 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:20,400 Maybe Marie Kondo, you also don't just have to redecorate. 349 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:25,079 Like, when I'm in a rut, I start reorganizing everything. 350 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:28,760 I am someone who, like, needs an organized space to be able to 351 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,040 think clearly. And not everybody's like that, 352 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:34,480 but like go through your stuff. What do you need? 353 00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,400 What is sparking joy? I just recently went through my 354 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:40,320 entire closet because whenever I went into my closet when I was 355 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:43,480 in my little rut, when my light was gone, I wasn't inspired 356 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,880 because I was seeing a bunch of stuff that no longer felt like 357 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:49,200 me that I didn't like anymore. I didn't go on a shopping spree. 358 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:50,520 I didn't get a whole new wardrobe. 359 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:53,560 I just eliminated things that when I saw them, I didn't feel 360 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:55,120 good. Now when I go to my closet at 361 00:17:55,120 --> 00:17:57,320 least I just see a bunch of pieces that I like. 362 00:17:57,600 --> 00:18:00,600 Even if I I've worn the same outfit to film like 9 times. 363 00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:03,600 I've Steve Jobs. This it's my uniform now and I'm 364 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:06,080 fine with that. When I open up my bathroom 365 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,680 drawer and everything was a disaster. 366 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:11,480 I dumped it all out and I organized it because at least it 367 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,400 I feel like I'm in control. This is maybe just like a little 368 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:18,160 OCD, but of the way that things are appearing in my life, in my 369 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:21,080 space aesthetically. So now when I open it up, I see 370 00:18:21,080 --> 00:18:23,120 my brush, my toothpaste, my deodorant, whatever. 371 00:18:23,160 --> 00:18:24,840 It's so much better than just a mess. 372 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:28,480 Maybe this is just personal. Maybe it will help you clean up 373 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,440 the little things that you can control now. 374 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,320 It'll also give you a project to take your mind off of, like 375 00:18:33,320 --> 00:18:35,160 whatever it is that's upsetting you in some way. 376 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:37,880 For like a week, start going through every drawer spring 377 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:38,920 clean. It's spring. 378 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:42,640 I do think feeling like your shit is together is a part of 379 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:45,960 getting your spark back. So fixing your space, your safe 380 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:48,560 space, your home to feel like somewhere that you're excited to 381 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:52,320 be is a huge part of it. And then, I mean, this goes back 382 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:53,680 to kind of like getting ready in the morning. 383 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:56,560 We're going to change something about the way we look, like a 384 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,320 core thing about the way we look. 385 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:00,280 People do this anyway when they're going through breakups, 386 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:04,200 but it helps you feel the shift into a new chapter. 387 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,520 Like sometimes you'll hear actors say. 388 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:10,480 I think Grace Van Patten from Tell Me Lies said that she dyed 389 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,680 her hair a different color than her character Lucy, because she 390 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:17,680 needed to, when she looked in the mirror, see herself and not 391 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:19,960 Lucy. You don't have to be an actress 392 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,800 to use that tool. When you see yourself in the 393 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:25,640 mirror, you see this chapter of your life as as something you're 394 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,400 still in. So let's say I have long hair. 395 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,680 I just went through like a crazy year. 396 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:32,760 I feel like I've lost my spark now. 397 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,120 I'm going to cut it to here. Now I'm in a new chapter. 398 00:19:35,120 --> 00:19:37,480 Everything in my camera roll is a new era. 399 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,400 I'm not I'm not looking at things the same. 400 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,240 It's like literally turning the page. 401 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:44,400 Last time I did this, Here's a hot tip. 402 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,080 Instead of cutting my hair, which I used to always do, I'd 403 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:48,920 like get a Bob or something insane. 404 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:50,640 I extended it. I got extensions. 405 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:53,120 I think that's better because if I want short hair again, I can 406 00:19:53,120 --> 00:19:54,880 just take it out. If you're someone who likes to 407 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:58,360 go chop their hair off and then like regrets it got extensions, 408 00:19:58,360 --> 00:20:01,800 change the hair color, change your makeup routine. 409 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:04,520 If you haven't worn eyeliner in years, try out a wing. 410 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:06,960 If you've been wearing winged all the time, stop doing it. 411 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:09,000 Stop wearing mascara. Get a different lip color. 412 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:13,040 Change something about your core routine, about the way that you 413 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,680 look so you can feel like you've entered a new chapter. 414 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:19,200 Not only is that cliche for a reason, but it is a very quick 415 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:21,280 way to feel like you've entered a new era. 416 00:20:21,360 --> 00:20:24,080 You're ushering in a new era, which I think is the goal 417 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:25,320 overall. If you want to get your spark 418 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,240 back, you got to feel like we're letting go. 419 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:28,880 What? And we're moving forward. 420 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:31,600 OK, here's another one I don't really hear people talking about 421 00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:33,880 enough. It's been entering my For You 422 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:39,920 page a little bit recently. But I think that music is a huge 423 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:43,080 part of what keeps you in a slump or what helps you get out 424 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:44,320 of it. Again. 425 00:20:44,360 --> 00:20:47,320 It's like an energy thing. You're in like a low vibration 426 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:49,920 if you're listening to sad music all the time. 427 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:52,160 I have a friend, I have a handful of friends that when 428 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:55,360 they're sad, they love to listen to sad stuff. 429 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,640 Even when they're happy, they're listening to sad stuff. 430 00:20:57,680 --> 00:20:59,920 If you're listening to stuff that is depressing as fuck, 431 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,200 you're going to feel depressed. Sorry. 432 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:05,160 I like sad girl music as much as the next, but it does make me 433 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,560 feel sad even if I'm not truly listening to it. 434 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,520 It's just like dreary in the background versus something 435 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:14,960 that's like uplifting and happy. It doesn't need to be like CVS 436 00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:18,520 music where you're like, OK, it's too much, but like find 437 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,280 something that has like a happier note to it and listen to 438 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:24,760 it. I have a literal playlist full 439 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:28,040 of songs that I will sing when I'm in a run or like listen to 440 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:30,640 because it, it genuinely brings me out of it. 441 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,800 I think that there is power in your words and power in your 442 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,000 thoughts. I also saw someone say recently 443 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,920 that listening to a specific song every morning changed their 444 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:42,120 life. Like it genuinely lifted their 445 00:21:42,120 --> 00:21:44,360 spirit out of the depression that they were in. 446 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:47,000 They were happy again. I started listening to it 447 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,400 because I was like, OK, like what harm could I do? 448 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,280 At that day I got the best news that I had gotten in months. 449 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:56,760 It happened 30 seconds into listening to that song. 450 00:21:57,120 --> 00:22:00,080 And then I went for a drive and the song came on shuffle and I 451 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:01,880 was like okay songs on again, Love that. 452 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:05,200 And then in front of me was a license plate frame that said 453 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,400 you are what you listen to. I genuinely think you are what 454 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:09,760 you listen to. Be careful what you're 455 00:22:09,760 --> 00:22:11,360 ingesting. And this isn't just music, but 456 00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:13,920 this is media. Sometimes I have to take a news 457 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:15,880 break. There's a lot going on in the 458 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,400 world. And if you are ingesting things 459 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,680 that are intense and that cause anxiety all the time, like 460 00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:25,680 you're gonna feel like trash, you have to set boundaries and 461 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,920 parameters around what's going on in your mind. 462 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:31,040 We absorb a lot of things subliminally. 463 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:35,880 I've said this on an episode, I think when I was like 14, I saw 464 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,880 this video on YouTube. It's so old and I think it was 465 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:42,280 called like the psychology of subliminal advertising or 466 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:45,720 something like that. And basically this guy gets 467 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:49,000 taken on a ride to a studio and he thinks he's recording 468 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,320 something else. And along the ride, there were 469 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,160 certain billboards and posters and things that they were 470 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:57,320 subliminally advertising to him. And then when he got to the 471 00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,040 studio, he was asked to come up with an idea. 472 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,600 And what he came up with was exactly what they were trying to 473 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,600 influence him to come up with and create based on the things 474 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:08,440 that they planted along his way on the drive, subconsciously, 475 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,760 things that he clocked for like a millisecond. 476 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:15,040 So I think our brains absorb so much more than we realized and 477 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,880 we have to be really careful with the things that are going 478 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,480 on in the background of our lives, whether that be like TV, 479 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,320 Instagram, TikTok, when you're mindlessly scrolling music, 480 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:28,120 whatever it is, start fine tuning what you're feeding your 481 00:23:28,120 --> 00:23:29,400 brain. It matters. 482 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,520 I went through a phase two where I deleted Instagram and I just 483 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,640 downloaded the Ted app. And when I wanted to scroll, 484 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,240 they have like shorts. I would just scroll on the Ted 485 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,360 shorts and like learn shit instead of absorb, you know, 486 00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:42,720 whatever my algorithm echo chamber was giving me at the 487 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:44,560 time. OK, last thing that I would 488 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:46,920 suggest, go do a couple of things by yourself. 489 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:51,400 I have felt my spark comeback strong when I was alone because 490 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:54,000 it gives you a chance to see that you actually enjoy your own 491 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,640 company. Go to a museum if you've got 492 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,440 one. Go to a concert by yourself. 493 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,800 Go on a trip by yourself, go out to dinner by yourself, go to the 494 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,400 library, go read a book in the park. 495 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:06,600 Go for a drive by yourself, paint at the beach by yourself, 496 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:08,640 go for a walk. Like it doesn't have to be 497 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,400 something crazy. Pick something romanticize it 498 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,480 and do it by yourself and do it a couple of times. 499 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,040 It doesn't need to be like a weekly thing, but like do it a 500 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:20,040 couple of times and I promise you, you will start to be like, 501 00:24:20,120 --> 00:24:23,560 ah, life is worth living. I don't like doing stuff like 502 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:27,240 that or I guess I do, but like I don't go out of my way to do it. 503 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:31,280 But every time I do because I'm forcing myself to do it, I'm 504 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:32,880 like, Oh my God, why don't I do that more? 505 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,640 I've never got into the habit of doing it frequently, but I know 506 00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,040 that every time I do it, I'm like, that felt great. 507 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,240 And it gives you a certain confidence and like empowerment 508 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,080 within yourself that no one, nobody can take away from you 509 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:46,720 because you're giving it to yourself. 510 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,640 So give that a shot. Let me know what activities you 511 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,840 come up with. Getting your spark back is not 512 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:56,120 usually one big move. It is a series of small choices 513 00:24:56,120 --> 00:24:59,360 that bring you back closer to yourself and remind you of who 514 00:24:59,360 --> 00:25:01,440 you really are at your core. Every time I've gotten my spark 515 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:03,480 back, I've realized that it didn't disappear. 516 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,120 It didn't go anywhere. I didn't like actually fully 517 00:25:06,120 --> 00:25:08,960 lose myself. I just needed to make changes to 518 00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,280 the conditions that I was in for it to come back and grow again. 519 00:25:12,360 --> 00:25:15,040 You have to get up. You have to make the changes and 520 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,480 you have to remember that like nobody's going to save you. 521 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,680 Nobody's going to come get you out of the rut. 522 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,080 You have to do it yourself. And life is too finite and 523 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,360 precious and full of cool shit to go do for you to stay stuck 524 00:25:26,360 --> 00:25:29,960 in a sad little, a sad little spot, a weird little place. 525 00:25:30,120 --> 00:25:32,200 That's what I used to call it. This is another thing that would 526 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,600 make me feel better. Like I would draw a little dot 527 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,120 on a notebook and circle it and be like, this is where I am. 528 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:41,280 I'm in a weird little place, a sad little spot, but I don't 529 00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:44,400 have to stay here. It is up to you to be your own 530 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,280 knight in shining armor and say, you know what? 531 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:47,520 We're not doing this shit anymore. 532 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,800 And what's the thing like? Any day you can just wake up and 533 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,240 be like, I'm so back. We're so back. 534 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,200 Today's the day we're back, OK? We're back and we're better. 535 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,560 Get up and go do something. One of the million things that I 536 00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,880 listed for yourself, please. And if you're not doing it for 537 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,680 you, do it for me. I want you guys to thrive. 538 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,880 It's the sound of the police. You guys do hear any sirens 539 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,120 because you're going to get they're coming to get you. 540 00:26:10,120 --> 00:26:12,800 They're coming to arrest you for staying in a slump. 541 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,080 OK, the tequila's wearing off. So I'm going to end this Love 542 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,600 you guys love to talk to you. Today was easier things to you 543 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,000 know, I should be sponsored by tequila whenever I do solo 544 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:23,720 episodes. I shouldn't be promoting alcohol 545 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:25,400 in an episode where people are in ruts. 546 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:27,760 It's fine. DM me if you guys come up with 547 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:29,840 any alternative methods that I have not listed here. 548 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,520 I'd love to hear them. Please rate the pod at five 549 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,560 stars subscribe. It means a lot and it helps me 550 00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,320 keep the pod going. I will see you next week with a 551 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,520 guest. I was drunk, yeah.