Hi guys. I took a break for the first
time I think like since I started podcasting this last few
weeks. And then like around the
holidays, I was a little bit scattered with uploading
episodes. So thank you for your patience
with me. I really just needed a second.
But anyway, yeah, we're back. We're consistent again.
Happy 2026. How crazy is that?
I think last year I started getting, how weird is it that
2025 was the last year. I think I just started getting a
little bit more reserved or with this podcast in general, like on
my previous podcast, I was a little bit more open about like
what was going on in in my own personal life.
And yeah, I think that now that I've zoomed out a little, I'll
give you guys the SparkNotes of what happened in 2025.
So much happened. I kind of like blacked out.
I don't even really remember it, but key things that happened
last year, almost moved apartments, went through a
breakup. Some of you guys really aware of
that relationship that happened, changes with work and pod.
I almost moved into a completely new apartment, which was really
exciting. But then that didn't work out.
So now we just went through another move and I had one of my
best friends, you guys know, Julia, move in with me a couple
of weeks ago. And I thought that I just needed
maybe like a hot little second to breathe.
But I'm back. I'm back and I'm better.
I thought today I would do an episode that I've been wanting
to do for a really long time. And this is also probably the
first solo episode that I'm doing that's not just like a Q&A
where I can banter with you guys.
And it's not the Bob Ross style episode I did with an easel.
And rather than trying to memorize all of the things that
I had written down, I figured I would just grab my laptop and
bring it along for the journey with me.
If you guys have listened to this pod or like even the
previous pod, you'll know that I love researching things that I'm
infatuated by and I go deep dive into various topics.
So I made a deck on this in 2019 when I had my swimwear company
because I thought it would be a cool topic to do a Ted talk on.
I basically put together like 20 slides about how the beauty
industries profit off of women's insecurities.
And I hadn't looked at this deck in a really long time.
And I opened it up and I was like, wow, all of this is not
only still relevant, but I've never actually gotten the chance
to talk it through. So I thought, why not do it
today? We are so often told that
insecurity is something that we need to overcome.
And we're told that if we just work on our confidence or we
fake it until we make it, the insecurity will disappear.
But what if insecurity isn't a flaw, it's just a predictable
outcome. There are literally entire
industries built around making women feel like they are almost
there, but like never quite hitting the mark.
Feeling insecure isn't a personal failure.
It's not a lack of confidence. It's not that you just need to
love yourself more. Insecurity is an industry.
Women are the product and we live inside these systems that
depend on us feeling like we're never quite enough.
Not thin enough, not young enough, not rich enough, not
pretty enough, not interesting enough.
And majority of this is not accidental, it's engineered.
So that's why today's episode is about.
These are little blurbs that I wrote for my talk.
Again, I don't have them memorized, so just bear with me
as I read directly from my laptop, which by the way, I just
came from a photo shoot and I was like, how crazy is it that
I'm doing this episode? Like I wanted to come in in
sweatpants and no makeup, but I'm doing it in like a full beat
and like a course set. Okay, so when I was acting as a
kid, it was before Kovid obviously, and there were no
self tapes. Everything was in the room and I
would walk into these lobbies where it was just a room full of
little girls, or teenagers even, who looked just like me, right?
But some were a little bit more blonde, some had a smaller nose,
some had longer hair cuter outfits.
I knew that we were all in competition for the same role
and that I had to be the very best one.
I would fall in love with this character in this role, and I
desperately wanted to be chosen. I think I was like 12 when I
started doing this, and I very quickly had to learn how to cope
with seeing that girl in the lobby who looked a lot like me
not only get the role, but I had to see her face like plastered
around billboards in LA and had to just kind of like cope with
that defeat. Before I learned how to even
drive. I compared myself a lot to those
girls. I was taught that I was almost,
but like not quite good enough at a very young age, or at least
that's what I was feeling at the time.
Many of those girls and a lot of my friends at the time grew up
to become household names. They have amazing flourishing
acting careers. Some of them are singers and you
you all know them very well. And sometimes I still find
myself comparing. So that was fun.
And then I also grew up with some of the very first
influencers in LA. So these are the people that
were like pioneering on Vine and YouTube, like OG Youtubers, and
they were making like $60,000 off of a 7 second Vine doing a
brand deal with Aquafina when they were like 14.
Like some of them have Lamborghinis and driveways
before they had permits and it was crazy.
So of course I compared myself to that level of success as
well. And this was all before I was
like 16, and I watched their mental health erode and callous
because millions of people online were berating them for
the way that they looked or the way that they acted and their
personalities and whatever else while their brain was
developing. It was crazy, OK.
And then my best friend, as you guys know, Kareem, from the time
that I was like 14 until until now, and she was assigned model
and all of her friends were assigned models.
So I grew up surrounded by very, very, very beautiful girls who
looked much older than than they were.
And when she wasn't by my side at sleepovers, I would run into
her on billboards or on my favorite ecom sites while I was
trying to buy clothes. And I was always so, so so happy
for her success and for her beauty.
I was never envious, but I was infatuated.
And I often compared myself to her level of beauty and wondered
what it would be like to be her. I caught myself in like 9th
grade questioning like if I was just a little prettier, if I was
just a little taller, if I had less of a baby face, if I looked
more like her, what would be different for me?
And then when I was 21, I launched Rhea Swim.
So is a line of swimwear and it wound up going viral and kind of
snowballing into a real company because I chose not to Photoshop
the models on the ecom site and the models were me and Korean.
So basically I had no budget. Like I just decided one day that
I wanted to start a clothing brand and I thought swimwear
would be a really easy way to do it for a handful of reasons.
One, I grew up on the beach and I'm happiest on the beach.
And so I thought I'm going to be really inspired to create
something that I can wear there. 2, All of the swimsuits that I
was purchasing at the time, like nothing felt right or looked
right and there were little tweaks that I was making.
And then three, it was like way more cost effective for me as a
21 year old to create a swimsuit than it would be like a gown or
a dress, right? So all that to say, I had no
budget. I rallied Karine and I was like,
look, I really need your help. Let's shoot this.
We went to a studio with just like a plain white wall.
I can't remember if we had her shoot it or like if we just set
up a timer or how it worked because Karine's also a
photographer. But we basically shot her and we
shot myself like friend torso to torso.
And she and I could not tell the difference between our bodies
after retouching. Like there was literally we
didn't know whose torso was whose, which was absolutely
insane. And I was like, OK, well fuck
that. Take it all off and I'm going to
upload the photos raw. And the RAW photos had stretch
marks, they had blotchy skin. They had all of the real flaws
that a normal body has. But at the time when I launched
this, which I think I launched in like 2017, brands were not
dropping images that were unretouched.
OK. So I released these these
photos. And then an editor at Elle
magazine, shout out, Christina Rodolfo noticed this.
And she was like, I think it's really cool that you're doing
this. Can I read an article about it?
So she did. And then that went super viral.
And I got picked up by like Vogue and Cosmo and 17 and then
every other outlet that you can imagine shortly after, I think
it was misguided, got caught photoshopping on stretch marks
to their Econ models, which is really crazy.
And then now if you go to Victoria's Secret, you can see
photos of econ models and swimsuits and bras and
underwear, and they are not retouched.
So I'm really happy to have been part of like that sort of
snowball effect into seeing bodies that are more reflexive
of the ones that we have at home on websites.
So that was super cool. And then when I turned 25, I got
a job at a really large digital marketing agency.
So I created the ads that you see on TikTok and Instagram and
Facebook. And my job was to make sure that
you stop scrolling and that you feel like you're missing out on
whatever product it is that I'm advertising to you.
And I still do this, but that's still, that's like a huge part
of my career. And then now I have this podcast
with over 700,000 of you guys and I partner with brands and I
share them with you guys and I share them on my personal page
and the podcast page. I know the algorithms, I know
the buzzwords, I know the marketing tactics.
I'm very familiar with the filters, the modeling, the
influencers, everything like the back of my hand.
I know how the system works and it still affects me, which makes
me wonder what it does to people who never get to see behind the
curtain. And just to be clear, before we
go any further, this is not a call to like, delete Instagram
off your phone or just wear off beauty products, sort of like
boycott, you know, different brands.
There's no need to pretend that we live outside of like, modern
culture. We all participate in these
systems. And I do too.
I've actually tried to do this episode in the past, but I was
told that it wasn't a good idea because we work with so many
beauty brands and clothing brands and whatever else.
But honestly, like all of the brands that I work with and that
I want to work with support women.
They don't rely on them feeling insecure in order to succeed and
sell their products. And, and why would I want to
align myself with a brand that does that anyway?
So I don't think that the brands that I choose to work with have
anything to fear from this conversation.
I think a lot of them would actually willingly participate
in it. And so if there's a brand out
there that doesn't want to work with me because I'm having this
conversation, then we're not aligned anyway, and that's fine
with me. So anyway, with that being said,
this is not about like pointing fingers or saying that you know
something is bad, but more so about understanding the
incentives and how this system works.
Because once you understand how these industries make money, a
lot of it stops feeling personal.
OK, so let's like zoom out for a SEC.
At the most basic level, this entire ecosystem runs on
attention, right? The longer that you stay
engaged, the more valuable you are.
That's true for social media platforms, advertisers, and like
literally every consumer brand. A lot of us already know this,
but just the basics talk about how we feel when we scroll on
socials. What social media does
especially well is turn comparison into a constant.
It's this like consistent low level background feeling.
Sometimes we don't even notice it, right?
But we are exposed to everyone's highlight reel every time we
open Instagram, and over time, it does quietly reset your
expectations. It tends to make us feel like we
should be doing more, we should be looking better, we should be
keeping up in ways that aren't always realistic.
And we were not meant to consume this much of other people's
lives we weren't on, but here we are.
Sometimes I think about what it would have been like to be in
your 20s and the 80s or the 90s, and how much quieter it probably
felt just to live your life for what it was without constantly
and subconsciously measuring yourself against strangers on
the Internet. Like that must have been so
nice. It is so much more difficult to
be grateful for what you have when you're constantly looking
at what everyone else has. OK, so there's a Wall Street
Journal article that I came across in 2021 when I initially
started researching all of this. This is so wild.
It shows that Facebook had been or Meta had been conducting
studies on how Instagram was affecting its younger users
repeatedly. The company's researchers found
that Instagram is harmful for a sizable percentage of them, most
notably teenage girls. This is direct quote.
We make body image issues worse for one in three teen girls,
which I argue like it's got to be higher than that, honestly.
That was a slide from 2019, and it was summarizing research
about teen girls who experience these issues, says Quote.
Teens blame Instagram for increases in the rate of anxiety
and depression. On another side, this reaction
was unprompted and consistent across all groups.
That is terrifying to me. What's happening is that the
distance between our real selves and our online selves just keep
growing. It is so curated online, and the
pressure for women to show up looking effortlessly perfect is
immense. It's almost worse to be part of
Instagram culture now because like it, in my opinion, went
through three different phases. There was like original
Instagram where no one gave a fuck and like we were filtering
things like Valencia level 100 and we were posting ice cream
and just like doing whatever we wanted on there.
And then it became hyper, hyper curated.
And then like editing apps dropped and everybody added the
puck out of themselves. That was like my experience kind
of in high school, I think, or a little after high school.
And then came like the cool girl, almost like Devon Lee
Carlson vibe where you're supposed to look like you don't
really care what you're doing, but you know, you're spending
like an hour putting together your like, Instagram carousel
dump. And so now it's like this
pressure to upload really cool stuff without looking like
you're trying too hard. Anyway.
When the version of you that is most visible is the most edited
and curated and controlled, your real self can start to feel like
it's falling short, even when nothing has actually changed.
So This is why I think filters are so dangerous.
Which by the way, like, no shame in using them.
Like 100% of girls that I know do use them at least half of the
time, including myself. And sometimes when you have no
makeup or you're breaking out or you just want to feel a little
bit more refined, it's a nice confidence boost.
But the issue isn't using them. The issue is when the filtered
version of you becomes the one that you see most often.
Because if you're regularly posting stories with like, these
subtle enhancements, lifted features and smoother skin, and
it makes sense that seeing yourself unfiltered can feel
off, You know? Not because anything is wrong
with you, but because your brain has just quietly adjusted its
reference point to what you look like.
Which is fucking crazy. I don't think I have this slide,
but I remember when I was researching this, coming across
a plastic surgeon who said that like women were going into his
office and showing him pictures of themselves with the filter
that they like and asking him if they can change their faces to
look like this, like online version of themselves.
And then at first he did his best to accommodate them and
then realized that, like, it's actually like really terrible,
but realized that they were looking, you know, great on
camera in a sense for their their online persona, but in
person, they were looking like very strange.
And so he stopped agreeing to do this, which is insane.
And that's just really sad. Like I, I missed the 90s media
where people had different faces that looked real or like not
everybody had these veneers that were just like copy and pasted.
And I have veneers. So who am I to?
Well, to be fair, I have veneers because I busted my teeth out on
a first date. So it wasn't really like a
vanity thing, but I would have wanted them otherwise.
You know, I think that there's also this epidemic of, like,
everybody in LA having the same face.
And nothing is wrong with cosmetic procedures, if you're
into that, you know, whatever. Do what makes you feel good, but
do it because you want to know because you feel pressure to.
And keep in mind that it also affects the way that other girls
and women being fed this content think.
You know, they also think that this is the baseline.
And this is something that I think about all the time.
Like when I was 10, I would compare myself to the
celebrities and models that were on the cover of Cosmo and the
checkout line of the grocery store.
And that's where that comparison stayed.
That's where everyone who was airbrushed was.
I cannot imagine how unreal it would be to grow up in this era
where not only celebrities on magazines, but like literally
your neighbor, everyone is essentially airbrushed and
optimized. And these now really, really
subtle and sometimes like completely undetectable ways.
And then thinking that something is wrong with me when I looked
in the reflection in the mirror because I didn't meet this
realistic and just completely unreal beauty standard that only
exists virtually. I cannot imagine being a teenage
girl right now and what that must be like.
So I think about that a lot. I think about that every time I
edit out a pimple that I don't like.
I'm like, why? It's hard because I want to show
up looking my best. But I also am now thinking about
how that affects like the 12 year old that's scrolling who
shouldn't be on Instagram by the way, and thinks that everybody's
perfect and nobody has any flaws.
And that's what makes this so powerful is because it's it's
unconscious and it's widespread. And most of the time we don't
even realize that it's happening when it's happening.
Also, I wonder what this is like for men because I don't think
the men really edit themselves or like think about things this
this way. But maybe I'll ask, I'll bring
one on. OK.
And so then this is the moment where where money starts to
enter the conversation with these industries because when
people are quietly questioning themselves, their skin, their
body, their style, their routine, their uncertainty
creates demand. OK, So globally, you guys, the
beauty market is valued at over 500 billion and it's projected
to exceed 700 billion by the end of the decade.
Skin care is the fastest growing category within that market,
outpacing makeup, fragrance and hair.
Which also when I think about makeup and I think about all
these celebrity brands, like they turned into billion dollar
businesses in just a couple of years, which is insane.
Global weight loss and diet market is at over 100 billion
and it continues to grow. And then I started creating a
list of all of these buzzwords that I'd heard of in the last
couple of years. How many of these have you heard
of? Ozempic peptides, Master Botox,
Barbie, Botox, Baby Botox Dysport PDRNPRFPRP exosomes,
threads, fox eye lift, ponytail lift, upper bleft, fat grafting,
lip flip, facial balancing, laser resurfacing, micro
needling, microcurrent, red light masks, red light panels,
Glass kin, snail mucin slugging, no makeup, makeup clean girl
makeup under painting. Nina Park lips, glazed doughnut
lips, lash lifts, soap brows, laminated brows.
It's just fucking exhausting. And the worst part is that I
have heard every single one of these terms in the last few
years and I know exactly what each one of them is.
Some of these terms lasted all of a week in the trend cycle
and, and honestly like some of them are great.
They're genuinely helpful. Some of them align with my
personal goals for anti aging and beauty, and it's exciting to
be able to look at technology and advancements in this space
and learn how we can support our skin and our bodies in ways that
allow us to look and feel like ourselves for longer.
But that is an exhausting list of things to be advertised to.
Like I feel like all those terms have been shoved down my throat.
Having this vocabulary permanently launched in my
brain, constantly presented as as options or upgrades or things
to consider, in no way can be neutral to mental health.
And it definitely changes how I feel when I look in the mirror
without them. And not because I suddenly look
worse, but because the list of ways that I could look different
never really turns off. And this is the part that's
important to name. Because it's not vanity, it's
not insecurity, it's not spiraling out of control.
It is literally like a cognitive overload.
It's what happens when you are constantly exposed to an endless
menu of ways that you could optimize, refine, tweak, or
improve yourself. The moment that we start
approaching our self-image from a place of lack is the moment
that we become incredibly easy to market to.
Having aware of this doesn't mean that you stop enjoying
beauty. It doesn't mean that you stop
experimenting. It doesn't mean that you stop
wanting to look good. I still love beauty and fitness
and fashion. I love sharing my favorite
products with you guys. I've been more excited about
setting time aside to go through all of my empties and put
together my list of favorite things that I've discovered that
I've worked so hard to figure out and share with you.
And I still love sitting and doing my makeup for two hours
and getting ready and like doing a photo shoot today.
You know, I'm a girly girl. I obsess over skin care and and
whatever else, and I still do ads about these things.
But the difference is intention. There is a huge difference
between choosing something because you like it or reaching
for a product because you feel like you're falling behind.
Knowing why you're choosing what you choose is so powerful, and
making decisions around incorporating things into your
routine or into your life because you like them and not
because you feel pressured into doing it is kind of the game
changer here. It's not about being like immune
to influence. It's about pausing long enough
to ask yourself, is this something that I genuinely want
or is this something that I've been taught to worry about?
I think like there are at least 7 new insecurities that I
developed over the last six months for like a week because I
would learn about some new term on TikTok.
It would be like Oh my God I wish I could remember one off
the top of my head. I don't even remember what they
were but people would talk about like hip dips or strawberry legs
or like whatever fucking random term of the week that someone
had come up with. And then there was like the
looks maxing thing which I think is more young Gen.
Z or Gen. alpha. Like, I don't really know what
it is except for that there's this one guy every so often that
comes in my for you page and just like goes up to women and
tells them that they have like something wrong with the their
facial balancing, which is crazy.
So it's wild now too, that like the younger generation is also
feeding into this system and cycle on their own and
contributing to it because the system will always offer you
more, right? More fixes, more upgrades, more
things to consider, more things that you can do to make yourself
look better or stay younger longer.
But you don't have to acknowledge or respond to all of
it or any of it. Pamela Anderson is actually a
really good example of this because she was once like the
global symbol of youth and beauty and sex appeal.
You would hear the word bombshell and you would think of
Pamela Anderson or a male and Monroe, like one of the two.
She was known for glossy lips and smoky eyes and heavy makeup
and big styled blonde hair. And I think what that does to
your mental health, like I had conversations with Karine around
this is like when you become reliant on your beauty, you
start to think that that's all you have to offer and that's
your value. And I can't imagine what it was
like as Pamela. And I think she got discovered
as a teen, so, like, late teens to early 20s, be told all the
time, like, how beautiful and attractive and stunning she is.
You would think that that's exactly all you have to bring to
the table. And then as you age, we have to
face this, like, especially as women, I think men get to age
and they get to become, like, salt and pepper zaddies, you
know? And everyone's like, yeah, like,
George Clooney's still hot. But then they look at Pamela,
and it's like, or, or older women, and they're like, oh, you
know, like aging is happening to her.
Which is a terrible narrative to have.
Pamela looks incredible. And in recent years, she's
quietly stepped into the public light with zero makeup on, which
is kind of like the armor that she had.
And she was somebody who I would imagine probably felt like her
value was beauty for a really long time.
So I think that's super empowering.
And fring that she's doing that. I don't think it's that she's
like rejecting beauty or makeup or getting ready because she
still does it occasionally for photo shoots.
I think she's just like decoupling beauty from youth.
She is giving herself permission to exist without all of that,
regardless of what society has to say about it and and looks
even arguably like more stunning doing so.
So I think that's super cool. I don't I don't know anybody
doing it like Pamela. There were a couple of episodes
that I did without video and it was so much easier for me to
record, especially solo. I don't know why, cuz not really
like remembering that the camera's here even, but there's
something about having to do my makeup and pick out a cute
outfit and spend hours on my hair and show up to the studio
and then make sure I'm sitting up straight and my face is at
the right angle. It's so much more exhausting
that I can't focus on the things that I'm actually trying to say
to you guys. And like, video is very
prevalent and podcasting now, but I'm jealous that I didn't
get into it at the time where people could just start
recording on their computer and upload.
Like I feel like my episodes would be so much better if I
could just do that. So it's kind of upsetting too.
And then on that note, like I think about how this is
completely unrelated, but like I've spent a handful of days in
the last few weeks getting ready, getting ready for dates
or filming or shooting, and it takes me hours.
Like it takes me an hour and a half to do my hair, longer if
I've just gotten to take a shower, which is another thing.
Like I'd love to be doing hot yoga and Pilates and saunas and
jumping into pools and dipping my head under and whatever else.
And then another hour or so on makeup or like 20 minutes if I
if I need to be rushed and then I'm stressed or whatever else.
And I just wonder like how much more of my brain power could go
to things that I actually give a fuck about if I didn't have to
worry about all of this stuff. And you know, you can be like,
oh, well, you don't have to, don't care.
But it's just so much to consider and be in your head
about all of the time. And it's so truly exhausting.
And I don't, I don't think I'm insecure.
Like I'm really happy with the way that I look majority of the
time. I envy guys because they get to
roll out of bed in the morning shower, their hair dries in like
2 seconds. They don't have to put on
makeup, they put on their outfit and they go live their lives and
they get to immediately jump into things that so they either
need to do or want to do. If they want to swan dive into
the pool, they don't have to worry about their hair turning
green or like blowing it out later on.
It's just like, sometimes I wish I could just press a button for
a second and turn all of that off.
And that's my tangent on that. But anyway, if you're, if you've
been listening to this and you're like nodding long, I
really want you to hear this clearly.
There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing wrong with you for
caring, Nothing wrong with you for wanting to look good, for
not caring at all or feeling like you're almost enough, never
quite hitting the mark for believing that if you could just
fix that one thing about yourself that you'd finally feel
better. Not for comparing yourself to
strangers on the Internet who are also comparing themselves to
strangers on the Internet and editing themselves because they
don't feel like they're enough either.
You know? The pressure that you feel in
regards to all of this didn't come from nowhere, and it
doesn't mean that you're insecure.
It just means that you're a human living inside of systems
that are very good at making you second guess yourself so that
they can sell you things to fix that.
So if you've ever looked in the mirror and you felt confused or
disappointed or quietly sad for reasons that you could not fully
explain, it does not mean anything about your worth.
And I feel like I've gotten so many DMS every time I'm like,
hey, like, what should I talk about a hand?
I get like two or three every time that are about confidence.
Like can you talk about confidence or your favorite
beauty routines or whatever else.
And I've never really like known what to say about confidence
because I feel confident most of the time I feel really confident
and really secure. But there is this like,
incessant backtrack about all of these things on social media,
and some of it really is subconscious.
Anyway, I hope you can be a little bit kinder to yourself
after this. Kinder when that little voice
shows up, kinder when comparison sneaks in.
It is so human, so normal, and so rarely discussed and
acknowledged. And then I came up with a new
idea for how to end these episodes, especially solo
episodes. So as you guys know, I used to
create a questions for We're Not Really Strangers and I've been
talking about it a lot lately with different friends.
And I kind of really miss like I would I would sit with green for
hours and we would just think of cool questions.
And I miss the art of creating random and very hyper specific
questions. And I have no reason to do that
now other than just in conversation.
So I decided that I'm going to start ending every episode that
I'm doing solo with a question for you guys to ask yourself or
for those of you who journal like a journal prompt.
And the one that I wrote down for this week is what parts of
your routine genuinely make you feel good and which parts feel
more like pressure? For me and everything shower
where I'm exfoliating and scrubbing, I come out and I'm
really soft. That all feels great.
What feels more like pressure? I do like a self tan or I get a
spray tan every couple of weeks, every week actually, if I'm
being so for real. And I think it's because when I
come on camera, if I if I'm not tan, which I'm like lightly tan
at this point, like most of it's washed out.
I'm so fair. I'm like literally the same skin
tone as Elle Fanning, which I think she looks gorgeous, but
I'm used to having this tan. And it all started because the
podcast. So I think that that feels more
like a pressure thing to me at this point as far as like
keeping up with it. But I like the way that I feel
when it's done. So I don't know.
But that's my answer anyway. I'm yeah.
I'm excited to bring on some guests that you guys will hear
from soon. I'll be popping in doing like
more solo episodes. Maybe I'll do more if if I'm
allowed to without video and we'll see how that goes.
I hope that this was helpful in some way for those of you guys
who wanted to talk about confidence and just kind of
pointing out that like a lot of it has so little to actually do
with you. And like there really are
systems put in place to make us feel like we're almost enough
everywhere we look subconsciously.
There's this video that I watched in psychology when I
was, I don't know, in like 11th grade.
And it let me make sure I have the right title.
Actually, I think it's called the Power of Subliminal
Advertising. OK, it's called The Power of
Subliminal Messages with Darren Brown.
It is pretty old. I'll put it in the show notes,
but it really stuck with me. Just the way that our brains can
absorb like little sponges. We can drive past a billboard
that we barely see out of our peripheral and then select that
product that we were advertised to without even, we didn't even
realize that it was happening because it feels familiar to us
when we're walking down the aisle in the grocery store.
It's crazy I think that we are subliminally not only being
advertised to, but being told that we need something else to
feel good enough all of the time on social media and off of
social media like billboards and magazines and whatever else.
You know? It's all around us.
So just a reminder that a lot of it isn't even your mindset, it's
what your mind is being exposed to.
Please DM me what you guys want to hear on the next few episodes
and also every time you guys DM me I I'll always reply to you
and I love reading the comments and the messages.
So keep sending them and join the group chat in the Instagram
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more things in there. I'm also about to launch a
website the next few weeks, which is really cool and I'll
keep you guys posted on that, but I will talk to you next
week.