1 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:11,480 Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Love Quest International 2 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,600 Church podcast, where we seek to love all nations, equip the 3 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:17,560 church, mobilize the equipped, and serve all. 4 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,080 We're super glad you're joining us from whenever and wherever 5 00:00:21,080 --> 00:00:23,760 you're at in the world. Welcome to the family to get 6 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:26,440 your Bibles ready, get some water, get some coffee, maybe 7 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,680 some tea, and get ready to receive. 8 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:38,600 Let's get into it. To pray is the language of 9 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:43,760 family. We're talking to a father, not 10 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:51,480 an angry God, but a father. A father. 11 00:00:53,320 --> 00:01:05,200 So today we say our Father. Your sons and daughters are home 12 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:10,320 at your feet, and we say, Father, speak. 13 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:23,070 Speak to your children and wherever your Holy Spirit 14 00:01:23,070 --> 00:01:32,430 corrects us, we counted as love because the Father realigns 15 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:41,840 those that He love. When we hear correct, we hear 16 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,800 reprimand. I'm here to change your 17 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,760 vocabulary. When God corrects, He realigns. 18 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:56,000 And what I've come to find out is God does it very gently. 19 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:03,800 He doesn't force, and if God ever has to force, it's not how 20 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:09,039 we force, but it's because it's, it's so urgent, it's last 21 00:02:09,039 --> 00:02:11,560 minute. It's you've waited too long, 22 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:14,720 it's now. And because he loves you so 23 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,520 much, it's like a child getting ready to get hit by a car. 24 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:19,600 I can go. I can only call your name so 25 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,960 many times. And it comes to a point where I 26 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:27,280 just realized you don't hear me. So if I want you to live, I'm 27 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,120 going to have to snatch you. And by the grace and mercy of 28 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:36,960 God, sometimes he will snatch us, not because he's angry, 29 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:44,680 because he's invested. There's a word out on your life. 30 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:52,520 There's a hit out on your life. It's called the good news. 31 00:02:52,520 --> 00:02:58,120 And I think when you begin to talk about restoring family, 32 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,160 heaven moves in a in a certain way. 33 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:12,320 The devil doesn't want us to correct the ungodly patterns in 34 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:18,040 our bloodline love when we remain victims or we keep it 35 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:24,160 swept under the rug. But today somebody say today the 36 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:30,160 word has come to Get Me Out. Yeah. 37 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:40,560 Today's message or whatever we we can get to is we started a 38 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:45,000 few weeks ago on a series called Family Matters. 39 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:51,640 And I don't know about you, but it's really, really helping me 40 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:58,080 and blessing me. And last week we talked about 41 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:03,480 from the subject, it ain't my fault. 42 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:13,440 And man, I wish I could review. I wish I could remember some of 43 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,360 the things we talked about this morning. 44 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:23,280 I beg you to go listen this week to this morning I shared from a 45 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:29,280 place of vulnerability because I believe for God to really do 46 00:04:29,280 --> 00:04:34,320 some significant stuff in our bloodline, we're going to have 47 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,240 to be vulnerable. We're going to have to take some 48 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:41,320 responsibility. And there's so many of you in 49 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,200 here. You just caught up on working 50 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,840 and trying to pay the bills and getting through day-to-day life. 51 00:04:46,840 --> 00:04:51,440 And before you know it, you old you heading to your grave and 52 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:55,920 you look back and there's a generation with undealt with 53 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:01,920 patterns that you had a turn to grab your family by the hands 54 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:05,520 and and get them out of your bloodline. 55 00:05:07,280 --> 00:05:14,080 I'm glad to say that my family and that we are determined the 56 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:21,240 greatest inheritance we will leave our kids is that of a new 57 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:30,200 clear and it's almost like Jesus. 58 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:33,160 He said I didn't come to do away with the with the law came to 59 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,320 complete it. I'm not coming to do away with 60 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:40,840 all that my grandmama and my Mama did, but I am for sure here 61 00:05:40,840 --> 00:05:46,160 to comb through it and sift through it and get out what 62 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:50,120 didn't belong. Oppression, orphan spirit, fear, 63 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:55,680 excuses, addiction, abuse, what whatever may have been there it 64 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:57,320 it's from generation to generation. 65 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:01,160 We all have a responsibility to make the bloodline better. 66 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,000 And you can't make the world better unless you make the 67 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:08,240 bloodline better. You can't make the world better 68 00:06:08,280 --> 00:06:14,200 which which consists of families and many of them broken if you 69 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,480 don't start writing your own family when God says you are not 70 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:23,280 fit Troy, we are not fit to pastor a church and we can't 71 00:06:23,280 --> 00:06:28,240 even pastor our own home and watch this. 72 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:32,320 I am not pastoring love quest any different than I'm pastoring 73 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:38,360 Richmond Missionary Baptist Church there there's no 74 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:40,320 different Bible. There's no different set of 75 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,480 principles. It it doesn't work. 76 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,840 And that's what I'm saying, when you got ministry and family, 77 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,600 well, wait a minute, Church was built on family. 78 00:06:50,280 --> 00:06:54,120 So how all of a sudden have we done a great job to get leaders 79 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,960 and priests and and people to think my life is over here, the 80 00:06:57,960 --> 00:06:59,880 church is over there. Do do what? 81 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:04,280 Well, if families are over here and the church is over there, we 82 00:07:04,280 --> 00:07:07,880 don't have a church. There's no church without 83 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,120 families. Watch this. 84 00:07:09,280 --> 00:07:11,160 And there's no family without the church. 85 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,360 Yeah, there's room for it all. There's room for everything that 86 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:27,640 God has called you to do. But how am I going to be out 87 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:31,120 here making disciples and not making them in my own home? 88 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:37,120 I'm going to spend more time with EJ and not with Malachi. 89 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:41,680 How I'm going to pour into Adam or JT? 90 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,480 How am I pouring into any other man in here? 91 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:45,320 And I'm not pouring into the men in my home. 92 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,840 How am I going to spend time pouring into any female here? 93 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:53,440 And not pour into my wife. They go hand in hand. 94 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:57,000 To be honest. What allows me to stand up here 95 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:04,520 in courage and in boldness is because I'm standing at home 96 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:06,600 encouraging in boldness on behalf of the Lord. 97 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:13,360 For his children and everyone's going to have to give an account 98 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:16,360 of how you played your part in your family. 99 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:24,240 No excuses, I will do my best to give a few Nuggets from this 100 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:27,840 morning just to create some pace and then I want to get to some 101 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,600 new things and then we'll see where we land. 102 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:34,960 But the Lord is here, and He is inviting. 103 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:41,760 You into a step further in your transformation, interrupting the 104 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:45,480 ripple. What we understood last week was 105 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:54,320 David the, the, the, the sins of David went from generation to 106 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,240 generation to generation. And then we had to go back and 107 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:59,760 be like, well, wait a minute, how did David live when he came 108 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:01,440 up? But he was forgotten at times. 109 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,760 He was, he was underestimated at times. 110 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,840 He was overlooked at times. And you see this pattern in the 111 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:08,880 bloodline and it's not dealt with. 112 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:15,560 And then you see these major moments come, like his first son 113 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:22,800 killing his half sister. And then David, the father does 114 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:24,720 not deal with it. Watch this. 115 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:29,480 We don't get to it. David's angry about it, but he's 116 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:34,480 silent in his response. And some of you are angry about 117 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,280 your condition. You are angry about your family 118 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:39,000 situation. You are angry. 119 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:44,240 Anger does not bring transformation, not alone. 120 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:51,720 Anger can be fueled but some of you are angry with no action or 121 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:56,760 at least no different action or you're angry at the wrong thing. 122 00:09:57,080 --> 00:10:00,080 You're angry at your spouse, not the devil that's attacking your 123 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,480 house. So you're not dragging your 124 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:05,800 spouse to the church house to say we going to get disciple to 125 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:09,080 learn how to war. My husband don't know how to 126 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:11,200 pray. I didn't marry him because he 127 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:15,080 because he's a prayer warrior, but I need him to pray and he 128 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,800 don't know how to pray. He won't admit he don't know how 129 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:19,600 to pray. So we need some counsel. 130 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,280 We need some help. You praying about the wrong 131 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:27,840 thing. When's the last time you prayed 132 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:32,520 for your spouse to have a hunger to pray versus asking God to 133 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:34,960 make them stop doing something that get on your nerves? 134 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:44,920 Enemy has us fighting and ignorance has us fighting the 135 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:50,480 wrong fight. What you refuse to confront, God 136 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:56,240 will allow to fracture and a fracture will allow a fracture. 137 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,040 I would like to also say it's like a foothold. 138 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:00,560 The Bible says don't give the devil a foothold. 139 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:05,640 Something is fractured, it leaves you with a limp, it can 140 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:09,800 leave you with bruises. It can leave you with cuts, 141 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:11,960 abrasions. It can leave you with some 142 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,160 things that if you don't take care of it, you can get 143 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,680 infected. And how many people know? 144 00:11:17,680 --> 00:11:20,760 Forget the world, how many people know in the church, we 145 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:24,800 have some very infected people. You know how they, you know they 146 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:31,920 infected easily offended, gossipy, messy, right quick, the 147 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:33,960 faint. They're infected. 148 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:36,040 And So what they want is you to change. 149 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:40,480 They want you to watch this. They want you to change JT more 150 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:51,790 than they want to heal. Last week it was. 151 00:11:52,190 --> 00:11:56,510 Not my fault because you and I did not choose our last name. 152 00:11:57,150 --> 00:12:00,270 You and I did not design our childhood. 153 00:12:00,630 --> 00:12:02,830 Mama said it's time to go. We just all right, let's go. 154 00:12:02,830 --> 00:12:04,510 We're going to hop in the car and you're going to take me 155 00:12:04,510 --> 00:12:07,230 wherever for years. We you take your kids wherever 156 00:12:07,230 --> 00:12:10,510 you think they should go. Can you imagine having that many 157 00:12:10,510 --> 00:12:11,950 years? No choice of where you going to 158 00:12:11,950 --> 00:12:14,560 go, what you going to do What you going to eat how people talk 159 00:12:14,560 --> 00:12:17,040 around you. You grew up people said close 160 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:25,700 your close close your eyes right or you was just told to be quiet 161 00:12:25,700 --> 00:12:27,500 don't do that. You was never talked 162 00:12:29,220 --> 00:12:31,260 righteousness you was just told wrong. 163 00:12:31,900 --> 00:12:37,260 But wait a minute Mama you talk like that wait a minute y'all be 164 00:12:37,260 --> 00:12:38,860 arguing too? Why are you mad at me raising my 165 00:12:38,860 --> 00:12:39,940 voice? You'll be raising your voice 166 00:12:39,940 --> 00:12:44,620 too. You was you was born in a 167 00:12:44,620 --> 00:12:50,440 situation Can you acknowledge that you was born in something 168 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,800 you're not proud of, right? Watch this. 169 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:55,560 Here's The funny thing about family. 170 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:00,800 You can be in the most toxic family and there's so much love 171 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:06,240 and somebody talk about your toxic family and you protect 172 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,760 your family. You're not protecting toxic you 173 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:14,080 protecting relationship, but the relationship is what it's toxic. 174 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:17,960 And you part of the reason why you mad is you know that you 175 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:22,440 know your friends, right? Your Mama hecka crazy. 176 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:27,240 Don't don't call my Mama crazy. yo-yo yo, your daddy a deadbeat. 177 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:32,160 Don't call my daddy a deadbeat. But he is though a part of your 178 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:37,000 frustration is it's true. Some of us have been and still 179 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:39,360 we are ashamed of our family. We don't even want to bring our 180 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:43,040 friends to see our family. Or you spend time telling your 181 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:45,240 mom or your daddy, hey, I'm about to bring my friend over. 182 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:49,840 Can you just chill today, ma? Like ma, can you can you just 183 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:55,480 chill until you can say yes? It's not my fault. 184 00:13:58,080 --> 00:14:00,880 Some of you I mentioned this morning you have sex addictions 185 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:05,720 or watch this or you got you, you, you, you, you don't you 186 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:09,400 don't feel nothing. You turned off. 187 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:18,400 And there's so many things that are dysfunctional about us that 188 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,800 we just have claimed as who we are. 189 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,000 Like, like, man, I just thought, I'll just be thinking crazy 190 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:29,080 stuff. OK, that's cute for a while. 191 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:32,840 You got a few friends. You can tell, man, I felt like 192 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:34,440 punching that Lady in the grocery line. 193 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:36,440 I don't know why. I just felt like punching her. 194 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,200 OK, it's cute for a while. It's funny for a while. 195 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:41,240 But one day if you don't deal with that thought. 196 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:47,400 You might punch that Lady one day because you don't ask where 197 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:50,520 is that coming from? Does that come from a certain 198 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:52,560 type of person that that person represent? 199 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:55,800 You ever have somebody just out the blue, they talk and they 200 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,560 just get on your nerve. You're like, oh, can you not 201 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:00,320 talk, please? Right. 202 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:02,280 That's cute. Or that's, that's that, that 203 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:04,920 that just passes by. But have you asked why? 204 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:06,920 Why did that rub me the wrong way? 205 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:09,960 Why did I fly off the handle like that today? 206 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:14,160 Why did I snap back or why did I need somebody to respond to me 207 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:16,680 that way? I got dressed for three hours. 208 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:19,880 I walked out the room and my wife said, hey, you ready to go? 209 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:22,400 Wait a minute. You. 210 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:26,600 I spent all this time, girl, can you before we go, can you just 211 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,920 give me a compliment? Why did I need that compliment 212 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,080 and make this song? I'm going to make a song and I'm 213 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:40,120 going to go show it to a few people and then they not bobbing 214 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:43,120 their head and I'm like why they not doing? 215 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:46,120 Why they not responding to the song the way I think they 216 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:51,920 should? Then they say that was cool. 217 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,240 Why my feelings hurt? Because they gave me honest 218 00:15:55,240 --> 00:16:00,680 feedback when I got 15 other people that love it and 14 of 219 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,040 them going to tell me they love it every time. 220 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:11,200 So I got 15 people that like me, a whole orchard. 221 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:15,960 I got one person that don't quite like it. 222 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:23,040 I respond to the one person just like Adam and Eve responded to 223 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:35,610 the one tree. It may not be my fault, but it 224 00:16:35,610 --> 00:16:38,970 is my responsibility moving forward. 225 00:16:38,970 --> 00:16:42,930 Guys, I don't care what you was born into, you're keeping it 226 00:16:42,930 --> 00:16:49,880 going. And some of us got this like I'm 227 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:52,960 me and watch this. Me and my wife we doing us. 228 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:58,160 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no. 229 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:04,480 Me and my wife can do us. But my kids got my Mama DNA. 230 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:10,560 They got her Mama DNA. They got people in my family. 231 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:15,880 I ain't never met DNA and I know from the few people I know in my 232 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:21,480 family somebody is cuckoo somewhere, right? 233 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:26,319 You don't know how long mental illness is laying in the bushes 234 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,640 waiting for the right generation. 235 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:33,480 You don't know how long addiction is waiting in the 236 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:35,840 bushes waiting for the right generation. 237 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:41,560 You don't know, you might just be dealing with porn, but two 238 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:47,080 generations forward, it's going to be rape because you left the 239 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:53,120 sex thing in the bloodline. See, it's all seeds. 240 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:59,040 No, no, my son may not, may not deal with certain things or my 241 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:03,080 daughter may not. It may not look the same but I I 242 00:18:03,120 --> 00:18:09,240 watch this, I handed the seed off and then the fruit is going 243 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:14,320 to be based on the call on her life and how the enemy is going 244 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:19,800 to attack her. For one generation it could be 245 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:21,400 women. For another generation it could 246 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,880 be money. For another generation it can be 247 00:18:24,120 --> 00:18:28,640 video games. You like what video games got to 248 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:31,360 do with it? Yeah, same thing as any other 249 00:18:31,360 --> 00:18:36,840 addiction. Another generation it could be 250 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:40,680 obesity for another generation it could be, it could be, it 251 00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:45,880 could be so many things. The question is, what will you 252 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:49,600 do with the root that God identifies in your bloodline? 253 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:53,640 What will you do? Watch this. 254 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:58,800 I might identify something in my family and the person I identify 255 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:01,440 it with may be so stubborn he'll never change. 256 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:04,560 The enemy want to wrap you up trying to change them. 257 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:09,000 What you need to do is search yourself, Find the root. 258 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,600 Pray against it that it doesn't spread. 259 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:20,360 Watch this because there's a lot of evil tendencies in every 260 00:19:20,360 --> 00:19:25,920 bloodline. What you refuse to confront, God 261 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:31,760 will allow to fracture. Ezekiel 18 said the parents ate 262 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:35,880 green apples. Children got the stomach ache, 263 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:41,360 right? You grow up in certain 264 00:19:41,360 --> 00:19:43,000 communities. I didn't ask to grow up here. 265 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:46,120 Now I got to fight. I didn't ask to fight. 266 00:19:46,120 --> 00:19:51,000 I wasn't like angry dude, right? You go to prison, you like, I'm 267 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:55,040 not even in here, man. I stole, you know, a pound of 268 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:58,840 chicken. I'm in prison for still in the 269 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:00,160 car. I'm not in here for killing 270 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:01,840 nobody. I'm not in here for fighting. 271 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:08,720 I don't got an angry bone. Now I'm in prison with dogs and 272 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:13,000 in prison turn me into something and then now I come watch this. 273 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:18,080 Now I get out of prison. Now I have created patterns in 274 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:21,320 prison that now impact my freedom. 275 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:26,400 So This is why many people will go back because they're a 276 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:35,040 natural habitat now. So same thing, you go to 277 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,320 college, you pick up patterns, man, we picking up patterns 278 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:44,920 anywhere we stay long enough and covenant begins, we pick up 279 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:52,240 patterns. This is why I lost this. 280 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,200 We're not talking about it today, but we might need to 281 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:58,000 throw this in here. Soul mates might need to talk 282 00:20:58,000 --> 00:20:59,680 soul ties. Sorry, soul ties. 283 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:02,640 We might need to talk about that because some of y'all did. 284 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:07,960 You just slept with somebody. You didn't been in covenant with 285 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:10,680 somebody. You didn't share your soul with 286 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:13,840 somebody and you just thought it was a breakup. 287 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,520 No, it's over. No, both of y'all walked away 288 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:25,320 with each other. You didn't, you didn't talk like 289 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:26,760 that before you got with that person. 290 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,880 Look, look, look. My comedy game has expanded ever 291 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:41,160 since I've been with my wife. Right, like like the comedy that 292 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,640 she grew up with, like it made like her. 293 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:47,240 She make my comedy a little more Whittier like I like like, but 294 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:50,160 be being around her, hearing her comedy, being around her parents 295 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:51,400 and things. Just naturally. 296 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:53,520 I didn't I didn't say Babe, I wouldn't like the disciples 297 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,240 teach me how to pray. I wouldn't like babe teach me 298 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:58,960 how to be funny. No, she was being her. 299 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,520 I was being there's, there's things, there's a face I make 300 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:04,200 when I'm focused, when I'm reading or something. 301 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:06,440 We're studying and I'm locked in. 302 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,280 I do something with my face. The whole family do it now. 303 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:17,400 That was my face. But PJ does it and our children 304 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,320 do it when they get focused. And there's things some of you 305 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:24,280 may have seen the kids do something or you see me do 306 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:25,720 something. I've heard people be like, that 307 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:30,160 was Michael right there? What why? 308 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:31,720 Why? We ain't covenant. 309 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,920 None of us said, hey, I want to be like you. 310 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,920 I want to look like you. I want to no, but just being 311 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:45,120 around one another. We are naturally who you around 312 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:49,000 all the time. Who you just going out to 313 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:50,520 coffee? What kind of conversations you 314 00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:54,680 just having watch this? What you just listening to Who 315 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:58,120 you listening to? It's framing you. 316 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:01,200 You don't have no, you don't have no boundaries. 317 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,560 Like people don't need a passport to enter your country. 318 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:09,240 You just open just free borders. Just tell me whatever gossip to 319 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,280 me, be messy, complain to me. I'm here. 320 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:18,120 And then they walk away and they have like the bee, they left the 321 00:23:18,120 --> 00:23:21,880 Stinger. Watch this. 322 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:26,040 After the bee leaves the Stinger, he goes away and dies. 323 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:33,600 But leave you stung those bitter people that's talking to you, 324 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:42,440 dying on the inside, but you got Stinger and guess what you going 325 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,960 to do? Take that Stinger out, sting 326 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:50,880 somebody else. It's called bitterness and the 327 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:56,320 Bible talks about it and it says the children got the stomach 328 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,040 ache. Have you ever been the product 329 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,960 of angry parents? Anybody. 330 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,480 Yeah. Now you bitter because they 331 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,320 whooped your butt, because they never healed. 332 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,200 They abused you. So you you walk away angry. 333 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:20,440 At school now the parents ate green apples. 334 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,160 The children got the stomach ache. 335 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:24,000 The one. Remember this verse. 336 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,600 The one who sins is the one. Who will die? 337 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,760 We have these proverbs like this. 338 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:39,920 That was a proverb at the time that they they they believed it 339 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,760 so much and repeated it so much and God had to be like what are 340 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,080 y'all talking about? But it was disguised in 341 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,360 theology. But watch this. 342 00:24:47,360 --> 00:24:53,520 We say things like my dad was like this men in our family 343 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:57,240 struggle or we've always had divorce in our family. 344 00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:01,200 This is just how we are. Disease runs in my family. 345 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:05,600 We we were never protected or dysfunction is just who we who 346 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:10,320 we are, but God confronts the mindset. 347 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:16,040 He does not deny consequence. He does deny inevitability. 348 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:20,160 It is not inevitable that you have to be like. 349 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,920 Them. It is not inevitable that you 350 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:28,480 have to get breast cancer. It is not inevitable that you 351 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:33,600 have to be a domestic violence person or you have to be an 352 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,080 abuser. It is not inevitable that you 353 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:37,960 have to be addicted to the same thing. 354 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:44,000 It is not inevitable you are not spiritually stuck because of 355 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,640 your parents. You are accountable for what you 356 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:52,440 continue. This is just because. 357 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,760 Somebody in my family did X or was like X. 358 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,320 It does. It doesn't mean that I'm going 359 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:06,640 to be or I have to be, but I am responsible and accountable for 360 00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:10,720 it continuing in my bloodline. This is why I've come to 361 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,320 understand that it was a blessing my father wasn't there. 362 00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:20,800 I'm on the other side of it now because it was almost better I 363 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:24,520 had no blueprint of what a father was than to be raised by 364 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:29,480 a dysfunctional 1. Talked about this last night. 365 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,240 Because sometime you can, man. You get bad habits, you get bad 366 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:37,000 patterns from both parents. Only God knows the complete 367 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,240 story. But I had to figure out, watch 368 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,600 this. I had to figure out how to be a 369 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,520 father based on letting godfather me. 370 00:26:51,080 --> 00:27:01,730 Yeah, if the son continues the father's rebellion, he inherits 371 00:27:01,730 --> 00:27:03,290 its consequences. Watch this. 372 00:27:03,570 --> 00:27:05,650 Watch this. This is why when you are picking 373 00:27:05,650 --> 00:27:08,690 a spouse, pay attention. You, you watch. 374 00:27:08,770 --> 00:27:12,010 When I drive, I look several cars ahead of me. 375 00:27:12,890 --> 00:27:14,970 I don't just pay attention to the car in front of me. 376 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,880 I look at the cars that are ahead of me because I play 377 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,640 sports. I know how to check, but I have 378 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,760 some peripheral. I'm on a basketball court. 379 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,600 When I'm driving, I quickly look, glance in the rear view. 380 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,480 I'm looking in the mirrors. I'm always looking around. 381 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,320 Most of the time when you date and you just look at the person 382 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,720 in front of you, you're not like no, no, no. 383 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,760 I don't want to meet your daddy because I'm ready to marry you. 384 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,120 I want to meet your daddy to figure out if I want to continue 385 00:27:41,120 --> 00:27:44,840 dating you. No, I need to know. 386 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,240 I don't got time to be spending money and energy and late night 387 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:53,400 phone calls to find out later that I can't trust your daddy 388 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:57,800 with my kids. I can't trust your Mama to watch 389 00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,480 my kids. Why? 390 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,880 How we get married and found that out. 391 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:07,440 Yeah. Bring him on. 392 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:09,720 Let's bring your Mama and your daddy on our first date. 393 00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:13,160 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Come on. 394 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:14,960 No, no, no. We're not going out by 395 00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:15,800 ourselves. I want to meet. 396 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,280 I want your Mama and your I'll treat your Mama and your daddy. 397 00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:22,160 I want them to come on the date, Right. 398 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,280 And then you sitting there with Mama and daddy and Mama and 399 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:28,400 daddy arguing, Mama and daddy dysfunctional on the date and 400 00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,920 you sitting there, you like, yeah, Hallelujah. 401 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:33,480 I know I'm treating. I'm the Hallelujah. 402 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:34,920 I know what I'm doing after this. 403 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,520 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no. 404 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,360 Mama and Daddy pull out a bunch of pills and pop out pills for 405 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,440 all kind of mental. No, no, no. 406 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,040 Look, I love you. I'm going to pray for you. 407 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,200 I even invite you to my church. But I'm not inviting you into my 408 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,840 bloodline. We not about to cross pollen. 409 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,560 No, I'm not about to mix my DNA with yours. 410 00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:58,640 Do you hear what I'm saying? This is how we've gotten jacked 411 00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:02,800 up. This is why Bible talks about 412 00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:06,400 unequally yoked and we just think, well, he's saved now. 413 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,800 Do you know unequally yoked goes way deeper than being saved, 414 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:12,640 right? I got peace. 415 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:16,920 He don't We are equally yoked. You know what I'm saying? 416 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,440 I don't like to argue. He love arguing unequally yoked. 417 00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,440 Watch this even down to like basic. 418 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:29,440 It sounds funny, but at the top, at the top when you married, 419 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,360 it's too late. At the top, at the top. 420 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:37,000 I like watching TV. She don't unequally yoked. 421 00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,560 Unequally yoked. Somebody say unequally yoked. 422 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:49,040 Yeah, that don't go together, right. 423 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,000 I wind down watching watching Sports Center. 424 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,800 You wind down drinking a couple shots. 425 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,040 We unequally yoked. I don't wind down like that. 426 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:58,640 I don't want alcohol in my house. 427 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:03,240 Unequally yoked No, my kids going to church, they going to 428 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,880 be they going to be Christian until they decide they don't 429 00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,960 want to be Christian. Well, I don't want to raise my 430 00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,240 kids in church. Unequally yoked yoked yoked 431 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:21,000 yoked Some of us we so thirsty we bypass man, you don't even 432 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,200 got to get to abuse. Just be honest with your 433 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:31,120 standards. Have some Hallelujah, that's 434 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,600 that's not the message. But we're going to keep going. 435 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:42,640 Have some look at your neighbors say have some watch this, watch 436 00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:44,840 this. If I continue the patterns of my 437 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,400 father, I also inherit his consequences. 438 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:53,280 OK, so as much as you don't want to be like your daddy, you going 439 00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,640 to be like your daddy till you change the patterns your daddy 440 00:30:55,640 --> 00:31:00,120 gave you. That's how you end up being like 441 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:03,520 the people you don't want to be like because you keep being like 442 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:07,520 they be like. If the sun turns though, here's 443 00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:10,560 the good news. He or she breaks the chain. 444 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,840 Where you were raised may explain your struggle, but it 445 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:19,400 does not justify your surrender. You inherited the environment. 446 00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:23,800 You still choose the alignment. You you, you may in. 447 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,960 It's like they say, man, you can, you can leave Oakland, but 448 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,360 you can't take the Oakland out there. 449 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:31,040 Well, some of Oakland I had to take out. 450 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,760 I promise you, I know I've taken some of the Oakland out because 451 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,560 some when the wind blow, guess we'll be trying to come back up 452 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:43,800 Oakland and I got to tell little Oakland hush buddy, like stay 453 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,920 down. You did not inherit exemption 454 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:52,680 from obedience. You may have inherited exposure 455 00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,560 to dysfunction. True, you did not inherit 456 00:31:55,560 --> 00:32:03,240 permission to continue it. Who making you continue OK it 457 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:09,160 might be they fault, but it's your fault it's continuing I'm. 458 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:13,920 Stubborn just like my daddy. Well, you don't have to be any 459 00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:17,240 crazy EJ how we just pick stuff up and be like just like if I 460 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:18,880 had a bunch, I should have did that illustration. 461 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,400 We just, you have a bunch of sticky notes and take them off 462 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:23,800 my Mama or take off my daddy or take them off my uncle and just 463 00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,120 put them on me and we just own it. 464 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:33,320 That's how I was raised. Your last name explains your 465 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:35,880 exposure. It does not excuse your 466 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:43,400 decisions. I declare the ripple stops with 467 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:47,000 you. Yeah. 468 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:52,240 Last week we see that the sword shall never depart from from his 469 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:56,720 house That was declared by God. God declared that the the sword 470 00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,760 shall never. So watch this. 471 00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,120 The the battle moved into David's living room. 472 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:07,640 Watch this. This is the same David that 473 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:12,040 defeated Goliath and he couldn't even correct his son. 474 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,760 Any crazy how you bowled in some areas but not in the ones that 475 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:26,400 really matter. David misaligned desire went 476 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:29,400 ungoverned. Authority was abused. 477 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,560 Grace forgave but consequence ripple. 478 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:34,640 Watch this. This represents multiple 479 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:39,280 generations starting with David. Watch this. 480 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:43,640 Families fracture before the arguments, churches split before 481 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:48,160 the votes, marriages drift before the papers, children 482 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:52,080 rebel before the confrontations, hearts drift before the 483 00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:55,720 distance, and homes weaken way before they collapse. 484 00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:01,840 Environments are shaped before events explode. 485 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:04,480 That that day y'all had a blow up. 486 00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:08,719 Y'all only had a blow up 'cause you didn't deal with it a long 487 00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:12,040 time ago. You know she finally hit you. 488 00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,800 That's 'cause. It's no 'cause. 489 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:28,520 It's no 'cause it's no 'cause it's no 'cause I thank God, 490 00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:32,159 thank God I am yielded to the Holy Spirit. 491 00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,480 The point is, is when things blow up, deserved or undeserved, 492 00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:43,239 we get so caught up in being victims, we don't realize. 493 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:46,320 Man, I actually could have stopped. 494 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:50,560 That from happening in my life, OK, I'm not talking about people 495 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:53,760 taking advantage and people being stronger than you and and 496 00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,600 doing things of that nature. I'm not talking about that. 497 00:34:56,199 --> 00:34:58,920 But I am talking about day-to-day things where you find 498 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,240 yourself blowing up, you find yourself always having to 499 00:35:01,240 --> 00:35:05,360 apologize. Like when are you going to 500 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,400 actually deal with it? Get it out. 501 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,240 Me and my white man, I'll be like, it's moments where I'm 502 00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:15,880 like, we turned that around so quick. 503 00:35:17,240 --> 00:35:18,560 Something happened the other day. 504 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:23,520 I don't even know what it was, but it was silly and I remember 505 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,520 we just kind of moved on. I went to talk to her and then I 506 00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:29,280 was she responded like I didn't she didn't she didn't had no 507 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,840 attitude. What no silent treatment and 508 00:35:32,240 --> 00:35:36,400 then vice versa didn't owe me. You know when owe you rise up be 509 00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:42,080 like no, don't talk to her. No, they get an apology first. 510 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,720 They still not listening to you. If watch this if you move on, 511 00:35:45,720 --> 00:35:48,280 they won't know how it hurts you. 512 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,320 Oh, so you're more concerned about making sure somebody know 513 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:57,520 they hurt you than moving on and enjoying the person. 514 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:03,560 So then I need to deal with what is that thing that I need that 515 00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:11,710 closure? What you refuse to confront God 516 00:36:11,710 --> 00:36:15,310 will allow to fracture. The ripple could have stopped 517 00:36:15,310 --> 00:36:17,030 somebody say the ripple could have stopped. 518 00:36:18,190 --> 00:36:19,950 It could have stopped Guys. Watch this. 519 00:36:20,190 --> 00:36:25,720 David won battles in chapter 10. He lost alignment in Chapter 11. 520 00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:30,080 He received forgiveness in chapter 12. 521 00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,360 He saw consequence unfold in chapter 13. 522 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:42,080 Ain't crazy how quick you can go from victory to turmoil so 523 00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,960 quick. Watch this. 524 00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,880 Grace removed guilt. It did not erase Ripple. 525 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:52,800 And this is how we do. We dance. 526 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:58,960 We dance on grace. Oh, death is defeated and you go 527 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:02,040 home and you like, how am I back here again? 528 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:09,080 Pattern. It ain't the devil, it's psycho. 529 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:13,840 It ain't the devil. It's pattern. 530 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:17,240 Watch this. I don't need to try hard to take 531 00:37:17,240 --> 00:37:19,080 somebody down when I know they pattern. 532 00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:24,040 I've known that pattern in your bloodline, Danny, since your 533 00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:30,280 great, great grandpa. The devil know the pattern 534 00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:35,120 before you do. And you think you could Just 535 00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:38,320 Dance around and Hallelujah. And then you care about your 536 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:41,400 grandkids and you care about your children, but you won't 537 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,680 face the stuff that you are ordained and anointed to face. 538 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:51,000 So they don't have to come to church every week. 539 00:37:51,000 --> 00:38:01,920 For what? For what verse 13 says in the 540 00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:06,960 course of time, here we go. Amnon, son of David, fell in 541 00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:14,600 love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of Absalom, son of David. 542 00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:18,080 So Amnon is David's first son. Here it is. 543 00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:26,400 I mean, I'm sorry, Amnon is and then Tamar is a daughter and 544 00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:31,520 Absalom is the brother Tamar Absalom full blood, but they are 545 00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:37,120 half to Amnon. Amnon became so obsessed with 546 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:43,680 his sister Tamar that he made himself I'll this family drama 547 00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:47,680 right here. Half brother is falling in love 548 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,800 with his half sister. That stuff is in the Bible, 549 00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,680 guys. It's in the Bible. 550 00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:58,360 And say he's so obsessed with her. 551 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:06,600 He I'll like he's sick. So he's dealing with something 552 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,040 deep. Watch this. 553 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,120 Whose son is this? David? 554 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,040 The battlefield moved into the living room. 555 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,520 You might have met, might have, might have got in the promised 556 00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:22,960 land. But what did you take in the 557 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:26,640 promised land? You. 558 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,440 You wonder why God needed you to go through the wilderness before 559 00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:36,840 getting there. Sound like, like, like, like 560 00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:38,680 Amnon needed to go through the wilderness. 561 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,640 He didn't need the shortcut. He needed a long time. 562 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,120 He got something deep going on. Watch this. 563 00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:46,720 She was a virgin and it seemed impossible for him to do 564 00:39:46,720 --> 00:39:51,200 anything to her. Now Amnon had an advisor named 565 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:56,000 Jonah Dab, son of Shamia David's brother. 566 00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:05,080 Jonah Dab was a very shrewd. Man, watch this Amnon's love 567 00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:09,000 when it says he loved her. This was obsession. 568 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:16,520 This was not agape. This was desire. 569 00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:22,680 Ungoverned. This was distorted desire. 570 00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:25,600 Now I don't want you to think about oh this message ain't for 571 00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:28,000 me today because this talking about some sexual crazy stuff. 572 00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:32,200 No, no, no. The seed is the same, it looks 573 00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:39,640 different in every generation. It could look the same but what 574 00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:43,880 we about to see is that sexual issue or whatever issue was 575 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:50,120 dealt with now led to murder. Now we see death in the family. 576 00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:59,640 Appetite always finds agreement. It said it said It said he went 577 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:04,280 and found agreement. Watch this. 578 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:07,240 Unconfronted desire recruits reinforcement. 579 00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:10,200 Oh, you see it in the church all the time. 580 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,560 We ain't got to talk about sex. We ain't got to talk about none 581 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,320 of that. But you find people in church 582 00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:17,120 all the time who are offended. Who are you? 583 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,120 Find reinforcement. Can we go have coffee? 584 00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,080 I just want to share with you what's on my heart. 585 00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:26,000 What are you looking for? Reinforcement. 586 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:37,250 Because you are ungoverned. This is corrupt counsel. 587 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:43,680 Amnon had a friend, Jonah Dabb, who was very shrewd. 588 00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:47,960 Ain't it funny who you go to with your ungoverned feelings? 589 00:41:49,240 --> 00:41:52,840 Why you won't come to EJ? Why you won't come to PJ? 590 00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,920 Why you won't? Why you did you dissect the 591 00:41:57,920 --> 00:41:59,440 fruit of those you getting wisdom from? 592 00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:09,360 Why you wondering from the ones with fruit and you, you eating 593 00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:12,680 out that hands of one that can barely keep their lives 594 00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:17,240 together. Lust promises pleasure then it 595 00:42:17,240 --> 00:42:20,600 produces disgust. Have you ever been there? 596 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,880 That lust gets you riled up the boy and you do it and you like 597 00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:29,520 Oh my God what have I done? Why you wasn't thinking that 598 00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,680 when you did it. Now moving forward, just know 599 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:36,800 whenever you are flaring up in whatever lustful ways, just know 600 00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,840 the end will not be good. Watch this you won't even feel 601 00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:49,900 good. You see up in the top corners he 602 00:42:49,900 --> 00:42:55,780 was stronger than she was. Second Samuel 1314 he was 603 00:42:55,780 --> 00:43:02,540 stronger than she was. Watch this then says we must 604 00:43:02,700 --> 00:43:06,340 recognize. The moments that can change 605 00:43:06,340 --> 00:43:08,620 everything. And this was a moment that can 606 00:43:08,620 --> 00:43:09,940 change everything. Watch this. 607 00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:15,280 Verse 21 Now when King David heard about all these things, 608 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:20,920 his daughter being raped by his son, he was what? 609 00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:25,200 Very angry but failed to take any action. 610 00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,240 Why would the Bible put that in there? 611 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:37,440 He was angry but took no action. Why would the Bible put that in 612 00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:40,120 there? Why would the Bible? 613 00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,520 Why would God make a way after all these years to make sure 614 00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:46,000 that scripture made the printed version of the Bible? 615 00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:53,200 Watch this message, says King David heard the whole story and 616 00:43:53,200 --> 00:44:02,520 was enraged, but he didn't discipline am not you can be. 617 00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:07,520 Right in your emotion and wrong in your response. 618 00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:16,400 Anger is appropriate, but to sit back and do nothing is not OK 619 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:23,520 with God. What good is the emotion of a 620 00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,840 son without the correction of a king? 621 00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:32,280 Without the correction of the king? 622 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:36,320 You mean David, you had enough courage? 623 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:43,680 To slay Goliath and you couldn't correct your son for raping your 624 00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:48,160 daughter. Do you understand what that 625 00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:54,120 moment did? To the next generation because 626 00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:58,160 the head of the household didn't want to face something. 627 00:44:58,160 --> 00:44:59,760 Watch this. That triggered him. 628 00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:09,560 He wanted to just go away. How guilty was he feeling for 629 00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,920 some of the actions he's done? So who am I to punish you? 630 00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:20,720 But watch this. David confronted Goliath but he 631 00:45:20,720 --> 00:45:22,640 did not confront his own household. 632 00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,120 Some of y'all bosses in the world and you over there moving 633 00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:28,480 and shaking. You come to your own house, 634 00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,400 you'll let anything go down. Only thing you correct is what 635 00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,280 you don't like, not necessarily what's right. 636 00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:43,840 Silence is not neutrality. Silence is permission. 637 00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,600 I know some of y'all are introverts. 638 00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:49,560 You don't like to communicate and you just want to sweep it 639 00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:53,720 under the rug. But every day, every day that 640 00:45:53,720 --> 00:45:56,080 you just don't just you don't face that thing, you don't put 641 00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:57,880 it on the table. You don't have an accountability 642 00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:02,360 partner for it. Every day is being reinforced. 643 00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,040 Watch this. If you hiding it, you owning it. 644 00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:14,880 Watch this EJ David did not deal with it. 645 00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:20,840 Watch this. Two whole years went by and his 646 00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:27,080 sons are sitting there asking are you going to do anything for 647 00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:30,160 my sister? Like, this is real. 648 00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:30,960 People. People. 649 00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,000 Are you going to do what? What? 650 00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:34,440 What? What? 651 00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,320 Wait a minute. You, my daddy. 652 00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:41,640 I know you got a bunch of wives. My sister just got raped by your 653 00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:45,880 son. I'm going to wait two years to 654 00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:49,960 see if you do something. I'm going to wait two years to 655 00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:53,080 see if you do something. Oh, you going to tell me it 656 00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:53,920 didn't happen? You. 657 00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:56,600 You what? OK, Dad. 658 00:46:58,240 --> 00:46:59,240 You. You just want to keep it 659 00:46:59,240 --> 00:47:04,320 pushing. Praise the Lord Oh my soul. 660 00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:05,760 You just want to keep going to church. 661 00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,720 You just don't want to talk about it the the whole family 662 00:47:09,720 --> 00:47:11,120 gather. We don't want to talk about it. 663 00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:16,240 We don't want to deal with it. OK, so where is that consequence 664 00:47:16,720 --> 00:47:18,720 going to show up? Or are you one of them people 665 00:47:18,720 --> 00:47:21,320 who are OK long as you dead and gone, you don't mind? 666 00:47:24,240 --> 00:47:26,600 I'm talking about dealing with stuff that started with grandma. 667 00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,720 I mean Grandpa that I'm talking about telling your kids no, that 668 00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:33,320 wasn't cool what Grandma did. No, I ain't no listen to 669 00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,880 grandma. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. 670 00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:40,880 You can't fear your parents so much that you allow the seed of 671 00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:44,200 toxicity to stay in your bloodline because you calling it 672 00:47:44,240 --> 00:47:48,200 honor. You going to honor your parents 673 00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:49,840 and dishonor the next generation? 674 00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:54,760 What kind of plan is that? You you going, you going to hide 675 00:47:54,760 --> 00:48:02,400 your parents filth thinking you protecting your kids? 676 00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:07,960 No, you protecting your kids by exposing because when you are 677 00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:13,320 exposing, you are also equipping man, we talk about like like 678 00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:14,880 some of the dysfunction in our family. 679 00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,560 We we, we make fun of right, we, we, we crazy, right. 680 00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:24,560 Some of the crazy is fun, but there's some stuff that my kids 681 00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:27,360 have seen me, I've talked to them about. 682 00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:28,760 Not not. Yeah, that wasn't cool. 683 00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:30,640 Dad. Why you go up to the room? 684 00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,320 Why you wasn't down there talking with everybody? 685 00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,560 Because I wasn't about to put myself in that situation. 686 00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:39,920 Kids try to act out when grandma and them come around and playoff 687 00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:42,160 and feed off grandma. Because if you if you watch 688 00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:46,720 this, if you around family all together generations, you will 689 00:48:46,720 --> 00:48:50,640 see familiar spirits. You'll see the family members 690 00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:54,160 that that's connected with what grandkid and what kid and you 691 00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:58,520 like. Oh, no, no, no, no. 692 00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:00,960 And it right, right, right. If you if you if you're a 693 00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:04,240 warrior and there's times where I get you can ask my kids, you 694 00:49:04,240 --> 00:49:06,840 ask my mom, you can ask. I'm just I will confront it 695 00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:11,160 right there. No, both both parties, we're 696 00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:12,440 going to talk. No, that ain't cool. 697 00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:16,000 Mind that, no that ain't cool Malik Nah that ain't cool 698 00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:17,840 Malachi Nah. And watch this. 699 00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:19,760 You're the guy that messed the vibe up. 700 00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:25,880 We was just having a good time. No not watching 2 demons dance 701 00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:30,600 together. You think y'all having a good 702 00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:35,160 time but that's a transaction. That's reinforcement. 703 00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:41,520 You got that family member that make it OK for your kid to cuss 704 00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:44,520 or make it OK for your kid to do this, or you got that 705 00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:47,240 grandparent that when they sip in at the party, they'll get 706 00:49:47,240 --> 00:49:49,400 your little kid come over and be like, oh, here, don't tell your 707 00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:50,960 Mama I did it. Watch this. 708 00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:52,440 You got it. Whenever you got them. 709 00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:56,640 Family members that say don't tell your Mama I did it, don't 710 00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:58,600 tell your Mama I did it. Stay woke, Caleb, stay woke. 711 00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:00,480 Don't. Don't tell your Mama I did it. 712 00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:04,440 You got them family members. Anybody ever, had anybody been a 713 00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,440 kid that somebody said don't tell your Mama I did it, Don't 714 00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:10,600 tell your daddy I did it, Or maybe you don't want to hear 715 00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:12,400 that, told the kid, don't tell your mom I did it. 716 00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:15,560 I didn't see enough hands on that first one. 717 00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:19,960 So maybe the rest of y'all two years passed. 718 00:50:19,960 --> 00:50:21,360 Watch this. Watch this. 719 00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:26,240 The ripple escalates from lust to violation to silence to 720 00:50:26,240 --> 00:50:29,040 murder. It escalates. 721 00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:32,040 Watch this. Silence can be an escalation. 722 00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:39,080 This is not random violence. This is unchecked sin maturing. 723 00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:43,360 This is unchecked sin maturing. You see it in James. 724 00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:47,040 Here's what's happening. David's family is illustrating 725 00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:49,800 it. James is talking about it. 726 00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:53,800 Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own 727 00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:56,600 desire. Then desire, when it has 728 00:50:56,600 --> 00:51:00,480 conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully grown, 729 00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:07,880 brings forth death, destruction. Desire conceives, Sin is born, 730 00:51:08,200 --> 00:51:13,840 sin matures, death follows. Watch this unconfronted desire 731 00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:15,840 does not stay private, it grows teeth. 732 00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:22,360 It's. Going to come a time where that 733 00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:27,720 unchecked sin is going to bite you and it ain't got baby teeth 734 00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:33,880 it ain't got it ain't even got dentures is. 735 00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:39,320 Is is going to bite and it's going to leave teeth marks 736 00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:43,600 unconfronted desire. No, no, no, you. 737 00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,280 I'm here to help somebody today. You do not wait till desire 738 00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:51,800 develops. Do not wait till desire 739 00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:52,800 develops. Watch this. 740 00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:56,800 You know a evil desire from a holy desire. 741 00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:01,440 Do not wait till desire develops. 742 00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:04,880 We got 6 minutes here. The ripple was not unstoppable. 743 00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:12,280 It just went uninterrupted and I think we helping some families 744 00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:15,840 here today. The ripple does not stop when 745 00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:19,760 you feel bad. It stops when you take 746 00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:22,520 responsibility. Right, right, right. 747 00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:26,560 There's people sometimes you'll counsel and they'll anybody know 748 00:52:26,560 --> 00:52:30,640 the people that they going to make it emotional before we get 749 00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:33,280 to the root because they don't realize that. 750 00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,280 Let me cry on them. So we ain't got to deal with it. 751 00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:38,640 So when you say I'd stop people mid sad face and they'll be 752 00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:43,320 like, Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope, stop, Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope, 753 00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,800 we're not crying right now. Now this ain't the this ain't 754 00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:49,240 the part we can cry later, but can we get somewhere? 755 00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,960 But you going to start the meeting off crying from victim. 756 00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:57,720 Watch this some of y'all who are putting people's life to be that 757 00:52:57,720 --> 00:53:00,520 person. You can't be afraid to seem 758 00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:03,320 insensitive. Watch this when you tell them to 759 00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:08,240 stop your governing. No, not right now. 760 00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:11,440 We're not making this emotional right now. 761 00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:20,320 Let's get to some depth and then let's cry over revelation meant 762 00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,720 I didn't and I would feel bad. So I need the anointing because 763 00:53:22,720 --> 00:53:25,960 I the human kicks in or the pastoral kick in and you just 764 00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:30,600 want to pull out the tissue box. No, and they sitting there 765 00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:32,080 waiting for you to bring them the tissue box. 766 00:53:32,440 --> 00:53:34,160 No, ain't no tissue box. It's right there. 767 00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,320 You going to grab it? I'm not grabbing it, but there's 768 00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:41,160 times where you got to know the spirit and it's that person 769 00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:47,320 who's a victim and you can see them winding themselves up. 770 00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:48,360 You see it? Enough. 771 00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:49,520 Maybe you don't tell them to stop. 772 00:53:49,720 --> 00:53:51,640 You got to change the conversation quick. 773 00:53:53,080 --> 00:54:01,280 You got to be skillful though. Sin does not stay where. 774 00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:02,720 It starts watch this, watch this. 775 00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,160 I'll give you, here's a little counseling tip. 776 00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:08,640 If I know a meeting has the potential, I shouldn't give this 777 00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:10,120 away because then sometimes you're going to come in the 778 00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:13,680 office, you're going to be. But if I know a meeting has the 779 00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:17,640 potential to be dramatic, I might turn on some upbeat music. 780 00:54:18,200 --> 00:54:21,320 I'm like if I meet with this person with pads on we going to 781 00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:25,200 be crying the whole time and this meeting is not about. 782 00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:27,600 That right now. We actually need to bring some 783 00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:30,600 correction, so we going to turn on some some reggae or 784 00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:34,480 something. We going to turn it up. 785 00:54:39,240 --> 00:54:41,560 They going to walk in with strobe lights and everything on 786 00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:42,080 what's? Up. 787 00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:46,160 Hey, get Seon to bring some confetti. 788 00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:47,720 Soon as you walk in the. Session I'm. 789 00:54:48,560 --> 00:55:03,740 Let's turn up. Why? 790 00:55:05,300 --> 00:55:06,460 Because that's. Governing. 791 00:55:07,140 --> 00:55:10,620 That is. Skillful governing that is not 792 00:55:10,700 --> 00:55:12,460 that is not saying. That ain't God does. 793 00:55:12,460 --> 00:55:15,540 This the same way sometimes we want God to just wrap his arms 794 00:55:15,540 --> 00:55:19,900 around us. We want to sing He loves. 795 00:55:19,940 --> 00:55:24,240 US. Oh, and big sloppy wet kiss and 796 00:55:24,240 --> 00:55:26,600 we want to get sing all them emotional worship songs. 797 00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:28,720 When God says it's time to run through a wall right now. 798 00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:39,000 He loves us. Oh, how he loves us and it's 799 00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:40,400 like. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. 800 00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,920 This is time to. Sing I will run or you know it's 801 00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:45,840 time to hit them keys that's hit. 802 00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:50,160 That I. Will run key right right. 803 00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:50,920 Right. Stop, stop, stop. 804 00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:52,400 Don't know. Stop, stop, stop, stop. 805 00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:54,120 You see what I'm saying? You see what that does that 806 00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,680 that's just like versus play, play, play, play he love. 807 00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:10,720 OK, OK, OK, OK. Right. 808 00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:14,600 This is the beautiful part about music, but sometimes you need to 809 00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,680 know when you said that you need a song. 810 00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:20,200 That's. That's about to drive you 811 00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:23,600 somewhere, but you also need people. 812 00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:25,200 Around you. That will do. 813 00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:27,800 It for you and you give them permission, that's 814 00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:30,800 accountability. You're not going to get offended 815 00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:32,360 when I'm trying to. Redirect. 816 00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:35,600 Something I'm I'm actually governing and you can't see 817 00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:37,040 right now because you're caught up in it. 818 00:56:42,330 --> 00:56:44,130 Sin does not stay where it starts. 819 00:56:45,090 --> 00:56:48,410 It spreads. This is not about David alone. 820 00:56:49,250 --> 00:56:57,800 This is really about identity. Orphan posture was the root. 821 00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:09,600 Patterns are the fruit. So we bring this to a close. 822 00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:12,920 Romans 8 shows. Us something for the Spirit 823 00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:17,200 which you have now received. Is not a spirit of slavery now 824 00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,520 received to put you once? More in bondage. 825 00:57:20,520 --> 00:57:23,880 To fear once more. But you have received the spirit 826 00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:26,560 of adoption, the spirit producing sonship, Spirit 827 00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:30,440 producing sonship, in the bliss of which we cry. 828 00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:33,080 ABBA, Father, father, watch this. 829 00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,600 There's 2 operating systems going on in that scripture. 830 00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:48,800 One is slavery produced by fear. Sonship produces security these 831 00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,080 two operating systems. The orphan posture. 832 00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:56,960 Says protect yourself, control outcomes, hide weakness, perform 833 00:57:56,960 --> 00:58:07,380 for approval. We're going to end here and 834 00:58:07,380 --> 00:58:09,260 we're going to pick up next week and we're. 835 00:58:09,260 --> 00:58:12,620 Going to get into equipping and exciting in the same message and 836 00:58:13,700 --> 00:58:19,740 his sonship posture says I am secure, I am governed and I am 837 00:58:19,740 --> 00:58:23,380 received. So what? 838 00:58:23,380 --> 00:58:27,160 Runs in your family. In my family to make this 839 00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:33,440 hermeneutically. Sound sexual disorder, divided 840 00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:38,760 worship, anger sometime in one house you. 841 00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:44,520 Got people worship in different. Things control, fear, 842 00:58:45,480 --> 00:58:50,320 performance, rebellion, passivity. 843 00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:55,840 Behavior is not the starting point. 844 00:58:57,120 --> 00:58:59,200 Behavior is not the starting point. 845 00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:06,200 Identity is you are where. You are because you know who you 846 00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:07,680 are. Or you don't know who you are, 847 00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,200 and you might know who. You are in certain areas, but in 848 00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:14,040 some. Areas you don't know who you are 849 00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:17,600 if you do not. Govern desire. 850 00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:19,440 Desire will govern. Generations. 851 00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:28,240 The amazing part is this puts in. 852 00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:38,420 Context What Jesus came to do. The devil is defeated. 853 00:59:40,780 --> 00:59:43,020 Jesus says. All power has been given to me. 854 00:59:43,180 --> 00:59:48,620 Now go. Watch this being a witness. 855 00:59:50,100 --> 00:59:52,140 And your transformation. Go hand to hand. 856 00:59:54,100 --> 00:59:55,980 What kind of witness? Are you if you ain't changing? 857 01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:05,000 And if you're really witnessing, why you how you ain't changing? 858 01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:10,320 So if I'm going to be a witness, I got to be transformed. 859 01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:13,960 So This is why all powers in. His hand is as. 860 01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:19,640 I go not as I go do ministry, but abandoned identity not as I 861 01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:21,920 go, I find. Identity in ministry. 862 01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:25,600 No, as I go, I'm letting him do the work in me. 863 01:00:28,360 --> 01:00:30,800 So that I can do the work of the ministry. 864 01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:36,120 That sounds like Ephesians. He gave these five fold ministry 865 01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:39,760 gifts to do what equip the Saints, mature the Saints for 866 01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:44,280 the perfecting of the Saints so that they may do the what work 867 01:00:44,280 --> 01:00:48,200 of the ministry. So witnessing and. 868 01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:51,320 Transformation Go. Hand in hand, what we've been 869 01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:54,560 doing is putting gifting on top of transformation. 870 01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,280 We've been prioritizing. Opportunity. 871 01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,800 Prioritizing anointing, prioritizing gifting, 872 01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:06,360 prioritizing career not knowing that they. 873 01:01:06,360 --> 01:01:10,720 All go together. But God is never about to blow 874 01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:15,520 up. This is why some of our favorite 875 01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:22,920 worship worship bands or collectives have blown up and 876 01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:29,000 then blew up. Because they were talented and 877 01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:30,800 there. Was a machine that got them to 878 01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:37,080 where they got, but you see what happens when anointing. 879 01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:48,510 Don't know who they are? You like how these people keep 880 01:01:48,510 --> 01:01:51,670 falling identity? Undealt with patterns. 881 01:01:52,030 --> 01:01:54,910 Anytime you see a church falls, you can go right back. 882 01:01:54,910 --> 01:01:57,470 Here is how every giant fell in the Bible. 883 01:01:58,630 --> 01:02:01,280 Undealt with patterns and watch this. 884 01:02:01,320 --> 01:02:05,000 None of us in here are exempt. You don't need a platform. 885 01:02:06,280 --> 01:02:10,080 I don't watch this. It's even worse if. 886 01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:14,520 You don't got a platform. But you let your family down. 887 01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:18,400 You think it's bad? Because a pastor failed? 888 01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:21,960 What about a father? Why we make? 889 01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:23,800 So much noise because a pastor failed. 890 01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:25,840 Do you know the? Responsibility you got as a mom, 891 01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:29,840 do you know? What you have responsibility, 892 01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:35,320 you have as a daughter. As a son and all we do. 893 01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:38,280 Is scroll and share other? People's fall. 894 01:02:39,120 --> 01:02:41,040 Let's see if you being faithful over your house. 895 01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:44,200 Guess what, you just ain't been found out yet. 896 01:02:44,200 --> 01:02:47,600 Your business ain't on social media, but them little secrets 897 01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:49,000 you're not dealing with. Guess what? 898 01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:52,040 They just got busted. You should. 899 01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:54,440 You should not want to keep. On getting away with. 900 01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:59,360 The secret? So you should. 901 01:02:59,360 --> 01:03:03,560 Thank God you're not popular. But watch this. 902 01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:10,440 Popular saying ain't. Bigger than unpopular? 903 01:03:10,440 --> 01:03:16,800 Saying but there's a a, a a wealth. 904 01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:24,160 Of people that's. So opinionated about the 905 01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:26,640 toxicity in the world. And if you just turn that phone 906 01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:32,000 on you and do a selfie? I wonder if you posted your 907 01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:38,000 truth, your secrets, your fears, what that'll look like. 908 01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:41,680 You might go. Viral if you told the truth. 909 01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:51,360 Instead of just being a consumer, I wonder who's going 910 01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,240 to take responsibility for their bloodline. 911 01:03:54,920 --> 01:04:03,280 I know I am. What may come, what don't come, 912 01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:08,360 doesn't matter. But what I am responsible for is 913 01:04:08,360 --> 01:04:10,800 the Richmond. Family and then as. 914 01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:11,680 The man. Watch this. 915 01:04:12,400 --> 01:04:16,760 I've also taken on changing the bloodline of the Mancinis. 916 01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:20,280 Oh, you thought you just married your wife, huh? 917 01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:22,800 No, you. Took responsibility to impact 918 01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:24,040 her bloodline. How you doing? 919 01:04:26,520 --> 01:04:29,040 How you? Doing because she joined her. 920 01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:32,320 Bloodline with your bloodline. So y'all got the opportunity to 921 01:04:32,320 --> 01:04:35,800 do a new thing. The 2 become 1-2 bloodlines 922 01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:37,640 become one. How you doing? 923 01:04:37,680 --> 01:04:39,400 How you doing fellas after you told her? 924 01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:41,080 Father, you going to take her hand and you're going to take 925 01:04:41,080 --> 01:04:42,040 care of her. How you doing? 926 01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:44,360 You're not taking care of her if you ain't taking care of her so. 927 01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:51,160 Right, I got a responsibility to honor my children's 928 01:04:51,160 --> 01:04:53,360 grandparents. On both sides. 929 01:04:55,920 --> 01:05:06,410 I don't got. To talk to him all the time, but 930 01:05:06,410 --> 01:05:07,170 I. Guarantee you 931 01:05:17,510 --> 01:05:19,870 I just declare over those that are hungry and thirsty and that. 932 01:05:19,870 --> 01:05:27,790 Desire that you are empowered and anointed to make that 933 01:05:27,790 --> 01:05:33,030 difference, Yeah. Put the fear away. 934 01:05:35,640 --> 01:05:40,520 Face it, just know whatever. You have to face is already 935 01:05:40,520 --> 01:05:47,560 defeated you you have a blood bought right? 936 01:05:49,200 --> 01:05:51,640 To move forward and. Confidence and courage and. 937 01:05:51,640 --> 01:05:56,840 Boldness. There's things that you had to 938 01:05:56,840 --> 01:06:00,280 experience growing up that your. Children, unless you tell them. 939 01:06:01,120 --> 01:06:04,640 They will never even you if you told them they'll be so shocked 940 01:06:05,560 --> 01:06:08,640 they mouth would drop if you shared with them that was in 941 01:06:08,640 --> 01:06:14,280 your bloodline. I'm talking about brand new. 942 01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:17,120 I'm talking about. I'm talking about. 943 01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:18,720 The first to do. It. 944 01:06:21,520 --> 01:06:24,160 Some of you in here are first generation leaders first. 945 01:06:24,160 --> 01:06:28,240 Generation entrepreneurs First generation graduates first 946 01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:34,800 generation the 1st. For some of you. 947 01:06:36,760 --> 01:06:38,680 My prayer right now. Is that? 948 01:06:39,880 --> 01:06:42,600 You allow God to. Deal with your fear. 949 01:06:44,720 --> 01:06:46,880 All I hear the. Lord saying in this moment. 950 01:06:48,160 --> 01:06:54,840 As your Father is fear not, for I did not give you the spirit of 951 01:06:54,840 --> 01:07:01,520 fear, but a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. 952 01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:10,000 Fear is not your future. Depression is not your future. 953 01:07:11,320 --> 01:07:19,160 Worry is not your future. Mental illness of any kind is 954 01:07:19,160 --> 01:07:25,800 not your future. The assigned demons in your 955 01:07:25,800 --> 01:07:37,080 bloodline are defeated their. Strategies are exposed. 956 01:07:42,760 --> 01:07:49,560 They are uprooted. God's going to do some things 957 01:07:49,560 --> 01:07:53,240 inside of you. That is going to. 958 01:07:53,240 --> 01:07:55,160 Confound the enemy it is going to. 959 01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:59,040 Confuse the enemy. The enemy is going to have to go 960 01:07:59,040 --> 01:08:03,320 back to the. Drawing board on you, whoever 961 01:08:03,320 --> 01:08:05,080 that is for. He he, he. 962 01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:07,760 He has. He has had a pulse on your 963 01:08:07,760 --> 01:08:11,400 family for too long. I take it personal. 964 01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:12,800 It's been too. Easy. 965 01:08:12,800 --> 01:08:15,080 To bring destruction in your family. 966 01:08:15,520 --> 01:08:19,399 But it stops with you today. It has to stop. 967 01:08:19,680 --> 01:08:22,200 Somebody just say it has to stop with me. 968 01:08:29,880 --> 01:08:32,359 And stopping with you does not mean the last. 969 01:08:32,359 --> 01:08:36,080 One to get it. It means you're the. 970 01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:43,319 First one it won't touch. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 971 01:08:43,319 --> 01:08:45,200 It's it's, it's not, it's not I'm. 972 01:08:45,200 --> 01:08:48,479 The last one to get cancer. I'm the last one to deal with 973 01:08:48,479 --> 01:08:50,960 abuse. No, no, no, I am the first one 974 01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:54,200 to not get it. I am the first one to not be 975 01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:59,359 diseased. I am the first one ovarian 976 01:08:59,359 --> 01:09:01,399 cancer. Will not touch my body. 977 01:09:02,279 --> 01:09:06,479 I am the first one that will have a happy. 978 01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:08,359 Marriage a thriving. Marriage. 979 01:09:09,040 --> 01:09:11,040 I am the first one to live in wealth. 980 01:09:11,040 --> 01:09:14,439 I am the first one to break the poverty spirit. 981 01:09:15,359 --> 01:09:19,399 I am not the first one, the last one to to survive it. 982 01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:25,840 I'm the first one to break it. No, no, no, no, no, no. 983 01:09:25,840 --> 01:09:29,080 No, and if it has lived in my life, even the fear of it is 984 01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:48,450 broken. Just the way this this this 985 01:09:48,490 --> 01:09:51,370 this. This afternoon has went. 986 01:09:52,850 --> 01:10:06,410 I'm a I'm a kind of come come up EJ We're about to take communion 987 01:10:06,410 --> 01:10:10,600 in it. Today is Sacrifice Sunday and I 988 01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:12,480 really want you guys to take that serious. 989 01:10:12,480 --> 01:10:16,000 Not like, oh, it's. Just another day like like make 990 01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:21,680 it a priority today we are taking communion together and 991 01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:23,960 bring in sacrifice, sacrificial seed. 992 01:10:26,720 --> 01:10:28,280 You're doing this for your family. 993 01:10:29,120 --> 01:10:30,640 You're. Sowing for your family. 994 01:10:36,790 --> 01:10:39,430 Lift your hands up right where you are if you don't. 995 01:10:39,430 --> 01:10:42,120 Mind. If you do, it's totally fine. 996 01:10:42,120 --> 01:10:43,400 Keep them down. I'm totally fine. 997 01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:50,280 Simple prayer. Do it, Lord. 998 01:10:56,450 --> 01:10:58,650 I stand out of your way, Lord and I. 999 01:10:59,010 --> 01:11:03,450 Trust you and I yield to you and I follow. 1000 01:11:03,770 --> 01:11:09,090 You do. What only you can do, God. 1001 01:11:10,810 --> 01:11:15,640 I'll do my part, Holy Spirit, you do your part. 1002 01:11:17,000 --> 01:11:26,240 Expose to me the blind spots. Today I make a choice to yield. 1003 01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:30,440 To the. Areas that grieve you. 1004 01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:34,560 Lord, I want to walk. And covenant with you. 1005 01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:40,600 Uninterrupted fellowship with you, I want to hear. 1006 01:11:40,600 --> 01:11:41,840 You. I want to know you. 1007 01:11:43,960 --> 01:11:45,880 I want my children. To know you, I want my 1008 01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:49,400 grandchildren. To know you, I want my coworkers 1009 01:11:49,400 --> 01:11:51,520 to know you. I want my friends to know you, 1010 01:11:51,520 --> 01:11:54,160 Lord. And I say start with me. 1011 01:11:59,470 --> 01:12:02,350 I lay on that table for you to clean me up. 1012 01:12:16,400 --> 01:12:18,120 But not one of my family members. 1013 01:12:19,280 --> 01:12:29,760 Will be lost to the pit of hell. I declare over my family that we 1014 01:12:29,760 --> 01:12:33,400 shall see and experience the salvation of the Lord in this 1015 01:12:33,400 --> 01:12:39,480 lifetime. That the love of God will be our 1016 01:12:39,480 --> 01:12:47,600 legacy. And the fruit of the Spirit will 1017 01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:50,520 be our evidence. That God is with us. 1018 01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:58,240 Till we put hell on notice. That sons and daughters. 1019 01:12:58,280 --> 01:13:03,440 Are on the rise and we're. Snatching back with force, our 1020 01:13:03,440 --> 01:13:09,600 brothers and sisters in Christ. And I just declare. 1021 01:13:11,480 --> 01:13:15,520 Acts 16. Household salvation. 1022 01:13:17,640 --> 01:13:19,000 No, it's not just. Me. 1023 01:13:20,040 --> 01:13:23,800 The whole household and after you get the whole. 1024 01:13:23,800 --> 01:13:27,520 Household a whole. Block and after you get the 1025 01:13:27,520 --> 01:13:29,720 whole, block the whole. City Lord. 1026 01:13:31,200 --> 01:13:33,200 Lord, we greedy for souls in here. 1027 01:13:38,000 --> 01:13:40,240 Thank you so much for tuning into this week's sermon. 1028 01:13:40,240 --> 01:13:43,560 We pray you were challenged, equipped and encouraged. 1029 01:13:43,840 --> 01:13:45,800 Make sure to follow us on all platforms. 1030 01:13:45,800 --> 01:13:49,840 That's love quest intl church. We out here for real. 1031 01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:52,240 We're really doing it. That's Facebook, Instagram, 1032 01:13:52,240 --> 01:13:55,440 YouTube and TikTok. You can find us anywhere you 1033 01:13:55,440 --> 01:13:57,880 need to find us. But until next time you know the 1034 01:13:57,880 --> 01:13:59,960 drill. You know the motto, get your 1035 01:13:59,960 --> 01:14:02,200 love fixed man and we'll see y'all real soon.