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Ramadan is the best time to get 
closer to the Dean, but going 

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into it, having things, 
situations, and people weighing 

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your soul down is going to make 
this shift so much harder. 

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The reason you're failing to 
make progress is because you're 

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stuck in the past. 
You need to learn to let these 

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doors fully close in order to 
accept abundance and happiness 

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into your life. 
Assalam Alaikum, this is your 

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host Nasin and welcome to 
Journey to Jenna, a podcast care

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day to help you become your own 
dream girl. 

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On the second episode of the 
Ramadan series, we are going to 

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cover Cleansing your Soul, 
letting things go, forgiving and

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detoxing. 
The month of Ramadan is such a 

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huge Iman boost, but what a lot 
of us don't realize is that we 

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need to prep our souls in order 
to be able to properly feel that

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Iman boost. 
We need to clean out all that 

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old negative energy that's there
so that we can accept all the 

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positivity and Iman boost that 
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Whether this negative energy 
comes from past situations or 

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people or influences that are 
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you need to work through it and 
remove it from your life so that

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you can cleanse your soul. 
Your internal world is just as 

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important, if not more important
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Your internal world influences 
how you think, how you view your

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external reality, your 
perspective, how your 

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relationships with people are, 
how you react to situations, and

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your soul is a part of that 
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Your soul is affected by all of 
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we're looking at it in a more 
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It can affect your relationship 
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Your internal world should be a 
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You should be able to look 
within yourself and feel content

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and happy and most importantly, 
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But instead you have all of 
these thoughts, all of these 

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negative situations that 
happened or negative people that

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entered your life at one point 
that are making your internal 

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environment a very toxic place. 
So it's very important to work 

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through this and learn to let go
and to clean out your internal 

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environment so it does become a 
place where you feel safe and at

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home. 
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if you put your mind to 
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you can achieve anything. 
The only person that can hold 

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you back from this is yourself, 
and having a negative internal 

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space is one of the biggest ways
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The reason that you're failing 
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be in the Dean or in the Lumia, 
is because you're stuck in the 

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past. 
You're holding on to things, 

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situations, and people that 
don't serve you anymore, and 

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through this you're 
subconsciously stunting your 

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growth and holding yourself onto
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If you want to grow, you need to
let go of all the negative 

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energy you're holding onto. 
Look at the future. 

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Look at the bigger picture. 
Look at the amazing things that 

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you aspire to achieve. 
These doors won't open for you 

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unless you allow the doors of 
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Yes, fully closing these doors 
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Yes, it's going to be hard. 
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sometimes a law opens a door for
you so that you can learn a 

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lesson. 
Not everything and everyone that

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comes into your life is meant to
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Not everything in your life is 
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expect it or want it to. 
Some things are simply meant to 

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come into your life, serve their
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And when that time comes, you 
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And sometimes when they go, we 
are hurt by something that this 

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person has done to us, and the 
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this situation is to forgive. 
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be hard for a whole bunch of 
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But before we get into that, 
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forgiveness actually is and what
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Forgiveness isn't an emotion. 
It's not something that you 

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feel. 
Forgiveness is an active choice.

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It's a decision that you make. 
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aren't saying that what the 
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you excusing whatever it is that
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Instead, what you're doing is 
saying, yes, what you did hurt, 

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but I'm not going to hold it 
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It's a decision to let go of the
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instead live in the present. 
It's choosing to not hurt those 

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who have hurt you. 
Forgiveness is choosing to let 

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go of your anger and your 
resentment and leaving the rest 

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of the Allah subhanahu, 
Attallah. 

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What happens a lot of the time 
is that we tend to get hurt from

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so many different people. 
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specific person and we hold on 
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We hold on to it because we 
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But I've learned that by doing 
this, we are inadvertently 

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causing more harm to ourselves 
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Forgiveness isn't just something
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something you do for yourself so
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Imagine every time a person's 
name comes up and your energy is

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automatically killed because you
haven't been able to forgive 

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them yet and let go. 
That's such a draining way to 

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live. 
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A person's name comes up and you
don't feel any shift because 

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you've chosen to forgive them 
and to move on because they've 

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allowed yourself peace to no 
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negative emotions. 
The hurt that was caused to you 

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by someone else is genuinely 
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Forgiving others for what 
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to yourself from them. 
It's something that you do for 

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yourself. 
So overall, forgive the people 

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that hurt you, one for the sake 
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two so that you can finally be 
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Because for every person that 
you forgive, you are healing one

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of your own wounds. 
But how exactly do we get 

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ourselves to that point where we
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to let go? 
My biggest tip is to vent. 

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Make a video. 
Record yourself talking about 

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it. 
Journal it out. 

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Get out every single emotion 
that you feel about this person 

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or the situation. 
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What led up to it? 
What are your thoughts and what 

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have you been feeling? 
Why do you think you haven't 

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been able to forgive and let go 
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Anything and everything that you
want out puts it out and be 

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truthful with everything that 
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This is so that you can First 
off let yourself fully feel all 

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your emotions, because by doing 
this you can slowly come to 

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terms with the situation. 
You can't let go of emotions 

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that you haven't fully faced 
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It also allows you to let go of 
any resentment that you're 

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holding on to, and this helps 
you get back in control of your 

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emotions of the situation. 
You've already given so much 

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time and so much energy to this,
and now because you fully let 

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yourself feel the extent of your
emotions, you can finally stop 

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giving it that time and energy. 
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Pinpoint whether your anger is 
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The anger that you feel can 
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The 1st way is constructive 
anger, which is when you express

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anger in a positive way and the 
end result is good because 

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you're able to channel your 
energy as motivation to address 

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and fix the issue instead of 
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You're actively trying to find 
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triggered your anger, and you're
able to communicate all of this 

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to the other person without 
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The 2nd way is called 
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you express your anger in ways 
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counterproductive and damaging 
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This usually manifests in 
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example would be verbal or 
physical violence, and this 

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leads to escalating the 
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it already is, and this makes it
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manage. 
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the second category, that you're
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destructive way, take a step 
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Rethink what it is that you're 
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Yes, your emotions are 100% 
valid, but you need to learn how

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to use them in a constructive 
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situation, because all you're 
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worse. 
Tip #3 is talk to the other 

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person. 
This of course doesn't extend to

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every single situation. 
If a person has disrespected you

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over and over, then they've 
shown you exactly what they 

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think about you. 
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better to not, since this person
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through their actions, that they
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Trying to communicate is more 
disrespectful to yourself than 

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anything, but in a lot of 
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help. 
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misunderstandings that you guys 
can have, and it can also 

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provide closure to you. 
Tip #4, Ask yourself how you can

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go from the situation. 
Your mindset effects how you see

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every single situation, so 
switch your mindset to see the 

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positive. 
How can you learn and grow from 

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this experience? 
What can I do in the future to 

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make sure something like this 
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Maybe you didn't listen to your 
intuition when you first became 

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friends with a girl and that 
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Your lesson is to listen to your
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See what things you can pick up 
and use to better yourself so 

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that you can protect yourself. 
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whole topic of cleansing your 
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The best way is to talk to 
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Subhanahu with Allah. 
And on top of that let yourself 

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feel. 
Sometimes we tend to avoid 

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emotions that are building up 
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them last longer. 
So feel all the emotions that 

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you've been holding in, really 
fuel them and give yourself 

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compassion. 
And then when you're ready, let 

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go of them. 
Replace them with Allah's love 

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and the knowledge that whatever 
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is there for you through it all.
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detoxing, and I'm going to give 
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feel like we should all aim to 
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obviously afterwards as well. 
All three of these things can 

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take the focus away from what we
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month, which is our Dean, Allah,
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It's about how you go about 
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They can help you or make things
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make it a rule. 
If you notice something is 

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taking you away from your focus,
constantly remove it or work on 

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controlling it so that you can 
focus on what actually does 

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matter. 
Number one is your phone. 

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Yes, we all need our phones to 
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etcetera. 
But are you really using them 

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productively? 
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your electronic devices. 
If the answer is no, rework your

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electronic device your phone so 
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and helps you get things done 
instead of being a distraction 

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for you. 
I highly recommend you set up a 

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screen time for yourself so that
you can track how long you go on

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your phone, on what apps do you 
use the most and you can set 

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limits for yourself as well. 
It can be so easy to just go on 

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your phone all day doing Ramadan
and you know, just scrolling 

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through tik toks and reels and 
this is something that you 

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should aim to eliminate. 
This leads me to #2, which is 

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social media. 
I know a lot of people just 

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start up, deactivate their 
accounts, and delete all their 

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social media apps from their 
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For this month I have personally
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I'm using Instagram very 
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purposes. 
It's not like a full detox per 

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SE, but even then I am 
definitely feeling the positive 

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effects of it. 
Not only do I have more time to 

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do more, my mind is a lot less 
cluttered because I'm not taking

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in all this short form content. 
If you do choose to use social 

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media, set a time limit using 
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and just go through and unfollow
pages and people that post 

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content that don't add to your 
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productive way. 
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#3 which is dopamine. 
One of the main ways we get 

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dopamine now is through short 
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If you don't know what dopamine 
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brain that is responsible for 
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motivation. 
It's often called the happy 

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hormone and it plays a role in 
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sleep, learning and 
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The reason that this can be 
negative is because we're 

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getting so much dopamine from 
social media and all of the 

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other external stimuli in our 
lives that it's actually having 

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a negative effect. 
High dopamine levels result in 

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anxiety, insomnia, 
hallucinations, ADHD, you know, 

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not being able to focus and this
really does have a negative 

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effect on your life. 
So really watch out for all of 

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the stimulus that you have in 
your life and put in point what 

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you need to cut out so that you 
can control the dopamine that 

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your brain is getting. 
That brings us to the end of 

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this episode. 
I hope you got something out of 

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this to help you cleanse your 
soul. 

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Forgive, let go and detox and 
make the most out of the 

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following month. 
Make sure to follow my Instagram

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for daily motivation and to just
see my life. 

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I'll have a link to it in the 
description. 

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Also Ramadan Kareem. 
I hope each and every single one

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of you have a very, very 
spiritually fulfilling month. 

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I pray that you are able to 
change your life this Ramadan. 

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I pray that you're able to build
new habits and you're able to 

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become a better version of 
yourself. 

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As always, thank you so much for
tuning in. 

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And Aslam, I come. 
I'll see you in my next episode.