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Assalamu Alaikum, this is your 
host Nosheen, and welcome to 

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this week's episode of Journey 
to Jenna, where we'll be talking

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about how to stop listening to 
music. 

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I want to preface this by saying
just because I'm making this 

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episode and giving advice in no 
way makes me perfect. 

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Rather, I'm a Sinner, just like 
each and every single one of us 

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is. 
But I learned from my mistakes, 

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I learned from my past, and from
that I'm able to give this 

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advice. 
So First things first, I want to

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address the actual issue of not 
being able to stop listening to 

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music for what it truly is. 
Because for a lot of people, at 

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the end of the day, it's a form 
of addiction. 

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So step one is accepting that 
most people are like, no, it's 

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not an addiction. 
If it wasn't an addiction, you 

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wouldn't be here listening to 
this episode of How to Stop. 

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If it wasn't an addiction, you 
would just stop. 

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You wouldn't need an 
intervention plan. 

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It would be as easy as just 
stopping. 

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But The thing is, it's not. 
It's not an easy thing to do. 

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Yes, some people can just stop 
and that's it. 

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But for others, it's quite 
literally become an addiction. 

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Some people are addicted to 
drugs, some people are addicted 

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to alcohol, and some people are 
addicted to music. 

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And I mean, it's not like a bad 
thing to admit that you are 

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addicted to music because that's
the first step in any journey 

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towards fixing yourself. 
It's to admit the fact that you 

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are addicted to music. 
You need to accept what the 

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issue is in order to start the 
journey of actually fixing it. 

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And again, yes, it's a struggle 
to stop. 

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Yes, it takes so much out of 
you, so much discipline, and 

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just so much out of you 
mentally. 

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But when you realize that you 
don't need music in your life to

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feel contempt and when you 
realize that everything that you

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did, all the hardships that you 
went through, you did it all for

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Allah, subhanawata Allah and he 
is rewarding you greatly for 

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everything that you do, it 
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Next step, let's put a why to 
this, a reason as to why you're 

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quitting music. 
Yes, you're quitting music 

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because it's Haram. 
Some people will argue with this

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and say, well, some scholars say
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And when they said that music is
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meant that music. 
Like listening to little TJ and 

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Drake and Lana Del Rey, whoever 
your favorite artist is, they 

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never meant that this modern 
music we have today is halal. 

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There's no scholar that will 
tell you that it's halal. 

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And I think that all of us can 
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We know it's Haram. 
But like, putting that issue 

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aside, let's dig deeper into why
a Lesboro matala has made this 

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specific thing Haram. 
Ellis Buhono Etala knows his 

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best, right? 
He is our creator, so who knows 

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us better than the one that 
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He knows that music isn't good 
for us, therefore it has been 

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prohibited in Islam. 
Studies have shown that 

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listening to music actually 
releases a chemical called 

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dopamine inside of your brain, 
which is responsible for making 

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you happy. 
However, through music, what 

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you're doing is you're creating 
an artificial happiness in your 

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brain, an artificial high. 
And some people will argue that 

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this is a good thing, but in the
long run it's really not. 

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This Dunya is meant to be filled
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You know, this Dunya isn't meant
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And Jannah is when we get our 
eternal happiness that we don't 

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get that in this Dunya. 
And you doing that through 

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creating an artificial 
happiness, it sort of kind of 

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takes away the beauty of life 
because if you never experience 

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the lows, then the highs, the 
happiness, it's not something 

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you truly appreciate. 
And on top of that, if all 

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you're doing is you're on this 
artificial high that you've 

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created, then you're looking at 
this dunya in a really different

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perspective than the one that 
you should be looking at it 

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through. 
I've also found that constantly 

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listening to music has a a 
negative effect on the amount of

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mental clarity that you have and
on your focus. 

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People who listen to music tend 
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of this. 
You're so used to that 

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stimulation that music brings 
you that when you take out your 

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air pods and you focus on actual
devotion to your creator, it 

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sort of kind of seems boring 
compared to what you've 

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accustomed yourself to. 
And our Dean is it's based on 

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Salam the prophet. 
Sallallahu Wasallam said that 

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the prayer is what separates us 
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And with music you've ruined 
that focus, that Khushu that you

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have in your Salah and it's I 
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of self sabotage. 
I was watching a video from this

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YouTube channel called Merciful 
Servant and they called music 

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something that I've never heard 
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They called it the Quran of the 
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Like that just honestly hit me 
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I hadn't ever heard anyone call 
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But it honestly does make sense.
When you listen to Quran, it 

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stays in your heart. 
You know you have, you hold a 

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very high place in your heart 
for Quran. 

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And in a way music does the same
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When you listen to music, it 
goes into your heart and it 

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stays there. 
And Shaitaan, he makes music, 

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this thing that everyone wants. 
He makes it something enjoyable,

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which like everyone that listens
to music is going to say they 

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love music. 
It's something that brings you 

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happiness. 
It's something that brings you 

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joy. 
That is what makes it so much 

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harder. 
You've given music a place in 

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your heart when it shouldn't be 
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And Chaitan has made it so 
widespread, so easy to listen to

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music that even if you quit 
music, someone you're friends 

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with or someone in your family 
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music. 
And that's how you're exposed to

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it. 
You're listening to an Islamic 

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video and an ad comes up and it 
has music in it like Shaitaan. 

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He knows the appeal that music 
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He knows how much we enjoy it, 
and he's capitalizing on it. 

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And it's sad that the society 
that we live in, it's completely

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just falling into this trick of 
Straitan. 

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Everywhere you go there's music 
and people will be like, So 

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what? 
Like they'll take it so lightly.

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Oh, it's just music. 
No, it's not just music. 

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You're feeding yourself and your
soul something, and when that 

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something is bad, it becomes 
dangerous because you're slowly 

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destroying your own soul. 
The mainstream music that we 

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have nowadays, it preaches 
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What do all these songs talk 
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They talk about drugs, partying,
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They talk about breakups, being 
sad, and that is what you're 

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feeding your soul. 
How do you expect yourself to be

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truly happy, to be at peace? 
When you're feeding into this 

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type of content? 
Be mindful of the content that 

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you let yourself consume because
it may seem like nothing to you,

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but in reality that is what is 
subconsciously guiding your 

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mind, these ideologies that 
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It corrupts you and furthermore 
it's a trick of shaitaan to feed

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you these non Islamic 
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You may be a very very pious 
person, but if all that's in 

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your ears are these songs about 
all these Haram things, sooner 

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or later they're going to become
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And again, you may be taking 
this lightly, but allowing 

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something to subconsciously 
control your mind isn't 

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something to take lightly. 
This is your life, and you 

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control your life through your 
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If you let your mind become 
corrupted, if you let your mind 

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be subconsciously controlled, 
where do you think your life 

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will go? 
It'll become that much harder to

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do what is right, to stay on the
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It'll become that much harder to
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You're the only person that can 
truly make something out of 

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yourself. 
And if you don't work towards 

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that, if you don't work towards 
the life that you want, you're 

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not going to get it. 
But at the end of the day, you 

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get what you give. 
If you give your soul all of 

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this music that is 
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you're not going to be able to 
get that life that you truly 

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want, that Islamic life that 
hereafter, you know. 

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So really focus on what it is 
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mind. 
I heard this story about 

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somebody who decided to quit 
music, and the reason they 

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decided to quit, it's because of
the power they realized music 

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had over them. 
Basically this girl, she had 

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been listening to music and then
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So she got up, stopped listening
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However, when she went to pray, 
she found that she couldn't. 

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Why? 
Because her heart was singing. 

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It was singing the lyrics that 
she had just been listening to, 

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and this really resonated with 
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I feel like a lot of us can 
honestly relate as well, because

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how many of us have ever had a 
song stuck inside of our head? 

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It'll play over and over and 
over, and sometimes I find 

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myself unintentionally humming a
song that I heard on TikTok and 

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the video was only, what, 10 
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But either way, it'll still be 
stuck in my head, and I'll feel 

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like through. 
This is what I when I really 

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realized how truly addicting 
music can be, and just how much 

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of A subconscious impact it can 
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And after hearing this story, I 
connected it to this other story

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I've heard about a man. 
He was dying and his wife was 

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begging him to say the Shahada 
so he would go to Jenna, but the

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man couldn't. 
Instead he started talking about

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football and football players 
because that is what he had 

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dedicated his life to. 
That is what he fed his soul. 

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And as I said before, you get 
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Imagine being in that same 
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football, it's music that's in 
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You're trying to say the words 
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but all that comes out is music.
The music that is stuck in your 

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head, the music that you decided
to feed your soul, I really 

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think about that because it's 
not something that we should be 

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taking lightly. 
Like, truly, just imagine that 

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for a second, you know, just 
like pause this episode and just

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imagine all of this happening. 
You know, like, you put yourself

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in that position and honestly, 
it's terrifying. 

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You know, like our whole entire 
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It leads up to that moment of 
saying la ilaha illallah before 

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we die and imagine not being 
able to because we decided to 

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feed ourselves music. 
And by saying this, I'm in no 

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way do I mean like to scare 
anybody or make anybody angry. 

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Like honestly, just thinking 
about it this way, it really 

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helped me. 
Like seeing the gravity of the 

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situation. 
I had never looked at it as 

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something serious, but looking 
at it in this perspective, it 

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really just shows how serious of
an issue it is and how much of 

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an impact it truly has on your 
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So I hope that you guys can like
gauge some of that and you don't

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have that understanding in your 
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Anyways, this leads us to our 
next step, which is creating a 

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sincere intention. 
For this, we have our purpose. 

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When's now we need our 
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A great way to do this is to 
reflect on the purpose behind 

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stopping music, which we just 
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But I also want you to do it on 
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Create your own purpose. 
Create your own. 

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Why? 
This will really help in the 

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long run because you have a 
clearly set intention backed by 

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purpose, and if that purpose is 
truly meaningful to you, when it

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really gets hard and all you 
want to do is go back and listen

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to music, it'll sort of stop you
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It'll help you. 
It helps create a strong 

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resolve. 
So like you know, tell yourself 

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that you're doing it for the 
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This dunya is going to be full 
of struggles and this struggle 

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you're going through is for the 
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Next step or tip number. 
I think we're at #4. 

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It's being mindful of what you 
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Your life's direction and 
decisions are deeply impacted by

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what you allow your mind to see 
and what you allow it to dwell 

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on. 
Be mindful of the tik toks in 

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reels and YouTube shorts that 
you watch. 

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It's so easy for music to be fed
to us, especially in today's 

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world where everywhere you look 
on social media, it's just short

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form content with music in the 
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quick consumption, but the 
content that you consume, it 

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leaves a lasting impression on 
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your brain. 
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control over what influences our
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so normalized. 
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you find to this problem works. 
Turn your sound off if you have 

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to. 
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TikTok all together and I have 
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social media and even then I've 
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I just post my content, engage 
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I also went through my following
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creators who use music in their 
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encourage all of you guys to do 
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You have power over what kind of
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that's creators that use music 
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creators that use machines in 
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You have that choice and this is
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do. 
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following and clean it out so 
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use machines or, you know, just 
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Another important thing, go to 
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to music and delete those apps. 
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replacing music with something 
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those apps. 
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deleting the apps altogether is 
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playlist. 
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your playlists so that they're 
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that. 
It's to just like go on your 

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phone and go to your playlist 
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comfort lies. 
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to take away from that. 
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helps on that journey of just 
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And I think that, you know, as 
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world, it's sort of kind of is 
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you consume absolutely no music 
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Like if you're driving to 
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playing music in their car and 
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doctor's office and they have 
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playing has music. 
All of this is just around us. 

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music that we let ourselves 
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Whether you know the constant 
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actual music listening apps such
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it's through social media apps 
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mindful with how you engage with
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Again, delete them if you want 
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when you go on social media 
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Whatever solution you find that 
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and do it. 
Next we have tip #5, which is 

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getting comfortable with 
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What I found when I was asking 
people that had struggled with 

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really, really bad music 
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getting comfortable with silence
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They had found a sense of 
comfort in music, and without 

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it, it just sort of felt really 
uneasy, you know? 

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But they also said that after a 
while, it's sort of kind of they

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found peace within silence, just
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nature around them or, you know,
people talking in the background

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the car is going by. 
It's a lot more calming and a 

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lot less stimulating than 
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Next we have tip #6, which is to
replace music with something 

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else. 
That is Hello, Replace it with 

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Quran. 
Replace it with a lecture. 

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Replace it with Islamic 
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Replace it with something else 
that willpower your mind and 

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your heart in a positive way. 
Again, like being mindful with 

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the content that we that 
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If you stop listening to music 
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that have instruments in the 
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it doesn't do much, you know. 
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the types of Nasheed that you 
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There are a lot of good machines
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chop that I fell into listening 
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background. 
It's sort of kind of takes away 

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from the purpose, so definitely 
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If you're going to be listening 
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are all acapella. 
Another thing I wanted to say, I

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know for a lot of people that 
just stopping listening to music

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and then becoming comfortable 
with silence isn't going to be 

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an easy jump. 
I mean, honestly, it's it's not 

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an easy jump for anybody, which 
is why I'm putting in this step 

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of replacing it with something 
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But I want to also say don't get
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You know, the ultimate goal is 
to be able to feel comfortable 

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with silence, with just 
listening to this Dunya, you 

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know, the sounds of this Dunya. 
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replacing music with something 
else, at first it's going to 

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feel so weird because these 
replacements don't give you the 

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amount of stimulation, that 
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would bring you. 
But what I've seen is that a lot

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of people, they get stuck within
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You know, they were addicted to 
music and now they're addicted 

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to the replacement. 
Alhamdulillah, at least it's 

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something that's halal. 
But the goal here is to be able 

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to become comfortable with 
silence, you know? 

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You'll get there. 
Like, I promise you, you will 

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get there and it'll be hard on 
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But again, I promise with hard 
work and a lot of time you will 

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get there. 
And when you do, you'll see how 

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much of A positive impact it has
on your life. 

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For some people they're able to 
see these changes really 

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quickly, but for others it may 
take a few weeks. 

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A few months, but. 
I promise you will see the 

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positive impact it has on your 
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And for me, one of the biggest 
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mental clarity and just being 
able to focus on things for a 

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longer amount of time. 
You know you're able to actually

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enjoy life to the fullest 
without having to heavily depend

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on something. 
Another thing is it helps build 

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discipline. 
So many people when they go to 

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the gym, when they study, they 
listen to music and they use it 

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to get amped up to get 
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But without music you have to 
force yourself using raw 

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discipline. 
And I can attest to this like 

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going to the gym without music 
was so, so hard at 1st and 

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honestly it still is with time. 
I've just learned to push 

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through. 
Like with music, you can sort of

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kind of just forget the pain 
that you have at the gym and 

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like, you're all pumped up and 
you have all this motivation. 

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And when I would remove that 
again, it would just make things

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so much harder. 
But with that, you learn to be 

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more disciplined using simply 
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Over time, I've realized that I 
don't have to depend on music to

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get that level of discipline. 
Another positive change I've 

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seen in my life is being able to
feel raw emotions and moving on 

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from situations faster. 
Like before. 

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I would go through something and
sometimes I would listen to sad 

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music and all that really did 
was elongate how long I was sad 

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for, how long I spent being sad 
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Where is now I can truly feel my
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They're not as dictated by music
and I can help myself move on a 

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lot faster and instead of just 
listening to sad music all day 

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and making myself feel even 
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place. 
It's also helped me build a 

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stronger connection with myself 
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And in those moments where 
before I would just be listening

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to music, now I'm able to just 
be, you know, I can think I can 

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learn more about myself. 
I am able to be more in tune 

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with myself. 
With music you don't have that 

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because there's always something
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So just definitely having more 
time to be in tune with myself 

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has helped just building an 
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When I would actually listen to 
music regularly, I was actually 

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never that much of like a 
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It was more Bollywood songs. 
And that was really hard for me 

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to give up. 
Like when I first made it a 

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thing that I wouldn't be 
listening to music, Cutting off 

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English music was so easy. 
But Bollywood, the whole process

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was just so, so hard. 
Like I had to force myself to 

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not listen to Tum Hi Ho or Teres
Sang Yara. 

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No Ativ Islam anymore. 
Like so much of this culture and

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you know, if you're they see so 
much of it comes from the music.

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And that was another aspect that
I have struggled with, just like

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not knowing a lot of the newest 
they see songs. 

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And like before when I had 
TikTok, I would hear snippets of

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new songs on it and that was my 
way of, you know, getting the 

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new songs. 
And even just like watching new 

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Bollywood movies, if you're 
Daisy, you know that every 

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single movie is basically a 
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So, you know, just grappling 
with that aspect of not being as

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intact with this specific part 
of my culture was something else

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that just made this journey 
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I also struggled with, on the 
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Because while I was on this 
journey of, you know, not 

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listening to music, I also 
somewhere along the line was 

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like, OK, I think I'm at a point
now where I should take down all

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of these videos that I have on 
TikTok and Instagram that have 

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music. 
You know, I have enough 

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knowledge and I should act upon 
that knowledge. 

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It was really hard at first. 
Like, I took down almost all of 

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the videos that had music, but I
left like one or two up just 

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because I really liked those 
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With time, I realized that just 
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no way meant that I should be 
sacrificing my Akara for just 

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those videos, you know? 
And another thing was finding 

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audios that fitted the videos 
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It was just really hard. 
Also with engagement, I felt 

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like not a lot of people wanted 
to watch my videos anymore 

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because I didn't use music in 
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But Al Hamdulillah, everything 
worked out for the best. 

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And you know I have not used 
music in any of my videos for 

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over around a year and a half, I
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So Al Hamdulillah for that 
everything works out in the best

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way possible. 
Alice Upon with Allah always has

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a plan for all of us and we may 
not see where that ending is 

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going to be, but have faith that
Allah will give you success for 

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you know, giving up something 
for the sake of Allah. 

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And this in no way means that 
like I'm perfect. 

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I don't listen to music anywhere
at all. 

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You know, sometimes old habits 
do come back, but the important 

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thing is that you put yourself 
in check like life happens 

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sometimes. 
Your Iman is going to be high 

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sometimes, kids going to be low.
Iman fluctuates all the time. 

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But the important thing is that 
you just constantly put yourself

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in check. 
Telling yourself yo you can't be

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doing this, you got to stop. 
This is Haram. 

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Like whatever you got to do, do 
it. 

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You know yourself best you know.
So I hope this episode was able 

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to give you some helpful tips 
and motivation to start your own

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journey of not listening to 
music. 

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That is honestly all I have for 
this episode. 

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Thank you so much for listening 
to this podcast and for 

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supporting me. 
And with that, I sit on my neck.