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Ever walk into a negotiation 
feeling like you're totally 

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prepped, only to walk out like 
what just happened? 

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Yeah. 
You're not alone. 

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Not by a long shot. 
Today, we're going deep on the 

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psychology of negotiation. 
That make or break mental game 

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beneath the surface, right? 
Exactly. 

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It's fascinating how much of 
negotiation comes down to what's

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happening inside our own heads. 
It's like our brains have their 

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own agenda sometimes. 
They really do. 

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So for this deep dive, we're 
ditching the, you know, surface 

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tactics, the stuff everyone 
talks about, right? 

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We're going deep on the 
sychology, the stuff that can 

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really make all the difference. 
Whether you're aiming for a 

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raise, haggling over a price, 
anything. 

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Or just trying to get your way, 
let's be honest. 

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Absolutely, and that often 
starts with understanding the 

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sneaky ways our minds can trip 
us up. 

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OK, our own minds working 
against us. 

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What's that about? 
We're talking about cognitive 

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biases, those mental shortcuts 
that well, they can lead to some

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serious negotiation. 
Fails. 

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Negotiation fails. 
OK, so like what? 

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What's an example? 
Let's start with the 

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overconfidence bias. 
Overconfidence. 

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How can being like confident be 
a bad thing? 

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Confidence is important for 
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That's different. 
That little voice in your head 

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that says I'm a negotiation 
ninja, I got this. 

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Oh yeah, I've totally been 
there. 

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But how is that a bad thing? 
They can be blinding. 

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You walk in assuming you deserve
a certain price without really 

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considering the other side. 
So it's like going into a salary

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negotiation and I'm like 6 
figures no less, without even 

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like checking what other people 
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Making exactly overconfidence 
can lead to unrealistic 

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expectations and you miss 
crucial information from the 

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other side. 
Which can lead to. 

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Deadlocks, or even losing out on
opportunities you might have had

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otherwise. 
So how do we avoid that trap? 

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We can't just like, switch off 
our confidence, right? 

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It's about finding a balance, 
being confident in your 

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abilities, but also being 
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So being prepared to, you know, 
to pivot, adjust your approach 

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based on what you're learning in
the negotiation. 

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Precisely OK. 
Makes sense. 

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What else? 
What other mental traps are out 

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there? 
Let's talk about loss aversion. 

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This one's a real deal breaker. 
Loss aversion? 

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That sounds kind of intimidating
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Can be, especially in a 
negotiation setting. 

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OK, So what is it? 
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we feel the pain of a loss more 
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pleasure of an equivalent game. 
So you're saying that that we'd 

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rather avoid the losing 50 bucks
than we would enjoy finding 50 

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bucks? 
It might seem irrational, but 

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that's how our brains are wired.
So how does this like, how does 

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that play out in a negotiation? 
Imagine you're buying, let's 

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say, a used car. 
You've done your research. 

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You know the fair price is 
around $5000. 

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You offer $4500, the seller 
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OK, so a little bit above what I
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Even though $5200 might still be
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losing that extra $200, it feels
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And you walk away from decent 
deal exactly because it just 

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feels bad, that feeling of 
getting a bad deal, even if it's

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not that bad. 
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interesting. 
To overcome loss aversion, you 

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need to reframe the negotiation.
Reframe and how? 

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Instead of focusing on what you 
might lose, highlight what the 

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other party gained. 
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Interesting. 
So instead of saying I'll give 

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you $4500 for the car, I could 
say you'll. 

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Walk away with $4500 in your 
pocket today if you accept my 

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offer. 
Well, that's good. 

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So by shifting the focus to 
their potential gains, it's less

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likely to trigger that loss 
aversion. 

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Exactly, and that can make all 
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That's a game changer. 
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overconfidence and loss 
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What other mental gremlins are 
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Well, now that we've covered 
some common biases, let's talk 

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about emotional intelligence in 
negotiation. 

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Because it's not just about 
being smart, right? 

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It's about being smart about 
your emotions, which let's be 

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honest. 
That's where things get really 

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interesting. 
It's. 

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Not like we could just flip a 
switch and suddenly we're, you 

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know, emotion reading experts. 
Right, but it starts with 

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self-awareness. 
Think about a time you felt 

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angry or frustrated during a 
negotiation. 

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Oh, tons. 
What triggered those emotions 

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and how did you react? 
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I've definitely been there. 
I once let my emotions get the 

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best of me during a salary 
negotiation. 

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I was so worried about like, 
seeming pushy OK that I just 

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ended up accepting a lower offer
than I deserved. 

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That's a perfect example of how 
our emotions can hold us back. 

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But by understanding those 
emotional triggers, like the 

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fear of seeming pushy, you can 
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strategies. 
To manage them. 

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Exactly so. 
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those feelings when they come up
and finding ways to like, stay 

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calm and collected. 
Yeah, even under pressure, which

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can be tough. 
Oh, for sure. 

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Taking a few deep breaths, 
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Just like. 
OK, got a chill. 

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Exactly, or even injecting a 
little humor can de escalate a 

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tense situation. 
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So it's about finding that 
balance between being assertive 

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but not letting your emotions 
like hijack the whole 

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negotiation. 
Yeah, exactly. 

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You don't want to go from zero 
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Right, right. 
But emotional intelligence isn't

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just about managing my own 
emotions, right? 

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It's also about understanding 
what's going on with the other 

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person. 
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It's about asking yourself what 
are their underlying 

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motivations? 
What are their fears? 

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What do they want? 
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Exactly, and once you understand
what makes them tick, you can 

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tailor your approach to build 
rapport. 

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So instead of just focusing on 
my goals, I need to try to see 

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things from their perspective. 
Yes, that's empathy. 

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That's where empathy comes in, 
right? 

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Exactly. 
It's like that saying I can't 

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remember who said it. 
People don't care how much you 

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know until they know how much 
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Or something like that. 
It's true, but how can I 

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demonstrate empathy in a 
negotiation without seeming like

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a pushover? 
Well, you can acknowledge their 

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perspective, validate their 
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So they don't feel like I'm just
dismissing. 

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Them exactly. 
You can even find points of 

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agreement, all while advocating 
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So it's about finding those win,
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Where both parties feel heard 
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important. 
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But I mean, let's be real, 
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they can be tough, things can 
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Oh, for sure. 
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it's easy to lose your cool. 
Absolutely, and that's where 

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professionalism comes in. 
OK, so how do we stay classy 

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even when things get a little? 
You know, think of it like a 

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tennis match. 
OK, things might get intense, 

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but you still adhere to a 
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So how do we keep our cool? 
When you know when the 

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pressure's on, It's easy to say 
stay professional. 

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But how do you actually do that?
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your own triggers. 
If you feel yourself getting 

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flustered, defensive, take a 
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Step away from the table. 
Take a few deep breaths. 

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Gather your. 
Thoughts. 

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Because nothing good comes from 
like firing off that angry 

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e-mail or saying something 
you'll regret. 

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Exactly, and it's also important
to stay focused on the core 

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issues. 
Don't get like lost in the 

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weeds. 
Exactly, if the conversation 

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starts to veer off track or you 
get bogged down in little 

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details, you got to steer it 
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Back to the point, yeah, so it's
about finding that, you know, 

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that win, win, but how can we 
aim for that win, win when it 

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feels like the other side's just
being, like, difficult? 

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Remember a win win doesn't mean 
getting everything you want. 

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It's about finding a solution 
that you know it meets the needs

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of both parties, even if it 
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Right. 
And sometimes that takes a 

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little creativity, right? 
Instead of just focusing on 

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dividing the pie, how can we 
make the pie bigger for 

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everyone? 
That's a great way to think 

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about it. 
It's about shifting your mindset

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from I win, you lose to how can 
we both win here and that can 

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make all the difference. 
This has been, I mean, really 

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eye opening. 
We've covered so much today. 

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Any final words of wisdom for 
our listeners as they navigate 

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the the often tricky world of 
negotiation? 

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Remember, negotiation is a 
skill, and like any skill, it 

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takes practice. 
Don't be afraid to, you know, 

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experiment with these 
techniques. 

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Most importantly, be kind to 
yourself. 

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Not every negotiation is going 
to be perfect, but each one is a

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chance to learn and get better. 
It's all about progress, not 

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perfection. 
So next time you find yourself, 

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you know, gearing up for a 
negotiation, remember what we 

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talked about. 
Understand those biases, that 

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emotional intelligence is key 
and prioritize being 

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professional. 
You might be surprised what you 

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can achieve. 
Thanks for joining us on this 

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deep dive, everyone. 
We'll see you next time.