1 00:00:12,300 --> 00:00:19,500 Regime, what a while, but I know who my husband for who were 2 00:00:19,500 --> 00:00:22,700 Kareem called what Allah heat after Hotel School. 3 00:00:22,700 --> 00:00:25,600 You suffered heart-attack una Hora, de nautical nominal 4 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:29,800 hurricane color in a school bus. See one, whose name is, Allah. 5 00:00:33,900 --> 00:00:36,400 He suddenly with a silly Emilie Warnock data. 6 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,600 Mainly Sunny of Coco. Lee allahumma thabbitna and on 7 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:41,200 Mount ebal. Allah. 8 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,700 Allahumma ameen, Edina MN know what I mean. 9 00:00:43,700 --> 00:00:45,500 Oh sorry. Hot water was all, will hack, 10 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,900 but I was always so bad. I mean, I mean, today's Kaaba is 11 00:00:49,900 --> 00:00:53,600 focused on three ayats' of Surah to use of solitude surface. 12 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:57,300 Of course, one long story account of the events that took 13 00:00:57,300 --> 00:00:59,100 place in the life of Yusuf alayhi Salam. 14 00:01:00,100 --> 00:01:01,900 And this is much later in the story. 15 00:01:01,900 --> 00:01:04,700 So I'm going to fast forward. To the part that just to give 16 00:01:04,700 --> 00:01:07,500 you some background of what these three ayats have to do 17 00:01:07,500 --> 00:01:09,000 with. Before I talk about the lessons 18 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,600 that come from them, this is a part of the story where use of 19 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,800 alehissalaam has been separated. For some time from his family. 20 00:01:16,100 --> 00:01:19,600 He was thrown into, you know, a well from there ended up being a 21 00:01:19,607 --> 00:01:21,800 servant from there, falsely accused. 22 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,800 He ended up in prison and from there, he's also been released 23 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,800 from prison now and he serves as a minister essentially you can 24 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:31,600 call him a minister of finance as he's, that's taking care of 25 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,500 the the budget. And the, you know, the economic 26 00:01:35,500 --> 00:01:37,400 crisis that's happening in the country. 27 00:01:37,500 --> 00:01:39,100 So he's in a position of power now. 28 00:01:39,700 --> 00:01:43,500 And in that position of power, because there's a famine, all 29 00:01:43,500 --> 00:01:45,600 the villagers, all the surrounding areas, they don't 30 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,100 have any food. So they all come to the kingdom 31 00:01:48,100 --> 00:01:51,400 to receive their quota of food is basically a kind of, you 32 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:53,800 know, welfare system. Now, people don't have enough 33 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:55,600 money anymore. So they have to come to the 34 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,300 government and they will supply them food for each household. 35 00:01:58,500 --> 00:02:01,700 And the rule was, you have to bring all the main members of 36 00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:04,400 your family so that we can know the Ben can know these are. 37 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:05,800 How many bags were supposed to give? 38 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:07,700 You can't come. I got six brothers at home. 39 00:02:07,700 --> 00:02:10,000 Could you give me seven bags? You can't do that. 40 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,100 You have to bring all the brothers with you, so they can 41 00:02:12,100 --> 00:02:13,700 verify that. This is actually the right 42 00:02:13,700 --> 00:02:16,400 amount that's being given, especially in a time of Crisis. 43 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,900 You can't have people taking more than they deserve. 44 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:23,200 So, the brothers of Yusuf, including the youngest one are 45 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:26,700 now called to receive the their share of the food. 46 00:02:26,700 --> 00:02:29,600 And they've come and Yusuf alayhi, Salam recognizes them 47 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:33,900 while they don't recognize him. And so he hashes a scheme to 48 00:02:33,900 --> 00:02:37,800 keep his brother with him. He basically essentially, you 49 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:40,600 know what, you can call falsifies evidence, puts a puts 50 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,900 one of the golden cups inside, one of the bags and then accuses 51 00:02:43,900 --> 00:02:46,100 them, you people have stolen from the, from the King. 52 00:02:46,500 --> 00:02:48,800 And then when that's where the case comes out in the back comes 53 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:50,300 out. Now, this youngest brother is 54 00:02:50,300 --> 00:02:53,100 being held under house arrest. So the rest of his brothers have 55 00:02:53,100 --> 00:02:57,100 gone back to the dead and now two of them are together use of 56 00:02:57,100 --> 00:03:00,100 and his brother are together. They think he's been arrested. 57 00:03:00,100 --> 00:03:02,300 What's really happened is use of just To keep him with him. 58 00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:04,100 That's what was really going on. Alehissalaam. 59 00:03:04,500 --> 00:03:08,200 In any case, this is a scene of when these brothers went back to 60 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,400 their father, this is the second time they're going back to their 61 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:13,300 father. The first time they went back to 62 00:03:13,300 --> 00:03:16,500 their father, they lost Yusuf and they lied about it. 63 00:03:16,500 --> 00:03:19,600 They said a wolf ate him. The second time they took the 64 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,700 youngest brother and now they said, well, he got arrested. 65 00:03:22,300 --> 00:03:24,400 So this is the second time they're going to, they're dead 66 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:25,900 and they're going to give him the same news. 67 00:03:25,900 --> 00:03:29,000 They gave him so many years ago. We've lost another son, you've 68 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:30,900 lost another son of yours at our hands. 69 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,100 And so when he hears this news from them, this is where I'd 70 00:03:34,100 --> 00:03:37,800 like to begin is what was the reaction of yaqoob? 71 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,800 Alehsalaam before I go to the reaction of yaqoob. 72 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:42,600 Alehsalaam, you should understand that. 73 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,100 The words, the beautiful words in the Quran, subroutine Jamil 74 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:49,600 beautiful patients or finding Beauty in patience is an 75 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,100 expression that is attributed directly to yaqoob 76 00:03:52,100 --> 00:03:54,600 alehissallaam. So here in the Quran, is 77 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:58,100 actually a model for what is it mean to show patience and what 78 00:03:58,100 --> 00:03:59,900 does it mean to show patience beautifully? 79 00:04:00,300 --> 00:04:03,600 He's a model for that. Being a model for that in the 80 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,300 Quran, I want you to pay attention in myself to remind 81 00:04:06,300 --> 00:04:08,500 myself. What is his reaction when his 82 00:04:08,500 --> 00:04:11,000 sons tell him binyamin is also gone? 83 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:15,500 He's not coming back either. He says Allah says what Allah 84 00:04:15,500 --> 00:04:17,500 and home he turns his back away from them. 85 00:04:17,500 --> 00:04:19,300 Meaning he turns away from his sons. 86 00:04:19,899 --> 00:04:21,300 Well Carla. Yeah, Asif. 87 00:04:21,300 --> 00:04:25,400 Ali Yusuf, he calls out my poor Yusuf. 88 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:29,500 What a horrible tragedy has fallen upon use of wait. 89 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:31,700 It wasn't use of that was taken away. 90 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,500 It was, when you mean that was taken away, Yusuf was taken away 91 00:04:35,500 --> 00:04:39,200 many, many years ago, but, you know, they say in Arabic Al 92 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:44,500 Assad Yabba thalassa one tragedy Sparks the memory of a previous 93 00:04:44,500 --> 00:04:47,900 strategy tragedy. He was reliving the crisis of 94 00:04:47,900 --> 00:04:50,900 use of in his heart. And this is many many, many 95 00:04:50,900 --> 00:04:55,100 years later, which tells you he's not over it before we go 96 00:04:55,100 --> 00:04:57,900 any further, we have To understand what we do to each 97 00:04:57,900 --> 00:05:00,200 other. Somebody has a crisis in their 98 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,400 home. Somebody has a tragedy, may be a 99 00:05:02,407 --> 00:05:05,800 loss of a child, a loss of appearance, some some or the 100 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:08,700 diagnosis of a disease, some tragedy took place. 101 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:12,000 And when you B go to a janazah and we tell these people, you 102 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,400 shouldn't be crying. You should be patient. 103 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,000 You should be patient. Have someone have someon? 104 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:19,500 7:30, we assume that not crying is the same as suburb or not. 105 00:05:19,500 --> 00:05:23,100 Complaining is the same as stubborn Yusuf Ali Yusuf. 106 00:05:23,100 --> 00:05:25,900 Ali salons loss has been many many years and he hasn't 107 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:27,700 Forgotten it still lives inside of him. 108 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,400 It's not just get over it. It's okay. 109 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:32,200 Just be grateful to Allah and get over it. 110 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,700 No, it doesn't work that way. Not even for a profit. 111 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:36,700 Not even for a model of somebody Jamil. 112 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,500 This is Allah, as I was his sensitivity to the hearts of 113 00:05:39,500 --> 00:05:42,900 those who have been hurt those who suffer pain, those who have 114 00:05:42,900 --> 00:05:46,000 loss of loved ones. And so he says, first of all, 115 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:49,300 yeah, sfr, and I use of mini cries out over his loss of use 116 00:05:49,300 --> 00:05:51,300 of, he's remembering that all over again. 117 00:05:51,300 --> 00:05:52,900 And then Allah says that's not enough. 118 00:05:53,100 --> 00:05:55,900 Not only did he speak out his complaint and cry. 119 00:05:56,100 --> 00:06:00,100 Outers complaint Allah says what blah blah, taina who his eyes 120 00:06:00,100 --> 00:06:02,200 turned white? What that means. 121 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,000 According to some is he cried so much. 122 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,700 You couldn't see the pupils of his eyes. 123 00:06:06,100 --> 00:06:08,500 Others say, he cried so much that he became blind, which 124 00:06:08,500 --> 00:06:11,900 seems to be the case, given the context because later on farted 125 00:06:11,900 --> 00:06:14,300 a bazillion, he became someone who could see again. 126 00:06:14,700 --> 00:06:18,500 So, he cried so much as a result right now that he lost his 127 00:06:18,500 --> 00:06:20,100 eyesight, what? But I know. 128 00:06:20,900 --> 00:06:24,200 And so now two things have happened one, he's cried out. 129 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:28,300 Meaning he's screamed, he's Even you know, made the verbalized 130 00:06:28,300 --> 00:06:32,000 his pain, he didn't keep it inside of him and second of all 131 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:35,200 he's crying his eyes out to the point where he's blind, it's not 132 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:39,000 just some normal event, but I want you to remember again, he's 133 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,900 not crying over binyamin first in his mind it's use of all over 134 00:06:42,900 --> 00:06:44,200 again. Yeah. 135 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:48,100 Safale Yusuf. And then after all of this a lot 136 00:06:48,100 --> 00:06:51,000 actually gives us. The reason why he had such a 137 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,000 breakdown. Why did he fall apart? 138 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,900 Like this all this time he was okay, with what? 139 00:06:56,100 --> 00:06:58,400 And with Yusuf and all of a sudden, what's wrong with you? 140 00:06:58,700 --> 00:07:01,400 Allah says, fa huwa kaleem. This is why we pay attention to 141 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,100 every letter and every word in the Quran. 142 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,600 The Ayah is not what who are kaleem that would have been 143 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,600 Joomla, Hallelujah. But this is far, who are 144 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,900 covering this is what's called a fat ass Suburbia. 145 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:15,600 What that means is and all of that happened, because because 146 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:18,800 of what, because of the fact that he was swallowing this pain 147 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:22,600 all along, he had been keeping that pain inside of him all this 148 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:26,600 time and now this one little thing happened, This one more 149 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,200 event happened. The loss of his youngest son 150 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,200 again and he couldn't take it in anymore. 151 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:33,300 What we're learning now is there are people of great patience 152 00:07:33,500 --> 00:07:36,000 just because you can see them smiling or just because you 153 00:07:36,008 --> 00:07:38,000 don't see them. Crying doesn't mean they're not 154 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:39,800 carrying a lot of pain inside of them. 155 00:07:40,300 --> 00:07:43,100 They may have been carrying it for a very very, very long time. 156 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:47,100 And finally, eventually they erupt finally, they can't take 157 00:07:47,100 --> 00:07:48,900 it anymore. She can't take it anymore and 158 00:07:48,900 --> 00:07:50,800 she erupts and you say what happened to her? 159 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,600 All of a sudden, why did you go crazy like that? 160 00:07:54,500 --> 00:07:55,900 I was you're perfectly fine last time. 161 00:07:56,100 --> 00:07:58,900 Last week, last month, couple of years, you didn't say anything 162 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:00,500 and all of a sudden you're going psycho. 163 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,500 What happened to you? This is actually what we do 164 00:08:03,500 --> 00:08:05,900 because we don't realize somebody may be carrying pain 165 00:08:05,900 --> 00:08:09,100 inside of them, even if they're not letting it outside, this is 166 00:08:09,100 --> 00:08:11,500 a lot of telling us that this has been an ongoing thing with 167 00:08:11,500 --> 00:08:14,200 him for who are kaleem, it's not even Calvin. 168 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,900 It's Colima system. Shiva to illustrate. 169 00:08:16,900 --> 00:08:20,100 This is a long-standing problem inside the heart of yaakov 170 00:08:20,100 --> 00:08:22,800 alehissalaam. But then we learned the flip 171 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,800 side of this equation. On the one hand, you have this 172 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,900 man who's dealt with so much deep and profound sadness. 173 00:08:29,100 --> 00:08:32,700 And on the other hand, what he has is an unsupportive family. 174 00:08:33,100 --> 00:08:36,299 His sons are not very sensitive to him, not very respectful to 175 00:08:36,299 --> 00:08:40,299 him and not very caring. You know, in a lot of families 176 00:08:41,100 --> 00:08:43,799 because just because somebody does their physical 177 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:48,200 responsibilities look, I cleaned the place or I provide I give 178 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:53,200 the pay the paycheck. I support financially or I do my 179 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:54,400 pie. Do my chores? 180 00:08:54,700 --> 00:08:56,800 That's your contribution. The household. 181 00:08:57,100 --> 00:08:58,900 That's it. Don't ask me anything else. 182 00:08:59,700 --> 00:09:01,900 This is kind of the case with his sons their sons are. 183 00:09:01,900 --> 00:09:03,700 In fact, providing for the household, they're the ones who 184 00:09:03,700 --> 00:09:05,000 went out to get the food, didn't they? 185 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,500 They're the ones that are taking care of many responsibilities in 186 00:09:07,500 --> 00:09:10,700 the house later, earlier on, in the suit of even learned that no 187 00:09:10,700 --> 00:09:13,300 one else but they are the power. There are powerful Bunch so they 188 00:09:13,300 --> 00:09:15,600 are supporting the household in many physical ways. 189 00:09:15,900 --> 00:09:17,700 But that doesn't mean that you're a good member of the 190 00:09:17,700 --> 00:09:19,700 family or a supportive member of the family. 191 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,300 When a member of the family is in pain. 192 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:27,200 It's very common to dismiss or to find Empathy for someone, you 193 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:29,600 don't know if somebody you don't know is crying. 194 00:09:29,900 --> 00:09:32,300 If somebody you don't know, it's sad, if somebody you don't know 195 00:09:32,300 --> 00:09:35,600 is complaining like all my heart goes out to those kids, my heart 196 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,900 goes out to those Elders. Look at those pictures. 197 00:09:38,100 --> 00:09:41,000 But if your own brother was crying, if your own family 198 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,900 members get over it, man. Come on. 199 00:09:42,900 --> 00:09:44,500 I know this is drama. Just move on. 200 00:09:45,100 --> 00:09:47,900 In other words, it's very easy for us to become insensitive to 201 00:09:47,900 --> 00:09:50,900 our own to not. Look at the feelings and the 202 00:09:50,908 --> 00:09:54,800 sentiments of our own to over to just completely gloss over them. 203 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,100 And that's what they do. Even with Father, their fathers 204 00:09:57,100 --> 00:09:58,800 crying at this point. And what do they say? 205 00:09:59,100 --> 00:10:01,800 First of all, tell Allah, he which is not translated, we 206 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:04,400 swear to God. That is useful to a job. 207 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,800 Actually, you know, even if you know a little bit of Arabic 208 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:10,700 normally the Arab says wallahi, but here the ISS done allahi 209 00:10:11,300 --> 00:10:13,600 ta'ala. He means I swear to God, like 210 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:17,500 they start yelling at him, tough toe, that's going to use of, are 211 00:10:17,500 --> 00:10:19,200 you going to keep mentioning Yusuf? 212 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,000 Could you cut it out already? We're not talking about yourself 213 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,500 right now. We're talking about binyamin. 214 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:29,000 Seriously Yusuf again and tough tattoo is also, it's not 215 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:30,800 mentioned. When I wrote a column will be 216 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:33,800 Alama, Al Johan. It's never used except when 217 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:35,900 you're making an argument when you're arguing and becoming 218 00:10:35,900 --> 00:10:38,600 upset with someone that's that when the word after we will use, 219 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:42,200 are you still going to talk about Yusuf and on top of all of 220 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:45,700 that, the the Asylum of the our job, in this Ayah there, first 221 00:10:45,700 --> 00:10:47,400 of all, table is used, which is strange. 222 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,800 After all, by itself is a rare word to use, then it's commonly 223 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:54,300 used as Matt after all, but the my's it used, which suggests, 224 00:10:54,500 --> 00:10:57,900 you know, there, Anger and they're shocked and their 225 00:10:57,900 --> 00:11:01,000 loudness more than usual against their Father. 226 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,300 Allah, tough toe, Tuscaloosa otaku najara. 227 00:11:04,300 --> 00:11:07,700 Don, are you gonna keep talking about use of get over it 228 00:11:07,700 --> 00:11:10,300 already. Look at this, has he been 229 00:11:10,300 --> 00:11:13,700 talking about Yusuf know? He was holding it inside? 230 00:11:13,900 --> 00:11:16,000 Quran tells us, he was swallowing it all in. 231 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:19,300 Its this, after a long time, he couldn't take it anymore, and he 232 00:11:19,300 --> 00:11:23,400 cried out Yusuf, but these young men are so impatient. 233 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,000 And, so not willing to hear that. 234 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:27,400 Cries of their father. They snap at him. 235 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:30,900 Get over it already old man, why are you bringing it up again? 236 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,200 And when they say this to him they say Hut that da cunha. 237 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:39,400 Hold on until you become Herod Herod in Arabic is actually a 238 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:42,600 lot Radu and highly commended on someone who's about to die out 239 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:45,000 of disease and Levi Le Hao Yuan FEI oranje. 240 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:47,200 Well, I am moved. Well, I'm a glutton for you as 241 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:51,400 you as men who in other words, not someone not quite alive that 242 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,100 you're hoping they get better. Not quite dead that you can give 243 00:11:54,100 --> 00:11:56,700 them a funeral. Meaning someone who's paralyzed 244 00:11:57,300 --> 00:11:59,600 facet, they also say someone who's got no good in their body 245 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:00,800 left. Are you gonna kill yourself? 246 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:02,900 Are you going to paralyze yourself crying over him? 247 00:12:02,900 --> 00:12:05,700 You've already lost your eyes. You're going to completely 248 00:12:05,700 --> 00:12:07,800 become disabled. Get over this already. 249 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:10,200 Move on with your life. These are the kinds of things. 250 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:13,200 They're saying to him and they say, you know, what best case 251 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,300 scenario you become paralyzed. Worst-case out Akuna Minal, 252 00:12:16,300 --> 00:12:19,700 Holly Ken or you'll just die. You'll become of those who died. 253 00:12:19,700 --> 00:12:23,200 Just is that what you want? And now they're thinking, 254 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:26,600 they're helping their father, this Must be tough love like 255 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:29,300 they're going to talk to their dad and yell at him and he'll 256 00:12:29,300 --> 00:12:33,400 snap out of it, you know. But now we learn one of what I 257 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:37,700 feel after studying this Ayah, one of the most misused and I 258 00:12:37,708 --> 00:12:40,300 would even argue abused ayats of the Quran in the name of our 259 00:12:40,300 --> 00:12:43,900 team, when it comes to people's feelings and sentiments when you 260 00:12:43,900 --> 00:12:46,200 have, you're entitled to feel sad. 261 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:48,700 If there's something bad that happened to you many years ago, 262 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:52,400 many months ago, ages ago and you keep remembering it and it 263 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:55,100 overwhelms, you you're not wrong. 264 00:12:56,100 --> 00:12:59,700 You can you should seek help for it but it's not wrong. 265 00:12:59,700 --> 00:13:01,700 That it hurts, you still. Yeah. 266 00:13:01,700 --> 00:13:03,800 Bloo - Alam is entitled to his grief. 267 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,400 He's entitled to cry out. But when they complained to him 268 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,400 like this and they yell at him like this, what does it mean? 269 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:13,100 Sometimes people are in these tragic situations but the loved 270 00:13:13,100 --> 00:13:15,800 ones around them or the family around them is not very 271 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,000 sensitive. They don't want to hear it, they 272 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,400 have no one to talk to. We're actually now kind of 273 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:21,900 learning. Why has he been holding it in 274 00:13:21,900 --> 00:13:24,300 all these years because he had nobody to talk to one time. 275 00:13:24,300 --> 00:13:27,400 He opens his mouth Snap. They don't give him a chance to 276 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:29,400 speak. So what does he say? 277 00:13:29,700 --> 00:13:34,100 He says call in omashu Bethy or Hosni, in Allah. 278 00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:39,700 I am only complaining about the things that I'm letting out of 279 00:13:39,700 --> 00:13:43,600 my heart bus actually means to spread like well, but Sofia, you 280 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:45,600 know, men could lead up. But in Allah says, when he 281 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:48,300 spread on the land, all kinds of creatures but this stuff really 282 00:13:48,300 --> 00:13:50,900 hustling is to spread something out, but it's used in 283 00:13:50,900 --> 00:13:53,700 conversation to describe something you're holding in your 284 00:13:53,700 --> 00:13:56,200 heart and now you're spreading it out, you're letting it go. 285 00:13:56,900 --> 00:13:59,700 So he says, I'm only complaining about what I've been containing 286 00:13:59,700 --> 00:14:02,700 inside and I'm finally letting it out and even when I do, let 287 00:14:02,700 --> 00:14:06,000 it out and all of the sadness that I've been kept, Up inside 288 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,700 all of that, which I've kept inside, I'm only complaining to 289 00:14:08,700 --> 00:14:12,600 Allah, not to you not to anybody else in the school with you, our 290 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:14,700 house, until Allah. This is what I wanted to share 291 00:14:14,700 --> 00:14:17,300 with you is one of the most commonly misunderstood, you 292 00:14:17,300 --> 00:14:21,200 know, ayaat in the Quran it's not taken in its context and 293 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,600 when somebody says I'm having this problem or that problem 294 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:25,500 people say Aki complain to a lot. 295 00:14:25,500 --> 00:14:28,800 Don't talk to me because Allah says in the mush kubasaki 296 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:30,800 Warehouse. Need a la Jakob Elisa Lam said, 297 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,300 I only complain to Allah I don't talk about my problems. 298 00:14:33,300 --> 00:14:35,000 Anybody else? What is this? 299 00:14:35,100 --> 00:14:38,400 Context of these ayats in these ayats, he doesn't talk to his 300 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:41,200 family because his family is not what supportive. 301 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:43,700 He doesn't have anybody to talk to. 302 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:47,000 He doesn't have anybody to share his grief with that is when he 303 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:50,100 turns to his family whose child is that. 304 00:14:51,100 --> 00:14:53,200 It's okay. I'm not angry but other people 305 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:55,300 can't hear the holding. His mouth is not going to help a 306 00:14:55,300 --> 00:14:57,500 walk. Might help a walk might help 307 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:02,600 Jolla just be, you know, we are a family community here and yes 308 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:04,400 of course there are going to be children in the Harbour and 309 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:06,200 that's completely fine. Hey crazy kid, I'll come after 310 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,800 you if I don't see you as he again, I'll come after you. 311 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:10,000 I'll stop the whole band come after you. 312 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,000 Okay, so that it's completely fine. 313 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:15,800 Don't feel embarrassed if I stop and correct, we should also be 314 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:17,300 patients with the presence of children. 315 00:15:17,300 --> 00:15:18,600 It's completely fine that they're here. 316 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:20,600 It's a blessing of Allah that they're here, right? 317 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:22,000 But also parents should be courteous. 318 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:26,500 If your kid is a little too baton in my opinion, then you 319 00:15:26,500 --> 00:15:29,700 should just pull them to the side, come down and bring them 320 00:15:29,700 --> 00:15:32,800 back and shallow, Tada Sakamoto hand for understanding. 321 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:36,100 Okay, in any case. So, I was saying, when he says, 322 00:15:36,100 --> 00:15:38,700 I'm only complaining about my grief and I'm letting out my 323 00:15:38,700 --> 00:15:40,800 feelings, and I'm only letting expressing my sadness. 324 00:15:40,900 --> 00:15:43,200 To Allah. What he's essentially saying is, 325 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:46,400 I have no one in my family that I can complain to. 326 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:49,600 I have no one in my family, that will understand my feelings. 327 00:15:49,700 --> 00:15:52,600 So the only one, I even, even when I do cry out, I will only a 328 00:15:52,608 --> 00:15:54,900 lot of cry out to even rasulullah. 329 00:15:54,900 --> 00:15:57,600 Sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he had a problem in his married. 330 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:02,200 Life, he's out, he's out outside counsel, he sought help from the 331 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,300 outside. This is a Sunnah of rasulullah 332 00:16:04,300 --> 00:16:05,800 saw him. You would say he should only 333 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:09,100 complain to Allah. You know, you have places in the 334 00:16:09,100 --> 00:16:10,700 Quran. Like, for example, a woman comes 335 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:13,300 To the Prophet. Elijah them and says my husband 336 00:16:13,300 --> 00:16:17,100 is divorcing me and he's saying I'm like his mother now and she 337 00:16:17,100 --> 00:16:19,200 complains to him and a lot, records are complete with a 338 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:21,600 sticky Allah. But before she did it stick out 339 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:23,800 to a lot to John DeLuca of his OG, huh? 340 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:27,600 She argues she's debating with you about her husband and then 341 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:30,900 she complains to Allah. So she had somebody to go to 342 00:16:30,900 --> 00:16:34,100 First and she expressed herself and of course, then she took her 343 00:16:34,100 --> 00:16:37,000 matter to Allah. So it's oppressive to tell 344 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,900 someone don't seek help for your problem. 345 00:16:39,900 --> 00:16:42,100 You don't need to talk to. But he just talked to a line 346 00:16:42,100 --> 00:16:43,200 that should be good enough for you. 347 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:46,400 That is not good advice. That is the advice. 348 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:49,300 That is the situation of some people who have no support 349 00:16:49,300 --> 00:16:52,700 around them, when you have absolutely no support around 350 00:16:52,700 --> 00:16:56,100 you, then of course, you still only have Allah that's his 351 00:16:56,100 --> 00:17:00,200 circumstance, you know? You have, you know, later on, 352 00:17:00,300 --> 00:17:02,300 you're going to find that. He's going to find so much 353 00:17:02,300 --> 00:17:05,900 comfort in his son. Binyamin also finds comfort in 354 00:17:05,900 --> 00:17:09,400 his brother. So here at acuña huddled on out 355 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,300 Akuna Mina, Holly Keen, he finally ends in the Magic School 356 00:17:12,300 --> 00:17:14,800 Bus Iwakuni. Allah, while I'm moving a lot 357 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:16,800 him a lot and I just want to recap just a couple of quick 358 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:20,200 things before I conclude this. One thing I want to highlight is 359 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:24,000 it's completely okay to cry. It's complete, and this is 360 00:17:24,500 --> 00:17:26,500 crying is not the same as not having stubborn. 361 00:17:27,700 --> 00:17:31,100 Yahoo male Salam is a man of suburban Jamil and he cries so 362 00:17:31,100 --> 00:17:34,900 much has eyes turned white. Complaining is not the 363 00:17:34,900 --> 00:17:38,300 antithesis of suburb. It's not, if you complain to 364 00:17:38,300 --> 00:17:40,900 her, you've cried out and you're sad over something, and you 365 00:17:40,900 --> 00:17:43,600 mentioned that even though it happened years ago, that doesn't 366 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:47,200 mean you don't have patience. Those are two separate things. 367 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:49,500 Jakub. Alehissalaam is a man of simple 368 00:17:49,500 --> 00:17:51,500 Jamil and he's at the same time. A man of? 369 00:17:51,500 --> 00:17:55,400 Yeah safale Yusuf. Oh my Yusuf. 370 00:17:56,100 --> 00:17:58,300 What has happened to use of so many years later? 371 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:00,400 That doesn't mean the man doesn't have suffered. 372 00:18:00,900 --> 00:18:03,400 So we shouldn't be insensitive to those who are suffering. 373 00:18:03,500 --> 00:18:05,800 Ring, especially in our families, those who are 374 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,900 complaining in our families and say, you need to have suburb, 375 00:18:09,100 --> 00:18:11,600 you shouldn't be crying, you shouldn't be complaining. 376 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,600 You shouldn't be bringing up. What happened years ago? 377 00:18:13,700 --> 00:18:16,100 Get over it already. We shouldn't use these kinds of 378 00:18:16,100 --> 00:18:18,000 words. We should have sensitivity. 379 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,400 To those who are in pain, we cannot feel what somebody else 380 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:22,300 feels. You cannot feel what your son 381 00:18:22,300 --> 00:18:24,700 feels which are daughter. Feels what your spouse feels. 382 00:18:24,900 --> 00:18:27,300 You know what your parents. You cannot feel for them. 383 00:18:27,300 --> 00:18:29,000 They're entitled to their emotions. 384 00:18:29,900 --> 00:18:32,600 It's easy to dismiss them because we see them all the time 385 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:34,600 and we don't, See what the big deal is. 386 00:18:34,700 --> 00:18:37,400 You will never be able to see. I will never be able to see 387 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,300 inside somebody else's heart. That is that their pain is 388 00:18:40,300 --> 00:18:43,000 between them and Allah. They are just as entitled to 389 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:47,000 that as any other human being. And so, as I conclude this, I 390 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,800 come back to the one that is, in fact, suffering from Sadness. 391 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:54,000 The one who has been grieving like, you know, jakub on a salon 392 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,300 for you. So what does he tell his sons? 393 00:18:56,500 --> 00:19:00,700 He says, yeah, but Nia is Habbo. Fatah has assumed a new sofa. 394 00:19:00,700 --> 00:19:03,300 He look, his sons, just yelled at him, you remember? 395 00:19:03,700 --> 00:19:06,500 It's not too long ago, they just yelled at him and then he turns 396 00:19:06,500 --> 00:19:08,200 to the same sons and says my son's. 397 00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:12,400 Go, go go, he's kind to them again, go and go look for use of 398 00:19:13,500 --> 00:19:15,900 Go look for him. My goodness. 399 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:19,300 Go look for use of, they just yelled at you telling you. 400 00:19:19,300 --> 00:19:22,100 You're crazy because you're still remembering Yusuf he's 401 00:19:22,100 --> 00:19:25,600 dead, get over it. And he is. 402 00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:29,900 So optimistic, even though he cries, his eyes have lost sight, 403 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:31,800 he's crying over the name of Yusuf. 404 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:35,400 He still believes in his heart that Allah azzawajal will. 405 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:38,300 I will not lose. Hope use of will be okay. 406 00:19:38,500 --> 00:19:40,800 And I'm pretty optimistic, you'll still find him. 407 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,100 Sadness is not the same as Losing hope. 408 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,600 They're not, they're not one in the same. 409 00:19:47,100 --> 00:19:50,200 He can cry. He can complain but he will 410 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:52,500 still hope that Yusuf alayhi Salam is alive. 411 00:19:52,900 --> 00:19:57,300 And so, he says, the hissatsu been used over what he go, find 412 00:19:57,300 --> 00:20:01,200 Yusuf and his brother in that order. 413 00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:04,300 It's Hannah Le and then he tells them something. 414 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,600 It's amazing that this comes out of his mouth, he says well I 415 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:12,400 think assumable hella in the hula a assume are hella he LL 416 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:16,000 come we'll kafirun and don't you lose hope in the in the 417 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:20,600 relieving mercy of Allah. Don't lose hope that Allah will 418 00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:24,300 bring relief to you because people who lose hope and a love 419 00:20:24,300 --> 00:20:27,100 bringing relief are none. But the disbelievers only 420 00:20:27,100 --> 00:20:29,500 disbelievers and ungrateful, people lose hope in Allah, has 421 00:20:29,500 --> 00:20:34,800 Mercy sadness, and losing hope are not the same very easily 422 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:37,500 when someone is sad. Chat on comes to them and says, 423 00:20:37,500 --> 00:20:40,100 there's no hope for you, your life is over. 424 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,600 Look at what's happened. This tragedy is the end of it. 425 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,500 There is no light at the end of this tunnel. 426 00:20:46,100 --> 00:20:49,100 It's easy to drown. Somebody in that pessimism A 427 00:20:49,100 --> 00:20:52,500 Believer on the one hand, Allah azzawajal, give him or her the 428 00:20:52,500 --> 00:20:55,400 license to express their emotions, to be able to feel the 429 00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:58,400 sadness, and shed the tears. And on the other hand, a lot 430 00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:01,700 does not let them fall into hopelessness on the other hand. 431 00:21:01,700 --> 00:21:04,700 Once you shed those tears, you come back to Allah and you 432 00:21:04,700 --> 00:21:06,900 expect from Allah that he will see you through your problem. 433 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:10,100 No matter how impossible, it seems how possible is it that a 434 00:21:10,100 --> 00:21:13,400 child that was thrown in the woods is going to be recovered. 435 00:21:13,500 --> 00:21:16,500 20 years later, that's doesn't seem reasonable. 436 00:21:16,500 --> 00:21:18,600 You're just holding onto blind hope. 437 00:21:18,900 --> 00:21:21,300 Not being logical. That's why they're yelling at 438 00:21:21,300 --> 00:21:23,500 their dad, but he has hope with Allah. 439 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,900 He doesn't let that go. So we also have to have hope in 440 00:21:26,900 --> 00:21:29,800 Allah, you know, giving somebody hope is not the same as telling 441 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,100 them not to be sad anymore. They're entitled to that. 442 00:21:32,100 --> 00:21:34,900 But at the same time to your family members to loved ones. 443 00:21:34,900 --> 00:21:37,800 And to yourselves we have to have people that carry hope that 444 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,500 Allah will see us through our problems and things will become 445 00:21:40,500 --> 00:21:43,000 better. And if we don't do that then to 446 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,700 us to Allah azzawajal. This is the same as what's the 447 00:21:45,708 --> 00:21:47,500 difference between you and a disbeliever then. 448 00:21:48,500 --> 00:21:53,300 Imagine we think of Iman as someone who having Iman is 449 00:21:53,300 --> 00:21:56,600 somebody who believes in Allah. Prays to Allah accepts only one 450 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:58,700 God and disbeliever who denies Allah. 451 00:21:58,900 --> 00:22:01,100 These ayaat are about an emotional relationship with 452 00:22:01,100 --> 00:22:04,500 Allah emotionally. We are, we are absolutely 453 00:22:04,500 --> 00:22:07,600 convinced that we have to put our hopes in him and he will see 454 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:09,400 our hopes through. We have to be optimistic about 455 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,400 Allah and those who are not optimistic about Allah are as 456 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:15,600 good as disbelievers. What's the point of your faith? 457 00:22:15,700 --> 00:22:19,000 If you're not optimistic about Allah, if you don't expect good 458 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,200 to come from Allah, not only in the next life, but also in this 459 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,600 life, some people shutdown comes to them and says, yeah, well, 460 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:25,700 this life is going to be terrible. 461 00:22:25,700 --> 00:22:29,200 Anyway, I hope John Dies better. That's the attitude. 462 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:30,600 They develop. This is also. 463 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,100 Yes, this is also hopelessness. Yeah. 464 00:22:33,100 --> 00:22:35,500 Whoever Islam is not saying well, I guess I'll see you soon. 465 00:22:35,500 --> 00:22:39,000 John de it's okay. No, he said, go look for use of 466 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,000 not in the Agora. Go look for him right now. 467 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,700 Go in Egypt and go look for him. That's what he's doing. 468 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:46,900 So we have to have optimism for how Allah will see us through in 469 00:22:46,900 --> 00:22:50,400 this life and in the next, and that's part of our relationship 470 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,400 with Allah. And if we don't have that and 471 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,600 there's not much difference left in our hearts and those and of 472 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,100 those who have no faith may, Allah azzawajal, make us suffer. 473 00:22:58,300 --> 00:23:00,200 That are sensitive to other people's pain. 474 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,100 May Allah azzawajal, make us truly people of suburb and 475 00:23:03,100 --> 00:23:06,100 people of Hope in Allah about ecology welcome Phil Colonel 476 00:23:06,100 --> 00:23:08,500 Hakim whenever anyone? Yeah Camellia tea with the 477 00:23:08,500 --> 00:23:15,900 killed Hakeem I'm doing allahi Waka was salatu was-salam or 478 00:23:15,900 --> 00:23:16,700 other everybody. Hello. 479 00:23:16,700 --> 00:23:19,600 Venus lava Kusa a lot of Dolly him, a hard time in the 480 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,900 beginning Muhammad. I mean he was so happy he 481 00:23:22,900 --> 00:23:29,300 judgment in your hula hoop in Allah. 482 00:23:35,100 --> 00:23:45,500 Allah Allahumma barik, alaa. Muhammad Ali, Muhammad, come on 483 00:23:45,500 --> 00:23:48,300 by dr. Anna Abraham Ibrahim Al Amin in 484 00:23:48,900 --> 00:23:51,900 Madrid about Allah. Allah, Allah. 485 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:55,300 Allah, Allah son. What heater is the quarterback 486 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,300 when her and affectionate with one cup. 487 00:23:57,300 --> 00:23:59,500 Well, as he Grew Older, he expects a lot of your element 488 00:23:59,500 --> 00:24:01,800 water. Own solar in the solid 489 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:02,200 chocolate.