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but I was always so bad. I mean, I mean, today's Kaaba is
focused on three ayats' of Surah to use of solitude surface.
Of course, one long story account of the events that took
place in the life of Yusuf alayhi Salam.
And this is much later in the story.
So I'm going to fast forward. To the part that just to give
you some background of what these three ayats have to do
with. Before I talk about the lessons
that come from them, this is a part of the story where use of
alehissalaam has been separated. For some time from his family.
He was thrown into, you know, a well from there ended up being a
servant from there, falsely accused.
He ended up in prison and from there, he's also been released
from prison now and he serves as a minister essentially you can
call him a minister of finance as he's, that's taking care of
the the budget. And the, you know, the economic
crisis that's happening in the country.
So he's in a position of power now.
And in that position of power, because there's a famine, all
the villagers, all the surrounding areas, they don't
have any food. So they all come to the kingdom
to receive their quota of food is basically a kind of, you
know, welfare system. Now, people don't have enough
money anymore. So they have to come to the
government and they will supply them food for each household.
And the rule was, you have to bring all the main members of
your family so that we can know the Ben can know these are.
How many bags were supposed to give?
You can't come. I got six brothers at home.
Could you give me seven bags? You can't do that.
You have to bring all the brothers with you, so they can
verify that. This is actually the right
amount that's being given, especially in a time of Crisis.
You can't have people taking more than they deserve.
So, the brothers of Yusuf, including the youngest one are
now called to receive the their share of the food.
And they've come and Yusuf alayhi, Salam recognizes them
while they don't recognize him. And so he hashes a scheme to
keep his brother with him. He basically essentially, you
know what, you can call falsifies evidence, puts a puts
one of the golden cups inside, one of the bags and then accuses
them, you people have stolen from the, from the King.
And then when that's where the case comes out in the back comes
out. Now, this youngest brother is
being held under house arrest. So the rest of his brothers have
gone back to the dead and now two of them are together use of
and his brother are together. They think he's been arrested.
What's really happened is use of just To keep him with him.
That's what was really going on. Alehissalaam.
In any case, this is a scene of when these brothers went back to
their father, this is the second time they're going back to their
father. The first time they went back to
their father, they lost Yusuf and they lied about it.
They said a wolf ate him. The second time they took the
youngest brother and now they said, well, he got arrested.
So this is the second time they're going to, they're dead
and they're going to give him the same news.
They gave him so many years ago. We've lost another son, you've
lost another son of yours at our hands.
And so when he hears this news from them, this is where I'd
like to begin is what was the reaction of yaqoob?
Alehsalaam before I go to the reaction of yaqoob.
Alehsalaam, you should understand that.
The words, the beautiful words in the Quran, subroutine Jamil
beautiful patients or finding Beauty in patience is an
expression that is attributed directly to yaqoob
alehissallaam. So here in the Quran, is
actually a model for what is it mean to show patience and what
does it mean to show patience beautifully?
He's a model for that. Being a model for that in the
Quran, I want you to pay attention in myself to remind
myself. What is his reaction when his
sons tell him binyamin is also gone?
He's not coming back either. He says Allah says what Allah
and home he turns his back away from them.
Meaning he turns away from his sons.
Well Carla. Yeah, Asif.
Ali Yusuf, he calls out my poor Yusuf.
What a horrible tragedy has fallen upon use of wait.
It wasn't use of that was taken away.
It was, when you mean that was taken away, Yusuf was taken away
many, many years ago, but, you know, they say in Arabic Al
Assad Yabba thalassa one tragedy Sparks the memory of a previous
strategy tragedy. He was reliving the crisis of
use of in his heart. And this is many many, many
years later, which tells you he's not over it before we go
any further, we have To understand what we do to each
other. Somebody has a crisis in their
home. Somebody has a tragedy, may be a
loss of a child, a loss of appearance, some some or the
diagnosis of a disease, some tragedy took place.
And when you B go to a janazah and we tell these people, you
shouldn't be crying. You should be patient.
Have someone have someon?
7:30, we assume that not crying is the same as suburb or not.
Complaining is the same as stubborn Yusuf Ali Yusuf.
Ali salons loss has been many many years and he hasn't
Forgotten it still lives inside of him.
It's not just get over it. It's okay.
Just be grateful to Allah and get over it.
No, it doesn't work that way. Not even for a profit.
Not even for a model of somebody Jamil.
This is Allah, as I was his sensitivity to the hearts of
those who have been hurt those who suffer pain, those who have
loss of loved ones. And so he says, first of all,
yeah, sfr, and I use of mini cries out over his loss of use
of, he's remembering that all over again.
And then Allah says that's not enough.
Not only did he speak out his complaint and cry.
Outers complaint Allah says what blah blah, taina who his eyes
turned white? What that means.
According to some is he cried so much.
You couldn't see the pupils of his eyes.
Others say, he cried so much that he became blind, which
seems to be the case, given the context because later on farted
a bazillion, he became someone who could see again.
So, he cried so much as a result right now that he lost his
eyesight, what? But I know.
And so now two things have happened one, he's cried out.
Meaning he's screamed, he's Even you know, made the verbalized
his pain, he didn't keep it inside of him and second of all
he's crying his eyes out to the point where he's blind, it's not
just some normal event, but I want you to remember again, he's
not crying over binyamin first in his mind it's use of all over
again. Yeah.
Safale Yusuf. And then after all of this a lot
actually gives us. The reason why he had such a
breakdown. Why did he fall apart?
Like this all this time he was okay, with what?
And with Yusuf and all of a sudden, what's wrong with you?
Allah says, fa huwa kaleem. This is why we pay attention to
every letter and every word in the Quran.
The Ayah is not what who are kaleem that would have been
Joomla, Hallelujah. But this is far, who are
covering this is what's called a fat ass Suburbia.
What that means is and all of that happened, because because
of what, because of the fact that he was swallowing this pain
all along, he had been keeping that pain inside of him all this
time and now this one little thing happened, This one more
event happened. The loss of his youngest son
again and he couldn't take it in anymore.
What we're learning now is there are people of great patience
just because you can see them smiling or just because you
don't see them. Crying doesn't mean they're not
carrying a lot of pain inside of them.
They may have been carrying it for a very very, very long time.
And finally, eventually they erupt finally, they can't take
it anymore. She can't take it anymore and
she erupts and you say what happened to her?
All of a sudden, why did you go crazy like that?
I was you're perfectly fine last time.
Last week, last month, couple of years, you didn't say anything
and all of a sudden you're going psycho.
What happened to you? This is actually what we do
because we don't realize somebody may be carrying pain
inside of them, even if they're not letting it outside, this is
a lot of telling us that this has been an ongoing thing with
him for who are kaleem, it's not even Calvin.
It's Colima system. Shiva to illustrate.
This is a long-standing problem inside the heart of yaakov
alehissalaam. But then we learned the flip
side of this equation. On the one hand, you have this
man who's dealt with so much deep and profound sadness.
And on the other hand, what he has is an unsupportive family.
His sons are not very sensitive to him, not very respectful to
him and not very caring. You know, in a lot of families
because just because somebody does their physical
responsibilities look, I cleaned the place or I provide I give
the pay the paycheck. I support financially or I do my
pie. Do my chores?
That's your contribution. The household.
That's it. Don't ask me anything else.
This is kind of the case with his sons their sons are.
In fact, providing for the household, they're the ones who
went out to get the food, didn't they?
They're the ones that are taking care of many responsibilities in
the house later, earlier on, in the suit of even learned that no
one else but they are the power. There are powerful Bunch so they
are supporting the household in many physical ways.
But that doesn't mean that you're a good member of the
family or a supportive member of the family.
When a member of the family is in pain.
It's very common to dismiss or to find Empathy for someone, you
don't know if somebody you don't know is crying.
If somebody you don't know, it's sad, if somebody you don't know
is complaining like all my heart goes out to those kids, my heart
goes out to those Elders. Look at those pictures.
But if your own brother was crying, if your own family
members get over it, man. Come on.
I know this is drama. Just move on.
In other words, it's very easy for us to become insensitive to
our own to not. Look at the feelings and the
sentiments of our own to over to just completely gloss over them.
And that's what they do. Even with Father, their fathers
crying at this point. And what do they say?
First of all, tell Allah, he which is not translated, we
swear to God. That is useful to a job.
Actually, you know, even if you know a little bit of Arabic
normally the Arab says wallahi, but here the ISS done allahi
ta'ala. He means I swear to God, like
they start yelling at him, tough toe, that's going to use of, are
you going to keep mentioning Yusuf?
Could you cut it out already? We're not talking about yourself
right now. We're talking about binyamin.
Seriously Yusuf again and tough tattoo is also, it's not
mentioned. When I wrote a column will be
Alama, Al Johan. It's never used except when
you're making an argument when you're arguing and becoming
upset with someone that's that when the word after we will use,
are you still going to talk about Yusuf and on top of all of
that, the the Asylum of the our job, in this Ayah there, first
of all, table is used, which is strange.
After all, by itself is a rare word to use, then it's commonly
used as Matt after all, but the my's it used, which suggests,
you know, there, Anger and they're shocked and their
loudness more than usual against their Father.
Allah, tough toe, Tuscaloosa otaku najara.
Don, are you gonna keep talking about use of get over it
already. Look at this, has he been
talking about Yusuf know? He was holding it inside?
Quran tells us, he was swallowing it all in.
Its this, after a long time, he couldn't take it anymore, and he
cried out Yusuf, but these young men are so impatient.
And, so not willing to hear that.
Cries of their father. They snap at him.
Get over it already old man, why are you bringing it up again?
And when they say this to him they say Hut that da cunha.
Hold on until you become Herod Herod in Arabic is actually a
lot Radu and highly commended on someone who's about to die out
of disease and Levi Le Hao Yuan FEI oranje.
Well, I am moved. Well, I'm a glutton for you as
you as men who in other words, not someone not quite alive that
you're hoping they get better. Not quite dead that you can give
them a funeral. Meaning someone who's paralyzed
facet, they also say someone who's got no good in their body
left. Are you gonna kill yourself?
Are you going to paralyze yourself crying over him?
You've already lost your eyes. You're going to completely
become disabled. Get over this already.
Move on with your life. These are the kinds of things.
They're saying to him and they say, you know, what best case
scenario you become paralyzed. Worst-case out Akuna Minal,
Holly Ken or you'll just die. You'll become of those who died.
Just is that what you want? And now they're thinking,
they're helping their father, this Must be tough love like
they're going to talk to their dad and yell at him and he'll
snap out of it, you know. But now we learn one of what I
feel after studying this Ayah, one of the most misused and I
would even argue abused ayats of the Quran in the name of our
team, when it comes to people's feelings and sentiments when you
have, you're entitled to feel sad.
If there's something bad that happened to you many years ago,
many months ago, ages ago and you keep remembering it and it
overwhelms, you you're not wrong.
You can you should seek help for it but it's not wrong.
That it hurts, you still. Yeah.
Bloo - Alam is entitled to his grief.
He's entitled to cry out. But when they complained to him
like this and they yell at him like this, what does it mean?
Sometimes people are in these tragic situations but the loved
ones around them or the family around them is not very
sensitive. They don't want to hear it, they
have no one to talk to. We're actually now kind of
learning. Why has he been holding it in
all these years because he had nobody to talk to one time.
He opens his mouth Snap. They don't give him a chance to
speak. So what does he say?
He says call in omashu Bethy or Hosni, in Allah.
I am only complaining about the things that I'm letting out of
my heart bus actually means to spread like well, but Sofia, you
know, men could lead up. But in Allah says, when he
spread on the land, all kinds of creatures but this stuff really
hustling is to spread something out, but it's used in
conversation to describe something you're holding in your
heart and now you're spreading it out, you're letting it go.
So he says, I'm only complaining about what I've been containing
inside and I'm finally letting it out and even when I do, let
it out and all of the sadness that I've been kept, Up inside
all of that, which I've kept inside, I'm only complaining to
Allah, not to you not to anybody else in the school with you, our
house, until Allah. This is what I wanted to share
with you is one of the most commonly misunderstood, you
know, ayaat in the Quran it's not taken in its context and
when somebody says I'm having this problem or that problem
people say Aki complain to a lot.
Don't talk to me because Allah says in the mush kubasaki
Warehouse. Need a la Jakob Elisa Lam said,
I only complain to Allah I don't talk about my problems.
Anybody else? What is this?
Context of these ayats in these ayats, he doesn't talk to his
family because his family is not what supportive.
He doesn't have anybody to talk to.
He doesn't have anybody to share his grief with that is when he
turns to his family whose child is that.
It's okay. I'm not angry but other people
can't hear the holding. His mouth is not going to help a
walk. Might help a walk might help
Jolla just be, you know, we are a family community here and yes
of course there are going to be children in the Harbour and
that's completely fine. Hey crazy kid, I'll come after
you if I don't see you as he again, I'll come after you.
I'll stop the whole band come after you.
Okay, so that it's completely fine.
Don't feel embarrassed if I stop and correct, we should also be
patients with the presence of children.
It's completely fine that they're here.
It's a blessing of Allah that they're here, right?
But also parents should be courteous.
If your kid is a little too baton in my opinion, then you
should just pull them to the side, come down and bring them
back and shallow, Tada Sakamoto hand for understanding.
Okay, in any case. So, I was saying, when he says,
I'm only complaining about my grief and I'm letting out my
feelings, and I'm only letting expressing my sadness.
To Allah. What he's essentially saying is,
I have no one in my family that I can complain to.
I have no one in my family, that will understand my feelings.
So the only one, I even, even when I do cry out, I will only a
lot of cry out to even rasulullah.
Sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he had a problem in his married.
Life, he's out, he's out outside counsel, he sought help from the
outside. This is a Sunnah of rasulullah
saw him. You would say he should only
complain to Allah. You know, you have places in the
Quran. Like, for example, a woman comes
To the Prophet. Elijah them and says my husband
is divorcing me and he's saying I'm like his mother now and she
complains to him and a lot, records are complete with a
sticky Allah. But before she did it stick out
to a lot to John DeLuca of his OG, huh?
She argues she's debating with you about her husband and then
she complains to Allah. So she had somebody to go to
First and she expressed herself and of course, then she took her
matter to Allah. So it's oppressive to tell
someone don't seek help for your problem.
You don't need to talk to. But he just talked to a line
that should be good enough for you.
That is not good advice. That is the advice.
That is the situation of some people who have no support
around them, when you have absolutely no support around
you, then of course, you still only have Allah that's his
circumstance, you know? You have, you know, later on,
you're going to find that. He's going to find so much
comfort in his son. Binyamin also finds comfort in
his brother. So here at acuña huddled on out
Akuna Mina, Holly Keen, he finally ends in the Magic School
Bus Iwakuni. Allah, while I'm moving a lot
him a lot and I just want to recap just a couple of quick
things before I conclude this. One thing I want to highlight is
it's completely okay to cry. It's complete, and this is
crying is not the same as not having stubborn.
Yahoo male Salam is a man of suburban Jamil and he cries so
much has eyes turned white. Complaining is not the
antithesis of suburb. It's not, if you complain to
her, you've cried out and you're sad over something, and you
mentioned that even though it happened years ago, that doesn't
mean you don't have patience. Those are two separate things.
Jakub. Alehissalaam is a man of simple
Jamil and he's at the same time. A man of?
Yeah safale Yusuf. Oh my Yusuf.
What has happened to use of so many years later?
That doesn't mean the man doesn't have suffered.
So we shouldn't be insensitive to those who are suffering.
Ring, especially in our families, those who are
complaining in our families and say, you need to have suburb,
you shouldn't be crying, you shouldn't be complaining.
You shouldn't be bringing up. What happened years ago?
Get over it already. We shouldn't use these kinds of
words. We should have sensitivity.
To those who are in pain, we cannot feel what somebody else
feels. You cannot feel what your son
feels which are daughter. Feels what your spouse feels.
You know what your parents. You cannot feel for them.
They're entitled to their emotions.
It's easy to dismiss them because we see them all the time
and we don't, See what the big deal is.
You will never be able to see. I will never be able to see
inside somebody else's heart. That is that their pain is
between them and Allah. They are just as entitled to
that as any other human being. And so, as I conclude this, I
come back to the one that is, in fact, suffering from Sadness.
The one who has been grieving like, you know, jakub on a salon
for you. So what does he tell his sons?
He says, yeah, but Nia is Habbo. Fatah has assumed a new sofa.
He look, his sons, just yelled at him, you remember?
It's not too long ago, they just yelled at him and then he turns
to the same sons and says my son's.
Go, go go, he's kind to them again, go and go look for use of
Go look for him. My goodness.
Go look for use of, they just yelled at you telling you.
You're crazy because you're still remembering Yusuf he's
dead, get over it. And he is.
So optimistic, even though he cries, his eyes have lost sight,
he's crying over the name of Yusuf.
He still believes in his heart that Allah azzawajal will.
I will not lose. Hope use of will be okay.
And I'm pretty optimistic, you'll still find him.
Sadness is not the same as Losing hope.
They're not, they're not one in the same.
He can cry. He can complain but he will
still hope that Yusuf alayhi Salam is alive.
And so, he says, the hissatsu been used over what he go, find
Yusuf and his brother in that order.
It's Hannah Le and then he tells them something.
It's amazing that this comes out of his mouth, he says well I
think assumable hella in the hula a assume are hella he LL
come we'll kafirun and don't you lose hope in the in the
relieving mercy of Allah. Don't lose hope that Allah will
bring relief to you because people who lose hope and a love
bringing relief are none. But the disbelievers only
disbelievers and ungrateful, people lose hope in Allah, has
Mercy sadness, and losing hope are not the same very easily
when someone is sad. Chat on comes to them and says,
there's no hope for you, your life is over.
Look at what's happened. This tragedy is the end of it.
There is no light at the end of this tunnel.
It's easy to drown. Somebody in that pessimism A
Believer on the one hand, Allah azzawajal, give him or her the
license to express their emotions, to be able to feel the
sadness, and shed the tears. And on the other hand, a lot
does not let them fall into hopelessness on the other hand.
Once you shed those tears, you come back to Allah and you
expect from Allah that he will see you through your problem.
No matter how impossible, it seems how possible is it that a
child that was thrown in the woods is going to be recovered.
20 years later, that's doesn't seem reasonable.
You're just holding onto blind hope.
Not being logical. That's why they're yelling at
their dad, but he has hope with Allah.
He doesn't let that go. So we also have to have hope in
Allah, you know, giving somebody hope is not the same as telling
them not to be sad anymore. They're entitled to that.
But at the same time to your family members to loved ones.
And to yourselves we have to have people that carry hope that
Allah will see us through our problems and things will become
better. And if we don't do that then to
us to Allah azzawajal. This is the same as what's the
difference between you and a disbeliever then.
Imagine we think of Iman as someone who having Iman is
somebody who believes in Allah. Prays to Allah accepts only one
God and disbeliever who denies Allah.
These ayaat are about an emotional relationship with
Allah emotionally. We are, we are absolutely
convinced that we have to put our hopes in him and he will see
our hopes through. We have to be optimistic about
Allah and those who are not optimistic about Allah are as
good as disbelievers. What's the point of your faith?
If you're not optimistic about Allah, if you don't expect good
to come from Allah, not only in the next life, but also in this
life, some people shutdown comes to them and says, yeah, well,
this life is going to be terrible.
Anyway, I hope John Dies better. That's the attitude.
They develop. This is also.
Yes, this is also hopelessness. Yeah.
Whoever Islam is not saying well, I guess I'll see you soon.
John de it's okay. No, he said, go look for use of
not in the Agora. Go look for him right now.
Go in Egypt and go look for him. That's what he's doing.
So we have to have optimism for how Allah will see us through in
this life and in the next, and that's part of our relationship
with Allah. And if we don't have that and
there's not much difference left in our hearts and those and of
those who have no faith may, Allah azzawajal, make us suffer.
That are sensitive to other people's pain.
May Allah azzawajal, make us truly people of suburb and
people of Hope in Allah about ecology welcome Phil Colonel
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