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Assalamu alaikum, o my brothers 
and sisters. 

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I'm speaking to you from the 
city of Bradford in the northern

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part of England. 
And I have a message that I 

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would like to share with you 
today. 

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It's connected to something that
is very, very important, many 

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people are unhappy, not because 
Allah has not blessed them with 

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something, but because they 
started comparing what Allah 

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gave them to, what Allah has 
given someone else, and 

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therefore, they become unhappy. 
P. 

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They become unhappy because 
they're looking at the lives of 

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others and thinking to 
themselves. 

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That's what I need. 
And for that reason they forget 

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what Allah has given them. 
And yet Allah has tailor-made. 

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The gifts that he chose to 
bestow you with, for you. 

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And he made it for them, 
whatever else he wanted to give 

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them. 
Sometimes you're in a situation,

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whether it's marriage, whether 
it's Business Financial, the 

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financial levels were on your 
health and everything else. 

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We sometimes Do not appreciate 
what we have, not because we 

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don't have, but because we want 
to look at others and this is 

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why to compare your marriage 
with someone else's your 

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relationships with someone 
else's the biggest downfall, 

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it's one of the biggest ways of 
people losing their marriages or

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losing their spouses, should I 
say the same applies to being 

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ungrateful when it comes to your
business? 

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When it comes to your job when 
it comes to your health when it 

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comes to your situation? 
Some people are very happy when 

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they Witness their friends. 
Go out on holiday, they start 

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putting pressure on their spouse
or whoever else we need to go 

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out on a holiday, not everyone 
needs to go overseas on 

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holidays, sometimes in the 
country you live in, there may 

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be places, right near your house
that you've never discovered 

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that would make a better holiday
than some of those who've 

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traveled to Hawaii, you know. 
So remember do not compare if 

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you want to break your life, 
then you start comparing and you

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start thinking to yourself, you 
know what, I don't have when 

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Allah has really given you. 
What has triggered this 

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actually, what triggered it is. 
I dealt with a few cases today 

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of people who have sound 
marriages something good and 

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they start thinking to 
themselves, you know what, I'm 

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really not happy in this because
they watch what's happening to 

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their neighbor or someone else. 
And then they don't realize the 

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wife or the husband is actually 
trying so hard to make things 

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work and you're just not happy 
and nothing makes you happy. 

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The reason why nothing makes you
happy is not. 

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Because people are not trying to
make you happy but because your 

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eyes are fixed on something 
else. 

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Completely not realizing that a 
lot of what we see and witness 

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is cosmetic. 
When people show you what they 

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have online, they're showing you
a photoshopped version, a beauty

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face version of what is the 
reality. 

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So you're busy thinking that 
these people have more than what

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I have. 
And I'm never going to get there

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or I'm not happy because my 
situation is never going to be 

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that that is our down for some 
time. 

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You have a relationship like, 
say, you know, when you get 

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married, you realize that the 
way you've been brought up, 

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might be different from the way.
Your spouse was brought up their

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relationship. 
With their family, may be 

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different. 
Some people have a very cozy 

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relationship, very beautiful. 
So they get along very well with

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their brothers and sisters and 
parents and so on, whereas a 

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spouse may not be as close to 
his or her parents as you are 

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and vice versa. 
So for you to think that, you 

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know what this particular family
is perhaps or my spouse is doing

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too much for their parents, or 
her parents, or his parents, 

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just because you didn't have 
that type of relationship in 

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your home is unfair. 
It's unfair. 

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So start thinking to yourself 
that, you know what, I need to 

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live my life and appreciate what
the almighty has bestowed upon 

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me. 
I need to make whatever I have 

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work for me and I need Make the 
most of what Allah has bestowed 

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upon me because life is too 
short. 

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We will continue complaining 
until the day we die if we're 

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not careful now. 
Anyway, that was a quick message

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that I thought I'd share with 
you. 

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I'm sitting here in this 
beautiful place Bradford, they 

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told me it was freezing. 
There was a lot of snow and 

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there was I, when I came here, 
now today mashallah, it's quite 

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warm. 
You notice no jackets mashallah 

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and at the same time, there is 
no snow in sight at all. 

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And I was actually looking 
forward to it. 

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I came all the way I don't 
handle, I came to meet a friend 

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of mine, Allah subhanahu, 
wa'ta'ala bless us all Allah 

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subhanahu wa'ta'ala Grant 
assault. 

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He's lovely chatting with you 
today. 

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I'm not going to get a chance to
go through your comments, but I 

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pray that Allah grant me the 
ability to improve myself and I 

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also pray that Allah grant us 
all the ability to improve 

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ourselves, so that we become the
best of people inshallah. 

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You find this posted on YouTube 
later on, and until we meet 

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again, salaam alaikum, 
warahmatullahi wabarakatuh I 

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don't handle, I came to meet a 
friend of mine, Allah subhanahu,

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wa'ta'ala bless us all Allah 
subhanahu wa'ta'ala Grant 

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assault. 
He's lovely chatting with you 

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today. 
I'm not going to get a chance to

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go through your comments, but I 
pray that Allah grant me the 

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ability to improve myself and I 
also pray that Allah grant us 

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all the ability to improve 
ourselves, so that we become the

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best of people inshallah. 
You find this posted on YouTube 

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later on, and until we meet 
again, salaam alaikum, 

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warahmatullahi wabarakatuh