1 00:00:01,520 --> 00:00:06,480 And there is a very real sense in which as a married 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:11,800 individual, God now relates with you as a unit between you and 3 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,600 your spouse. And what you do as a married 4 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:20,080 person deeply affects your spouse and vice versa, good and 5 00:00:20,080 --> 00:00:22,640 bad. Let's get into the word. 6 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:26,760 All right. Well, we, we just finished, yes, 7 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:32,360 last night. A, a marriage seminar, 3 1/2 8 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,640 days. And I, it was awesome, man. 9 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:38,960 It was, it was great. And so about it was pushing 10 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:42,480 10:00, 9/30, 10:00. And I dropped off the speakers 11 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:44,600 and then I thought, what am I going to preach tomorrow? 12 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,680 Because I'd been spending all my day thinking about marriage and 13 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:50,760 digging through all that material. 14 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:54,360 And so I'm going to share with you some things that I was just 15 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:59,480 chewing on in retrospect. Some of you, we're able to 16 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:02,520 attend the marriage seminar. You know, it was good. 17 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:04,879 We're going to we'll be bringing them back. 18 00:01:04,879 --> 00:01:07,800 We'll do this again. And I want to encourage you to 19 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,880 go to this, if you are married, to go to this seminar. 20 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:14,640 It was it was really good. And it really highlighted 21 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:18,480 something to me that I was deeply moved by some of the 22 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:22,720 things that happened in that room and what I was seeing. 23 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:25,040 And, and here here's the thing. I'm going to give you kind of 24 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:29,120 the little Cliff notes of or really a summation of what this 25 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,440 seminar was about. It was 3 1/2 days. 26 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:36,640 It was actually about spiritual warfare surrounding the attack 27 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:41,040 on unity in marriage, which is very closely connected to 28 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:45,800 physical intimacy. This the sexual relationship 29 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:49,960 that a husband and wife have, and there is a warfare by the 30 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,400 enemy against that very thing. Scripture is very clear. 31 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:56,920 The two shall become one. That's one of the ways in which 32 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:02,080 the Scriptures sum up the the the concept of sexual intimacy 33 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:04,360 and husband and wife. It says the two shall become 34 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,080 one. I, I saw a couple in the back 35 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,360 there they were at the conference and she's, she's got 36 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,440 her little baby in her belly. She's becoming great with child. 37 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:15,600 And I told him I said the two should become one. 38 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,760 And there it is. It's literally one of them. 39 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,400 But you know, one person made of two of them. 40 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,080 It's an amazing thing. The other thing of the 41 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,440 scripture, the other way it talks about is they become one 42 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:31,680 flesh. And so I, I was really moved 43 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,600 because there's there's such a warfare against that. 44 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,480 It was just highlighted to me on why that happened. 45 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:41,560 So I want to look at a passage turn with me to Genesis chapter 46 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,440 2. We're going to do a little bit 47 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:47,760 of review on Genesis chapter 2, and I want to show you how this 48 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,800 passage, what we're going to read right here, it's a well 49 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:55,680 known passage and it's reiterated numerous times in the 50 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,280 New Testament. And anytime we see a passage 51 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,240 reiterated where it's repeated again and again in the New 52 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,600 Testament, we can be sure that that is a very, very important 53 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,720 passage that there's a principle God is highlighting. 54 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,240 And there's there's several different dimensions to this 55 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:14,600 concept that are really important for you and I to 56 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:16,160 understand. So let's pray. 57 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:19,760 Father, Lord, I ask that you would make time stand still and 58 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,680 give me two hours squeezed into this next half hour. 59 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:26,720 And Lord, I ask that you would speak to us, you would encourage 60 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:29,800 us and challenge us in Jesus name, Amen. 61 00:03:29,920 --> 00:03:31,760 All right, verse 15. Look at this. 62 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:36,600 The Lord God, this is, this is the expanded edition of the 63 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:41,480 creation of man and woman. The Lord God said, the Lord God 64 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:44,840 took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and to 65 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:46,360 keep it. And the Lord God commanded the 66 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,920 man saying, you are you, you are surely, you may surely eat of 67 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:51,880 every tree in the garden, but the tree of the knowledge of 68 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:53,240 good and evil, you shall not eat of it. 69 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,400 For the day you eat of it, you shall surely die. 70 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:59,720 So this, there is so much in this little passage that really 71 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:01,960 expands throughout the rest of the Bible. 72 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:06,120 But the first thing God does is God gives out him a job and then 73 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:08,280 he's going to give him a wife because you don't need to be 74 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:09,680 getting married if you don't have a job. 75 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,120 So look at our verse 18. That's good preaching. 76 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,760 By the way, verse 18. Then the Lord God said it is not 77 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:21,800 good that man should be alone. I will make a helper fit for 78 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,480 him. Beautiful little phrase. 79 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:29,480 I love the Hebrew Scriptures even more so than the Greek New 80 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:32,640 Testament. The Hebrew Old Testament has 81 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:38,000 layers of meaning and there's, there's like hyperlinks all 82 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:41,040 throughout the Old Testament that if you, you begin to look, 83 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,280 there's so much being said underneath the surface that if 84 00:04:44,280 --> 00:04:48,600 we slow down, we'll find that God is communicating layers of 85 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:51,080 truth to us. And in this little passage is 86 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:53,960 one of them. It's right at the beginning. 87 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:58,120 The the word Genesis literally means beginnings and God is 88 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,640 laying the foundation for all the rest of what He's going to 89 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:06,040 do and he starts with the man and he says it is not good. 90 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:09,760 Now if you look previous to this, God has already worked 5 91 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,240 days and like any guy, I don't know how it is. 92 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,720 I've never been a woman, never plan on being, I will never be 93 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,040 one. But as a guy I know how it is. 94 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,800 You work hard and at the end of the day there's something feels 95 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:23,240 good about being tired and stepping back and looking at 96 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,120 what you accomplished. Isn't that true guys? 97 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,240 And God's the same way we're made in his image. 98 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:30,960 God says it's good, it's good works 5 days. 99 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:35,600 And on the 6th day he created man formed him, stuck his 100 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:36,640 finger. That's where we got our belly 101 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,360 button, stuck his finger and said OK it's and he looked at he 102 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:42,160 said but it's not good. It's the first time in all of 103 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,840 creation that God declare something not good. 104 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,440 And the lack of goodness was because he was alone. 105 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,520 It says it's not good that man should be alone. 106 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:56,960 And if you read this passage, it can feel like God has ADHD 107 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,920 because he's talking about Adam being single and all of a sudden 108 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,080 it said, God says it's not good for a man to be alone. 109 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,080 I'll make a helper fit for him. Now out of the ground, the Lord 110 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:08,400 God had formed every beast in the field and every bird of the 111 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:11,640 heaven and brought them before Adam to see what he would call 112 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,480 them. And it talks about God marching 113 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:18,000 the animal Kingdom before him so that Adam would call and name 114 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,280 them. And you think, well, what does 115 00:06:20,280 --> 00:06:23,840 that have to do with Adam needing a wife? 116 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:28,360 But here's the thing. And this is a picture of how God 117 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,640 operates in our life. This is how he's operated with 118 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,560 every one of us. God sees our need before we do. 119 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:41,560 We don't recognize our need until God highlights our need. 120 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:46,360 So God recognized something that wasn't good in Adam's life. 121 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,400 And so he needed Adam to agree with him. 122 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:54,400 And So what he did is he orchestrated events so that Adam 123 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:57,120 would become aware of his aloneness. 124 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:59,880 In essence, he marched the animal Kingdom by him. 125 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:02,520 And Adam realized I'm the only guy without a date to the ball. 126 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:07,320 I'm the only single one here. And he realized there's no 127 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:10,600 helper suitable for him. And that's what's going on. 128 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:15,400 God is an awakening, an awareness in Adam's heart as to 129 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,760 his need, and that's how God always operates. 130 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,040 God knows what you need before you do. 131 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,040 And what he will do is he will orchestrate events to bring you 132 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,720 to an awareness so he can get you to agree with his assessment 133 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:30,160 on your situation. And it's better to agree on the 134 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:34,240 front end because he'll keep ratcheting up the situation to 135 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:37,160 bring you to agreement. Been there, done that. 136 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:40,600 So he was awakening this awareness. 137 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:45,240 And then finally it says that there was no helper suitable for 138 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:49,040 him, found for him. And, and it insinuates that Adam 139 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,920 was aware. He this this awareness came up 140 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:55,760 within him and he was looking throughout the creation and he 141 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,800 couldn't find something there. What it wasn't found. 142 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:04,360 And and then God, it says, caused a deep sleep to come over 143 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:08,040 at him. And out of his sleep, he created 144 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,560 the very thing that Adam needed and presented it back to him. 145 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:11,920 And it's a picture of redemption. 146 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:14,400 God saw you needed him before you did. 147 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:17,920 He allowed events to be orchestrated to bring you to an 148 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,400 awareness of your need for him. And then when you tried to solve 149 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:25,120 your own problems on your own, like Adam, there was no solution 150 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,440 found for you. And in the Hebrew that that 151 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,000 sleep, it's like a languid passivity. 152 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:35,080 It's like he just gave up. He was at the end of himself and 153 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:38,000 out of his rest. God formed the answer and 154 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:40,919 presented it to him. And then when God presented it 155 00:08:40,919 --> 00:08:43,799 to him, Adam's like, hey, this is awesome, this is great, I 156 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:47,000 like this. And so God was orchestrating 157 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:48,600 this. But listen to what he says. 158 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:52,640 This is fascinating. And understand again, this is 159 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:54,800 right at the beginning of creation. 160 00:08:55,560 --> 00:09:00,120 So God is laying the groundwork. And this was before the fall, 161 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,600 sin had not yet entered into the world and God already said 162 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:08,200 there's that's not good. Man is alone and it's not good 163 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,560 for man to be alone. And you know what? 164 00:09:10,560 --> 00:09:12,920 God has never changed his mind about that. 165 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:20,040 You cannot exist and become all God created you to be alone. 166 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,840 You need others. You've got to have people in 167 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:25,600 your life. And in fact, it's talking 168 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,560 specifically about marriage here. 169 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:30,400 But the fact is we need other people in their life. 170 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:32,400 The Bible is very clear. We're going to go to the book of 171 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:36,200 Ephesians in a few moments here. There are two specific verses in 172 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,400 Ephesians. We don't have time to really dig 173 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,840 into this, but just suffice it to say this, it's the second to 174 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:44,640 the last verse of chapter 1 and then again in chapter 4. 175 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:49,440 It says that the fullness of Christ is the body of Christ. 176 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:55,520 So if you want all that God has for you, you want a revelation 177 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:59,400 of him, then you will not get it alone in your prayer closet. 178 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:02,960 You will not get it alone in your in your Bible. 179 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:06,880 You have to connect with other believers because there are 180 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:11,600 facets of him He puts in them that He will never give to you 181 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:13,960 outside of relationship with them. 182 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:18,680 And So what happens is as we get in relationship, and, and I 183 00:10:18,680 --> 00:10:23,040 would even push this a little farther, sometimes what grants 184 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,920 you the revelation of the revelation that he wants to give 185 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,400 you in them is conflict with them. 186 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:35,000 Sometimes the thing you need most is packaged in the person 187 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:41,520 you want to hang around the least, and sometimes momentarily 188 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:46,640 that can be your spouse. Don't look at me that way. 189 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:49,800 I know I'm not the only one that's ever had an argument with 190 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:52,920 my wife. But there are things that are in 191 00:10:52,920 --> 00:10:56,440 you that God has placed there, and there's things in other 192 00:10:56,440 --> 00:10:59,800 people in the body of Christ that God wants to get to you and 193 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:02,840 He will withhold it from you as an individual. 194 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:07,320 It's very clear God has put everything under Christ's feet, 195 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:12,280 comma for the church, comma the fullness of Him. 196 00:11:12,680 --> 00:11:14,920 The church is the fullness of Christ. 197 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:17,120 And Ephesians chapter 4 is very clear. 198 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,720 You've been given a measure of the gift of Christ, but the only 199 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:22,920 way you can get the fullness, you've got a piece of the 200 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:24,920 puzzle. You've got a little piece in it. 201 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:27,360 Wow, I got this beautiful picture of the foot. 202 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:30,240 I've got, you know, look at this beautiful foot. 203 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,880 But that's not all of Jesus. I mean, he's got amazing feet, 204 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:36,320 but he there's more to him. And you've got to take your 205 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,200 picture of the foot and put it with the picture of the ankle 206 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,200 and the knee and the rest of Jesus so you can have the 207 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:45,080 fullness of Christ. And there are a lot of 208 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:46,600 believers. You'll hear people say, well, I 209 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,280 don't need to go to church to be be a Christian. 210 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:53,720 Yeah, but you're just going to think Jesus is a foot, you're 211 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:56,040 going to think your little portion is the whole and you're 212 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,120 going to be at a disadvantage. And furthermore, there's things 213 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,560 in you that will never be pulled out of you outside of 214 00:12:01,560 --> 00:12:04,840 relationships. And so when God says it's not 215 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:08,960 good for man to be alone, there's a lot to that phrase. 216 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:12,960 We we have to be in relationship with the body of Christ. 217 00:12:13,560 --> 00:12:17,360 And so he says it's not good for man to be alone. 218 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:23,960 And so look verse 21. So the Lord God caused a deep 219 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:26,880 sleep to fall upon the man. And while he slept, he took one 220 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:31,560 of his ribs, closed its place up with flesh and that and the rib 221 00:12:31,560 --> 00:12:35,560 that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and 222 00:12:35,560 --> 00:12:39,880 brought her to the man. And the man said this at last. 223 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:45,000 You hear that Adam's like finally I've got one at my 224 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:46,960 heart. There's been this desire that 225 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,440 woke up in my heart and I looked everywhere. 226 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:52,040 I couldn't find it. God put me to sleep, took 227 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:53,680 something. I got a pain in my side, but 228 00:12:53,680 --> 00:12:55,040 it's worth it because look at this. 229 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:59,640 And God presents and he says finally, at last, this is bone 230 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:03,280 of my bones, flesh of my flesh. And she should be called woman 231 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:05,120 for all she was taken out of man. 232 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:09,840 That word bone of my bone, that phrase bone of my bone, flesh of 233 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:14,560 my flesh, it literally means in the Hebrew self of my very self. 234 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:22,960 I recognize my counterpart. I recognize the other part of me 235 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:27,640 standing across from me. I see that the one, the one that 236 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,480 my heart's long for. I recognize that in them. 237 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:34,240 That's what he's saying. And so he says. 238 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:39,440 Then verse 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and 239 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:44,960 mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one 240 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:47,160 flesh. And the man and his wife were 241 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,480 both naked, and they were not ashamed. 242 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:51,840 Or if you're from Missouri, it's naked. 243 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:55,120 They were both naked and they were not ashamed. 244 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:58,840 Now that word 1 flesh in the Hebrew is ahad. 245 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:03,240 It refers to the smallest whole number, but it's also used to 246 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:06,560 refer to a singular person or thing. 247 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:12,040 So the two shall become a single unit. 248 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:18,280 And there is a very real sense in which as a married 249 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:23,600 individual, God now relates with you as a unit between you and 250 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:27,440 your spouse. And what you do as a married 251 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:31,920 person deeply affects your spouse and vice versa, good and 252 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,120 bad, because the two become one flesh. 253 00:14:36,400 --> 00:14:40,120 And God relates with us. There is a corporate identity. 254 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:43,000 Now I'm going to stand before God as an individual, but I will 255 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:45,440 answer to God for how I was as a husband. 256 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:52,240 And there is a a shared existence that we have that God 257 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:55,320 literally deals with us as one flesh. 258 00:14:55,440 --> 00:15:00,120 That's a heavy thing, and one of the things that I walked away 259 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:07,000 with from this conference was that there is a whole lot more 260 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:10,360 available. When we talk about oneness, 261 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:20,240 there is a unity that we can enjoy that a lot of us have left 262 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:24,040 on the table. God looked at us in our single 263 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:29,280 state and said it's not good. So he made a spouse, he made 264 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:33,160 marriage presents it to us and God says that's very good. 265 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:37,480 And then arguments happened. Little things come in the way 266 00:15:37,760 --> 00:15:40,760 and we settle for less. We say it's good enough. 267 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:46,720 And what God is wanting to do is for us to fight for a deeper 268 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:52,480 level of unity in our marriages. As I heard Barry and Lori, the, 269 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:55,520 the, the ones that we're doing the conference, they were 270 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:59,200 talking about how God began to deal with them years ago about 271 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:02,000 just these little things that would stand between them. 272 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:05,560 And it was during a season of tremendous revival. 273 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:09,320 They were attending John Wimbers Church back in the day and there 274 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:11,720 was a tremendous outpouring and God was doing a lot in their 275 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:13,920 life. And there was this sensitivity 276 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:17,080 that they had. And Barry was saying, man, he 277 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:18,840 went to bed one night and he just felt like then there's 278 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:20,920 something between US and he rolled out and they had to work 279 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:24,200 through that stuff. And I was convicted, I'm 280 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:26,880 thinking, how many times have I just brushed past that? 281 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:32,800 But there's there's a level of unity and oneness that God 282 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:36,440 desires for us. And yes, that does speak of 283 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:39,520 sexual intimacy. But the problem is the reason a 284 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:42,960 lot of people struggle with their sexual intimacy in 285 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:46,320 marriage is because they're not dealing with those emotional 286 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:49,000 barriers. Those little grievances that 287 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:51,000 come up are those little misunderstandings. 288 00:16:51,160 --> 00:16:52,760 And we just brush and we'll get to them later. 289 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:56,720 We're busy and they're not dealing with that and it hinders 290 00:16:56,960 --> 00:16:59,320 that oneness that we're supposed to live in. 291 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:03,360 There should be an A sensitivity that we have with our spouse 292 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:06,440 that when something's bothering her, I can be at the office and 293 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:09,280 I know, hey, what's going on, Kath, I just, I, I felt 294 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:13,240 something that we really walk as one flesh. 295 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:18,920 That's what God has for us and we need to fight for oneness in 296 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:21,800 marriage. And again, it just, it was 297 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,040 really interesting to me because they started the seminar out 298 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:27,599 with recognizing the voice of the enemy. 299 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:30,080 You know, the enemy usually talks in your voice. 300 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:36,880 You ever seen the movie? What was it that the Prince of 301 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,600 Egypt, and I think it was Val Kilmer, that was Moses. 302 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:44,160 If no, it was Joseph. It was the one, the one about 303 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:45,760 Joseph. No, it was the one about Moses. 304 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:50,400 So anyways, so Moses, it was Val Kilmer and Moses, what? 305 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:52,800 It was voiced over by Val Kilmer. 306 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,120 But when he goes to the burning Bush, God speaks to Moses. 307 00:17:56,120 --> 00:17:58,400 And the writers were trying to figure out, you know, how do we 308 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:00,080 do this? Who should we, You know, who 309 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:02,360 should we hire James Earl Jones to be God? 310 00:18:02,360 --> 00:18:05,200 You know, that'd be great. And then they decide, you know 311 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:09,440 what, we're going to have Val Kilmer voice God as well because 312 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:11,840 what they said is God speaks to us in our own voice. 313 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,320 Not interesting. And that's true. 314 00:18:15,120 --> 00:18:19,080 You know, God uses my lingo. Somebody be like, no, yeah, he 315 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:22,000 does. He'll use slang with me because 316 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:23,960 he's he's relating with me as a friend. 317 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:26,520 And he speaks to you and your voice there. 318 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:29,160 God will. But The thing is, the enemy also 319 00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:31,720 speaks to you and your voice, and he wants you to own what 320 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:34,440 he's saying. And that often happens in 321 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,160 marriage. And if we pick that up and own 322 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:39,000 it, there becomes that veil. And if we allow those things to 323 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:43,760 stack up, pretty soon it sabotages our relationship. 324 00:18:44,760 --> 00:18:49,040 And we've got to fight for that. We've got to recognize I was 325 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:53,520 just, I was just stirred in my heart to realize that what's 326 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:57,080 happened in the body of Christ is we've allowed the enemy to 327 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:00,640 attack unity and marriage, and it affects the entire body. 328 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:05,840 And we've got to fight for this, that there's a oneness God's 329 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:09,640 talking about here that is extremely valuable. 330 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:13,680 And God says it's not good if we don't have it, and it's very 331 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,280 good if we do. And most of us settle for a good 332 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:21,800 enough and we're not really accessing all God has for us. 333 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:25,200 Now, I know some of you are single and you say, well, 334 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,960 pastor, does that mean I just get to get the picture of God's 335 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:30,240 foot, you know, and I don't, I don't really get to revelate. 336 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:32,600 No, you got to have relationships. 337 00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:36,080 It doesn't have to be marriage, but there isn't there is a 338 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,280 dimension to this thing that you enter into in marriage. 339 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,400 And so you need to get married, aspire to marriage. 340 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:45,520 And God does give grace to some. It's called the gift of 341 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:47,320 celibacy. It's not one that a lot of 342 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:50,440 people fast for, but some people, you know, some people 343 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:56,720 have it gift from God. And you young guys ask some 344 00:19:56,720 --> 00:20:00,280 girls out, OK. And you, young lady, say Amen. 345 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:03,400 Hallelujah. Wave your hanky seriously, in 346 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:08,240 this, in this culture and this culture and guys just aren't 347 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:12,520 asking women out enough. You don't text them, You don't 348 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,360 send them a Facebook message. Hey, I saw you at church. 349 00:20:15,360 --> 00:20:18,160 Think you're attractive. Would you want to go out, walk 350 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:24,840 up to them and ask them out. Hey, man, you've got, you've got 351 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:28,000 to, you've got to get out of your comfort zone. 352 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:32,800 Put yourself out there because marriage is important and we 353 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,480 need to lead the way as the body of Christ. 354 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:36,480 We can go home now. Hallelujah. 355 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:41,240 OK, now listen to this. It says, some of you man, you 356 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,480 were ready to come to the altar. I could feel it. 357 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:49,160 So it says for this reason a man shall leave his father and 358 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,120 mother, hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one 359 00:20:52,120 --> 00:20:54,080 flesh. And the man and his wife were 360 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:57,120 both naked and unashamed. Turn with me to Ephesians, 361 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:01,240 Ephesians chapter 5. I want to show you just one 362 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:09,120 passage where this passage is reiterated, and there are 363 00:21:09,120 --> 00:21:11,600 several others. Jesus quoted that passage 364 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:13,960 several times. And again, I want to stress to 365 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:19,120 you, if this one phrase is being repeated so many times, it 366 00:21:19,120 --> 00:21:22,040 should cause us to think, hey, this is pretty important, right? 367 00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:24,400 That this is an important passage. 368 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:27,920 This isn't just something mentioned in Scripture moved on 369 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:31,400 from it's spoken about again and again and again. 370 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:36,560 Now look at what it says in Ephesians chapter 5. 371 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,280 Let's look at verse 22 and we're going to read through this very 372 00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:41,960 quick. Wives submit to your own 373 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:45,800 husband's as to the Lord. Notice it doesn't say women 374 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:50,120 submit to men. Let me just let that settle for 375 00:21:50,120 --> 00:21:53,200 a second. It says wives submit to your 376 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:56,320 husbands. It doesn't say women submit to 377 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,480 men. Wives, submit to your husbands. 378 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:00,760 That's what sermon for another day. 379 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,920 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the 380 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,040 head of the church's body and himself its Savior. 381 00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,840 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should 382 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,600 submit and everything to their husbands. 383 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:14,600 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave 384 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,400 himself up for her that he might sanctify her, having cleansed 385 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:22,120 her by the washing of water, washing of water with the Word, 386 00:22:22,120 --> 00:22:26,040 so that he might present the Church to himself in splendor, 387 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,640 without spot or wrinkle or any such thing. 388 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:33,160 That she might be holy and without blemish in the same way 389 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,440 that Christ has done that with the church. 390 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:39,120 Husbands, love your wives. Well, that makes sense. 391 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:44,320 If we're one, then I can't just be thinking about me. 392 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:46,320 I've got to be thinking about her. 393 00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,440 We're one. That'd be like me just thinking 394 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,360 about my left foot. I'm going to buy some new shoes, 395 00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:52,680 but I only get one for my left foot. 396 00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,200 No, I got a pair of shoes and there's a pair of people in this 397 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,280 oneness and so we got to give attention to it. 398 00:22:57,280 --> 00:23:02,560 So he says husbands love your wives in the same way husbands 399 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:04,400 love their wives as their own bodies. 400 00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:07,080 He who loves his wife loves himself. 401 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:11,520 That goes without saying. We're not going to dig in there 402 00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:14,560 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and 403 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:18,280 cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are 404 00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:21,480 members of his body. And now he quotes that verse, 405 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,360 verse 31. Therefore a man shall leave his 406 00:23:25,360 --> 00:23:29,280 father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall 407 00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:32,560 become one flesh. And then Paul says this mystery 408 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,840 is profound and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the 409 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,160 church. Isn't that interesting? 410 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:45,360 This crucial foundational truth. Now he says, yeah, it's about 411 00:23:45,360 --> 00:23:47,960 husbands, wives, but it's also about the church. 412 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:53,480 You see God when God's creating everything, he creates for five 413 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,360 days. On the 6th day he creates a guy 414 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,160 and he says that ain't good guy needs a wife. 415 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:02,000 And so he makes a wife. He pulls he, he puts him in a 416 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,880 deep sleep, pulls a rib out, forms it into a woman and 417 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:09,840 presents it back to him and said, now the two shall become 418 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:11,800 one flesh. And Adam's like, wow, God, 419 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,080 you're amazing. This is this is the greatest 420 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,640 gift I've been given. This is awesome until their 421 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:21,280 first argument. And all of a sudden, Adam's 422 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:24,960 wondering, God, wait a minute. I was already one with her. 423 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,960 I, my rib and I were in unison. We didn't have arguments. 424 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:33,120 My rib and I always got along. And now you took my rib out, 425 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,040 formed it into something I'm attracted to, gave her own 426 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:38,440 opinions, and then now she's coming to me with those opinions 427 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,200 that don't line up with my opinions. 428 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,840 And this oneness thing ain't working too well. 429 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,440 And in fact, that was God's plan. 430 00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,120 God is brilliant. God said it's not good for man 431 00:24:50,120 --> 00:24:52,000 to be alone. He needed a wife and he gave her 432 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:53,760 own opinions, brought her back to him. 433 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,840 And I would propose to you, marriage is one of the primary 434 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:04,000 discipleship tools God uses. And what he does is he gives you 435 00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:09,320 the reward, unity and oneness. There there's a, there's a 436 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:13,600 oneness and a unity that is connected to physical intimacy 437 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:16,000 with your spouse that we enter into. 438 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,480 And God says, if you want this, you got to deal with you. 439 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,360 You've got to humble yourself and work through your issues so 440 00:25:21,360 --> 00:25:24,200 that you can walk in the oneness that I made for you. 441 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,200 And a lot of times people are trying to deal with the physical 442 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,800 intimacy issues without dealing with the emotional issues that 443 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,840 have stacked up and they can't get that and they, they give up. 444 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:36,640 Well, I guess we're the exception to the rule and it's a 445 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,440 lie from the bit of hell. It's because they've got to deal 446 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:43,920 with them and their issues. And as we do, we can move into 447 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:45,080 that. And you know what happens? 448 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:50,000 We grow up and we become better people, better representations 449 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:54,040 of, of the gospel and of, of Jesus Christ himself. 450 00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:56,120 We grow into all that we're called to be. 451 00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:00,840 And so God uses relational and it's, that's not isolated to 452 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,760 marriage. God uses relational conflict to 453 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:08,280 grow you up. Often the thing you need the 454 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:13,360 most is in the people that irritate you the most. 455 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,200 And God will put it there so that he can deal with something 456 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,200 in you and if you will pay the price to work through those 457 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:27,800 relational conflicts. And so here's here's where I'm 458 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:32,160 going with all this. There's this phenomenal 459 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:35,840 revelation of what marriage is supposed to be. 460 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,560 It's a gift from God where two people become one. 461 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:45,240 And there's a level of oneness that God is offering us that 462 00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,560 very few, if any, have ever touched. 463 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,360 And God is inviting you. He wants to give you more. 464 00:26:52,360 --> 00:26:54,160 And we need to work at this. It's work. 465 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,800 So I want us to understand that. But the other thing I want us to 466 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,840 understand is this. That's also true of the church. 467 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:08,280 Paul just said, he said this mystery is profound, but I'm 468 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:11,920 saying it refers to Christ and the church and then he goes 469 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:13,360 back. He says, however, let it be. 470 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,520 Let him let you let one of you love his wife as himself and let 471 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,560 the wife that she respect her husband make sure that happens. 472 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,320 Yes, we're talking about marriage, but what he's saying 473 00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:27,040 is, listen, there is a oneness and a unity and a revelation of 474 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:31,560 Jesus Christ in the corporate body that is so much more than 475 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:35,240 we already experienced. But what it demands of us is to 476 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,720 work through these issues. And what I'm saying is that the 477 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:43,360 reason people's marriages aren't what they should be is because 478 00:27:43,360 --> 00:27:47,280 they're not dealing with the little relational stuff that 479 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,920 stacks up. Some of that stuff has nothing 480 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,160 to do with our spouse. We brought it with us when we 481 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,080 got married. I already had my own baggage. 482 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,200 Whenever I do marriage pre marriage counseling, I tell 483 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,520 those of you that I've done that with, you know, we've we've gone 484 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:08,080 through one of the sessions is you marry their past. 485 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,600 There is a history you are joining yourself too. 486 00:28:13,120 --> 00:28:16,840 So the more you're aware of that and you begin to unravel that 487 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,120 stuff and really deal with the stuff, it doesn't have to cause 488 00:28:20,120 --> 00:28:23,120 problems, but if you don't, it will. 489 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,120 And so we've got it. We've got to sift through this 490 00:28:26,120 --> 00:28:29,360 stuff, and that's what keeps us from the relationship. 491 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,560 And here's my concern. Paul says he's also talking 492 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:36,000 about Christ in the church, and we do the same thing in the body 493 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,040 of Christ. I believe that there is a lot of 494 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:43,160 things that stack up between brothers and sisters in this 495 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:44,840 church. Let's not talk about the church 496 00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,840 at large. Yeah, I'm talking about that 497 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:48,600 church across the street or up the road. 498 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:50,320 You know not. No, it's us. 499 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:54,440 We've got to be so very careful that we don't allow that stuff 500 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:58,360 to stack up because it will rob you of what God has for you. 501 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,280 When I was talking to Barry, the guy that was doing the, the 502 00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:08,760 conference, the seminar, he, I picked him up him and his wife 503 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,160 the second day and he said, man, I just love that you guys are 504 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,920 one of these churches are going after revival and you know, 505 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,120 believe in the Kingdom and signs and wonders and supernatural, 506 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,840 but you have healthy community. And I thought that's, that's 507 00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,320 just an interesting statement. Man. 508 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,680 I started thinking about that. It just kind of weighed on me 509 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:32,000 and I've been just mulling this over before the Lord and I was 510 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,160 still mulling it over early this morning. 511 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,680 And this is what I felt like the Lord began to talk to me about 512 00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:45,320 that if we are just a revival center, if we're just a sending 513 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:49,240 Center for just a Resource Center for everybody to come and 514 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:53,560 get something outside, then we, we become like people who want 515 00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,120 to have kids but neglect their marriage. 516 00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:00,800 We want to see all this stuff happen out here. 517 00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:04,760 But the, the, the, the, the, the, the essence of it. 518 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:09,080 My family's only as healthy as my wife and I are. 519 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,960 Man, I could I could hit it out of the ballpark with my kids. 520 00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,920 But if I fail here, it's I'm not going to hit it out of the 521 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:20,520 ballpark with my kids. We could I knew I knew I'm going 522 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,200 to be careful here. I knew of a house somewhere 523 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:26,520 within 50 miles of here. Really, really nice house. 524 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,840 I remember driving by that wow, that is quite a house. 525 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:33,080 He had a beautiful acreage on this turn out out on some 526 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:34,400 blacktop, but it was out in the country. 527 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,720 I don't know how many acres they had, but this was a gorgeous 528 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,000 home. And I thought, man, that just 529 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:43,720 wow, just the setting that that is really just striking. 530 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:49,160 Few years later I heard that this husband and wife that built 531 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:53,080 this beautiful home got into such conflict. 532 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:56,600 They just began to hate each other and neither one of them 533 00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:57,920 were willing to move out of the house. 534 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:03,280 So they literally drilled holes in the the door frames and put 535 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,560 padlocks on doors within the house. 536 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,760 They're still living in the house, hating each other and 537 00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,560 locking doors on each other. This is my room and that's your 538 00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:13,320 room. Can you imagine living like 539 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:17,200 that? A beautiful home, living with 540 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,680 someone you hate and you're ruining your home because you 541 00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:21,720 can't? I would rather live in a shack 542 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:25,480 with someone I love. I mean, that would be hell. 543 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:31,880 It's horrible and a lot of people live. 544 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:37,000 Maybe that's an extreme, but the fact is, if we're, we can build 545 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:40,520 beautiful homes and neglect our marriage, we can have a, you 546 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,880 know, oh, we have a kid. I got a great career and neglect 547 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:46,200 our marriage and we can go after revival and signs and wonders. 548 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:52,280 But if we lose this, then it's all for not because this the, 549 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:56,120 the relationship here between us as the body of Christ really 550 00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:57,920 running together. Those of you that were in the 551 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:02,000 seminar, I I OK, I, I'm receiving and I'm I, I learned a 552 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:02,840 lot man. It was great. 553 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,040 But I'm also as the pastor, I'm analyzing kind of how they're 554 00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,600 doing this and watching the people around the rooms. 555 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:12,440 And man, several times I just brought to tears watching people 556 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,000 connecting around the room and all the testimonies. 557 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:18,640 It was beautiful people getting up and just sharing what God had 558 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,000 done in their life. It was a beautiful, beautiful 559 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:26,080 thing. And people would, they would be 560 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,040 learning things at the table that they never knew about 561 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:30,960 themselves. And two seconds later they're 562 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:33,480 sharing it with people that 2 days ago they didn't even know. 563 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,960 And I'm talking some pretty intimate stuff and they're 564 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,800 sharing. And by the end of those few 565 00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:43,720 days, people were close. Why? 566 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,440 Because for a few days they did life together. 567 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,160 It's amazing. I mean, you guys are sitting 568 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,240 together, you know, I mean, it's, it's it's amazing thing. 569 00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:57,000 And that's the way the body of Christ is supposed to work. 570 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,440 It's not good enough to just come to church and look at the 571 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,320 back of someone's head. And then every now and top of 572 00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,640 Hey, nice haircut. I noticed last week is a little 573 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,040 longer. Whoa, that's intimacy. 574 00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,760 Intimacy there. You're really going deep. 575 00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:19,280 We we need to have relationships with you can't know everybody, 576 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:25,200 but you better know somebody and somebody better know you because 577 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:29,640 the level of your intimacy is the level of your maturity and 578 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:34,520 the level even of your purity. First John chapter 1 is very 579 00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:38,440 clear. Walk in the light as He is in 580 00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,840 the light. Transparency. 581 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,760 Then you have fellowship with one another, intimacy, and then 582 00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,760 the blood of Jesus will cleanse you from all unrighteousness, 583 00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:51,000 purity. Isn't it interesting that God 584 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:55,040 ties the deliverance from sin to relating with one another. 585 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,480 We think I just need Jesus. No, you need Jesus through other 586 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:05,480 people. We all do and so I just, man, 587 00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:12,360 I've been burdened just the last few days feeling like God turn 588 00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:18,040 up the love one for another in this house. 589 00:34:18,639 --> 00:34:23,560 Lord, let us, Lord, begin to develop relationships. 590 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:28,360 Nobody can do that for you, but you can. 591 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:33,400 You can resist it or you can choose to do it, but I just, I'm 592 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,880 telling you, it's not good enough to know your Bible and 593 00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:40,120 have a prayer life. Do you know his people and do 594 00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:43,719 they know you? Hey, thanks for watching. 595 00:34:44,199 --> 00:34:47,000 At Heartland Church, we love to worship the Lord and we love his 596 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,280 word. In fact, if you could jump on 597 00:34:49,639 --> 00:34:52,639 and subscribe to our YouTube channel, you could make sure 598 00:34:52,639 --> 00:34:54,239 that you don't miss any of the services. 599 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,520 We'd love to have you join us live or in person every week. 600 00:34:57,960 --> 00:34:58,840 See you next time.