1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:06,680 If you've been following me for quite a while, you know that I 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:12,680 am unapologetically unafraid of pivoting in life, no matter what 3 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:16,880 the pivot entails. Over the years, I've really 4 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:23,360 learned to embrace that life is just not linear. 5 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:28,080 There will always be a time where I have to createspace for 6 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,009 something new by letting go of what no longer serves me. 7 00:00:33,450 --> 00:00:36,930 But if I can be fully transparent right now, I have 8 00:00:36,930 --> 00:00:41,450 not always been this way. I once used to fight with 9 00:00:41,690 --> 00:00:45,890 everything in me when feelings would arise, telling me that it 10 00:00:45,890 --> 00:00:51,770 was time to make a move, time to transition to something new, and 11 00:00:52,850 --> 00:00:57,610 maybe leave something behind. I didn't know what it all meant 12 00:00:57,610 --> 00:01:03,330 for me, which was the problem. Did a change in direction mean 13 00:01:03,930 --> 00:01:09,850 sacrificing parts of myself? Did the call to answer the pivot 14 00:01:09,850 --> 00:01:12,930 mean I failed at what currently existed? 15 00:01:14,050 --> 00:01:20,010 Would moving on to something new guarantee me success or 16 00:01:20,010 --> 00:01:23,130 happiness? There was just no way to tell, 17 00:01:23,850 --> 00:01:29,520 but there were always these looming questions associated 18 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,360 with any pivot in my life, personally or professionally. 19 00:01:34,960 --> 00:01:40,600 The truth is, I would never know the answer to those questions or 20 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:45,840 exactly what have weighted me if I didn't trust my gut to 21 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:49,040 discover what was on the other side of those feelings. 22 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:56,180 Pivoting in life and career can be scary. 23 00:01:56,260 --> 00:01:59,260 It can be one of the most daunting feelings. 24 00:02:00,020 --> 00:02:04,060 When you reach a point of needing to make a change, it can 25 00:02:04,060 --> 00:02:08,020 be difficult to know if you're on the right path, let alone, 26 00:02:08,220 --> 00:02:10,580 you know, even making the right decision. 27 00:02:11,900 --> 00:02:15,940 I want to take some time to explore how to better understand 28 00:02:16,140 --> 00:02:21,020 and trust your instincts when it comes to making changes in your 29 00:02:21,020 --> 00:02:27,250 personal and professional life. I think it'll also be good for 30 00:02:27,250 --> 00:02:32,970 me to unpack the importance of taking the time to evaluate all 31 00:02:32,970 --> 00:02:37,330 the options you are presented with when pivoting in life, as 32 00:02:37,330 --> 00:02:41,050 well as how to make decisions that align with your core 33 00:02:41,050 --> 00:02:43,770 values, your goals, and your beliefs. 34 00:02:43,930 --> 00:02:46,450 Yes, those are those magic words. 35 00:02:46,450 --> 00:02:57,220 Again, let's get into it. Welcome to Living Divinely, the 36 00:02:57,220 --> 00:03:01,460 Divine Oasis Podcast. I'm your host, Amber Janine, 37 00:03:02,260 --> 00:03:07,220 founder and Editor in Chief of Divine Oasis Biweekly. 38 00:03:07,460 --> 00:03:10,820 I use this platform to dissect what it means to live a well 39 00:03:10,820 --> 00:03:14,620 lived life by exploring ways that we can createspace for 40 00:03:14,620 --> 00:03:19,340 ourselves through intentionality, truth, love and 41 00:03:19,340 --> 00:03:27,090 authenticity. I will start by saying pivoting 42 00:03:27,370 --> 00:03:31,850 for me has always been a very instinctual feeling. 43 00:03:32,650 --> 00:03:37,330 It's always been one of those like if you know, you know type 44 00:03:37,330 --> 00:03:41,770 feelings. While I've never doubted the 45 00:03:41,770 --> 00:03:47,170 feelings as they've come, I have a lot of times doubted my 46 00:03:47,170 --> 00:03:52,970 ability to rely on my own instincts and my power of 47 00:03:52,970 --> 00:03:58,170 execution before I really dive in here. 48 00:03:58,610 --> 00:04:02,490 There are a few important things that I want you to keep in mind 49 00:04:02,770 --> 00:04:10,170 when thinking about change. First, always ensure that you 50 00:04:10,290 --> 00:04:16,450 are hyperaware when instinctual indicators of a pivot and how 51 00:04:16,450 --> 00:04:21,990 they show up in your life. I'll come back to this as I 52 00:04:21,990 --> 00:04:25,230 navigate through the episode. Think about that. 53 00:04:26,230 --> 00:04:31,510 Another thing to note is it won't always be beautiful or 54 00:04:31,630 --> 00:04:39,270 this big aha moment. A pivot can and may get messy, 55 00:04:40,030 --> 00:04:46,510 but that is okay. Also ask yourself how do you 56 00:04:46,510 --> 00:04:50,100 pivot successfully without losing yourself? 57 00:04:50,660 --> 00:04:55,940 Or is it important to lose parts of yourself during the process 58 00:04:55,940 --> 00:05:00,860 of a pivot? Lastly, understanding that there 59 00:05:00,860 --> 00:05:06,300 is so much power that lies within a change in direction and 60 00:05:06,300 --> 00:05:14,060 it is critical to the journey. I think the problem for a lot of 61 00:05:14,060 --> 00:05:19,860 people who may be listening or who will listen is you know 62 00:05:19,860 --> 00:05:23,900 exactly what you need to do, but you choose not to do it. 63 00:05:25,180 --> 00:05:30,940 There are so many reasons rooted in why you choose not to take 64 00:05:30,940 --> 00:05:35,100 the leap. But are any of those reasons 65 00:05:35,980 --> 00:05:39,460 good enough to choose not to make, not to make moves that you 66 00:05:39,460 --> 00:05:42,460 know deep down inside that you absolutely need to make? 67 00:05:44,300 --> 00:05:49,380 Truth is, you don't need me. You don't need another book, 68 00:05:49,620 --> 00:05:53,140 another article, another course, another podcast. 69 00:05:53,140 --> 00:05:56,340 You don't need anything to confirm what it is that you 70 00:05:56,340 --> 00:05:59,940 already know. The confirmations and the 71 00:05:59,980 --> 00:06:02,860 affirmations. They've been there and they've 72 00:06:02,860 --> 00:06:07,020 been there for a while. It's just that now the ball is 73 00:06:07,020 --> 00:06:11,300 officially in your court and you have to make a move. 74 00:06:13,220 --> 00:06:19,460 When it came to change, the lack of forward movement for me 75 00:06:20,620 --> 00:06:25,620 personally had a lot to do with being comfortable where I was in 76 00:06:25,620 --> 00:06:30,580 the present moment in life. It's just natural for us to 77 00:06:30,580 --> 00:06:34,780 become accustomed to the routine and and the stability that our 78 00:06:34,780 --> 00:06:41,010 current situations provide. In a lot of ways, this makes the 79 00:06:41,010 --> 00:06:47,010 idea of switching paths like this fearful, anxiety written 80 00:06:47,010 --> 00:06:51,410 prospects. We worry about the unknown, all 81 00:06:51,810 --> 00:06:57,490 you know, potential failures, the possibility of negative 82 00:06:57,490 --> 00:07:02,290 impacts, any negative impacts that it could have on your 83 00:07:02,290 --> 00:07:05,490 personal and professional lives. Like we worry about so much. 84 00:07:06,410 --> 00:07:11,330 However, even within that worry, it is incredibly important to 85 00:07:11,330 --> 00:07:14,210 remember that pivoting can also bring growth. 86 00:07:15,330 --> 00:07:20,450 It can bring opportunities and change, so many new beginnings. 87 00:07:21,930 --> 00:07:26,450 But it takes courage. It takes so much courage to make 88 00:07:26,450 --> 00:07:32,130 a change, but trusting in yourself and your instincts can 89 00:07:32,130 --> 00:07:37,410 lead to so many beautiful outcomes and substantial reward. 90 00:07:38,850 --> 00:07:45,050 I do want to be clear, though, that pivots and changes don't 91 00:07:45,050 --> 00:07:48,850 just mean you leave a bad situation or you elevate in your 92 00:07:48,850 --> 00:07:51,210 career and boom, all is well again. 93 00:07:51,650 --> 00:07:54,010 Like, no, that's not the reality. 94 00:07:55,210 --> 00:08:00,650 Changes and shifts in life are often followed by or happens 95 00:08:00,650 --> 00:08:05,570 simultaneously while you're purging old versions of 96 00:08:05,570 --> 00:08:10,210 yourself. Change of direction can mean 97 00:08:10,850 --> 00:08:15,490 having to release all parts of you that are no longer in 98 00:08:15,490 --> 00:08:18,730 alignment with the person that you're becoming. 99 00:08:19,770 --> 00:08:25,930 And this is OK too. But I will say it can be 100 00:08:26,050 --> 00:08:30,770 particularly particularly difficult when it comes to 101 00:08:30,890 --> 00:08:33,090 career changes for a lot of people. 102 00:08:34,390 --> 00:08:37,070 Maybe you're just one of those people who spent years time in 103 00:08:37,070 --> 00:08:42,549 the ladder in a certain industry and then you realize like, it's 104 00:08:42,630 --> 00:08:47,750 no longer fulfilling for you. It can be very, very tempting in 105 00:08:47,750 --> 00:08:53,510 those moments to want to hold on to the security and the familiar 106 00:08:53,510 --> 00:08:57,990 aspects of your current identity or your past identity. 107 00:08:58,790 --> 00:09:03,940 But sometimes like letting go is necessary for growth to take 108 00:09:03,940 --> 00:09:11,860 place, I hear similar things a lot when I am watching design 109 00:09:11,860 --> 00:09:14,140 shows. Y'all know I love my design 110 00:09:14,140 --> 00:09:19,660 shows, and one of my favorite shows for quite a while has been 111 00:09:21,100 --> 00:09:24,740 the show called Point of View, a designer profile. 112 00:09:25,690 --> 00:09:32,370 You can watch this show on HBO Max or Discovery Plus through 113 00:09:32,450 --> 00:09:36,570 Magnolia Network, the network which was founded by Chip and 114 00:09:36,570 --> 00:09:39,210 Joanna Gaines. And y'all know I love me some 115 00:09:39,210 --> 00:09:43,570 Joanna Gaines. But most of the designers on 116 00:09:43,570 --> 00:09:48,530 this show are actively working in the interior design fields, 117 00:09:48,650 --> 00:09:54,610 and most of them decided to answer this, calling on their 118 00:09:54,610 --> 00:09:59,650 life during a time that they were doing something completely 119 00:10:00,130 --> 00:10:02,290 unrelated to the design industry. 120 00:10:03,650 --> 00:10:06,930 Can you imagine how scary that is? 121 00:10:07,810 --> 00:10:14,770 To go from the stability of a career, like being a doctor or a 122 00:10:14,770 --> 00:10:21,860 lawyer and deciding randomly after years of schooling and 123 00:10:21,940 --> 00:10:25,220 maybe starting your own practice that you're going to walk away 124 00:10:25,220 --> 00:10:27,820 from it all and do something that is more fulfilling? 125 00:10:29,020 --> 00:10:34,620 It can sound crazy, but from personal experience, a lot of my 126 00:10:35,420 --> 00:10:41,260 pivots in life consisted of me walking away from things that I 127 00:10:41,260 --> 00:10:46,940 had said yes to because they were things that people wanted 128 00:10:46,940 --> 00:10:51,200 for me. I spent a lot of my life 129 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:56,320 answering the callings other people had over my life and not 130 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,640 responding to life intentionally. 131 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,760 The point is here through all of that, is to allow yourself the 132 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:08,000 space and the time to mourn the loss of your own identity. 133 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:16,620 It is hard for sure, but while you're mourning, you have to not 134 00:11:16,620 --> 00:11:20,060 let it hold you back from embracing or going after new 135 00:11:20,060 --> 00:11:24,260 opportunities. Always keep in mind too that 136 00:11:24,300 --> 00:11:29,700 your identity should not be and absolutely is not attached to 137 00:11:29,700 --> 00:11:35,420 what you do or singular industry, but rather to your 138 00:11:35,420 --> 00:11:40,860 unique abilities, your unique set of skills, values and the 139 00:11:40,860 --> 00:11:43,460 experience that make you who you are. 140 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:51,760 Pivoting in life and career requires A willingness, this 141 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:57,520 willingness, to take risk and step into the unknown. 142 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:04,360 An unknown that while feel fearful, can lead to immense 143 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:10,140 growth and fulfillment. By trusting your instincts and 144 00:12:10,260 --> 00:12:14,660 being open to change, you can navigate these transitions with 145 00:12:14,660 --> 00:12:19,300 so much confidence, intentionality, and clarity. 146 00:12:20,940 --> 00:12:25,300 So how do you know when it's time to pivot? 147 00:12:27,940 --> 00:12:33,020 I am one of those people who believe that we are all born 148 00:12:33,020 --> 00:12:38,750 with an innate ability to foresee things, or the ability 149 00:12:38,750 --> 00:12:41,350 to send certain outcomes before they occur. 150 00:12:44,230 --> 00:12:48,830 While we have this ability, many of us have not yet tapped into 151 00:12:49,910 --> 00:12:55,470 this power, but it's there. Our intuition is such a powerful 152 00:12:55,470 --> 00:13:03,550 tool that we often ignore when it comes to strategic decision 153 00:13:03,550 --> 00:13:07,700 making. We often let practicality 154 00:13:07,820 --> 00:13:11,820 override what we feel when. We should absolutely always be 155 00:13:11,820 --> 00:13:16,300 betting on our intuition when it comes to recognizing the signs 156 00:13:16,300 --> 00:13:18,780 that tells us it's time for a pivot. 157 00:13:20,260 --> 00:13:25,300 If you have a nagging feeling that something isn't right, or 158 00:13:25,980 --> 00:13:31,220 you no longer feel feel fulfilled in a situation or like 159 00:13:31,260 --> 00:13:35,520 your needs aren't being met, you should Absolutely not turn a 160 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,800 blind eye to these feelings because they're nagging at you 161 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:43,040 for a reason. Our intuition is usually so spot 162 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:47,000 on, and it's always trying to guide us toward what we truly 163 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:52,240 need. One of the other ways to know, 164 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:57,480 aside from your intuition when it's time to pivot, is when you 165 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:00,800 stop feeling empowered in certain situations or 166 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:04,140 environments. If you feel like you're no 167 00:14:04,140 --> 00:14:08,940 longer growing or learning in your current position, if you 168 00:14:08,940 --> 00:14:15,900 dread going to work every day, if you're just unhappy in 169 00:14:15,900 --> 00:14:20,380 certain moments, in certain environments, it it it may be 170 00:14:20,380 --> 00:14:25,020 time to move on. When we stop feeling inspired or 171 00:14:25,020 --> 00:14:29,930 motivated by our work or our environments, it's a clear 172 00:14:30,010 --> 00:14:33,330 indication that we need to pivot or do something different, 173 00:14:34,010 --> 00:14:35,930 something that's a little bit more fulfilling. 174 00:14:37,250 --> 00:14:43,050 My favorite telltale sign that it is time for a pivot is if you 175 00:14:43,050 --> 00:14:50,770 find that you're constantly complaining like that, just not 176 00:14:50,770 --> 00:14:54,930 being able to stand something so much that you're always talking 177 00:14:54,930 --> 00:14:58,280 about it, but you're talking about it in a negative way. 178 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:03,480 If your current situation is causing you way more stress than 179 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:07,720 it is joy, it's not sustainable for you long term. 180 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:13,640 Trust your intuition and start exploring new opportunities. 181 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:20,920 Remember that choosing to pivot or choosing a change and 182 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:24,880 direction is not failure. It's actually an opportunity for 183 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,350 growth. It's an opportunity for self 184 00:15:27,350 --> 00:15:29,950 discovery to learn something new about yourself. 185 00:15:31,590 --> 00:15:36,110 By listening to your intuition and recognizing the signs like 186 00:15:36,710 --> 00:15:40,230 you can make all the necessary changes that you need to to 187 00:15:40,230 --> 00:15:44,550 curate and create a more fulfilling, well lived life. 188 00:15:45,630 --> 00:15:51,750 I know it's all easier said or easier to hear than it is to do. 189 00:15:52,550 --> 00:15:59,090 I know that I've been there, but it is you learning to trust 190 00:15:59,090 --> 00:16:02,770 yourself and your intuition that gets you to where you want to be 191 00:16:02,770 --> 00:16:08,290 in life. Another for sure way for me that 192 00:16:08,290 --> 00:16:12,250 I could always tell that it was time for a shift in life was I 193 00:16:12,250 --> 00:16:16,770 would start asking questions. The thing is, it was never me 194 00:16:16,770 --> 00:16:21,610 asking questions to myself. I was always going to others and 195 00:16:21,610 --> 00:16:24,630 asking questions. I would always be like, what do 196 00:16:24,630 --> 00:16:27,230 you think about this? Should I do this? 197 00:16:27,430 --> 00:16:31,310 Should I do that? It was almost like I was in need 198 00:16:31,510 --> 00:16:37,870 of validation or approval from others to do what I already knew 199 00:16:38,150 --> 00:16:41,350 I needed to do or what needed to be done. 200 00:16:43,110 --> 00:16:47,670 Trusting your instincts can absolutely be challenging, yet 201 00:16:47,670 --> 00:16:51,350 it is also an essential part of navigating a pivot. 202 00:16:52,850 --> 00:16:56,690 My favorite thing to always tell myself, my clients, and my 203 00:16:56,690 --> 00:16:59,610 mentees is channel your heart space. 204 00:17:00,610 --> 00:17:06,410 What does your heart want? Never mind what seems practical 205 00:17:06,450 --> 00:17:12,010 in these moments, or what seems like a more realistic approach 206 00:17:12,010 --> 00:17:16,369 to change what is going to fulfill your heart long term. 207 00:17:18,170 --> 00:17:22,440 I've addressed societal pressures and conformity in 208 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,760 previous episodes, but to touch on it again for a moment. 209 00:17:27,599 --> 00:17:32,280 Being realistic, it is very, very easy to attach yourself to 210 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:39,600 societal standards and what is deemed as acceptable, or to 211 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,480 attach yourself to other people's expectations of you. 212 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:48,920 But true fulfillment comes from listening to you, your own 213 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:53,760 desires, your own wants, your own needs, and going after the 214 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:58,000 feelings that live within you. You just have to trust that your 215 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:01,880 heart knows what's best and have the courage to follow its 216 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:07,400 guidance, even if it means veering off the path, the path 217 00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:10,960 that for years society has told you is the only option for you 218 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,800 to take. Just go. 219 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:21,770 You always have to learn to trust your intuition. 220 00:18:22,010 --> 00:18:25,650 But entrusting your intuition, it also comes with trusting 221 00:18:25,650 --> 00:18:29,890 yourself. I feel like selftrust and being 222 00:18:29,890 --> 00:18:34,090 confident in yourself is always like top tier. 223 00:18:34,090 --> 00:18:37,170 It's at the top of the list and whatever it is, the truth you're 224 00:18:37,170 --> 00:18:40,890 doing every whatever it is the truth thinking about doing. 225 00:18:41,970 --> 00:18:46,530 When I do personal and professional mentor work, we 226 00:18:46,530 --> 00:18:51,890 work from the inside out. Meaning I don't advise on how to 227 00:18:51,890 --> 00:18:56,770 advance in your career or your personal life without guiding 228 00:18:56,770 --> 00:18:59,970 those that I'm working with on the best practices to take care 229 00:18:59,970 --> 00:19:05,210 of themselves internally. How you feel within is a direct 230 00:19:05,210 --> 00:19:10,330 reflection of your external reality and your self trust, and 231 00:19:10,330 --> 00:19:13,770 your confidence is very much rooted in all of those things. 232 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,840 A lot of your success will be rooted in your ability to 233 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:22,640 practice selftrust. It will be rooted in your 234 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:26,640 confidence, how you show up into a space, how you show up into a 235 00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:28,720 room. Your confidence is very much all 236 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:35,600 about how you feel powerful enough to go after your goals 237 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:39,360 and chase things that you never deemed possible. 238 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:44,080 Believe in yourself and your power to navigate and execute a 239 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:50,320 pivot like Trust that you have the resilience and the 240 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:53,800 adaptability to handle whatever challenges may come your way. 241 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:59,960 Have confidence in your decision making abilities too, and 242 00:19:59,960 --> 00:20:03,640 believe that you're making the right decisions for yourself. 243 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:08,280 Have so much confident in those decision makings that you don't 244 00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:11,960 have to, you know, seek out other people or need to be 245 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:17,750 validated by other people. Overall, like trusting in your 246 00:20:17,750 --> 00:20:20,710 instincts will it takes a lot of work. 247 00:20:20,710 --> 00:20:25,190 It takes a lot of practice, but the more you listen to your 248 00:20:25,190 --> 00:20:31,390 inner voice and act on what you're hearing, the stronger 249 00:20:31,390 --> 00:20:33,470 you're trusting yourself will become. 250 00:20:34,630 --> 00:20:38,710 The work in the practice that you do to trust yourself more 251 00:20:38,710 --> 00:20:46,650 will also be the results that positively impacts and trickles 252 00:20:46,650 --> 00:20:50,010 down into other areas or other aspects of your life. 253 00:20:50,010 --> 00:20:57,650 And it'll benefit you so much. But I mean, let's let's just be 254 00:20:57,650 --> 00:21:03,250 for real. Like it is so much work to trust 255 00:21:03,330 --> 00:21:05,810 your inner voice. Like, I don't think we all know 256 00:21:05,810 --> 00:21:09,970 like the work that it takes. Like do you really know? 257 00:21:12,980 --> 00:21:18,220 It takes so much to trust your inner knowing and actually 258 00:21:18,220 --> 00:21:22,780 follow through with what your gut is telling you. 259 00:21:23,620 --> 00:21:28,180 It takes a hell of a lot of commitment, confidence, and self 260 00:21:28,180 --> 00:21:32,180 trust to follow through with the things that you're feeling and 261 00:21:32,700 --> 00:21:35,700 and not even seek validation about it. 262 00:21:37,060 --> 00:21:41,700 It also requires a strong willingness to listen to your 263 00:21:41,700 --> 00:21:46,620 inner voice, even when logic and fear try to convince you that 264 00:21:47,100 --> 00:21:52,900 what you're feeling, what you're experiencing, is crazy or 265 00:21:52,900 --> 00:21:55,980 something you shouldn't even think about pursuing. 266 00:21:56,100 --> 00:22:00,460 Or it's out of your league. Think about all the time your 267 00:22:00,460 --> 00:22:04,060 inner voice told you to get up and outline that business plan, 268 00:22:04,060 --> 00:22:09,700 or to make a move, or even to stop calling and texting that 269 00:22:09,700 --> 00:22:11,140 person. You're not supposed to be 270 00:22:11,140 --> 00:22:16,300 calling and texting, but you went against that knowing, and 271 00:22:16,300 --> 00:22:19,460 it didn't serve you well in the long run, Did it? 272 00:22:21,980 --> 00:22:26,540 To trust your instincts. Start by really tuning into your 273 00:22:26,540 --> 00:22:29,060 heart space. Sit in stillness. 274 00:22:29,140 --> 00:22:31,220 Pay attention to what comes up for you. 275 00:22:32,260 --> 00:22:36,740 Take time to reflect on what truly excites you. 276 00:22:37,460 --> 00:22:41,420 What ignites your soul on fire? What energizes you. 277 00:22:42,980 --> 00:22:47,180 Remember that your instincts are often rooted in your deepest 278 00:22:47,180 --> 00:22:52,140 desires and passions. So when making decisions, trust 279 00:22:52,140 --> 00:22:55,660 that your instincts will always guide you to work at a path that 280 00:22:55,660 --> 00:23:01,500 aligns with your authentic self. One of my favorite platforms 281 00:23:01,500 --> 00:23:05,660 right now is the Honey Hotline. Shout out to my girl Amber. 282 00:23:05,740 --> 00:23:12,460 But Amber goes by the name of Amber, the conduit on all of her 283 00:23:12,460 --> 00:23:16,540 social channels, and Amber started this platform called the 284 00:23:16,540 --> 00:23:22,180 Honey Hotline, where she gives subscribers hundreds of dollars 285 00:23:22,180 --> 00:23:27,660 worth of content that consists of tarot forecasting, psychic 286 00:23:27,660 --> 00:23:31,220 readings, and cosmic downloads like it's a wealth of 287 00:23:31,220 --> 00:23:33,940 information. It's literally only $17.00 a 288 00:23:33,940 --> 00:23:38,610 month. I It's amazing and I love this 289 00:23:38,610 --> 00:23:43,290 platform because it is such a healthy combination of 290 00:23:43,370 --> 00:23:49,410 self-care, astrology, healing, love, beauty and money. 291 00:23:50,090 --> 00:23:54,490 But I felt like one of the messages that she poured into 292 00:23:56,010 --> 00:24:02,290 the Honey hotline within the last week is in full alignment 293 00:24:02,290 --> 00:24:05,370 with what I'm speaking about today. 294 00:24:05,990 --> 00:24:10,230 Because Amber spoke about a few things. 295 00:24:10,510 --> 00:24:12,670 Trusting your gut. Trusting when you're feeling 296 00:24:12,670 --> 00:24:14,390 that's when something isn't right. 297 00:24:14,390 --> 00:24:19,870 But also following your instincts if at any point you 298 00:24:19,870 --> 00:24:24,390 feel a nudge to start working toward launching a new project 299 00:24:25,910 --> 00:24:30,590 or a new business plan. And one of the things that keeps 300 00:24:30,590 --> 00:24:35,110 sitting with me is like the work that you do within the next 301 00:24:35,110 --> 00:24:41,550 three months is really setting the foundation for the future 302 00:24:42,430 --> 00:24:44,710 and the things that you desire right now. 303 00:24:45,390 --> 00:24:49,030 And if you've had a plan, if you felt that nudge, it's time to 304 00:24:49,030 --> 00:24:52,390 start right now. I just felt like her message was 305 00:24:52,390 --> 00:24:54,550 so spot on. It was like perfect timing. 306 00:24:55,590 --> 00:24:59,790 Amber is just she's a wealth of just beauty, love and knowledge. 307 00:24:59,790 --> 00:25:04,890 And she is always dropping gems so shamelessly plugging her 308 00:25:04,890 --> 00:25:08,810 platform, the Honey Hotline. You can join the Honey Hotline 309 00:25:08,810 --> 00:25:17,890 by texting 877-636-2461. Again, that's 877-636-2461. 310 00:25:18,290 --> 00:25:22,090 And text that number to become a honey and join the Honey 311 00:25:22,090 --> 00:25:24,410 Hotline. You will not regret it, but I 312 00:25:24,410 --> 00:25:30,090 said all of that to say you will receive signs and downloads and 313 00:25:30,090 --> 00:25:34,940 confirmations in all forms. It'll come and hit you in ways, 314 00:25:35,980 --> 00:25:43,700 in many different ways and and and and different forms of 315 00:25:43,700 --> 00:25:45,300 communication. They're coming. 316 00:25:45,300 --> 00:25:47,300 They're there. You've seen it, you've heard it, 317 00:25:47,500 --> 00:25:50,860 You're experiencing it. This is probably another form of 318 00:25:50,900 --> 00:25:55,940 a confirmation right now as you're listening, but a lot of 319 00:25:55,940 --> 00:25:59,500 the times you're not able to decipher what is truly for you 320 00:26:00,700 --> 00:26:04,300 until you really learn to trust your inner knowing. 321 00:26:05,380 --> 00:26:10,980 And you learn to trust like, oh OK, that's it, now I hear it, I 322 00:26:10,980 --> 00:26:12,900 see it. It's time to make a move. 323 00:26:14,340 --> 00:26:17,900 Here's something that I want to be, that I want you to be very 324 00:26:17,900 --> 00:26:20,460 clear about. When moving into new phases of 325 00:26:20,460 --> 00:26:23,300 your life. Listen up. 326 00:26:24,020 --> 00:26:28,700 If it didn't serve you, then if it caused you any type of stress 327 00:26:28,700 --> 00:26:33,880 or wore you down before, it will likely be a repetitive cycle the 328 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:38,720 2nd, the 3rd or the 15th time around. 329 00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,080 So be open to cutting the dead weight. 330 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,000 Listen. One of the most important 331 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:50,000 aspects, but also one of the hardest. 332 00:26:50,120 --> 00:26:53,120 And I can say this has been very hard for me and a lot of people 333 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:58,640 that I know is trusting our instincts when it's time to 334 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:05,020 pivot and applying your learnings from the past to the 335 00:27:05,020 --> 00:27:08,140 present. Like sometimes we we, I don't 336 00:27:08,140 --> 00:27:11,380 know what it is, but we just love to give people, places and 337 00:27:11,380 --> 00:27:13,020 situations the benefit of the doubt. 338 00:27:14,500 --> 00:27:18,860 We want them to prove us wrong, and yet they still always prove 339 00:27:18,860 --> 00:27:23,140 us right. They always make us or remind us 340 00:27:23,140 --> 00:27:26,460 why we made the decisions that we made in the first place. 341 00:27:27,900 --> 00:27:30,380 But it's okay because we all make mistakes. 342 00:27:30,380 --> 00:27:35,060 Mistakes are a natural part of our human experience in this 343 00:27:35,060 --> 00:27:39,260 realm. However, when you have new 344 00:27:39,300 --> 00:27:43,540 opportunities presented to you and you choose to involve 345 00:27:43,540 --> 00:27:49,420 yourself in the same destructive patterns, habits or situations 346 00:27:49,420 --> 00:27:52,620 repeatedly, that is self neglect. 347 00:27:53,860 --> 00:27:59,490 Your past experiences are and should be a gateway to guide you 348 00:28:00,010 --> 00:28:01,850 on how to navigate through the present. 349 00:28:02,410 --> 00:28:04,610 And they will be if you allow them to. 350 00:28:05,450 --> 00:28:12,250 But you have to allow it. Take the time to reflect on your 351 00:28:12,250 --> 00:28:16,650 previous choices and decisions. Always think about what works 352 00:28:16,650 --> 00:28:19,490 well. What are the things that didn't 353 00:28:19,490 --> 00:28:23,680 go as planned. By analyzing the past, you can 354 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:28,240 gain insight into new patterns or behaviors or old patterns or 355 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:35,000 behaviors that may have led to unsatisfactory outcomes. 356 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:39,680 And you can choose a different outcome the second time around. 357 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:47,920 The the the self reflection throughout this process is also 358 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:52,120 something that allows you to identify what needs to change 359 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:59,360 within you in order for the pivot to take place or for the 360 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:04,120 pivot to be successful. But let's be honest though. 361 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:10,800 Like learning from your past mistakes also involves you 362 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:15,040 learning to accept and take full accountability for your actions. 363 00:29:15,770 --> 00:29:17,930 A lot of the times, it's not always others. 364 00:29:19,170 --> 00:29:21,890 It's you taking up accountability for the things 365 00:29:21,890 --> 00:29:25,970 that you've done or have may have not done, or taking 366 00:29:25,970 --> 00:29:29,010 accountability for the things that you've subjected yourself 367 00:29:29,010 --> 00:29:31,650 to. You have to recognize where your 368 00:29:31,650 --> 00:29:35,850 actions may have been the result of things not working out the 369 00:29:35,850 --> 00:29:40,970 way that you hoped. You have to be honest and take 370 00:29:40,970 --> 00:29:46,160 responsibility for any missteps when you do this. 371 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:52,160 This creates A mindset shift, and it's a mindset shift that 372 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:56,000 empowers you to take full control over your life and make 373 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,440 proactive decisions moving forward. 374 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:03,600 What you did or did not do in the past is nothing to be 375 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,800 ashamed of. Everything that you experience 376 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:10,120 and go through serves its purpose, and it could be a guide 377 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,600 for growth and transformation in the future. 378 00:30:13,940 --> 00:30:18,220 You just have to embrace the lessons and learn from your 379 00:30:18,220 --> 00:30:22,540 mistakes and use them to fuel your journey towards a 380 00:30:22,540 --> 00:30:37,900 successful a successful pivot. Let's talk a little bit about 381 00:30:37,900 --> 00:30:41,260 guidance and support. When you're considering a big 382 00:30:41,260 --> 00:30:46,010 life transition, I fully encourage you to connect with 383 00:30:46,050 --> 00:30:49,810 others who have experienced similar pivots. 384 00:30:50,810 --> 00:30:57,290 Learn from their experiences. Learn what they've done or the 385 00:30:57,290 --> 00:31:02,010 things that they didn't do. A lot of the times when 386 00:31:02,010 --> 00:31:05,690 listening to other people's insights and their advice can 387 00:31:05,690 --> 00:31:09,970 really help you gain a fresh perspective and avoid potential 388 00:31:10,130 --> 00:31:13,820 pitfalls. One thing I do want you to be 389 00:31:13,820 --> 00:31:19,420 clear about though is always hold your vision and your plans 390 00:31:19,420 --> 00:31:21,860 close to you. Hold them close for as long as 391 00:31:21,940 --> 00:31:25,780 you can. There are so many ways to seek 392 00:31:25,860 --> 00:31:30,740 guidance and advice from others without oversharing your ideas. 393 00:31:32,380 --> 00:31:35,540 You don't want to put yourself in a space where you get so 394 00:31:35,540 --> 00:31:39,540 distracted with talking about your plans that you forget to 395 00:31:39,540 --> 00:31:44,020 execute them. It's also to be mindful of who 396 00:31:44,220 --> 00:31:48,220 you talk to. I have found that the best 397 00:31:48,220 --> 00:31:53,180 people to get advice from or to bounce ideas off of are the 398 00:31:53,180 --> 00:31:57,660 people that I've actually seen execute and do the work the very 399 00:31:57,780 --> 00:32:02,220 or done the very thing that I'm looking to accomplish, or doing 400 00:32:02,220 --> 00:32:04,860 something or have done something similar to what I'm looking to 401 00:32:04,860 --> 00:32:08,330 do. When it comes to pivoting and 402 00:32:08,330 --> 00:32:13,130 making a big personal or professional change, advice and 403 00:32:13,130 --> 00:32:17,410 guidance can be such a valuable tool in helping you navigate 404 00:32:17,490 --> 00:32:20,770 your decisions. But just as important as all 405 00:32:20,770 --> 00:32:24,490 those valuable tools and life guidance and lessons. 406 00:32:25,170 --> 00:32:29,730 It's choosing the right person or people to rely on for advice. 407 00:32:30,730 --> 00:32:34,930 Look for people or someone who is trustworthy, someone who is 408 00:32:35,010 --> 00:32:38,640 honest, and someone who has your best interests at heart. 409 00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:43,000 Too many times we hear stories about how others have trusted 410 00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:46,160 the wrong people with their vision or sharing ideas, 411 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:50,040 thinking they're going to get advice, thinking that these 412 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,440 people want the best for them and want to help them. 413 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:57,800 But the people, the very people that they trust in and expect to 414 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,880 receive from, take their ideas and run. 415 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,520 So be smart about who you can fight in. 416 00:33:06,310 --> 00:33:12,430 The person that you look to can be a mentor, a coach or friend. 417 00:33:12,950 --> 00:33:17,110 Just keep in mind that there are ways to be open and honest about 418 00:33:17,110 --> 00:33:21,790 your situation, what you're considering, without fully 419 00:33:21,790 --> 00:33:26,030 revealing everything. Listen to their advice and 420 00:33:26,030 --> 00:33:32,890 perspective, but don't put all of your trust and what others 421 00:33:32,890 --> 00:33:34,930 say. Ultimately, the best decision 422 00:33:34,930 --> 00:33:39,010 that you can make is the decision that feels most in 423 00:33:39,010 --> 00:33:43,770 alignment with you, even coming from me, even any advice for me. 424 00:33:43,850 --> 00:33:47,810 I may be able to give you advice that gets you started, but the 425 00:33:47,890 --> 00:33:50,690 execution on your journey is entirely up to you. 426 00:33:52,450 --> 00:33:54,970 Don't neglect the fact that your path is unique. 427 00:33:56,130 --> 00:33:59,090 So what works for someone else? What works for me may not be 428 00:33:59,090 --> 00:34:02,180 exactly what works for you, and this is OK, but it doesn't mean 429 00:34:02,180 --> 00:34:06,500 that you can't take the vice the advice and that the advice won't 430 00:34:06,740 --> 00:34:09,260 be of some benefit throughout your journey. 431 00:34:10,580 --> 00:34:14,860 Also, be mindful of the feedback you received to take the 432 00:34:14,860 --> 00:34:19,820 constructive criticism with stride and use it as a tool for 433 00:34:19,820 --> 00:34:22,460 growth. You know, don't let the negative 434 00:34:22,460 --> 00:34:26,020 comments or any unsolicited advice make you question where 435 00:34:26,020 --> 00:34:30,500 you're headed or don't allow it to steer you off course. 436 00:34:31,850 --> 00:34:36,210 When seeking advice and guidance, remember that your 437 00:34:36,210 --> 00:34:39,449 decision rests with you and only you. 438 00:34:40,730 --> 00:34:44,010 You can use the input and tools from other people to your 439 00:34:44,010 --> 00:34:47,409 advantage, but don't let them. Their feedback be the 440 00:34:47,409 --> 00:34:51,010 determining factor for how you move forward, or don't let it 441 00:34:51,170 --> 00:34:53,290 determine the fact that you don't move forward. 442 00:34:54,170 --> 00:34:57,490 Trust your instincts and make the decision that feels right 443 00:34:57,490 --> 00:35:04,720 for you and your situation. At the end of the day, whatever 444 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:10,360 the decision is, whether it's a decision to end a friendship or 445 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:15,400 relationship, change careers, launch a new business, or revive 446 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:20,280 an old one, there is so much unknown throughout the process. 447 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,520 Once you come into agreement with yourself that it's time to 448 00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:30,690 pivot, it's natural for you to feel a bit lost and ensure of 449 00:35:30,690 --> 00:35:35,050 what comes next. I want to empower you to trust 450 00:35:35,090 --> 00:35:39,970 and embrace the unknown because it can be such a powerful 451 00:35:40,570 --> 00:35:43,370 experience and serve you well in the long run. 452 00:35:43,570 --> 00:35:48,770 When you embrace what you're insured of letting go and 453 00:35:48,770 --> 00:35:52,650 trusting, the process creates space for you to explore new 454 00:35:52,690 --> 00:35:56,600 opportunities and experiences and you may never have 455 00:35:56,600 --> 00:36:00,840 considered before. Rather than seeing the unknown 456 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:08,040 as a source of anxiety, try reframing that mindset and see 457 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,840 it as a chance to grow, See it as a chance to learn. 458 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:17,440 Stay open to new ideas and new possibilities, and just be 459 00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:22,540 willing to take calculated risk. I believe I previously shared 460 00:36:22,540 --> 00:36:27,500 the story about how Divine Oasis was born, so I won't go into 461 00:36:27,500 --> 00:36:33,100 full detail here, but I will say that this brand was born during 462 00:36:33,140 --> 00:36:36,540 a forced pivot. It was during a time when I had 463 00:36:36,540 --> 00:36:40,860 no choice but to pivot, and throughout the entire process I 464 00:36:40,860 --> 00:36:45,180 felt like I had failed. I had no idea what the outcome 465 00:36:45,180 --> 00:36:48,500 was on the other side. I was afraid, but I pushed 466 00:36:48,660 --> 00:36:53,640 forward even throughout all the work, me not even ever being 467 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,360 able to foresee what was on the other side. 468 00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,920 I just kept going, even through the fear. 469 00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,920 And so at some point you have to trust that the unknown is simply 470 00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:07,440 that it's unknown. And while embracing it can bring 471 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:12,160 on anxiety and fear, on the other side of that unknown can 472 00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,000 be something that is so thrilling and rewarding. 473 00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:19,200 My advice to you is to just relinquish control. 474 00:37:19,550 --> 00:37:22,870 Heavy outcome. I was actually just talking 475 00:37:22,870 --> 00:37:24,990 about this with my hair stylist the other day. 476 00:37:25,510 --> 00:37:29,910 We were expressing how letting go and allowing others to help 477 00:37:29,910 --> 00:37:32,830 you when you've built a business from the ground up and you've 478 00:37:32,830 --> 00:37:36,750 put all your blood, sweat and tears into this thing that you 479 00:37:36,750 --> 00:37:39,070 love. And it could be so difficult to 480 00:37:39,070 --> 00:37:42,710 allow others to come in and help you. 481 00:37:43,390 --> 00:37:48,590 But your need for control often does more harm than good. 482 00:37:49,860 --> 00:37:52,700 One way to embrace the unknown is to just focus on the things 483 00:37:52,700 --> 00:37:56,300 that you can control. Create a plan for your next 484 00:37:56,300 --> 00:37:59,660 steps. What project management tools 485 00:37:59,660 --> 00:38:02,060 can you invest in to help you execute your plan? 486 00:38:03,260 --> 00:38:05,900 Set realistic and achievable goals. 487 00:38:06,380 --> 00:38:09,380 Start working toward your goal, your toward your goals and 488 00:38:09,380 --> 00:38:12,380 action items one by one. Don't try to do everything all 489 00:38:12,380 --> 00:38:14,340 at once. It's just going to confuse you. 490 00:38:15,340 --> 00:38:19,190 By taking small steps toward your new direction, you gain 491 00:38:19,190 --> 00:38:21,990 momentum over time and over time. 492 00:38:21,990 --> 00:38:24,230 This will help you to build your confidence. 493 00:38:24,670 --> 00:38:28,230 It can also support you in feeling more in control of the 494 00:38:28,230 --> 00:38:32,150 process, even when things still feel uncertain. 495 00:38:33,470 --> 00:38:37,030 If you know me personally, you've heard me say this, or 496 00:38:37,030 --> 00:38:40,070 maybe even see me tweet this, but delusion is my jam. 497 00:38:40,270 --> 00:38:45,490 I am the queen of delusion. I'm what most people consider a 498 00:38:45,490 --> 00:38:48,610 free spirit. I am just always in a dreamlike 499 00:38:48,610 --> 00:38:52,930 state, and I believe what most people deem to be impossible is 500 00:38:52,930 --> 00:38:57,810 very much achievable. If I can speak about it, I can 501 00:38:57,810 --> 00:39:00,010 breathe life into it and I can manifest it. 502 00:39:01,330 --> 00:39:06,170 My answer to embracing embracing the unknown has been to approach 503 00:39:06,170 --> 00:39:10,690 it with delusion and curiosity. I dive in head first with 504 00:39:10,690 --> 00:39:14,370 everything. I cannot always expect to land 505 00:39:14,370 --> 00:39:18,330 on my feet, but I do always have a plan. 506 00:39:18,330 --> 00:39:21,850 Should I not land on my feet, which I won't, but it's always 507 00:39:21,850 --> 00:39:25,650 good to just take precaution. But I know I will. 508 00:39:25,850 --> 00:39:32,730 I will always land on my feet. Be curious, Seek out new 509 00:39:32,730 --> 00:39:36,050 information in perspective. Ask questions. 510 00:39:36,810 --> 00:39:41,540 Stay open to new opportunities. I've encouraged my current 511 00:39:41,540 --> 00:39:45,580 mentee to study courses on master class that align with her 512 00:39:45,580 --> 00:39:48,660 career goals, things that she wants to do, things that she 513 00:39:48,660 --> 00:39:51,620 wants to learn. And we've talked about ways that 514 00:39:51,620 --> 00:39:55,900 I can support her and what she the things that she needs from 515 00:39:55,900 --> 00:40:00,540 me to remain in the space of curiosity and constant learning. 516 00:40:01,380 --> 00:40:05,420 I want her, and I want all of you to see your pivot or the 517 00:40:05,420 --> 00:40:07,780 next phase of your journey as an adventure. 518 00:40:08,720 --> 00:40:11,760 Rather than something that's scary and daunting, or this 519 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:17,520 overbearing challenge, stay patient, remain faithful, and 520 00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:22,560 trust the process. Pivoting takes time, and it's 521 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:25,440 unlikely that everything will fall into place overnight. 522 00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,640 I'm telling you this, but also telling myself this. 523 00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:36,240 While I remind myself these things daily, I also want to 524 00:40:36,240 --> 00:40:41,710 tell you that there will always setbacks and obstacles, but if 525 00:40:41,710 --> 00:40:45,910 you remain committed and stay focused on your goals, you will 526 00:40:46,070 --> 00:40:50,830 ultimately find your way. Embracing the unknown is such a 527 00:40:50,830 --> 00:40:56,950 critical part of successfully pivoting, both personally and 528 00:40:56,950 --> 00:41:01,470 professionally. By staying open minded and 529 00:41:01,510 --> 00:41:06,590 focusing on what you can control and trusting the process, you 530 00:41:06,590 --> 00:41:11,070 can turn your pivot into an exciting and fulfilling new 531 00:41:11,070 --> 00:41:15,830 chapter in your life. I hope that this episode 532 00:41:15,870 --> 00:41:21,110 inspires you to take a more calm and practical approach to growth 533 00:41:21,550 --> 00:41:25,190 and actualizing a better reality for yourself, because you 534 00:41:25,430 --> 00:41:27,310 absolutely deserve it.