1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,360 We're going to be in Ephesians tonight, Ephesians chapter 5. 2 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:09,640 And I thought since it was young family ministry night, we would 3 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:15,960 talk about the family. We would talk about what the 4 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:22,840 Scriptures have to say to us about family. 5 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:28,720 So let's turn to Ephesians chapter 5, and we're going to 6 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:37,080 start with verse 15. Therefore, be careful how you 7 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:43,440 walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your 8 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:51,920 time, because the days are evil. So then, do not be foolish, but 9 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:56,160 understand what the will of the Lord is, and do not be drunk of 10 00:00:56,160 --> 00:01:01,160 wine for that dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, 11 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,840 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual 12 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:08,680 songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, 13 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:12,960 always giving thanks for all things in the name of the Lord 14 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:19,960 Jesus Christ to God, even the Father, and be subject to one 15 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:25,160 another in the fear of God. Verse 22 would say, Wives, be 16 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:29,320 subject to your own husbands as unto the Lord. 17 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:33,720 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is also the 18 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:38,040 head of the church, he himself being the Savior of the body. 19 00:01:38,960 --> 00:01:45,480 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wife ought 20 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:50,080 to be subject to their own husbands and everything. 21 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,520 We will stop by reading right there, and we will move forward 22 00:01:54,520 --> 00:02:01,040 with our message and then pick up the reading as we get to that 23 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:04,720 point. Ephesians. 24 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,960 These would be the people who lived in Ephesus. 25 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:20,760 Paul writes to the Ephesians. He is directing his message to 26 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:26,480 the Christians that lived in Ephesus, even though the word 27 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:30,560 would have been there long before Christians came. 28 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:36,880 Now many commentators would tell you that in many of the earlier 29 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:42,680 manuscripts, the words in Ephesus is not there because 30 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,480 this was more of a circular letter sent out for all the 31 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:51,000 Saints of that region, and therefore it does not have the 32 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,600 words in Ephesus. But they rush to tell you that 33 00:02:55,600 --> 00:03:00,200 that does not change any of the theological meaning or emphasis 34 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:06,240 of this particular passage. So when we look at the 35 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:10,920 background and look at that, now we want to look at the letter. 36 00:03:12,640 --> 00:03:16,000 Please remember it is a letter and not a book. 37 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,760 So it was not written in chapters and verses, although 38 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:24,720 that's what we have today is chapters and verses and it makes 39 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:29,520 it easy to do that way. But it was not written that way. 40 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:35,400 It was a letter. That being said, chapters 1-2 41 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:43,560 and three are instructions to us about who we are in Christ. 42 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:48,480 And when you go through these chapters and you read about the 43 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:53,480 things that we are in Christ, it gives us an opportunity to 44 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:58,680 praise Him and to have blessings, to enjoy the blessing 45 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:03,800 that we have, one writer said quote. 46 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:11,840 Above all things, this letter is of encouragement and admiration, 47 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:18,120 written to remind believers of their immense, immeasurable 48 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:23,320 blessing in Christ Jesus. And not only that for those 49 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:28,320 blessings, but also live in a manner worthy of them. 50 00:04:28,840 --> 00:04:34,320 Now that's where chapters 4-5 and six come in, because of who 51 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:39,280 we are in Christ. Then 4-5 and six would tell us 52 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:44,720 how we ought to conduct ourselves because of who we are 53 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,680 in Christ. And that's the thing that we 54 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:54,520 ought to remember. As Christians we are called to 55 00:04:54,520 --> 00:05:00,440 conduct ourselves in a particular manner and when we 56 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:04,000 see that, then we ought to live in that way. 57 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:08,880 And that's why Paul is giving us instructions in this area. 58 00:05:10,280 --> 00:05:14,840 Now I'd like to move to Ephesians chapter 5 starting 59 00:05:14,840 --> 00:05:19,680 with verse 15. He says, therefore be careful 60 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:23,960 how you walk. The word walk in Scripture 61 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:29,920 always mean a manner of life, how it is that you conduct your 62 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:35,680 life, how it is that you love. So he says, therefore be careful 63 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:42,920 how you live. Remember who you are and be 64 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:49,320 careful how you live. He goes on to say not as unwise 65 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:57,120 men, but is wise. So when we show up, when we, 66 00:05:57,120 --> 00:06:01,080 whether it's a job, whether it's the next door neighbor, whether 67 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:05,040 it's in the mall, whoever it is, how is it that we conduct 68 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:12,920 ourselves not as unwise people, but as wise as Paul instructs 69 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:18,280 the Saints here how to live because of who we are, he says 70 00:06:18,280 --> 00:06:23,840 we are not to live as unwise people. 71 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,360 Have you ever been around unwise people? 72 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,480 Have you ever heard them talk? I remember when I was living in 73 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:34,800 Monrovia and I heard this guy in the streets one night. 74 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:39,720 I was in my house, but he was talking loud and he says my word 75 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:45,240 is my bond and I'm thinking this guy is a wino. 76 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:47,920 What kind of bond does he have? Or word? 77 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:53,760 That would be a foolish person. So you and I are being 78 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:58,520 instructed that we are not to live in that way. 79 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:04,080 And then he goes on to say in verse 16, he said making the 80 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:08,880 most of your time because the days are evil. 81 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:14,280 By the way, this was written in around AD 62. 82 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:19,760 And if Paul in his day could say, could say his days are 83 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:22,160 evil, what do we think we're saying now? 84 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:30,800 OK, But he says make the most of your time because the days are 85 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:36,480 evil. You and I as Christians must 86 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:41,720 make the most of our time. The old King James would say 87 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:47,000 redeeming the time when we see this word redeeming, it's used 88 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:53,960 four times in the New Testament and it means to buy back twice. 89 00:07:53,960 --> 00:08:00,760 It is used of what Christ did for us in Galatians chapter 3 90 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:04,880 verse 13. Christ redeemed us from the 91 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:11,040 curse of the law, having become a curse for us, for it is 92 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:14,840 written and curses everyone who hangs on a tree. 93 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:22,000 Christ redeemed us. Christ became a curse for us 94 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:28,560 that He might bring us to God. How did he do that? 95 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:33,880 The scripture already told us Cursed is everyone who hangs on 96 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:39,520 a tree, and Christ hung on a tree on your behalf and on my 97 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:44,840 behalf, that we then might come to know him. 98 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:50,280 Look at Galatians chapter 4 verses 4 to 7. 99 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:58,360 He said, But when the fulfilment of time came, God sent his Son, 100 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:04,920 born of a woman, born under the law, so that he might redeem 101 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:10,040 those who were under the law, that we might receive the 102 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:15,920 adoption of sons. Because you are sons, God has 103 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:21,360 sent forth the Spirit of his Son into your heart, crying out of 104 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:25,000 our Father. Therefore you are no longer a 105 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:31,520 slave, but a son. And if a son, then an heir 106 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:35,600 through God. Now when he says you're no 107 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:39,400 longer a slave, OK, that's not a contradiction. 108 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,040 He's telling us we're no longer a slave to the law. 109 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:46,560 We're no longer under the law. God has redeemed us from that, 110 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:51,760 but now we are a Son and therefore we have an inheritance 111 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:58,720 through Christ to God, and He has brought this unto us. 112 00:10:00,680 --> 00:10:06,880 And then in Colossians it is used of us, and it's interesting 113 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,960 how it is used. Colossians chapter 4, verses 5 114 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:14,440 and 6. Conduct yourselves with wisdom 115 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:18,640 toward outsiders. Wow. 116 00:10:20,560 --> 00:10:24,400 Conduct yourself with wisdom toward those who are not 117 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:29,520 Christians. Then, he says, making the most 118 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:34,160 of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with 119 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:40,920 grace as those seasoned with salt, so that you may know how 120 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:44,360 you are to respond to each person. 121 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:50,520 Now, you and I, whether we work, whether we go to school, we all 122 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:55,360 live in a world that has fallen or the world that is evil, as 123 00:10:55,360 --> 00:11:00,040 the Bible calls it. He says you and I as Christians 124 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:07,680 must be careful to know how to conduct ourselves to those who 125 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:12,560 are outsiders, those who do not have what we have. 126 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:17,960 Why? Because you and I or to present 127 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:23,840 God to that person or those people and that's why we are to 128 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:29,160 conduct ourselves in a manner that would be worthy of that 129 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:34,640 person listening to us. Now, whether you had a ball game 130 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:38,800 or whether you at the store, whether you have work, if your 131 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:46,520 conduct is in a way that it is contradictory to what you will 132 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:49,520 share with the person when you start to share the Scripture, 133 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:51,560 that is not what he's talking about. 134 00:11:52,680 --> 00:11:57,120 He is saying be careful how you conduct yourselves with 135 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:01,440 outsiders so that there would be no contradiction. 136 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:06,280 When you stop doing whatever it is that you are doing and you 137 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:10,440 start to share the Gospel, they will see that there is no 138 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:12,640 contradiction. That doesn't mean that it 139 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:16,840 guarantees that they're going to listen to you, but at least you 140 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:21,720 will have conducted yourself or I will have conducted myself in 141 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:32,400 a way that is worthy of God. Now back to Ephesians chapter 5, 142 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:39,080 verse 17. He says so then do not be 143 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:44,600 foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is and do not 144 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:48,920 get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation. 145 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:54,560 Now we don't use that word dissipation that much, but it's 146 00:12:54,560 --> 00:12:59,600 talking about a dissolution way of life or way of living, 147 00:13:00,560 --> 00:13:04,480 especially when it comes to the opportunity of drinking. 148 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:11,640 So he says here, do not be drunk with wine. 149 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:18,000 Now, sometimes that's a little draw for us because she was hey, 150 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:19,920 I I don't drink. I don't have that problem. 151 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:22,480 OK, But do you have a quick temper? 152 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:27,080 Do you have something else that's from the world that would 153 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:28,720 offend people? That's what he's saying. 154 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,280 Do not be controlled and directed by whatever that is. 155 00:13:32,680 --> 00:13:35,920 That would bring dishonor to God. 156 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:39,800 If you don't drink, that's a good thing. 157 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:44,200 But if you have a high temper, then that's not a good thing. 158 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:47,680 So that's what he's pointing out to us here. 159 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:52,480 Matter of fact, I've heard people say, you know, I just 160 00:13:52,680 --> 00:13:57,840 wish I had the opportunity to speak my mind to that person. 161 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,440 Well, it's probably a good thing that you didn't get to speak 162 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:05,480 your mind to that person. OK, So he's telling us here do 163 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:10,040 not be drunken wine, but then he gives us the other thing that we 164 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:15,240 ought to do but be filled with the Spirit. 165 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:24,840 Now this word filled means to be filled to the top where there's 166 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:28,040 nothing else that can get in there without it overflowing 167 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:30,200 that. That's what he's taught be 168 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:37,160 filled with, be all about the Spirit of God, that you are 169 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:43,000 controlled and directed by him. He is telling us to let the Word 170 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:48,680 of God control us through the Spirit of God, that we then 171 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:52,720 might honor Him in everything that we do. 172 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:58,840 And then he goes on in verse 19 and says, speaking to one 173 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:03,520 another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and 174 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,960 making malady in your heart to the Lord. 175 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:15,800 Note what he says in this verse in your heart. 176 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:22,200 You can't control anybody else's heart, but you can't control 177 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:26,720 your heart, he says. Do these things and make these 178 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,720 medalists in your heart. Now, that's pretty easy to do 179 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:31,360 when we all sitting in here together. 180 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:34,520 We're singing songs together, we're quoting the songs 181 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:38,880 together. We are doing this to be honoring 182 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,600 into the Lord. It's easy to do this in here. 183 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:44,480 Matter of fact, I share with people all the time on Sunday 184 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:47,120 morning that we all look like Christian sitting up in here. 185 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:54,280 How do we act Monday through Sunday when we're not here? 186 00:15:55,520 --> 00:16:00,240 And matter of fact, he points out something to us interesting 187 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:09,440 here that he says in verse 20, he tells us in verse 19, 188 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:12,320 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual 189 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,920 songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord. 190 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:21,520 But then in verse 20, he says always giving thanks for all 191 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:23,840 things in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. 192 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:27,760 Wow. See, that's when they called me 193 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,760 individually to do something. I'm not in the group with you 194 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:33,200 now. I'm by myself. 195 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:40,560 And he says always give thanks for all things in Jesus Christ. 196 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:44,120 Now does that mean, you know, I leave here tonight and I get an 197 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:46,200 accident? I get out the car and say thank 198 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:49,720 you Lord for all of this. That's not what he's really 199 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:54,400 talking about, OK, But he is talking about in that same 200 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:58,920 accident, let's say I am delivered out of it unharmed. 201 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:00,280 I'm going to give thanks for that. 202 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:06,760 Let's say I am damaged in that and the paramedics have to come. 203 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:12,680 I can give thanks for that. I am giving thanks that it has 204 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:16,200 been provided that care for me is there. 205 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:20,160 Whatever this situation is doesn't mean all the situation 206 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:25,240 is going to be good. I just need to be equipped to do 207 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:31,640 it in an honorable way that I might put God on display. 208 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:41,200 Now Paul, as he's writing this letter from chapter 4, verse 209 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:47,120 one, Paul is telling us how it is that every St. 210 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:53,840 St. ought to conduct himself. It does not matter where the 211 00:17:53,840 --> 00:18:00,200 Saint is in marriage. You may be before marriage, you 212 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:05,080 may be in marriage, you may have never been married, you may even 213 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:09,320 be after marriage for some of the reasons He's telling us how 214 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:14,080 it is that we are to conduct ourselves and see that's what we 215 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:18,960 have to remember as Christians, whatever situation God has us 216 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:28,040 in, He wants us in a particular way to conduct ourselves in that 217 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,520 manner. And when we see that, then we 218 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:36,480 can learn from that. Now, as we look at verse 21 and 219 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:45,680 following, this is not a change. He is going to address everyone 220 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:53,840 individually, but he's going to identify us in the church and 221 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:58,920 also in the family. Why in the church? 222 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:10,760 Look at verse 21, He says in this verse, and be subject to 223 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:16,600 one another in the fear of God. Let's look at the word subject 224 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:22,880 first. It means to arrange under or to 225 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:29,520 subordinate to subject, to be in subjection. 226 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:36,880 And this is one that we kind of shy away from to subject oneself 227 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:41,760 to obedience. Now, as I was thinking about 228 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,440 this, I'm what, what does the term mean? 229 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:48,680 It means to place yourself under, OK, to rank under. 230 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:53,200 That's really what it means. If I ask you the question, how 231 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:56,360 many presidents have we had in the United States? 232 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,920 Most of you could tell me that would be 45. 233 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:07,440 How many of those 45 presidents had no military experience? 234 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:11,320 I knew a few of them. I didn't know how many, so I 235 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:19,160 looked it up. It was 1414 of the 30 of the 45 236 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:26,320 had no military experience. But guess what? 237 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:32,960 The commander in chief is The commander in chief is the 238 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:38,640 individual who holds the ultimate control and command 239 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:43,320 over a military branch or armed force. 240 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:50,400 So the president, whether he has military experience or not, he 241 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:55,160 is the top man when it comes to the military. 242 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,800 So let's say the joint chief of staff walks in. 243 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:03,880 This guy probably got 30 years of military experience, and he 244 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,880 wants to do this. And the president says no. 245 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:11,600 The giant chief of staff has to rank himself under the 246 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,280 president. That's what he's calling for 247 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:19,200 here in the Scripture. You and I as Christians ought to 248 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:27,880 submit to one another. Now he's going to tell us how to 249 00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:32,360 do it one person at a time. He's going to walk through this 250 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:38,000 and say this is how you do it. This is how you do it and this 251 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:41,680 is how you do it. Now the problem with this, we're 252 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:46,040 going to come to verse 22. We're going to meet that problem 253 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:52,480 head on. Wives being subjection to your 254 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,680 own husband. Now let's start right there. 255 00:21:56,320 --> 00:22:06,840 I want you to notice be subject notices in italics in your 256 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:10,720 scripture. That means it was not there in 257 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:16,600 the original. So here how it should read wives 258 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:23,280 to your own husband, wives what to your own husbands. 259 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:30,240 You have to go back to verse 21. He has said be subject to one 260 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:35,400 another. So here is how the wife is to be 261 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,920 subject to her husband. Matter of fact, the end of the 262 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,800 verse end of the reading will tell us in everything. 263 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,160 OK leadership. That's why he starts with the 264 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:51,560 common leadership. OK wives, be subject to your own 265 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:58,480 husband as to the Lord. Notice he did not say because 266 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:03,440 he's smarter than you or even because he is bigger than you. 267 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:09,640 He says as unto the Lord. It doesn't mean that this man 268 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:14,240 knows more than you do. What it does mean is he has a 269 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:19,960 position and that position is husband, and then you as a wife 270 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:26,760 is to rank yourself under that. And that's how he calls us to 271 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:31,640 live and to honor him. And then he goes and give that 272 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,720 because it says 4 here in verse 23. 273 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:40,360 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the 274 00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:45,360 head of the church, He himself being the Savior of the body. 275 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:54,720 But as the Church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought 276 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,280 to be to their husbands in everything. 277 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:06,000 Notice it says wives to their husbands. 278 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:14,760 Your wife is not to be subject to me, or my wife is not to be 279 00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,400 subject to every man here in the building. 280 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:25,160 It says to your husband, now there's the thing about 281 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:28,520 leadership in the church and everybody in the church is to be 282 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:33,360 under the leadership of father, the leadership of the leaders of 283 00:24:33,360 --> 00:24:35,000 the church. That's talking about a different 284 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,880 thing here. It's talking about when it comes 285 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:42,920 to your family and what it deals with, with decisions that have 286 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,600 to be made in your family. The wife is to submit herself, 287 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:53,200 just as Christ is the head of the church, and the church 288 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:59,200 submits itself to Christ. By the way, if we don't submit 289 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,800 ourselves to Christ, that would be sin. 290 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:09,600 And so he's directing us here to do it in that manner, just as 291 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:18,040 Christ is the head of the church and gave himself for the body. 292 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:25,040 Christ did all of this for us. He left heaven and came down 293 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:29,520 here, became one of the creatures that he had created, 294 00:25:31,360 --> 00:25:36,760 obedient to the law, obedient to God, died on the cross, was 295 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:40,800 raised from the dead by God and went back to heaven. 296 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:48,880 And now he's directing Paul that he might write this not I found 297 00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:56,280 something interesting as I was reading this. 3 verses Paul 298 00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:04,440 addresses the wife. The next 9 verses he addresses 299 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:13,520 the man. Wow, husbands, love your wife, 300 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:20,240 just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for 301 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:26,120 it. I want you to notice what words 302 00:26:26,120 --> 00:26:29,400 are not inserted here in italics. 303 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:35,000 Submit yourself. Notice those words are not 304 00:26:35,360 --> 00:26:41,000 injected here. But that's exactly what Paul is 305 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:46,360 telling the husbands. When it comes to your love for 306 00:26:46,360 --> 00:26:55,120 yourself, then rank your love for yourself under your love for 307 00:26:55,120 --> 00:26:58,800 your wife. And he's given us an example. 308 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:05,920 He says this is what Christ did and given himself up for us. 309 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:15,880 He ranked his love for himself beneath his love for you and to 310 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:21,560 give his life for us and to come down and live for us. 311 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:29,520 He says be subject to those words are not there, but the 312 00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:34,080 idea is the same. This is how the husband is to 313 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:41,280 subject ourselves unto the one that we love, our wife. 314 00:27:42,360 --> 00:27:46,120 Now you can tell your wife all you want to, you know, hey, I 315 00:27:46,120 --> 00:27:51,520 love you honey, but if she doesn't see that you are doing 316 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:55,800 this, that's the problem. OK? 317 00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:01,320 Matter of fact, my wife says to me a whole lot, hey Tom, I, I 318 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,720 love you and I'll say I love you. 319 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,720 But sometimes I'll say to my wife thank you. 320 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:10,880 And she looks at me, she says thank you. 321 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:15,600 I say, yeah, Don't I just get the privilege of saying I, I 322 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:19,480 thank you for loving me, you know, because that's what I say 323 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,880 when you do something, you know, I just think, y'all just say 324 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:27,560 thank you sometime, OK? But I try to demonstrate to my 325 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:32,040 wife that I love her. So when she hears it, it's not 326 00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:36,200 something strange to her. Matter of fact, the guy called 327 00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:41,480 me sometime back and he was talking to me about a situation 328 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:46,720 that he and his wife was going through and it was simply a car 329 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:50,320 dealership. OK, so no, no big, you know, 330 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,800 deal, but it was a car dealership. 331 00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:58,800 He wanted to go to 1 and she wanted to go to another and he 332 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:03,720 wanted to know how do I put this love thing in the practice? 333 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,880 He says it would be very comfortable to go to this one 334 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:13,280 because it's 3 miles from my house, but the other one was 10 335 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,800 miles from the house where the wife wanted to go. 336 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,800 So I said you don't have a spiritual thing to deal with. 337 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:25,520 Your wife simply wants to know, are you willing to rank your 338 00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:31,000 love for the short drive to her desire to go to 10 miles? 339 00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,480 He said, OK, thank you. I didn't know what that was 340 00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:37,040 called. That's a simple way of 341 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:42,000 demonstrating to the wife, hey, and you don't have to say, 342 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,160 honey, I'm doing this because I love you. 343 00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:51,000 But if you simply do it, it would demonstrate to her that 344 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,960 yes, it would be easier for you to go to the short, the three, 345 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,000 the three job because that's where you want to go. 346 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:59,360 The three mile thing. But yeah, I'll go ahead and 347 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,400 drive to 10 miles. Yet it that's not a problem. 348 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:05,360 Let's go ahead and do that. And guys, we have to keep in 349 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:11,160 mind that when these things come up, they are come up for a 350 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:19,240 purpose that we might put God on display even in our own home, 351 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:27,080 even to our wives, that she might come to understand my 352 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:35,600 husband really cares for me. Now look at verse 26, talking 353 00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,920 about Christ again. It says so that He might 354 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:42,480 sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of the water, 355 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:49,240 with the Word, that he might present to Himself the Church in 356 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:55,680 all her glory, having not spot or wrinkle or any such thing, 357 00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:01,880 but that she would be holy and blameless. 358 00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:10,240 Now notice he's talking about what Christ does for us as 359 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,880 believers, and what it is that He wants to do. 360 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:21,120 Is he present to Himself this holy and glorious body, the 361 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,880 bride? But there are some things in 362 00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:34,640 here that I need to look at. Do I ever 'cause my wife to sin? 363 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:37,520 That would not be a glorious thing. 364 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:44,480 He wants to present to her. He wants to present her to him. 365 00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:52,560 Holy and blameless. Do I do that with my wife is 366 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:58,000 what I need to ask the question? By the way, let me just maybe 367 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:03,440 meddle here for a little bit. What about tax time when you 368 00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:07,360 have to sign that paper and the wife has to sign it and you're 369 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:11,320 signing for something that you know is not correct, honey, but 370 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,440 go ahead and sign it. Just put your name down here. 371 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:21,120 Or you really asking her to do something that you know is wrong 372 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,400 to do, but you're going to ask her to go ahead and do it 373 00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,160 anyway? That's practical. 374 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:32,040 That's what he's talking about. I must do the things with my 375 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:38,000 wife that would not cause any spot or blemish on her or would 376 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,040 not cause her to be in an unholy position. 377 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,360 I want to put her in a position where she's blameless. 378 00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,720 Now, can I control her sin? No, I cannot. 379 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,520 But I can control what I asked her to do. 380 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,320 And that's what he's talking about here. 381 00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:57,720 That's what my love for my wife needs to to be like. 382 00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:02,600 And it needs to be based on crisis love for me. 383 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:07,920 If when I do those things, then I can honor him. 384 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:14,400 Verse 28 would say so husbands ought also to love their wives 385 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:19,960 as their own body. He who loves his own wife loves 386 00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:26,200 himself, for no one has ever hated his own flesh, but 387 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:34,000 nourished and cherished it, just as Christ also does the church. 388 00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:36,880 And then we say, well, what about all these people that go 389 00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,120 around and say I just hate myself? 390 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:39,880 The scripture says no one hates themselves. 391 00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,640 Now they they have an argument. Is the argument against 392 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,080 scripture or the arguments against you? 393 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:47,920 The argument would it be against Scripture? 394 00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:52,760 Matter of fact, somebody told me the other day that they were 395 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,880 sinful because God made them that way. 396 00:33:54,880 --> 00:34:00,360 He said no, he did not. Oh, oh, Oh yes he did. 397 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:04,800 No, he did not. Can you prove that? 398 00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:10,320 Yes, I can. Genesis chapter 5 says God 399 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,719 created Adam and he created Adam in his image. 400 00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:19,480 That tells us how you made Adam. Then the next verse says, and 401 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,239 Adam begot children in his image. 402 00:34:24,199 --> 00:34:28,440 Guess what? Was Adam's image sinful? 403 00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:35,360 Now you can blame Adam if you want to for being sinful, but 404 00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,560 you are responsible for the sin that you're in. 405 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:39,800 And that's what I shared with the guy. 406 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:44,000 You're responsible. Why? 407 00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:48,040 Because you have been confronted with the fact that even your 408 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:51,840 thought that God made you this way is wrong. 409 00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:57,840 You are a Sinner because sin has been passed down to all of us. 410 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:04,200 So when we share these things, we have to remember who we are 411 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,240 and that God has nourished and cherished the church. 412 00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,880 Verse 30. Because we are members of His 413 00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:18,720 body. For this reason a man shall 414 00:35:18,720 --> 00:35:23,520 leave his father and mother, and they shall be joined to his 415 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:28,840 wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 1/4 Scripture 416 00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:35,080 Genesis. Then he says, this ministry is 417 00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:41,040 great, but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the 418 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:45,480 church. He says all I have gone through 419 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:51,760 here may seem like a mystery to you, and it is a great mystery 420 00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:55,120 because I am talking about Christ and His relationship to 421 00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,560 the Church. But noted verse 33. 422 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:05,960 Nevertheless, each individual among you ought also to love his 423 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:14,480 wife even as himself, and the wife must see that she respects 424 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:20,000 her husband. This is everything I've laid out 425 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:26,440 here for you has been about Christ and the Church and how 426 00:36:26,720 --> 00:36:29,520 you ought to act in that relationship. 427 00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:37,920 But I want you to also know the husband and the wife must follow 428 00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:42,480 this as well in their relationship because then it 429 00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:49,240 tells you how it is that you ought to submit to one another. 430 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:56,360 And I think in that phrase we lose emphasis on it when he says 431 00:36:56,360 --> 00:37:03,000 submit to one another. We men love that verse 22 wives 432 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:08,960 be subjected and we hardly ever mentioned that the words be 433 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,280 subject was added there. There were not. 434 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:16,840 We just love the idea of being over somebody. 435 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:23,360 But he's instructing us on how it is that we can be submissive 436 00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:28,640 to one another. And he starts this by helping us 437 00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:33,040 to understand what the wife's position is when it comes to 438 00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:38,920 leadership by the way of counseling a guy and his wife 439 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:42,480 there years ago. They've they've moved on, but he 440 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:47,040 said to me, he said my wife is in charge of everything in the 441 00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:53,320 house and I love it that way. And I'm thinking why do the 442 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:59,400 counseling, why continue it if you already have decided that 443 00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,640 she's the head of the house and she's going to control. 444 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,880 He says when it comes to decision making, my wife makes 445 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:09,960 all the decision in the house. What can I counsel? 446 00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:15,320 So I just said, OK, move on. And they eventually moved on 447 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:19,680 from the church. But this is what he's telling us 448 00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:21,680 how it is we're to conduct ourselves. 449 00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:27,520 Wives, here's what you're to do. Husbands, here's what we are to 450 00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,440 do. And by the way, if you're 451 00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:34,440 planning to get married, if you're still in that position, 452 00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:40,000 you want to look for someone who will honor this. 453 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:45,600 And when I say this, I really do mean the scripture. 454 00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:53,080 Honor all of it. And part of that is, are you 455 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:58,360 willing as a female? Are you willing to submit 456 00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,720 yourself to this person's leadership? 457 00:39:02,240 --> 00:39:03,800 That's a question you need to ask. 458 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:09,600 Then for the males, you have to ask you a question. 459 00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:16,320 Is this the woman that I want to lead the rest of my life? 460 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:22,320 And when you make that decision, the rest of the decision 461 00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:28,440 actually will come a lot easier. By the way, Joby and Sandy share 462 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:32,440 with me, I think it was Sunday, that this was their 33rd 463 00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:40,200 anniversary of marriage. That's that's a long time and 464 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,960 there are people here that's been married longer than that. 465 00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:48,200 But guess what? It goes back to a decision that 466 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:55,440 was made during dating time. Is this the person that I really 467 00:39:55,440 --> 00:40:00,560 want to submit to, or is this the person that I can really 468 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:06,360 love above loving myself? And when we do those things, 469 00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:13,400 then we will honor God and as we move forward to put this thing 470 00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,600 together. And then one other thing about 471 00:40:18,240 --> 00:40:24,720 this premarital thing. There there be no secrets. 472 00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,760 If you have any, go ahead and deal with them. 473 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:34,240 Go ahead and address them, but let that person know here's what 474 00:40:35,240 --> 00:40:38,680 we are dealing with and here's what's ahead of us. 475 00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:42,840 That person might say to you, but thank you for sharing that. 476 00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:44,720 I just want to be friends and we are now. 477 00:40:44,720 --> 00:40:51,360 I'll move on and that's OK. Making that decision after you 478 00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:55,120 married is not OK. And that's the thing that you 479 00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:59,960 have to look at. Some of you probably know this, 480 00:40:59,960 --> 00:41:05,720 but I'll share with you anyway. When Don and I came to this 481 00:41:05,720 --> 00:41:09,560 point of deciding that we was going to date, I was in the 482 00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:12,680 worst financial situation of my life. 483 00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:22,240 Before we had our first date. I wanted her to know that so she 484 00:41:22,240 --> 00:41:26,400 could make a decision. Yes, I will move forward with 485 00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:30,440 this a no partner. We're just going to be friends 486 00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:35,120 and be done with it. So I, I said, I matter of fact 487 00:41:36,240 --> 00:41:40,440 done in my first date was bring your budget. 488 00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:44,720 No kidding. We literally brought our budget 489 00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:50,000 before we decided to go on our first date so she could see what 490 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:54,720 I was dealing with because I wanted to share with her the 491 00:41:54,720 --> 00:41:58,240 truth of everything that I had. And I told her, I said, these 492 00:41:58,240 --> 00:42:00,160 are my bills. This is what I had. 493 00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,520 This is my my financial situation. 494 00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:10,160 But if we get married, they are not mine, they are ours. 495 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:17,480 And she took a look at it and well, as they said, the rest is 496 00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:22,440 history. But we had that situation. 497 00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:27,440 And by the way, Donna's budget looked really nice and then the 498 00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:30,680 whole thing laid out the before she showed her me and showed me 499 00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,560 a payment that she had for a loan that she had. 500 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:38,880 I said, Donna then payment is not going to pay that off in 10 501 00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:40,080 years. She said, yes, it is. 502 00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:43,280 It's a 10 year loan as I'm not arguing that. 503 00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,880 I'm just telling you the payment isn't going to pay that off. 504 00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,320 And and by the way, Donna and Mary Lee was roommates at the 505 00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:53,000 time. I used to go by on the weekend 506 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,600 and put it in a window for Donna. 507 00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,560 She had got the loan to put the window in the house. 508 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:03,320 Is it she said, I'll show you the the contract when you come 509 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,000 over this weekend. So I went over the weekend and I 510 00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:11,360 saw it and it said right around the top, this is a non 511 00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:17,120 ameritized loan. You know what ameritized means? 512 00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:23,800 It means to die off. So this is a non dying off loan. 513 00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,600 What does? That's a cute word to say. 514 00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:32,320 This is an interest only loan. Donna didn't know that. 515 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,320 But when we sit down and took a look at it, then we know that 516 00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:41,840 this whatever money you borrowed now 10 years down the road and 517 00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,160 you paid others and you still going over that same amount of 518 00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:47,920 money. But we had to come up with how 519 00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:49,560 it is we would deal with these things. 520 00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:53,400 Looking at my budget and her budget and we put them together 521 00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:58,760 and God has blessed in that. And so those are the things you 522 00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:02,840 want to do in being truthful to one another so you don't get to 523 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:07,600 the other side and then say, oh, by the way, I have these things 524 00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:12,280 you ought to take a look at and if that has happened already in 525 00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,080 your marriage is not too late to deal with it. 526 00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:17,720 You can deal with it. You can confess it and and and 527 00:44:17,720 --> 00:44:21,040 deal with those things, but it's best if we do it upfront. 528 00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:28,800 Now this passage that we have gone through, we've dealt with 529 00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:37,280 the husband and the wife. In two weeks we're going to come 530 00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:44,360 back and we're going to pick up the children and the parents. 531 00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:52,520 Then we're going to pick up the employee and the employers now 532 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:58,600 in our Bible just tells us the slave and the slave master. 533 00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:02,600 We don't have those these days. We have employer and employ 534 00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,240 yours. And that's what he's talking 535 00:45:04,240 --> 00:45:06,840 about. Why does he address in 536 00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:09,840 individually? Because he is addressing the 537 00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:16,000 whole church and everybody in the church is in one of those 538 00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:23,640 categories, either wife or husband, a child, a parent, an 539 00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:27,520 employee or an employer. Now, if you're like me, you're 540 00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:30,200 retired, but you've been through that. 541 00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:34,360 And so that's what he's telling us, how to conduct ourselves, 542 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:42,960 how to submit ourselves to one another in every area that we 543 00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,240 have to come across, whether you are the parent. 544 00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,880 How many of us as parent ever thought about submitting 545 00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:55,080 ourselves to our children? We really don't. 546 00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,560 We think about children obey your parents and that's kind of 547 00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:02,440 all we think about. But he's telling us and that how 548 00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:05,920 it is you can do both, how both has to happen. 549 00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:10,520 And so that's what we'll do when we come back together in two 550 00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:12,480 weeks. Deal with those so we can 551 00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:17,600 address this entire issue. Let us pray. 552 00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,200 Father, we do. Thank you for your great grace 553 00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:25,160 toward us. Thank you for our time and your 554 00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:29,040 word. Thank you for all that you share 555 00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:34,160 with us that we might honor you in all that we do. 556 00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,600 We praise you for who you are. I thank you for giving yourself 557 00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:47,800 for us to remove us from being subject to the law, to bring us 558 00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:55,680 in to make us children of God, that we then might honor you and 559 00:46:55,680 --> 00:47:00,440 all that we do. We do pray to us in Christ's 560 00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:05,200 name and for a sake we ask it. Amen.