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120 years ago this month at a 
small church in Grafton, WV, in 

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an Episcopal Church, was a 
celebration of the very first 

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memorial to mothers. 
The woman who started everything

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is named Anna Jarvis. 
She'd had a conversation with 

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her mother before she died and 
her mother said to her daughter 

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Anna, wouldn't it be nice if 
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celebrate mothers every year? 
Three years after her mother 

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died in 19 O 5, Anna Jarvis had 
this celebration in the church 

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where her mother taught study 
school for for 20 years. 

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In 1910, W Virginia was the 
first state to celebrate 

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Mother's Day. 
In 1914, Woodrow Wilson declared

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that the second Sunday in May 
should be deemed Mother's Day. 

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And so over 50 countries around 
the world are celebrating 

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mothers on this day simply 
because one woman and a Jarvis, 

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who, by the way never married 
and never had any children, 

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wanted to inaugurate a 
celebration on behalf of her 

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mother. 
But over the years, Anna Jarvis 

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became irritated at the amount 
of money that was spent on this 

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holiday, whether it be for 
cards, flowers or gifts. 

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In fact, before she died in 
1948, she was arrested in New 

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York City for disturbing the 
peace because she was against 

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the Mother's Day celebration 
going on at that time. 

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She said these words. 
She said that she became 

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increasingly disturbed as a 
celebration turned into a reason

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to sell greeting cards and other
items. 

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She became known for berating 
people who purchased cards, 

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saying they were too lazy to 
write personal letters to the 

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woman who has done more for you 
than anyone in the world. 

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So if you bought a card for your
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her yet, you can go home and 
throw it away. 

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Cindy Mason, who is the director
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said that Jarvis wished she 
would have never started the day

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because it became so out of 
control. 

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Today, there's approximately $35
billion spent on mothers to 

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celebrate this day as compared 
to Father's Day where there's 

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only $22 billion spent. 
Not that we're getting gypped. 

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It's still in the billions, not 
millions, so that's a good 

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thing. 
But unfortunately, she and a 

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Jarvis became so upset because 
of the amount of money that was 

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spent to celebrate mothers. 
I I would like to inaugurate the

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second Sunday of every month as 
Mother's Day, because I think 

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that Mother's Day is always a 
reminder of #1 the sovereignty 

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of God. 
That God and His sovereignty 

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designed specifically the womb 
in which you were conceived and 

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therefore gave you the mother He
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Think about that. 
My mom was not the perfect mom, 

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but my mom was the perfect mom 
for me because in God's 

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sovereignty, He designed her to 
nurture and to raise me. 

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And I'm so glad that He did. 
I truly am a a blessed son. 

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But when you think about Isaiah 
66 and God says that I open and 

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close the womb, he tells 
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one verse #5 that in your 
mother's womb I formed you. 

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I designed you. 
I created you for a specific 

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purpose. 
Everything about what God does 

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has a purpose. 
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you. 
So every Mother's Day is a 

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reminder of the sovereignty of 
God. 

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It's a reminder of, of the joy 
of children. 

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For the Bible says in Psalm 127 
that that children are a gift 

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from the Lord. 
Your children are a gift. 

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They're a blessing, not a 
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And therefore Mother's Day is a 
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children. 
Mother's Day is, is a reminder 

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of the ministry of husbands, 
that they are to to nurture and 

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to care for your wives, that 
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most precious, as their most 
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First, Peter 37 that every man 
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heirs of the grace of God as the
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has. 
And so Mother's Day is a 

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reminder of the ministry of 
husbands to their wives who are 

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mothers, the joy of children, 
the sovereignty of God to 

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reminder of the responsibility 
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In Titus chapter 2, it says that
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younger women to love their 
husbands, to love their 

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children. 
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Because they are lovers of God 
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the mother is to is to love God 
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love her children. 
But unfortunately, Mother's Day 

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is also a reminder of the 
depravity and the iniquity of 

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man. 
For the Bible says these words 

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in the book of Proverbs, the 
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there is a generation who curses
their father and does not bless 

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their mother. 
That's a generation that that we

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live in. 
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us the second Timothy chapter 3,
that in the last days men will 

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be lovers of themselves, not 
lovers of of God, lovers of 

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pleasure, and those men will be 
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I find it interesting that it's 
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the parents. 
It doesn't say the children are,

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it says the men are. 
And then in Romans chapter 1, it

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says when God gives man over to 
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own depravity, he gives them a 
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And the men, not the children, 
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mind are disobedient to their 
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Do you know that the Bible 
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disobedient to their parents 
than children being disobedient 

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to their parents? 
We got that all mixed up today 

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in America. 
We think, well, you turned 18, 

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you're an adult, you're on your 
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want no matter what your parents
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Really, that's what your friends
say, but that's not what your 

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Father in heaven says. 
Children ought to honor their 

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mother and father. 
That's why it's the 5th 

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commandment with the promise, 
and that's why it's the first 

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commandment given after the 
first four that determine your 

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relationship with the living 
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The very first place that is 
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esteem your mother and father. 
The very first evidence of your 

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love for God is your love for 
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That's what the Lord says. 
Forget about what society says. 

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Forget about what your friends 
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What does the Bible say? 
And we live in an age where 

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there's a generation who curses 
their father and does not bless 

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their mother. 
Remember, it was the Lord who 

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condemned the Pharisees, the 
religious elite, because they 

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would not honor their mother and
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It goes on to say in Proverbs 
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is a generation who is pure in 
their own eyes, yet is not 

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washed from their filthiness. 
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That's the same generation that 
curses their father and does not

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bless their mother. 
Then he says, and there is a 

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generation, oh, how lofty are 
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are raised in arrogance. 
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Same generation he's 
characterizing the generation 

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that curses their father and 
does not bless their mother. 

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It's the foolish generation. 
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Proverbs is the unbeliever. 
It's the unbeliever who curses 

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their father. 
It's the unbeliever who does not

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bless his mother. 
It's the unbeliever who lives in

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disobedience to their parents, 
not the believer. 

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That's what the Bible says. 
And I kind of stick with what 

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the Bible says. 
I don't kind of stick. 

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I wholeheartedly stick to with 
what the Bible says. 

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And we all should do that in the
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In the book of Proverbs, 
Proverbs chapter 10 verse #1A 

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foolish son is grief to his 
mother. 

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In Proverbs 15 verse #20 it says
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A foolish man despises his 
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That is, the fool has said in 
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The fool says no to God. 
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is the unbeliever, not the 
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And the fool despises his 
mother. 

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And the fool curses his father 
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Proverbs 17 verse #25 says a 
foolish son is bitterness to her

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who bore him. 
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And so on this Mother's Day 
celebrated in over 50, two 

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countries around the world, 
there's a lot of heartache in 

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the lives of mothers, a lot of 
pain in the lives of mothers 

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because of the depravity and 
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But there's good news. 
And the good news is, is found 

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in in the excellent woman. 
And this morning I want to talk 

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to you about The X Factor in 
motherhood. 

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What is The X Factor? 
What, what is the, the, the 

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uniqueness about motherhood? 
What is it that makes motherhood

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stand out? 
What is it that makes motherhood

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so special? 
And through that grand 

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encouragement to every mother, 
every woman, and even every man 

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in the room, because you'll see 
where we all play a part in this

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process. 
So if your Bible turn with me to

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Proverbs chapter 31, Proverbs 
chapter 31, I'm not going to 

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read all the verses that deal 
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I'm just going to read the last 
7 verses, OK? 

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I don't have time in one service
to cover all the verses, OK? 

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And I didn't want to drag it out
over weeks and months, so I'm 

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going to put it all in one 
sermon. 

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Verse 25 Proverbs chapter 31 
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Strength and dignity are her 
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future. 
She opens her mouth and wisdom 

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and the teaching of kindness is 
on her tongue. 

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She looks well to the ways of 
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the bread of idleness. 
Her children rise up and bless 

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her. 
Her husband also and he praises 

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her, saying Many daughters have 
done nobly, but you excel them 

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all. 
Charm is deceitful and beauty is

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vain, but a woman who fears the 
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Give her the product of her 
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her in the gates. 
What is The X Factor in 

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motherhood? 
First of all, her character. 

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Her character is excellent. 
Verse 10, a promise 31 says an 

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excellent wife. 
Who can find? 

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That's the question. 
King Lemuel, excuse me, some 

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would say is just another name 
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That might be true. 
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know who the king is. 
But when he writes this, he he 

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says that an excellent wife who 
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Who can find a a virtuous woman,
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And the word excellent in the 
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strong, spiritually strong. 
Who can find a spiritually 

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strong wife? 
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He says, for her worth is far 
above jewels. 

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The worth of a excellent wife 
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earthly possession. 
Excuse me? 

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You find a virtuous woman. 
You find an excellent wife. 

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You find someone who is unique, 
who is special. 

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And when you find her, she's 
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anything you can buy on the 
planet. 

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She's more valuable to you than 
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planet. 
She is far more valuable than 

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any earthly possession. 
So gentlemen, when you're, when 

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you're looking for a wife, 
you're looking for a spiritually

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strong wife. 
Women, when you want to become a

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wife, make sure you're 
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You're right with the Lord 
because the Bible says who can 

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find this kind of woman? 
And then he goes on to describe 

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her. 
But her character is excellent. 

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Why? 
Because the Bible says she is. 

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Her strength and dignity are her
clothing. 

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She's a spiritually strong 
woman. 

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She lives a life of integrity. 
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This is who she is. 
This is her character from the 

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inside out. 
She is a spiritually strong 

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woman who lives the life of 
integrity and she smiles at the 

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future that that's a, that's a 
unique woman who does that. 

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This is why her her character is
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It's because she trusts in the 
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She relies on the sovereignty of
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She knows that as she in engages
her family, as she raises her 

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children, as she loves her 
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God's hands, that her children 
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So many times as mothers, we, we
want to smother our our children

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and, and we want to want to 
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and rightly when they're in 
their house, you should do that.

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But when they, they go off to 
college and they, and they get 

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married, you know, you got to 
trust the Lord to, to do a work 

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in their lives. 
You have no guarantee how 

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they're going to turn out, but 
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you know the one who holds the 
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So you trust him and this, this 
excellent wife, this excellent 

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woman, this virtuous woman 
clothes herself in spiritual 

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strength and dignity, and she 
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And you know that you are 
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and dignity when you can smile 
at the future. 

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In other words, she doesn't live
a life of anxiety. 

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She she doesn't live a life of, 
of fear and trepidation, but she

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lives a life of security because
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She can't see the future. 
She doesn't know the future, but

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she smiles at the future. 
Many of you know that when I was

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growing up, my, my mother used 
to tell me, she goes, son, you 

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can play all the sports you 
want. 

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You can memorize all the 
statistics you want. 

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You can be the best coach 
around, but you're still going 

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to be a preacher. 
And I said, you got it all 

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wrong, mom. 
You have no hotline to God. 

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And she said to me one day, she 
says, you know, son, I am your 

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mother. 
And I said, yes, mom, I do know 

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that. 
And I do believe that God's 

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called you to preach. 
And although you don't know it 

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yet, one day you will know. 
And I had no idea how my mom 

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knew that she could not see the 
future. 

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She had no crystal ball to look 
into and say, I see my son 

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standing at Christ Community 
Church preaching the gospel 

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every week. 
She had no crystal ball, but she

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just smiled at the future 
because she knew that God had a 

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plan for her son. 
She had only one son. 

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She had one right and she used 
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not going to mess him up. 
I only got 1. 

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And so she just trusted the Lord
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do. 
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My mom was right. 
She was right. 

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She knew. 
She used to tell me when I 

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brought a young lady home from 
college one time she goes yet 

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that she's not the one. 
What? 

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How do you know that? 
That she's not the one. 

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All right, sure enough, she 
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So a year later, about another, 
another young lady home from 

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from from college, she goes. 
Yeah, she's not the one either. 

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How do you how do you know that 
you know? 

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I don't even know that mom. 
How do you know that she goes? 

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I just know. 
Why? 

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Because she's your mom. 
She just knows. 

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I had to learn to, to trust my 
mom's instincts. 

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Intuition, call it whatever you 
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Mother's intuition, I don't 
know. 

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But but she just knew. 
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college and out of college that 
man, my mom was, was a lot wiser

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than me, a lot brighter than me.
She had life experience that I 

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didn't have. 
She had insight that I didn't 

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have. 
I had to learn to to trust my 

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mom. 
There's something about an 

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excellent wife, her character, 
it is excellent. 

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It's strong. 
But notice number 2, not just 

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her, her character, but her 
conversation. 

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Her conversation. 
If her character is excellent, 

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her conversation is exemplary. 
The X Factor in motherhood. 

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Listen to what it says. 
She opens her mouth in wisdom 

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and the teaching of kindness is 
on her tongue. 

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Wow, what a what a statement. 
She has wisdom, she instructs 

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wisely. 
And wisdom, of course, is the 

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application of truth to life. 
And so she's she knows the truth

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in order to grant wisdom to her 
children and to teach them. 

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And I know that the the father 
is the is the prophet and priest

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of his home. 
But but mom, let me tell you 

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something. 
You become the major teacher in 

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your home. 
You do like my mom was like my 

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wife was to to our children 
because you're around them so 

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much. 
You become the impetus by which 

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you you teach and train your 
children. 

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That's why the Bible says over 
in in Proverbs, Proverbs chapter

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chapter 6. 
These words chapter chapter 6 

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verse #20 My son, observe the 
commandment of your father and 

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do not forsake the teaching of 
your mother, your mother, 

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because your mother is a 
teacher. 

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Proverbs chapter 1, verse 8. 
Here my son, your father's 

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instruction, and do not forsake 
your mother's teaching. 

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Indeed, they are a graceful 
wreath to your head and 

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ornaments about your neck. 
As a mother, you become such an 

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influence in the lives of your 
children, more so than than the 

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father, because the father's off
to work. 

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He's he's providing for his 
home, he's protecting his home. 

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But as a mother, you are, you 
are home with your children. 

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You're invested into the life of
your children. 

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You're teaching your children 
every single day. 

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You're building character into 
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So as you do that, you become 
the, the main teacher of their 

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lives because they're, they're 
catching what you do. 

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They're they're hearing what you
say and you instruct them in 

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wisdom. 
It also says these words and the

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teaching of kindness is on her 
tongue. 

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She's a kind teacher, a kind 
teacher. 

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She's the embodiment of 
Ephesians 429. 

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She doesn't let her wholesome 
words proceed out of her mouth. 

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She's the embodiment of 
Colossians 4 verse #6 her her, 

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her speeches is graceful, 
seasoned with salt. 

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It says over in the book of 
Proverbs chapter 23, these 

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words, Proverbs 23 it talks 
about, that's not the verse I 

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want. 
What is the verse I do want? 

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Ah, Proverbs chapter 15, verse 
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Pleasant words are honeycomb, 
sweet to the soul and healing to

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the bones. 
How delightful? 

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Verse 23 is a timely word. 
Verse 26 Pleasant words are pure

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words. 
This is the the virtuous woman. 

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This is the The X Factor in 
motherhood. 

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Her conversation is exemplary. 
You want to model your 

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conversation after your mother's
conversation because she speaks 

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wisely and teaches kindly #3 Her
character is excellent, her 

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conversation exemplary, her 
concerns are extensive and 

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exhaustive. 
Extensive and exhaustive. 

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Look what it says in verse #27 
she looks well to the ways of 

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her household and does not eat 
the bread of idleness. 

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She's not lazy. 
The excellent woman, The X 

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Factor in in motherhood is the 
fact that she is not lazy. 

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Everything about her life is 
exhaustive, extensive, far 

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reaching. 
All. 

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All you have to do is read what 
this woman does. 

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I read it and I was exhausted. 
It says in verse 13 she looks 

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for wool and flax and works with
her hands in delight. 

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It says that she brings her food
from afar. 

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Verse 14 That means she has to 
travel far to the market to to 

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bring it back. 
Verse 15, she rises also while 

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it is still night. 
So before anybody else gets up, 

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the sun's not even up. 
She is up. 

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Verse 16 she considers the field
and buys it from her earnings. 

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She plants a vineyard it says. 
Verse 17 she girds herself with 

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strength and makes her arm 
strong. 

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This is 1 beast of a woman. 
Think about it. 

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She makes her arm strong. 
I mean she doesn't have to go to

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24 hour fitness. 
She doesn't have to go to any 

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kind of workout placement. 
She is working so hard, her arms

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are strong and and then it says 
she senses that her gain is 

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good. 
Verse 18 and her lamp does not 

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go out at night. 
That that means she's she's 

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always in tune with what's 
happening. 

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Have you ever noticed that that 
when your kids wake up at night 

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and they and they they make a 
sound that the father wakes up 

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the next day and says, I didn't 
hear anything. 

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But the mother says you didn't 
hear, hear him. 

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You didn't see him when they 
came to the room. 

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No, man, I was I was fast 
asleep. 

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I didn't hear hear a thing. 
But the woman, Oh no, now she's 

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always on edge. 
She's always listening. 

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She's always aware of what's 
happening. 

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That's what makes them so 
unique, so unique. 

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And my, my kids, when they used 
to come into our room at night 

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because they would awake, they, 
they never went to my side of 

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the bed. 
They went to mom's side of the 

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bed. 
And today when my kids call, 

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they never call and ask for dad.
They call and ask for mom. 

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They call mom's cell phone, 
right? 

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They'll call Dad's cell phone. 
They call Mom. 

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Why? 
Because Mom cares, that's why. 

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Mom listens. 
She's in tune, right? 

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That's because she is. 
Her light never goes out at 

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night. 
It says in verse 20. 

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She extends her hand to the 
poor. 

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She stretched out her hands to 
the needy. 

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Verse 21, she is not afraid of 
the snow for her household, for 

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all our household, our clothes, 
the scarlet. 

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Think about that. 
She's not afraid of the snow. 

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That is just so weird because 
they live in Israel. 

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When does it snow in the land of
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As often as it snows in Southern
California. 

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But see, this is what makes her 
so exceptional, so unique. 

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It snows all the time on top of 
Mount Hermon. 

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It's covered with snow 12 months
a year, but the land of Israel 

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very rarely ever gets snow. 
The one year on our trip to 

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Israel, there was snow in 
Jerusalem. 

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Not a lot, but there was snow in
Jerusalem. 

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But that's very, very rare. 
And that's what makes this mom 

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so unique is because she see she
expects the unexpected. 

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That's what moms do. 
They live in expectation of that

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which is unexpected. 
So when the unexpected comes, 

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she's already taking care of 
that which no one thought was 

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coming because she's not idle, 
she's not lazy, she's always on 

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guard, she's always awake, she's
always alert. 

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That's what makes her so unique.
That's what makes The X Factor 

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The X Factor. 
It's simply is because her 

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concerns are extensive and 
exhaustive. 

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It goes on to say these words in
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She makes linen garments and she
sells them and supplies belts to

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the tradesmen. 
When does this woman ever sleep?

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When does she rest? 
She doesn't because she relishes

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motherhood. 
She relishes being a wife, she 

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relishes her call and that's why
she is so unique. 

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So her character excellent, her 
conversation exemplary, her 

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concerns extensive and 
exhaustive, her children 

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expressive. 
Look what it says, verse 28. 

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Her children rise up and bless 
her. 

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They rise up and bless her. 
Her husband also, and he praises

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her. 
But her children, they rise up 

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and they bless her that they 
stand up and they honor their 

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mother. 
Her children are expressive. 

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I mean, after all, look at all 
the things she does for them. 

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She, she, she gives, she gives 
sacrificially of her life to 

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them. 
It's no wonder they rise up and 

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bless her. 
It says over in, in Proverbs 23 

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verse #22 these words, Proverbs 
23 verse #22 Listen to your 

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father who begot you, and do not
despise your mother when she is 

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old. 
Verse 25 let your father and 

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your mother be glad and let her 
rejoice who gave birth to you. 

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And then this is how the 
children respond to their 

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mother. 
I don't know where you are at 

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today and in your relationship 
with your mom, but but you need 

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to rise up and bless your 
mother, need to honor your 

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mother. 
You need to express gratitude to

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your mother. 
Why? 

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Because in the sovereignty of 
God, she was the one God 

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designed for you. 
And some would say, well, you 

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know, you don't know my mom, but
but think about it, reverse that

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around you. 
You as a gift were designed for 

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her right? 
And her attitude towards you is 

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well, you gave me that kid. 
You could have give me another 

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kid, but no, as as a child, you 
should rise up and and bless 

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your mother, honor your mother 
and dads. 

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If if your children are not 
doing that, a lot of that falls 

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on you because you see you lead 
by example and you treat her as 

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a precious vessel in your home 
and you honor her as your wife 

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and you love her as your wife 
and your children. 

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Then then get a hold of that and
realize my dad is doing this to 

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my mom. 
I need to rise up and bless her 

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as well. 
So if your children are not 

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doing that with your, your wife,
look at your own life and ask 

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00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:59,640
yourself, am I blessing her? 
Am I honoring her? 

453
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:04,960
Am I praising her? 
Because that's the very next 

454
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:10,320
phrase. 
Her husband also he praises her.

455
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:19,040
Her children expressive, Her 
concerns extensive and 

456
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:22,640
exhaustive, her conversation 
exemplary. 

457
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:31,000
Her character excellent. 
This is The X Factor in 

458
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,440
motherhood. 
Her commendation. 

459
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:40,400
Her commendation is exuberance. 
Listen to what it says. 

460
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:45,560
Verse #29 Many daughters have 
done nobly, but you excel them 

461
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,520
all. 
You're the best. 

462
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:51,440
You're queen of the mountain. 
You taught them all. 

463
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,960
Now it says, I know it says that
says her husband saying the word

464
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,080
saying is an italics because 
it's not necessarily her husband

465
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:02,360
who says this, but it's the 
children and the husband who 

466
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:07,760
together commend her and say, 
many daughters have done nobody 

467
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,000
but you, mom, you excel them 
all. 

468
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,280
Many daughters have done nobody 
but you, my dear. 

469
00:36:12,720 --> 00:36:15,880
You excel them all. 
You're the best of the best. 

470
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:22,640
It's exuberant, it's thrilling. 
I mean, we ought to be able to 

471
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,720
yell with gratitude and, and, 
and grace and, and, and, and 

472
00:36:26,720 --> 00:36:33,160
great joy for the mother that 
God has given to us and say, 

473
00:36:33,240 --> 00:36:37,560
man, Mom, you excel them all. 
You're the best because God gave

474
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:38,880
you to me. 
You're the best. 

475
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:46,760
And we ought to be rejoicing in 
the mother that God knows grace 

476
00:36:48,240 --> 00:36:51,360
has given us. 
Because if you don't, in 

477
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,480
essence, you're saying to God, 
you didn't do your best. 

478
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:58,560
God, you gave me kind of a 
little bit of a leftover. 

479
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:01,480
She really wasn't that 
excellent. 

480
00:37:03,720 --> 00:37:07,680
And God never gives cheap gifts 
or bad gifts or weak gifts. 

481
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:14,160
He just gives the best gifts. 
And He gave you your mom for 

482
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:19,520
specifically for you and maybe 
for the only reason that you 

483
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:24,360
would rise up and bless her and 
that you would say mom. 

484
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:30,800
Many daughters have done nobly, 
but you excel them all. 

485
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:39,720
You're the best. 
That's her commendation, her 

486
00:37:39,720 --> 00:37:43,680
consecration. 
Her consecration is exalting and

487
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:50,600
extolling, for it says in verse 
#30 these words, Charm is 

488
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:54,760
deceitful and beauty is vain. 
But a woman who fears the Lord, 

489
00:37:56,280 --> 00:38:01,560
she shall be praised. 
Her consecration, her commitment

490
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:07,080
is exalting. 
She exalts the Lord because she 

491
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:08,920
lives in the fear of the Lord 
all day long. 

492
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:12,080
That's that's why she can smile 
at the future. 

493
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,360
That's why she can do all the 
things she does. 

494
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,960
Just lives in the fear of the 
Lord, which is a which is a 

495
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:23,080
synonym for salvation in the 
book of Proverbs. 

496
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:26,920
She honors the Lord, she she 
glorifies the name, she worships

497
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:31,440
the Lord, she reveres the Lord. 
That's why she's praised, 

498
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:36,920
because God is her number one, 
not her children, not her 

499
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:43,240
husband, her God is #1 She 
realizes that all the outward 

500
00:38:43,240 --> 00:38:49,320
beauty comes and goes, but the 
fear of the Lord not staying 

501
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:53,160
strong forever. 
And she lives in the fear of the

502
00:38:53,160 --> 00:39:01,880
Lord all day long. 
The Bible says over in Proverbs 

503
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:12,360
19 verse #23 these words, 19 
verse #23 the fear of the Lord 

504
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:21,120
leads to life, that one may 
sleep satisfied, untouched by 

505
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:25,320
evil. 
That's why she can stay up late 

506
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:31,640
at night and rise before the sun
comes up and get all the sleep 

507
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,320
she needs. 
Because she sleeps satisfied, 

508
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:41,120
untouched by evil. 
Because she lives in the fear of

509
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:48,560
the Lord. 
The X Factor in motherhood, her 

510
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:54,160
character exempt? 
Excellent, her conversation 

511
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:58,080
exemplary, her concerns 
extensive and exhaustive. 

512
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:04,280
Her children expressive, her 
commendation exuberant, her 

513
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:08,760
consecration exalting and 
extolling. 

514
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,640
Are you ready for this last one?
Her compensation? 

515
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:18,760
Chelsea's laughing at me because
she typed it up. 

516
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:25,240
Her compensation is extra 
terrestrial. 

517
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:31,680
It's out of this world. 
It's beyond anything the world 

518
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:35,760
can offer her. 
It's extraterrestrial. 

519
00:40:36,720 --> 00:40:42,160
That's her compensation. 
It says these words in verse 31.

520
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:46,240
Give her the product of her 
hands, and let her works praise 

521
00:40:46,240 --> 00:40:53,520
her in the gates, the city gates
and the celestial gates. 

522
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,960
Remember Proverbs, Revelation 
1413. 

523
00:40:58,240 --> 00:41:03,200
Blessed are those who die in the
Lord, for they rest from their 

524
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:07,280
laborers. 
And then it says, and their 

525
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:12,120
deeds follow after them in the 
glory. 

526
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:17,760
And here's this this this 
excellent wife, this one that's 

527
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:23,720
hard to find her, her, her 
compensation is a glory. 

528
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:27,320
She's not doing what she does 
for the love of her husband. 

529
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:29,880
She's not doing what she does 
for the love of her children. 

530
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:33,680
If they love her back, that's 
great, but she's not doing it 

531
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:36,080
for that. 
She's doing it to honor the Lord

532
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:38,280
and glorify His name. 
She's doing it to hear those 

533
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:39,680
words. 
Well done, thou good and 

534
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:41,960
faithful servant. 
She does it to please the Lord, 

535
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:43,960
to glorify His name. 
That's her motive. 

536
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,520
That's her, her drive, that's 
her passion. 

537
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:50,200
That's why her compensation is 
extraterrestrial. 

538
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,000
It's out of this world. 
It's in glory. 

539
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:57,560
That's why Hebrew 610 that says 
that the Lord is not unjust so 

540
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:01,880
as to forget your work and your 
labor of love, which you do in 

541
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,360
His name. 
God never forgets. 

542
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,760
Romans 2, First Corinthians 4 
tell us that one day God will 

543
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:14,360
praise his own. 
She lives for that. 

544
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:20,800
The X Factor Hey, let me give 
you a bonus one, OK? 

545
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:22,640
It's an extra 1 you can take 
with you. 

546
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:30,880
And then it's her companion, OK?
Her companion is exhilarating, 

547
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,760
thrilling companions. 
Her husband. 

548
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:39,920
Look what it says. 
It says in verse #11 the heart 

549
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:45,080
of her husband trusts in her, 
and he will have no lack of 

550
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:47,720
gain. 
He trusts her. 

551
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:52,160
He believes in her. 
He supports her. 

552
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:57,960
He, he, he motivates her as she 
buys the field and she sells the

553
00:42:57,960 --> 00:42:59,760
field. 
As she works with her hands, her

554
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,680
arms become strong and, and 
probably she's stronger than he 

555
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,040
is, but he's not intimidated by 
her strength. 

556
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:07,520
He's he's exhilarated by her 
strength. 

557
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:12,560
And, and she, he's known in the 
gates because of her. 

558
00:43:13,240 --> 00:43:15,800
His popularity is because of 
her. 

559
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:19,080
He's not jealous of her. 
He's not sitting back saying 

560
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:20,360
well you know what, you're 
getting all the glory. 

561
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:21,840
I'm getting none of it. 
No, no, no. 

562
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:24,280
He's behind her. 
He's supporting her. 

563
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:28,000
He is there to be her number one
fan. 

564
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:31,160
Her companion is exhilarating. 
He is supporting her. 

565
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,880
He is praying for her. 
He's encouraging her. 

566
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:35,880
He is motivating her. 
She is. 

567
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:42,680
He is behind her 100%. 
Goes on to say that she does him

568
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:46,160
good and not evil all the days 
of her life. 

569
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:51,600
Wow, what a what a statement. 
She does him good and not evil 

570
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:55,000
all the days of her life. 
That means she says good things 

571
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,960
about him. 
She treats him well every day. 

572
00:44:00,720 --> 00:44:04,200
Says in verse 23 her husband is 
known in the gates when he sits 

573
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:08,560
among the others of the land. 
Verse 28 her husband also, and 

574
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,960
he praises her as her children 
praise her. 

575
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:21,280
Her companion is exhilarating. 
Gentlemen, this is for you. 

576
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:30,800
Is your wife motivated, moved 
along because of your support 

577
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,240
and because of your 
encouragement in her life? 

578
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:38,920
Are you, are you the one that, 
that that lifts her up and 

579
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:42,280
praises her? 
Are you the one that, that that 

580
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:47,280
helps her down her path of 
whatever way she may be going 

581
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,160
that the Lord has LED her? 
When you come home from work, 

582
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:53,000
are you saying, babe, you did a 
great job today with the kids? 

583
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:57,240
Oh man, many daughters are have 
done nobody but babe, you excel 

584
00:44:57,240 --> 00:44:59,960
them all. 
You're the best. 

585
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:04,240
And you come home and, and the 
house is a mess and, and the 

586
00:45:04,240 --> 00:45:07,000
kids are in disarray. 
And you come home and say, babe,

587
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,720
I'm here for you. 
I'm here to help clean up the 

588
00:45:09,720 --> 00:45:11,560
house. 
I'm here to help you take care 

589
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:14,560
of the hey, let me bring in 
reservation or bring in dinner 

590
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,320
for us tonight. 
Let's, let's do that. 

591
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,880
Let me, let me take a load off. 
Babe, sit down. 

592
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:23,320
I'll handle this because I'm 
here as your companion, as your 

593
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,760
husband support you and to 
stimulate you and to motivate 

594
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:28,000
you. 
And babe, I am here for you 

595
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:32,800
100%. 
Or do you go home and say, 

596
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:37,280
where's my hot meal? 
Why aren't the kids in order? 

597
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:41,480
Why wasn't the schooling done? 
Who took him to practice today? 

598
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:45,440
Why were you late? 
We can be those kind of guys. 

599
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:47,960
That's not the kind of guy you 
need to be. 

600
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:57,000
You need to be the husband that 
bears his wife, lifts her above 

601
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:04,360
himself, esteems her. 
Because you see as you do that 

602
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:12,000
your children are watching and 
they see dad is steaming, mom 

603
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:15,400
protecting and providing for 
mom. 

604
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:23,040
And they come along and they 
join in in the praise of their 

605
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:27,360
mother because they realize what
their father has done. 

606
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:35,440
That is The X Factor in 
motherhood and that is the 

607
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:38,680
reason you are so glad you came 
today. 

608
00:46:39,240 --> 00:46:42,000
Let's pray together. 
Father, we thank you for today. 

609
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:46,000
We thank you for the joy of 
motherhood. 

610
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:53,640
We thank you that as as fathers,
we have our wives who are 

611
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:58,160
mothers. 
We thank you as sons and 

612
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:04,200
daughters, we have our mother. 
And we thank you, Lord, for your

613
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:07,640
provision. 
You are a great provider. 

614
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:10,800
Lord, We thank you so very, very
much. 

615
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:16,720
Our prayer, Lord, today is that 
every mother in the room would 

616
00:47:16,720 --> 00:47:21,640
know you personally and live in 
the fear of the Lord all day 

617
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:25,680
long, knowing that you are the 
God who controls the future so 

618
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,920
that she can smile at the 
future. 

619
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:35,600
We pray that the women of our 
church would be clothed with 

620
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:41,360
strength and dignity and that 
Lord, they would be excellent 

621
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:46,040
wives, and that Lord, you'd lead
them each and every day. 

622
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:50,880
And that as husbands, we would 
come alongside and we would lift

623
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:58,520
them, love them, esteem them, 
care for them, protect them as 

624
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:05,200
only we can, and provide an 
example for our children so our 

625
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:09,400
daughters will know this is the 
kind of wife I need to be. 

626
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,320
This is the kind of man I need 
to marry. 

627
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:17,120
And every son will know I need 
to marry that kind of woman. 

628
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:22,800
And I need to be like my dad. 
We love you, Lord, we thank you 

629
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:26,160
for today. 
In your name, Amen.