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There's an answer to that 
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You can. 
You can and you shouldn't be 

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able to. 
But man, you have so much access

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to this God of all creation. 
Y'all feel his spirit in here. 

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If you are somebody who's not 
feeling the presence of his 

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spirit in here, it's OK. 
I don't want you to say like 

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man, why do they get to? 
And I don't ask him for it. 

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We're going to in just a moment,
we're going to ask him together 

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so that you can feel this too. 
I want you to understand this. 

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Your faith life is so much more 
than your emotions, but it is 

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also not less than your 
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OK, so your emotions were given 
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anger. 
Anger is not a sin, it's an 

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emotion and we're going to talk 
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Every emotion that you possess 
is something that was placed 

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inside of you from your Creator.
They are all things that He 

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shares with you. 
He knows what it is to feel 

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grief. 
He knows what it is to feel sad.

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He knows what it is to be angry.
Read the Old Testament. 

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OK, but I'm telling you that the
peace that He also possesses, it

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belongs to you. 
It's accessible. 

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I'm telling you that you can 
walk through difficult things 

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and be at peace. 
You can at the same time be sad 

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about a situation and have His 
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You can be angry at what 
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Who can know His glory? 
The ones who carry His glory. 

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You carry His glory on this 
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And there are people that will 
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first in somebody else. 
So their salvation does not rest

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on your shoulders. 
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A lot of times we've heard 
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get out there, share your faith 
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hell, they're going to burn and 
kind of the the hinted at 

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messages and if you don't do 
your part, it's going to be your

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fault. 
No, no, no. 

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If anybody rejects God, it's 
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But don't you want to be a part 
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changed? 
Don't you want to be used by the

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God who gave you purpose, the 
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together in your mother's womb, 
had you birthed on this earth so

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that you could have a purpose? 
Don't you want to do that? 

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Adam? 
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created for purpose. 
He was born with jobs to do. 

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And many of us were like, I just
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Adam was born and he had to tend
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animals and he had all these 
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He already had purpose when he 
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There wasn't even sin rampant on
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we've got purpose. 
You can't carry out your purpose

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unless you carry that glory to 
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But here's the thing. 
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couple weeks ago. 
Don't get lost comparing it. 

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Don't start looking at somebody 
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I can't do it like that person 
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She, she shows the joy of God a 
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I'm like grumpy bear from the 
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Believe it or not, the grumpy 
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the joyful people don't. 
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with your salvation at the same 
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Carry it where God tells you to 
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Complete the mission, God, for 
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presence here, we're just, we're
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Keep your presence here for the 
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For those of us that don't, God,
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Let us feel it. 
Let us feel something that we 

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typically don't. 
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weird or crazy or sensational, 
but we just want to know that 

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you're here. 
The same way that we would feel 

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comforted by a parent as they 
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maybe we would feel comforted 
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us and see us for who we are and
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Can we just feel like our Father
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God, we intercede for one 
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For those that are more 
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the strength that you've given 
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bulldozed and, and snowed over 
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teaching that's floating around 
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And, and God, for those that are
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just let them reawake the wonder
for all of us, God, make us wise

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as serpents, but innocent as 
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mission that you have for us in 
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Everybody said Amen, Amen. 
Hey, I'm going to ask for the, 

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the care team to, to come 
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Thank you. 
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want to, I just want to 
encourage you guys as you give 

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today, in case you, in case this
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you, as you give your tithe, 
you're offering your hard earned

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money. 
I have no guarantee for you as 

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you put your money in to the, to
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Just want you to know that 
there's really very few 

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guarantees on this earth. 
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guarantees, you know, we, we 
want to know from the doctor, if

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I do this, will this guarantee 
that I'll never deal with this 

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Could you imagine, could you 
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And they're like, I've been, 
I've been waiting for this day 

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of my whole life. 
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Can you can you give me a 
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I just probably a little dark. 
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like, could you imagine if you 
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did a tattoo like or the first 
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scary, right? 
There's no guarantee. 

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I heard a teaching. 
It was a woman ranting on, on 

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Facebook. 
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because I like to, to try to 
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if I don't. 
And when she started ranting, Oh

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man, I completely disagreed with
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And she was just ranting and she
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gets when she says, when she 
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you're not giving your money to 
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God. 
And she said, and I really don't

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like that. 
And I'm thinking, but I get up 

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here and I say, it's a covenant 
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I'm glad that I didn't do what 
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away or whatever going in the 
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talked, she said you don't get 
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not accept responsibility when 
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responsibility, don't say that I
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But then if there's a problem, 
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him and and you don't have any 
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What she said was this. 
She said I have no problem 

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giving at church. 
She said, I have no problem 

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putting money into the hands of 
flawed men and women that I hope

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will use it for the Kingdom, but
I trust God and his faithfulness

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with it. 
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video, I went, man, I wanted to 
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And I, I agree with her. 
If you've ever had a child 

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sponsorship, if you've ever 
donated to some sort of charity 

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that's fighting an illness or 
Cancer Research, if you ever get

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a given out of church, I just 
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guarantees. 
We may not play your favorite 

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song next week. 
The ministry you want to see may

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not be birthed overnight. 
I'm, I'm pretty open these days 

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to talk about just about 
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And if you were here a couple 
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and covenant, then you know 
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But I'll just tell you, my 
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here for 33 years, he used to, 
he used to catch some, some crap

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from some people. 
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He used to catch some because he
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and they give him a hard time. 
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paid off and the paint is 
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And I haven't had a car payment 
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And I, too, have caught 
judgement from people for not 

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having a newer car. 
I'm just telling you, no matter 

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what you do in this life, 
there's no guarantee. 

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None whatsoever except one. 
And we just sang about it. 

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So whatever you do from this 
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don't give, if you go out and 
you're with somebody from this 

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church after lunch today, if 
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whatever you do, the only 
guarantee is the presence of God

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in your life. 
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And if you want to keep that 
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to be obedient to it. 
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giving to you, and we just pray 
that it would be used for your 

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purposes in the name of Jesus, 
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I'm going to ask for Jake 
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You know, as he's making his way
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you guys coming out to the 
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I told them this on Wednesday. 
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easy it is to drift from the 
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It's not normally one big 
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right? 
Yes. 

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Jake is not from State Farm, but
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that's all right. 
I want to encourage you because,

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man, I got the next several 
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We've got some different people 
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My wife Cassie is going to be 
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And I say that because she's 
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teacher. 
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the the Lord gave me something 
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She just looked at me. 

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Some people, they're not 
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She feels like she's got 
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Oh, I see we have plenty of 
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Great. 
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Wednesday. 
And we'll unpack that as Cassie 

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shares a word. 
Jake here is going for the prize

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of winning the most times being 
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Jake is a missionary intern in 
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So he's here for a season and 
then he's back. 

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Like the honestly, like the 
mission field is like the mafia 

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for him. 
Every time he thinks he's out, 

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they pull him right back, right?
But we don't want you to get 

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whacked. 
So we're going to send you back 

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to to Guatemala. 
You know, I said this a couple 

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weeks ago. 
Jake was sharing a little bit. 

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Jake is a worthy investment if 
you ever do want to give and 

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help support him either one time
or recurring, he could use it 

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down there. 
I've talked with Pastor Steve 

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and Anna McDaniel, they have 
high hopes for him and, and, 

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and, and there's a lot of people
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him to get down there and to 
return. 

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And I think he's going to spend 
a significant amount of time 

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there. 
If you do want to give, you can 

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do it at libertync.org. 
He's got his own missionary fund

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under Jake Collier. 
It says nothing about State 

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Farm, but if you see Jake, it's 
this guy, right coming over 

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here. 
And what I want to do is I just 

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want y'all to lift up your 
hands. 

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He's going to fly out tomorrow. 
It's tomorrow today, today. 

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OK, you get there tomorrow. 
Yes, today is Charlotte, 

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tomorrow there. 
And we're just going to be 

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praying for safety and provision
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So, Father, we thank you so much
for Jake. 

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We thank you for a young man 
who's willing to put his life on

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hold to go and carry the gospel 
where you send him. 

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I'm already noticing a theme of 
obedience today, Father. 

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And so we just ask that your 
spirit would just cover him 

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that, that these would be smooth
flights, that even the the 

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passengers who have flight 
anxiety, they just catch some of

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that overflow of peace just 
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They don't even know it. 
God, would you just go with him,

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give him safe flights, let him 
get connected at the right time,

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give him the right conversations
and ahead of him. 

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I just pray that your spirit 
would be waiting for good work, 

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fruitful work for the ministry 
that the Kingdom would grow 

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because of Jake's obedience and 
Jake's faithfulness to you down 

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there. 
We ask you to bless living 

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water, adopt A child and the 
good work that they are doing. 

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And we thank you for all of this
in the name of Jesus, Amen. 

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Amen. 
Might need this in a minute. 

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All right, we could go to First 
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We'll start in the Old 
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And today we're going to talk 
about anger. 

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Any, any anybody with anger 
issues or, you know, somebody 

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with anger issues, right? 
How many of you have anger 

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issues? 
But you feel like most people 

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wouldn't assume you have anger 
issues. 

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There's so many of those, right.
Yeah. 

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Well, anger presents very 
differently. 

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Oh, I saw that. 
I saw someone point at Mama 

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Sandra. 
You are correct. 

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So I just want to, I just want 
to start by telling you 

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something that's fairly current 
in culture, right? 

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There are certain moments in 
history that are so shocking, 

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you remember them immediately. 
And one of those happened during

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the Academy Awards in 2022. 
Anybody already know where I'm 

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going with this very famous 
actor? 

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Will Smith was in the audience 
at the Academy Awards with his 

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wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, when 
Chris Rock walked on the stage 

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and presented an award. 
And of course, he's a comedian, 

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and he's known for really edgy 
comedy. 

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So as comedians often do during 
live shows, he began making 

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jokes about the celebrities in 
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And then he looked towards Jada 
and joked that he was looking 

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forward to seeing her in the 
next GI Jane movie. 

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Now, GI Jane was a movie 
starring Demi Moore back in the 

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90s. 
She shaved her head for it. 

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And Jada Pinkett Pinkett Smith 
also has a very short haircut. 

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So we joked about this because 
of her shaved head. 

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And at first, this is something 
I did not hear a lot of people 

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talk about, but you can look 
this up. 

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At first, Will Smith is 
laughing. 

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If you watch the video, he was 
laughing until he looked at his 

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wife. 
You can see it on the broadcast 

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when he looks over at Jada's 
face. 

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She wasn't laughing, but Jada 
Pinkett Smith has alopecia. 

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It's a condition that causes 
hair loss. 

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And so that joke had a really 
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her. 
So within seconds, everything 

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changed. 
How many of you all know that, 

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hey, you can insult me, but if 
you insult my spouse, you insult

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my kids. 
It's a different conversation. 

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Second hand offense is so much 
worse than first hand. 

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So Will Smith stood up, walked 
onto the stage in front of 

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millions of people and slapped 
Chris Rock across the face, then

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returned to his seat, shouting 
some words to keep his wife's 

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name out of his very descriptive
mouth. 

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The whole room fell silent 
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And here's why. 
Because nobody knew if that was 

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real or if it was staged. 
Nobody did when they first 

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watched it. 
But I'll tell you what, it only 

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took minutes for it to start 
going all around the news 

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cycles, and it's really not 
newsworthy. 

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But man, was it interesting. 
And so we all fell into it. 

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Anybody who says they never came
to gossip, you're wrong. 

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OK, But here's what ended up 
happening. 

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Careers got affected by this, 
including his. 

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He ended up resigning from the 
Academy and he's banned from 

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attending, attending the Oscars 
for 10 years. 

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Will Smith, if you're watching 
this, I've never been to the 

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Oscars. 
It gets better. 

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It's going to be OK. 
What should have been remembered

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as a night, by the way, that he 
won his first Academy Award. 

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Nobody talked about that. 
Now it was remembered because he

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slapped the taste out of 
somebody's mouth. 

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I don't want to just talk about 
the fact that it happened. 

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I want to talk about how quickly
it happened. 

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OK. 
Because one emotional response 

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overshadowed decades of 
incredible work. 

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How many of us have a favorite 
work of Will Smith, whether it's

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Fresh Prince of Bel Air, right, 
or Hitch or there's all sorts of

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things that he's done throughout
the years. 

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When they said they were going 
to cast a live version of the 

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Genie without Robin Williams 
available, I thought they'll 

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never get it right. 
They kind of got it right. 

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I don't know who could have done
it better than him. 

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None of that mattered in that 
one moment. 

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That one moment became what he 
was known for. 

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He was the meme of the month. 
And here's the thing. 

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Anger has a strange way of 
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justice. 
The problem is, the second you 

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try to put justice in your 
hands, the Lord says you can 

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have it. 
And it's really not justice. 

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We just call it that Anger 
narrows our vision until making 

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the other person feel what we 
feel seems not only reasonable 

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but necessary. 
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I'm just going to throw a 
hypothetical situation out 

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there. 
What if Will Smith had walked up

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there, grabbed the microphone 
and said, my wife has struggled 

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with alopecia and that's 
actually very insensitive to her

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and I'd appreciate it if you 
don't joke like that again. 

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Would it not have been a 
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But anger, anger has a way of 
sliding right on over into that 

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driver's seat, doesn't it? 
So if we're all willing to be 

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honest today, we've all 
experienced that moment. 

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Maybe not on live television in 
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we have seen the text or heard 
the comment, or we've slammed 

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the door before and we've raised
our voice at somebody. 

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And maybe we posted something 
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And then we normally end up with
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But it's not. 
Just so you know, it's never 

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really over as long as you leave
it unsettled. 

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That's exactly where we're going
to find David here in First 

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Samuel 25. 
You're going to see where he 

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makes a real angry decision. 
David has every reason to be 

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angry with Nabel. 
You're going to see this. 

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The question is on whether his 
anger is understandable. 

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The question is what he's about 
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So we'll start in verse 2. 
It says there was a wealthy man 

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from Mayon who owned property 
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He had 3000 sheep and 1000 
goats. 

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It was sheep shearing time. 
So busy season, right? 

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This man's name was Nabel and 
his wife Abigail was a sensible 

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and beautiful woman. 
But Nabel, a descendant of 

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Caleb, was crude and mean in all
his dealings. 

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When David heard that Nabel was 
shearing his sheep, he sent ten 

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of his young men to Carmel with 
a message for Nabel. 

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He said peace and prosperity to 
you, your family, and everything

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you own. 
I am told that it is sheep 

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shearing time. 
While your shepherds stayed 

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among us near Carmel, we never 
harmed them and nothing was ever

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stolen from them. 
Ask your own men and they will 

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tell you this is true. 
So would you be kind to us? 

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Since we have come at a time of 
celebration, please share any 

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provisions you might have on 
hand with us and with your 

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friend David. 
David's young men gave this 

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message to Nabel and David's 
name and they waited for a 

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reply. 
In other words, when he says 

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nothing bad happened, it wasn't 
just like, man, we could have 

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beat them up and we didn't. 
What he's saying is nobody dared

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come near your workers because 
we were there. 

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We kept them safe. 
This is something we did for 

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you. 
And by the way, the best that I 

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can tell, he did this without 
asking for anything in return in

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advance. 
It wasn't something that was 

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worked out. 
We'll keep your people safe. 

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And then, hey, there'd be a 
little something on the back end

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for us. 
He never made this deal. 

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He just did it. 
But this is a wealthy man, and 

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so he sends him a request. 
You're always welcome to make a 

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request. 
Verse 10. 

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Who is this fellow, David? 
Nabel sneered to the young men. 

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Who does this son of Jesse think
he is? 

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There are lots of servants these
days who run away from their 

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masters. 
In other words, you're not even 

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obedient to King Saul, he said. 
Should I take my bread and my 

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water and my meat that I've 
slaughtered from my shearers, 

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there's a lot of my stuff there,
and give it to a band of outlaws

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who came from who knows where. 
Well, if he knows his dad, he 

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probably knows where they came 
from. 

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Just throwing that out there. 
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and told Nabel, told him what 
Nabel had said. 

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David's reply? 
Get your swords. 

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As he strapped on his own And 
then 400 men started off with 

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David. 200 remained behind to 
guard their equipment. 

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Twice as many went on the March 
with weapons in hand, then 

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stayed behind to protect 
whatever they had. 

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He's mad, he's angry, and I do 
get why he's angry. 

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However, do you think there 
might be a little bit of an 

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overreaction here? 
Meanwhile, one of naval servants

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went to Abigail and told her. 
David sent messengers from the 

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wilderness to greet our master, 
but he screamed insults at them.

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These men have been very good to
us and we never suffered any 

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harm from them. 
Nothing was stolen the whole 

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time they were with us. 
Goes on and on with us. 

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So verse 18. 
Abigail wasted no time. 

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She quickly gathered 200 loaves 
of bread, 2 wineskins full of 

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wine, 5 sheep that had been 
slaughtered, nearly a bushel of 

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roasted grain, 100 clusters of 
raisins, and 200 fig cakes. 

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It's a lot of Newtons. 
She do they sell those anymore? 

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Do they? 
All right, Fig Newtons. 

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All right. 
A cookie is just a cookie. 

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But you know, fig Newtons are 
fruit and cake, so all right. 

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As she was riding her her 
donkey, listen to this in verse 

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20, as she's riding her donkey 
into a mountain ravine, she saw 

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David and his men coming toward 
her. 

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David had just been saying a lot
of good it did to help this 

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fellow. 
We protected his flocks in the 

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wilderness and nothing he owned 
was lost or stolen. 

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But he repaid me evil for good. 
Can you? 

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Do you hear that? 
Have you ever been repaid evil 

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for good? 
Yes. 

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Who has not? 
And if you're sitting there 

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saying I've never been repaid 
evil for good, God bless your 

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heart. 
You have. 

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I want your outlook OK. 
So David says, May God strike me

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and kill me if even one man of 
his household is still alive 

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tomorrow morning. 
When Abigail saw David she 

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quickly got off her donkey and 
bowed low before him. 

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She fell at his feet and said, I
accept all blame in this matter 

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my Lord, that's brave. 
Please listen to what I have to 

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say. 
I know Nabal is a wicked and 

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I'll tempered man. 
This is her husband. 

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I'm guessing this was not the 
first problem. 

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Please don't pay any attention 
to him. 

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He is a fool, just as his name 
suggests. 

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But I never even saw the young 
men you sent. 

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Now, my Lord, as surely as the 
Lord lives and you yourself 

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live, since the Lord has kept 
you from murdering and taking 

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vengeance into your own hands, 
let all your enemies and those 

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who try to harm you be as cursed
as Nabal is. 

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She already understands the way 
that this spiritual cosmic 

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justice system works. 
And here's a present that I, 

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your servant, have brought to 
you and your young men. 

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And she gives all of this food, 
right? 

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So verse 32, David replied to 
Abigail, Praise the Lord the God

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of Israel who has sent you to 
meet me today, and thank God for

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your good sense. 
Bless you for keeping me from 

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murder and carrying out 
vengeance with my own hands. 

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He could have played that down, 
but he knew what it was. 

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I swear by the Lord the God of 
Israel who's kept me from 

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hurting you, that if you had not
hurried out to meet me, not one 

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of Nabel's men would still be 
alive tomorrow morning. 

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And then David accepted her 
present and told her return home

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in peace. 
I've heard what you said. 

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We will not kill your husband. 
The Bible doesn't pretend that 

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David had no reason to be upset.
Nabel was very selfish. 

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He was very insulting. 
David and his men spent months 

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working and keeping them safe, 
and Nabel just saw a great deal.

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Sucker. 
Thanks for being willing to 

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help. 
Should have put it in writing. 

450
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:15,640
Nabel publicly humiliated him. 
He spoke like this in front of 

451
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:19,120
David's people. 
If we had been standing there in

452
00:22:19,120 --> 00:22:21,880
that day, most of us probably 
would have said David has every 

453
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,240
right to be angry. 
But that's what makes this story

454
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:27,040
so dangerous. 
I want you to think about every 

455
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:29,400
time somebody you love has come 
to you and you've said, yeah, 

456
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,640
you have every right to be 
angry. 

457
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:32,200
I don't blame you for feeling 
that way. 

458
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,000
That's not the problem. 
Of course he was angry. 

459
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,000
David's anger wasn't the 
problem, the same way that your 

460
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:40,640
anger is not the problem. 
His anger was telling him that 

461
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:42,240
something happened that wasn't 
right. 

462
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,920
We can all agree with this. 
Someone had been dishonest and 

463
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,560
disrespectful. 
Somebody had treated kindness 

464
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:52,240
with cruelty in return. 
Anger is a lot like a warning 

465
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,280
light on the dashboard of your 
car, and we'll talk about that 

466
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,320
in a moment. 
When that light comes on, the 

467
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:58,920
light isn't the problem. 
You don't solve it by putting 

468
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:04,720
electrical tape over the light. 
You could try, but I will tell 

469
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:07,000
you, in the same way, anger 
always reveals that something 

470
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:11,720
important has been violated. 
The problem with warning lights 

471
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,640
is that they're not designed to 
steer the car. 

472
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:15,520
But we do treat him that way, 
don't we? 

473
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,400
David doesn't stop to ask. 
Lord, why am I angry? 

474
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,840
You know how fast he reacted? 
It's said that he told them to 

475
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,880
get their swords, and it 
specifically says while he's 

476
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:28,360
putting on his sword, he did not
even put on his sword before. 

477
00:23:28,360 --> 00:23:30,520
He was like, and y'all are going
to help me with some murdering? 

478
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,640
He said it at the same time. 
He's ready to go. 

479
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,320
That's what's so amazing about 
how fast Abigail moved here. 

480
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,800
David asked for food. 
Nabel responded with an insult. 

481
00:23:41,120 --> 00:23:44,480
David would have responded with 
the death sentence of an entire 

482
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:47,400
family. 
Now, if he stopped and thought 

483
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,120
about it, would he maybe think 
of a little bit of a different 

484
00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:51,520
reaction? 
I'm sure he would have. 

485
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,600
But that's what anger does for 
all of us when it's unchecked. 

486
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,240
And you may say, well, it would 
never lead me to murder. 

487
00:23:57,360 --> 00:24:01,640
Well, we'll get there. 
Anger always whispers that 

488
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:05,200
because we've been hurt, the 
next thing that we must do is 

489
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,240
write. 
And because you feel like you're

490
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,680
the one who's been wronged, we 
often don't pay any attention to

491
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:14,680
the idea of whether or not the 
way that we respond is correct. 

492
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,600
So let's talk about that warning
light on the dash that we were 

493
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:19,400
talking about. 
You can be in Second Chronicles 

494
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:20,640
16. 
I'll be there in a moment. 

495
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:25,320
But first, I have to confess to 
you that when I was 18, man, I 

496
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:27,640
was pushing a Chrysler Lebaron. 
I don't want y'all to be 

497
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,920
jealous. 
My stepdad got it at an auction 

498
00:24:33,120 --> 00:24:34,960
when a little old lady passed 
away. 

499
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,520
And that was my car and I was 
driving it. 

500
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,400
And I'm going to tell you what 
though, when you get your first 

501
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,080
car, you don't really care what 
it is. 

502
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,360
I'm driving this thing around 
and that check engine light 

503
00:24:45,360 --> 00:24:49,280
popped up and I looked at it and
I know what it means. 

504
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,640
I mean, I know what it means. 
It means, you know, it's 

505
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,480
probably the oil change. 
It could be a few other things, 

506
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:55,200
but I know that it requires 
attention. 

507
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,200
That's why it's there. 
And I thought I'll get to it 

508
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,680
next week. 
Next week I get paid, so that's 

509
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,720
when I'll do it. 
Well, next week came, but I 

510
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:07,040
mean, I was 18, so there's other
things I wanted to buy. 

511
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:10,760
I mean, and then you start to do
this internal logic, right? 

512
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,600
What's the difference between 
one week and two weeks? 

513
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:15,360
It's not a big difference, 
right? 

514
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:21,080
So probably about six weeks 
later, here's the deal. 

515
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,360
Check engine lights on. 
It's been on for a long time. 

516
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:29,280
Nothing bad has happened until 
it did. 

517
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,000
And I'm driving on one of those 
back roads down there near 

518
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:36,840
Maysville, and all of a sudden I
hear this loud pop and this 

519
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,160
little puff of black smoke comes
out from under the hood. 

520
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:44,320
I pulled my car over. 
It's the last time I ever drove 

521
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,680
that car. 
I get it. 

522
00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:50,640
And especially in today's day 
and age, the economy is rough. 

523
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:52,680
Things cost money. 
They can be expensive. 

524
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,640
You know, it's more expensive, a
new car. 

525
00:25:59,120 --> 00:26:00,840
Sorry, my kids have been 
watching the prices right? 

526
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:07,240
So that light was actually my 
ally. 

527
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:11,160
That light was there to help me.
It was telling me that something

528
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,360
needed to be paid attention to, 
and I wish I had paid attention 

529
00:26:14,360 --> 00:26:17,200
to it, but that's the same way 
that anger works. 

530
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,840
Anger is never the engine 
itself. 

531
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,360
It's only the check engine 
light. 

532
00:26:20,360 --> 00:26:23,440
So anger has this way of telling
us that something deserves our 

533
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,280
attention. 
And it could be when somebody 

534
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,840
crosses a healthy boundary or 
there's an injustice that really

535
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,120
does occur, or you're carrying 
grief that you haven't 

536
00:26:30,120 --> 00:26:31,760
processed. 
Have you ever noticed that you 

537
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,440
tend to get more angry when 
you're exhausted? 

538
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,120
Like so there's a lot of 
information this light can be 

539
00:26:36,120 --> 00:26:38,880
showing you, but anger doesn't 
always tell you exactly what the

540
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:40,400
problem is. 
You have to get into the 

541
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,000
diagnostic of it. 
The mistake that most of us make

542
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:45,480
is treating the warning light 
like it's the whole problem. 

543
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,920
We either ignore it completely 
or we let it take control of the

544
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:50,800
steering wheel. 
And so we explode or we 

545
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,040
retaliate and we convince 
ourselves that because we feel 

546
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:54,920
angry, what we're about to do is
just fine. 

547
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,800
So where we're going to be in 
2nd Chronicle 16, we'll start in

548
00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:59,760
the very first verse. 
We're going to read a little bit

549
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,880
about King ASA. 
And before we read him and I dog

550
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,760
him out for his anger issues, I 
want you to know this. 

551
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:09,440
He was not always an angry man. 
In fact, if you read the first 

552
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:11,280
part of his life, he's one of 
the good kings. 

553
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:13,640
And there's not a lot of them 
listed through these chapters. 

554
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,240
He does lead spiritual reform 
all through the country of 

555
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:20,400
Judah, and he trusts God when 
the nation has impossible odds. 

556
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,960
When a massive Ethiopian army 
marches against him, God is the 

557
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,080
one who comes through. 
And then this moment happens 

558
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:29,440
where ASA doesn't rely on 
military strength. 

559
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,720
He doesn't even rely on the 
Lord. 

560
00:27:33,360 --> 00:27:37,080
Instead, he starts to rely on 
somebody outside of himself. 

561
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,000
There's another threat that's 
rising up against Judah, and 

562
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,400
we'll see this together. 
It says in the 36th year of 

563
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,160
Asa's reign, King Baisha of 
Israel invaded Judah and 

564
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,240
fortified Rama in order to 
prevent anyone from entering or 

565
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:51,960
leaving King Asa's territory in 
Judah. 

566
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,760
So this is a military story. 
ASA responds by removing the 

567
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,000
silver and gold from the 
treasuries of the Temple of the 

568
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:01,320
Lord and the royal palace. 
He sent it to King Ben Haddad 

569
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,760
from Aram, who was ruling in 
Damascus. 

570
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,920
Along with this message. 
Let there be a treaty between 

571
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,960
you and me, like the one between
your father and my father. 

572
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,160
See, I'm sending you silver and 
gold. 

573
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:17,080
Break your treaty with King 
Baisha of Israel so that he will

574
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,880
leave me alone. 
You all notice that he he takes 

575
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,200
the silver and gold out of the 
temple of the Lord. 

576
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,960
He's willing to take it from the
Lord and give it to somebody 

577
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,800
that he views as a valuable ally
to survive life. 

578
00:28:29,360 --> 00:28:33,760
OK, Ben Haddad agreed to King 
Asa's request and sent the 

579
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:35,920
commanders of the army to attack
the towns of Israel. 

580
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,840
They conquered the towns of 
Ijean, Dan, Abelbeth, Maika and 

581
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,720
all the the store cities in 
Naphtali. 

582
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,560
And as soon as by ASA of Israel 
heard what was happening, he 

583
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,000
abandoned the project of 
fortifying Rama and he stopped 

584
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,320
all work on it. 
Then King ASA called out the men

585
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:53,480
of Judah to carry away the 
building stones and Timbers that

586
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,160
by ASA had been using to fortify
it. 

587
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,280
ASA used these materials to 
fortify the towns of Giba and 

588
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:00,160
Mizpah. 
So it looks like it worked, 

589
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,080
didn't it? 
And it did. 

590
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,400
I mean, there's not A twist 
coming as far as that goes. 

591
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,120
At first, King Asa's plan 
appears to work. 

592
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,960
The enemy retreats, everything's
fine. 

593
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,880
And then God sends a prophet. 
When God sends a prophet, right?

594
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,080
Because prophets, they tend to 
have a message that we don't 

595
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,520
want to hear. 
So at that time Hanan and I, the

596
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:24,280
seer, came to King ASA and told 
him, because you have put your 

597
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:28,200
trust in the king of of Aram 
instead of in the Lord your God,

598
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,160
you missed your chance to 
destroy the army of the king of 

599
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,840
Aram. 
Wait a second, Is this not where

600
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,520
he put the gold and silver and 
said, can you help protect us? 

601
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,680
You mean the very thing he 
invested in is now going to 

602
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:47,560
become a problem for him? 
Don't you remember what happened

603
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,600
to The Ethiopians and Libyans 
and their vast army and all of 

604
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,080
their Chariots and charioteers? 
At that time? 

605
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,600
You relied on the Lord, and He 
handed them over to you. 

606
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,840
The eyes of the Lord search the 
whole earth in order to 

607
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,320
strengthen those whose hearts 
are fully committed to Him. 

608
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:04,320
Jake, don't you ever lose what 
you got. 

609
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,600
Right now, as you go down to 
Guatemala, you stay fully 

610
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,560
committed and He will strengthen
you. 

611
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:10,640
This country, that one or 
another. 

612
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,600
He says what a fool you've been.
From now on you'll be at war. 

613
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,160
So how would you react? 
You put your strength for the 

614
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,480
first time in an outside source 
to keep you safe. 

615
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,960
You just found out from a 
prophet of the Lord that this 

616
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:26,440
outside source is now going to 
be a problem for you. 

617
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,760
I feel like it's reasonable to 
say I need to fall at the feet 

618
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,200
of the Lord. 
I need to go to the altar, I 

619
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:35,680
need to repent. 
I did something wrong. 

620
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,880
And by the way, Hen and I thank 
you so much for giving me 

621
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:42,920
critical information. 
And yet verse 10 says ASA became

622
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,960
so angry with Hen and I for 
saying this that he threw him 

623
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:48,800
into prison and put him in 
stocks. 

624
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:53,440
At that time, ASA also began to 
oppress some of his people. 

625
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,600
Isn't that interesting? 
Have you ever gotten angry at 

626
00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:00,280
somebody that told you an 
uncomfortable truth and then 

627
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,320
they get put into a prison, 
maybe not a literal one, but 

628
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,480
they get put into like a mental 
prison. 

629
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,240
You all of a sudden you take 
them and you put them in this. 

630
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:09,960
There's a bar there and they no 
longer have access. 

631
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,880
And then it says, then around 
this time, King ASA started to 

632
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,240
oppress his people. 
So then the other people, they 

633
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:18,440
start to catch it too. 
When we get mad at somebody for 

634
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,480
pointing out something that 
needs to be pointed out in our 

635
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,560
life, the next thing that 
happens is they're not the only 

636
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,200
ones that catch our anger and 
our fury. 

637
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,280
Those in our circle do to your 
spouse, your kids, your friends,

638
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,680
whatever. 
Your anger bleeds out to them. 

639
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,520
And we've all been there. 
I had a day this week where I 

640
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,200
had to apologize to the kids 
because I had had a rough day. 

641
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,280
And then just the wrong comment 
at the wrong time. 

642
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:41,720
And I'm like, I don't really, 
you know, And the way that I 

643
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,760
spoke was not appropriate. 
And so I had to say I'm sorry. 

644
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,400
And I know you're like, man, you
just told the story the other 

645
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:48,840
week about having to apologize 
to your kids. 

646
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:50,480
You sound like you have to 
apologize all the time. 

647
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:54,680
Yes, and it's healthy. 
I don't know, maybe you get it 

648
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,680
right all the time. 
Teach me your ways. 

649
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,240
But when I hurt somebody that I 
love, my first thought is, I'm 

650
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,360
sorry and not how do I get off 
the hook? 

651
00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:07,200
Did you catch what happened with
ASA there? 

652
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,600
He's angry at the person that's 
exposing the problem. 

653
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,480
He's mad at the check engine 
light. 

654
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,880
God was so good. 
He could have just sent 

655
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:21,760
judgement, but he sent a word. 
What you do when that word of 

656
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,400
the Lord comes to you is very 
crucial and very important. 

657
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,200
Instead of asking Lord what are 
you trying to show me, he throws

658
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,280
a prophet into prison and starts
oppressing his own people. 

659
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,200
One of the greatest dangers of 
anger is that sometimes the 

660
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,320
thing that you're angry about 
isn't actually the thing that 

661
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,480
you're angry about. 
Talked about this before, it's 

662
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:44,080
so helpful and it's used a lot 
in military areas too. 

663
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,400
So probably a lot of you know 
this, but are you familiar with 

664
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:48,720
those 4 letters? 
HALT, HALT. 

665
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,920
So what a lot of people will 
teach you is this. 

666
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,160
If you feel angry, don't make an
important decision or an 

667
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,440
important reaction. 
Whenever you are hungry, angry, 

668
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,880
lonely or tired, which one is it
for you? 

669
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:08,440
Which one is the worst, hungry, 
angry, lonely or tired? 

670
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:13,400
For me, it's lonely. 
If I'm feeling isolated and 

671
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:17,800
alone, then emotionally I feel 
like I'm in a corner and I have 

672
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,440
to defend myself. 
It's not a good place for me, 

673
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,080
not a good time for anybody, to 
be honest with you. 

674
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,680
For some people who may or may 
not live in my house, it's when 

675
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:32,760
it's when they're hungry. 
I said it in a way that they'll 

676
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,640
never know. 
All right? 

677
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,840
Hungry, angry, lonely or tired. 
Think about this. 

678
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,000
They are when your emotions are 
raw and you are not going to 

679
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,800
think straight, Right. 
I'll give you this example. 

680
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:49,760
How many of y'all know the 
universal symbol of a knife 

681
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:54,800
sitting like this on the sink? 
What does this mean? 

682
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:57,760
They might make another 
sandwich. 

683
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:03,880
Yeah, they don't know. 
Yeah, I hate it because 

684
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,440
sometimes there's another 
sandwich and sometimes it's two 

685
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,000
days and the peanut butter has 
crusted. 

686
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,560
OK. 
Can you not can this is just 

687
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,040
hypothetical. 
Can you can you not just wash 

688
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,239
the peanut butter off and if you
want another sandwich, make 

689
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:19,679
another one? 
Tell you what, We're not rich, 

690
00:34:19,679 --> 00:34:22,800
but we have more than one knife.
I didn't mean to brag up here. 

691
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:24,159
We have more than one butter 
knife. 

692
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,320
Here's the thing. 
If you get mad over something 

693
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,760
like that, the issue's not the 
knife. 

694
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:36,159
If you get mad because the spoon
that your kids used for cereal 

695
00:34:36,159 --> 00:34:38,760
is still laying on the counter, 
the issue's not the spoon. 

696
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,199
The issue's probably not even 
the fact that the the kids left 

697
00:34:43,199 --> 00:34:45,719
it there. 
Now you may say, well, you don't

698
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,199
understand, it's been happening 
for months. 

699
00:34:47,199 --> 00:34:48,800
Cool. 
What you just told me is the 

700
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:50,960
issue is you feel disrespected 
because they're not listening to

701
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,280
your house rule. 
It's not the spoon. 

702
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,920
It's not the moment, OK? 
So you have to address the 

703
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,040
actual thing that's happening 
and not the symptom. 

704
00:34:58,040 --> 00:34:59,920
A lot of us, it's like we're 
coughing. 

705
00:34:59,920 --> 00:35:01,920
It's like we have congestion and
we're just putting a Band-Aid on

706
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,240
our throat. 
And we're trying to hope and 

707
00:35:04,240 --> 00:35:05,800
wish and pray that it's going to
become better. 

708
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,360
But it's not going to become 
better until you address what is

709
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,080
causing the underlying issue. 
And we're going to talk about 

710
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:12,960
some of these. 
Unfortunately, that peanut 

711
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,400
butter knife, that spoon, these 
become the hills that we're 

712
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,360
willing to die on. 
I'm sick of him never saying 

713
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:20,360
he's sorry when he hurts my 
feelings. 

714
00:35:21,240 --> 00:35:26,000
OK, where does that come from? 
Do you feel unseen by the person

715
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,720
that loves you the most? 
Where does it come from? 

716
00:35:28,720 --> 00:35:31,520
What is the underlying issue? 
There's always something that is

717
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:34,000
deeper. 
Don't get mad at the anger, that

718
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:37,480
is just your warning light. 
If anger is the warning light. 

719
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:41,000
Maybe one of the most practical 
questions you and I can ask is 

720
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,800
what is my anger trying to tell 
me? 

721
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,280
OK, so everybody here, I want 
you to know this is an 

722
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,400
incredibly practical message 
this morning. 

723
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,440
There is nobody, I think, in 
this room that it would not 

724
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,560
apply to. 
I want you to think about this. 

725
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:54,000
Here are some options. 
Sometimes it's just revealing 

726
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,360
that you've got an unresolved 
wound or hurt. 

727
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,960
Maybe you've got something you 
thought was healed, right? 

728
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,480
Right now I'm in a season. 
I feel like my dad issues are 

729
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,720
pretty well healed. 
But the last time I said I think

730
00:36:05,720 --> 00:36:07,600
I'm done with dad issues, a dad 
issue came up. 

731
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,840
So I'm not going to tell you 
that they're all healed, but 

732
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,280
I've got father issues. 
And most of the time, if 

733
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,400
somebody makes a joke about it, 
I'm fine. 

734
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,640
And every so often there's one 
thing that'll be said and it 

735
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,520
just hits a certain way. 
Now, I can snap and get angry, 

736
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,840
or I can say, well, 30 times 
that they were around that I 

737
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:26,800
heard a joke like that and 
didn't react poorly. 

738
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:29,880
No wonder. 
No wonder they thought it would 

739
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,240
be OK to make that joke. 
But this time the real problem 

740
00:36:33,240 --> 00:36:35,240
is I had an unresolved hurt. 
Does that make sense? 

741
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:39,040
OK, sometimes you have an 
unresolved wound or a hurt that 

742
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,840
has nothing to do with the 
person that you just got angry 

743
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,800
with. 
Every time I do premarital 

744
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,200
counseling for a young couple, 
well, just for a couple, the 

745
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:47,960
first thing I try to talk about 
is baggage. 

746
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,880
Oh, man, a lot of times I've had
people say I don't think I have 

747
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,680
baggage or I think I've worked 
through my baggage. 

748
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,560
OK, well, let's just give it a 
shot just in case. 

749
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,360
Baggage can come from 
relationship with your parents 

750
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:04,120
growing up, even good parents. 
It can come from former 

751
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:05,680
relationships, the way that you 
were treated. 

752
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:07,880
It can come from a workplace. 
It can come from identity 

753
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:08,920
issues. 
It come from all sorts of 

754
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:10,360
things. 
So let's talk about your 

755
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:10,920
baggage. 
You know why? 

756
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,800
Because if you're going to be 
married to somebody, guess what?

757
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:14,520
They just inherited a set of 
baggage too. 

758
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,480
You didn't get that new car, but
you got a new set of baggage and

759
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:22,480
they're full. 
But the cool thing is, you help 

760
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,640
them carry theirs. 
They'll help you carry yours. 

761
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:26,880
At least that's the way it's 
supposed to work. 

762
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,840
Sometimes it also reveals what 
you're afraid of. 

763
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:34,000
Sometimes somebody will make a 
joke and it will actually just 

764
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,680
show what your fear is. 
Parents will often experience 

765
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,640
this because a teenager will 
come home 30 minutes later. 

766
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:43,000
They won't answer their phone. 
And what is the Beverly Goldberg

767
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:44,760
thing? 
You could have been face down in

768
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:48,640
a ditch somewhere. 
Gosh, if you ever saw that 

769
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,880
episode of The Goldbergs, one 
time one of them ends up face 

770
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:52,480
down in a ditch. 
And as he gets it, because, Oh 

771
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:58,720
my gosh, my mom was right, 
Sometimes the fear is what's 

772
00:37:58,720 --> 00:38:01,280
making you angry. 
So when they come in, what they 

773
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,600
don't need is a louder voice. 
They need to get the message. 

774
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:05,920
But the louder voice doesn't 
make them realize how much you 

775
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,480
love them and you're afraid of 
losing them. 

776
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:10,840
But that underlying fear is what
drove the anger. 

777
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,120
Does that make sense? 
So parents experience this a lot

778
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,400
of times, and sometimes it just 
reveals exhaustion. 

779
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,480
I touched on this earlier. 
This is what happened with ASA. 

780
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:21,520
I'm convinced he wasn't really 
angry at the prophet. 

781
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,320
He was angry because the prophet
exposed something. 

782
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:26,960
He didn't want to admit. 
He had all of these things 

783
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:28,480
happening. 
He had war with Israel. 

784
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,160
He had just put his hope in 
somebody else. 

785
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,360
And now the person who put his 
hope in his, turns out they're 

786
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:34,640
going to be an enemy. 
And now this, this prophet's 

787
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,440
probably going to be smug. 
He's going to rub it in my face,

788
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:38,400
like all of it. 
It's just sometimes you feel so 

789
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,880
overwhelmed that you just become
emotionally depleted and 

790
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,480
exhausted. 
But you know what that also ties

791
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:47,680
into is our pride. 
It's our pride. 

792
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,560
If that nation of Judah is a 
company, guess who's the CEO? 

793
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,160
The king and the prophet comes 
in. 

794
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:59,240
He's like I found a flaw in the 
system. 

795
00:38:59,880 --> 00:39:03,200
Straight to jail, points out 
pride. 

796
00:39:03,720 --> 00:39:06,840
Couple weeks ago on Father's Day
when I shared that story about 

797
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,560
how I diminished my son's 
emotions when he beat me at 

798
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,680
Mario Kart, what I should have 
asked myself is what is my anger

799
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,760
right now telling me? 
What it's telling me is I wasn't

800
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,560
ready for this. 
I wasn't ready to be defeated by

801
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:21,320
my son at 9:00. 
But I'm so proud, right? 

802
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:22,680
I want him to be better at 
everything. 

803
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,080
I mean I want him to know the 
Lord better than me before I 

804
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:26,760
leave this earth. 
I want him to be better at Mario

805
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,960
Kart and everything in between. 
What it was actually exposing 

806
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:35,200
was my pride in that moment when
instead of exposing my pride, 

807
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,040
what I should have done is shown
how proud I was of Him. 

808
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,480
And I did make it right. 
But you don't get the moment 

809
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,680
back, do you? 
Now those are all negatives. 

810
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:48,040
But the other thing it can show 
you sometimes is when a boundary

811
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,880
has been crossed. 
And I want to be clear on this 

812
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:53,200
because yes, a lot of times we 
have genuine real anger over 

813
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:56,880
real things and sometimes a 
boundary has been crossed. 

814
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,680
So even then I would just tell 
you the warning light doesn't 

815
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:03,320
tell you how to respond. 
It just is telling you something

816
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,520
deserves your attention. 
The first question should almost

817
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,600
never be, what do I need to say?
It should be Lord, What are you 

818
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:12,360
trying to show me? 
If you get angry, don't respond 

819
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:14,560
until you have a chance to pray 
if you can help it. 

820
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,520
Healthy people don't ignore the 
warning lights, but they also 

821
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,160
don't obey them either. 
They just investigate them. 

822
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,200
OK, let's talk about righteous 
anger. 

823
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:23,720
Let's talk about righteous 
anger. 

824
00:40:23,720 --> 00:40:25,680
What happens when you actually 
have righteous anger? 

825
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,800
Well, the cool thing is, believe
it or not, your anger, if it is 

826
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:31,120
justified and it comes from the 
Lord and handled the right way, 

827
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:35,240
it actually wants restoration. 
And you may say like, well, I'm 

828
00:40:35,240 --> 00:40:36,880
one of those. 
Once you get me mad, you know, 

829
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,760
once you cross me, then we're 
done for life. 

830
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:42,000
I'm so sorry to hear that. 
You should, you should work on 

831
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,120
that. 
And by the way, there are times 

832
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,720
that Jesus says shake that dust 
off your sandal and move on. 

833
00:40:47,720 --> 00:40:50,760
I'm not saying there's not a 
place for that, but not until 

834
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,040
you've tried this. 
OK, after everything that we 

835
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:55,320
talked about this morning, I, I 
want to make it very clear on 

836
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,120
this. 
Anger itself, again, is not 

837
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,960
sinful. 
Throughout Scripture, we can see

838
00:40:59,960 --> 00:41:03,160
that God experiences anger and 
God is not going to sin, right? 

839
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,720
So when you start looking 
closely at what provokes God's 

840
00:41:05,720 --> 00:41:07,640
anger, you'll notice something 
that's important. 

841
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,440
He never gets angry because his 
pride has been wounded. 

842
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,920
He never becomes angry because 
someone insulted him on social 

843
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,960
media. 
He never gets angry because 

844
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,440
someone failed to appreciate him
or bruised his ego. 

845
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:24,600
The only thing that consistently
stirs the anger of God is when 

846
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,440
sin destroys something that he 
loves. 

847
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:31,000
And God became angry when the 
vulnerable were exploited all 

848
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,120
throughout scripture. 
He becomes angry when justice is

849
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,040
perverted. 
He becomes really angry when 

850
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,080
people use religion to oppress 
people instead of restore them. 

851
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,880
And he becomes angry when sin 
destroys the image of God and 

852
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:45,760
people he created and loves. 
I'm coming to find that this is 

853
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:47,960
really weird to me, man. 
I can sit across the table from 

854
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:50,680
somebody who votes differently, 
who believes that everything I 

855
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:52,360
believe politically is wrong, 
and I'm fine. 

856
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:54,960
I can sit across the table from 
somebody who lives a different 

857
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:57,360
lifestyle and I'm fine. 
I'm not saying I won't talk 

858
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,600
about my beliefs. 
It just doesn't make me angry. 

859
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,720
It just doesn't make me angry 
because the second I start to 

860
00:42:02,720 --> 00:42:05,960
associate anger with somebody, I
start to diminish the humanity, 

861
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,920
the image of God and that 
person, and they become nothing 

862
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,960
more than a target to justify 
how I'm feeling. 

863
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:15,440
It's just another way that we 
can use people even though we're

864
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,360
not supposed to use them at all.
Let me let me point it out to 

865
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,080
you this way. 
You should get angry sometimes. 

866
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:22,720
I had somebody tell me one time,
I don't think that humans can 

867
00:42:22,720 --> 00:42:25,960
have righteous anger. 
OK, I want you to think about it

868
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:26,960
this way. 
If you walked into a room and 

869
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:32,560
you saw somebody abusing a child
and you felt nothing, we would 

870
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:34,400
not call that emotional 
maturity. 

871
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,280
We would call it apathy. 
And so there are moments where 

872
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,680
love should become angry because
something precious is being 

873
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,960
violated. 
Healthy anger does not exist 

874
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:48,840
because someone hurt my ego. 
Healthy anger exists because 

875
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:50,440
something valuable is being 
destroyed. 

876
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,640
Big difference. 
And so there's one category that

877
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,760
we talked about in the last 
point that stands apart from all

878
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,360
the others, and it's when a 
boundary has genuinely been 

879
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:01,400
crossed. 
So the clearest answer to that 

880
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,560
question is to show you when 
Jesus got angry. 

881
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:05,680
And man, Christians, we love 
this one. 

882
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,640
I've seen tattoos of this one. 
Let's talk about Jesus flipping 

883
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:11,600
some tables. 
We'll start in John chapter 2. 

884
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,720
Not everybody knows this, but 
Jesus didn't flip tables one 

885
00:43:15,720 --> 00:43:18,680
time. 
It was 2 times, once towards the

886
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:20,680
beginning of his earthly 
ministry, once towards the end. 

887
00:43:20,720 --> 00:43:22,880
A lot of people get it confused 
because as you read through all 

888
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:24,800
the accounts of the gospels, it 
tends to all get jumbled 

889
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:27,640
together, but they were both 
similar accounts that happened 

890
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:31,320
at different times. 
In John chapter 2, starting at 

891
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:33,960
verse 13, it says it was nearly 
the time for the Jewish Passover

892
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:35,960
celebration. 
So Jesus went to Jerusalem. 

893
00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:39,280
In the temple area He saw 
merchants selling cattle, sheep,

894
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,880
and doves for sacrifices. 
He also saw dealers at tables 

895
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:44,880
exchanging foreign money. 
How many of you all have gotten 

896
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:48,400
caught within a foreign currency
exchange before? 

897
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:54,040
This is an old practice. 
OK, Jesus made a whip from some 

898
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:58,400
ropes. 
No, that's not what the rope is 

899
00:43:58,400 --> 00:43:59,600
for. 
I just wanted to stress somebody

900
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:00,160
out. 
All right? 

901
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:03,440
Jesus made a whip from some 
ropes and chased them out of the

902
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:05,400
temple. 
He drove out the sheep and the 

903
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:07,560
cattle, scattered the money 
changers coins all over the 

904
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:09,640
floor and turned over their 
tables. 

905
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,240
And then going over to the 
people who sold doves, he told 

906
00:44:12,240 --> 00:44:14,680
them, get these things out of 
here. 

907
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:18,080
Stop turning my father's house 
into a marketplace. 

908
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:21,360
Then his disciples, remember 
this prophecy from the 

909
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,800
Scriptures. 
Passion for God's house will 

910
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:26,160
consume me. 
That's from Psalm 69, verse 9, 

911
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:31,640
in case you're curious. 
So here's the thing, I had 

912
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,840
somebody ask me like, are you 
comfortable selling T-shirts at 

913
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,240
church? 
Yes, I'm comfortable selling 

914
00:44:35,240 --> 00:44:37,360
T-shirts at church. 
What we do is we break even and 

915
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:38,600
we tell you where the money's 
going to go. 

916
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:39,680
It's going to go into a 
ministry. 

917
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:42,600
These are people that were 
looking at people's spiritual 

918
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,960
journey and finding a way to 
turn a profit. 

919
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:48,280
They were being spiritual 
entrepreneurs, not trying to 

920
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,120
service people of faith and 
provide a need. 

921
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:54,200
They were trying to gain and try
to to grow their own funds from 

922
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:55,320
it. 
OK, big difference. 

923
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,080
John places this event near the 
beginning of Jesus's ministry, 

924
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,000
and it's very interesting 
because he sees a place that was

925
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,280
designed for prayer to be a 
marketplace. 

926
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,160
It wasn't just that the temple 
or it was near there. 

927
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:10,360
This was literally a portion of 
the temple that was set aside 

928
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,800
for prayer. 
And when he showed up to this 

929
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:17,000
place expecting to pray, 
instead, what he saw was, hey, 

930
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,960
don't trust that guy. 
That guy's got a bad deal. 

931
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:22,280
I've got a better deal on cattle
for you or people that will 

932
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:25,040
exchange your currency so you 
can be made right with the Lord 

933
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:28,160
for a price. 
These people are not doing 

934
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:31,320
things that are designed to help
others grow closer to the Lord. 

935
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,440
They're doing things to actually
make themselves be a barrier 

936
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:38,040
between somebody and accessing 
the Lord. 

937
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,720
Because if they're the barrier 
and you have to go through them,

938
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:45,360
then they get to charge a price.
Sounds pretty ugly when you put 

939
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:48,280
it that way, right? 
Some people stop reading right 

940
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:49,840
there and they say, see, Jesus 
got mad. 

941
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:53,280
Sometimes it's so much more than
that because this wasn't an 

942
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:56,640
emotional outburst. 
This was a deliberate act. 

943
00:45:57,600 --> 00:45:59,640
And if you were wondering about 
that, then why did he do it 

944
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:03,080
again three years later? 
Matthew 21, starting in verse 

945
00:46:03,080 --> 00:46:07,080
12, it sounds so similar. 
It says Jesus entered the temple

946
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:10,240
and began to drive out all the 
people buying and selling 

947
00:46:10,240 --> 00:46:12,760
animals for sacrifice. 
He knocked over the tables of 

948
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:15,440
the money changers and the 
chairs of those selling doves 

949
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:19,240
and he said to them, the 
scriptures declare my temple 

950
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:22,080
will be called a House of 
prayer, but you have turned it 

951
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:25,680
into a den of thieves. 
Now listen to this. 

952
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,480
This is just days before he 
would end up having his mock 

953
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:32,760
trial and get crucified. 
After this, it says the blind 

954
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:38,040
and the lame came to him in the 
temple, in the temple and he 

955
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:40,080
healed them. 
The leading priests and the 

956
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:43,360
teachers of religious law, they 
saw these wonderful miracles and

957
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:45,840
heard even the children in the 
temple shouting praise God for 

958
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:48,560
the Son of David. 
But the leaders were indignant. 

959
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:50,600
That's a fancy way of saying 
angry. 

960
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,800
They asked Jesus, do you hear 
what these children are saying? 

961
00:46:56,800 --> 00:47:00,520
Yes, Jesus replied, haven't you 
ever read the Scriptures? 

962
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:04,160
For they say you have taught 
children and infants to give you

963
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,160
praise. 
And then he returned to Bethany 

964
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,240
where he stayed overnight. 
So now we're here at the end of 

965
00:47:08,240 --> 00:47:11,160
Jesus's mystery or ministry, and
you can see that three years 

966
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:12,920
have passed. 
His heart has not changed. 

967
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,960
He still refuses to allow God's 
house to be a place where people

968
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:17,640
are exploited instead of 
welcomed. 

969
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:19,920
And just before we talked about 
these people who are putting 

970
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,240
themselves between the Lord and,
and their lives, they were 

971
00:47:23,240 --> 00:47:25,440
becoming the middle man. 
And then you have, if anybody 

972
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:27,120
could be a middle man for the 
Lord, it's Jesus. 

973
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,280
Is he not our, our great 
counsellor? 

974
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,280
He is our great conduit. 
He's the one that became sin so 

975
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:34,680
that you and I could be looked 
at as the righteousness of God. 

976
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:38,200
He is our advocate. 
He is the one who goes to bat 

977
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,200
for us. 
And you know what he does? 

978
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,200
He pushes all the false middle 
men out of the way. 

979
00:47:43,720 --> 00:47:45,680
And it says right after that it 
said the blind and the lame 

980
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:47,240
started coming to him in the 
temple. 

981
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,520
Jesus didn't just clear the 
temple so he could make a point.

982
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:55,680
He cleared the temple so that 
broken people could get back to 

983
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:58,080
God again. 
And that's the difference 

984
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:00,240
between righteous anger and 
self-righteous anger. 

985
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:03,360
If you get angry about something
that's been violated, but it's 

986
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:06,840
because your ego has been 
violated, there will be nothing 

987
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,680
that makes reconciliation or 
restoration happen. 

988
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:11,600
It will not be a benefit for 
them or for you. 

989
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,600
If you can say, man, I love you,
but this wasn't right and I need

990
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:19,840
you to know that and you can 
still work towards restoration. 

991
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:22,840
There's a lot of God in that 
act. 

992
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:24,600
And you might say, well, that's 
difficult. 

993
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:28,160
I don't know if I could do that.
Yeah, I know it's difficult, but

994
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:30,560
God frequently leads us into 
places where we need him or we 

995
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,280
can't do it. 
I wonder how many of our angry 

996
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,440
moments would look different if 
we asked that same question 

997
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:37,800
before we responded. 
Instead of saying, how do I get 

998
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,320
even or how do I make sure that 
they know I'm hurting? 

999
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:45,320
What if we just said, how can 
the situation move me one step 

1000
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:50,400
closer to you? 
God, before we move on, I have 

1001
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:54,560
asked for two volunteers and I 
promised I wouldn't embarrass 

1002
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:58,040
them too much. 
So, Dennis, George, aren't you 

1003
00:48:58,040 --> 00:49:06,500
coming up here? 
What we have here is a rope that

1004
00:49:06,500 --> 00:49:10,420
is normally used to help the 
little guys help the help the 

1005
00:49:10,420 --> 00:49:12,620
kids, you know, as they manage 
their way up and down the hall 

1006
00:49:12,620 --> 00:49:14,140
and they don't get lost. 
They hold on to this rope. 

1007
00:49:14,220 --> 00:49:17,620
Well, we're going to do a little
classic game of tug of war, 

1008
00:49:17,940 --> 00:49:23,080
right? 
But don't start until I tell you

1009
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,600
to, right? 
So this is what's really 

1010
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:29,520
important. 
I don't want you to go until I 

1011
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:33,640
say go, but you can round it up.
Do whatever you need to. 

1012
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:36,560
You got to prep. 
Do not knock over these false 

1013
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:39,600
plants, right? 
You're not the one that will pay

1014
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:40,400
for that. 
I am. 

1015
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,920
So don't do that, OK? 
You guys plant your feet and 

1016
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:46,840
you're ready. 
You see this little black line 

1017
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:48,600
right here? 
Let's make sure that's about as 

1018
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:51,320
middle as possible. 
If you cross that line, then 

1019
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:55,080
you're the one that loses. 
OK, Ready. 

1020
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,640
Set. 
Hang on. 

1021
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:05,600
Can you lean the other way? 
Brace with the other foot? 

1022
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:09,520
I don't like it. 
Give me this. 

1023
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,240
All right, We're going to do 
something different. 

1024
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:16,040
All right? 
Do y'all want to see how to win 

1025
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:18,600
any argument? 
You want to see how to how to 

1026
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:20,360
win? 
All right, I'm going to show you

1027
00:50:20,360 --> 00:50:24,280
this. 
Take notes on this. 

1028
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,520
All right Dennis, head over 
there. 

1029
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:30,960
Yep, grab it with George. 
I'm going to show you how to 

1030
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:35,120
win. 
Tell me when y'all are ready. 

1031
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:39,680
All right, you see that black 
spot right there, right? 

1032
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:43,960
OK, ready. 
Set Go. 

1033
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:52,680
I won. 
Let me show you why. 

1034
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:56,240
I'm just going to give you guys 
names here, OK? 

1035
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:58,240
All right? 
Right here. 

1036
00:50:59,240 --> 00:51:07,120
This is an insult, OK? 
And right here. 

1037
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:11,880
This is a lack of appreciation. 
OK? 

1038
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:19,360
Now, just for an illustration. 
OK, guys, now listen, here's the

1039
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:21,400
thing. 
In life, these are going to 

1040
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:24,840
happen to you. 
And as soon as somebody insults 

1041
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:26,280
you, what do you want to do 
back? 

1042
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:30,120
Insult them back? 
When somebody then doesn't 

1043
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:31,760
appreciate you, how do you 
respond? 

1044
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:37,080
Maybe it's a cold shoulder. 
Maybe it's a oh, I'll make them 

1045
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:39,640
ask. 
Well, that'll show them. 

1046
00:51:40,240 --> 00:51:42,240
You could just say I felt 
unappreciated when you did that.

1047
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:44,080
Hey, man, that actually wasn't 
too funny to me. 

1048
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:47,280
But every time one of these 
things pulls on you, you've got 

1049
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:50,000
the impulse to pull back. 
And here's what ends up 

1050
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:52,520
happening over time. 
You're stuck in this tug of war 

1051
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:56,440
with somebody else. 
Both of your dashboard lights 

1052
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,640
are on. 
Neither of your cars are fixed. 

1053
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:02,720
So you're just going to keep 
going until just like my old 

1054
00:52:02,720 --> 00:52:06,320
Chrysler Lebaron, and all of a 
sudden, something is so broken, 

1055
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:12,200
you never drive it again. 
But instead, we don't fight 

1056
00:52:12,200 --> 00:52:14,200
back. 
I'm just not going to engage in 

1057
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:16,280
it anymore. 
I can express when something 

1058
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,880
bothers me, and I'd love for you
to attend to it. 

1059
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:20,520
I wish you'd appreciate me more,
George. 

1060
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:22,920
I wish you stopped insulting me.
Dennis. 

1061
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:25,360
Right. 
OK, I'm just kidding. 

1062
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:26,840
These are good men. 
That's why I asked them to do 

1063
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:28,000
this. 
Can you thank them for helping 

1064
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:34,440
me today? 
OK. 

1065
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:38,800
I really hyped it up for them. 
I was like, I need somebody 

1066
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,760
who's willing to, like, fall 
down because you might not win. 

1067
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:45,400
And they're like, I'll win. 
Really set them up there. 

1068
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:48,240
Here's the thing. 
One of the hardest things about 

1069
00:52:48,240 --> 00:52:51,320
anger is that in the moment, 
every response feels justified. 

1070
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:53,640
And maybe you would say, well, I
wouldn't hurl an insult back. 

1071
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:57,480
OK, so you wouldn't. 
So let's say the insult who will

1072
00:52:57,480 --> 00:53:01,480
not be named insults you. 
And you say I'm too good to 

1073
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:04,440
insult them back. 
But instead what you do is you 

1074
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,200
go over to your friend and 
you're like, let me tell you 

1075
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:10,040
about this Jack wagon. 
Let me tell you about what they 

1076
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:11,680
did. 
You go to somebody who's going 

1077
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,480
to understand you and get it, 
and you just start bad mouthing 

1078
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:16,080
them. 
Here's the problem. 

1079
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:19,440
You're still pulling your tug of
war is with anger. 

1080
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,880
It's not with another person. 
We don't war against flesh and 

1081
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:25,200
blood. 
The enemy's out there using 

1082
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:27,440
people as a human shield, and 
he's trying to divide you. 

1083
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:30,520
And as long as you're willing to
play the game, you're going to 

1084
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:32,240
win the prize. 
But it's a stupid game, so you 

1085
00:53:32,240 --> 00:53:35,280
get stupid prizes. 
Here's a couple questions you 

1086
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:38,320
can ask. 
What outcome am I hoping for? 

1087
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:41,080
That's the question. 
Jesus Wood Forest you to wrestle

1088
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:42,760
with. 
Are you trying to restore the 

1089
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:46,000
relationship when you get angry,
or are you just trying to make 

1090
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,560
the other person hurt the way 
you hurt because you don't like 

1091
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:50,560
that they hurt you? 
Are you hoping that you'll 

1092
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:53,160
understand one another better 
when the conversation is over? 

1093
00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:57,760
Or are you looking for the line,
like the one line you can say 

1094
00:53:57,760 --> 00:54:00,440
where it's like, oh man, I got 
my cinematic moment and I won 

1095
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:05,880
this argument. 
Second question is, will this 

1096
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:08,200
response make tomorrow easier or
harder? 

1097
00:54:09,320 --> 00:54:13,480
I took that car for granted. 
I had that car for a while, but 

1098
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:16,320
not as long as I could have. 
One of my cars with that paint 

1099
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:20,600
peeling off's got about 220,000 
miles on it and it runs like a 

1100
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:23,160
charm. 
I'll tell you what I don't do. 

1101
00:54:23,160 --> 00:54:27,360
I don't miss the oil change 
because if you want something to

1102
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:31,240
last, you have to treat it well 
and you have to take care of it.

1103
00:54:31,240 --> 00:54:33,560
Otherwise you may say, well, 
today it just feels good. 

1104
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:35,200
Today I just need to say this, 
OK? 

1105
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:37,960
But tomorrow will be when you 
deal with it and probably next 

1106
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,600
week, maybe even next year. 
One of the things I really 

1107
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,160
admire about Jesus, and there 
are many, is that even the way 

1108
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:46,880
that he confronted people was so
loving. 

1109
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:50,200
He he left room for repentance. 
You remember when he confronted 

1110
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:54,080
Peter, but also restored Peter. 
He confronted the woman caught 

1111
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:56,920
in adultery and then restored 
her dignity and then said now go

1112
00:54:56,920 --> 00:55:00,040
and sin no more. 
He confronted temple leaders 

1113
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,160
because he wanted God's house to
be restored. 

1114
00:55:02,240 --> 00:55:04,920
That would have been good for 
the religious leaders as well as

1115
00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:08,640
the common folk of the day. 
I think if we just carried these

1116
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:12,600
kind of questions into our homes
and our marriages and our 

1117
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:15,480
workplaces and our friendships, 
even our conversations online, 

1118
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:17,920
we would find ourselves looking 
a whole lot more like Jesus. 

1119
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:20,400
The last question is this. 
Can I say this in a way that 

1120
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:24,360
leaves the door open? 
What is it about Jesus you ever 

1121
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:26,640
noticed every time he confronted
somebody with sin, they were 

1122
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:30,440
never mad at him? 
Well, not every time. 

1123
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:33,760
The internal sins, those were 
different. 

1124
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:37,000
See, he could confront somebody 
who had just been caught in 

1125
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:39,040
adultery. 
He could confront somebody in 

1126
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:40,840
their anger or their pride or 
whatever. 

1127
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,480
And it worked when somebody was 
submitted to Jesus. 

1128
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:46,040
But then when the religious 
leaders got called out, they got

1129
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:47,760
very upset. 
They actually doubled down on 

1130
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:50,880
their anger because of it. 
But Jesus had a way of talking 

1131
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:54,200
to people who genuinely wanted 
to know God, and even though he 

1132
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,480
told them something hard, they 
were closer to God because of 

1133
00:55:57,480 --> 00:55:59,680
it. 
That's righteous anger. 

1134
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:01,600
You know why Jesus hates your 
sin? 

1135
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:04,320
Because it is between you and 
him. 

1136
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:09,240
Jesus would turn those tables. 
Jesus would flip them over. 

1137
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:11,880
Jesus would do just about 
anything to get him out of the 

1138
00:56:11,880 --> 00:56:14,320
way. 
The question is, would you help 

1139
00:56:14,320 --> 00:56:16,640
him? 
Would you get mad enough that 

1140
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:20,200
you'd be able to chase out, grab
a whip and chase out anything 

1141
00:56:20,200 --> 00:56:21,800
that is between you and the 
Lord? 

1142
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:25,640
Restoring people's access to the
Lord was that important to Him. 

1143
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,480
And for us, we're just like, 
well-being angry is part of 

1144
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,760
life. 
It is, but it's not supposed to 

1145
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:34,920
end at anger. 
Remember, it's just a warning 

1146
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:39,800
light. 
We come to the end of this 

1147
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:41,040
message. 
I I just think one of the 

1148
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,360
biggest mistakes we can make is 
to believe that this sermon is 

1149
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:45,040
just about losing your temper. 
It's not. 

1150
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:48,200
If that's all Jesus wanted to 
address, then most of us 

1151
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:50,400
probably would leave feeling 
pretty good about ourselves 

1152
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,840
because again, we had many of us
put our hands up when we said we

1153
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:55,920
struggle with anger, but most 
people wouldn't know about it. 

1154
00:56:58,480 --> 00:57:00,640
We could all think of somebody 
who gets angrier than we do, 

1155
00:57:00,720 --> 00:57:03,560
can't we? 
Someone who yells more, somebody

1156
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:07,760
whose temper is more explosive. 
But I don't have this in your 

1157
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:09,080
notes, but it's a bonus 
scripture. 

1158
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:10,120
You're welcome. 
No charge. 

1159
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:14,640
Matthew, chapter 5, starting in 
verse 21. 

1160
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:16,680
I don't just want to summarize 
it. 

1161
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:17,760
I really want to read this to 
you. 

1162
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:21,640
Jesus teaches this. 
He says, you've heard that our 

1163
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:23,800
ancestors were told you must not
murder. 

1164
00:57:24,640 --> 00:57:26,840
If you commit murder, you are 
subject to judgement. 

1165
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:29,560
By the way, I've never had 
pushed back on that. 

1166
00:57:29,920 --> 00:57:34,480
OK, verse 22. 
But I say if you are even angry 

1167
00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:37,640
with someone, you're subject to 
judgement. 

1168
00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:42,880
If you call someone an idiot, 
you are in danger of being 

1169
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:47,240
brought before the court. 
And if you curse someone, you 

1170
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:49,600
are in danger of the fires of 
hell. 

1171
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:54,080
You might be like, I don't curse
people, I'm not a witch. 

1172
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:56,640
Calm down. 
Nobody was saying you were a 

1173
00:57:56,640 --> 00:57:59,600
witch. 
What's the difference? 

1174
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,560
A curse is speaking negatively 
in a way that is designed to 

1175
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:06,120
tear them down. 
When you go to somebody and all 

1176
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,720
you have are negative things to 
say about them, you're cursing 

1177
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:10,560
them. 
We call them curse words, but 

1178
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:13,320
they're really cuss words when 
you talk about taking the Lord's

1179
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,000
name in vain. 
It has nothing to do with modern

1180
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:19,640
vernacular. 
Cursing is using your God-given 

1181
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:24,760
ability to speak things into 
existence for evil, and anytime 

1182
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:26,360
you do that, you're cursing 
them. 

1183
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:27,720
Jesus knew what he was talking 
about. 

1184
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:32,680
And then he says this. 
I'll be honest, more than once I

1185
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:36,720
have wished he did not say this.
So if you're presenting A 

1186
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,160
sacrifice at the altar in the 
temple, and you suddenly 

1187
00:58:39,160 --> 00:58:41,920
remember that someone has 
something against you, leave 

1188
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:43,520
your sacrifice there at the 
altar. 

1189
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:45,520
Go and be reconciled to that 
person. 

1190
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:47,760
Then come and offer your 
sacrifice to God. 

1191
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:50,040
Modern equivalent. 
You're in the middle of that 

1192
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:53,120
song you love so much this 
morning, and then you remember 

1193
00:58:53,120 --> 00:58:55,840
somebody's upset with you, not 
you're upset with somebody. 

1194
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:58,320
Somebody might be upset with 
you. 

1195
00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:01,320
He says you stop before you get 
to that bridge. 

1196
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:05,080
You like singing so much. 
You walk on over to them and 

1197
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:07,880
say, we need to make this right.
We need to give it our best 

1198
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:09,720
shot. 
Well, I don't want you. 

1199
00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:10,840
That's going to be uncomfortable
talk. 

1200
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:13,920
Oh, yeah, it is. 
But I'm hoping that on the other

1201
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:16,520
side of it, you and I are closer
to the Lord and hopefully closer

1202
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:18,640
to each other. 
That's why we do the whole 

1203
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:24,280
conflict means conversation 
thing in this church, he says. 

1204
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,840
When you're on the way to court 
with your adversary, settle your

1205
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,080
differences quickly. 
Otherwise, your accuser may hand

1206
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:32,080
you over to the judge, who will 
hand you over to an officer and 

1207
00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:34,120
you'll be thrown into prison. 
And if that happens, you surely 

1208
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:36,000
won't be free again until you 
paid the last penny. 

1209
00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:39,120
Do you know how radical this 
would have sounded to the people

1210
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:40,760
listening? 
They had always measured 

1211
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:43,840
righteousness by outside 
actions, giving enough, serving 

1212
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:46,080
enough, lighting the incense at 
the right time, obeying the 

1213
00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:49,440
Sabbath, doing the right Jewish 
festivals and feasts and doing 

1214
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:53,200
all of these different things. 
And as he's saying, you've heard

1215
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:55,480
it said not to murder. 
I got to think there's at least 

1216
00:59:55,480 --> 00:59:57,520
one person that was like, are 
you saying there's a way? 

1217
00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:02,080
He says yeah, not only should 
you not murder, don't hold on to

1218
01:00:02,080 --> 01:00:05,800
anger because you're subject to 
judgement. 

1219
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:11,360
It's possible. 
Jesus says the murder doesn't 

1220
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:12,960
start with a weapon. 
It starts in the heart. 

1221
01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:16,840
Now listen, and This is why this
matters when I say we've all 

1222
01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:18,320
thought like, well, I wouldn't 
get to that point. 

1223
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,880
Murder is the final destination 
of a heart that has learned to 

1224
01:00:22,880 --> 01:00:26,600
devalue another human being. 
And you may say, like, I don't 

1225
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:27,640
think I'm going to get to that 
point. 

1226
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:31,200
You probably won't. 
But you're on the path. 

1227
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:33,840
Do you? 
Do you want to be on that path? 

1228
01:00:35,880 --> 01:00:37,960
Jesus mentions in this same 
scripture. 

1229
01:00:38,080 --> 01:00:39,800
Highlight it, go back to it, 
read it later. 

1230
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:44,120
He mentions in the same section 
anger, insults, and contempt. 

1231
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:46,360
You know why? 
Because he's tracking the 

1232
01:00:46,360 --> 01:00:49,080
progression of where anger goes 
when it's left alone. 

1233
01:00:50,480 --> 01:00:53,000
Don't leave your anger light on 
your dashboard. 

1234
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:56,960
Jesus is not saying that anger 
and murder carry the same 

1235
01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:58,880
consequences. 
He's saying that they grow from 

1236
01:00:58,880 --> 01:01:01,000
the same root. 
Pull it up while it's young. 

1237
01:01:01,880 --> 01:01:04,520
The last thing I would tell you 
is what Paul teaches in the book

1238
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:06,120
of Ephesians. 
He's writing to the church in 

1239
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,920
Ephesus and he says this. 
Don't let sin anger or don't let

1240
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:11,840
don't sin by letting anger 
control you. 

1241
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:15,080
Don't let the sun go down on you
while you're still angry, for 

1242
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,200
anger gives a foothold to the 
devil. 

1243
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:20,520
You hear this a lot of times at 
weddings, don't you? 

1244
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:22,640
A lot of times we get advice 
from the older couples that have

1245
01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:25,600
been married for a long time and
they'll say don't go to bad mad 

1246
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:26,920
and all of that. 
And it's a good, it's a good 

1247
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,240
idea. 
It's not a legalistic 

1248
01:01:29,240 --> 01:01:31,560
requirement. 
And I want you to know that you 

1249
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:34,080
may get to the place that you 
are no longer able to come to a 

1250
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:36,400
resolution. 
You've gone round and round as 

1251
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,400
long as you can say, look, we're
going to get up in the morning 

1252
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:40,320
and we're going to have a shower
and we're going to eat food and 

1253
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:42,520
we're going to be well fed and 
we're not going to be cranky. 

1254
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:45,440
We're not going to be hungry, 
angry, lonely or tired in this 

1255
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:46,640
moment. 
We're going to do our best to 

1256
01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:48,240
work through this. 
Then it's OK. 

1257
01:01:48,720 --> 01:01:52,160
This is a saying. 
It's saying don't let the sunset

1258
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:54,080
on something that needs to be 
resolved. 

1259
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:57,360
So we just had the Harrier 
program go through sunset. 

1260
01:01:57,360 --> 01:01:59,280
Correct. 
And you know what that means? 

1261
01:01:59,640 --> 01:02:01,360
No more Harriers. 
It means it's over. 

1262
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,520
Don't let the sun go down. 
Don't close the door on a 

1263
01:02:04,520 --> 01:02:06,520
relationship with somebody while
you're still angry. 

1264
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:09,480
Get some resolution. 
That resolution may have you 

1265
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:10,960
more distant from them, and it 
might not. 

1266
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:13,840
Don't let the sun go down. 
Why? 

1267
01:02:14,000 --> 01:02:15,720
Because it gives a foothold to 
the devil. 

1268
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:18,920
Problem is, most of us are like,
yeah, it's just a foothold. 

1269
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:21,520
Eventually I'll scoot that foot 
out of there. 

1270
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:23,760
I'll get that door shut. 
I'll slam it on the devil's 

1271
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:25,880
foot. 
I heard one kid say one time, 

1272
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:30,320
OK, he's probably got cloven 
hooves, you're going to have to 

1273
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:35,000
slam it really hard. 
Why would you give him an inch? 

1274
01:02:35,880 --> 01:02:37,920
He's got nothing else to do but 
ruin your life. 

1275
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:39,920
Why would you give him a 
foothold? 

1276
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:43,360
Paul doesn't pretend you're not 
going to be angry. 

1277
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:46,240
He doesn't say don't allow 
anything to make you angry. 

1278
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:52,360
He just says don't let anger 
control you again. 

1279
01:02:52,360 --> 01:02:54,880
Abuse should make us angry. 
Exploitation should make us 

1280
01:02:54,880 --> 01:02:56,600
angry. 
Evil should make us angry. 

1281
01:02:56,920 --> 01:02:58,880
Sometimes I watch the news and I
get angry. 

1282
01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:03,320
Maybe it's just me, but Paul's 
not teaching that every conflict

1283
01:03:03,320 --> 01:03:06,440
can be resolved before bedtime. 
It's just that anger can't be a 

1284
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:09,200
permanent resident. 
So the challenge is to refuse to

1285
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:11,640
let anger become your identity 
or your master. 

1286
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:14,840
Would you all stand up? 
I want to pray with you guys 

1287
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:17,000
today. 
I specifically feel like the 

1288
01:03:17,000 --> 01:03:19,360
Lord wanted me to just pray with
everybody today. 

1289
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,720
When that warning light comes 
on, I'm just telling you, 

1290
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:25,080
investigate it. 
If there's a boundary that's 

1291
01:03:25,080 --> 01:03:27,280
been crossed, pursue 
reconciliation. 

1292
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:30,280
If it's your pride that's been 
wounded, try to eat some humble 

1293
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:31,760
pie. 
Try to get something. 

1294
01:03:31,760 --> 01:03:33,760
Just address whatever's 
happening underneath it. 

1295
01:03:34,840 --> 01:03:37,840
As we go through these sins, I 
just want to remind you, this 

1296
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:41,160
series is all about sins that 
the church normalizes or allows.

1297
01:03:41,160 --> 01:03:42,280
And I'm not talking about our 
church. 

1298
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:45,000
I'm talking about any church. 
A lot of us were like, well, you

1299
01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:47,600
have every right to be mad. 
You should be working to help 

1300
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:50,960
them be at peace and not angry. 
You should be working to be at 

1301
01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:53,360
peace and not angry. 
You've got a clearer head when 

1302
01:03:53,360 --> 01:03:56,160
you're not driven by anger. 
Next week we're going to talk 

1303
01:03:56,160 --> 01:03:59,600
about judge mentalism. 
It's the sin that we call 

1304
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:03,840
discernment. 
Discernment's important, but not

1305
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:05,760
everything that you think is a 
problem is a problem. 

1306
01:04:05,760 --> 01:04:07,520
Sometimes we're just judgy 
Christians. 

1307
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:12,920
But As for today, and we've got 
some heavy places to go this 

1308
01:04:12,920 --> 01:04:15,440
fall, guys, we're not going to 
be able to carry our sin into 

1309
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,280
it. 
Let's lay it at the foot of the 

1310
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:18,240
cross together. 
Amen. 

1311
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:20,440
God, we ask for you to just 
descend. 

1312
01:04:20,440 --> 01:04:22,760
We've just wanted your spirit 
all morning. 

1313
01:04:23,640 --> 01:04:26,360
I believe that where your 
perfect love is, it casts out 

1314
01:04:26,360 --> 01:04:29,040
all fear. 
So God, we come against any fear

1315
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:32,000
that drives us to anger. 
God, let us go forward with 

1316
01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,520
confidence, not that everything 
will go perfectly, but that you 

1317
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:37,160
will be with us and we will make
it through to the other side of 

1318
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:40,800
whatever we face. 
Don't let us be shaped or scared

1319
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:42,480
of the what ifs that are going 
to happen. 

1320
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:46,000
Let us be shaped and formed by 
the confidence that we walk with

1321
01:04:46,000 --> 01:04:49,280
the God of all creation with us.
God, for those of us with old 

1322
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:51,600
wounds, give us the right 
avenues to heal them. 

1323
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:54,200
Give us the right people, the 
right places to talk through 

1324
01:04:54,200 --> 01:04:56,440
them so that we can get healed 
and whole. 

1325
01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:59,720
We know that you desire that 
even more than we do, and God, 

1326
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:02,640
would you just use us to help 
the healing speed up in the 

1327
01:05:02,640 --> 01:05:06,040
lives of those around us. 
God, for those of us that we 

1328
01:05:06,040 --> 01:05:10,400
have been angry because of our 
pride, help us be humbled. 

1329
01:05:11,320 --> 01:05:14,040
Help us be humbled. 
And I don't mean let bad things 

1330
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,400
happen to us to knock us down. 
I mean, God, would you just 

1331
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:18,120
teach us to think of ourselves 
less? 

1332
01:05:18,720 --> 01:05:20,440
Would you just teach us to see 
the big picture? 

1333
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:22,640
Would you teach us to see the 
whole Kingdom in a way that 

1334
01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:25,880
really motivates us more than 
looking out for #1 And finally, 

1335
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,200
God, I just come against any 
exhaustion for those that are 

1336
01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:30,320
tired. 
God, I know that this is 

1337
01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:32,600
normally a hybrid. 
So I ask that you would teach us

1338
01:05:32,600 --> 01:05:35,240
wise ways to live our life so 
that we don't run ourselves 

1339
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:37,320
ragged. 
But at the same time, would you 

1340
01:05:37,320 --> 01:05:41,000
teach us spiritually and 
emotionally and mentally just to

1341
01:05:41,000 --> 01:05:45,320
lay things before you? 
God, when we are worn out by 

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something, even a good thing, 
there's something that's wrong. 

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God, let us be tired from doing 
good works, but don't let us be 

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exhausted. 
Let us always have fresh energy 

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and fresh vision and fresh wind 
from you and Father for the 

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boundaries that have been 
crossed, for the things that we 

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have done and the things that 
have been done to us. 

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We just ask that you just 
envelope us with the spirit of 

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forgiveness. 
Let us forgive ourselves for the

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things that we've done and let 
us forgive others, not because 

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we feel like everything that's 
happened was OK, but God just 

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give us the peace to move 
forward that we don't have to 

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take what happened yesterday 
into tomorrow. 

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It can be a fresh start. 
Thank you for your mercies that 

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are new every morning. 
And it's in the name of Jesus 

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that everybody said Amen.