1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,040 God, there is gins in a tin, Part 2. 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:06,440 Three girls and one gin. Yeah, Guinness and corn cocktail 3 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:09,120 sausages is the new thing for 2025. 4 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:10,880 Actually, it's also Guinness from a can. 5 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:13,840 If that offends you, I'm sorry. But not just Guinness in a can, 6 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:16,200 Guinness in a can poured into a plastic cup. 7 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:17,960 Oh, the plastic cup is what does it for you. 8 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:19,400 But you know what? Beggars can't be choosers. 9 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:20,880 You heard of? Splitting the G. 10 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:24,000 I have and I tried to do it the other day and I don't exactly 11 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:26,280 put the legs. I don't exactly understand. 12 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,160 Is it if you get it under the G? Is it with it if you get it in 13 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:30,760 the middle of the G is the middle of the G? 14 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:32,200 OK, so I actually managed to do it. 15 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,280 Really. I thought I failed, didn't do 16 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:35,600 it. I don't believe you spent the G. 17 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,200 It's actually quite fucking. Hard to do. 18 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:39,520 OK, well I even did it on 1/2 glass as well which. 19 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,120 OK, but I think that is probably why you did it right? 20 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:44,600 If you did it in 1/2 pint glass, that doesn't count. 21 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,640 Are you fucking? Used to be a pint of Guinness. 22 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:48,200 Because like that, give us another. 23 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,520 One that. Sorry, sorry, pretty fucking. 24 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:52,440 Quick, we're cancelling free. Fucking quickly. 25 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:54,160 You can't tell me I cancel. You bitch. 26 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:56,680 OK, don't check my Facebook. Don't. 27 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:05,120 Don't go there either way. It's equally hard because you've 28 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,080 really got to measure the amount that you've got to drink. 29 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,560 That's the whole point, right? It's not about because I'm not 30 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,080 being funny like what a few sips of Guinness, like I can manage 31 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:13,480 that all in one. That's not the problem. 32 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,560 It's the measurement of being able to understand when you 33 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,000 would hit the middle of the G so that you need to understand just 34 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:24,080 how much liquid you need to get into your mouth to to maintain 35 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:26,360 the line. Apparently it's something like 3 36 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,760 generous gulps. No, but you've got to do it like 37 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:30,120 you can't. You don't take it. 38 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,880 You've got to do it in one. Right. 39 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:34,600 Also there's. Send this entire Guinness. 40 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:36,120 No. Do you know what? 41 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:39,840 It's going to really bug me because I I bet it will. 42 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,240 I bet it will. I'm just trying to live out 43 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:43,920 here. OK, 2025. 44 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:45,560 I'm just. Trying It's the year of the 45 00:01:45,560 --> 00:02:00,840 Guinness. Hello lesbians, I am joined 46 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,800 today with Jess and live and you. 47 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,760 If you listen to the last episode that we had last week, 48 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:10,039 you would have heard Jess's beautiful voice in there. 49 00:02:10,039 --> 00:02:11,680 And everyone knows who Manager Liv is. 50 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:15,760 Manager Liv's girlfriend is in fact Jess W Hard. 51 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:17,040 Watch. Hard. 52 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:21,880 That is the hard I thought that it would be difficult to do this 53 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,640 episode specifically if no one knew that you were together. 54 00:02:25,920 --> 00:02:28,520 So I've done it for you, if that's OK. 55 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:29,200 That's. OK. 56 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:32,200 Manager lives off the market. Sorry, lesbians. 57 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:33,880 Anyway, tell them what you've done to me today. 58 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:37,640 Yeah, so today Liv keeps complaining about how tired she 59 00:02:37,640 --> 00:02:41,160 is. And I have empathy more than the 60 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:42,840 next person. But you know what? 61 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,240 When someone says it one too many times that they're tired, 62 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,240 I'm like. Oh, you give him a dexy? 63 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:54,360 You give him a dexy I so obviously with my ADHD 64 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,400 medication I don't ever take these because they're boosters 65 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:02,440 but I'm happy with my advance. So it's a list boost but it's a 66 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,520 slow working one right? So like 2 hours in just I don't 67 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,520 really feel anything. The next thing I know I'm being 68 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:12,720 greeted and what I can only call as karma because it because you 69 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,760 have just been basically behaving like me. 70 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,960 And me. I don't think I've been behaving 71 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,000 like the power of you. I'm going to say that right now. 72 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,600 Probably okay, no tone down version. 73 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:23,280 Are you? That's toned down. 74 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:24,960 What the fuck is wrong with us, Jess? 75 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,600 Oh no. Not just can you say this is a 76 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:32,160 tone down version of Freya correct one. 100% Oh man, you're 77 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:33,880 insufferable. I really am. 78 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:35,720 You know what? I've had a terrible, terrible 79 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:41,800 day and like intro intro respection intro fuck Joe What? 80 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:45,240 How do I have a job? Like honestly, how do I have a 81 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:46,680 job? I'm a scammer. 82 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:52,400 Like the fuck Intro respect. Fry has basically had a moment 83 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:54,880 of realization when she's kind of been like, oh, I've been 84 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,360 posting a lot at the minute and Oh no. 85 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:58,600 Giving herself a bit of the cringe. 86 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,000 OK, I've majorly given myself the ache. 87 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,000 I have been doing it for a reason. 88 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,320 Because so many times you've been saying you need to post 89 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,560 more. OK, I understand that maybe the 90 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,880 content should have been slightly more curated before I 91 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,120 just started. Posting I was going to say just 92 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:16,959 discuss this tomorrow. I've been. 93 00:04:17,399 --> 00:04:19,600 She's popping in a meeting in the diary the. 94 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:22,960 Fuck. Secondly, I have just been 95 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:27,480 because my account has been dormant for so long because I 96 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:31,960 have not, you know, been in the best mental state for a couple 97 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,800 of months before. And so then I was like, oh, I'm 98 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:39,400 just going to basically shit post to try and get more story 99 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,280 views to boost the account only because I have some things that 100 00:04:42,280 --> 00:04:45,720 I'm working on within this year that I'm really, really excited 101 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:48,320 about and I need my account to be engaged. 102 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,280 However, I don't think this is the right way to do. 103 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,640 I can't be honest with you. And, and I was like looking back 104 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:59,320 at me and like, oh God, I actually can't stand myself. 105 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:04,360 Like fully cannot stand myself. And then I was like, if I was 106 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,440 looking out from like an outsider who didn't know me very 107 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:11,240 well and watching this shit. Oh man. 108 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,360 You'd think this girl's insane. Yeah, insane. 109 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,840 I have been a little bit unhinged recently, but like to 110 00:05:17,840 --> 00:05:19,960 my core it's. Supposed to speak an archive I 111 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,560 reckon. You're really not making me feel 112 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:24,000 better today. You're fine. 113 00:05:24,280 --> 00:05:28,640 OK, I understand that. Yeah, but maybe somebody could 114 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,720 have told me prior instead of agreeing with me. 115 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:32,520 But. Afterwards. 116 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,760 Where's the fun in that? There, Jess. 117 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:38,320 We've been having so much fun. OK, we've actually been having a 118 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:40,640 lot of fun, but what? OK, so do you know what my 119 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:42,280 problem is? If I feel like something is 120 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:46,480 inauthentic to me, then I cringe and I hate it because if you 121 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:49,400 were to meet me in person, I don't think that you would 122 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:52,960 reflect with the stories and that I've been putting up versus 123 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:58,120 my personality because it does make me look very immature and 124 00:05:58,120 --> 00:05:59,640 like. A bit of a party animal I'd say. 125 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:04,400 Bit of a party animal I'm not an actually just a little PSAI 126 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:06,800 don't drink to get drunk. Apart from accidentally last 127 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:08,320 night, so that was. Completely. 128 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:10,240 People are probably thinking I'm an actual one. 129 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:15,080 An alcoholic 2 annoying 3 immature 4 no life. 130 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:18,880 And that actually be correct. And maybe correct, you've got 131 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:21,040 the right. But you know what, You know 132 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,040 what, if I could add some smoking mirrors in there, that'd 133 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:25,240 be great. They're going to think I'm 134 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,240 bipolar now though, because the content is just going to have a 135 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,120 complete shift because of how I've pushed it too far and 136 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:34,240 really crunched myself out. Like I have fully given myself 137 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,080 the ick. It's all good. 138 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,080 Maybe you should do like what the celebrities do and just you 139 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:41,000 know, and they like completely wipe their account maybe and 140 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:42,280 then just do their profile pictures. 141 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,200 And just follow Lady Gaga. Yeah. 142 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,320 Should I say that I was hacked? Yeah. 143 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:48,920 What of and posting stuff of yourself? 144 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:53,600 Yeah, like, like they got my phone and they found shit that I 145 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:55,800 would never normally show the world and just because you're. 146 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,120 Literally putting this on a podcast so you can't say that 147 00:06:58,120 --> 00:06:59,560 you've got hacked. Everyone's going to expose 148 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,600 yourself. I've exposed myself anyway. 149 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,840 Anyway, that being said, it's been a bit of a rough day for 150 00:07:04,840 --> 00:07:06,280 me. But we move. 151 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:08,760 It's all good. Obviously mentioning Lady Gaga 152 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:10,960 to Lady Gaga has come back with a vengeance. 153 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:16,480 Pretty lobotomy lady with Abracadab. 154 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:21,440 We listened to that song about what, 25 times yesterday. 155 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:26,560 Abracadabra. It's fantastic because she, I 156 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:29,520 mean, like, I've been like an old school Lady Gaga fan. 157 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:31,640 Like when I was a kid, she like, brought me out of my shell. 158 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:35,120 Like I remember going to the Monster ball when I was 15 and I 159 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:37,920 had the time in my life I had to lie about my age. 160 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,920 And I was like, yeah. And it was amazing because it 161 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,440 was her first ever tour as well. I became obsessed. 162 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:45,360 And, like, all the straight girls at school used to judge 163 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:46,520 me. I mean, like, ever since you 164 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:48,840 started listening to Lady Gaga, you've changed. 165 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:53,080 I'm like, yeah, because she's an artist, right? 166 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:55,760 She's like, she. She enabled me to feel like, OK, 167 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,200 I'm not so weird because, like, I'm gay or like, whatever it 168 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,600 might be. So all fucking power to Lady 169 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,960 Gaga. And she is taking that hyper pop 170 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:06,160 back by the horn. Reclaiming that. 171 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,720 It's very, very, very good. So I'm very excited about this 172 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:10,640 first, first of all, really quickly, we've got our wine 173 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:14,040 nights coming up as well now, which is like the the pub nights 174 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:16,080 have been feral and fucking amazing. 175 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:18,640 Like the last pub night. We haven't. 176 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:23,520 I I just thought that so January is pub night, guys, insane, 177 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,440 insane, feral as hell. No, I loved it. 178 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:28,440 I think it was a bit feral as well. 179 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:29,880 It was giving my Instagram stories. 180 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,200 I was feral. This girl, this girl right here. 181 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,640 You were feral. You had your tits out. 182 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,559 Yeah, multiple times. Some rest of the night. 183 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,320 You're welcome. I loved it on the table 184 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:41,760 constantly. There was some slipping and 185 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:43,840 sliding on the. Table also Alex Moon got some 186 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,400 amazing photos. Alex moon does an absolute solid 187 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:50,640 Yep there and she she just goes around and just takes I don't 188 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:52,400 even ask her like that's what's so amazing about it. 189 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:55,600 She goes around, she takes these photos and then like some weed 190 00:08:55,600 --> 00:09:00,480 talent, very talented. No, she she does it on the sly, 191 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:03,360 which I quite like because if I see a camera in my face I do 192 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,800 shit myself. Yeah, I mean, it was really, 193 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,240 really fun. Like I genuinely that I would 194 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:11,360 have to say is the funnest night. 195 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:14,360 Like we've had every night. It's fun that we do, but that 196 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:15,320 one. I feel like. 197 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:18,600 I think because it was like post Christmas and people were doing 198 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:21,640 Dry Jan and everyone was a bit of a blowout and it was payday. 199 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:23,920 It was a blowout for sure, for sure. 200 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,080 So we love doing that. We're continuing doing that 201 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:29,480 every single month now, but we're also releasing wine 202 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:31,560 nights. We got our first wine night this 203 00:09:31,560 --> 00:09:34,040 Thursday on the 13th, which is super fun. 204 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:36,880 That sold out instantly, which is amazing, but it's a bit more 205 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:39,680 of like an intimate vibe, a bit more low key. 206 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:43,480 Smaller numbers. Is also for over 20 fives as 207 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,240 well. So we feel like getting into the 208 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:48,880 older calibre and don't hear older and think badly. 209 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:52,680 I'm 31 like I'm Christ, I'm in the older, I'm in the older 210 00:09:52,680 --> 00:09:54,360 category. Bit more of a sophisticated 211 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:55,800 vibe. Obviously we want you to still 212 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:58,320 be unhinged, have fun, be in your safe because I think the 213 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,480 reason why people get so unhinged is because they feel so 214 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:03,320 safe. So that is the best thing for me 215 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,240 to see. I'm really sorry if you come up 216 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:07,040 to me and I look entirely overwhelmed. 217 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,680 Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not, depends on which mood you 218 00:10:09,680 --> 00:10:12,120 catch me in. But I love meeting all of you 219 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:14,840 and so many of you have the most beautiful things to say to me. 220 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:17,800 And I've shared so many gorgeous little hugs and photos and 221 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:20,400 videos and stuff. And some of you asked me to like 222 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,200 call your friends hot on a video and I really enjoy doing that. 223 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:24,880 So more of that please. It's really fun. 224 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:26,600 They are fun. I love the event. 225 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:28,960 Super fun, super gorgeous, gorgeous girls. 226 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:35,040 So going forward to today's topic, which I really I know 227 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:40,080 that we have spoken about this a little bit and it is so and it 228 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:45,960 is so lesbian, but I want to talk about EU haul of lesbian 229 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:48,320 relationships. I'm obviously going to bring you 230 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:50,960 2 into it. Perfect being my you gonna ask? 231 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:52,560 US questions. That's fun. 232 00:10:52,560 --> 00:10:55,200 Yes, I am. She's just a slight of this now. 233 00:10:55,680 --> 00:10:56,920 Yes, yes, I will. Yep. 234 00:10:57,000 --> 00:11:00,280 You know what, I will. No, but I think I think it's 235 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,680 really interesting because I think my stance on this has 236 00:11:03,680 --> 00:11:07,960 changed slightly. I do think that every obviously 237 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:10,440 take this with a pinch of salt, whatever I say, guys, because my 238 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:12,760 word is not gospel. I'm not just talking to you, I'm 239 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:15,960 talking to like everyone. My word is not gospel. 240 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:19,400 It's more so in the sense of like how I feel now that I've 241 00:11:19,680 --> 00:11:22,720 experienced more relationships and I'm older. 242 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:23,680 It's not gospel. It's. 243 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:26,800 Opinion not the expert. Oh, you're giving your opinion 244 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:28,080 on our? Relationship. 245 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:34,160 So no, absolutely not sick yeah I I'm not in the position to 246 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:36,880 give an opinion like on people's relationships. 247 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:39,480 No one ever is right. I agree. 248 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:43,080 And so for me it's like more so now I want to give an opinion on 249 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:47,560 U hauling like in general. I I think obviously every 250 00:11:47,560 --> 00:11:50,800 situation is so different and people's personality types are 251 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:56,160 so different. The the one thing that worries 252 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:59,960 me about you hauling, and I'm not saying that this is to you 253 00:11:59,960 --> 00:12:03,720 guys, OK, first of all, before I start, you hauling or like you 254 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,880 hauling a relationship is basically EU Haul van. 255 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,160 So it's like that is the van where you move in all of your 256 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:12,280 shit two weeks into the relationship or, you know, 257 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:13,880 obviously that's pretty exaggerated. 258 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:16,760 But within a very short amount of time, you become very 259 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:20,400 situated and integrated within each other's lives and you move 260 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:23,000 in together within like a couple of months and everything is 261 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,200 really, really fast. Everything is like go go go go 262 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,200 go go go go like from the first meet. 263 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:31,640 It's go time right? And obviously this can form 264 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:32,720 itself in so many different ways. 265 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:35,720 Also different situations can force people into U hauling too, 266 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,600 which I will say is like a thing. 267 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:40,360 But OK. So before I give my opinions 268 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:46,120 with U-Haul, it usually categorically within a situation 269 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:50,320 like this involves an element of love bombing and that well, I'm 270 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:51,680 not saying that this has happened to you, no. 271 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,760 I can see you both looking at each other, no? 272 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,240 You're going to let us say that? You're going to let us say that, 273 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:00,920 but it but you love bombing usually happens when there is a 274 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:05,640 very severely anxious attached person and a very severely 275 00:13:05,680 --> 00:13:09,760 avoidant person. So that is when love bombing 276 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:12,040 happens, right? I think that happened in my my 277 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:14,240 last relationship. Now I'm thinking back what 278 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:15,480 makes. Sense it would make a lot of 279 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:21,240 sense and, and basically for the avoidant, they have probably 280 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,400 gotten themselves out of a situation that they didn't want 281 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:25,040 to be in. By the way, let's just say 282 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,720 there's no right or wrong. Everyone likes to villainize 283 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:30,520 either the avoidant or the anxious or whatever, but it's 284 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:35,040 like all we should all be aiming to be is very secure and have a 285 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:38,440 balanced attachment style. You don't, you don't have to be 286 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:40,480 1 or the other. You can actually go to therapy 287 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:44,600 and you can actually get better and not even therapy, but do a 288 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:48,040 lot of work on just on yourself and, and understanding those 289 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:52,080 things about yourself, right? So yeah, the love bombing will 290 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,200 happen when there's like an anxious attachment avoidance. 291 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:56,720 So the avoidant is probably getting themselves out of a 292 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,800 situation or not even they could have just been single for a 293 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:01,720 while, but they found someone who piques their interest, 294 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:04,320 right? But the avoidant does obviously 295 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,080 have an anxious attachment within them, right? 296 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:09,520 But it's just the way that they display their their attachment 297 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:12,160 style, it's very different. So they'll find someone, they'll 298 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:14,280 find someone who's an anxious attached person who's going to 299 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:16,160 give them everything that they want, right? 300 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:18,800 So they will feed into that massively because they're like, 301 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,520 let me show you how much I can love. 302 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:23,720 Let me show you how much I can give you. 303 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:26,360 I want you to stay because I'm insecure. 304 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,920 Like I said, all of these are just insecure attachment styles. 305 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:30,720 Let me give, give, give, give, give. 306 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:33,640 Let me message you all the time. Let me call all the time, let me 307 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:37,760 make dates constantly line them up before you've even had a. 308 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:41,960 The thing is right, you don't know anyone like until quite a 309 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,200 while really, I'd say, but especially not within a couple 310 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,400 of days, right? And I think that it's very 311 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:51,080 normal and. Foot, foot. 312 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,920 Oh, I'm thinking this is 100% the mistake I made in my last 313 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,200 relationship. Without a doubt you're. 314 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:58,080 Also a lot younger. Well that's what I mean. 315 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:00,440 I think a lot of people don't realise when you're younger the 316 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:03,200 love bombing U hauling can happen quite quickly and it's 317 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,040 almost also a bit dangerous I think if you're not aware that 318 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:08,560 that can happen. Yes, yeah. 319 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:12,920 And if you are an anxious attached person, you are then 320 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:17,960 going to see this like flood of like happiness, love everything 321 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:20,120 you want, yay, this is great. And you're going to be skipping 322 00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:21,480 and you're like, what's bad about this? 323 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:23,880 What can go wrong, you know? Or even if you're just in like a 324 00:15:23,880 --> 00:15:26,480 vulnerable frame of mind and then someone comes along. 325 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,600 OK, so you can be in a vulnerable frame of mind, but it 326 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,280 doesn't necessarily mean that you're an anxious attached 327 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:34,200 person. No, no, that's what I'm saying. 328 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:38,320 Yeah, but you have to be an anxious attachment style to fall 329 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:40,680 into it. To a U-Haul. 330 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:45,080 Yeah, no to the love bombing. No, you do. 331 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:47,720 You can't be anxiously attached just to Love Bomb. 332 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:50,840 No to to fall into the love bomb. 333 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:53,600 You're the the love bomber really isn't the anxious 334 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:55,360 attached person. The love bombing usually comes 335 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:58,720 from the avoidant, but you'll love bomb in return because 336 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:01,600 you're like, I love this. So it becomes like a ping pong. 337 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,880 You have to be like you cannot be securely attached. 338 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:07,840 You could be going through a rough period of your life. 339 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,080 I'm. Unsure on that fact. 340 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:11,120 You're an anxious, attached person. 341 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:13,120 I'm not. Scott actually didn't think I 342 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:15,680 am. Not in a really, really bad way, 343 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:17,200 by the way. I'm not like jabbing at you, do 344 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:18,840 you think? I'm anxiously attached, Jess, 345 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:21,640 No. OK, that's so like mousy. 346 00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:25,240 No, no, no, but you, you need to understand as well. 347 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:29,760 Like before everyone like comes to me with attachment styles, 348 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:32,960 they are not usually present throughout the whole 349 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,320 relationship. You'll only see them when it's 350 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:37,360 triggered. You'll only see their attachment 351 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:40,120 style when that attachment style has been triggered rather than 352 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:43,360 all the time. Because I would say like now I'm 353 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:46,760 moving into a much more secure attached style, right? 354 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,920 When I was younger and more anxiously attached, I wasn't 355 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:53,080 always worried about my partner. I wasn't always like, oh, what 356 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:55,920 is she up to and where is she? And she's not messaging me back. 357 00:16:56,160 --> 00:17:00,360 That wasn't like that, but it wasn't until the avoidant 358 00:17:00,360 --> 00:17:04,839 character starts to rear its head from the other person and 359 00:17:04,839 --> 00:17:07,400 then I would go, Oh no, like, try. 360 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:09,319 And like. Yeah, because there's been a 361 00:17:09,319 --> 00:17:11,880 shift. There's been a shift in their 362 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:14,960 actions, which honestly would probably send anyone a bit 363 00:17:14,960 --> 00:17:17,200 anxious, right? But if you're already anxiously 364 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,240 attached, then it's like whoa, no. 365 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:23,000 OK, so going back to EU hauling. So because I'm only saying the 366 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:24,920 whole love bombing and attachment style thing because 367 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,160 EU Haul is a part of that, I don't think that you can. 368 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:31,960 And unless, like I said, situationally, don't think that 369 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:33,640 you can have that without the other. 370 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:37,440 Unless you situationally need to be around each other a lot, I'm 371 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,960 going to disagree. Yeah, I'm with Jess on this. 372 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:40,920 OK, tell me why. Well. 373 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:45,520 From my perspective, I feel that like lesbian relationships, I 374 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:49,760 think it's just a lot easier to get to that place quicker 375 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:52,000 because you're a lot more open with your feelings. 376 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:54,600 Like I feel that. I don't know, when I've been 377 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:56,440 with men in the past, they've not really been open with their 378 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:57,520 feelings. There's been a lot of games 379 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:58,880 involved. Doesn't mean that there isn't 380 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:03,560 with women as well, but I do think in the couple of 381 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:07,680 relationships I have had with women that you can just be a lot 382 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,480 more vulnerable. You get closer a lot. 383 00:18:09,480 --> 00:18:11,720 Quicker, I do agree. I do agree with this. 384 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:15,400 So I think that's why in my opinion, it does move quicker 385 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,080 because you can get to those stages a lot quicker. 100 386 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:20,240 percent, 100%. If that makes sense. 387 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:24,200 Yeah, I think that you definitely can be more open and 388 00:18:24,200 --> 00:18:27,280 honest with a woman. And I think a lot of women don't 389 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:29,120 understand that. You did quite well to get into 390 00:18:29,120 --> 00:18:31,440 that quite quickly because I think women are so used to 391 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:33,000 straight men. Yeah, absolutely. 392 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,240 And they just behave very differently. 393 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:38,320 And they do like to play games. And, you know, yeah, some 394 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:40,360 lesbians do, but like, they like to play games. 395 00:18:40,360 --> 00:18:43,960 They might not be reciprocal to you being emotional, you know, 396 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:46,520 so you're kind of like you're taught like when you're growing 397 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:50,640 up to be very withdrawn from your emotions and not having to 398 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,240 display that. So I do understand the the 399 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,640 emotional U-Haul, I get for that, right? 400 00:18:56,120 --> 00:18:59,760 Because you just especially when you find that connection and 401 00:18:59,760 --> 00:19:01,840 then you like, you hang on to that because you're like, this 402 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:05,160 is really fucking good and this feels lovely. 403 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,960 And if you're able to communicate effectively and 404 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:09,920 like, that's really, really nice. 405 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:13,760 It's like, Oh, this is fun. And then it can move quite 406 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:17,040 quickly. But as, I don't know, maybe just 407 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,680 like an older thing for me now, like as I'm getting older than 408 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,880 more. And again, not to even sound 409 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:24,440 patronizing, but it's like because when I was dating 410 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:28,240 before, I was so young, like I was like 24, right, 23. 411 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:33,560 And so the world was like completely different, completely 412 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,120 different. The dating scene was different. 413 00:19:35,120 --> 00:19:38,760 The dating scene. Was. 414 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,680 Different now. I got a bad back, a bad neck. 415 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:44,360 Sitting around getting fat and fathy. 416 00:19:44,360 --> 00:19:47,600 Sitting around getting all fat and sassy so that's the topic so 417 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:51,600 basically, yeah, a lot of love bombing happens to summarize 418 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:56,160 emotional and toxic and toxic. So we've got two categories. 419 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,600 We OK, so that I think this is what's going to make it easier. 420 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:03,640 We've got the toxic U-Haul and we've got the emotional, 421 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:05,720 emotional connection U-Haul which. 422 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:09,320 Feel free to submit your votes for a better name for that one. 423 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:13,080 I do feel like you are banging on the drum of emotional 424 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,680 connection U-Haul because you're terrified of being put into the 425 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:19,440 toxic category. But I want to very, very, I feel 426 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:22,360 I don't think that there is any toxicity within how you girls 427 00:20:22,360 --> 00:20:24,480 have moved forward. But I also wouldn't classify us 428 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,640 as a U-Haul. But I do definitely think that I 429 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:31,120 have had the other side of it, so I can identify with what 430 00:20:31,120 --> 00:20:33,400 you've just said. Can you just have like Is there 431 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,720 like a, a nice U-Haul like? Well, that's the. 432 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:39,160 Emotional U-Haul is a nice sorry, it's where you like 433 00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:41,720 connect with Someone Like You just move through stages a lot 434 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:42,600 quicker blah blah blah. But. 435 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,800 I think as well, like, there can be girls on like, the other end 436 00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:48,400 of the spectrum of people on the other end of the spectrum where 437 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,320 they might feel that emotional connection but be very scared. 438 00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:54,320 And then you can also have people that lean into it, Right? 439 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:56,720 Yeah, for sure. So like, that might be the only 440 00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:00,280 thing that stops EU Haul. So necessarily does that make it 441 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:01,760 any more healthier? Who knows? 442 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,120 Like, we don't really know. There isn't Joe what there's 443 00:21:04,120 --> 00:21:06,520 like any way that people can get themselves like into 444 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,560 relationships. It doesn't really matter how it 445 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,600 doesn't matter how long it takes or like whatever that is. 446 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,840 But at the same time, it's more about just like mutual respect. 447 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,720 Like if you just have mutual respect for your person and one 448 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:21,360 person wants to move really fast and the other person doesn't, if 449 00:21:21,360 --> 00:21:24,200 you don't have respect for that person, that is not the 450 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,120 relationship for either of you. Exactly. 451 00:21:26,120 --> 00:21:28,640 You know, you should never subject anyone to that. 452 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:30,680 Like it's literally the worst thing. 453 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:35,040 It's giving my stories ick like. I heard from Freya socials. 454 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,600 It's giving Freya socials ick like you just don't ever want to 455 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:42,240 do that because like also why do you want to do that to yourself 456 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:42,680 too? I'm. 457 00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:44,240 Just thinking exactly that, it's like. 458 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,000 It's just a bit. It's just horrible. 459 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:47,000 Not nice. Yeah. 460 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:49,800 But again, it comes from the insecure attachment style 461 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,560 because you're insecure in yourself. 462 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:52,800 You're insecure with your attachment. 463 00:21:53,120 --> 00:21:56,520 You most likely didn't receive love in correct ways growing up. 464 00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:00,480 And sadly that impacts all of us, like our upbringing and the 465 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,840 more that I've been doing therapy and like EMDR and 466 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:07,800 everything, it made me realize just how much my upbringing has 467 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:12,440 altered the brain chemistry and now I have to spend over £1000 a 468 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:17,000 month to reverse that brain chemistry. 469 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:18,800 Lucky all of us. Thank you. 470 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:21,240 Better help, the cheap, the cheaper. 471 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:23,880 Better help part is great. But then the EMDR is very 472 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,160 expensive. But you know, honestly, like 473 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:30,120 would pay 10 times the amount because it's like you can't put 474 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:31,600 a price on that. You cannot. 475 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,080 And that's why we always say mental health is a privilege and 476 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:35,880 the UK needs to fucking put a thought. 477 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:37,360 About. Amen. 478 00:22:37,360 --> 00:22:38,440 Yeah. Absolutely. 479 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,080 So now going over to like your relationship. 480 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,280 So when did you two start dating again? 481 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:45,400 When was that? God, well, I know the. 482 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:50,640 I'm really in the hot seat also. Plug for the event. 483 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:55,320 Oh yeah, actually what is quite fun, Jess and I actually met at 484 00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:56,920 one of the lesbian pub nights, so. 485 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,640 The first one I attended. Yeah, so you can find, yeah, you 486 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,000 can find can find love pub events. 487 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,280 We are the proven case study. Oh my God. 488 00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:05,680 Yeah. What? 489 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,880 This is great promo. Exactly welcome. 490 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,240 And I remember being there for the first conversation that you 491 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,120 both had, but what date was it? OK, so it was. 492 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,000 The last cock and bottle one. I know the. 493 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,480 Date of office, first date because I'm organized, events 494 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:21,080 are organized and we love a simp. 495 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,200 Absolutely. Also there's nothing wrong with 496 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,320 being a simp like if. You're into it. 497 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:29,520 I'm I feel like straight. Couples being a simp is such a. 498 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:30,920 Negative thing. Also everyone likes to be 499 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:32,480 chased. Don't fucking give me that shit. 500 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:34,120 Everyone likes to be chased. I also just love. 501 00:23:34,120 --> 00:23:36,640 Being in love, so it's great. Yeah, you're such a softy. 502 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:38,200 It hurts me. Why? 503 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,160 In a good way, Like it hurts my heart. 504 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:44,480 OK so we've been dating since 16th of October. 505 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,760 OK, so 20. 13. Approaching. 506 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:52,760 Four months approaching 4 months. 507 00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,560 She's displeased with this. Wait, hold on. 508 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:58,720 It just approaching four months, OK, OK. 509 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,880 That's officially, Oh, wait, no, that's not that's everything, is 510 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,120 it? Our anniversary classes as the 511 00:24:04,120 --> 00:24:06,880 first date. Was it October 16th our first 512 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,200 date? OK, we met the week prior at the 513 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,320 event, but our first date was October 16th. 514 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:12,760 I got you I. Got you. 515 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,160 OK, gorgeous. It's all just moving so quickly. 516 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:22,160 So obviously, I think yes, that's a very, it is a short 517 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,760 amount of time. I I. 518 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:30,080 Agree, but I will also caveat this by saying that we had 519 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,360 Halloween even in the middle of it. 520 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,480 Christmas, New Year's, these are all big things. 521 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:40,920 And my birthday by the way, Halloween, the Halloween really 522 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,920 celebrated that one. There was there was a lot of 523 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,560 holidays within that which I do feel like amp up a relationship 524 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:50,360 quite quickly. And also we've only been like 525 00:24:50,360 --> 00:24:53,840 officially girlfriend and girlfriend since when does? 526 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,960 I actually don't know who asked. Jess asked me. 527 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,640 I said to Jess, I I've made. I said I'm not asking. 528 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:02,760 OK, So what did you? Why? 529 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:06,720 Why exactly? Because I said love you first. 530 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,920 Mate, she didn't tell me that. Anyway, Cute, right? 531 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:13,920 So Liv said I love you at Winter Wonderland. 532 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:15,640 That's very romantic, very sweet. 533 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,880 Skipping high school. How did you respond? 534 00:25:18,120 --> 00:25:20,400 I said it back, obviously. Much she was like. 535 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,760 EW, we'd like, obviously. So that was in December. 536 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,360 We first started seeing each other in October. 537 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,760 I think when you know, you know, though, I think like, if you 538 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,840 don't have that instant connection with somebody, you're 539 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,520 never going to get it. Absolutely, I will die on that 540 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,480 hill. Because it's like, if you don't 541 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:38,360 have that, you don't have the ability. 542 00:25:38,360 --> 00:25:40,880 I don't think to always like, because love is actually a 543 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,240 chemical thing in your brain. There's no rhyme or reason to 544 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:45,200 it. If you don't have that thing 545 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,040 that makes you go oof. Yeah, I very much. 546 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:51,040 Yeah, I know, but I know and also not like a serial data 547 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,320 anyway. No, I mean, I was very surprised 548 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:54,840 when you said that you wanted to call a friend. 549 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:56,680 Yeah. OK. 550 00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:57,960 So you've been together for four months. 551 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,920 Obviously you guys do pretty much now live together. 552 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,600 So surprise, surprise, surprise, surprise. 553 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,880 But also some things have been out of your control, Jess, which 554 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,200 has made you need to be like staying here. 555 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,400 And also, it's not like you 2 have been living alone because 556 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:15,720 you've been with. Exactly. 557 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,200 It's not been like fully just moving in and like being 558 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,400 secluded and justice. It's not like you moved into 559 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,760 like a studio apartment, you know, There's been a lot of 560 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,920 people around you guys a lot, to be fair. 561 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:26,920 Some would say it's quite a good tester. 562 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:28,680 I actually said this to you yesterday. 563 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,680 I agree. Well, yeah, exactly, because she 564 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,680 hasn't really got on my nerves. We haven't at all. 565 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:37,640 She's very easy. She hasn't gotten on my nerves 566 00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:39,720 so. It's quite good to know to know 567 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:42,480 no agree, and it's been very The thing is like what I always say 568 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,920 to everyone about my and justice relationship, it's just been 569 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:48,160 really easy. Like, it's just really chills. 570 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,640 Just fallen into place quite nicely. 571 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,080 You both are like on a very similar wavelength, which is 572 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:53,560 really nice. I think, yeah, it's the first 573 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:57,000 time I've been in a relationship like this, I think because I 574 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:00,480 obviously I was single for like, what, a year and a half before I 575 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:01,960 met Jess. Well, you don't. 576 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,760 I think The thing is that you never want to feel an imbalance. 577 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:08,040 Yeah, and I think I took that time to really well. 578 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:12,080 I had to focus on myself because of the absolute shit show I went 579 00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:13,920 through. Yeah, so it was a break. 580 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,880 Up. I think it gave me time to like 581 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:20,160 work on myself, really know myself as well, and I think 582 00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:21,840 that's what made me feel good going into. 583 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,560 When you meet someone, you were supposed to meet them at that 584 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:25,880 time. I agree. 585 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,200 You know, when people are like, oh, right person, wrong time. 586 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:29,440 I'm like, no, that's not the case. 587 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:32,600 Like you like, no matter what your situation is, if you meet 588 00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,840 that person and that is there, it's there. 589 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,160 Yeah, just so happens to be whatever, blah, blah. 590 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,320 And then and then you grow on that, which is beautiful. 591 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,480 And how you grow with that is like so up to the people, like 592 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,640 the individual people. But I think it's a waste not to 593 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,920 like, you need to just like. And The thing is that neither of 594 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:49,400 you let that slip, which is really great. 595 00:27:50,360 --> 00:27:52,160 I don't think you could have let it slip either, though. 596 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,920 I do genuinely feel like when people are supposed to be like 597 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,920 in your life, they find a way, some way, even if it's I think 598 00:27:59,360 --> 00:28:01,960 see each other for like a year, like you would have, you would 599 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:03,960 have seen each other again, like because you were supposed to be 600 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:04,520 that, you know. Yeah. 601 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,160 I think when you think about it, it's pretty mad because 602 00:28:07,360 --> 00:28:09,400 especially at the the event, considering how many people come 603 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:13,240 up to you and I specifically in like a chat away and not I'm not 604 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,920 saying this in a country where on my behalf, but like I'm 605 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,680 always on the move at that event, like working quite. 606 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,000 Chaotic for. You, yes. 607 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,520 I don't really talk to a lot of people, but this? 608 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,000 Is what I mean. Like, yeah, but that's what I'm 609 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:25,520 saying. Like, so it's weird that that 610 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,680 happened because I don't really talk to many people. 611 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,880 And thank God I was drunk and had the balls to come to. 612 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:35,160 Both of you, yeah. So with the, I mean, you've kind 613 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,080 of answered some of the questions that I wanted to ask, 614 00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,800 which is a bit awkward because you were saying that like she 615 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:42,720 hasn't gotten on your nerves. I was going to ask. 616 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:43,920 That was going to be one of my questions. 617 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,840 Has she has she gotten on yet? Is there anything that you're 618 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:51,360 like between between two of you? Like you're like, oh, I didn't 619 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,600 think they'd do that, but they've done it now. 620 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:55,240 But it doesn't have to be a deal breaker. 621 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,800 But everyone's got shit that we do that We're like, oh, that's a 622 00:28:57,800 --> 00:28:59,240 bit. Oh, she leaves her. 623 00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:00,640 Stuff. I knew that's what it was going 624 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,840 to be, honestly. Yeah, I I mean, but The thing is 625 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,360 like, it's kind of stuff like that really doesn't bother me. 626 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,320 Like I pick, I pick like she leaves the top on the floor. 627 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:10,560 I pick up folder and put away it. 628 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,560 Really. But also I'm living out of a 629 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,080 suitcase. I do think you're not I. 630 00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,000 Actually unpacked everything and put it in the wardrobes so. 631 00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:20,480 But no, but I understand what you mean. 632 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:21,760 It's not your space. Yeah. 633 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,480 So I'm like that. Like if I'm staying somewhere 634 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,200 else isn't like my home. I'm like, it's nowhere near as 635 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,640 neat and tidy and and as organised as I want it to be 636 00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,080 because I know that it's not permanent. 637 00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,080 You can't say that because you get your bedroom so messy. 638 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,600 I think you are quite messy, Jesse. 639 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,320 I'm literally not like when I was living in Australia. 640 00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,720 Like I love interiors. I love like. 641 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,560 No, I know you. Do but like you've seen the 642 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:46,360 videos of my home in Australia. No, but like like that, like I 643 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:47,920 say, it doesn't bother me. I really don't care. 644 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,800 OK it. Bothers me that it bothers you. 645 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:52,080 Yeah. You know why? 646 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:53,640 It's because you've got ADHD. Exactly. 647 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:55,240 Yeah. And you are medicated. 648 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,720 So it's like you are annoyed that that mess is there because 649 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,440 it's really winding you up. Have you created the mess 650 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,360 because you've got ADHD and now you feel paralyzed? 651 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:04,600 So you feel you're in your Free State? 652 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,440 Baby, we need to like release this. 653 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:08,920 I know. Do you have anything that you're 654 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,320 like, Oh. I can't actually think I. 655 00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:12,720 Thought she was going to say something, then I. 656 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,000 Feel like it's not anything to do with like being around the 657 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,480 home, but it's just like, I don't know here especially I've 658 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,800 noticed like you're cleaning like not in a bad way, but like 659 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,960 I just want you to relax sometimes, you know, like you've 660 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,120 like sometimes you get in those like moods and you're just like, 661 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,040 I've got to clean this until it's clean you know I. 662 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:37,400 Actually have noticed this week especially I've not relaxed. 663 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:38,960 That's what I mean. Like I have actually have been 664 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:40,640 on the go. I don't know why, but hey ho. 665 00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:42,440 Because like even today I was like, come sit down. 666 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,240 Like come, just take. Them I think you've been a 667 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:45,680 little bit stress mentally though. 668 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,280 So I feel like I'm very much like that. 669 00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,600 Like when I'm stress mentally, which thanks to my aura ring, I 670 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,000 get to track just how stressed I am as if I didn't already 671 00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:54,440 fucking know. But. 672 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:56,480 That's a good thing. It's so good. 673 00:30:57,040 --> 00:31:00,520 I love it so much, but Jesus Christ, am I stressed, Like the 674 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,720 white, like the stress of, like, babes. 675 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,800 And it's like full white, like, on my day. 676 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:06,560 And I'm like, OK, but I'm the same. 677 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,520 Like, I'm like, I cannot sit still. 678 00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,520 Like, I cannot. It needs to be done. 679 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:12,160 OK, That's not really a deal breaker. 680 00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:13,880 So basically, she's always cleaning. 681 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:14,920 And you're already fucking messy. 682 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:17,840 So, I mean, maybe that's why she's cleaning all the fucking 683 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:18,840 time. Yeah. 684 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:24,560 Shit is everywhere, Jack. So, so true. 685 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:25,880 So true. Checks out right. 686 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:28,200 It's this bully dress day. I've said it once already today. 687 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,640 But he just weak, exactly like shark week. 688 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,840 I look forward to it. I look forward to it every time. 689 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:40,280 So I think what you said about like it being like a test run, 690 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,280 right? I think that's also a really 691 00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,880 important thing to note because I do also think like on the flip 692 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:49,040 side, the opposite of EU Haul. That isn't like a healthy thing, 693 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,440 by the way, like I mean like opposite U-Haul, which means 694 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:56,200 that you really don't progress things after months and months, 695 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:59,560 all years, still no one really knows where this they stand. 696 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,400 Again, it is that level of anxiety. 697 00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:02,840 Fuck that. But it happens a lot. 698 00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,640 And then being like, oh, we'll move in together after like five 699 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:09,560 years or something like that. And for me, I'm like, I need to 700 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,240 know if I could live with this person, why would I? 701 00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:15,880 Agree I actually saw TikTok the other day and it was like what 702 00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,440 did it say? It was like guys, how many times 703 00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:20,360 do you see a part your partner a week? 704 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,640 And I was going through the comments and some people like 2 705 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,640 times a week and I was like. What they're? 706 00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,000 Like yeah, like, you know, we have like 2 sleepovers a week 707 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:30,840 and I'm like. Sleepovers. 708 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,080 What are we 12 like? But I don't get that because I'm 709 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,480 like, if I'm with someone, I want to see you all the time. 710 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,840 Not in like, not in like I. Know you're kind of like my life 711 00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:41,240 is better when you're around and I enjoy that, you know which is 712 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:43,400 really lovely. But I think that having also 713 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:47,760 independence and spending more time apart is also a really, 714 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:50,360 really important thing. And yes, it can feel fucking 715 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:53,920 amazing in the beginning, but just be careful of that in the 716 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,920 future because it's one of those things that it's like you need 717 00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,680 to have that separation because otherwise. 718 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,360 And like a separate life. You will end up not. 719 00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,760 You'll end up in resentment city, sure, like no one wants 720 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,560 what's. Great about Jess and I Jess 721 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:11,480 loves raves and I hate raves. Exactly. 722 00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:13,200 So there's always going to be a separate. 723 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,720 Off you fuck me there's. Always going to be a separate. 724 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:17,920 Exactly, Joe, I've never been to a Raven. 725 00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,360 Maybe you could be the first person to ever take. 726 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:20,440 Me. Oh my God, I would actually love 727 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,720 that. No, I feel like, I feel like if 728 00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,400 you were in the right. Field like if I was in there, 729 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,000 yeah. You would absolutely love. 730 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,640 It I do too, because I've always said that I'd hate it, but I 731 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:31,200 don't know. I get in there and it's like 732 00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:32,760 just taking yourself, like out of your body. 733 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,280 It just feels like that's what I want. 734 00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,720 I want just like exactly. You don't want to care as much. 735 00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:41,760 You would hate all the sweaty stinky people that that would 736 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,000 spiral you I. Kind of like getting sweaty on 737 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:46,120 like a night out. Exactly. 738 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:48,200 But it's like when you do it like once in a while, you're not 739 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:51,920 doing it like every Saturday. Like, yeah, it's like you go and 740 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,480 like and you know, that's the purpose of your like going to. 741 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,400 Do I'm trying to push myself out of my compass zone and I feel 742 00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:59,480 like that's a potentially good way of doing it because I don't 743 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,040 want to go to a festival so I feel like adjacent to that is a 744 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:05,960 rave yeah because. This is the next best thing. 745 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:07,240 The next if. You're going to a rave. 746 00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:08,880 I'm coming with you because I have to see this. 747 00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:10,560 Perfect. I thought that you didn't want. 748 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,239 To go I'm going if you're going because I want to see you there 749 00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:14,679 I'm. Trying to get Liv to come to Dom 750 00:34:14,679 --> 00:34:16,520 dollar with me. Dom dollar, I mean, I'll come to 751 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:17,800 that. When is it? 752 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,040 He's already been. He's playing in New York and 753 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,320 that just saying that he's doing a residency in Las Vegas. 754 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:24,960 So that's. Well, off to Vegas. 755 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,639 We go to Vegas, OK. That would be really fun. 756 00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,120 And also to see Pitbull perfect. Mr. Worldwide, OK. 757 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,520 Anyway. Sorry, I'll come. 758 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:35,600 Again. So the separation going back to 759 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,440 that still really, really important. 760 00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,800 Yeah. And sometimes it's hard to break 761 00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,639 out of that if you do it for too long, being so intertwined. 762 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,080 Oh, absolutely. Because you run the risk of 763 00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:49,520 upsetting that other person by accident. 764 00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,239 Yeah. But yeah, these, these girls 765 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,520 take or like, couples that take so long to, like, get together 766 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,760 within a relationship, Like. OK, fair. 767 00:34:56,760 --> 00:35:00,200 If you're like dating, right, that you don't have to talk all 768 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,720 the time, you don't have to whatever, but if you're like, 769 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,960 you do your thing, right, because you're you're still 770 00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,720 single within that moment. But when you have like dedicated 771 00:35:07,720 --> 00:35:10,560 yourself to somebody and then I'll see you like once a week, 772 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,520 it's. Like oh fuck that. 773 00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:14,400 No, that would actually give me more anxiety. 774 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,120 But no, I'd feel anxious. Yeah, this. 775 00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,920 Is like, people who don't, OK, sorry if this is you. 776 00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:20,880 I know there's religious things around it, whatever. 777 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,120 But people who save sex for marriage, it's in the same 778 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:25,320 category for me. Yeah. 779 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,400 Like, you've got to like, try before you buy Griz. 780 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,560 Same for living with that imagine. 781 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,240 You actually have. Someone who I met someone who is 782 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,200 that that? Really, who is? 783 00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:35,440 Who is that? Yeah. 784 00:35:35,720 --> 00:35:37,000 A girl or a boy? A girl? 785 00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,200 How did you know that she was like celibate for before 786 00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:41,720 marriage? Because she said she was very 787 00:35:41,720 --> 00:35:42,880 she had a boyfriend as well at time. 788 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,280 Do they do like ears sex? They do some weird shit though, 789 00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,480 don't they? Oh, sorry, soaking, soaking. 790 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,360 It was a soaking like so basically where they put the 791 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:54,160 Dick like they put their like the people put the Willy, the 792 00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:55,440 Willy. In the vagine. 793 00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:59,120 And then they get somebody else to bounce on the bed, no. 794 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,400 Yeah, how like they do it in Utah. 795 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,200 The Mormons do that and like damn you. 796 00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:05,160 Have you not seen this on? Tick honestly king. 797 00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:08,000 No, honestly, what a slave like someone. 798 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,240 That's willing to jump on the bed. 799 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,200 Pop off me like you know what? Be that friend. 800 00:36:12,240 --> 00:36:14,200 Be like, spray a jam. I'll be like, yeah. 801 00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:16,720 So yeah, that's the opposite. We don't want to be that. 802 00:36:16,720 --> 00:36:19,400 We basically all of us want to fucking be in a healthy state 803 00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:23,080 where we're very secure in ourselves and not having to rely 804 00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:26,640 on somebody else for validation, for love, for anything, right? 805 00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,720 Like loving someone is the most beautiful thing that you can 806 00:36:28,720 --> 00:36:30,120 ever do. And being loved by somebody is 807 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,400 like fucking amazing. But if you don't already have 808 00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:36,560 that thing in your core, that is like I am secure in who I am and 809 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,680 I won't die fantastic. Like that's great. 810 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,800 That's good, right? That is pretty good. 811 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,320 Yeah, but a lot of a lot of you fuckers don't have it. 812 00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:45,560 True. Yeah, they don't. 813 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,120 Have it, you don't have it. No, but it is. 814 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,240 It is really fucking hard. And I think that you're 815 00:36:50,240 --> 00:36:52,840 completely right, Jess, with like EU hauling usually 816 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,880 happening with women because women get so fucking excited 817 00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,640 with one another. Like, of course we do. 818 00:36:57,640 --> 00:36:59,480 Are you joking? Absolutely, but it's like having 819 00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:00,640 a best friend that you sleep with. 820 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:02,320 Yeah, that's actually what we said last. 821 00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,480 Night I was like so much. The best friend who you? 822 00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:06,120 Fuck, because you like go here from a night out and you're just 823 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,200 like, this is fun like. Why do they get heartbreak so 824 00:37:09,240 --> 00:37:11,000 fucking bad? No, I know. 825 00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,360 So it's what makes it so good, and it's what makes it so 826 00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,200 fucking bad. Because you don't only lose your 827 00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,120 girlfriend, you lose your best. Friend, I think that's what 828 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,480 scares me about what what scared me about getting into a 829 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,880 relationship. I think after my last breakup I 830 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:25,440 was like I'm actually scared to get into a relationship for this 831 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,080 to happen again. Yeah, but you can't live your 832 00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,400 life. No, I know. 833 00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:31,080 I mean you. Obviously haven't, but I haven't 834 00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:33,040 got girlfriend now, yeah. Exactly. 835 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:35,840 But yeah, you can't. And this is like APSA to like 836 00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,880 you guys are saying like you can't live your life in fear if 837 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:39,640 that is your fear, because it's like, oh. 838 00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,480 No, get out there. Get amongst it. 839 00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,640 Get amongst it, lean into it. Like bring back Yolo. 840 00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:47,840 Yeah, bring back Yolo and lean into it and like, do the things 841 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:49,920 that make you feel good without having to worry. 842 00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,520 And I think that there is such an element of shame that comes 843 00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:55,840 with lesbian relationships. And I think that that's why 844 00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:59,360 there is a lot of sometimes like that, like reserved behaviour 845 00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,880 too, and almost maybe falling into it really quickly too, 846 00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,440 because they've been so ashamed their whole life and they've 847 00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,480 found someone who they've formed this connection with and then. 848 00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,840 Feel so seen with. And you feel so seen. 849 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:13,200 So then you can't help but fall into it because you're like, 850 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,760 this is like a partner in crime, you know? 851 00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:18,760 And so it can go either way. It can either scare them off 852 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,640 because they're like, oh, my fucking God, cannot deal with 853 00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,480 like the shame that I feel in myself because I'm being fronted 854 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:26,320 with it because the reality is hit. 855 00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,960 Yeah. Or you're like, fuck, yeah, 856 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:30,840 let's fucking go. Let's go. 857 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,120 Let's fucking. Do the damn. 858 00:38:32,240 --> 00:38:34,760 Thing this shit OK? I don't know. 859 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:38,120 OK mom, OK rave. Do. 860 00:38:38,240 --> 00:38:40,240 The Brave episode is sponsored by Better Help. 861 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:42,280 All right, let's talk about relationships. 862 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,880 We always hear about red flags, the things that we should avoid 863 00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:46,960 in dating, relationships, and partnerships. 864 00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:50,040 But what if we flip that? What if instead we focus on 865 00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,800 spotting green flags? You know, those little or big 866 00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:56,160 signs that tell us this person is safe, kind, supportive, and 867 00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:58,200 good for me? If you're not sure what those 868 00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,520 green flags look like, or if you want to get better at 869 00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,040 recognizing them, therapy can be an amazing tool. 870 00:39:03,240 --> 00:39:05,680 It helps you build self-awareness, set boundaries, 871 00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,840 and attract the kind of relationships that truly love 872 00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:09,400 you back. So whether you're dating, 873 00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:12,000 married, building a friendship, or just working on yourself, 874 00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:14,040 it's time to start focusing on those green flags. 875 00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,480 I found that through therapy, which is what we're discussing 876 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,120 on this podcast today in terms of relationships and attachment 877 00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,400 styles, that it's enabled me to be able to find those green 878 00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:27,160 flags and stop hyper focusing and stop worrying about those 879 00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:31,720 red flags and actually noticing the good and what I should be 880 00:39:31,720 --> 00:39:34,800 looking for in a relationship. With over 5000 therapists in the 881 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:37,280 UK already, Better Help can connect you with license since 882 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,240 professionals who have a diverse range of expertise in mental 883 00:39:40,240 --> 00:39:42,160 health. Discover your relationship green 884 00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:44,880 flags with Better Help. Our listeners get 10% off their 885 00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,760 first month at betterhelp.com/LSC That is 886 00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:53,600 Better Help help.com/LSC because mental Wellness isn't just about 887 00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:55,800 avoiding the bad, it's about building the good. 888 00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:59,240 Thank you better help. So I in the past have definitely 889 00:39:59,240 --> 00:40:04,120 fallen guilty to EU haul fully fledged. 890 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,280 The van is outside. My shit is packed. 891 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:11,280 I'm in. The thing is, it's so easy to 892 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,360 fall into it. Yeah, and again, going back to 893 00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:19,360 like past like younger Freya extremely anxiously attached and 894 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:21,760 I was like the perfect. Candidate. 895 00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:24,400 Candidate, I was going to say victim, but I think candidate is 896 00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,600 right because it's a double. It's a double. 897 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,400 Thing it's. A perfect storm. 898 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:33,360 And so I was yeah and, and I was like, well, of course they're 899 00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,040 obsessed with me that's completely natural. 900 00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,280 We've been on one date they're messaging me constantly. 901 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:39,800 Why wouldn't they Yeah, why wouldn't That's not to love. 902 00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:42,560 What's not to love? The serotonin is going off the 903 00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:45,200 fucking charts. And I think as well, like you 904 00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:48,280 guys with ADHD as well will also understand that because that 905 00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,920 dopamine here is like so much stronger. 906 00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:52,360 Nothing else. It's like nothing. 907 00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:56,520 It's like no other drug, you know and and so it's like super 908 00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:59,800 intense so you can't you also you're like craving that feeling 909 00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:01,400 because you're like, oh, that's such a fucking good feeling so I 910 00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:03,160 want that again, right. Which is why we need to find 911 00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,160 feelings elsewhere, you know, things that make us happy. 912 00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,680 But yeah. So it's just easy to do it 913 00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:09,560 though. It's like. 914 00:41:09,720 --> 00:41:12,360 Yeah, but easier to do it again, like I said, because I was also 915 00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:16,440 a lot younger, like I was, you know, I had again, like guys, 916 00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:19,640 the MDR, I'm learning a lot of things about my childhood, which 917 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,960 very wise, very wise. But I'm learning a lot of things 918 00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:25,440 about my childhood, which which now I'm unpacking and working 919 00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,200 through and have dealt with really, really like, like thank 920 00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:33,760 for free MDR that it made sense to me to to fall into it because 921 00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,720 I wanted love. Like, you know, I just wanted 922 00:41:36,720 --> 00:41:38,640 love. So if I'm given love and 923 00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:40,960 especially by the right person, I also don't think that you can 924 00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,640 U-Haul with like someone that you don't find like a connection 925 00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:43,840 with. Oh. 926 00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:46,360 Absolutely. Because but then there are some 927 00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:48,520 serial U Haulers. There are some girls that are 928 00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:51,960 like fat boys. And I don't understand fat boys 929 00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:53,760 by the way. Like I can't get on board. 930 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,280 I can't. Fuck boys. 931 00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:58,640 Yeah, why? Because I just don't understand 932 00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:01,240 how you can go around like that. You're very emotional and you 933 00:42:01,240 --> 00:42:03,640 need that connection, yeah, to sleep with someone, right? 934 00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:06,440 Yeah, but if I don't have that, it's gay. 935 00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,240 No, it's not happening. Wait, so would you say, would 936 00:42:09,240 --> 00:42:12,080 you say you're demisexual then? Yes. 937 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:14,320 You are is sure. Yeah, that's demisexual. 938 00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:15,120 Is it? Yeah. 939 00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:16,440 What is it? Is it? 940 00:42:16,720 --> 00:42:18,360 Yeah, really. Can't sleep with someone unless 941 00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:19,720 you have an emotional connection with them. 942 00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:23,440 Yeah, but like define emotional connection because. 943 00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,520 Like say she's. Probably not, You can just feel. 944 00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,480 No, I don't think so. The. 945 00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:28,800 Difference between yeah, but I think. 946 00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,240 No, no, no, but you can have like a really like strong 947 00:42:31,240 --> 00:42:33,800 intimate connection that could grow into like an emotional 948 00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,320 connection, but like, I don't don't know it's. 949 00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,440 Not going to be like a relationship type thing like a. 950 00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,640 Yeah, like, no, it's not like I have to be in a relationship to 951 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:42,920 sleep with somebody. I feel like that's more like a 952 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:45,160 demisexual. Demisexuals, you have to be like 953 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,360 emotionally connected. I feel like it doesn't mean 954 00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,360 relationship. I don't have to be emotionally. 955 00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:53,200 I'm just sat here like I I, I mean, look, I don't need another 956 00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,040 fucking label, girls. Honestly, I'm just a fucking 957 00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,760 lesbian. I definitely have to feel that 958 00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,400 connection now. I have to feel insanely 959 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:00,840 attracted to somebody, basically. 960 00:43:02,240 --> 00:43:03,680 Yeah, I don't know. You just know when you know, 961 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:04,720 right? You're like, yeah, I want to 962 00:43:04,720 --> 00:43:08,040 have sex with this person. But like, that's why it's like 963 00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:11,200 the fuck boy thing for me. I'm like, oh, that's very rare 964 00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:12,760 for me. Like I don't get turned on 965 00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:14,440 easily. I don't jazz. 966 00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:15,720 Don't fucking me like that, bitch. 967 00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:18,160 I actually think. It again, but. 968 00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,720 Christ. She don't know, I don't. 969 00:43:20,720 --> 00:43:22,640 Don't get what? Turned on easily. 970 00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:24,200 I don't. Oh oh. 971 00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:26,560 By a fucking big. Beam. 972 00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,520 No, I couldn't. No, unless I'm like attracted to 973 00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,240 that person. Yeah, you can turn me on really 974 00:43:31,240 --> 00:43:33,720 fucking. If I'm attracted to that person, 975 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:35,760 they can turn me on really fucking quickly. 976 00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:38,560 But I mean in general you are working. 977 00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:40,560 Around possibly one of the horniest people I've met. 978 00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,640 No. Yeah, yes, you. 979 00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:45,360 Absolutely. Are, yeah. 980 00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:49,480 It's not a bad thing. I am No, no, I I love, I love 981 00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,760 being like a very like sexual person, but that doesn't mean 982 00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,440 that I can go around and sleep with different people. 983 00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,000 That's what I'm saying with the whole fat boy thing. 984 00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:58,000 It's like I don't, I just, I just can't get on board with it. 985 00:43:58,280 --> 00:43:59,600 Like all power to you, by the way, if you. 986 00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:00,480 Not a judge? Good. 987 00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,680 For them good. She just can't physically get 988 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,640 herself to do it. No, no, I can't get it up. 989 00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:09,280 But I yeah, but Fairfax, I mean, honestly, you just do whatever 990 00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:12,680 the fuck you want to do. So now though if I were to be 991 00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:18,520 like, love bombed heavy I think. You have bummed in what way? 992 00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,120 What would like scare you? Would love bumming. 993 00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,440 So say within like a couple of weeks, being like, I love you, 994 00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,720 yeah, that would scare me. Whereas younger Freya would have 995 00:44:28,720 --> 00:44:30,600 been like, of course you love me, You've known me for two more 996 00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,840 weeks, you know? That's completely normal to do. 997 00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:34,840 That yeah, yeah. What's? 998 00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,640 What we were actually discussing this last night. 999 00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:39,320 What are your love languages like? 1000 00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:42,000 What do you what do you do and what do you like in a partner? 1001 00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:43,600 So I'm. Going to sound like such a cunt 1002 00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:45,080 here and I was saying this is someone the other day. 1003 00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,040 I have all of the love languages to give. 1004 00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:49,760 It was in like horizon. I sound like sake. 1005 00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:51,440 What do you mean you've got? All of them. 1006 00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:53,840 OK, I'm going to rephrase that. No, no, no. 1007 00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:57,800 So I'm going to sound like a cunt, but basically I give I I 1008 00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,200 enjoy giving all of the love languages. 1009 00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,360 So I enjoy giving words of affirmation. 1010 00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,440 I enjoy acts of service. Like I love doing things to 1011 00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:09,800 people. I love physical touch, like 1012 00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,880 giving physical touch. What's the other ones to be? 1013 00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:14,400 Fair. Now that I'm reading them, I'm 1014 00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:15,640 into all of them as well. Yeah. 1015 00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,640 But it doesn't like I would say most people into all of them, 1016 00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:21,200 but it's like, what is your main way that you gravitate towards 1017 00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,320 showing? By the way, no, but I show them 1018 00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:24,320 all. I feel equally. 1019 00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:26,280 That's what I. But there'll be ones you do more 1020 00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,520 it'll. Probably be like true that you 1021 00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:28,400 do. What are they? 1022 00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:32,600 I reckon it's words of affirmation, quality time, 1023 00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:35,600 physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts. 1024 00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,040 I would say yours a physical touch and acts of service. 1025 00:45:38,240 --> 00:45:40,880 But I love giving gifts too, babe, You do. 1026 00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,800 And I love physical touch. I love acts of service. 1027 00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,160 I love words of affirmation. I actually would say 1028 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:50,400 affirmation. From observing you, yeah I would 1029 00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:54,240 say yours are definitely acts of service. 100 clicks because 1030 00:45:54,240 --> 00:45:56,880 service can fall into the gift giving category as well. 1031 00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:58,080 True. I feel like it does. 1032 00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:01,960 I'd say acts of service and words of affirmation. 1033 00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,800 Are yours physical? Touch. 1034 00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:05,200 Come on, physical. Touch has to be in there. 1035 00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:08,240 My biggest of language would be physical touch. 1036 00:46:08,240 --> 00:46:12,480 I'm so touchy feeling. But to receive, I don't need to 1037 00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:16,200 receive gifts. I don't I think acts of service. 1038 00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:20,080 I think for me and and physical touch because acts of service it 1039 00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,560 doesn't mean I want, by the way someone to do loads of stuff for 1040 00:46:22,560 --> 00:46:25,320 me. But I always feel like actions 1041 00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:26,880 are obviously speaking louder than words. 1042 00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:28,560 And that's what it is. It's like the meaningful things. 1043 00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:30,640 It's like the meaningful things, a little thing. 1044 00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,400 It doesn't need to be like a huge gesture. 1045 00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:34,320 It doesn't need to be like you're fucking doing everything 1046 00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:37,320 for me, but just so every now and then that you make a little 1047 00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,160 bit of effort. I'm like, OK, that's great that 1048 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:40,480 I really like that physical touch. 1049 00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:42,440 What would you say mine and Jesses are then? 1050 00:46:43,720 --> 00:46:45,920 Physical touch I will. Hold so you can see. 1051 00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,840 Physical touch, definitely, and I'd actually say quality time. 1052 00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,800 For no, but as in like, what are mine and what what do you think 1053 00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:54,320 hers? Are right OK what are yours to 1054 00:46:54,320 --> 00:47:00,760 give physical touch and quality time and and giving gifts yeah. 1055 00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:02,640 Access service? You mean? 1056 00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:05,040 Because it's receiving gifts, not giving gifts. 1057 00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:07,360 Yeah. But if there's receiving gifts, 1058 00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:08,640 there's giving gifts like there's. 1059 00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,640 Yeah. So I think that those are yours. 1060 00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:13,680 Like I know that you would really love to like give her 1061 00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,160 stuff and that whenever you think about something you get 1062 00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:17,720 it. And the physical touch, 1063 00:47:17,720 --> 00:47:19,320 obviously. I think like both of you 1064 00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:23,280 definitely have that. I think you, Jess. 1065 00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,280 Physical touch, obviously. Absolutely. 1066 00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:28,320 I do also think words of affirmation you give very 1067 00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:31,520 nicely, like that is a really, really beautiful trait that 1068 00:47:31,520 --> 00:47:35,200 you've got because you're not shy to like, compliment and say 1069 00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:36,800 things. No, I'm just interested in what 1070 00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,960 she's picked up on. That no, she's been, I've, I've 1071 00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:42,560 noticed you being very, extremely complimentary to live. 1072 00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,040 Like even last night you were like, can everyone just take a 1073 00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:47,360 moment for a second to like, look at how beautiful live looks 1074 00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:50,320 and made everyone give a little round of applause, which I think 1075 00:47:50,320 --> 00:47:52,720 is so fucking cute. So like that. 1076 00:47:52,720 --> 00:47:55,200 Definitely. Yeah, I would probably agree. 1077 00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,600 My problem is that I do equally. And by the way, it's not because 1078 00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,200 I feel like I have to do those things. 1079 00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,920 I genuinely just actually enjoy doing all those things. 1080 00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,720 But I don't. But I think the problem is that 1081 00:48:05,720 --> 00:48:08,640 like, I don't want anyone to ever think that like, because I 1082 00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,480 like giving all those things that I like that I feel like I 1083 00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:13,880 need to receive it all. Like I don't give to receive, 1084 00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:14,640 you know. Oh. 1085 00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:18,800 Absolutely. I love, I like, yeah, like I 1086 00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,000 like, I love buying dress stuff. Like I love it, even if it's 1087 00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,000 like fucking chocolate bar that I know she likes. 1088 00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:26,400 But like in saying that, like I'd love doing it, but I would 1089 00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,760 never. I don't expect that from yeah, 1090 00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:30,400 you at all. I don't. 1091 00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,600 But actually very well. Jess is doing some research. 1092 00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,200 You can talk about how we are bringing back the word minge. 1093 00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:38,280 We started chatting about that on the last episode, didn't we? 1094 00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:40,720 I think the minge movement, the minge movement, yeah. 1095 00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:44,520 So I think it's it's coming. It's it's coming back with the 1096 00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,200 storm like 20. 25 is the year of the minge. 1097 00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:49,520 It really is. Get into it, yeah. 1098 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,400 Get involved in many ways. A. 1099 00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:55,880 Little Minge temporary tattoo. Yeah, need. 1100 00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,360 It's a need, not A1. All right, Yeah, all right. 1101 00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:03,440 I love the word minge and. It's so fun to say, it says. 1102 00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:06,040 So much it's quite punchy. It is. 1103 00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:09,560 It's powerful. Minge, Minge. 1104 00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:12,120 And I think in the past it's probably been used as quite 1105 00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:16,080 maybe a negative word. Stinky minge, Stinky minge, Oh I 1106 00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:18,320 hate people. Stinky minge. 1107 00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:21,480 Oh, by the way, can I just say so many people came to me for 1108 00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:25,080 the whole fucking shower before sex thing and I yeah, and I 1109 00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:28,200 really want to clear it up. I really want to clear this up 1110 00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:30,000 okay? Oh, oh, you got. 1111 00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:31,440 There is off. I did get didn't. 1112 00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:34,880 You I did get told off. Okay look totally cool. 1113 00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:36,480 I hate being told off, but don't worry about it. 1114 00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:41,800 I do not think that there is anything wrong with the natural 1115 00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:46,280 scent, anything of a vagina. I do not need you to be fresh 1116 00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:48,320 out of the shower every single time that I sleep with you. 1117 00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:52,440 That is ridiculous. Yeah, and not something that I 1118 00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:54,760 stand by. I do not have a problem. 1119 00:49:56,280 --> 00:50:00,640 I think I was just thinking of a very specific scenario. 1120 00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:04,880 Yeah, I'm kind of like picturing a rave where you've been using 1121 00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:07,040 fucking dirty toilets all night in a portaloo. 1122 00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:10,280 Yeah, that kind of vibe. Like if I've been out with you 1123 00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,560 and we go home, I'm not ordering you to take a shower and we just 1124 00:50:13,560 --> 00:50:15,280 put that out there very, very quickly. 1125 00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:18,120 That is not yeah, because I don't need to do that. 1126 00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:20,800 Also a mood killer. Mood killer and also I, you. 1127 00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:22,640 Say that, but me and you both have a shower. 1128 00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:25,720 But we love a shower. Yeah, but I love I just. 1129 00:50:25,720 --> 00:50:28,080 That's not necessarily for that situation. 1130 00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,320 No, no, I know, but it doesn't. Get but you're kind of washing 1131 00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:33,200 the night away, right. And also you're together like 1132 00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:33,920 it's different. True. 1133 00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,920 So like, if you're like sleeping with someone the first time, 1134 00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:42,080 first few times, whatever, I totally chill. 1135 00:50:42,200 --> 00:50:44,560 Not a problem. I'm not like I'm, I'm not 1136 00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:46,240 disgusted. Like I fucking love it. 1137 00:50:46,240 --> 00:50:49,600 Also, a lot of women, a lot of lesbians out there might love 1138 00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:52,880 that natural aroma. It's a bit of a joke though, and 1139 00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:54,280 at the end of the day, it's a podcast. 1140 00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:56,040 Not that it's not that deep, it's just really not. 1141 00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:57,920 That and also none of us are experts. 1142 00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:00,360 No, we're just. Fighting shit in a mint. 1143 00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,720 But yeah, mint but binge movement anyway, it is a great 1144 00:51:03,720 --> 00:51:06,240 word bringing it back. We're only yeah. 1145 00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:09,200 I was going to say other words that are coming back OK 2025. 1146 00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:13,680 Sucker, sucker, sucker. Oh, says Perry 100%. 1147 00:51:13,720 --> 00:51:16,760 Sucker's coming back, so you know you're a sucker and also 1148 00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:18,880 you sucker. You suck. 1149 00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:21,080 Where's this? Where's this come into play? 1150 00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:21,720 Perry says. You. 1151 00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:24,960 Suck quite a lot, but she does. But yes, but she's bringing 1152 00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:26,800 suckers back like you're a sucker. 1153 00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:28,360 I love that. Yeah, agree. 1154 00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:29,840 Yeah, you're gonna. I need to ask. 1155 00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:32,360 Her if this is to do the Charlie X Yes because one of her albums 1156 00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:34,520 is called Sucker. No, she's been Perry sucks for a 1157 00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:35,880 while on Instagram, I'll have you know. 1158 00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:39,360 Yeah, but I'm a. Personal plug, yeah, Perry sucks 1159 00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:41,960 with like 2X's or something. Perry's fucking great. 1160 00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:43,640 What other words? Yolo, obviously. 1161 00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:45,640 Yolo is coming back in a big way. 1162 00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:48,000 Very big way. In a really big fucking way. 1163 00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:50,760 And I think that ties in quite nicely with like the Brat 1164 00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:54,280 aesthetic, like Yolo, that's just like a little bit, I don't 1165 00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:55,720 know. No, like not in that way. 1166 00:51:55,720 --> 00:51:57,880 I feel like Brat is bringing back maybe like an older 1167 00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:00,840 aesthetic and like grungy and messy and that we haven't seen 1168 00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,000 that for a little while. And I feel like Yolo, we haven't 1169 00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:04,720 seen it for a little while. So it's coming back once. 1170 00:52:04,720 --> 00:52:05,520 Again. Yeah, What? 1171 00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:06,880 Goes around, comes around. We're trying to get the 1172 00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:08,600 boomerang start it back up again on. 1173 00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,520 But you did it true perfectly. You tried to do like a shitty 1174 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:13,080 one and. I tried to do a shit one, I 1175 00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:14,800 think because I tried to do a shit. 1176 00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:15,880 It didn't work. You know I. 1177 00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:17,200 Think we should bring back Boomerangs I? 1178 00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:20,040 Think so. I've had people like so many 1179 00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:22,880 people DM me their boomerangs after I put one up and been like 1180 00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:24,640 Oh my God, been thinking this for ages. 1181 00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,840 So I'm like, look, the feature is still there for a reason, 1182 00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:27,840 guys. I forgot about them. 1183 00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:29,920 And also, do you know, I'm fucking sick of those Gen. 1184 00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:31,440 Z's being like, oh, sorry, you're both Gen. 1185 00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:34,640 Z, but like, you're not those I. Like right on the cusp. 1186 00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:37,200 I'm technically I think. Being like oh millennials are so 1187 00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:38,840 lame with their fucking boomers and shit like that. 1188 00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:40,000 So therefore I want to reclaim it. 1189 00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:41,560 It's like being called a dyke. Like I need to. 1190 00:52:41,560 --> 00:52:43,760 Exactly. Exactly. 1191 00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:47,880 But yeah, we've got a lot, I think, I think 2020. 1192 00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:49,080 Five. I can't think of the word 1193 00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,120 boomerang without hearing JoJo Siwa's song. 1194 00:52:51,240 --> 00:52:54,840 I'm a comeback like a boomerang with obviously some of the 1195 00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,080 really, because I feel like I should have mentioned this at 1196 00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:59,400 the beginning of the episode, like with some of the really 1197 00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:02,400 horrendous shit that Trump is coming out with now that he is 1198 00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:05,120 in power, which I told you would happen. 1199 00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:08,080 And I had so many lesbians in the comments being like lesbians 1200 00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:09,560 for Trump. And I was like, chickens for 1201 00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:11,720 Christmas. Like, fuck off, I know, sorry. 1202 00:53:11,720 --> 00:53:13,640 I was like, Turkey for Christmas. 1203 00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:15,040 Yeah. Turkeys for Thanksgiving, 1204 00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:17,680 turkeys for Christmas. Why are you voting for Trump 1205 00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:19,280 when he's looking to remove all your rights? 1206 00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,520 He's not looking to remove my rights. 1207 00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:23,640 I'm like, he is looking to remove your rights. 1208 00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:28,040 And he's like, quite eloquently put it into a big old document 1209 00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:30,480 that is open for the world to fucking see it. 1210 00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:32,720 But if you don't want to believe me, you fucking don't. 1211 00:53:32,720 --> 00:53:38,120 So now they've removed the DEI. So DERDEI stands for Diversity, 1212 00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:41,120 Equity and Inclusion, and basically that that rule has now 1213 00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:42,960 been revoked within the workplace. 1214 00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:48,000 And even when a plane crashed, he Trump liked to blame the DEI 1215 00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:51,880 hires for the crash itself, which is absolutely ridiculous. 1216 00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:54,560 Insane and let's can't stand him. 1217 00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:57,120 I can't stand him. I can't stand Musk with his 1218 00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:59,400 fucking Nazi salute just to really tip it up. 1219 00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:02,560 My God, it's. Obviously revoked yeah that 1220 00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:07,080 safety and that protection of DI hires within the workplace this 1221 00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:11,080 is a big fucking issue and anyone who thinks that it isn't 1222 00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:15,040 needs to read a book because like this is history repeating 1223 00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:18,920 itself it is horrendous it's. Actually really fucking scary. 1224 00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:22,120 And a massive company that obviously has been impacted is 1225 00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:25,680 Amazon. And you know, they they now are 1226 00:54:25,680 --> 00:54:27,880 under massive risk. If you are a person within the 1227 00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:32,720 LGBTQ plus community, Let's not forget as well, disabled ethnic 1228 00:54:32,720 --> 00:54:36,280 minority that a woman that that's where it's fucking 1229 00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,560 leading to, right, Because at this point, women are also that 1230 00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:43,720 ethical hire for them, you know, and it makes me sick. 1231 00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,720 Like, and we all knew that this was going to happen. 1232 00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:50,440 He's come in in the strongest, most dictatorship way. 1233 00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:53,960 But do you know what is scarier Is that it's it's him and Musk 1234 00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:56,400 as a duo is absolutely terrifying. 1235 00:54:56,400 --> 00:54:59,200 I find Elon Musk so terrifying now he's. 1236 00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:00,840 Fucking weird. He's a loser. 1237 00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:02,880 Say something how much grief you're getting for having a 1238 00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,600 Tesla right now because it's annoying. 1239 00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:08,800 Yeah, it is really annoying. OK, let's not fucking pretend 1240 00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:13,120 that everything we own and every Amazon order that you've fucking 1241 00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:17,520 done is owned by literal villains, OK, I understand Elon 1242 00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:19,640 Musk is a twat. I got this Tesla. 1243 00:55:19,840 --> 00:55:23,560 We got this Tesla years ago, but before there was any of that. 1244 00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:27,760 And the reason why we got the Tesla was to be environmentally 1245 00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:29,800 friendly. And this is backfired in a 1246 00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:32,160 pretty fucking bad way. What do you want me to do with 1247 00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,920 my finance fucking? Also, is it realistic? 1248 00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:38,160 Just be like, give it back. So I can't take this fucking car 1249 00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:40,480 back. I cannot take this car back, OK. 1250 00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:44,480 And I've got you lot in my DM saying take your fucking car. 1251 00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:47,000 Yeah, you're a disgrace for owning this car. 1252 00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:48,760 Also, what do you want me to fuck you? 1253 00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:52,440 Do Scarlet have said so many times how much you categorically 1254 00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,560 hate the car? Oh yeah, it's annoying you can't 1255 00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:56,600 get. Rid of it because you've curbed 1256 00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:58,280 the alloys. No more than that. 1257 00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:00,840 It's fucked. That car is fucked, but 1258 00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:04,120 basically I can't get rid of it. It's not only was it they. 1259 00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:05,960 Want to get rid of it? They want a new car. 1260 00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:09,320 They're trying. But also you cannot reflect my 1261 00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:11,640 values based on the card and I bought years ago I was. 1262 00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:13,760 Going to say it, but the majority of the people that say 1263 00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:16,880 that probably have Amazon Prime. Almost likely going back to all 1264 00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:19,080 of this, it's absolutely terrifying to our American 1265 00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,120 listeners, we love you, we support you. 1266 00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:25,160 We are still here. We want you to know that there 1267 00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:29,800 is there is a lot of power, I hope within community and people 1268 00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:32,120 being there for one another. If you feel like there is 1269 00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,840 somebody within your community be a trans person who is more at 1270 00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:38,880 risk right now, you be there for that trans person you know and 1271 00:56:38,880 --> 00:56:40,800 you do your best. It is majority of trans people 1272 00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:46,280 being attacked right now and that's why we need to do our job 1273 00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:50,520 to stand up because fucking how they are less than 1% of the 1274 00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:53,360 population they are being targeted is if they are the 1275 00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,320 issues behind their their health care Yeah are. 1276 00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:57,880 You looking, did you see that ticked up today? 1277 00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:01,960 I was Laverne Cox saying that. She literally said that on I 1278 00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:03,320 watch. Oh, I haven't seen like, well, 1279 00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:05,880 actually 1% of the population. No, but they are the problem. 1280 00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:11,320 If that if 1% right and you're behaving like they're the 1281 00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:16,640 problem, like come on, you are insanity, pure insanity. 1282 00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:18,840 And so I am sick and tired of it. 1283 00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,240 And now we're going into like our government too. 1284 00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:25,840 There was recently this guy called Josh Howey who is a GB 1285 00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,200 News reporter. Which, First off, any reporter 1286 00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:32,640 GB News is just disgusting. Yeah, but regardless, I'm going 1287 00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:35,960 to put this down to the reporter and also the the producer who 1288 00:57:35,960 --> 00:57:39,200 let this air, right? Both of them should be held 1289 00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,560 responsible for this because it is absolutely disgusting. 1290 00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:47,840 But in this news report, Josh Howey mentions the LGBTQ plus 1291 00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:51,040 community being protected. And he said, and you know what 1292 00:57:51,040 --> 00:57:55,120 that means pedos. So he basically put pedophiles 1293 00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:57,760 in with the LGBTQ plus community. 1294 00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,760 Why? Because he likens them the same. 1295 00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:02,600 Just like how a lot of homophobic people, they will 1296 00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:05,320 lump predators in with the same category as people within the 1297 00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:08,760 LGBTQ plus community, right? And they will say that makes so 1298 00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:10,280 much sense, makes so much sense, right? 1299 00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:13,280 Because they will state that that plus could stand for 1300 00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:14,880 anything that they fucking hate, right? 1301 00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:19,000 Let's not forget how many pedophiles are straight white 1302 00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:22,640 men. You want to put pedophiles and 1303 00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:25,160 in the same box as the LGBTQ plus community? 1304 00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:27,760 Bitch look in the fucking mirror you bald headed cunt. 1305 00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:31,160 Right. So I am disgraced by this 1306 00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:34,320 because the LGBTQ plus community, all we have ever 1307 00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:39,200 been, has been loving fighting for the bare minimum same rights 1308 00:58:39,600 --> 00:58:42,800 as heterosexual people whilst being adverse with hatred. 1309 00:58:43,120 --> 00:58:47,640 Every day there was, every single day there is a fight 1310 00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:50,520 against somebody within the RGBTQ plus community, abuse, 1311 00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:53,600 whatever that might be, right? Killings, stonings, 1312 00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:57,240 imprisonment. And now you're sitting there 1313 00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,440 saying that pedophiles are within. 1314 00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:07,160 That is a crime, a heinous crime and a severe mental illness too. 1315 00:59:07,440 --> 00:59:10,680 Like God knows what, you've got to be something really fucking 1316 00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:14,440 bad and there's a lot of them. I'm disgraced by this. 1317 00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:17,200 So like I said, not only did the news reporter say it, but then 1318 00:59:17,200 --> 00:59:19,840 also the producer enabled it to be Ed. 1319 00:59:20,760 --> 00:59:23,040 What is going on? GB News they're the most that 1320 00:59:23,280 --> 00:59:25,200 that have you. Are they like this? 1321 00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:27,280 No, I don't watch them because I'm not thick, but are they 1322 00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:28,760 don't watch. Them either, but. 1323 00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:30,880 No. Are they like the sun for 1324 00:59:31,160 --> 00:59:33,280 television? It's like worse. 1325 00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:37,760 They're absolute disgrace. So this is like a completely 1326 00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:41,960 disgusting rhetoric because because there's already people 1327 00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:43,440 that are really fucking thick watching it, right? 1328 00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:44,880 Because you got really stupid to watch it. 1329 00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:50,000 So they're obviously is easily influenced and only scare only 1330 00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:51,560 thick people. People get scared of what they 1331 00:59:51,560 --> 00:59:54,200 can't understand because they can't understand it, therefore 1332 00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:56,560 they're scared. Quotation marks, homophobia, 1333 00:59:56,560 --> 01:00:01,440 phobia of homosexuality because they can't understand something 1334 01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:04,560 that isn't their reality because they're thick. 1335 01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:07,760 That is all it comes down to. You cannot be intelligent and 1336 01:00:07,760 --> 01:00:09,800 homophobic like the two. Don't. 1337 01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:12,680 The two cannot coexist. I'm sorry. 1338 01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:18,240 Unless you are gay so you could be intelligent. 1339 01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:22,280 And very gay in the closet and hating the fact that you're gay, 1340 01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:24,480 therefore you're a homophobe. Either one. 1341 01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:26,320 What would you rather be quite common as well? 1342 01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:30,080 So this is just really, really recently add I think that action 1343 01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:33,960 is going to be taken on this and if it isn't best have to leave. 1344 01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:35,400 I am there. I'm there tomorrow. 1345 01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:36,560 She's. Going to pay, Where are you 1346 01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:39,480 going? TV news she's making. 1347 01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:42,920 Signs she's outside the window. I will egg that bald headed 1348 01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:46,280 cunt. He is so hideous they would not 1349 01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:48,160 be able to. They always are hideous though. 1350 01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:50,160 But he needs to be fired. But. 1351 01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:53,240 He won't be. He won't have to be. 1352 01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,680 I'm sorry, there's no way they'd keep him on after this. 1353 01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:57,440 Lesbians. Mark my words if this man does 1354 01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:59,480 not get fired. Old phrase going to kick up a 1355 01:00:59,480 --> 01:01:01,200 stink. Oh, I'm kicking up a stink. 1356 01:01:01,240 --> 01:01:03,960 I'm already kicking up a stink. And then people ask me why I do 1357 01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:05,800 this podcast and people ask me why I do events. 1358 01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:07,720 People ask me why I post lesbian content. 1359 01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:09,760 This is why. Exactly. 1360 01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:12,640 So on that note on that saying that. 1361 01:01:13,080 --> 01:01:15,840 I'm saying that I do want a few more Aussie slangs from you that 1362 01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:18,920 I need to learn and okay, let's cry. 1363 01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:20,160 You're really putting on the spot. 1364 01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:23,720 Do you want words or? Little things that you say, 1365 01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:26,520 yeah. Something that I've like taught 1366 01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:30,760 live, which like I didn't know wasn't like a well known thing, 1367 01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:34,320 was a Suki lala. Yeah, I hate this calling 1368 01:01:34,320 --> 01:01:37,040 someone a. Suck you're being a suck sucky 1369 01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:38,680 lala. Is that when you say, oh, you're 1370 01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:41,720 so cooked, you're. So you've got nothing to do with 1371 01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:44,080 Why do you sound like a road man when you say cooked like that 1372 01:01:44,120 --> 01:01:50,000 going cooked. No, you, not you and your top 1373 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,480 boy era. You're being a Sookie, Lala. 1374 01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:55,720 You're being a Sook. Give the definition for free. 1375 01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:57,400 Give the definition of Sookie Lala. 1376 01:01:57,400 --> 01:01:59,600 I feel like being a Sook, like you're being really Sookie is 1377 01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:02,560 like maybe being like feeling a bit sorry for yourself for a bit 1378 01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:05,440 like, all right, like, you know, like Iggy's being like a bit 1379 01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:08,400 like. But you being little, suck. 1380 01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:11,160 Yeah, being like a little suck. Like maybe he's like looking sad 1381 01:02:11,160 --> 01:02:12,240 on like the couch. Or something. 1382 01:02:12,240 --> 01:02:14,440 Why? Why does the lala come into it? 1383 01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:15,760 Maybe that's just a personal thing. 1384 01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:17,680 I think that's like. Anyone else from Australia? 1385 01:02:17,680 --> 01:02:19,600 Let me know if you say Suki Lala as well. 1386 01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:23,800 Me like, oh you little Suk. Oh, Suki is definitely something 1387 01:02:23,800 --> 01:02:27,760 that's said quite often. Jess also calls broccoli 1388 01:02:27,760 --> 01:02:29,440 broccoli. OK, that's definitely a Jess 1389 01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:30,480 thing. No, that's don't put me on 1390 01:02:30,480 --> 01:02:32,240 blast. I will put you on blast because 1391 01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,040 it's so rogue. No, it's fine. 1392 01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:36,560 Be nice to me maybe? You're saying that it's 1393 01:02:36,560 --> 01:02:39,280 definitely very Australian is I didn't come here to fuck 1394 01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,920 spiders. I didn't come here to fuck 1395 01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:43,400 spiders. Like, I didn't come here that's 1396 01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:44,520 around. Like, oh. 1397 01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:47,760 I like him one as well that. You saying to me like sculling 1398 01:02:47,760 --> 01:02:49,080 something? No. 1399 01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,520 I suppose you said it to me the other day in the car when I when 1400 01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:55,000 I'd say to Freya, like if it's sunny, I'd be like. 1401 01:02:55,760 --> 01:02:57,120 Bad day to be a beer. That's it. 1402 01:02:57,320 --> 01:02:59,240 Bad day to be a beer. Yeah, that's a good one, I 1403 01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:00,720 think. Bad day to be a beer. 1404 01:03:00,720 --> 01:03:03,560 Bad day to be a beer. I kind of like using like bad 1405 01:03:03,560 --> 01:03:05,960 day to be a something anyway, like that's why you like. 1406 01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:09,160 Like, bad day to be like, literally insert whatever you're 1407 01:03:09,160 --> 01:03:13,080 doing, you know? Yeah, bad day to be a ski 1408 01:03:13,080 --> 01:03:14,760 jacket. Yeah, I love that. 1409 01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:18,240 A bad day to be a beer. Yeah, yeah. 1410 01:03:18,240 --> 01:03:20,160 I feel like this summer that saying. 1411 01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:22,240 Oh, that saying it's going to go hard, babe. 1412 01:03:22,240 --> 01:03:24,040 Exactly. I can't wait until. 1413 01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:26,640 Hate us in summer? I know I can't wait. 1414 01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:29,800 I mean if sometimes was insufferable then no. 1415 01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:32,040 Back the cringe. I'm never bringing back the 1416 01:03:32,040 --> 01:03:34,200 cringe I hit. A climb cringe mountain dude I. 1417 01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:37,400 Fucking hate myself but the weather has been so bad 1418 01:03:37,640 --> 01:03:40,040 recently. I mean it's been for months now 1419 01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:43,400 but now it's getting to the really really really dull grey 1420 01:03:43,400 --> 01:03:45,120 thing and I'm like this is just death. 1421 01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:47,640 However. The three of us are actually 1422 01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:49,800 going a little getaway next Saturday. 1423 01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:53,520 We're going to be, I can't wait. We're going clubbing in the 1424 01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:56,400 February. Not that no ones gonna be there. 1425 01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:58,440 Just ask that. It's giving Inbetweeners and the 1426 01:03:58,440 --> 01:03:59,480 club. Oh no, it really is. 1427 01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:01,160 That is, that is literally us. What it? 1428 01:04:01,720 --> 01:04:04,400 Will be as. Well, yeah, well, we're gonna 1429 01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:06,080 have to probably recreate that scene too. 1430 01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:09,080 So I think so. I actually can't I I think 1431 01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,400 that's where my cringe level radar really. 1432 01:04:11,400 --> 01:04:14,360 No, absolutely not doing that. I've I've vetoed. 1433 01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:17,400 So all of that, No, yeah, I think I bet it'll be really fun. 1434 01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:18,560 I'm really looking forward to that. 1435 01:04:18,560 --> 01:04:20,200 I'm really looking forward to decompressing. 1436 01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:25,760 I have been non-stop for so long that I really need that because 1437 01:04:25,760 --> 01:04:28,760 I think maybe that's what led me into me thinking, oh, I've got 1438 01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:30,640 to post those and do all this kind of stuff because like I was 1439 01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:35,400 so over overstimulated like to another degree that I was like 1440 01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:38,640 going, you know, you know, like when you when you spin a wheel 1441 01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:41,600 really quickly and then it spins out of fucking control. 1442 01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:43,520 You're like a hamster on a wheel. 1443 01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:44,880 Yes you are. That is what you've. 1444 01:04:44,920 --> 01:04:47,160 Been, you know, when the hamster just like kind of becomes part 1445 01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:51,360 of the wheel, like 100% just being flung. 1446 01:04:51,360 --> 01:04:54,040 Yeah, I'm going to. I'm honestly going to tie you to 1447 01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:57,520 the fucking hamster wheels. No, the the lounge chair, 1448 01:04:57,520 --> 01:04:59,200 whatever. It's common, but it's called the 1449 01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:00,600 chair. Chase Lounge? 1450 01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:04,480 No in Ibiza. Oh, the lounger. 1451 01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:06,120 The lounge, I'm literally going to tie you to that lounge 1452 01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:07,240 because you're so annoying as well. 1453 01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:09,800 On holiday, you can't sit still, you have to sit still. 1454 01:05:09,880 --> 01:05:12,000 All right, me on the me on the sun lounger. 1455 01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:13,680 Someone sedate me. Yeah, you. 1456 01:05:14,280 --> 01:05:16,280 Just I just want you, just because I'm doing it for you. 1457 01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:17,640 I just want you to relax. Yeah. 1458 01:05:18,520 --> 01:05:20,480 Don't. Don't I too I. 1459 01:05:20,520 --> 01:05:22,280 Know don't wheel. And you know what? 1460 01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:24,520 If my brain wasn't going 1,000,000 miles an hour on 1000 1461 01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:26,080 different topics I probably would. 1462 01:05:26,080 --> 01:05:28,000 Maybe I'll smuggle some Xanax to Ibiza. 1463 01:05:28,280 --> 01:05:29,600 That's a good shout. You know what? 1464 01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:33,480 I can't wait to go to Ibiza prison, right lesbians, We love 1465 01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:35,200 you so much. Sorry I didn't even think about 1466 01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:38,200 a Horror Story because my brain is at 0% right now. 1467 01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:39,480 Sorry everyone. What a chaos. 1468 01:05:39,680 --> 01:05:41,560 I love you, but you know what? I'm so. 1469 01:05:41,560 --> 01:05:43,280 Being chaotic enough, yeah, for a horror. 1470 01:05:43,280 --> 01:05:44,560 Story I love you, I love you, I love you. 1471 01:05:44,960 --> 01:05:49,760 The lesbian Horror Story is me, end of story, and we will speak 1472 01:05:49,760 --> 01:05:51,280 to you next week. Love you. 1473 01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:51,800 Bye.