1 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,840 Hello lesbians, it's Freya today on the mic. 2 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:26,840 I have no idea what has happened to the weather in the UK but it 3 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:30,160 sent me absolutely insane. I was already halfway there. 4 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:34,120 But I will have to say, if I'm speaking to those of you that 5 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,040 suffer with seasonal, what is it? 6 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:39,760 It's like seasonal ass up your fucking hair depression. 7 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:41,440 I don't know what it is. It's sad right? 8 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,840 So it's called like sad. And if you struggle with this, I 9 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:46,800 am just telling you, you are not alone. 10 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,400 But I have some tips. This morning a friend of mine 11 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:54,000 reached out and she was like let's go for a walk and I just 12 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,880 woken up and the clocks have changed. 13 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,360 I was like Oh my God I'm just like I'm falling apart. 14 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,520 But the sun was shining and she was like let's go for a walk. 15 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,440 Like straight away walked for like 4 hours just chatting 16 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,040 absolute shit. That is one thing I would say 17 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:10,280 helps like actually if you're out in it, it is so much better. 18 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,720 Like the other day it was raining and instead of being 19 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:15,920 inside of my house I was like no I need to actually be out in it. 20 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:20,080 So I'm sad outside of this like Cafe with like the canopy over 21 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,200 me and the rain is like getting on my laptop. 22 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:23,560 At this point I didn't even give a fuck. 23 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:25,560 I was just like, I'm just going to actually have to be out in it 24 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,920 because it's so much better than if you are just like sad at home 25 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,120 and ruminating. And I don't know what it is that 26 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:35,760 makes like there are certain people this just doesn't affect. 27 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:38,600 And so many people are like, I love autumn, I love winter. 28 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,520 It's like, I can understand why you would like certain things. 29 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,520 Like I like the clothes, that's about it. 30 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,120 Like I like autumn clothes. I like winter clothes but like 31 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,760 winter and autumn, hell on earth Get Me Out of here. 32 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:54,360 Why the fuck do I live here? Honestly, because the UK is just 33 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,520 not it when it comes to this weather. 34 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:00,480 It just it's just I find it so depressing, but I want to know 35 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,120 what it is. It's like some people have it, 36 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:04,720 some people don't. Like why is it that I struggle 37 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,199 so badly with bad weather? Like I was talking about this 38 00:02:08,199 --> 00:02:12,160 the other day as well. Sometimes I get this like real 39 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:15,560 bad, like gloom and doom feeling where it feels like an 40 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,880 atmosphere, you know, the vibes just feel off. 41 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:20,360 And sometimes I just like have days where like the whole vibe 42 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,520 of the day will just feel weird. And I say things look different. 43 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:24,800 And by the way, I'm not schizophrenic. 44 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,440 Like, things don't like, actually look different, but 45 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,080 they feel like they look different in a way. 46 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,440 And I think a big part of that is if the weather is bad, I will 47 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:35,360 like, have this doom and gloom feeling. 48 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,880 And I'm like, everything sucks. But yeah, I'm trying to figure 49 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,400 out. I mean, I take my vitamin D 50 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:42,120 supplements. I mean, there's got to be 51 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:43,960 something. There's got to be something. 52 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,400 Apparently someone is developing like a VR headset or something. 53 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:48,240 I mean, too fair. You could just put on a VR 54 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:49,560 headset. I can just pretend that I'm in 55 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:50,840 Hawaii or something. I don't know. 56 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,880 But it's like, I think it's just that lack of sunlight behind the 57 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,840 eyes is quite damaging to my soul, to my core. 58 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,040 And this has been a fucking hard year, guys. 59 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,200 This has been a really hard year and no surprise to anyone. 60 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,800 And don't get me wrong, there have been elements of some 61 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,160 really, really good things and some amazing people that have 62 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:13,680 also come into my life and have made me so grateful for making 63 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:17,000 those connections. But some most of this year are 64 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:21,840 shit Creek, fucking shit Creek. But like I said on my negative 65 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:25,720 lesbian chat, like I need to stop, like dwelling into that. 66 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,520 Sometimes it's really difficult because even though you try and 67 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,560 keep a positive mindset and then another bad thing happens and 68 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:37,000 you're like, are we joking? Like, are we actually joking? 69 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:40,840 Like, why is this happening? And I like I it just it just 70 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,400 sends me completely over the edge. 71 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:45,720 But I'm trying to still be like, you know, keep up that 72 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:49,840 manifesting baby and everything is good, everything is fine and 73 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:53,880 I will be fine. I think I have just one of those 74 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:57,120 brains that like sinks into it way too easy. 75 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:01,600 And I need to learn how to just like, completely restructure the 76 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:06,040 old mind and find a way to just process things better. 77 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:08,400 You know, I've got like a few good friends where things can 78 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,760 happen to them and it just kind of glides over them. 79 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:13,080 They're like, I know I'll sort it out. 80 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,480 And I am like that to like a certain degree on certain 81 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:16,760 things. I'm like, I know it's all going 82 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:18,240 to be OK. I know there's nothing I can't 83 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:19,640 figure out. There's nothing I can't sort 84 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:21,560 out. But sometimes you're like, wow, 85 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:25,320 I am gonna literally gonna run around naked any minute now, be 86 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:27,640 institutionalized, shave all my hair off. 87 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:32,320 It's gonna pending pending. I don't know if that's, I don't 88 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:34,040 want to blame everything on ADHD. 89 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,120 I think it's really easy, though, to ruminate when you've 90 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,680 got ADHD because once you get like this one thing in your 91 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,440 mind, you're like, oh, I'm just gonna think about that thing now 92 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,840 forever. I'm just gonna let it run laps 93 00:04:43,840 --> 00:04:46,480 around my brain and like take take control of me. 94 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:50,400 So yes, need to sort that out. And I'm just, I've become such 95 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:54,480 an emotional girl, like so sensitive and emotional. 96 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:59,400 And I don't know if it's like as you get older, sometimes you, I 97 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:01,880 think you can go either way. And I think as I've gotten 98 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,120 older, I've just become a lot more in tune to my emotions and 99 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,320 just trying to figure out what they are because I think as 100 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,600 well, like so many times we feel emotions, but we're like, why is 101 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:12,280 it that I actually feel that way? 102 00:05:12,280 --> 00:05:15,600 Is that really anger or is that like rejection? 103 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,480 Is that sadness? And, you know, am I angry at 104 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:20,000 others? Am I angry at myself? 105 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:21,640 And like trying to figure all of that out. 106 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:23,040 I know, sorry, fucking depressing. 107 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:24,400 Freya, shut up. I get it. 108 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,480 You're already sat there in the shit weather and then you've got 109 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,720 to hear me complain. But I just want to let you know 110 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,760 you're not alone. I also, I also struggle with 111 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:33,280 that as well, but talk about the shit. 112 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:37,760 There's also good shit too. So we've just sold out New York, 113 00:05:37,840 --> 00:05:41,600 which is insane. I am blown away. 114 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:45,280 And, and I know that for me and Scarlett, we see our numbers 115 00:05:45,280 --> 00:05:46,880 over in the States and everything else. 116 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:48,840 We know that we have like a presence there, but then to 117 00:05:48,840 --> 00:05:52,800 actually see it so like tangibly, we're like, what the 118 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,880 fuck is going on? So I was then I looked over at 119 00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:57,200 Scott. I was like, well, we gotta do 120 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:58,680 LA. We gotta do LA whilst we're in 121 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:00,240 New York. Like it's, I know it's like 122 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,480 quite far from New York, but it's closer than if we were to 123 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,360 go from here. And I'm thinking, hmm, how about 124 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,760 we make that happen? I'm sorry, fucking notification 125 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:08,800 going off. How about we actually make that 126 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:12,520 happen, See what we can do. I think for us, it's kind of 127 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:15,600 like a dream come true because we're not all about the events 128 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:18,200 like Lesbian Supper club. We're all about the podcast. 129 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:20,400 And I know that we've been promising a lot recently, but I 130 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,080 need you to know that we are in some really, really cool 131 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:26,040 conversations right now, especially over like visual and 132 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:28,440 audio and everything is just going to be a lot more 133 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:30,320 amplified. But that is our love. 134 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,720 But the events as well, like and being able to host that and like 135 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,840 create communities or like not even create communities, but 136 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,520 give you guys a space where you can meet other people within the 137 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:43,320 community and have that fun. We're like, absolutely, yes, I 138 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:46,280 love, love doing it and love meeting everyone. 139 00:06:46,280 --> 00:06:48,760 And by the way, when you guys come up to me and say, I'm so 140 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:50,800 sorry to like interrupt you, I just want to tell you like, 141 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,720 please don't be fucking sorry ever. 142 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:56,960 Like it is honestly so nice to hear and you would be surprised. 143 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:00,280 It's like, it's so easy to just be like, well, I don't know what 144 00:07:00,280 --> 00:07:01,440 I'm doing, blah, blah, blah, blah. 145 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:04,000 And fun fact is, and no one knows what they're doing, by the 146 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:07,080 way, but I think that to hear that is so nice. 147 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:10,120 And to actually meet you and to talk to me, like I really, I 148 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:13,320 really, really appreciate it. Like it does not go unnoticed. 149 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:14,960 I had a great night the other night. 150 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:16,440 Why night? I don't know what had gotten 151 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:17,720 into me. I was running around, I was 152 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:19,720 hugging everyone. I was saying how beautiful. 153 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,360 I don't know what happened, but yeah, I had a great time. 154 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,000 So that's like part of the good shit. 155 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:27,400 We're also having some really cool conversations just around 156 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:29,800 like the community piece as well, which we can't wait to 157 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:32,320 share everything that we have going on. 158 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,600 I think just the lesbians need to just take control now. 159 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:37,960 Trump is just only getting worse. 160 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,120 We're like, that was the thing as well. 161 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,760 Like some people like why America with Trump? 162 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:44,720 I'm like, this is exactly the time to hit America with Trump 163 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:46,560 there. This is the time when we do need 164 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:49,240 to be louder. We need to be prouder with who 165 00:07:49,240 --> 00:07:52,600 we are and like really, really stick together because they will 166 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,480 just try and divide us. It's so much easier to control 167 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:57,960 us if they divide us. And if there's one thing that I 168 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:00,640 can say about this community is we're fucking funny. 169 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:04,880 And I think that so much like humor holds so much power. 170 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:09,600 And if we're able to be like, fuck you, you fucking BLOB, 171 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,360 don't even not even a BLOB. Just like you fucking ugly 172 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:17,040 orange face prick. You are just a cunt. 173 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:18,960 There was just no other words for it. 174 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:22,880 And it's just compulsive lion, narcissist, psychopath, whatever 175 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,120 the fuck. And and it's it's just like 176 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,360 breeding this like crazy ground of men who all think that 177 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:31,360 they're victims, which is the funniest fucking thing ever. 178 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,200 So yeah, a Long story short, the lesbians need to come in full 179 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,159 force because the lesbians are going to be the ones to do it. 180 00:08:37,159 --> 00:08:38,720 Let's be real. Like we have to. 181 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,159 And we need to use that power and like stick together. 182 00:08:41,159 --> 00:08:46,240 And I also just think it's like, it's about fucking time someone 183 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,560 cause an absolute scene, Don't we think? 184 00:08:48,560 --> 00:08:50,000 Don't we think it's like it is time? 185 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,240 I think we all just need to just revolution this. 186 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:56,920 And by the way, before I get called out, they're calling 187 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,960 everyone terrorists for what? For like for being left wing. 188 00:08:59,960 --> 00:09:02,200 Apparently now you're like basically a terrorist, which is 189 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,840 just absolute insanity, especially seeing the actual 190 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:08,680 acts of terrorism that they do create in other countries. 191 00:09:08,680 --> 00:09:11,600 And not to mention what's going on with ICE as well, which is 192 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:15,120 the most heinous thing I've seen, I wouldn't even say ever 193 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,520 seen because I've seen some horrendous things these past few 194 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:21,400 years come out of America. But that is it's authoritarian. 195 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:24,080 It's like he has created this weird dictator shit. 196 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,240 The guy needs to be out of there. 197 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:29,120 The fact that he's committed so many crimes and he's just still 198 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:30,320 in there. I have no idea. 199 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:33,400 Prince Andrew, what has he done? He's he's just removed his 200 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:35,720 title. So that's really interesting 201 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:37,920 because then I'm thinking something else is coming out. 202 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,400 Then surely like they don't want to be connected to it. 203 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:43,080 I don't know what it is. But honestly, I think The thing 204 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:45,680 is, and we've said it before, but sometimes it just has to get 205 00:09:45,680 --> 00:09:49,040 so bad that it gets better. But I never thought that I would 206 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,280 ever witness something like this. 207 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:54,240 And you just realize now that like history that's repeating 208 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:56,920 itself because before you're like, well, how how would Hitler 209 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:58,840 have ever gotten in charge? You know, you'd always think 210 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,040 that I remember being in history lessons be like, how did he 211 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:03,840 actually manage this though? And we're quite literally seeing 212 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:05,520 like this behavior just happen in real time. 213 00:10:05,560 --> 00:10:08,400 Just so easy for them to indoctrinate and to really 214 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:11,520 poison the minds of people. The problem about the algorithm 215 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:14,440 as well, without being online, it's great that we have access 216 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,240 to so much information, but the way that the algorithm is now 217 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,520 designed, especially off of the back of things like TikTok, 218 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,440 Instagram now as well. You will only be fed things that 219 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:25,560 you're already interested in or you've already taken a liking to 220 00:10:25,680 --> 00:10:29,120 like one right wing post. And then from then on all you're 221 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:32,160 gonna see is that right? And so it's really, really it's 222 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:35,120 stopping people from having an actual clearview of what's going 223 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,200 on in the world. And that is how it all starts. 224 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:40,160 It's just fucked up. Talk about fucked up. 225 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:43,560 I wanted to talk today about coming out and I'm not on about 226 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:47,160 coming out stories. You guys have already heard what 227 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,600 I went through with my coming out and then also heard the 228 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,040 episode with my mom as well where I'm like talking to her 229 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,600 about the horrendous coming out experience. 230 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:57,920 But I really wanted to talk about the nature of coming out 231 00:10:57,920 --> 00:11:01,720 because I think now by this point, what are we gonna do to 232 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:06,000 change the process of this? I think about the concept of 233 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:08,080 coming out. And when I really think about 234 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:11,400 it, I'm like, that is actually just not OK. 235 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:16,360 And obviously I think that it's great to, I'm not saying don't 236 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,520 come out as in like don't say that you're gay to people are 237 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:20,360 like whatever. Like, I'm not saying that, but I 238 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:24,120 mean the sitting down, the telling people, the fear, the, 239 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:29,160 the whole act of it in itself is just actually, if you were to 240 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:33,640 look at it for most people, even if you've had a good experience 241 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:37,600 with coming out, doing the ACT itself is quite shameful. 242 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,840 There's like a lot of shame around it and it's scary. 243 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:43,560 And I was trying to figure out what it is exactly. 244 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:46,680 It's so bad about it. And it basically it kind of 245 00:11:46,680 --> 00:11:52,720 feeds into the narrative that we are responsible for others to 246 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:56,280 accept us or not. We are putting our feelings, our 247 00:11:56,280 --> 00:12:01,280 identity, who we are in the hands of others and usually 248 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:04,080 people that we love, right? So people that we really value 249 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:08,920 the opinions of and we are expressing it, we're explaining 250 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:13,000 it, we're apologizing for it. And that is traumatic to just 251 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:16,680 have to explain and to try and bother with people and really 252 00:12:16,680 --> 00:12:19,960 like put yourself out there in that way impacts this like great 253 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:23,360 fear within someone. I mean, I remember like looking 254 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:26,240 up about the other day and it was interesting because it said 255 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:30,120 that it implies deceit. So it's like the language of 256 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:34,360 like being in the closet can make people feel deceitful, 257 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:36,640 right? Because they are hiding this 258 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:38,880 identity. Like you're, you're faking 259 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:42,480 something, you're hiding something, you're lying, you're 260 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:45,800 lying about many things. And these lies can spiral as 261 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:47,880 well, right? All of a sudden, this simple lie 262 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:51,560 of your identity then becomes this other lie of maybe like 263 00:12:51,560 --> 00:12:54,560 relationships and everything else that you are keeping 264 00:12:54,560 --> 00:12:57,200 completely hidden from other people or like crushes or 265 00:12:57,200 --> 00:12:59,600 feelings and like the kind of conversations that straight 266 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,640 people would just so organically have. 267 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:03,520 You can't. Or maybe you say you've got a 268 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:06,440 boyfriend when you're a lesbian and you're trying to figure it 269 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:10,120 out or you're lying to yourself. So you genuinely do have a 270 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:13,200 boyfriend, but you are you keep lying to your body. 271 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:16,040 Do you know what that does to your body over time? 272 00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:19,280 Your body and your mind is so crazy connected. 273 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,480 It is your second brain in your body, in your stomach is where 274 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:26,200 your second brain is. And the physical aspects of that 275 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:29,360 can actually cause like quite like detrimental effects. 276 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,400 Usually people will suffer from like back pain or like stomach 277 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:35,280 issues or like whatever it might be because as well like it kind 278 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:39,240 of goes into like somatic pain, which like I definitely get. 279 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,520 So it's when your emotions are so heavy in your brain, your 280 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:45,800 brain will create physical pain within your body for you to 281 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:49,360 focus on because it's a tangible thing that you can be like, OK, 282 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:51,440 there is this. Maybe it could even be as simple 283 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:53,960 as like having a pain that's like down your thigh or like a 284 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:57,000 headache or yeah, your back feels all like tight now in your 285 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:59,480 neck. And whatever it might be, that 286 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:01,640 can be both things because you're like tense anyway because 287 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:04,080 you're stressed out. But it's like it all comes 288 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,920 through physically. But your body does start to like 289 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:10,920 not trust you because once you keep going against what is right 290 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,800 for you, your body will tell you and it will come out in anxiety 291 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,880 as well and just generalize depression because you are just 292 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:20,440 not living authentically. You can't hack it. 293 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:24,080 And you, you might be in the closet now and it is really 294 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:26,040 heavy. And you might have this thing in 295 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:28,360 your head where you're like, I'm never going to come out. 296 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:31,560 I'm not going to do this. And trust me, some of you, I 297 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:34,920 know are in dangerous situations as well where you genuinely 298 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:38,160 can't come out. And that to me is just 299 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,920 horrifying. And I'm so, so sorry because I 300 00:14:41,920 --> 00:14:45,000 feel even though I didn't have a good experience coming out, I 301 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,560 was still privileged with that. I still had the ability to come 302 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:52,320 out, you know, And having that stripped away from you is such 303 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,360 like a harrowing feeling as well. 304 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:56,520 Another thing, you're like, you're putting the power in 305 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:58,760 other people's hands to reject you, right? 306 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:02,480 The term of like coming out, you are just you're giving it like 307 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:04,640 here it is. You're already apologetic. 308 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:09,240 Here's everything about this. I'm gay, I am attracted to the 309 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,920 same sex or I'm bisexual, I'm pansexual, I'm trans, whatever 310 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:14,200 it might be. And you are now just giving 311 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:18,160 someone the fucking floor. You're giving the jury like you, 312 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:22,560 they are now in this position where they can say, well that's 313 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:26,360 fucked up, I hate that, or fuck you or I'm never speaking to you 314 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:30,320 again or any of these things. You are just handing that power 315 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:33,280 to someone and that power should come with us. 316 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:36,880 That should be with the person who is coming out, right? 317 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:39,560 That should be our power. That power should not be taken 318 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:42,920 away because at the end of the day, we do not live for anybody 319 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:45,120 else. It's entirely our lives and it 320 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:50,560 is not hurting a single soul on earth to be gay, to be trans, to 321 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,520 be bisexual, to be pansexual, to be asexual. 322 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,480 I'm trying to think of all the sexuals like we are not like we 323 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:00,000 are not hurting anyone throughout that so how dare as 324 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:03,480 well the people that are on the receiving end react so fucking 325 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:07,320 negatively to it when it really has nothing to do with them. 326 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,200 It's like you could make it as simple as being like my favorite 327 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:13,560 colour is pink and you want to tell someone and and that only 328 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:15,240 effects you. You buy pink everything for 329 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:16,760 yourself because you fucking love it right? 330 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:18,200 This person hates the colour pink. 331 00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:20,840 You go, I love the colour pink. They look at you and go, you're 332 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:22,680 sick and the fucking heck out of my house. 333 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:28,600 Like something that has 00 impact and effect on their life, 334 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:31,880 you know, and but I think this is where I kind of like want to 335 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,480 get down to. I'm like, OK, how is it that as 336 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:40,400 a society, people can make this not a big fucking deal and also 337 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,600 not make it a quote UN quote coming out? 338 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,920 There's almost like with children when they're growing 339 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,120 up. You should never assume, for 340 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:51,400 instance, that your kid is going to be straight and you should 341 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:53,480 never assume that it's going to be gay for the exact same 342 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:55,480 reason. And don't you dare for a fucking 343 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:58,160 second any of you go where you can't textualize your child. 344 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,240 I'm not sexualizing a child by saying that it could potentially 345 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:03,080 be gay. It is the same as it could 346 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:05,720 potentially be straight. You're not going to make someone 347 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:10,200 gay by just not having like that thought in your head that they 348 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:12,960 are straight and putting that on that like it's, it's such a 349 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:14,800 natural thing. Like they'll have a little boy 350 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:16,839 and then they're like, Oh, you've got a girlfriend like 351 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:20,560 when they're like 5 years old. So before you fuckers, these 352 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:22,800 people that say that gay people are like sexualizing them 353 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:25,040 because they said they could be gay, but you're the one that's 354 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:28,760 like buying fucking baby grows for your newborn. 355 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:33,880 That's like little what is it? It's like, Oh, what's the word? 356 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:37,680 Not like, I think it's like little heartbreaker and little 357 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:39,040 things like this. And it's like, well, that's kind 358 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,520 of fucked up. Why is that on a baby grow? 359 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:45,120 It just, oh, it is fees, this thing, like imagine a world 360 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:48,680 where you're growing up and they could be like, oh, yes. 361 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:51,080 Then like you're either interested in men or interested 362 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:53,040 in women. They're like, OK, done. 363 00:17:53,120 --> 00:17:56,680 Like really not that big of a deal, you know, or you're 364 00:17:56,680 --> 00:18:00,360 interested in both or you don't want anyone, whatever the fuck. 365 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:02,680 And again, like the way that we can change. 366 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,760 This is like change is always just formed out of habits and 367 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:09,120 like tiny little habits that all build up over time, right? 368 00:18:09,120 --> 00:18:11,920 And we were having a conversation the other day and a 369 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:14,440 woman was saying something about like her child and blah, blah, 370 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:15,960 blah. And then somebody said, Oh yeah, 371 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:20,360 she's quite progressive because she would be fine if her child 372 00:18:20,360 --> 00:18:22,240 was gay. She wouldn't see an issue with 373 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:23,480 it. And she was called progressive 374 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:25,080 for this. And people say it. 375 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,640 And by the way, like gay people will say like, well, I I would 376 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:29,360 probably say something like that be like, yeah, she's quite 377 00:18:29,360 --> 00:18:30,640 progressive. Like that's really good. 378 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,960 Duh, duh, duh, duh, duh. When do we actually say that's 379 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:36,720 not progressive? That's just normal. 380 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:42,600 And this is where like micro language builds into the bigger 381 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,040 picture. It's like if we think that that 382 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:49,120 is progressive, then we are almost allowing people to stay 383 00:18:49,120 --> 00:18:51,840 in the normal, quite and quite normal category for being 384 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:55,920 homophobic, for being not OK if their kid came out as gay or 385 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,280 trans or whatever it is. We are putting them as normal. 386 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:01,240 And the people who actually are saying, yeah, I don't give a 387 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:04,000 fuck are progressive. No, it needs to be. 388 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,320 It is normal to be like, you wouldn't give a fuck because why 389 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:09,880 would you? And we need to say it is just 390 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:14,280 unacceptable that you would be another way, because the reason 391 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:17,080 why these people are this way is because of language like that 392 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:19,680 over time, people aren't born with hatred. 393 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:23,480 People are not born looking at same sex couples like as a kid, 394 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:25,360 like they wouldn't even blink an eye. 395 00:19:25,360 --> 00:19:27,760 But these things are like built into people. 396 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:29,320 These prejudice are built into people. 397 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:31,560 This is not me by the way, saying that they are horrible 398 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:33,880 fucking people. Unless you go ahead and you are 399 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,400 like a homophobic cunt, then yeah, you are a horrible person 400 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:39,040 because you've just got no reason to do that. 401 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:43,040 But having that fear that their kid is gay, I don't think makes 402 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:45,600 them horrible. I think that it makes them a 403 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:49,520 subject of everything that they've been exposed to their 404 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:53,760 entire life because the language has always been around this is 405 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,880 wrong. Or, you know, and they're like, 406 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:59,320 maybe I'm not woke. Maybe I'm not OK if my kids go. 407 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:02,280 And again, like calling it woke. And it's like, would you rather 408 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,560 be awake or would you rather be a fucking sleep bitch? 409 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:08,720 Like you need to think about what even the term woke means. 410 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:12,480 It's like being awake to these issues and being. 411 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:15,960 Pathetic and having that, you know, and I will never hear it a 412 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:18,920 day of my fucking life when somebody says, oh, but then I I 413 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,680 worry that I love my kids so much and I don't care that 414 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,320 they're going to be gay, but I just worry that they're going to 415 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,960 have such a harder life and it's going to be so terrible for 416 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,520 them. These are the people that end up 417 00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:32,320 making their kids lives hell for coming out like that is it's 418 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:34,200 fucking ironic. Like it's ironic. 419 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:36,720 You are literally just you are the problem. 420 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:40,200 You are giving them that fear. You're putting that onto them. 421 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,560 That's not to say that it isn't harder to walk through life gay. 422 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,000 Of course it is. Of course it is. 423 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,720 But if you really feel like that as a parent, then you don't make 424 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:52,800 it fucking even harder for them. You support them even more 425 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,680 because you're aware that this is difficult. 426 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,680 Like it's difficult to navigate and it's not difficult to 427 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:00,560 navigate because being gay is wrong. 428 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,960 It's difficult to navigate because the representation 429 00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:05,960 hasn't been there. You don't have anything to cross 430 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,600 reference it with. It's not talked about as being 431 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,160 inherently normal, right? But you're going to have this 432 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:12,800 like fear already built into you. 433 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:14,760 And then you've got your parents being like, but I just care 434 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,200 about you and like, Are you sure? 435 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:20,200 Are you sure you're gay? And no, I don't want this for 436 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,400 you. No, this is so wrong. 437 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:22,920 Why would I want you to have a harder life? 438 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:24,920 Like this is not OK blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 439 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:26,680 And they're trying to pretend that it comes from care. 440 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:32,560 But like, I think it really deep down comes from a feeling of 441 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,880 like disgust in a way. Like they they kind of feel 442 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:39,440 disgusted by it because that is what they've been taught. 443 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,800 I know when I was a kid, I said it was disgusting. 444 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:46,720 I was like probably 10 years old and again, knowing that I'm 445 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,520 fucking gay, right? So that was a whole different 446 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,760 Cutler fish because like internalized homophobia is just 447 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:53,080 like a completely different ball game. 448 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:56,560 But like, I thought that was what I would express. 449 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,080 Like I said, oh, I like gay men, but I can't. 450 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,040 I don't like lesbians. I don't like them. 451 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:04,520 Like, no, that's not for me. I don't like it. 452 00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,600 It's something about it just like didn't sit right with me. 453 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:09,120 And I think it's for a number of reasons. 454 00:22:09,120 --> 00:22:12,760 Had I seen more lesbians? I even remember the feeling 455 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:16,240 itself of like saying that and thinking in my head at that time 456 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:19,200 what a lesbian was. And it was very, very little 457 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:20,920 information that I had to go off of. 458 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:24,440 I was being an absolute cunt, but had very little information 459 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:27,720 to go off of. It felt very like exclude, like 460 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,520 those lesbians that they're like exclude different society kind 461 00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:32,400 of vibe and which is obviously completely false. 462 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,160 But had there been more representation of just like 463 00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:40,160 normalizing it, like movies and TV shows and celebrities that 464 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:44,520 have partners, you know, that are the same sex or trans or 465 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:47,880 whatever it might be, then I would have never, I don't think 466 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,440 that thought would have ever have come into my head and been 467 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,680 like, well, that's that. I remember being fine with my 468 00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:54,320 sister. Like when I found out about my 469 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:57,400 sister, I was 12 at that point, I was fine with her being gay. 470 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:59,960 I mean, I quite literally was like, is so and so your 471 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:01,360 girlfriend? She was like, yes, I was like, 472 00:23:01,360 --> 00:23:03,200 OK, cool. And then I was sat there with a 473 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:07,320 fucking mullet and jorts on and a Nirvana T-shirt and converse. 474 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:11,360 So I mean, the writing was on the fucking wall that I had that 475 00:23:11,360 --> 00:23:13,920 feeling. And I think that like even if I 476 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,440 like as a kid could have had that feeling, imagine how that 477 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,880 can manifest if you then never get anymore exposure to it or 478 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,640 you don't actually research anything because you're a 479 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,880 fucking bigot. I think people as well, like 480 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,200 people need to be taught to research things. 481 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,520 People so quickly will take anything as gospel if it's told 482 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,240 to them Is exactly how they've gotten into this situation with 483 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,520 Trump because no research has happened is exactly why 484 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:40,840 everything happened in Gaza. No research. 485 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:44,400 That's why so many people are able to get indoctrinated. 486 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:48,560 No research, and the same goes for every issue, like every 487 00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:51,120 minority, like clue your fucking self up. 488 00:23:51,120 --> 00:23:54,520 Like actually, if you read something and even if you like 489 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,400 what you read, even if you like the headline or whatever it is, 490 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,200 still research it because that could also be false. 491 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,320 Or, you know, there's there's always like a nuance like I saw 492 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:06,800 this this post the other day, these like beautiful lesbian 493 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:08,920 couple, and I think I've been post of lesbian stuff. 494 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:12,080 I was like love to see it. They're like when you realize 495 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:13,920 that you can actually marry a woman or not a man. 496 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,240 And there were these men in the comments of me like lesbians 497 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:21,480 have the highest divorce rate. Give me a break, Darren. 498 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,600 Give me a fucking break. Why are you not using your 499 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,560 cognitive thinking skills like any ability to think about this 500 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,920 properly? Think about it. 501 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:33,680 Why do you think if that is the case, why do you think that 502 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,080 there is a higher rate? Because first of all, there are 503 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:40,560 less lesbian married couples. So yes, there is going to be a 504 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,560 higher divorce rate per the amount of people that are 505 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:46,480 married. OK, first of all, because it 506 00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:50,320 could be so it is marginal, marginal to the amount of 507 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:51,680 divorces that happen with straight people. 508 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,200 But because so many fucking straight people are married, 509 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:56,240 that divorce rate is obviously not going to be as high. 510 00:24:56,240 --> 00:25:00,640 You absolute fucking dickhead. Secondly, women in women loving 511 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,920 relationships are more likely to be able to leave because they 512 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,600 are not coerced by their partner. 513 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:10,120 They are not financially held up by the man. 514 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,440 Usually they're like locked in with kids. 515 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,520 They are financially dependent on the man. 516 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:16,200 So that's another reason why they won't leave. 517 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,240 Thirdly, they could be in a very bad domestic abuse situation. 518 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,200 They cannot leave. Four, they might not end in 519 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,520 divorce, but their husband probably fucking killed them. 520 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,600 That's another thing, right? So we're not looking at like the 521 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,120 greater thing here. And this is what I mean when it 522 00:25:29,120 --> 00:25:32,600 comes to fucking research. But again, it's like more ways 523 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,920 for them to be like, look at how fucked up they're, they are. 524 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:36,640 They are just fucking everything over there. 525 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:41,320 And it's like the more freedom we have, the more they will use 526 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:45,040 our freedom against us. And so that's why we all need to 527 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,680 be as like clued up as possible because it's like, no, you need 528 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,680 to shoot that shit down instantly. 529 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,040 It is complete bullshit. Like it is complete bullshit. 530 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,760 And there is nothing wrong with having more representation. 531 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,440 There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. 532 00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:00,600 And that is exactly why we are just trying to do everything 533 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,840 that we can and like, have these conversations, like send this to 534 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,880 a fucking straight. Like straight people can listen 535 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,720 to this podcast as well. You know, when they're like, oh, 536 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,520 I don't think that's my demographic because it's called 537 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,400 Lesbian Supper club. How many straight things do you 538 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,520 think I've had to listen to my entire life? 539 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:17,840 And I still listen to and I enjoy I enjoy it like might be 540 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:21,320 hosted by like a straight couple or like every film we've ever 541 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,120 fucking watched or like TV shows, whatever that is. 542 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,280 Just because I'm not straight doesn't mean that I can't 543 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,200 relate, doesn't mean that I can't enjoy it. 544 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:30,840 And the same goes for this podcast. 545 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,120 But I think that people see lesbian and they think they 546 00:26:33,120 --> 00:26:35,640 think it's like naughty. They think it's like, Oh, I 547 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,520 don't know if I want that on my Spotify. 548 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:39,600 I don't know if I want somebody seeing that, like I follow 549 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,120 lesbian supper club that they're really going to think that I'm 550 00:26:42,120 --> 00:26:45,040 like gay or like that's wrong or like, or that it's something 551 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,920 raunchy. It's not fucking Pornhub, is it? 552 00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,120 She just us chatting shit. But like that's another thing is 553 00:26:51,120 --> 00:26:52,200 all like we'd never want to like. 554 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,480 I think lesbians have always been so over sexualized. 555 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:58,760 We don't over sexualize anything that we do like, yeah, we like 556 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,680 to talk about sex, just like how Alex Cooper would on caller 557 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,840 Daddy, talk about sex, talk about squatting. 558 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,440 I don't give a fuck, right. But like with our events, no, 559 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:07,680 we're not going to have strippers there. 560 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,720 I love strippers and I think that's fun and that's great. 561 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,080 But it's like we're stepping away from that because women are 562 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,320 always like over sexualized. And I think that like, it's 563 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,760 great to like, own your sexuality and be sexually free, 564 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,240 go to sex parties, freak the fuck out. 565 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,120 Like not freak off, by the way, but like the fuck out. 566 00:27:25,120 --> 00:27:26,920 Do whatever you want as long as you're not harming anyone. 567 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:29,000 It's all consensual adults. Great, great, great. 568 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:30,840 OK. But it doesn't always have to be 569 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:32,600 that way. And it's not a fucking given 570 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,800 that that is what you're going to get, you know? 571 00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:39,000 And that is another micro thing. It's another micro thing that 572 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:40,680 people then think. They think, oh, it's going to be 573 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,160 this. It's going to be very sexual. 574 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,360 It's going to be duh, duh. They say the same about gay men. 575 00:27:44,360 --> 00:27:45,480 And it's like, I'm not being funny. 576 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:48,120 It's not because they're gay, it's because they're men. 577 00:27:48,120 --> 00:27:51,200 Typically, yes, they probably will be more promiscuous because 578 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:54,480 it's two men, right? You speak to any straight man 579 00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:59,040 and say if women liked to fuck around and by the way, women can 580 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,360 fucking fuck around too. Don't get me wrong, but like the 581 00:28:01,360 --> 00:28:04,320 odds are less in terms of like the promiscuity, like especially 582 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,840 with men of like that lack of attachment, everything else. 583 00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,400 If women were doing that left, right and centre as well and it 584 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,840 wasn't I frowned upon, you fuckers would be doing it as 585 00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:14,000 well. Like don't even start. 586 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,960 It is just because it's like, it's because it's two men and 587 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,440 like we should also just never have to really apologize for 588 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,160 that. And I, I think that it's just 589 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:27,000 all of those things though, that like we hear or that it's dirty, 590 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:30,480 that it's wrong, that it's shady. 591 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:35,240 That is why people then don't want their kid to be gay because 592 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,640 in their head they're like, well, they're going to be a 593 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,440 little sexual demon, you know, and they're going to be dirty, 594 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,720 they're going to be a disgrace because that's a lot of what has 595 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,600 been fed. And I do know that like in some 596 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,680 ways that there are, there is more representation. 597 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,480 And I mean, we're fucking trying, guys. 598 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,200 Fucking trouble. That's why I want this to only 599 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,440 get like bigger and better because I'm not in an 600 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,920 indoctrinating way, because they love to say that we're like 601 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,080 shoving it down their throats. But no, it's just having 602 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,720 conversation just so happens to be about lesbian culture or 603 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:11,640 about lesbian relationships, about lesbian friendships, about 604 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,760 coming out, about whatever the fuck it might be. 605 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,840 That is representation. And the more people can have 606 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,320 those conversations, the more it can change their mind. 607 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:23,640 I will challenge anyone, anyone on these conversations. 608 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,720 And I have done it before before and I've done it before when I 609 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,680 was at a pub would live. Oh no, I, no, it was Anna, our 610 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:31,360 friend Anna. And it was a few months back 611 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,400 now. And Anna, my friend is also gay. 612 00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:37,520 And this guy sat down and he wanted to like talk about gay 613 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:38,920 rights and all this kind of stuff. 614 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:43,000 And I then sat there and I sat very calmly because I, by the 615 00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,920 way, don't get me wrong, I want to punch most people, but like 616 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,680 whoever have views like this, I sat there very calmly and I 617 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,800 spoke about it in just a very, very simple way because believe 618 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,800 you me, you've got to make a fucking simple for these fuckers 619 00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:58,600 because they clearly just like they ain't got it going on in 620 00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,120 their head to work out for themselves. 621 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:01,840 You've got to coach them like they're a child. 622 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:04,680 And it took a little while. Like I invested about 45 minutes 623 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:06,560 of my time. I wouldn't always do this, but I 624 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:08,520 was like, I'm going to fucking do this today and I'm just not 625 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,240 going to give up. And Anna's getting angry and 626 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,640 angry. She's like sat there and I can 627 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,000 see that in her. By the end of it, you tell her, 628 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:15,160 I was like, do you know what? You're right. 629 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,120 And I know that's just one person. 630 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,480 And I know that he genuinely, and I will give this to him. 631 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,400 He actually did listen. He did take it in. 632 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,640 Some people fucking don't and they're just Dick heads. 633 00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,240 They can go get fucked, but he did take it in and and I was 634 00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:29,000 like, I'm actually so impressed that you did that. 635 00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,160 You fucking schooled him. And not only that, but you 636 00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:35,200 actually changed his opinion. And The thing is, is that that 637 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:39,040 has like a knock on effect because he's got kids, right? 638 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,000 I'm hoping, I'm hoping in my little like dreamland in my 639 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,320 brain that he's going to carry some of that through how he 640 00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:50,040 changed his mind and give people the allowance to change their 641 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,440 mind. Because sometimes as well, 642 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,080 coming at it with so much aggression as anger as I get 643 00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:56,880 about it is only going to fuel them. 644 00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,520 It's only going to give them what they want. 645 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,600 It's only going to then make them more vindicated in what 646 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,400 they feel, you know, because they don't care about hurting 647 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:05,920 you. They don't care that that 648 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:09,440 aggression actually comes from being so deeply hurt for being 649 00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:10,920 who you are. No, no, no, they don't see it 650 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:12,880 like that. They don't have the EQ for that. 651 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,960 They just think, well, look at them getting all fucking angry. 652 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,560 They're so aggressive, they're violent, they're this, they're 653 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,040 that. And it just further fuels like 654 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,200 the really negative connotations with with US gaze. 655 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,880 And I just think that the more we can just like chat and chat, 656 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:33,160 chat and chat and chat way. And if you can own that 657 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,560 sexuality and just like have so much pride about it, especially 658 00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,320 with everything that's going on. It's like if you seem someone 659 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:43,000 fazed about being gay, I mean, I, I know that I genuinely am. 660 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,440 I'm fazed about being gay. I absolutely love it. 661 00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,040 I love it. But like, if you can even just 662 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:52,040 try and think, no, this, this is a positive thing that I am just 663 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,960 being authentically me, then it's only ever they're going to 664 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,200 get better for you and you're going to be more and more and 665 00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,640 more untouchable. And you're going to when people 666 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,080 smell a shame on you, they want to treat you like it is shameful 667 00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:06,240 because a lot of people are just bitter and stupid. 668 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,440 So that's that. But yeah, I, I don't know, 669 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:12,400 because I'm, I'm interested to know what you guys think about 670 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,280 the whole coming out situation. Like, do you think that it's 671 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,280 good? Am I, am I the one that's in the 672 00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:18,800 wrong here? Like do you think that maybe it 673 00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,280 is good that we're like owning who we are and that we're like, 674 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,560 we're saying that I'm not saying that we shouldn't own it, but do 675 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:24,920 you think that it's a good it says? 676 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:28,800 Are there other reasons as to why you think it's bad that I 677 00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,280 haven't touched on? I would honestly love to know 678 00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,560 because I love it when you guys actually like comment and say, 679 00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,800 oh, but also this because I don't fucking know it all. 680 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:38,920 I don't know. I know that means college chat 681 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,600 here as like the lesbian supper club, but I don't know all and I 682 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,880 never will, you know, and I think that I'm always down for 683 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,600 learning and also changing my mind on like certain things. 684 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,040 Obviously not my core values. Cannot knock those out of me 685 00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,120 even if you fucking punch around the head or like kick me to the 686 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,360 temple. This little swift hit in the no, 687 00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:57,600 there's no way it's not coming out of me. 688 00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,960 But there are opinions that I could have that definitely 689 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,840 somebody might be able to actually like change and I'm I'm 690 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,480 all ears for that and any way that you think that maybe we 691 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:12,240 could just like start maybe I just start a no coming out 692 00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:16,000 campaign. I just like parade it globally, 693 00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:18,960 just I don't want to go out. No coming out, no coming out, 694 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,960 stay in, stay out, be out, be no, actually just be. 695 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,880 What the fuck am I saying? Be out, don't stay in. 696 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,600 It's like be out, stay out and give everyone never, never give 697 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,520 somebody the opportunity to ever feel shame. 698 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:35,120 And just because you give children that you are raising 699 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:39,280 the the knowledge that they could be with either sex doesn't 700 00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,120 mean that they are going to be attracted to the same sex. 701 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,240 You need to understand that if that was the case I would be 702 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:48,000 straight. The logic isn't logic. 703 00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:52,000 Like we are born either attracted to one sex, the other 704 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:56,000 sex both sexes. That's what it is and it doesn't 705 00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,200 need to be more complicated than that. 706 00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:02,520 We are not going to make people gay, and even if we fucking did, 707 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,760 calm the fuck down. Even if you are making them gay, 708 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,120 fuck, make them all gay as far as I'm concerned. 709 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:10,120 Yeah, it's just not going to happen. 710 00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,199 There's no harm in it. The only thing that you're ever 711 00:34:12,199 --> 00:34:17,840 going to do is remove that inner shame and like self judgement 712 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:19,760 from a kid. And wouldn't you love the 713 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:22,040 ability to be able to do that to your own child? 714 00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,080 And you'd love the ability to literally be able to know that 715 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,000 they were never going to have to really suffer, at least from 716 00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,360 your end, at least from their parents. 717 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,159 You know, because that's, those are the formative years. 718 00:34:33,159 --> 00:34:35,600 Those are the years where our our nervous systems are being 719 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,600 developed and we hold that shit with us like the rest of our 720 00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:40,560 lives lives. And no matter how much therapy 721 00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,480 we go through, you hold it. That pain that you felt, and I 722 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,800 don't want anyone to feel that ever for just simply being who 723 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:49,520 they are. You haven't done anything wrong. 724 00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,679 There is nothing wrong about it. So that's my two cents. 725 00:34:52,679 --> 00:34:54,360 Talk about that. Actually, I've also started to 726 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,520 chat now that I'm single, I've started to change my mind on 727 00:34:56,520 --> 00:34:59,720 having kids. I'm like, I think I could have a 728 00:34:59,720 --> 00:35:02,160 child. That's for another episode. 729 00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:05,160 I've been feeling it recently. I've been like, actually my mind 730 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:07,640 is starting to change on having kids and I'm thinking I don't 731 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,840 know if it's maybe where I'm getting old or whatever it is, 732 00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,680 but I'm like, would actually think that that would be really 733 00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:15,480 fulfilling and not to like, I want to be extremely fulfilled 734 00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:18,000 in my life elsewhere because I also think that that's quite 735 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,160 dangerous when you like have a child to be fulfilled. 736 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,440 But yeah, I don't know. I think would it actually be 737 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,320 really nice to have that? So, well, next episode I could 738 00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:26,320 be pregnant. You never know. 739 00:35:27,240 --> 00:35:29,800 I hopefully fucking not. I'll probably go over it, but 740 00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:32,200 see opinions. They can change. 741 00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,760 I was like I was, I didn't want children. 742 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,760 I did not want children. And now that it's changing. 743 00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:40,480 So there you go. We can all change any minute 744 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:43,200 now. Lesbians, I love you so much. 745 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:47,360 We've oh, before I go, we've got karaoke night next week, which 746 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:51,240 I'm fucking stoked for on actual Halloween night and just come as 747 00:35:51,240 --> 00:35:54,680 your big bad lesbian self. I've I'm toying between a few 748 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:55,760 ideas. I don't know whether to go as 749 00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:57,440 Gwen Stefani. I don't know whether to go as 750 00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,360 Coyote Ugly. I ain't got a fucking clue. 751 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,680 I need to figure something out. I always do something really 752 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,520 last minute, but it's going to be fun. 753 00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,760 And last Halloween night was hysterical. 754 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,120 Hysterical. So like, I cannot wait to see 755 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,840 what you guys bring this time. I will pop the link in the bio 756 00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:15,560 and really can't wait to see more of you and especially when 757 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,360 you're all dressed up. Did I even mention karaoke night 758 00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:18,880 as well? Though? 759 00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:20,680 We did have a karaoke night. I don't know if Scarlett 760 00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,400 mentioned it on the last one, but the karaoke night was 761 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,120 absolutely. That was so funny. 762 00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:29,560 That was so funny. That was my own personal stage. 763 00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:31,040 I don't know who the fuck I thought I would. 764 00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:34,000 It was my knees and my legs. My thighs were killing me the 765 00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,440 next day because I was slut dropping to Britney Spears. 766 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:41,240 I put on a full show. I was like, I'm always like, I'm 767 00:36:41,240 --> 00:36:42,280 so stressed. Amazing event. 768 00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:44,680 Like literally spend 6 hours just screaming down the mic. 769 00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,960 But honestly I feel like this is therapy. 770 00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:49,000 Like I actually think that everyone afterwards was like, 771 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,680 yeah that was therapy. We all needed that. 772 00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:52,640 We all needed to get into a room and do that. 773 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,640 And I think that we all just need to bring the fun back into 774 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,680 life. Hot on those outfits, go to 775 00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,280 karaoke. We need to do more things that 776 00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:04,920 are just fun and and life is worth having fun for. 777 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,880 We need to do the things that are weird that maybe even in the 778 00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:10,840 moment when you're doing this year, but like, well, that's a 779 00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:12,480 bit shit. I'm not on about karaoke, but 780 00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:14,560 like anything, it's like, Oh, that's a bit shit. 781 00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:18,080 It's a funny fucking story. Or even if something is cringe, 782 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:20,920 you're like, you know that tomorrow you can tell that story 783 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,600 to people and you're like, Jesus fucking Christ. 784 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,840 But I I'm trying to get more and more, more and more events in my 785 00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,240 life like that. And if you look at your life as 786 00:37:30,240 --> 00:37:33,520 if you were like you were a book, your life is a book that 787 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:36,160 someone was going to read. Do you want to be out and about 788 00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:40,000 causing a fucking ruckus doing whatever it is, being stupid 789 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,120 with your friends, doing things that are fun, that are colorful? 790 00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,720 Or do you want the book to just read? 791 00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:49,720 And she stayed in and watched Netflix again with her 10 cats, 792 00:37:49,720 --> 00:37:52,680 and she drunk a bottle of wine to herself and fell asleep. 793 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,720 And a book like, do you want to live a life that someone would 794 00:37:55,720 --> 00:37:57,400 want to read? Absolutely. 795 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,800 And sometimes when you think of that thing we like, do I really 796 00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:02,280 want to just go? Just just do it. 797 00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:03,800 Just go and do it. This is your sign. 798 00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:06,120 If somebody's asking you to do something right now, just go and 799 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,640 fucking do it. And you can always leave. 800 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,720 You don't have to stay out long. But it's like if you go and you 801 00:38:11,720 --> 00:38:14,800 do the thing, you say yes, have more fun. 802 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:19,480 Life has gotten so stressful for everyone and fun is just out. 803 00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,240 Like people aren't doing that crazy shit anymore. 804 00:38:22,240 --> 00:38:25,880 And it's because as well, everything is documented, which 805 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,760 can in turn make some people create more fun things. 806 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,200 So say like people on TikTok are doing like 30 days of dressing 807 00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:33,960 up for Halloween and they're doing like these hilarious 808 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,360 outfits like every single time. Shit like that can be fun. 809 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,960 But I do genuinely think, like overall, we've literally created 810 00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,240 our own fucking George Orwell. We all thought it was going to 811 00:38:42,240 --> 00:38:44,680 be these massive surveillance cameras, but it's actually just 812 00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:46,280 everyone with their phones recording each other. 813 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,160 We have done it ourselves. We are surveillancing everyone. 814 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:52,120 Everything is recorded. You can't do anything now 815 00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:54,720 without having that. So I think that it genuinely has 816 00:38:54,720 --> 00:38:57,600 taken away like that, like silly nature of life. 817 00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,120 And to actually just be silly is good. 818 00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:03,000 It's not stupid stupid. It has a negative conversation 819 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,360 with that stupid, but sometimes it can be fucking stupid and who 820 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,520 gives a fuck? Like you're having fun, you're 821 00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,760 having a laugh, even if it's on your own or you're having it 822 00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:11,880 with your friends, your family, like whatever it is, you're 823 00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:13,760 having a laugh. Like you are being silly. 824 00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,520 People are people are taking themselves way too fucking 825 00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:20,400 seriously now. And I think that the more that 826 00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,240 like this is encouraging, the more people are doing it, the 827 00:39:22,240 --> 00:39:24,120 more it's going to become normalized. 828 00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,560 People are going to do that again. 829 00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,920 Like even humor, like back in the day on TV, it used to be 830 00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,520 like silly humor. Like it was like lipstick. 831 00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,200 It was silly, but it was because it was just so light hearted. 832 00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:36,880 There's like none of that anymore because people are like, 833 00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:40,280 oh, it's got to, it's got to be nuanced and it's got to be dark 834 00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:43,320 and dry and, and it's like, no, it doesn't actually. 835 00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:45,640 Like you can just be fucking stupid and you can have a laugh. 836 00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,560 But anyway, on that note, have some fun. 837 00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:49,760 Do the thing that you want to fucking do. 838 00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,560 Don't feel bad about doing something that was fun that like 839 00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:54,840 whatever it was, just think life is not that. 840 00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,280 Do be that character and enjoy it. 841 00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:01,040 And if you are thinking about coming out or whatever your 842 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,240 situation might be or you're kind of struggling through it 843 00:40:03,240 --> 00:40:06,480 right now, we are also all ears and anything that you guys have 844 00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,120 to share, like first of all, I'm really sorry that you're going 845 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,120 through it, but also we're here to support you and we will talk 846 00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,800 about this shit and it gives us gives us more. 847 00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:20,400 Ammo, more ammunition, more wild domination, you know how it is. 848 00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:25,680 Anyway, lesbians, I love you and I can't wait for you guys to 849 00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,600 hear and see what we have in stock with you very very soon. 850 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,560 So we will speak to you next week. 851 00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:32,480 Bye bye.