Hello lesbians, it's Freya today on the mic.
I have no idea what has happened to the weather in the UK but it
sent me absolutely insane. I was already halfway there.
But I will have to say, if I'm speaking to those of you that
suffer with seasonal, what is it?
It's like seasonal ass up your fucking hair depression.
I don't know what it is. It's sad right?
So it's called like sad. And if you struggle with this, I
am just telling you, you are not alone.
But I have some tips. This morning a friend of mine
reached out and she was like let's go for a walk and I just
woken up and the clocks have changed.
I was like Oh my God I'm just like I'm falling apart.
But the sun was shining and she was like let's go for a walk.
Like straight away walked for like 4 hours just chatting
absolute shit. That is one thing I would say
helps like actually if you're out in it, it is so much better.
Like the other day it was raining and instead of being
inside of my house I was like no I need to actually be out in it.
So I'm sad outside of this like Cafe with like the canopy over
me and the rain is like getting on my laptop.
At this point I didn't even give a fuck.
I was just like, I'm just going to actually have to be out in it
because it's so much better than if you are just like sad at home
and ruminating. And I don't know what it is that
makes like there are certain people this just doesn't affect.
And so many people are like, I love autumn, I love winter.
It's like, I can understand why you would like certain things.
Like I like the clothes, that's about it.
Like I like autumn clothes. I like winter clothes but like
winter and autumn, hell on earth Get Me Out of here.
Why the fuck do I live here? Honestly, because the UK is just
not it when it comes to this weather.
It just it's just I find it so depressing, but I want to know
what it is. It's like some people have it,
some people don't. Like why is it that I struggle
so badly with bad weather? Like I was talking about this
the other day as well. Sometimes I get this like real
bad, like gloom and doom feeling where it feels like an
atmosphere, you know, the vibes just feel off.
And sometimes I just like have days where like the whole vibe
of the day will just feel weird. And I say things look different.
And by the way, I'm not schizophrenic.
Like, things don't like, actually look different, but
they feel like they look different in a way.
And I think a big part of that is if the weather is bad, I will
like, have this doom and gloom feeling.
And I'm like, everything sucks. But yeah, I'm trying to figure
out. I mean, I take my vitamin D
supplements. I mean, there's got to be
something. There's got to be something.
Apparently someone is developing like a VR headset or something.
I mean, too fair. You could just put on a VR
headset. I can just pretend that I'm in
Hawaii or something. I don't know.
But it's like, I think it's just that lack of sunlight behind the
eyes is quite damaging to my soul, to my core.
And this has been a fucking hard year, guys.
This has been a really hard year and no surprise to anyone.
And don't get me wrong, there have been elements of some
really, really good things and some amazing people that have
also come into my life and have made me so grateful for making
those connections. But some most of this year are
shit Creek, fucking shit Creek. But like I said on my negative
lesbian chat, like I need to stop, like dwelling into that.
Sometimes it's really difficult because even though you try and
keep a positive mindset and then another bad thing happens and
you're like, are we joking? Like, are we actually joking?
Like, why is this happening? And I like I it just it just
sends me completely over the edge.
But I'm trying to still be like, you know, keep up that
manifesting baby and everything is good, everything is fine and
I will be fine. I think I have just one of those
brains that like sinks into it way too easy.
And I need to learn how to just like, completely restructure the
old mind and find a way to just process things better.
You know, I've got like a few good friends where things can
happen to them and it just kind of glides over them.
They're like, I know I'll sort it out.
And I am like that to like a certain degree on certain
things. I'm like, I know it's all going
to be OK. I know there's nothing I can't
figure out. There's nothing I can't sort
out. But sometimes you're like, wow,
I am gonna literally gonna run around naked any minute now, be
institutionalized, shave all my hair off.
It's gonna pending pending. I don't know if that's, I don't
want to blame everything on ADHD.
I think it's really easy, though, to ruminate when you've
got ADHD because once you get like this one thing in your
mind, you're like, oh, I'm just gonna think about that thing now
forever. I'm just gonna let it run laps
around my brain and like take take control of me.
So yes, need to sort that out. And I'm just, I've become such
an emotional girl, like so sensitive and emotional.
And I don't know if it's like as you get older, sometimes you, I
think you can go either way. And I think as I've gotten
older, I've just become a lot more in tune to my emotions and
just trying to figure out what they are because I think as
well, like so many times we feel emotions, but we're like, why is
it that I actually feel that way?
Is that really anger or is that like rejection?
Is that sadness? And, you know, am I angry at
others? Am I angry at myself?
And like trying to figure all of that out.
I know, sorry, fucking depressing.
Freya, shut up. I get it.
You're already sat there in the shit weather and then you've got
to hear me complain. But I just want to let you know
you're not alone. I also, I also struggle with
that as well, but talk about the shit.
There's also good shit too. So we've just sold out New York,
which is insane. I am blown away.
And, and I know that for me and Scarlett, we see our numbers
over in the States and everything else.
We know that we have like a presence there, but then to
actually see it so like tangibly, we're like, what the
fuck is going on? So I was then I looked over at
Scott. I was like, well, we gotta do
LA. We gotta do LA whilst we're in
New York. Like it's, I know it's like
quite far from New York, but it's closer than if we were to
go from here. And I'm thinking, hmm, how about
we make that happen? I'm sorry, fucking notification
going off. How about we actually make that
happen, See what we can do. I think for us, it's kind of
like a dream come true because we're not all about the events
like Lesbian Supper club. We're all about the podcast.
And I know that we've been promising a lot recently, but I
need you to know that we are in some really, really cool
conversations right now, especially over like visual and
audio and everything is just going to be a lot more
amplified. But that is our love.
But the events as well, like and being able to host that and like
create communities or like not even create communities, but
give you guys a space where you can meet other people within the
community and have that fun. We're like, absolutely, yes, I
love, love doing it and love meeting everyone.
And by the way, when you guys come up to me and say, I'm so
sorry to like interrupt you, I just want to tell you like,
please don't be fucking sorry ever.
Like it is honestly so nice to hear and you would be surprised.
It's like, it's so easy to just be like, well, I don't know what
I'm doing, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And fun fact is, and no one knows what they're doing, by the
way, but I think that to hear that is so nice.
And to actually meet you and to talk to me, like I really, I
really, really appreciate it. Like it does not go unnoticed.
I had a great night the other night.
Why night? I don't know what had gotten
into me. I was running around, I was
hugging everyone. I was saying how beautiful.
I don't know what happened, but yeah, I had a great time.
So that's like part of the good shit.
We're also having some really cool conversations just around
like the community piece as well, which we can't wait to
share everything that we have going on.
I think just the lesbians need to just take control now.
Trump is just only getting worse.
We're like, that was the thing as well.
Like some people like why America with Trump?
I'm like, this is exactly the time to hit America with Trump
there. This is the time when we do need
to be louder. We need to be prouder with who
we are and like really, really stick together because they will
just try and divide us. It's so much easier to control
us if they divide us. And if there's one thing that I
can say about this community is we're fucking funny.
And I think that so much like humor holds so much power.
And if we're able to be like, fuck you, you fucking BLOB,
don't even not even a BLOB. Just like you fucking ugly
orange face prick. You are just a cunt.
There was just no other words for it.
And it's just compulsive lion, narcissist, psychopath, whatever
the fuck. And and it's it's just like
breeding this like crazy ground of men who all think that
they're victims, which is the funniest fucking thing ever.
So yeah, a Long story short, the lesbians need to come in full
force because the lesbians are going to be the ones to do it.
Let's be real. Like we have to.
And we need to use that power and like stick together.
And I also just think it's like, it's about fucking time someone
cause an absolute scene, Don't we think?
Don't we think it's like it is time?
I think we all just need to just revolution this.
And by the way, before I get called out, they're calling
everyone terrorists for what? For like for being left wing.
Apparently now you're like basically a terrorist, which is
just absolute insanity, especially seeing the actual
acts of terrorism that they do create in other countries.
And not to mention what's going on with ICE as well, which is
the most heinous thing I've seen, I wouldn't even say ever
seen because I've seen some horrendous things these past few
years come out of America. But that is it's authoritarian.
It's like he has created this weird dictator shit.
The guy needs to be out of there.
The fact that he's committed so many crimes and he's just still
in there. I have no idea.
Prince Andrew, what has he done? He's he's just removed his
title. So that's really interesting
because then I'm thinking something else is coming out.
Then surely like they don't want to be connected to it.
I don't know what it is. But honestly, I think The thing
is, and we've said it before, but sometimes it just has to get
so bad that it gets better. But I never thought that I would
ever witness something like this.
And you just realize now that like history that's repeating
itself because before you're like, well, how how would Hitler
have ever gotten in charge? You know, you'd always think
that I remember being in history lessons be like, how did he
actually manage this though? And we're quite literally seeing
like this behavior just happen in real time.
Just so easy for them to indoctrinate and to really
poison the minds of people. The problem about the algorithm
as well, without being online, it's great that we have access
to so much information, but the way that the algorithm is now
designed, especially off of the back of things like TikTok,
Instagram now as well. You will only be fed things that
you're already interested in or you've already taken a liking to
like one right wing post. And then from then on all you're
gonna see is that right? And so it's really, really it's
stopping people from having an actual clearview of what's going
on in the world. And that is how it all starts.
It's just fucked up. Talk about fucked up.
I wanted to talk today about coming out and I'm not on about
coming out stories. You guys have already heard what
I went through with my coming out and then also heard the
episode with my mom as well where I'm like talking to her
about the horrendous coming out experience.
But I really wanted to talk about the nature of coming out
because I think now by this point, what are we gonna do to
change the process of this? I think about the concept of
coming out. And when I really think about
it, I'm like, that is actually just not OK.
And obviously I think that it's great to, I'm not saying don't
come out as in like don't say that you're gay to people are
like whatever. Like, I'm not saying that, but I
mean the sitting down, the telling people, the fear, the,
the whole act of it in itself is just actually, if you were to
look at it for most people, even if you've had a good experience
with coming out, doing the ACT itself is quite shameful.
There's like a lot of shame around it and it's scary.
And I was trying to figure out what it is exactly.
It's so bad about it. And it basically it kind of
feeds into the narrative that we are responsible for others to
accept us or not. We are putting our feelings, our
identity, who we are in the hands of others and usually
people that we love, right? So people that we really value
the opinions of and we are expressing it, we're explaining
it, we're apologizing for it. And that is traumatic to just
have to explain and to try and bother with people and really
like put yourself out there in that way impacts this like great
fear within someone. I mean, I remember like looking
up about the other day and it was interesting because it said
that it implies deceit. So it's like the language of
like being in the closet can make people feel deceitful,
right? Because they are hiding this
identity. Like you're, you're faking
something, you're hiding something, you're lying, you're
lying about many things. And these lies can spiral as
well, right? All of a sudden, this simple lie
of your identity then becomes this other lie of maybe like
relationships and everything else that you are keeping
completely hidden from other people or like crushes or
feelings and like the kind of conversations that straight
people would just so organically have.
You can't. Or maybe you say you've got a
boyfriend when you're a lesbian and you're trying to figure it
out or you're lying to yourself. So you genuinely do have a
boyfriend, but you are you keep lying to your body.
Do you know what that does to your body over time?
Your body and your mind is so crazy connected.
It is your second brain in your body, in your stomach is where
your second brain is. And the physical aspects of that
can actually cause like quite like detrimental effects.
Usually people will suffer from like back pain or like stomach
issues or like whatever it might be because as well like it kind
of goes into like somatic pain, which like I definitely get.
So it's when your emotions are so heavy in your brain, your
brain will create physical pain within your body for you to
focus on because it's a tangible thing that you can be like, OK,
there is this. Maybe it could even be as simple
as like having a pain that's like down your thigh or like a
headache or yeah, your back feels all like tight now in your
neck. And whatever it might be, that
can be both things because you're like tense anyway because
you're stressed out. But it's like it all comes
through physically. But your body does start to like
not trust you because once you keep going against what is right
for you, your body will tell you and it will come out in anxiety
as well and just generalize depression because you are just
not living authentically. You can't hack it.
And you, you might be in the closet now and it is really
heavy. And you might have this thing in
your head where you're like, I'm never going to come out.
I'm not going to do this. And trust me, some of you, I
know are in dangerous situations as well where you genuinely
can't come out. And that to me is just
horrifying. And I'm so, so sorry because I
feel even though I didn't have a good experience coming out, I
was still privileged with that. I still had the ability to come
out, you know, And having that stripped away from you is such
like a harrowing feeling as well.
Another thing, you're like, you're putting the power in
other people's hands to reject you, right?
The term of like coming out, you are just you're giving it like
here it is. You're already apologetic.
Here's everything about this. I'm gay, I am attracted to the
same sex or I'm bisexual, I'm pansexual, I'm trans, whatever
it might be. And you are now just giving
someone the fucking floor. You're giving the jury like you,
they are now in this position where they can say, well that's
fucked up, I hate that, or fuck you or I'm never speaking to you
again or any of these things. You are just handing that power
to someone and that power should come with us.
That should be with the person who is coming out, right?
That should be our power. That power should not be taken
away because at the end of the day, we do not live for anybody
else. It's entirely our lives and it
is not hurting a single soul on earth to be gay, to be trans, to
be bisexual, to be pansexual, to be asexual.
I'm trying to think of all the sexuals like we are not like we
are not hurting anyone throughout that so how dare as
well the people that are on the receiving end react so fucking
negatively to it when it really has nothing to do with them.
It's like you could make it as simple as being like my favorite
colour is pink and you want to tell someone and and that only
effects you. You buy pink everything for
yourself because you fucking love it right?
This person hates the colour pink.
You go, I love the colour pink. They look at you and go, you're
sick and the fucking heck out of my house.
Like something that has 00 impact and effect on their life,
you know, and but I think this is where I kind of like want to
get down to. I'm like, OK, how is it that as
a society, people can make this not a big fucking deal and also
not make it a quote UN quote coming out?
There's almost like with children when they're growing
up. You should never assume, for
instance, that your kid is going to be straight and you should
never assume that it's going to be gay for the exact same
reason. And don't you dare for a fucking
second any of you go where you can't textualize your child.
I'm not sexualizing a child by saying that it could potentially
be gay. It is the same as it could
potentially be straight. You're not going to make someone
gay by just not having like that thought in your head that they
are straight and putting that on that like it's, it's such a
natural thing. Like they'll have a little boy
and then they're like, Oh, you've got a girlfriend like
when they're like 5 years old. So before you fuckers, these
people that say that gay people are like sexualizing them
because they said they could be gay, but you're the one that's
like buying fucking baby grows for your newborn.
That's like little what is it? It's like, Oh, what's the word?
Not like, I think it's like little heartbreaker and little
things like this. And it's like, well, that's kind
of fucked up. Why is that on a baby grow?
It just, oh, it is fees, this thing, like imagine a world
where you're growing up and they could be like, oh, yes.
Then like you're either interested in men or interested
in women. They're like, OK, done.
Like really not that big of a deal, you know, or you're
interested in both or you don't want anyone, whatever the fuck.
And again, like the way that we can change.
This is like change is always just formed out of habits and
like tiny little habits that all build up over time, right?
And we were having a conversation the other day and a
woman was saying something about like her child and blah, blah,
blah. And then somebody said, Oh yeah,
she's quite progressive because she would be fine if her child
was gay. She wouldn't see an issue with
it. And she was called progressive
for this. And people say it.
And by the way, like gay people will say like, well, I I would
probably say something like that be like, yeah, she's quite
progressive. Like that's really good.
Duh, duh, duh, duh, duh. When do we actually say that's
not progressive? That's just normal.
And this is where like micro language builds into the bigger
picture. It's like if we think that that
is progressive, then we are almost allowing people to stay
in the normal, quite and quite normal category for being
homophobic, for being not OK if their kid came out as gay or
trans or whatever it is. We are putting them as normal.
And the people who actually are saying, yeah, I don't give a
fuck are progressive. No, it needs to be.
It is normal to be like, you wouldn't give a fuck because why
would you? And we need to say it is just
unacceptable that you would be another way, because the reason
why these people are this way is because of language like that
over time, people aren't born with hatred.
People are not born looking at same sex couples like as a kid,
like they wouldn't even blink an eye.
But these things are like built into people.
These prejudice are built into people.
This is not me by the way, saying that they are horrible
fucking people. Unless you go ahead and you are
like a homophobic cunt, then yeah, you are a horrible person
because you've just got no reason to do that.
But having that fear that their kid is gay, I don't think makes
them horrible. I think that it makes them a
subject of everything that they've been exposed to their
entire life because the language has always been around this is
wrong. Or, you know, and they're like,
maybe I'm not woke. Maybe I'm not OK if my kids go.
And again, like calling it woke. And it's like, would you rather
be awake or would you rather be a fucking sleep bitch?
Like you need to think about what even the term woke means.
It's like being awake to these issues and being.
Pathetic and having that, you know, and I will never hear it a
day of my fucking life when somebody says, oh, but then I I
worry that I love my kids so much and I don't care that
they're going to be gay, but I just worry that they're going to
have such a harder life and it's going to be so terrible for
them. These are the people that end up
making their kids lives hell for coming out like that is it's
fucking ironic. Like it's ironic.
You are literally just you are the problem.
You are giving them that fear. You're putting that onto them.
That's not to say that it isn't harder to walk through life gay.
Of course it is. Of course it is.
But if you really feel like that as a parent, then you don't make
it fucking even harder for them. You support them even more
because you're aware that this is difficult.
Like it's difficult to navigate and it's not difficult to
navigate because being gay is wrong.
It's difficult to navigate because the representation
hasn't been there. You don't have anything to cross
reference it with. It's not talked about as being
inherently normal, right? But you're going to have this
like fear already built into you.
And then you've got your parents being like, but I just care
about you and like, Are you sure?
Are you sure you're gay? And no, I don't want this for
you. No, this is so wrong.
Why would I want you to have a harder life?
Like this is not OK blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And they're trying to pretend that it comes from care.
But like, I think it really deep down comes from a feeling of
like disgust in a way. Like they they kind of feel
disgusted by it because that is what they've been taught.
I know when I was a kid, I said it was disgusting.
I was like probably 10 years old and again, knowing that I'm
fucking gay, right? So that was a whole different
Cutler fish because like internalized homophobia is just
like a completely different ball game.
But like, I thought that was what I would express.
Like I said, oh, I like gay men, but I can't.
I don't like lesbians. I don't like them.
Like, no, that's not for me. I don't like it.
It's something about it just like didn't sit right with me.
And I think it's for a number of reasons.
Had I seen more lesbians? I even remember the feeling
itself of like saying that and thinking in my head at that time
what a lesbian was. And it was very, very little
information that I had to go off of.
I was being an absolute cunt, but had very little information
to go off of. It felt very like exclude, like
those lesbians that they're like exclude different society kind
of vibe and which is obviously completely false.
But had there been more representation of just like
normalizing it, like movies and TV shows and celebrities that
have partners, you know, that are the same sex or trans or
whatever it might be, then I would have never, I don't think
that thought would have ever have come into my head and been
like, well, that's that. I remember being fine with my
sister. Like when I found out about my
sister, I was 12 at that point, I was fine with her being gay.
I mean, I quite literally was like, is so and so your
girlfriend? She was like, yes, I was like,
OK, cool. And then I was sat there with a
fucking mullet and jorts on and a Nirvana T-shirt and converse.
So I mean, the writing was on the fucking wall that I had that
feeling. And I think that like even if I
like as a kid could have had that feeling, imagine how that
can manifest if you then never get anymore exposure to it or
you don't actually research anything because you're a
fucking bigot. I think people as well, like
people need to be taught to research things.
People so quickly will take anything as gospel if it's told
to them Is exactly how they've gotten into this situation with
Trump because no research has happened is exactly why
everything happened in Gaza. No research.
That's why so many people are able to get indoctrinated.
No research, and the same goes for every issue, like every
minority, like clue your fucking self up.
Like actually, if you read something and even if you like
what you read, even if you like the headline or whatever it is,
still research it because that could also be false.
Or, you know, there's there's always like a nuance like I saw
this this post the other day, these like beautiful lesbian
couple, and I think I've been post of lesbian stuff.
I was like love to see it. They're like when you realize
that you can actually marry a woman or not a man.
And there were these men in the comments of me like lesbians
have the highest divorce rate. Give me a break, Darren.
Give me a fucking break. Why are you not using your
cognitive thinking skills like any ability to think about this
properly? Think about it.
Why do you think if that is the case, why do you think that
there is a higher rate? Because first of all, there are
less lesbian married couples. So yes, there is going to be a
higher divorce rate per the amount of people that are
married. OK, first of all, because it
could be so it is marginal, marginal to the amount of
divorces that happen with straight people.
But because so many fucking straight people are married,
that divorce rate is obviously not going to be as high.
You absolute fucking dickhead. Secondly, women in women loving
relationships are more likely to be able to leave because they
are not coerced by their partner.
They are not financially held up by the man.
Usually they're like locked in with kids.
They are financially dependent on the man.
So that's another reason why they won't leave.
Thirdly, they could be in a very bad domestic abuse situation.
They cannot leave. Four, they might not end in
divorce, but their husband probably fucking killed them.
That's another thing, right? So we're not looking at like the
greater thing here. And this is what I mean when it
comes to fucking research. But again, it's like more ways
for them to be like, look at how fucked up they're, they are.
They are just fucking everything over there.
And it's like the more freedom we have, the more they will use
our freedom against us. And so that's why we all need to
be as like clued up as possible because it's like, no, you need
to shoot that shit down instantly.
It is complete bullshit. Like it is complete bullshit.
And there is nothing wrong with having more representation.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
And that is exactly why we are just trying to do everything
that we can and like, have these conversations, like send this to
a fucking straight. Like straight people can listen
to this podcast as well. You know, when they're like, oh,
I don't think that's my demographic because it's called
Lesbian Supper club. How many straight things do you
think I've had to listen to my entire life?
And I still listen to and I enjoy I enjoy it like might be
hosted by like a straight couple or like every film we've ever
fucking watched or like TV shows, whatever that is.
Just because I'm not straight doesn't mean that I can't
relate, doesn't mean that I can't enjoy it.
And the same goes for this podcast.
But I think that people see lesbian and they think they
think it's like naughty. They think it's like, Oh, I
don't know if I want that on my Spotify.
I don't know if I want somebody seeing that, like I follow
lesbian supper club that they're really going to think that I'm
like gay or like that's wrong or like, or that it's something
raunchy. It's not fucking Pornhub, is it?
She just us chatting shit. But like that's another thing is
all like we'd never want to like.
I think lesbians have always been so over sexualized.
We don't over sexualize anything that we do like, yeah, we like
to talk about sex, just like how Alex Cooper would on caller
Daddy, talk about sex, talk about squatting.
I don't give a fuck, right. But like with our events, no,
we're not going to have strippers there.
I love strippers and I think that's fun and that's great.
But it's like we're stepping away from that because women are
always like over sexualized. And I think that like, it's
great to like, own your sexuality and be sexually free,
go to sex parties, freak the fuck out.
Like not freak off, by the way, but like the fuck out.
Do whatever you want as long as you're not harming anyone.
It's all consensual adults. Great, great, great.
OK. But it doesn't always have to be
that way. And it's not a fucking given
that that is what you're going to get, you know?
And that is another micro thing. It's another micro thing that
people then think. They think, oh, it's going to be
this. It's going to be very sexual.
It's going to be duh, duh. They say the same about gay men.
And it's like, I'm not being funny.
It's not because they're gay, it's because they're men.
Typically, yes, they probably will be more promiscuous because
it's two men, right? You speak to any straight man
and say if women liked to fuck around and by the way, women can
fucking fuck around too. Don't get me wrong, but like the
odds are less in terms of like the promiscuity, like especially
with men of like that lack of attachment, everything else.
If women were doing that left, right and centre as well and it
wasn't I frowned upon, you fuckers would be doing it as
well. Like don't even start.
It is just because it's like, it's because it's two men and
like we should also just never have to really apologize for
that. And I, I think that it's just
all of those things though, that like we hear or that it's dirty,
that it's wrong, that it's shady.
That is why people then don't want their kid to be gay because
in their head they're like, well, they're going to be a
little sexual demon, you know, and they're going to be dirty,
they're going to be a disgrace because that's a lot of what has
been fed. And I do know that like in some
ways that there are, there is more representation.
And I mean, we're fucking trying, guys.
Fucking trouble. That's why I want this to only
get like bigger and better because I'm not in an
indoctrinating way, because they love to say that we're like
shoving it down their throats. But no, it's just having
conversation just so happens to be about lesbian culture or
about lesbian relationships, about lesbian friendships, about
coming out, about whatever the fuck it might be.
That is representation. And the more people can have
those conversations, the more it can change their mind.
I will challenge anyone, anyone on these conversations.
And I have done it before before and I've done it before when I
was at a pub would live. Oh no, I, no, it was Anna, our
friend Anna. And it was a few months back
now. And Anna, my friend is also gay.
And this guy sat down and he wanted to like talk about gay
rights and all this kind of stuff.
And I then sat there and I sat very calmly because I, by the
way, don't get me wrong, I want to punch most people, but like
whoever have views like this, I sat there very calmly and I
spoke about it in just a very, very simple way because believe
you me, you've got to make a fucking simple for these fuckers
because they clearly just like they ain't got it going on in
their head to work out for themselves.
You've got to coach them like they're a child.
And it took a little while. Like I invested about 45 minutes
of my time. I wouldn't always do this, but I
was like, I'm going to fucking do this today and I'm just not
going to give up. And Anna's getting angry and
angry. She's like sat there and I can
see that in her. By the end of it, you tell her,
I was like, do you know what? You're right.
And I know that's just one person.
And I know that he genuinely, and I will give this to him.
He actually did listen. He did take it in.
Some people fucking don't and they're just Dick heads.
They can go get fucked, but he did take it in and and I was
like, I'm actually so impressed that you did that.
You fucking schooled him. And not only that, but you
actually changed his opinion. And The thing is, is that that
has like a knock on effect because he's got kids, right?
I'm hoping, I'm hoping in my little like dreamland in my
brain that he's going to carry some of that through how he
changed his mind and give people the allowance to change their
mind. Because sometimes as well,
coming at it with so much aggression as anger as I get
about it is only going to fuel them.
It's only going to give them what they want.
It's only going to then make them more vindicated in what
they feel, you know, because they don't care about hurting
you. They don't care that that
aggression actually comes from being so deeply hurt for being
who you are. No, no, no, they don't see it
like that. They don't have the EQ for that.
They just think, well, look at them getting all fucking angry.
They're so aggressive, they're violent, they're this, they're
that. And it just further fuels like
the really negative connotations with with US gaze.
And I just think that the more we can just like chat and chat,
chat and chat and chat way. And if you can own that
sexuality and just like have so much pride about it, especially
with everything that's going on. It's like if you seem someone
fazed about being gay, I mean, I, I know that I genuinely am.
I'm fazed about being gay. I absolutely love it.
I love it. But like, if you can even just
try and think, no, this, this is a positive thing that I am just
being authentically me, then it's only ever they're going to
get better for you and you're going to be more and more and
more untouchable. And you're going to when people
smell a shame on you, they want to treat you like it is shameful
because a lot of people are just bitter and stupid.
So that's that. But yeah, I, I don't know,
because I'm, I'm interested to know what you guys think about
the whole coming out situation. Like, do you think that it's
good? Am I, am I the one that's in the
wrong here? Like do you think that maybe it
is good that we're like owning who we are and that we're like,
we're saying that I'm not saying that we shouldn't own it, but do
you think that it's a good it says?
Are there other reasons as to why you think it's bad that I
haven't touched on? I would honestly love to know
because I love it when you guys actually like comment and say,
oh, but also this because I don't fucking know it all.
I don't know. I know that means college chat
here as like the lesbian supper club, but I don't know all and I
never will, you know, and I think that I'm always down for
learning and also changing my mind on like certain things.
Obviously not my core values. Cannot knock those out of me
even if you fucking punch around the head or like kick me to the
temple. This little swift hit in the no,
there's no way it's not coming out of me.
But there are opinions that I could have that definitely
somebody might be able to actually like change and I'm I'm
all ears for that and any way that you think that maybe we
could just like start maybe I just start a no coming out
campaign. I just like parade it globally,
just I don't want to go out. No coming out, no coming out,
stay in, stay out, be out, be no, actually just be.
What the fuck am I saying? Be out, don't stay in.
It's like be out, stay out and give everyone never, never give
somebody the opportunity to ever feel shame.
And just because you give children that you are raising
the the knowledge that they could be with either sex doesn't
mean that they are going to be attracted to the same sex.
You need to understand that if that was the case I would be
straight. The logic isn't logic.
Like we are born either attracted to one sex, the other
sex both sexes. That's what it is and it doesn't
need to be more complicated than that.
We are not going to make people gay, and even if we fucking did,
calm the fuck down. Even if you are making them gay,
fuck, make them all gay as far as I'm concerned.
Yeah, it's just not going to happen.
There's no harm in it. The only thing that you're ever
going to do is remove that inner shame and like self judgement
from a kid. And wouldn't you love the
ability to be able to do that to your own child?
And you'd love the ability to literally be able to know that
they were never going to have to really suffer, at least from
your end, at least from their parents.
You know, because that's, those are the formative years.
Those are the years where our our nervous systems are being
developed and we hold that shit with us like the rest of our
lives lives. And no matter how much therapy
we go through, you hold it. That pain that you felt, and I
don't want anyone to feel that ever for just simply being who
they are. You haven't done anything wrong.
There is nothing wrong about it. So that's my two cents.
Talk about that. Actually, I've also started to
chat now that I'm single, I've started to change my mind on
having kids. I'm like, I think I could have a
child. That's for another episode.
I've been feeling it recently. I've been like, actually my mind
is starting to change on having kids and I'm thinking I don't
know if it's maybe where I'm getting old or whatever it is,
but I'm like, would actually think that that would be really
fulfilling and not to like, I want to be extremely fulfilled
in my life elsewhere because I also think that that's quite
dangerous when you like have a child to be fulfilled.
But yeah, I don't know. I think would it actually be
really nice to have that? So, well, next episode I could
be pregnant. You never know.
I hopefully fucking not. I'll probably go over it, but
see opinions. They can change.
I was like I was, I didn't want children.
I did not want children. And now that it's changing.
So there you go. We can all change any minute
now. Lesbians, I love you so much.
We've oh, before I go, we've got karaoke night next week, which
I'm fucking stoked for on actual Halloween night and just come as
your big bad lesbian self. I've I'm toying between a few
ideas. I don't know whether to go as
Gwen Stefani. I don't know whether to go as
Coyote Ugly. I ain't got a fucking clue.
I need to figure something out. I always do something really
last minute, but it's going to be fun.
And last Halloween night was hysterical.
Hysterical. So like, I cannot wait to see
what you guys bring this time. I will pop the link in the bio
and really can't wait to see more of you and especially when
you're all dressed up. Did I even mention karaoke night
as well? Though?
We did have a karaoke night. I don't know if Scarlett
mentioned it on the last one, but the karaoke night was
absolutely. That was so funny.
That was my own personal stage.
I don't know who the fuck I thought I would.
It was my knees and my legs. My thighs were killing me the
next day because I was slut dropping to Britney Spears.
I put on a full show. I was like, I'm always like, I'm
so stressed. Amazing event.
Like literally spend 6 hours just screaming down the mic.
But honestly I feel like this is therapy.
Like I actually think that everyone afterwards was like,
yeah that was therapy. We all needed that.
We all needed to get into a room and do that.
And I think that we all just need to bring the fun back into
life. Hot on those outfits, go to
karaoke. We need to do more things that
are just fun and and life is worth having fun for.
We need to do the things that are weird that maybe even in the
moment when you're doing this year, but like, well, that's a
bit shit. I'm not on about karaoke, but
like anything, it's like, Oh, that's a bit shit.
It's a funny fucking story. Or even if something is cringe,
you're like, you know that tomorrow you can tell that story
to people and you're like, Jesus fucking Christ.
But I I'm trying to get more and more, more and more events in my
life like that. And if you look at your life as
if you were like you were a book, your life is a book that
someone was going to read. Do you want to be out and about
causing a fucking ruckus doing whatever it is, being stupid
with your friends, doing things that are fun, that are colorful?
Or do you want the book to just read?
And she stayed in and watched Netflix again with her 10 cats,
and she drunk a bottle of wine to herself and fell asleep.
And a book like, do you want to live a life that someone would
want to read? Absolutely.
And sometimes when you think of that thing we like, do I really
want to just go? Just just do it.
Just go and do it. This is your sign.
If somebody's asking you to do something right now, just go and
fucking do it. And you can always leave.
You don't have to stay out long. But it's like if you go and you
do the thing, you say yes, have more fun.
Life has gotten so stressful for everyone and fun is just out.
Like people aren't doing that crazy shit anymore.
And it's because as well, everything is documented, which
can in turn make some people create more fun things.
So say like people on TikTok are doing like 30 days of dressing
up for Halloween and they're doing like these hilarious
outfits like every single time. Shit like that can be fun.
But I do genuinely think, like overall, we've literally created
our own fucking George Orwell. We all thought it was going to
be these massive surveillance cameras, but it's actually just
everyone with their phones recording each other.
We have done it ourselves. We are surveillancing everyone.
Everything is recorded. You can't do anything now
without having that. So I think that it genuinely has
taken away like that, like silly nature of life.
And to actually just be silly is good.
It's not stupid stupid. It has a negative conversation
with that stupid, but sometimes it can be fucking stupid and who
gives a fuck? Like you're having fun, you're
having a laugh, even if it's on your own or you're having it
with your friends, your family, like whatever it is, you're
having a laugh. Like you are being silly.
People are people are taking themselves way too fucking
seriously now. And I think that the more that
like this is encouraging, the more people are doing it, the
more it's going to become normalized.
People are going to do that again.
Like even humor, like back in the day on TV, it used to be
like silly humor. Like it was like lipstick.
It was silly, but it was because it was just so light hearted.
There's like none of that anymore because people are like,
oh, it's got to, it's got to be nuanced and it's got to be dark
and dry and, and it's like, no, it doesn't actually.
Like you can just be fucking stupid and you can have a laugh.
But anyway, on that note, have some fun.
Do the thing that you want to fucking do.
Don't feel bad about doing something that was fun that like
whatever it was, just think life is not that.
Do be that character and enjoy it.
And if you are thinking about coming out or whatever your
situation might be or you're kind of struggling through it
right now, we are also all ears and anything that you guys have
to share, like first of all, I'm really sorry that you're going
through it, but also we're here to support you and we will talk
about this shit and it gives us gives us more.
Ammo, more ammunition, more wild domination, you know how it is.
Anyway, lesbians, I love you and I can't wait for you guys to
hear and see what we have in stock with you very very soon.
So we will speak to you next week.
Bye bye.