1 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:13,640 Hello. Hi. 2 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:17,440 Hi. Episode 25 of the Lesbian Supper 3 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:18,640 Club. Hello guys. 4 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:20,200 Welcome everyone. How are you? 5 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,800 We are good. Still really good. 6 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:28,080 Really busy week. Again, super busy, super fun. 7 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,440 Yeah, really fun. And we did a photo shoot with G 8 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,480 Spot, which is like fucking iconic. 9 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:36,360 Like the fact that we are even able to do that. 10 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:37,160 Yeah. And the. 11 00:00:37,160 --> 00:00:42,520 Team are just like so amazing. The team, the team of all women 12 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:46,320 as well, they are a really amazing bunch. 13 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:49,680 They've just been so good, like they've been so responsive and 14 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,520 so genuine and you don't always get that one work. 15 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:54,920 I mean, we've been actually really lucky so far with the 16 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,760 brands that we have worked with and like they've all been 17 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:58,640 fantastic. Yeah. 18 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,160 We've had some incredible experiences of brands actually, 19 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:05,400 but that's also because we only work with brands that we want, 20 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:09,080 that we really feel reflect. US and the community. 21 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,280 Community and what we're all about so I think that's why it 22 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:14,800 works because we have turned down quite a few opportunities 23 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:16,320 where it just wouldn't have been right. 24 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,440 You know, I don't want to just jump at everything that gets 25 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,720 thrown our way because you end up. 26 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:23,360 Born. It needs to be authentic to us 27 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,440 and it needs to be standing for something. 28 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:30,080 Yeah, there's so many checklists that we have, but I really like 29 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:32,440 that. As we discussed last week, guys, 30 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:38,040 we have been hooked to the Quinn app, which is this audio erotica 31 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:40,640 app where they go through all these different kind of stories 32 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:42,480 and like a really interesting way. 33 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:48,080 We've just finished Episode 3. Of the Yeah of the compromised 34 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:52,120 series, which is voiced by Victoria Pedretti. 35 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,680 It's amazing, literally incredible. 36 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,240 It's really good, Yeah. It's such a different. 37 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,560 Well, I haven't experienced or come across anything quite like 38 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:03,040 Quinn before. No. 39 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,520 You download the app and it's a series of. 40 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,840 Yeah, storytelling erotica. This series is particularly 41 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:13,920 amazing because it's very gay. Yeah, and it's very sexy. 42 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:18,400 It's very intense and it really tells a story. 43 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,720 I think if you've ever wanted to sleep with Victoria, this is 44 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:21,840 like the closest you're ever gonna. 45 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:26,600 Get yeah yeah yeah and it's hot and episode 3 I feel like turns 46 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:28,040 up the heat fucking. Fast. 47 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:30,120 Oh, massive. So not only does it turn up the 48 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:33,600 heat fast, like, I don't want to go into too much detail 'cause 49 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,000 I'm gonna assume that some of you haven't yet got round to 50 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,720 downloading it or listen it listening in, which you really 51 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:41,960 need to. But there's a couple of really 52 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,960 good twists in episode 3, yeah. Really good twist. 53 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:46,280 There's a twist and then there's another. 54 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:47,760 Yeah. I mean, it is. 55 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:50,720 It's so gripping. And I said this before, but it's 56 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:53,240 like, you know, when there is like this, like, tension and you 57 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:56,720 can, like, feel it in your ears and because, like, the breathing 58 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:57,400 is. Yeah, right. 59 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,080 There, this is what I mean. They've done so well with the 60 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,640 like the ASMR and the sounds and the audios. 61 00:03:03,640 --> 00:03:06,480 The the the way that the music and the yeah, just the sounds 62 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:10,720 have been chosen so clearly, so meticulously also really makes a 63 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:13,480 difference. So, so gay. 64 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:16,880 Yeah, like, you can. This really sounds like a 65 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,120 lesbian. It sounds very true. 66 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,520 Very true like when I'm listening to it I'm like oh and 67 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:26,240 also because it has this kind of like spicy exterior like content 68 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,960 that's like going on all on the outside of it and then the. 69 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,480 Sex he well, she's a spy, right? Which I think we can we can 70 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,640 openly say she's a spy. What's not hot about that for a 71 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,040 start? Like, OK, even though it is 72 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:42,480 quite a fanatical story storyline, yeah, it's a fucking 73 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:45,120 great one because what lesbians not dreaming? 74 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,040 It's it's giving the Jodie Comer killing you vibe, right? 75 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:53,200 Like, yeah, who doesn't want to be in a near death scenario with 76 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:56,600 a spy who could either be saving you or killing you? 77 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,600 And it's giving that right? And they can either save me or 78 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:02,080 kill me and and shag me at the same time. 79 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,160 Yeah, it's really hot so. And as we said, you. 80 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:08,840 Need to listen to this. It goes against the grain of so 81 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:12,520 much of what we see in the media of like lesbian and queer 82 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:16,800 erotica, where a lot of people feel like it's so unbalanced, 83 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:20,240 untrue, and not reflective of our community at all. 84 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:24,760 And we have listened in with a very kind of focus lens on that. 85 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:28,200 And from our perspective, they're hitting the net on the 86 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:29,920 head and they're doing it really well. 87 00:04:30,280 --> 00:04:31,160 Well. So Quinn. 88 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,320 Download Quinn, give it a listen. 89 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:34,960 We're going to put the link in our bio. 90 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,600 We want to hear your reviews. You can also follow them on 91 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:41,440 Instagram at Triquin. And I also love the Instagram. 92 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:43,160 They're hitting the nail on that head. 93 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:45,840 The way that they sell the story with Victoria Bodretti, like 94 00:04:45,840 --> 00:04:48,440 that whole shoot with her and that, yeah, it's fucking 95 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:49,960 amazing. Even this, that's what's 96 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,320 fantastic is the visuals and the way that they've like put the 97 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:56,600 visuals together. You can really kind of tie it in 98 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:58,680 with the audio, and that's what I like it. 99 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:00,840 Do you know what it does? It tickles something in my 100 00:05:00,840 --> 00:05:01,680 brain. Yeah. 101 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,160 That's what I like about it. And I'm not crazy to please with 102 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:05,000 that stuff. Yeah. 103 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:07,480 So if Grouch is loving it, you're probably going to like 104 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:09,040 it. That's so true, check it out 105 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:11,680 guys. Still on my D ageing bullshit. 106 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:16,000 Still on my hypochondriac bullshit. 107 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:21,400 Yeah, the list is ever growing. Yeah, Freya's elements list, is 108 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:24,160 that so annoying? Like I might submit it to a 109 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:28,320 psychologist because it it is worrying Freya at this point you 110 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,240 have to acknowledge. That darling, now I feel a 111 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:33,160 little bit chilly and. That no, I'm not getting into 112 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:34,480 this, Freya. We're not doing this. 113 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:36,000 We're not doing this. I'm ignoring you. 114 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:39,760 I was going to start talking about this week's episode and 115 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:41,800 like, what was the main topic we wanted to cover? 116 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,360 And then you have to come in with one of your many fucking 117 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:48,520 issues, illnesses, problems of the week day. 118 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,960 Our fucking minute second at this point, actually, because it 119 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:53,920 changes nearly every fucking second. 120 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,120 It is hell inside this brain. People think that I don't have 121 00:05:57,120 --> 00:05:58,760 patients. Actually, I think I've got the 122 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:02,840 patients fucking say you're not seeing the BTS guys. 123 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,560 The. BTS, a lot of patience with you. 124 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:08,680 OK, we're not getting into the back and forth, Freya. 125 00:06:08,840 --> 00:06:13,880 So we asked actually for this week's topic, we asked a couple 126 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,000 of weeks ago on our Patreon. Start telling us what you want 127 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:18,960 to hear about, like what you want us to cover. 128 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:23,600 And one of our incredible listeners messaged us and gave 129 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,480 us this suggestion. And I think it's a really good 130 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,520 one actually, So I'm just going to read it out a bit. 131 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:34,360 This person commented and said maybe discuss something around 132 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:39,000 long term relationships like 5 years plus and how desire 133 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:41,720 changes over time. Also, a thing I've been thinking 134 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,760 about a lot recently is how queer women, especially for 135 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:48,200 those who come out somewhat early and have had large groups 136 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:51,120 of friends with other lesbians, the lines between friends and 137 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:54,400 lovers can often blur. Some start as one, become the 138 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:56,800 other, et cetera. Like for example, in my mid 20s 139 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:00,600 I slept with or hooked up with the majority of my friends, and 140 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,840 the intimacy of friendships in bracket, sexual or otherwise, 141 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:06,400 was really important. Now with someone who's married 142 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:09,040 and in a monogamous relationship, I find myself 143 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:11,880 missing some of the intimacy I'd had with friendships. 144 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,040 Don't think this dynamic gets talked about the turn, and it 145 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,120 exists very outside of traditional binaries, but be 146 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,600 curious to hear your takes. And it is so. 147 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:22,080 So interesting, really. Interesting. 148 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,080 I think something that we've experienced a lot but hadn't 149 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:28,400 really thought about it until this person. 150 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:31,560 Yeah, until they said it. Yeah, that's so true. 151 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:33,640 So. Yeah, that is really 152 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,120 interesting. I think to start from the 153 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,280 beginning point of how desire changes on a longer 154 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:42,840 relationship, I think is really normal. 155 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:48,920 I think that a lot of people try to point fingers or say that 156 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,400 that's entirely wrong or you don't love each other anymore, 157 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,440 you don't think see each other as sexual anymore or any of 158 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:56,000 these kind of things. And I think that's wrong. 159 00:07:56,000 --> 00:08:03,120 I think that as women, women especially, desire does seem to 160 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:06,800 sometimes go in like ebb and flows, right? 161 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:08,920 And when you become really comfortable with someone, 162 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:13,400 sometimes I think that that part of you and that part of wanting 163 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:17,560 to make things like sexy or to like, go for it a bit more might 164 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,120 change. Yeah, yeah, I completely agree. 165 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:23,240 And I think that people go into a relationship holding on to the 166 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:26,560 first six months and like that, I feel is just so truly 167 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:28,720 unrealistic. You have to learn to adapt, 168 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:34,200 change, pivot, revisit, you know, reinvent yourself and your 169 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:39,039 relationship because it does change over time. 170 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,679 And I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to keep 171 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:45,160 that like heightened state of emotion and sexual emotion. 172 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,480 We put so much pressure on ourselves in our relationship 173 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:52,600 for that to remain that when it slips, we kind of catastrophize 174 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:55,080 it. And I think that can be really 175 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:56,960 dangerous actually. And I think especially with 176 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:00,560 lesbians, we have the lesbian bed death tag right hanging over 177 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:01,920 our heads. And we've spoken about this 178 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,520 before. I think that further intense 179 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:07,760 intensifies the situation. So we're actually at the G Spot 180 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,920 event a couple of weeks ago, as we've mentioned on the last 181 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:12,760 episode, and we got talking to the incredible doctor Karen 182 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:15,480 Gurney kind of about this actually, or just about like 183 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:19,480 sexual Wellness generally, as Karen is a clinical 184 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:23,360 psychologist, psycho sexologist and couples therapist. 185 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:26,280 God, what a tongue teaser. That is tongue teaser. 186 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:31,720 Tongue teaser, very cunnilingus and we were talking to her about 187 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:35,440 some of these questions and she had so much incredible insight 188 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:39,240 and actually a little teaser she is going to come on the podcast. 189 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,480 So I think we can delve into that in much more detail with 190 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:48,880 her actual clinical evidence and lived experiences having 191 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:52,760 probably discussed and done massive amount of research on 192 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:57,120 this, more so than our hot take on your lives and your 193 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,840 relationships. But we've mentioned this before 194 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,160 about the growth of relationships, but we've 195 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:05,640 mentioned before the growths of relationships on previous 196 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:07,960 episodes and the changes in relationships. 197 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,640 And we have gone through it ourselves. 198 00:10:11,680 --> 00:10:15,080 And as we've said, you need to be able to discuss this with 199 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:18,440 your partner, open up the conversation of dialogue, learn 200 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:23,760 how to navigate through longevity and changes both 201 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:29,400 emotional, sexual, physical and like just within life generally. 202 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:32,720 So, and if you're not able to open up those conversations, 203 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:34,880 change up your relationship. You know, we've spoken before 204 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,880 about the spectrum of monogamy and how that can look for every 205 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,760 couple and each individual. You need to be open to having 206 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:43,400 these conversations because ultimately that is what is going 207 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:45,120 to help the relationship stay strong. 208 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:46,520 There's two things that come into this. 209 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:50,080 So one of them is ego. You get worried that the other 210 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:52,680 person doesn't like you anymore. I don't even think that's the 211 00:10:52,680 --> 00:10:55,120 ego. I think that's just like genuine 212 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:56,960 curiosity. I think you might be like, oh 213 00:10:56,960 --> 00:10:58,760 God, do they even find me attractive anymore? 214 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:00,560 They never tell me that I look hot anymore. 215 00:11:00,560 --> 00:11:03,200 They never make an effort to like take an advance on me. 216 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:05,360 Like, it is a shit feeling, right? 217 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:09,520 So I think that then the emotions of them really 218 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,120 heightened. So trying to actually have this 219 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:17,800 conversation is so fucking hard because you're already wound up, 220 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:20,800 you're already upset about. It yeah. 221 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:24,360 One interesting thing actually, I will say that Karen did say 222 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:28,920 that was a classic for lesbians and why they experienced this, 223 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:33,760 is that we often veer into becoming best friends a lot 224 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:37,520 easier than straight couples. So lesbians are a lot more 225 00:11:37,560 --> 00:11:41,680 accustomed or a lot more likely to transition into like the best 226 00:11:41,680 --> 00:11:45,320 friend side of things. You know, we share clothes, we 227 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:50,400 often merge friendship groups. We merge a lot of aspects of our 228 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:55,280 life quite closely together and that can sometimes that is what 229 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:57,920 creates, you know, we're talking much, very much here about the 230 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:01,480 kind of sexual closeness, the change from the original kind of 231 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:05,200 heightened sexual erotica side of the relationship to a more of 232 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:07,320 a less of that. Yeah. 233 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,480 And she was saying that that is a lot of the reason why is that 234 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:14,960 we are really bad at keeping things separate for ourselves. 235 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:17,880 And we have said this ourselves. You know, we recognise this in 236 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,680 our relationship. I mean, you're always wearing my 237 00:12:20,680 --> 00:12:22,040 fucking clothes. Yeah. 238 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:25,840 Grow up. But it's more one sided. 239 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:28,880 So maybe that's why it's not so much of an issue because I'm not 240 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:31,840 very often wearing yours. You just seem to take mine. 241 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,440 But we very much have merged our friends and things like that. 242 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:39,600 But we actually make a really conscious effort to when we're 243 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,160 out with those friends, enjoying friendship groups. 244 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:45,800 And again, we've said this before, we are very separate in 245 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:49,800 the conversations that we have, so we do make that conscious 246 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:51,680 effort. You know, I go down to see my 247 00:12:51,680 --> 00:12:54,720 mum on my own. Sometimes you go off with 248 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:55,600 family. Or friends. 249 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:59,040 Sometimes, and I like to actively encourage you to do 250 00:12:59,040 --> 00:13:02,640 that because I like my own space in the house, as do you. 251 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:04,480 Yeah. And I like to go and do things 252 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:06,560 by myself. And I think that is really 253 00:13:06,560 --> 00:13:09,440 poignant. Yeah, I think the whole desire 254 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:11,760 thing as well. I, I know that sometimes, like 255 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:14,560 you might never struggle with this because you might keep open 256 00:13:14,560 --> 00:13:17,360 communication like the whole time, but especially if it's 257 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:21,040 been like months since you've had sex or even years. 258 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,960 There's also that added pressure of, oh, fuck me, when we 259 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:26,440 actually do it. Is it gonna be weird? 260 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,600 So then like thinking of that in your head as well can really put 261 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:31,560 you off. Because shit, Vagina Horror 262 00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:32,840 Story didn't help with that, did it? 263 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:35,720 No, because they did put it off and then look what happens. 264 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:36,920 No. Well, exactly. 265 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,560 She got herself already and they made it a big deal by going to a 266 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:40,840 hotel. See, now for me, that's my 267 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:42,680 worst. Like, yeah, I can't make it a 268 00:13:42,680 --> 00:13:44,560 big deal like. Making it bigger than what it 269 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:46,760 feels. Yeah, not what it is, but what 270 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:47,520 it feels. Yeah. 271 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:51,360 So it's just, it's just a, it's just a myriad of, of so many 272 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:52,680 different things that like come together. 273 00:13:52,680 --> 00:13:56,040 But if you think right, I really love this person, I want to stay 274 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,840 with this person, then I think that you both owe it to each 275 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:00,600 other to be able to have that. Yeah. 276 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:02,920 Communication. Just fly so many times. 277 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,800 Handle though as well. But yeah, I mean, look, we see 278 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:07,720 you if you're going through it, we are going. 279 00:14:07,720 --> 00:14:09,960 To be getting someone a lot more qualified to talk about this, 280 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:11,520 Yeah, in the very near future, Sure. 281 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:13,600 Pick this point back up and we'll ask. 282 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:14,880 We'll ask this question. Yeah. 283 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:18,920 So the second part of that submission was incestuous 284 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,000 lesbians, and I'm assuming in their 20s. 285 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:23,680 I love this shit. So do I. 286 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,080 I live for it, but it is so true of our community. 287 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,160 Well it's definitely true of our friendship group. 288 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:33,240 Like yeah, we go out, we'll get drunk, we're grabbing each 289 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:37,320 others tits, yeah, we're kissing on the dance floor, we're being 290 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:40,280 highly inappropriate. We're love being pulling up our 291 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:42,920 tops, rubbing nipple bar to nipple bar. 292 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:50,880 It's absolutely outrageous behaviour and I love it and I 293 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:57,440 can't imagine being my mid late 30s self or early 40s self being 294 00:14:57,440 --> 00:14:59,240 married and not doing those things. 295 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:04,040 I just think instead of doing it in potentially a bar or a club, 296 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:09,600 we'll be doing it in our own bar in our house and therefore it 297 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:11,000 will probably be even. Worse. 298 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:13,840 Yeah. Clip ring to clip ring. 299 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,840 No, but why do we do it? Yeah, but I don't like this 300 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:21,720 whole idea of like, once you're married, that's it. 301 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:25,080 Yeah, same again, because like this is such like a fucking 302 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:28,640 social coy as well. Like, why is it that we all 303 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:31,760 think that one of you put a ring and if you want to live like 304 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:35,440 this, fine. If you think, OK, putting a ring 305 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:38,600 on it, putting marriage on it is like the ultimate commitment. 306 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,200 You're bound to that person, and that's how you want to live. 307 00:15:42,040 --> 00:15:44,160 Great. Don't involve me, but great. 308 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:47,160 Yeah, I'm joking. But I do think it's a shame. 309 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:49,840 And I think, again, this is what causes a lot of issues in 310 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:53,360 marriages, is that when people get married, they suddenly feel 311 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:57,160 like they're part of their self is gone because they've become 312 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:58,560 this merge. And this goes for straight 313 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:00,720 couples as well. I think that's what creates a 314 00:16:00,720 --> 00:16:03,360 lot of resentment. I don't see why you have to do 315 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:04,760 it. No, I don't. 316 00:16:04,760 --> 00:16:06,800 Even if you have children. Like what's? 317 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,000 I still don't. I still don't understand. 318 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:12,880 I think it's such a strange concept that like this, strict 319 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:16,120 monogamy is. The kind of stop wanting to have 320 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:19,240 fun surely? It feels like people relate 321 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:22,840 strict monogamy to purity and like pianists. 322 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:26,120 So it's like if you have children, you have to be just 323 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:29,280 with one person. And it's just so far astray from 324 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:32,280 how I feel like we as human beings should be living our 325 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:34,440 lives. I'm not saying it doesn't work 326 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,560 for some people. Clearly it does, but I do find 327 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:39,640 it's not working for the majority and there's clear 328 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:43,000 scientific evidence and social evidence as to why that is. 329 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:46,080 But then they they they relate it to purity, yet we'll cheat. 330 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:48,800 Yeah, exactly. But that's almost more expect 331 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,160 accepted than actually opening up your relationship it because 332 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,840 socially it's been conditioned that that's kind of the better 333 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:56,440 way of going about it. It's so. 334 00:16:56,720 --> 00:17:00,600 Bizarre is more acceptable than to have an open conversation and 335 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:02,600 maybe join in altogether. Have fun. 336 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:07,720 So the Why are the quiz and the girlies predominantly behaving 337 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,319 in this way? Because we're wild. 338 00:17:10,319 --> 00:17:12,720 We like to have fun. Like I I think it's because 339 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:14,760 we've already gone through a fucking nerf we want to have. 340 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:19,520 Fun and I think we, you know, like it's got its negatives, but 341 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:24,280 queer girls in friendship groups, we are like another 342 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:27,440 level of clothes. We kind of do all to like treat 343 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:31,240 each other like other girlfriends, right To the point 344 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:35,360 where Leanna sends us farting voice notes, which I feel like 345 00:17:35,360 --> 00:17:39,480 is very like long term relationship type stuff or like 346 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:42,800 me and. Or long term nemesis chat. 347 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:45,360 Yeah. And we know the insurance and 348 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:48,400 outs of each other's sex lives. We know the insurance and outs 349 00:17:48,440 --> 00:17:50,800 of probably each other's titty size. 350 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:55,000 It's just like we do like to reach another level and I think 351 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:59,360 it's because female friendship groups generally and then as you 352 00:17:59,360 --> 00:18:02,480 say, lesbian friendship groups, it's another level of safety. 353 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:04,600 I think straight women are even like it though. 354 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,920 Straight women are so close to their girlfriends. 355 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:09,360 Yeah, so that's the spaghetti. Straight women, Yeah. 356 00:18:09,360 --> 00:18:12,360 But add lesbians to that mix and they are super close. 357 00:18:12,880 --> 00:18:15,880 I think just because like we find a lot of safety within one 358 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:18,480 another as well. And like, because we are all 359 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:20,920 lesbians, like there is probably going to be chemistry there, 360 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:24,240 like someone's going to find someone hot and it's not deep. 361 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:26,680 This is the thing. You can love and fancy your 362 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,400 friends at the same time. You can love them on a platonic 363 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:31,240 level. You can fancy them on a sexual 364 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:32,320 level. It doesn't mean that you 365 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,400 necessarily want to have sex with them or want to be with 366 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:36,280 them, but it doesn't mean that you don't want to have a 367 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:37,560 harmless kiss with them on a night. 368 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:41,880 But you'll be nothing more like speaking from the perspective of 369 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:44,880 our friendship group. It can very much just be that. 370 00:18:45,120 --> 00:18:46,800 Yeah, I mean, it is very much just that. 371 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:49,640 Like we're literally laughing as we are doing it. 372 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:52,480 It's more for us. I think we've got to the point 373 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:54,120 where it's not even sexual anymore. 374 00:18:54,120 --> 00:18:58,440 It's kind of just like a second twisted game of yeah, banter. 375 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:00,880 It's funny. And it's funny to watch other 376 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:03,720 people's reactions. That's kind of why I didn't do 377 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:07,240 it, because you see the straight bystanders being like, hang the 378 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:11,800 fuck on because a minute. Ago she was kissing her. 511 379 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:15,640 redhead Annabelle was with five, nine and a half. 380 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:21,120 I'm going to give you that halfly curly hair Leanna making 381 00:19:21,120 --> 00:19:28,120 out and now curly hair Leanna is kissing. 5 foot 5 blonde Freya. 382 00:19:28,120 --> 00:19:32,320 I'm 5 foot 6. I don't know about this, I'm 5 383 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,600 foot 6. And you know, and and then, and 384 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,640 then you've got like, pink hair. Yeah. 385 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:46,320 Coming in. 4 foot 9. 4 foot 9 going for me 510 and it's just a 386 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:50,440 web of like. We basically look like a circus. 387 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,880 It, yeah, we really do, but in the best possible way. 388 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,200 And if you're now in a monogamous relationship and 389 00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:59,080 you're missing that sort, sort it on you. 390 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,480 Like I think it's such a. Waste of fun. 391 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:06,280 OK, and again, actually maybe this is about like levels, maybe 392 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,720 you're like, I do miss it a bit, but I'm super happy. 393 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:10,880 My other half wouldn't be happy with me doing that. 394 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,880 And actually I prioritise the relationship. 395 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,360 OK, that's the boundary and you accept it. 396 00:20:15,360 --> 00:20:19,640 But if the if the one in the miss is spilling into like you 397 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:23,920 feel like you're trapping off a part of yourself for this strict 398 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,680 monogamous relationship, at some point I feel like resentment 399 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,640 will build, right, I think. If you miss it, we are, you 400 00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:33,720 know, there's such a thing of being able to make compromises 401 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:35,680 and obviously go to each other's boundaries. 402 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:37,960 I really, really respect, really respect that. 403 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:44,080 However, you are also your own person and you need to, you need 404 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:46,480 to honour who you are as a person. 405 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:50,640 And if what you are doing is really harmless, like you said, 406 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,440 I mean, we've all been there and you're able to at least have 407 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:57,160 like you can talk about it because you never know that the 408 00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:00,440 other person might not realise or might not have ever had that 409 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:01,720 kind of relationship with their friends. 410 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:05,400 So won't get it, you know? So it's really hard to like be 411 00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,480 able to. How would you even explain that 412 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,120 to someone who'd never? Had it before, yeah. 413 00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:13,920 And then the other side of the incestuous lesbian slash queer 414 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:18,680 friendships is like, it can be intense. 415 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,640 Yeah. Because we're so involved in 416 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,720 each other S lives, a lot of the lines are blurred sometimes and 417 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:26,800 I think it's all part of our queer experience. 418 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,840 And I wouldn't change a part of like my life and my friends and 419 00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:33,040 how our relationships navigate. Actually, some of them I would 420 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,840 change or would have changed historically. 421 00:21:36,120 --> 00:21:40,640 But for the majority, you know, for the good and the bad, like 422 00:21:41,120 --> 00:21:43,280 no one's perfect. It's experiences. 423 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,600 We're all growing together. We do sometimes get to invested 424 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,040 in each other's lives. Maybe there are some unsolicited 425 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:52,920 opinions at times, but ultimately I know my friends 426 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:56,200 have got my back. And that is I think one of the 427 00:21:56,200 --> 00:22:01,040 main amazing things about that sometimes just difficult 428 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:04,320 discussions that we can have of our friends beyond making out a 429 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:07,960 nipple rubbing in the club is that like we can be honest with 430 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:09,440 each other. We can have those difficult 431 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,720 conversations and then we move through it. 432 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,560 It's. A really good way to unwind as 433 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,280 well. Yeah, if you just want to be 434 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,000 silly. Like, I think sometimes you just 435 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,360 want to be silly. You want to do. 436 00:22:18,360 --> 00:22:22,440 We all encourage each other in like a really bad, in good way. 437 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,080 Yeah. So that was our take on that 438 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:25,760 one. Kiss your mates, kiss your 439 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,240 friends. Let us know if you've got 440 00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:32,040 married and now you're celibate. Yeah, sorry to you, RIP. 441 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:36,200 So now we slide on in slide. On in to the final. 442 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:39,880 Part of the Lesbian Supper club Horror Story, which is sorry, 443 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,640 shut up now we slide on in. I've had some aroused this 444 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:46,080 episode and I'm talking about slipping and sliding. 445 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,480 Does anyone remember that episode on the Owlwood where 446 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,400 they'd done the oil fighting? Oh my God. 447 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,440 That was so hard can. We recreate that. 448 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,600 Yeah, let's do it. Should we do that? 449 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,080 One of the Lesbian Supper Club events. 450 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,840 Yeah, just fucking oil fight. Ring a ring and get the girlies 451 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,800 with some like boxing gloves on. You can wear whatever you want 452 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:06,680 because I'm not going to make it. 453 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,000 Russell, Brandy and just fight. Shove some oil on you. 454 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:11,080 Wear what you want. Let's do. 455 00:23:11,120 --> 00:23:12,440 It so Freya, you're reading out today. 456 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,640 Reading out. Today's episode of the Horror 457 00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,280 Story so I'm going to start from the top. 458 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:18,880 Hey friends, Scarlett, I hope you're doing well. 459 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,440 Besties, I hope you're doing well too. 460 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:23,000 Thank you. The girl, let's call her Jess to 461 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:26,080 keep her identity safe and I met due to mutuals. 462 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,880 She had recently broken up with her ex-boyfriend at the time and 463 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:32,600 I was the 3rd girl she'd talked to ever since she came out as bi 464 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,280 At the beginning, Jess was pretty amazing. 465 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,680 Just like any girl at the start of any relationship, we would 466 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,600 hang out at least twice a week. Is that it? 467 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,320 And when we wouldn't hang. Out very lesbian interview. 468 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:45,160 And when we wouldn't hang out, we would FaceTime for hours at a 469 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,520 time. That is very lesbian interview. 470 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,680 Fast forward to 8 months into the relationship after Jess and 471 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,600 I have been on vacation together and she spent New Year's with my 472 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,080 family, I get a call from one of our mutuals. 473 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,840 My friend, let's call her Alexa wants it. 474 00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:00,040 Thank God Alexa isn't in there because she's been pissing me 475 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,800 right off. Let's call her Alexa once again 476 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:05,600 to protect her identity. Told me she had seen Jess with 477 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,840 her ex before me AKA the guy she dated. 478 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:10,040 We will call him Randy. Randy, we had to give her. 479 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,920 She's had to give him Randy. Randy. 480 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,880 Or like Randy. Is an ugly boy name that's. 481 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,000 Horrible. At a restaurant together. 482 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:20,880 Keep in mind Jess's car was on the shop, so that Friday she 483 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:24,760 asked to borrow my car to run an urgent no errand. 484 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:27,280 Fucking Oh, she's got no shame, has she? 485 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,360 Jess, sort yourself out. Anyways, Alexa was on a date 486 00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:32,760 herself that same Friday at the restaurant and she was confused 487 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:34,800 as to why Jess and Randy would be eating together. 488 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,600 While on the phone with me, Alexa lost sight of them since 489 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,520 they paid the bill and left. After Alexa finished her meal, 490 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,320 she called me again to see if I had any suspicious behaviour in 491 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,200 Justice Park, but I hadn't if I'd seen any. 492 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,480 We stayed on the phone until she reached the parking lot, as we 493 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,640 usually do when she's on a date with a New Girl stroke guy, but 494 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,360 she saw a car exactly like mine with the windows all fogged up 495 00:24:55,360 --> 00:24:58,720 on the rooftop, parking just 10 spots away from her. 496 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,720 Parking had that. I'm sorry, that's that's a 497 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,920 disgraceful minimal level of decorum. 498 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:09,400 We are disgracing Jess. I mean, hot car sex is great. 499 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,960 Car sex as long. As, but not when, you're fucking 500 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,880 cheating on your girlfriend with your ex-boyfriend called Randy. 501 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:19,640 Randy, I think I was in denial, but then I asked her to read the 502 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,560 licence plate for me. Surprise, surprise, it was my 503 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,040 car. And can we guess who was in the 504 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:23,760 car? Fucking who? 505 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,440 You guessed it, Jess was fucking Randy in the backseat of my 506 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,800 Volkswagen when I went to dump of. 507 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,480 Course the lesbian has a Volkswagen. 508 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:35,120 A VW when I went to dump Jess her excuse were that she just 509 00:25:35,120 --> 00:25:38,080 wanted shitty fucking with Randy to see what she felt like before 510 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,120 we dated. At least internalised 511 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,160 homophobia. Girls, but I still did dump her 512 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,400 the end. Hope you all enjoyed thanks for 513 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,720 being lesbian icon. Thank you so much for that. 514 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,800 That's like an amazing thing to hear right. 515 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,560 I'm so sorry to the girl that wrote in about this because 516 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,600 that. There's two sides to this. 517 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,640 Though it's the car side. No, no, no, no. 518 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,960 The two sides are is being the lesbian who's been cheated on. 519 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:09,200 Yeah, but then also the girl fucking it up for the bisexual 520 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:14,160 girls who already have a lot of barriers to break down because a 521 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:19,520 lot of people DM us to say, would you date a bisexual girl? 522 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,920 Because I'd be so worried that they're going to go back to men. 523 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,960 So like the narrative that this is feeding as well is really not 524 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:31,400 good because obviously bisexual girls struggle to feel validated 525 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:35,360 in their sexuality a lot of the time within the community. 526 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,760 And then you get people like that, which could have happened 527 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:43,040 to anyone, that they're kind of ruining this narrative for 528 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,280 everyone else because they're feeding Then this negative 529 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,000 narrative that the lesbians have that the bygirls are going to 530 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:50,520 leave them or cheat on them with a man. 531 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:54,000 And like, cheating shouldn't like, cheating is bad anyway. 532 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,400 But if you've already got that fear that your bisexual 533 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,520 girlfriend is going to cheat on. You a bit more though. 534 00:26:58,520 --> 00:26:59,760 Come on, let's. Yeah, it does. 535 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:00,520 It does. It does. 536 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:01,680 Sting. It would hurt me more. 537 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:04,760 OK. But in this situation? 538 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,640 Aside from that. She clearly was probably 539 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:09,720 suffering with someone internalising, that's what I 540 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:11,760 think, but the fact that she did. 541 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:14,880 It in your fucking car that is low. 542 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:19,240 That honestly makes me so cross, like I'm gripping this mic so 543 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:20,480 hard. That would fuck me. 544 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,480 I thank God you're you've got a real 1 as a friend right there. 545 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,360 Yeah, but what she should have done is fucking gone over. 546 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,360 I'd have. Tapped on the window. 547 00:27:27,360 --> 00:27:29,040 Excuse me? Yeah, but have tapped on the 548 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,280 window. Wind it down, please. 549 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,800 I would have recorded it, but that's probably illegal 550 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,800 actually. I mean, honestly. 551 00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,440 In the moment though, I would have gone fucking I. 552 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,680 Think I would have done something but I I still respect 553 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,200 her for calling you when it. Yeah, great friend you have. 554 00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,160 There. But, but yeah, I think I, I 555 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:46,160 don't. Do you think I could have sat 556 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:47,360 there whilst all that was going on? 557 00:27:47,360 --> 00:27:48,360 I think I would have had to have been out. 558 00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:49,520 What's going on? Yeah. 559 00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:54,560 Cheating is just so bad. But her excuse have been I just 560 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,680 wanted some like shitty sex. Does she say? 561 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,000 That's going to make it better because that would make me lose 562 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,160 more respect for her. So the sex was so shit that you 563 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,640 then went back and did it again while you were with me. 564 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,800 Yeah, but exactly in the choice of person. 565 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,040 It's not like she'd met someone new and got carried away in the 566 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:11,760 moment. This is very calculated. 567 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,680 It's very. Hurtful. 568 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:15,920 I'm glad you dumped her babe, because she did not sound like 569 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:16,680 she deserved. You. 570 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,320 But I feel like this has happened a lot. 571 00:28:19,360 --> 00:28:20,840 Yeah. And I don't know why. 572 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,560 And I don't think it's because I know a lot of quote unquote 573 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:28,680 lesbians as well who are with girls in long term relationships 574 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:33,480 and then end up sleeping with or getting with guys and still very 575 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,600 much identify as lesbians, which is fine. 576 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,520 But this seems to be a bit of an epidemic at the moment. 577 00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,680 I don't know what's going on. I don't know if it. 578 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,680 Is decision making. Yeah, but not because it's a 579 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,760 man. Just the ACT itself is poor 580 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:46,920 decision making. Right. 581 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,400 I no, I think it kind of is poor decision making because it is a 582 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,000 man. If you identify yourself as a 583 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:56,520 lesbian and you are only attracted to women, that is poor 584 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:58,120 decision making. If you're seeing more men 585 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,360 because they they never feel good about it afterwards either. 586 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:01,680 It's not like they were like, yeah, I really. 587 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,320 No, it's. Like, yeah, it's not like they 588 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:04,720 were like actually, do you know what? 589 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:08,720 I thought I was this and my sexuality has changed or 590 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:10,800 evolved, which is fine. It can happen. 591 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,200 It does happen all the time. But if they're still very much 592 00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,520 saying, no, I'm a lesbian, I just done it because I wanted to 593 00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,360 and I did try enjoy it. That's fine if you want to try 594 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:22,160 it, but don't try it at someone else's expense. 595 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,000 Yeah, yeah, totally don't. Like if you're having those. 596 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,160 Sorts. Yeah, be honest. 597 00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,520 Either end the relationship or have a conversation with your 598 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:31,760 partner and tell them what you're feeling so they can make 599 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,320 an informed decision about where they want to take the 600 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,560 relationship. But I'm sorry that happened, 601 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:37,400 it's really shit. I would. 602 00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:39,280 Have paid for her to valid my car. 603 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,760 I'd have made her get me a new fucking car, actually. 604 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,320 Yeah, I've got, I've got PTSD every time I get in this. 605 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:49,000 Yeah, I, I would struggle, but this girl seems like a legend 606 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:50,640 that wrote in. I mean, she seems like she took 607 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,200 her on the chin and was like, do you know what? 608 00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,360 I'm fucking like? I'm sure she'd done you a 609 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,000 favour. I'm sure you're happier now. 610 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,000 Who wants to be with someone like that? 611 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,400 Like I'm all for people discovering themselves. 612 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,760 We know that internalised homophobia is a real thing, but 613 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,840 again, don't. Don't behave like that. 614 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,560 It's someone else's expense because there is just no excuse 615 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:09,480 for it. There isn't. 616 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,600 That's I'm sorry Randy has sent me into a rage. 617 00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,760 I've. Gotta have a drink now. 618 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,320 Yeah, I know. I'm in full range mode. 619 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:18,960 We. Actually haven't had any 620 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:19,560 alcohol. It's. 621 00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,960 Not been, but we've not been losing on this podcast on the. 622 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,280 Podcast, I mean, we have in general, but just not on the 623 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:26,120 podcast. I don't know why. 624 00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,200 I think it's because we recorded. 625 00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:29,800 On my migraines as well. True, I've not been cracking 626 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,280 open the cans. Now, I do love cracking open a 627 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,720 beer on a. Love cracking open a beer? 628 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,480 We love cracking open a gin in the tin at the moment as well. 629 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:41,080 And also the red wine. Yeah, on a good thing right now, 630 00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,560 actually. Hand sanitizer. 631 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,120 Only thing you can offer us. Yeah, we'll take it apart from 632 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,400 Fosters. Well, yeah, I know. 633 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:52,320 Or I'm not fan of a red stripe. Either I don't like cider, it's 634 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,400 too flat, don't like cider or a red stripe. 635 00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:55,680 Can't drink vodka? I'll fight. 636 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,640 We like tequila. We like beer. 637 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,200 Gin. Gin, red wine, red wine. 638 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:01,640 I don't like white wine. Yeah. 639 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,000 That's basically it, yeah. That's our favourites, yeah. 640 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:06,680 OK, see us. Please buy us. 641 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,240 You want to buy us a drink? There's the drinks that we like 642 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,000 and we will accept them willingly. 643 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,920 We won't be like, oh, no, don't worry. 644 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:15,880 I'll be like, yeah. Thanks too far, I did actually 645 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,080 get a listener a drink the other night. 646 00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:19,640 Did you? She came up and she was really, 647 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:21,040 really cute and she was really nice. 648 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,040 Where Lisa's? Oh. 649 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,400 That's nice of you. And I knew that she, she asked 650 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,040 me what I was drinking and I was like margaritas. 651 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:28,560 And she was like, Oh yeah, I'll drink a Margarita. 652 00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:29,320 Yeah. And then? 653 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,000 I was margaritas. A Lisa, a Lethal And then I went 654 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,440 over to the bar and I said, can you send this over to that girl? 655 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:37,520 That was very nice of you Freya, and I would not have thought to. 656 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:39,640 Have done this. No, but she, I think she enjoyed 657 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,600 it and then she tried to buy me a drink before I left, but I was 658 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,920 like already like on route out. I really appreciate the fact 659 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,360 that she was going to. But yeah, anyway, if you do see 660 00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:49,000 us, don't expect that from me every time. 661 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,840 I must have just been feeling in a really generous no. 662 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,760 But I love you all and we will speak to you next week, guys. 663 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:57,000 See you next week. Bye.