1 00:00:12,310 --> 00:00:19,470 Hello lesbians, it is the first ever episode of 2026 and I think 2 00:00:19,590 --> 00:00:25,470 I can safely say fuck off 2025. Goodbye sayonara. 3 00:00:25,510 --> 00:00:28,230 Adios Chao Chao. Happy days. 4 00:00:28,230 --> 00:00:31,190 See you later. Just just fuck off. 5 00:00:31,390 --> 00:00:35,360 Actually, fuck, just fuck off. You fucking the hunt of a year. 6 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,560 I'm sat here with the manager. Liv. 7 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:39,600 We haven't had you on here in ages, have we? 8 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,280 No, and I am thrilled. No thrilled. 9 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:43,600 To be back. This feels right. 10 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,760 It does, and we're in matching outfits. 11 00:00:45,760 --> 00:00:49,120 Oh my God, we are. It's just notice we've got like 12 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,480 the the light jeans, the black tea. 13 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:55,320 We're both housing a baguette. Just a baguette. 14 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:59,360 Just some baguette, yeah. With some olive oil, which also 15 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,000 by the way, killer combo, really good. 16 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:06,920 But it's because we both cycled today on that I got sent this 17 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,760 indoor bike thing that's like a Peloton but not. 18 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,000 Burn. No, but like it's not, it's not 19 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:16,760 a Peloton, but like it's the only way that I could really 20 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:21,200 describe it. I did 10K on that and live. 21 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:25,000 That's not out there. No, but no, no, we. 22 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,240 I think we did really well considering the fact that I 23 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:30,480 don't work out, like I haven't been to the gym in so long. 24 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,680 You and I got into a really good routine and then we just, I 25 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,600 don't know. I said I looked worse than that 26 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,360 is the worst I've ever looked was when I was going to the gym. 27 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:42,560 Five, I think I looked worse. I we, I don't really know how. 28 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,120 I was also too stone heavier than I am now. 29 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,240 I think 10 kilos heavier. Than that, I think that was the 30 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:51,640 exact same well, but you were just saying it's because we went 31 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,520 through a really bad biscuit phase. 32 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:57,440 I think it might have been the biscuits, but it calms my soul 33 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:03,200 more to say that I was the worst and largest when I was at the. 34 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:05,760 Gym, we'll go with that narrative. 35 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:08,600 We'll go with that narrative. We've also got another friend of 36 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:12,280 ours joining in a bit, but she's late, which never happens with 37 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,440 Nat. Actually, Nat is always so 38 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:15,600 early. Yeah, she is. 39 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:16,560 Always. So. 40 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:18,920 I wonder if she's riddled with anxiety. 41 00:02:18,920 --> 00:02:22,520 And we've all got a date with the pub, so we were like, well, 42 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,960 we may as well start the episode. 43 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,040 Nat can come on in, put her 2 pence in and then we'll go fuck 44 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:29,520 off to the pub basically. As we normally do. 45 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,240 We normally do. Our routines have never changed. 46 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,280 We may be in a new year, but the routine still. 47 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,320 I love a routine. Can I just say I love a routine? 48 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,320 Oh yeah, yeah. And I think I've realized where 49 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:42,400 it comes from. I've read something when I say 50 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:43,800 I've read something, I probably saw a TikTok. 51 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,520 I've read something and they were saying that it's the people 52 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:52,560 who have high levels of trauma, stress, anxiety throughout their 53 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,440 lives. Having a routine and that 54 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:59,320 routine being disrupted is really, really negative for that 55 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,320 person. It's also like an ADHD thing as 56 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:02,520 well. Yeah, I was going to say it's 57 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,440 very like ADHD, autism. Yeah, yeah, it's neuro divergent 58 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:07,640 as fuck. That's not going away. 59 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:11,960 That's not going anywhere. Yeah, I but I think as well it's 60 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:15,120 the same reason behind watching the same movie over and over 61 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,920 again. Oh, that's an anxiety thing. 62 00:03:16,920 --> 00:03:18,800 I've I've. Because you know what's going to 63 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,400 happen. Yeah, you can just have it on in 64 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,880 the background and not have to really focus on it, which I do 65 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:24,240 that. Can I say I do that with Emily 66 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,040 in Paris? Emily in Paris is my dead brain 67 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:31,480 cell TV show and like nothing should make sense in that show. 68 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:35,880 It's all very fairy tale and like, oh, just miraculously this 69 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,600 kind of happened and whatever. I don't care. 70 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,520 I love it for that because I'm just ever watched it. 71 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:45,080 I'm just sitting there watching it, like just smiling along and 72 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,440 seeing her kind of just go in different love triangles and 73 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:49,520 stuff. Just kind of makes me feel a 74 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,720 little bit better about my life to honest, yeah. 75 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:55,920 Anyway. Let's have a quick debrief on 76 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,520 our Christmases. So we already did that episode, 77 00:03:58,520 --> 00:03:59,880 which is like, Christmas is depressing. 78 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:01,320 I think it was Scarlet that did that one. 79 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,000 See, my memories fucked. Yeah. 80 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,040 Why did it feel like the Christmas holidays literally 81 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:07,400 went on forever? I was so ready for it to end. 82 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:08,880 And I know that that sounds ridiculous. 83 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:14,320 My, my soul, my lover, my dignity was ready for Christmas 84 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:16,040 to be done. Yeah, and your lungs with the 85 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:16,839 vape. With the vape. 86 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,519 Yeah, so I've been back up to Newcastle to see my family and 87 00:04:20,519 --> 00:04:25,920 friends and everyone at home just vapes and I naturally get 88 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,920 sucked into that because my mum is an absolute chronic vapour. 89 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,520 Therefore I have come back to London with a big vape that 90 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,840 looks like a tank and it's also I've realized it's wicked 91 00:04:36,840 --> 00:04:38,760 colour. Oh, it is. 92 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,320 Yeah, so I've got my alphabet and Glinda. 93 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,600 Vape, that is. Freya hates it. 94 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,120 I'm going. I'm going to bin it when it's 95 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:48,760 done. I just love smoking cigarettes. 96 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,280 Yeah, but I'm still doing both, so that's the problem. 97 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:55,480 I just think that vapes are so much worse for you. 98 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,040 Oh, and I know that I'm not on some like moral high ground. 99 00:04:58,040 --> 00:04:59,960 It's like, oh, because I do smoke cigarettes. 100 00:04:59,960 --> 00:05:01,400 So I sound like a major hypocrite. 101 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:04,520 No, I agree they're terrible. But cigarettes have been around 102 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:05,760 when? When was cigarettes even 103 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:07,200 invented? They've been around forever. 104 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:09,520 Oh, long, long time. And how long are vapes around? 105 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:10,880 Oh. You know. 106 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:12,480 Scary. Who knows? 107 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:13,840 You're literally smoking a battery. 108 00:05:13,840 --> 00:05:16,240 Like it does look like a tank. I feel like you could ride that 109 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:20,080 if it had pedals, you could cycle it like it's so it is so 110 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:21,760 big. Yeah, what the hell? 111 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:26,920 So yeah, my Christmas was quite like, it was quite chilled some, 112 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:28,680 some days chilled, some days not. 113 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:32,520 It's always catching up with people going out, but it was 114 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:35,880 like a nice little reset. What stayed at home for New 115 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:38,560 Year's Eve, which was nice, did nothing. 116 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,920 Which was? Really nice, went to go watch 117 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:47,080 some fireworks, came home, had some food and I saw the new year 118 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:50,640 in by completing New York Times crossword. 119 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:52,640 Nice. And then took myself to sleep. 120 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:56,160 Wow, I honestly woke up the next day I've in my head I was like, 121 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,240 that was actually the best way for me to end the year. 122 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:02,600 Calmly. Calmly, yeah. 123 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,440 Just to just to eliminate the chaos. 124 00:06:05,840 --> 00:06:08,880 Yeah, I understand. Yeah, you just wash away the 125 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:10,920 drama with a crossword. It works. 126 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:13,520 Yeah, yeah. And that's fine. 127 00:06:14,280 --> 00:06:16,240 Maybe maybe we should start doing that. 128 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:19,600 If you're like in a, in like a relationship or, or like 129 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,880 something's going on with someone and you're like, well, 130 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,200 you never fucking listen to me anyway and nothing ever goes 131 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,000 through your head. So therefore I'm going to create 132 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:30,600 my own personal crossword for you to really have to decipher 133 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:32,800 and figure out, Oh my God, what this means. 134 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:36,960 That's great. So it's like, so it's like 4 135 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:42,880 letters, right? What I think you're being when 136 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:44,760 you ignore my texts. Can't. 137 00:06:44,840 --> 00:06:46,560 Exactly. Yeah. 138 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:47,840 That's actually a really good idea. 139 00:06:47,840 --> 00:06:50,160 Should we make a crossword That's hilarious. 140 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,640 That's going to use a lot of brainpower to actually make the 141 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:56,440 crossword with like the letters and up, down, whatever, but I 142 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:56,960 think. We could do it. 143 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:57,880 I think we could definitely do it. 144 00:06:57,880 --> 00:06:59,840 Probably just get a chat for two to help me on that one. 145 00:06:59,840 --> 00:07:00,960 That's actually a brilliant idea. 146 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:02,720 All right, We'll mark that one down. 147 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,080 Yeah. And so I I mean, I missed you. 148 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,000 I mean, you were, you were going away for weeks. 149 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:09,880 It's gone for three weeks, which is quite rare for me it. 150 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,240 Did it did feel like forever? Really. 151 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:13,040 Really. Dry. 152 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:14,680 It felt too long. I kind of forgot what you looked 153 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,000 like, what you sound like. It's the whole thing. 154 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:24,080 I mean, I, I, I don't think I was in the right emotional space 155 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,160 to not have enough work going on over that period. 156 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,840 And it was funny because I me and Scarlett both said when we 157 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:35,480 came back from New York, we were like, did I say about the way 158 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:36,960 that I almost died after New York? 159 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:38,880 By the way? I haven't said that. 160 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:40,320 I don't think I've done an episode. 161 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:43,800 No, you haven't since New York. Very quickly going back, just 162 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,400 really rewinding, rewinding. First of all, New York, fucking 163 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:49,680 amazing. I know that Scarlett already 164 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:53,240 spoke about this one on the pod. Can I tell you New York almost 165 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,360 fucking killed me. Can you still hear my voice? 166 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:00,720 This is it was over a month. When you walk through that door, 167 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:05,880 when you guys got back, I was shocked because you don't get 168 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,280 ill. Oh. 169 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:09,440 I think arrival. This could be. 170 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,960 Arrived heated, he took oh fucking hell, heated the 171 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,000 rivalry. Hold that thought. 172 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:17,520 Yeah. So yeah, New York, incredible. 173 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,040 But it almost, it did almost kill me. 174 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,760 I've got to the last day. And I thought, you know, you 175 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,480 when you get that impending doom feeling, you think it's it's all 176 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:30,120 going to end. It's all going to end. 177 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:36,200 And I thought, do I just get a flight for today instead of 178 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:39,039 tomorrow? But my stupid air said no, I'm 179 00:08:39,039 --> 00:08:41,320 staying here. And I had the world's worst 180 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,799 fucking ramen in bed in this hotel. 181 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:45,800 The hotel was gorgeous. I couldn't even enjoy it. 182 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:47,920 You hated the food though, didn't you? 183 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:50,040 Oh my God, no, don't, because they're actually going to come 184 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:51,160 for me. I'm not going to say anything 185 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,360 about their food. I think I went to maybe all the 186 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,240 wrong places. No, because loads of Americans 187 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:56,840 say that the food over here sucks. 188 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:03,000 Yeah, fuck you Americans. Yeah, it just felt really bland. 189 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:05,000 And they don't even like add any like salt and pepper to the 190 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:06,440 table. So even like try and redeem 191 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:08,000 themselves. So it's actually just quite sad, 192 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,240 to be honest with you. Didn't really like the food that 193 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,000 much. Love the people, love the place. 194 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,840 So it was great. Could do with less Trump 195 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:16,640 paraphernalia everywhere, but never mind. 196 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:19,440 I did end up wearing one of the caps with the hair on. 197 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:21,880 Oh, right, right, right. It's like, it's like a merkin 198 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:23,320 for a cat. It's just one of the worst 199 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:25,040 things I've ever seen. It is a joke. 200 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:29,280 I think actually putting that cap on might have cursed me 201 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,280 because it was after that I started to go downhill pretty 202 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:32,960 quick. Yeah. 203 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:35,920 I was lying in that hotel room and I thought, it's all over. 204 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:38,560 And then I woke up in like a fever. 205 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:40,760 And then Scarlett was like, we've got to get ready. 206 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:42,800 We've got to go to JFK. And I just, like, sat at the end 207 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:47,760 of the bed and just cried and then went through. 208 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:51,120 JFKI knew it was bad because Scarlett was rallying around me 209 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:52,400 like nothing I've ever seen before. 210 00:09:52,560 --> 00:09:56,200 She is arguing with security guards. 211 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:59,080 She's arguing with like, literally anyone that she can 212 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,240 get her hands on who's delaying the process. 213 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:04,320 She's Jenny. She's going, she's sick and 214 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,120 she's shouting, she's yelling, she's grabbing everything. 215 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:09,080 She's grabbing my bag, she's grabbing her bag. 216 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:13,200 I'm like about to faint at any minute and then like grabbing me 217 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:14,680 Dayquil and all this kind of stuff. 218 00:10:14,680 --> 00:10:18,480 And like Scarlet, like bless her lovely girl, really nice. 219 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:21,520 Lovely girl. In in an instance like this 220 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:25,080 usually wouldn't be the best, but she really, really stepped 221 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:28,320 up. And that's when I knew Freya, 222 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:32,920 you might actually pass away. And this is this is the last 223 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:37,080 you're going to see of everyone. Nat then turns up who Nat has 224 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:39,120 actually signed up. Now Nat is here now. 225 00:10:39,560 --> 00:10:42,120 But Nat then turns up to the airport and looks at me and she 226 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:47,120 goes a whole baby crew. Yeah, it was bad. 227 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,760 So I was just, yeah, that knocked me fucking out. 228 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:51,720 You were I'll for quite a while when you came back. 229 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:52,880 That was bad. And then you passed. 230 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:54,240 It around to everyone which is lovely. 231 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:56,840 I actually didn't. I kept getting little waves of 232 00:10:56,840 --> 00:10:58,080 it though. No, I didn't. 233 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:02,080 And also Nat didn't get it. Also I'm not being funny. 234 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,480 Like no, I didn't get, I didn't give it to any. 235 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:05,800 No, that was in a close proximity. 236 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:06,920 No, you can actually take that back. 237 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:08,720 All our friends just started to get a little bit I'll. 238 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:10,520 Oh, no, actually, no. No, no, no, they were all I'll 239 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,000 before. And they say to Leo. 240 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:14,800 Anything Leo's. No, Leo did not. 241 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:18,360 I'm sorry these bitches didn't have what I had, what I had 242 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,680 because like, no, I'm not having it because I was very 243 00:11:21,680 --> 00:11:24,560 responsible. I was like literally sanitizing 244 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:27,080 down like everything. I took everything under the sun. 245 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:30,360 I even listened to hypnosis tapes 8 hours overnight. 246 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:34,560 That's like the virus in my body doesn't exist and all this kind 247 00:11:34,560 --> 00:11:35,800 of shit. I mean, it fucking worked 248 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,680 because I did feel better, but I just it just kind of you've. 249 00:11:38,680 --> 00:11:40,440 Gained a really nice Husky voice. 250 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:44,400 You've gained weight, Yeah. And you've gained weight, Yeah. 251 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,240 I have actually gained a Husky voice out of it. 252 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:48,960 So there are pros. I want this to stay. 253 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:52,160 It's been 5 weeks and it's still kicking, so I think it's pretty 254 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:55,400 fucking good to be honest. But yeah, New York, amazing 255 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:57,040 Christmas. Yeah, great. 256 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:00,240 Have my family over same old. It was nice. 257 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:02,080 Whatever. I'm not really that asked about 258 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,320 Christmas. I think it's a bit of a boring 259 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:05,560 conversation from one is with you brought in the new year with 260 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:08,920 my best friend from Australia. Well, not from home, but also 261 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:12,840 Australia and whatever the fuck. Tash, who subsequently was a 262 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:16,640 girl that I also used to date, but she's primarily like bestie, 263 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:20,560 bestie, bestie girl. So I met her and her girlfriend 264 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:22,800 who I'm actually obsessed with. You know when you meet someone 265 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:25,000 and you're like, we were kind of like pen pals for a little while 266 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:26,560 because I just like seen her. I. 267 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,600 Didn't get to see them. Yeah, really good vibes. 268 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:33,000 So it was just so nice, like Scarlett was there, friend Sam 269 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:36,120 came, Jess was there being lanky, Jess just all over the 270 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:37,400 place. Absolutely loved it. 271 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:40,480 Jess has been like over the Christmas period as well. 272 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,160 It's so good. Whilst I've just been crashing 273 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:44,240 out left, right and centre. But we've brought in the new 274 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,400 year and it's all looking a lot more positive. 275 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:51,240 So that's why we wanted to do and insurance and outs for 2026. 276 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:56,840 Hell yes, it's going me, Liv, Nat and none of us know what 277 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:59,800 each other have written down. Just going to say I only did 2 278 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:01,040 outs. I can't think of any ends. 279 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,200 Insurance are really hard. Here's not everyone. 280 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:05,760 Yeah, I will let you introduce yourself, but Nat is the 281 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:10,400 resident bisexual, the resident bisexual correspondent of the 282 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:14,040 Lesbian Supper Club and also our beautiful photographer who does 283 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,880 all of our shots for us. So she is my little right hand 284 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:19,960 man. Hello, you look pretty lesbians. 285 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:23,520 This is me. This is very exciting but I 286 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:25,480 don't want to go first from the insurance and outs. 287 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,320 So that's a you. Can give yourself. 288 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:34,080 OK, a little introduction. Yeah, Nat feels like ASL age 289 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,280 sucks. Yeah. 290 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:40,320 Photographer and resident bisexual. 291 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:43,760 Honoured to be on the lesbian podcast. 292 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:46,520 Oh. My God, literally the only I'm 293 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:53,000 joking, the only bisexual aloud. But no, I mean I meet me pet, 294 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:55,640 our friend Perry and also Nat. We've discovered that we've 295 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:58,520 created ourselves like a board meeting chat, which is basically 296 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:00,880 just whenever there is an issue that is to go around. 297 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:02,800 It could be to do with us, it could be to do with other 298 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,320 people, people situated with us. It goes straight to the board, 299 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:07,640 right? And Perry was supposed Perry was 300 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:09,800 supposed to be here, but Perry chickened out. 301 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:11,360 Board member. Perry Board. 302 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:12,120 Members. Board. 303 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:15,320 Board. So it's like Sister Mary is 304 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:19,520 board member Perry, board member Nat, board member Freya, and 305 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,040 we've got our things that we know are approved by the board 306 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:25,680 and some things are just simply not approved by the board. 307 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:27,800 Are you allowed to give any examples or? 308 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:31,360 No, I was about to say, we do have an agenda on Lovely. 309 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:37,440 Is it like a daily agenda or a weekly agenda, but ad hoc? 310 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:41,360 Ad hoc. In Orange, Gina. 311 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:45,640 Third Space. Outdoor cryotherapy, Summer 20, 312 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:48,600 Summer 2016. Playlist outs. 313 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:51,880 Empathy. Take take that as you will, you 314 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:55,000 know, it's it's a very we didn't say the board was always right 315 00:14:55,040 --> 00:14:57,440 or. Yeah, why is empathy out? 316 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:01,960 Toxic empathy is out. Oh, you know what dark empathy 317 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:03,800 is out. Toxic empathy is out when you 318 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:08,240 just, you're really not. Yeah, it's not good for anyone. 319 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,080 It's like when people pleasing is so so bad because it doesn't 320 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:13,440 please anyone. Toxic people pleasing almost. 321 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,080 Yeah, that's interesting. What's the icon? 322 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,000 It's a board meeting, a bunch of white men. 323 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,760 You need to like Photoshop yourselves on it in the in an 324 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:29,160 actual board meeting, no? Yeah, but that's in the To Do 325 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,400 List on the agenda. You can also ask the board 326 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:36,000 questions live if you ever want some really great. 327 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:38,960 Oh, yes, live or anyone that's listening, if you ever want to 328 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:41,560 submit a question to the board to see if the board will approve 329 00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:44,400 it, you send it our way and we will either go board approve or 330 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:45,840 board reject. Yeah. 331 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,120 So I'd send the question to you guys and then you discussed 332 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,040 amongst yourselves or would we sit in like a board? 333 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:52,720 The board would discuss. It's very like Benedaziri, like 334 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,160 it's quite right. Yes, the board will take it 335 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,080 away. We'll discuss it in brought in. 336 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:00,640 Very good detail. And then we go back with either 337 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:03,120 a yes or no board approved, board rejects. 338 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,040 But quite great. The board takes no 339 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:10,760 responsibility for any results. And This is why that did a law 340 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:13,560 degree. Just to be on the board. 341 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:16,440 Making sense? Why don't you start with your 342 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:18,600 insurance and outs? OK, I will. 343 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:22,440 I will go first with my insurance and outs for for 2026. 344 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,560 I'm going to start with the outs because the outs is actually so 345 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:27,280 much easier. I've got to be honest with you 346 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:35,800 guys. OK, outs for 2026 shagging men 347 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:41,680 and saying you're a lesbian out discuss what not, but you don't 348 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:43,120 call yourself a lesbian, so it's fine. 349 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:47,680 Not just look at me like. Wait, so shagging men and 350 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:51,160 calling yourself a lesbian? Yeah, yeah, ow, it's. 351 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:53,040 Fucking out. No, but do you know how often 352 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:55,240 this happens? I'll be like, I'm a lesbian, I'm 353 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:56,680 a lesbian. It's like, Oh yeah, she just 354 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:58,520 fucked that guy from the bar the other night though. 355 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:00,560 And they're like, Oh yeah, well, I did it for validation. 356 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:03,960 First of all, if you're doing it for validation, sort your actual 357 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:05,720 life out because that's terrifying to. 358 00:17:05,839 --> 00:17:08,079 Me, I feel like there's a couple people we know that do that and 359 00:17:08,079 --> 00:17:10,280 it's just a bit. And. 360 00:17:10,319 --> 00:17:13,480 Interesting. Secondly, if you're doing it a 361 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,480 validation, but you're like actually enjoying it, you're 362 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,079 probably not a lesbian. You can still be a queer woman 363 00:17:18,079 --> 00:17:22,240 that. Was such a long force which will 364 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:26,560 be gone every answer thinking about she could say something 365 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:30,400 wrong. No I bring back labels. 366 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:34,760 Maybe that's my end yeah but like I'm sorry to be the bearer 367 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:37,000 of bad news but like words have meaning. 368 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:39,840 Mic drop. And if it doesn't apply to you 369 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:42,960 that's OK like you don't have to use it you can even get ready 370 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:46,360 for it Use a different label. Yeah, I'm pretty sure one will 371 00:17:46,360 --> 00:17:48,680 exist in today's world. So true. 372 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:52,720 It was like this video that I saw today where these two gay 373 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,640 trans man going. I'm a gay trans man, but I 374 00:17:55,640 --> 00:17:57,680 identify as a lesbian and the other one's like, I'm a gay 375 00:17:57,680 --> 00:17:59,680 trans man and I identify as a lesbian. 376 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:01,440 Should we let's off together? And it's like, actually, no, you 377 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:03,640 shouldn't. Also, they just invalidated 378 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:05,640 themselves. You just invalidated your 379 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,840 gender. This is why. 380 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,000 People, like, get bullied. How can you be a lesbian and get 381 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:13,840 into. I'm honestly, like, so baffled 382 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,200 and confused. They were like, they're looking 383 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:18,520 at each other and, you know, it's like, my name is just 384 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:20,280 really nice. Is it my name? 385 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:22,960 What's the song? Is this illegal? 386 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:24,800 Is this illegal? Yeah. 387 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:28,360 Princess. My name is that's the one. 388 00:18:28,360 --> 00:18:30,240 My name is Bacon. It's really nice to meet you. 389 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:32,680 Yeah. And says like, I'm a trans gay 390 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:35,440 guy but feel like a lesbian. And the other one was like, I'm 391 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:37,680 a trans gay guy and I also feel like a lesbian. 392 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:40,880 Shall we let's off together? And they're like, oh, why the 393 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,480 fuck are you doing that? Like I just don't understand 394 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:46,840 because like you are invalidating yourself and I, I 395 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:51,320 validate trans people as the gender of which they have which 396 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:54,840 they believe is their gender. So therefore I'll be like, okay, 397 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:58,960 fantastic, you're now a man. You're a man to me, therefore 398 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:02,120 you can't be a fucking. No, you just, you can't. 399 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:04,560 You can't be saying that. You can't just pick a low. 400 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:09,120 Or that comment that was like, do men have to insert themselves 401 00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:11,600 everywhere? You're doing a fantastic job. 402 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,360 So yes, stop saying that you're a lesbian if you sleep with men, 403 00:19:14,360 --> 00:19:15,880 especially if you sleep with them frequently. 404 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,680 Like I know that I used to sleep with men and I was trying to 405 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:21,920 discover my sexuality before I discovered my sexuality 406 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:24,120 throughout the journey of discovering my sexuality. 407 00:19:24,120 --> 00:19:27,080 I'm not discrediting any of that, but if you are openly 408 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:28,880 going around me like I'm a lesbian, I'm a lesbian, I'm a 409 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,000 lesbian, and like frequently sleep with men, show yourself 410 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:33,680 the door. Why do you think they're doing 411 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:35,440 that? Because they want the title of 412 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:36,840 lesbian they. Want the clown? 413 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:37,920 They want the clown. Lesbian clown. 414 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:42,040 Lesbian clown, that babe. I know it's great on this side, 415 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:43,480 but if you're gonna be sucking Dick. 416 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:47,360 So yeah, unless it's you now. But the difference is, is that 417 00:19:47,360 --> 00:19:49,520 you say that you're bisexual. Yeah, so fair. 418 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:50,480 Thanks. Yeah. 419 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:52,200 Yeah, OK. That was my out. 420 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,440 I'm going to go to. You're out. 421 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,880 Oh. Are we doing out, out, out? 422 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,920 Yeah, we can do it out. And then I've got no end. 423 00:19:59,920 --> 00:20:02,280 So I'll be skipping my ends. OK. 424 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:07,960 One of my outs. Oh, was pretending that they're 425 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,880 red flags are just their communication styles. 426 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:12,880 Have you heard? That say it again, sorry. 427 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:16,280 So when people be like when someone's describing a girl to 428 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:21,000 you or like, say, like, say if you start dating someone and you 429 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:22,800 were saying something to me and I was like, oh, that's a bit of 430 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:24,880 a red flag. And you're like, no, no, that's 431 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:28,000 just her communication style because she's like an avoidant 432 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,880 or like blah, blah, blah. Do I? 433 00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:34,640 Do I have one? She's not. 434 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:35,880 Oh yeah. She's not an avoidant. 435 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:37,600 She just doesn't like you. Yeah. 436 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,160 Oh my God, it's so true. Completely agree with this. 437 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:41,920 But remember that. Discuss. 438 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,120 Definitely, he agrees. This is bad. 439 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,480 This is really bad that this is. No, but that is right. 440 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,800 Well done. That was a good observation. 441 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:52,520 Thank you. We need to unpack this more 442 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:54,440 actually. Yeah, I think we should discuss 443 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:56,800 this more because it's quite an important one. 444 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:01,640 Do we think we people just use it to justify that this person 445 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:04,760 is like like a? 100%. 446 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:06,040 What's like the incentive? Oh. 447 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:07,720 Yeah. What is the incentive? 448 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,480 What if they just say like, it's just that communication style, 449 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,160 right, right, right. I think also we live in the time 450 00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:16,760 where everything is so pathologized, like every 451 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:21,520 character trait is actually a diagnosis, which is a real. 452 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:23,960 Oh my God, be like she slapped me around the face but she has 453 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:27,840 PTSD. OK, but what is a character 454 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,120 trait and what is a symptom of a mental illness? 455 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,480 Oh, how do we differentiate that? 456 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:36,040 And should we start naming things as a mental illness and 457 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:39,280 not our character traits? And should we use that as 458 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:43,120 justification? Is it giving ableism if we say 459 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:47,320 actually, you know, you can't treat me that way all because 460 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:50,640 you have ADHD or something? Yeah, that's so true. 461 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:54,040 I, I would always say because, especially before I was like 462 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,440 diagnosed officially or like on medication, or because when I 463 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,360 say diagnosed officially, it's because it helped me really 464 00:22:00,360 --> 00:22:03,000 understand myself a lot more. So regulating my emotions came a 465 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:06,520 lot easier, but my emotional regulation was pretty shocking. 466 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:10,480 I would never say, oh, but that's because of my ADHD. 467 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:14,920 I would like own it and be like, I didn't mean to like snap like 468 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,080 that or like go on in that moment. 469 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:18,720 It's because I was panicking blah, blah. 470 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:25,320 But then I, I probably would say, I don't know, it's really, 471 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,120 really difficult because it's like you have to take 472 00:22:27,120 --> 00:22:29,200 accountability. You have to take full 473 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:34,200 accountability because, you know, we are still in control 474 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:36,400 even though it's a lot harder. There is like an element of 475 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,680 control in there. But being like, OK, this is 476 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,080 something that I really need to work on with my ADHD or like 477 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:43,960 something that I need to see someone about, you know? 478 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:47,200 So it's kind of like, yeah, it's kind of an excuse and 479 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:48,240 accountability. It's like a. 480 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,960 Gray, Gray area. I mean, if you are in like a 481 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:54,080 full swing of like a mental episode, you're probably like 482 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,640 quite biochemically not able to be normal. 483 00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:00,480 So yeah, it's tricky. But then kind of you can't 484 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,640 styles as well. It's interesting. 485 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,960 That's what I was gonna say because I feel like, you know, 486 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,440 see, if you like start dating someone and like you don't hear 487 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,440 from them for like a day and then that person like, Oh no, 488 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:12,960 like I'm just an avoidant attachment. 489 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,320 Like maybe you just don't actually want to talk to me. 490 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,920 Just like you know. Yeah, I don't know how much I 491 00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,240 buy into them. No, I don't. 492 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:21,840 Yeah. And I feel like they're really 493 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:25,480 overly used now. You said one to me a few months 494 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,760 ago and it was like. There's a new one it. 495 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,600 Was like, obviously it's anxious to avoid, but it is. 496 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,840 It was always like a combo of the both. 497 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,240 Fearful Avoidant. Ah, that was it. 498 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:35,640 And I was like, what the hell is that? 499 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,200 OK, right. So we put it down as an 500 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,240 attachment style. I suppose maybe we're just 501 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,440 talking about like the terminology. 502 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,400 I do believe that people can be like this within relationships, 503 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,320 but it's up to them to, to fix it and to become secure. 504 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,320 It's not just an excuse. It's not like, oh, and I'm a 505 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,440 fearful avoidant. So sorry. 506 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,720 It's like I, I recognize I'm being quite fearfully avoidant 507 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:01,600 because this has made me quite anxious and it's making me 508 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,040 withdraw and kind of naming it. However, this is something that 509 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:08,320 I need to work on because it's it always stems from an 510 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:10,760 insecurity, same as anxious attached. 511 00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:13,520 However, some people can. I said this to Leandro on the 512 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,120 podcast. Some people can make you fucking 513 00:24:15,120 --> 00:24:18,360 anxious in a relationship. Am I anxiously attached or have 514 00:24:18,360 --> 00:24:21,240 you just given me panic attacks like every day because of the 515 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,760 way that you're behaving? You're just in a very anxious 516 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,640 dynamic, yes. And I think maybe that's how we 517 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:29,600 discuss it is a dynamic rather than an attachment. 518 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,840 What's our dynamic like? And absolutely like trying to 519 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:36,160 get to the point of being securely attached as well. 520 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:39,000 Yeah, not using it as an excuse. Then if it's a dynamic, you 521 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,400 could work together to both become secure. 522 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,400 How about that? One for the ball. 523 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,560 You ready? For this. 524 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,400 I'm so ready. See, this is what happens when 525 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,240 people don't share outs beforehand. 526 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:55,680 It's still a little related to gayness. 527 00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:00,240 Oh no, it doesn't have to be. It can just be a general out OK. 528 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:05,040 Might even angry I'm going to say it out 2026 lime bikes. 529 00:25:07,360 --> 00:25:10,400 Whoa. No, I'm letting the silence 530 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:11,640 sweep for itself. No, I'm. 531 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,480 OK, give me a rationale behind this, board member. 532 00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,720 Not because I'm actually getting quite upset about this already. 533 00:25:17,120 --> 00:25:18,400 Not kidding. Maybe. 534 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,040 Stomach hurts now. Thanks, I'm. 535 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,920 Going to preface it. Line bikes driven by people who 536 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,040 can't ride. That's also very. 537 00:25:29,120 --> 00:25:30,960 Excellent cycling proficient. See you. 538 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,360 I mean when I tell you I'm I'm actually really fucking good 539 00:25:34,360 --> 00:25:35,960 though. Like I'm really fast and really 540 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,520 dodgy. How do you say dodgy? 541 00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:41,000 Like have you not seen my new stabbing skills with the fruit? 542 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,560 How do you combine the? Fruit Ninja I've been doing 543 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:49,480 because Fruit Ninja hold on really quickly that that is the 544 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,960 equivalent of my reflex skills and skill on the bike. 545 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,760 So am I careful? No. 546 00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:03,120 But am I scrappy and resilient, fast and have a really high 547 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,640 standard of reflex to the point where even the guy the other day 548 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,880 went whoa, GTA? Do you wear a helmet? 549 00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,400 You've. I've seen you crash. 550 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,760 I can't I'm I can't say anything but my line bike skills because 551 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,560 I. Didn't have that bruise the size 552 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:18,680 of like that small child. Sober me on a line bike, I'm 553 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,440 good as gold. Drunk me? 554 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,000 Terrible idea. Do not encourage anyone to get a 555 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,000 line bike drunk because I've made many a mistake. 556 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,760 However, I've definitely seen you crash into a car before. 557 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,760 Jesus. You haven't seen me crash into a 558 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:32,280 car. I told you I crashed into a car, 559 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,000 OK? Exactly. 560 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,040 They're dangerous. They're they're very dangerous. 561 00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,480 They're very loud. They're very people just drop. 562 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:42,640 Them. But how are they loud? 563 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,440 I hear the. Yeah, that's when people are 564 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,320 stealing. They will. 565 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,360 They will. They're gonna be good. 566 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:50,480 They're just gonna steal. Yes. 567 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,640 OK, I'm not. OK, what else do we not like 568 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:54,000 about it? Because I think that it's become 569 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,240 the most efficient way to get through London. 570 00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,560 At what cost? What cost my life? 571 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,000 I don't actually care. I hate the Tube. 572 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:02,920 I hate it. You like to? 573 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:04,440 Walk. You're a Walker. 574 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,040 Yeah, I've been darling, that strong. 575 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,280 I'm always so late. There is no way I'm walking 576 00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:09,920 anywhere. Like I have to get on the bike 577 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,840 with immediate effect. You know, the other day I had to 578 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,040 go to Oxford, I had 7 minutes to get from my place in Notting 579 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,640 Hill to Paddington and get the train. 580 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:18,960 OK. And you did that. 581 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,880 Yeah, had to go over unlock the bike, which also took me ages 582 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,520 because my phone wasn't working and not the bike. 583 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,760 Cycled like an absolute lunatic with all these presents for this 584 00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:31,160 baby shower. Cycled into the train station, 585 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,440 quite physically into the train station. 586 00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,120 Train was right there. Kicked the bike stand. 587 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,640 On I went. I feel like you're just adding 588 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:40,400 to my rationale. This sounds horrible. 589 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,480 Do you mean you cycled into Paddington station? 590 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:43,880 I would say cycle. In. 591 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:45,640 What? Just leave them in the station. 592 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,360 No, I think you can go like down the slope, you can like fully go 593 00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:49,640 inside a little bit. I see. 594 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,720 I love a line bike, I think they're so convenient. 595 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,040 They're dangerous. I'm gonna be the mum of the 596 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,640 group. I know they're scary. 597 00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,600 They are dangerous people got you can get from A to B so. 598 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,720 Quick at the cost of your life. People get hurt in taxis, people 599 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,920 get hurt in tubes, people get hurt in buses just because you 600 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:10,360 love the bus? Wow wow Joe, I'm cancelling 601 00:28:10,360 --> 00:28:12,680 buses outside. Fuck you nuts. 602 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,800 Just. For the bus, can you ride a 603 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,360 bike? Oh God, the truth comes out. 604 00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:23,920 Jealousy just complete. You just see me staring at 605 00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:25,520 everyone riding a bike. You know what, Liv? 606 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:29,000 I can actually ride a bike. I'm just have. 607 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:32,040 I'm a hypochondriac. OK, I get that you're 608 00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,120 hypochondriac. So my sweetheart, that's why I 609 00:28:34,120 --> 00:28:35,880 don't want to go on the tube because I don't want to get the 610 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,520 illnesses that just kind of linger around with 0 611 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,240 ventilation. We have just a pussy, OK? 612 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:44,760 I think maybe I'm without you being a pussy out you being a 613 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:46,440 pussy. I'm upset by this maybe. 614 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:48,280 My in is just helmets. Have you? 615 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:52,640 Helmets and knee pass safety fuzz. 616 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,240 Yeah, well, how about? I'm never getting invited back. 617 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,040 Sorry, but I had to. I had to argue this point. 618 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,640 Yeah, if you'd if you'd have taken this to the board, you 619 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:02,280 would have been. Kicked out. 620 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,080 I can literally feel. You're actually lucky. 621 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:08,520 Amy and Kathy just. Yeah, I just decided to Amy and 622 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:09,720 Kathy. I mean, I think they are 623 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,720 profession cyclists. OK. 624 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,320 Have you ever cycled a line bike? 625 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:15,920 Yes. So you've no, you have. 626 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:17,680 OK, you haven't. A bike in the park. 627 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,280 No, I'm sorry. OK. 628 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,800 Santander bikes suck. They're like, they're like 629 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:23,240 cycling a brick. OK, they're. 630 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:24,920 Control the speed. No. 631 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,640 So with the line bike, it's fast and furious. 632 00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,240 It's giving in your hair, breeze on the face, a little bit of 633 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,120 spit of rain. Like really, I think it is a 634 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,520 beautiful way to get around because of the speed of it. 635 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,160 I think, I think I've unlocked the issue because, you know, I 636 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,080 can't drive. You can't drive, I can't drive. 637 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,960 Oh wow, she's a bisexual who can't drive y'all? 638 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,000 Join the queue. Join the queue. 639 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:47,840 What about a Lime scooter? Absolutely not. 640 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:51,120 Oh no, that's why. OK, OK, if you'd have said Lime 641 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,160 scooter I would have been like but also OK, fair. 642 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,240 But Lime bike? Don't you dare. 643 00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:57,880 I hear you the. Board you know what insurance 644 00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:59,840 for 2026? Not on a Lime bike. 645 00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:01,600 I'll take you through Hyde Parks. 646 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,880 It's nice and safe and we'll put a helmet on you and see what 647 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:04,760 happens. Again, this. 648 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:08,120 Is a really great imagery. Maybe. 649 00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:09,640 Maybe. Except it's still out. 650 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:13,000 Yeah, hard no, but. Yeah, OK, there's another out 651 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:17,600 for me. Oh, God. 652 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:22,760 OK, out, out being audacious and ugly. 653 00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,600 Pick a struggle and pick a lane. We discussed this the other day, 654 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:28,320 didn't we? You just can't have both. 655 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:33,120 You cannot be audacious, egotistical, think that you rule 656 00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:36,280 the world and be ugly. All of those things that I just 657 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,680 stated First off was already atrocious. 658 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:43,360 OK, You add ugly on top of that. What, what world do you think 659 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,520 you exist in? And can I just say this is all 660 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,960 these ugly fucking men that come up or they're in my comments or 661 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,160 they're in my DMS being like you need a man or they shout from 662 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:53,960 their cars or they do whatever do I? 663 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,720 The amount of men that I've had to berate on the streets and not 664 00:30:56,720 --> 00:31:00,040 one of them was good looking. It's been interesting, isn't it? 665 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,320 Like I'm really wondering what's like happening in there. 666 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:08,440 What's happening in the psyche? Yeah, It's just, I don't know, I 667 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,680 think they just have this. Maybe it's just pure dilution. 668 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,640 Is it? Dilutions or something? 669 00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:18,800 Do you think that like what? What could it be? 670 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,480 Is it a developmental issue? Is it because are they being 671 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,800 audacious because they're ugly? They're overcompensating? 672 00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,240 I don't know. I mean that that probably does 673 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,960 have a part to play with it, but they also like fuck around girls 674 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:31,280 as well. Like I was talking to someone 675 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,720 the other day and she's being fucked around by a guy who's 676 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,800 ugly, has a small penis, and is audacious. 677 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,320 The only trifecta I'm impressed at this. 678 00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,320 Point literally the delusion is like off the rig. 679 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,920 Because this is real life. I thought you just meant online 680 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,680 because I think some of them just pretend they don't almost 681 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:49,480 exist. No. 682 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,680 And this girl is beautiful. And he was having sex with her 683 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,160 and he was just like, yeah, this is over. 684 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:55,920 And she went, what's over? Like, it's been like nothing. 685 00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:57,840 What? What relationship do you think 686 00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:59,360 that we're in? Oh, yeah. 687 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,120 Absolutely fucked up. To be honest. 688 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:05,160 I think that this needs to end. It really, really needs to end. 689 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:06,800 And I think we send them to camp. 690 00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:10,160 But how do we do it? I think maybe propaganda. 691 00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,880 I hate you. I love it. 692 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,240 I'm wondering if we're allowing them to get away with it. 693 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:21,800 Yes, there's no repercussions. So what do we do? 694 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,440 Because it's like the men who think they're amazing in bed 695 00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:27,880 because all these women. Fake orgasms, yeah. 696 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:29,480 And they don't. They don't. 697 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:31,440 And because they know they're never going to sleep with them 698 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,560 again, like they tried the milk. They're not buying this cow. 699 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:34,680 And the girls are only. Fake. 700 00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,440 They are not going to do the work for the next girl. 701 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:39,240 They're like, Oh no honey, like this is. 702 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,000 They're only faking the orgasm so it ends. 703 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:45,240 Yeah, so then he thinks every time he thinks I'm amazing 704 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,320 because the feedback is, you know. 705 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,480 The feedback is yeah, So what? Maybe we just. 706 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:53,880 I mean, the girls have to stop. This is. 707 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,880 For the bisexuals, you know what the bisexuals and the straight 708 00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,560 girls listening we've. Kind of we've got to end this. 709 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:01,840 Come together, quite literally. Stop. 710 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:05,160 Stop pleading, stop. I'm pleading on my knees, please 711 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:09,280 stop faking orgasms. Please, please, I beg you. 712 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,520 You are only creative. Just honestly, what's like the 713 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:13,360 alternative? Just go. 714 00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:17,120 Just silence. Stare at them. 715 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,880 Just just lie there and just look at them like confused look 716 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,120 on your face, Yeah. Oh, I like the confused look. 717 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:25,880 Look at your phone. Go on your phone. 718 00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,960 Start listening to this podcast. Start Put. 719 00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:32,320 This podcast on, I'll give you the time stamp in the 720 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,520 description so that you can just click straight to it when you 721 00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,920 need it maybe. That's how they start I'm. 722 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,120 Gonna go click this time stamp. I'll put it in the description. 723 00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:43,960 Hey, Yeah, the sex is actually really shit mate. 724 00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:45,520 You. I think that you should stop and 725 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:46,400 I think you should pack your bags. 726 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,680 I think you should go home and if you're not, if you're at 727 00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:50,800 home, buy her an Uber home. Okay, thank you. 728 00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:54,000 That's beautiful. I think that's the way. 729 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,920 That and propaganda, yeah. Absolutely. 730 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,640 Exactly. Yeah, but I'm also thinking 731 00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,600 posters. Okay, expand. 732 00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:06,360 Yeah, posters where it's like ugly man be like ego. 733 00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,639 No, this is on the tube. This is this is for you on the 734 00:34:08,639 --> 00:34:09,960 bus. It's going like. 735 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:12,280 Oh, no, no, no, no, no. This is. 736 00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:15,400 Going to be crazy project. There's there's a sign of an 737 00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,920 ugly man on the poster goes ego question mark. 738 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,440 Letting down women all the time Question mark. 739 00:34:20,679 --> 00:34:22,679 Think that you're better than ever on question mark. 740 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,400 Have you ever thought of shutting the fuck up? 741 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:29,239 But but because these men think they're better than everyone, 742 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,280 they probably don't think that those posters relate to them. 743 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:32,719 True, they'll be. Like. 744 00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,000 They'll be like God what's funny, and it's them. 745 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:40,199 What's funnier is we just put a mirror there on the mag, so it's 746 00:34:40,199 --> 00:34:42,840 just like a that's good. And then they just have to look 747 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:47,360 at that ugly fucking face. Yes, just go look at yourself. 748 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,159 Not even a mother could love that face. 749 00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,880 The end. That really. 750 00:34:52,199 --> 00:34:54,480 I don't care. They suck. 751 00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,760 It's just nasty, man. I don't like them. 752 00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,440 OK, you got another hour and then you got your outs. 753 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,720 Well, yeah, I had an out and I've just thought of another 754 00:35:02,720 --> 00:35:06,160 one, which because my other out was a bit like, I feel like it 755 00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,120 was quite personal to myself. And I just thought, you know 756 00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:08,920 what? Maybe not. 757 00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:10,560 Oh. I quite like a personal one. 758 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,760 Well, can I do them both? Yeah. 759 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:19,120 OK, so one out is over analysing every text message because I 760 00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:24,400 fear I do that a lot and it's to my own detriment and for no good 761 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,280 reason. And I feel like I can't be, I 762 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,680 can't be the only one. I just think it's silly because 763 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:32,640 you wind yourself up so much and then the person might reply and 764 00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:34,440 you're like, oh, right, OK. And this goes between like 765 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,480 friendships, like relationships, like parents, whatever. 766 00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,600 Joe it's really funny. Imagine if WhatsApp had like a 767 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,160 playlist like how you have with Spotify and it tells you how 768 00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,440 many times you read this message. 769 00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:46,960 That'd be brutal. So this is my problem, but 770 00:35:47,240 --> 00:35:47,960 you're. Wrapped. 771 00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:50,880 Oh yeah, because I reread messages a lot. 772 00:35:51,240 --> 00:35:52,400 A lot like. Before you send them out 773 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,760 afterwards. No, after like I can read, I can 774 00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:58,240 go back on entire conversation. I I simply need, I need to. 775 00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,240 Stop rule #1. But even when the. 776 00:36:00,240 --> 00:36:01,760 Delete messages? Wait, no, But not even. 777 00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,680 When, like the conversation's bad, yeah, I'm just like, what 778 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:05,760 am I? Then I get to the end. 779 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,160 I'm like what's wrong with me? You. 780 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:10,440 You can't. Great advice. 781 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:11,960 I stopped doing that. Yeah. 782 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:17,240 Yeah, but I think as I think so many people do it and we're if 783 00:36:17,240 --> 00:36:19,560 you're an overthinker. Or that's the problem. 784 00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,320 I'm a massive overthinker. So like, and I think texts could 785 00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,520 be obviously misconstrued all the time and it's just so yeah, 786 00:36:25,720 --> 00:36:28,840 send voice notes going forward. But then you do the re listen. 787 00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,000 I will out myself as a voice note re listener. 788 00:36:31,240 --> 00:36:33,720 I re listen to yourself. Yeah, yeah, yeah, me too. 789 00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:35,320 Do you not? And then you hear it back and 790 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:36,440 you're like. No, I actually don't. 791 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,800 And this is ironic coming from somebody with a podcast. 792 00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:42,320 I don't. I don't really listen no because 793 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:47,720 I I kind of cringe myself out but I definitely do reread 794 00:36:47,720 --> 00:36:49,760 stuff. I wouldn't say too much, but if 795 00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,960 there's an argument that has happened, best believe I'm 796 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,360 reading back through that shit and I'm also discussing it with 797 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,000 like 20 other people. Like multiple times, not just 798 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,240 the one time. With them, yeah, that is, that 799 00:36:59,240 --> 00:37:02,960 is, I think it's good to discuss with people, but I think maybe 800 00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:08,120 should we set timers of like how like you can only reread it for 801 00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:10,360 like once or something for like 10 seconds? 802 00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:13,480 That's a good idea. Again, and that's it. 803 00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,440 Because you can, you can convince yourself of anything. 804 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:18,120 Like you can send normal texts and be like wow I'm a 805 00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:21,200 psychopath. You just can't do it. 806 00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:22,800 I think it was also good as well. 807 00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:26,440 I, I know that so many people are like, I hate AI and it's 808 00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,480 always going to tell you what you wanted to hear and I 809 00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,600 understand that. I get it. 810 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:33,160 However, there have been some instances where I've like 811 00:37:33,240 --> 00:37:38,480 screenshot things or like downloaded it, sent it into chat 812 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:41,760 2 BT. I say completely unbiased, don't 813 00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:45,160 even name do that subject A, subject B and describe the 814 00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,840 dynamic that's going on here. I don't want chat 2 BT to like 815 00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:51,480 validate me. It's more like understanding the 816 00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,080 dynamic so that I kind of stop overthinking it. 817 00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:57,920 It's like, OK, that's like a very non biased view and 818 00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,440 obviously take everything with a pinch of salt, but it does just 819 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,920 help to kind of like calm the brain a little bit. 820 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,000 I just don't know if that would make me feel worse. 821 00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:07,680 I don't know if I'd go into like a bigger one. 822 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,920 Help do you reckon maybe? On set by sponsored. 823 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:14,920 Today's episode, OK, next time I go to reread a message, I'll 824 00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,480 screenshot it, I'll put it into ChatGPT and then I'll put it 825 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:19,440 forward to the board on how I'm feeling and I'll let you guys. 826 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,880 Here's Here's the catch though I go. 827 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:23,640 On OK. Because I agree, I think that's 828 00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:26,760 such a great use of AI because it's like impartial to some 829 00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:29,320 extent. It's data-driven and it just 830 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,960 gives you like a third party Peace of Mind if you don't want 831 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,240 to like bug your friends. Even though I don't think it's 832 00:38:34,240 --> 00:38:38,680 bugging, but I feel like it could be a slippery slope where 833 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:40,920 you're like, OK, well, I like that. 834 00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,960 Analyse this. Analyse this exactly. 835 00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:44,280 That's what I would be worried about. 836 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,000 Like I don't think there's like a cap on it. 837 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,880 So I think it's a little like occasionally. 838 00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:50,560 If it's not. Great. 839 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,080 Especially if you're hard on yourself and I think you've got 840 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:54,240 a narrative. It's like. 841 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,640 Well, caveat to that, tell chapter BT that you're a really 842 00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,920 bad overthinker and you want to get better. 843 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,760 And the the feedback that it gives you and the advice that it 844 00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:04,400 will give you to move forward will be quite good as well, 845 00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:07,960 because I've also done that. I know what I'm doing this 846 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:12,120 evening. After the pub, that is the 847 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:17,640 answer, but in moderation, yeah. Yeah, so it's, it's out, babe. 848 00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:19,600 Just try and stop, try and refrain and maybe. 849 00:39:19,720 --> 00:39:21,400 Over analysing, overthinking out. 850 00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:24,000 And also the next time just maybe just say it just be like 851 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,360 I'm, I'm wanting to look at this message now. 852 00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,480 Like say it to me, say it to whoever, be like I'm wanting to 853 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,120 look at this message again. Yeah. 854 00:39:31,720 --> 00:39:35,360 Also saying things out loud as well is actually like a brain 855 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,680 hack because it gets like your prefrontal cortex working, which 856 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,840 is like your reasoning. So when you say it, you're like 857 00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:44,240 oh this is absolutely normal. Or like think if a friend sent 858 00:39:44,240 --> 00:39:47,160 you that text you would be like that's fine. 859 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:50,400 It's just sometimes we're so in our head and have this like bias 860 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:53,200 that we're like. It's Hard Out Here, but you 861 00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,760 know. So no overthinking, no line 862 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,280 bikes. No thinking, no line bikes. 863 00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,880 I am out. OK. 864 00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:05,600 So I actually thought of this out just now. 865 00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:09,200 So it's a little it's a little it's a little fresh. 866 00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,000 So this out has just come to me now. 867 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:18,120 I think lime bike took the took the main passion project of my 868 00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:21,480 mind, but I'm going to say out the bare minimum. 869 00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:25,480 Oh. My God, I could not agree more. 870 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:27,680 I was just discussing this the other day. 871 00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:31,240 Bare minimum or luxury maximum, right? 872 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,840 And what we need to do, we need to do a whole other episode on 873 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,960 this as well, which is we list out things and we, we say 874 00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,560 whether we think that is the bare minimum or whether we think 875 00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:42,200 it's luxury maximum. Please can you define an example 876 00:40:42,240 --> 00:40:44,840 as to like what your bare minimum would be like 10? 877 00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,640 Yeah, my my favorite bare minimum is when people tell me, 878 00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:51,760 oh, their partner or someone they're seeing is nice to them. 879 00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,320 I'm nice to everyone. I'm nice to the postman. 880 00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,440 I am nice to a neighbor that makes too much. 881 00:40:58,440 --> 00:40:59,360 Noise. They're really nice. 882 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:01,840 They're really nice to me. They're so, they're so nice. 883 00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:05,880 Yeah, they're minimum. That's they the bare minimum. 884 00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,200 They shouldn't hate you. Yeah, we'd hope not. 885 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:10,520 Yeah. And also the alternative is like 886 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:14,120 then the me too question mark, like I'm not really, I'm not 887 00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:17,440 getting it. Nice is just as a very generic 888 00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,560 term. Yeah, that's nice to me. 889 00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:22,760 Yeah. And also one thing I think as as 890 00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:27,160 a bisexual, sometimes a fun little game I like to play is if 891 00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:31,000 a man were to do this, would you be saying the same? 892 00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,000 Oh, my God, I think the same thing. 893 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,840 It's like if a man were to have done this, is that actually 894 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:37,880 abuse? Probably, yeah. 895 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,440 Do you know what I mean? It's like, OK, that's not all 896 00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,360 right. And I get it, you know, I get 897 00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:43,840 it. We're very empathetic and we 898 00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,160 want to give people the benefit of the Dow. 899 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:50,240 But if you put some scenarios and just change the little flip, 900 00:41:50,240 --> 00:41:57,080 you know, maybe Fred to go to. Go was like Freddie, Freddie, 901 00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:00,320 Freddie. Was Freddie, you know, like is 902 00:42:00,720 --> 00:42:03,200 how would that come across like? Probably pretty fucking bad. 903 00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,680 It's a. Third party this I think. 904 00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,320 It's different, like they're so fucking nice to me. 905 00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,600 Like I think that's different. It's like, God, they're like 906 00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,840 above and beyond, like so nice. But like they're, they're nice 907 00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:16,120 to me. They treat me well, like yeah, 908 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,840 okay. They treat me with basic human 909 00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,360 kindness, decency, and that's like, that's just. 910 00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:23,440 I'm nice to the cashier at Tesco's. 911 00:42:23,720 --> 00:42:24,640 Are we fucking? Maybe. 912 00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,920 But like, you know, do you think that she goes home and she's 913 00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,320 like customers nice. Yeah. 914 00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:31,880 Actually, to be fair, I probably could have done that when I 915 00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:32,280 worked. I know. 916 00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:35,000 And this is. Actually not to like, you know, 917 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,680 talk badly on niceness, bring bring back niceness. 918 00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:40,600 Maybe that's the end. But maybe because niceness is so 919 00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,520 rare, can't. Be enough? 920 00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,440 Maybe that's it. It just can't be enough. 921 00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,720 Have you seen the tik toks people doing that bare minimum 922 00:42:45,720 --> 00:42:47,640 or Princess treatment? It's wild. 923 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,040 So it's like it's insane. I'll show you later. 924 00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:52,720 Some of them do you deem is. Well, some of the like the 925 00:42:52,720 --> 00:42:55,400 things where it's like Princess treatment, I'm like, that's a 926 00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:56,800 bare minimum. I mean, I can't give you an 927 00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,640 example off top of my head. Right now they gave me head 928 00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:00,680 Princess treatment. They kissed me on the lips. 929 00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,480 Princess treatment. Yeah, no, it's kind of fucking 930 00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:04,960 crazy. I feel like we need to raise the 931 00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,760 bar a little bit. And I think it depends on what 932 00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,400 someone's able to offer as well, right? 933 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,600 I think that we can put it within the dependency. 934 00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:15,520 Like if someone is like super wealthy, like, yeah, I'm 935 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:17,480 expecting a jet. Like, are you kidding? 936 00:43:17,720 --> 00:43:21,400 Like I'm not expecting that from like someone who doesn't. 937 00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:22,920 It's like, pick me up on a line bike. 938 00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:26,360 Nat Yeah, I'm actually still butt hurt about this. 939 00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:30,120 I'm really upset. This is what I thought before 940 00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:35,600 tarot readers on TikTok wait. Are we saying out for this? 941 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:37,120 Out. So out. 942 00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:40,480 I've been such a level of distraught that I've listened to 943 00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:42,440 those of them like, well, that's all about me. 944 00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,960 It's like, does this player say my star sign? 945 00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:47,040 I'm like, oh, I'm listening. They're like, here's your weekly 946 00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:48,400 reading. And it's like, dude, I'm like, 947 00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,440 Oh my God, that's so dude, that's definitely going to 948 00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:51,560 happen. That makes sense. 949 00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:54,560 And I'm like, what again, what am I doing? 950 00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:58,520 I'm overthinking. Yeah, I've been in the pits of 951 00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:01,600 heartbreak and depression, and they're like, if you've seen 952 00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:04,240 this video, no hashtags, no catchers, this was not for you. 953 00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,320 They love you and they're coming back. 954 00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:07,720 And I'm like, of course they are. 955 00:44:07,720 --> 00:44:11,240 But do you know what it is? I always find that Tara Reid, a 956 00:44:11,240 --> 00:44:14,520 TikTok, always finds me in my deepest darkest moments and I 957 00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:18,120 don't know how. I think it's linked to costar. 958 00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:20,760 Because I'll go through a phase of my TikTok algorithm, I'm 959 00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,000 having a laugh, I'm having a giggle, and then I'm feeling a 960 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:26,080 little bit sad in myself. And then the deck of cards is 961 00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:27,680 there. I just think they need to be 962 00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:29,280 stopped. Do you know this is like this is 963 00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:31,520 so ick worthy, but I'm going to have to say anyway. 964 00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:34,120 And I feel like that you're going to judge me for this when 965 00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:39,080 I was in my worst moments. Oh no, no, no, they kept feeding 966 00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:40,600 them to me because they knew I was sad. 967 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:45,440 So they have like the TikTok live tarot readers and they're 968 00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:49,920 like gift to the dancing hands. And I'm like fucking doing it. 969 00:44:50,240 --> 00:44:51,320 You gifted the. Take it. 970 00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,680 Yeah, You gifted the dancing. It's quite a few occasions 971 00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:55,880 actually. It got a bit unwell. 972 00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:58,040 I wasn't well. I was not well. 973 00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,760 You know you're not mentally. Ill Yeah, well, they do. 974 00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:04,120 I think that's why it needs to be out because they're praying 975 00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:07,120 on vulnerable people and it's not cool. 976 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:11,800 Maybe I should start one. Maybe in Catch Me Next Time I've 977 00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:14,600 got a deck of tarot cards and I'm like, give me the dancing 978 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,080 hands if you want to hear this. Cheryl, your husband's going to 979 00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:18,880 leave you, babe. I don't know what you want me to 980 00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,760 say next. Yeah I'd be like ohh she's 981 00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,480 gifted the Galaxy. I'll give you 3 cards for this. 982 00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:27,400 Ohh God remember it is scam artist. 983 00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:30,800 And it's so bad if you have OCD, shout out to OCD. 984 00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:35,440 Oh my God, shout out to OCD I. Feel like a radio for all those 985 00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:37,880 OCD girlies driving home tonight? 986 00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:39,680 It's. Just you're one of them, and so 987 00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:42,160 am I. Really am like stuff like that 988 00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,080 not good, not good for the brain, not not fun to hear, not 989 00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,600 really not really great. Like we'll, we'll be hearing it 990 00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:52,400 also on that kind of theme, those tick tocks that are like 991 00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,760 in your 30s. You will have a sign to do this. 992 00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,960 Like no, please, I don't want any more signs. 993 00:45:58,120 --> 00:45:59,280 I don't want. Any. 994 00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:04,440 Any like, you know, I think a positive little do follow your 995 00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,440 dreams or something is great, but anything that's like when 996 00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,160 you get that feeling, you know, it's like, no, I don't I. 997 00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,480 Don't actually I don't know because I've crippling OCD and 998 00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:14,680 every feeling is really intense I need. 999 00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,880 My thoughts not to have power because. 1000 00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:19,640 Then you can. Think really bad things. 1001 00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,280 Bad things can come true, but that's not how it works. 1002 00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:25,240 Yes, exactly. That's so true. 1003 00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:30,600 That is so true I think. TikTok trends that are not good 1004 00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:32,800 for the for the girls struggling. 1005 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:38,320 For the psyche I do, I do think one nice thing to always think 1006 00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,600 is like everything kind of happening in the way that it's 1007 00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,280 supposed to. I think that that's a very good 1008 00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,320 thing to think when something like negative happens. 1009 00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:47,120 I would also say that's always worked out in that way for me in 1010 00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:48,080 my life. True. 1011 00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:50,440 You know, there's been things that been so fucking hurtful or 1012 00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:52,520 painful or whatever, and then I'm like, thank fuck that 1013 00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:55,280 happened. Because if it didn't, then XYZ 1014 00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,240 wouldn't have happened. So I do think that that's a nice 1015 00:46:57,240 --> 00:46:59,720 way to think, Yeah. But not that if you get that 1016 00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,600 urge. Yeah, if you want to see that 1017 00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:02,880 urge just to jump in front of a train. 1018 00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,600 This is the dangers of the Internet. 1019 00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:09,760 Yeah, I'm just coming on here being very like. 1020 00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,160 God, you're very safety hazard on here. 1021 00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,480 Like you know what? Maybe you need it. 1022 00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:19,200 Maybe you are lesbian supper club HR photographer stroke HR 1023 00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:20,840 Maybe. I think we need it to be fair 1024 00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,000 happened this happened. That's a good one more out from 1025 00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:27,960 you. Wait, is it your out or is it my 1026 00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,160 out I. Don't have another out doing it, 1027 00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:31,440 are you? Doing it, yeah. 1028 00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,360 I mean, we don't. I love how we have like no ends. 1029 00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:37,160 Yeah, what's your You go first? Saying your free will and 1030 00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:40,000 remembering that you have it. Or can you? 1031 00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,960 Expand on that. So I think expanding on on free 1032 00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:47,280 will, I think Fruit Stab was my first free will adventure of 1033 00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:49,120 this year. But that is that not just a 1034 00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:51,280 hobby. No, I think it's like, you know, 1035 00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:53,120 when you feel like you want to do something, just fucking go 1036 00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:54,680 and do it. You actually remember It's, 1037 00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:56,160 well, it's basically it's just spontaneity. 1038 00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:59,040 It's like knowing that you can do something, just do it. 1039 00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,360 So I know it sounds ridiculous, but it's like, well, I want to 1040 00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:05,240 learn how to stab fruit in the air, so I'm going to fucking do 1041 00:48:05,240 --> 00:48:05,760 it. Or did. 1042 00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:08,800 You see the little kid with the blankets online? 1043 00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:09,240 This. Is right. 1044 00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:11,720 Sorry, do we all. Have the same algorithm. 1045 00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:15,760 I'd like to clarify a few things about that before we continue. 1046 00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:17,560 There was, I know there was a small child. 1047 00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:22,320 She was very Speaking of us, she was very authoritative and she 1048 00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,000 was opening the fridge and she had put her blankets in the 1049 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,000 fridge and the caption was like I'm not using my free will 1050 00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:29,360 enough. Like the mum had said it and 1051 00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:30,080 she's. So true and. 1052 00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:31,600 Then just like takes them into the bed. 1053 00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,360 I imagine they live in a really hot place. 1054 00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:34,880 I was trying. To Well, yeah, you just suddenly 1055 00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:36,320 realize, actually, I can do this. 1056 00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,080 It's like another example of this. 1057 00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,920 My cousin was like, it only just dawned on me that I can put my 1058 00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,880 Nespresso machine next to my bed instead of me having to get up, 1059 00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,200 but I'm getting ready to go to the the kitchen and make my 1060 00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:50,000 coffee. I can just lie in bed. 1061 00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:54,200 And excellent use of free will. It's like things like that. 1062 00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:56,960 Like making your life maybe more fun or more easy, or like it's 1063 00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,080 may not be conventional, but just fucking do it anyway. 1064 00:48:59,240 --> 00:49:01,400 Yeah, that's really like Tom Hanks big energy. 1065 00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:02,240 And I really like. Yeah. 1066 00:49:02,240 --> 00:49:04,680 Like when you remember, you're like, Oh my God, yes, I'm an 1067 00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,680 adult. I can have this for dinner or I 1068 00:49:07,720 --> 00:49:09,920 can have my coffee machine by my bed. 1069 00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,360 Yeah, No, this is. I support this. 1070 00:49:11,720 --> 00:49:12,840 Thank you very much. Yeah, free will. 1071 00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:14,480 Yeah, it's, it's, yeah, the free will. 1072 00:49:14,720 --> 00:49:16,880 And I also think, obviously, as long as it's not really like 1073 00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,640 hurtful to somebody else, I don't know, just fucking go for 1074 00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,360 it. It's probably hurtful for me 1075 00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:23,480 with the fruit stabbing, but I'm going to keep going. 1076 00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:25,440 Nothing's going to stop me. It's also me as well. 1077 00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:27,480 I was like, I really love that Rosalia. 1078 00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:32,800 Rosalia has a hold on you. Chokehold real bad. 1079 00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:34,840 So I was like, I need to now learn this song. 1080 00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:36,600 So now I'm learning the song because it's free will. 1081 00:49:36,720 --> 00:49:39,200 I may as well. I went ice skating the other 1082 00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:40,400 day. Free will I can. 1083 00:49:41,240 --> 00:49:42,560 Do you like the poster child of free will? 1084 00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:43,360 This is. Brilliant. 1085 00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:45,280 I'm sold. Yeah, you're sold. 1086 00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:47,080 Yeah, You buy what I'm selling then that's. 1087 00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:49,880 Yeah, I'm picking it up. Picking up what I'm putting 1088 00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:50,920 down. That's a great. 1089 00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:54,120 I just can't wait, no. No free will. 1090 00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:55,920 No, I'm just, I can't wait for the next time when you're 1091 00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,560 contemplating doing something, you're stressed. 1092 00:49:57,560 --> 00:49:59,560 I'm going to, I'm going to look at you and say got your free 1093 00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:02,280 will and then see if you actually do it and then see if 1094 00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:04,880 you actually do it or not. Yeah, Jambay free will. 1095 00:50:06,240 --> 00:50:07,560 Yeah. Yeah, I would say you're 1096 00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:10,280 actually probably the person I know most that utilizes. 1097 00:50:11,240 --> 00:50:14,200 It's called ADHD. It's called mental disability. 1098 00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:16,480 Harmonica. Free will. 1099 00:50:16,720 --> 00:50:17,840 Jembe. Free will. 1100 00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:19,440 Gita Leili. Free will. 1101 00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,960 The Gita Leili. It's a it's a cross between a 1102 00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:25,560 guitar and a ukulele. Free will. 1103 00:50:26,720 --> 00:50:30,040 Shouting at men, free will. Pushing men on the floor. 1104 00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,080 Free will. What are you going to do? 1105 00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:36,360 Live with your free will today, tomorrow, 2026. 1106 00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:40,840 I'm going to put conversations I read into ChatGPT. 1107 00:50:41,240 --> 00:50:42,920 Free will. Free will and I'm going to do 1108 00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:44,720 that. I think that's good. 1109 00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,720 I don't know if I if anything comes up and I'm thinking I'm 1110 00:50:47,720 --> 00:50:49,960 going to use my free will, I will let you know. 1111 00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,240 Not I think that you should exercise your free will and just 1112 00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:55,160 throw shit at people online bikes. 1113 00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:59,240 Just Heckle that line, bikers. Maybe. 1114 00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:00,880 Maybe that is what I'm going to do. 1115 00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:04,640 Yeah, I support that. Yeah, I literally have no ends. 1116 00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:07,400 No ends. I don't know. 1117 00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,720 I just don't really. Mean like it can be. 1118 00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,200 It can be a wishful in like. You don't think you'll actually 1119 00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:17,600 become popular in 2026, but you wish it will become popular. 1120 00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:19,760 I like that. Yeah, No, I just think, I just 1121 00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:21,480 think going back to what we said before, I feel like what? 1122 00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:24,360 Do you think is coming back? Well, I'd like niceness to come 1123 00:51:24,360 --> 00:51:26,960 back, to be honest. I feel like people aren't nice 1124 00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:29,440 anymore. Yeah, not all the time, but 1125 00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:32,640 we're all very harsh on ourselves and other people. 1126 00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,280 I think that's why 2016 is like becoming. 1127 00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:37,840 Back Yeah, I'm here for the 2016 resurgence. 1128 00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:42,800 Recession indicator Gays drinking milk that needs to go 1129 00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:46,400 out. Oh my God, the way that I 1130 00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,200 literally had milk. You had milk. 1131 00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:51,680 I actually chose to not say it because I've got a better one, 1132 00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:56,200 but one of my in is the cow. Bring back the cow with with a 1133 00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:58,400 little Asterix. Unless you're lactose intolerant 1134 00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:01,520 because this is no dairy ableism in this household, but very. 1135 00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:04,400 Much. That coined phrase by my friend 1136 00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:06,800 Alice. Bring back the cow because the 1137 00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:08,400 girls are drinking milk. All right, big cow. 1138 00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,240 You know what? No, no, no. 1139 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:13,040 Do you drink cow's milk? Yeah, I do. 1140 00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:14,760 And do you know what? I'm really smug about it as 1141 00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:16,320 well. When I go into the coffee shop, 1142 00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:18,800 I'm like, oh, just a just a normal coffee for me. 1143 00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,520 Like regular melt? Yeah, and I feel like this is a 1144 00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:23,520 normal coffee because I'm so fucking normal. 1145 00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,080 Not like these are losers like having. 1146 00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:27,240 Not like other guys, guys, but I've been there. 1147 00:52:27,240 --> 00:52:29,800 I've been there. I've lived the Kelly bananas, 1148 00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:31,440 the things that I've been through. 1149 00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:35,080 I've drank the almond milk, the coconut, the soy, the oat. 1150 00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:37,000 Half of those aren't good for you. 1151 00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:38,800 Half of those aren't great for the planet. 1152 00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:41,560 We're spiking our glucose. Oh, no, I'm sorry. 1153 00:52:41,560 --> 00:52:44,160 You can't use planet. All good for you against this, 1154 00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:45,200 OK? No, no. 1155 00:52:45,240 --> 00:52:47,880 They've died of cow pasta. Look why? 1156 00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:49,560 You know that, right? They dyed the count first. 1157 00:52:49,720 --> 00:52:52,840 Yeah, you. Know what though, when I was 1158 00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:55,320 home over Christmas and I was having my morning coffees, I 1159 00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,320 will admit because my mum has fucking soy milk and if you put 1160 00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:01,960 soy milk sometimes in the coffee it curdles and it looks rang and 1161 00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:05,760 then I saw some milk in the fridge that my niece was having. 1162 00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:09,440 I thought, I'm going to put that in my coffee and I will admit it 1163 00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:11,680 was fucking delicious because it was really good. 1164 00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:16,560 Delicious dairy is I'm vanilla ice cream, salted butter like 1165 00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,880 just anything creamy. Yeah, you eat, you can't. 1166 00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:22,680 Can you really say that about the milk when you eat certain 1167 00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,160 cheese? Practice you so you hurt it. 1168 00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,880 Hurt as an understatement. It's really. 1169 00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:30,600 Yeah. It takes me and my soul. 1170 00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,160 Yeah. I mean, I can't even get on 1171 00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:33,440 board with this conversation, honestly. 1172 00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:35,080 I blacked out. It's not the cow, it's the hell. 1173 00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:36,920 OK, well that wasn't my. End. 1174 00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:37,720 OK. All right. 1175 00:53:37,720 --> 00:53:39,600 So I hope you know I changed, OK. 1176 00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:42,600 But I do also think it's a recession indicator. 2016 1177 00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:45,240 Actually, no, we weren't drinking milk in 2016 Oh yeah, I 1178 00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:47,400 think I was still. No, I was listening to Major 1179 00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:50,920 Lazer and I think God, I found myself. 1180 00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:54,320 No, that one's 2013. I also will say I don't think 1181 00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,560 2016 was actually that good. I quite remember it being like a 1182 00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:00,200 really dark time. Or was it not very good for? 1183 00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:01,560 You. No, not for me. 1184 00:54:01,560 --> 00:54:04,160 It was fine, but it was like Trump era. 1185 00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,320 Like it wasn't. It was just before Trump era and 1186 00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,240 that's why everyone remembers it as a happy year. 1187 00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,960 No, but I think no because I turned 20. 1188 00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:14,000 I'm just closing my age here My. Dad turned 22. 1189 00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:17,360 And I was in America and I was like, I'm living the life. 1190 00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:20,240 I'm in California. I'm 21, and people were not 1191 00:54:20,240 --> 00:54:22,200 happy. And it was like, very much like 1192 00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:23,360 Trump was. Running Do you know what? 1193 00:54:23,360 --> 00:54:24,960 I don't think anyone's ever happy. 1194 00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:28,240 I think that what what is really dangerous is nostalgia. 1195 00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,640 We have this like view on things because the anxiety is no longer 1196 00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:33,920 there because it's already happened. 1197 00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,720 So you look back on memories or years with the great fondness 1198 00:54:36,720 --> 00:54:38,960 because you remember the happy things and you don't have the 1199 00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:42,080 anxiety attached to it. So every year could sit, but 1200 00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,880 apart from the past couple for me, I'm not going to and 2004 1201 00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,120 terrible year for me, all of these years just bad. 1202 00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:53,440 No, just bad years, right. And but in general, you wouldn't 1203 00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,920 really be able to like, pinpoint a year, you know? 1204 00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:58,520 But you'd be like, Oh yeah, like you listen to those songs and 1205 00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:00,040 you're like, that was good. Nostalgia. 1206 00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,520 And it's like very profound actually, because there's this 1207 00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:06,480 quote that I'm going to say is Tolstoy, but it's probably 1208 00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:10,120 Pinterest and I'm just regurgitating it and it's 1209 00:55:10,120 --> 00:55:12,800 probably wrong, but work with me here. 1210 00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,400 Hold on, So it's like, don't worry if you're having a shit 1211 00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:17,840 time because in the future you'll look back and think it 1212 00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:19,280 was great. Like in nostalgia. 1213 00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:20,600 I mean, I don't think that was quite Leo. 1214 00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:22,960 That's true. Nostalgia will cloud it and it 1215 00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:24,440 will make it seem like it wasn't that tough. 1216 00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:27,920 Like I promise you the 2036 kids will be like, Oh my God, like 1217 00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:32,280 let's make this like 2026 and they will romanticize it. 1218 00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:34,600 Because I was like, hold on, How? 1219 00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:37,240 How are we? How are we loving 2016 that 1220 00:55:37,240 --> 00:55:38,320 much? I'm all here for like the 1221 00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:39,600 bangers. Don't get me wrong. 1222 00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:44,640 I am playing them but also I'm like don't want to be the bearer 1223 00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:48,320 of bad news, but was it really? Yeah, I just looked on my camera 1224 00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,320 to see where I was in my life at 2016, and it was the year I 1225 00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:54,040 turned 18 and I was in sixth form. 1226 00:55:54,720 --> 00:55:57,880 I remember being like quite happy and just like bit more 1227 00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:00,560 carefree, but that's because I was younger and like didn't have 1228 00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:02,760 any responsibilities. And maybe the world was a little 1229 00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:05,360 bit a little. Bit chill yeah, but don't doubt 1230 00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:08,160 I probably had hard times. My God, you look like you have 1231 00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:09,560 jaundice. What is that? 1232 00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:10,800 It's a good. Lord, no. 1233 00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:12,480 You know what that is? That's Rio de Janeiro. 1234 00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:15,600 That is the filter. Maybe we was another one. 1235 00:56:15,720 --> 00:56:18,360 Yeah, well, I was, yeah. I was working in shop, so I 1236 00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:21,680 clearly was quite happy about it. 2016, maybe we went more. 1237 00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:24,880 I can relate to a year based on the songs that were in that 1238 00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:26,080 year. I'll know whether it was a good 1239 00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:27,800 year or not. There's certain years where 1240 00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:32,240 Rihanna was really big, bad years. 2009 it was a pinnacle 1241 00:56:32,240 --> 00:56:34,920 moment in music. I will say it was when Rihanna, 1242 00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,920 Katy Perry, Lady Gaga and Beyoncé were all at their peak. 1243 00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:41,000 I will say no, no, no. I will die on this hill because 1244 00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:44,120 I've said it for ages. I'll play the songs at the. 1245 00:56:44,120 --> 00:56:46,640 Park was that rude boy and like. Yeah, yeah. 1246 00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:52,320 California girls telephone was all kicking off I think. 1247 00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:56,000 Oh yeah. Who's the producer that we love? 1248 00:56:56,720 --> 00:56:59,840 You know, like if he's on it. Timberland, Tim. 1249 00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:03,360 Timberland and Dart child. Who's dark child? 1250 00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:06,160 Well, if you if you know his like signature stuff, you'll 1251 00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:08,320 then hear all of the singers going dart child at the 1252 00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,680 beginning. So like Simon name Simon that's 1253 00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:13,520 not child. Oh the tags at the start yeah. 1254 00:57:13,520 --> 00:57:15,840 But Timberland is always the OG. So good. 1255 00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:20,320 Bring him back in Timberland. Absolutely. 1256 00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:23,720 Do you say what's that? Was your in right niceness? 1257 00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:27,600 Just being nice. One more in, one more in. 1258 00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:32,520 Well, it's not the cow, girl. It's not the cow wholesome in 1259 00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:35,840 actually I'll say community. It's lovely. 1260 00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:36,880 Yeah. Do you know what? 1261 00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:39,400 Just the casual hang. Bring back the casual hang. 1262 00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:42,880 Just like actually talking to people in your neighborhood. 1263 00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:46,520 Like knowing person that works in the shops around you, talking 1264 00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:49,400 to people, hanging out with friends, casually doing errands 1265 00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:50,920 together. Oh, my God, Which is what you've 1266 00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:52,440 been so good at doing with me recently. 1267 00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:54,840 Lives been my, like, always been my errand goer. 1268 00:57:54,840 --> 00:57:58,080 Nat has been another recruit for my errands, which I have to say, 1269 00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:00,240 I thoroughly enjoyed. Yeah, it was you just coming 1270 00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:01,160 along for the ride. Yeah. 1271 00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:03,360 Did anyone else in that please enjoy us? 1272 00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:05,000 Probably not. Probably not, no. 1273 00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:06,720 Yeah, just the casual hanging friends. 1274 00:58:06,720 --> 00:58:08,040 I think you are actually very good at that. 1275 00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:10,600 I've noticed that like you're on the day you'll just be like, 1276 00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,080 hey, want to hang out? And it feels like a knock on the 1277 00:58:13,080 --> 00:58:15,520 door of my childhood. Home, Oh my God, bring back 1278 00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:19,480 knocking on the door of people. I mean shorter you do a little 1279 00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:20,880 knock knock. No, not not. 1280 00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:25,000 And also just like, how can we identify who's at each other's 1281 00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:27,080 houses, you know, and used to leave your bikes outside? 1282 00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:28,680 Exactly. I guess it's find my friends. 1283 00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:30,400 Find my friends. Literally. 1284 00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:33,160 I love looking at my Sims and find my friends. 1285 00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:34,560 Yeah. Friendship. 1286 00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:37,560 Yeah, but also community. It's like being around people 1287 00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:40,240 who genuinely get you and understand you and don't 1288 00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,360 hideaway. And this goes to the girls that 1289 00:58:42,520 --> 00:58:44,840 will always message me, like is it OK to come alone to the 1290 00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:46,840 events, blah blah blah. Absolutely. 1291 00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:48,400 Because that's the main thing, right? 1292 00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:51,440 It's like if you've already got your community, I mean, I still 1293 00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:54,520 want you to come, but the point is, is actually building that 1294 00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:56,960 and building those friendships and relationships and whatever. 1295 00:58:57,400 --> 00:59:00,480 Might come your way as well. Like I literally just hang out 1296 00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:03,040 with my friend. I'm like wow I feel so good I 1297 00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:05,080 can't believe not staring at my screen and working multi 1298 00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:08,080 solitude. Yeah, I think that we're we're 1299 00:59:08,080 --> 00:59:10,480 mistaken. Closeness with texts and 1300 00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,360 Instagram shares and Tik Toks that we can watch with our 1301 00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:14,760 friends, like that's not closeness. 1302 00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:18,960 Like speaking to somebody like that isn't hug someone today. 1303 00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:21,000 If you don't have a friend just hug a stranger. 1304 00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:25,480 Fuck it up, free will. It all comes back, baby it all. 1305 00:59:25,760 --> 00:59:29,280 Comes back on that note, my free will is saying pub. 1306 00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:32,400 And my sense of community is saying yes. 1307 00:59:34,680 --> 00:59:37,840 And my sense of lactose intolerance is saying no milk. 1308 00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:41,960 Not line biking though. My sense of niceness is saying 1309 00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:45,480 yes to the pub. She goes, alright guys, 1310 00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:48,640 lesbians, I love you so much and I'll speak to you next week. 1311 00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:49,560 Bye.