1 00:00:02,280 --> 00:00:05,840 Hi everyone, welcome to today's episode of the lesbian sub club. 2 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:11,560 Welcome back, lesbians. Why are you looking at me like 3 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:11,880 that? I'm not. 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,400 I feel like you're looking at me like. 5 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:16,239 You, I just know you're struggling because you're wait, 6 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:18,720 you, you can't cope if you're not, If I'm doing the intro. 7 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:20,840 Well, I thought that you were just going to go in and say 8 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:21,320 something. You. 9 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:23,320 Don't like it when I don't jump in and cut you up. 10 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:25,320 No, I like it when you cut me up some. 11 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:27,720 Well, that's funny because you complain about it in Awful Life 12 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:29,480 for some of you enjoys it as well. 13 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:31,880 Hi, everyone. It's Scarlett here. 14 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:33,560 Now we'll get the podcast going for good. 15 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:35,080 We are here. I'm gonna jump. 16 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:39,600 I'm gonna jump straight. So you want me to take over and 17 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,000 own this, and then you suddenly jump in and find something to 18 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:42,520 say? I'm actually. 19 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:43,760 In a very annoying. Mood. 20 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:46,880 I'm gonna jump straight in and say over the last week I have 21 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:50,240 been violently obsessed. Not violently sick. 22 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:54,440 Violently obsessed with watching food tik toks like it's my new 23 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:56,400 thing. It's actually become a bit of a 24 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,120 think. Of yours it's actually it's 25 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:04,200 always been a thing but over the last week I have got a new found 26 00:01:04,239 --> 00:01:11,200 obsession for watching people load the fuck up on calories, 27 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:18,640 smash it to the point where it's like 95% of my TikTok feed now 28 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:26,240 is people eating copious amounts of food like 4 McDonald's a day, 29 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:33,400 noodles, chocolate and I can't stop and I need to know if I'm 30 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,440 the only one that does this. Babe, they're so popular. 31 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:37,640 But we're not. That is true. 32 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:39,240 These people are getting millions of views. 33 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,120 It ain't just me. I mean, I'm who's your. 34 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,800 Favourite. Go on, tell it to the crowd. 35 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:49,960 Hot topic of the moment is Becky Jones. 36 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,760 Becky Jones. Becky Jones is fucking. 37 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,560 Jones. Becky Jones, we love her. 38 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,520 Yeah, Becky Jones is up there at the. 39 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,680 Moment and also Corey's world. Corey's world obsessed. 40 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:03,960 Yeah, Corey's been smashing 3 McDonald's a day quite 41 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:07,080 frequently, to the point that today he's actually publicly 42 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,120 announced he's made himself sick of McDonald's and he's not going 43 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,200 to be eating it for a while. And I think a while is probably 44 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,400 going to be 3 days. That's going to be a while for 45 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:16,920 Corey. Actually, how long that's going 46 00:02:16,920 --> 00:02:18,200 to be OK. Two days. 47 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:20,680 What are you? Saying I'm going to go to two 48 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,480 days and I know it's going to start with, I know I told you 49 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,040 all that I'd gotten the ick from McDonald's. 50 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:29,640 However, here I am again. However, I'm back and I'm better 51 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:33,480 than ever now let me get 20 chicken Nuggets, three triple 52 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:37,400 cheeseburgers, 4 loaded fries and then I'll stop off on Costa 53 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,440 on the way back and get a frap with no coffee. 54 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,680 Then I'll go get myself a corned beef pasta. 55 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,960 But yeah, I absolutely love him. Like no hate at all. 56 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:47,400 I'm I'm genuinely obsessed. It's a guilty. 57 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,440 Pleasure though, I remember when I went on this like really 58 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:53,120 strict diet when I was younger and I was obsessed with watching 59 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:54,960 the Food Network whilst I was on this diet. 60 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:57,280 No, see that. That's because I've definitely 61 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:01,080 eaten more this last week from watching these videos. 62 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,440 I'm starving, I'm hungry. Mouth is all the time. 63 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,640 We've been talking about. Hungry all the time, but I'm 64 00:03:07,640 --> 00:03:09,440 living my best life. She was really annoying though 65 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:12,200 is that she'll do this, I'll be like, we'll have dinner and then 66 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,800 we'll like chill for a bit and then as soon as we get into bed, 67 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:18,840 those videos come back out and then both of us are then lying 68 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:19,960 there like what the fuck can we eat? 69 00:03:21,920 --> 00:03:26,840 You definitely more than me Friar bike I will say it and 70 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:31,080 hold a bit of self restraint. You'll be there. 3 Mars bars 71 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:34,240 down. Back in the car it is 2 Mars 72 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:35,880 bars. It is not the other. 73 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:40,880 Day you scanned 3 Mars bars. I never have. 74 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:44,600 Dying little piece of shit a few days ago that was. 75 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,760 No, it wasn't. Actually, look, we're going to 76 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:48,040 have a fucking. Fight it was it? 77 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:49,560 Was two. OK? 78 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:51,680 It was 2. You have definitely done three. 79 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,960 You have. In the day, not now. 80 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,200 You've done many three things in one night. 81 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:57,720 Mars bars. Just one of them. 82 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:04,000 Which one tastes sweeter? I was just going to say as well, 83 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,480 we've been like struggling with hay fever at the moment and 84 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:10,520 everyone in London is suffering. Like everywhere I turn, there's 85 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:12,880 is anybody else. Like I've diagnosed myself with 86 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:14,800 something a lot worse than hay fever. 87 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:19,760 Yeah, this is there because my throat at the moment is probably 88 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:22,360 only working at 50%. Capacity so scarlet sounds a 89 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,160 little bit frog throat. That'll be why. 90 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:28,800 Because I one of my glands is so swollen, you can see it out the 91 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:30,920 side of my neck. I come up in a rash of the whole 92 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:34,320 over the whole of my body the other day and my throat is agony 93 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,720 and I don't know why. And I think it could behave 94 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,440 fever. But if you're anything like me, 95 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,400 I've been on Google, I've gone through the whole of the NHS 96 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:46,200 website, I've gone through Doctor Web MD and I'm I'm, I'm 97 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,160 about. Four weeks straight for you as 98 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,520 like an on resident fucking doctor because it is constant. 99 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:56,520 Yeah, yeah, I would love that. I'd love to be the level of rich 100 00:04:56,520 --> 00:05:00,640 where I have a fucking hospital ward in my house where I can go 101 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:02,400 and check in, put myself. I'll be. 102 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,120 There everyday babe. Yeah, I'd hook myself up to an 103 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:06,800 IV. Two hours. 104 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,800 I don't know what's in it. Might even just be a bit of 105 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:11,160 water because I don't like drinking water and I have a 106 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:15,320 doctor on hand to reassure me that I'm not moments away from 107 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,240 death at any given. Moment you're actually just 108 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:19,600 going back to you not liking water. 109 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:21,440 It reminded me what we were saying about these people who 110 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,040 are like eating this copious amounts of food that they just 111 00:05:24,280 --> 00:05:26,840 they have such a childish palate, but they also don't 112 00:05:26,840 --> 00:05:28,960 drink water. No, they certainly don't fucking 113 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,400 drink coffee. They don't drink anything that 114 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:35,320 is for an adult. Fizzy drinks, ice coolers and 115 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:38,800 anything with a copious amounts of sugar is all they're looking 116 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:39,480 for. Which? 117 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,520 It like cherry coke I The thing is is a little bit of you, 118 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:43,520 though, isn't it Scarlet, but it. 119 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:45,440 Is but I, I can't do it to that degree. 120 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,800 And I wish I could like, because I'll see these things and be 121 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,280 like, I could do that. And then I'll start to give it a 122 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,360 good go when we're like eating dinner or sometimes when we will 123 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,760 get a takeaway. And after like half of half of 124 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:58,960 my dinner plate, I'm like full. Crying. 125 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,440 I bought her a cinnamon barn the other day and that was a fucking 126 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,600 mistake. Yeah, because it wasn't for it. 127 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:10,280 It was like a fucking brick. What did you say afterwards for 128 00:06:10,280 --> 00:06:13,880 the rest of the day? I feel sick, yeah, because I did 129 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,200 feel sick for the rest of. The day, yeah, because it was, 130 00:06:16,280 --> 00:06:18,200 she said. You know, when it's in front of 131 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:19,800 me, I'm eating it. I didn't even eat all of it. 132 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,960 But it wasn't like a it wasn't a good cinnamon button. 133 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:23,960 Let's just put it that way. Why? 134 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:27,280 Did you? Why did you fucking shovel it 135 00:06:27,280 --> 00:06:28,800 down your neck then if it wasn't I? 136 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:35,640 Didn't I ate about 1/4 of it, and that's only because, and 137 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:37,600 that's only because we're in a cost of living crisis and I 138 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,920 refuse for the whole of it to go to waste. 139 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,080 Yeah, that cinnamon bomb was like 20,000 lbs. 140 00:06:43,280 --> 00:06:45,040 I don't actually want to know how much it was. 141 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:46,880 Don't tell me I've sat in the car whilst you got it. 142 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,040 I don't want to know how much you spend on food. 143 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,760 That's why I don't come and do the food shopping with you. 144 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:51,680 I can't talk. About the price. 145 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:56,280 Denial is a river in Egypt. Talking about denial, we're now 146 00:06:56,280 --> 00:06:59,560 going to move on and talk about friendship breakup. 147 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:03,200 So we spoke recently in a couple of episodes before lesbian 148 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:06,680 heartbreak, which by far is the worst kind of heartbreak you'll 149 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:11,520 ever go through for some. Some people are thriving post 150 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,000 lesbian heartbreak. Some people are sat in their car 151 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,120 taking selfies. Who who knows what side of the 152 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:22,040 fucking, the river you're going to be on, but I know what one 153 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:25,760 I'd rather be on. Yeah. 154 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,400 So it doesn't really get much worse than lesbian heartbreak. 155 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:34,240 But I, so my take on this is lesbian heartbreak hurts more in 156 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,360 the moment. Like the pain in the moment and 157 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:39,160 the trauma right there and then is really, really painful. 158 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,280 But I think for me, the friendship breakups that I've 159 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:47,720 had over the course of my life have definitely hung around and 160 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:50,920 stung more longer term. I think it lingers. 161 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,000 Yeah, it lingers it. Lingers it's I find it 162 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,040 personally a lot harder to get closure. 163 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,320 I think it's more so because it's harder to rationalise, 164 00:07:58,320 --> 00:07:59,120 right? Whereas when it's a 165 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:02,320 relationship, I do feel like it is easier to rationalise in a 166 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:07,440 very strange way, right? And also a friend is someone 167 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:10,400 that you go to when you're having those breakups with your 168 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,360 significant other that is your kind of like rock there. 169 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:16,920 So then if that foundation is like crumbled, that's really 170 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:18,080 heartbreaking because. You're. 171 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:20,480 Like, oh, I have some side to go to, you know? 172 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:23,160 And I think for me like it's particularly bad because I've 173 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,240 had a lot of friendship betrayal. 174 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:29,440 So my worst friendship betrayal, 2 of them are quite similar. 175 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:31,960 One of them she just didn't succeed because she's a pussy 176 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:37,159 ass little bitch. But the first one who was meant 177 00:08:37,159 --> 00:08:39,360 to be, I think I mentioned this before, meant to be literally 178 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:43,880 one of my best friends and just cut me off one day. 179 00:08:43,919 --> 00:08:46,280 Like literally cut me off one day and started to speak to me 180 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:48,320 in this like really condescending tone as well. 181 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,600 And I was like, this is weird because me and this person have 182 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:53,320 been really close for a long time. 183 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:58,120 Stop speaking to me. And I was getting to a point in 184 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,480 my life where I was more maturing to a point of not 185 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:08,320 begging for anyone's attention or love or acceptance of me. 186 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,600 So if people start to go quiet, fine, fuck off. 187 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:13,440 I'll see you never like I can't be bothered. 188 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:20,400 So I started to take that kind of that that journey, I think as 189 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:24,280 this was happening to find out five months later, because she 190 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:29,120 was with me ex for four years. And that is like that upset me 191 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:33,200 more. I was more upset that my best 192 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:36,240 friend had gone with my ex than that my ex had gone with my best 193 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,520 friend because I think at this point I'd established the ex 194 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:41,000 would fuck anything with a pulse actually. 195 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:46,840 But the best friend I truly held in such high regard. 196 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,720 I think that was what was so painful is that I really 197 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:53,320 respected this person. I thought this person had a lot 198 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:56,080 of love and respect for me. I really did think it was a very 199 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,560 like close mutual friendship because I think sometimes you 200 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:02,600 you have those friends where they're your friend, but you 201 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:06,040 know certain things about them that you don't necessarily 202 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:10,600 wholeheartedly love and respect, but you love other things about 203 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:14,040 them and you keep them in the wouldn't trust you for all of 204 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:16,960 these types of things box, but love you anyway. 205 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:21,360 And then there's your friends where you're like, I rely on you 206 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,400 as a person. I love you as a person and I 207 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:29,040 think that's a very much shared and when those people hurt. 208 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,480 So much as well about your situation, right? 209 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:35,440 So then when they're they, they know all of the things that make 210 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,800 you sad, upset, trigger you. They they've been there, they've 211 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:41,440 heard all the stories and they've been there through 212 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:43,640 relationship issues and then they turn around and they 213 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:46,960 fucking do it to you. I know, it's so bizarre it makes 214 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:49,360 me. So cross also the ones that 215 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:53,640 because you can be gaslit hard by friends real. 216 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,320 Well this person must have gaslit me so hard I didn't 217 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:59,280 realise I was being gaslit. Well, we've both been gaslit by 218 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:01,480 the same fucking person. Yeah, we'll get on to that one 219 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:05,720 in a minute. But yeah, like I, I don't Care 220 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:07,360 now. Like I honestly can say I don't 221 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,360 Care now. I could bump into my ex and this 222 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:13,640 person now and I, I genuinely would just be like, great, I 223 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,200 hope you're happy. Like I wish you well. 224 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,600 But I, yeah, I don't, I don't feel anything. 225 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:19,480 And it's, it's one of those things, and I will probably 226 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:21,320 repeat this a lot throughout this episode, which is like, 227 00:11:21,560 --> 00:11:24,880 thank you because you taught me a lesson and I'm so much better 228 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:26,520 off for you not being in my life. 229 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:31,040 But definitely at the time, that really, really upset me and 230 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,280 affected me for probably a couple of years. 231 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:36,000 Sometimes that's why you can't see the energy that someone's 232 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,360 bringing into your life until they've gone and you feel a lot 233 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:39,680 lighter and you're like, hold on. 234 00:11:39,680 --> 00:11:42,080 I look back at all those those nights that we spent together 235 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:46,960 and had like a really heavy feeling and I was thinking to 236 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:48,920 myself, oh, this is just the kind of era that I'm in at the 237 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:50,800 moment or whatever. And actually it's a fucking 238 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:54,200 person because they subliminally get under your skin and just 239 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:56,840 their atmosphere is really bad. And we've had this with a. 240 00:11:57,280 --> 00:12:00,360 Well, two people, yeah. So there's one that we actually 241 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:02,920 very much shared the me and very, very much shared the 242 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:08,040 experience of. And I wonder if any of you guys 243 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,640 have been through a set a similar thing because this is 244 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:14,960 quite a unique situation. But I feel like particularly in 245 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:19,200 the lesbian world where everyone's ex is everyone's ex, 246 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:22,120 someone's ex is best friends with someone's girlfriend, 247 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:26,240 someone's girlfriend's sister is girlfriends with the ex. 248 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,800 Like we're we're very much intertwined. 249 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,320 Yeah. And so I would imagine we aren't 250 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:33,800 the only ones that this has happened to, but. 251 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:35,120 Yeah, I want to know. Freya. 252 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:41,200 Yeah, become really good friends with someone really very quickly 253 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:46,200 that we met probably about 14 months into our relationship, I 254 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,480 would say. We weren't very. 255 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:50,600 We were obviously established in our relationship. 256 00:12:50,680 --> 00:12:52,760 We hadn't been together. That we hadn't been together 257 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:54,040 that long. No, no, no. 258 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:59,640 And we met this person and very, very quickly formed a close 259 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:04,800 friendship with them because we really like them like they 260 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,040 brought, I wouldn't say a good energy looking back now. 261 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,200 It was a bad one they. Didn't bring a good energy but 262 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:12,320 they brought a lot of fun. Yeah. 263 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:18,240 And we, outside of this person, had started to form quite a 264 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,840 great friendship group at this point as well, where we were all 265 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:26,840 going out, we were all having fun and this person was part of 266 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:29,840 that. And this person also was new 267 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:36,760 over to London and so didn't have a solid foundation of 268 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:38,840 friends. So, you know, we very much were 269 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:40,440 like, well, we will be your people. 270 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:42,640 Also, we were very much like, because I feel like we're like 271 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:44,960 this as people as well. If we see that someone kind of 272 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:48,120 like needs help or support, like we're happy to give that and 273 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:49,760 that doesn't take anything away from us. 274 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:52,480 Yes, at all. So she kind of had an element of 275 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:55,200 that needed in her situation. Very much so. 276 00:13:55,280 --> 00:14:00,280 There was a lot of things we'd done for this person like CVS, 277 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:07,760 job searching, job applications, emotional support, lifts, like 278 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:10,480 basically anything. And, and I am not saying that 279 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,600 from a sense of like, look how much I've done because I would 280 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:15,120 do that tomorrow. And I'll do that for anyone. 281 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:18,160 I I won't ever stop being the person that I. 282 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,560 Am, but I think it forms a stronger relationship though, 283 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:23,360 when you're kind of doing that because you're kind of a bit 284 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:27,280 more involved in their life. And she relied on us to a 285 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:31,520 certain degree, right? Anyway, looking back now, it was 286 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:36,640 very prevalent and I'm a fucking idiot considering like the story 287 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:42,560 that I just told about my best friend with my ex that I, this 288 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:47,320 is very, very, very prevalent that this person was very, very 289 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,760 into Freya. And whilst not only being into 290 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:56,560 Freya, I clearly hated my guts. Which fair, like you don't have 291 00:14:56,560 --> 00:15:00,080 to like me, but it's quite weird when you're pretending to like 292 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:04,120 me, actively disliking me and then trying to get into my 293 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:07,280 girlfriend's pants. So I have this thing probably 294 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:15,160 sometimes to my to, to to almost like a negative degree where I 295 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,560 won't. There's a lot of things I'll 296 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:21,400 bite about right? So like Freya left the window 297 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:23,680 open of our car. Don't fucking. 298 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:28,360 Start last night wide open overnight of our car, bearing in 299 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:31,000 mind we've had a vehicle stolen from outside of our house. 300 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:32,800 Before Was it stolen? Was it ransacked? 301 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:34,880 No. No, it wasn't, but you still 302 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,960 left the window open. And obviously that irks me quite 303 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:41,920 considerably, but when someone is going out of their way to 304 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:46,400 kind of literally shit on me in person, it takes a lot for me to 305 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:48,920 get annoyed because I will have a lot of empathy as to why a 306 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:54,080 person is behaving that way. So when this person was like all 307 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:57,040 over you and then kind of smirking at me and would 308 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,160 disregard me and would do that horrible thing that friends do 309 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:02,480 where they try and like out you and take the piss out of you in 310 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:05,120 front of all of your other friends to try and get an 311 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:08,280 advantage on you. I sat back and let it happen 312 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:11,400 because I was like, hey, I wanted this person to like me a 313 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:12,720 lot. Yeah, 'cause I couldn't 314 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,400 understand why they didn't. So I would then go out of my way 315 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:17,520 further to keep them like they're trying get, make them 316 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:19,600 like there was. No reason, actually. 317 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:21,960 No, there wasn't. It was very bizarre towards you, 318 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:23,640 I mean, but I think she think she has a reason. 319 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:27,080 But I will have to jump in here. And it was jealousy. 320 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:31,160 There was a lot of things that you had that she didn't have. 321 00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:34,440 There were there were so many multiple things that I, I'm not 322 00:16:34,440 --> 00:16:37,160 even going to get into, but it was very prevalent that like 323 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:38,880 there was an element of jealousy there. 324 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:41,440 And I think that some people just kind of have that green 325 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:43,320 eyed monster in them that they are just that type of. 326 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:45,720 Person Oh yeah, because this person had it towards other 327 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:47,200 people. Like it wasn't just me and we, 328 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:50,280 we saw it very clearly with others, but I didn't want to 329 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:52,280 believe that for myself because then I was kind of like, well, 330 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,160 if you're actively choosing to hang around with me, you must 331 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:56,680 like me. It turns out that they were 332 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:59,960 probably just there for Freya, which fine, I I'm here for Freya 333 00:16:59,960 --> 00:17:02,880 as well. What happened was, was that 334 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:09,079 during the year that this friendship was happening, this 335 00:17:09,079 --> 00:17:12,839 person had told us that they were very much in love with 336 00:17:12,839 --> 00:17:16,680 someone and that it, it was very difficult for them to make it 337 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:19,000 work for multiple reasons. And we were trying to help them 338 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:21,200 through that journey, weren't we, of trying to make it work 339 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:26,680 with this person. And that was fine. 340 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,320 And then one day, there's so much to this. 341 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:35,240 But basically one day I just got a text being like, I want to see 342 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:37,520 this person and I want you to be OK with it. 343 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:39,640 And if you're not OK with it, then tough. 344 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,520 And basically this person, you know, the Harry Potter girl, it 345 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,760 was the Harry Potter girl. So if you listen to the other 346 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,000 episode, so. You need to listen to episode 3. 347 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,320 It was the Harry Potter. No, it was episode 4. 348 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,240 I can't remember. I'm trying to think of which one 349 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:53,680 it. Was the she the she cheated on 350 00:17:53,680 --> 00:17:55,040 me one? She cheated on me so the. 351 00:17:55,040 --> 00:18:00,160 Harry Potter girl that was the the cheat girl is the girl that 352 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:02,320 our. Managed friend and friend. 353 00:18:02,360 --> 00:18:04,320 Very much in fucking inverted commas. 354 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:06,960 Yeah. So this fucker who I thought you 355 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:10,440 know would ruin my life from America I've never see again. 356 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:15,520 She wing guardian Leviosa the fuck over to England and she 357 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:20,840 quidditched her fucking actually to London over to just destroy 358 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:23,680 more of your life. Actually, she at this point, no, 359 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,400 she didn't destroy I'm. Actually so grateful to this 360 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:28,440 person. I feel like she's, yeah. 361 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:30,000 I'm going to give her. Credit. 362 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:33,000 Thank you so much, but it makes me laugh so much because it's 363 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,480 almost like, does she have a thing for something that you've 364 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:36,640 touched beforehand? Does she? 365 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:38,040 This is a Slytherin. Isn't it? 366 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:41,440 This is Slytherin, every pussy I do you think she'd be a 367 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:43,400 Hufflepuff? Hufflepuff. 368 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:45,360 She's a fucking Slytherin. OK she is a Slytherin. 369 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:49,560 So I had a text from the friend basically being like I want to 370 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:52,280 be with Slytherin and I want you to be OK with it. 371 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,480 To which my stupid ass initially initially went back and was like 372 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:02,560 yes, because I desperately don't want you to dislike me, I will 373 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:05,360 try and make allowances for that. 374 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:12,280 And then a couple of days later was like actually no, fuck you 375 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:15,680 because you have the penny suddenly dropped and I was like 376 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:18,320 fuck you. You've actually just spent the 377 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:22,680 last 12 months openly berating me, trying to embarrass me in 378 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:25,880 public, trying to quite literally put your hand down my 379 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:30,720 fucking girlfriend's pants, pants, pants, whilst I was in 380 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:33,600 the room in front of our other friends, which we can all vouch 381 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:35,440 for because they were there in Ascot. 382 00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:37,200 Yeah, exactly that I'm talking about. 383 00:19:37,360 --> 00:19:40,080 Yeah. And when all that wasn't enough, 384 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:42,400 you decided to pair up with Slytherin. 385 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,440 Which fine. No, it's not fine, because 386 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:47,440 actually a good friend, a loyal friend, a normal fucking friend, 387 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:50,400 would have never even been given that person the time of day, let 388 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,920 alone managed to go on a fucking date with them and then 389 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,520 subsequently fall in. Love. 390 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,280 Well, yeah, but then we found out that actually so that we'd 391 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,760 been this person had asked to go on a date with the months before 392 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:03,840 and I was like, weird. But I also can't tell you what 393 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:06,200 to do. Why are you asking me to for 394 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,760 permission to do something you know you shouldn't be doing? 395 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:12,640 Because if you're having to ask and get clearance, you shouldn't 396 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:14,760 be fucking doing it. So that was the first thing. 397 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:16,920 But remember, I went back and I was like, well, it's, I think 398 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:19,080 it, it's really upset me because this person has caused me a lot 399 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,160 of hurt in my life. I actually just don't want to be 400 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:23,640 associated with them. I don't really care what they 401 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:25,320 do. Can we just say very quickly as 402 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,920 well though, actually before any of this happened, you bumped 403 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,240 into Slytherin. Was very rude. 404 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,640 And you tried to put a bit of water under the Ridge you you 405 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,880 went over. So let's say, look, you know, 406 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:37,440 we're in this situation. It's a bit. 407 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:39,240 Awkward, I said. Look, can we settle this over a 408 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:40,600 game of Quidditch? Yeah. 409 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,520 And she laughed in my face and said no. 410 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:44,440 No, but she actually smirked at you. 411 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:45,840 She smirked at you. She was fucking rude. 412 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,200 She. Snubbed me so basically all of 413 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,640 our friends went to a gig and before I knew this person had 414 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:56,360 made it over to London. Had no idea and this is again 415 00:20:56,360 --> 00:20:58,480 where the friend's a cunt because the friend knew this 416 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,440 person was coming and went to the gig with me and our other 417 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:05,240 friend knowing that this girl was going to be there Slytherin. 418 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:07,280 So I I don't know what else to call because can't call her by a 419 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,600 name was going to be there and not at any point looked up and 420 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:13,160 said by the way, this person's coming so did not give me a 421 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,640 chance also to pull myself out of that scenario. 422 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,040 I also. Found out though they were 423 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:18,800 dating. Oh, this is what I've been. 424 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,360 Getting they've been dating for months so yeah well she's doing 425 00:21:21,360 --> 00:21:23,160 things with other people and she's. 426 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,640 Friends, by the way, we're trying to set her up with our 427 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:28,120 her mates because she's pretending she's heartbroken 428 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:32,240 over another girl in another country to find out. 429 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:36,360 Then a year later by a housemate she'd been dipping her hands and 430 00:21:36,360 --> 00:21:39,480 Slytherins honeypot the whole fucking time. 431 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:41,560 What the actual fuck do you know? 432 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,560 I haven't really thought about this situation since when I say 433 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:47,400 it out loud I'm like, you're fucking cook, do you know what? 434 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,960 Yeah, you're a. Cook So yeah, I'm at this 435 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:51,920 concert. Turn around, Slytherin said 436 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:54,520 That. I'm like, fuck, say to our 437 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,440 friend who we're with, I'm like, right, I've got 2 minutes before 438 00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:01,040 Cub Sport come and blast out to give you the lowdown on this 439 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:02,960 situation. My mate's like fuck, this is 440 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,000 intense. So I was like, Nat, do you know 441 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:06,880 what I think? By this point, three years had 442 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:09,480 passed since I found out about the Harry Potter night. 443 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:12,360 I'll try and be the big person and go over there. 444 00:22:12,360 --> 00:22:14,400 I was like, look, this is a bit of an uncomfortable situation. 445 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,080 For you, because you also said to me as well actually, that 446 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:18,240 you'd said a few things that you wish that you had. 447 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:21,000 When I found out the night that my ex was cheating with this 448 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:25,120 person, I said some things which I shouldn't have said. 449 00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:30,400 I went mental, which I, I don't regret being as angry as I was. 450 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,960 So I went over to say, look, bit of an uncomfortable situation 451 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:35,400 for you. Bit of an uncomfortable 452 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:37,840 situation for me. Clearly we have mutuals. 453 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,080 Let's try. And, and she just looked at me 454 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,960 and sniggered and I was like, OK, you're, you are a piece of 455 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:44,080 shit then. But you weren't just in love 456 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:47,080 with my girlfriend and at the time, and it was maybe something 457 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:48,920 that could have worked out. No, no, no, no, you're just a 458 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:50,760 bad person. You're actually, that was kind 459 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,560 of the start of it. And then the friend, our friend 460 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:54,880 was like, wanna go on a date with them? 461 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:56,760 That was the whole thing. They clearly. 462 00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:58,640 Been doing it the whole no. But do you remember the next day 463 00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:00,640 she was like, yeah, didn't, didn't actually enjoy it. 464 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,320 She said no got messages. No, she said. 465 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:04,800 I went on the date and yeah, I literally didn't feel anything. 466 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:06,960 Yeah, she's like no vibe, no chemistry. 467 00:23:07,120 --> 00:23:09,800 I'm so sorry I didn't. Mean to upset you over this? 468 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:10,800 It wasn't even worth it. Do you? 469 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,120 Remember she sent a photo of her crying in the morning with 470 00:23:13,120 --> 00:23:15,920 conjunctivitis. Do you remember that? 471 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:20,080 Yeah. Meanwhile, she obviously had 472 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,600 slept with her, was probably walking home. 473 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,640 It's a casual bit of pink eye, calling it conjunctivitis and 474 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,680 saying you're crying. Yeah. 475 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:35,560 And then got into a relationship with this person, wanted me to 476 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,040 be OK with it, turned around. I initially accepted it and then 477 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:40,440 was like, no, I'm prioritising myself. 478 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:41,960 I'm not accepting it. Never heard from her again. 479 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:45,000 Can we just say in a way, actually there was no argument 480 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:46,960 there. Actually, we were all very, we 481 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:49,960 were very civil. It turns out like a year later 482 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,840 she wrote this big old post about, you know, having fake 483 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,720 friends basically, which was us. That is so. 484 00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:00,280 When absolutely ballistic at me when I just basically called her 485 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:01,880 out for it because I was like, oh hold on a minute. 486 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:06,880 I'm sorry, I I can be an asshole sometimes I will say things I 487 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:11,440 shouldn't say in a stupid manner and it can be a bit like OK, I 488 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:12,600 fucking shouldn't have said that. 489 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:16,080 Or like never nasty though, just like no a bit annoying. 490 00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:19,480 Like I can be annoying and I know that I'm annoying, but the 491 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:23,320 the audacity to do that? Like how delusional can you 492 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:23,800 actually be? But. 493 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:27,520 Very quickly we had another friend as well who was very this 494 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:32,760 again, when I'm talking going above and beyond, I mean above 495 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:37,160 and fucking beyond. If they needed me to fucking fly 496 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:40,120 to the moon to go and get them an iced coffee, that's probably 497 00:24:40,120 --> 00:24:41,720 what what would have fucking happened. 498 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,360 You had a lot of love for this person, had had a lot of love 499 00:24:44,360 --> 00:24:45,960 for this person. Can I just say we're moving on 500 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:49,240 to another person now, But it's a very much the same type of 501 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:53,320 characteristics because I do think friendship break UPS 502 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,280 usually happen for these types of scenarios. 503 00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,320 Whereas relationship break UPS usually happen because someone's 504 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,400 falling out with someone or there's been a monumental 505 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,680 argument you can't come back from or someone's cheated. 506 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,800 Where friendship break UPS, I think it's usually one side of 507 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:11,840 the friendship is abusing the other side of the friendship for 508 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,320 multiple things. Friends. 509 00:25:13,360 --> 00:25:16,680 Friends are supposed to be forever more so than 510 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:17,800 relationships that you go through you. 511 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,000 Can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. 512 00:25:20,360 --> 00:25:23,360 But going off of that, I mean, very, very similar friendship 513 00:25:23,360 --> 00:25:26,160 situation. And this person and me have been 514 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,200 friends since we were 12 years old. 515 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:30,000 Again, a very much similar situation. 516 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,480 I had just a lot of love and respect and care for this 517 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,440 person. And they were almost like a 518 00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:39,480 brother to me. And then, you know, over the 519 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,040 years, it gave a lot more support. 520 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,720 You know, they'd gone through a breakup and I was really, really 521 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:48,160 helping him through all of that and, and I wanted to be there 522 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,920 for him. I had a lot of love, care and 523 00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:55,120 respect for him and I honestly, again, was one of those friends 524 00:25:55,120 --> 00:25:57,520 who, you know, he would even say to me that like you're a friend 525 00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,960 for a lifetime kind of thing. And, and that was how I felt 526 00:25:59,960 --> 00:26:03,080 with him, because I felt so. Close like watching you 2 from 527 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:06,560 the outside as well. Like, yeah, was always sort of 528 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,040 this will be someone in your life for your whole life. 529 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,280 He was going to so like, because I, I did love him a lot and 530 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,080 there were some flaws that we both had like within our like 531 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,880 friendship, but we would just kind of like bicker like brother 532 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,840 and sister and just get over. And it was, it was never like 533 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,440 anything big. And then again, I really helped 534 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,040 this person through a lot of different things and whether 535 00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,400 that be helping them get different jobs that they needed 536 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,520 or, you know, taking care of them when they were going 537 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:33,640 through heartbreak. Yeah. 538 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:37,120 And emotional support, we supported with business support 539 00:26:37,120 --> 00:26:39,960 as well, secured financial things for them. 540 00:26:40,120 --> 00:26:41,920 Yeah, that was a lot. Yeah, that was a. 541 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:45,080 Lot and they gave a lot back to you, I'm sure as and when you 542 00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:46,760 needed it. I don't think to the same 543 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,080 degree, I mean same. Degree. 544 00:26:48,120 --> 00:26:49,880 I can't. When I look back for time when I 545 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:52,120 was heartbroken, where the fuck was he? 546 00:26:52,360 --> 00:26:54,080 He wasn't anywhere to be seen. That should have been a red 547 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,760 flag. But again, I gave him a lot of 548 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,120 slack because some people in your life you do tend to give 549 00:26:59,120 --> 00:27:02,040 more slack to than others just purely because I think as well, 550 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:04,560 when you're like a real empath, you are like, Oh well, I 551 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:08,080 understand that, you know, they are XYZ way and blah, blah. 552 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,040 And you kind of ignore those red flags. 553 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,320 Actually now looking back, I'm like, that was a red flag. 554 00:27:12,360 --> 00:27:15,000 There are other things as well. That was like, oh, it shouldn't. 555 00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,960 Have and just to highlight why that relationship disintegrated, 556 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,840 was that basically it was. So it really is pathetic. 557 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,680 It is pathetic but it was one of those things where you had to 558 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:27,840 put your foot down on. Like I said, I would do 559 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,840 everything for this person and very specifically within the 560 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:34,640 last few months of our friendship, I, I went above and 561 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,240 beyond as much as I physically and emotionally could. 562 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,320 And I started to see a change in this person's behaviour and it 563 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,800 shocked me because again, like I'd I'd known them for so long 564 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,280 and I was like, where is this coming from? 565 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,200 It's. Almost like the more you done, 566 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:51,400 the more you done, the more you got trampled on. 567 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,480 Yes, yeah. And so the whole. 568 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,440 As my mum would always say, the more you do, the bigger the cunt 569 00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,800 you are. Yeah, bigger the cunt. 570 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:04,680 More you do, bigger the cunt. But I mean, it's, it was very 571 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,800 true, though, in this in this circumstance, because it wasn't 572 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,920 until I stopped going above and beyond for this person. 573 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,320 And when I say stopped, it wasn't like I just suddenly 574 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,240 went, I'm not doing anything for you anymore. 575 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:20,280 There was just one situation, which is the most pathetic thing 576 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,280 of all time, actually. I'm, I'm. 577 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,840 And The thing is, we knew it was pathetic, but it was principle 578 00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,520 based, right? Because you'd finally got to a 579 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:30,120 point where it was like this. The actual thing we're 580 00:28:30,120 --> 00:28:33,280 discussing, we're talking about is not a big deal. 581 00:28:33,360 --> 00:28:35,520 On the grand scheme of things. It's not a big deal, but the 582 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,400 principle, but the principle of it was the final straw to be 583 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,520 like, no, I'm, I'm going to put my foot down on this one thing. 584 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,640 Very small thing. Because that you've kind of 585 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:49,200 taken it too far. Even though the thing itself was 586 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:50,880 minimal. The chair. 587 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,120 It was the cherry on the cake. But it was also a. 588 00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,240 Catalyst for you being like no. But I think it was a very 589 00:28:56,240 --> 00:29:00,600 telltale sign that this person then completely after this von 590 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:04,480 very minor thing where I put my foot down on one small thing. 591 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:05,600 In a really nice way, by the way, in a. 592 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:09,440 Very nice way when I've gone above and fucking beyond so much 593 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:14,840 out of fucking pocket for this person constantly and then I 594 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:16,880 don't do this one thing that they want and now I haven't 595 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,280 heard from them since it's been over a year and. 596 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:19,240 You. You were. 597 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,520 Called like a terrible person. Yeah. 598 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,120 And that they learnt a very fucking valuable lesson and all 599 00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,440 this kind of shit. And I'm like, I actually, you 600 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,440 learnt the lesson. Valuable lesson, yeah. 601 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,000 There was a bigger thing and I think that's why they started to 602 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,600 get frustrated to towards you towards the end because they 603 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,080 wanted to go and do things that you would have been like. 604 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:40,720 Hell, fucking hell. Not because we're talking about 605 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,240 stuff that's dangerous, right? Not because I'm judging. 606 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:44,400 No, no, no. Don't do that. 607 00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:45,440 Dangerous. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 608 00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,000 And that was that was one of the the reasons so. 609 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:50,320 So that was. Heartbreaking. 610 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,160 That was really heartbreaking and it made me so fucking sad 611 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,720 because again, like I said, I pumped in so much love and care 612 00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,240 for this person and then all of a sudden I was just absolutely 613 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,440 nothing to nothing. So, you know, overall, like, why 614 00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,000 are we talking about this and why have we decided to discuss 615 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,640 this today? And I think it's because like 616 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,520 it, it goes back to a lot of the situations in your life. 617 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:19,520 So it ties into, you know, coming out and having negative 618 00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,080 experiences from friends and family. 619 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,600 How do you hold yourself in those situations going through 620 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,360 your first lesbian breakup? How do you hold yourself in 621 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:31,000 these situations? And again, with friendship 622 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:32,640 breakup. And it kind of comes back to 623 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,200 that thing. And I think all of these things 624 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,640 are are truly interlocked as like it gets to a point in your 625 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:42,360 life that you have to realise that if you don't prioritise 626 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,960 yourself and set your own boundaries, you won't ever be 627 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:50,400 happy. No, if you live having to put 628 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:54,400 other people's feelings before yourself, not being able to 629 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,240 show. Hold yourself with love and 630 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,440 compassion. And my biggest thing was being 631 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:03,920 scared of people not liking me. You stunt your own personal 632 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:08,160 growth and you close yourself off to doors that will make your 633 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,200 life better. And but also, that's the thing, 634 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:11,680 right? One door closes, another one 635 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:13,360 opens. And when a relationship like 636 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:17,320 that rids itself, then maybe at that time with that person, 637 00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:18,640 you're like, OK, do you know what? 638 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,520 This was clearly then never supposed to be a forever 639 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,000 friendship and like relationship with this person. 640 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,800 Not only that, but it's like, if you're showing your true 641 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,400 colours, whenever somebody shows you their true colours, fucking 642 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,560 believe them. Then yeah, you listen because 643 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,200 like. The red flags like when we were 644 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,160 talking about the red flags like it's not a one off. 645 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:39,640 Those things don't just happen on a one off. 646 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,560 If you know, people can have bad days. 647 00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,480 And I do think sometimes friendships, like any 648 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,840 relationship is give or take. You can go through six month 649 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,280 period of giving because like that person's going through 650 00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,800 something and then you can be going through something and they 651 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,480 give, go through six months of giving. 652 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,960 That's fine. But when it's constantly one 653 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,360 sided, you need to be able to recognise that and not hold on 654 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,840 to those types of relationships. They don't serve you. 655 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:06,080 One thing that I would say as well is always when you leave 656 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,560 the room with someone or you've left a situation and say you've 657 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,480 spent the weekend with them or you've spent a night with them, 658 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,600 whatever. If you've spent, if you get home 659 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:18,120 and you feel drained, that is your telltale sign because you 660 00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:21,040 can feel exhausted. Like I had a fucking great night 661 00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:22,120 and I feel exhausted and whatever. 662 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,240 But if you feel energetically drained after someone, you know 663 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:28,120 it, you feel very heavy. That person isn't actually 664 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,840 supposed to be maybe in your life, but maybe not to like a 665 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:32,840 close. Yes, capacity, yeah. 666 00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,440 And that, yeah, very much recognised that looking back at 667 00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,760 situations with with people that, you know, are no longer in 668 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:40,760 our lives is. And we'd even say it in the time 669 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,560 we'd get in the car and be like, because there's two other people 670 00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,680 that I'm thinking about now that we were really close with that 671 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,640 again one day just disappeared. Don't know why. 672 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:51,960 Bit of a bizarre 1. Riding them left, right and 673 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:56,720 centre, yeah. That we'd get, we'd come away 674 00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,200 and be like, oh, we don't feel good. 675 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,520 No, I feel like shit. We feel really like kind of 676 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,320 anxious and why? And I think it's because those 677 00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,520 people were projecting a certain kind of energy that maybe isn't 678 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:11,800 even a bad energy, but definitely not an energy that 679 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,760 aligns with us. Whereas now when I walk away 680 00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:18,560 from any of our friends, always feel amazing. 681 00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:20,720 Also. Especially when it's Polly 682 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,400 Cooper and she's that Polly Cooper idiot and I can just 683 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,880 rinse her the whole time and I walk away feeling godly. 684 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,040 Brilliant. No, but yeah, they probably. 685 00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:30,440 All go Polly, there's your shout out. 686 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:33,240 Polly actually messaged before and was like, guys, I'll be 687 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:34,840 buzzing if you mention my name on the podcast. 688 00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,560 And I said, I don't want to mention your name because you're 689 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,800 quite a shameful person, but I've done this for you, Polly, 690 00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:44,680 because I'm feeling generous. But yeah, that, I mean, yeah, 691 00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:48,120 that is it's it is a very clear sign that you're just not in the 692 00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,360 right space with that person. They're not right for you. 693 00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:52,960 And also, if you feel like you have to ask for loyalty from 694 00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,600 someone, they're also not right. Loyalty is a fucking given with 695 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:58,280 a friendship. And if you're listening to this 696 00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:01,320 and resonating and thinking shit, this is this reflects some 697 00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:04,280 of the relationships in my life. And like, what do I do about 698 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:07,120 this? I think there's also a point 699 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:10,560 there with self prioritisation, which is the hardest thing you 700 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,120 can do if you're quite an empathetic, empathetic person. 701 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,040 Yeah. God, that was a tongue tie for 702 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:16,719 me. I don't know why. 703 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,800 It was a big actually. So I know I had a brain 704 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:22,120 haemorrhage a few years ago. So sometimes when I pronounce 705 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,239 things wrong, it's because of that. 706 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:26,440 It's not, is it? No, that is genuinely why. 707 00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,639 It is because I get like a bit of a speech pediment since the 708 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,800 since the I. Think I genuinely think it's 709 00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:34,719 because you're trying to say so many fucking words at once that 710 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:35,920 you start stumbling over them because. 711 00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,840 That could also possibly be it, but that's not as forgiving is 712 00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:43,400 it that you have to self prioritise and and you have to 713 00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:46,920 get to a point in your life where you go, if I don't do this 714 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:51,960 now, I am allowing my life to look a certain way because that 715 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:55,719 negative energy will spill over into your work, into 716 00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:59,320 relationships with other people, into new opportunities, into 717 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,040 personal growth, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. 718 00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:05,440 So yeah, if you're feeling it, babes, rid yourself. 719 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,760 If you're feeling step away. Yeah. 720 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:13,240 So that was our little kind of deep dive on friendship breakup. 721 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,000 I hope that was useful to some people because I do feel like 722 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,120 it's something that happens a lot and we don't talk about a 723 00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,480 lot because relationship breakup consumes a lot of the 724 00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,680 conversations, not just here, but you know, generally in life. 725 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,640 And I think we can all really acknowledge just quite how 726 00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:31,040 painful friendship breakups are. And to, you know, again, touched 727 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:35,200 on this at the start, in many ways worse than relationship 728 00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,800 breakups because you depend on them more. 729 00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:41,640 You think that you you go into relationship knowing that it 730 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,640 might not always be forever. You go into a friendship, 731 00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,640 deciding to become friends with someone, thinking it will be 732 00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:49,960 forever because otherwise you're like, what's the point, right? 733 00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,560 It's meant to be unproblematic talking a problematic. 734 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:57,000 We're actually now going to speak about X and I fucking love 735 00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,320 this game. If you've if any of you have 736 00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,040 been on phrase TikTok, I'll actually post it on the 737 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:03,640 Instagram as well. Does anyone remember like a few 738 00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:05,480 months ago? You will remember because it was 739 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:09,680 a few months ago when the ICK challenge was going round on 740 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,720 TikTok. Frey had been begging me to do 741 00:36:12,720 --> 00:36:14,000 this for a while. And I was like, I don't really 742 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:15,160 want to do it. I don't really want to do it. 743 00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:16,880 She's like, come on, come on. It'll be really funny. 744 00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,080 Oh. She found her niche. 745 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:25,760 When I tell you I got into it, I loved it, Loved it. 746 00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,520 IX. I'm like an ick master I was 747 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:30,720 saying this to. You, as in you are the master 748 00:36:30,720 --> 00:36:34,080 ick. Don't come me off already, don't 749 00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:36,160 I? It's hard to describe. 750 00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:37,640 Them when you are one, isn't it Frey? 751 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:40,760 It's so. Irritating. 752 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,000 That's giving me a nick. Just you. 753 00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,280 No, I was actually gonna say if I compliment. 754 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:46,080 Me 4 1/2. Years. 755 00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:47,760 I was gonna give you a compliment. 756 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,440 Basic one it Yeah. Need anything from you. 757 00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:53,120 I don't need anything from you in this friendship. 758 00:36:53,240 --> 00:36:55,240 I'm still what's. Annoying me, your eyebrows right 759 00:36:55,240 --> 00:36:57,280 now you're doing all sort of fucking things with your 760 00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,000 eyebrows and you're getting all grouchy. 761 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:00,240 You look like, do you know what you look like? 762 00:37:00,240 --> 00:37:01,640 You look like that thing from Sesame Street. 763 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,000 Just. Because I've got a decent set of 764 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:04,840 eyebrows unlike you ever since you fucking. 765 00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:06,400 You know, the one that comes out of the bin. 766 00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:07,640 They're barely existing. You are. 767 00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:11,000 That bin Muppet, whatever the fuck it's called, that's you, 768 00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:12,960 Grouch. Oscar the Grouch. 769 00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:16,680 That is Scarlet. Wait, I'm gonna can. 770 00:37:16,720 --> 00:37:19,520 We get a photo of Oscar the Grouch and Scarlett. 771 00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:21,240 Fuck. Oh my friend, is it. 772 00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,480 Especially when you do. You've actually. 773 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,200 Yeah, please. You've actually got a mark from 774 00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:27,680 where you've been frowning so much so. 775 00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:33,960 So too. Yes, you did, cunt, you did. 776 00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,000 Talking of friendships becoming enemies, that is the story of 777 00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:42,400 your eyebrows, isn't it? Because they were once friends. 778 00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,440 That is brilliant. That was really funny. 779 00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:47,680 And now they're so far apart. There you, Oscar. 780 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:51,840 Good for you, babe. Now I I was going to say that 781 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,360 every like I get the ick really, really easily with with people 782 00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,320 that I'm seeing, and I've never actually had it with you. 783 00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:00,800 I've been annoyed at you, but I've never had the ick. 784 00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:03,480 You know that ick feeling where it like shoots up your spine and 785 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:05,720 you're like, oh. Were they like sniff things with 786 00:38:05,720 --> 00:38:07,280 their mouth open? I hate that one. 787 00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:10,320 That one really bothers me as well and I never really thought 788 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:11,960 about it. So when they sniff, you know. 789 00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,000 When people you like hand them something and then they go, 790 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,080 yeah, you know, I go that exists. 791 00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:20,080 Same. You'll. 792 00:38:20,240 --> 00:38:23,040 Be like you'll no, they're like, you'll be like can you go and 793 00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:24,440 have a can you go sniff this and they go. 794 00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:28,400 Later. Disgusting. 795 00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,080 It's disgusting. Absolutely. 796 00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:31,120 Yeah. Vile. 797 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:32,720 And I was talking about this earlier as well. 798 00:38:32,720 --> 00:38:36,360 Like when somebody when, when you're like dating someone and 799 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,000 then you go over to the car and they've got to get themselves 800 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:42,440 into a three car door and they've got to move the seat 801 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,920 forward and and bend over and get in there in the back. 802 00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:46,920 Especially if the bum cracks hanging out. 803 00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:49,000 Butt crack. And they're like, oops, sorry, 804 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:55,080 oops, sorry. Someone putting on running gear. 805 00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,480 Just putting on running. That's an ick, you know, and as 806 00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:00,560 well, and they have those condom hats as well. 807 00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,200 Not the swimming cats, the condom running hats. 808 00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:04,560 No. Do you know what's fine? 809 00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:06,680 As if they wear all of that but actually can't run. 810 00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:08,560 Yeah. So like, they get themselves all 811 00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,440 geared up, then they run to the local coffee shop, and then 812 00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:12,520 that's it. That's basically me. 813 00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,160 So we put this into our friend group chat this morning was 814 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,480 like, can you give us some ick ideas What was Polly's one again 815 00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,000 because it was really funny she. Says that she once broke up with 816 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,080 the girl because she was eating crisps loudly in bed. 817 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,040 No, but she also said she broke up with the girl because when 818 00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,520 she woke up in the morning she was vaping on her. 819 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,160 What's it called? Lost Mary gave her the ick, 820 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:36,680 which is so funny because Liv, who sat in the room now, is 821 00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,920 always such a lost Mary. Have you lost her? 822 00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:42,840 No, you're not. You're sucking on a vape when 823 00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,360 Freya's playing COD with you there and you're you're losing. 824 00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:52,680 Oh yeah, I love watching Liv lose to COD. 825 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:56,840 It happened once. Yeah, she does that at me. 826 00:39:57,040 --> 00:40:01,240 She's fucking hardcore, man. Actually guys, if any of you are 827 00:40:01,240 --> 00:40:04,080 into COD, I challenge you to A1V1. 828 00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,800 Yeah, if anyone wants to interact with Freya on COD, 829 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,000 please add her. She loves it. 830 00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,400 Add me. She thinks she's really, really 831 00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:13,960 good at it. You're quite good at it, to be 832 00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:14,320 fair. Better. 833 00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:15,960 Than you lives the. Best. 834 00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:17,760 Well, that's fine. Liv is where we both live is the 835 00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:19,320 best. But you sound better than you. 836 00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:21,680 But there's actually been quite a VP. 837 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,200 Yeah, there's been a lot of times where we've been playing 838 00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:26,480 in a in a group and I get the MVP. 839 00:40:26,720 --> 00:40:29,560 So we asked into the into the lesbian group chat that we've 840 00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,400 got with our friends, and this one just got me because it was 841 00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:33,640 just Jess. It was just the way that she 842 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:35,240 said it. It's not so much what the ick 843 00:40:35,240 --> 00:40:37,040 is. So our friends Jess and Rihanna 844 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:40,080 kind of in some ways a copy and paste version of me. 845 00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:41,720 Yeah. And when the four of us get 846 00:40:41,720 --> 00:40:46,080 together, it's great because we all just attack each other. 847 00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,160 Then it's it's I love it. Excellent. 848 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,600 My biggest fucking Eck. I love you, Rihanna. 849 00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:55,600 I can't wait to marry you. But fuck me do I hate this. 850 00:40:56,040 --> 00:41:00,520 When she's like looking at her phone, laughing to herself, like 851 00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:02,600 really laughing. Oh my God. 852 00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,080 It makes me want to like strangle her so much. 853 00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:06,920 I don't know why. I just fucking hate it. 854 00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:10,000 I love it. This one is so niche. 855 00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:13,760 Like your, your fiance. Why that too, right, Freya? 856 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:15,440 Yeah. I hate it. 857 00:41:15,720 --> 00:41:18,800 Yeah, because you either do it really late at night when I'm 858 00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:22,680 trying to drift off to sleep, or early in the morning when you've 859 00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:25,440 decided to wake up at 6:00. Darling, you're always asleep. 860 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,000 Find me some time when you're not asleep. 861 00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:31,600 And no, go out and sit in the living room if you're awake. 862 00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,480 You. And The thing is, Freya doesn't 863 00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:36,560 just laugh, she loves to the point that her whole body 864 00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:40,840 vibrates and shakes the bed. And then I'll finally be like, 865 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,320 fine, what? What's so fucking funny? 866 00:41:42,720 --> 00:41:45,120 And she'll show it to me, and it's potentially one of the most 867 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:48,160 unfunniest things I've ever fucking seen in my life. 868 00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,280 It'll be like a dancing plan. And she'll be. 869 00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,280 Like I've never laughed at no, but I'm fucking. 870 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,400 I'm saying it for dramatic effect for yeah, but. 871 00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,640 What I'm saying to you is. Remembering of them because 872 00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:58,600 they're so unfunny. Just say. 873 00:41:58,600 --> 00:41:59,600 You don't have a sense of humour. 874 00:41:59,720 --> 00:42:01,320 Just say you don't have a sense of humour. 875 00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:02,280 I do have a sense of. Humour. 876 00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:03,520 No, you only find yourself funny. 877 00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:07,040 Sarah Allen, You don't find other things funny in life apart 878 00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,640 from yourself, do you? Go on, name me one. 879 00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:14,320 My mum, my nan. Because Jake. 880 00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:17,280 Foster makes me laugh a lot. No, do you know what this is 881 00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,280 actually going to upset? I actually this is actually 882 00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:20,680 upset me. What, because I haven't said 883 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,280 your name? Yeah, maybe I do laugh at you. 884 00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,640 At me, I got it. Fucking idiot. 885 00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,640 But yeah, no, we what was another? 886 00:42:30,720 --> 00:42:32,640 Oh, yeah, I was speaking to this girl earlier. 887 00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:35,680 This the, the girl that's barista down the road. 888 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,240 I love her. And I said, oh, we want to talk 889 00:42:38,240 --> 00:42:41,080 about icks on the podcast today. And she was like, oh, I get the 890 00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,160 ick all the time, all the time. And I said, give me one. 891 00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:46,080 She was like, if a guy wears a helmet, she was like, that's 892 00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,200 fucking pathetic. She was like, I want you to just 893 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,600 die for me. I don't care, she said. 894 00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,320 If you're not prepared to fucking die for me, then I don't 895 00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:55,600 want it, she went. Because if you crash really bad 896 00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,440 and you've got that helmet on, I'm not looking after you. 897 00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,520 I need to be looked after. It's so funny. 898 00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:03,120 That made me laugh though, so that's obviously not being 899 00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:04,520 serious. But she might be. 900 00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:06,840 She probably is, but it just made me laugh, the fact that she 901 00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,000 was like, yeah, if you wear a helmet, that's a neck. 902 00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:10,840 Do you know what else is an ick for me? 903 00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:12,560 People who can't use chopsticks stick. 904 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:13,920 I love it. Yes. 905 00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,800 Oh no. Eloise can't use chopsticks. 906 00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,840 She gave it a good go, bless her she did. 907 00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,200 It was fine because I just ended up feeding her so I benefited. 908 00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:28,040 From her better, actually. No, but yeah, it's a bit of a 909 00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:29,760 nick. People who can't use chopsticks. 910 00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,440 It's a bit of a nick because just like it, like, I struggled 911 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,640 for a bit, I'm not going to lie, but it doesn't take much to just 912 00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:38,560 fucking. Do that you go on a date with 913 00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:41,600 someone to a pub and they order either a cider or a recorder 914 00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,840 leg. Really is, what else was I going 915 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,840 to say was a Nick? That's a Nick. 916 00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:52,520 What this. Yeah, I think, isn't it? 917 00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:56,000 Because I can't do it. You look like you're doing 918 00:43:56,000 --> 00:44:00,040 something else and it's not with female genitalia. 919 00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:05,520 Can you do it again? Oh, oh wow. 920 00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:07,560 I don't know how to do what you just did. 921 00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,000 That's what I can do. I actually want to stop 922 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:14,520 recording because I'm going to go and throw up. 923 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,920 Wow, do you know what else is a Rick? 924 00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:22,440 A Rick? What else is an ick? 925 00:44:23,240 --> 00:44:24,720 That's fine. You running? 926 00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,520 I wish we had a mic on Lib just for that. 927 00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,440 There is it. Oh. 928 00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:38,240 No, Sarah can't run. So Sarah Hallimer. 929 00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,360 Don't bring in give me some jokes by the way, because. 930 00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:44,240 No one will understand it. I OK yeah, I can't fucking run. 931 00:44:44,240 --> 00:44:47,240 What's my ear I? Try your ick. 932 00:44:48,240 --> 00:44:49,480 What you've said, you've already said. 933 00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:50,840 I've never given you the ick, though. 934 00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:51,840 I'm. Trying to think of things though 935 00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:53,320 that are fucking. Annoying things. 936 00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,720 You do icky things, but it doesn't give me the ick. 937 00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:57,360 Leave the toilet roll on the side of the bath. 938 00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,640 Leave the toilet roll on the side of the bath every single 939 00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,120 time. You never replace the toilet 940 00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:03,360 roll. That fucks me right off. 941 00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,160 But that's not even an ick, it's just annoying. 942 00:45:05,720 --> 00:45:08,400 Lesbians don't pay for therapy. Do you know what we do? 943 00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:12,320 We download costar and blame everything on our moon rising. 944 00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:16,120 It's so true. I wonder what so true scope? 945 00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,920 Said today you're gonna get fucking emotionally abused by 946 00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:21,680 your girlfriend on a podcast. That's funny. 947 00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:24,120 That's correct. Ohh, well I don't think that's 948 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,240 true, is it? Why? 949 00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,400 Well I'm definitely not emotionally abusing you. 950 00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:28,120 I might go. Cry. 951 00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,560 I'm gaslighting you now, but I'm not emotionally abusing you. 952 00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,200 Horror Story. Can we go for the Horror Story? 953 00:45:35,240 --> 00:45:37,640 Of course, because of course, of course this is going to get you. 954 00:45:37,720 --> 00:45:39,280 The eggs are. Going to get nasty and I can't 955 00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,200 be bothered because I just want to have a nice night and I want 956 00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:42,720 you to cook my dinner so I'm going to start. 957 00:45:42,720 --> 00:45:44,000 I'm not cooking dinner, by the way. 958 00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,200 Tonight I'm having pizza. Oh, what? 959 00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,440 No, fuck the fuck off. You're not doing me a burrito. 960 00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:52,280 I'm not doing you a burrito, sorry. 961 00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:53,760 Yes, you are. No, I'm not. 962 00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:59,760 I'm sorry, I'm actually not. I've been ill for the last three 963 00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:01,800 days I'm. When is she not? 964 00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:03,800 I'm Medicare. Yeah, but I have been. 965 00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,000 Oh, all right. Well, I'll insert the photo of 966 00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,160 my rash on my face in this podcast, then. 967 00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:10,160 I'm not. Saying that you're not ill, but 968 00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,920 I'm saying when are you? Not well, I can't help it. 969 00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:14,440 My immune system shot. Probably from the fucking stress 970 00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,200 of having to live with you, you said to me. 971 00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:18,520 It's. So stressful is that having 972 00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:20,600 having someone to wait on you hand and well, exactly. 973 00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:21,880 Everything that you need. Not right now. 974 00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:23,760 You said to me this morning. I'll cook you whatever you want 975 00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,440 for dinner tonight, you know. That was before I knew that we 976 00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:27,040 were going out. We're going out like 5 How the 977 00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:28,040 where? Where am I going to have the 978 00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:29,960 time to make you a burrito? Very nasty, That's all I'm going 979 00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:30,960 to say. I'll buy you a pizza. 980 00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:33,320 I'll buy you a pizza. Do you want me to buy you a 981 00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:34,600 burrito? No, I'm going to get a tortilla 982 00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,240 and I'm going to go and sit there on my own that is a 983 00:46:36,240 --> 00:46:38,880 burrito and have your Pete. Yeah, but I said, do you want me 984 00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:40,600 to go buy you one? You said you could end up going 985 00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,120 to Taco Bell and get me a burrito. 986 00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:44,200 I want a burrito from Tortilla. OK sweetheart. 987 00:46:44,240 --> 00:46:45,760 Not Chipotle or anything. A tortilla. 988 00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:46,680 Do you want to grow up? There you go. 989 00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:51,120 You don't need to. Talking of X, moving on to the 990 00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,920 Horror Story I. Love a Horror Story and I really 991 00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:55,280 love this one. And what I love is that you 992 00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:55,760 haven't. Read it. 993 00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:57,960 I haven't read this one you. Have to slide by the way because 994 00:46:57,960 --> 00:46:59,640 I screenshot it. OK, fine. 995 00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:04,080 OK, so I've got to start off with the obligatory fangirling 996 00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:06,640 and say I love you both. I need weekly consistent 997 00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,400 episodes because why would you make us wait? 998 00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,680 First of all, we do actually now do weekly episodes. 999 00:47:11,720 --> 00:47:13,960 Yes, they're not always on the same day because. 1000 00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:14,600 They are. Weekly. 1001 00:47:14,600 --> 00:47:17,800 But you guys have to understand that at the moment it's me, 1002 00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:23,160 Freya, our producer Marcelo who is incredible, who also is a 1003 00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,680 very successful busy musician. And we're all doing this off our 1004 00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:30,320 own backs whilst working full time and like self funding this 1005 00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,480 whole thing. Trust me, when we can afford to 1006 00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:37,000 do go big or go home, we will. We love you. 1007 00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,160 We're trying to get them out as frequent as possible, but you're 1008 00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:41,280 going to have to bear with us. But thank you anyway. 1009 00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,280 And that's why I put a little shitty fucking response to the 1010 00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:46,840 Patreon statistics, which by the way, we're a joke. 1011 00:47:46,840 --> 00:47:51,080 And so many people were offended because like, but in order to do 1012 00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:54,080 more, we need to have more money and we physically can't afford 1013 00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,440 to keep pumping more of our own into it. 1014 00:47:57,000 --> 00:48:00,240 Anyway, a little rant there, but I just that needed to be said. 1015 00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:03,000 It needed to be said because people need to realise that I 1016 00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:08,120 agree. Sony, Spotify, universal, TikTok 1017 00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:12,440 listening. Call me You want a big dyke 1018 00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:14,800 podcast on your books, you know where to come. 1019 00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:19,120 Anyway, here's my Horror Story. Please keep this anonymous. 1020 00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,800 I'd met this woman on Hinge and can I just say, although we are 1021 00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:24,360 no longer together and haven't spoken in years, she's still one 1022 00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,960 of the most phenomenal human beings I've ever met. 1023 00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,600 It's really nice. Not only was she professionally 1024 00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:34,080 successful Hollywood producer Wow who'd also travelled the 1025 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:37,880 globe, she is also a successful lesbian erotica author. 1026 00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,240 Think Dom Femme. Yeah, she's already ruining my 1027 00:48:41,240 --> 00:48:41,920 life. Great. 1028 00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,920 I felt nervous and was intimidated by the confidence 1029 00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:46,800 and fast experience this woman possessed. 1030 00:48:47,720 --> 00:48:50,360 I'd never been with a woman previously, a much less topped 1031 00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:52,240 one. She mentioned that she was 1032 00:48:52,240 --> 00:48:56,360 always the one to plan dates and she never had been topped and 1033 00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:59,440 wondered what it would be like. This prompted me to plan the 1034 00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:03,160 most romantic date ever. Picnic at sunset overlooking 1035 00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,760 downtown next to a lake with the light up boat Swans. 1036 00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,440 As the evening went on, 4th of July fireworks lit up the sky 1037 00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,600 around us and it was truly more romantic that I'd ever planned 1038 00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:15,880 it to be. And although we had told each 1039 00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:18,640 other we'd wait one more day to hook up, we both couldn't 1040 00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:20,160 resist. Classic. 1041 00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:23,160 We ended up hooking up in my car. 1042 00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:26,560 Classic. Never ideal, but couldn't wait. 1043 00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:30,920 While going down on her, I was nervous about not doing it right 1044 00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:32,520 and wondered if she was enjoying it. 1045 00:49:32,720 --> 00:49:38,120 I was completely in my head and out of nowhere she toots 1046 00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:42,320 straight up my nose. Pretty sure I tasted it too. 1047 00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:48,040 Being that I had committed to make her cum, I ignored it and 1048 00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:49,240 kept going. This. 1049 00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:50,760 Is what I. Love about lesbians? 1050 00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:54,120 We won't give up. No, that's good going, girl. 1051 00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:57,080 We never spoke of it again and I'm pretty sure she was too 1052 00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,360 drunk to remember it. I hope for her sake she wants 1053 00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,200 she was. I now fear this might happen 1054 00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:05,000 again with another woman. And it stopped me from hooking 1055 00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:06,880 up. Geez, she's got some real 1056 00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:09,360 fucking. She's quite extreme, didn't it? 1057 00:50:09,720 --> 00:50:12,640 I didn't particularly enjoy being the human centipede to her 1058 00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,800 flatulence. Flatulence. 1059 00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:19,200 Sorry. And I've never confessed this to 1060 00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,480 anyone, so I'll just do it now on a podcast for thousands to 1061 00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:25,760 listen, much less ask for advice on how to move on from this 1062 00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:28,680 unfortunate event. Please frame scholar. 1063 00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:31,400 Any advice would be greatly appreciated girl. 1064 00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,960 First of all commend you babe for. 1065 00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:36,680 Can I just say first of all. Power in on three. 1066 00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:38,600 This is actually one of my worst nightmares. 1067 00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:39,440 Is it? Yeah. 1068 00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:42,760 It crosses my mind a lot, really. 1069 00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:45,520 And better be. Careful then, girl, that you 1070 00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:50,320 treat me right, honey, because. But I it's something that I 1071 00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:54,800 really worry about. I can imagine she was obviously 1072 00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:55,760 having a great time. The. 1073 00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:57,640 Other very relaxed if you've had a bit to drink. 1074 00:50:57,640 --> 00:50:59,080 She's not. Yeah. 1075 00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:02,360 But at that point she probably found it a bit awkward to like, 1076 00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:04,440 react to it. Maybe she was just hoping that 1077 00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:06,360 the. Other one didn't notice and that 1078 00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:10,560 it didn't. Stink. 1079 00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:14,200 I think I that I would leave that for me. 1080 00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:16,080 I'd have to say something. I would get back. 1081 00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:17,360 Up. I would get back up at that 1082 00:51:17,360 --> 00:51:19,040 point though. I would get up and be like you 1083 00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:20,520 just farted in my mouth. That's full circle. 1084 00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:25,200 For me, for the one that's, yeah, that is full circle. 1085 00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:27,800 Yeah, yeah, yeah. You feel like that that was, 1086 00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,400 that is, that is something else because it depends as well on 1087 00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:35,040 the level of the fart. Smelling a fart and then tasting 1088 00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:41,120 a fart is two different. Warm, warm. 1089 00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:47,240 Yeah, in the on the tongue. Yeah, just imagine as well what 1090 00:51:47,240 --> 00:51:48,960 they probably added that little picnic. 1091 00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,160 Taste it twice. No sour cream and chive dip? 1092 00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:56,240 No, that's all I can say because that you're asking for trouble. 1093 00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:58,640 Imagine if it was right. Let's be serious. 1094 00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:02,240 How can we help her move on? I think the main thing is right 1095 00:52:02,240 --> 00:52:05,320 is that I've I've gone down so many times that has never 1096 00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:08,320 happened to me. So like can can I just say on on 1097 00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:11,120 different people? No, no, I mean on you as well. 1098 00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:13,240 I mean, I've gone down. Yeah, yeah. 1099 00:52:13,240 --> 00:52:15,440 On five years, I can safely say that's never. 1100 00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:17,480 That's never. Happened right so it's like 1101 00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:20,960 don't don't you worry about that happening again statistically it 1102 00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,320 won't happen ever again statistically it's more likely 1103 00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,840 to happen to me than it is to you I. 1104 00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:26,920 Think you're lowering her into a false sense of security. 1105 00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:30,360 I think this is probably more common than we'd imagine 100. 1106 00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:31,680 Percent, no. But I do also think though, 1107 00:52:31,680 --> 00:52:34,680 statistically, statistically. Yes, like it's happened now, 1108 00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:37,080 it's probably not going to happen again, which is good, but 1109 00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,200 I do think this is probably quite common. 1110 00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,280 She goes, so This is why we guys, we all have to be really 1111 00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,840 careful about the way that we treat our bodies because what 1112 00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,400 you put in is what comes out. We all need to make sure we're 1113 00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:49,160 healthy. We're drinking some pineapple 1114 00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:53,360 juice before we're having fun and we're holding each other in 1115 00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,000 OR. Maybe just hold your farts. 1116 00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:57,040 Actually, don't hold each other in a high regard, Just hold it 1117 00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:58,280 in. Yeah. 1118 00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:01,640 So how do you get over this? I think you've just got a power 1119 00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:03,760 on three because I think if you go ahead and you have a really 1120 00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:07,360 positive experience, then you'll be like, oh, what was I worrying 1121 00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:08,960 about? I think sometimes when you spend 1122 00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:10,680 so. Long worrying also. 1123 00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:12,720 Build it up in your own head. You know, you've got the crazy 1124 00:53:12,720 --> 00:53:15,000 hot scale, you've also got the crazy fart scale. 1125 00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:16,800 You really do. No, the hot fart scale. 1126 00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:20,480 So like for me if she's super fair. 1127 00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:22,000 And she farts in my mouth. I. 1128 00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,240 Probably wouldn't mind. Neither would I, actually not 1129 00:53:24,240 --> 00:53:27,520 mind is that's extreme, but imagine Joni Coma farting in 1130 00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:30,160 your mouth. I'd be like, OK, yeah, I'd take 1131 00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:31,680 it. I'd take you would I'd. 1132 00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:34,120 Take a bit more than that. I'd be like do it again. 1133 00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:38,760 I'm not sure I'd actively asked to do it again. 1134 00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:40,560 The more I think about it, the more I'm like, well. 1135 00:53:40,680 --> 00:53:43,120 I think I'd move on from it. Yeah, I would move on. 1136 00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:45,640 Like things happen. Things do, People make mistakes 1137 00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:48,920 happen is bums make mistakes. I just think you've gotta get 1138 00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,280 back out there. Just get back out there saying 1139 00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:54,200 windy pops, you've just gotta get back out there. 1140 00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:55,840 Do it. And then you'll be like, oh, why 1141 00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:57,840 was I so worried? Yeah, exactly because. 1142 00:53:58,120 --> 00:53:59,360 You can build it up in your head. 1143 00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:01,040 It goes the same for so many things in life. 1144 00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:03,600 The the longer you put something off, the bigger it gets. 1145 00:54:03,600 --> 00:54:06,240 Yeah, we caught a snippet of Cammy Scott and her wife's 1146 00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,120 podcast, I think it was on TikTok. 1147 00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,560 It came up and they were talking about lesbian bed death, which 1148 00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,000 we're going to do an episode on as well. 1149 00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,360 Just to put it out there, everyone and they were saying 1150 00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:21,720 basically like the longer you go without it, the worse it is to 1151 00:54:21,720 --> 00:54:23,880 do it because you build it up in your head and it's kind of the 1152 00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:26,240 same as the fart we've. Even said that before, yeah, as 1153 00:54:26,240 --> 00:54:29,240 you said, it's building nation now and it's but it is the same 1154 00:54:29,240 --> 00:54:30,400 with the it's. The same with the fart. 1155 00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:33,320 The longer you go without a fart in the mouth, the worse you 1156 00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:34,400 think the fart in the mouth will be. 1157 00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:38,040 What I think the tactic was from the Dom femme, she's not used to 1158 00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,160 being topped and I think that she couldn't fucking handle it, 1159 00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:43,760 so she had to sabotage it. She's like, I'm actually going 1160 00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:46,800 to dominate. This experience by farting in 1161 00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:48,880 your mouth. And distressing you so you never 1162 00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:50,960 dare. Woman and and you never want to 1163 00:54:50,960 --> 00:54:53,080 touch another woman again because I've absolutely 1164 00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:54,200 annihilated your. Mouth. 1165 00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:57,520 Do you know what that is? Yeah, you've got it bang on. 1166 00:54:57,520 --> 00:54:58,840 Yeah. You've Hollywood, baby. 1167 00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:01,120 It's showbiz. Do you know what that's giving? 1168 00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:04,760 It's giving Cate Blanchett. Maybe it is. 1169 00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:07,440 Do you know what else it's giving James Corden? 1170 00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:12,400 Fucking James Gordon. On that note, we're ending now 1171 00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:14,240 'cause I'm not getting on James cording chat again. 1172 00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:16,520 I'm not giving him any more airtime than he's deserved. 1173 00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:18,680 Although I will say I'm so fucking happy. 1174 00:55:18,680 --> 00:55:22,200 Carpool Karaoke carpools over. So now what we need to do 1175 00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:23,920 Carpool Karaoke. Now karaoke. 1176 00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:26,280 To do our own version of carpool. 1177 00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:30,720 Kapoo kapoo. Not a poor karaoke. 1178 00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:32,560 We need to. I'd love that. 1179 00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:35,640 It's the end of an era and I'm so happy about it. 1180 00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:39,280 No more of that shit, no more of him singing over actual. 1181 00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:41,480 Singing, although we did go out of a with a bang with going out 1182 00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:42,880 with a Dow. I mean, you can't really get 1183 00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:44,520 much better than that, can you? Fucking love a Dow. 1184 00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:46,560 Thank fuck that's over. Yeah. 1185 00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:47,840 And thank fuck this episode I was. 1186 00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:50,600 Gonna say that. My mouth is dry. 1187 00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:52,080 I'm done. We're off at. 1188 00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:55,080 Least it's not a fuck. Bye everyone, everyone thank 1189 00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:56,440 you. Love you.