1 00:00:12,090 --> 00:00:16,850 Hello lesbians, and hello to my beautiful, beautiful friend Isa. 2 00:00:16,850 --> 00:00:20,850 Hello, Isabel. I am so excited to be here. 3 00:00:20,970 --> 00:00:24,810 They have been dangling this carrot in front of my face for 4 00:00:24,810 --> 00:00:27,330 years. I've been waiting to get you in 5 00:00:27,330 --> 00:00:29,730 this chair. That what is funny guys. 6 00:00:29,930 --> 00:00:34,050 Obviously if you're not watching this, we are sat in Isa's studio 7 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,600 and I haven't even had her over to my place. 8 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:40,320 I'm completely in your territory, but maybe this is 9 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,000 just where you feel a little bit safer. 10 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:45,320 Yeah, and also your place. I know quite. 11 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:47,400 Well, you do. Well, yeah. 12 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,040 For those who are listening as well. 13 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,240 Isa and Mellie, very, very good friends. 14 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:53,280 They were living together for what, 6 years? 15 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:56,480 Yes, in the place where I'm now living and I've taken over. 16 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:58,760 I kicked them out and I was like, this is mine now, bitch. 17 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:00,440 Yeah. So now she's not allowed to step 18 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:01,760 back in. Your house. 19 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,000 Every time that I go, she's waiting with like a bucket, like 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,000 boiling water. Yeah, no, I just stand by the 21 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:10,400 door with the door open. Are you gonna leave? 22 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,880 Oh, yeah. So, guys, I feel like, God, have 23 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:15,320 we? I feel like me and Scarlett have 24 00:01:15,320 --> 00:01:17,800 probably spoken about you and Mellie and so many different 25 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:21,360 occasions, but maybe never actually mentioned you by name. 26 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:22,720 No. But I want to give a quick 27 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:26,480 little back story as to who Isa is before we go into today's 28 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:31,800 episode as well. So me and Scarlett were big fans 29 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,960 of the dog park of Notting Hill and this was, would you say 30 00:01:34,960 --> 00:01:38,520 about what, four years ago now? It was probably 5 because it was 31 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:40,600 like in the midst. It was like lockdown time. 32 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,080 Yeah, maybe 2021. Yeah. 33 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:47,520 Yeah, around 2020-2021, and we were always going around Notting 34 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,400 Hill with the dog and going to the dog park and we would see 35 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:55,240 Mellie and Isa from afar and be too socially anxious to actually 36 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,520 say hello because we found them quite intimidating. 37 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:01,920 And they're both really hot and tall and really fit, right. 38 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:06,000 So we were kind of, we kept looking at each other and we're 39 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,800 like, they've got a shared dog. They're always wearing gym 40 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,840 flows. They're gay, like 100% they're 41 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,640 gay. And we had, I mean, it kind of 42 00:02:14,640 --> 00:02:17,680 comes into what I'm about to say, which is like everyone had 43 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,600 nicknames for one another, so. Because we are. 44 00:02:20,640 --> 00:02:24,120 We were all our dog's parents. Because we didn't know, no one 45 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:25,040 knew each. Other nobody. 46 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,760 Nobody remembers their names. It would just be the dog's mom 47 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:29,120 or dog's parent. Yeah, yeah. 48 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:34,160 So they came over and they were like, oh, we had many knees are 49 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:36,520 down as the hot lesbians, but now you've taken over as the hot 50 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:38,320 lesbians are now there the sport, you lesbians. 51 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,000 And we were like, we fucking knew it. 52 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:42,880 We were like, we knew that they were together. 53 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,160 This is great fucking news. Anyway, a few months have gone 54 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,920 past and I think you guys have been Mia hadn't seen you in 55 00:02:48,920 --> 00:02:50,360 ages. We had just stepped outside of 56 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:56,360 Gales and we saw Isa in all of her glory, all 6 foot 5 of you 57 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:00,320 walking down the road in your gym gear and Rabbit your dog. 58 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:04,960 And we were like, oh, hi. And we actually had a 59 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:07,640 conversation and I was starstruck. 60 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:09,520 I was like, I can't wait to be this girl's friend. 61 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,600 So I was like, how about we go for like a, a drink sometime or 62 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,080 something, like really anxiously, like do you want to 63 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:17,560 hang out? Which, little do you know, I was 64 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:21,680 at Starstruck. And also I had made-up my own 65 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:25,360 thing of like, OK, one of you was a jewelry designer and the 66 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:26,880 other one was a furniture designer. 67 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:30,480 And this was not just vibes. These were facts in my brain. 68 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:33,240 Yeah. And I was like many, because 69 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:36,360 obviously me and Mellie thought that everybody thought we were 70 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,360 lesbians. I was like, we're not the cool 71 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,440 lesbians anymore. We've been demoted to sporty 72 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:44,040 late lesbians because now there's like this stunning 73 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:45,120 couple. That's fine. 74 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:47,920 Do you? Know that we were gay before. 75 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:52,760 1000% like I'm sorry but you're not very like you lead with it. 76 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,720 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Lead lesbian first. 77 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,760 Yeah, so I completely leaned into it too. 78 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,160 And when you asked me, I was like, well, let's wait for 79 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,520 Mellie to be back and then. Well, yeah, you did. 80 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,640 You said. Oh, well, yeah, I'd love to go 81 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:07,760 for a drink. How about we wait until Mellie's 82 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:09,400 back and me and Scarlett look at each other? 83 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:09,920 OK. Yeah. 84 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:11,080 Mellie girlfriend. Cool. 85 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:13,200 She's waiting for her to come back for us to go on like a 86 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:14,200 double date. Yeah. 87 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:15,800 Amazing. Can't wait. 88 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:20,160 And Long story short. As I walked away, I sent Mellie 89 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,000 a voice note saying like, I hope you don't mind. 90 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,040 I just signed us up for a double date with the cool lesbians. 91 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:25,560 Yeah. What? 92 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,200 Did Mellie reply? Fuck no, I don't want to. 93 00:04:27,280 --> 00:04:28,400 Go no. She was like, Oh my God, 94 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:29,960 amazing. I'm actually can't wait. 95 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,960 Like, now that I know Mellie, I'm so blessed that she even 96 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:34,600 went for those first drinks. Yeah. 97 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:35,680 Do you know what I mean? Yeah. 98 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:37,600 Like now that I know many of them how like. 99 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:39,200 She loved it. She. 100 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,520 Did she loved the attention? Yeah, she fucking loves the 101 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:43,280 attention. And then we So we went for a 102 00:04:43,280 --> 00:04:46,400 drink a couple of weeks later and you girls were both in 103 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:50,480 fucking matching denim. It was like denim on denim, both 104 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,320 of you. No, she was denim on denim. 105 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,200 I was probably wearing a tea. You had a cowboy hat? 106 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,360 On like a banty, yeah, and up and down I'm. 107 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:00,760 Sorry, you both dressed for the occasion. 108 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:03,920 You both dress to the occasion. My cousin told me that I do look 109 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,360 like a lesbian when I wear my bandana with my band. 110 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:07,960 You look like a lesbian when you're with your wife. 111 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,800 That was all it was. Yeah. 112 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,000 So we that gave it away, sat down and we start talking. 113 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,080 Means that Scarlett start talking about a lot of gay shit. 114 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:17,600 And then it turns out that they're not gay. 115 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:19,360 I mean, I said, well, how long have you guys been together? 116 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,760 And they're like, oh, well, we're not together. 117 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,760 And I was like, oh, OK, well. Then you're gay then. 118 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:27,280 No, we're not gay either. I was. 119 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,640 The thing is that Nelly kept looking at me like you break the 120 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:30,800 news. I was like why? 121 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:32,640 Why am I? Why am I even? 122 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:34,200 Like, I'm liking the attention. Yeah. 123 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:35,840 Just be my wife. But yeah. 124 00:05:35,840 --> 00:05:39,120 So ever since then though, we have been best friends and I 125 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:41,200 absolutely love them both. And I love you. 126 00:05:41,280 --> 00:05:45,360 And Isa has now started her own podcast, which is the We Found 127 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,600 Therapy podcast. Nice plug, thank you. 128 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:48,240 Wait. Hold on. 129 00:05:48,280 --> 00:05:50,760 And just like that we found therapy podcast. 130 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:52,560 I'm not gonna say it right. I've actually had we. 131 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:55,640 Found Therapy Pod. You can find us on TikTok and 132 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:57,480 Instagram. Don't worry, I was gonna get you 133 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:58,960 to all that. Yeah, you're all good. 134 00:05:59,960 --> 00:06:03,280 But yeah, no, she is amazing. And it's got such a cool concept 135 00:06:03,280 --> 00:06:06,720 behind it and it's about going through the episodes of Sex and 136 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:11,880 the City and basically kind of analysing the behaviours and 137 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,120 understanding the behaviours behind relationships and love 138 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,840 and sex. And you have on some amazing 139 00:06:17,840 --> 00:06:21,080 people too, like sex therapists and relationship therapists and 140 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:25,240 therapists in general. And it's all about debunking 141 00:06:25,280 --> 00:06:27,480 that. Yeah. 142 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:31,520 Of the pathetic female, too. Or like all the stereotype in 143 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,800 which we have to kind of follow. I feel like the world has always 144 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:36,640 been set out, especially for straight people. 145 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:40,040 It's very, very different. And in a way, it's very freeing 146 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:43,520 that lesbians don't have this, that kind of blueprint of the 147 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:46,160 steps that you should follow. But at the same time, it also 148 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,000 does leave you a little bit like, oh, what the fuck am I 149 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:49,760 supposed to do? But then I think with the 150 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,800 straight people, it's like you are indoctrinated from like day 151 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:55,160 one of just like the tick boxing. 152 00:06:55,520 --> 00:06:58,040 By this age you should have this and by this age you should have 153 00:06:58,040 --> 00:06:59,200 this. And I think that it's really 154 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,400 damaging. And I think that you doing that 155 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,680 through the podcast is amazing. Like I really, really love it. 156 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,280 And she's obviously having on a couple of times. 157 00:07:06,280 --> 00:07:09,120 So I enjoy being on the other side of the mic. 158 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:13,200 It is weird to be on this side. Yeah, I mean, you're talking to 159 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:15,160 so many lesbians right now. How do you feel? 160 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,160 I feel empowered, I and I feel safe. 161 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:20,480 Yeah, you feel safe? Yeah, well, I feel safe because 162 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,520 he's also just maybe some watermelon with tahini. 163 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:26,200 So she's a fucking legend, but and she also took me to the gym 164 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:28,760 a few days ago. I was having a bit of a a shit 165 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,480 morning. I bumped into Isa. 166 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:31,320 She was like, I'm going to the gym. 167 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:32,560 I was like, I should go to the gym. 168 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:33,520 She was like, do you want to come? 169 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:35,800 I shouldn't have said yes, but I did say yes, yeah. 170 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:37,400 And. I What are the odds? 171 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:39,560 Afraid of being in gym gear on a Monday morning? 172 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,520 What are the odds? Yeah, I always walk around just 173 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:43,760 in gym gear. No way to go. 174 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,840 No way to go. But I I've never been worked 175 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:49,200 harder in my life. It was fun though. 176 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:52,560 It was fun. My body hated me for a few days 177 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:53,800 afterwards. I couldn't move. 178 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:56,960 Oh, but come on, I'd like I couldn't move either. 179 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:58,680 But saying something, Yeah, Yeah. 180 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:02,440 But if you guys aren't seeing Isa right now, she is a unit 181 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:06,440 like you are so strong, like you are like I would never want to 182 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:08,200 fight you. You are ridiculously. 183 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:09,320 Strong. You better not. 184 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,320 But I had to become it. I had to become it. 185 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:13,880 Yeah, you did. Well, tomorrow I'm going to get 186 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:15,360 to see you in a bikini, so it's all going to pay off. 187 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:17,840 There you go. OK, so I'm striving until 188 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:19,120 tomorrow. I'm going to take loads of 189 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:23,400 photos and put it on the noses. We've become the predatory man. 190 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,320 I'm like, Oh my friend. There she is, yeah. 191 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:29,000 Well, I just love the fact as well that we, we are also part 192 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,280 of this like Notting Hill crew too. 193 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,000 So there's quite a few of us within the support group and one 194 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:37,360 of them, Diane French. Diane is having people over on 195 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:39,840 on her terrace tomorrow, which would be lovely because it's a 196 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,000 heat wave. It is Satan's crotch. 197 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:46,280 It is so off, right? And you told me earlier she's 198 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:47,320 having a pool party. Yeah. 199 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,680 She's just no pool. Like there's no pool but. 200 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:51,160 But she's going to have a paddling pool. 201 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,960 So I was like fair and a host. But then Diane, being Diane, 202 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:59,000 goes water installation. She puts it in the group chat. 203 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:01,640 I've got a water installation. It's still in the works. 204 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:05,920 Well, it's like how she calls the corner shop a deli opposite 205 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:07,280 her house. She's like, I'm just going to go 206 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:09,760 to the deli Deli. It's a corner shop, Diane. 207 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:12,440 Yeah. And I love that, Yeah. 208 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,680 I love that. So we're going for the water 209 00:09:14,680 --> 00:09:16,360 installation. So yeah, I feel like we should 210 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:19,800 do like one podcast today and then a podcast after. 211 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,160 Totally, if we're still alive, because I think we're going to 212 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:23,880 fry like. I think so. 213 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,920 I think that paddling pool is going to, it's just going to 214 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:29,440 have no water in it by the end. No, but I hope. 215 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,600 I hope we get ice for the paddling pool. 216 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:33,560 I think that's a good shot. That's a really good idea. 217 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:34,360 Yeah. OK. 218 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,960 Well, all of that being said, I've got ease on here for a very 219 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:44,880 special, special quest, which is to ask a lesbian all of the 220 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:49,320 things that a straight woman or that maybe you thought you'd 221 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:51,520 want to ask a lesbian. And there is nothing of the 222 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:53,840 cards. And I will be as grotesque with 223 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,600 my answers as possible. I wouldn't want it any other 224 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,880 way. And you know, podcaster amateur 225 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:01,760 that I am, I have notes. OK. 226 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,800 And there's even like little emojis with Prothean. 227 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:10,520 OK, so light and fun. Ice Breakers, wink emoji, fire 228 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,560 emoji. OK, what's the lesbian 229 00:10:13,560 --> 00:10:15,440 equivalent of he's not that into you? 230 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:17,600 Is there such a thing in the girl world? 231 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,760 He's not that into you. The thing is is that the 232 00:10:22,760 --> 00:10:26,120 lesbians don't really do it where the girl kind of like 233 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:29,160 isn't into her. She'll either be like into her 234 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:32,560 in some kind of forbidden love way, or they'll get together and 235 00:10:32,560 --> 00:10:34,840 one of them will die. Oh, you know what? 236 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:36,960 Disobedience. What do you mean? 237 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:41,120 This OK, so disobedience. No, not disobedience. 238 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:42,080 Hold on. Not that one. 239 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:45,840 No, there's one that's called lost and delirious, OK. 240 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,200 And it's not as fun as he's just not that into. 241 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,360 It's actually quite depressing. OK, But the girl ends up just 242 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,040 not being into her and then she kills herself. 243 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:59,680 Is that a common? Is that common we development? 244 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:02,600 OK so the only kind of like wrong comedy ish thing that we 245 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:04,840 have is imagine. Oh, you're talking about a 246 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:08,240 movie? Yeah, well, oh, sorry, are you 247 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:10,200 not thinking of the movie? He's just not that into you. 248 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,280 No, I was thinking like kids, the way that I see it. 249 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:14,840 Oh do. You mean like a saying? 250 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:17,280 Yeah. Oh, I thought you meant the 251 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,440 film. I was like, we don't have a film 252 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:20,960 like that. I wish we did. 253 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,280 No. But like, do you know what I 254 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:25,120 mean? That sometimes US straight women 255 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:28,000 do fall into situation ships because at the end of the day 256 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:30,320 testosterone drives men, Yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes. 257 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:31,520 I know what it is. I know that. 258 00:11:31,560 --> 00:11:33,760 Yeah. OK, so you say he's just not 259 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:37,000 that into two girls. We say she's not an avoidant. 260 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:40,360 That's like the thing. It's like she's not really an 261 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,040 avoidant. She just doesn't like she. 262 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,560 Just doesn't like you. Like, because lesbians will come 263 00:11:44,560 --> 00:11:47,280 up with any excuse under the sun as to why the girl won't like 264 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:48,200 her. And then it's like, oh, it's 265 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:50,520 different attachment styles and she's actually just an avoidant. 266 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:51,920 And no, she just doesn't like you. 267 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:53,160 Got it? Yeah. 268 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:56,320 OK. But that's a lot like that shows 269 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:59,360 a lot already of like you guys have gone to therapy. 270 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,280 No, Avoid an attachment style and all that. 271 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:02,280 Crap. Yeah, yeah, we, we know our 272 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:03,560 shit. How refreshing. 273 00:12:03,680 --> 00:12:07,480 We know how to. We know how to describe our a 274 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,120 terrible behaviour. OK, what's the gayest thing 275 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:15,520 you've done this week? Oh, the gayest thing I've done 276 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:17,400 this week. Hold on because there's a lot 277 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:21,400 that's going on through My was pretty gay. 278 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:26,640 I line biked, which I think is already pretty gay into Soho gay 279 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:36,280 to see Fletcher gay gay you're I have looked up how to build a 280 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:41,360 bench. I got a girl to Chuck a rug out 281 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:42,960 for me. That's kind of gay. 282 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:49,200 I went to the gym with you. That's probably right up there, 283 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:51,360 actually. Anyone that goes to the gym with 284 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,920 me is just playing gay gay super. 285 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:55,360 Gay. It was a very gay gay 286 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:59,040 experience. Yeah, OK, that's pretty gay. 287 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:01,760 I know I've done gay this week but I can't think off the top of 288 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,880 my head. Showing up in like a blank in a 289 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,360 black in a white T-shirt and then changing to a white beater. 290 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:10,440 I know, pretty gay. That was pretty gay. 291 00:13:10,680 --> 00:13:13,640 The fact that I'm wearing Adidas sports shorts right now and flip 292 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:14,360 flops gay. That's. 293 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:18,600 The Pretty gay OK, who was your lesbian awakening? 294 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:23,120 It was Angelina Jolie in Tomb Raider and also Miss Honey from 295 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:25,120 Matilda. I get it. 296 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:26,640 Do you know what I? Mean I get it. 297 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:28,760 Although Miss Honey with those dresses. 298 00:13:29,320 --> 00:13:32,320 It was the way that she was. So like, do you know what it 299 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:34,200 was? It was how she would get up 300 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,600 close to Matilda. And I would, like, have to say 301 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:37,720 it so that people can hear it in the mind. 302 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,280 But get up to him and she'd be like, so what's 1 + 1? 303 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,360 And like, she'd always be, like, whispering to her, like, very 304 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:44,360 intensely. And like, yeah, I know that 305 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:45,960 Matilda was a kid. OK, Don't make it weird. 306 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,520 But like, I was a kid and I was thinking, I want to be Matilda. 307 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:50,400 Yeah. Yeah. 308 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:53,160 OK, so none of the Elizabeth, Hurley said. 309 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:55,280 Like she's the demon or she's the devil, whatever. 310 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:56,640 No. OK. 311 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:58,760 And none of that kind of stuff. Did you ever? 312 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:02,120 Have a lesbian awakening. As a straight woman. 313 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,560 I mean. Did you ever look at a woman and 314 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:08,240 go? Yes, and I'll tell you why 315 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:12,920 'cause like, I was always waiting for my boobs to grow, 316 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:16,040 OK, And they never came in. Yeah. 317 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:20,240 So I would look into the TV and like, always fixate in girls 318 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,920 with, like, big boobs. And when Lizzie McGuire or 319 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:26,400 Hannah Montana had the episode about them getting the first 320 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,320 prom like. I think I. 321 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:33,360 Eventually make peace with it at 18 like it took a while. 322 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:35,720 So you were kind of looking at them more in the way of like, I 323 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:39,920 want to be like them, not I want to be with them, you know? 324 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:40,640 Yeah. Yeah. 325 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:42,520 That, that checks out. Yeah. 326 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:46,200 But like, I feel like we like, as women, I can have that, too. 327 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:49,080 Like there's so many times where I look at a woman, it's not like 328 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,720 I can look at her and admire her beauty and be like, I want to be 329 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:53,680 like you, but I don't want to be with you. 330 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:55,880 Got it. Just there's only certain ones 331 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:57,600 that I want to be with, you know? 332 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:01,200 Yeah, yeah. Lizzie McGuire actually was one 333 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,640 of them. I really fancied her. 334 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:04,920 She was such a cutie, such a cutie. 335 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:09,560 OK, you hold. Jokes aside, what's your actual 336 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,080 timeline for moving in with someone? 337 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:18,120 Way over a year, way over, like maybe like a year and a half, at 338 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:20,560 least that minimum. When did you and Scarlett? 339 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:24,560 OK, look, we were young. We were. 340 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:28,720 Younger. We were young, so we got 341 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:30,880 together in the November and I think I moved in around like the 342 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:32,360 March. So like, really not long. 343 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:36,160 But it was a very, very specific situation. 344 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,880 And we were also in our early 20s and there was no contract to 345 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,560 the flat, OK. So it felt a bit less risky, 346 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:44,760 like she was already living there. 347 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:49,640 And it was kind of like ad hoc, you know, it worked until it 348 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:51,960 didn't. Fair, yeah, but it was a good 349 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:52,440 six. Years. 350 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,680 It was a great six years, yeah. So I felt like it worked out. 351 00:15:55,360 --> 00:16:00,000 OK, on to Dayton and romance heart with an arrow emoji. 352 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:03,800 What's a green flag in a woman that straight women totally 353 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:08,800 miss? Wait, what's a green flag in a 354 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:09,920 woman? In a woman? 355 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,840 In a woman. Yeah, like for instance, a green 356 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:15,200 flag in a guy for me will be like, oh, you know, he's kind to 357 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:19,600 his mother or he puts the lid of the. 358 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:24,720 OK, so I've said this time and time again, a top tier quality 359 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:28,200 man is a very low tier quality woman. 360 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:29,720 But like that I know. Yeah. 361 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:33,320 So that is beyond the bare minimum. 362 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:35,400 Yeah. You know, I feel like a green 363 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:42,320 flag for me is, is really good emotional understanding and also 364 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:46,280 giving space to talk. Giving space to talk within 365 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:49,360 women is actually very, very hard to find. 366 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:53,720 And finding someone who will sit there and let you talk, 367 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:57,680 especially when you're talking about like kind of like tough 368 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:01,280 subject and not straight away jump and be like, oh, well, 369 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:05,240 clearly, you know what I mean? Like that for me is a huge green 370 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:08,560 flag. And I think as well, what else 371 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:10,319 would I say is a great green flag? 372 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:15,800 I think honestly being appreciative because there's 373 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:20,800 actually like there's so many things that you can do and, and 374 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,720 especially like being a woman and being a person like me who 375 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:26,280 like, I do go above and beyond like quite a lot just within my 376 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:28,040 nature, Like with anything really. 377 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:32,000 And actually having that appreciated, like having that 378 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:35,000 appreciated and even like the tiny things, that's like a major 379 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,040 green flag for me because I'm like, oh, you're not just 380 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,760 expecting this and you're not just, you feel like you're 381 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:41,240 entitled to it. Do you know what I mean? 382 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:45,240 To be nurtured. To be nurtured. 383 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:49,440 Yeah, OK. Are there any rules about who 384 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:51,920 makes the first move? Because I know there's different 385 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:53,280 types of lesbians. Yeah. 386 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:59,560 Would there be like a, you know, silent agreement that a mask 387 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:04,600 will make the first move? So I think that some women feel 388 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:07,080 this way. OK, some women do feel this way, 389 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:09,280 but I would always say absolutely not. 390 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:11,280 And The thing is I am like femme for femme. 391 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,360 So I'm a femme and I like femme girls. 392 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:17,800 So there's not this stereotype of like the mask and the yeah, 393 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,440 and the femme. But also like notoriously, like 394 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:23,760 masks are very soft. Like, they're very soft and 395 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:26,960 really, like, don't really take the reins as much as maybe a 396 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:29,120 femme would. It's just like down to person. 397 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:32,080 I always think that it should just be equal, like honestly. 398 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:36,480 I'm quite forthcoming though as a person, you know. 399 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:41,080 OK, what's the worst date you've ever been on with another woman? 400 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:46,080 Oh, what's the worst date? I'm really having to think back 401 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:50,120 because obviously, like, this was like way before Scarlett and 402 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:55,080 oh, oh, I know, fuck. So when I was younger, there was 403 00:18:55,080 --> 00:18:58,120 this woman in her 30s, and she wouldn't tell me exactly her age 404 00:18:58,120 --> 00:18:59,840 either, which is like, that's a red flag. 405 00:19:00,360 --> 00:19:04,480 I was like, 22. And she came over to Windsor. 406 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:06,080 She got me a load of tequila shots. 407 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:07,880 We ended up coming back over to London. 408 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:10,760 She ended up getting a hotel after, like, quite a few drinks 409 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:13,880 out in Soho, Slept with her because just whatever. 410 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,480 Yeah. And then the next day, just kind 411 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,720 of like, continued to drink, like, went down to brunch from 412 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:21,680 the hotel. She leaves. 413 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:24,640 She's gone for ages. She comes back and she's crying. 414 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:28,600 She's saying her uncle has died. I'm then like, I'm sorry about 415 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:30,720 your uncle. I'm just sat here with my 416 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:33,360 poached egg. I don't know what to say hanging 417 00:19:33,360 --> 00:19:35,360 out of my ass. I'm like, do you want to go and 418 00:19:35,360 --> 00:19:37,320 get a drink or something like, you know, cheer you up? 419 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:38,720 And so she's like, yeah, yeah, I love that. 420 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,640 So we carry on drinking. And then she's like, I want you 421 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:43,880 to go to this party of mine. I was like, OK. 422 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:45,280 She's like, my friend is hosting a party. 423 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:47,360 So I was like, fine. By the way, she's Spanish 424 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:50,120 either. OK, first red flag. 425 00:19:50,120 --> 00:19:51,320 First red flag should have known. 426 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:55,680 And then we we go over to her friend's place and it turns out 427 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:59,400 that she wanted me there because her ex was going to be there. 428 00:19:59,920 --> 00:20:02,840 And yeah, that was. And then I had to just kind of 429 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,400 sit there all quickly while Sarah and Rex were just yelling 430 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,720 at one another. So I mean, when you're in your 431 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,040 early 20s, you really put up with some stupid shit. 432 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,440 Yeah, I mean the drama of it all. 433 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:17,880 The way I would have left after the first drink, like now in 434 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:20,280 today's world. But, you know, live with that, 435 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,280 yeah. OK, now I'm bringing a bit of 436 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:27,400 like the supper and your food things onto my questions. 437 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,760 Which lesbian character would you invite to a dinner party and 438 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:34,880 what would you serve? Lesbian character? 439 00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,480 Yeah. Lesbian character or like 440 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,720 lesbian person either. Whoever you want most. 441 00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:43,720 OK, I would definitely have Renee Rapp at my table. 442 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:47,560 Like, she's very fun. She's very loud and boisterous. 443 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,360 I would serve her. I'd have to serve her. 444 00:20:50,360 --> 00:20:53,840 I feel like something quite greasy, you know, like I love to 445 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:55,560 cook, like healthy food, but I feel like for her. 446 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,600 The one that did Mean Girls too. Yeah. 447 00:20:57,760 --> 00:20:59,400 OK, got it. I absolutely love her. 448 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,680 I feel like she'd actually really dig like a big roast 449 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:06,160 chicken and like, chew it straight off the fucking bone. 450 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:10,760 And some tacos, Yeah, I would do her tacos. 451 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,880 I'd fish tacos for her. What about a cocktail? 452 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,480 What do you think is the gayest cocktail somebody can order? 453 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:18,640 Oh, A. Beer. 454 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:24,600 Yeah, literally. A beer, probably like an maybe 455 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,480 like a Negroni is quite gay. I don't know why it is. 456 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:31,200 Negroni is Vaguelyatra. Yeah, yes, Vaguelyatra it is, 457 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:35,240 though it's pretty gay and so is like an old fashioned. 458 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,600 I'm so gay. You are so this is This is why I 459 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,240 got you on, because you're just you're just gay. 460 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:44,360 This. Is actually an intervention. 461 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:47,680 Actually, we ever kissed a girl? I've kissed. 462 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:49,320 You. No, you haven't. 463 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,520 Like a smooch. You have not smooched. 464 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:56,120 Is this is a Peck on the lips? Yeah, that's not making out. 465 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:58,120 You've never made out. You've never made out with a 466 00:21:58,120 --> 00:21:59,120 girl. No, you've. 467 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,360 Never. Like full blown. 468 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:04,800 I am in awe. You've never done this? 469 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:07,560 I don't think so. With Tom. 470 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:09,440 Yeah. Like a proper make out? 471 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:10,920 No. What? 472 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:15,240 You're like the one person I've met that's never done that. 473 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:17,280 Really. Yes. 474 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:21,320 What I mean, I don't know. But when you come to Spain, to 475 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:23,560 my hometown, I'll you'll do this. 476 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:27,000 Just shut the fuck up, you've been in London for years, don't 477 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:28,480 blame Spain. It is. 478 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,840 It is rooted in me. What? 479 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,160 Like, I don't know, like don't be gay. 480 00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,240 Just just like, don't be gay. Don't be gay. 481 00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:38,720 How do you say don't be gay in Spanish? 482 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,240 Nosy as gay? Nosy as gay? 483 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:42,560 Nosy as gay? I love how they don't even have 484 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:44,320 a word for gay in Spanish. It's just still gay. 485 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:45,640 Oh no, it's. Slur. 486 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:46,880 Oh really? Yeah. 487 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,880 What? Nosy as Maricon or nosy as 488 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,640 Tortillera? Wow. 489 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:53,160 Yeah. I love how we're probably just 490 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,760 offending all the Spanish lessons right now. 491 00:22:55,120 --> 00:22:58,040 I'm sorry, but like, but that's the I love tortilla. 492 00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:00,720 You know how much I love tortilla and like the word for 493 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,920 lesbian in Spanish is tortillera. 494 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,280 Well, then you're basically a lesbian. 495 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,680 I am basically. But that's really interesting 496 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:09,440 though. So do you feel like maybe being 497 00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:13,640 brought up like that, that gave you a fear like to not even be 498 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,160 open enough to kissing another girl? 499 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:22,560 The thing is that I remember when I went to college, like 500 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,880 sometimes I would kiss my friends but like more out of 501 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:30,120 like sheer joy. Like we're having so much fun 502 00:23:30,120 --> 00:23:33,840 and like there's but like I was always like my favorite. 503 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,440 Yeah, sorry. My favorite things to do at 504 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:42,000 clubs 'cause I was like very kind of like wanted to go out 505 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,720 every single day and like, my favorite things to do was to get 506 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,160 like this shots at the bar called liquid cocaine. 507 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:52,000 Two of those and you would black out and then do what we call. 508 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,440 This is a. Boutiweltas, which is like the 509 00:23:56,440 --> 00:24:01,000 horror lap OK to check out for the guy of the week that I 510 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,160 wanted to hook up with I was busy I hadn't you I'm. 511 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,440 Busy. You were so busy you didn't even 512 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,120 do the agenda of making out with girls to get the guys 513 00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:10,880 interested, which by the way, I hate. 514 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:12,360 But like, a lot of women do that. 515 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,800 Well, for that I am a feminist and I I will not. 516 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:20,400 Your sexuality is not a costume. It's not your costume, bitch. 517 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,720 I can't, I still can't get over this because my next question, 518 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,840 because I thought it was just going to be an obvious yes, my 519 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:27,480 next question was going to be have you set with a woman? 520 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:28,560 Imagine you're like, yeah, I've done that. 521 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:29,880 Well. Done. 522 00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,280 There's no kissing. No, no. 523 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:37,920 Wow. Gosh, God, the more you know 524 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,440 that's crazy to me. Is it? 525 00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:42,120 Because obviously I've slept with men. 526 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:43,840 Yeah, I've slept with many men with. 527 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:45,080 Many men. Many men. 528 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:46,160 Many. Many of them miss it. 529 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,760 Do no, no, see, now this I want you to ask. 530 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:51,480 Yeah. Like, OK, that is part of the 531 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,040 raunchy. Bit discussing with me so like I 532 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,960 no I do not miss it. There's a chilly, not safe word 533 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,200 questions. Love that. 534 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,440 Yeah, OK. Let's skip to that then, OK, So 535 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,000 have you ever slept for the man? Did you ever miss it? 536 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,480 What is it about a man that you don't like? 537 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:12,400 OK, so do you mean just in general or just sleep with? 538 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:16,880 In general, because like there's something like, is it the smell? 539 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:20,480 Is it the emotionally unavailability? 540 00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,160 Is it the? It's the gender, it's the 541 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:28,360 gender, it's just the gender. Like I, I can appreciate a good 542 00:25:28,360 --> 00:25:31,760 looking man. I, I am very sensitive to how 543 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,320 they smell as well. Like I like when I smell a man, 544 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,920 I'm like, oh, like unless he's obviously wearing like a nice 545 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,480 aftershave or whatever, like that's great. 546 00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,960 But just the general smell of a man, I'm like even a masculine 547 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,760 smelling woman. I'm like, no, interesting. 548 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,640 And it's not just that. It's, it's the attraction, 549 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:50,720 right? It's like, I just don't feel 550 00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,680 that thing that is like, Oh yeah, I fancy you. 551 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:55,720 Oh yeah, I want to have sex with you all. 552 00:25:55,800 --> 00:26:00,920 Yeah, I'd like to share my life. And I could never, ever see that 553 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:02,640 with a man. Like I could never. 554 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,720 And I can't get attached and I can't get attached to them in 555 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,920 that way. Like I had boyfriends. 556 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,920 Yeah. And I just didn't care. 557 00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:11,760 I just didn't care. And I actually just thought I 558 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,840 was a cunt. Like I genuinely was just like, 559 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,680 I must be just a bitch. Like I don't care. 560 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:19,440 They probably loved you so. Much and the reason why I'd cry 561 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,520 when we break up was not because I was heartbroken. 562 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,800 It was more of a kind of like ego thing, like if they broke up 563 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,640 with me, I'd be like, what's wrong with me, you know, And, 564 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,520 and I'd start to really think in my head of me, like, God, I'm so 565 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,720 bad at this. Like I, I'm not a good 566 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,720 girlfriend, Like, and then it just turns out that I'm gay and 567 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,560 I actually just didn't give a fuck, you know? 568 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:46,520 And so and, and sleeping with men, absolutely not. 569 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:51,000 They are horrendous in bed. They are so bad. 570 00:26:51,120 --> 00:26:54,960 But did you think they were horrendous when you didn't know 571 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:56,520 what's sleeping with a woman? Yeah. 572 00:26:57,120 --> 00:27:00,800 I was no, actually. So I didn't have a good, I 573 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,440 didn't have a great time. But I thought that that was just 574 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,760 how everyone felt because especially in like movies and 575 00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:08,920 stuff, it's always like, the woman is never really that mad 576 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,560 about sleeping with the guy and like, whatever. 577 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:12,280 Yeah. And I'd sleep with them and be 578 00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:17,200 like, OK, I suppose I could just like put up with what this is 579 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,840 and I'm not repulsed. Do you know what I mean? 580 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:24,600 Like, I wasn't like, you know, I'm not, I'm not like crying, 581 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:27,080 but I was like, this just doesn't. 582 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:32,360 I was like, am I supposed to feel more, you know? 583 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:36,600 And then I slept with a woman and I was like. 584 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,160 Did you, did you dabble back into men or were you like, no, 585 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:48,120 this is my lane? No, I did OK because I was so 586 00:27:48,120 --> 00:27:51,320 scared of being gay. So I was like, no, no, I'll, 587 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,000 I'll give this another try. I'll give it a good old college 588 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:54,920 try. Yeah. 589 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:59,880 And, and I and I forced myself back into that and I slept with 590 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,360 like a few guys after sleeping with like properly with the 591 00:28:03,360 --> 00:28:05,800 first girl. And then I was like, OK, no, I 592 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:11,920 was like, no, I am, I am gay. Like I, I do not enjoy what this 593 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:13,440 is. And, and especially after 594 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:18,040 experiencing it with a woman, I was like, this is an entirely 595 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:22,200 different situation and women are so different in bed to men, 596 00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,720 but women can satisfy women, I believe, sorry, but better than 597 00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:28,120 men. I I do believe that they can 598 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:32,440 like, you know, the body better and like, yeah, you can, you can 599 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:33,840 wear a strap. Like if you're thinking like, 600 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:35,200 oh, when you say that, do you miss it? 601 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:36,520 Like I feel like you're saying, do you miss Dick? 602 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,960 Like you can wear a strap and you can pick whatever size you 603 00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:43,280 want and you never have to feel like you are, you know, like you 604 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,360 could fall in love with the guy. He's got like a tiny Dick. 605 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,200 And then you're like, well, I'll just have to put up with this 606 00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:48,960 then. You know, I would never. 607 00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:50,920 You would never. But like, you know what I mean? 608 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,320 It's like you never even have to have that issue. 609 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:54,880 Yeah. You know, it's like you want a 610 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,280 bigger 1 today or you want. OK. 611 00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:59,320 So that was one of my questions. Is there an equivalent of like, 612 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,480 size doesn't matter but in lesbian world? 613 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:09,280 Or, you know, like a tiny Dick. No, there's. 614 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:13,400 There's none of that. So there's no small Dick energy 615 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,320 that translates into. The bedroom, I think women. 616 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:20,000 If. OK, so so if the woman just 617 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,840 genuinely isn't very good in bed, then yeah, that would be 618 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:26,040 like the equivalent. But there's no equivalent in 619 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:30,000 terms, I don't think in terms of like any physical, like in terms 620 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,680 of a physical thing where you'd be like, Oh no, her like her 621 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:34,600 clip was too small. Like, do you know what I mean? 622 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,840 That's not something that we really think about. 623 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:38,200 Amazing. Yeah. 624 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,440 So there's not that issue and you can switch up sizes and you 625 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:42,800 can do whatever. And yeah. 626 00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:48,040 OK so as a woman, do you think that there's ever amongst women 627 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,720 like oh I am scared of getting naked in front of her for the 628 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,080 first time because I'm self-conscious about my small 629 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,640 boobs or this boob is a lot larger than the other? 630 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,600 I think that women can make you feel a lot safer. 631 00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:05,560 But I personally, like, I've always had, like I try and be as 632 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,080 confident as possible because I feel like confidence is sexy. 633 00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,680 Yes. But I'm still like, ah, like, 634 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:14,920 especially when like women are so beautiful, like obviously all 635 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,320 shapes and sizes, but just like Steven with a hot gun and be 636 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:18,720 like, I wish that my body looked like yours. 637 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,680 Like sometimes that comes into my head and I'm like, ah, she's 638 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,880 not gonna like my body because it's nowhere near as good as 639 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:25,600 hers. Like, yeah, that's kind of where 640 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,200 my brain goes to. But in general, no. 641 00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,520 And, and like, women just love women's bodies. 642 00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,400 So it's just kind of like you feel very adored, you know? 643 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:35,920 Yeah. OK. 644 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:40,640 I have a question, going back into like sleeping with men and 645 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:46,520 whatnot, do you think that then there's something and you know, 646 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,600 maybe I'm stepping a bit too into like the woke of it all, 647 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,760 But like, have you ever been attracted to a trans woman? 648 00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:57,440 Or do you think that there's something within the smell or 649 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:01,640 whatever it is that you feel that anatomically you're not 650 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:05,160 attracted to in a man that like you just cannot separate? 651 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,160 That's really that's a really interesting question because 652 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:14,520 also like a trans woman will go on like estrogen, so probably 653 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,720 wouldn't have that like smell, that testosterone smell that a 654 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:22,480 man has. Would I sleep with a trans woman 655 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,800 was post op yes. OK, so she was post operation 656 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,960 100%. I see trans women as women, but 657 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:34,400 pre OP just for me, like personally, just because I don't 658 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,720 know, I that's a struggle. But I'm also not saying no. 659 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,040 I'm just saying I don't think so. 660 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:41,920 But I would certainly date a trans woman. 661 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,880 Yeah, I wouldn't like, you know, I feel like if the energy is 662 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,040 right. Damage do you think lesbian porn 663 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:55,360 has done to you guys and do you ever dis like get into or land 664 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:59,480 with maybe a straight girl that is dabbling into the gay world 665 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:03,360 and you're like, oh, I see, I see that where you did your 666 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,680 research. Yeah, I I think that lesbian 667 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,800 porn is nothing like lesbian sex. 668 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:12,360 So me and my lesbian friends, but find me a lesbian who 669 00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,320 watches it. Like no one, No lesbian watches 670 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:17,520 lesbian porn because it's just an embarrassment. 671 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:19,760 Like it's so bad and it feels so false and just. 672 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:21,720 And if we've got long nails, I'm like, what are you doing? 673 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:26,560 Yeah, no one. There it is. 674 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:27,520 There it is. Yeah. 675 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,240 Those would you, you would give a smear test with these. 676 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,080 Yeah, you could collect some cells. 677 00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:35,200 Yeah, in the cervix. Mellie's sister once told me she 678 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,640 was picking me up in DC and she was like, oh, I love your nails. 679 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,480 And I was like, well, you could have these nails. 680 00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:40,760 Too. No, you fucking couldn't. 681 00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,440 Like is it I need to tell you something when 2 girls really 682 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,920 really love each other? Yeah, we do not be wearing 683 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:51,040 acrylics maybe. Yeah, I what was the question 684 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,960 again? Do how much damage do you think 685 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:55,080 that? Oh, how much damage? 686 00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,640 Yeah, Yeah. I think, I think in terms of 687 00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:01,000 just like the sexualization of lesbians, 100%, yeah. 688 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,200 In terms of actually like girls wanting to sleep with girls, I 689 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:04,560 don't think that it's done that damage. 690 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,880 I do genuinely think that a lot of women feel that urge to sleep 691 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:10,200 with the other women. Yeah. 692 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,280 Do you think that in this day and age where I think there's a 693 00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:17,520 lot more talk about fluidity and like whatever, being a bit more 694 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:23,480 open about what you desire has brought a few more confused 695 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,840 girls into your school? Yes. 696 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:29,200 OK. Are there tell tale signs of 697 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:32,840 like, how can you maybe distinguish somebody who's like 698 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,360 gay for real or somebody who's just like having a bit of fun? 699 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:36,800 Depends how wet they get. I'm joking. 700 00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:43,680 That's such an awful joke. So no, because. 701 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:45,960 Well, look. Yeah, OK. 702 00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:52,440 I think that with women, I think that it's really good by the 703 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:55,800 way, this like this whole new open door of fluidity, because I 704 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:59,880 do also believe that like a lot of sexuality can be fluid and I 705 00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:03,040 think that people wanting to explore that in any way, shape 706 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:04,800 or form fucking amazing. Do it. 707 00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,400 I'd always just say just do it because you've also got nothing 708 00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:10,199 to lose ever. Like and if you didn't like it, 709 00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:14,400 you didn't like it. You know tell tale signs that 710 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:18,920 sometimes when you just be the fact that women are 711 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:25,120 indoctrinated since birth to want male validation and want 712 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:29,280 male gaze upon them. Yes and, but, but what I would 713 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,960 say is that sometimes the type of girls are like that and maybe 714 00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:35,719 wearing a bit too much about how that guy is feeling about this 715 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:39,040 or like if a guy is watching whilst it's happening or maybe 716 00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:40,800 it talks about a guy quite a lot. 717 00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:44,360 And I'm like, OK, well maybe I could be completely wrong, but I 718 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:50,400 do just feel like some people like to say that they are part 719 00:34:51,159 --> 00:34:55,239 this community, right? But wouldn't and have actually 720 00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,280 actively said though that they wouldn't sleep with a woman. 721 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:03,120 And for me, I find that frustrating. 722 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,600 Yeah, call me biphobic if you want to call me biphobic, 723 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,880 whatever. I don't think it's biphobic if 724 00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,080 you are. It's not coat tailing. 725 00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,520 Is it coat tailing? Right, it is a bit of coat. 726 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:16,920 Yeah, it's coat. Yeah, it's coat tailing. 727 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:18,800 So I was trying to think if that was the right time, coat tailing 728 00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:25,000 to to believe that you are a part of a community in which you 729 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:28,200 actively aren't really a part of. 730 00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:31,840 And and by the way, you can be an ally and, like, I welcome you 731 00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,800 into anything that I do, right. But to say that you are a 732 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:39,320 bisexual, but you actually have no interest really in women, I 733 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:43,720 find that damaging because I also think that it feeds into 734 00:35:43,720 --> 00:35:47,000 the trope of, well, you know, bisexuals aren't real. 735 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,320 If anything, they do more harm to the bisexual community than 736 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,000 they do the lesbian community because then they're not taken 737 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,280 seriously. Yeah. 738 00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,080 You know, but that's just me being me. 739 00:35:56,080 --> 00:36:01,960 I think that honestly everyone just needs to just try and do 740 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,440 whatever they want. And maybe if they feel like that 741 00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:08,240 whole life has been, I don't know, it can be really eye 742 00:36:08,240 --> 00:36:10,520 opening. Like I know some people that 743 00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:15,440 have like at a later age and they're loving it so. 744 00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:22,960 Do you think that there's maybe some women that could be open 745 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:27,160 just to the physical part of it? Can there be just sex between 746 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:27,840 women? Yeah. 747 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:32,080 Yeah, 100 percent, 100%. I also think that like, I would 748 00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:36,000 call that bisexual. So like, you are not bi 749 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,880 romantic. You're like literally just 750 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,720 bisexual. You may just enjoy sitting with 751 00:36:40,720 --> 00:36:43,320 the women, but maybe you don't form that emotional connection 752 00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,480 to them. And some people and some women 753 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,360 have sex with men but don't form the emotional attachment to 754 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,040 them. So it can go both ways. 755 00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:55,000 But yeah, that that can happen. You can just like sleep with a 756 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,840 woman and just not it just be sex. 757 00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,800 But you both have to be there, right? 758 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,240 You know, like that's a recipe for disaster. 759 00:37:03,240 --> 00:37:06,520 If one of you isn't 1 of you isn't got it, It's kind of bad. 760 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:12,560 OK, real talk though, how long is too long in bed? 761 00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:18,080 A day. 24 hours. 24 hours with no water? 762 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:24,000 OK, that's how long is too long. Once you reach the six hour 763 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:29,840 mark, you have to be like, OK, why don't we take a breather, 764 00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:30,920 right? Yeah. 765 00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,720 How many orgasms do you think you can fit into those six 766 00:37:33,720 --> 00:37:35,600 hours? Do you think it's by hour or by 767 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:39,120 orgasm? Kind of trying to do like a it's 768 00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:42,680 usually it's yeah. I think by orgasm I'd say I'd 769 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:46,120 say my Max. My Max in like 1 session would 770 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,600 probably be 7. Oh my God, you guys are spoiled. 771 00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:54,920 But as well, well, we're lucky and we've got stamina, so find 772 00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:59,960 you a girl that has stamina. OK, is it true that lesbians can 773 00:37:59,960 --> 00:38:02,240 tell us somebody's good in bed just by how they sit on the 774 00:38:02,240 --> 00:38:07,880 floor? No, absolutely fucking not. 775 00:38:08,240 --> 00:38:11,000 Is this no crap? That's hilarious. 776 00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:17,760 That is so funny, I feel like if you are going to indicate anyone 777 00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:20,240 at being like good in bed, maybe by the way that they hold their 778 00:38:20,240 --> 00:38:22,640 drink would probably be a bit of an indicator. 779 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,480 For me it's like a confidence thing. 780 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,160 But sitting on the floor, No probably not. 781 00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,400 I don't know, I could probably see how flexible they are. 782 00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,400 But also lesbians always sit in really weird positions. 783 00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,520 Like this is killing me right now to sit like this. 784 00:38:34,720 --> 00:38:38,200 Like a normal person. OK, so more like the way they 785 00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,640 hold their drink. I have to say I've seen videos 786 00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,520 of me holding a mic and it's giving OK. 787 00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,800 I know. It's even extremely 788 00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:47,560 uncomfortable. I hold it like this. 789 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,520 Like if you could picture me holding a penis like that, if 790 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,920 that, like if that is the way that you also translate, I'm 791 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,080 like what? Like just. 792 00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,680 Anyway, yeah, I feel like if they were to like grab it, like 793 00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:01,800 grab and be like strong with it and be very like confident and I 794 00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:06,440 don't know that and just trying to think of what else, but I 795 00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,840 don't know. OK, so there's no telling like 796 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,440 you know, for the longest time. I tell. 797 00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:16,120 Yeah. That big hands or a big nose? 798 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:16,960 Right. Yeah. 799 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,200 I mean, with the lesbians, it quite literally is big hands, 800 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:21,720 you know? Oh. 801 00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:23,680 Right. It's just out there. 802 00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:25,160 It's. Literally right out there. 803 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,720 Anything. Mine are tiny, yours are huge. 804 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,960 I mean, they're they're a lot of nail, but. 805 00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:32,920 Yeah, see, yeah, you'd be a great lesbian with those 806 00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:34,440 fingers, but hey ho. But like. 807 00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,320 Is there a big ratio of pianist that turn? 808 00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:38,480 Lesbian. I think so. 809 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,920 Otherwise, yeah, pianist. Pianist the pussy really quick 810 00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:47,400 transition. I I'm ashamed of my small hands. 811 00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:51,880 Ashamed. Is it is it the smallness or is 812 00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:55,600 it the harshness? Because like, every time you 813 00:39:56,040 --> 00:40:00,000 come into my house, I feel like I'm doing the lesbian world a 814 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,000 favor. You are, but they look quite 815 00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,560 dry. But and goes, it's not the size 816 00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:05,840 of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. 817 00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,480 You know what I mean? It's like I feel like I should 818 00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,440 have huge hands. You totally give huge hands. 819 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:13,400 Huge hands. Like I wouldn't want to be 820 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,400 slapped by you. No, they're strong. 821 00:40:15,720 --> 00:40:17,240 They're strong. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 822 00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:20,760 All right, to go down on a woman. 823 00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:28,040 For the first time discussion so much really scared OK, because I 824 00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:31,080 feel I don't know if you have like the same thing, but it's 825 00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:34,640 always just been a bit like men don't want to do it. 826 00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,480 Right. Right, and and usually like. 827 00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,000 I feel like that has now changed. 828 00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,720 That's definitely changed now. I mean, that's gay as fuck, by 829 00:40:41,720 --> 00:40:42,960 the way. Like, why would a man not want 830 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:46,040 to do that? Dina's almost like a almost like 831 00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,360 a dirty thing to do. Like, do you know what I mean? 832 00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:50,240 Like a bit like unhygienic. I don't know. 833 00:40:50,240 --> 00:40:53,080 I I felt like when I was growing up it was because they'd always 834 00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:54,920 been, ah, smells of fish. Like they'd always like me. 835 00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:56,280 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Right. 836 00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,360 So like, well, I don't want to, I don't want to do that. 837 00:40:58,720 --> 00:41:03,480 And I was really, really scared, but I was like, no, just give it 838 00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,360 a go. And absolutely loved it. 839 00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:08,920 You loved it? Loved it, Yeah. 840 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,200 And then I kind of liked it more as I as I got like more 841 00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:15,680 experience. Do you have your favorite things 842 00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:21,120 that you like in the bedroom? So I yes, I love making girls 843 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,120 squirt. OK. 844 00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:26,240 What's, what's the manual? The manual for that? 845 00:41:26,240 --> 00:41:28,840 Yeah, there's like a certain hook there is. 846 00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,840 There is something that I do. Yeah, there's yeah. 847 00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,680 And then and either the girl will squirt from like 848 00:41:35,720 --> 00:41:40,400 penetration or clit and I can always suss out which one they 849 00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:43,360 are and I will. Make it What a superpower. 850 00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,040 Yeah, it is a superpower. Yeah, But I do. 851 00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,520 I love. Yeah, I love. 852 00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:49,600 I love. Yeah. 853 00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:51,640 Giving head I like. I don't know. 854 00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,440 It's a passion. Great. 855 00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:55,480 OK. Scissoring's so fun. 856 00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:01,800 Logistically complicated. It can be OK, yeah, but actually 857 00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,520 it's quite simple once you get the good the good technique. 858 00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:05,920 Do you? Think that scissoring is 859 00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,720 something that you graduate to. Yeah, you can't start with the 860 00:42:09,720 --> 00:42:12,160 scissor. You can't, OK, you can't. 861 00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:15,280 Like I feel like, yeah. Instead of rock, paper, 862 00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:16,000 scissors. What could it be? 863 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:21,040 It could be like finger lick scissor, finger lick scissor. 864 00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:22,720 Like which one are you going to go buy? 865 00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:27,280 Yeah, No, I, yeah, I feel like it is a graduation unless you're 866 00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,040 with someone already that's experienced. 867 00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:31,160 OK. But it's quite like it's very 868 00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:32,600 intimate. That's what I like about it, I 869 00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:34,760 think. And I and I love, I love the 870 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:36,160 strap. I do. 871 00:42:37,240 --> 00:42:41,040 Interesting to wear. It both OK, yeah. 872 00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:51,080 What is it? Does it look like a penis or is 873 00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:56,320 it just like a a stick? Is it just like just a stick? 874 00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,520 It's just like a thing. It's just like a twig. 875 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,520 Has the shape of a penis, but like usually like purple or pink 876 00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,760 or something like it's not like. Veiny. 877 00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,960 It doesn't have like, so it's it's got the texture of it and 878 00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:09,440 it's quite like soft, like silicone. 879 00:43:09,720 --> 00:43:14,160 OK, but it's because that's what feels good inside, you know what 880 00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:15,800 I mean? So it's not necessarily thinking 881 00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:19,480 of it as a Dick. It's just like just looks that 882 00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:21,000 way. I I don't even think I really 883 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,320 like look at it, to be honest. It's just kind of, yeah, like 884 00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:26,440 I'm more interested in like, who's, like, attached to it. 885 00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,400 But then again, it's like that control thing. 886 00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,640 It's the intimacy of it all. It's like, yeah. 887 00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:34,880 OK, so top three moves in bed for you. 888 00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,720 Letting out all my secrets. I never talk about stuff like 889 00:43:39,720 --> 00:43:41,440 this on here, so you're really getting it out of me. 890 00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,520 Top three moves. Careful about this one. 891 00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:51,600 I that I do or that I like. That you, that you like. 892 00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,920 OK. Focus the one you love to do. 893 00:43:56,480 --> 00:44:03,520 Love so #1 #1 going down on the girl. 894 00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,920 But a specific move is where I will. 895 00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:14,920 Oh I feel like, why do I feel like I'm talking to my mum right 896 00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:16,320 now? But Oh my God, I hope my mum 897 00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:20,640 doesn't listen to this. Like I will suck the clip but 898 00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,640 then also put pressure on the clip with my tongue at the same 899 00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:23,960 time. That's kind of like a thing that 900 00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:28,920 I do. Just run out here the I. 901 00:44:29,720 --> 00:44:32,400 But you would like that to be done to you. 902 00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,960 I like doing that, but also I'd like it to be done to me too. 903 00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:37,800 Yeah. Tongue fucked. 904 00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:39,960 Great. OK, yeah, everyone loves that 905 00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:41,560 though. No, everyone loves that. 906 00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:43,160 Tongue fucked. Yeah. 907 00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:49,840 Yeah, I love, just love. Do you know what a good, a good 908 00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:52,840 old fashioned finger, like a good old fashioned fingering, 909 00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,680 like there is nothing wrong with that. 910 00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:58,760 And but if it's done in like the right way with a, with a lot of 911 00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:02,440 like move like that. I I feel like a big thing for me 912 00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,000 is like having someone literally like on top of me or like me 913 00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,760 being on top of them, like being like very close, yes, whilst 914 00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,640 it's all happening, like very like intimate and very like eyes 915 00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,760 staring and like smiling and like having fun with it. 916 00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,320 I love to ride the strap. That's a fun thing to do, 917 00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:19,880 cowboy. Just cowgirl that shit out. 918 00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:26,720 Do you think that you guys spend more time with pre gaming than 919 00:45:26,720 --> 00:45:29,960 the, you know, heteronormative couples might do? 920 00:45:30,720 --> 00:45:33,680 Like foreplay, Yes. Well, I feel like the foreplay 921 00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:38,560 is like it. Our sex is like foreplay but on 922 00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,360 crack, right? So it's like our sex is just 923 00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:45,840 like really top level foreplay. And then the strap is like, some 924 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:47,880 people don't like it, some people don't like wearing it or 925 00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:49,600 taking it or like whatever, right. 926 00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:52,080 So like some couples just might not ever do that. 927 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:57,080 But yeah, I feel like our version of for playing is just 928 00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:01,120 like a lot of touching, a lot of making out, a lot of just like 929 00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:04,640 getting very close and stuff and then going into it, right, 930 00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:06,840 Right. And then it's just like a lot 931 00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,440 more intense. Like I feel like, I do feel like 932 00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:11,280 girls are generally just more intense. 933 00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,840 Like, it's a lot more like, yeah. 934 00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:18,680 OK, have you ever had a sexual injury like thrown your back out 935 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,160 through riding the strap? Did I not tell you about the 936 00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,520 sexual injury? Did you throw your back by 937 00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:30,040 wearing the strap? I was on a marble island and I 938 00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,920 tried to get a different angle, so I swung my leg. 939 00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,960 Oh my God. So I swung my leg over the 940 00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,240 counter to try and like get one up. 941 00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,440 And then I jumped. But I didn't realize how close I 942 00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:45,800 was to the counter. So you can imagine my legs are 943 00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:49,320 like akimbo and I'm trying to jump to to get behind. 944 00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,240 I don't know what I thought I was doing. 945 00:46:51,720 --> 00:46:58,200 And I bashed my clit into the corner of a marble kitchen 946 00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:58,800 counter. Oh. 947 00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,720 Girl. Got down, finished the job by 948 00:47:02,720 --> 00:47:08,880 the way, whilst in agony and then I look down and I'm just 949 00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:13,800 bleeding and it was, my clip was cut in four different areas. 950 00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,760 Do you know something? It was so bad to me. 951 00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:18,560 Really, really, yes. What happened? 952 00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:23,200 When I was a kid, I was in the playground and there was one of 953 00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,160 those like metal ladders that goes like a bridge. 954 00:47:26,240 --> 00:47:28,040 And like, I climbed to the top of it. 955 00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:30,320 I'm from the top. I thought it'd be a good idea to 956 00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:35,040 like, take a lap, take a leap, sorry, take a leap from the top 957 00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,600 to the ground. And like, I miscalculated and I 958 00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:44,120 just like banged like my legs felt like in one of those bars. 959 00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:47,400 And I also something happened there and I was bleeding. 960 00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,560 How sick did that make you feel though? 961 00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:51,320 And they had to take me to hospital. 962 00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:53,400 Yeah, I'm surprised that I didn't go, but I was also like, 963 00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:54,760 I'm not going to hospital for this. 964 00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:56,840 Oh, I'm just not going. Well, let me. 965 00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,960 Tell you, my dad had to pick me up because my mum was travelling 966 00:47:59,960 --> 00:48:01,680 and I was embarrassing, so embarrassing. 967 00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:05,600 And I was like 6. Is that basically Obviously my 968 00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:09,480 hymen gone which came in handy? Yeah, amazing. 969 00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:13,120 Yeah, but, well, I I was in. I was in agony. 970 00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,480 Like agony. I can't imagine as a kid, that 971 00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:16,640 was awful. Yeah. 972 00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,760 I mean, it was bad. And I was also just like, Oh my 973 00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:21,840 God, what if I lose sensation in my clit? 974 00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,400 It is game over for me. Like, that's it. 975 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:26,200 That's it. I'm off this. 976 00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:27,560 I'm off this planet Earth. I. 977 00:48:27,720 --> 00:48:30,760 Can't well, you could still do the hook go down girls and 978 00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:31,640 write. This is not the. 979 00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,360 Same. It's not the same. 980 00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,640 It's not the same. But no, I actually manifested it 981 00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:38,840 to heal very quickly. It took me 3 days. 982 00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:41,160 Amazing. That was good. 983 00:48:42,720 --> 00:48:44,800 Oh, that was so bad. OK I have one sex. 984 00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:49,960 One last sex question. Do lesbians ever entertain anal 985 00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,280 sex? Yes. 986 00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:56,280 How common is it? I don't know. 987 00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,120 I, I think, do you know what I think it is about anal sex with 988 00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:05,480 women is that it is a, it's what's the word? 989 00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,520 It's taboo. Oh, I thought you were going to 990 00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,120 say it's a lesser hole. It's a lesser hole. 991 00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:13,800 It's a taboo. So it's like, that's what's so 992 00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:16,560 hot and sexy about it because it's like, oh, this is like so 993 00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:17,920 naughty, do you know what I mean? 994 00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:20,680 So I think that that and also fuck me, you've done like 995 00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:22,600 everything a million times already. 996 00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:24,120 So it's like, well, let's just try that one. 997 00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,840 And some women get pleasure out of anal as well. 998 00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:32,240 So it's like it's just, yeah. So it, it does happen. 999 00:49:32,240 --> 00:49:37,000 It's not like it doesn't happen, but yeah, I'm yet to do it. 1000 00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:40,440 But you never know. We'll keep us posted. 1001 00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:43,400 I will keep you posted. I'll message you if it happens. 1002 00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:46,960 Please send me a video. Yeah, of my gaping ass, yes. 1003 00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:52,360 Let me now, me and Andy now. Me in hospital, I took it too 1004 00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:54,640 far. OK. 1005 00:49:54,720 --> 00:49:56,840 I think that's. Yeah, it's everything. 1006 00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:57,520 God. Yeah. 1007 00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,360 I mean, it's a lot of questions. I feel like you, God, you've 1008 00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,480 been waiting for this one. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. 1009 00:50:03,720 --> 00:50:08,240 I mean, I find it so interesting because you really are so 1010 00:50:08,240 --> 00:50:12,840 lesbian, less like you just haven't had any experience. 1011 00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:18,880 So it's kind of amazing to me. Well, you're I've kissed girls, 1012 00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:24,120 just not with Tong and don't. Worry I'm going to get you drunk 1013 00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:27,840 Diane's tomorrow and in that pool I'm going to make in front 1014 00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:31,240 of Scarlet. But like, I've also been on so 1015 00:50:31,240 --> 00:50:34,000 many dates with you girls, yeah. Oh, Jesus. 1016 00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:36,560 Yeah. I mean, you, we're look, it's 1017 00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:37,680 fine. We don't need to kiss. 1018 00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:39,560 We we've got the relationship already. 1019 00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:41,720 Yeah, we're already there. We jumped straight to marriage. 1020 00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:44,320 Exactly. But I mean God, Jesus Christ. 1021 00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:47,760 OK. And then my last question, what 1022 00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,480 is your favorite thing about this community that you guys 1023 00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,960 have created? I think it's how passionate 1024 00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,800 everyone is like. Do you think like it's broken 1025 00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:59,880 down some taboos and it's made people feel more comfortable? 1026 00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:03,120 Yeah, and also just how fucking badass like everyone is. 1027 00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:08,000 Like the women in this community are crazy, like in the best 1028 00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:09,480 ways. They're so funny. 1029 00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:12,080 They're very intelligent. They've all got like, great 1030 00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:13,640 jobs. They're very confident. 1031 00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:16,600 And they're just so unapologetic now. 1032 00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:19,960 And even the ones who weren't maybe before definitely are now. 1033 00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:23,560 And I think that it's just growing in the most beautiful 1034 00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,120 way, I think. And and it's never boring. 1035 00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:29,160 So I think that that's it's kind of like being a part of a secret 1036 00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:30,640 club. And that's what I like about it. 1037 00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:31,760 Love it. Yeah. 1038 00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:33,080 And they're all hot. So. 1039 00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:34,960 Yeah, they are all hot. They are all hot. 1040 00:51:35,240 --> 00:51:37,400 Come to a couple of the events as all you see but the. 1041 00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:40,120 Other day I showed up with my dog and everybody was just 1042 00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,480 crushing on the dog and not me. I mean, yeah, but if you wanted 1043 00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,640 to pull, it would take you 2 seconds. 1044 00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:47,640 Yeah, 2 seconds. Don't worry, they all fancied 1045 00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,280 you as well. You're you're fine. 1046 00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,480 So Iza, thank you so much. Where can everyone find you? 1047 00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:54,920 Plug yourself, baby. Plug that. 1048 00:51:55,400 --> 00:52:00,240 So you can find me at We found Therapy pod on Instagram and 1049 00:52:00,240 --> 00:52:03,600 TikTok. I am trying to convince Freya to 1050 00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:07,640 teach me how to use TikTok. Yeah, I think that we should do 1051 00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:10,160 a TikTok dance. Tomorrow is a perfect 1052 00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:13,680 opportunity to recreate that scene in Sex and the City where 1053 00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:18,040 they go to this pool, drinks with the trans ladies when 1054 00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,360 Samantha moves to the meat packing. 1055 00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,040 Well then, there you go. Yeah, well, let's make it 1056 00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:25,120 happen, okay? And do anything with you honey, 1057 00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:27,120 anything. And thank you so much. 1058 00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,960 I love you and lesbians please go and check her out She is 1059 00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:33,360 amazing not only is she one of my beautiful best friends, but 1060 00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,800 she is also very talented. Thank you so much and thank you 1061 00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:38,600 so much for coming on. And I'm sorry for traumatizing 1062 00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,920 you, but I had. To Oh no, thank you for putting 1063 00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:44,280 at ease a lot of my thoughts. Now I feel like I've got to be 1064 00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:46,920 even more curious. Just wait for it. 1065 00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,680 Yeah, well, you asked the fluidity question, so yeah, 1066 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:52,320 well, it's only a matter of time. 1067 00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:56,080 It's only your one failed day away, your one more failed day 1068 00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,480 away from dating a woman. Girl, then I'll see you 1069 00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:00,240 tomorrow. Mine are yours. 1070 00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:03,160 Yeah, literally mine are my old place. 1071 00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,800 Yeah, mine are my old place. Thank you so much for having me. 1072 00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,080 I love this community and I love you guys. 1073 00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:10,840 You, we love you. We love you lesbians. 1074 00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:11,960 And we'll speak to you next week. 1075 00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:12,600 Bye.