1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:02,320 Get your therapist on speed dial. 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:04,920 Get your better help on speed dial. 3 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:08,760 I'm not actually joking. And make sure you know where 4 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:28,070 your local delulu bin house. Welcome to episode 38 of The 5 00:00:28,070 --> 00:00:30,470 Lesbian. Subcup, I think it is 38. 6 00:00:30,870 --> 00:00:34,710 God, why does it feel like we've done 2000 but also 10? 7 00:00:34,710 --> 00:00:36,150 Like I yeah, there's no in between. 8 00:00:36,150 --> 00:00:39,960 Yeah, it's just, it feels like I felt Joe. 9 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:41,200 What? It makes me feel so lazy, 10 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:43,520 though, because I go on other people's podcast channels and 11 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,840 they're like #840 and like fog. Yeah, but. 12 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,640 Freya, we've only been doing it a year. 13 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:50,400 We physically couldn't fucking fit in it. 14 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,440 These people have been doing it for years. 840 episodes in a 15 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:58,200 year, that's more than 32A day. Yeah, no. 16 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:00,920 That's no, I know, darling, but it's just that thing, you know 17 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:01,800 when you look at it and you're like. 18 00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,800 No, I don't care because I look at my 38 episodes and I go, I'm 19 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:06,400 fucking smashing it, motherfucker. 20 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,400 I've absolutely smashed. Well, do you know what's so 21 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,280 funny? Talk about smashing it. 22 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:14,000 Fucking hell, talk about smashing it. 23 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,920 We had. To smash some pussy last night. 24 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:17,840 Did you Boo? It's yours. 25 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:22,000 Yeah, with a razor after not shaving for two weeks. 26 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:26,360 Oh, I need to buy a new razor. Anyway, we put out a video last 27 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,920 week which has gone viral because we are putting our very. 28 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:32,000 Interested judge of a lesbian? That's right. 29 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,000 Yeah, we love. To work out for lesbian as a 30 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,480 lesbian, it is one of the the funnest things I'll ever do in 31 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:40,600 this sad little life. Sad little life Jane. 32 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,320 So we basically put up everyone's names and we got 33 00:01:43,320 --> 00:01:45,280 everyone to guess whether they are straight or gay. 34 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:50,480 The funniest bit about this that after 3.3 million views, the 35 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:54,240 amount of comments that are going live, live, live, live's 36 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:57,160 got that heteroface live. Do you have anything that you'd 37 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,680 like to say? I'm fucking sick of it. 38 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:04,680 Liv's fuming because Liv is 100,000 million percent gay. 39 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:06,840 So the amount of people that have been like, oh, it's 40 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,600 definitely live, definitely live a definitely live. 41 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:13,680 It's giving you a crisis. It has given me a crisis, but 42 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:16,040 it's also quite funny because all of their gay dolls are 43 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,680 terrible then terrible lesbians. True. 44 00:02:18,920 --> 00:02:21,440 You do look straight. In their defence. 45 00:02:21,640 --> 00:02:24,320 In their defence, you don't give off you. 46 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,160 Yeah, that is, we are going to do a whole episode on this, but 47 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:31,360 you don't give off any gay until you're in the mood of but. 48 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:32,760 Well, you should. Care. 49 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:34,920 Because that's not. Hitting people's gay dars. 50 00:02:34,920 --> 00:02:36,480 That's their. Problem. 51 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:37,720 No, it's not. It's your problem. 52 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:38,600 Up. You're gay. 53 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:39,840 Up. You're gay, Liv. 54 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,000 She would have been tired. I said what that what let Liv 55 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,280 down was the fact that she was holding a wine glass. 56 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,800 If you'd have been doing that pose with a beer, you would have 57 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:51,920 been all right. No, do you know what it was? 58 00:02:51,920 --> 00:02:54,000 It was the pose as well. And loads of people have said 59 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,240 that it's the pose because. She done the little sweet smile 60 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:57,920 with the eyes rolling up. Yeah. 61 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:01,280 So that I know. But the eye rolling up OK. 62 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,000 But I'm a big I'm a big lesbian. Would you ever see me doing that 63 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:04,840 pose? No. 64 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,880 Never. I would never shame shame 65 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,800 myself. But the comments were saying, 66 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,360 and I've said this to Liv before and it is because the male 67 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:19,000 species is fucking disgusting. But with big eyes that look up 68 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:21,080 and big lips. What are they thinking of? 69 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,000 Blowjob. And that is why a lot of girls 70 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,360 do that pose, the straight pose. Lip has got them blowjob lips. 71 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:31,080 And those blowjob eyes. Sorry, love. 72 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,280 Don't go anywhere near a Dick though, all right? 73 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:39,880 Anyway, never, never, never. So that has been giving us a lot 74 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,240 of entertainment because every time I look at my phone I just 75 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:45,680 say live, live, definitely live, 100% live. 76 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:50,400 We can confirm she's gay. But everyone else, you're going 77 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,280 to have to wait for the reveal because there might be some 78 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:54,760 shockers in there. You never know. 79 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:57,680 It's actually me and Scarlett. We are straight. 80 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:00,400 I'd actually have to come out as straight and it would be more 81 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,720 terrifying to come out as straight now as it were to come 82 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:03,280 out as gay. Well. 83 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:05,480 We've said it, said it, won't say it again. 84 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,640 If I woke up tomorrow and suddenly was heterosexual, my 85 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:14,000 life wouldn't be worth living. I would dive straight off a 86 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:15,680 building, the highest building I could find. 87 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:19,160 I just wouldn't want to live that lifestyle and it is a 88 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,920 lifestyle. It's not for me. 89 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,720 That lifestyle is not for me. It is. 90 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,720 Not for me. Imagine that sperm looked like 91 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:29,920 tadpole. It does. 92 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,560 No, but like actually in real life like. 93 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,800 Oh, if they were big. Well, under a microscope it 94 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:37,240 does. Microscope. 95 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:40,960 Microscope. I'd love to have a microphone. 96 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:46,040 Anyway, we digress. Yeah, So if you don't know what 97 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,080 we're talking about, Ari, the video, check it out. 98 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,320 Go and follow us on our Instagram, which is at Lesbian 99 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,800 Supper Club Pod. That is at Lesbian Supper Club 100 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:58,720 Pod. Today we are talking about the 101 00:04:58,840 --> 00:05:02,240 infamous lesbian breakup timeline. 102 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:08,760 So we were chatting the other day like always, and I can't 103 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:10,320 remember who we were talking about. 104 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,480 We're talking about someone it might have been in our actual 105 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,320 life or on online going through a breakup. 106 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,560 And we were like, how long have they been together? 107 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,880 And we worked out. I think it had been around 13 108 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:24,080 months. 13 to 14 months. And this is something me and you 109 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,000 have discussed previously, isn't it? 110 00:05:26,280 --> 00:05:31,920 Is that we find that lesbians, if you can make it past the 15th 111 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:36,800 month, you're likely in it for quite a long time. 112 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:43,600 If you can't get past the 13th, 14th and 15th months, which is 113 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:47,480 the make or break months, you will break. 114 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:53,160 But if you get through it, you will be make because those 115 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:56,760 months are critical in the lesbian timeline, because we all 116 00:05:56,760 --> 00:06:02,360 move so fast that the first year we've, let's be honest, we've 117 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:06,120 probably shagged over 1000 times we've moved in together. 118 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,080 We've done all family introductions. 119 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:13,240 A dog is likely we you've probably set up a business 120 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,040 together. That's a classic. 121 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:17,760 You've got tattoos of each other. 122 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:20,960 You've gone the whole hog. You've done in we've done in 12 123 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:22,480 months. What takes straight couples at 124 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:28,080 least five years, right. So in straight timelines, they 125 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:30,560 usually do all the marriage stuff and then get divorced 126 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:33,160 quite quickly. Yeah, we don't usually make it 127 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,200 there because we do often hold back on the marriage a little 128 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:38,280 bit. More we don't hold back on the 129 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,520 engagement. But we hold back on the. 130 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:46,040 Marriage a bit more, yeah. So we've already lived 1000 131 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:50,240 lives within the first year, so we've already lived 1000 lesbian 132 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:54,600 years within the first year. And then you get to the 13th 133 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:58,360 month and you've got your dog, you've got your house together, 134 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:02,000 you've got them tattooed across your asshole for all I know. 135 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:07,400 And you start to see the cracks because we've all got them. 136 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:12,000 And your name is within the crack because you've gone to the 137 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,520 tattoo parlour. And you've got her name. 138 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:18,040 You've got it. Stitched across your anus anus 139 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:22,120 Uranus. So you get to months 1314 from 140 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:27,080 15 and you start to think, do you know what who I thought this 141 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,800 person was might not be an accurate representation of? 142 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:35,720 My imagination. That sweet smelling puss is 143 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:40,800 starting to smell sour. I was nose and love blind. 144 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,480 Ain't smelling a honey no more, darling. 145 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:47,640 So we've got a couple of theories as to why we think this 146 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,360 happens. Hit me, Freya. 147 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:56,360 Honeymoon period is over, that moment where you would do 148 00:07:56,360 --> 00:08:00,720 anything to please your partner and you have so much fun 149 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:05,000 together and no jealousy. Real, real. 150 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:08,200 You know, shit has crept up yet and you haven't really shown 151 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:13,320 them many of your flaws. And then by this point you 152 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:15,880 really are like, OK, OK, this is reality. 153 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:19,600 I think that the reality suddenly kicks in and and it's 154 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,920 not cute anymore to not go to work because you're too busy 155 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,360 having sex. It's not cute anymore to give 156 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:29,400 each other's flowers every time you see each other. 157 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:31,080 Shit like this. Right? 158 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:37,679 So all of the external really flamboyant acts of love are most 159 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:42,960 likely going down the fucking drain and their ex has probably 160 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:46,520 messaged them by this point. And the dopamine, the dopamine 161 00:08:46,560 --> 00:08:49,600 rush has gone. And that does make you quite 162 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:53,160 literally love and Fanny blind. Yeah, it does. 163 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,680 I've had it right where I've had the dopamine. 164 00:08:56,360 --> 00:09:00,200 And when I tell you it doesn't just curve off, it falls off a 165 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:03,440 fucking Cliff, particularly with lesbians. 166 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:09,480 So what I would imagine in hat world your dopamine is it 167 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:13,760 gradually goes up, it coasts at the top for quite a while, and 168 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:18,280 then it starts to drop gradually until you meet a sensible 169 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:20,200 plateau. Lesbians. 170 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:25,680 You're bolting up like a fucking rocket up your ass right at the 171 00:09:25,680 --> 00:09:28,800 top of Mountain Everest. You get to the top of Mountain 172 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,960 Everest and the peak is quite literally less than a metre wide 173 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:35,640 and then you're promising back down and you're in fucking 174 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:37,560 Australia. And that's why I think it's such 175 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:41,520 a hectic departure at that time as well, because you do go quite 176 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:46,840 literally from one to the other. And I think in our worlds, 177 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:51,480 because we don't or haven't previously or in gay world 178 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:57,400 haven't previously had many or many good role models to look up 179 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:59,040 to. We've spoken about this. 180 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:04,720 We don't have a lot of good representation and healthy 181 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:08,640 relationships to go off of, so we've all got really warped 182 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:16,000 views of how queer relationships should look, feel, act sensibly, 183 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:20,240 get together sensibly, break up. And again, that's why I think 184 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:25,120 the the 13th, 14th and 15th month drop off happens, because 185 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,880 the vision of what we thought this person could be for us is 186 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:30,240 not real. And that's on us. 187 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:33,320 That's not on the person. It could also be on the person. 188 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:36,200 It could be, but. Because they can really like, 189 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,320 fuck with you. People can really give you an 190 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:41,040 idea of something. I think we all ignore red flags 191 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,440 until we can't ignore them anymore as well, specifically in 192 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,080 the first year. And then again, it gets to that 193 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:51,680 over one year anniversary mark and you start to realise that 194 00:10:51,680 --> 00:10:56,360 the red flags aren't just like momentary lips, like they are 195 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,000 part of this person's makeup and you start to detest them. 196 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:02,280 OK. I think it's a few more things 197 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,280 as well. I think it's when you this is 198 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,000 when you start to really argue. And I think that arguments are 199 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,000 really explosive. Patient gets tested at this 200 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:10,800 point. Yeah, because you do have to. 201 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:12,400 It's like having a fucking toddler. 202 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,200 You start like creating boundaries with these people and 203 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:17,680 you start pushing boundaries to see. 204 00:11:17,680 --> 00:11:19,960 Come out of that love bubble. I think the boundaries comes 205 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:21,760 from you. You're in the love bubble and 206 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:23,800 you're happy to spend all your time with them and no one else 207 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,240 really exists. And you get to that point point 208 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:28,200 you're like, actually I fucking neglected myself. 209 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:30,040 I've neglected my friendships a bit. 210 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:33,800 Yeah, I've neglected my work. Like I need to start just doing 211 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:35,800 a little bit something for me again. 212 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,160 And that's where I think the argument we. 213 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:43,200 Had a fucking blow up of an argument around the 13th or 14th 214 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:47,120 month of our relationship and that was a fundamental point in 215 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:50,440 our relationship where we could have been through it. 216 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:54,080 Make or break at that. Point 13th, 14th and 15th month. 217 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:59,040 There was so much testing us both within ourselves, within 218 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:03,160 our relationship, that we're both to blame for and externally 219 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:04,400 as. Well, but maybe maybe you're 220 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:07,000 more likely to come across more external stuff once you've been 221 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,720 together longer, right? So like 14th month that you you 222 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:13,160 are probably finding something. Yeah, life starts to happen. 223 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,880 Starts to test you and then test your relationship. 224 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:21,000 I remember at that 13th, 14th, 15th month where you hadn't 225 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:25,240 specifically, I mean, we'd been arguing and we'd had those blow 226 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,640 ups and external things were happening, but on the 227 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:32,080 day-to-day, neither of us were really doing anything wrong. 228 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:33,680 Like you weren't particularly doing anything. 229 00:12:33,680 --> 00:12:36,560 But I remember having this constant feeling of being like 230 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:42,720 is this a long thing? Like is, Is this a long? 231 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:44,760 Thing. But I think I sensed that in 232 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:48,560 you, so it made me feel really insecure and I remember this 233 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,520 feeling and it was horrible. See, I really felt like I was 234 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:53,120 hiding. It no, you didn't hide it 235 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,080 because I I. Felt like I was hiding it 236 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:58,040 because I felt guilty for even thinking it because even though 237 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:00,240 I was having these thoughts I knew I didn't want to leave. 238 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,280 Yeah, no, I, but I. Was having these intense 239 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:05,040 thoughts of being like, I really don't want to leave, but is this 240 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:05,920 right? No. 241 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:07,680 Is this the right thing for both of us? 242 00:13:07,680 --> 00:13:11,080 It wasn't like I said, it wasn't about you as a personal thing. 243 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:15,160 It was just like, shit. No, I sensed it in you. 244 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:18,920 So it made me really anxious. Like I was in a really bad way 245 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:22,960 at that point, which then and again, like you weren't in the 246 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:26,640 wrong for having those feelings either, but it made me more 247 00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:30,680 explosive in arguments because I just was like, so like such an 248 00:13:30,680 --> 00:13:33,640 anxious person at that time. And I'm not blaming you for 249 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,680 that, but I mean like I was feeling really really anxious. 250 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:39,760 So then anything would just like tip me off which isn't good 251 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:41,400 either. Yeah, but like my defence, at 252 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:43,840 this time in your life you weren't working. 253 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,560 No, you'd had really awful job situations. 254 00:13:46,560 --> 00:13:49,080 Your family dynamic was going really bad. 255 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,160 At this point, you were you and your mum. 256 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:55,280 I like I said, I'm not baby, I'm just, I'm just, I don't blame 257 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,200 you for feeling like that is all I'm saying. 258 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,720 And it was just, it was just testing or as I feel like, I 259 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:02,400 mean, I'm a difficult person, so that's enough. 260 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:06,600 But at least for the first two years of our relationship, there 261 00:14:06,600 --> 00:14:08,000 wasn't any. I didn't bring anything 262 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:11,200 external, no. I fell out of my dad, remember? 263 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:13,600 Yeah, but it was a. Start but that was just like I 264 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:15,720 cut him out for a few months and whatever. 265 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:19,680 Didn't impact that life. My job was really stable, my my 266 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:23,480 mental health was pretty stable, like my living situation was 267 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:26,240 stable. So I don't feel like I was 268 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,040 bringing that side of things. No, you were probably just. 269 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:31,560 Being me, which is hard enough. You. 270 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:35,480 Were had a lot of external things which were really 271 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:38,320 difficult and they were testing you as a person as well and 272 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,080 making you maybe behave in a way that you wouldn't usually 273 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:42,760 behave. And like I said, it was an 274 00:14:42,760 --> 00:14:44,680 amalgamation of things. It wasn't like anyone 275 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:47,440 specifically just being an asshole directly to the other 276 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:50,440 for no reason, but it was a really difficult time. 277 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:51,680 Dude, it was fucking hard. Yeah. 278 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:56,000 But we got through it and I'm really glad we came through it 279 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:57,560 and I'm glad we didn't throw the towel in. 280 00:14:57,560 --> 00:15:00,600 But I think at the time, and if you're going through this or if 281 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:04,600 you've been through this, the only bit of advice I can give 282 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:09,400 here is that, as I mentioned a little bit previously or just a 283 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:14,720 few minutes ago, is that as much as I was having this niggle, I 284 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:18,560 know myself enough to know when it it would have been enough to 285 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:20,160 walk. Yeah, right. 286 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:22,480 And I didn't, it wasn't big enough. 287 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:23,840 No. So I held on. 288 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:27,000 And that's not to say that I could have held on and actually 289 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:30,000 we could have ended up breaking up, but I'm glad I did hold on 290 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:33,240 because obviously we're now together over five years later, 291 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,720 and I'm not going to say it's absolutely fine. 292 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:38,280 I mean, we still fucking go at each other sometimes like cat 293 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:42,760 and dog, but we don't have those communication not like it was 294 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:46,960 then. I mean, people, again, like no 295 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:49,480 one's perfect. We have communication issues 296 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,200 regularly. We communicate really well. 297 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:53,160 Sometimes we communicate really badly. 298 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:54,560 Others. It's a constant. 299 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:58,800 A relationship is a constant job that you have to fucking 300 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:00,560 dedicate yourself to. You have to nurture it. 301 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:01,840 Don't. You you have to question if the 302 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:07,120 juice is worth the squeeze. But in saying that, if you're 303 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:13,080 going through it, ask yourself about the long term. 304 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:16,560 So not the moment be like, if I could come, if this could come 305 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:20,280 good, could it truly come good? And if the answer is not really, 306 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,640 don't keep doing it. And I think that's what, but I 307 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:25,960 don't think a lot of queer relationships are doing that. 308 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:29,280 I think it breaks because what happens is you usually get two 309 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:33,200 people who, I don't know, emotionally immatures are 310 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:37,200 potentially first relationships plural because I think you have 311 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:38,920 to have a few before you get the right one. 312 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:45,640 And age potentially or sometimes even like 40 year olds regress 313 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:47,320 in age. So sometimes their emotional 314 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:49,920 capability is actually worse than a fucking 20 year old, 315 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,080 particularly if they've been with the men and man and. 316 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,200 They're even worse. They're like kids, Yeah. 317 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:58,320 And I think we break as a community at this point so 318 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:02,600 quickly. We snap because it does go from 319 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:05,800 zero to 100 and no one is ready to even fucking put the brakes 320 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:09,119 on a little bit and just slow the roll and try and like talk. 321 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:13,760 It gets toxic and then people just crash and burn and walk 322 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:15,440 away from each other. For sure. 323 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:19,920 And I think as well, like, truly being in love with that person 324 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:23,280 makes a big difference because if you can look at yourself and 325 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:26,800 think, could I genuinely see myself living without this 326 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:29,680 person, you will get an answer of yes or no. 327 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:34,000 You will. And if that answer is a bit 328 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:37,360 like, do you know what? I probably, I probably could 329 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,200 then sack it off. Yeah. 330 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:42,680 That's just, you know, like if you're going through a really 331 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:45,160 hard time and then that's what you can, that's what you think 332 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:46,040 of. You're like, yeah, do you know 333 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:47,240 what? Or like, give yourself a bit of 334 00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:49,440 a moment. But yeah, I also think that 335 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:52,600 relationships sometimes are definitely really worth fighting 336 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:54,040 for. I do think that people throw in 337 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:59,160 the towel way too fucking easily sometimes, which I think is a 338 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:02,600 real shame, but ultimately it is. 339 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:05,240 Well, if you're with someone who's willing to throw in the 340 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:08,240 towel that quickly and easily, then they are not the person. 341 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:10,800 For you, yeah. If you're willing to throw in 342 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:14,640 the towel, then OK, you, you know that that's not going to 343 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:16,600 work with that person. If you've been on the other end 344 00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:18,720 of someone suddenly throwing in the towel, don't grovel. 345 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:20,760 Say it's a say. It's a fucking blessing. 346 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:25,240 If someone's quick to want to do that, then thank the universe 347 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:28,760 for not letting that person waste any more of your time and 348 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:30,280 go out and live your fucking life. 349 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:33,160 Well, if you'd broken up with me right and said, look, you know 350 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:36,600 it's not you because I do love you, but you know I need you to 351 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:40,160 get your shit very much sounding like someone I need, but this is 352 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:41,480 true. Isn't this what your ex said to 353 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:44,280 you? Yes, it is actually. 354 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:50,640 You can get yourself together then, like you know, we'll come 355 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:52,600 back together. This is different because that's 356 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,640 a conditional love. No, but that's what that's not. 357 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:58,600 That's not true love because. I could have left you at that 358 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:00,520 point for selfish reasons, right? 359 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:01,760 So. This is the yes you could have. 360 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:03,880 If I'd have communicated with you at that time and said, 361 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,320 actually, do you know what? There's so many things are 362 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:09,440 surrounding this relationship that actually are not your 363 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,400 fault. I just can't cope with that's 364 00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:15,760 it's OK as well to be selfish. That's not a terrible thing. 365 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:18,520 What would have been terrible is if I'd have gone. 366 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:22,960 If you fix all of these things, then it'll work for me because 367 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:25,240 that's not fair. Because you're then saying to 368 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:29,120 that other person, I can then only love you when when it's 369 00:19:29,120 --> 00:19:31,240 comfortable love, yes. Right, Right. 370 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:33,480 And I think that when you are with someone, you never know 371 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:34,760 what's going to happen in your life. 372 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:37,400 And this works for both of you. It doesn't just mean one of 373 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,040 you's fucked up your whole fucking life. 374 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:41,680 You know, you can go through shit, you know, you never know. 375 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:44,720 You need to be with someone who's actually going to fucking 376 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:45,720 be there for you. Yeah. 377 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:47,880 Because if they are like, well, do you know what? 378 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:49,400 Get yourself sorted and maybe we'll be. 379 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:50,840 Fuck that. Yeah. 380 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:54,480 But then also, if you're sorry, this is like we're not giving 381 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:56,640 constructive advice. It's just so many different like 382 00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:59,280 avenues that this can go. Is it? 383 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:03,640 Also though, if you're with someone and from the other 384 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:06,880 person's perspective, it has been a constant upward battle 385 00:20:07,120 --> 00:20:10,320 and something is the stick to break the camel's back. 386 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,360 And they walk away. They're not always the Dick head 387 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:15,040 either. No, it doesn't mean they're a 388 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:17,360 Dick head. It's OK for people to get to 389 00:20:17,360 --> 00:20:20,520 their threshold and walk. And even if they walk at a 390 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:25,600 really bad time, it doesn't always mean that they are trying 391 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,440 to hurt you or like they're spiteful. 392 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:31,400 It's just sometimes their thresholds got mad and they 393 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:35,160 can't give anything to you and it's a really horrible. 394 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:37,520 Thing it's not a crime to break up with someone right, but I 395 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:41,480 think in the moment of that like that feeling of betrayal you're 396 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:44,560 like, oh you fucking cunt. Well, it just that is just how 397 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:45,520 it feels. It just. 398 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,040 Depends on how they communicate it. 399 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:51,080 It is like it is. It's the message of I don't 400 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:55,720 think it's the right time for us and I don't think we're that 401 00:20:55,720 --> 00:21:00,480 compatible. Therefore, time walking versus 402 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:05,240 if you get yourself together and you change things, then I will 403 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:09,160 be with you. 2 very different, 2 very, very different narratives. 404 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:13,080 Because also you cannot expect other people to change for you. 405 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:15,560 They can only have a change for themselves. 406 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,240 And if they want to as well. Even if you could see that they 407 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:21,120 could be so much fucking happier on the other side of quitting 408 00:21:21,120 --> 00:21:24,320 their job or taking up a fucking hobby that they used to love and 409 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:26,080 be really good at and they won't do anymore. 410 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,000 Or, you know, losing weight even. 411 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,160 Not to say that anyone should lose weight, but a lot of people 412 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:33,320 get unhappy when they gain weight in relationships and then 413 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:35,720 it makes them insecure and it makes them jealous. 414 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:37,800 But you still can't force people to do that, people. 415 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:39,080 By the way, we love a curvy girl. 416 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,680 Just putting that one out there before the fucking people come 417 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,160 forward. To say no, it's not about. 418 00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:44,360 You know what? Now I know but. 419 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:48,480 Not about my view on anyone. It's about what what triggers 420 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,400 other people. Yeah, to not be themselves or 421 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,800 have breakdown of communication. And sometimes it can be. 422 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:56,840 I've seen, I've seen people say it a lot. 423 00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:01,320 They get together both sides or one side puts on quite a bit of 424 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,800 weight. They then don't see themselves 425 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,000 how they saw themselves when they got into the relationship 426 00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,760 and it can then make them a version of themselves that they 427 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,240 don't like and then they start blaming the other person. 428 00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,800 I don't care if you're fucking size 50 or a size 4, it's got 429 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:16,320 nothing to do with me. I'm talking. 430 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,720 I don't forget what my ex blamed me for making her fat. 431 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:23,280 I was like bitch you ate. Do you want to know what my ex 432 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:26,480 did? What most recent one I I did put 433 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:28,520 on like, you know, like relationship weight, obviously 434 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:30,080 you scan a bit more and whatever. 435 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:33,200 And then I don't think we were having sex for a while and like 436 00:22:33,360 --> 00:22:36,000 whatever. And I think I made a comment to 437 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:40,360 him and she was drunk at the time and she's like, well, you 438 00:22:40,360 --> 00:22:42,120 don't look like what you did when we first met. 439 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,960 And I was like, I started crying and I was like, what the fuck? 440 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,320 But yeah, she was like, you don't let like. 441 00:22:50,360 --> 00:22:52,840 Yeah, but I think we can all come to the conclusion that your 442 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:57,640 ex is a cunt. Your ex is a top tier top cunt 443 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,080 cunt. So, want to hear your thoughts 444 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:03,680 as to why we think the stick that breaks the camel's back of 445 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,680 the gays and lesbian relationships happens usually 446 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,600 around this time. And if you're going through it. 447 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:10,760 Well, if you're going through it, we want to know. 448 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:14,280 If you experienced it and you got through it, we want to know 449 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:18,880 and we want to know how because we think a lot of it is down to 450 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,200 just like being honest communication. 451 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,280 Do you know what? I'd love to see the reaction of 452 00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,400 all these people sat in their cars listening to this in the 453 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,080 kitchen with their girlfriend, knowing that they've been 454 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,320 together for six to eight months, thinking, fuck, what's 455 00:23:31,360 --> 00:23:33,520 on route? What is it is coming? 456 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,080 And now look at each other and go, yeah, but that would be us. 457 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,680 Oh, but it will. Oh, it's coming. 458 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:40,880 Oh, it's coming. It's undeniable force. 459 00:23:41,120 --> 00:23:44,040 It is coming. It's a lesbian war badge, baby. 460 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,440 It's one of them. You've got to get through it. 461 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,400 Send in the troops. Yeah, because you're going to 462 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,320 fucking need it. Release the hounds, bitch. 463 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,960 Get your therapist on speed dial. 464 00:23:56,360 --> 00:23:58,560 Get your better help on speed dial. 465 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:02,400 I'm not actually joking. And make sure you know where 466 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:07,840 your local delulu bin house is because you may need it at the 467 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:12,760 13th, 14th and 15th month. It's a whole new meaning to 13 468 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:14,720 reasons. Yeah, 13 months, babes. 469 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:21,320 So that is our insight on the lesbian hump breakup period, how 470 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:25,080 we think it happens, why it happens, and how you can get 471 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,840 through it. I also want to talk today about 472 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,360 mansplaining. Because it's been. 473 00:24:31,360 --> 00:24:35,160 Really fucking me off recently more than normal. 474 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,480 It's fucked me off since the day I was born. 475 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,680 I came out of the fucking pussy, finding the surgeon in the room 476 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,320 and spitting it in. How do you think it felt growing 477 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,480 up in a house full of girls and one man? 478 00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:49,800 Poor guy. I was like, don't tell me 479 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,040 anything. Mansplaining. 480 00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:58,000 If men aren't bad enough, they also then find ways to make 481 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,760 themselves worse by telling us how to live and what to do. 482 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,520 And I've noticed it more. Touchwood. 483 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,920 Literally I'm fucking laying on the ground in the Levi studio. 484 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:15,000 Touchwood. Our algorithms now on social 485 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:18,960 media genuine generally do us quite a bit of justice 486 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,400 considering how many pieces of shit there are out there in the 487 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:28,400 world. I would say 95% of our response 488 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:32,920 is the strong queer community flooding we love. 489 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,920 You. Flooding our pussy and it's 490 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:43,400 great, but you do get the odd prick, you really do and we've 491 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,920 had it recently on our own videos, which I'm not even going 492 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,160 to give these fucking Neanderthals the time because I 493 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:51,640 actually. Just can't be bothered. 494 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:56,720 But one thing that what I wanted to spark this, but sparked today 495 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,440 I was wanting to talk about this was, I don't know if any of you 496 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:04,600 have seen it, but basically there's a pro female golfer who 497 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,120 goes to a golfing range to practise. 498 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:09,840 I forgot the girl's name. I'm going to have to look it up. 499 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:14,960 And she sets up a camera while she's at the golfing range to 500 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,760 obviously watch herself back to make sure that, you know, she's 501 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,240 standing. Yeah. 502 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:21,680 Just all of that stuff, I'm assuming. 503 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:26,480 So she's that minding her own fucking business like we usually 504 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,080 are, or actually like we always fucking are. 505 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,000 And she's practising different shots at this golfing range. 506 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:37,920 Suddenly you want to straighten your back up a bit more over 507 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:42,120 there where you live. And she's like oh sorry, this 508 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:47,160 fucking old cunt has swanned his way over to her. 509 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:53,720 Starts mansplaining to a professional female golfer how 510 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:58,000 to golf. Like the actual fucking audacity 511 00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,240 of men. No, it's insane. 512 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,640 Has. Got into like, I think it's 513 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,200 because this is the problem, right? 514 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,680 There's a lot of liberation happening in the world. 515 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,040 There is that's it's undeniable. Greece have just legalised 516 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,520 marriage. Gay populations are on the 517 00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,160 uprise, that's all Fucking. Although Ghana has actually made 518 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:16,920 it illegal. This is what I'm this is what 519 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:18,840 I'm saying. For as much as places are 520 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:23,840 getting liberated, there's other places where then the bigots are 521 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:27,840 getting angrier. So the right wing, right wing, 522 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,960 what do you call these people? Cunts. 523 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,760 Inbreds are getting bigger. Yeah, right. 524 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,680 So it's a trade off because as much as we're getting liberated, 525 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:39,800 we're also getting shot on in. Other areas, yeah. 526 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:41,160 You know why? It's because it triggers them. 527 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,400 They can't fucking. Yes. 528 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:43,800 Then they have to go a step further. 529 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:47,400 So they can't just be like homophobic in their own house 530 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,400 anymore. They have to be homophobic out 531 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,240 on the street. Or what was it when they? 532 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,720 Patriarchal. They're fucking life. 533 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,520 Misogynistic, racist, they have to be all of that now. 534 00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,720 They can't just do it behind closed doors anymore because 535 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,960 they're so angry that we may be getting to a point of even 536 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,920 fucking 4060 fairness. Not even that that they've now 537 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,040 got to go and fucking shout it in the streets. 538 00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:14,240 Mad slaining is just, I don't tolerate it anymore. 539 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:17,520 And do you know what's sad is that growing up, for a long time 540 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,360 I didn't even realise when I was getting mansplain too, I used to 541 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:21,600 thank them. Yeah. 542 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:22,360 Oh, thank you. Oh. 543 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:29,240 Like, I used to be so bound by the patriarchy, a man would 544 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:34,080 advise me on something. But it was subjective, right? 545 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,520 Because this is the thing, a lot of mansplaining is usually when 546 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,040 it's something subjective. So it's like, I don't know how 547 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:45,040 to fucking get out of your car. Some people will swing both legs 548 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,680 round and step out. Some people will put one leg 549 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:50,840 out, grab onto the steering wheel and step out. 550 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:55,600 A man will tell you you've got to shove your finger up your ass 551 00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,240 and jump out the fucking window to be doing it right. 552 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,680 Do you know what I mean? And I'd sit there and go, oh, do 553 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,720 you know what? Thanks. 554 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:05,920 Yeah. And now I look back and I'm 555 00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:07,280 like, hey, you're a fucking idiot. 556 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,120 And B. Now if men do it to me, I will 557 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,680 literally just call it out and be like, is that an objective 558 00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,400 fact based opinion? But you can't have fact based 559 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,400 opinions. Is that fact, or is that your 560 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,080 little fucking insecure opinion? Because if it's the latter, get 561 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:22,960 the fuck away from. Me. 562 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:24,520 Why is it that they feel like they have to? 563 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,160 Oh, I know why. It's because they believe that 564 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,200 they're superior. So anything that I could be 565 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,760 doing, of course a man will know how to do it better. 566 00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:36,920 You know, that is just law. I am convinced that if a man 567 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:40,480 could wake up during surgery and see a female surgeon, he'd tell 568 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,600 her how to operate on the rest of his body. 569 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:49,560 Like they are so incredibly ignorant and I, and this isn't 570 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:53,000 to say I could be doing something completely fucking 571 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:54,600 wrong, right? Fair enough. 572 00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:58,800 If you want to walk over and you are experiencing something, say 573 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:00,600 it's something to do with the fucking car because I don't know 574 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,240 how to change a wheel right Properly. 575 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:05,920 I mean, I do kind of OK. Say I was having a problem with 576 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:10,240 my car engine and a man came over because he saw that I was 577 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,800 struggling and then tried to help. 578 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,520 That's an incredibly different situation, right? 579 00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,880 What I've noticed memo mansplain to you, right? 580 00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:22,480 And then you'll say, why have you got a mansplain for, for 581 00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,760 fuck's sake, on something that is, like we said, like 582 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,720 completely objective, whatever. They then turn around and be 583 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,360 like, you won't let men be men anymore. 584 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,760 We're not allowed to do anything. 585 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:38,360 We're not allowed to do this. Whatever happened to wanting to 586 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,800 wanting a real man? Whatever happened to gender 587 00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:42,000 wrong? Yeah, right. 588 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,400 It's a social construct, you. No, no. 589 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:48,080 But what I say back to those cunts, right is that chivalry is 590 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,280 fucking dead. Yeah, no water. 591 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,880 So when it actually benefits us, you're not here for it. 592 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:57,000 Like, but it's annoying, right? Because men used to open up 593 00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,200 doors for women, They used to open up car doors for women. 594 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,480 They used to give them their jackets and they used to be 595 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,640 really chivalrous. Get me wrong, I don't even 596 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,040 fucking want them to. No I don't. 597 00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,040 But if they're not doing that, don't do the other. 598 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,520 Stuff. Don't do the shitty fucking male 599 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,240 misogynistic bullshit without all of the really nice things 600 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:17,360 that came with being a gentleman and being chivalrous, because 601 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,520 chivalry is fucking dead. The amount of times I've had a 602 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,800 problem opening up a fucking door because I've got things in 603 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,480 my hands, men will just stand there and do nothing. 604 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:28,480 Will a woman help though? Fucking yes. 605 00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,800 Yes, thank you very much women, because I love you. 606 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,240 I'll be struggling with really fucking heavy boxes. 607 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:34,640 Will they help? Fuck no. 608 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:36,720 Would they tell me that I was carrying it wrong? 609 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,120 Yeah. And you know what? 610 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,320 I don't want them to help because I think they're a big 611 00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,360 strong man. Because best believe I just need 612 00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,480 a pair of hands. I don't care if you're a fucking 613 00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:48,800 size 6 woman or you're a fucking 6 foot six man. 614 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,600 Like if you're carrying a box, you're carrying a box. 615 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,560 But you're right. It's the fact that like in those 616 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,560 moments, they don't give a fuck. Like. 617 00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:02,160 I watch fully able bodied men not give up their priority seat 618 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,680 on the tube to an 80 year old. Woman, Oh my God, all the time. 619 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,040 I have to. I stand up for like pregnant 620 00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:07,960 women. That's fine. 621 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:09,920 Because you can. Yeah, but it's annoying. 622 00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,440 The choice, But it's fucking annoying because yeah, you know 623 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:15,080 that at the same time, that same man who couldn't have that 624 00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:19,560 fucking even level of audacity, like decency will then be like, 625 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:25,240 but I am going to show you how to drive a car, Yeah. 626 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:29,600 Or tell you that you can go 80 in a 70. 627 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,480 Because I know someone from the local speed awareness department 628 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,920 fucking have told me. Is it actually if you go 80 629 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,720 miles an hour and break slightly just before the camera, you'll 630 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:41,720 get missed. Do you know what I mean? 631 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:43,000 That now? Yeah, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 632 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:44,760 Fuck off. Shut up. 633 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,160 Shut the fuck up. Shut the. 634 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,640 Just shut the fuck. And do you know what there's my 635 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,400 point in us saying on this podcast because not really any 636 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,400 men listen and the ones who do actually have contacted. 637 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,440 Us, you're nice. You seem like really fucking 638 00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,680 decent beings, so I know that this won't apply to you anyway. 639 00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:02,320 Sadly, this is this little rant is falling on Deaf Sears because 640 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:08,720 you're all either queer lesbians part the LGBTQ plus community in 641 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,920 one way or another. So you know that you're not 642 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:12,560 doing this shit, you're not feeling into it. 643 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,800 Yeah, but also can I just say it's good to fucking hear it 644 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,720 though? Like whether it you know, 645 00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:19,600 because it still effects you. All the people that are 646 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,880 listening to this you all know and you have all been 647 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,800 mansplained to. I know for a fact you fucking 648 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:27,000 have because it is one of the most infuriating things. 649 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,280 Just honestly, I give you permission if, if something like 650 00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:32,000 this happens to you again, just go fuck off. 651 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,280 Thanks. Whilst we're on the subject of 652 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:38,320 men and then ruining stuff for us, we've got a we've got a new 653 00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:42,360 Horror Story for you guys today. And I loved how this person 654 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:45,560 submitted this one with the title I'm the Cunt because do 655 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,920 you know what? You have me in a fucking 656 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:51,320 instant. I love that girls, just going 657 00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:55,760 forward, when you send in your little horror stories, can you 658 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,280 just put like a creative title because it really just gets the 659 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,640 juices flowing for when I open that e-mail. 660 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,520 Yes absolutely. Let's go. 661 00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,600 So this is titled I'm the cunt. Thank you. 662 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,080 I debate sending this because I'm going to look like a massive 663 00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,320 bell end, but cunty behaviour attracts attracts cunty 664 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,000 behaviour. So this is from one anonymous 665 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:21,440 cunt because I am ashamed of myself for you girl. 666 00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,440 I was dating a girl for four years. 667 00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:25,840 She was bi. We had a great relationship. 668 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:27,440 I thought she was the love of my life. 669 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,639 We'll call her Tanya. Oh, this is so our word. 670 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:31,239 Tan. Fucking tan. 671 00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,360 Fucking hate it, Tanya. Tanya and I were living 672 00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,679 together, we had a dog and everything was great. 673 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:39,440 Until one day I walked into the bedroom to find a phone on 674 00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:43,880 charge, wrapped in a T-shirt. Odd noticing she was playing on 675 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:45,719 her phone apparently. Oh. 676 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,920 I started noticing she was always on her phone, apparently. 677 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,880 Playing Candy Crush is what she used to say. 678 00:34:51,199 --> 00:34:53,280 She was coming home from work later than usual. 679 00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:55,679 She was spending more and more time with friends. 680 00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:59,120 Spidey sense gone wild. I was convinced she was 681 00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:01,480 cheating. Rather than do the normal thing 682 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:03,600 like ask her, I decided to be a detective. 683 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:05,800 I feel you babe, because this is my kind of shit. 684 00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,160 I tried to sneak a glance at her phone. 685 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,560 No luck. I perused our share computer. 686 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:12,120 Nothing. She was clever. 687 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,680 Then one day I came across our old fitness tracker watch. 688 00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,640 We both had the same. I still use mine. 689 00:35:18,720 --> 00:35:21,360 It was one of the ones that your messages come light up on. 690 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,640 Light bulb moment. I would use a fitness tracker, 691 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,800 change this trap to mine and pretend like it was mine all 692 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,920 along and be able to read her messages when they came through. 693 00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:33,160 I know, I know, what a Dick, but I was going wild with insanity 694 00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,520 golden as I knew there was something going on. 695 00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,000 Fuck it. Where there's a way, there's a 696 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,720 lesbian. Where there's a will, there's a 697 00:35:39,720 --> 00:35:41,360 gay. It was a few days before 698 00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,400 Christmas and I've been patiently me waiting when 699 00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:46,640 Jackpot a message from David appears. 700 00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,040 A filthy message. I can't believe what I was 701 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:51,600 reading at this point. I'm sat upstairs and she's 702 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:55,680 downstairs messaging him. No, I'm sorry, you're not the 703 00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:58,080 cunt. Now I'm only getting his side of 704 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,320 the story pop up on the watch, but I got the picture. 705 00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,800 I decided to call her out on it and March downstairs ready to 706 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:05,560 confront her. I asked her she was seeing 707 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,440 someone else, She denied it, played totally innocent, told me 708 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,000 I was crazy, but I couldn't tell her how I'd found this out. 709 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,360 I decided to just wait until Christmas was over and then 710 00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:14,880 figure out a plan to get her to fess up. 711 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:17,000 Instead she beat me to it and walked out on me on Christmas 712 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:19,200 Eve saying she couldn't deal with breaking her homophobic 713 00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,240 parents heart any longer. Pathetic. 714 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:23,560 I was livid, heartbroken, shocked. 715 00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,240 What the fuck had just happened? I told her I knew about David. 716 00:36:26,240 --> 00:36:27,800 She had no idea how I'd found out. 717 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,240 Still to this day, she has no clue they're now living 718 00:36:30,240 --> 00:36:33,400 together, but he has no idea of her little gay past four. 719 00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,000 Years. 4 fucking years. So. 720 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,360 So yeah, am I the cunt? Either way, glad I busted her. 721 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:39,760 Love the podcast. No. 722 00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:40,800 You're not the. Fuck my. 723 00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,520 God, you've got to do what you've got to do. 724 00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:45,000 I don't understand your title of the cunt babe. 725 00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:46,640 You had to. Find you're a better fucking 726 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,680 person than I am because I would have zero that would not be 727 00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,840 keeping me up at night. Ohh trust me, that Apple, that 728 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,040 fucking fitness watch would have gone straight to the forehead. 729 00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,280 Just swing. I'm joking, I do. 730 00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:03,520 I do not advocate violence. We're only joking. 731 00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:08,720 PSA but this is fucking insane. I OK when I first initially read 732 00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:12,160 that I kind of felt a little bit sorry for the girl who cheated 733 00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,800 though because she says about that she's obviously got major 734 00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:17,240 internalised. I don't feel bad for her. 735 00:37:17,240 --> 00:37:19,080 No, but. She's not after 4 fucking years 736 00:37:19,240 --> 00:37:22,560 if they've been dating for six months and her her internalised 737 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:26,160 homophobia I got came on in and she decides to point her off 738 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,760 with a man. Carry the fuck on. 739 00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:30,320 Do not waste four years of someone's life that makes you a 740 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,680 piece of shit. I don't care about your internal 741 00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:34,840 anything. Deal with your stuff, and if you 742 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,520 can't deal with your stuff, stay fucking single and don't 743 00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:38,600 implicate another. You know what? 744 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:40,760 Actually, I took that back because I think that she 745 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,640 probably just used the parents as an excuse me, I can't break 746 00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,560 my homophobic parents heart. And you were with a woman for 747 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,000 four years. You don't think you've already 748 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,160 broken the heart? Fucking grow up like you. 749 00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,960 Well, I don't know if she'd hidden, hidden the relationship 750 00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:54,960 for four years and then got to a point where I was like, I can't 751 00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:56,400 hide anymore and I can't break their heart. 752 00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:57,920 I think that's what. She was, yeah, but she didn't 753 00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:02,360 have to be fucking texting and flying and sexting David whilst 754 00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:04,840 you were in that fucking relationship, David and Tanya, 755 00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:06,280 you fucking assholes. You know what? 756 00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:08,520 You've done nothing wrong, and if the opportunity arises where 757 00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:10,200 you have to do it again, fucking do it. 758 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:15,520 I think that is, you know what, an Apple Watch, I'd never even, 759 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:17,560 it would never even cross my mind. 760 00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:22,480 I don't own 1 so I couldn't do it, but I think it's fantastic. 761 00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,960 And I also think that you probably should have told you. 762 00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:28,360 I would have been like, no, do you know how I fucking know? 763 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,720 Because I've got your fitness watch up. 764 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:34,120 Your messages are popping up. So I'm not just being crazy. 765 00:38:34,240 --> 00:38:37,680 I see this fucking evidence. I would literally. 766 00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,960 Watched yeah, watched the watch and would have watched the 767 00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,040 colour drain out of her. Fuck, I would have. 768 00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:44,920 Literally said dangled it in front of her. 769 00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,560 Face, I've literally got your fucking got it right monologue. 770 00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,280 Dick head twat. I probably because she gas lit 771 00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:52,000 her. She was like, no, what you want 772 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:53,800 about Who's David? Fuck you. 773 00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,040 Yeah, literally. Fuck you're. 774 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:57,640 Not you're really not the cunt in this. 775 00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:01,680 It was, it was very, very sneaky, but sometimes. 776 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,240 Sometimes you got to do what you got to do and and your gut 777 00:39:04,240 --> 00:39:07,200 instinct is huge, right? So there is, there's there's a 778 00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:11,120 difference between being the type of person who is jealous 779 00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:16,240 and twisted and controlling. And so everything your other 780 00:39:16,240 --> 00:39:19,480 half does, you're accusing them. No, no, no, you need therapy. 781 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:23,080 What we're speaking about here is someone who clearly seems 782 00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:27,600 very emotionally like on a good plane, has been with this person 783 00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:30,280 for four years, They've never had an issue to this point. 784 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,880 And suddenly she gets a gut feeling she knew she wasn't 785 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,320 wrong. So I don't think going out of 786 00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:39,400 your way to find out the fucking truth of the person that you're 787 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,480 with cannot give that to you is a bad thing. 788 00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,560 It's like me, like when I was with my ex, I hacked into her 789 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:46,800 Instagram account. Yeah. 790 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,000 Did I did I guess the password in one day? 791 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,160 Yes, I did. Is that my problem? 792 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:52,480 No. Maybe she should have had other 793 00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:56,520 passwords. Did I open up her Instagram and 794 00:39:56,520 --> 00:40:00,640 within 2 seconds found exactly what I was looking for? 795 00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,720 Yes I fucking did. So do I regret that? 796 00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,200 No, because the relationship ended after that and I set 797 00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,280 myself free. I think by the time that you 798 00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,400 feel like you have to reach those levels, though, the 799 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:14,200 relationship is over because. No, because it's hard to walk 800 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,440 away when you don't have proof. No, it is. 801 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,320 Even if you know in your. Heart, it is hard, but if you've 802 00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:19,400 got to see it. Looking at you. 803 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,840 If you've got that gut feeling and you know that you will not 804 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:26,560 get the truth if you genuinely ask them, you're not in a very 805 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:30,520 good relationship. Agreed, but I still think 806 00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:33,960 finding the evidence for your own closure Oh yeah is 807 00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,760 absolutely yeah necessary. I am sorry that you have to go 808 00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,640 through all that shit. Just like the girl that went 809 00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,880 down on her girlfriend after she'd fucked the guy I mean she 810 00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:43,960 wanted to get. Come in the mouth, yeah. 811 00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,840 If she hadn't have slept with her after and literally tasted 812 00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:48,560 his semen. She would have known, no? 813 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:53,440 No, no, I think she would have in the weeks following suspected 814 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,840 something that would have been signs, right, But she would have 815 00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,280 been gas lit into thinking that she was crazy. 816 00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,200 Oh, we were just having a drink, just blah blah blah whilst 817 00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:02,360 you're away. No, he did have to leave because 818 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,520 he had to go and also. Be like what the fuck he's gay. 819 00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,920 She's questioning, yeah. And she's questioning herself, 820 00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,240 right. Like you do need the evidence 821 00:41:09,240 --> 00:41:11,400 sometimes to give you that final push. 822 00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:15,120 Like I said, that's difference between knowing yourself as a 823 00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:18,680 generous, toxic, controlling person and questioning 824 00:41:18,720 --> 00:41:24,360 everything your partner does all the time versus having a healthy 825 00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:26,960 quote, UN quote, normal relationship with someone. 826 00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:31,280 Yeah, over quite a long period of time, and sensing with your 827 00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:35,040 Spidey lesbian senses that something does not fucking add 828 00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:36,520 up. And if you know that person's 829 00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:38,080 lying to you, do what you got to do. 830 00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:42,040 Yeah, bank statements. Yeah, do it. 831 00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,720 I think it's I I do think that once you get to that point, 832 00:41:44,720 --> 00:41:47,280 yeah, the truth is better because you will end up feeling 833 00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:49,560 insane and they will make you feel insane. 834 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:52,240 I'm just glad you're out the other end, babe. 835 00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,400 On the fact that she walked out on her own Christmas Eve, for 836 00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:57,120 fuck's sake. I hope she's found someone new 837 00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:01,360 and nice or she's just thriving shagging really hot girls. 838 00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,520 Yeah, you go, girl. But yeah, sorry about that. 839 00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,000 You can take it from. You're not the cunt, don't worry 840 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:07,320 about it. You. 841 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:10,520 Can take it from the lesbians voice of reason, AKA us. 842 00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,720 You're not in the wrong, she's in the wrong, and we hope you're 843 00:42:13,720 --> 00:42:15,760 happy. Yeah, Amen to that, sister. 844 00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,680 That is all today for the Lesbian Supper Club episode 38. 845 00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,120 We are actually off to Renee Rap this evening, which I can't 846 00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:24,680 believe we haven't actually spoken about this whole fucking 847 00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,360 episode. Renee Rap lesbian queen. 848 00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,360 We are, yeah. Before she has come out as a 849 00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:28,880 lesbian. She's. 850 00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:32,200 Come out as a lesbian woo. And my tummy hurts. 851 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,600 He's in love with her. Well, I may as well not even go 852 00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:36,920 now. That was amazing, thank. 853 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,360 You so much when you've got me. We are very much looking forward 854 00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,880 to it, so hopefully we'll see you all there by the time this 855 00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:44,360 goes out. Would have been a week ago and 856 00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:45,480 we would have seen you either way. 857 00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,800 Yeah, but let's go Renee Rapp, let's go lesbians, and let's go 858 00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,520 using Apple and Fitbits to catch a cheating exercise. 859 00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:57,440 Yeah, let's hope this gave you all a brilliant idea. 860 00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:58,920 See you next week. Love you. 861 00:42:59,080 --> 00:42:59,320 Bye.