1 00:00:07,940 --> 00:00:12,220 Hi quiz lesbians and Narnia straight women welcome to 2 00:00:12,220 --> 00:00:15,660 episode don't know what anymore of the lesbian supper club. 3 00:00:15,740 --> 00:00:18,940 I've been having so many messages from you guys recently 4 00:00:19,180 --> 00:00:22,320 talking about how much you're loving the podcast, Which I know 5 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,480 that like you say to us, you're like, oh, you must get so many 6 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,960 of these, blah, blah. But like, please be aware, we've 7 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:30,080 read every single one of them and we love it. 8 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,920 And it like, spurs us on. If there's anything that we need 9 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:37,160 is our ego stroking. Yeah, continuously, 100%. 10 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,760 I need compliments all the time. A lot of things need stroking in 11 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:41,640 our life. Actually. 12 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:45,840 Shut up. If we sound weird today, it's 13 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,200 because the hay fever in London is fucked. 14 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,080 It's vile and I can barely breathe. 15 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,640 As mentioned in the previous episodes, the Sudafed Blue is 16 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:59,400 getting rinsed to say the least. Also word of warning, if you're 17 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,720 not on Sudafed blue, don't don't go on it. 18 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:06,000 On it, No. It's a dangerous, dangerous 19 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:09,560 addiction. Because every night I hear the 20 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:14,280 following No, wait, wait. Nasal Spray. 21 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:15,960 That. Please. 22 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:21,600 And then you go fray, can you go into the car and get my nasal 23 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,720 spray and that really when you've just gotten into bed and 24 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:27,520 then. Maybe I actually feel like 25 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:29,040 bringing. This mic across the room just 26 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:31,320 for that. Well, maybe if you were a 27 00:01:31,320 --> 00:01:33,680 responsible adult and thought about taking it out the car for 28 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:35,160 me, you wouldn't have to go get it, would you? 29 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:38,080 Would you? At the end of the day, that 30 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:39,760 sounds very much like a you problem. 31 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:42,640 Fair. Do you know what? 32 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:47,400 What, put 3 minutes in, we're 3 minutes in. 33 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,200 I don't have the energy the hay fever is pulling my lids to 34 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:54,040 fucking Australia do. You choke on the spores or do 35 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:55,440 you like sniff them? Do you know what I mean? 36 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,280 They get. I think both Oh, I, I'm a 37 00:01:57,280 --> 00:01:59,200 choker, she's a sniffer. I'm I'm. 38 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:01,800 Doing both. So yeah, I am. 39 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,400 Pray is. Definitely a choker. 40 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,240 It goes right to the back of my throat. 41 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:07,680 Every time I walk past you, you just give me a little sniff. 42 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:10,639 Actually, you're I feel you're a chronic. 43 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:15,920 You smell nice today. No, that's her. 44 00:02:15,920 --> 00:02:18,280 That's for me. She's the sniffer. 45 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,560 I'm a sniffer and a choker babe. I've got all. 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:25,480 I mean that's why I am with with the with the fucking allergy 47 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:27,200 that I am choking on at the front and centre. 48 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:29,960 Like it literally catches me off guard and then I'm choking. 49 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,400 It's the only time in my life I will be actively choking. 50 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,320 Yeah, really bad. Really, really bad. 51 00:02:36,640 --> 00:02:39,760 We've had a crazy few days ago as well, haven't we? 52 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:44,240 Yeah, I mean, you got yourself far too trashed, which will come 53 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,400 as a surprise to absolutely no one. 54 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:51,520 But we were just saying that I have drank more on nights out 55 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,960 very recently and not. Felt actually have those nights 56 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:55,960 though. AI still think I'm tiny bit 57 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,720 unwell B. It was my first day of my period 58 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:03,680 C I had barely eaten and that's that's where the problem comes 59 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,520 in is when I think that I'm fucking hard and can just sink 60 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:11,720 booze like a six foot £200 man I. 61 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,000 Mean you literally can. Well, I'll give it a good go. 62 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:16,600 I felt like you could handle alcohol. 63 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:18,680 I felt like you could outdrink Scarlet though, like. 64 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:19,960 You guys have never seen me drunk. 65 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:21,960 No, and I'm shine to see you drunk. 66 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:23,600 Yeah, how many nights out have we been on? 67 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,160 We've been on so many nights out and Marsala has never been drunk 68 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:27,560 for any of those nights. Why? 69 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:29,440 Why? I think it's kids. 70 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,840 I don't know, you guys are fucking hilarious when you're 71 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,120 drunk and on our nights out, like The Yellow Door and Lisa's 72 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:37,440 are some of my favourite nights out. 73 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:38,560 Yeah. So, yeah, yeah. 74 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:40,480 Like literally better than anywhere. 75 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,080 Yeah, but why? Is it because you want to be 76 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:44,720 sober? To actually witness. 77 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,360 I'd probably want to witness and save myself. 78 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:51,440 Well, we do strip, so we do. Strip. 79 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:53,600 There's always. I'm waiting to get Marcelo drunk 80 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:56,560 so he can strip as well. Maybe we'll make a tick tock 81 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:57,800 about it. Be a lot of fun. 82 00:03:58,280 --> 00:03:59,160 I'd enjoy that. I would. 83 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,360 Love that. Let's be in supper club night 84 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,480 out. We are talking about two topics 85 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:10,440 today, one of which is why do lesbians stay friends with their 86 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:12,360 exes? Which I really am excited to 87 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,880 talk about and then we're going to talk about you guys have 88 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:19,480 always in the DMS asking us a how do we meet lesbians or like 89 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:23,520 how do you meet someone? And I get out of their day as 90 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:27,120 well. And B, how do you talk to Fleur 91 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:28,880 and have a successful first date? 92 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:32,080 I don't know why the fuck you're asking. 93 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,680 Any of you would think that we'd be giving you good advice 94 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:37,520 because clearly you haven't listened to our first date. 95 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:39,520 But maybe they can learn what not to do. 96 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:41,440 Well, clearly you. Can learn from my mistakes I've 97 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,400 made plenty of but. Doesn't this just go to show 98 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,320 there's not a lot of lesbian shit in the media? 99 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:48,640 The fact that these fuckers have to ask us is no cry for help. 100 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,600 Scraping at the barrel. Guys desperation it truly. 101 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,840 Is. So if you want to continue to be 102 00:04:54,840 --> 00:04:57,080 a little bit chaotic, be our guest. 103 00:04:57,080 --> 00:05:00,760 Take our advice, go for it. So the lesbians being friends 104 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,840 with their exes is a really interesting one because you're 105 00:05:02,840 --> 00:05:05,640 friends are both of your exes. Yes, and I'm friends of neither 106 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:07,160 of mine, Yes. What? 107 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:08,800 Does that say about me? And what does that say about 108 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:09,600 you? I'm a cunt. 109 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:11,320 You're not. I don't give a fuck. 110 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:16,840 There you go, conversation over. No, I think no, no, you can 111 00:05:16,840 --> 00:05:19,960 never put it down. I don't think to, actually. 112 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:21,560 It's a combination of the two, right? 113 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:26,040 It's a combination of the person that's the the new girlfriend 114 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:27,640 and the ex. I think it's a combination of 115 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:29,640 the dynamic between the two. Yeah. 116 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,880 Also how things were left. Yeah. 117 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:39,600 And also if there's yeah, if there's like carried on malice 118 00:05:39,840 --> 00:05:43,120 without any kind of like resolve to that or like resolute, you're 119 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:44,880 not going to really want to hang out with. 120 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:48,200 Her I think there's just so many layers to this like because. 121 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,680 But it is more more prevalent. Sorry to like jump in. 122 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,640 No no, it's more prevalent for lesbians to stay friends with 123 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,440 their ex than straight. So why do we think that is? 124 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:03,280 To start off with, I think it's because the connection. 125 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:07,400 I'm not saying is is better, but it's definitely different to 126 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,560 that of heterosexual relationships. 127 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:13,760 And I think it's easier and I, I think this goes back to the last 128 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:16,160 episode as well, when we were talking about lesbian bed death. 129 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:19,280 It's easier to become best friends with your lesbian 130 00:06:19,840 --> 00:06:20,520 girlfriend. I. 131 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:23,320 Think it's more than that. I think the lesbian pool is so 132 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,360 small. I think you might fuck yourself 133 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:28,480 a little bit by not still having that connection. 134 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:29,960 In a way. I think a lot of people 135 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:31,840 thriving. I know you're thriving. 136 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:34,480 I don't absolutely. I can understand why a lot of 137 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:36,240 people would want to stay friends because it's quite 138 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:38,320 difficult because they're all so interconnected. 139 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,680 Especially if you've got like a bigger friendship group. 140 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,840 It's like all lesbians, they all hang out and your ex was a part 141 00:06:43,840 --> 00:06:45,520 of that. So say for instance, if if me 142 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,920 and you, we'd have. To we'd have to go, we'd have to 143 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:49,760 stay to stay friends. Amicable. 144 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:52,120 Yeah, when 100? Percent intense therapy. 145 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:53,760 I'd probably have to move country to be honest with you 146 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:55,960 because like I couldn't deal with the with the hassle. 147 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,320 I can't be arsed. I don't know if that's 148 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,240 necessarily it. I I will go back to disagreeing 149 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,520 with you and thinking it is down to the connection because I 150 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,400 think and, and you're right, it's down to the person because 151 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:11,880 I am a lot more cutthroat than you, which we all know. 152 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,520 Yes, there's pros and cons to being cutthroat. 153 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:16,320 There's pros and cons to not being cutthroat. 154 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:21,240 You are more willing to give people 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th six 155 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:23,360 chances. Whereas I'm like, on my 103 156 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,640 strikes, you're fucking out. Out. 157 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:30,640 And as you say, I think it depends on the ex as well. 158 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:34,720 So like your ex is particularly your first ex. 159 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:40,640 It was very much, you know, like it was never going to be a long 160 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:44,400 term thing because she lives in Brazil. 161 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,400 You were really young. It was your first lesbian 162 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,040 relationship. Those things you like. 163 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:52,000 Yeah, it goes against you, right. 164 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:57,200 And so there was a lot of, but there was still a lot of love 165 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,680 there. And you, I mean, you can talk 166 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,120 about this, but you, you formed a relationship with that person 167 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,160 that was originally built on a friendship, wasn't it? 168 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:06,560 No. I thought you said when you were 169 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:08,520 messaging back and forth you were friends for. 170 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,880 A There was no there was intent from the get go. 171 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,280 We weren't like, it wasn't like we went from. 172 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:15,320 You lied to me, little lion fucking slut. 173 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,880 No, it was, it was friendly, but it didn't mean that there was an 174 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,440 intent from there from like quite early on within the 175 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:23,920 relationship building. I think that you kind of don't 176 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:28,000 make fucking pen pals anymore. Like, however, 1000 miles away. 177 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,800 You make penpers. Penpers, but no pen pals. 178 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:34,480 So yeah. And that was definitely, I mean, 179 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:38,400 I've just thought about some of the rogue voice notes I used to 180 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:41,280 say, because I don't think it was like, I don't think WhatsApp 181 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:42,679 was around there. It was. 182 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,920 What was it called? MSN. 183 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,840 No, not MSN Facebook Messenger. I think it was Facebook 184 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:51,920 Messenger, but there was also this one Viber. 185 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:54,160 Where you called. Skype. 186 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,920 Viber is a bit like live. Genji in the room hasn't got a 187 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:01,680 fucking. But yeah, that was. 188 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:03,600 Years younger than me. Grow up. 189 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:06,040 Grow. Up live there, there are 190 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:10,320 obviously like there are differences within why you would 191 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:15,360 want to stay friends as well. So like, I think for me, I yeah, 192 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,320 there was still a lot of love there and and I didn't. 193 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,920 And ultimately it comes down to the point where like I will 194 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:26,480 spend years with someone. I can't fathom cutting them 195 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:30,560 completely out of my life because that's really painful to 196 00:09:30,560 --> 00:09:32,680 me. Unless they are a piece of 197 00:09:32,680 --> 00:09:36,600 fucking shit then I can't. You know what I mean? 198 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,120 But let me say this, it doesn't happen straight away. 199 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:41,080 I couldn't just like break up with someone. 200 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:42,880 It took. A while to get back to that. 201 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:46,000 Oh yeah, it took years for me and my first ex to be friends 202 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,960 again and be on like a good level without talking, without 203 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:52,960 any kind of like little niggles or something. 204 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:55,200 And and it's whether you're willing as well, because I 205 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,400 wouldn't, I wouldn't say that you have to be friends with your 206 00:09:57,400 --> 00:09:59,840 ex at all. But I think in a way it's a 207 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,800 shame because you, you clearly liked that person for having 208 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:06,640 listening. That's the. 209 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:11,520 Rule and there's always like in every in every case, but I would 210 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:17,480 say from an outside perspective on your situations, I would say 211 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:21,640 Scarlett and you like your personality types make the 212 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:25,800 perfect balance in place. And I think that that's why you 213 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,800 guys are successful. Whereas I think in a different 214 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,360 relationship, Scarlett's personality traits was someone 215 00:10:31,560 --> 00:10:35,240 who maybe is more similar to you or has conflicting. 216 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:37,680 Or is really sensitive, would be fucked. 217 00:10:37,680 --> 00:10:40,400 Yeah, I think you're. Someone who wouldn't let you 218 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:42,920 care for them. Someone who wouldn't accept your 219 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,360 generosity. Someone who wouldn't. 220 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:46,880 Would take advantage of that as well. 221 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:48,440 Take advantage. Of that and I think you've 222 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,280 experienced that in friendships and I think that's yeah in my 223 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:54,160 opinion why well totally see that but I also. 224 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:58,000 Because my first girlfriend I actually really tried to stay 225 00:10:58,000 --> 00:10:59,640 friends with. I really did try. 226 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:03,800 I really wanted to be friends with this person because beyond 227 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:08,040 the relationship, I did really like this person. 228 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:12,240 But she made it impossible because even in a, even when I 229 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:15,080 was trying to be friends with this person, she continued to 230 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,640 lie to me, which was really bizarre because I was really 231 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,400 clear about the boundary and was like. 232 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,400 I think what I'll know I don't care about as well of like 233 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:28,040 friends of your ex, they tend to stay in that same mentality as 234 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:29,920 if you were still. Together, they don't know how to 235 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:30,800 break. Away from that. 236 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:32,520 So even if they're not in love with you anymore and you're not 237 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:34,200 in a relationship. It's hard to communicate 238 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:35,120 differently. It's. 239 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:37,280 Hard to figure that out because you've got to relearn the way 240 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:39,240 that you talk to this person because you'll have to speak to 241 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:41,360 them very differently. You talk about different things. 242 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:44,360 And so, you know, I can understand why she probably 243 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:46,640 stayed in that man. It's not saying it's right, but 244 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:48,240 no, she probably. It was really, it was just 245 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:50,480 really difficult to navigate a friendship, really difficult. 246 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:56,720 Like we met up once properly after the breakup, I I'd had a 247 00:11:56,720 --> 00:12:00,720 new girlfriend at the time she was dating my best friend, which 248 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,440 obviously I didn't know about, but I thought she was single. 249 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:08,120 And we met up and IA found it really sad. 250 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,560 I found it really upsetting actually. 251 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,120 I found it really hard to be. Take care. 252 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,560 I don't think that you were over her when you met her that time 253 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:19,240 because I don't think you would have been as upset. 254 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:21,040 Or agreed I also. Think I. 255 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:26,520 Yearned for her. I didn't want her back but I 256 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:30,160 yearned for something now and I don't know what it was but I was 257 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:32,480 also. But I The thing is, you say 258 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:34,960 that, but at the time I thought she was dating one of our other 259 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:40,360 friends and that wasn't my best friend and it didn't bother me. 260 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:44,360 I wanted her to speak about it. I was quite happy to discuss 261 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,160 that that didn't upset me or but then. 262 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:50,240 Maybe again, falling back into that same like what we used to 263 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,960 be kind of like expecting a person to be a certain way. 264 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:55,440 Even if you're not into them anymore, it's kind of upsetting 265 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:58,080 to see them in a different light because it's a it's a real 266 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:00,400 reality change. Because sometimes as well, it's 267 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,840 hard not to think that, you know, I would have sat in this 268 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:05,360 same pub with you that we're having a drink at now as a 269 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,440 friend before on a date, and the conversation would have been 270 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,320 entirely different. How the fuck do I now feel like 271 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:13,840 that meant nothing? No, because it meant something 272 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:15,360 at the time. But just because you say 273 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:17,720 something at the time and you're with someone and you have 274 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,640 intention at the time to be a certain way, doesn't mean that 275 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:21,920 you owe them that forever either. 276 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:25,760 With with this and 1st ex is like there was a deep love 277 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:28,480 there. Even though it was really like 278 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:33,240 not meant to be. There was a deep love there, but 279 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,600 looking back now, me and that person could not be more 280 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,480 different as individuals and not in a good way, not in an 281 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:44,120 opposite subtract way in a we just don't like. 282 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:47,080 Now I understand why we're not friends because I wouldn't 283 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,800 choose that person as my friend. And that's not even to say 284 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,000 because of the things that they've done or that the 285 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:56,480 mistakes in the relationship. Just as a person, we are so 286 00:13:56,480 --> 00:14:00,040 fundamentally different, there'd be no common ground for us. 287 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,760 Can I just quickly like I'm going to jump in and say like 288 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:07,400 complete opposite. Thank you on the on the complete 289 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:10,040 opposite side of the spectrum, just because I'm friends right 290 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,360 with a couple of my exes and keep in touch and you know, it 291 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,640 doesn't mean that you can't say fuck you, you're a cunt. 292 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:18,680 I'm never speaking to you ever again and just cut them out of 293 00:14:18,680 --> 00:14:21,200 your life because some people. Do hate to do that. 294 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:23,240 They do. They do hate to do that. 295 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:24,160 You've got issues with that. I. 296 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:27,240 Don't know we've got issues. Well, we already know that we're 297 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:31,360 doing this is what we're trying to do that I, I, I think it is 298 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:36,880 because going back to my initial point, you can slip in to best 299 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:39,000 friends. So the love. 300 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:40,800 I think friends, you fucking let them go. 301 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:43,000 That's I don't. Think it's no, but you don't. 302 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:45,280 I think it's different because I think a lot of straight couples 303 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:47,520 form best friend relationships with their friends as well. 304 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:49,880 I want to know what it is. Why does it agree? 305 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:53,040 Completely, there is the breakdown of girls nights and 306 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:54,640 boys nights. There's this whole thing in 307 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:58,280 Hetchinormative society where they're like the lads go and do 308 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:00,240 their things and the women go, go and do. 309 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,240 Their yeah, I get that. But what I'm saying I knew. 310 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:05,400 I don't understand that. You don't have that though, 311 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:07,920 which is why yours and lives relationship will be closer in 312 00:15:07,920 --> 00:15:10,080 that sense because you don't have that toxic masculinity 313 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,880 where you're like, I want a fucking large night where I can 314 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:17,360 take shots of someone's burned and she's not desperate. 315 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:18,440 You know what a loads of you know. 316 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:21,120 What do you know what screams gay lads nights? 317 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:23,840 Yeah, it's gay it. Screams gay. 318 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:27,000 Heterosexual people do are like more best friends. 319 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:29,600 Like I don't know how. To listen. 320 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:31,400 OK Joe, what? I think you missed my point. 321 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:35,840 Now what I'm saying is, yes, lesbians definitely do make best 322 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:37,120 friends with their girlfriends, right? 323 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:40,920 But I don't think that that is the reason as to why. 324 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,760 Why do you think the? Reason I'm trying to work it 325 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:45,080 out. I'm not saying that I know, but 326 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:48,160 what I'm saying is I don't think that that is the solid reason. 327 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,760 I think it's more to do with like, there's almost like a 328 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:55,680 level of it probably goes back to what we were saying before 329 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:58,360 about not being any rules and relationships as much, but like 330 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,440 lesbian relationships and straight relationships. 331 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:01,800 We don't know what the fuck that. 332 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:04,080 Suppose it's not that thing where it's like done and over. 333 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:06,680 Yeah, but a divorce papers have been signed, but there's also a 334 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:10,240 lot of like similarities and a lot of solidarity with a lesbian 335 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:12,400 partner because you go through so much with them. 336 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,240 Probably I would say more than what a straight couple with just 337 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:18,160 generally. So I don't know if it's more of 338 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:22,000 like a lonely feeling that you're like, fuck, this person 339 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:23,640 isn't there anymore. And if you don't have like a 340 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:27,160 solid foundation around you, like how are you supposed to 341 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:28,480 deal with that? Like it's hard. 342 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:30,480 I think goes back to the thing that I've always said with you 343 00:16:30,480 --> 00:16:35,520 girls about about I, I, and please correct me if I'm wrong 344 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:37,600 because, you know, obviously this is completely out of my 345 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:42,320 field and, and, but I do think that the connection that girls 346 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:45,360 have as friends, like two straight girls as friends is a 347 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,960 lot deeper than men have with. The yeah, 100%. 348 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,960 I actually, and I think that's because of toxic masculinity. 349 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,520 Do you know what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna message. 350 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:56,840 No, I'm gonna message both of my answers right now. 351 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:58,720 And I'm gonna say, why do you think we're still friends? 352 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:00,120 I'm talking about it on the podcast. 353 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:02,760 So I'm doing it now, OK. You do that. 354 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:07,079 I'm so I live my life so, which isn't always correct, but I live 355 00:17:07,079 --> 00:17:13,480 my life so black and white and I have my my thoughts on what I 356 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:16,599 think is right or wrong for myself and what I let into my 357 00:17:16,599 --> 00:17:20,839 life and, and the people I let into my life that I don't really 358 00:17:20,839 --> 00:17:24,520 put things into a grey area, whereas I think Freya does. 359 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:28,160 But both of you, I think both of you are like you've got so much 360 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:31,040 intelligence and I think that both of you deal with those that 361 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,240 intelligence in different ways. Yeah. 362 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:35,920 Yeah. So for me, I'm like, OK, it's 363 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:39,440 done. Like my second breakup, like it 364 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:41,480 was just so done. There was just nothing. 365 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,800 There was just nothing for me there that needed to stay, you 366 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:48,320 know, like and I imagine and I and I imagine it's probably the 367 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:51,760 same for that person. Like I don't think again, deep 368 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:57,880 down, like we had much in common. 369 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:01,320 I think we did she. Was more of like a transition 370 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,800 relationship. I think, yeah, I think looking 371 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:08,160 back now and I'll hold my hands up, I think it was like I, I was 372 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,440 passing the emotion on from the 1st to the 2nd and it really 373 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:13,400 wasn't intentional because I would have swore blind at the 374 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,040 time I was over my first girlfriend genuinely would of. 375 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:19,080 But looking back now, now I've matured a bit, I can definitely 376 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,920 see that. And yeah, I don't think me and 377 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:28,040 that person have just had any need to stay friends. 378 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:32,560 I, I have, no, I have no hate. Like if I saw that person out, 379 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:36,120 I'd like, I'd be nice. Like I, I, you know, I, I have, 380 00:18:36,120 --> 00:18:40,880 no, I have, I have no hate towards either of my exes. 381 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:46,280 I have a lot of, I don't have a lot of time for the things that 382 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,160 happened, but I don't have any hate there. 383 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:50,640 But there was just no need for me to be friends with them. 384 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,640 Whereas like we've gone back to it like me and you, there would 385 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:56,760 be a lot of. Of similarities there, there'd 386 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:58,480 be a. Lot of needs to keep you in my 387 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:01,240 life for various like first of all, you'd still have to cook. 388 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:03,080 I was about to say, would I be cooking for you still? 389 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:05,160 100% I just if. You break up with me, get 390 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:07,240 fucked. Do you know what I would never? 391 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:08,960 And do you know what I would do to get back at you? 392 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:12,040 I would cook for the hottest girls ever and I would just post 393 00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:13,760 it every night. Just different meals, different 394 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:14,920 girls. That's fine, so I'll keep the 395 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:17,200 dog away from you. Oh, interesting, that isn't it. 396 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:19,560 Yeah, I'll keep the dog away from you and I'll never look 397 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:20,280 good. Good. 398 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:22,920 Good luck going out pulling all these hot girls. 399 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:26,840 Yeah, in your fucking creased, stinking clothes that you don't 400 00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:28,440 know how to wash. You don't care how to. 401 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,960 No, they're not now, but they would be if I didn't do the 402 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:32,480 linen for you. No, you don't. 403 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,200 You don't know how to hang them. And when you hang them, they 404 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:35,640 dry. Dacking shirt. 405 00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:37,200 When I go out, I'll just wear a T-shirt. 406 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:38,600 That's fine, it still be creased. 407 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:42,520 Go out, try and pull these hot bitches in your creased Yankee 408 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,400 fucking clothes and cook them. Whatever. 409 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:47,840 You want I managed to pull you so. 410 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:49,640 You're on salt in yourself with your mum. 411 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:51,520 Yeah, she's holding yourself even faster. 412 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:52,800 Than you're washing. No she didn't. 413 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:54,280 Yes she did. Yes she did. 414 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:55,840 Call her up like chillies washing. 415 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:57,520 Call her up now and I already like chillies. 416 00:19:57,520 --> 00:19:59,440 She did my washing. I did it all myself for it was 417 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:00,160 Jelly. Me. 418 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:01,520 It was Jelly, right? So. 419 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:04,320 Don't hold food over my head, Fred, 'cause it'll make me 420 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:05,800 really fucking. Angry. 421 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:07,560 I'll get those fucking cat boots and I'm going to whack them 422 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:08,680 around your head in a minute. I'm going to. 423 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,240 Shove them up, you're fucking. Make it a promise. 424 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:14,280 Gaping vagina. Escaping. 425 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:21,360 So I asked. I asked both of my exes, I said, 426 00:20:21,360 --> 00:20:23,280 recording the podcast at the moment and talking about staying 427 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:25,360 friends with your exes. Why do you think we've stayed 428 00:20:25,360 --> 00:20:27,800 friends? Hashtag how? 429 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:29,600 Yeah. Come back. 430 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,400 One of them has so second ex has come back already. 431 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,160 Fucking how? I thought it'd be the first one. 432 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,320 So she came back straight away. I love this. 433 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:39,120 Good question. There was obviously a long 434 00:20:39,120 --> 00:20:41,240 period of time where we weren't friends, which is what I said 435 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,280 before, which allowed us both to heal and get perspective 436 00:20:44,360 --> 00:20:46,200 simultaneously. We watched each other fall in 437 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:48,240 love again and be able to separate the person from the 438 00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:50,440 past and build on that friendship because we didn't 439 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:52,520 carry grudges. And we at the bottom line is we 440 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:55,200 care about each other. That's a philosophical analysis. 441 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:57,640 On a less serious note, I think you're calling girlfriends fit 442 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,680 fair. I'll take it, I'll take that. 443 00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:02,600 And that's really. Interesting. 444 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,120 Actually, that's really funny because that is kind of what I 445 00:21:05,120 --> 00:21:06,960 said that's. Beautiful, that is. 446 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:08,680 Really nice. That is amazing. 447 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:10,080 That was really nice thing to say. 448 00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:10,600 Thank. You. 449 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:13,000 That's why you're still friends. Yeah, Well, well. 450 00:21:13,360 --> 00:21:15,160 That's the main. Thing for me right is that I 451 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:16,800 wouldn't stay friends with them if they were cunts. 452 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,080 I just couldn't. I also want to talk about that 453 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:23,840 because linked to that, if you then meet a girl who's still 454 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,520 friends with their ex, how do you navigate that? 455 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,480 Because this has obviously happened with me twice with 456 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:33,440 Freya and I know that it would be bothersome for a lot of 457 00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:35,840 people to point. Of contention with every 458 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,640 relationship. Yeah, 100%. 459 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:42,960 But for me it wasn't because it was that whole thing of like, 460 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:47,800 we're together now and I trust you. 461 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:52,040 It's not down to me to decide who you can and cannot be 462 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,520 friends with. Unless I thought those people 463 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:59,280 were actively treating you badly in our life now, your history 464 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,080 has got nothing to do with me. I wasn't there. 465 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:04,240 I couldn't comment if those people are being good to you 466 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,040 now. And that is a choice that you 467 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:08,760 make. I think it's got nothing. 468 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,960 To support me somebody's decision, because at the end of 469 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:12,440 the day, you can't change my decision. 470 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,960 And also where you're at for a reason. 471 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:19,200 So again, if you, if you that didn't work out for a reason, it 472 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,800 doesn't take anything for me for you to allow those people in 473 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,720 their in your life. And I know a lot of people would 474 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:25,880 be like, well, what's the risk that they'll get back together? 475 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:30,800 Well, then do it. Yeah, like, I'm not going to. 476 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,040 But it's the same with everything. 477 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:33,440 Stay with me. If you want to get back with 478 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:34,640 your ex, fuck off and get back with them. 479 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:36,760 Like, yeah, would I be heartbreaking? 480 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,520 Yes, I would. But if anything, maybe you want. 481 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:40,080 To see them more. If somebody says you can't see 482 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:41,880 them, I'm like, well, I've already said to you, I want to 483 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:43,480 see them. You've now said that I can't. 484 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:46,400 So now I really want to fucking go because you've tried to put 485 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:48,040 control over me and I don't like that. 486 00:22:48,120 --> 00:22:50,160 My mum wanted me to be straight and look how that turned out. 487 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,000 She should have never asked for that. 488 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:55,080 It's all her fault. It is all her fault. 489 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:56,760 I was like, oh, you want me to do straight? 490 00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:59,840 Disgusting. Yeah. 491 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:03,440 So we haven't actually got anywhere with this conversation 492 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:06,200 in terms of like, we don't have the answers, I think. 493 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,760 It's really good ideas. No, we've got we've, we've 494 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,840 explored a lot of things. There's no conclusion here. 495 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,560 I just think it's like, if it's right for you and you and that 496 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:18,080 person are meant to be in each other's lives in a platonic way, 497 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:21,880 you'll find your way. And if not, you won't and you 498 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,960 just wish them well and you carry on with your life. 499 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:30,040 Someone commented on the TikTok tattoo thing of me rinsing you 500 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:31,640 about the Emma Chamberlain tattoo. 501 00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:35,400 She obviously and was like, this is coming from someone who got 502 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,560 an unstoppable tramp stamp. Unstoppable. 503 00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:42,120 What is? Unforgettable someone. 504 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,240 Thought you forgot it. Literally I forgot it. 505 00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:49,320 Someone come at me and was like this guy, like she's rinsing her 506 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,520 and she got an untouchable tramp stamp. 507 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,320 Is it unforgettable? Oh fuck, now. 508 00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:59,560 And I was thinking a little cunt. 509 00:23:59,960 --> 00:24:02,960 Yeah, I did and BI wasn't rinsing the. 510 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,560 Can I just clarify? I love phrase tattoos. 511 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,880 That wasn't the point of the conversation. 512 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,320 That banter and yeah, they came. What people do. 513 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,560 You know what people don't seem to understand sometimes in the 514 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,160 comments is our banter. Oh. 515 00:24:14,360 --> 00:24:16,320 My God, can you stop telling us we're toxic? 516 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:17,320 We fucking know. Can. 517 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,920 I can. I clarify this being as I I 518 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:22,200 spend most of my. You're this year third person. 519 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,160 I'm holding a water. This is our third. 520 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,600 Our third relationship is ourselves as well. 521 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,800 It's Marcelo. Yeah, well, I can say safely 522 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,360 it's definitely not toxic. They love each other in the 523 00:24:33,360 --> 00:24:35,200 world. And also like I think it it it. 524 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:37,360 Like so it's banner. Banner. 525 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,800 But it also like. It adds just the. 526 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:41,880 Crack you. Guys, it makes you guys happy. 527 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,560 Yeah, name Alice it. Makes you happy. 528 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:45,600 Because we enjoy it. Malice intended. 529 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,400 Not to speak, maybe like was is it better to sit there and just 530 00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:49,440 not talk or? You have a bit. 531 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,880 Of fun and. Neither of you, but also never 532 00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:52,680 get hurt. No, no. 533 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,600 Both tough as nails. She'd fucking know if it hurt my 534 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,240 feelings as well. And then you would stop. 535 00:24:57,440 --> 00:24:59,800 Yeah, but that's the thing. I don't like to be perceived as 536 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:03,240 being like some little girlfriend of yours that's 537 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:04,240 getting offended left, right and. 538 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,200 Also, can I just say. You went for that. 539 00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:10,200 I'm going to have to clip that. Also do. 540 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:12,320 You know what? Scarlett doesn't start just 541 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:14,400 really quickly. Whenever I edit these videos, it 542 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:17,280 makes me laugh so much because the whole time I'm speaking, 543 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:21,560 Scarlett's like this. She's just wait. 544 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,640 She's not listening, she's just waiting for a chance to talk. 545 00:25:25,360 --> 00:25:28,280 Ohh, well that's funny because I can relay probably every single 546 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,400 thing you start. You said from the start of this. 547 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,880 You know, Podcast today said it all before and you know it. 548 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:38,160 People think that I rule the roost, but you actually in some 549 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,880 sense rule the roost. You do, because I'll be quite 550 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,600 like Bang Bang, Bang, but like, I will come off the ledge quite 551 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,360 quick. Yes, you. 552 00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:52,120 Can get a little bit more like calculated with like your your 553 00:25:52,120 --> 00:25:55,960 shit and I'm like fuck, she's gonna come for me and I actually 554 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,640 poo my pants a little bit. You'll admit when you're wrong 555 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,640 in 10 seconds. Yeah, you know what as well with 556 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:01,320 me. She. 557 00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:05,000 Doesn't because because she OK, so listen here because. 558 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,200 And I don't have to because. I don't in 10 seconds a lot of 559 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,360 the time because I'm not the handle as quickly as you, right? 560 00:26:09,360 --> 00:26:11,200 You're always on the edge, right? 561 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,680 You're always up here. Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, 562 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,080 Ding, Ding. Because I'm not up here, it 563 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,280 means that. This fucking IPA I am trash. 564 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:28,960 So, so as soon, so as soon as I as soon as I tell anyone off or 565 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:32,400 anything happens, people take it way worse when it comes from me 566 00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:36,560 because like it's not the norm and I fucking mean it. 567 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,560 Whereas you fly off the handle all the time. 568 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,520 So people are like, Oh, I need. To sort that out because I want 569 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,880 to be taken seriously. Can I? 570 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,480 I would like an example where Scarlet's flown off the handle 571 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:51,600 without without obvious, you know, agitation or reason. 572 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:55,640 God, the last 24 hours, what's up? 573 00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,920 Could I just say? So Liv has noticed, Liv has 574 00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:03,280 witnessed this happen. Is it can be little things. 575 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,880 So it's like, say, for instance, we'll be like. 576 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,320 Keep your mouth. In the car and I'll ask a little 577 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,120 something and be like, OK, babe, can we just like we were, we 578 00:27:12,120 --> 00:27:13,800 were outside this pub that I really wanted to go to. 579 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,040 It was really busy outside. No listen, it was really busy 580 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,400 outside. So I so I want to stay outside 581 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,760 the pub for like a second in the car just to see if anyone was 582 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,600 going to move. We literally because she hadn't 583 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,000 even stopped the car, right? So I was like, OK, can we just 584 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,760 have a quick look Freya, it's going to be busy. 585 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:33,000 No one's going to move and I want to fucking have a pint and 586 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,800 I don't want her to sit here and I got the dog. 587 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,200 What am I supposed to do with the fucking dog anyway? 588 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,160 So straight away, right, she's flown off the handle over 589 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,520 something that is so minimal, so minor. 590 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:44,960 OK. And you go off on what? 591 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:46,920 OK, let me come back with this. Thank you. 592 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,320 Freya has very much my way or the highway, so if Freya. 593 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:53,280 Wants to go. That's not true. 594 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,400 Shut up. I let you speak. 595 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,480 That is category. Untrue my way or the highway a 596 00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,360 lot of the time. So she decides she really wants 597 00:28:00,360 --> 00:28:02,560 to go somewhere she'll try and make it happen right. 598 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:04,880 So we went past this pub. She really wanted to go there. 599 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,000 I wanted to go there as well. When we initially drove past it 600 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,240 was quite empty outside. So I was like great we can go 601 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:13,080 and get our friend we can come back to this pub. 602 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,680 I have been to this pub a lot more than Freya and she's like, 603 00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:24,160 I used to go message Caroline Davidson right fucking now and 604 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,400 ask her how many times we used to go to that pub before I was 605 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,600 with you. Ask her messenger. 606 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:31,760 No, she hasn't. Messenger. 607 00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,520 Carry on, Messenger. Carry on. 608 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:37,240 I have been to this pub a lot more times than Freya and I know 609 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,600 that when the clock strikes like basically 5:00 it. 610 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,720 Gets. Round straight away. 611 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:47,800 So as we pulled back round to this pub I could see from a 612 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,080 distance all of the seats were full and because we had the dog 613 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,560 up with us we didn't want to sit inside anyway. 614 00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:58,480 So I was like it's full out, it's full outside, like where 615 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,320 should we go? Fred doesn't answer me, and I'm 616 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,400 like Freya because I know she still wants to go in there, 617 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,440 which is fair enough, but we can't because all the fucking 618 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,880 seats are full and I know. And people are going to stay 619 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:09,080 there as well because they've just turned out. 620 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,520 Because it's whether you. Have this opinion or not, I'm 621 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,160 not. Saying like, we're fucking going 622 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,440 because you then stand there and look at me because you still 623 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,160 want to go in there. So you'd rather sit and wait in 624 00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,200 the car and it's like, let's. Just go through seconds. 625 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:23,160 I'm not saying that your opinion was wrong, but what I'm saying 626 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:27,520 is your delivery can be. Your delivery is what offends me 627 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,960 and what fucking annoys me and makes me want to smash your 628 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,840 skinny little ass into. Oh my God, the ice lolly 629 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,320 incident. OK, so this actually upset Liv. 630 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,960 So the other day I was out and about getting picking up 631 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:43,920 Scarlett's antibiotics for her strep throat, right whilst I'm 632 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,880 out. I had to wait because the the 633 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:47,640 pharmacist was actually on a lunch break. 634 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,320 So I was like, well, I'm not gonna go home, I'm just gonna 635 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,160 poop it around. And I was on the phone to live 636 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,080 I'm. Fucking coming for you for this 637 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,080 episode the whole time I fucking AM. 638 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,440 The whole time I was walking around talking to them, I went 639 00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:00,080 to go get myself a coffee. Then I went into M&S 'cause I 640 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,960 just remembered that the doctor had said previously, make sure 641 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,520 you're like sucking on like an isolated. 642 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,840 That was just in my head. I'm not saying that I don't 643 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,560 already know this sensory issue of yours, OK? 644 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,080 But in my head, I was thinking of what the doctor said, and I 645 00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,440 was thinking of something that was gonna calm your throat down. 646 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:19,440 So I purchased a coconut lime ice lolly from M&S and then I 647 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,800 took it home already. Watering, and not in a good way, 648 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:22,560 because. My feet. 649 00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,160 I took it. Home burning right now because I 650 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,040 have such bad sensory. I took it home with your 651 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,360 medication, with some other bits that I bought you from Boots to 652 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,640 help you out right which? I was very. 653 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:33,280 Grateful. And then as soon as I put the 654 00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:37,720 ice lollies on there, Scarlett acted like I'd just gotten a 655 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,040 fucking dead cat and placed it on the bed. 656 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:45,440 You reacted so badly and so vicious and shouted at me just 657 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,200 for buying you those ice lollies because you're. 658 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,640 Sensory just now handed. It was out of order. 659 00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:55,280 Yeah right it was. But I've been really ill for 660 00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,960 days and I. Managed to shout though, didn't 661 00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,600 you? Sore throat, yeah. 662 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:01,360 Didn't have a problem with shouting to swallow. 663 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,080 But not shout. Yeah, so liver's on the other 664 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,760 end of the bone. That I have like I literally 665 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,800 can't even bear to watch someone eating ice lolly like it's so 666 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,400 bad it makes me want to throw up do. 667 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,280 This on the next podcast. Like I can't even. 668 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,520 Think about it makes. Me gag like I'm actually 669 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:17,800 sweating I'm sweating now I'm actually sweating and thinking 670 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:22,720 about it so I'm really ill in bed and Freya just chat yeah you 671 00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:25,640 don't understand like my. Teeth are hurting, I know so 672 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,480 when she. Chucks a bag of ice lollies on 673 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,480 the beds. Yeah, it makes me furious. 674 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,440 I'm not saying it's rational. I never once said it was 675 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:34,680 rational. But in that moment in my brain, 676 00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,720 I was like, you know how much I hate. 677 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:41,600 I couldn't be about to cry. I could be dying and someone 678 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,480 could say to me. It really is a level strong. 679 00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,320 Dying. Knees. 680 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,120 I could be dying and someone could say. 681 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,320 Lollies on a sweater. Already it will save your life. 682 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,320 And I would not eat the ice lolly, OK? 683 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,680 You wouldn't save my life for having. 684 00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,360 No, I don't. My life. 685 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,360 I fucking certainly would save yours. 686 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:04,080 No, even less. You're joking. 687 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,280 You're fucking joking. I'm not fucking joking. 688 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,160 I probably take a nibble for Ziggy. 689 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,920 That is it. So you wouldn't you wouldn't 690 00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,840 suck on an ice lolly, would I say? 691 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,680 But yeah, well, you wanted. To. 692 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:18,160 I don't. You wanted. 693 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,160 To fuck off as well in the corner. 694 00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,000 Yeah, well, Liv was just trying to help me thinking of a 695 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:23,920 scenario. Do you know when you and assy to 696 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:24,520 me is on you've? Done. 697 00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,480 Nothing, Liv. You've started to do this thing 698 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,880 now, but Freya hates me singing. No, I don't hate you singing. 699 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,680 Whilst I hate is that whenever I start singing, whenever I 700 00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:37,040 whenever I start singing to something, she has to sing 10 701 00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,280 decibels higher than I do, so louder. 702 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,880 When she starts singing it excites me. 703 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:46,080 Then I start singing a great but but then you have a go at me. 704 00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:48,640 I don't have a go at you. Ruin the song, because you'll 705 00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:49,800 be. Trying to sing along to 706 00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:54,640 something and then all of a sudden I hear and so much and 707 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:58,600 I'm like Oh my fucking God. Well, it's not my fault that 708 00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,120 you're meant to be the professional singer and I can 709 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:02,280 belt. You don't. 710 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:04,760 Belt, you shout. Oh, it's not the same. 711 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,520 Tell me that when I was singing in the Kitchen by Renee Brown 712 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,400 singing you said I no sing it. Go on, go. 713 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,720 And you said I absolutely. Sing it and I'll manage to 714 00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:17,080 Renee. Sing it No. 1st dates Oh and how 715 00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:20,360 right you guys have asked us a lot of times how do you like 716 00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:25,200 approach women, have successful first dates, find women, et 717 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,800 cetera, et cetera. As we mentioned earlier, I don't 718 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,520 know why you'd be asking last night Freya, I feel like you've 719 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,600 got better wrist than me and I will give that to. 720 00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,440 You. Thank you, baby. 721 00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:35,200 Freya. Has. 722 00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:37,800 Freya's got. The I'm just like, I think The 723 00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:41,280 thing is, is that I've just, I'm just you're a flirty person, but 724 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:42,960 I'm even more of a flirty person. 725 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,760 I think I'm just very tactile, whereas you're not tactile as a 726 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:49,000 like I'm very touchy feely, just naturally. 727 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,320 So I kind of feel confident when I meet women. 728 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:55,120 I think that's what it comes down to is confidence in 729 00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,480 yourself because like you really have nothing to lose. 730 00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,160 You can go on a date. What are you actually going to 731 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,040 lose if it goes wrong? How do you? 732 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:06,360 OK, no, but that's not. How do you approach the date? 733 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:07,800 How do you get there and approach? 734 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,080 Someone in a bar. That's what. 735 00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:11,560 People want to. Know it is confidence. 736 00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:17,360 So my advice on this would be the reason why I think we, well, 737 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:21,440 the reason why I think we attract a lot of people is 738 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:24,960 because we own who we are. Yeah, straight up. 739 00:34:25,199 --> 00:34:30,719 So we leave no room for apology, and we wear ourselves of 740 00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:34,679 confidence and we wear our queerness with confidence. 741 00:34:34,679 --> 00:34:36,360 But it goes the same thing as what I just said. 742 00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,320 If you've got confidence and you go over and you like compliment 743 00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,080 someone so like you can not the fuck. 744 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,120 Boy lesbian. Not no, no, no, no. 745 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:46,000 But you're just confident in yourself as a person, right? 746 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,239 You can turn around and then you can say, sorry, I just wanted to 747 00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:52,239 say you're you're so stunning. Or like you can say something 748 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,080 like this. Think about find something about 749 00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:57,400 them or be like, I love like your eyes or whatever it is. 750 00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,840 It can be anything. And like I do this even now, 751 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,480 like to like get friends. I'm like, I like you go over to 752 00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,160 them and you compliment them, but say I just want to know 753 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,520 like, Oh, I love that jacket or like whatever it could be. 754 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,440 Your rizz is why your rizz is genius in my opinion, Freya, 755 00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:14,800 it's because it comes from both angles, from both a. 756 00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:17,880 Friendly. Or we could be. 757 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,480 You know, yes, she's trapping. You, you're trapped. 758 00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,440 But can I say? I think something that we should 759 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,960 point out is that I think you guys go up to the people more 760 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,240 than people come up to you. So it's like just so it's like 761 00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:31,720 in case anyone says, oh, but you know, you're both. 762 00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:33,840 No, yeah, we got to them, I would say. 763 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:35,960 That you guys go up to more people than people come up. 764 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,800 To you, although we don't go up. OK, listen. 765 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:42,120 Yeah, we don't. We don't go up unintentional 766 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,120 eventually. So there could be like, a lot of 767 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,720 looking across the room and you kind of catch eyes a few times 768 00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:49,200 and then you go over and you're like, yeah, hey. 769 00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:50,520 And then you just, like, have a chat. 770 00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,680 And again, is you. I started off very, like, 771 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:54,360 friendly. And then you gauge if that 772 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:57,520 person is a bit flirty because you can do a few things like 773 00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,600 touch their arm when you're talking to them or something. 774 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,200 The way that somebody reacts with their body shows you 775 00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:03,960 whether they want it to be flirty or not. 776 00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,000 I feel like you need to let, if you don't already know how to 777 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:08,520 read people, you really need to learn. 778 00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:10,120 Yeah. Reading body language. 779 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,120 Yeah, I would never say it out of turn. 780 00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,880 So like if I genuinely didn't think that they were beautiful, 781 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:17,560 I would never got someone just to try and raise them up. 782 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,880 You're beautiful. No, I just wouldn't do it. 783 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:22,760 But. It's very honest. 784 00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:27,560 We walked into a bar and there was like a fucking beautiful 785 00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,920 person in there. And we much straight up and 786 00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:35,720 we're like, you're beautiful. And like could tell that that 787 00:36:35,720 --> 00:36:38,040 was very well received. Whereas sometimes people are 788 00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,760 like, oh, thanks. I'm like, OK, there's like, 789 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,960 there's no like, there's no like conversation to be had here. 790 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:44,960 I mean, we're saying this like me and you were out pulling. 791 00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:46,040 We're not. No, no. 792 00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:48,240 I think, though, you're for friends, yeah. 793 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,720 Yeah, yeah. Like, yeah, like we're 794 00:36:49,720 --> 00:36:53,680 constantly like networking in a way, I suppose, like building 795 00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:55,520 like a not that's the wrong way of putting. 796 00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:58,160 It like me and you are always very open to new. 797 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,360 Friends. We're always very open to new 798 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,640 friends like we love. Yeah, we love. 799 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,760 Meeting people and I think. It's why you know people, you 800 00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:05,840 just. Gain so many different 801 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,200 experiences with different people and I love introducing my 802 00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:10,360 older friends with my newer friends and getting everyone 803 00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:11,760 together and just like having a laugh. 804 00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,920 Because about community, which is the whole reason you started 805 00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,640 this podcast. Yeah, exactly. 806 00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:19,000 Although we are, we did make our fucking huge faux pas with two 807 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,360 of our friends a few months ago. And we're actually going to get 808 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,240 them on the podcast because they're like, their story's 809 00:37:24,240 --> 00:37:27,040 very, very interesting. And I know that they will not be 810 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:32,600 the only ones where we assumed something big about them that 811 00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:33,960 wasn't true. Yeah. 812 00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:36,640 Oh. And then after sitting down and, 813 00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,280 like, being quite outward about this assumption for at least 814 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,880 half an hour, found out that we were entirely wrong. 815 00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:47,120 And when I told you, I wanted the ground to swallow me up. 816 00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,920 So yeah, I think, like, just just approaching it with 817 00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,160 confidence. And I think these days as well, 818 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,520 like, you don't know who's gay. You don't know who's not. 819 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:56,840 I mean, sometimes there's subtle signs, sometimes there isn't. 820 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:58,760 You know, there's lots of straight passing, straight 821 00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,200 passing girls out there. Girls that you don't have. 822 00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:05,080 The fucking caravan is on and the Doctor Martins and the baggy 823 00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:08,000 jeans and the my desk. Can we actually do a nipple 824 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:11,080 piercing, invent a sign? Should we invent a sign as part 825 00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:13,920 of the podcast that is like the lesbian sign? 826 00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:16,120 You do this fucking sign. It's a Caribbean. 827 00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,440 It's a Caribbean. A bit like a hand sign or 828 00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,680 because a lot of some. Everyone just buys lesbian 829 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:22,200 supper club tote bags when they come out. 830 00:38:22,240 --> 00:38:23,720 Just carry them around with you every. 831 00:38:23,720 --> 00:38:25,240 If that ain't a fucking sign, I don't know. 832 00:38:25,240 --> 00:38:27,040 What, or a lesbian supper club signet ring? 833 00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:34,560 Or a lesbian supper club lighter so the Lezos, the lesbians can 834 00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:38,200 go out in the smoking area. I was always looking for a 835 00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,240 lighter. Here's my lighter. 836 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:42,040 Oh, cool. Lighter. 837 00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:43,720 Oh, thanks. Do you listen to this gay 838 00:38:43,720 --> 00:38:45,280 podcast, The Lesbian Soccer Club? 839 00:38:45,720 --> 00:38:46,680 Oh, yeah, I do. Or. 840 00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,200 Oh, my God, no. I can't believe I heard about 841 00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:49,680 it. I love gay podcasts. 842 00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,160 There you go. There you go, sorted. 843 00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,480 It's like a Zippo but lesbian soccer. 844 00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:54,320 Club. Yeah, it's red. 845 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,280 Yeah, red one with LS like an embossed. 846 00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,960 LSD and then you can walk around with that. 847 00:38:59,960 --> 00:39:02,000 Yeah. And even if you don't smoke, 848 00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:03,640 have it. Smashed. 849 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:08,240 Yeah, smashed it, yeah, so. But also, sorry, just really 850 00:39:08,240 --> 00:39:12,200 quickly just going back on that, loads of like loads of women 851 00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,560 always worry that like they are just going to come across as 852 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:16,840 friendly and it's just going to be like a friendly vibe. 853 00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:20,840 What I would say back to that is if there is no obvious chemistry 854 00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:22,640 right, then why would you want it anyway? 855 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,760 Also if you're wondering just fucking ask, what can they say 856 00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,000 is they can either say just say no fine, or they can say no in a 857 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:32,480 bit be a bit homophobic. Then you will then fuck. 858 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,440 Off, but like you don't really have anything to lose. 859 00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:36,680 I know it. I know it can be quite 860 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,600 uncomfortable. But this is where, again, I 861 00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,400 think me and you, like we've reached a point where we're so 862 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,640 comfortable in who we are, there is nothing anyone can say that 863 00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:45,720 would offend. Me, that in me. 864 00:39:45,720 --> 00:39:48,640 But when they say that they're straight, I'm like, oh, OK. 865 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:50,400 Oh. That's embarrassing. 866 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:53,640 But yeah, no, I'm joking. I just, you just, yeah. 867 00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:55,480 Project, I think like just being confident. 868 00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,040 Pardon. We do. 869 00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:00,400 Yeah. Everyone wants to woo woo. 870 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,320 Exactly. Yeah, and then first dates. 871 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,680 This is a hard one because everyone's different. 872 00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,240 Some people want to do an activity, some people want to go 873 00:40:11,240 --> 00:40:13,440 and just have a drink and get a bit pissed. 874 00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,360 Some people want to do the formal dinner. 875 00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:16,800 Do you know what? I'm always a drink. 876 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:20,440 Girl, I'm always a drink girl. I was sold the other day though 877 00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:25,400 by this guy telling me how he prefers a coffee date. 878 00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:30,640 So for me I was like fuck no. Will I be seen sat down with a 879 00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,640 coffee with a girl when I want to be able to relax, have a 880 00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,000 drink, have a bit of a laugh, right? 881 00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:37,920 And he said, I totally get that. However, you are letting them 882 00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,440 see you're like, you are being able to not only identify what 883 00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,400 they're like, but they're able to identify exactly what you're 884 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:44,840 like, right? And if that coffee date goes 885 00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:48,560 well, it can turn into a drink or it can end. 886 00:40:48,720 --> 00:40:52,040 But for me, I would rather, personally, I would rather go 887 00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,720 out for a drink. I'd have a backup plan on me. 888 00:40:54,720 --> 00:40:58,440 So like a friend of mine has to call with a fucking crisis at 889 00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,440 any point. I mean, I don't feel like those 890 00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,600 are believable anymore, but yeah, so many people do it. 891 00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:05,760 Now, and well, they. Do always say in a frank order 892 00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:07,240 of a crisis, I bet. Well, OK, this. 893 00:41:07,240 --> 00:41:11,400 Is OK, but what I would also say is when, when are you lot going 894 00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:14,320 to learn right from the other end of the spectrum. 895 00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:17,880 So not the person who has to have the crisis call right, but 896 00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:19,480 the other person. When are you going to learn that 897 00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,440 that somebody isn't into your other day isn't going well? 898 00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,680 Yeah, because I don't think this happens with. 899 00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,000 That's usually men who just don't see it, like our friends a 900 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,800 lot. Of no, I think it happens with a 901 00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,160 lot of lesbians as. Well, really. 902 00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:30,680 Yeah. OK. 903 00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:33,600 Interesting. I So let me tell you why I still 904 00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:36,160 wouldn't go for a coffee date, because I get the point where I 905 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:37,720 was like, yeah, it could turn into a drink. 906 00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:42,040 No, I want to go home. I want to scram some food. 907 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,600 I want to refresh my makeup. I probably want to change your 908 00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:46,640 clothes. True, I want to. 909 00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,200 Go out and feel as I. I hate that. 910 00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,560 I hate I. Don't I always feel my best 911 00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:54,000 drinking for that reason? No, I always feel my best though 912 00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:57,680 once I've had longer to get ready like agreed and like be in 913 00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,160 my night time. I wouldn't feel relaxed because 914 00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,600 like for me, going from one to the other, that no that. 915 00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:06,360 Would I also feel like the Viber sexier on a drink deck? 916 00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,320 Agreed I. I think it's. 917 00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:12,440 I mean, I think it's as simple as just like going for a drink 918 00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:14,840 for an hour at the end of your day with somebody that doesn't 919 00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,280 work out, not a big deal. Spending an hour in the middle 920 00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:21,480 of your day takes up a little, a big, a much more a big chunk of 921 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:22,840 your day because you've got to think about it. 922 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,200 After get. Ready before Yeah, and it just. 923 00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:26,800 Yeah, yeah, especially Yeah, no, I agree. 924 00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:31,200 Actually, yeah, this is. No, I'm no, I say go, no, go 925 00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:32,880 for, go for a drink or dinner. I don't care. 926 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,400 I wouldn't want to. Add the book Reading lesbians. 927 00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:37,880 Oh God. Well, count me out. 928 00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:40,440 Yeah, don't fucking invite me to your library club. 929 00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,520 I don't want to come first dates. 930 00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:47,320 I think just get to know the person a bit before and again, 931 00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,040 just ask the question. Don't pussyfoot around. 932 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:51,840 Yeah. Do you want to go for a drink? 933 00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,680 Do you want to do dinner? Do you want to do an activity 934 00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:56,440 especially? And it's not say what you don't 935 00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:58,000 like. If that person says I want to go 936 00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,480 roller skating and you're like me and you're fucking at risk of 937 00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:03,400 slipping a disc, say no, I'm at risk of slipping a disc. 938 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:05,200 I'm not going roller skating with you. 939 00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:06,960 Can we just go and get piss please? 940 00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:10,000 So, yeah, so lesbians, if you have anything like more 941 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,280 specifically talking about dating, we'd love to hear it as 942 00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:14,920 well because there might be something that we're missing. 943 00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:15,440 We haven't. Dated. 944 00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,960 We haven't. Dated in ages but we do like 945 00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,280 friend dating which is just as scary sometimes. 946 00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:24,440 So you can actually practise going out and picking up friend 947 00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:28,400 dates if you feel like you. If you feel like you don't have 948 00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,360 much experience in this realm, maybe try something a little bit 949 00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:34,840 easier, like going up to someone and becoming their friend, You 950 00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,040 know, if you're really shy. Don't do it just practising for 951 00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,480 romance, do it for platonic relationships as well. 952 00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:42,960 Exactly right. Moving on now to the Horror 953 00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:44,960 Story. So this person wrote in and said 954 00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:47,920 hi, love the podcast. Thank you by the way. 955 00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:50,840 So Horror Story for the pod. And by the way, sorry if my 956 00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,760 English is terrible, I am Swedish and dyslexic. 957 00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,560 That's fine. We love a dyslexic queen, I 958 00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:58,120 fancy. Love the Swedish as well. 959 00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:01,240 We love the Swedes. I found this cute woman at a gay 960 00:44:01,240 --> 00:44:04,200 club and we hit it off, started making out and everything was 961 00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:05,880 great. So we went to her place and had 962 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,600 a very very nice and steamy night. 963 00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,320 We fell asleep for a couple of hours just to wake up and 964 00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,960 continue. Classic that is classic. 965 00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:18,080 There's classic lesbians. On the first date, in the middle 966 00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:23,400 of sex, me between her legs, her screaming, her fucking husband 967 00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,560 came in. I did not know she was married 968 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:31,360 and the guy was fuming so angry, flipping furnitures and 969 00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,120 threatening me. One of the scariest moments of 970 00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:36,960 my life. Great sex though, so worth it I 971 00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:41,040 guess. Oh my God. 972 00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:44,040 Next message I would like to be kept anonymous. 973 00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:48,880 That is fine. That is for Oh my God. 974 00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:51,400 I actually haven't read it so like I just had it as a 975 00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:52,680 screenshot. What the fuck? 976 00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:54,720 Yeah, iconic. Iconic. 977 00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,880 How do you deal with that? We don't advocate cheating. 978 00:44:58,960 --> 00:44:59,760 I. Do. 979 00:44:59,880 --> 00:45:03,040 But so I have a problem. So. 980 00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,160 So we were talking about this the other day. 981 00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:10,760 You cannot continuously treat someone like a piece of shit and 982 00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:16,640 expect them to not find care, love, and affection somewhere 983 00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:19,360 else somewhere else. So I don't condone cheating if. 984 00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:22,120 You're However, if this was rookie, Yeah, this was very 985 00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:23,840 rookie, baby, you should have been more careful. 986 00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:25,760 No, no, not the. No, the wife. 987 00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:26,920 The wife, yeah. Why? 988 00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:29,720 Why were they in their house? Are you joking? 989 00:45:29,720 --> 00:45:31,360 She. Probably wanted him to find out. 990 00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:33,920 Maybe. Maybe she couldn't tell him and 991 00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:36,560 she just wanted him to find out. Maybe she knew she was gay, 992 00:45:36,720 --> 00:45:38,800 didn't want to tell him. So she was like, actually, I'd 993 00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:40,360 rather you just fucking caught me. 994 00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:44,200 That's also so iconic. Why is that hot? 995 00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,760 The what the problem that I have with this is him going mad 996 00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:49,960 straight away and flipping tables in front of this poor 997 00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:51,880 woman, right? Because she didn't know she. 998 00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:55,400 Didn't know, it's not her fault. Also, even if she did know and I 999 00:45:55,400 --> 00:46:00,440 hold this and people may disagree, if you're single you 1000 00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:01,320 can do what the fuck you. Want. 1001 00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:02,480 Yeah, You don't know it to anyone. 1002 00:46:02,480 --> 00:46:04,880 It's not, it's like it's the person who's in the 1003 00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:07,080 relationship, it's up to them to make the decisions on their 1004 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:09,200 relationships. It's up to them to make 1005 00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:12,360 decisions as an adult. It's not your, it's not your 1006 00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:16,320 problem to carry. So I hate it when these things 1007 00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:17,360 happen. People cheat. 1008 00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,160 It happens all the fucking time. Like it's one of those things 1009 00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,120 that happens all the time. And our friends actually gave a 1010 00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,720 really good, there's an actual psychological study on this and 1011 00:46:24,720 --> 00:46:27,320 I've mentioned it previously and I need, we really need to talk 1012 00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,440 about which is the 2 year, the serotonin depth thing. 1013 00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,200 Serotonin, which is like there's been there's been a whole study 1014 00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:38,280 done on it, but you where if you've been cheated on and I 1015 00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:41,920 like I've done it in the past, I've gone marred and it like 1016 00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,280 that person, you can decide that is not a good person and you 1017 00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,080 don't want them in your life. You obviously don't ever 1018 00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:48,840 probably want to be around someone who your fucking 1019 00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:52,240 partner's cheated on you with, but to blame them? 1020 00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,960 I personally think it's wrong because that person, unless they 1021 00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,720 were your friend or related to you in some way, or someone 1022 00:46:58,720 --> 00:47:02,120 completely detached nothing to do with them, it's got nothing 1023 00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:02,920 to do. With them, it's not their 1024 00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,800 responsibility. No, you can dislike them and you 1025 00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,440 can actively not want them in your life. 1026 00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,760 You can't blame them. You can think, but it's it's not 1027 00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,320 their problem. But I do genuinely think that 1028 00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:14,560 that the other partner that's been cheated on though, will 1029 00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,520 automatically just find anger everywhere and they will start 1030 00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:21,000 to blame that other person because they feel so heartbroken 1031 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,400 by their loved one that they could do that to them, that 1032 00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,080 they'll be like, well, fuck, it's the other person then. 1033 00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:25,800 Yeah. But yeah. 1034 00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,560 But going back to the actual story itself, Jesus fucking 1035 00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:32,200 Christ, I would have shipped. I mean, I love the fact, though, 1036 00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:34,920 that she went back and was like, but it was hot though, so it's 1037 00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,720 worth it. Worth it if it was worth it. 1038 00:47:36,720 --> 00:47:37,560 Love that. Thank you. 1039 00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:39,720 Fuck, the sex was good. Yeah. 1040 00:47:39,720 --> 00:47:40,960 Can you imagine if the sex was she? 1041 00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:43,280 Imagine she was doing a bit of charity work and then he caught 1042 00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,920 them fucking. You'd be more embarrassed than 1043 00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,760 anything, wouldn't you? You'd be like, actually, do you 1044 00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:49,840 know what, Ava, Ava, I don't even. 1045 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:51,960 Want it Different accents? While she's. 1046 00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:56,200 While she's doing all the different accents, yeah, that, I 1047 00:47:56,240 --> 00:47:57,960 mean, it's iconic. It is iconic. 1048 00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,800 It's a great story. See, now I'm a massive advocate 1049 00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:02,800 for the good story. I've also don't feel better to 1050 00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,360 sleep with a married woman. It's a bit of a kink. 1051 00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,120 It is a bit of a kink, yeah. I mean, I don't have any advice 1052 00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,000 on that one. There isn't any advice, no. 1053 00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:12,960 It's just. Like it's just a great story. 1054 00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,080 I think that man's a cunt. Yeah, I mean, I think he reacted 1055 00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:17,920 way too high. Furniture I'll have. 1056 00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:21,120 Pathetic. You know what he was probably 1057 00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:22,440 more upset about? He's putting the poor. 1058 00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,200 Girl on that was a woman. No, but I yeah, he was 1059 00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:27,200 dangerous, but also he's probably upset that she was 1060 00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:29,800 making her scream and he's probably never done that. 1061 00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:33,840 You're upset, Go toss a little table. 1062 00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:35,880 You just go into the story quickly, which I know doesn't 1063 00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,320 relate to the Horror Story, but this, this serotonin. 1064 00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:38,800 Sorry. Yeah. 1065 00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:43,880 So basically our friends, our friend Elle's found this out and 1066 00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,640 posted it and I found it really interesting. 1067 00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:49,640 So there's basically been a study done because cheating is 1068 00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,640 very common. It is so common. 1069 00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:52,960 Oh yeah, it's super common. I don't. 1070 00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:56,720 Know how common it is but I would probably take whatever 1071 00:48:56,720 --> 00:48:59,240 percentage there is and add 10 to 20% on top because people 1072 00:48:59,240 --> 00:49:02,680 will be lying about it. It's very common and apparently 1073 00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:05,720 a study has been done recently. I can't reference it because she 1074 00:49:05,720 --> 00:49:07,960 just posted it and I don't remember the reference, but it 1075 00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:12,520 was basically about they're trying to work out like why this 1076 00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:15,440 is and it's come back to like literal biology. 1077 00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,640 So apparently what happens is, as we all know, when you meet 1078 00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:21,960 someone, you're in honeymoon moon phase. 1079 00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:24,840 You don't know any wrongs about this person because everyone's 1080 00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:26,440 got them. You see all the positives. 1081 00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,160 You're having mad crazy sex all the time. 1082 00:49:28,160 --> 00:49:30,920 It's fucking great. Then the routine starts to kick 1083 00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:32,280 in, but you're still super happy. 1084 00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,640 You think you found your person. Like everything's good. 1085 00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:41,120 Apparently as you hit the two year mark, your serotonin starts 1086 00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:43,520 to drop. So you're when you meet someone 1087 00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:47,400 you that serotonin really high. That's why you feel fucking 1088 00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:48,760 amazing. That's why probably you think 1089 00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:51,760 the sex is incredible blah blah blah blah blah. 1090 00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:55,280 You reach the two year mark and it literally drops. 1091 00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:59,600 And that statistically is when people cheat is around 2 years 1092 00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,320 because the the serotonin's dropped. 1093 00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:05,880 You start to probably maybe find out that that person isn't 1094 00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:07,440 everything you thought they were. 1095 00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:12,520 The flaws really start to show and you go and look for that 1096 00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:15,640 increase elsewhere. So it's not even to do with it's 1097 00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:18,440 not necessarily to do the other person, it's not to do with you 1098 00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:21,240 not loving them. It's literal biology that you're 1099 00:50:21,240 --> 00:50:25,320 kind of animalistic side goes. I want that hit back. 1100 00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:26,760 It's like a drug. Yeah. 1101 00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:30,120 And I'm going to go and try and find it, which I just found so 1102 00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:33,480 interesting because. But people see those are too 1103 00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:37,480 small to let someone if they feel like they wanted that 1104 00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:41,080 serotonin boost or get it with the partner or whatever it might 1105 00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:43,800 be or to have that conversation. This comes back to so many 1106 00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:46,680 previous episodes, doesn't it? It's like the sad thing is as 1107 00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:50,040 well, the society that we live in, being able to be honest 1108 00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:52,280 about that. Is forbidden. 1109 00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:53,640 Then they go behind the bang. You cheat. 1110 00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:55,560 Yeah. Whereas actually, if we lived in 1111 00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:58,280 a more progressive, open society, you'd be able to say, 1112 00:50:58,280 --> 00:51:00,800 look, I feel like we've hit the two year mark. 1113 00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,640 We've hit a bump in the road. The relationship doesn't feel as 1114 00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:05,320 fun anymore. What can we do? 1115 00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,960 I think we've got some communication issues, but you're 1116 00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,040 my person. How do we work through this? 1117 00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:12,400 People don't know how to have those conversations because we 1118 00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,240 haven't been taught and we've been told it's bad. 1119 00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:15,480 Yeah. So they cheat. 1120 00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:17,560 Yeah. And that's almost acceptable as 1121 00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:18,840 well. I mean, if we think about like 1122 00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:21,640 celebrity culture and stuff, like people cheat all the time, 1123 00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:24,160 it becomes like a kind of frantic news story and then 1124 00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:26,880 everyone just gets over it, which fine, I like. 1125 00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:29,840 I think there's different layers to cheating. 1126 00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:32,720 Some I think are fucking disgraceful, Some I think. 1127 00:51:33,360 --> 00:51:36,880 So for me, like I used to work in sales with a bunch of men, 1128 00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:38,480 right? And like a lot of them were 1129 00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:42,360 married, 98% of them were cheating. 1130 00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:46,200 Yeah, the wives never knew. So yeah, the majority of them, 1131 00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:49,080 all of them was taught. And if they didn't outwardly 1132 00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:52,080 tell me, another one would say, Oh yeah, so and so has got 1133 00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:55,280 prostitutes this weekend. So he they'd come in and buy 1134 00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,760 like a gift for the wife and gift for the the girl. 1135 00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,720 Sorry, I used to work in sales with men. 1136 00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:02,600 These men would talk about thought you were no, no, no, no, 1137 00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,840 no, no, no. In an office, they would talk 1138 00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:07,920 about their. Shit, yeah, and I remember you 1139 00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:09,760 saying as well when you're working in cosmetics. 1140 00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:11,880 Crazy. Would come in and buy 2 lots of. 1141 00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:13,600 Gift for me. I would sit there and be like 1142 00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,240 what the fuck is going on when? People brag about it. 1143 00:52:16,240 --> 00:52:18,040 That's awful. I think the bragging is the 1144 00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:20,000 worst part. Yeah, you're bragging about it. 1145 00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,080 That's weird. The boys are liar. 1146 00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:27,160 The boys are liar. Yeah, no, I just, I was not keen 1147 00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:29,440 on that work environment after I got out there very fucking 1148 00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:31,120 quickly. But it was just gross. 1149 00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:35,760 Even the recruitment, yes, even even the ones that treatment 1150 00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:37,120 men. But listen, even the ones that 1151 00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:39,320 you didn't think were cheating, who you thought were really 1152 00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:41,480 fucking sweet and really lovely and loved their wives, they were 1153 00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:42,480 also cheating. Wow. 1154 00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:48,520 Yeah, it's crazy mental. Yeah, can't just. 1155 00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:50,400 Stop doing that shit. Just talk to you, but just. 1156 00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:51,880 Talk. Yeah, just talk. 1157 00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,360 Or if you really don't want to fucking be with them anymore, 1158 00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,840 just hang up them, Yeah, don't put them through it. 1159 00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:58,880 God, guys, I'm more now. We've got to go. 1160 00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:01,080 We've we've had a big one. This has been a big one. 1161 00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:03,040 Like I've said it before as well, we're going to be doing 1162 00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,240 advice episodes going forward on our Patreon. 1163 00:53:05,240 --> 00:53:08,760 So bring in those questions, even if it's like based on what 1164 00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,560 we've just said or anything else, send it in. 1165 00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:14,080 Send in more horror stories. We love you, goodbye. 1166 00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:15,240 Bye. Bye.