Welcome everyone, to another episode of the Lesbian Soccer
Club podcast. Sorry that we've been a little
bit Mia. It wasn't even.
That was another expected, sorry another unexpected hiatus due to
poor decision making. Well, not poor decision making,
poor planning on our behalf as per.
Decisions to make a plan were poor.
Lack of decisions at all, actually.
Yeah, exactly. But it's it's because we
actually had to. We've sold our place in
Cornwall, happy to be away from the bigots.
That's not to say that we don't want to get another place there
though, because it is nice. But just in a slightly different
location. Different location when we're
not known primarily as the Lesbians of Carbus Bay.
I'd rather just be known as. The lesbian legend.
Oh yeah, and talking of bigots. Our.
Instagram has been wild, to say the least, over the last two
weeks. That's it and.
Can I just say that like, if you follow us on Instagram, you will
obviously be very aware of what we're referencing.
If you don't follow us on Instagram, go and follow us on
Instagram so you can be aware of what we're referencing at the
Lesbian Supper Club pod. We.
Put up a post a couple of weeks ago now or one week.
Yeah, a week ago it was a. Week ago, yeah.
A very like out of the blue post, we were sat down having a
drink and thought, do you know what?
We've not put anything of us together on the supper club page
recently. So why not just take the
opportunity to do it now? And we always, I think you
probably could tell that a lot of our videos sometimes are
quite awkward of when we're doing tik Toks and stuff because
we always end up like watching it and then being like, I hate
how I look. And then we get annoyed and it's
just, it's just classic, I think, how most of us feel when
we're trying to put ourselves out there online, knowing that
in one way or another we will be critiqued.
And whilst trying to think of a caption for said video.
We had been talking, I think previously just about some of
our experiences. And whilst we have said
previously that we are extremely lucky to be living in, you know,
a pretty liberal city, we have still and do still get
homophobic hate predominantly from sis straight man on a
relatively regular basis. So you know, one of the most
recent ones was the Dick wad in. Before that it was the dickhead
in the Coyote Ugly bar and there would have been multiple more.
There's a lot of this year aggression.
Yeah, yeah. We could sit here and talk
about. So we come up with said caption,
which was something like when you have sis straight men
running from the bar crying. And obviously that was meant
obviously to any queer person listening to this and any
genuine ally listening to this was meant as a a bit of a kind
of satire joke type post about how now.
And this is actually very true, taking the example of the Coyote
Ugly bar incident where the guy came up to us and physically
pulled us apart in an attempt to join in.
Watch, I don't know what the fuck this guy was doing.
Instead of being intimidated or threatened by this person, we
stood up for ourselves and ended up getting him kicked out.
So it was all referencing basically how now we don't allow
this behaviour to just keep happening.
Wow, there's some real. Butt hurt little.
Boys in the comments. I think, I think that like the
comments are hysterical because it's like ultimately you are
just proving us right. So thank you very much and also
cheers for the engagement. But.
Big cheers for the engagement. It's.
Fucking pathetic, like I actually can't.
I don't I don't get offended because it is potentially it
doesn't upset me pathetic shit I've I've seen I can.
Understand why it would upset some people.
So trigger warning if you're going to go look for these
comments. Like I can understand why to
some people it would be. But just know, if you're reading
them thinking, Oh no, Scarlett and Freya don't because we were
pissing ourselves. We haven't been howling.
We had a really. Long car journey back from
Cornwall yesterday. It took us what, 7-8 hours to
get back and the comments were just keeping us going.
And if. You know it was one specific.
Guy which was fast Drivers LLP, he was and this is the thing and
most of these people that say such hateful disgraceful things
are just deranged and. Stupid as well.
Thick as shites because this guy was trying to turn the argument
from being initially homophobic to not being able to get the
better of us because we were obviously like, slapping him
with facts. I wish I could have quite
literally slapped him. So then he goes on to tell us
that he's a billionaire. Meanwhile, we look up this
dude's account and he's not even got 10.
Star reviews, but no. Yeah, for all we know.
House he hasn't. He told me he was living in his
car. He gave me a dealer who's living
in his car. Some fucking billionaire you
are, then, I said. All right then, Elon.
Come on, it was. Just that's just yeah, out of
control. The comments are still going now
the the sad, the sad ones for me are the ones where, you know,
it's clearly children. Yeah, like young boys.
Oh yeah, I that I find really sad.
I have had that. Before where I've like, I
started going back to someone and then I looked on their
profile page and they were literally 15.
And I went back. Oh my God.
I was like, you're a kid. But no I've I've seen like ones
from like 12 year old 13 year olds and it does make me sad
because it's like. We thought this generation was
getting better. Well, not even that.
It's like, what are your peers and what are your parents?
Parents difference like what? What type of life are you living
that even at that young age you are going onto the Internet and
being hateful? Like so filled with hate must.
Be pretty fucking sad and going through something that actually
makes me feel more sorry than any of it.
Yeah, but it's been a wild ride, baby.
I'm going to do more, yeah. Because out of it.
I want to be the Pied Piper for homophobes.
We've grown, what, like 3K followers in over a week on
Instagram, which just means 3K more queer people building a
fucking army and listening to this podcast.
So yeah, keep coming, baby. I love it.
I want to talk about one thing. Do you know what did actually
annoy me? And this did fucking wind me up.
Was the queer people. Commenting shit like not all men
or shut up and I just say and it annoys me.
But it also saddens me that the misogyny in this world and like
the patriarchal dominance is still so high that even as a
marginalised person, and this person you know, has been very
lucky and said that they have had generally extremely positive
interactions, which is great. We.
Argue in some case the same thing.
You know, as much as in one breath we say we get this often,
I still count myself as extremely lucky of how much
support I do have. So that's great.
That's that person's experience. But to then try and debunk or
tell your own community that their own experiences and their
anger towards their experiences is wrong, valid, it's really
fucking sad. It's really sad, it's really
damaging. I also think that it's like we
didn't say all men. No, I also fuck off.
We didn't say all men. And it's not most.
It's not not most men. It's not all men.
You know I've said this on the. But it is most.
I have. We have a lot of really good.
Male relationships in our life, like my male line manager, my
dad, your dad, our friends. But sadly I don't recall any
attack verbally, physically microaggression that I remember
happened to me that has not been a CIS mail.
Agreed. I genuinely don't.
So whilst yeah, not all men, we fucking know not all men.
Yes, all of them have been men. Yeah.
And I think that that's the really important thing to say.
And it isn't just due to our own personal experiences as well.
I actually, even if I think if I swan through this live
completely safe and never having any attack or any aggression
from a man, I still would sympathise with those that have
and would understand what those statistics look like.
So for that person who said that she hasn't gone through it, I
think that is a pitiful excuse as to why not to stand up for
Women Against. That's.
Anger for men? As a white person, I don't think
racism is that bad. Because I could say, you could
say, oh, racism doesn't It's yeah.
But they're the same people that say all lives matter, you know,
fucking idiots. So I'll just leave them to it.
On slightly more positive news, talking of queer fucking
domination, Sophia Bush for girlies.
This, this is iconic. In celebration of Soviet Sophia
Bush dating a woman, can you please sing for me the first
line of the One Tree Hill? I don't want to be anything
other than what I've been trying to be lately.
All I have to do is sink me in my Peace of Mind.
Oh, that was lovely, thank you. You are welcome, her voice.
She maybe you could say she was. One of my I Looking back, I
don't think I've mentioned this before and I don't know.
How I haven't like? She was definitely, definitely
my biggest queer awakening. Yeah, Who's the girl that she's
seeing? Who's the woman?
Isn't she like a football player or something?
I'm not that interested to be honest, I just care about her.
No, but this is the news. I know, but I this.
Is the queer? News I don't want to think about
her girlfriend because I want to be her girlfriend, OK?
Ashlyn Harris, Ashlyn Harris and Sophia Bush.
She's 37. She's 37.
And so, well, she's an American former soccer player.
So she was a soccer player. Well, I can't say that I'm sat
here happy for her because see, Dan, I am seething a little bit.
But no, I do actually think, do you know what I find?
Like, I knew it. I just knew it.
All of us knew it. This is what I was going to say.
This is what I find amazing. Like of all of the all of us
that were obsessed with One Tree Hill, Brooke was generally our
favourite character. It was never painting.
That was the straight girls. We all were obsessed with
Brooke. Brooke because.
She was giving. The gay that we knew better she
was. Giving the gay energy that she
had with that girl in One Tree Hill is genuinely ingrained in
my brain. Well, as it were her and
Brittany Snow and does Sophia. Bush have a podcast because.
If she doesn't, she really needs one because her voice is like
sheer ASMR. She needs to go on Quinn.
Yes, she does need to go on. Quinn.
What were you saying, love? There's already drama in the
Sophia Bush saga. So basically Ashlyn, the new
girlfriend, her X who's another football player?
Classic. Is apparently saying that Ashlyn
cheated on old girlfriend with Sophia.
Sorry, no more, I don't care. Sorry, it's Sophia Bush.
Yeah. Literally.
Advocating for cheating, but there is exceptional
circumstances, and this is one of them, yeah.
Sorry. Yeah, I would be heartbroken if
you cheated on me with Sophia Bush, because I was.
I wasn't cheating on you. Yeah.
Exactly. I'd be heartbroken and I'd also
want to kill you. Not for the cheating, but for
the fact that you are now sleeping with Sophia Bush.
Yeah, it would be. It would be messy.
She does have a podcast. I think I'm just, I don't think
it's active anymore. I'm just going to see if this is
actually her. It's called Work in Progress
with Sophia Bush. Work in progress is her
sexuality, you know. It's tricky because I would say
there are the husk. Oh my God.
The husk is so hot. Can we get her ask?
I'm looking at live right now. Can we get her on the podcast?
I would love it please please. Oh fuck.
We're always well behaved. We're always well behaved.
So yeah, this is just gay icon news.
Living for it. Hope she never goes back to men.
Why would she? No, etcetera, etcetera.
Gayer for knowing. Yeah.
Thank you very much, Sophia. Bush, I mean.
It was in the name. She couldn't not be gay with the
name like Sophia Bush. Bush.
Yeah, but then also like George Bush is George Bush, do you know
what I mean? George Bush has got a back Bush.
George Bush is sticking it in a back Bush.
This episode we have decided to basically let you loose in the
DMS and ask us a load of questions which we are going to
counter through like a lesbian insight marathon and hopefully
it just gives you some entertainment for however long
it takes us to get through a substantial amount of questions.
I'm going. To try and get.
Through them as quickly as possible because I want to kind
of like answer as many as. I yeah, exactly.
We had a shit load of you respond, so thank you.
And so many of the questions were generally so good.
I just read the first one. We've narrowed it down to like,
I think like 45. Fucking hell yeah with how much
mean you talk. If we're able to get through
that, then that. Would be a miracle.
It would be a miracle. I'm going to start off at #1 OK,
who is the more dominant one in bed and in general?
In bed, you in general, me. Yeah, love the pod giving laughs
in a crappy time. Any space wrecks for finding
queer pals in London? Honestly.
The Lesbian Supper Club events that will be rolling out
hopefully on the monthly Exactly TuneIn.
Every month you're going to have somewhere gay to go.
Yeah, OK. Other than that, I as we've
said, there is a couple of queer nights, there's clear East
London, there is girl, there is. Lick there's loads of different
ones, but I think as well like your community is more
important. So like you can find people on
Instagram. You can even find, I know it
sounds like a bit like weird, but I think you can also kind of
like find some people via like Tinder, like you may not.
Tinder for friends field. Field you go on field you can do
field for friends. I also just think putting
yourself out there just as a person in we've spoken about
this before, doing things that you wouldn't usually do.
Take a fucking pottery class, go to an exhibition, go and
challenge yourself out of your norm.
Do things and find things that you enjoy and you will meet your
people. They may not all be queer.
They don't necessarily all need to be queer.
A lot of our friends actually aren't queer.
Yeah, we have an amazing time with them because of the people
that they are. Yeah, and we just love them for
who they are. Challenging heteronormativity.
Being with men feels normal. Being with women feels natural.
So. She's saying society, yeah.
Society makes it feel like more normal, yeah, but it doesn't
feel natural to her. Yeah, so if it doesn't feel
natural. You don't go there.
Because like The thing is, is when you say normal, well, what
what is normal? You feel like you're perceived
by everyone else is normal, but it's not normal for you because.
And also, yeah, it may make people feel a bit more
disgruntled for you to be living in your natural state.
And we've spoken before about the complexities of coming out
and the impact that that can have on your life.
But do you honestly think that you, by living in this normal
world, wasting years of your life to try and please everyone
else, they really give that much a fuck about how much work
you're putting in to be heteronormative for them?
No. Yeah, they'll care if you come
out and live your truth, but they'll eventually get over it.
And if they don't, you're living your truth.
So. Surely that is the best way to
honour yourself. It's a really good way of
wedding out the bad ones as well.
Stories about your exes and dating love the pod oh we've.
Got like I feel like my ex would fucking kill me now.
I already got cornered off in the pub the other day for saying
something that I shouldn't have done.
Yeah, Freya's banned, mine's mine's just not that juicy like
my first ex is now with me best mate.
Or ex best friend. I could definitely talk more
about the dates that I've been on.
I've not even done that. I've not really even got any
like dating stories. I think you should save your
dating. Stories though for.
An I will definitely, I will definitely talk about my dating
stories on here. We don't really have X drama.
I did have, I wouldn't call it drama X issues until literally
very, very recently, which is kind of an open thing as we talk
now and something that I hope in the future or very near future
is going to be resolved and give a lot of closure to which I
would love to be able to then do.
I think an episode on closure because I think your experiences
with your exes. I don't have closure with one of
my exes. I'm never going to get it.
I don't really feel like I need it and I genuinely don't.
This other ex I did need it and I do need it.
And I think if I am able to get that, hopefully soon I will be
able to talk about the transition of going from holding
a lot of horrible negative feelings, hate, questioning
myself, questioning my reality. Just having bad blood is just
not a nice feeling. And as much as I'm a fiery bitch
and I will speak it out and I will not just forgive things or
people that have done me wrong, if someone in nearly all cases
comes to me with a genuine approach, a genuine apology and
a genuine acknowledgement, yeah, I'm pretty much.
Awful. You're not unfair, that's the
difference, no. Do you see yourself leaving the
UK and moving to another country?
I fucking hope so. We hope.
I mean, I do think a lot of this comes down to like financial
freedom. We've obviously got the dog,
which again comes down to financial freedom because, you
know, making a Romanian rescue travel to any international
country. Will be really difficult.
Yeah, but there are a few. Places we want to live, isn't
that so? We want to do Barcelona, where
else? We'd want to do Barcelona, I
think to like start off with maybe somewhere a bit more like
a bit closer. Still Europe.
But yeah, I mean, God, I just want to live somewhere that's
warm all year round. I feel, though, that we need
connections. So it would have to be somewhere
like New York or LA. Like you couldn't, we couldn't
just I've. Got an extreme in Barcelona?
Lovely. Is there a jealous one?
No. No, if there was, it would be
me. Yeah, definitely previously for
and we've spoken about this before the start of our
relationship, you more so I and I've said this before, jealousy
is just not a thing that I've ever really felt in
relationships, just in my life. It's I think as.
Well though darling, it's because we do.
We do also have quite a lot of like respect for each other.
Like I've never gone through your phone and seen a load of
messages with another girl. So if I had then my jealousy
would kick in. But right now I can't say I'm
not jealous person because I haven't really been given a
reason. Yeah, but This is why I think
that I'm quite a strange individual.
Because if you. Don't think that'd make you
jealous. I think it would make me fucking
angry. Yeah, but within that anger is
jealousy. That is, That is what jealousy
is. It makes you angry.
If you'd feel angry, that's because you'd be jealous.
OK, maybe I don't know. Like if if you look through my
phone right now and you saw that I was messaging someone, you
wouldn't feel jealous. I think I would feel jealous
depending on who it was so I'm not being funny.
But if I went through your phone and you were messaging A2, no,
I'd be laughing at you and be. Furious.
No, I'd still be. Jealous.
I'd be. You were messaging 10.
I would feel shit about myself. No.
Oh, see, now you've really looked at it internally, don't
you? What do you mean?
So your emotions are completely internal.
I don't know what that. Means so you feel like if it
embarrasses you or if you feel like isn't.
That what jealousy is. What is jealousy then?
Jealousy is not wanting to like lose this person to have you
messaging somebody else when that should be a message towards
me. That is jealousy, not me
thinking, oh that girl's better looking than me.
Anytime ex #2 I saw her like speaking to someone on
Instagram, I'd get instantly jealous because it was straight
away that fear that like I'm going to lose her to someone
else. Yeah, it's a fear that you're.
Going to I don't fear that I'm going to lose you to someone
else. But but if you saw me messaging
someone, you would in a really flirty way.
And I was like, yeah, babe, like what you up to?
Good morning, beautiful, all this kind of stuff.
You don't think that you would feel jealous?
Yeah, I must do then. Maybe I'm just confusing.
Maybe, maybe, maybe I would message them and be like, do you
want a breakfast burrito? Yeah, that would anything.
Yeah, as soon as you bring food into it, of course.
Hormones, hormones. Literally right now I feel like
I'm going to fucking die. I'm.
So angry hormones, citalopram, citalopram, but also OK, so
citalopram, yes. So like if we're not taking it
properly, all hell will break loose.
But also I suffer with the endometriosis, so my hormones
can sometimes be all over the charts.
And I'm not using this as an excuse, but like the past, I
would say that two or three days I have felt like I could
actually physically strangle someone on the street.
And it is really annoying because it's a feeling that
like, like I'm actually just generally not an angry person.
Like I don't necessarily feel anger too much.
I have felt the fury and the wrath of fucking God within me
these past few days. I am Satan and I am so cross,
right? Now I don't think my one in
every three for me, I am cross one in every three period.
I feel my hormones so it's not every period.
Yeah, no. It's like 1 in every three.
I will be evil. Yeah.
Like genuinely be like, I hate my life.
What's wrong with everything? This is bad.
This is wrong. And then I bleed and I'm like,
oh. Yeah.
But I think because I don't get it monthly.
You don't know if it's that. Three months have passed.
I don't realise it's that and then I'm not of.
That that was what it was. It is horrible actually though
because it's if it wasn't bad enough that you got a fucking
bleed for a whole, you also have to feel.
Like, well, the whole menstrual cycle was literally the whole 28
to 35 days. Do you know that?
There's not a single day where we're just like, not hormonal.
No, throughout the whole menstrual cycle.
I think there's one week where we feel good like a normal
person. Yeah, I could probably actually
identify with that. I don't think my hormones are
extreme but I think even I could like identify.
I think mine are, but yeah, hormones as a can.
And obviously when there's two of you, it's even worse.
I like this question. Favourite memory?
Together you say 1 and I'll say 1.
I've got so many. OK, say 2 and I'll say two.
OK, I'll say my 2. Can you do it at the same time
and see if it's? The same one.
Hold. On there there is a lot.
There's so many. Mine are very close together.
OK, my first two, so my first when I read this question
already, my first one that popped into my head was Thailand
because I was kind of. Yeah, Thailand was the first
pushing back my head. But then actually holiday in
Greece was one of my favourite. And also getting Ziggy.
Yeah, one of my favourite. Yeah.
COVID times in your mum's garden, You making me mojitos
next to the paddling pool, 30° heat every day.
Lovely. Sorry day job but it was dead
and we were making the. Most of that.
Yeah. Naps during COVID in your Eaton
Wick house where the sun would always come in between like 2
1/2 three. Yeah.
That was stunning. I think as well like.
Cornwall Times, I. Was going to say Cornwall when
when we've been on the beach as well, just you and me, like when
we went over to that little bit that like felt a little bit like
Greece. That was nice when there's been
so many nice occasions. But the amount of times when
we've gone out for like, lovely dinners together.
Dinners with like, yeah, but again, dinner, the the lesbian
supper clubs with all of our friends.
There, there have been countless months.
Countless like buying the house in Cornwall and renovating it.
Stressful, but like one of the but it's.
An amazing memory I. Was trying to think.
Even like our first date is like an amazing memory to me.
Like I love that. I love thinking about our first
date and like I don't know, I feel like I feel like we always
have so many like nice times together as well I feel.
We're always making nice memories together, I think,
which is great. Yeah, exactly.
Someone said can you do an extra app a week that is just pure
horror stories? Yeah, when about 2000 of you
have signed up to the Patreon and we can quit our jobs. 234
EPS. You want it, girlies?
You want it every single day. I will personally call you pay.
Me. Otherwise, I'm on the street.
Yeah, literally if we could quit our day jobs and do this all the
time, we would. You would have a multiple amount
of episodes. All about manifestation like we
fairly believe we'll get there like the support I don't want to
undermine the incredible support and like the growth of this
podcast has been incredible we're just sadly not sadly we
are just in a moment at at the moment where we are having to
balance doing 2 and so at 1.1 has to give and the other has to
give and that's just where we're at but.
That's what you got to do in life, baby, especially to.
Do the grant, especially if you. Want to live in London?
You can't. Unfortunately, we can't just
quit. So we've had to come back again
and change my. We've had a little break.
Which? You won't know because it would
just switch straight over, but. But I feel like.
If we sound different, it's because we're on different
likes. Yeah.
So if you're complaining that it's quiet before, it's probably
going to be even quieter now, which, by the way, it's kind of
looking. Large on the.
We're still trying to. Work.
We're still trying to work out why it sounds quiet because when
I edit it, it is loud and then when I export it, it's loud and
then it goes on to Spotify and it's quiet.
I really. Yeah, it's so weird.
So we've taken a little break, but we're back on it again to go
through the rest of the questions.
So this person asked, is it OK to get back with your ex?
And I think initially everyone always would say no.
But I think it's very dependent on the situation of like why you
broke up, how long you've been apart, what the circumstances or
and why are you getting back together.
Like for example, if you met when you were both really young
and you know, wanted to explore other things and or moved away
and ended up back local to each other, etcetera.
And it was kind of extenuating circumstances, sure.
And therefore give it another go if it was because you and I
think it's a like twofold of like arguments because of where
you were in your life and people grow and change and you can be
in a negative relationship and then you can grow up, change who
you are. That person can change and you
can be Better Together for better.
But if it's like. If it's like fundamental issues
though, like you really didn't get along.
Constant cheating or? The.
Arguments were like really severe all the time.
There was really bad jealousy problems, that kind of stuff.
I don't personally think that no.
You should or could. No, also like grass is always
greener in a situation like that.
Like you could. You could have been together.
And literally had a shit time the whole time.
And then as soon as they walk away from you, you're like, Oh
my God, I love you so much. But it is just purely because
you're, you're just having that like withdrawals, I think.
Yeah, yeah, definitely. This one's interesting.
What are your types on paper? Love Island reference.
And paper, I think just really like.
You've got a thing for tall girls with long hair.
I do, but I think that's just, I don't think I do have.
I do like tall girls, but I don't mind a shorter girl
either. I don't think that bothers me
because I've been with shorter girls as well and I quite liked
it. I think I really do love a
brunette most of the time for some reason.
Big eyes and then it's more of like.
I don't have big eyes there, you do.
No, not really. They're not big.
They are. They're just, they're not small.
Not that I care. Puny.
Little eyes. No, they're not like pins, but I
wouldn't say they're big. Strong features.
I really like strong features. I find it like really striking
for me. But yeah, I it's more like
energy wise, I really like someone.
Who's very powerful if you think about Brie, for example.
Yeah, Brie's. Fit.
She's the complete opposite end of the spectrum.
And you think? Well, not not that you think I
mean she she is, but you are like Freya this.
I hope Bree. Listens to this.
No, Bree will literally thrive off of this.
This like, straight woman? Yeah, straight.
You know, maybe I don't think she'd mind me saying that.
Woman who lives relatively local to us.
Oh, she's probably going to be at the supper club event.
Actually, girlies. She is fucking beautiful.
Like Shalise Theron Cross with Jodie Coma.
Tall, blonde. My thing is like, I think I have
a type. So if I think about all of the
like crushes that I've had, I love like a like.
A Almost like a black. Hair like a dark dark hair with
like light eyes. Quite like venomous looking,
that my thing. Is actually in reality I don't
feel like I have a type at all. It's that person for me just has
to have something because when I think about like all of the
people that I've dated or been with, none of them look alike
literally at all. And I think that is the reality
of my type, quote unquote type. But on paper, it would be your
Megan Fox. Yeah, Sophia Bush, Angelina
Jolie type girlies. Yeah.
So I think that my I, I agree with you on that.
Like you've either got it or you don't.
Like you've got like a thing. I've just got to have a, You've
got to have a. Thing I think I love how?
Neither of us have spoken about personality.
No, I was just about to say about personality because like I
think that like my personality. I have one where I'm concerned.
No, I'm. Joking My personality type is
the same, but my looks type can change.
Like the type of personality that I'm attracted to.
It's really like funny, very like easygoing but also
powerful. Like can be a bitch.
Like I really like that. Like I don't that is my type.
I don't know what like I definitely do love a bit of a
caregiver. I mean, let's not lie A.
Mummy. But it's not.
But this isn't a conscious thing for me.
It's just something that I realise I enjoy but more on like
I don't even know what it is because I also don't accept a
lot of acts of service, right? I think you do.
You don't. I don't like anytime you ask me
for like a massage or do you want me to get you this?
I don't. I always say no juice or like
cooking, like those kinds of things.
Yeah. I think it's like, but then also
I take control a lot of a lot of acts of service when it would
come to like sorting things, the car.
But I think that's why you like having that person.
The comfort side. The comfort side.
Yeah. Yeah, exactly.
So that's definitely a thing. Yeah.
I need someone outgoing. I couldn't date someone shy.
No, because. I've done that and I just felt
like I had to carry and overcompensate that person,
which then. Feeling like I've got to look
after someone. Yeah, that is the worst.
I can't. I can't do shy.
I think shy people generally are really sweet and endearing.
I don't. I don't mind them in social
groups but as a partner I'd really struggle because I'd
constantly felt like I'd have to hold their hand.
Yes. Like, quite literally.
Yeah, I like a mentally ill girl.
I do love it mentally unwell. I like a bit of strong
intelligence as well. Like for me.
I said mentally, yeah, strong intelligence.
I'm like please have crippling anxiety.
I'm not gonna say that I like a bit of mentally ill to be
honest. Absolutely no, I am joking, but
I do actually think that a little bit of mental and
Wellness is quite good because it means that they're a bit more
understanding if they've never had anxiety a day in.
Their life, yeah. If you've.
Yeah, if you've had the privilege of never, like,
experiencing anything, it makes you really difficult to Yeah, I
don't want active mental illness though, to be fair.
Like I just can't. No, but I I do, yeah, I do
really like a strong personality.
I like someone who's not afraid to say what they want to fucking
say. But yeah, I need someone who can
like hold their own as well, like if I want to debate on
something. Yeah.
I mean, this is funny because every time me and Freya debate,
Freya ends up rage storming out because she sometimes like
Freya's got this thing that if I just prove a point on something
that bless her, she's gone and like looked into.
So she's trying to have like a conscious debate and I'll just
be like, I'm sorry, but you're wrong.
That doesn't go down there. But other than that, we do often
have very have a heated discussion without yeah, we
often have very like in depth conversations about, you know,
world topics, etcetera that usually go very well.
So yeah, that's a long winded way of saying what I'll type it.
Opinions on lesbian London Hinge Don't really have one because
I've never used it. My ex actually said that to me
the other day. She was like, have you been
blessed of never having to be on Hinge?
And I was like, yeah, I've literally never used Hinge.
I never used Bumble and never used.
I used Tinder when I was really young.
I used Tinder was my only. And that was.
Thing I've ever. Used, although I'm slightly
gutted that I got to miss out on the Hinge voice message thing
'cause I feel like that be fucking hilarious.
But yeah, I feel sorry for you guys because we've lived
vicariously through our friends. Yeah, and seen I go on my
friend's hinge. Oh yeah, you.
Always go on Leo. Freya goes on Leo's hinge and
sends people the dodgiest voice notes.
In an Australian accent. In Australian accents and these
poor people believe it and reply.
They love it. There was this one girl that
said something about like, oh, do you have a dog?
And then I go back on Leo's voice message and go, do I have
a dog? Do you have a dog?
I am actually on Hinge to get other people's dogs.
Do you want to bring your dog with me to a doggy daycare
centre? All this kind of stuff, like I
go on for ages. This girl comes back and is
like, ha, ha, ha, yeah, same. Love it.
Oh God. I was like, oh, oh, the bar is
low. Yeah, I I've seen it and I know
that it's a bit of a pet. So I do actually feel sorry for
you all because, but I just think like the whole thing, I
feel sorry. For them all because there must
be some good ones that. Is all why I say you're all feel
sorry for you all and then talking about all of you.
But this is what I was about to say.
I think people have got quite strange when it when it comes to
online dating because there's been so much like stigma,
expectation, negativity surrounding it.
I think everyone is now trying so hard to not be the person
they're worried about. They then all inevitably become
the person they're. Worried about?
I think that you should be able to pin like a red flag next to
someone's profile and have to prove the fact that you went on
a date with them and then it's like no.
No, because I also. Fucking weird.
No, I also think a lot of it's like personal opinion, like
Freya. Think about what you've done on
our first date, Graham, like Freya, brought out her alter
egos to a lot of person. To a lot of people, that would
have been like. What they they?
Just ain't the right person. Well exactly, but that's why you
can't put a red flag against them.
Queers getting engaged laugh my ass off.
I proposed when I was 18 and my then partner was 1920.
I'm sorry. That's just pathetic.
It happens all the time though. I I don't think it's necessary.
I also don't think it's necessary to propose to patch up
a relationship. No, neither.
But if you're struggling in your relationship, maybe don't
propose, yeah, because that's not going to make it better.
Maybe don't drop some cash on a ring when you should be dropping
cash on couples. Therapy.
I think what's really funny and it but it does happen a lot.
It also happens a lot in straight couples.
I think it's very much like following the straight.
The narrative of like, oh, it's been a certain amount of time,
so now I should be doing this and then we should be buying the
house. Almost five years.
Literally like next week. We've been together for five
years and I've never felt like, oh, it's coming up to the five
year mug. I must propose now because
otherwise she's going to slip away like a do you know when
they say, yeah, like, oh, if you haven't put a ring on it, don't
be surprised that she goes off and cheats or whatever.
And it's like you have no idea of like circumstances, what that
couple might like, what they might want to do with their
finances, things like that. I think it's hysterical when
people get engaged really young and really quick.
All I can say is with lesbians think fuck we can't get each
other pregnant. Can you imagine?
Oh no. The people the girls will be
pregnant on like the second date.
Yeah, they'd be like, I want to have your babies.
And they'll be. Like yeah, it would be.
And that would be. Horrendous.
I hope science never gets to a point where we can shoot sperm
out of our fingers because easily accessible would be
horrendous it. Would be bad.
I actually still think I'd be really sensible.
But there's some lesbians that would be like baby daddy to like
50 kids. They'd all be paying child
support. They're broke.
Liana Liana Liana would be broke as hell if she could.
If she could shoot. Leo would end up getting
everyone pregnant by accident. Oh my God, Polly.
Polly would have literally worldwide.
Baby Mamas Polly's children would be so old now that she'd
be sleeping with them by accident.
That'd be her fucking problem. She'd she'd be going around at
the age of 40. Hollywood quite literally had
children in like New York, Singapore, all of Europe,
Switzerland. I know that's Europe, but she
goes there a lot. Yeah.
America. Geneva every other week.
There'd be another one. It would be.
A render. And a lot of them would be
married women as well, yeah. So they in that it would be like
married. Women, do you know what it
would? Be married women in their 40s
who think that they're infertile and then Polly would end up them
getting pregnant. The husband would think that
they'd finally done it, and actually, it was Polly's kid.
But that would be kind of iconic.
And Polly would just sit back and say nothing.
Yeah, But guys like, I've actually, you know, I've
actually done them a favour. No, guys, it's fine.
It's fine. It's fine.
I don't need to be involved yet. Quite so.
Yeah. That's our thing on lesbians
getting engaged. This is a funny follow up.
Hi. I don't know if you've both
mentioned it already, but do you want kids?
It's a no for now. Yeah, it's AI hope one day that
I have that thing because I think it would be really nice.
And I absolutely love babies. Like if you put a baby in
Grouch's arm, I turn into a different person.
Like I love babies and small children.
Like they give me so much. Like, no, not purpose.
That's not the thing. I have such a busy, anxious
brain that for some reason when you put me in a room full of
dogs or a room full of babies or put a baby in my arms.
Nothing else goes on in my head. It's really weird.
It's a level of peace that I don't usually feel.
And babies just tend to really love me as well.
Yeah. So you are like the baby reason.
And I know if I had a child, I, I know the states sound like an
asshole, but I know that I would take to it like a duck to water
because I've looked after young babies for long periods of time
before on my own when I was really young.
And I know that it would absolutely.
Like, I know I would thrive, but my conscious day-to-day brain
can't grapple with the point of even thinking about it, right?
Now no, no, I re ask me that question when I'm 38.
We'll see where we are. Can we get Halloween costume my
dear? Can we make it gay and sexy?
Always love the devil. We get called the devil all the
time. Jessa Fazer make her fucking
heart. I said to Scarlett.
You wanted to do X-Files, didn't you?
Yeah, X-Files. Freya wanted to go as Lisa
fucking Rinna I. Still wanna go as Lisa?
You're doing that on your own because a, we don't have
Halloween plans. Well, we do know on Saturday,
but I'm not letting you go. As you wanna go as Lisa Rinna.
Do you know what that? But I wanna do Lisa Rinna.
I just wanna go as Lisa. But where are you going as Lisa
Rinna to? Ellie's got a.
Birthday party. I'll just turn up.
As you're not turning it up as Lisa Rinna wig.
No. Yeah, Nellie's birthday.
That's like Freya tried to do that.
You know the Has anyone seen the Troy Sivan music video?
Which, by the way, Troy Sivan looks so hot as a woman.
Yeah, like that is. Where he, he turns into a, a
woman because it's like, well, A, it's his, he's just
expressing himself and B, the lyrics are basically all about
that. And it started to become a trend
on TikTok where guys were turning themselves, like, into
women. And it was like, iconic, like
beautiful. Really cool.
So me, Freya and Liv were sat together one night and Freya's
like, oh, I'm Freya thinks she's had this like epiphany idea
where she's like, oh, I'm going to do it in reverse.
And I was like, I don't know if that's going to hit the spot.
And she was like, yeah, well, and I was like, OK, but it's
9:00 at night, so maybe do it tomorrow when, you know, you
could do it properly. Like, you could buy yourself a
little moustache or a wig or put on, like a proper suit, you
know, something to make it like, really legit, like drag man.
No, no, no, no. Freya's got an idea in her head
she has to do it. So oops.
She gets tucks her hair under her cap, puts like stubble on
her face, tries to contour her face really badly.
Does this video. It is fucking terrible.
I tell her not to upload it because I'm like, it's terrible.
It's not even funny. Bad because it's obvious you're
trying and it's not good enough for it to be good, but it's bad
enough for it to be funny. Don't worry, I deleted it guys.
I deleted anyway. She puts up.
Sure enough, it goes absolutely nowhere and she wasted like a
good 40 minutes of her life. Oh, it wasn't 40 minutes.
It's about 10 minutes. It was.
It was much longer, but if you want to see the videos, Liv
secretly recorded her so I might just expose her on the
Instagram. Also, I've I've said to Scarlett
many times I just want to go as a straight couple for Halloween
and she says no. How do you deal with looks
comparison in your relationship in WLW?
So I think a lot of lesbians do experience this where because
you're both women, you have that like direct comparison of each
other. Whereas like in heterosexual
relationships, it's like, Oh well, you're a man and I'm a
woman. So the comparison is so kind of
different in a sense. Not saying that they can't
struggle with insecurities, but there is like a stark
difference. Whereas when it's 2 girls, and I
do think society as well judge us a lot more on our kind of
looks, equality. Does that make sense?
Because we had it even on that recent video where like a couple
of people made comments about, Oh well, one must be really
fucking jealous of the other because one's way hotter than
the other. Did they?
Yes, someone did do it. Oh, I never saw that.
I think it was on some Dick who took it and put it on his little
profile and posted it. How?
Pathetic look this. But it's not something that
occurs to me. No, I don't.
But you. You.
You do you. Get it more so with.
Let me finish with when we go out outfits.
Yeah, that's really annoying. Do you know why it is annoying?
Because I buy trousers and suits and whatever that I really like.
Then I put them on and I look like a fucking idiot.
I look like something from Kevin and Perry because I'm so short.
I'm not even sure. But I'm not sure, guys. 5 foot
75, foot six and a. Half you're not 5.
Foot 6 1/2, but Scarlett's 5 foot 11:00-ish.
So Scarlett will then put it on and it will look so good.
And I'm just so pissed off by this point because I'm like, for
fuck's sake, I wanted to wear that.
Yeah, but then she also is when, like, we're both wearing
completely different outfits and she's just decided mine's
better. We deal with that.
Basically. Freya's always a lot better when
I dress her, so she'll be like, can you just put an outfit
together for me? But we're always in a rush
whenever we're getting ready. I'm trying to find something for
myself. So 9 times out of 10 I'm like, I
don't have the time. But like the times that I.
So when we went to the G spot of them, I had said to Freya in the
week leading up, wear the stripe to pinstripe suit.
I know it'll look really good on you.
We already have it. She was like, no, no, no, no, I
refuse. She goes out, buys all these
different outfits. We're trying them on.
None of like none of them are fitting her properly because I
have this thing as well, which is.
Weird. I don't know if.
It's maybe where I'm a little bit on the spectrum where I can
look at someone and I know exactly what will look good on
them and like suit their figure. It's it's kind of weird.
And so there'll be stuff that Freya will pull out and I'll be
like, for example, she loves the Sara trouser, which fair enough,
but we all know that Sara trousers are made for like 6
foot girlies because this is what I'm saying.
They won't fit you anyway. She puts on after trying on like
all of the suits that she wanted puts on.
I'm like please, just put on the pinstripe suit.
Please. She's like, OK, fine.
Puts it on, fits you perfectly, looks amazing.
And you felt really good in it, didn't you?
Yeah. So look I.
I think the whole thing with like a looks comparison though,
I think that that's something that you've got to kind of like
work on. I think that you can't put that
on your other partner being like, oh, you look so much
better than me and get pissed off by it, but you also can't be
the partner. That's like kind of like digging
at your other partner's appearance as well though, and
actually making that comparison. I think that if that's
happening, it just shouldn't be. I think that you should just
always be your like girlfriend's cheerleader.
Exactly. And you have to be your own
cheerleader. As well.
So if you're having those intense feelings, I would
probably say like you need to go to therapy because like, no, I,
I don't think necessarily therapy.
But I. Think that you need to work
yeah, because if you're comparison and more like
positive. Affirmations, things like.
That I think the more that you call yourself ugly, the uglier
you become. Like quite literally.
So you need to start being nice yourself.
I have just the worst self. Critique.
So I critique myself really badly, but not often in
comparison to other people, if that makes sense.
I always want other people's clothes always, but I don't
necessarily do it with like hair and things like that.
But I 9 times out of 10 look in the mirror and I'm like, I don't
like something about myself. Yeah.
And I think it's a. Really, really bad.
It's a real shame. Because you complain so much.
And the one thing that I can say, like if you're sat here,
20, thirties, 40 is whatever, it's like you are right now in
your prime. You're never going to be any
younger than you are right now. So you better start fucking
embracing who you are because you will get old one day and you
will look back and be like, what a shame.
I spent all of those years putting myself down.
I need a good point. Therapy for that.
Yeah. Would you date someone who isn't
out? No, I wouldn't either.
Just no. Just play.
No, I mean, it's just for me like, well, we couldn't, could
we really, guys? At.
This point now because like we're so out that we'd get
caught out quick and we'd catch the other person would probably
get themselves caught out quick. I also just.
I just couldn't. And it goes back to.
The whole thing of my type, strong personality type, I
couldn't be with someone who's hiding themselves, who's hiding
themselves. There are reasons why they're
not out and. Again, it could always be
circumstantially, could be really happy in their sexuality,
but, you know, not be able to be out in the household for safety
reasons or something like that. Yeah.
And those situations are really sad and really awful.
I just selfishly perhaps couldn't deal with the emotional
burden of that because I live so freely and that is something
that I'm so proud of and that I want to continue doing.
I couldn't. I think it also depends on my
age as well like I remember. Obviously, when I was younger
and I made my ex, you're both really young and when you're
still in the closet. I don't think that's that bad
because it is almost like a journey, but if you're like late
20s, early 30s and beyond and you're interested in someone
who's in the. Closet.
I mean, let's be honest. And also come with a lot of
internalise having just gonna I. Yeah, I just don't think it's
going to go down. Very well, I think that's enough
questions. Let's move on to a the Horror
Story. And we've had so many good
horror stories recently. We are going to have to stop,
start just dropping more episodes because we can't churn
out the horror stories. I know we've got that, but
today's horror. Story is a.
Follow on from a previous Horror Story which was The Girl that
Had messaged and said that she kind of had a crush on her gym
girlfriend and and they had like a sexual tension.
And they were. Apparently both straight, but
there was like a bit of follow up.
Yeah, internalised. Homophobia there.
And we kind of depicted that whole thing and ended it by
saying just fucking go for it. Just go for it.
Hey lady, so funny. I'm so into.
The lesbian supper. Club now I guess it doesn't make
me feel bad for anything I was feeling so thank you that really
helps. Which is great as you know I
wrote in a few weeks ago. Anyway girls it's a shit show.
We both have decided to stay in denial, completely in the closet
and both said we must be bisexual but not wanting to be
with a woman. Question mark until I was
Homophobia. Again, weird behaviour.
Imagine being happy and getting something from someone no one
else has given you but because you're a woman that's a no go.
Now she's dating and she's loved up with the guy, she's not loved
up with him. It's a classic move from the
gym, much to my disapproval and I'm down in another gym thinking
I'm 100 times better. Is she OK?
I can guarantee you're 100 times better.
All he's got on me is a penis, which he probably doesn't even
have on you because we can buy Dicks in all shapes and sizes.
I'm here, I'm sad I've lost whatever we had to be honest and
neither of us ever expected to catch feelings.
I certainly didn't, but I have. We fell out out and now I'm here
questioning my sexuality and she's happy with a little pleb
of a man. He actually isn't little but lol
fuck him. All I know of this opportunity
ever comes up again and I feel happy and a person giving me
what I need no matter the sex even if they are bloody sheep.
At this rate I won't let the opportunity go.
Well that's good. It's been a learning curve for
her. I think that's the thing right?
It's been a learning curve. This person clearly isn't able
exactly accept them. You're clearly further ahead.
In your journey. Yeah.
And you're also, but also you're further.
Ahead, like emotionally, maturity wise, she said.
This world is stupid and we should.
Be able to be comfortable enough to explore things when we know
deep down she wants our friendship back without all the
other bits. Do you think that's possible?
To be honest, I'd move on. As much as you want to kind of
stay friends, I just don't think it's worth it for you and your
growth. As last few weeks I've wanted
spaces I didn't want to see her with.
Let's call him Greg. Greg also said he wasn't happy
with her being on holiday with me as he knows she fancies me.
So I think so now I've got to see her with Greg.
Whatever we had was gone and I've just got to be best
friends. Question mark.
I don't know how to, to be honest.
I would rather go in avoidance mode until I feel nothing.
I've cut it. I wouldn't even bother.
I also wouldn't want do you know?
What? I just know that he's a smug
little man. Yeah, he's going to.
He thinks he's one. Hang up.
Yeah, fuck, I also just. Think you don't need to.
Say to her we can't be friends because I'm still in love with
you or anything. What I actually think you need
to say to her. This has opened a portal or a
door to me that I didn't ever expect to open in my life.
I'm in a position emotionally and mentally where I feel
confident to take my truth. And it doesn't feel like you
are. So I think because we're on
separate paths, yeah, that is why we need to part ways.
Yeah, exactly. Well, all power to you.
Babe, I'm here. We're here for you.
We are. If you have anything else, just
send it our way. But guys, and we gotta go, we
gotta go, we gotta go. Love you girlies.
And we'll speak to you next week.
Bye bye.