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Hello and welcome to the 
nourishing Amy podcast where you

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can learn tips habits and 
mindset, changes to find out who

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you are to love who you are and 
to live your best life. 

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Every week, we will look at ways
to overcome things, like stress,

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anxiety, and feeling 
overwhelmed, so that you can 

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find your sparkle again. 
You guys, I am actually dying, 

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like, oh my God, I just checked 
my podcast numbers. 

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And there has been over 250 
people that have listened to my 

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episodes. 
Like I can't even deal with 

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that. 
That is so crazy to me, and I'm 

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so grateful for every single one
of you. 

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So, I just wanted to start this 
episode first off by saying, 

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holy shit. 
Thank you. 

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So what I want to talk about 
today and I really only have 

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like three bullet points for 
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So I'm just going to run with it
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Is the concept of getting rid of
the idea that you will be happy 

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when and whatever that when 
looks like for you, it can be so

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many different things but it's 
just that idea. 

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Idea that you know we have these
goals and whilst it's awesome to

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have goals and so cool to have 
things that you are actually 

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striving to achieve its bringing
in that idea of also being okay,

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with, and happy with where 
things are at right now as well.

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So I actually have two little 
Sizes that I am going to run you

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through a little bit more 
towards the end, but I'll just 

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go through my perspective on 
this first. 

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And if that resonates with you 
or some, the end section is 

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going to be more of a 
visualization only because I was

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listening to One of Melissa 
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These podcasts she had somebody 
on for the last Life of me. 

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I can't remember her name and 
now I'm thinking about it. 

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I really should have looked into
this before I started recording 

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this but she Grace. 
Grace Grace, I can't remember 

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her last name. 
I'm going to find it in Link in 

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the show notes for you Grace 
space. 

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I think it was, but she Melissa 
interviewed her and she is into,

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she is a hypnotherapist and she 
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a small hypnosis session in the 
episode. 

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And to this day, it's probably 
one of my most listened podcasts

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I have saved to the episode and 
I love it because I am really 

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into meditation and 
visualization and even if you're

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not, which is totally fine. 
A lot of people aren't and a lot

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of people get have a bit of a 
misconception about the idea of 

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meditation and what meditation 
should look like actually, let's

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run with this while it's coming 
up. 

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I told you this. 
Was going to be random. 

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So, look, I'm into meditation, I
love it, but I know a lot of 

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people don't, a lot of my 
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the idea of meditating, they are
a bit thrown off, I can't see in

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their body language or the tone 
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And, you know, meditation can 
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that like well I don't have 10 
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hour to just sit and do nothing.
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So, what's the point in trying 
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The limiting belief is around 
meditating, you know what, I get

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it. 
The reason that I meditate and I

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hope that this can stir 
something in someone. 

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I hope that someone else can 
resonate with this to is because

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my brain, and I didn't realize 
that this wasn't how everybody 

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else's brain works until about. 
Two weeks ago, when I was in the

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middle of my NLP, training my 
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So when I have ideas or I have 
thoughts or it'll be like the 

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middle of the day or getting 
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You know, when you have an 
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have like 50 tabs open, that's 
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majority of the time. 
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am doing one thing. 
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present with that one thing 
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this will be a good idea for a 
podcast episode, or I want to 

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post this picture on Instagram, 
or I'm meeting up with this 

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person after work for dinner. 
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to what am I cooking for dinner.
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What am I buying like, you know,
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All of the things that come up 
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meditate because for that even 
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I'll be honest. 
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meditation is the only 3 
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Sometimes in my day that those 
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is so spacious. 
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And I, you know, I was 
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six months. until I actually 
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it was like a soon as I felt 
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seconds it was like Oh my God, 
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feel like and it was just 
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Since then about four years ago,
I've been hooked so hooked and I

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love it. 
I want to be able to create that

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space for myself. 
So if you also feel like there's

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just one thing after the other 
after the other and you also 

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have those tabs open like a big 
internet browser with all of the

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Things. 
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to just give it a go and get rid
of the perspectives or beliefs 

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that you have about meditation, 
because it doesn't have to be, 

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you sitting down doing nothing 
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or your days. 
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that time, I used to meditate. 
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and from work, I had a 10-minute
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I was catching the train. 
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time and I would do like an 
active meditation, so make it 

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work for you as with anything in
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And I'm going to be doing 
another podcast on that soon. 

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Make it work for you not the 
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is, when you are going to lose 
motivation, is when you feel 

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like you have to do something or
that, something is a chore and 

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you're not doing it because you 
actually want to and you're not 

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Hang it work for you that's when
the motivation is going to wear 

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off. 
And that's when you're not going

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to be taking action on those 
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they are going to benefit you, 
Anyway, so I hope that some of 

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you will listen to the 
visualization at the end and 

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like I have done with Melissa's 
episode with Grace is save this 

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episode and if you don't know 
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You can I say my non-apple 
podcasts but I'm sure you can do

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it on Spotify. 
And wherever else, it is that 

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you guys listen to me from 
Google podcasts and all of that 

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stuff. 
Just hit the options button or 

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the settings button and click 
save and you can come back to 

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that visualization whenever you 
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Because trust me, it's one that 
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So first of all, let's get clear
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What is it? 
That comes up for you. 

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When I say the sentence, I'll be
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When what is it for you? 
Is it that you want more money 

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or you're trying to buy a house 
or you're trying to lose 5 

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kilos, or you want a partner in 
life or you want to leave your 

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job? 
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kids are more grown up so they 
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you have some more spare time, 
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There could be so many but just 
actually realizing what is it 

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that comes up for you when that 
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when Because remember that 
awareness is the key to actually

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be able to change anything 
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The second thing is to remember 
that life is happening right 

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now. 
This is life while you're 

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listening to this podcast, this 
is life right now in the present

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moment. 
It's not when you've lost that 5

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kilos, it's not when you've 
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It's not when you have that 
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You've been waiting to welcome 
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It's not when you've got 5,000 
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In that bank account. 
Don't get me wrong. 

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Like I said before, goals are 
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I'm not saying to not have 
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All I'm saying is that life is 
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moments. 
Whilst we are working towards 

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those goals and If all we're 
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Then we're missing out on all of
that, beautiful juicy life stuff

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in the middle and we're missing 
out on all of those appreciation

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moments that we could be fucking
killing it in between the big 

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things as well. 
Sorry, Mom for swearing. 

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My mom already sent me a text 
about the last podcast episode 

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and said she thought people 
would like it better if I didn't

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swear. 
Sorry Lee. 

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I don't know how I feel about 
polarizing sentences, I 

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presented at a retreat last 
weekend for the beautiful girls 

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at pineapple Fitness. 
It was so much fun. 

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I was so nervous at the start, 
but they were just the most 

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beautiful group of ladies and we
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So thank you, Pineapple Fitness 
in Newcastle, you guys are the 

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bomb. 
But I had a few probably two or 

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three statements, quote 
sentences Concepts that I, when 

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I was writing out my 
presentation, I felt like all 

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this could. 
If somebody's not ready to hear 

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this, this could put someone off
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it. 
But, you know, sometimes we need

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to hear these things. 
So, how do you feel when I say? 

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It's your choice to wish your 
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Every moment that you are 
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mirror and wishing that you 
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you had would just hurry up and 
lose those five kilos or every 

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moment that you check that bank 
account and it's not at that 

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balance that you want it to be 
at or you spend your nights 

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wishing that you had somebody 
next to you in your bed, you are

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choosing to wish that time away.
So, whatever it is, that's 

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coming up for you. 
Let's, let's talk about it. 

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Send me a message, let me know 
what your goals are. 

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Let's celebrate those in-between
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time to do the things that you 
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And to feel the way that you 
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not. 
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the time that is ready for you 
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And I know that that My seem 
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So that's what I'm going to help
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That's the tips that I'm going 
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no way, do I think that my 15 or
20-minute podcasts are going to 

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change people's lives. 
But the reason that I listen to 

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podcasts is because I get one or
two really cool tips or tricks 

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or hacks or something. 
One thing that I Implement into 

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my life. 
That I can really work with. 

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And so if that's all that you 
get from my podcast is one or 

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two. 
Cool things that you can start 

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to do, and it just makes you 
think about things a little bit 

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differently or live your life, 
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Then that's so amazing. 
So remembering that you can feel

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the way that you want to feel 
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You don't have to wait until 
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realistically. at the end of the
day, when you think about it, if

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your goal is to lose five kilos 
say, for example, then what 

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happens when you get close to 
losing that 5 kilos, you've lost

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4 kilos and you knew you thought
that that was your original goal

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but you're standing in front of 
the mirror now or you're taking 

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that selfie and you realize all 
I don't have that find out that 

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I was really hoping for and I 
don't have those a blinds that I

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thought were going to happen for
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Maybe I just need to lose 
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kilos. 
I've been doing so well and I've

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been actioning all of my goals 
and I feel really good but I'm 

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just going to keep going for 
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Then what happens when you do 
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are always going to be able to 
find something that we're not 

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happy with. 
There's always going to be 

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something more that we're aiming
for and Declan one of my amazing

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coaches. 
He refers to it as the hedonic 

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treadmill and it's it is that 
idea of I'll be happy when but 

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it's like we set that bar for 
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If you can imagine me using my 
hands right now. 

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One of my hands is up Up higher 
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And that's the bar. 
And then my other hand is, it's 

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moving closer. 
Because you know, you're getting

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closer to that goal. 
It's getting closer, you can 

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feel it, you can see it, you can
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But you realize that the reality
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to look like, doesn't feel like 
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goal or that bar moves up 
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Now my hand is moving up 
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that it would make us happy but 
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and further away So what you can
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really cool. 
This is something that I have 

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proud of myself moments. 
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silliest little things to others
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them mean a lot to me, that's 
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I want you to get a piece of 
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just do it. 
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make out a list of everything 
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you have been proud of yourself 
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don't really know what I've 
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themselves. 
My list needs to be bigger. 

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the last year for you, and I'm 
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that we're aiming towards, but 
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last 12 months, that you've been
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So, you're missing out on all of
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along the way, you know, I'll be
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moment is to leave my corporate 
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I can feel it, I'm going to be 
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and I'm so looking forward to 
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appreciating the moments that 
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those days that I get through 
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gosh, I have so much work on. 
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even get through the day without
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halfway through. 
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for all of those times and I'm 
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studies to completing my NLP 
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I'll be finishing that on Sunday
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Like there's so many things that
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in-between moments leading up to
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corporate space and if I didn't 
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back and look into the past. 
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all of those things which may 
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They might seem small but if 
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are the things that are going to
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to get to the big goals. 
Yeah, we have to have the small 

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things to get to the big things.
So what are the things that in 

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the last 12 months or what are 
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that works better for you in 
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What are the big goals that you 
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what are all All of the small 
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you've been taking to move you 
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Another goal that Erin and I 
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The previous goal before that 
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Example of the hedonic treadmill
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the first place. 
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house to be able to renovate it 
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moved in, we've got the house 
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and then music finished and I 
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Like this was a big goal of mine

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and I've I've done it. 
We have done it together. 

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We've worked as a team, we've 
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If it's not renovated, really? 
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when it is because the plans are
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original goal and so whilst it's
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of the renovating. 
Why not be proud of those 

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moments in between and have that
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between? 
So what can you appreciate that?

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You have done. 
What are the small steps? 

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What are the hustle moments that
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And just take a step back and be
really fucking proud of yourself

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for doing all of them. 
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in that hard work. another 
sentence that really really 

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resonates with me, that this is 
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that Declan taught me, is that 
acceptance is being okay with 

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where you're at now while still 
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want to be and I think that's 
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that this episode is about, is 
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to me, previously, to learning 
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was that I had to just be okay, 
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that things were. 
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case, you know, there was 
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previous to purchasing our 
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I was just wishing my time away 
waiting for us to have that 

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space together or even for me 
just to have that space to just 

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get home from work and chill 
with. 

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Without feeling the need to have
to talk to other people as crazy

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as that sounds. 
But I didn't have a lot of that 

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acceptance at times around the, 
the process that I was going 

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through or the place that I was 
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So, I don't know if that 
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does amazing. 
So remember that acceptance is 

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being okay with where you're at 
now. 

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But still having that Big Goal, 
you can still have that goal but

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be cool with where you are. 
Be happy with that space where 

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you are at now and still have 
those big goals. 

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You are where you are right now 
for a reason. 

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You are where you are because 
it's creating a future for you. 

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Whether that future is tomorrow,
two days away a week away, two 

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years away, 10 years away, 
whatever that future looks like,

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you are not going to get there 
without all of these steps that 

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you take in between. 
You are where you are now for a 

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reason and I really hope that 
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So really celebrate those wins. 
Whatever those winds are 

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whatever's come up in your list 
no matter how small and silly 

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you think that they are, they 
are your wins and you need to be

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proud of yourself for those 
wins. 

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And now I'm going to step into 
the visualization part of this 

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podcast. 
So if you're driving, probably 

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don't do it now, maybe leave it 
till you get home. 

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I find visualization. 
A lot easier to do with my eyes 

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closed or not. 
They don't have to be close but 

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I'm just not focused on 
something like driving. 

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So please Don't Close Your Eyes 
if you driving so, what I will 

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invite you to do is To just sit 
or lie or whatever, whatever is 

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comfortable for you. 
Get your body in a comfortable 

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position. 
And I will invite you to close 

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your eyes. 
If that feels good for you, if 

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not, that's totally fine, keep 
them open. 

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And just feel your body where 
you are first. 

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Just ground yourself. 
What are your feet doing? 

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How do your feet feel? 
What are they resting on? 

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What are your legs resting on? 
Are you sitting down? 

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Can you feel your bum on the 
seat? 

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If you're lying down, can you 
feel? 

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The floor or your bed, taking 
the weight of your body, and 

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melting into. 
Wherever you are and relaxing 

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those muscles. 
And what I want you to visualize

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is a moment for you. 
Where you felt really, really 

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good. 
You could even imagine 

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something. 
If you are finding it difficult 

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to think of a memory that you 
have, you can use your 

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imagination. 
So, for some people that image 

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of You know, that they're 
imagining could be they get to 

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go on an overseas holiday for 
the next 6 months. 

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They don't have to worry about 
work, they're flying first class

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baby, wherever they want to go 
all accommodations paid for 

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Foods, paid for, and they don't 
have to go to work. whether that

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feeling is, Lying outside in the
grass with the sun on your skin.

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Swimming at the beach. 
What is a moment where you felt?

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Amazing. 
Whatever that feeling is that 

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you're looking for calm. 
Happy joyful, excited. 

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What comes up for you in that 
memory? 

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And when you feel like you have 
that memory in your mind, I want

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you to just take a moment and 
step into that memory, visualize

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yourself stepping into your 
memory. and, Have a look around.

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What's going on? 
What's around you? 

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Hear everything that you can 
hear. 

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What can you hear? 
And feel. 

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Feel those feelings. 
Feel the things around you. 

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So, I really want you to see 
what you saw. 

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Hear what you heard? 
And feel what you felt. 

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And just breathe into that. 
Feel that feeling. 

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Feel the emotion, where can you 
feel it in your body and focus 

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on that? 
What is that feeling? 

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What does it look like? 
What does it feel like and, Now,

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I want you to start to come back
into your body, start to move 

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away from that feeling. 
Just wiggle your toes wiggle 

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your hands, flutter, your eyes 
open, come back to the room. 

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It's only a quick visualization,
but how do you feel Just because

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the visualization is over, can 
you still feel that feeling in 

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your body? 
My guess is yes and the reason 

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being is that your brain cannot 
tell the difference between a 

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memory or visualization and 
reality. 

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Your brain doesn't know that you
don't feel happy, excited, 

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joyful playful, whatever that 
memory or that imagination 

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brought up for you. 
Your brain doesn't know that. 

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That is not reality. 
That that's not happening right 

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here, right now. 
So, how cool is that concept? 

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That if you do find yourself, 
getting caught up and getting 

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stuck on wanting to be somewhere
different in your life and 

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wishing those thoughts away or 
feeling crappy about yourself 

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because you're not somewhere. 
That actually, that feeling that

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you want to feel that feel good 
feeling that, you just felt that

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you just visualized. 
It's always there. 

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It's always inside of you. 
And you have such quick access 

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to that. 
That was literally a two or 

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three minute visualization. 
You can access that at any 

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moment in your life. and so, I 
am going to leave you with that 

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because I hope that you feel 
amazing right now and I hope 

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that you take that feeling with 
you for the rest of the day. 

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And remember that it's always 
inside of you, it's always been 

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there and it's always accessible
for you whenever you want it. 

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You just have to believe it. 
Please stop wishing that things 

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were different and that things 
looked different. 

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They are how they are for a 
reason. 

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You are where you are for a 
reason and be proud of yourself.

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You are amazing. 
You have done all of the things 

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in your life. 
You have actioned those things 

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and don't let anybody take that 
away from you. 

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You did that. 
Thank you, I love you. 

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And please subscribe if you like
what you hear and I would love 

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to see some reviews. 
I have two reviews and they are 

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the best reviews I have ever 
read in my life. 

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I actually cried, please feel 
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Instagram. 
I love everybody's messages, I 

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get screenshots. 
And I had a message today from 

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one of my beautiful, beautiful 
friends, who had listened to 

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the, who am I Podcast. 
I think that was episode 2, 

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which I will link to in the show
notes as well and she sent me 

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her diagram. 
Oh my gosh, honestly, you guys 

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don't even understand it. 
Makes my absolute not even my 

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day, like, my week, my month, my
year to get feedback from you 

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guys that people are enjoying it
and making change positive 

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change in their life. 
I just yeah. 

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Absolutely speechless. 
So I'm going to go because I 

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don't even know what to say now.
And I'm going to start rambling.

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This is a bit of a longer 
episode. 

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I hope you enjoy. 
Please leave me some feedback if

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there's anything you want me to 
talk about anything that you 

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Shoot me a message on Instagram 

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A me with an i and I'll talk to 

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