Hello and welcome to the nourishing Amy podcast where you
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you are to love who you are and to live your best life.
Every week, we will look at ways to overcome things, like stress,
anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed, so that you can
find your sparkle again. You guys, I am actually dying,
like, oh my God, I just checked my podcast numbers.
And there has been over 250 people that have listened to my
episodes. Like I can't even deal with
that. That is so crazy to me, and I'm
so grateful for every single one of you.
So, I just wanted to start this episode first off by saying,
holy shit. Thank you.
So what I want to talk about today and I really only have
like three bullet points for this.
So I'm just going to run with it and see where it goes.
Is the concept of getting rid of the idea that you will be happy
when and whatever that when looks like for you, it can be so
many different things but it's just that idea.
Idea that you know we have these goals and whilst it's awesome to
have goals and so cool to have things that you are actually
striving to achieve its bringing in that idea of also being okay,
with, and happy with where things are at right now as well.
So I actually have two little Sizes that I am going to run you
through a little bit more towards the end, but I'll just
go through my perspective on this first.
And if that resonates with you or some, the end section is
going to be more of a visualization only because I was
listening to One of Melissa ambrosini.
These podcasts she had somebody on for the last Life of me.
I can't remember her name and now I'm thinking about it.
I really should have looked into this before I started recording
this but she Grace. Grace Grace, I can't remember
her last name. I'm going to find it in Link in
the show notes for you Grace space.
I think it was, but she Melissa interviewed her and she is into,
she is a hypnotherapist and she actually did a hypnosis session
a small hypnosis session in the episode.
And to this day, it's probably one of my most listened podcasts
I have saved to the episode and I love it because I am really
into meditation and visualization and even if you're
not, which is totally fine. A lot of people aren't and a lot
of people get have a bit of a misconception about the idea of
meditation and what meditation should look like actually, let's
run with this while it's coming up.
I told you this. Was going to be random.
So, look, I'm into meditation, I love it, but I know a lot of
people don't, a lot of my clients when I first bring up
the idea of meditating, they are a bit thrown off, I can't see in
their body language or the tone of their voice changes.
And, you know, meditation can have for some people this idea
that like well I don't have 10 minutes or 20 minutes or half an
hour to just sit and do nothing. And my brain can't turn off.
So, what's the point in trying or whatever?
The limiting belief is around meditating, you know what, I get
it. The reason that I meditate and I
hope that this can stir something in someone.
I hope that someone else can resonate with this to is because
my brain, and I didn't realize that this wasn't how everybody
else's brain works until about. Two weeks ago, when I was in the
middle of my NLP, training my brain.
So when I have ideas or I have thoughts or it'll be like the
middle of the day or getting towards the end of the day.
You know, when you have an internet browser open and you
have like 50 tabs open, that's what my brain feels like
majority of the time. I a lot of the time feel like I
am doing one thing. But I'm not 100% focused, and
present with that one thing because I'm thinking about all
this will be a good idea for a podcast episode, or I want to
post this picture on Instagram, or I'm meeting up with this
person after work for dinner. And I'm so excited or I've got
to what am I cooking for dinner. I need to stop at the shops.
What am I buying like, you know, all of those thoughts.
All of the things that come up and That is the reason why I
meditate because for that even five minutes, you know what,
I'll be honest. Sometimes three minutes of
meditation is the only 3 minutes.
Sometimes in my day that those thoughts get put on pause and it
is so spacious. It's so beautiful.
And I, you know, I was meditating for probably about
six months. until I actually felt that feeling of space and
it was like a soon as I felt that even just for like 30
seconds it was like Oh my God, this is what it's supposed to
feel like and it was just amazing and ever.
Since then about four years ago, I've been hooked so hooked and I
love it. I want to be able to create that
space for myself. So if you also feel like there's
just one thing after the other after the other and you also
have those tabs open like a big internet browser with all of the
Things. Then I really do encourage you
to just give it a go and get rid of the perspectives or beliefs
that you have about meditation, because it doesn't have to be,
you sitting down doing nothing and creating space in your life
or your days. If you don't feel like you have
that time, I used to meditate. Sometimes, when I was walking to
and from work, I had a 10-minute walk to and from my office when
I was catching the train. And so I used to utilize that
time and I would do like an active meditation, so make it
work for you as with anything in life.
And I'm going to be doing another podcast on that soon.
Make it work for you not the other way around, because that
is, when you are going to lose motivation, is when you feel
like you have to do something or that, something is a chore and
you're not doing it because you actually want to and you're not
Hang it work for you that's when the motivation is going to wear
off. And that's when you're not going
to be taking action on those things, even if you know that
they are going to benefit you, Anyway, so I hope that some of
you will listen to the visualization at the end and
like I have done with Melissa's episode with Grace is save this
episode and if you don't know that, you can do that.
You can I say my non-apple podcasts but I'm sure you can do
it on Spotify. And wherever else, it is that
you guys listen to me from Google podcasts and all of that
stuff. Just hit the options button or
the settings button and click save and you can come back to
that visualization whenever you want.
Because trust me, it's one that I do nearly every day.
So first of all, let's get clear on for you.
What is it? That comes up for you.
When I say the sentence, I'll be happy.
When what is it for you? Is it that you want more money
or you're trying to buy a house or you're trying to lose 5
kilos, or you want a partner in life or you want to leave your
job? Oh, you'll be happy when your
kids are more grown up so they can look after themselves and
you have some more spare time, whatever those things are.
There could be so many but just actually realizing what is it
that comes up for you when that sentence is said, I'll be happy
when Because remember that awareness is the key to actually
be able to change anything first.
The second thing is to remember that life is happening right
now. This is life while you're
listening to this podcast, this is life right now in the present
moment. It's not when you've lost that 5
kilos, it's not when you've bought that house.
It's not when you have that boyfriend or that girlfriend
You've been waiting to welcome into your life.
It's not when you've got 5,000 10,000 20,000 dollars saved.
In that bank account. Don't get me wrong.
Like I said before, goals are amazing to have.
I'm not saying to not have goals.
All I'm saying is that life is happening in the in-between
moments. Whilst we are working towards
those goals and If all we're focusing on, is that Goal.
Then we're missing out on all of that, beautiful juicy life stuff
in the middle and we're missing out on all of those appreciation
moments that we could be fucking killing it in between the big
things as well. Sorry, Mom for swearing.
My mom already sent me a text about the last podcast episode
and said she thought people would like it better if I didn't
swear. Sorry Lee.
I don't know how I feel about polarizing sentences, I
presented at a retreat last weekend for the beautiful girls
at pineapple Fitness. It was so much fun.
I was so nervous at the start, but they were just the most
beautiful group of ladies and we just had a ball.
So thank you, Pineapple Fitness in Newcastle, you guys are the
bomb. But I had a few probably two or
three statements, quote sentences Concepts that I, when
I was writing out my presentation, I felt like all
this could. If somebody's not ready to hear
this, this could put someone off side or they may not agree with
it. But, you know, sometimes we need
to hear these things. So, how do you feel when I say?
It's your choice to wish your life away.
Every moment that you are looking at yourself in the
mirror and wishing that you looked a different way or that
you had would just hurry up and lose those five kilos or every
moment that you check that bank account and it's not at that
balance that you want it to be at or you spend your nights
wishing that you had somebody next to you in your bed, you are
choosing to wish that time away. So, whatever it is, that's
coming up for you. Let's, let's talk about it.
Send me a message, let me know what your goals are.
Let's celebrate those in-between moments as well, you know, the
time to do the things that you want.
And to feel the way that you want to feel is right now, it's
not. When you've reached that goal
the time that is ready for you to feel good is now.
And I know that that My seem difficult or hard.
So that's what I'm going to help you with.
That's the tips that I'm going to leave you with today and in
no way, do I think that my 15 or 20-minute podcasts are going to
change people's lives. But the reason that I listen to
podcasts is because I get one or two really cool tips or tricks
or hacks or something. One thing that I Implement into
my life. That I can really work with.
And so if that's all that you get from my podcast is one or
two. Cool things that you can start
to do, and it just makes you think about things a little bit
differently or live your life, just that little bit better.
Then that's so amazing. So remembering that you can feel
the way that you want to feel right now.
You don't have to wait until that time comes because
realistically. at the end of the day, when you think about it, if
your goal is to lose five kilos say, for example, then what
happens when you get close to losing that 5 kilos, you've lost
4 kilos and you knew you thought that that was your original goal
but you're standing in front of the mirror now or you're taking
that selfie and you realize all I don't have that find out that
I was really hoping for and I don't have those a blinds that I
thought were going to happen for me.
Maybe I just need to lose another three kilos or four
kilos. I've been doing so well and I've
been actioning all of my goals and I feel really good but I'm
just going to keep going for that extra few kilos.
Then what happens when you do lose those extra few kilos, we
are always going to be able to find something that we're not
happy with. There's always going to be
something more that we're aiming for and Declan one of my amazing
coaches. He refers to it as the hedonic
treadmill and it's it is that idea of I'll be happy when but
it's like we set that bar for ourselves.
If you can imagine me using my hands right now.
One of my hands is up Up higher than the other.
And that's the bar. And then my other hand is, it's
moving closer. Because you know, you're getting
closer to that goal. It's getting closer, you can
feel it, you can see it, you can smell it, it's right there.
But you realize that the reality of what you thought it was going
to look like, doesn't feel like where you're at now and so that
goal or that bar moves up further.
Now my hand is moving up further.
So, it's this never-ending Chase of this goal that we thought
that it would make us happy but but then it keeps moving further
and further away So what you can start to do is and this is
really cool. This is something that I have
been able to implement in my life that has made such a
difference. And I have so many like I'm so
proud of myself moments. Now for the smallest sometimes
silliest little things to others but things that you know I make
them mean a lot to me, that's meaningful to me.
So this is the things that are Thankful to you.
I want you to get a piece of paper and a pen or you can even
just do it. Mentally.
If writing things down isn't your thing that's totally fine,
do a voice memo if you like doing things through audio and
make out a list of everything that you have ever achieved that
you have been proud of yourself for So that's the first thing.
And I know, for some people, they might feel like well I
don't really know what I've achieved, or I feel like my list
isn't big enough. They're setting that goal for
themselves. My list needs to be bigger.
So think about your life in the last 12 months, So think about
the last year for you, and I'm sure we've all got those goals
that we're aiming towards, but what have you achieved in the
last 12 months, that you've been overlooking?
You're still on the hustle for that big goal.
So, you're missing out on all of those small cool little things
along the way, you know, I'll be honest, my Big Goal at the
moment is to leave my corporate role and it's getting so close.
I can feel it, I'm going to be stepping full-time into coaching
and I'm so looking forward to it, but I also really want to be
appreciating the moments that I'm proud of within my corporate
role. The things that I've achieved
those days that I get through that, I just feel like, oh my
gosh, I have so much work on. I just don't feel like I can
even get through the day without having a mental breakdown
halfway through. You know, I'm proud of myself
for all of those times and I'm proud of myself for working in a
corporate role. But also being able to give my
absolute heart and soul to all of my coaching clients to my
studies to completing my NLP practitioner.
I'll be finishing that on Sunday to starting this podcast.
Like there's so many things that I've been doing in the
in-between moments leading up to that big goal of leaving the
corporate space and if I didn't have the ability to look, Go
back and look into the past. I wouldn't be able to appreciate
all of those things which may seem small To other people.
They might seem small but if they're big things to you, they
are the things that are going to light you up and keep you going
to get to the big goals. Yeah, we have to have the small
things to get to the big things. So what are the things that in
the last 12 months or what are the big goals that you have, if
that works better for you in your mind?
What are the big goals that you have right now?
Write them down and then think about in the last 12 months,
what are all All of the small small tiny little steps that
you've been taking to move you closer towards that goal.
Another goal that Erin and I have is to renovate our house.
The previous goal before that this is perfect.
Example of the hedonic treadmill is, was just to buy the house in
the first place. Of course, we have to purchase a
house to be able to renovate it and so it's like, okay we've
moved in, we've got the house now, we're going to renovate.
But there is so many moments in that house that I literally just
stopped. What?
I might be standing in the middle of my lounge room.
The other day, I was actually dancing around my laundry room
and then music finished and I stopped and I thought, fuck.
Yeah. Like this was a big goal of mine
and I've I've done it. We have done it together.
We've worked as a team, we've purchased this house.
And you know what? Who cares?
If it's not renovated, really? I mean, it's going to be amazing
when it is because the plans are beautiful, but This was the
original goal and so whilst it's so cool to have that other goal
of the renovating. Why not be proud of those
moments in between and have that appreciation for myself in
between? So what can you appreciate that?
You have done. What are the small steps?
What are the hustle moments that you've had?
And just take a step back and be really fucking proud of yourself
for doing all of them. Because it's you that's putting
in that hard work. another sentence that really really
resonates with me, that this is another good one from Declan,
that Declan taught me, is that acceptance is being okay with
where you're at now while still having a goal towards where you
want to be and I think that's really like the epitome of what
that this episode is about, is that The concept of acceptance
to me, previously, to learning this sentence, or this quote,
was that I had to just be okay, like totally fine with the way
that things were. And sometimes that's not the
case, you know, there was definitely moments where
previous to purchasing our house.
I was just wishing my time away waiting for us to have that
space together or even for me just to have that space to just
get home from work and chill with.
Without feeling the need to have to talk to other people as crazy
as that sounds. But I didn't have a lot of that
acceptance at times around the, the process that I was going
through or the place that I was at with my goal at that time.
So, I don't know if that resonates with you, but if it
does amazing. So remember that acceptance is
being okay with where you're at now.
But still having that Big Goal, you can still have that goal but
be cool with where you are. Be happy with that space where
you are at now and still have those big goals.
You are where you are right now for a reason.
You are where you are because it's creating a future for you.
Whether that future is tomorrow, two days away a week away, two
years away, 10 years away, whatever that future looks like,
you are not going to get there without all of these steps that
you take in between. You are where you are now for a
reason and I really hope that that sinks in for you.
So really celebrate those wins. Whatever those winds are
whatever's come up in your list no matter how small and silly
you think that they are, they are your wins and you need to be
proud of yourself for those wins.
And now I'm going to step into the visualization part of this
podcast. So if you're driving, probably
don't do it now, maybe leave it till you get home.
I find visualization. A lot easier to do with my eyes
closed or not. They don't have to be close but
I'm just not focused on something like driving.
So please Don't Close Your Eyes if you driving so, what I will
invite you to do is To just sit or lie or whatever, whatever is
comfortable for you. Get your body in a comfortable
position. And I will invite you to close
your eyes. If that feels good for you, if
not, that's totally fine, keep them open.
And just feel your body where you are first.
Just ground yourself. What are your feet doing?
How do your feet feel? What are they resting on?
What are your legs resting on? Are you sitting down?
Can you feel your bum on the seat?
If you're lying down, can you feel?
The floor or your bed, taking the weight of your body, and
melting into. Wherever you are and relaxing
those muscles. And what I want you to visualize
is a moment for you. Where you felt really, really
good. You could even imagine
something. If you are finding it difficult
to think of a memory that you have, you can use your
imagination. So, for some people that image
of You know, that they're imagining could be they get to
go on an overseas holiday for the next 6 months.
They don't have to worry about work, they're flying first class
baby, wherever they want to go all accommodations paid for
Foods, paid for, and they don't have to go to work. whether that
feeling is, Lying outside in the grass with the sun on your skin.
Swimming at the beach. What is a moment where you felt?
Amazing. Whatever that feeling is that
you're looking for calm. Happy joyful, excited.
What comes up for you in that memory?
And when you feel like you have that memory in your mind, I want
you to just take a moment and step into that memory, visualize
yourself stepping into your memory. and, Have a look around.
What's going on? What's around you?
Hear everything that you can hear.
What can you hear? And feel.
Feel those feelings. Feel the things around you.
So, I really want you to see what you saw.
Hear what you heard? And feel what you felt.
And just breathe into that. Feel that feeling.
Feel the emotion, where can you feel it in your body and focus
on that? What is that feeling?
What does it look like? What does it feel like and, Now,
I want you to start to come back into your body, start to move
away from that feeling. Just wiggle your toes wiggle
your hands, flutter, your eyes open, come back to the room.
It's only a quick visualization, but how do you feel Just because
the visualization is over, can you still feel that feeling in
your body? My guess is yes and the reason
being is that your brain cannot tell the difference between a
memory or visualization and reality.
Your brain doesn't know that you don't feel happy, excited,
joyful playful, whatever that memory or that imagination
brought up for you. Your brain doesn't know that.
That is not reality. That that's not happening right
here, right now. So, how cool is that concept?
That if you do find yourself, getting caught up and getting
stuck on wanting to be somewhere different in your life and
wishing those thoughts away or feeling crappy about yourself
because you're not somewhere. That actually, that feeling that
you want to feel that feel good feeling that, you just felt that
you just visualized. It's always there.
It's always inside of you. And you have such quick access
to that. That was literally a two or
three minute visualization. You can access that at any
moment in your life. and so, I am going to leave you with that
because I hope that you feel amazing right now and I hope
that you take that feeling with you for the rest of the day.
And remember that it's always inside of you, it's always been
there and it's always accessible for you whenever you want it.
You just have to believe it. Please stop wishing that things
were different and that things looked different.
They are how they are for a reason.
You are where you are for a reason and be proud of yourself.
You are amazing. You have done all of the things
in your life. You have actioned those things
and don't let anybody take that away from you.
You did that. Thank you, I love you.
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don't even know what to say now. And I'm going to start rambling.
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