1 00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,200 Welcome to the nourishing. Amy podcast. 2 00:00:03,300 --> 00:00:06,200 I'm Amy Rankin. I am an emotional intelligence 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,000 and life coach as Speaker, a Creator, and a wellness. 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,500 Chaser, I have created this podcast for you to learn how 5 00:00:13,500 --> 00:00:17,300 'but mindset changes and get really actionable. 6 00:00:17,300 --> 00:00:22,200 Takeaways to find out who you are, what lights you up, how you 7 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:26,100 can love yourself again and how to live your best life. 8 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,900 Give yourself the space to welcome in more self-care and 9 00:00:30,100 --> 00:00:33,000 confidence. Reduce feelings like overwhelm 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:36,600 and stress and let find your sparkle again. 11 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:40,300 Are you ready? Let's do it. 12 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:53,900 Hello and welcome to episode 110 of the nourishing, Amy podcast, 13 00:00:53,900 --> 00:00:58,400 and today is going to be a therapy Thursday episode. 14 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,700 Now, if you haven't listened to one of the therapy Thursday 15 00:01:00,700 --> 00:01:04,400 episodes before the reason that I called them, this is because 16 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,800 it will be a topic that I personally have found a lot of 17 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,400 value in as. Well, whether that be recently 18 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:15,100 or something that I've learned that I'm like, this is going to 19 00:01:15,100 --> 00:01:18,400 also change my life as well as yours. 20 00:01:18,900 --> 00:01:22,100 It will be a topic that is something that I personally have 21 00:01:22,100 --> 00:01:27,100 taken onboard myself as well. So today I'm going to be talking 22 00:01:27,100 --> 00:01:31,600 with you guys about beliefs and getting clear on where your 23 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,100 beliefs come from. Are your beliefs yours if 24 00:01:35,100 --> 00:01:37,200 they're not. What do you actually believe? 25 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:41,900 It's such a big topic and I know in last episode I kind of 26 00:01:41,900 --> 00:01:46,800 touched on this a little bit because it was like a bit of a 27 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:50,800 introduction. To the actual topic that I was 28 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:52,300 talking about in the last episode. 29 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:54,600 And as I was talking, you guys would have heard. 30 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:58,800 I was like, whoa, this is huge. Like I need to stop going on 31 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,600 this tangent of beliefs because that's not actually what this 32 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:06,400 episode is about and do another episode on beliefs. 33 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:10,300 So, here it is for you. Now, before I jump right into 34 00:02:10,300 --> 00:02:14,200 that topic, I am going to give you this week's recommendation. 35 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:18,300 Now, this week's recommendation is this quiz. 36 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:22,600 Just so it is a goes for about 10 minutes. 37 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:27,200 It's a daily podcast episode that runs you through the 38 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:32,100 headlines in the news cycle and I have to be honest, like I 39 00:02:32,100 --> 00:02:35,500 don't watch the news, I don't listen to a lot of news. 40 00:02:35,500 --> 00:02:37,800 I find it a little depressing, I guess. 41 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:42,300 I kind of ignore things to a certain extent. 42 00:02:42,300 --> 00:02:46,300 I feel like there's just been such a heaviness around the news 43 00:02:46,300 --> 00:02:48,600 cycle in the last, like, two years. 44 00:02:49,100 --> 00:02:51,800 Really forever. Actually, if I'm honest, like 45 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:54,200 it's not often that you turn on the news and there's a really 46 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:58,500 happy exciting story that's on, but I find this quiz really 47 00:02:58,500 --> 00:03:03,900 great because it is very Punchy, it really delivers the news in a 48 00:03:03,900 --> 00:03:05,900 way that doesn't feel overwhelming. 49 00:03:06,100 --> 00:03:08,600 And it also feels really achievable for me because I'm 50 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,900 like, I know it's only going to go for like 10 minutes. 51 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,400 Also, what I find interesting is sometimes they'll be talking on 52 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:16,200 my toe that topic sounds interesting. 53 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,500 I want to do a little bit more research on that and I'll go and 54 00:03:18,500 --> 00:03:21,900 get Going or jump onto some of the news websites and actually 55 00:03:21,900 --> 00:03:24,800 start to read a little bit more about those topics to. 56 00:03:25,700 --> 00:03:29,700 Now there's also an Instagram page called The Daily. 57 00:03:29,700 --> 00:03:33,500 Let me just really quickly, jump onto Instagram and double check, 58 00:03:34,500 --> 00:03:36,700 because it might actually be the daily Oz. 59 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:42,100 But the reason that I love the daily is because so it's 60 00:03:42,100 --> 00:03:48,200 actually yeah, the daily oz. So no spaces tThe, daily4 us. 61 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:53,600 The reason that I love this Instagram Pages because very 62 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:58,000 similar to this quiz it gives you the news headlines or like 63 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,000 the important stuff that's happening in really easy to 64 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,400 digest ways. There's lots of quote tiles and 65 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:09,000 things like that, and it gives you, you know, like the big 66 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:13,200 focuses, but it's easy to read, it's easy to understand. 67 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,300 Sometimes there's tiles that you can scroll across and get a 68 00:04:16,300 --> 00:04:20,300 little bit more information from So yeah, it's great. 69 00:04:20,300 --> 00:04:23,500 I would say those two. If you're looking to get into 70 00:04:23,500 --> 00:04:26,100 the new cycle, a little bit more in-depth, your toe in without 71 00:04:26,100 --> 00:04:30,000 feeling overwhelmed, or anxious or stressed, the daily Oz and 72 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:35,300 this quiz as a podcaster series are really great ways to get 73 00:04:35,300 --> 00:04:39,900 started. Now, let's start to talk about 74 00:04:40,300 --> 00:04:44,100 beliefs. This is such an interesting 75 00:04:44,100 --> 00:04:50,800 interesting topic, because when you think about it, All of your 76 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,300 beliefs like basically beliefs come from, what we hear, and 77 00:04:54,300 --> 00:04:58,500 continue to hear from others, like, at the core of their 78 00:04:58,500 --> 00:05:01,000 being, that's what our beliefs are. 79 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,100 And it's so crazy. When you think about that, like, 80 00:05:05,100 --> 00:05:06,700 really think about that for a second. 81 00:05:07,300 --> 00:05:12,000 What that actually means is your beliefs, may not even be your 82 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:16,400 own, because if we think about these on a really large scale 83 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:21,200 like a life time scale for you, If you go back to when you were 84 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:26,700 a really young child and the thoughts and opinions, and 85 00:05:26,700 --> 00:05:30,700 beliefs that you were exposed to back then from anybody in your 86 00:05:30,700 --> 00:05:33,900 life, but more importantly, influential people that you had 87 00:05:33,900 --> 00:05:36,500 in your life. So that maybe parents if you 88 00:05:36,500 --> 00:05:39,000 lived with parents or had a good relationship with your parents 89 00:05:39,300 --> 00:05:42,900 or even a bad relationship with your parents, it could be people 90 00:05:42,900 --> 00:05:47,200 that grandparents teachers at school friends parents that kind 91 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:51,600 of stuff, but So that's like that really big scale of like 92 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:56,800 okay well I can start to understand the enormity of this 93 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:03,100 when I think about that you know as children we are so 94 00:06:03,300 --> 00:06:07,300 impressionable. We're not to know if somebody in 95 00:06:07,300 --> 00:06:11,800 our life is telling us something we're not to know whether that's 96 00:06:12,100 --> 00:06:16,000 you know, right or wrong or where not to not that anything 97 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,300 really is necessarily right or wrong because it's their 98 00:06:18,300 --> 00:06:22,200 perspective. But we are less able When We're 99 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:26,000 Young actually, I would kind of say unable when we're really 100 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:30,900 young to put our own perspective and context on to those beliefs. 101 00:06:31,100 --> 00:06:35,600 And so when we're really young we take them on board as our own 102 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:41,300 essentially and we kind of grow and evolve that belief as we are 103 00:06:41,300 --> 00:06:46,000 growing and evolving, it changes with us and it evokes in evolves 104 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:49,700 and grows with us. Sometimes we And get to the 105 00:06:49,700 --> 00:06:52,300 point that we realized that's not actually something I want to 106 00:06:52,300 --> 00:06:54,700 buy into a believe anymore. That's not my opinion or 107 00:06:54,707 --> 00:06:57,500 thoughts. But other times if we look at 108 00:06:57,500 --> 00:07:00,600 the absolute other end of the spectrum for that, we can really 109 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,300 fully wholeheartedly jump into those beliefs and carry them 110 00:07:04,300 --> 00:07:06,700 with us. Now it's not to say again. 111 00:07:06,700 --> 00:07:10,600 Like I just said that anything is really inherently right or 112 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:14,700 wrong but what we really want to do is start to create a little 113 00:07:14,700 --> 00:07:20,400 bit of curiosity, sorry. The word was escaping me for a 114 00:07:20,407 --> 00:07:24,500 second, a little bit of curiosity around, where do my 115 00:07:24,500 --> 00:07:27,300 beliefs come from? Where are these regular thoughts 116 00:07:27,300 --> 00:07:30,500 or opinions, or perspectives that I have coming from? 117 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:33,900 And is this something that I fully wholeheartedly believe 118 00:07:33,900 --> 00:07:38,000 myself or has this potentially been given to me and passed down 119 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,700 to me either when I was younger and it's something that I still 120 00:07:41,700 --> 00:07:46,600 hold onto to this day or is this maybe a newer belief that has 121 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:51,100 come in the more recent years? Say, Last like, five 10 ish 122 00:07:51,100 --> 00:07:55,100 years or so. Through older relationships that 123 00:07:55,100 --> 00:07:59,300 I that sorry relationships that I have as an older human being 124 00:07:59,300 --> 00:08:05,400 or not a child in the way of like friendships different 125 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:09,000 careers and jobs that you've had that kind of stuff and beliefs 126 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,900 and opinions and perspectives that you have then taken on 127 00:08:11,900 --> 00:08:15,600 board as your own from those experiences in your life as 128 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,400 well. Now, I actually did want to 129 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,700 preface It's the beginning of this episode, and say, I really 130 00:08:21,700 --> 00:08:23,300 hope the audio is okay for you guys. 131 00:08:23,300 --> 00:08:27,000 Today, I need to be honest, I'm recording in my car today 132 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:31,800 because all he's got conjunctivitis and cold, and 133 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,900 it's just absolute chaos in my house this week. 134 00:08:34,900 --> 00:08:37,000 And he obviously can't go to daycare. 135 00:08:37,500 --> 00:08:39,500 So I've got to do what I've got to do. 136 00:08:39,500 --> 00:08:42,299 I really wanted to get this episode recorded and sent out 137 00:08:42,299 --> 00:08:45,900 for you. I've had a lot of personal stuff 138 00:08:45,900 --> 00:08:48,500 going on in the last few weeks, and I'm not going to dive into 139 00:08:48,500 --> 00:08:53,700 it, but I really needed to take a few weeks of time for myself 140 00:08:53,700 --> 00:08:57,400 for my own mental health, and really just process that whole 141 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:01,000 situation. So, if you do, follow me over on 142 00:09:01,008 --> 00:09:04,100 socials, you probably would have noticed over the last few weeks, 143 00:09:04,100 --> 00:09:08,300 I've been very quiet, if not like barely non-existent, 144 00:09:08,500 --> 00:09:11,400 because I just really needed that mental health time in 145 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:14,400 saying that this week. I've kind of felt like, okay, 146 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,400 I'm ready to start getting back into my routine. 147 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,300 So help me to feel really Good. And start to switch my brain 148 00:09:21,300 --> 00:09:25,400 back on into work mode and of course, then Ali got sick. 149 00:09:25,900 --> 00:09:28,700 And I haven't had time away from him in the house today and I 150 00:09:28,700 --> 00:09:31,400 thought no, I've got to get it done. 151 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:34,300 I want to get it done, and I want to get this recorded and 152 00:09:34,300 --> 00:09:37,500 out for you guys. So, here we are in my car. 153 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,700 I hope that the audio isn't too terrible quality for you. 154 00:09:41,700 --> 00:09:46,300 I do apologize and we should be fingers crossed as long as the 155 00:09:46,300 --> 00:09:49,300 daycare bugs, stay away next week, back to regular According 156 00:09:49,300 --> 00:09:53,600 next week for you guys. So like I was saying those for 157 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,900 the beliefs that we have come from what we hear and continue 158 00:09:56,900 --> 00:10:03,400 to hear from others. So, These can be beliefs that 159 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:08,100 have been internalized by others and automatically passed down to 160 00:10:08,100 --> 00:10:11,500 us. So what I mean by that is if 161 00:10:11,500 --> 00:10:14,800 this is true what we're saying about your beliefs that they've 162 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:16,900 been passed down to you and it's things that you've heard 163 00:10:16,900 --> 00:10:20,600 regularly over the years and over the time of your life span 164 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:23,500 and that's things that you have taken on board. 165 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:29,400 We also want to really put that on a large like a huge scale and 166 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:33,600 see that that is also So, the case for literally, every single 167 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,200 other person in the world, it's the same for people that, you 168 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:38,500 know, people that you don't know. 169 00:10:38,500 --> 00:10:41,600 For your friends, your family members people that you have 170 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:44,100 close relationships with people at work. 171 00:10:44,900 --> 00:10:49,500 It's also, when we think about that, the idea that this is 172 00:10:49,500 --> 00:10:52,800 where we get the idea of like generational beliefs. 173 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:57,600 Because say, let's just use the example that you have taken on 174 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,500 board, a belief that maybe your mum had or your dad. 175 00:11:00,900 --> 00:11:04,200 When you were growing up and when you were a young child that 176 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:08,200 belief that they had has actually probably been passed 177 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:12,400 down to them by somebody, influential in their life and 178 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,200 it's evolved and grown and changed with them, as they've 179 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:18,900 become an older person and an adult and then they are 180 00:11:19,100 --> 00:11:22,200 sometimes subconsciously. And that's why I say that 181 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:25,300 sometimes these beliefs are internalised and automatically 182 00:11:25,300 --> 00:11:29,300 passed down because it can be so subconscious that we don't even 183 00:11:29,300 --> 00:11:32,400 realize that we're doing it. Or they don't even realize that 184 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,400 they're doing it. And this is kind of the part for 185 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:40,900 me where I was like, it really is mind-boggling when you think 186 00:11:40,900 --> 00:11:46,100 about the enormity of this subject and I'm going to do my 187 00:11:46,100 --> 00:11:49,700 absolute best to try and get through it in a way that makes 188 00:11:49,700 --> 00:11:52,700 sense. And it helps you to understand 189 00:11:52,700 --> 00:11:56,700 and really Embrace this concept and for it to be something that 190 00:11:56,700 --> 00:11:59,200 doesn't feel overwhelming or stressful. 191 00:11:59,700 --> 00:12:07,100 So, One of the reasons that we have beliefs and that they can 192 00:12:07,100 --> 00:12:12,000 be passed down to us, is because it helps our people that came 193 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:16,400 before us to feel like they are maintaining a sense of culture 194 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,700 or tradition. So whether that is really 195 00:12:19,700 --> 00:12:23,400 ingrained, culture and tradition and things like, you know, 196 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:27,600 religion family traditions. You could even think about, you 197 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,700 know, the way that perhaps, you spent Christmases when you were 198 00:12:30,700 --> 00:12:34,000 younger or Or if there was any like family, traditions that you 199 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,600 guys had or friendship, Traditions that you guys had 200 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:42,900 when we are passing down our beliefs, it helps us to feel 201 00:12:42,900 --> 00:12:45,900 like we're maintaining that sense of cultural Tradition. 202 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:50,900 Now that in turn can also help us to feel like we have a sense 203 00:12:50,900 --> 00:12:55,600 of belonging and certainty and those of you that either are my 204 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:57,300 clients or that aren't my clients. 205 00:12:57,300 --> 00:13:02,100 But have seen me speaking on my Instagram lives or Doing some 206 00:13:02,100 --> 00:13:06,600 live online sessions with me, would know that belonging and 207 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:10,200 certainty are two of our main psychological needs. 208 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:13,000 So we have six psychological needs all together. 209 00:13:13,500 --> 00:13:16,400 These are at our core of Who You Are. 210 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:20,900 Who every single person is these are at your core needs. 211 00:13:20,900 --> 00:13:25,400 That you have psychologically that you are looking to meet 212 00:13:25,700 --> 00:13:29,600 every single day. So yes, these will be a lot of 213 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:33,800 the time subconscious and and I'm actually pretty sure while I 214 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:36,900 know that I have done a quite a few podcast episodes on these 215 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:42,600 but it's generally that sense of if one or two or any of your 216 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:46,600 psychological needs are feeling like they're not being met at 217 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:50,500 any extent to any extent. Then what that means is that you 218 00:13:50,500 --> 00:13:53,600 will just feel a general underlying feeling of like I'm 219 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:57,200 just not really feeling like myself or I'm feeling a bit off 220 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:01,600 I'm just feeling a bit blah a bit flat and when we really Look 221 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,600 at the meaning behind what's happening for you. 222 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:07,100 Whether it's like life's thrown a curve ball, or you're going 223 00:14:07,100 --> 00:14:10,300 through some big change. Things like that, we can really 224 00:14:10,300 --> 00:14:12,600 have a look at these six psychological needs and get 225 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:14,600 clear on. Okay, well with this change, or 226 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:17,900 with this, this curveball that's happened in life at the moment. 227 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:21,900 What of these six psychological needs is being challenged for 228 00:14:21,900 --> 00:14:27,100 you belonging and that sense of community is one of them and 229 00:14:27,100 --> 00:14:31,200 certainty or that sense of like, I know what's happening, I feel 230 00:14:31,500 --> 00:14:36,500 Confident and comfortable with my routines and my lifestyle and 231 00:14:36,500 --> 00:14:38,600 that I know what's going on in my life. 232 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:44,500 These are two really, really big factors in the sixth circuit 233 00:14:44,500 --> 00:14:47,900 logical needs. And so our beliefs help to 234 00:14:47,900 --> 00:14:51,500 reinforce that sense of belonging and help to reinforce 235 00:14:51,500 --> 00:14:55,600 that sense of certainty so that on its own is also a huge factor 236 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,300 that plays a part in. Why we have beliefs, why we can 237 00:14:59,300 --> 00:15:03,400 hold onto them so tightly. And why it can also feel so 238 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,500 uncomfortable if someone disagrees with one of your core 239 00:15:06,500 --> 00:15:11,300 beliefs as well. I've got another note here but 240 00:15:11,300 --> 00:15:13,000 I'm just trying to figure out what it means. 241 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,600 Oh yes, of course. So on the opposite, end of that, 242 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:20,800 if we know that holding onto our beliefs, or buying into our 243 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:23,600 beliefs, whether they're ours, or whether they've been passed 244 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:28,300 down to us, helps us to feel that sense of belonging or 245 00:15:28,300 --> 00:15:32,300 certainty on the other side. What it also Also helps us to do 246 00:15:32,300 --> 00:15:37,400 is avoid things like shame and isolation and guilt because 247 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:40,200 they're really the opposite end of that belonging and certainty, 248 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:42,600 right? So it's like, well, if I go 249 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:46,900 against something that again, for example, like my mom, or my 250 00:15:46,900 --> 00:15:51,500 dad has passed down to me and perhaps they're still alive and 251 00:15:51,700 --> 00:15:55,700 I'm going against that belief. What are they going to think? 252 00:15:55,700 --> 00:16:01,700 This is really like, I guess if we look at an example, say In a 253 00:16:01,700 --> 00:16:07,200 lot of the movies and it's like, the parents of Saved, 18 years, 254 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:10,800 or however old children are when they go to college over in 255 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:14,800 America and they've saved for 18 years to get their child to go 256 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,800 to college and then all of a sudden their 18 year old child 257 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:20,400 turns around and says, actually I don't want to do that. 258 00:16:20,900 --> 00:16:25,000 That's an 18-year belief. That that those parents have 259 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:30,900 held possibly even longer. That is then being turned 260 00:16:30,900 --> 00:16:34,100 around. Round and not necessarily thrown 261 00:16:34,100 --> 00:16:37,600 back in their face but it's a big pill for them to swallow to 262 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,000 be like, whoa, okay? Like this is going against 263 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:44,100 everything that I thought was going to happen and that I 264 00:16:44,100 --> 00:16:49,300 believe is important so we can really get that sense of like I 265 00:16:49,300 --> 00:16:54,000 don't want to disappoint Somebody by saying this thing 266 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:57,900 doing this thing, having this belief and maybe going against 267 00:16:57,900 --> 00:17:01,200 the grain a little bit as well. That's where we can get those. 268 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:05,800 Feelings of shame or isolation or guilt coming up in that. 269 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:09,300 Well, if I don't believe this anymore, the big question then 270 00:17:09,300 --> 00:17:13,599 is, what do I actually believe. But also then on a subconscious 271 00:17:13,599 --> 00:17:18,300 level and more of like a, you know, caveman style level of 272 00:17:18,300 --> 00:17:22,400 like, well, where do I fit in? Am I going to be kicked out of 273 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:28,200 my tribe in inverted commas? Obviously, we know that, you 274 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:31,200 know, tribes aren't really a thing anymore. 275 00:17:31,300 --> 00:17:33,600 Yeah, but they kind of are as well like really. 276 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:37,500 When we look at our sense of community, a sense of loving and 277 00:17:37,700 --> 00:17:42,000 belonging, we have different tribes within our life, whether 278 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:46,400 that be your family, whether that be people that you work 279 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:50,800 with, or your friendship group, we have different tribes, or 280 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:54,900 groups. I would prefer to say now, of, 281 00:17:54,900 --> 00:18:00,500 in our life and that sense of changing or going against the 282 00:18:00,500 --> 00:18:04,400 grain of Of either, what they believe to be true, or what you 283 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:07,700 believe to be true and have shared that as your belief can 284 00:18:07,700 --> 00:18:12,000 feel quite confronting and quite uncomfortable as well. 285 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:18,700 So, basically our beliefs start from, if we again go way back to 286 00:18:18,700 --> 00:18:22,700 when we were younger, they start from those influential people in 287 00:18:22,700 --> 00:18:28,100 our life and then as we get older, if they start to evolve 288 00:18:28,100 --> 00:18:34,400 into friendships, You know, social media, even plays a big 289 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:38,900 part in this because we're so exposed to other people's lives 290 00:18:38,900 --> 00:18:42,100 and watching what other people are doing that, we start to 291 00:18:42,100 --> 00:18:45,700 place importance in all like that would be cool. 292 00:18:45,700 --> 00:18:50,100 If I had that thing in my life, I want to go and buy a house in 293 00:18:50,100 --> 00:18:53,700 that area or I want my children to go to that school or I really 294 00:18:53,700 --> 00:18:57,300 would like to do this certain thing for a job or move my 295 00:18:57,300 --> 00:19:00,200 career in this direction, or have this certain amount of 296 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:04,200 money saved or a I love this style of clothing or this brand 297 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,500 of clothing. So many like honestly the list 298 00:19:07,500 --> 00:19:13,000 is literally never ending in the way that social media can. 299 00:19:14,300 --> 00:19:18,700 Influence and change our beliefs, our perspectives, our 300 00:19:18,700 --> 00:19:22,900 thoughts, and so subconsciously, without us, even realizing that 301 00:19:22,900 --> 00:19:25,600 we're doing it. It's yeah. 302 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:28,600 Such a big topic. I'm so passionate about this. 303 00:19:28,900 --> 00:19:33,900 So when we start to think about, I'm assuming that, especially 304 00:19:33,900 --> 00:19:36,900 from the last episode that I was talking about, I know I spoke a 305 00:19:36,908 --> 00:19:40,500 lot about like those influential people in our lives from when we 306 00:19:40,500 --> 00:19:43,000 were younger and how they have played a part. 307 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:45,600 So I'm definitely going to To come back to that in a minute. 308 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:49,700 But if we start to think about, say the more recent years like 309 00:19:49,700 --> 00:19:53,600 the, the like 5 to 10 years, the most recent five, to ten years 310 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:57,100 of your life and thinking about the influential people that you 311 00:19:57,100 --> 00:19:59,500 have in your life. Now, those relationships that 312 00:19:59,500 --> 00:20:05,600 feel important to you, but also in the way that potentially 313 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:09,900 social media could be impacting, your beliefs, your feelings, 314 00:20:09,900 --> 00:20:12,300 your thoughts, all of that kind of stuff as well. 315 00:20:13,300 --> 00:20:17,900 Let's kind, And of just take a moment to consider how impactful 316 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:22,200 that can actually be in your life, right? 317 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:26,400 Like it's a pretty big concept when we think about instead of 318 00:20:26,408 --> 00:20:29,300 just doing the automatic scrolling on your phone and 319 00:20:29,300 --> 00:20:31,800 watching what everybody else is doing or like watching your 320 00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:35,500 YouTube videos or even watching like TV shows and movies and 321 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,000 watching stories, play out in front of us. 322 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:44,300 It takes a lot of. What's the word that 323 00:20:44,700 --> 00:20:46,500 intentional? That's what I'm trying to think 324 00:20:46,500 --> 00:20:49,100 of. I swear my mom brain and 325 00:20:49,100 --> 00:20:52,800 pregnancy brain has just been absolute Next Level. 326 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,700 This last two weeks. I don't know if it's just like 327 00:20:55,700 --> 00:20:58,300 all that personal stuff that I had going on that was taking a 328 00:20:58,300 --> 00:21:03,200 lot of like energy and just everything. 329 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,900 But oh my gosh. I swear I'll I'm like the word 330 00:21:05,900 --> 00:21:08,600 is on the tip of my tongue so often this last week I'm like 331 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:14,000 has my brain just stopped working But I digress. 332 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:20,000 So it's it's really you know, looking at where are these 333 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,400 beliefs coming from? What am I watching? 334 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:28,300 What am I placing importance in? And is this actually important 335 00:21:28,300 --> 00:21:34,100 to me like why is this important to me or is it important to me? 336 00:21:34,300 --> 00:21:39,700 Because I am seeing that it's important to somebody else and 337 00:21:39,700 --> 00:21:41,900 like we One have a little bit of balance here. 338 00:21:41,900 --> 00:21:46,900 Like of course we get our sense of maybe things like you know, 339 00:21:46,900 --> 00:21:51,100 fashion that you're enjoying wearing or foods that you like 340 00:21:51,100 --> 00:21:54,000 to eat recipes that you would like to cook that kind of stuff. 341 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:59,000 We don't want to stop using social media, and the internet 342 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,300 and things like that. All together, I've spoken about 343 00:22:01,300 --> 00:22:05,600 this a lot in my podcast episodes on distraction 344 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:09,000 techniques as well. What we want to do is find a 345 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:13,000 balance of utilizing these things that we have in our lives 346 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:15,900 like social media and Technology as tools. 347 00:22:15,900 --> 00:22:19,000 That feel really good for us that are beneficial for us. 348 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,900 But also to just kind of like in the background be aware that 349 00:22:22,900 --> 00:22:25,800 this could be happening. Like, I could be being 350 00:22:25,900 --> 00:22:30,800 influenced because again that's why influences are called 351 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,700 influences, right? Because they influence our 352 00:22:33,700 --> 00:22:37,500 lives, they subconsciously or sometimes, not so subconsciously 353 00:22:38,100 --> 00:22:40,800 influence, the decisions that we're making Being we're 354 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:43,800 watching People's stories. YouTube's we're watching TV 355 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:49,100 shows reality TV shows made up fictional TV shows movies. 356 00:22:49,100 --> 00:22:54,000 Those types of things that we are being fed, all of this 357 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,000 information and taking that on board. 358 00:22:56,100 --> 00:23:00,300 And sometimes it feels like we don't have a lot of choice as to 359 00:23:00,300 --> 00:23:03,000 what we're picking and choosing for our brain to focus on. 360 00:23:03,300 --> 00:23:10,800 Imagine, if you were really intentional about every single 361 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:13,500 thing that your brain took in, it's physically, impossible, 362 00:23:13,500 --> 00:23:17,000 like physically mentally emotionally impossible. 363 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:20,000 I know I've spoken about this statistic before on the podcast, 364 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:23,400 but every single second, your brain, through all five of your 365 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:27,700 senses is taking in three million pieces of information 366 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:31,700 every single second. And that's just like the things 367 00:23:31,700 --> 00:23:35,000 that you can see, the things that you can hear the things you 368 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:40,000 can touch and smell and taste all of that kind of stuff and 369 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:44,100 It's just absolutely impossible like you would never be able to 370 00:23:44,100 --> 00:23:46,900 pay attention to three million different things, every single 371 00:23:46,900 --> 00:23:49,200 second. So your brain is actively 372 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:52,800 choosing what to filter out. If you're interested in that go 373 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,100 back and have a scroll back through, I think it's around 374 00:23:55,100 --> 00:24:00,400 episode, like 60, 70 ish for the mindset series, and I dive 375 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,900 really deep. There's 16 podcast episodes, 376 00:24:02,900 --> 00:24:07,500 they go for about 10 to 15 minutes each and they dive into 377 00:24:07,500 --> 00:24:10,500 the different cognitive distortions, which is basically 378 00:24:10,500 --> 00:24:14,500 thinking patterns that help us to filter through all of the 379 00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:16,800 information that we are getting every single second. 380 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,200 So there's a heap of different thinking patterns and ways that 381 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:22,400 your brain filters through information and it's super 382 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,200 interesting when you can start to be aware of them and call 383 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,900 them out and realize, like, oh, I'm this is one of my cognitive 384 00:24:29,900 --> 00:24:31,900 distortions. I'm doing black or white 385 00:24:31,900 --> 00:24:36,100 thinking or I'm generalizing or, you know, I'm really running 386 00:24:36,100 --> 00:24:38,600 into my cognitive bias here, that kind of stuff. 387 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,100 So that's all in the mindsets. He's there for you. 388 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:46,400 But what we want to start to bring a little more awareness to 389 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,800 is okay through the information that I'm consuming whether it is 390 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,900 via technology and social media or whether it is through my 391 00:24:52,900 --> 00:24:55,600 friends and family members and relationships that I have in my 392 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,300 life. What am I choosing to buy into? 393 00:24:59,300 --> 00:25:02,000 And do I want to take this on board as my own? 394 00:25:02,100 --> 00:25:04,100 Or is it just kind of like? Okay, cool. 395 00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:08,200 I'm like taking it on board, but do I actually believe that? 396 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:10,600 Do I like that? Thought to, I like that opinion, 397 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:14,900 like what do I actually? Really think that's a big 398 00:25:14,900 --> 00:25:19,000 question, right? What do I think about this? 399 00:25:19,500 --> 00:25:23,800 And I guess he's kind of dives into that topic of like identity 400 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:27,800 and like, who am I, if you have either been through, like, a big 401 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,500 life change or maybe you haven't been through a big life change, 402 00:25:30,500 --> 00:25:33,800 and there's been a lot of consistency around maybe things 403 00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,400 like your career, and your work life, and things like that. 404 00:25:36,700 --> 00:25:41,600 That it's like things just feel, maybe a little predictable for 405 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:43,300 you. That then it's like. 406 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,100 Well, hang on to actually question that and be like, but 407 00:25:46,100 --> 00:25:48,700 what do I think? Especially when life has felt a 408 00:25:48,700 --> 00:25:51,300 little on autopilot, it's a pretty big question. 409 00:25:52,300 --> 00:25:57,500 So I'm going to give some examples of beliefs that could 410 00:25:57,500 --> 00:26:00,700 come up. They're kind of, like the common 411 00:26:00,700 --> 00:26:05,200 ish ones and ones that I could just kind of think of off the 412 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,400 top of my head. Of course, these are going to be 413 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:12,000 individual for everybody, but it could be things like, for 414 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:16,900 example, Example this suburb in my area or it's a bad suburb 415 00:26:16,900 --> 00:26:18,200 black. No, we don't go there because 416 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,500 it's not a good suburb we could have. 417 00:26:21,500 --> 00:26:24,600 And again I'm really want to State, these are not my own 418 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,000 beliefs. These are just examples that I'm 419 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,500 using that you may be able to identify for yourself. 420 00:26:30,500 --> 00:26:34,100 You might be able to identify these beliefs that maybe other 421 00:26:34,100 --> 00:26:36,400 people have had that you've heard other people, talking 422 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:42,000 about things like it's bad to, you know, insert, whatever their 423 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:42,500 budgets. Things? 424 00:26:42,500 --> 00:26:49,200 Like, it's bad to be gay or that it's bad to cry if I'm a man 425 00:26:49,300 --> 00:26:52,800 like, you know, men don't show emotion or maybe even something 426 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,600 like, it's bad to show emotion. Like, I need to be strong, I've 427 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,900 got to keep it together. I've just got to keep pushing 428 00:26:57,900 --> 00:27:01,800 through those types of any sentence where it's like, it's 429 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:06,500 bad to or maybe even like, I need to, I should it's good to 430 00:27:06,500 --> 00:27:10,300 like, the Opposites of them as well, or like, I should be able 431 00:27:10,300 --> 00:27:13,800 to get this this in this done. But why do you believe that? 432 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,400 Where have you seen that? Has that been played out in 433 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,100 front of you by somebody, when you were younger that it was 434 00:27:20,100 --> 00:27:23,300 like, I just got to get all the things done or, you know, are 435 00:27:23,300 --> 00:27:26,700 you being exposed to that behavior on social media or in 436 00:27:26,700 --> 00:27:29,300 TV shows that it's like, oh, that person's so productive. 437 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,800 I need to be that productive, as well. 438 00:27:33,300 --> 00:27:37,900 Things like, I need to have this, do this be this. 439 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:42,000 All of that kind of stuff. That's all subconscious beliefs. 440 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,200 You have another really common one. 441 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:49,500 I should have this certain body type or I should look this way 442 00:27:49,500 --> 00:27:52,700 so whether it's hair color makeup that you like wearing 443 00:27:52,700 --> 00:27:56,100 clothes that you like to wear a certain weight that you would 444 00:27:56,100 --> 00:28:00,000 like to aim for or the way that you believe your body shape or 445 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,600 style. Looks a lot of the time that can 446 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:07,900 really be traced back to when we were a lot younger and I've 447 00:28:07,900 --> 00:28:11,700 spoken to quite a lot of my clients in the last few months. 448 00:28:12,100 --> 00:28:15,500 I don't know why but I feel like body image is kind of having a 449 00:28:15,500 --> 00:28:19,900 bit of a Resurgence again as a topic that a lot of my clients 450 00:28:19,900 --> 00:28:23,900 and just in general like I think the general I won't say general 451 00:28:23,900 --> 00:28:28,700 population but like my Niche and demographic of clientele that I 452 00:28:28,700 --> 00:28:31,700 work with and you know people that I'm chatting with on 453 00:28:31,700 --> 00:28:34,100 Instagram and stuff like that that will send me messages about 454 00:28:34,100 --> 00:28:36,400 maybe things that they have questions about or that they 455 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,200 want to know more about all that, they're struggling with. 456 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,800 I have found that in the last few months. 457 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,300 Image has been a massive topic that's been coming up quite 458 00:28:45,300 --> 00:28:49,600 regularly and something that I've really spoken a lot about 459 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:55,900 with so many people is the fact that, you know, my generation 460 00:28:55,900 --> 00:28:58,800 and so I'm going to assume and say your generation as well. 461 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:03,100 Because I know most of you guys are around my age demographic, 462 00:29:03,100 --> 00:29:08,200 all of that kind of stuff. Our Generation has been so 463 00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:13,400 exposed to marketing from like, Like when we were young, if you 464 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:16,800 think about like Dolly and girlfriend magazines and then as 465 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:20,800 we got a little bit older that turned into like and W magazine 466 00:29:20,900 --> 00:29:24,700 and I can't even remember what what they were even called 467 00:29:24,700 --> 00:29:26,100 anymore because they're not really around. 468 00:29:26,100 --> 00:29:28,000 I don't, I wouldn't even know actually if they're around 469 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:29,700 because I don't really buy magazines anymore. 470 00:29:29,700 --> 00:29:36,100 But so if we use nw4, an example and the articles that they would 471 00:29:36,100 --> 00:29:42,000 run on celebrities body, weights cellulite like they would have 472 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:46,900 20 Page spreads on stars that have been popped at the beach 473 00:29:46,900 --> 00:29:51,400 with cellulite in their bikinis or dramatic weight loss by the 474 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:52,500 Stars. I don't know. 475 00:29:52,500 --> 00:29:57,300 Like I feel like those images of Nicole Richie in that blue 476 00:29:57,300 --> 00:30:00,400 little bikini from probably like 20 years ago. 477 00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:05,600 Now they're like burned into my brain because they were on every 478 00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:09,600 single newspaper and it was this big thing about like oh look how 479 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:13,000 much weight she's lost and in some Gene's it was like, she's 480 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:15,000 looking fantastic. She's lost all this weight in 481 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,100 other magazines. It was like, wow, she's so, 482 00:30:17,100 --> 00:30:21,400 scarily skinny. But if we are thinking about the 483 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:25,300 impact, that, that marketing has played on us. 484 00:30:25,300 --> 00:30:30,700 Now as adults, when it's like, you have been fed these images 485 00:30:30,700 --> 00:30:34,500 and these stories, literally, since you were a young child and 486 00:30:34,500 --> 00:30:41,000 now it's morphed into marketing companies, it's a multi-billion 487 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,900 Dollar business. Business and Empire that 488 00:30:44,900 --> 00:30:50,600 marketing companies are paid to make you feel less than, and to 489 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,800 make you feel like you need more, you need to be more be 490 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,400 different. Look, different look better in 491 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,300 inverted commas, whatever that means. 492 00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:03,100 And so our beliefs, this is another really big example of 493 00:31:03,100 --> 00:31:06,200 how beliefs can be passed down to you from things like 494 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:11,300 marketing and media. Like these companies are paid To 495 00:31:11,300 --> 00:31:15,400 touch on your pain points and to get you to feel like you not 496 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:20,600 just want to, but need to change something about yourself. 497 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:25,300 So I should have this body type. I should look this certain way I 498 00:31:25,300 --> 00:31:28,500 should eat this food. I should have these routines and 499 00:31:28,700 --> 00:31:31,600 healthy habits in my life. All of that kind of stuff. 500 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:35,200 Yes. Like eating healthy foods is 501 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,400 good for you. Yes, having routines and healthy 502 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:41,700 habits. It's good for you, but, but it's 503 00:31:41,700 --> 00:31:44,000 getting clear on what are the healthy habits? 504 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:48,600 That feel good for me? Not for a me, not for one of 505 00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,600 your friends, not for that person on social media, but for 506 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:56,900 you, what feels good for you and we can gain inspiration from 507 00:31:56,900 --> 00:31:59,100 other people. We can talk to our friends and 508 00:31:59,100 --> 00:32:02,200 our family members and look to things like social media to see 509 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:06,500 what other people are doing and get an idea of like ah actually, 510 00:32:06,500 --> 00:32:09,300 maybe that's a habit that I would like to do for myself or 511 00:32:09,300 --> 00:32:11,400 that self-care. Cold. 512 00:32:11,900 --> 00:32:16,700 But it's actually feeling into like, what is going to fit with 513 00:32:16,700 --> 00:32:20,700 me, what feels good for me and how can I incorporate these 514 00:32:20,700 --> 00:32:23,000 moving forward? So it feels good for me. 515 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:27,100 Not just because this person says that, I should like this 516 00:32:27,100 --> 00:32:30,500 thing or do this thing, right? Reconnecting back to that, wire 517 00:32:30,500 --> 00:32:34,100 behind the actions that you're taking in your day-to-day life, 518 00:32:34,500 --> 00:32:36,600 some other examples could be things. 519 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:41,600 Like this certain religion is bad, so religious, Beliefs are a 520 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:48,500 huge huge worldwide topic. And I mean, very obviously, like 521 00:32:48,500 --> 00:32:52,400 the reason for so many of our wars in the world in, and in 522 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:57,300 history and the reason for so much conflict in the world. 523 00:32:57,300 --> 00:33:02,500 And so religion is a huge belief and it's not that any religion 524 00:33:02,500 --> 00:33:04,500 is necessarily right or wrong again. 525 00:33:04,500 --> 00:33:08,300 Like I said, these aren't any of my personal beliefs. 526 00:33:08,300 --> 00:33:12,900 These are just examples that I'm using But when we look at that 527 00:33:12,900 --> 00:33:15,800 topic of religion, we can see that there are people that are 528 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:19,500 so passionate, and they so passionately believe about the 529 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:24,700 really believe their religion that they are like, putting 530 00:33:24,700 --> 00:33:28,900 their values and their life beliefs in that, it can when we 531 00:33:28,900 --> 00:33:32,200 get to extreme circumstances result in things like violence 532 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:35,600 and fighting and disagreements, and things like that. 533 00:33:35,700 --> 00:33:39,100 So religion is another really big example of a belief that can 534 00:33:39,100 --> 00:33:42,600 be passed down to us all also things like, you know, I kind of 535 00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:46,000 mentioned it before like this food is like good or bad or all 536 00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,800 that kind of stuff. So, so many different examples 537 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,700 and again, these are just like some quick ones that I threw 538 00:33:52,700 --> 00:33:55,000 together this morning when I was planning out this podcast 539 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,700 episode, what I really want you to do. 540 00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:01,900 I've got three different action steps for you. 541 00:34:01,900 --> 00:34:05,500 That is going to help you to start to move through these and 542 00:34:05,500 --> 00:34:09,699 to start to really get clear on like, what do I actually believe 543 00:34:09,699 --> 00:34:12,400 in starting to feel like Creating more of an identity for 544 00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:15,699 yourself and for you and who you are as a person. 545 00:34:16,199 --> 00:34:20,400 So, we've got first of all, and I know I say this all the time, 546 00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:24,500 but we have to create awareness. You cannot change something if 547 00:34:24,500 --> 00:34:26,800 you're not aware that you're doing it or that you're thinking 548 00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:31,800 it, so creating awareness around beliefs that you have. 549 00:34:32,699 --> 00:34:37,000 So, just getting clear on like, oh I think I should be doing 550 00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:40,300 this with my life or I should have this thing be at this point 551 00:34:40,300 --> 00:34:42,199 in my life. Life, I should look this certain 552 00:34:42,199 --> 00:34:45,300 way. It's bad to do this, it's bad to 553 00:34:45,300 --> 00:34:47,100 do that. Like, all of that kind of stuff. 554 00:34:47,100 --> 00:34:50,300 Just start to create awareness start to get a little bit 555 00:34:50,300 --> 00:34:53,600 curious. Where does this actually come 556 00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,600 from? So the second point so first 557 00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,800 step is when a second point is that questioning and calling 558 00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:03,300 out. So, questioning getting curious, 559 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:05,300 where does this belief come from? 560 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:08,100 Where did I originally first hear this? 561 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,400 Or why is this something that I am? 562 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:14,200 Important thing at the moment. Where does this come from? 563 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,000 Is this? Mine is it, my friends? 564 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,100 Is it a family members? Where have I got this belief 565 00:35:19,100 --> 00:35:21,100 from? Is this something that I want to 566 00:35:21,107 --> 00:35:24,800 continue to buy into and if it is amazing run with it, if it's 567 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,900 something that feels empowering or good for you, love that. 568 00:35:27,900 --> 00:35:31,500 Go for it. But really what we're doing is 569 00:35:31,500 --> 00:35:34,800 after the awareness, step questioning getting curious and 570 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,700 calling out beliefs that you have recognizing that there 571 00:35:37,700 --> 00:35:40,200 probably is. Well, they're definitely is 572 00:35:40,700 --> 00:35:43,200 Going to be some that feel a little uncomfortable or that you 573 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:45,900 realize hang on a second. This isn't actually something 574 00:35:45,900 --> 00:35:50,000 that I believe this is one, that's been passed down to me 575 00:35:50,300 --> 00:35:53,900 and then our third step is creating change. 576 00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:58,300 Now, of course, this is like a little easier said than done, 577 00:35:58,300 --> 00:36:02,200 but what we want to do as a Next Step from that questioning and 578 00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:05,400 calling them out. When you realize, hang on a sec. 579 00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:07,800 This has been passed down to me. This isn't actually. 580 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,600 Something I do believe in or want to believe in anymore. 581 00:36:10,700 --> 00:36:14,500 Or by creating that change what we can do. 582 00:36:14,500 --> 00:36:17,500 In the most powerful question we can ask is okay, well, if this 583 00:36:17,500 --> 00:36:22,900 isn't something that I want to believe anymore, What do I 584 00:36:22,900 --> 00:36:26,100 believe? Or what could I believe here? 585 00:36:26,100 --> 00:36:29,000 What would changing this belief look like to me? 586 00:36:30,500 --> 00:36:33,600 So really big sweeping statements really big 587 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:37,000 generalizations can be beliefs as well. 588 00:36:37,700 --> 00:36:41,700 Things like on my partner never helps me around the house or you 589 00:36:41,700 --> 00:36:45,100 know, my partner should do more around the house, or my kids 590 00:36:45,100 --> 00:36:49,100 should be acting a certain way or my boss should be doing this 591 00:36:49,100 --> 00:36:51,300 for me at work like that kind of stuff. 592 00:36:51,300 --> 00:36:54,100 Big generalizing big sweeping statements. 593 00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,900 These can also be examples of beliefs that you hold as well. 594 00:36:58,100 --> 00:37:01,000 So just getting clear on what These are when you're noticing 595 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,500 these big sweeping statements whether it's lifestyle-wise 596 00:37:04,500 --> 00:37:08,000 body, image wise, just big General sweeping statements that 597 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:12,100 you're making and thinking and just getting clear on like where 598 00:37:12,100 --> 00:37:15,300 is it actually coming from an if this feels empowering or it's 599 00:37:15,300 --> 00:37:18,900 something I want to continue buying into a believing amazing? 600 00:37:19,300 --> 00:37:21,600 What does that look like for me moving forward? 601 00:37:21,700 --> 00:37:24,800 Or if you notice that hang on a second, this has been passed 602 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,000 down to me. I don't actually believe this or 603 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,900 I don't want to believe this anymore. 604 00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,700 That's all. Is such a huge step forwards, 605 00:37:31,700 --> 00:37:34,700 because it means that you are now taking that power back to 606 00:37:34,700 --> 00:37:37,100 you and that you're giving yourself the opportunity to 607 00:37:37,100 --> 00:37:39,900 think about, okay. Well, what would this look like? 608 00:37:39,900 --> 00:37:43,500 For me if I was to change this, you don't necessarily have to 609 00:37:43,500 --> 00:37:46,600 give it up altogether but maybe it's just looks like changing 610 00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,800 perspective. Just a little to start off with 611 00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,400 and what you, then may start to realize is, you know, that could 612 00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,500 put a bit of a Snowball Effect into place that you may look 613 00:37:55,500 --> 00:37:59,100 back in another 6 months. 12 months to years and realize. 614 00:37:59,100 --> 00:38:01,700 Wow. Wow, I've really done so much 615 00:38:01,700 --> 00:38:04,600 work on changing my beliefs and feeling empowered with the 616 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,200 beliefs that I do want to buy into. 617 00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:10,000 And that I do want to have into my life in my life, that I've 618 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:13,100 actually let go of a few of those other beliefs, that felt 619 00:38:13,100 --> 00:38:16,600 really limiting that were holding me back that I realized 620 00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:20,300 what passed down to me from other people and I've been able 621 00:38:20,300 --> 00:38:22,100 to let them go and now look at where I am. 622 00:38:22,100 --> 00:38:24,200 Look at this change. Maybe that I've been able to 623 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,400 make in my life, which is really cool because at the end of the 624 00:38:27,408 --> 00:38:29,700 day, you do have the power to do. 625 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:33,800 That this all really revolves around creating that awareness 626 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,600 as that first step of, like, hang on a second. 627 00:38:36,700 --> 00:38:39,300 Where is this coming from? Where does this thought come 628 00:38:39,300 --> 00:38:40,300 from? An, is it mine? 629 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,400 So guys, like I said, I knew this was going to be a big 630 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,100 podcast episode because it's such a big topic. 631 00:38:48,100 --> 00:38:51,400 And I hope that I have done it justice and being able to 632 00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,700 explain it in a way that feels like it makes sense. 633 00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,100 I hope it wasn't jumping around too much for you. 634 00:38:58,500 --> 00:39:00,400 Now, of course, a tab. Absolutely goes. 635 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,000 Without saying, if you have any questions, if there's anything 636 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,800 that you're kind of left thinking, like man, I'm curious 637 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:09,100 about this or I want to know more about coaching or I'm 638 00:39:09,100 --> 00:39:11,200 really not sure about this topic in general. 639 00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,600 And I would like to know more. 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So, anything that you want to 648 00:39:37,300 --> 00:39:39,700 know, especially with these really big topics because, I 649 00:39:39,707 --> 00:39:42,200 know, it can feel a little overwhelming when you're first 650 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:45,100 learning about these, especially when they're really big topics, 651 00:39:45,100 --> 00:39:47,900 like this. Please don't ever hesitate, come 652 00:39:47,900 --> 00:39:50,500 and shoot me a message, come and reach out come and say hi. 653 00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:53,900 And I will talk to you guys in our next episode. 654 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,500 Bye. 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