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Let's do it. Hello and welcome to episode 111
of the nourishing, Amy podcast. And today, I am going to be
talking to you about comparative suffering and it may not be a
concept that you have heard of before.
So we're going to Deep dive into exactly what it is and how you
might notice it coming up for you.
As the name suggests, it is a type of comparison and so we're
going to be talking about how you notice it coming up for you
and also how you can validate Your current experiences and how
you're feeling so that you can hopefully be moving through big
feelings or hard feelings. A lot quicker as well.
And be giving yourself things like empathy and compassion and
just giving yourself the feelings and that warm fuzzy hug
that you feel like you need some times that we don't allow
ourselves but before that I would like to give you some
recommendations as always with every episode.
Now my recommendation. Station is actually a little bit
of a side note, from my recommendations from last
episode. I think from memory, I was
talking about the daily always on Instagram and also the
podcast called the squiz. And I was talking about how
they're really great for learning bite-sized chunks of
the new cycle without feeling too overwhelmed by everything.
Now I forgot that the daily actually has podcasts as well
and podcast episodes. So I have Been consuming them
over the last week, if you're listening to this episode in
real time, when it's getting released, we have in Australia
anyway for the Australian listeners, a an election coming
up very soon. And I have to be honest, I
previously have kind of just stuck my head in the sand with
things like politics and the election and not really been to
onboard with it. But I feel like as I'm getting
older I'm like, okay, this is something that I really should
have my head around a little bit more.
And just be a little bit more aware and educated on.
But again that also feels for me like a topic.
That's like, very overwhelming and very big and I'm like, oh my
gosh, where do I even start? So where I started was the daily
podcast episodes and so they've actually had quite a few
recently but the ones that I've really been enjoying is the ones
that start with the wording, no silly questions.
So the true that I started with is no silly questions.
Where do the party stand on corruption in politics?
And also this one, I loved no silly questions.
What's the difference between the two major parties?
And I know for some people that's super obvious and it's
like, well, duh, how, like, who doesn't know that but me, I
didn't know that. So if you are at all interested
in learning more about, I mean, the new cycle in general, like I
was talking about last week, but more specifically around.
The politics and what's actually kind of going on at the moment
and learning a little bit more about the election.
But without it being biased, I think that's the thing that kind
of turns me off a little bit when I'm trying to learn about
politics. Or when I have tried to learn
about politics in the past, is that the people that I am trying
to discuss it with our a lot more educated than me, but also
a little one-sided, which is great for them.
Like, I'm happy for them to have their opinions and perspectives
and I love that for them that they feel Educated enough to do
that, but also I'm kind of like, but what's the other side?
Like, I don't really understand what's kind of going on here.
So it's been really great to learn little bite-sized chunks
of information that feel easily, digestible, not overwhelming and
informative without being biased as well.
So, there's also a few episodes on things like why you should
care about the independence and the minor parties.
There's also there was an episode.
I was listening to yesterday on some controversial.
Use that have been happening with one of the candidates and
all of that kind of stuff. So it's just really interesting
and I don't know, I just feel like I'm getting these little
aha moments as I know as I'm listening to these episodes like
ah and they probably only go for about 10 minutes each.
So they've been really great. I've just kind of been popping
them on. When I've been doing my skin
care of a morning just to like, refresh and be like, okay cool.
Like I feel like I've learnt something for the day and I get
ready to jump into my morning routine so that is my
recommendation for you. This This week, the daily Oz is
what you can search for in a podcast in apple.
Podcast is where I listen to it, but I'm sure they're on, you
know, everywhere, like, Spotify and things like that, too.
Now there is another podcast called just the daily, but that
is run by the New York Times. So obviously the topics that
they cover will be different to the ones I'm just talking about
and also no silly. Questions is a podcast in
itself. Also run by the Leo's.
So that's also somewhere else that you can go.
If you feel like maybe you've consumed all of the daily Oz
podcast episodes, or maybe there might be some different topics
that you like over on the no silly questions podcast as well.
So things like where do the major parties stand on women in
politics? What's the real difference
between the house of reps and the Senate stuff like that?
Anyway that's enough talking about politics for me because
like I said, I don't really know anything about it.
And also this isn't about politics or news podcast so
that's not what you're here for. But what I do want to talk to
you about today is comparative suffering and what that is.
So I think I'm just going to give you a example because
that's going to be the best way that you can understand.
Oh yeah. Like of course I do know what
that is. I just didn't know that's what
it was called. So it is.
Let's say for example, All I have said, oh my gosh, Ollie's
sleep over his like you know, that first six to eight months
of his life, was so terrible and it was really, really hard for
Aaron. And I like he had colic and he
was waking every 45 minutes and we were so sleep-deprived.
Our relationship really suffered from that as well because we
were both, we were all three of us.
So sleep deprived, so tired, trying to navigate.
Navigate a brand new baby in the world with colic and tummy
troubles. But you know, there's so many
other people that have it so much harder with their babies
or, you know, that are going through things that are so much
harder than that. So really like it was hard but
we got through it and it wasn't that bad.
So you can see that it's the first part of the kind of
thought process or conversation is like, whoa, like I'm going
through this or I have been through this and It's been hard
but then also the contradiction between then at the end of that
sentence saying something like, but it's not that bad or like
somebody else has it worse. It's like for example I had a
cold the other week and it was bad, all he's been bringing home
all of his daycare bugs and I was so sick and I even found
myself doing it. I was like, oh my gosh, like yes
I am sick. Yes, I'm pregnant blah, blah,
blah. But you know, there's people out
there that have covid that are really sick and you can see
again with that exactly why it's called comparative suffering.
Is that it's comparing to potentially what other people
are going through and like not disowning but putting down your
own suffering, not owning it not validating it which then means
that you're kind of The words gone for my brain but I'll come
back to it in a minute, your kind of disassociating from
that, which means that if you can't fully validate how you're
feeling, how are you supposed to be able to move through that
quickly as well? And again, like I said, at the
very start big giving yourself that compassion in that empathy
that maybe you need, when you know a lot of the time we look
for our search for Compassion or empathy or understanding outside
of ourselves as well. We might go and have a
conversation with About a topic about something that we're
really struggling with and while conversations and connection is
really important in our lives. If we can also be giving
ourselves that connection and that empathy and that compassion
for ourselves it's like it's just amplifying that and really
intensifying that for us in validating how we're feeling and
knowing that it's actually okay. So really it's that idea that
just because someone else is going through something it
Doesn't mean that your emotions or your feelings or your
experiences aren't valid, so this could be for, absolutely
anything at all that you might be going through whether it's
something quite big, like a relationship breakup, or you
might be changing jobs or moving house.
Maybe there's some type of change in your life at the
moment that you're going through, that feels quite big.
Maybe there's a bit of an identity shift starting to
happen, there for you as well, but then we can also Look at
things like, yeah. Maybe you are a bit sick, maybe
you've got a cold, maybe you've had gastro, you know, maybe
things are just feeling a bit hard at work or you've had a
hard day and it's from those smaller instances day-to-day to
those really big life changes or life instances and experiences
that do feel hard. But it's then also realizing
that just because yes There's always going to be somebody that
is going through something and maybe in your perspective, that
something is potentially bigger than what you're going through.
But that doesn't mean that you're not going through
something at the same time. I think something else that's
really important to mention in this to is to remember that.
Nobody else. No one else in the world has the
same lived. Variances.
As you everybody has walked a different path and every single
other person in the world, even if you grow up with people in
the same household under the same roof as you every single
person under that roof has still walked a different path and has
different lived experiences because they have had different
friendship, groups, different School, relationships, different
work relationships, different literally Absolutely everything.
So just because There's other people that you feel like you
can kind of relate to or because there's other people that you
feel like you could compare to and be like oh you know, but
this person has it worse or why doesn't this person care about
this, or why doesn't this person struggle with this thing?
And I do that kind of stuff as well.
You might notice coming up with that comparative suffering, so
it's really interesting when we really start to have a look at
this and when this comes up with my clients, it will Like them.
So, every single session we will go through and I'll say, how is
your last Fortnight being? Because our sessions are every
Fortnight, I'll say, how's your last Fortnight being, how are
you feeling and generally, it's the same as everybody, right?
If I say to you, or how are you doing?
It's like, yeah, pretty good. That's the general, like
response at the start of a session as well, especially if
you've had a busy day and then you're coming into a session,
it's like, oh yeah, I'm pretty good.
But then my question will be what?
Some good things that have been happening for you.
What some Nations or what are you proud of in the last two
weeks since we've spoken. And so they'll have a think.
And it really helps them to get clear on what has been going
well for them or what they are, proud of actions that they've
taken in between our sessions that we've discussed and things
like that. And then also my next question
will be okay. Like I love all of them.
They're fantastic. What hasn't been going so well
for you or is there anything that you feel like you've been
struggling with or any big feelings that have been coming
up that you would like to feel less of?
And this is the Point in our sessions, where a lot of the
time they will be able to reflect.
And remember something that's happened with in their life that
has felt difficult or felt hard for them or where they've
noticed some big feelings coming up for them so they might have
felt frustrated or angry or cranky or sad, or disappointed.
They might have felt overwhelmed or stressed or anxious.
And they'll remember those points in their will start to
explain them to me. And so often they will tell Tell
me what's happened or they'll explain how they've been feeling
and they'll say, but it's not that bad, you know like oh, you
know, my other friend is going through this and that's bad or
like I feel really bad for this other person that I heard about
the other day. So it's really, really common
and you know, like like I said, the start, I do it as well.
We all do it, but I really want you to start to lean into the
idea of being, okay? With the fact that sometimes you
are going to have hard days Sometimes there are going to be
hard feelings or big emotions that come up for you and just
because somebody else might have it worse, doesn't take away from
how you are feeling and you are allowed to have those feelings
and those emotions. And I think there's a few
podcast episodes that I have recorded previously that would
relate to this one that comes to mind is way back at would be
like, maybe episode 5 or 6, I'm not even sure.
But I A look and leave it in the show notes for you would be not
everyday is a good day, but that's okay.
And that podcast episode really goes into the idea of like
embracing hard feelings and hard days, and knowing that you're
not perfect, you're not a robot life is never going to be
perfect. We can't expect that.
And that it's okay for us to move through the Ebbs and flows
of life. And to not put yourself down
another one. That also comes to mind is My
perspective on positive vibes, only and why I think positive
vibes is bullshit. So I will find those two
episodes and leave the links in the show notes for you.
If you would like to go and read listen to them as well.
But what I also wanted to talk about is the limitations of this
thinking pattern that we can have of comparative suffering
because when we can recognize why we don't want to do it, and
what the limitations are, it's going to help us to, then start
to feel To okay well how can I move through these old?
What could I be doing differently to not be doing
comparative suffering as often? So the biggest limitation I
would say really is that you're not fully acknowledging.
How you feel you might be bringing some awareness to it or
some acknowledgement to it because it's like well you're
voicing it you're obviously recognizing hey this is feeling
hard right now. This is a feeling I'm having at
the moment but You're also then disassociating from that or
creating that comparison. That means that you're not fully
acknowledging that and you're distracting yourself from that
feeling. Essentially, now what this can
lead into another limitation is repression.
And what repression is is that kind of thought of, okay?
Yes, I notice I'm feeling frustrated or angry, or cranky,
disappointed, sad, whatever the feeling is that Don't want to
feel like yes, I'm noticing that coming up for me at the moment
but I don't have time to feel like that today.
So I'm just going to push through all like, I've just got
to get this stuff done and then I can think about how I'm
feeling repression is essentially the pushing away of
or the ignoring of any feeling that you don't want to be
feeling, but just kind of pushing it to the side.
So what that means is, it's still there.
It's still bubbling under the surface, but you've done a good
job at like pretending that you're feeling.
Okay. And maybe you actually do a
really great job of convincing yourself that you're okay.
But then what happens is the next time something comes along
whether it's in another five or ten minutes whether it's in
another few hours or a few days or a few weeks the next time,
something else comes along and there's a curve ball or
something, throws you off. And there's another big feeling
that comes up. It's kind of that effective,
like the straw that broke the camel's back where it could be
that maybe you've gotten stuck in traffic and now you're
running late for work. Normally That wouldn't seem like
that big a deal for you. But if you've been doing
repression really well and pushing away some other big
feelings or some other things that are happening for you, that
feel quite big or hard to be working through, and you haven't
given them the time and the energy to actually work through
those feelings. It's like, whoa.
Now, the traffic that you're stuck in is like the absolute
end of the world and you're frustrated, you're upset.
You might find that you're like, crying over something that you
like. This is ridiculous.
Why am I crying about this thing?
Probably. Because As you've been
repressing, something you've been repressing some feelings or
a situation, and it's kind of just bubbling sitting under the
surface and then something else happens and the Waterworks come
out. All the big emotions, the big
feelings, the big reactions happen and it's those moments
where we kind of reflect back and think that was like a
massive over-reaction for something that in hindsight was
probably not that big a deal. But a lot of the time with those
big reactions that we have all those big feelings that we can
have. Is something underlying there as
well. So it's really interesting to be
able to look at where am I repressing, what am I repressing
and what's the flow-on effect of that?
And how is that recalls? How is that causing?
Sorry, some other big emotions or feelings or reaction reactive
behaviors for me as well? So first two would be not fully
acknowledging how you feel. Second limitation is repression,
starting to become a habit for your brain.
Also, the next limitation that we can have is Essentially, it's
like I said invalidating, your pain or your suffering, your
struggles. But what that means is that that
can also lead to a feeling of resentment from you feeling like
you either have no boundaries or like you're pushing your own
boundaries. Like if you are not validating
how you're feeling and taking that into account, what that
also means is there's probably moments where you're saying yes
to things that you don't want to be doing you're saying yes to
He's when you're feeling emotionally, physically,
mentally, overwhelmed, or pushed to your limits.
And when you're saying yes, to these things, it's like deep
down, you know, like, like I'm having a hard day.
I actually don't feel like, I'm up to this thing, but I've said,
yes. So I'm going to do it and that
can lead to resentment, whether it's resentment to a specific
person, or it might be resentment to a situation in
general. But what we really want to get
clear on is What does resentment look like for me?
When do I notice that coming up for me and also, what boundaries
have I been pushing of my own? That has led this feeling of
resentment to actually come up for me, like where is this
feeling of resentment actually coming from?
Now I'm sure that I've actually even done a podcast episode on
resentment as well. I know, I did a workshop.
I ran a workshop on this with my clients.
Bu happiness college but let me just have a very quick.
Yes, I did episode 97, so I'll link that as well for you in the
show notes. That's three episodes that you
can go and listen to. So episode 97 is called therapy,
Thursday resentment. What is it and how to let it go?
There's also episode 99 which is about boundaries.
It's a bit of a short Monday motivation episode as well to
help you get clear on what boundaries look like for you.
So few other episodes that are really relevant to this topic to
help you to get clear on how you're feeling, why you're
feeling like that, and validate how you're feeling instead of
using that comparative suffering and falling into that.
So, some ways that we can start to move through these
comparative suffering, is to recognize be aware of and
acknowledge hard feelings, and situations, or circumstances,
so, yes, somebody else might be going through something.
That is tough or sounds really tough but that does not take
away from how you're feeling or what you're going through at the
moment. Whether it seems like it's a few
things that have happened. That have made your day feel
really hard, or whether it's a big life thing that's going on
for you. Like I said, things like
breakups, whether that's a romantic relationship, whether
it's a friendship breakup, whether you're having a hard
time with somebody in your family or in the workplace,
whether it's a big life change like moving house.
Us moving City changing jobs, those types of things.
Whether it's just not feeling super aligned with yourself, not
feeling like there's that element of passion or Vibrance
to life feeling like you're stuck in a bit of a rut, like
these types of things. All of these things can be
opportunities for you to feel like there's some big feelings
coming up for you there, or that the circle situations or
circumstances. I just tried to smash both of
those. Together the situations or
circumstances that are happening for you, in life, are feeling
hard and I just want you to acknowledge that and just remind
yourself like this feels hard because it is hard, and it does
not mean by any stretch that you need to sit with those hard
feelings for like weeks and months.
At a time, what it actually means is the exact opposite that
you can recognize, Guys how you're feeling and by
recognizing and bringing awareness, it means that we can
bring in that idea of acceptance which is another way that you
can move through this. So our next step would be that
acceptance piece of accepting where I'm at at the moment but
still having a goal towards where I would like to be.
Now this idea of acceptance is going to be really, really
beneficial, this new definition that I want you to remember
which I have spoken about, in a few episodes before.
And every time I share this on, Instagram stories.
You know, I kind of talked about this once every like six months
or so if it's there's something going on for me that I feel is
relevant to this idea of acceptance.
I get so many responses, like oh my gosh, this is life-changing,
this new definition and it's something I've never thought
about changing my perspective of this before.
Generally our idea of acceptance that Society has taught us as
we've been growing up is accepting the situations in
life. Life, and that's acceptance.
It's like, okay, that's happened.
I've just got to deal with it. Some quotes around, that would
be things like Time Heals, all wounds, and that kind of stuff.
Yes, time does Play A Part in helping you to process through
different feelings and emotions. Time doesn't change the
situations, or the circumstances.
No amount of time is going to change that.
There's been some big things that may have happened in your
life, something like, you know, I think what Talk about trauma
or big circumstances, by the time you get to, you know, my
age, which is I think 34? I don't actually even know how
old I am, but I'm pretty sure I'm 34, uh, mom life but by the
time you get to, you know, around the ages of like early to
late 30s, I don't think there's many people that you will find
that haven't been through something that's felt hard for
them in their life. And again just because maybe
somebody else has been through something that has felt like
whoa. That's like massive that's
really hard. It doesn't mean that just
because they're hard seems a lot harder than yours in your
perspective. That does not take away from
anything that you've been through.
And so, when we think about different examples that could
come up here of like, you know, this idea of acceptance, we
could be looking at, I don't know.
Let's say you have been through a really difficult breakup.
Maybe there's been some things that happen towards the end of
the relationship. I mean, generally with every
relationship breakup, there's a reason that it's broken up and a
lot of the time, the relationships don't end ideally,
or don't end well. And sometimes those situations
around that breakup can feel like that's not acceptable that
behavior that was shown either by myself or by the other
person, it's not acceptable. We could also look at things
like if you feel like Like, I don't know, maybe, you feel,
you've been unfairly dismissed at work or something, doesn't
feel Fair. That's really what we're looking
at. When we are thinking about this
idea, this new idea of acceptance, it could be the
passing away of a loved one. If you have been through the
grief cycle and somebody that you're close with, in your life
has passed away and you think back to those memories whether
they're recent or whether they are, you know, Years ago,
thinking about the idea of that person not being here anymore,
in that fact that can feel very difficult.
And at the end of the day, again it's something that feels not
fair, it's something that doesn't feel acceptable and so
that's where it can get really difficult when we look at the
traditional idea or traditional sense of acceptance that it's
like, okay, well this has happened.
I just have to accept it. I just have to get over it and
what? That's doing is focusing on the
actual situation itself. That's not going to get you
anywhere because it's really going to feel like that
push-pull of like okay well logically.
I'm telling myself, I just have to get over it.
I just have to move through it like it's just a fact of life.
I've just got to do it but then emotionally you have that other
side in that push-pull of like. But hang on a second.
It's not okay. Like it's not acceptable, and
I'm not okay with that. I'm not okay with what?
At the end of that relationship or I'm not okay, with being let
go from that workplace or I'm not okay with the way that that
friendship ended or how that friend that was supposed to be
really close to me spoke to me or I'm not okay with that
person. That was very special to me
passing away. Those things are not okay to me.
And so how can I accept that when emotionally, I'm not?
Okay, about that. So you can see that push-pull of
like The Logical brain and the emotional brain starting to Come
into play of like, okay. I understand the concept that I
need to accept this. There's nothing I can do about
it and it's outside of my control, but then also that
other side, that's like, but hang on a second.
I can't accept it because it's not fair, and it's not.
Okay, so this new definition of acceptance being, okay, with
where I'm at. So either like, you know,
whatever feelings are coming up for you being, okay, with where
I'm at. But still having a goal towards
where I would like to be Still having that goal of, okay, I
recognize that right now, when I think about this certain
situation or circumstance, whether that's a big one, like
I've just been mentioning, or whether it's just like, hey, I'm
having a really hard day or this week feels really hard or I'm
feeling very overwhelmed. I look at my calendar and I feel
like holy shit, there's too many things on there and I'm feeling
stressed. Being okay with that feeling
that comes up for you, whatever that big feeling is but also
having a goal towards where you would like to be and what
feeling you would like to be feeling.
So being okay, that maybe grief, maybe, frustration, maybe
disappointment bitterness sadness, all of those things.
Maybe that's a feeling that's coming up for you, maybe it's
overwhelming stress, anxiety, that kind of stuff.
But those feelings, it's normal to feel them.
Is going to be things in life that happened that do bring
about those feelings, and that's okay.
So then what we want to be focusing on is with this idea of
acceptance. It's okay.
For me to feel these feelings, it's normal.
I'm a human being, of course, I feel these feelings, but I still
have a goal towards how I would like, to be feeling around this
situation and we don't need to be reaching for the Stars here
and aiming for like Overjoyed excited elated.
Like you know, all of those big Opposite end of the spectrum,
feelings? What we can be doing is just
thinking about? Well what feels a bit more
realistic for me here when I think about how I want to be
feeling? Maybe it's just balanced or
neutral. Maybe I'd like to feel calm,
maybe I would like to feel like, you know, I'm a bit more
motivated for my days. So it what that does is when you
check in with yourself and you give yourself that new idea of
acceptance, that you're also really giving yourself a
direction to be moving towards as And what that means is on top
of that, the flow-on effect from that is hopefully something
comes to mind them that you can then ask yourself the question.
Okay. Well I know that I want to feel
more calm today or I know that I just would like to feel neutral
about this situation instead of feeling frustrated or anxious or
overwhelmed or stressed or disappointed.
I just want to feel neutral about that.
What would it look like for me to move towards that feeling
today? What is something that I could
do? That would help me to move
towards that feeling of neutral or I just want to feel calm I
just want to feel balanced. What does that look like?
And you can see that that gives us some really actionable
takeaways and things to be doing that is going to be helping you
to feel like you are moving in the right direction instead of
sitting in these hard feelings. So, the only other things that
I've got written down which like this one again, as another
takeaway or something that you could try kind of is off the
back of that, consider what it feels like you actually need so
off. Then we just go through, like,
the tick boxes of the day-to-day, like, especially
during the weeks. It's like, okay, it's Monday.
This is what we've got on on Monday.
Like, you know, the kids have this or I've got this on at work
and this meetings always on Mondays at work or whatever, it
is the mundane and the routine of Life can start to come in
that. We're just ticking the boxes and
getting through the days and that definitely helps us.
But also, I want you to consider.
Okay, well maybe normally on Mondays, I go For a run after
work. And that feels a bit hard today,
I don't feel like I've got emotionally and mentally the
energy to do that, what else would moving my body?
Look, like for me today, what do I need for myself today?
That he's going to help me to move in the direction of how I
want to be feeling? And then the last one that I've
got is just getting back to basics of routines and Habits.
Like, if you are feeling like things are hard, if you are
feeling, like there's the potential that like something
doesn't feel fair or something's feeling Off the general gist of
this whole topic of comparative suffering.
Means that there is going to be or there has been a feeling that
has been hard or difficult for you to be working through or a
situation that has felt hard. And so, a lot of the time, one
of the best things that we can do for ourselves in those
examples is to really just get back to those basics.
Of like, what a my routines and habits that help me.
Feel like a better version of me.
Maybe it's that you're not scrolling your phone in the
mornings and when your alarm goes off, you get up, you get
straight out of bed, you do your skincare routine, you hydrate,
maybe you have a coffee and you just sit for five minutes, maybe
you go and grab your to-do list on your right.
Your to-do list out. Maybe a routine that you have,
is that at lunch time, you actually take a lunch break and
step away from your computer, or your desk, or away from the
workplace. And you actually take a lunch
break, go and get outside, get some fresh air.
Maybe a routine or habit that you have is having a wind down
routine. If an evening again, maybe doing
your skincare. No technology after like 8:00
p.m. and reading your book of a nighttime in bed, stuff like
that. So really getting clear on what
are my Basics? What are the routines or the
habits that I have that I know help me to feel good and what
have I not been doing for myself lately?
What are some of those things that could help to fill my cup
back up? And for me to be feeling like
I'm on the way to being that best version of myself.
And how can I be giving myself that compassion, and that
empathy, and that understanding of, yes, things have felt hard
or like this has happened in life and yesterday was a really
hard day, but today, it's a fresh start.
It's a new day. What am I going to be?
Doing to move through it. So with that comparative
suffering, that idea of understanding that you are going
to have hard days and hard moments and that's okay because
you're human and it's very normal to fulfill that Happen
but to validate how you're feeling.
Instead of pushing aside, how you're feeling and validating,
how somebody else is potentially feeling or how much harder it
might be for somebody else. Let's just take a moment and
just give yourself the compassion and the humanity and
the acceptance that, okay? Yesterday, or last week or you
know, this thing that I'm going through at the moment is hard
and that's okay. But there's also things I can be
doing and putting into place so that I can validate how I'm
feeling and also start to move towards how I want to be
feeling. And there you go.
That's it for comparative suffering.
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