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Welcome to the nourishing. 
Amy podcast. 

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I'm Amy Rankin. 
I am an emotional intelligence 

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and life coach as Speaker, a 
Creator, and a wellness. 

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Chaser, I have created this 
podcast for you to learn how 

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'but mindset changes and get 
really actionable. 

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Takeaways to find out who you 
are, what lights you up, how you

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can love yourself again and how 
to live your best life. 

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Give yourself the space to 
welcome in more self-care and 

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confidence. 
Reduce feelings like overwhelm 

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and stress and let find your 
sparkle again. 

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Are you ready? 
Let's do it. 

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Hello everybody and welcome back
to episode 59 of the nourishing.

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Amy podcast again, thank you so 
much for being here with me. 

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And if you're listening to this 
on the day, that this episode 

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has been recorded. 
Happy Monday, welcome to a new 

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week. 
What a beautiful opportunity for

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you to be able to sit and 
reflect on how your last week 

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was and what you would really 
like to be bringing into the 

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following week, you know what, 
even if you're not listening to 

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this on a Monday, just have a 
little moment. 

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To consider how the last few 
days have been have a little 

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reflection and think about 
what's been going. 

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Well what have I really enjoyed?
What's maybe not been going so 

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well or what did I not 
necessarily like about the last 

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few days or the last week? 
And also what would I like to be

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changing? 
Is there something in your 

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routine that you notice is 
started to slip in a little bit?

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Maybe there's some different 
thinking, patterns, or habits 

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that you're noticing. 
That are starting to come in a 

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few different feelings that 
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So, Really beautiful Reflection 
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I love Monday mornings. 
I know that some people don't 

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like Mondays go and listen to my
podcast episode. 

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I'll find the number for you 
later. 

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Why Monday doesn't suck? 
If you're kind of like it's 

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Monday back to work, go and 
listen to Why Monday doesn't 

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suck. 
It's a really good episode and a

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beautiful way to be able to 
change your thinking around 

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Monday's now. 
I'm super excited because I've 

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got some recommendations for you
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write them down and I am with 
you guys today. 

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I know, like I said, last 
episode, I was so excited about 

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recommendations, like a year ago
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the ball and forgot about them. 
So, I've got some TV shows that 

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I'm recommending for you guys, 
because if you're living in 

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Australia, you're probably 
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getting really cold, and it's 
just the perfect weather to be 

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chilling out at home, and 
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So, I have kind of broken these 
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Because I know that there's some
people People really like those 

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kind of nothing. 
Fun TV shows. 

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Other people like reality shows.
Other people hate that kind of 

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stuff, and they really are into 
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So, I've got the three covered 
for you, and I've got two 

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suggestions for each. 
So, my recommendations for TV 

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shows that are just like the 
chill out, like just really 

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switch off on a Friday night 
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Fun TV shows is the Bold type, 
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absolutely Of it, all of my 
friends. 

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Hear me talk about it all the 
time. 

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I'm so obsessed. 
I'm totally up to date. 

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It is kind of, I would say, 
like, a bit of a modern-day Sex 

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in the City. 
So it follows three. 

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Best friends around New York. 
They work for a magazine and 

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it's like the millennial version
of Sex in the City, I guess you 

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would say. 
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That's my first recommendation. 
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shits Creek, which I think is 
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And originally, I started 
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I watched the first Two episodes
about a year ago and I couldn't 

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get into it but I've been 
listening to this bill podcast 

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which is I guess another 
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If you guys are looking for a 
podcast to listen to this bill 

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is a quick podcast, a daily 
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very much pop culture based. 
So talking a lot about different

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TV shows and celebrities and all
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So if you're into that, this 
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They would raving about schitt's
Creek a few weeks ago and I was 

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like, Maybe I should give it 
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I mean, it's got six seasons so 
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Otherwise, people wouldn't watch
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I started watching it again. 
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Once you start to really get a 
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and their different personality 
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are only like, 20 minutes long. 
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that do just go for that 20 
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perfect. 
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clients and I've got a little 
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And I do just want to like 
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at home and I just want to take 
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don't feel like doing something 
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or do you know what I mean those
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chill out, I really find that 
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great. 
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it, I'm not like having to 
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was going on in the tea in the 
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episode. 
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genres. 
I've To reality TV shows to 

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recommend for you. 
My first one is below deck. 

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Now, it has recently been 
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I saw like the first two 
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So I skipped a few seasons and 
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it's really funny and it's so 
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It's about it follows Crews that
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So for me, I was like, oh my 
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much because We traveled Croatia
last year and, you know, we were

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on that our little boat and it 
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We absolutely loved it. 
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everyone on the boat and it was 
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superyacht let me tell you and 
we would pull up and we would 

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like Doc next to these super 
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through them to get to the dock 
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of these boats like I cannot 
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jaw-droppingly, amazing? 
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being on one of those boats. 
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oh my gosh now we get to see 
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actually happens. 
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follows the different Charter 
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as well. 
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and I have started watching it 
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likes it because it's got that 
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what happens on the boat and all
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works. 
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you're following the different 
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they get on and you know very 
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guess reality TV show but my 
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in Paradise. 
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have never watched Bachelor in 
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few of my friends the other week
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about it and so excited for this
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actually starting up I think 
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after. 
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for it, I know everyone's 
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and I thought, you know what, I 
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just chill out and give myself 
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You know, before Bob gets here, 
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a lot of time for sitting and 
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Bobby's here and there's a lot 
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So they are my reality TV show 
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Now, I do have two documentaries
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These are my absolute favorite 
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I have probably spoke In about 
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probably. 
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before, but seeing as I'm 
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recommendations, these are so 
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deserve a recommendation. 
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guys that are new here as well. 
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speak about these before, if you
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previous episodes. 
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brene Brown and it's called the 
call to courage and it's 

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available on Netflix. 
No, Brown is just one of my 

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favorite people. 
She has some amazing books if 

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you're into self development 
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books, definitely go and give 
her books ago, but the call to 

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courage is such a good 
documentary for really getting 

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down and dirty with calling 
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calling yourself out on your 
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If you're noticing that, there's
something that you're feeling a 

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little bit nervous about or 
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Ooh, or that, you know, you want
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something, but you're feeling a 
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This is the documentary for you 
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She just has such good 
perspectives on things, she's so

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motivating. 
She's so empowering and I guess 

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you know, like the name says she
will help you to change your 

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perspective and feel more 
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So I really recommend that and 
also my last recommendation for 

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you. 
Is my all-time favorite, Tony 

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Robbins, I am not your Guru. 
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know who he is is like the 
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So he's obviously one of my 
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fantastic. 
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neuro-linguistic programming 
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that I am trained and certified 
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of the reason why I really love 
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actually see it in action and to
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utilizing it. 
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that mindset perspective, it's 
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as well. 
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have absolutely changed their 
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lives in the way that they feel 
and really transformed, you 

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know, relationships that they 
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for years beforehand. 
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Robbins is my last 
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Station for you guys today. 
So I know that was quite a few 

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recommendations but I kind of 
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the Bold type or just below deck
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some others. 
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diverse range of people that do 
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So let's jump into the topic 
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guys about today. 
It's so funny. 

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I actually had this written down
about six months ago that I 

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wanted to do a topic on this 
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at a retreat. 
With a beautiful bunch of women.

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And when I was talking about 
this idea and these concept, 

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it's so simple to implement. 
And for a lot of them, it was 

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like their biggest takeaway. 
They were like, oh my gosh, I am

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going to start doing that now. 
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comments in the private Facebook
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Retreat and that group of women 
that they had started using it 

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over the coming weeks after that
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And Then I kind of forgot about 
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topic and I've been doing my own
personal coaching sessions. 

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I've started them back up again 
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before Bob gets here and we were
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well. 
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haven't I ever recorded this 
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So I want to talk to you first 
of all, about the topic that we 

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were touching on with my 
coaching sessions, which is how 

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often do you, apologize for 
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It's so funny. 
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it is, that you say sorry 
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that you're apologizing for 
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That doesn't really need to be 
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So like, oh sorry. 
Like if you get in the way of 

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someone at work or sorry I 
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I haven't done this yet. 

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There is so many times that we 
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So that was one of my biggest 
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my coaching session. 
Is that I was doing a few weeks 

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ago and really catching myself 
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I'm being like, hang on a 
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I don't need to be sorry. 
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sessions with me that a noticing
like, oh my gosh, like I'm 

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catching myself out so often 
saying sorry, like I'm sorry, 

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for being emotional. 
Sorry for crying like, all this 

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So the actual concept that I 

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wanted to talk with you guys 
about that, you can really start

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to implement here is to But 
saying, thank you instead. 

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And the reason that this helps 
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great communication tool and it 
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reduce potential conflict. 
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running late for a meeting, or 
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time, or that you just 
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such Such there's room there for
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that lunch date, that breakfast 
date, that whatever that thing 

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is that you were doing and kind 
of run in and be like, oh my 

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gosh, I'm sorry. 
I'm so late and can you see how 

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that kind of starts the 
conversation off on the back 

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foot because yes, it's 
validating that you were running

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late, but it's also not really 
helping that person with the 

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potential that excuse me, they 
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They might be a little bit 
annoyed like maybe sometimes. 

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Don't care, and that's great. 
But if there's the potential 

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that maybe they do, what you can
do instead is say something 

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along the lines of thanks for 
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So I do that, sometimes if I 
have had a coaching session that

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has run over time and I'll 
message my client and say, hey, 

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just letting you know, I'm 
running about 5 minutes late. 

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I'm just finishing up with this 
client now and they'll write 

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back and say yep, no worries. 
The first thing I will say is 

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soon as I get on to that next 
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much. 
For being so flexible and being 

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so patient. 
And can you see the difference 

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in that? 
Instead of, oh my gosh, I'm so 

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sorry. 
I'm so late to thank you so much

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for being so patient. 
It really changes the 

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perspective of that whole 
conversation and that person is 

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kind of like yeah, like I was 
being patient. 

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Wasn't I or like, yeah, I was 
being a bit flexible, but no 

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worries. 
Like, that's okay. 

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It's really bringing that 
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for that person's time. 
Time is so Valuable, I don't 

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know anybody that would say that
they have a lot of spare time 

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lately. 
We're always kind of feeling 

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like we're multitasking and 
running around and maybe running

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late for things and we've got 
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Happening and different. 
Focus is happening. 

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Very regularly these days. 
And so to actually thank 

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somebody for that. 
Thank you for your time. 

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Thank you for waiting for me. 
Thank you for being patient. 

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Bye-bye. 
Ringing in that gratitude in 

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that appreciation for that 
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whole conversation, the whole 
direction that that could have 

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gone for you. 
So I've got a few different 

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examples for you to use. 
If you are not driving, feel 

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free to write these down. 
If you are driving, just make 

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mental note and maybe you might 
find there's like one or two 

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that really stand out for you 
that you're like yes this is 

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something that I'm going to 
start to implement. 

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This is something I notice comes
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So Another example that I've got
is, let's say you've had to 

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reschedule something. 
It might be again. 

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A meeting at work, it might be a
catch up with a friend, it could

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be anything. 
So you're rescheduling on 

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something instead of I'm so 
sorry I had to reschedule. 

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Let's change that to thank you 
for your adaptability. 

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Thank you for your willingness 
to change. 

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Thank you for your ability to 
change and fit me into your 

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schedule. 
How different does that feel 

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when we're changing these 
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It's so powerful. 
You guys just by changing our 

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language and changing the 
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beautiful and really helps to 
cultivate and create that 

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connection that we're wanting. 
Like I said, instead of starting

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off on the back foot, so let's 
change. 

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Sorry, I had to reschedule to 
thanks for your adaptability. 

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Another one that I've got and 
super common for people that 

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aren't very comfortable with 
their feelings is, sorry. 

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I'm crying or sorry for crying. 
You know, like, I'm sure you've 

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done it at one point or you can 
think of a friend that does it. 

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If they get upset, they say, oh 
sorry, I don't know why I'm 

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crying you guys. 
We don't have to apologize for 

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our emotions. 
I mean I can put my hand up and 

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say I do it sometimes too. 
But We don't need to apologize 

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for our emotions if you're 
crying or if you feel like you 

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want to cry, there is a good 
reason for that. 

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And why would you suppress that?
Why would you not let that out 

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and give yourself the beautiful 
opportunity to do that? 

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Anyway, that's a little tangent.
So, instead of I'm sorry for 

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crying, sorry for getting 
emotional, sorry, for getting 

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worked up. 
Let's change that. 

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Thank you so much for holding 
space for me. 

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Thank you for being there for 
me. 

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How beautiful is that again? 
We're creating such a beautiful 

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connection. 
And what do you think about it? 

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If your best friend was sitting 
in front of you, and they 

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started crying about something. 
And then they said, oh, I'm so 

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sorry. 
Sorry, for getting my storm. 

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Sorry for crying. 
Would you not also? 

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Then be thinking, oh my God, why
are you apologizing? 

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Like, let it out. 
Go for it. 

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Like, if you need to cry, please
feel comfortable enough to cry 

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in front of me. 
So bring that, that love that 

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appreciation, that generosity to
yourself and recognize that you 

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don't need to apologize, but 
crying or showing emotion and 

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being vulnerable is a beautiful 
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But if you do ever feel the urge
to apologize, Thank that person 

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for holding space for you. 
Thank that person for being 

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there for you. 
Some other examples. 

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I've got I guess this one's kind
of on the same same line as that

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one. 
I'm sorry. 

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I've been so needy lately. 
So you might notice that there 

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might have been some opportunity
that you have had to ask for 

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help. 
There's been some stuff going on

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and you've needed some things 
from some different people or 

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from the same people. 
And they've really been helping 

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you out instead of, I'm sorry 
for being so needy lately, let's

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change that. 
Thank you for being there for 

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me. 
So, Again, similar to the last 

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one. 
Thank you for holding space. 

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Thank you for being there for 
me. 

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Thank you for helping me. 
Again look at it. 

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Like if this was your best 
friend and your best friend came

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to you almost like hey I'm 
really struggling this week. 

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I need a hand with this. 
Would you mind or I really need 

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help with this and I don't know 
who else to go to, is it okay, 

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if I get your help What would 
your response be to your best 

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friend? 
So please stop beating yourself 

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up and feeling like you need to 
apologize for asking for help or

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being needy. 
Another one really similar to 

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this, I'm sorry to ask you for 
another favor. 

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Know, if you're asking that 
person for a favor favor, 

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there's a good chance that they 
have a existing relationship 

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with you. 
Why are you apologizing? 

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If you would do a favor for that
person, stop apologizing for 

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asking them to do a favor for 
You be grateful, except that 

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energy. 
That love that that relationship

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that that person has with you 
and thank them. 

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Thank you for being there for 
me. 

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Thank you for helping me out. 
Another one that I've noticed 

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that comes up a lot in my 
sessions with my clients is 

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something might come up at the 
last minute and you might not be

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able to make a something that 
someone's invited you to. 

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Or even if it's not last minute,
you have a look at your 

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calendar. 
And you can see that someone's 

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invited you out to drinks or a 
dinner or a catch up with the 

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girls or, you know, family 
dinner, whatever it is and you 

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You realize that you can't make 
it instead of saying I'm sorry, 

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I can't make it. 
How about we change that to 

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thanks for inviting me? 
I love that you invited me. 

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And I would normally love to 
come but I have this out. 

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This one. 
You don't even really need to 

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give an excuse. 
I'm very big on not giving 

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excuses for Behavior, but if it 
is something that makes you feel

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a little bit more comfortable. 
Thank you so much for thinking 

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of me. 
I would love to but this is 

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happening. 
So that's probably one of my 

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favorite ones. 
Actually. 

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I love that one. 
Maybe that's because it comes up

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to me a little bit. 
I don't know. 

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Another one that I noticed is 
I'm sorry I made a mistake. 

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If you've done something wrong 
and you feel really bad, you 

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don't need to apologize. 
We all make mistakes. 

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So instead of, I'm sorry I made 
a mistake. 

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Hey, thanks for pointing that 
out. 

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And instead of looking at it as 
a mistake, if someone's pointed 

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something out, can you change 
your perspective and look at it 

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more as constructive. 
Criticism there's a good chance 

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that that person is not pointing
that thing out to be mean or to 

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be rude or to be really 
detrimental and really put you 

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down. 
They're just trying to point 

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something out to you. 
They're just trying to show you 

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maybe so it doesn't happen 
again. 

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Maybe it'll help to make their 
lives a bit easier. 

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Maybe your life a bit easier. 
Maybe someone else's life a 

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little easier. 
If that mistake or that thing 

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doesn't happen again but there's
nothing wrong with that. 

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It's just pointing something 
out. 

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So, hey, thanks for showing that
to me. 

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Thank you for pointing that out.
I'll definitely make more of an 

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effort to change that next time.
I'll try really hard not to do 

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that again. 
And another one because I feel 

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like this is my last one and I 
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guess is the word. 
To be in contact with people 

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really regularly all the time 
and if we're not, we feel bad 

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and it's like I haven't spoken 
to that person in so long or 

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it's been like a week and I 
haven't message but my friend or

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I didn't write back to that 
message, guys. 

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Like I said, we're all 
multitasking, we're all busy and

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I don't want to wear that as a 
badge of honor. 

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But you know, sometimes we need 
to look at re setting up 

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boundaries and what we're saying
yes to and all that kind of 

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stuff, but it's It's going to 
happen. 

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There's going to be times where 
you feel that you've been a 

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little distant or maybe pulled 
away from certain relationships 

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for one reason or the other 
instead of I'm sorry that I've 

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been distant. 
How about thank you for being 

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understanding with me. 
Hey, thanks for being so 

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understanding. 
I know there's been a lot on. 

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I know it's no excuse, but I 
really appreciate you. 

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All of these things are really 
about creating that beautiful 

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area of connection that 
opportunity for connection. 

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The appreciation, the gratitude,
So, I really invite you guys to 

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start to bring in some of these 
changes, send me a message. 

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And let me know if you start to 
bring some of these into your 

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work life, your personal life, 
your home, life, your life with 

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your kids, your friends, your 
family, let me know how it goes,

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let me know how it feels because
that's what I'm really aiming 

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for is to really start to change
the way that we feel about some 

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of these things. 
It's so cool when you can start 

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to really notice the change of 
feelings those Eautiful feelings

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of appreciation and gratitude 
and just that warm fuzziness 

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that you can get. 
So, thank you so much. 

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I hope that this episode has 
been enlightening for you. 

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I hope that you've gotten 
something from it. 

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If you are interested in 
coaching sessions, if you've 

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heard anything in this episode 
today, that has got you a little

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curious, send me a message. 
Get in contact with me, go and 

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It's just be you coaching 

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There's a coaching, info kit 

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that you can download over 
there. 

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It's a me Rank and.com and check

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out. 
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printables. 
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ways you can get in contact? 
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It's really not difficult, but 
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I hope you have a beautiful day.
Happy Monday. 

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Again, if you're listening to 
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episode has been dropped and 
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Day and I hope that you have got

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them something from this 
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