1 00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,200 Welcome to the nourishing. Amy podcast. 2 00:00:03,300 --> 00:00:06,200 I'm Amy Rankin. I am an emotional intelligence 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,000 and life coach as Speaker, a Creator, and a wellness. 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,500 Chaser, I have created this podcast for you to learn how 5 00:00:13,500 --> 00:00:17,300 'but mindset changes and get really actionable. 6 00:00:17,300 --> 00:00:22,200 Takeaways to find out who you are, what lights you up, how you 7 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:26,100 can love yourself again and how to live your best life. 8 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,900 Give yourself the space to welcome in more self-care and 9 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:34,700 Parents reduce feelings like overwhelm and stress and let 10 00:00:34,700 --> 00:00:38,200 find your sparkle again. Are you ready? 11 00:00:38,900 --> 00:00:51,400 Let's do it. Now, you may have seen over on 12 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:56,300 my Instagram stories or read over in the Facebook group but I 13 00:00:56,300 --> 00:01:00,000 am officially back to taking one-on-one clients. 14 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,300 I'm so excited. I am absolutely loving the 15 00:01:03,300 --> 00:01:06,200 connection. I am loving helping women change 16 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:09,600 their lives and feel like the best version of themselves, but 17 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,700 I do need to let you know. I actually only have three 18 00:01:12,700 --> 00:01:18,100 coaching spaces available if you listen along to the podcast. 19 00:01:18,300 --> 00:01:21,800 If you watch my Instagram stories, if you have downloaded 20 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:26,900 my ebook and you feel like you feel that pool, you feel that 21 00:01:26,900 --> 00:01:31,900 kind of that little niggle. That's just sitting there asking 22 00:01:31,900 --> 00:01:33,900 the question. Even if it's in the back of your 23 00:01:33,900 --> 00:01:39,200 mind, that is your sign that you are interested in coaching. 24 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,400 Now, I don't know how long it's going to be until I can open my 25 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,600 books back up after these positions are taken because 26 00:01:46,700 --> 00:01:51,300 literally The waiting list for daycare for Ali is two years 27 00:01:51,300 --> 00:01:53,300 long. Now I'm hoping that it's not 28 00:01:53,300 --> 00:01:57,000 going to be two years until I can be doing some more 29 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:01,800 one-on-one coaching but in saying that I want to give you 30 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,800 the opportunity to get in contact with me now while I 31 00:02:04,808 --> 00:02:06,900 still have a few spaces available. 32 00:02:06,900 --> 00:02:10,699 So like I said, if you feel the pool, if you have that question, 33 00:02:10,699 --> 00:02:14,000 you're in your mind. If you want to know more, send 34 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,100 me a message, send me an email, come and join me over on 35 00:02:17,100 --> 00:02:19,400 Instagram coming. Send me a message over on 36 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:23,900 Facebook I am here to help you and I'm guessing that if you're 37 00:02:23,900 --> 00:02:27,800 listening to this podcast you like what I'm putting down? 38 00:02:29,100 --> 00:02:32,400 So come and getting contact coaching could just be the thing 39 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:36,200 that absolutely changes your life because I know it did mine 40 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:39,900 and I want to help you feel like the best version of yourself. 41 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,900 Hello and welcome to episode 84 of the nourishing. 42 00:02:46,900 --> 00:02:49,700 Amy podcast, welcome back, welcome back. 43 00:02:49,700 --> 00:02:53,600 Now, this episode is actually going to be broken up into two 44 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:57,300 because I realized as I was making a few little notes for 45 00:02:57,300 --> 00:03:00,900 this episode, like, whoa, I actually have so much to say on 46 00:03:00,900 --> 00:03:05,400 this and there's quite a few different things that you can do 47 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,600 different things to implement actions, to take and mindset 48 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,400 changes that you can have that. I'm going to take it. 49 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,900 Back to like the real basics of what I tell every single one of 50 00:03:15,900 --> 00:03:20,500 my clients when they first sign up with me is that you are 51 00:03:20,500 --> 00:03:24,100 really only going to get three main takeaways from any coaching 52 00:03:24,100 --> 00:03:26,700 session that you have any Workshop that you attend? 53 00:03:27,300 --> 00:03:31,300 Any seminar that you go to any self-development stuff that you 54 00:03:31,300 --> 00:03:34,800 do, at the end of the day, those top three things that you hear 55 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,300 are going to be the three things that make the biggest difference 56 00:03:37,300 --> 00:03:40,300 for you. So there's not really much point 57 00:03:40,300 --> 00:03:44,400 in me giving you like Ten different takeaways and things 58 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,700 to go in action because that is just going to feel overwhelming 59 00:03:47,700 --> 00:03:49,100 and you're not going to do any of them. 60 00:03:49,100 --> 00:03:54,300 So I want this to feel simple for you because this is a huge 61 00:03:54,300 --> 00:03:57,900 topic. Now, it's a question that I get 62 00:03:57,900 --> 00:04:02,200 asked pretty regularly especially now that I've had Ali 63 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:06,000 and there's quite a few mums that follow me on Instagram and 64 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:10,800 they really resonate with that idea of like I just feel like I 65 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,900 don't know who I am anymore. Now, please don't get me wrong. 66 00:04:13,900 --> 00:04:17,500 This is not just for the mums, but I've just noticed that the 67 00:04:17,500 --> 00:04:22,300 increase in messages that I get is from mums recently. 68 00:04:23,500 --> 00:04:26,000 But this this question, this topic. 69 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:32,000 This sense of who am I like, what do I like? 70 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:37,700 What do I not like, who am I as a person and that sense of 71 00:04:37,700 --> 00:04:41,300 sometimes like I feel a little bit lost or I feel like my 72 00:04:41,300 --> 00:04:45,300 Sparkle is a little dimmer than what I would like it to be or 73 00:04:45,500 --> 00:04:50,400 what it normally is. It's just such a huge topic and 74 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,100 it's not one that I take lightly. 75 00:04:52,100 --> 00:04:56,000 It's definitely something that every single one of my clients 76 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:00,600 works on with me and it's that sense of finding your identity 77 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:04,600 and figuring out like who you are, what you like, what you 78 00:05:04,608 --> 00:05:09,700 don't like what lights you up, what makes you feel like you? 79 00:05:10,900 --> 00:05:13,800 Now I've done a few kind of similar issue episodes to this, 80 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:17,000 you guys would have heard me talking about episode 2, which 81 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,200 is who are you? And I know I've told you before, 82 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:23,800 that is my most popular podcast episode ever of all time. 83 00:05:24,300 --> 00:05:28,900 So yes that does touch on I guess some of the things that 84 00:05:28,900 --> 00:05:32,400 I'm going to be talking about today but I'm going to go deeper 85 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:35,000 because I think we need it. Like obviously, if it's a 86 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,400 question that keeps coming to me, I think that we need it. 87 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:41,900 And I know that, you know, for me, personally myself, it's 88 00:05:41,900 --> 00:05:44,300 something that I've had to do quite a bit of soul-searching 89 00:05:44,300 --> 00:05:46,700 around in the last six months or so. 90 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:51,400 And it's been a little bit, like it's taken me aback a little 91 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:52,800 bit. And I've been like, wow. 92 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:56,600 Like this is, this is a lot. This feels a little 93 00:05:56,600 --> 00:06:01,200 overwhelming, and I feel a little bit sad that I don't 94 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,700 really know who I am anymore. I don't know what lights me up 95 00:06:04,700 --> 00:06:10,300 and this can kind of come about from really any change that's 96 00:06:10,300 --> 00:06:13,300 happening in life. Whether it is the state of the 97 00:06:13,300 --> 00:06:16,000 world at the moment, whether it is that you're going through 98 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,100 some change in life, Maybe. Moving house, maybe you're 99 00:06:19,100 --> 00:06:21,600 changing relationships, maybe there's some things happening 100 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,100 with friendship groups. Maybe you're questioning some 101 00:06:24,100 --> 00:06:27,800 things in your career. There's just so many things that 102 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:31,300 can change day to day in our lives. 103 00:06:31,500 --> 00:06:36,900 And it's just such a huge, huge topic. 104 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:42,200 So, Before I really dive too deep into it, I know I normally 105 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:44,200 do a recommendation for you guys. 106 00:06:46,700 --> 00:06:49,000 The recommendation that I've got for you. 107 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:51,600 Let me go and actually get the spelling for you. 108 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:57,100 Now, if you live on the Central Coast or in Sydney, we are in 109 00:06:57,100 --> 00:07:02,700 lockdown again. And so, we are back to Jim's 110 00:07:02,700 --> 00:07:07,400 being closed Pilates studios, being closed needing to organize 111 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:13,500 our own workouts. So, I've got to Two different 112 00:07:13,900 --> 00:07:15,800 recommendations. Sorry, I'm losing my train of 113 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,000 thought to recommendations for you this week. 114 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:22,000 Now, one is the amazing pilates pilates studio. 115 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:27,600 That I work with Belle movement, they have an online to week 116 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:31,700 challenge, and they've actually broken it up into two sections. 117 00:07:31,700 --> 00:07:35,900 So let me just grab the different sections for you, so I 118 00:07:35,900 --> 00:07:37,900 can give you a little bit more information about it. 119 00:07:39,100 --> 00:07:42,000 So they've got a two-week hit challenge or a two-week. 120 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:47,300 Total body challenge. So essentially there's an option 121 00:07:47,300 --> 00:07:49,900 that if you're really looking to, like, sweat it out, get 122 00:07:49,900 --> 00:07:54,200 moving really get into like the hard core Pilates, that's there 123 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:56,000 for you. But then you've also got your 124 00:07:56,000 --> 00:08:00,600 mix of like smooth and stretchy, and you know, that that really 125 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:04,600 nice like standard. I guess like, Pilates option, 126 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:06,400 that you would think about in your head there, too. 127 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:08,700 So, they've got the two-week, hit challenge, the two-week, 128 00:08:08,700 --> 00:08:12,300 total body challenge. And basically, it gives you You 129 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:16,100 you've got 14 days and there's ten classes for you to complete 130 00:08:16,100 --> 00:08:19,400 in that 14-day period. So I just thought like I know 131 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:22,100 that's an initiative that they have come up with that Jenna has 132 00:08:22,100 --> 00:08:27,400 come up with to help just kind of help us to feel like we're 133 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:29,700 still on track. And I know she's had a really 134 00:08:29,700 --> 00:08:33,100 great response to it, so she's decided to actually keep it on, 135 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,200 not just during lockdown, that is going to be an option there 136 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:37,600 for you. So you can head over to the 137 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:40,799 Belle movement website, and the options are there for you, but 138 00:08:40,799 --> 00:08:45,600 also another I'm that I have joined up to recently. 139 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:51,000 They've got a 30-day free plan and then the plan continues on 140 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,100 after that if you would like to continue and I'm really enjoying 141 00:08:54,100 --> 00:08:57,000 the workouts because they're a bit different and it's it gives 142 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:59,500 you your workout every day. Like I literally just log onto 143 00:08:59,500 --> 00:09:01,600 my canvas. Like, here's your day to work 144 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,100 out. So it is the formula. 145 00:09:05,500 --> 00:09:09,500 I see I don't know if I'm saying that right the formulaic. 146 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:15,300 Anyway, it's the so formula with an icy at the end, so the 147 00:09:15,300 --> 00:09:20,900 formulaic.com and it's a mix of. So I did a bar workout this 148 00:09:20,900 --> 00:09:23,500 morning, I did a pilates workout yesterday. 149 00:09:23,700 --> 00:09:27,400 There's somebody waitstaff. There's really light dumbbell 150 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:30,600 weighted exercises in there. I'm really enjoying it. 151 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:33,700 I like the program and you guys, if you follow me on Instagram, 152 00:09:33,700 --> 00:09:36,900 would have seen that. I've really been focusing on 153 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,800 moving my body for my Until health. 154 00:09:40,900 --> 00:09:47,200 I do find that these days having Ali and trying to balance that, 155 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:51,100 like, mum life and working and, you know, just like cleaning the 156 00:09:51,108 --> 00:09:53,700 house, cooking the meals, like, all of that kind of stuff. 157 00:09:53,700 --> 00:09:56,100 It just feels so overwhelming, some days. 158 00:09:56,100 --> 00:10:00,000 And I just sometimes feel like I'm going to explode, if I'm 159 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,000 going to be honest. So, I have just found that 160 00:10:04,100 --> 00:10:08,400 moving my body in some way, even if it is like a 20-minute online 161 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:12,800 YouTube video, or Or the online Bell movement classes or the 162 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:19,800 formulaic classes, then it just moves that energy around my body 163 00:10:19,900 --> 00:10:21,900 and helps me to feel really good. 164 00:10:21,900 --> 00:10:23,900 So they're my two recommendations for you this 165 00:10:23,900 --> 00:10:26,100 week. As usual, all of my 166 00:10:26,100 --> 00:10:28,500 recommendations, I leave in the show notes for you. 167 00:10:29,100 --> 00:10:32,000 So if you have heard me talking about any of the other 168 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:34,700 recommendations from any of the other weeks, they're all in the 169 00:10:34,700 --> 00:10:37,600 show notes for you. So just scroll down if you're 170 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:43,500 listening on like Apple Podcasts or go into the Press details and 171 00:10:43,500 --> 00:10:46,900 it will give you the details of what I brief rundown of what I 172 00:10:46,908 --> 00:10:50,400 talked about in the episode but also the recommendations as 173 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:55,000 well. So let me jump into essentially 174 00:10:55,000 --> 00:11:00,100 the question that I get help. I don't know who I am anymore. 175 00:11:01,700 --> 00:11:02,600 I get it. I get it. 176 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:05,800 I get it. So I think the first thing that 177 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,600 I wanted to touch on because it's something that I think we 178 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:16,700 forget we go through life and we forget that life is always 179 00:11:16,900 --> 00:11:20,000 changing. No, two days are the same. 180 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,900 You are not the same person that you were yesterday. 181 00:11:24,300 --> 00:11:27,600 You're not the same person that you were last week last month. 182 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:33,300 Last year, we as a collective. I always changing. 183 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:38,400 And if that is true for you, that is also true for everyone 184 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:43,200 else in your life, every single person whether that is your 185 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:48,400 friends, your family, your partner, your work colleagues, 186 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:52,400 your children, we are ever evolving. 187 00:11:52,900 --> 00:11:57,900 And I think that when we feel like shit, like, I don't know 188 00:11:57,900 --> 00:12:02,800 who I am anymore, like, it's just like, Life has passed me 189 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:07,500 by, and it's like, I blinked and all of a sudden, it's 12 months 190 00:12:07,500 --> 00:12:12,200 down the track and I've just been so caught up in life. 191 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:19,400 I've been so caught up in the busyness that I have Put myself 192 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:23,700 second or third, or fourth, or 100th. 193 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:27,800 And I've been putting all of these things before myself. 194 00:12:28,700 --> 00:12:34,400 And now I feel like I just don't know how to sometimes. 195 00:12:34,500 --> 00:12:38,700 Crawl my way back. It feels like, you know, I don't 196 00:12:38,700 --> 00:12:43,200 know who I am. I don't know what lights me up. 197 00:12:43,300 --> 00:12:45,500 That was a real light bulb moment for me. 198 00:12:45,500 --> 00:12:49,300 I had a coaching session and my coach Declan said to me, well, 199 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,700 okay, what do you do to get back to you? 200 00:12:52,700 --> 00:12:54,600 Like, who are you? What do you like? 201 00:12:55,300 --> 00:13:00,600 And I was so upset because I didn't know. 202 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:06,000 And that is the first time in my whole life that I have felt like 203 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,600 that and it was really jarring because like I said, it's 204 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:12,900 something that I work on. So regularly with my clients and 205 00:13:12,900 --> 00:13:17,900 help to support them with and really nourish and encourage 206 00:13:17,900 --> 00:13:23,300 them to, you know, be the best version of themselves and find 207 00:13:23,300 --> 00:13:25,400 what it is and take these little steps. 208 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:29,700 But I had never felt like I needed to do that myself because 209 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:35,500 I felt I felt empowered, I felt like I had that real strong 210 00:13:35,500 --> 00:13:39,700 sense of who I was and I think that it was really the first 211 00:13:39,700 --> 00:13:44,000 time in my life for me that I didn't have that sense of 212 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:48,600 self-confidence but I couldn't really strongly give an answer 213 00:13:49,100 --> 00:13:54,800 for who I am, what I love the activities that I enjoy and what 214 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:58,400 lights me up. And that was hard and guys, this 215 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:02,200 is only, this is recent, I've only just been working through 216 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,400 this recently. So, you know, I don't want you 217 00:14:04,408 --> 00:14:06,800 to think like, oh yeah, but that was like seven years ago and 218 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,000 you're doing amazingly now and you feel fantastic. 219 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:12,800 No that's not true. And the reason that I talked 220 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:18,000 about this as well, is because I want you to know that, like I 221 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,600 said, life is always changing. We are ever evolving and we are 222 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:25,700 going to have abs and flows. There is always going to be ups 223 00:14:25,700 --> 00:14:27,100 and downs in. Your life. 224 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:30,800 And it's the way that you can move through the downs and the 225 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:34,300 self-awareness that you can create in those lower moments, 226 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:40,500 that really shaped who you are in those ups and those flows and 227 00:14:40,500 --> 00:14:46,500 those higher moments as well. I guess like this is probably 228 00:14:46,500 --> 00:14:48,300 the perfect opportunity to talk to you. 229 00:14:48,300 --> 00:14:53,200 A just, for a brief moment about coaching because this is exactly 230 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:58,900 why I still even as a coach do regular coaching sessions 231 00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:03,600 because I know that this work, it never stops. 232 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:08,700 Yes, there's moments and times and periods in life that I feel 233 00:15:08,700 --> 00:15:10,100 fantastic. I feel really good. 234 00:15:10,100 --> 00:15:11,600 I feel like I'm in that sense of flow. 235 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:15,800 I feel like I have that good sense of who I am and Coaching 236 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:19,800 only benefits me more in those moments because it means that 237 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:22,900 I'm feeling on top of my game, I feel like I'm achieving. 238 00:15:22,900 --> 00:15:26,800 I feel grateful for my life. I can set those big goals and I 239 00:15:26,808 --> 00:15:30,700 can really take those big action steps towards achieving those 240 00:15:30,700 --> 00:15:33,000 goals as well. It's essentially the exact 241 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:36,900 opposite of what everything I was talking about last episode. 242 00:15:36,900 --> 00:15:41,400 So, if you haven't listened to the previous episode, go and 243 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:44,600 have a listen, I talk all about when it's not time for big. 244 00:15:44,700 --> 00:15:48,900 Big goals in your life when when it's time to just kind of sit 245 00:15:48,900 --> 00:15:53,400 back and give yourself that space, that love that empathy 246 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:56,500 that you give other people in your life, because it's not 247 00:15:56,500 --> 00:15:58,500 always going to be time in life to set. 248 00:15:58,500 --> 00:16:02,300 These really big big goals and to be really taking these big 249 00:16:02,300 --> 00:16:03,800 action steps. And that's okay. 250 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:08,700 So go and listen to the previous episode if you haven't already, 251 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:12,800 But you know, when you do feel like the best version of 252 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:16,500 yourself coaching is so fantastic because it helps to 253 00:16:16,500 --> 00:16:19,900 keep you accountable. You're setting those goals, 254 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,600 you're setting these action steps that you want to be taking 255 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:26,900 and they can be big and exciting but gosh they can be so 256 00:16:26,900 --> 00:16:30,100 nerve-racking to because a lot of the time when you're setting 257 00:16:30,100 --> 00:16:33,000 those big action steps, it's pushing you out of your comfort 258 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,400 zone and you need that accountability. 259 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:39,200 That person to answer to. That's like, okay, so how did 260 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:41,800 you go like Did you do those three things that you said you 261 00:16:41,808 --> 00:16:45,100 were going to two weeks ago? Have you taken action on them 262 00:16:45,100 --> 00:16:47,000 yet? And if the answer is yes, 263 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:49,700 amazing. Like, how do you feel, how did 264 00:16:49,700 --> 00:16:52,300 they go? What is your next steps? 265 00:16:52,300 --> 00:16:55,000 Are you still focusing on them? Is there anything else that you 266 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:58,200 want to be achieving? And if the answer is, no. 267 00:16:58,500 --> 00:17:00,100 Okay. Well what's happening here? 268 00:17:00,100 --> 00:17:03,500 Are you getting in your own way? And that's the beauty of a coach 269 00:17:03,500 --> 00:17:06,800 in those real high moments and those like peaks of life that 270 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:08,000 you like. Yes, I'm killing it. 271 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,099 I feel really great. That's the benefit of coaching 272 00:17:11,099 --> 00:17:15,700 there but in the low moments and you know, the moments that it's 273 00:17:15,700 --> 00:17:18,500 not time for the big goals and you do feel like you need to 274 00:17:18,500 --> 00:17:21,900 just kind of chill out a little bit, learn how to relax and what 275 00:17:21,900 --> 00:17:25,099 that looks like for you. That's also when coaching can 276 00:17:25,099 --> 00:17:27,500 help you move through things like limiting beliefs, and 277 00:17:27,500 --> 00:17:30,700 self-doubt and talking down to yourself, right? 278 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:36,600 So coaching honestly I cannot speak any more highly of it 279 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,700 because I know I say it all the time but it Has absolutely 280 00:17:40,700 --> 00:17:43,700 changed my life and I know that it can change your life too. 281 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:46,900 So if you're listening to this and you're kind of like, oh 282 00:17:46,900 --> 00:17:52,200 gosh, I hear Amy talking about this or I see people talking 283 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:55,300 about having a coach or doing self development courses online 284 00:17:55,700 --> 00:17:58,000 and I really feel like I'm interested in it. 285 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:02,000 I'm nervous about it but I'm interested I feel that pull I 286 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,800 really I'm questioning it. I feel like I want to know more. 287 00:18:05,900 --> 00:18:10,300 This is your sign to get in contact with me because I only 288 00:18:10,300 --> 00:18:14,700 have three spaces available. Now, I've had two new clients 289 00:18:14,700 --> 00:18:19,700 sign up in the last few days. And I wish that I could just Say 290 00:18:19,700 --> 00:18:23,700 that my books were fully open but guy's mom's, you will fill 291 00:18:23,700 --> 00:18:25,800 me with this. I can't get all the into Child 292 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:29,300 Care at the moment and the waiting list is two years long, 293 00:18:30,100 --> 00:18:33,600 so he's on that waiting list, trust me, but at the moment I 294 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:37,100 can only do what I can do. I can only have the availability 295 00:18:37,100 --> 00:18:41,000 for when I can get Ali looked after by friends and family at 296 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,700 the moment and as much as yeah, that sucks. 297 00:18:44,100 --> 00:18:49,100 It means that it gives me the opportunity to only work with 298 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:53,600 People that really want this that really feel like coaching 299 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:58,100 it that it's time that coaching is the right opportunity and 300 00:18:58,100 --> 00:19:00,700 choice for you right now. So if you're listening to this 301 00:19:00,700 --> 00:19:02,700 and you're like shit, I don't want to let this opportunity 302 00:19:02,700 --> 00:19:04,900 pass. Send me a message. 303 00:19:04,900 --> 00:19:07,500 Come over to my Instagram, come over to my Facebook. 304 00:19:07,500 --> 00:19:10,900 Come over into the podcast, community group on Facebook 305 00:19:10,900 --> 00:19:14,400 groups, getting contact. See what it's about. 306 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:15,800 I can tell you a little bit more. 307 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:19,600 And let's chat. Anyway, that's all that. 308 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:26,200 I'm going to say about coaching for now at the moment, but let's 309 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:29,700 let's get clear on some different things that you can 310 00:19:29,700 --> 00:19:33,400 start to do. To build up that sense of 311 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:37,100 self-confidence and to really start to feel like, you know who 312 00:19:37,100 --> 00:19:39,500 you are. So, my first question that I 313 00:19:39,508 --> 00:19:44,600 have for you is, do you feel like you are holding on to goals 314 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:48,300 or things that you think that you want that are no longer 315 00:19:48,300 --> 00:19:52,400 relevant? Like I said earlier life is 316 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:57,700 always changing you as a person as a human being you are always 317 00:19:57,700 --> 00:20:03,500 changing and evolving, have you updated your goals and the 318 00:20:03,500 --> 00:20:08,600 things that you want to achieve? When was the last time that you 319 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:13,500 actually sat down and thought about what it is that you want 320 00:20:13,500 --> 00:20:16,400 to achieve and what direction you want to be heading to? 321 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,600 I'll use a really simple analogy here and I think I've probably 322 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,500 mentioned this before on the podcast a million times. 323 00:20:24,500 --> 00:20:30,200 But if you want to go to Queensland. 324 00:20:31,500 --> 00:20:34,500 So you want to drive from Sydney to Queensland and you put in 325 00:20:34,500 --> 00:20:38,400 Queensland into your GPS. Where is that going to take? 326 00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:41,500 You probably right smack. Bang to the middle of 327 00:20:41,500 --> 00:20:44,900 Queensland. Maybe it might take you to let's 328 00:20:44,900 --> 00:20:46,900 say, for example, the Gold Coast. 329 00:20:48,500 --> 00:20:50,300 What if you don't want to go to the Gold Coast? 330 00:20:50,300 --> 00:20:52,300 What if you want to be going to Brisbane? 331 00:20:53,700 --> 00:20:56,400 Well, your GPS doesn't know that you haven't been accurate 332 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,700 enough. You haven't been specific enough 333 00:20:58,900 --> 00:21:03,000 that your GPS is taking you to the Gold Coast and you're still, 334 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,000 I don't know an hour, two hours, maybe away, from where you 335 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,300 actually want to be and where you need to be. 336 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:14,100 The same thing happens with your life. 337 00:21:15,100 --> 00:21:20,100 If you haven't been specific enough about where you want to 338 00:21:20,100 --> 00:21:24,200 be heading, and what you want to be doing, and how you want to be 339 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:28,100 feeling. I'm going to be honest here, 340 00:21:28,100 --> 00:21:32,700 you're just flailing around every day, whether you noticed 341 00:21:32,700 --> 00:21:36,500 it or not, you're just kind of putting one foot in front of the 342 00:21:36,500 --> 00:21:38,200 other. You've got your normal 343 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:41,900 day-to-day everyday habits and that's fine. 344 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:47,600 But there's no intention to your days, there's no intention to 345 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,400 your weeks. There's no sense of 346 00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:56,500 accomplishment achievement or direction and you need those 347 00:21:56,500 --> 00:22:00,200 three things to feel like the best version of you. 348 00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:03,800 They might be some hard-hitting truths. 349 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,600 Here are some things that you listen to in these episodes that 350 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:10,900 you kind of feel like, ah, like that's a bit much or jeez. 351 00:22:10,900 --> 00:22:15,400 This is a bit rough. But guys, this is what coaching 352 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:20,000 is about and I say to all of my clients, yes we are going to 353 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:24,000 create a friendship, most likely through being through our coach 354 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:27,400 and client relationship. Because how can we not write? 355 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:33,100 Like we talked about if that client is willing In to go deep. 356 00:22:33,100 --> 00:22:38,300 We talked about some of your life's deepest darkest, Secrets, 357 00:22:38,300 --> 00:22:44,500 questions, feelings, and how can you not create a beautiful deep 358 00:22:44,900 --> 00:22:51,700 relationship with that person but at the same time, yes, I can 359 00:22:51,700 --> 00:22:55,800 be your friend but I am not. That's not what you are 360 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,900 employing me to do because otherwise you could go and talk 361 00:22:58,900 --> 00:23:01,100 to your hairdresser about this stuff you could go. 362 00:23:01,300 --> 00:23:03,600 Go and talk to your best friend's about this stuff and 363 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,600 they might give you like surface-level advice or they 364 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,300 might tell you what they might do in that situation. 365 00:23:09,500 --> 00:23:13,600 But that's not what my job is. My job is to go deep. 366 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:18,900 My job is to get you out of your shell to push you to those 367 00:23:18,900 --> 00:23:21,700 limits. So that you feel good. 368 00:23:22,900 --> 00:23:27,700 My job is to push you past the moments that you can't. 369 00:23:29,900 --> 00:23:34,300 And that's why sometimes in some episodes whether it's this one 370 00:23:34,300 --> 00:23:37,000 or previous episodes, you might have felt a little bit 371 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:41,500 uncomfortable, answering some of the questions that is a good 372 00:23:41,500 --> 00:23:44,400 sign. That there's an area there for 373 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:49,200 you to work on when you feel uncomfortable and it's like, oh 374 00:23:49,300 --> 00:23:52,300 I don't know how to answer that or I don't want to answer that 375 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:56,200 or that doesn't feel that doesn't give me that warm fuzzy 376 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,200 feeling of like yeah that feels really good. 377 00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:01,400 Like there's a little bit of Business around these answer. 378 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:06,200 All these question here. That is a flag. 379 00:24:07,300 --> 00:24:10,400 That there's an area for you to be working on there and to dive 380 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:14,500 deeper and trust me on the other side of that nervousness and 381 00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:19,300 that uncomfortable feeling is such a beautiful opportunity. 382 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:25,700 Such a beautiful moment for you to have when you realize that 383 00:24:25,700 --> 00:24:29,600 you've been able to work through something, that maybe has been 384 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:33,100 holding you back for a few days, maybe a few weeks, maybe a few 385 00:24:33,100 --> 00:24:41,300 months, maybe a few years. Are you holding yourself back? 386 00:24:42,500 --> 00:24:45,700 Are you holding on to goals or things that you think that you 387 00:24:45,700 --> 00:24:47,800 want that are no longer relevant? 388 00:24:47,900 --> 00:24:51,400 So when was the last time that you checked in with yourself? 389 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,900 So I'm going to talk about goals. 390 00:24:54,900 --> 00:24:59,700 Now, this is going to be the main part of this first section 391 00:24:59,700 --> 00:25:02,700 of this episode. And I'm going to talk about a 392 00:25:02,700 --> 00:25:04,900 few other things in the next episode as well. 393 00:25:04,900 --> 00:25:07,700 So, like I said, I'm going to break this up into two, but 394 00:25:07,700 --> 00:25:11,000 let's just talk about goals today because that is enough in 395 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,400 itself. This is a big section here. 396 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:20,700 So there's two main components. When I look at setting goals, 397 00:25:20,900 --> 00:25:26,000 the first section that I'm looking at here is like My goals 398 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,600 actually whether they're big goals or whether they're small 399 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,600 goals like, these could just be things that you want to be 400 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,700 achieving with your goals every single day. 401 00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:38,400 Like drinking 2 liters of water or moving your body or having a 402 00:25:38,408 --> 00:25:42,000 piece of fruit every day, I don't know, like whenever I talk 403 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:46,400 about goals, I'd give quite General examples because your 404 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,900 answers are so individual to you and I don't want to paint a 405 00:25:49,900 --> 00:25:53,500 picture in your head of what you feel like your goals big or 406 00:25:53,500 --> 00:25:56,900 small should be. Because it's whatever is coming 407 00:25:56,900 --> 00:25:59,100 up for you. That is the perfect girl for 408 00:25:59,100 --> 00:26:00,700 you. Whatever comes to mind for you. 409 00:26:01,700 --> 00:26:06,200 Now, instead of being generalized, like I was kind of 410 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,200 mentioning before, let's get more specific. 411 00:26:09,300 --> 00:26:15,400 So what I actually want you to do, I want you to grab a pen and 412 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,900 paper or grab the note section in your phone. 413 00:26:17,900 --> 00:26:20,400 Or if you don't like writing things down, and maybe you just 414 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:24,900 want to do a voice memo. I want you to break your goals 415 00:26:24,900 --> 00:26:32,400 into topics. so, the topics that I have for you is Fitness, 416 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,400 Health. Nutrition. 417 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:46,900 Work or career self care. Personal life and growth. 418 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:53,200 Social life. And relationship. 419 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,400 Now I'm going to put all of those topics in the show notes 420 00:26:57,700 --> 00:26:59,000 because I know there's quite a few. 421 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,500 So if you feel like oh shit I didn't get a chance to write all 422 00:27:01,500 --> 00:27:04,600 of them down, go and check the show notes, they'll be there for 423 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,300 you. I will run through them really 424 00:27:06,300 --> 00:27:11,600 quickly again for you. So the topics we have is Fitness 425 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:17,300 what a my fitness goals. What would Fitness look like to 426 00:27:17,300 --> 00:27:20,000 me? If I was achieving my goals and 427 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,800 that might be. Moving your body, three times a 428 00:27:23,808 --> 00:27:26,600 week. And when I say moving your body, 429 00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:29,800 that might even just be getting out and going for a walk doing a 430 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:33,900 YouTube video at home, jumping on and signing up to the Bell 431 00:27:33,900 --> 00:27:39,400 movement, classes, like whatever it looks like for you amazing, 432 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,800 no judgment, whatever your fitness goals are here is 433 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:45,500 fantastic. Next topic, health. 434 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:51,800 What does Health look like to me, what specifically do I want 435 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:57,900 to be achieving with my health? Now that can be sleep, maybe 436 00:27:57,900 --> 00:28:00,800 Health encompasses Fitness for you. 437 00:28:04,100 --> 00:28:07,300 What does the healthiest version of you look like? 438 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:10,200 Next topic. Nutrition. 439 00:28:11,100 --> 00:28:15,200 What am I nutrition goals? Is there something that you want 440 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:16,100 to be? Adding in? 441 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,000 Maybe there's something that you want to be taking out. 442 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,600 Maybe you notice there's been some habits that have been 443 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,700 creeping in lately that you would like to change. 444 00:28:24,500 --> 00:28:27,800 What does your nutrition goals look like to you? 445 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,900 Your next topic is work. Or Korea. 446 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,900 What are your career goals? What is the direction you want 447 00:28:36,900 --> 00:28:42,800 to be heading to? Do you notice that again, 448 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,900 there's been some habits that have been creeping in that you 449 00:28:44,900 --> 00:28:49,600 would like to change. Have you been over prioritizing? 450 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,400 Things like overtime or working extra and you're feeling burnt 451 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,300 out, do you notice that maybe you could be pushing yourself a 452 00:28:57,300 --> 00:29:00,300 little bit harder? Is there something specific you 453 00:29:00,308 --> 00:29:02,200 would like to achieve in your career? 454 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,000 Your next topic is self-care. Now in the next episode I'm 455 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,400 going to be talking about the three different types of 456 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,400 self-care and what they look like to you. 457 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:22,700 I'm going to be looking at. The different ways that you can 458 00:29:22,700 --> 00:29:26,800 start to bring that empathy and self-love that I was talking 459 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,600 about last episode. I'm going to be talking about 460 00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,500 the different ways that you can start to bring that into your 461 00:29:32,500 --> 00:29:34,200 life. So that's in the next episode. 462 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:38,100 This episode like I said is more about the goal setting and steps 463 00:29:38,100 --> 00:29:44,300 to achieving that But I guess just thinking about well what 464 00:29:44,300 --> 00:29:46,900 would self-care look like to me at the moment? 465 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:53,700 Now, your next topic is personal life and growth or maybe for you 466 00:29:53,700 --> 00:29:56,400 that feels like or looks like self development. 467 00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:01,500 So with your personal life with your growth, what does growth or 468 00:30:01,500 --> 00:30:05,700 self-development look like for you over the coming weeks and 469 00:30:05,700 --> 00:30:07,500 months? What are your goals there? 470 00:30:09,900 --> 00:30:16,100 Your next topic is social life. What does your friendship group 471 00:30:16,100 --> 00:30:18,700 or Friendship Circle? Look and feel like at the moment 472 00:30:18,700 --> 00:30:22,500 to you, is there anything that you would like to be doing more 473 00:30:22,500 --> 00:30:23,700 of doing? Less of? 474 00:30:23,700 --> 00:30:26,600 Is there certain people that you would like to be spending more 475 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:32,600 time with less time with What are your goals or how 476 00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:37,800 specifically can you evolve your Friendship Circle and your 477 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:43,000 social life to fit you and to fit where you're at right now in 478 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,700 your life? And the last topic that I have 479 00:30:45,700 --> 00:30:50,000 for you is relationship now this doesn't mean that you need to be 480 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,100 in a romantic relationship right now. 481 00:30:53,100 --> 00:30:57,000 It could be that you would like to change the relationship that 482 00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,300 you're in. It could be that there's aspects 483 00:30:59,300 --> 00:31:01,700 of your relationship. You would like to focus on that. 484 00:31:01,700 --> 00:31:05,800 You would like to change that. You would like to really really 485 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:10,800 bring that Focus to and maybe that means that there's 486 00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:13,000 conversation topics that you would like to have with your 487 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,100 partner. Maybe if you don't have a 488 00:31:15,100 --> 00:31:18,700 partner at the moment, it is bringing back to that personal 489 00:31:18,700 --> 00:31:19,900 life and growth and self development. 490 00:31:19,900 --> 00:31:22,900 Like how can you focus on your relationship? 491 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:27,400 Cheap with yourself. If you would like to be in a 492 00:31:27,408 --> 00:31:31,400 relationship and you're not right now, what are you doing to 493 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:33,200 look for that special person in your life? 494 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:36,200 What steps are you taking? Because if you're still staying 495 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,800 home every day and not doing anything to push yourself out of 496 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,900 your comfort zone. How are you going to meet that 497 00:31:42,900 --> 00:31:46,500 special person? Maybe it looks like going and 498 00:31:46,500 --> 00:31:51,700 doing different. I don't know, yoga or pilates, 499 00:31:51,700 --> 00:31:55,300 class somewhere that you haven't before, maybe it looks. 500 00:31:55,500 --> 00:31:58,500 Like going and doing a painting class. 501 00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:00,500 I don't know. There's like you guys. 502 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,700 I'm so out of the game, I don't know, I it's really not 503 00:32:03,700 --> 00:32:05,600 something. I've put a lot of thought or 504 00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:09,100 energy into, maybe it looks like going and grabbing a coffee at 505 00:32:09,100 --> 00:32:12,000 your local cafe, and going and saying, hi, and putting yourself 506 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,000 out there and saying hello to somebody that you have seen 507 00:32:15,100 --> 00:32:18,700 recently that you would like to chat to, you know, so many 508 00:32:18,700 --> 00:32:22,700 different things that your goals could be here. 509 00:32:22,700 --> 00:32:25,300 And like I said, big or small, I do. 510 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:30,200 Don't want these to be like, obviously this this, I feel like 511 00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:33,900 this is stating the obvious, but I'm going to say it anyway, it's 512 00:32:33,900 --> 00:32:36,500 literally impossible for you to focus on every single one of 513 00:32:36,508 --> 00:32:38,700 these aspects of your life at one time. 514 00:32:39,100 --> 00:32:43,100 And it is literally impossible for you to set big goals in all 515 00:32:43,100 --> 00:32:45,900 of those fields or all of those topics at one time. 516 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:50,900 But just think about, like I said, when was the last time 517 00:32:50,900 --> 00:32:54,900 that you checked in with yourself because you could be 518 00:32:55,700 --> 00:32:59,100 Still trying to achieve or take action on goals or things that 519 00:32:59,100 --> 00:33:01,800 you thought you wanted to achieve from a year or two ago 520 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,400 that just don't feel relevant right now. 521 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:11,600 It just doesn't feel good for you. so, it's all about just 522 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:17,400 redefining What do these things actually look and feel like for 523 00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:22,200 me now, how do I want to feel in these areas of life and what are 524 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:28,700 some small things? that I can be doing every day or 525 00:33:28,700 --> 00:33:35,000 once a week, or once a fortnight To really bring a focus to these 526 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:39,000 things because these are the main areas of your life that are 527 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:44,300 going to make a huge difference. Now, with my clients, what we 528 00:33:44,300 --> 00:33:47,300 actually do in your first session which is a strategy 529 00:33:47,300 --> 00:33:51,300 session is you go through all of these areas of life and we do a 530 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:55,000 deep dive in these areas. And then what we actually do is 531 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:59,100 we pick three of those areas that you would like to focus on 532 00:33:59,700 --> 00:34:02,300 and we really deep dive into those three areas. 533 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,400 And I'm not going to go into that in this podcast episode. 534 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,199 But if that feels good for you and you feel like, okay, well, 535 00:34:10,500 --> 00:34:14,800 three of these areas feels good for me to focus on, I can do 536 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:17,600 that, that doesn't feel like biting off more than I can chew. 537 00:34:18,500 --> 00:34:21,699 What would three of those areas be that you would really like to 538 00:34:21,699 --> 00:34:24,699 bring that focus into and really like to be putting your 539 00:34:24,699 --> 00:34:29,900 attention and intention into in the next few days. 540 00:34:29,900 --> 00:34:37,199 Few weeks, few months. Now, redefining or reflecting 541 00:34:37,199 --> 00:34:41,000 and pivoting on your goals is actually a really good thing. 542 00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:46,699 So if you find that you notice that, when you're thinking about 543 00:34:46,699 --> 00:34:51,900 maybe your nutrition or your self development sections, that 544 00:34:52,100 --> 00:34:55,300 you had a goal, and you set that for yourself and that doesn't 545 00:34:55,300 --> 00:34:58,400 feel good for you anymore. That's amazing. 546 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:03,800 That is such a good thing to notice why you might be asking 547 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:08,100 Because that is creating another layer. 548 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,800 Of self-awareness for yourself and you know that there's 549 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,300 something that doesn't feel good for you. 550 00:35:15,500 --> 00:35:19,700 So just as important as it is to pinpoint and create Direction 551 00:35:19,700 --> 00:35:22,900 around where you want to be and the things you want to be doing, 552 00:35:23,100 --> 00:35:25,800 if you know that you've set yourself a goal or you've set 553 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,900 yourself an action step that you want to be. 554 00:35:27,900 --> 00:35:32,000 Let's say, for example, going to the gym, four times a week, and, 555 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,100 you know, that you've tried doing that and that didn't feel 556 00:35:34,100 --> 00:35:36,300 good for you. Well, you can cross that off 557 00:35:36,300 --> 00:35:39,900 your list in that one more thing that you Know about yourself. 558 00:35:40,100 --> 00:35:44,900 Hey, I don't like going to the gym four times a week, when you 559 00:35:44,900 --> 00:35:48,000 know what you don't like. It means that it gives you more 560 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:54,000 Direction. Into pushing that or moving that 561 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,600 into okay, well if that didn't feel good for me, what would 562 00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:00,400 feel good for me? How can I change that? 563 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,700 So that it does feel like something I would like to 564 00:36:02,700 --> 00:36:10,400 achieve Now, the last thing that I'm going to get you to do in 565 00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:14,500 this episode, we've been talking for half an hour so I'm not 566 00:36:14,500 --> 00:36:18,500 going to keep you for too much longer. but the last thing that 567 00:36:18,500 --> 00:36:25,300 I'm going to get you to do, Is to just write a list of 568 00:36:25,300 --> 00:36:31,200 everything that you can think right now just really, really 569 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:33,300 quickly. This doesn't need to be a huge 570 00:36:33,300 --> 00:36:36,500 journaling, exercise. I want you to do bullet points 571 00:36:36,900 --> 00:36:41,400 of every single thing, you can think right now that you have 572 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:46,000 done in the last two weeks. That you enjoy. 573 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:54,000 It could be absolutely anything. It could be waking up and making 574 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,400 your bed. Maybe that's something that 575 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,200 helps you to feel really refreshed. 576 00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:01,100 It could be waking up. Making your bed, putting your 577 00:37:01,100 --> 00:37:03,600 essential oil diffuser on and turning on your favorite 578 00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:06,700 playlist. It could be having a shower, 579 00:37:06,700 --> 00:37:09,000 exfoliating your body, and washing your hair. 580 00:37:10,300 --> 00:37:13,900 It could be putting your favorite candle on having a warm 581 00:37:13,900 --> 00:37:16,500 cup of tea. Reading your favorite book 582 00:37:16,500 --> 00:37:21,300 watching your favorite reality TV show and just switching off, 583 00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,100 maybe it's going for a run. Maybe it's doing a pilates 584 00:37:25,100 --> 00:37:28,600 class, or a boxing class, or doing a really sweaty hit 585 00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:33,100 session at home. Maybe it's sitting down and 586 00:37:33,100 --> 00:37:36,600 listening to a podcast episode and writing out a whole heap of 587 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,600 self-development journaling questions and spending some time 588 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:42,800 on yourself. Maybe it's purchasing a self 589 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,000 development book and really working through that. 590 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,000 There's so many different things that can come up for you and 591 00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:53,900 like I said, I don't want to taint you into giving you ideas 592 00:37:53,900 --> 00:37:56,300 for things that you feel like you should be wanting to 593 00:37:56,300 --> 00:37:58,900 achieve. I just want you to think about, 594 00:38:00,500 --> 00:38:06,100 if I look back at the last two weeks, What are the things that 595 00:38:06,100 --> 00:38:08,000 I've done? That have helped me to feel 596 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:12,500 really good? And even if there's only one or 597 00:38:12,500 --> 00:38:15,700 two things that come to mind, that's okay, that's amazing. 598 00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:20,000 It's one or two things that, you know, you would like to focus 599 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:26,900 on. Now, I feel like I'm going to 600 00:38:26,900 --> 00:38:29,500 leave it there. I feel like that's good for 601 00:38:29,500 --> 00:38:31,100 today. That's enough. 602 00:38:31,700 --> 00:38:35,000 It's actually quite a lot when you think about it to really, 603 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:39,900 even just take in that concept that we are always changing your 604 00:38:39,900 --> 00:38:44,400 relationships, every single relationship in your life as 605 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:48,200 well as your relationship with yourself is ever evolving and 606 00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,500 always changing every single day. 607 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:56,200 That is a big concept. It's a lot to think about you're 608 00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,500 not the same person that you were last month. 609 00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,700 You're not the same person that you were last year and so how 610 00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,300 can you still have the same goals? 611 00:39:06,300 --> 00:39:09,600 And really, you are doing yourself a disservice to not 612 00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:12,000 reflect on these things more regularly. 613 00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:15,800 Whether that means that you sit down once every three or six 614 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:19,200 months, or once a year and just reflect on these things and 615 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:23,200 think about, okay, Where am I actually going here? 616 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,200 What do I actually want to be doing? 617 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,400 And like I said, if this feels like something that is hard for 618 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:33,900 you or that you want or need that accountability. 619 00:39:35,500 --> 00:39:38,900 Maybe it's time for you to reach out and start some coaching 620 00:39:38,900 --> 00:39:42,800 sessions because accountability is what I can offer you. 621 00:39:42,900 --> 00:39:45,700 My friend, I can keep you accountable. 622 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:50,700 That's what I am here for. I am here to help to keep you 623 00:39:50,700 --> 00:39:53,800 accountable. I am here to help you to feel 624 00:39:53,900 --> 00:39:56,900 good because that is what we want. 625 00:39:57,700 --> 00:40:00,500 I want every single one of you that is listening to this 626 00:40:00,500 --> 00:40:05,000 episode to feel good. I want you to feel like the best 627 00:40:05,100 --> 00:40:08,400 Version of you. I want you to have your sparkle 628 00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:13,400 back and like, you guys, that's why that is, like my tagline or 629 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:18,300 like my motto. My goal for every single one of 630 00:40:18,300 --> 00:40:21,400 my clients, every single one of you listening, every single one 631 00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:25,500 of you in the podcast group over on Facebook, I want you to feel 632 00:40:25,500 --> 00:40:30,700 like you have your sparkle back. Because that's how I feel when I 633 00:40:30,700 --> 00:40:33,600 am that best version of me. And I just feel like that's the 634 00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:38,500 best way that I can explain it. I want to feel sparkly I want to 635 00:40:38,500 --> 00:40:41,000 feel happy. I want to feel fun. 636 00:40:42,700 --> 00:40:46,800 And if you want that to, you can start to implement these things. 637 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:50,400 From this podcast episode, you can reach out. 638 00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,600 You can do some coaching sessions to help you to move 639 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,100 towards that, sparkly fun version of you. 640 00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,500 Now, I hope that you've had some fun while you're listening along 641 00:40:59,500 --> 00:41:02,500 to this podcast episode today. I hope it's given you a few 642 00:41:02,500 --> 00:41:06,500 things to think about. Come and reach out if you've got 643 00:41:06,500 --> 00:41:09,400 any questions, if you've got anything that you want to talk 644 00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,100 to me about at all, send me a voice. 645 00:41:11,100 --> 00:41:14,800 Memo send me a message and we will do a bit of a deep dive 646 00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:19,800 next week into your feelings, your intentions what self-care 647 00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:24,200 looks like to you and really starting small and really 648 00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:27,600 bringing in that empathy and starting to bring in that layer 649 00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:31,500 of self-love. So we've spoken a lot about self 650 00:41:31,500 --> 00:41:34,400 confidence and really creating that version of like, where am I 651 00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:36,000 going? Where am I headed? 652 00:41:36,100 --> 00:41:39,100 Which is great but let's bring in that self-love and that 653 00:41:39,100 --> 00:41:43,800 empathy next episode to start to create some more layers of 654 00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:49,200 really getting clear on who you are so that you don't feel like 655 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:52,600 you're in that space of like I don't know who I am anymore, I 656 00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:58,100 don't know what lights me up. Let's really create this to 657 00:41:58,100 --> 00:42:02,200 layered approach here and I will see you next week. 658 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,300 If you liked this episode, I would love for you to screenshot 659 00:42:07,300 --> 00:42:10,900 and tag me on Instagram. You guys have no idea how much 660 00:42:10,900 --> 00:42:14,800 that absolutely makes my day. I get such a big smile on my 661 00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:16,800 face. 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