1 00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,200 Welcome to the nourishing. Amy podcast. 2 00:00:03,300 --> 00:00:06,200 I'm Amy Rankin. I am an emotional intelligence 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,000 and life coach as Speaker, a Creator, and a wellness. 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,500 Chaser, I have created this podcast for you to learn how 5 00:00:13,500 --> 00:00:17,300 'but mindset changes and get really actionable. 6 00:00:17,300 --> 00:00:22,200 Takeaways to find out who you are, what lights you up, how you 7 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:26,100 can love yourself again and how to live your best life. 8 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,900 Give yourself the space to welcome in more self-care and 9 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:34,700 Parents reduce feelings like overwhelm and stress and let 10 00:00:34,700 --> 00:00:38,200 find your sparkle again. Are you ready? 11 00:00:38,900 --> 00:00:52,600 Let's do it. Hello and welcome to episode 117 12 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,900 of the nourishing, Amy podcast. And I do have to say a big, 13 00:00:57,300 --> 00:01:02,300 welcome back because it has been a like, I think five weeks or 14 00:01:02,300 --> 00:01:06,200 six weeks in between podcast episodes and I needed to have a 15 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:11,700 break for a very good reason. We have a new little baby in the 16 00:01:11,700 --> 00:01:14,600 world which is very, very exciting. 17 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:18,200 And it has been an absolute whirlwind. 18 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:22,400 To give you a very very quick and very brief little life 19 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:23,900 update. For those of you that haven't 20 00:01:23,900 --> 00:01:27,000 been following along over on Instagram. 21 00:01:27,300 --> 00:01:32,300 Beautiful Lila opal O'Connor into the world a few weeks ago 22 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:39,000 and it's just been pretty crazy. Since then, I mean, even since 23 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:45,000 before then but unfortunately, Aaron and I contracted 24 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,800 rhinovirus, which is not Coronavirus. 25 00:01:48,300 --> 00:01:53,100 Thank goodness, but something kind of along a similar line. 26 00:01:53,100 --> 00:01:55,300 It's one of the viruses that they are now checking with the 27 00:01:55,300 --> 00:01:59,800 PCR tests, and things like that. So, Aaron actually got it the 28 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:03,200 day after she was born. And then, obviously, because we 29 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,500 sleep in the same bed and are in the same bedroom. 30 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:10,000 I got it, two days later. And so the first two weeks of 31 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:14,000 Lila's, life was pretty rough with regards to being sick and 32 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,900 having a brand brand new born and toddler. 33 00:02:18,700 --> 00:02:22,000 Luckily though, Lila and Ali didn't end up getting it, which 34 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:28,800 I think was just an absolute blessing and Ali is adjusting, I 35 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,700 think actually we're all adjusting but just this age that 36 00:02:32,700 --> 00:02:36,400 Ali is at, you know, he is, I think 21 months now. 37 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:41,000 Actually, I totally losing track of months and days, but he's 21 38 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:42,400 months now. So he's nearly two. 39 00:02:42,500 --> 00:02:45,500 We're definitely nearing the and I don't like to call it terrible 40 00:02:45,500 --> 00:02:48,100 twos because it's just like standard development. 41 00:02:48,300 --> 00:02:50,300 Behavior. But as a lot of people would 42 00:02:50,300 --> 00:02:53,700 know it as terrible twos, lots of Tantrums, lots of very big 43 00:02:53,700 --> 00:02:57,600 feelings, and a lot of really, really interesting and valuable 44 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:01,400 conversation happening over on my Instagram page with so many 45 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,400 people, you can hear laughter in background. 46 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:08,400 She's starting to wake up with lots of people sharing just 47 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:14,900 information and tips and like, just wisdom that I need because 48 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:17,500 Ali is my oldest. I've never been through the 49 00:03:17,500 --> 00:03:20,900 Tantrum. He's before and the big feelings 50 00:03:20,900 --> 00:03:24,600 face and I have to be honest. This is actually I'm not going 51 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:27,500 to call it a bonus episode, but this episode is definitely a 52 00:03:27,508 --> 00:03:33,600 follow on from last episode. Because as much as you know, I 53 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:38,800 speak about overstimulation two episodes ago, and then reactive 54 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,600 behavior and exploding, and things like that. 55 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:46,800 In the most recent podcast episode, I have really, really 56 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:51,100 been experiencing this my Myself and I need to be honest multiple 57 00:03:51,100 --> 00:03:56,300 times a day in the last four or five weeks since Lila has been 58 00:03:56,300 --> 00:03:59,500 here. So I thought, let's do a 59 00:03:59,500 --> 00:04:03,600 follow-up because I want to dive deeper into, okay. 60 00:04:03,700 --> 00:04:08,100 You've exploded like it's happened and it's very normal, 61 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:11,300 but what can we actually do after that? 62 00:04:11,300 --> 00:04:15,200 Like in the moment when you are exploding straight after 63 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:20,200 immediately after but also, how can we Really work to reduce 64 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,100 this from happening more in the moment. 65 00:04:23,100 --> 00:04:26,600 So I guess, like I said a follow-on episode from the last 66 00:04:26,900 --> 00:04:32,100 episode of follow on topic, but something that I've really been 67 00:04:32,100 --> 00:04:37,500 having to work on myself and it's been very eye-opening, a 68 00:04:37,500 --> 00:04:41,600 little upsetting, I think for Me Myself. 69 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,800 And I've also been noticing a lot of mum guilt coming up in a 70 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:48,100 lot of really deep conversations. 71 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:52,700 That Erin and I have had to be having around ya like my 72 00:04:52,700 --> 00:04:56,100 reactive behavior and why it's getting to this point. 73 00:04:56,100 --> 00:04:58,700 How it's getting to this point? How I'm letting it get to this 74 00:04:58,700 --> 00:05:01,500 point. But also, what I can be 75 00:05:01,500 --> 00:05:06,200 implementing, what I can be doing to help myself to try to 76 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:10,700 not get to that explosion point. So often some things that I can 77 00:05:10,700 --> 00:05:13,600 do to give myself some compassion and some empathy and 78 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,100 some love and just be like hey you're human. 79 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:21,900 This is a lot like Parenthood motherhood and like personal 80 00:05:21,900 --> 00:05:25,300 journey is a lot on any day of the week. 81 00:05:25,300 --> 00:05:27,100 Let alone having a newborn and a toddler. 82 00:05:27,100 --> 00:05:30,300 That's having a tantrum and yet like a newborn that needs 83 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:33,500 feeding and all of those, you know, things all the things. 84 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,600 So yeah, that's what I'm going to be talking about today. 85 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,300 It's probably going to be quick because I do need to start 86 00:05:41,300 --> 00:05:44,400 feeding Lila. And I also need to get up in 87 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,800 about 15 minutes. I get all his breakfast and get 88 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:51,000 him to daycare, so, Hopefully, it's not going to be too long 89 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,300 for you. Now, as always, I do have a 90 00:05:53,308 --> 00:05:57,000 recommendation for you. I have found a new podcast, one 91 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,300 of my beautiful, beautiful best friends recommended a podcast 92 00:06:00,300 --> 00:06:04,400 episode to me, let me read the actual episode details. 93 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:10,300 So I was talking about, he a, like, how I was really 94 00:06:10,500 --> 00:06:14,900 struggling and really trying to work on these reactive 95 00:06:14,900 --> 00:06:16,900 behaviors, and she sent me a pisode 6. 96 00:06:16,900 --> 00:06:22,500 So the podcast is called Mother unrefined it is hosted by 97 00:06:22,700 --> 00:06:24,900 Jessica O'Connor and Nicholas groobie. 98 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:29,600 It's fantastic. I am loving it because it's just 99 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:33,000 real. It's just, you know, to mums, 100 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:37,600 two friends sitting and talking about the real-life side of 101 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,900 motherhood. The bit that really got me was 102 00:06:42,100 --> 00:06:45,600 they were talking about, they were at the shops at woolies and 103 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,500 one of their kids was losing it and then She lost it in the 104 00:06:49,500 --> 00:06:53,300 middle of the shopping center aisle and just was swearing and 105 00:06:53,300 --> 00:06:55,500 yelling. And you know it all just became 106 00:06:55,500 --> 00:07:00,000 a bit much and I think while I was listening to this podcast 107 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:03,300 episode about two hours beforehand, I had also had a 108 00:07:03,300 --> 00:07:05,400 similar moment. I was at home, not at the 109 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:09,300 shopping center but very similar moment had lost it and just 110 00:07:09,300 --> 00:07:13,100 really thought. I'm so glad this is not just me. 111 00:07:13,300 --> 00:07:16,600 But also, what am I doing about this as well? 112 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:20,300 So the actual episode, The Go Into this podcast, was there, 113 00:07:20,300 --> 00:07:23,800 episode number six, which is called navigating toddlerhood, 114 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:27,500 with, Mandy Richardson, and they speak with me, Andy Richardson 115 00:07:27,500 --> 00:07:31,200 all about brain development, setting boundaries biting 116 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:36,000 sharing risky play screen time and also effective play spaces 117 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,900 and I found this episode. So interesting. 118 00:07:38,900 --> 00:07:44,100 So validating with a lot of the behaviors that Ali has been 119 00:07:44,100 --> 00:07:46,900 showing at the moment. Recently things like biting 120 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:51,000 things like Joining me like, how do I set boundaries with this? 121 00:07:51,200 --> 00:07:53,600 How do I have conversations with him? 122 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:58,300 That he understands like this is behavior that can't continue but 123 00:07:58,300 --> 00:08:00,800 also making him and helping him feel safe. 124 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:05,300 Wasn't like I was having a dream and also things like effective 125 00:08:05,300 --> 00:08:08,800 play spaces, really? Really interesting topic that I 126 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:11,800 had never really thought about before and some changes that 127 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:15,700 we've made in his play space in the lounge room that has made a 128 00:08:15,700 --> 00:08:18,100 huge difference, I've noticed in his butt. 129 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:22,800 Savior and his independent play in the last few days since 130 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,600 making those changes. So like I said, mother 131 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:28,600 unrefined, I started with episode 6 because that's the 132 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,400 episode. My friend had sent me that was 133 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:34,500 really interesting and really relevant for me at the time last 134 00:08:34,500 --> 00:08:37,299 week, but I've been gone back and started at the very 135 00:08:37,299 --> 00:08:39,400 beginning and I'm just loving it. 136 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:44,100 So that is my episode recommendation for this week and 137 00:08:44,100 --> 00:08:48,000 let's jump into the actual topic at hand, okay? 138 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:51,100 Okay, I'm back. It is actually a few hours later 139 00:08:51,100 --> 00:08:55,500 since I recorded that intro. Lila woke up, of course. 140 00:08:55,500 --> 00:08:57,600 Ali. Woke up at exactly the same time 141 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:01,800 and I was trying to juggle giving both of them breakfast 142 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:07,000 and it was my very first morning of dropping Ali to daycare on my 143 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,300 own with the both of them and Ali is currently not a good time 144 00:09:11,300 --> 00:09:14,700 in a car park. So I was actually feeling a 145 00:09:14,708 --> 00:09:16,200 little bit anxious and I thought, you know what, I'm 146 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,000 going to come back to recording the podcast. 147 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:21,800 I've gone and done the grocery shopping on the way home from 148 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:25,600 dropping his daycare. So my meal planning is done, and 149 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,300 I'm going to be getting some meal prepping done this 150 00:09:27,300 --> 00:09:31,400 afternoon and I'm currently trying to feed Lila. 151 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:37,000 She is she's got her nights in her days mixed around, I think 152 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,800 at the moment. So she sleeps so much during the 153 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:42,900 day and look it's amazing. I really can't complain like you 154 00:09:42,900 --> 00:09:47,400 know oh poor me my baby sleeps so much but she stays awake 155 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:50,700 until about 2:30. Thirty AM then from about 9:00 156 00:09:50,700 --> 00:09:54,100 10:00 p.m.? She's just wide wide awake and 157 00:09:54,100 --> 00:09:57,000 won't go to sleep and gets very windy if I try and turn the 158 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:00,600 light off on. So I'm trying to play with her 159 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,300 awake Windows this morning. She's actually four weeks old 160 00:10:03,300 --> 00:10:05,600 now. So yeah. 161 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:08,500 We'll see how that goes. She's currently asleep on my 162 00:10:08,500 --> 00:10:16,200 boob so it's just really all been mum life today, but Let's 163 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:21,100 actually talk about the podcast topic that you are all here for. 164 00:10:21,100 --> 00:10:23,400 Finally. Yeah. 165 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:25,800 I feel like today is just the absolute definition of mum life. 166 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:27,700 And that's what we're here for, right for these ones. 167 00:10:27,900 --> 00:10:34,600 So as the name says so, you have exploded now, what? 168 00:10:35,300 --> 00:10:39,200 And for me before, I recorded this one, like before I recorded 169 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:41,500 last episode, I was like, okay. So these are the different. 170 00:10:41,500 --> 00:10:43,600 Like, tips and tools and all the things. 171 00:10:44,100 --> 00:10:45,800 Yes, that's all. Great. 172 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,200 And yes we want to try and keep that in mind. 173 00:10:48,300 --> 00:10:52,200 But I really found for me personally, I'll share a little 174 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:56,100 story on Saturday blue in the car on the way to swimming 175 00:10:56,100 --> 00:11:00,900 lessons. And Ali was just really pushing 176 00:11:00,900 --> 00:11:06,000 every button possible and I was trying so hard to keep my cool 177 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:11,400 and I was I was literally doing everything in my power and my 178 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:14,800 capacity to stay calm. Like I was trying my deep 179 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:16,500 breaths. I had closed my eyes. 180 00:11:16,500 --> 00:11:19,600 I was reminding myself like I was trying to focus on my 181 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:22,700 thoughts and my physiology, which I'm going to talk about 182 00:11:22,700 --> 00:11:24,400 why that's important in just a minute. 183 00:11:24,900 --> 00:11:28,300 But I was trying to focus on like my thoughts and reminding 184 00:11:28,300 --> 00:11:31,100 myself, like you're the adult, you have the ability to stay 185 00:11:31,100 --> 00:11:35,700 calm, you know, all of those different things that we are 186 00:11:35,700 --> 00:11:42,100 supposed to tell ourselves, and then I was also focusing on my 187 00:11:42,100 --> 00:11:43,700 physiology at the same time as well. 188 00:11:43,700 --> 00:11:46,500 So, trying to do some Brett's I was closing, my eyes. 189 00:11:46,500 --> 00:11:48,600 I was trying to just be present and focus on. 190 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,000 Like, okay, I'm sitting in the seat, I can feel my bottom in 191 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,500 the seat, I can feel my legs on the seat. 192 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:55,900 I can feel my hands being together. 193 00:11:55,900 --> 00:12:00,100 Those types of things to focus on being present and calm, and 194 00:12:00,100 --> 00:12:05,200 grounded, and it just wasn't working. 195 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:08,500 And it was like, I was getting more frustrated, then because I 196 00:12:08,508 --> 00:12:13,600 was like, Amy stay calm, like keep your shit together and I 197 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:17,800 just couldn't, and I Probably lasted about 10 minutes which I 198 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:23,000 was pretty proud of I suppose but also I want to touch on Mom 199 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:29,100 guilt in this episode too quickly and look, he just like I 200 00:12:29,108 --> 00:12:31,500 said he just knows how to push all the buttons at the moment 201 00:12:31,500 --> 00:12:33,800 and I think in the car like sometimes he gets a bit 202 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:38,800 frustrated and he was just so win G and whiny and iron. 203 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:42,300 And I spoke about it afterwards then on the way home and I said 204 00:12:42,300 --> 00:12:45,100 I think for me it's just the constant. 205 00:12:45,300 --> 00:12:49,300 Noise and exactly like two episodes ago when I spoke about 206 00:12:49,300 --> 00:12:54,200 overstimulation and that overwhelmed that comes from over 207 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,900 stimulation. That is exactly what I was 208 00:12:56,900 --> 00:13:00,400 experiencing in that moment and I said it was like my brain just 209 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:05,400 snapped and I had turned around and I said be quiet, please be 210 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:10,100 quiet Ali and I felt so bad because instantly I could see in 211 00:13:10,100 --> 00:13:11,900 his face. He was like whoa. 212 00:13:12,900 --> 00:13:15,900 Like I think, yeah, it's just, it's so hard in. 213 00:13:15,900 --> 00:13:20,400 This is where the mom guilt. Aspect comes in, where I feel 214 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:25,500 like I should, and I know that we shouldn't use shoulds, but I 215 00:13:25,500 --> 00:13:29,300 should be able to keep my shit together because I'm the parent. 216 00:13:29,300 --> 00:13:32,700 And also I think there's another layer of like, well, this is 217 00:13:32,700 --> 00:13:35,000 what you do for work. This is what you teach for work, 218 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:37,600 but this is the whole point of this podcast and this is the 219 00:13:37,608 --> 00:13:41,700 whole point of what I do for work is that nobody literally 220 00:13:41,700 --> 00:13:43,800 nobody. The face of this Earth is 221 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:46,000 perfect. Everybody is human. 222 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:47,500 And no one is going to get it, right? 223 00:13:47,500 --> 00:13:49,600 All of the time. And there is going to be things 224 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,600 that trigger you and there is going to be things that set you 225 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:55,200 off. And so today's episode is like, 226 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:59,600 all right, let's have a look at some proactive tools and also 227 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:02,500 some reactive tools. So what I mean by that is 228 00:14:02,500 --> 00:14:06,500 proactive is like, before you get to that 10 out of 10 point 229 00:14:06,600 --> 00:14:09,700 and you might notice that like, okay, I'm starting to get a 230 00:14:09,708 --> 00:14:12,500 little bit triggered here, that's our proactive tools but 231 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:16,200 Are reactive tools is like, all right, I've just I've just lost 232 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,500 my shit. I've just yelled at my child or, 233 00:14:19,500 --> 00:14:22,600 you know, whatever the case, maybe you've just lost it and 234 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:26,300 clicked, then we look at. All right. 235 00:14:26,300 --> 00:14:28,300 What does repair look like here for me? 236 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:30,600 But also for the other people around me if there's other 237 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:34,000 people around me as well. So first of all, what I want to 238 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:37,900 do is focus on those reactive tools, probably because for me, 239 00:14:37,900 --> 00:14:42,500 that's been the more prevalent aspect over the last four weeks. 240 00:14:42,700 --> 00:14:45,900 I think obviously being overly hormonal having a newborn like 241 00:14:45,900 --> 00:14:48,800 going through labor and birth and all the hormonal changes 242 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:54,000 with my milk coming in and stuff like that and then yeah, just 243 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:58,400 struggling. Like trying to navigate another 244 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:02,700 identity shift into other mother of two as a family of four 245 00:15:03,500 --> 00:15:07,000 navigating Ali's big emotions and Tantrums and things like 246 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:08,700 that that we haven't done before. 247 00:15:08,700 --> 00:15:10,500 So I'm feeling a little lost with that. 248 00:15:10,900 --> 00:15:17,600 So the reactive behavior is quite What's the word I'm trying 249 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:20,800 to look for quite common? That's the word quite common for 250 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:22,400 me at the moment. Probably. 251 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:25,400 I would say at least once a day, sometimes more. 252 00:15:26,500 --> 00:15:30,700 So what we want to do, very first of all, when we're looking 253 00:15:30,700 --> 00:15:33,700 at the reactive tools of like, all right, I've just exploded. 254 00:15:33,700 --> 00:15:36,600 Where do I go from here? First of all, we want to 255 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:40,800 acknowledge the explosion or the reactive Behavior internally, 256 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:44,500 So, within yourself first. So, just noticing, okay, I just 257 00:15:44,500 --> 00:15:49,000 lost Shit whatever that looked like maybe yelled at someone. 258 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,700 Maybe you snapped at somebody maybe I don't know. 259 00:15:51,700 --> 00:15:56,500 Like whatever it is think about it time recently or in the past 260 00:15:56,500 --> 00:15:59,600 where you feel like you've just lost it and you've just clicked. 261 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:03,000 We want to acknowledge that first. 262 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:04,500 This is the very very first step. 263 00:16:04,500 --> 00:16:06,800 You can't change something if you're not aware of it. 264 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:10,700 So just recognizing and a lot of the time you will recognize it 265 00:16:10,700 --> 00:16:13,700 and like I was noticing for myself a lot of the time, then 266 00:16:13,700 --> 00:16:16,400 Mom guilt will come up. I'll be like I feel really bad, 267 00:16:16,500 --> 00:16:18,000 you know, like I said, I'm the adult. 268 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:19,500 I should be able to keep my shit together. 269 00:16:19,500 --> 00:16:24,000 More often, I shouldn't be acting like that behaving, like 270 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:27,000 that those types of thoughts. So we're acknowledging. 271 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:28,300 Okay. That just happened. 272 00:16:28,900 --> 00:16:31,800 Next thing is implementing something to help you to calm 273 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:35,000 down or reset. Now, again, this is going to be 274 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,400 individual for everyone and I know I say that in nearly every 275 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:40,800 episode but it's true. What works for someone for one 276 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:44,200 person to calm themselves and bring themselves back to center 277 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,600 a little bit. Act like that base level is 278 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:49,300 going to be totally different for somebody else but some 279 00:16:49,300 --> 00:16:52,000 different ideas could be things like doing some deep breaths. 280 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,500 Like even just okay I'm just going to do five deep breaths 281 00:16:54,500 --> 00:16:58,500 and just resend to myself, maybe you feel like you would like to 282 00:16:58,500 --> 00:17:01,000 have a cry. Maybe it looks like popping on a 283 00:17:01,008 --> 00:17:03,700 three minute meditation. If you've got inside timer or 284 00:17:03,700 --> 00:17:07,099 head space or an app like that on your phone, maybe you pop 285 00:17:07,099 --> 00:17:08,700 your headphones in for a few minutes. 286 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:13,000 Some people, I know just the act of putting their headphones in 287 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:15,500 not even having anything on is Coming for them. 288 00:17:15,900 --> 00:17:18,900 So it could just be an action that helps you to feel calm. 289 00:17:19,099 --> 00:17:21,700 Maybe if you're at home or you're somewhere, you could go 290 00:17:21,700 --> 00:17:25,800 and sit outside in the quiet just for like, two minutes or 291 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:28,099 maybe. And I spoke about this on my 292 00:17:28,500 --> 00:17:30,400 Instagram page. The other day, you could do a 293 00:17:30,400 --> 00:17:33,400 little bit of Rage cleaning. If you're at home, I spoke about 294 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:37,100 rage cleaning the other day because Ali was having a bit of 295 00:17:37,100 --> 00:17:38,800 a morning. There was a lot of big feelings, 296 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:42,100 and emotions and I didn't lose it, but I was very close and I 297 00:17:42,108 --> 00:17:44,000 knew it was getting super close to his nap time. 298 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,900 So we were doing certain things like that and then I popped him 299 00:17:46,900 --> 00:17:50,100 down for his nap and I thought, okay, I need to re-regulate 300 00:17:50,100 --> 00:17:54,100 myself and I just vacuumed and mopped the whole house and I 301 00:17:54,108 --> 00:17:57,600 felt So Satisfied afterwards and I was actually talking about the 302 00:17:57,600 --> 00:18:03,000 reasons why rage cleaning or just cleaning in general, can be 303 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,700 really satisfying and can feel really good for some people if 304 00:18:06,700 --> 00:18:11,200 that's your thing to help you to calm down because a lot of the 305 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:14,000 time when we're feeling overwhelmed or over stimulated 306 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:17,500 or even Anxious. There's a lot of things that are 307 00:18:17,500 --> 00:18:20,800 generally outside of our control and that is leading to the 308 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:22,400 overstimulation or the overwhelm. 309 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,900 And so when we look at then cleaning or rage cleaning at 310 00:18:25,900 --> 00:18:29,500 some people call it, it's like it gives you something to focus 311 00:18:29,500 --> 00:18:33,100 on that is within your control and it's something that you are 312 00:18:33,100 --> 00:18:36,200 looking at. And it also touches on the 313 00:18:36,300 --> 00:18:38,900 aspect of accomplishment and achievement within positive 314 00:18:38,900 --> 00:18:42,400 psychology of like, okay, I'm going to vacuum the floor. 315 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:46,400 I can see that there's you know, And bits of food or whatever it 316 00:18:46,400 --> 00:18:49,200 is on the floor and you're actively working on doing 317 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,500 something about that, you're accomplishing, and you are 318 00:18:51,500 --> 00:18:54,500 achieving. So there's a whole heap of other 319 00:18:54,500 --> 00:18:58,100 reasons, why cleaning can feel really satisfying, and can be 320 00:18:58,100 --> 00:19:00,400 quite calming. Another thing. 321 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:03,000 Another reason is that it can be a flow state. 322 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:06,600 So a flow state is, like, you could notice that you are not 323 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:09,100 doing things like reaching for your phone or wanting to check 324 00:19:09,100 --> 00:19:11,500 your messages, or your notifications or scroll social 325 00:19:11,500 --> 00:19:14,500 media when you're vacuuming or mopping, the floor or cleaning 326 00:19:14,500 --> 00:19:17,900 the Bathroom or whatever. Because when you're in your Flow 327 00:19:17,900 --> 00:19:20,700 State, your brain is just really present with that one activity. 328 00:19:20,700 --> 00:19:24,400 So Flow, State activities can be things for some people like yoga 329 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:28,200 or Pilates, it might be painting for a lot of my clients. 330 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,500 They love gardening and getting outside in nature and doing some 331 00:19:31,500 --> 00:19:34,000 gardening maybe for other people, it might be going for a 332 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:37,900 walk, doing the house cleaning, writing up the meal prepping 333 00:19:37,900 --> 00:19:41,400 list, like whatever it is, the flow activities where your you 334 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,500 realize. Oh ten minutes is just gone past 335 00:19:43,500 --> 00:19:46,300 and I didn't even realize. I don't even feel like I need 336 00:19:46,300 --> 00:19:50,100 time, has passed at all. So something that could be your 337 00:19:50,100 --> 00:19:52,200 Flow State. So we're implementing something 338 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:56,700 to help to calm you down and reset what you are going to do 339 00:19:56,700 --> 00:20:02,000 after that is then ask yourself because you'll be more able to 340 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:05,900 think clearly. So I think I've spoken about 341 00:20:05,900 --> 00:20:08,700 this on the podcast podcast before him, I'm nearly 100% 342 00:20:08,700 --> 00:20:09,800 sure. I have it might have even been 343 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:12,600 in the last episode but to be honest it was so long ago now I 344 00:20:12,608 --> 00:20:15,900 can't really remember. What we want to do is think 345 00:20:15,900 --> 00:20:18,000 about a scale of one to ten one being. 346 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,000 I'm super chill and Carmen just normal 10. 347 00:20:21,100 --> 00:20:25,400 Being I'm feeling a big feeling the absolute most, I could be 348 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,400 feeling it and I'm about to explode. 349 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:32,700 So on a scale of 1 to 10, if you are at a 7 out of 10 or more, 350 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:35,300 you are not going to be able to think logically. 351 00:20:35,300 --> 00:20:39,100 And clearly, it's just not possible if you are a seven and 352 00:20:39,100 --> 00:20:42,700 eight or nine or 10 out of 10 in a really big feeling like rage, 353 00:20:42,700 --> 00:20:45,200 like anger like frustration, like Resentment like 354 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,100 disappointment like feeling anxious. 355 00:20:48,300 --> 00:20:51,500 All of those really big feelings if you're at 9 or a 10 out of 356 00:20:51,500 --> 00:20:54,600 10, you're not going to be able to think logically. 357 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,100 And if I was to say to you in that moment, if you were say, 358 00:20:57,100 --> 00:20:59,800 one of my clients or would come to me for some help and you were 359 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:03,700 a 10/10 and I said to you, well, you know, are you trying to 360 00:21:03,700 --> 00:21:06,100 control things that are outside of your control at the moment? 361 00:21:06,100 --> 00:21:08,300 What can you control things like that? 362 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:10,800 There's no logical thinking that. 363 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:14,200 Like I said, for me, when I was in the car on the weekend, on 364 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,900 the way, Swimming. I was already at past that seven 365 00:21:17,900 --> 00:21:22,200 out of ten point, and so, that's the perfect example of logical 366 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,100 thinking going straight out the window, where? 367 00:21:24,300 --> 00:21:27,800 Okay, I'm doing all of the in inverted commas things, I should 368 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,800 be doing, like, trying to focus on my thoughts, trying to focus 369 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,500 on my physiology and my body language and calm myself down. 370 00:21:34,700 --> 00:21:38,700 But because I was a 7 out of 10 or more realistically, I was 371 00:21:38,700 --> 00:21:40,600 like an 8 or a 9 out of 10 already. 372 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,800 The Logical thinking is going out the window and you, my brain 373 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:47,500 was just like I don't care. This is not working. 374 00:21:47,500 --> 00:21:49,700 I am so over stimulated right now. 375 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:54,900 This is too much, so the reason that we're not going to be able 376 00:21:54,900 --> 00:21:57,000 to I'm sorry. The reason that we want to be 377 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,900 able to bring in something small to help to calm you down and 378 00:22:00,900 --> 00:22:04,300 reset is because when you've been at that explosion point, 379 00:22:04,300 --> 00:22:07,100 you've got to that 10/10 their reactive behaviors come in. 380 00:22:07,100 --> 00:22:09,900 You've yelled at somebody. Something's Happened the 381 00:22:09,900 --> 00:22:15,100 reactive behaviors their Daddy's going to lessen the Feeling but 382 00:22:15,100 --> 00:22:16,600 it's not going to make it go away altogether. 383 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,100 So you might still be at like a 7 out of 10. 384 00:22:19,500 --> 00:22:22,500 So it's lessened and it's gone down a little, but not fully 385 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,000 then by implementing something to help to calm me down, taking 386 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:29,400 a few deep breaths, having a cry, whatever it is, that is 387 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,900 going to help to bring that level down even more. 388 00:22:31,900 --> 00:22:35,500 So, maybe we're at a four, or five out of ten, maybe the 389 00:22:35,500 --> 00:22:38,000 feeling still there a little bit or maybe it's even gone down 390 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:42,200 more, maybe your two or three, then we can bring in The Logical 391 00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,400 brain in the logical thinking to ask yourself. 392 00:22:44,500 --> 00:22:48,600 If what happened there. Why did I just explode? 393 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:53,200 What was happening for me? There and you can get clear on 394 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:57,300 that for two reasons. The first one is for yourself so 395 00:22:57,300 --> 00:23:01,200 that you can create awareness, which reduces future reactive 396 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,800 Behavior. But the second reason is that 397 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,700 you are doing this for other people as well, so that you can 398 00:23:07,700 --> 00:23:10,900 really clearly communicate what was happening for you in that 399 00:23:10,900 --> 00:23:14,200 moment. And also, you can apologize or 400 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:16,700 explain. Breasts, what you feel? 401 00:23:16,700 --> 00:23:19,100 What you need whatever's happening there. 402 00:23:19,100 --> 00:23:22,300 So the question. Why did I just explode? 403 00:23:22,300 --> 00:23:25,500 What was happening for me? We're getting some clarity there 404 00:23:25,500 --> 00:23:29,200 so that you can start to recognize because what all of 405 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,900 these steps are going to do is it's going to mean that it's not 406 00:23:32,900 --> 00:23:35,900 going to stop your reactive behavior, all together forever. 407 00:23:36,100 --> 00:23:39,300 But it does mean that the likelihood of you catching it 408 00:23:39,300 --> 00:23:43,500 out and reducing the amount of times that this happens that 409 00:23:43,500 --> 00:23:47,500 maybe Like for example, I said for me it's at least once a day 410 00:23:47,500 --> 00:23:50,600 at the moment. If not more, I am going to be 411 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:54,800 actively working on this along with you guys because I want to 412 00:23:54,800 --> 00:24:00,900 and I need to and I might notice that hey I might have gone two 413 00:24:00,900 --> 00:24:04,400 days in between having a real reactive Behavior moment and 414 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,000 that's going to be a really big win for me. 415 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:10,300 It doesn't mean it's not going to happen at all, but the aim 416 00:24:10,300 --> 00:24:13,900 here is that it can happen less frequently or that when it does 417 00:24:13,900 --> 00:24:15,700 happen. We can notice it and work 418 00:24:15,700 --> 00:24:18,000 through it a lot quicker. The same with any of our other 419 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:21,700 really big emotions. So like I said, the two reasons 420 00:24:21,700 --> 00:24:24,800 for yourself so that we're again, creating that awareness 421 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,400 reducing it happening. So often the second one for 422 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:34,300 other people is because you can start to really communicate, 423 00:24:34,300 --> 00:24:36,800 whether it's to your partner, to your friends, to your family 424 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,900 members, whatever you can communicate to them, what was 425 00:24:40,900 --> 00:24:42,600 happening for you in that moment. 426 00:24:42,700 --> 00:24:45,400 Maybe you feel like you would like to Apologize. 427 00:24:45,500 --> 00:24:49,300 Maybe you feel like you'd like to express how you are feeling 428 00:24:49,300 --> 00:24:51,800 and talk with them about it. Maybe there's a need that you 429 00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:55,900 notice wasn't being met there for you and then what happens is 430 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,900 you can the next step is acknowledging, your reactive 431 00:24:58,900 --> 00:25:02,700 Behavior externally. So apart from that 432 00:25:02,700 --> 00:25:05,400 communication, what we're also doing is acknowledging the 433 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:09,400 reactive Behavior, not just like oh you know, this is what 434 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,800 happened, what was happening for me there and why? 435 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,400 But it's acknowledging the actual behavior and this 436 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,000 Especially important for children because it helps them 437 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,500 to be able to give them some language and words and 438 00:25:20,500 --> 00:25:25,300 understanding around that. What we want to do is create a 439 00:25:25,300 --> 00:25:28,300 world. For them that they see the whole 440 00:25:28,300 --> 00:25:32,000 spectrum of emotions, the whole spectrum of different behaviors 441 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,700 and reactions, even when they're not ideal. 442 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:38,800 Now, of course, like there's obviously extreme behaviors and 443 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:42,000 reactions that we definitely don't want to be leading into, 444 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,400 but we want to be able to show them that. 445 00:25:44,500 --> 00:25:48,000 That I'm human and this is normal for me to lose it 446 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,900 sometimes. But this is why this is what was 447 00:25:50,900 --> 00:25:53,800 happening for me. And this is what I'm going to be 448 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,500 doing to be able to repair that. And this is what I'm doing to 449 00:25:56,500 --> 00:25:59,000 work on that. And for them to be able to view 450 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,200 that and actually see that playing out is really, really 451 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:05,700 important for them growing up that they can start to use 452 00:26:05,700 --> 00:26:08,400 conflict resolution for themselves individually. 453 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,400 And also with other people in relationships that they have as 454 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:15,500 well during their lifetime. So We are acknowledging, the 455 00:26:15,500 --> 00:26:17,900 reactive Behavior externally to whoever it is. 456 00:26:17,900 --> 00:26:20,900 That was around, so it might be children, maybe it's your 457 00:26:20,900 --> 00:26:24,700 partner, your friends, your family, explain, what happened, 458 00:26:24,900 --> 00:26:28,200 explain, how you are feeling, explain, why you are feeling 459 00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:32,300 that way and then apologize if necessary. 460 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:36,600 So there's a few steps there and hopefully they all make sense to 461 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,700 you. Like I said, these are really 462 00:26:38,700 --> 00:26:41,900 the reactive tools. So this comes back to exactly 463 00:26:41,900 --> 00:26:43,500 what the podcast episode is called. 464 00:26:43,500 --> 00:26:45,800 Okay, this Has happened. I've lost my shit. 465 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,900 Now, what do I do? All of these steps is what you 466 00:26:48,900 --> 00:26:52,600 do. Then once you've done all of 467 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,600 that, we start to move into the proactive side of things. 468 00:26:56,700 --> 00:26:59,200 So once you start to notice things in the moment and 469 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,700 reactively, they will gradually start to become more proactive. 470 00:27:03,100 --> 00:27:06,400 You will start to notice things, more and more, you will start to 471 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:10,900 recognize all I'm like a 5 out of 10 in a big feeling here. 472 00:27:10,900 --> 00:27:12,300 I'm feeling really over stimulated. 473 00:27:12,300 --> 00:27:15,700 I'm feeling really frustrated. I'm Really overwhelmed. 474 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,800 I'm out of 5. What can I do to push? 475 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,700 Pause on this. What could I do for myself? 476 00:27:20,700 --> 00:27:25,100 So I don't get to attend. You can start to notice your 477 00:27:25,100 --> 00:27:27,700 thoughts or your physiology patterns before you get to that 478 00:27:27,700 --> 00:27:29,300 explosion point in that 10 out of 10. 479 00:27:29,300 --> 00:27:32,800 So this is another proactive thing that you can start to do. 480 00:27:33,300 --> 00:27:36,100 And another thing that you can do is give yourself some tools 481 00:27:36,100 --> 00:27:39,000 for when you notice you're getting to a five or a six. 482 00:27:39,300 --> 00:27:44,200 So when we're really starting to amp it up a little more, really 483 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,500 know Noticing. Okay, what works for me in those 484 00:27:46,500 --> 00:27:48,500 moments, is it doing some deep breaths? 485 00:27:48,500 --> 00:27:51,200 Do I do some deep breaths together with the kids or with 486 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:52,900 somebody else that's around me to help me. 487 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:55,700 Am I vocalizing? And just telling somebody how 488 00:27:55,700 --> 00:27:59,000 I'm feeling? Do I put some music on last 489 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,900 week? I had a tick tock video that I 490 00:28:00,908 --> 00:28:03,700 posted that quite a few people liked that. 491 00:28:03,700 --> 00:28:07,000 I was kind of probably at like a six or a seven out of ten. 492 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:11,200 So I was getting up there. I noticed it, I noticed Ali was 493 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,900 feeling a bit. A bit overwhelmed and over 494 00:28:13,900 --> 00:28:14,900 stimulated. As well. 495 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,400 So I put some music on and we had a dance and we shifted our 496 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,900 energy around and within a few minutes, we were both a lot, 497 00:28:20,900 --> 00:28:23,300 calmer a lot more grounded, a lot more scented. 498 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:27,200 And we were able to get on with the rest of our afternoon, maybe 499 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:28,700 for you. It might be having some time in 500 00:28:28,700 --> 00:28:32,300 another room or outside now. I know I've spoken about, Anna, 501 00:28:32,300 --> 00:28:36,100 the anxiety coach before a few episodes ago, she was my podcast 502 00:28:36,100 --> 00:28:39,100 recommendation. But if you're feeling stuck for 503 00:28:39,100 --> 00:28:41,400 different tools that you can give yourself when you're 504 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,300 noticing that, the feelings are feeling quite big. 505 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:48,400 You go and have a look at Anna, the anxiety, coaches Instagram 506 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,200 page. She has so many really quick 507 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:55,200 videos and reels. She's got so many informative 508 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,900 posts and there's so many different ideas on her page for 509 00:28:58,900 --> 00:29:02,600 you that you could get one or two different ideas and think 510 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,200 about all, I'm going to give that a go. 511 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,500 I know when I saw this morning was sitting down doing some deep 512 00:29:07,500 --> 00:29:11,100 breathing but also including some muscle tension and release 513 00:29:11,100 --> 00:29:14,300 in that deep breathing as well. So really tensing up all of your 514 00:29:14,500 --> 00:29:17,600 Those feeling that physiology shift and then letting it go and 515 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,700 releasing that can be something that helps to really shift your 516 00:29:20,700 --> 00:29:23,500 energy around as well. So different ideas that maybe 517 00:29:23,500 --> 00:29:26,000 you, haven't thought of before that, you can give a go. 518 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,700 So, these are all of my different tips. 519 00:29:30,100 --> 00:29:32,900 Obviously, a lot more with our reactive tools because this is 520 00:29:32,900 --> 00:29:35,400 something that's more relevant for me, personally, at the 521 00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,300 moment. But also something that I've 522 00:29:37,300 --> 00:29:41,400 been getting so many responses from and replies from over on my 523 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:42,900 Instagram. When I've been talking about 524 00:29:42,900 --> 00:29:45,500 this a lot recently, too. So I've been doing a few 525 00:29:45,500 --> 00:29:49,000 question boxes. I've been doing a few poles and 526 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:53,200 honestly, we're looking at like 98% of responses for these 527 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,700 questions that I'm asking when I'm talking about things like 528 00:29:55,700 --> 00:29:58,900 wrote reactive behavior and feeling over stimulated and 529 00:29:58,900 --> 00:30:02,800 frustrated and things like that with just like Parenthood and 530 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:07,300 motherhood and life in general, sometimes is that 98% of people 531 00:30:07,300 --> 00:30:10,200 are also feeling these things and noticing these things coming 532 00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,300 up for them as well. So please no, this is normal. 533 00:30:13,300 --> 00:30:16,200 You Are Not Alone. There is things that we can be 534 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:20,400 doing together and working on these things together to be able 535 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:25,600 to hopefully reduce the severity or the opportunity of these 536 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,900 things. Coming up as often. 537 00:30:28,100 --> 00:30:30,100 Now, I'm going to leave this with you here. 538 00:30:30,100 --> 00:30:32,200 Little Lila has fallen asleep again. 539 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,300 So I'm going to go and wake her up and try and remind her that 540 00:30:34,300 --> 00:30:37,600 it is currently daytime. And it's time to party. 541 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:42,000 Now not at 1 a.m. and I will see you guys in our next episode. 542 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,700 If you have found this helpful, I would absolutely We love. 543 00:30:44,700 --> 00:30:47,900 If you gave it a share over on your Instagram pages and a 544 00:30:47,900 --> 00:30:51,800 review, really, really helps a rating and review, really helps 545 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:54,800 for other people to be able to see these podcast episodes as 546 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:56,600 well. Thank you so much, I'll see you 547 00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:00,000 soon. 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