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Hello and welcome to episode 103 of the nourishing.
Amy podcast, welcome back. If you are listening in real
time, it is the second official episode back of 2022.
And I hope you're having a good year so far.
Now, in today's episode I'm actually going to be talking
about New Year's resolutions. Do I love them?
Do I hate them? What is my perspective on them?
And how is, how can you, sorry? Best Bay setting goals for
yourself, having intentions for yourself for the year.
That actually feel really good. That you actually want to stick
to so more about that in just a second.
Now, my recommendation for the week I have to.
So again, if you're listening to this in real time you would have
seen that the glow up Mind Body. Reset.
My brand new e-book has just launched literally last night.
I have put so much hard work. Work into this and I'm so
excited about it. So if you haven't downloaded it
yet already head over to my website.
It's literally just a me Rankin.com and you can download
it from there and we are going to be doing a 30-day reset
together, starting this upcoming Monday.
So that is going to be on the 31st of January.
And if you are getting involved, if you are sharing over on your
Instagram and your stories and things like that, there is going
to be a prize pack. Awarded All of the details are
going to be in the Facebook group as well as over on my
Instagram. So come and check it all out.
The Facebook group is just called the glow up Mind, Body
reset with Amy Rankin. If you can't find any of the
links just head over to my Instagram and the links are all
in my bio there for you. So it's going to be a really
nice way for you to just feel like you can fill your own cup
and to reset the reason that I've done, it is 30 days, you
would have heard In my previous episode, is because I want to
create some really sustainable habits for you so that you are
ready and in the habit of prioritizing yourself every
single day but in ways that doesn't feel hard and difficult
and like a chore for you to be doing.
So of course, that's my first recommendation, but my second
recommendation is now look this isn't going to be for everybody
but Like, kind of two parts to it, so I was just on Spotify and
I was listening to another song that kind of peaked or like,
picked up on a memory that I had and I was like, oh, I want to
listen to the old 10 Things. I Hate About You album.
I used to listen to that all the time when I was younger and it
really just got me so nostalgic, I was all up in the fields and I
was just having the time of my life, this morning.
I put my diffuser on On, I've had the 10 Things I Hate About
You album playing and it was just such good vibes in the
house and it got me to thinking. I really would love to put this
as a recommendation. Not specifically to the 10
Things I Hate About You album, if you didn't listen to it, when
you were younger, because obviously, it's not going to
have the same feelings or emotions attached.
But I really encourage you this week to think about an album
that you used to listen to, when you were younger, probably in
like your teen ish years. That feels really good for you.
So another one that I also really love to listen to is the
Dawson's Creek album as well, they're so old school but I just
think, like, I don't know, I just remember listening to them
and just I was young, I was so carefree and it's just, like I
said, very nostalgic. So if there's an old album that
you haven't listened to for a long time, set up, the Vibes for
yourself, you know, put on your favorite candle or put some of
your favorite essential oils in your diffuser, open up all the
blinds, open your windows, get some fresh air happening through
your bedroom and through the house, pop on that music and
just really enjoy being in the moment and get honest algae, get
all up in the fields. So that is my recommendation for
you for this week. Now, let's talk about New Year's
resolutions. If I think they're BS, and some
ways that I think is really going to be beneficial, Joel for
you to be thinking about goals, New Year's resolutions new year,
new me, all that kind of stuff. Now if you've been following me
along for a few years this is absolutely crazy.
You guys that it was two years ago that my previous ebook was
released. I was having a look back through
while I was updating my website last night, putting up the new
e-book and it told me the date that I uploaded my old ebook and
I was like oh my gosh, I cannot believe it's been two years.
Since we were all on the journey together of New Year.
Same me. And I did my in-person workshop.
Of course, just before we all went into the very first
lockdowns and all of that kind of stuff and it was just so much
fun. So, I can't believe it's been
two years and of course, one of the reasons why I wanted to do a
new e-book and a refresh together was because it has been
a little while. And I think it's really nice to
create that sense of friendship. Shape of community, and of doing
something together. And, yeah, so crazy that it's
been two years. Anyway, I digress, of course
from the name of my old ebook New Year.
Same me. But better, I guess it kind of
gives away what my perspectives are on New Year's resolutions
new new year, new me, all that kind of stuff.
I'm into perspectives of this because in one Camp I do.
I do think that like new year, new me like I think the end of
the year and the start of a new year does have the ability to
reflect and to really think about how do I feel about the
last year. What happened for me?
I've done a few previous episodes, which you can go back
and have a look out literally like the last three or four
episodes have been about, you know, setting boundaries for
yourself ways that you can reflect at the end of your week
or the end of the All of that kind of stuff.
And I think that the the new year or the end of a previous
year does bring about the want to reflect and think about
Jesus, like what did I do this year?
What are the things I've achieved?
What goals did I have for myself?
How does that make me feel? Do I feel like I am proud of the
action steps I was taking and it's a really nice time to be
able to think about those things and bring in some gratitude and
some appreciation. And also, yeah, have a little A
bit of a reset and think about. Okay, what do I want this
upcoming year to look like for me, the reason that I don't like
the whole New Year's resolutions and new year.
New me and why I think we can get rid of it.
For some of us is that I think it also puts a lot of pressure
and I think that also we get a little confused because we can
feel very motivated at the start of the year.
It's like Fresh Start clean-slate.
What do I want my life to be looking like this year?
Setting all these beak ambitious goals and we feel really
motivated and you guys will know that motivation is a feeling and
like any other feeling it is going to air band flow for you.
There is going to be days that you feel super pumped and super
motivated. And you want to be taking action
on all of the things that are going to help you to be feeling
really good. But there's also going to be
times that you're not feeling pumped, you're not feeling
motivated you. Don't feel like taking action
and what can happen then when we buy into that is we feel like,
oh, maybe this goal wasn't really For Me, Maybe it's not
really what I want to be doing or achieving.
And we kind of are then left, not taking action on our
resolutions and feeling like, you know, we failed or like, oh,
I'll just have to start again next year.
So let's meet in the middle of both of those things.
Yes. We can refresh.
Yes, we can really think about. Okay, what do I want this year
to look, like, for me, but we can also be a little kinder to
ourselves. We can catch out some of the
thinking patterns that can come up and when we can work through
those thinking patterns in those feelings that can come up, it
means that you are more likely to stay on track, but also to be
able to reflect and pivot and change things up a little bit.
If they're not working for you because Was just because you set
yourself a goal at the start of the Year, doesn't mean that in a
few weeks, in a few months towards the end of the year.
That's still going to be something that you want to be
achieving. And it's okay to change your
perspectives to change your goals, for things to look and
feel a little bit different for you.
I think this is the key here is that we are coming at this from
a place of compassion from a place of intuition and
connecting back to yourself of Like how does these actually
feel for me? Maybe look, I mean, like goals
there could be like literally thousands of different goals
that you could set for yourself. Let's say, for example, your
goal is that you want to run 5 km, let's just set that as a
random goal. While I'm talking about this, I
want you to consider what is a goal that you have for yourself
this year, it can be related to anything.
Maybe it's relating to the social aspect of your life, and
your friendships, your important relationships, maybe a romantic
relationship, it could be. If you've got children a
relationship with your kids, maybe you might have a goal with
regards to your career, maybe there's a promotion that you'd
like to be doing. Maybe you would like to invite a
little more work life balance. Maybe you'd like to get a new
job, maybe you've got some home life goals that you want to be
setting some things you'd like to be doing around the house.
Maybe it's just thinking about What does balance actually look
like, for me this year anyway, like I said, there's literally
thousands of goals that you could be setting for yourself.
But as I'm talking through this 5-kilometer goal, I want you to
think of one for yourself and kind of come along this little
journey over the next few minutes with me.
So you've set yourself a goal and you're going to be aiming to
run 5 km before the middle of the year.
So you've given yourself a six-month timeframe for that.
Now The most effective way to start to achieve your goals is
to break your goal down. I mean, look the like there's so
many different ways that we can look at goal setting and
achieving goals, but I'm going to break it down, super simply
for you and I can do another episode actually on goal setting
and some proven ways that you can really effectively be
reaching your goals. If that's something that you're
interested in come and let me know in the Facebook group or
send me a message over on Instagram and I can definitely
do that for But really simply we are thinking of a goal that you
have for yourself for this example, running 5Ks and
breaking it down because at the end of the day, if you so say,
for example, like me when I first set that as a goal for
myself, a few years ago, I literally could not even run.
500 meters without feeling like I was so out of breath soap.
After I was a red beetroot in my face, I just I didn't have the
stamina the cardio levels. The fitness levels to be Being
five k's straight up. So for me it was actually about
breaking that down and how that could feel achievable for me
because it wasn't just like, okay I'm going to do this and
then in the next two weeks, I'm going to be able to run this
five kilometers. So what we want to be thinking
about is okay, how can I break this goal that I have in mind
down for me so that it feels achievable.
I'm breaking this goal into smaller action steps that feel
achievable. So think about The time frame
that you are setting for yourself.
And we want this to be a little bit challenging because having a
challenge is motivating, but not not so challenging that it just
feels overwhelming and not achievable for you.
So we're breaking it down, maybe into six weeks, maybe into three
months, maybe into six months, maybe it's a goal, you have by
the end of the year. So let's start to break it down
into monthly and then let's break it down into.
Okay, we Weekly. What would that look like?
Now this is one aspect. Another aspect that I am going
to be talking about in a moment is also what are the daily
habits that are going to help me with this?
So in this 5 km run example, I would then also be considering,
well, yes, it's my cardio on my fitness levels but there's also
other things that are going to come into play here.
If I want to be going for a run two or three times a week to be
building up my fitness and my cardio levels.
I'm probably not going to be drinking every night, for
example, and having a few glasses of wine every night,
because I know that if I do that, then I'm not going to be
waking up and feeling motivated to be moving my body, and going
for a run realistically, I'm probably not going to be feeling
motivated at all and if I do go for a run, I'm probably going to
feel like stopping and having a bit of a spew on the side of the
road. So we Want to be thinking about,
okay, how does my lifestyle at the moment and my current habits
support, this goal that I have? And is there anything that I
would like to tweak or change up a little bit?
Also, is there things that I'm doing well, or that I'm really
proud of at the moment that are helping me to move towards this
goal already. So, thinking about our daily
habits that we have as well, that move us towards achieving
this goal, then we are actually Taking action and getting clear
on. Okay, yes.
I feel motivated because this is, you know, a fresh start
clean slate. A new thing that I'm feeling
motivated about. But also what does discipline
look like to me as well? So go and have a listen to the
motivation versus discipline podcast episode.
If you haven't listened, to that one already, it's really breaks
down the whole concept of motivation.
First discipline why? You can't always feel motivated.
What discipline looks like for you.
In that episode. So I'm not going to go into it
too much because it's something that we've touched on before.
But it's really thinking about, okay, on those days that I don't
feel super pumped and motivated. What does discipline actually
look like for me? Now, the next thing that we're
going to be doing. Once you've got your action
steps planned out, once you have broken the goal down into
smaller steps. Once you've thought about what
feeling disciplined and taking action, while you are being
disciplined, looks like for you, we also then as As the week's go
by want to be focusing on. Okay what am I doing for myself
here? What am I proud of?
What have I taken action on this week that I can really
celebrate? Because guys, it is not often
enough that you are celebrating your small wins.
That you're celebrating, your action steps that you are taking
and we can really get focused on that.
I'll be happy when which again, is another podcast episode that
I do already have for you. So, go and have a search for
the, I'll be happy when Episode. I will link these episodes also
in the show notes so that you can click through.
But what can happen? Our mindset can get stuck on
that, okay? I'll be happy when I am running
the five k's, or when I've achieve my financial goal or I'm
spending more time with my friends, or I've got more
quality time with my partner, or I feel like I've got more
work-life balance. But realistically, let's think
about for a minute. What happens when you feel like,
okay, I'm setting my bar here for my goal in.
This is when I'm going, To feel happy.
What happens once you start to get close to that naturally, as
humans, we want to be achieving, we want to be growing majority
of the time. You actually end up moving that
bar further away for yourself because you're like, okay, cool,
I'm achieving, I'm feeling really good about this.
What's my next step, what else can I be doing?
And so, what that means is this, I'll be happy when mindset can
really say we can start to get stuck in that.
That it's like, okay, well, I've moved the bath Further away from
myself. I'll be happy when I've achieved
that Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, let's take a step back.
Hang on, what are you doing for yourself now though?
What are you proud of, how have you gotten yourself to this
point already? And let's celebrate that as
well? Because I do believe in setting
goals for yourself. I do believe that, you know,
it's part of positive psychology that it gives us meaning and
purpose when we are setting goals for ourselves, when we are
feeling that sense of also, accomplishment and achievement
is a big part of positive psychology.
And so when we are incorporating those things, it's been proven
scientifically that as humans, we do feel better about
ourselves. And also another aspect of
positive psychology is engagement and flow and when we
are really engaged in activities when we're in our Flow State,
when we're feeling like, we don't need to check our phone or
be calling someone back or we're not thinking about what we need
to go down to the shops and buy food.
That night, all that kind of stuff.
And a lot of the time when we're setting ourselves a goal, maybe
it's running like whatever it is there is moments that we are
really engaged in that activity where in our Flow State and so
really we can actually be focusing on three of those legs.
I guess we'll call them or three of the modalities of positive
psychology with engagement and flow with meaning and purpose
with accomplishment and achievement by setting goals for
ourselves. So this is why I really do
believe that goals is not a dirty word setting goals for
yourself isn't a bad thing. But we also want to be including
these things like reflecting like being proud of yourself,
like bringing in that gratitude that sense of accomplishment and
achievement like connecting back to your why all of these kind of
things are going to help you to feel more empowered and give you
more of a sense of meaning, while you are on your way to
achieving these goals, whether You call them New Year's
resolutions or not. So that's my first aspect to
that. I wanted to talk about now.
I did also kind of briefly touch on this already but something
that is so much more empowering for you.
Whether it's setting a specific goal or whether it's actually
just thinking about in general, instead of a New Year's
resolution, how do I want to feel this year?
How do I want to feel? If I could be aiming for one or
two feelings, or if there is a word that I could be embodying
this year, what would that be now to help you with this again?
Yes, surprise surprise, I've got a podcast episode on this.
There is a meditation that you can do and it is going to help
you to connect back to those words, those feelings.
It's really going to help you to connect to that and really get
clear on okay. This Is what I want to be aiming
for this year. So again, I will link that
episode in the show notes for you.
When we can be getting clear on how do I want to feel?
What does it look like for me to be embodying that feeling and
aligning with that feeling? That is where it's going to make
the difference for you because instead of getting caught up in
the all I should be achieving this, I should be doing this for
myself this year and we what the shoulds mean is that we can get
stuck in comparison, we can be setting really high expectations
for ourselves when we get stuck in that comparison and the
comparison trap. You might subconsciously
actually be setting goals for yourself that are based on what
other people around you have or what?
Doing without realizing that that's just comparison coming in
and maybe isn't something that you want to be achieving for
yourself. So by connecting back to that
feeling to those words that you want to be embodying, it means
that you're more aligned with you and what you want for the
year, what you want for your weeks and you're months.
And what you want to be feeling this year rather than looking at
what other people are doing, what other people are.
Are achieving, maybe what other people's goals are for their
life this year and really connecting back to you.
And this is the key because like I said earlier as well, when we
think about then moving a step on from that.
Okay, well how does my lifestyle support these feelings or these
words that I want to be embodying this year. let's say,
for example, a feeling is Balanced.
I want to feel balanced. It is a word that I want to be
embodying more of this year, balanced.
Then when you think about your current habits, your current
lifestyle, does that feel balanced for you?
Do you have things that you're already doing to help you to
feel like okay, yes I am maybe like a bit of a high achiever or
a bit of a perfectionist. Or I noticed that I can maybe
procrastinate in some of these certain areas or I noticed that
yes, I'm quite busy and I'm doing all of the things in this
area of my life. But I also have these other
things that I do that. Helped me to give back to
myself, that helped me to fill my cup back up.
And so that helps to bring me a sense of balance that I can
recognize that and putting in the work here.
I'm doing the things here, but I'm also bringing in some
balance and giving back to myself and that feels in
alignment for me this year. Or on the other hand, we might
notice that okay actually don't really feel a sense of balance
at the I meant. What does that look like for me?
What are the habits and routines that I have right now, that I
can just tweak a little bit? And again, you guys will already
know that I am very big or not making huge big gigantic changes
because that in itself, feels overwhelming and life can be
overwhelming enough as it is already.
So, really getting clear on. Okay, what am I switching up?
Just a little bit like, what do I already do for myself?
Maybe there's Um, excuse me, something that you're doing in
the mornings, you've got your little morning routine.
And when I talk about morning routine guys, this does not have
to be, you know, 15 different things if that's achievable for
you and you want to be doing that amazing.
But honestly, most of the time my morning routine lately has
looked like setting my alarm getting up around 6:00 6:30
doing my skincare washing my face, doing a workout doing a
quick five to Meditation and cooking my breakfast and all
these breakfast. That's literally my morning
routine. It's really nothing fancy but
it's what works for me at the moment.
It helps me to feel that sense of balance because I'm giving
back to myself, I'm moving my body.
I'm making myself a nourishing breakfast.
I'm doing my skincare and looking after my skin before the
busyness of the day happens before Ali gets up and I give
him back to myself so you can see that I'm already doing.
Doing things that help me to feel in alignment with that
feeling of balanced all that embodying that word balance, but
I can probably also identify that.
There is some other things that I'm doing that don't feel too
balanced or that I am kind of over committing myself in which
is fine. It's all about recognizing.
Okay. How is my current lifestyle
looking? What would I like my lifestyle
to look? What would my lifestyle look
like? Sorry if I was living in
alignment? This word or these feeling, and
what does it look like to shake things up a little bit.
Also, how can I be proud of myself for the things I'm
already doing that is in alignment with this word or this
feeling for me. So, I hope that that feels good
for you. I hope that gives you a bit of a
different perspective. On New, Year's resolutions of
setting goals, for yourself of how we can kind of find a meet
in the middle. All Point instead of making,
like I said, those huge big life changes and putting so much
pressure on yourself and then feeling like, oh gosh, if I'm
not achieving this, if I haven't gotten to this point, then you
know, I just need to give up. And also like I was saying at
the start, very quickly to finish off on, it's okay if you
start to take action on a goal and you get a few weeks or a few
months down the track and you realize, this just doesn't feel
how I thought it. A feel or doesn't look how I
thought it was going to look. Maybe you've started to apply
for other jobs. Maybe you have set yourself a
fitness goal and you realize that this isn't actually a way
that I like to move my body. Maybe you?
Oh gosh, I'm I've gone blank. But anyway, thinking about your
goal maybe you start to notice that.
Oh, I have another example. Maybe you start to study a new
subject this year and you're realizing, I actually don't
really enjoy this. This this it looks or feels
totally different to what I thought it was going to.
There's nothing wrong with that. What we want to do then is
connect back to. Okay, what was my original goal?
What are the things I don't like about this goal now?
Why doesn't it feel good for me and what can I change here?
Maybe the original goal is like okay well I know I wanted to
study or I know I wanted to learn something this year.
This particular topic isn't feeling good for me right now.
How can I change this? So we're reflecting and we are
pivoting. How can I pivot this?
So it is something that feels good for me that I want to be
doing again if we're looking at our fitness goal, okay?
I thought I was going to enjoy this activity joining up at this
certain gym, doing this certain movement with my body.
And now I realize it's not actually as enjoyable as what I
thought it was going to be. All right, well my goal is still
that I would like to move my body or my goal is still
whatever it is for you. But what do I actually want to
be doing, how can I pivot and change this?
So that I'm still achieving the ultimate goal of movement or
whatever it is? But I'm actually making this
feel good for me. I'm allowed to change.
I'm human, I am allowed to AB and flow and change my mind and
continue to connect back to what feels good for me.
Again, we're connecting back to that intuition that you have
within yourself. What feels good for me.
Not what other people are doing. Not, what feels good for other
people, because, yes, we can gain inspiration from what
others are doing. We can get different ideas,
maybe you do want to start at a new gym or you do want to do a
new gym class or start a new healthy eating plan or start
meal planning, like whatever it is again thousands of different
goals that can be coming to mind for you, but Just because
someone else is doing it and you've gained inspiration from
that if it doesn't feel good for you, that's a big reason why
you're probably not going to be feeling motivated to stick to
that. So instead of giving up on your
goals all together, reflect think about what doesn't feel
good for you and then pivot. How can I still stick to the
core idea of this goal. This was the main overarching
theme here that I want to have more I'm with my friends.
I want to feel more balanced. I want to be moving my body.
I would like to be eating more nourishing foods and fueling my
body in that way, whatever the overarching goal is, okay, can I
pivot? What is something else?
I could try. That might feel good for me.
And if you are continually reflecting and making small
pivots throughout the course of this year, you are really going
to be on your way to feeling how you want to be feeling.
And At the end of the day, this is the ultimate goal.
The action steps that you're taking the habits and the
routines that you have the lifestyle that you're creating
for yourself, is going to be so positively impacted purely by
focusing on how you want to be feeling and reflecting and
pivoting to be moving towards that feeling and changing it up
as you go to reconnect back to yourself every single time.
Connect back to that intuition. How does this feel for me?
Alrighty, guys, I've kept you for long enough today.
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