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We talked all about Anxiety and discomfort that can come from
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The therapist that you're working with all of these things
that you might have anxiety or concerns about my goal is that
you listen to this episode. You feel a lot more comfortable
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We also talked about the very important and sometimes
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Making sure that you have a good fit with your therapist that
that relationship is in. A good spot.
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Thank you so much for joining me today, Shawnee, I'm so excited
to have you on the podcast. And yeah, I just can't wait to
dive into this conversation. Yes, thank you so much for
having me. I love talking mental health, so
let's get it. Let's do it.
Awesome, would love to start with a little bit of your
background, how you started working in the mental health
field and what brought you to where you are today.
So what started me in the mental health field, I feel as if
that's such a loaded question because there's so many
different narratives that I have that sort of play like a role
but essentially where it, mainly started is iPhone.
Love with psychology in high school.
And then, when I was in undergrad, my first major was
actually theater and I had this Revelation one day.
I don't know where it came from, and I was just like, I don't
want to be auditioning for a job, like, for the rest of my
life, and I was like, I think I can always come back to theater.
And so I ended up changing my major to psychology and I got my
first job in working with children.
Were autistic and from there it just sort of like became my
thing to make sure I had a lot of experience in different
areas. So from there, when I graduated
from undergrad, I got my first job working in a jail, then I
decided to get my Master's. I've done they treatment with
teens. I've worked in the home with
parents and teens, Private Practice.
I've worked on the insurance side, but ultimately where I am
today, I have always had a love Love of theater and so Tick Tock
came along and I started creating skits to help people
navigate therapy and I guess you could say Tick-Tock loved it.
And that's where we are today with what I mainly do.
I love it were there any common threads that you noticed from
all of these different therapeutic settings that you
think would be helpful to share like all of these people are
experiencing similar emotions. Are there similar?
Fears or Is that people are experiencing that don't
discriminate across these different settings, you know, I
think more than anything. I really just wanted to connect
with people on a human level. I think about my own sort of
narrative when it starts in undergrad, I think in your sort
of thrown into this huge social environment, can we be honest
for a second with like no legit life skills.
And when I say life skills, I mean like men.
Aging money. I mean my first semester I ran
out of money on my what do you call it?
Your meal plan and then it was like, how do I even know?
What do I do? How do I eat after this?
And so for me it was I grew up with very strict parents and so
I was struggling with drinking and really just finding myself
and so I went to see a therapist and I didn't really feel seen as
a person and so when I was working through all of these
jobs, I really wanted to make sure that See, the person,
regardless of, like, they are diagnosed with autism,
depression, anxiety, if their teen in the system, I really
just wanted to connect with the human behind all of that.
So, essentially, I found that in listening and truly listening to
people. I found sort of my specialty as
far as connecting and helping people find like, what is it
that you really feel you want from life that is going to bring
you? You Joy that will create
happiness. I love that, but you touched on
therapy, and that's what we're going to talk about foremost
this episode. I want to start by talking about
before therapy when. Yeah.
You think it might be helpful. I've done a lot of episodes
talking about. Okay.
How do I know if this is maybe a step?
I should take, how do I know if his if things maybe aren't going
as well? As I think they are, but I
really want to touch on all of the stigma and anxiety and
apprehension. That is associated with
beginning. Her therapy Journey, And I
think, even for myself, starting, any therapy session
with a new therapist is really scary.
So I'd love to kind of talk their first giving your tips
about what to do those emotions come up and then kind of your
perspective on why you think that is something that so many
people experience, whether it's like a society thing or it's
just being so vulnerable, Etc. So if listeners are like, I am
so scared to start therapy, but I feel like this is a good step.
What is your advice there? So, it is scary.
And I want to normalize Is it because if you think about it,
when we sort of meet someone for the very first time, it's more
so sort of that surface level conversation.
Hi, how are you? Are you in school?
What do you do for work? But when you go see a therapist,
it's like, tell me. What are your vulnerabilities?
And what are your weaknesses? What are you struggling with?
What do you cry about at night? Tell me yes, complete, stranger
that you don't know. So that's like I don't know if I
trust you. I think that was really the
biggest thing that Fear comes from when it comes to going to
therapy as I don't know if I trust that coming into this room
that therapist will create a safe place for what I need.
That's like one piece of it and I think another piece of it
comes from what is their pee even like especially for people
that may have never gone or if they have gone and they sort of
had this like experience that team to therapy for them so that
can also add to fear on different levels as well.
So what I always say, Say is just what is it that you want
from the experience and recognizing that you know
yourself so you may know. Okay.
I don't know what I mean, but I know that things are often my
life right now and I like to say off because I don't want to sort
of encourage self diagnosing and so it may be like, I'm just not
focusing. I feel sad all the time.
I want to hang out with my friends, but I don't really text
them back. Like, what's going on?
So you recognize something Off. And then, what have you
recognize? Maybe and the past for yourself,
that was helpful. Was that okay, A friend that
really listen to me? Was it someone that offered you
feedback? Was it?
Someone that made you laugh? And so, if you can sort of pick
out those little things, when you go to read a therapist is
profile. Look for some of those same
feelings. That may be evoked when you're
reading through the profile. People may read a profile that
says I use CBT or Or I use DDT, and for someone that knows what
those terms mean. So cognitive behavioral therapy,
or dialectical behavioral therapy?
May be like, yes, I know, that's what I need, but someone that is
like, I don't know what that is made.
Then want to read profiles that seem like I meet you, where
you're at, one of the things that I do when I work with my
clients is I listen to them. We collaborate together that may
be like, okay, that's what I'm looking for.
So you kind of start with what may have been helpful in the
past to be able to See if you can recognize that in a
therapist is profile when you're reading through it.
That's such a great tip. And I think depending on the
website, they also sometimes will say like, oh I have a
background in family systems or selfish.
Yes or disordered eating stress sleep there.
Yeah. Specialize in all of these
different things. So if you kind of know going
into it like this is what I'm really worried about.
This is what I want to focus on first.
You can totally find a therapist that specializes in that area
has a lot of Perience. And you can just hit the ground
running and get a lot of great tips and advice and support from
the get-go. Yes.
And I want to add something to be mindful of is if you go to a
therapist is profile. However and they're like, I do
cbt-i Duty BTW, I have everything, I work with stress
for me as a therapist that's a red flag because you have all
these skill sets and all these different areas that to me is
like, what is it that you're good at as a therapist.
So if you read them profiles and it's just this long Unless I'm
always like, I feel like checked every single box on the website,
you're doing too much, you're doing too much.
So you work with everybody, huh? Yeah, another really good thing
there is that the age demographic, they're like, I
work with adults and little children and teenagers, those
are really really different types of therapy.
So look for adolescent or a teenage therapist that works
with Ben Folds caseload of other teens and they're like okay so
the SAT season how are you feeling about that or like my
clients are complaining about college?
Maps. What is going on there?
That can be really effective to be aware of during the therapy
search. Oh, definitely.
If he's sort of come across a therapist that says they work
with trauma. A great question to ask.
Maybe, okay, so you say, your trauma train and you work.
With all of these demographics, I want to know, how do you help
me say a first-generation immigrant, who is 19, who is
struggling with trauma? How would you help me?
That may be helpful to also, sort of, like, we Through that
process 100%. What are your thoughts on?
Why these emotions are so Universal with starting therapy
like that apprehension? Obviously you touched on its
really vulnerable to go in and meet something new.
Do you think there is like still stigma that were experiencing
and Society? Or do you see it more as like
the individual emotional block, and having this new experience,
I feel like it's getting better these days because we're now
having the conversation. Ends from, you know, within our
immediate support groups to schools to corporations really
just like not just having the conversation but also bringing
in the experts to navigate the conversation.
And so, the reason why it is a huge stigma is because it's
passed down through like narrative if you think about it.
So, what did your parents parents say about therapy?
And then hear about therapy, you know?
So, I sort of think about my parents.
He wasn't something that was an option or talked about in our
communities. Be like, oh you're struggling in
your marriage, you should go talk to someone.
No, that's not. What was told.
And so if that's not what they're told, how would they
know to tell me any different? So I learned about mental health
in school, that's where I really learned about how to navigate
it, what does it look like to go?
How do you advocate for yourself?
And even today as a therapist I'm still learning and through.
My learning educating people that's something that I really
like about gen C. And the newer Generations is I
feel from my own experience and I've heard this a lot and these
mental health conversations is that teens really pull their
beliefs about mental health and therapy from their peers.
So I noticed that there's kind of that separation from what
their parents are believing that they're like my friends are in
therapy. I want to be in therapy too.
Yeah, or like, this is what I'm experiencing with my mental
health, and this is what my friends are talking about at
school and I believe that. And so I think It's something
really amazing to have that kind of sense of self advocacy and to
kind of collectively make that shift and ask for help when you
need it. And being able to advocate for
that. I think that's something that's
really cool to see. Yeah.
And I think it's really beautiful to see to.
Yeah, because you feel less alone in the experience.
I think it's one thing to be experiencing say anxiety.
But it's another thing to experience.
It'll love ya too to really feel like someone can truly get where
you're coming from and validate it.
Like they may not understand it. So let's say if you have a
friend that's never had anxiety, but when you talk to that
friend, you really feel like they hear you and they validate
you that there's something so special about that versus
talking to someone. They're like yeah.
So just get out of bed. Just take a deep breath.
You cost us breath and it's like Doesn't really work like that.
Yeah, I think that's something that's also added to the
equation. Is that teens today are
experiencing more mental health challenges than we ever have
before and more stress and are operating at a different level.
So even if you have an experienced anxiety, you've
probably experienced dresses some point or some apprehension
or fear. So there's a lot more
relatability amongst the population because so many
people have either experienced something themselves or have a
Very close friend or family member or peer.
That has oh my gosh. I really hope that parents here.
That I want parents to hear about so much because I feel
like sometimes, especially when I've been working with teens and
parents in the past. You can sort of hear those.
What do you have to be stressed about?
Stressed, can look different for everyone like okay.
Yes, the parent may be stressed about bills or taking care of
the home, but that doesn't mean that a team can't be stressed
about their exam. Their homework or you know,
their friends, their body changing, they do have stress.
And I mean I even think about teens today when I was in high
school I didn't have to worry about school shootings.
Yeah teens today. Do my dreams were like fire
drills. And the one where you get under
the desk. Earthquake drill, stop great.
Yeah, stop drop and roll. Yeah, don't do that with Quake
guys. We really thought stop drop and
roll is Gonna Save her life. I've never had to do stop
drawing literally, I've never seen it happen, like that would
not be something that would come to mind if there is a fire like,
No. And so I think about sort of
even just navigating that where they do active, you know,
shooter drills. And it's a reminder right that
this can happen. So you're maybe going through
the school year, you know? And then it's like oh it's that
time of the year so stress can look different for everyone and
it doesn't matter. The age even two-year-olds can
be stressed out because they're not getting along.
We pop. Yeah.
I think that sort of belittle someone stress just because
they're not in a dull, is it's unfair.
Yeah. We also have to remember that
teens brains aren't fully developed.
So even if you're like, well, I wouldn't be stressed about that
the way their brain works. There are more emotional,
they're less able to ration through things and logic through
things. So even though you're like, oh
well, if you're a little bit older, you want to be stressed
about this? Well, they are right now, so
that's not going to help them and adults act, like we've never
been teams before. Yeah.
Yes, yes. Like, if you can just stop and
remember what it was like being a teen, I think that'll just
change your whole perspective. This one of the best things
about having a Teen Mental Health podcast is, I have so
many adults on the show because they can offer so much insight
and expertise that Tia maybe haven't fully gotten in their
life, but can benefit a lot from hearing.
But every single time I do these pitch emails and get on these
shows. Everyone's like, you know, my
teenage years are so rough. I'm so glad that I'm able to
maybe help someone else through this.
Everyone is that Universal experience of being a teen was
really Hard, no matter where they're at now, no matter how
great things are. Not our how quick they are
designing their challenges. It's really a universal
experience. Yes.
And the last thing I'll add to those, I sort of think of adults
that were like, oh gosh. No, I'd never do high school
over and I'm like so, you never do high school over but in the
same sentence you almost say like, teens have no stress.
Hmm. Let's think about that.
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therapist that meets your needs. So the other side of the
spectrum, we talked about getting into therapy.
We talked about navigating those initial anxiety.
Is I kind of want to go, then the complete other direction and
talk about what you do. When you feel like maybe therapy
isn't working and you're like, I feel like I need to try
something different. I'm not feeling better.
I'm not seeing chefs, you do it that.
But what are the things that you would want someone to look for
other than like this is just so difficult.
I just want to quit. Obviously, that's yeah, one
perspective but there is the concept of maybe this isn't the
right match of a therapist and so it's very possible to be in
therapy and be like maybe this isn't the best fit that is yes.
Central outcome. So what's your advice there?
What to look for and then how to proceed?
Yes. So I want to first like thank
you for asking that question because even though I'm a
therapist, I I don't necessarily believe that therapy is the only
way to go about seeking help because we also have to remember
that therapy is an accessible for everyone if that
socioeconomic status, or if you're a part of a community
such as like lgbtq+ or A bipod community and you can't find a
therapist that looks like you will relate to you.
So I think about all of those factors and so if you find that
therapy isn't working, it may be helpful to sort of identify why
you feel. It's not working is that because
you feel your symptoms are getting worse and that could be
symptoms or things like, you know, you're not sleeping your
appetite, your energy. Is it that you feel like you go
every time and you sort of walk away or like, I just don't feel
better because Can identify the cause that helps you to be able
to figure out. Okay, so what do I do next?
So one of the things, maybe the therapist might not be a good
fit, it could be for several reasons.
That therapist may not be a good fit, maybe it's their style.
Maybe the techniques that they're using aren't helpful for
what it is that you're experiencing.
Maybe they don't have experience in the area or concern that
you're bringing into the sessions.
So all of those viable options, the The thing is, sometimes
people aren't ready for therapy and I think that's valid.
It takes a lot emotionally and I think a lot of people sort of
see therapy as I'm going in one hour.
We boom, that's the work. Oh no, no, I'm so sorry.
Yeah. It's outside of the session that
one hour Did you sort of like, put it down, let's say you're
awake like 16 hours out of the day, right?
That's one hour. And that's just one day that you
see a therapist. And most of the time you sort of
like, Processing. The action steps takes place
outside the session because most of the time we want behavioral
changes in order to get behavioral changes.
We have to actually put that into action and sometimes people
may not be ready, a great example might be I don't like
the way that my mom talks to me every time I go home from
college, right? So then you made talk to your
therapist and they may be like okay so let's set some
boundaries you may not be ready to implement the boundary with A
mother. So then yes, you continue to
talk about it, but the necessary step is going to be taking
action. So at that time you may say,
like, okay, great I've sort of come to the point where I feel
comfortable, I'd recognize that boundaries are needed.
I'm just not ready to take that step.
But also remembering that it's important to surround yourself
with community and support, so that maybe other friends, or
another adult that you can talk to and one of the other things.
Yep, I'm going to say it. I know people.
I'm going to say it journaling. It's so important because it
gives your thoughts a place to go and if you're working on
yourself being able to look back and reflect and see where you
were, let's just say a month ago and where you are today can
really help you with like oh I've been writing about the same
thing for the last month. Nothing has really changed.
Okay. Where do I see improvements in
my life that I can sort of like switch around a little bit?
Yeah, I also Love what you said about not necessarily being
ready for therapy because I feel like that's something a lot of
teens experience. If they aren't necessarily the
ones spearheading this journey. If you're listening to this
podcast because you're like my parents are making me be in
therapy, I don't know what to do about it.
I'm just looking to either speed this long, whatever it is, but
especially in being a teen, that something that's really unique
That You Don't See in a lot of other demographics, whether it's
adult struggling with all these different things, if they're in
therapy, a lot of the times it's because Has they're the ones
that have advocated for that as a teen there is a high
likelihood that maybe you weren't the one that made this
decision whether it's because they're a teacher parent, or a
doctor. So it takes time to kind of not
only warm up to the idea of being in therapy but develop
your own reasons for wanting to make shifts and see changes and
get better. And so I think that's something
to also be aware of when you're like, is this working, do you
want it to work? Because for a long time I was
like it's just not going to To work.
So I would go through the motions.
I would show all sessions. I would run out the clock, but I
didn't want to get better. I didn't believe that I could
get better and so I didn't see any changes.
And so it definitely is a key step in the process, wanting
that for yourself and deciding what you're working towards, and
it can be different from what your parents are hoping for.
Maybe, your parents are like her grades are so bad, so that's why
she's in therapy to develop better skills, and I don't know,
do better in school but maybe you're like, I'm just so
stressed all the time and that's why I don't know.
Energy to work on school. So I want to work on stress and
being able to have better ways of navigating that stress.
So I think that's another thing to be aware of as a teen.
Yeah. And the other thing too that I
want to add is it's totally okay to tell your therapist.
I actually don't want to be here and my parents want me here so
that the therapist can really hear your side.
Even though you're a teen that therapist is your therapist, not
your parents therapist and if your therapist is reporting, To
your parents. What you were talking about in
the session but it's not. Okay.
As parents are not supposed to have access to your notes,
unless, for some reason it's mandated reporting and mandated
reporting maybe like child abuse or that, you're going to harm
yourself and not just any therapist.
Should be telling you that there yet.
Telling your parents that yeah, yes.
Oh absolutely. And knowing to like, if you
don't feel comfortable talking, you can do things.
I've totally sat down with teens and sometimes we play puzzles to
like build rapport because sometimes your We activities and
you don't even realize that you're talking and it's sort of
like warms you up and feel more comfortable so if you don't want
to be there after heavy tick-tocks, two sessions like
Johnny's. Hey oh definitely.
If it does not just have to be talking I think about sometimes.
I used to have clients that would come in early in the
morning and they would like lay on the couch, they get the
pillow, get the blanket and then I left him service it for like
10 minutes. And then it's like, hey, what do
you wanna do? You wanna play a game?
Don't do puzzles. How How can we sort of make this
your time and not the time that your parents are telling you to
come here? Yeah, I think that's huge.
So if you've identified that it's not the right fit, you're
not seeing the shifts that you want to.
You've been like I feel like I'm invested in this.
I'm giving it my all still. I'm not seeing the outcome, I
want, how do you break up with a therapist?
Because that's something that you can do, it's something that
is okay, to give. It's okay to switch providers.
And you think most people don't? That you're like I have one
therapist. I rest my life, that's how it's
going to work. Unless I knew ver have this
crazy change happen, know you can switch therapist.
So I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
How do you navigate that transition?
And then what is helpful for you to hear as a therapist have you
ever had someone? I don't not like ghosts but text
me back. I'm done with therapy by
obviously helpful. That be here.
Look a like I think this is what I'm going to try and focus on or
I'm going to try some time outside of therapy and then
maybe revisit so. What are your thoughts there?
Yes. So, the first thing that I would
say is, there's several ways that I sort of see with,
breaking up with a therapist, if you're someone, that knows,
okay, this isn't going to work, it's okay to goes, I want to
validate that, we're not your friends, so you're not ghost in
a friend, it's a very good therapist.
So many skills to be able to navigate that like it's not like
some emotionally unstable ex-boyfriend, they're going to
be fast, they will move forward. Now, don't get me wrong, we
think about you. Because I definitely had where
I'm like, man, I wonder where that client is today and I
wonder if they're okay. So that's the first thing you
can. Totally guys, think I bring so
much to the play as a therapy client, because I'm like they
can just listen to my weekly podcast.
They know exactly how things are going.
Yes, yes. Hi, we're doing well.
It's going. Okay, like, okay, great.
Good to hear. Another thing that I would say
is asking yourself like Why is it that you want to break up
with your therapist? Okay, so short story, I did try
to break up with my therapist. So the best way I can describe
it is the new therapist that I had started seeing, and the way
that they're scheduling was set up was different than what I was
used to. So I as a therapist, when I get
a new client, you get on my schedule and then I just add
you, it's just every two weeks, it's just a reoccurring
appointment. This particular therapist makes
the appointment after every session because we So I was
like, oh, I don't know. So that means like what is
there? Someone that you saw yesterday
and they're like, I need five sessions next week and then the
spots are living. I don't know.
So it's sort of and like there's a day for therapy.
You're like Tuesday's therapy day.
I tell ya, emotional things to talk about for Tuesday and then
we reset that's just how the world works.
Exactly. So that he was different and
then I remember I was like, oh well I just want to do
reoccurring appointment and I remember the therapist, I think
we acting like in a way. I was like, oh, you don't Like
reoccurring appointment. So I made the next session and
then I emailed them immediately afterwards.
I was like, hey, I don't know. I was like all of my feelings
and I was like, I don't like the way you looked at me when I
asked for the appointment, I'm just letting, you know, I don't
want to work with you anymore and so you can email them.
Here's the thing though. My therapist was a great
therapist. And they were like, no Shawnee,
you can't email me. I'm gonna call you about your
email that you sent me and I ignored it.
And she left me, this really beautiful message and she's like
I'm hoping that you will allow me to explain myself and let's
talk about it and you actually not get charged for it.
I want to give you a free session to talk about this and I
was like, oh wow, you really care about this and essentially
what it came down to it, they explained to me how they're
scheduling was going, and they had never had anyone ask, well,
can I just get a reoccurring appointment?
And so it threw them off. It wasn't that they didn't want
to make it. They were just trying to process
how to handle that. That and we ended up continuing
to work past that rupture and it ended up being really great.
So, I say you can email, but I say knowing why?
Because if I would have just sent that email and not
responded to the voicemail, I would have been without a
therapist but the therapist took the time to explain to me and I
was like, okay, so I don't need to end so you can email.
Another thing is talked about in your sessions, but if you're
sitting there with your therapist, the therapist can
handle constructive criticism. And feedback.
So if you're just like, hey, I just want to let you know, this
isn't working for me. The therapist can help you
figure out what isn't working. Is it that their purpose is
style? Because, here's the beautiful
thing therapists are ethically required to give you referrals.
So if you tell your therapist, this isn't working for me, and
this is why that therapist can offer you referrals to help you
find a therapist that may be working with sticks.
The leg work out of it. Yeah, I think also, you are
using a lot of really great skills to be able to have that
tough. Ocean and set that boundary and
whether it's a phone call, or an email or in session, you're
doing the therapy work, just in that.
When you have them on the other side of the couch, or the table,
or whatever it is, who is really, hopefully very effective
and has a lot of experience using these skills.
Be your building that muscle of having tough conversations,
setting boundaries and advocating for yourself which is
something that's really cool. And I think worth celebrating if
you can set that boundary and make that shift, yeah, and
advocate for yourself. Do I think it's also effective
communication skills where I feel like we've just become this
society. That doesn't really want to tell
people how we feel about the relationship that we are in with
them that therapist. If you are seeing that therapist
that is a therapeutic relationship.
It requires work from you and also the therapist.
So if you're like anything is not working.
Talk about therapy in therapy. Yeah, yeah.
Well, I love that for listeners who want to continue to consume
your content. You have a book coming out and
just continue to follow along with you, where can they find
you? So I always say, it depends on
what you want to find. If you want more of sort of the
straightforward, mental health content.
You're definitely can find me over on Tick.
Tock, if you want more of, sort of a personal insight to not
just mental health content, but my life, you can find me on On
Instagram because that's where I like to hang out with stories.
And then of course if you were just trying to navigate therapy
in general, you can purchase the book, dope therapy, where books
are sold Barnes and Noble Walmart, what is that big
amazon? Which literally can guide you
through? How do you find a therapist
questions to ask a therapist to see if they're a great fit, how
to do the work in the session understanding trauma kind of
break up with your therapist and there's exercises in the book
too. Be able to help guide you on
your journey. I love it.
Well, thank you so much for joining me today.
I'm so excited. We got to do this and I know
this conversation is going to be so helpful for so many people.
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