1 00:00:00,100 --> 00:00:02,600 Welcome to, she persisted, I'm your host CD son. 2 00:00:03,100 --> 00:00:05,100 Every Friday. I post interviews about mental 3 00:00:05,100 --> 00:00:08,000 health, dialectical behavioral therapy and Teenage life. 4 00:00:08,700 --> 00:00:11,000 These episodes break down my mental health Journey. 5 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,200 Teach skills to help you cope with life and showcase 6 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,200 testimonials from individuals, including teens, just like you. 7 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:19,000 Whether you've struggled yourself or just want to improve 8 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,800 your mental Fitness. This podcast is your inspiration 9 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:23,800 to live a life, you love and keep persisting. 10 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,100 This week's. DBT skill is self-soothing. 11 00:00:27,100 --> 00:00:29,600 I feel like we could all use a little bit of self soothing in 12 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:31,700 our Lives. Right now, this feels pretty 13 00:00:31,700 --> 00:00:33,700 straightforward. What you are doing, is you are 14 00:00:33,700 --> 00:00:36,300 soothing emotionally, using your five senses. 15 00:00:36,500 --> 00:00:39,100 So I'll give you some examples. So for touch, maybe you're like 16 00:00:39,100 --> 00:00:41,300 patting your talk or you're putting on a really comfy 17 00:00:41,300 --> 00:00:43,200 blanket. And maybe you were getting a 18 00:00:43,208 --> 00:00:46,400 massage, getting your nails done taking a hot shower, all of 19 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:50,200 those kinds of things for Taste. Maybe you are baking your 20 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,100 favorite treat or you're drinking a relaxing tea. 21 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,200 I'm having a smoothie things that are soothing and enjoyable 22 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,300 for you for smell. Maybe your lighting your 23 00:00:59,300 --> 00:01:03,100 favorite All using your favorite lotion going outside and like 24 00:01:03,100 --> 00:01:05,500 smelling nature or you're drinking your favorite cup of 25 00:01:05,500 --> 00:01:09,100 coffee for the smell. Also, for taste for hearing, 26 00:01:09,100 --> 00:01:12,500 maybe you're listening to music a podcast, a book, all of those 27 00:01:12,500 --> 00:01:14,800 kinds of things. Maybe you are really leaning 28 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:19,600 into the quiet and unplugging independently being outside and 29 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:22,100 just listening to The Sounds around you. 30 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:27,400 Foresight you maybe are watching your favorite movie reading a 31 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:31,200 book that you love people watching tons of different ideas 32 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:32,900 here. But whatever is soothing for 33 00:01:32,900 --> 00:01:36,500 you, one of my favorite tips for this is to beforehand come up 34 00:01:36,500 --> 00:01:38,300 with a list of what works for you. 35 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,500 So that when you really need to self-soothe and self-care, you 36 00:01:41,500 --> 00:01:45,300 know, exactly like which candle to grab our which tea works for 37 00:01:45,300 --> 00:01:47,800 you and what movie to watch rather than being like. 38 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,100 Okay, I need to know. I need to self-soothe right now 39 00:01:50,100 --> 00:01:52,200 but do I take a hot shower or do I take a cold shower? 40 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:54,100 Do I go out? I do I stay inside. 41 00:01:54,300 --> 00:01:55,800 So figure out what works for you. 42 00:01:55,900 --> 00:01:59,200 Make a list in your phone, on a piece of paper, whatever works 43 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:02,000 and have that as your go-to for when you are feeling 44 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,700 overwhelmed. Hello, hello, and welcome. 45 00:02:04,700 --> 00:02:08,900 Back to she persisted, I am out of quarantine, my voice is back. 46 00:02:08,900 --> 00:02:12,900 I'm so excited for this episode. Our Guest today is Fe o soltera. 47 00:02:12,900 --> 00:02:15,700 She is a mindset and manifestation coach and she also 48 00:02:15,700 --> 00:02:17,900 hosts a podcast called the Manifest at it. 49 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,800 This conversation goes, literally everywhere we talked 50 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:24,200 about her journey overcoming childhood Emma, we talked about 51 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:26,300 the coaching client relationship, we talk about 52 00:02:26,300 --> 00:02:28,000 manifesting and really breaking down. 53 00:02:28,300 --> 00:02:31,000 What that is, all these Buzz words, you've heard like angel 54 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,700 numbers and all that kind of stuff that I know you've seen on 55 00:02:33,700 --> 00:02:35,900 Tick-Tock because I've seen it as well, we talked about 56 00:02:35,900 --> 00:02:38,100 misconceptions, the manifesting world we talk about 57 00:02:38,100 --> 00:02:40,000 spirituality. We talk about how mental health 58 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:43,100 and manifestation intersect, and really dive into subconscious 59 00:02:43,100 --> 00:02:45,100 programming. And then we also touched on how 60 00:02:45,100 --> 00:02:47,900 raised relates to manifesting. This is just such a good 61 00:02:47,900 --> 00:02:50,500 conversation and it's one of my favorites that I've done in a 62 00:02:50,500 --> 00:02:53,600 while. So, as always You enjoyed this 63 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:57,100 week's episode, make sure to rate and review on Apple podcast 64 00:02:57,100 --> 00:03:00,600 and on Spotify share with a friend or family member. 65 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,800 And if you guys want to follow along with FES, she says it at 66 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:07,400 the end, but her Instagram is at FES Holter. 67 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:12,300 EFI ASU, lter underscore, same thing for tick, tock, and our 68 00:03:12,300 --> 00:03:17,900 website is FES Holter.com. So with that, let's dive in. 69 00:03:17,900 --> 00:03:19,700 Thank you so much for joining me today on. 70 00:03:19,700 --> 00:03:22,500 She persisted, I'm so excited to have you on the show. 71 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,800 Thank you. I'm so excited to be here and to 72 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:27,600 get into our discussion today as well. 73 00:03:27,900 --> 00:03:30,500 Yeah. So I want to hear your story. 74 00:03:30,500 --> 00:03:33,100 I want to hear how you got to the point of doing the work that 75 00:03:33,100 --> 00:03:37,000 you are now and working in manifestation and and hosting a 76 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:39,700 podcast and all of that. So, so talk to me about your 77 00:03:39,700 --> 00:03:41,400 journey. I think the thing about my 78 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:44,300 journey is that are so many points that feel like beginning 79 00:03:44,300 --> 00:03:47,300 points, but it'll kind of like loops around, which I'm sure is 80 00:03:47,300 --> 00:03:50,200 the case for many people story. But for me, I think it really 81 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:55,000 began in my childhood That I had a bit of a different upbringing 82 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,200 from other people. I was in the care system and I 83 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:02,400 was adopted at age three and I had a really, really beautiful 84 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:05,700 kind of normal issue as normal as your life can be as a kid 85 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:10,800 growing up and I lived with My adoptive mother until I was 14 86 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,800 and which point she unfortunately passed away due to 87 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:17,600 a long-term illness. And so really at that point, in 88 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:19,600 fact, not even at the point that my mom passed away. 89 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,500 But from as early, as 10 was, when my life really began to 90 00:04:22,500 --> 00:04:24,600 change. Change because my mom was 91 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:28,100 gradually declining and her help and they went from that position 92 00:04:28,100 --> 00:04:32,200 artists like being a normal kid and living a childhood to 93 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:36,100 Growing Up incredibly quickly and inside of that we had also 94 00:04:36,100 --> 00:04:39,400 grown up Butters. So I feel like in many ways my 95 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:42,300 childhood was different to the childhood of my peers. 96 00:04:42,300 --> 00:04:45,000 My mom was kind of spiritual had crystals around the house, they 97 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,100 like dial-up, Tony Robbins compasses. 98 00:04:47,100 --> 00:04:51,600 So for me, as an adult going into spirituality and becoming a 99 00:04:51,608 --> 00:04:54,000 manifestation coach Not that much of a reach. 100 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,000 But it was, it definitely wasn't something that I always knew I 101 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,700 was going to do. And I feel so many of the 102 00:04:58,707 --> 00:05:02,900 experiences I had in my own childhood and the importance of 103 00:05:02,900 --> 00:05:06,200 the people I had in my life, who mentored me outside of the 104 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:09,800 traditional family roles, apparent roles had a huge impact 105 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:13,400 on the person I am today. And so in the work that I do, I 106 00:05:13,407 --> 00:05:16,300 know the importance of people like that. 107 00:05:16,300 --> 00:05:19,300 And I think something which is often not really sure I heard 108 00:05:19,300 --> 00:05:22,200 about the, what I find to be so beautiful about the coaching 109 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:23,900 relationship. Up is that you can have friends. 110 00:05:23,900 --> 00:05:27,000 You can have family members but we don't always have entirely 111 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,300 honest discussions with people and it's not because we don't 112 00:05:29,300 --> 00:05:31,700 love them that we're not having honest conversations but it's 113 00:05:31,700 --> 00:05:33,900 because we love them so much that we don't want to have an 114 00:05:33,900 --> 00:05:36,900 honest conversation. And so when you hire a coach 115 00:05:36,900 --> 00:05:40,000 like I you're not paying me to be your best friend. 116 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:43,600 Like I love you and I care about you and that's why we are going 117 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:45,800 to have a relationship where I'm going to help you see what your 118 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,600 blind spots are. And we may even have some 119 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,000 difficult and challenging conversations inside of that. 120 00:05:50,100 --> 00:05:52,400 But that's because number one, that's what you're paying me 121 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:53,400 for. Number two. 122 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:56,600 Like that is how we get that true growth is by Illuminating, 123 00:05:56,600 --> 00:06:00,400 what's in the blind spot so that we can fully become the most 124 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,200 Integris version of ourselves. Yeah, I love that. 125 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,200 And I think that's so true. And I think there's also 126 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:08,600 something really beautiful about having like a third party that 127 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,000 you can go to once a week. Once a month, whatever it is, 128 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:15,900 and really just like let things go and invent and get those 129 00:06:15,900 --> 00:06:18,800 emotions out, and then not have to like, not deal with the 130 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,700 repercussions, but it's not like you are complaining to your mom 131 00:06:21,700 --> 00:06:24,000 and then every three Times. Three times a day. 132 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:25,600 You see her. She's like, how's that situation 133 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,600 going? Like I've already moved on, I 134 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,100 wanted to talk about it once and then just continue on with my 135 00:06:30,100 --> 00:06:32,100 life. So it's such an amazing thing to 136 00:06:32,100 --> 00:06:35,800 have someone that you can, it can talk to and open up with and 137 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:40,900 get like professional support from Yeah, I totally agree and I 138 00:06:40,900 --> 00:06:43,500 love the example that he's there but it's true and you know, if 139 00:06:43,500 --> 00:06:45,200 you've ever thought about a friend and they're in a 140 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,000 relationship and you're like, yeah he's a great and you know, 141 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,300 they keep taking them back and you have to just be there and 142 00:06:50,300 --> 00:06:52,700 support them because that's what a friend is for. 143 00:06:52,700 --> 00:06:55,700 So the relationship is different, although you may feel 144 00:06:55,700 --> 00:06:58,100 like you have that friendliness inside the relationship. 145 00:06:58,100 --> 00:06:59,900 Obviously, you don't want to work with someone that you don't 146 00:06:59,900 --> 00:07:03,100 like, but it's different and I think it's a beautiful thing. 147 00:07:03,500 --> 00:07:06,700 Totally. So manifestation is a huge buzz 148 00:07:06,700 --> 00:07:09,200 word right now. I feel like Tech talks on my for 149 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:12,700 you page or talking about manifesting and goals, break it 150 00:07:12,707 --> 00:07:15,700 down for us. What does it mean to to manifest 151 00:07:15,700 --> 00:07:19,000 something? At a very basic level to 152 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,900 manifest? Something is to make something 153 00:07:21,900 --> 00:07:23,600 real, to make something tangible. 154 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,800 So to take something from an idea to something that you can 155 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,800 experience in your 3D reality. Something you can part 156 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:33,000 something, you can see something that it's like, not just 157 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:36,000 existing in your brain is the process of manifestation. 158 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,100 So we're all manifesting all the time. 159 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:41,200 I'm but as a manifestation coach, I'm helping people bring 160 00:07:41,500 --> 00:07:44,300 more of an awareness to their subconscious programming. 161 00:07:44,300 --> 00:07:48,000 So that they can reprogram it to be more success. 162 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,900 And I don't just mean success in, like, monetary or tangible 163 00:07:50,900 --> 00:07:53,800 outcomes, but also in the way that you feel and so our 164 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,400 subconscious programming is so so important for the way that we 165 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:01,200 live our lives and not enough people know about it and we you 166 00:08:01,207 --> 00:08:03,100 know if you've ever had this idea and you're like yes this 167 00:08:03,100 --> 00:08:05,200 way when I have this one attract and then you say all these 168 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,300 things and you're like wait but why isn't it happening? 169 00:08:07,500 --> 00:08:10,100 Is because Divide percent of your life is run by your 170 00:08:10,100 --> 00:08:12,400 subconscious programming. Your subconscious programming 171 00:08:12,700 --> 00:08:16,200 informs everything. And so for me inside of my work 172 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:18,900 is very important for me to add some of the context and Nuance 173 00:08:18,900 --> 00:08:21,200 that's missing from the manifestations face which as you 174 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,200 say on Tick-Tock. And by the way I'm also in 175 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:25,500 Tick-Tock I love to talk. I'm on there all the time saying 176 00:08:25,500 --> 00:08:28,800 but there's only so much you can say in a three minute videos. 177 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:32,700 So it's very important to me that I am helping to empower 178 00:08:32,700 --> 00:08:35,799 people through the lens of like what manifestation is what 179 00:08:35,799 --> 00:08:38,100 manifestation isn't and adding that context back. 180 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:41,700 To some phrases or some ideas that you're seeing online that 181 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:43,299 their own just not quite fully though. 182 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:46,000 Yeah, no, I think that's so true. 183 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:50,100 Going to the subconscious belief systems and subconscious beliefs 184 00:08:50,100 --> 00:08:52,500 that people hold are there common ones? 185 00:08:52,500 --> 00:08:55,600 That lots of people are operating by that are just 186 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:58,100 creating huge blocks, or is it super subjective? 187 00:08:58,100 --> 00:09:01,100 And everyone is has different belief systems that they're 188 00:09:01,300 --> 00:09:04,600 utilizing. I think there were many common 189 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:08,800 limiting beliefs mindset blocks that appear in different ways, 190 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:12,000 but I don't want to only attribute it to beliefs because 191 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,400 beliefs is just one small part of what your subconscious 192 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:16,300 programming is. We also have your identity, we 193 00:09:16,300 --> 00:09:18,100 have your trauma, we have your lived experience. 194 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,400 And so obviously every person is completely different in that 195 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:22,600 respect. But Justin limiting beliefs, I 196 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,100 believe that there are there are many similar ones like fear of 197 00:09:25,100 --> 00:09:27,500 success, fear of failure, fear of what other people are going 198 00:09:27,500 --> 00:09:29,700 to think that we many people have. 199 00:09:29,700 --> 00:09:31,000 But they may present differently. 200 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,800 Yeah. No, I I think that's true in it 201 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,400 completely impacts how you're interacting with the world, what 202 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:39,500 relationships? You're diving into what 203 00:09:39,500 --> 00:09:42,100 different career paths, or education paths, you're 204 00:09:42,100 --> 00:09:44,500 pursuing? And I think that's very true. 205 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,300 What are some different ways to manifest? 206 00:09:47,300 --> 00:09:50,900 I know there's probably endless different examples but are there 207 00:09:50,900 --> 00:09:53,900 common ones that you like to implement and use with clients? 208 00:09:55,100 --> 00:09:59,200 I think it depends on where they're at in their spiritual 209 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:03,500 journey and what specifically they want to manifest. 210 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:05,000 And so, I'll give you an example. 211 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:08,300 Yesterday, on Tick Tock, someone asked me for advice with 212 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:10,800 manifesting custom friends know, like, can you give me some 213 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,100 affirmations to manifest and Browns from like all? 214 00:10:13,100 --> 00:10:15,600 Yes, I could give you some affirmations to manifest and 215 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,200 friends but also it depends like what your current mindset is 216 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,200 around manifesting friends. Like I don't want to give you 217 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:24,100 this like advice without context and so the advice I gave them 218 00:10:24,100 --> 00:10:26,000 when it came to mind. Surround the rather than just 219 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,900 like an affirmation, like I have friends. 220 00:10:27,900 --> 00:10:30,300 Now I have a friend group, which is probably not going to do much 221 00:10:30,300 --> 00:10:31,800 of that. Feels super far away for you 222 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,800 right now was to think about the kind of relationships that they 223 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,800 wanted to have into the script on and write on those kinds of 224 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:41,000 relationships. And then most importantly is to 225 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:43,200 take actions based off of those relationships. 226 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:46,100 And so when we talk about relationships, I think the piece 227 00:10:46,100 --> 00:10:49,500 that's often missing is like, yes be really clear on like the 228 00:10:49,500 --> 00:10:52,000 people that you want to try out and have in your life but also 229 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,400 like are you nourishing yourself in those He's like, oh, I want a 230 00:10:55,408 --> 00:10:57,300 person who's going to this and there's nothing special with 231 00:10:57,300 --> 00:10:58,900 romantic relationships, like okay. 232 00:10:58,900 --> 00:11:00,100 But are you doing all of those things? 233 00:11:00,100 --> 00:11:01,900 Are you cooking for yourself or you treating yourself? 234 00:11:01,900 --> 00:11:04,000 Are you saying nice words and loving on yourself? 235 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,900 And we have to treat ourselves the way that we expect other 236 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:09,400 people to treat us as well. And I'm not saying like, I don't 237 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:10,800 believe you can't. No one's going to love you 238 00:11:10,808 --> 00:11:12,000 unless you love yourself, that kind of thing. 239 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:14,400 I don't believe that but I believe it's important that 240 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:17,300 we're not just external izing or needs to other people in that. 241 00:11:17,300 --> 00:11:20,400 We are fulfilling our selves. So when it comes to manifesting 242 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:23,200 something, I think getting really clear on it. 243 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:25,400 And then also noticing like, Okay. 244 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,200 Are the actions? 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I'd love to kind of learn more. 277 00:12:57,500 --> 00:13:00,700 So, for me, manifestation is absolutely synonymous with 278 00:13:00,700 --> 00:13:03,100 spirituality because the relationship that you have with 279 00:13:03,100 --> 00:13:08,500 the universe and that's not to say that if you are Christian or 280 00:13:08,500 --> 00:13:10,200 any other religion, that is not going to work as well. 281 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:12,200 Like, I think it's very personal to the individual. 282 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,900 But for me, the way that I practices is through the lens of 283 00:13:14,900 --> 00:13:18,500 spirituality in that part of the manifestation process is 284 00:13:18,500 --> 00:13:20,600 communicating with the university guides, your higher 285 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:24,600 self angels to make the reality that you want to happen happen. 286 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,500 And so why I said it depends where People are on their 287 00:13:27,500 --> 00:13:29,800 spiritual journey as because personally, I'm not of the 288 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:32,700 belief that manifestation happens overnight. 289 00:13:32,700 --> 00:13:34,600 And if you see someone saying like I might have something in 290 00:13:34,608 --> 00:13:38,600 24 hours or instant manifestation, I think that it's 291 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:43,200 important to say that we do the building blocks of mindset work. 292 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:45,500 And once we've done those building blocks of mindset work, 293 00:13:45,500 --> 00:13:48,000 it may be quicker for some things to happen in that, it 294 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,600 looks like something happened in 24 hours, but it's actually 295 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:52,800 because, like, of all the groundwork that you've laid up 296 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,000 until that point. And so, it's like, when you hear 297 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:57,700 people say, like when you're freelancing, Charge by the hour 298 00:13:57,700 --> 00:13:59,900 because you're not accounting for all the skills that you've 299 00:13:59,900 --> 00:14:01,500 learned. I've actually allowed you to now 300 00:14:01,500 --> 00:14:04,000 complete something quickly, and it's just the same for 301 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:06,700 manifestation is like, so if your other Minds that you just 302 00:14:06,700 --> 00:14:09,200 getting beginning with mindset manifestation, where I can at 303 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:11,800 the moment, your mindset is like it's really hard to manifest 304 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:12,900 things. I don't think I'm a very 305 00:14:12,900 --> 00:14:15,800 powerful powerful Manifesto if I just was like, okay yeah, here's 306 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,900 your affirmation to manifest, your friends and you're still in 307 00:14:17,900 --> 00:14:19,600 the mindset of like it's going to be really hard and 308 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:21,500 challenging then it's not going to change. 309 00:14:21,500 --> 00:14:24,300 Whereas if you were the mindset like yep, I know I'm a super 310 00:14:24,300 --> 00:14:26,500 powerful manifest error. I'm like, ready to take action 311 00:14:26,500 --> 00:14:27,600 on. Do I need to do? 312 00:14:27,700 --> 00:14:29,900 I just need some affirmations to support me because I'm like 313 00:14:29,900 --> 00:14:31,300 feeling creatively challenged at the moment. 314 00:14:31,300 --> 00:14:35,300 That's a different story. Hmm, you mentioned angels. 315 00:14:35,300 --> 00:14:38,000 I feel like angel numbers are another thing that are blowing 316 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:40,700 up right now. Walk me through those, what they 317 00:14:40,700 --> 00:14:44,400 mean, what they can symbolize and, and some common ways that 318 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:47,700 those are implemented and either you like your daily life or your 319 00:14:47,700 --> 00:14:50,300 clients. So, there are so many angel 320 00:14:50,300 --> 00:14:51,500 numbers. I absolutely don't know. 321 00:14:51,500 --> 00:14:54,600 Every single one of my heart may be on its own brother that but I 322 00:14:54,600 --> 00:14:57,700 will talk to you about science and so You see at University, I 323 00:14:57,708 --> 00:15:01,100 studied semiotic switch is the study of Science and I think a 324 00:15:01,100 --> 00:15:04,500 piece that isn't really talked about when it comes to signs is 325 00:15:04,500 --> 00:15:07,200 why I don't advocate for my clients to ask for signs. 326 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:09,500 Either is because I believe when you ask for a sign your 327 00:15:09,500 --> 00:15:11,500 externalize, in your decision making process in, you're 328 00:15:11,500 --> 00:15:13,500 putting your power somewhere outside of yourself. 329 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:16,900 That's not to say that don't use signs, but the way that I 330 00:15:16,908 --> 00:15:19,000 encourage people to use them are different. 331 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:23,100 So, instead of, if I meant to leave this relationship, Give Me 332 00:15:23,100 --> 00:15:24,500 A Sign. Or if this is the job for me, 333 00:15:24,500 --> 00:15:27,100 give me a sign. I encourage people to to use 334 00:15:27,100 --> 00:15:30,200 those signs as like nonce and confirmations that you're on the 335 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:33,200 right path and those nods and confirmations are going to show 336 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:36,000 up differently. And so for me, when I'm 337 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:39,800 manifesting money, a signal to me that I'm on track to hit my 338 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,200 money goal is if I see money on the ground, it doesn't matter if 339 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:44,400 it's $2 $1. If I see money on the ground, 340 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,100 that's assigned to me that I'm on track with my money goals. 341 00:15:47,100 --> 00:15:48,600 Does that mean the same to everyone else? 342 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:52,500 No, but I've chosen for that to be a sign that signals that to 343 00:15:52,500 --> 00:15:54,400 me. And so we get to choose like, 344 00:15:54,500 --> 00:15:57,600 okay this is going to Signal this to me, but Only call on 345 00:15:57,600 --> 00:15:59,000 that. Like if I don't see the money on 346 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:00,500 the ground and that means I'm not going to him. 347 00:16:00,500 --> 00:16:01,900 Go broke. Because markets. 348 00:16:01,900 --> 00:16:04,000 Yeah, exactly. That's just like a nice to me. 349 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:05,100 Like, keep going on the right path. 350 00:16:05,300 --> 00:16:09,800 You know, that kind of like it's like a helpful presence rather 351 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:13,400 than like I need this to know. Hmm. 352 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:19,400 So would you say that you'll numbers like, you are at first 353 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:22,400 like talking to yourself and saying, okay, this is a signal 354 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:26,100 that I will look for and then that's when it has meaning or is 355 00:16:26,100 --> 00:16:28,300 it. Not attached to setting it at 356 00:16:28,300 --> 00:16:31,900 intention initially. So with angel numbers, angel 357 00:16:31,900 --> 00:16:35,400 numbers already have, like, kind of more prescribed meanings than 358 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,000 just like a random. I don't know. 359 00:16:37,008 --> 00:16:40,100 Whatever people uses signs like an animal or a guide, right? 360 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:42,400 But angel numbers have more prescribed meetings. 361 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:45,800 So for example, 1111 is a signifier that whatever you're 362 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,300 thinking about this moment. In time, your desires are 363 00:16:48,300 --> 00:16:50,100 manifesting quickly. So, to be aware of what you're 364 00:16:50,100 --> 00:16:53,900 thinking at that moment, I'm 333 is like this, change is coming. 365 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:56,600 555 your angels and your Masters are near you. 366 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:59,900 So I don't, I don't ask to see those into numbers, but when I 367 00:16:59,900 --> 00:17:02,100 see them throughout the day, I'm like, oh okay, I'm been seeing 368 00:17:02,100 --> 00:17:04,500 1111 lot. Recently, was I saying, okay, 369 00:17:04,500 --> 00:17:06,900 like have I been thinking things are conducive to what I want to 370 00:17:06,900 --> 00:17:08,800 manifest. So if you're seeing Angel 371 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:12,000 numbers that can be like a okay, let me just look into this and 372 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:14,000 see, like, what, what am I being called to? 373 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:17,500 So it's more, like your angels are guiding you and your signs 374 00:17:17,500 --> 00:17:19,400 are a signifiers. You're on the right path. 375 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:21,000 Yeah. Yeah. 376 00:17:21,300 --> 00:17:24,200 What are some common misconceptions that people hold 377 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:27,900 about manifesting, and it's Into spirituality. 378 00:17:29,300 --> 00:17:31,700 I think some common misconceptions are. 379 00:17:32,500 --> 00:17:34,400 I think there's two kinds of misconceptions. 380 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:37,700 There's misconceptions that come from people who are very far 381 00:17:37,700 --> 00:17:39,500 removed from the space and are just like yeah. 382 00:17:39,500 --> 00:17:43,000 All of this is BAS and it just seems completely unrealistic and 383 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:46,400 then we have also misconceptions that come from within this space 384 00:17:46,700 --> 00:17:48,500 and so I'll give you one of each. 385 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:50,300 So misconception that might come from outside. 386 00:17:50,300 --> 00:17:52,800 The space is like it's BS. It doesn't work. 387 00:17:52,900 --> 00:17:57,200 No, it's just not possible whereas, you know, manifestation 388 00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:00,500 is not just spirituality but it's Combination of spirituality 389 00:18:00,500 --> 00:18:03,200 science and strategy. So when we talk to people about 390 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:07,000 like in the manifestations base, about rewiring your brain, 391 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:09,400 that's not BS. There's like you're changing 392 00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:12,600 your neurological systems by repeating positive affirmations, 393 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:15,400 or by doing the belief work. You are actually changing. 394 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,100 Not only the way that your brain works, but you can actually 395 00:18:18,100 --> 00:18:20,500 recode your DNA that way through epigenetics. 396 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:24,100 And so that's on one side and then on the other side, for 397 00:18:24,100 --> 00:18:26,500 example, the expression, thoughts become things again. 398 00:18:26,500 --> 00:18:28,900 This is one of those things as kind of moss context. 399 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,700 As it's going around the internet, and yes, thoughts do 400 00:18:32,700 --> 00:18:36,000 impact how you manifest? But they're not the only thing 401 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:38,500 because they're just one small piece of your subconscious 402 00:18:38,500 --> 00:18:40,100 programming. And your subconscious 403 00:18:40,100 --> 00:18:44,000 programming is also your beliefs traumas, identity, and so many 404 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:45,900 other layers. So if you're just focusing on 405 00:18:45,900 --> 00:18:49,400 thoughts, what might happen is it can become disempowering 406 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:51,800 because any time you have a negative thought you're like, oh 407 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:54,400 no, it's going to manifest and for me as someone who 408 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:58,200 experiences a different mental illnesses, one of those is like 409 00:18:58,300 --> 00:19:00,200 as a result of mine. I'll have intrusive thoughts. 410 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:02,200 If I thought, every time I had an interest with thought I know, 411 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,900 I'm like, actually gonna grab a policeman's gun, and I'm gonna 412 00:19:04,900 --> 00:19:08,500 like, she's someone like, that's just not helpful to anyone. 413 00:19:08,800 --> 00:19:13,000 So, when we say, thoughts become things, I think the idea behind 414 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:16,100 it is like, let's look at how a belief is formed. 415 00:19:16,100 --> 00:19:18,400 And if we go down to the core of how beliefs are formed, as 416 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:22,500 through thoughts, thoughts, thinked, I don't know how to say 417 00:19:22,500 --> 00:19:26,900 it, but I thought I thought that you think numerous times, right? 418 00:19:26,900 --> 00:19:30,000 And you really believe that to bats how it allows into belief 419 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:33,400 and then when we have something that we're believing, so truly 420 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:34,800 then it becomes more than a belief. 421 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:36,500 It becomes part of your identity, right? 422 00:19:36,500 --> 00:19:39,800 So what were really saying is like just watch the trajectory 423 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,100 of your thoughts. If it's something that you are 424 00:19:42,100 --> 00:19:45,100 thinking of a repeated period of time, that's making you feel a 425 00:19:45,108 --> 00:19:47,600 certain type of way, that's what we want to have an awareness, 426 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,100 but a negative thought in the day-to-day is certainly not 427 00:19:50,100 --> 00:19:52,700 going to ruin your life. Yeah, II. 428 00:19:52,700 --> 00:19:54,900 Think that's so interesting. And I really liked what you 429 00:19:54,900 --> 00:19:57,400 touched on there. Because I think there's 430 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,100 definitely like a dialectic between Queen having negative 431 00:20:00,100 --> 00:20:02,600 thoughts and them not necessarily like, becoming a 432 00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:05,800 huge part of your life. And then there's that, having 433 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:08,700 those thoughts that then become beliefs, that then become part 434 00:20:08,700 --> 00:20:10,500 of your identity. And I think that's something 435 00:20:10,500 --> 00:20:13,000 that really holds true with mental health, a lot of 436 00:20:13,300 --> 00:20:15,600 different challenges, whether it's with depression, or 437 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:20,600 self-esteem, or anxiety, come with believes that you are like, 438 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:23,200 not wrong, but you, you're struggling. 439 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:24,500 Like, that's a belief that you hold. 440 00:20:24,500 --> 00:20:27,200 That's just part of your identity if it's like 441 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:28,900 self-esteem, maybe it's that you're not good enough. 442 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,200 Enough. I remember I was holding beliefs 443 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:34,900 that I wasn't like good enough that I wasn't deserving of Love. 444 00:20:34,900 --> 00:20:38,600 That treatment wasn't going to work for me and I always go back 445 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,600 to this moment when I started residential treatment and when 446 00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:45,400 one of my doctors asked me, he was like, do you want to be 447 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,700 here? Do you believe this is going to 448 00:20:46,708 --> 00:20:49,700 work? And I was like, no, it's not 449 00:20:49,700 --> 00:20:50,900 going to work. I've tried it before. 450 00:20:50,900 --> 00:20:53,700 Like I meant to be depressed, just how I am. 451 00:20:54,100 --> 00:20:57,100 And he was like okay that's great but that's not like you 452 00:20:57,100 --> 00:21:00,400 can be here for 14 weeks for Eight weeks, however, long 453 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,600 enough things going to change. So I think it's going to shift 454 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:05,400 and up until that point, I really had been living by the 455 00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,700 beliefs, and the identity that I was just a depressed person. 456 00:21:08,700 --> 00:21:10,600 I was meant to be this way. This is what my life would 457 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:13,100 always look like, and it was only once I shifted that that I 458 00:21:13,100 --> 00:21:15,600 did see the changes and in my lifestyle. 459 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:18,900 So I would love to kind of hear your perspective on how those 460 00:21:18,900 --> 00:21:21,700 two things are connected manifestation, and mental 461 00:21:21,700 --> 00:21:25,000 health. I think that we can't have a 462 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,500 conversation about manifestation without also having a 463 00:21:27,500 --> 00:21:30,800 conversation of Mental Health. Especially when it affects so 464 00:21:30,800 --> 00:21:33,600 many people. And I think that meant just 465 00:21:33,600 --> 00:21:37,400 because you have mental illness, does not mean that you then 466 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,300 can't manifest or any type of illness for that matter. 467 00:21:40,300 --> 00:21:44,200 But I think what we should be aware of is the way that it 468 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,200 impacts the way that we manifest it obviously. 469 00:21:46,900 --> 00:21:50,700 And as I've someone who has also experienced depression, there 470 00:21:50,700 --> 00:21:54,500 can be, it can go two ways in one that can kind of give you 471 00:21:54,500 --> 00:21:56,700 hope and feel like you can change your situation, there's a 472 00:21:56,708 --> 00:21:58,800 lot of change. And then another way, if maybe 473 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,000 If I say I'm here about it and then you're also hearing like 474 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,200 thoughts become things, you're thinking well, I'm screwed 475 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,000 because like the way that I feel about myself right now is not 476 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,900 conducive to light changing my reality. 477 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,700 And so what I would say is, you know, obviously I'm not a mental 478 00:22:11,700 --> 00:22:14,000 health professional so so if you're listening to this, that's 479 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,900 just my my disclaimer. And say yeah, yeah. 480 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:20,800 Is that to start with small things and know that it's 481 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:22,600 possible for anyone to change their reality? 482 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,000 The possibilities of their you've been doing it all your 483 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:28,200 life up until this point, maybe not necessarily consciously but 484 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:31,900 you do have of the power and the ability to do that based on your 485 00:22:31,900 --> 00:22:34,900 lived experience based on your traumas but some people is 486 00:22:34,900 --> 00:22:38,700 certainly going to be. It may feel more challenging and 487 00:22:38,700 --> 00:22:41,500 I don't want to diminish the way that you feel right now and say 488 00:22:41,500 --> 00:22:44,100 that your struggles don't exist or that depression is just a 489 00:22:44,108 --> 00:22:48,100 mindset block because it isn't but through things like learning 490 00:22:48,100 --> 00:22:51,200 how your subconscious mind works and how these thoughts have been 491 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,700 informing your life and what you're actually sitting with 492 00:22:53,700 --> 00:22:55,600 your identity. We can then do things like 493 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,800 Shadow work to peel back the layers and even things like 494 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:03,000 Therapy or working with a coach or working with whoever, even 495 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:06,000 working with your guys, endorse whoever to peel back the layers 496 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,400 and create an identity that meal feels more true for the person 497 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,600 who not only the person that you want to be, but who you truly 498 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,500 are underneath all those other things that build on top of it. 499 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:19,200 Yeah, I love that so much and I think there's something really 500 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:22,400 powerful but having a goal to work towards and you mentioned 501 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,900 kind of with the Friendship example writing down, what kinds 502 00:23:25,900 --> 00:23:29,400 of friends you want to have how you feel in your and chips what 503 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,800 your interactions look like. I think that can be true for a 504 00:23:31,808 --> 00:23:33,500 lot of mental health things as well. 505 00:23:33,500 --> 00:23:36,600 We get so stuck in our reality and we have our blinders on to 506 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,200 what our experiences are like and can be really difficult to 507 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:42,000 imagine how your reality could be different. 508 00:23:42,100 --> 00:23:44,600 So if you're really struggling, you're feeling depressed 509 00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,600 constantly, there's not a lot of things to look forward to 510 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,100 spending time journaling and getting really clear on what you 511 00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:52,700 want your life to look like, what belief systems are. 512 00:23:52,700 --> 00:23:55,300 You living your life by? What are your daily activities 513 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,000 look like? How are your relationships 514 00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:58,800 making you feel? How do you feel? 515 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:02,600 Cetera can be a goal to work towards and, and mental health 516 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,100 is is a really vague abstract thing. 517 00:24:05,100 --> 00:24:08,100 It can be so difficult to navigate because it's not like 518 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,700 there's an immediate easy and goal to be pursuing. 519 00:24:11,700 --> 00:24:15,500 But having some clarity there and being like, okay, I feel 520 00:24:15,500 --> 00:24:19,800 I've made progress if I am feeling depressed, only three 521 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,400 out of seven days a week, instead of 7 out of 7 or 522 00:24:22,408 --> 00:24:24,800 something like that, I think can be really powerful. 523 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,000 And I think that is another way that manifestation and mental 524 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:33,700 health can be / aligned, I also want to bring up the point that 525 00:24:34,500 --> 00:24:37,000 there are stages. There are levels to this, right? 526 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,600 And if you're a position right now where you feel depressed, 527 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:43,200 you feel like the world is just trash and you just like are 528 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:46,000 trying to get out of it for most people. 529 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,700 They're not going to jump from feeling super depressed. 530 00:24:48,700 --> 00:24:54,100 Her I can manifest the like I am on top of it and know that. 531 00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:59,200 That's okay you can go from everything as trash to Thing is 532 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,400 okay, you can go from everything is okay to hey I'm starting to 533 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,700 see the good moments you can go from him, starting to the good 534 00:25:04,700 --> 00:25:08,000 moment to mostly good moments actually some trash moments but 535 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,400 mostly good moments and it's okay to like move through the 536 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,100 levels rather than feeling like you need to go from 0 to 100 537 00:25:13,100 --> 00:25:15,300 because you most people especially if you experience in 538 00:25:15,300 --> 00:25:17,400 mental illness, that's not realistic and it's just going to 539 00:25:17,408 --> 00:25:18,800 make you feel worse about yourself. 540 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,800 So rather than jumping from okay. 541 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,100 Like and by the way like especially when you are 542 00:25:24,100 --> 00:25:26,300 experiencing depression for anxiety, may be slightly 543 00:25:26,300 --> 00:25:27,100 different. But especially when you're 544 00:25:27,100 --> 00:25:30,500 experiencing depression is like If not overwhelming yourself 545 00:25:30,500 --> 00:25:33,800 with like radical change because then you're just going to stay 546 00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,100 depressed and then feel worse about yourself and not changing 547 00:25:36,100 --> 00:25:38,700 so quickly. So like small bite-sized 548 00:25:38,700 --> 00:25:41,600 manageable things are going to make you feel slightly better. 549 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,000 It's actually better for the long run because it's going to 550 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,700 compound and eventually change the way that you feel in a much 551 00:25:46,700 --> 00:25:49,600 more sustainable way because what we don't want to do is dip 552 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,800 into the danger of dangerously High highs, and dangerously low 553 00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,000 lows and like swing between the pendulum of the to. 554 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,900 It's better to feel more neutral special if you're getting out an 555 00:25:57,900 --> 00:26:00,600 intense state of depression, By my opinion, it's better to feel 556 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,000 more neutral than like feeling. Like if you're not in that high 557 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,000 high, you're failing. And so for me I used to have 558 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,700 this belief that all I wanted in my life. 559 00:26:07,700 --> 00:26:10,300 I did a few things I wanted in my life after my mom passed away 560 00:26:10,300 --> 00:26:13,600 and I'd experienced a really intense period of grief during 561 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,300 this time because not only had my mom passed away, but six 562 00:26:16,300 --> 00:26:18,500 months after that, my grandmother passed away and a 563 00:26:18,508 --> 00:26:20,700 year after that, my friend at school had passed away. 564 00:26:20,700 --> 00:26:23,900 So, I'd seen around me was, like, death in grief, and 565 00:26:23,900 --> 00:26:27,200 because I had previously been in the care system that meant that 566 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,300 my sister my brother and Why we became orphan because we didn't 567 00:26:30,300 --> 00:26:32,000 have any family left of that point. 568 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:35,800 So all I wanted was to be normal and to be happy to be normal and 569 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,600 to be happy. And so, when later my life, I 570 00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:41,100 began to realize I was experiencing depression. 571 00:26:41,500 --> 00:26:44,600 I felt really bad about myself because I wasn't feeling happy. 572 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,900 And so what I don't want to do is for anyone listening to this. 573 00:26:47,900 --> 00:26:50,400 Be like, well, if I'm not thinking positively, or if I'm 574 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:52,700 not being happy, then I'm not going to create a life that I 575 00:26:52,700 --> 00:26:53,900 want. That's not true. 576 00:26:53,900 --> 00:26:56,200 We all have moments. And for some people, those 577 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:59,500 moments may feel like they last longer, but Thing that always 578 00:26:59,500 --> 00:27:02,200 helps me to feel really. Anchored is knowing that whether 579 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,600 I'm in like crazy out of a world amazing moment or I'm in the 580 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:09,000 like tragic, really sad moment is like this is a moment, this 581 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,600 is not forever, this is not a lifetime and while we can visit 582 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,700 the challenges, we can visit the difficult moments. 583 00:27:14,700 --> 00:27:18,800 We don't, we don't live there. And so in terms of building 584 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:22,100 blocks, if you are in a challenging period right now, 585 00:27:22,100 --> 00:27:25,300 just think about like what is the minimum viable thing that 586 00:27:25,300 --> 00:27:27,100 you could do? Is it like writing one thing 587 00:27:27,100 --> 00:27:29,800 that you're grateful about each day and Not just about like your 588 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,300 external experience or like one thing that you love about 589 00:27:32,300 --> 00:27:36,200 yourself, or one thing that made you smile today, can you 590 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,100 tomorrow? Make that two things, you know 591 00:27:38,100 --> 00:27:41,200 or can you meditate for five minutes and just finding small 592 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,800 things to make your way of living better? 593 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,500 And then you'll notice that you actually increase your capacity 594 00:27:47,500 --> 00:27:49,900 to hold more. Yeah yeah. 595 00:27:49,900 --> 00:27:54,000 And I think The more conversations I have in the in 596 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,200 the mental health, the wellness space, whatever. 597 00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,500 It is the more books I read, the more podcasts I listened to the 598 00:27:59,500 --> 00:28:04,000 bottom line is always seems to be consistency and it's those 599 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,400 small goals that you can be consistent with that. 600 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,300 Make the biggest difference and I struggle with what you talked 601 00:28:09,300 --> 00:28:12,900 about is as well with setting these really big goals and then 602 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,300 of course you fall short because they're not attainable, they're 603 00:28:15,300 --> 00:28:18,600 not possible to be consistent with and I had a therapist. 604 00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,600 One time told me it was a symptom of anxiety to That this 605 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:26,500 really overwhelming crazy aspirations and struggle to meet 606 00:28:26,500 --> 00:28:27,700 them. And then you get in that 607 00:28:27,700 --> 00:28:30,300 headspace of being like, why am I not capable of meeting this 608 00:28:30,300 --> 00:28:32,900 goal? I set one goal for myself and 609 00:28:32,900 --> 00:28:35,000 yet I can't do it. And yet that goal is 610 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,700 unattainable, maybe it's not but you're struggling to get to that 611 00:28:37,700 --> 00:28:39,400 point. Doing a smaller goals, it can be 612 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,800 kind of discouraging to think about your like okay, well I'm 613 00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,300 literally going to just do deep breathing for 30 seconds, a day 614 00:28:44,300 --> 00:28:47,100 like what anyone can do that, like why is that the goal I have 615 00:28:47,100 --> 00:28:49,300 to set for myself. But if you can do that every 616 00:28:49,300 --> 00:28:52,100 single day, over a long period of time, Time that consistency 617 00:28:52,100 --> 00:28:55,100 is going to be so much more meaningful than meditating for 618 00:28:55,100 --> 00:28:58,100 45 minutes once and then never doing it again. 619 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,400 And so I think that's really really powerful and I think you 620 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,700 said that really well. This week's episode is brought 621 00:29:03,700 --> 00:29:05,600 to you by saqqara. You guys have heard me talk 622 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,700 about them before, saqqara is a nutrition company that focuses 623 00:29:08,700 --> 00:29:11,200 on overall, Wellness, starting with what you eat. 624 00:29:11,300 --> 00:29:15,900 They offer plant-based gluten, free dairy, free delivery to 625 00:29:15,900 --> 00:29:17,300 your door. 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Our, I think that kind of goes 646 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:20,500 in line with getting out of our like blinders head space in our 647 00:30:20,500 --> 00:30:23,900 opening, Eyes to like what our lives can look like and getting 648 00:30:23,900 --> 00:30:27,400 inspiration from from other people's goals and aspirations 649 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:34,600 money, purpose, love, I think are the top three and yeah I 650 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:36,700 think inside of purpose, you know that might look like also 651 00:30:36,700 --> 00:30:40,400 business or Career Success or at least a deep sense of clarity in 652 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,700 those things as well. So I think for most people that 653 00:30:43,700 --> 00:30:48,200 it's about feeling more at home in themselves and then these 654 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,600 other things are supporting the way that they want to feel. 655 00:30:51,100 --> 00:30:54,900 I love that and I think it just speaks to how subjective all of 656 00:30:54,900 --> 00:30:58,000 this is like what one person wants and what makes them feel 657 00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,700 great. Might not make you feel great. 658 00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:03,600 And so even creating the space to get clear on what your goals 659 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,100 are. Whether it's in relationship or 660 00:31:05,100 --> 00:31:09,100 purpose or financially, whatever those are, you're not only 661 00:31:09,500 --> 00:31:12,200 creating thoughts that eventually can turn into things 662 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,200 but you are really getting clear in what that goal is and 663 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:20,500 starting to to pursue it. I would love to kind of hear 664 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:25,800 About the, I guess where the Divide would be, obviously, just 665 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,700 like sitting and thinking about something doesn't necessarily 666 00:31:28,700 --> 00:31:30,400 mean that it will come to fruition. 667 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,500 There's something really powerful about getting clear on 668 00:31:32,500 --> 00:31:35,100 what your goal is, and wanting to call it into action because 669 00:31:35,100 --> 00:31:39,000 it kind of gives you a place to be oriented to your putting more 670 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,200 Focus towards something than you would otherwise. 671 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,300 But are your things that you say to your clients, like, okay, 672 00:31:43,300 --> 00:31:45,700 like what goals are we going to set or what different markers 673 00:31:45,700 --> 00:31:49,800 you going to try to meet to make this a less abstract process? 674 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:54,200 Definitely I think there needs to be a declared degree of 675 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,700 clarity and certainty otherwise you don't know what you're 676 00:31:57,700 --> 00:32:00,400 working towards and then also how are you going to measure 677 00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,700 that you've actually made progress because we're actually 678 00:32:03,700 --> 00:32:05,400 making more progress than we realize? 679 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,400 But if we're not setting, these kind of markers is difficult to 680 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,400 look back and see that. So I typically work with my 681 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,000 clients inside a 12-month Mastermind and in that every 682 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,400 single month we have an intention setting workshop. 683 00:32:16,700 --> 00:32:19,200 And within those intention setting workshops we are 684 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:22,300 reflecting on the Month. And then we're intention setting 685 00:32:22,300 --> 00:32:25,400 for the month ahead. And there's a degree of clarity 686 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,600 around that in that the goals that were saying, do have some 687 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,900 systems that up around them. But also people are not like 688 00:32:31,900 --> 00:32:34,700 locked in by this is the only things I'm going to do because 689 00:32:34,700 --> 00:32:37,700 all that I've written down or that you know life happens 690 00:32:37,700 --> 00:32:40,100 things change and if they don't get everything done that they 691 00:32:40,100 --> 00:32:43,300 said they were going to do is not like well that sucks like 692 00:32:43,300 --> 00:32:46,300 you Stark and you're rubbish. It's just like okay let's look 693 00:32:46,300 --> 00:32:49,300 at why this actually happened and what we're going to do 694 00:32:49,300 --> 00:32:53,000 moving forward. So I for me, it's very important 695 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,600 to make the process of manifestation flexible because 696 00:32:56,300 --> 00:32:58,300 everything is changing. All of the time. 697 00:32:58,300 --> 00:33:00,400 We're changing all the time and life changing all the time, 698 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,100 external circuit starts the changing all the time. 699 00:33:02,100 --> 00:33:03,800 So we can't expect our process to be. 700 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,500 Just like, oh, I'm going to manifest the thing, the same 701 00:33:06,500 --> 00:33:10,100 way, every single time because we have seasons just as life as 702 00:33:10,100 --> 00:33:14,100 seasons. This might not be accurate 703 00:33:14,100 --> 00:33:18,200 whatsoever, but through this conversation manifestation 704 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:23,300 feels, I'm understanding it as spiritual intentional very like 705 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:27,300 insightful goal setting is that a complete misconception or we 706 00:33:27,300 --> 00:33:30,800 would you say that's kind of an aligned understanding of what it 707 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,700 what it looks like. Yeah, definitely an alignment is 708 00:33:33,700 --> 00:33:36,000 standing. I think, you know, whatever name 709 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:40,400 people want to give to it is the name that empowers them most and 710 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,000 if Station isn't quite resonating for you, but that's 711 00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:45,900 okay, but it really is about the process of bringing your dreams 712 00:33:45,900 --> 00:33:48,800 to life and and what tools resources and knowledge. 713 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,500 Are you going to use to do that to bring your extraordinary 714 00:33:51,500 --> 00:33:53,500 Vision to life? I love that. 715 00:33:53,500 --> 00:33:55,400 And I think that's really helpful for people to hear, 716 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,500 especially we talked about those two camps of the people that 717 00:33:57,500 --> 00:33:59,700 are, like, on the outside versus on the inside. 718 00:33:59,900 --> 00:34:02,300 And I think on the outside, like, the most common things 719 00:34:02,300 --> 00:34:05,500 that I have heard, whether it's on social media, or with, with 720 00:34:05,500 --> 00:34:08,500 friends, and family is it's like, well, like that's not 721 00:34:08,500 --> 00:34:10,699 going to do anything. If you just sit and think about 722 00:34:10,699 --> 00:34:13,400 something, Or you're just calling something into action, 723 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,400 but there's so much more to it than that. 724 00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,100 It's changing, your thoughts, your beliefs, your identity. 725 00:34:18,100 --> 00:34:20,600 It's making these goals, it seeing the progress you've made. 726 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:23,100 And I think this conversation Illustrated that very 727 00:34:23,100 --> 00:34:25,699 beautifully and really brought a lot of clarity there that 728 00:34:25,699 --> 00:34:29,199 there's so much Nuance that goes into this process. 729 00:34:30,500 --> 00:34:34,600 Yeah. Totally, you know that I have 730 00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:39,300 one final question which is are there things people that you 731 00:34:39,300 --> 00:34:41,699 see? I mean Tick Tock, again, the 732 00:34:42,199 --> 00:34:45,400 biggest forms of of information if you looks like where people 733 00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,600 are saying things are manifesting, but they're just 734 00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,199 like so off base and you're like, that's not what you're 735 00:34:50,199 --> 00:34:51,800 doing, that's not what's happening. 736 00:34:53,500 --> 00:34:57,500 I can't say that I've ever particularly come across. 737 00:34:57,500 --> 00:35:02,300 That what I will say though is, like, we do need to look at the 738 00:35:02,300 --> 00:35:04,300 lens of privilege that someone's coming from. 739 00:35:04,300 --> 00:35:07,200 So, if someone saying like, yeah, this was really easy for 740 00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,900 me to Manifest this. We also need to be aware of, 741 00:35:09,900 --> 00:35:12,300 like, okay, what were the systems that allowed them to 742 00:35:12,300 --> 00:35:14,600 manifest it so easily. So if you are beating yourself 743 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,000 up around things and then you're seeing someone who's coming 744 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,500 from, you know, maybe are privileged Able Body background. 745 00:35:20,500 --> 00:35:23,800 Then of course there may be Things that make it easier for 746 00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:26,400 them, but just because it's easier for them does not mean 747 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:28,300 that it's not possible for you to. 748 00:35:28,300 --> 00:35:32,000 And so when I talk about things like spiritual bypassing and 749 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:35,200 conversations around race and manifestation as well, it's like 750 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,400 these things exist. And it, you know, we can't just 751 00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,900 say like, oh well, you know, it's not spiritual to talk about 752 00:35:41,900 --> 00:35:45,600 these harder issues because it's absolutely spiritual to look at 753 00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:49,300 what we are experiencing as Souls on this planet right now 754 00:35:49,300 --> 00:35:51,600 in this moment, right? We can't just say, like it's not 755 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,000 spiritual too. About and just bypass very real 756 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:58,300 experiences for people or kind of diminish. 757 00:35:58,300 --> 00:36:00,700 Someone struggles, right? That's not fair and it's not 758 00:36:00,700 --> 00:36:03,300 right? But just because we have 759 00:36:03,300 --> 00:36:06,300 struggles and challenges does not mean that it's not also 760 00:36:06,300 --> 00:36:09,800 possible for us. And so I, you know, I do have 761 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,200 privileges within my own life, despite the fact that I did grow 762 00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,200 up in care, and I had a challenging upbringing, I'm very 763 00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:17,800 lucky now to like live somewhere. 764 00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,100 That's really beautiful and to have enough money to do the 765 00:36:20,100 --> 00:36:22,000 things I want to do in life was not always. 766 00:36:22,100 --> 00:36:24,700 Ways that way for me. And if I'd have just looked at 767 00:36:24,700 --> 00:36:28,800 the situation that I had in the cards hand of cards cards for 768 00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:33,700 pants, the hand I was dealt the hand, I was dealt, it would have 769 00:36:33,700 --> 00:36:36,500 been very easy for me to say, well like this is it and things 770 00:36:36,500 --> 00:36:37,900 are going to be a struggle. Things are going to be more 771 00:36:37,900 --> 00:36:40,700 challenging, but I acknowledge that things. 772 00:36:40,700 --> 00:36:43,000 Some things were potentially going to be more challenging for 773 00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:46,800 me and other people. And I also a manifesting, my 774 00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:50,500 reality, it's not an either or situation, I think that's huge 775 00:36:50,500 --> 00:36:52,000 and I think that's a big nuanced. 776 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,900 A lot of the time gets lost and this again. 777 00:36:54,900 --> 00:36:57,900 It's a buzzword, it's becoming a catch-all for many different 778 00:36:57,900 --> 00:37:01,900 forms of goal, setting and goal pursuing, and, and reaching your 779 00:37:01,900 --> 00:37:05,500 dreams, and all of these things, and we lose the insight into the 780 00:37:05,500 --> 00:37:08,900 process and how people got to that end goal, and we're all at 781 00:37:08,908 --> 00:37:11,400 those different starting points. And so, I think that is 782 00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,800 something that's really, really important to remember and to 783 00:37:14,808 --> 00:37:17,200 remind yourself especially when you're viewing other people's 784 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:20,100 Journeys, in any aspect of life, you mentioned in that the 785 00:37:20,100 --> 00:37:22,700 intersection of race and manifestation I would love to 786 00:37:22,700 --> 00:37:24,900 hear your thoughts on that. I know I said last question but 787 00:37:24,900 --> 00:37:27,100 now my interest has been piqued. How do you? 788 00:37:27,100 --> 00:37:28,600 How do you see those two intersecting? 789 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,900 So, as I mentioned earlier that so much of our manifestation 790 00:37:32,900 --> 00:37:37,000 prisons about 95% of the process is informed by our subconscious 791 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,100 programming. And part of the subconscious 792 00:37:39,100 --> 00:37:42,200 programming is maybe some individual thoughts that we have 793 00:37:42,300 --> 00:37:43,900 but also Collective thoughts that we have. 794 00:37:43,900 --> 00:37:46,800 So when you have things like internalized, oppression at 795 00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:50,100 play, you can't just say to a person of color or a black 796 00:37:50,100 --> 00:37:51,700 person like that. Yeah, I don't think that's like 797 00:37:51,700 --> 00:37:52,900 a real privilege. Well, I think that's just a 798 00:37:52,900 --> 00:37:55,900 mindset blog you have when it's actually societies block that 799 00:37:55,900 --> 00:38:01,100 has been enforced upon you and so to undo those layers, not 800 00:38:01,100 --> 00:38:03,700 only of internalized, oppression, but also 801 00:38:03,700 --> 00:38:06,400 generational trauma and what your ancestors are gone through 802 00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:10,100 the ancestral trauma. That is like deep powerful work. 803 00:38:10,100 --> 00:38:12,800 And sometimes, you know, you can't just throw like, oh, I'm 804 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,100 just going to say this thing. One time, I'm just going to do 805 00:38:15,100 --> 00:38:18,200 this practice to do animation every day and it's all gonna go. 806 00:38:18,300 --> 00:38:21,800 Yeah because like I believe like affirmations there are hugely 807 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,200 powerful. Powerful tool, but we also need 808 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:28,500 to be making sure that we are going to the layers below just 809 00:38:28,500 --> 00:38:30,400 saying something, on the surface level, which is why I love 810 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,900 things like hypnosis because that really gets to the root of 811 00:38:33,900 --> 00:38:37,200 much deeper issues. And so, yeah, inside of the race 812 00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,200 in manifestation piece. I know a lot of people will say, 813 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,800 well, oh, manifestation is only for privileged white people and 814 00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:45,000 that simply isn't true, but because that maybe typically, 815 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,300 the people that we're seeing online than we feel, like if you 816 00:38:48,300 --> 00:38:50,700 don't see someone who looks like you, you wonder if the space is 817 00:38:50,700 --> 00:38:52,900 for you, but this space, For everyone. 818 00:38:52,900 --> 00:38:57,200 And if you don't see someone who looks like, you know that you 819 00:38:57,200 --> 00:38:59,900 are welcome always. And that just because you don't 820 00:38:59,900 --> 00:39:02,300 see someone who looks like you doesn't mean it isn't possible 821 00:39:02,300 --> 00:39:04,900 for you even though there may be some additional challenges that 822 00:39:04,900 --> 00:39:06,400 you face. Yeah. 823 00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,300 And I think that goes back to kind of helping how you frame it 824 00:39:10,300 --> 00:39:13,000 mentally that works for you, like, for me thinking of it as 825 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:15,600 goal-setting, I'm like every single person ever has set a 826 00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:19,400 goal like it has achieved a goal that they've set whether it's to 827 00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:23,300 get out of bed in the morning, or to go to School today and 828 00:39:23,300 --> 00:39:26,000 that can make it feel more accessible and reachable and 829 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,700 possible intangible. And so I think the like 830 00:39:28,700 --> 00:39:31,900 education and curiosity and framing internally can also be 831 00:39:32,100 --> 00:39:34,400 be helpful with that, but I think that's something that's 832 00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,600 very true. And I think a lot of the ways in 833 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,400 which it's being portrayed on social media right now adds to 834 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,900 that narrative as well. I think this conversation is 835 00:39:41,900 --> 00:39:44,900 going to be so helpful for so many people and just provide so 836 00:39:44,900 --> 00:39:49,600 much insight and Clarity on on goal setting and and how our 837 00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,600 thoughts and emotions and beliefs can impact Realities, 838 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:55,300 which is something that's hugely relevant to mental health. 839 00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,200 If people want to continue to consume your content work with 840 00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,100 you Etc, where can they find you? 841 00:40:00,900 --> 00:40:05,500 So on Instagram and Tick Tock, I am at FES Delta underscore. 842 00:40:05,900 --> 00:40:09,600 I have a podcast, the Manifest edit podcast and I also have a 843 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,500 free training on the power of subconscious manifestation where 844 00:40:13,500 --> 00:40:16,300 I'm breaking down house of conscious manifestation actually 845 00:40:16,300 --> 00:40:19,300 works and kind of the different roles that your conscious and 846 00:40:19,300 --> 00:40:22,800 subconscious mind play Within that that will really Lee, add 847 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,500 some color to the way that you manifest and help that whole 848 00:40:25,500 --> 00:40:27,100 process. Be so much more streamlined, 849 00:40:27,100 --> 00:40:30,200 which you can check out by heading to a fierce ulta.com 850 00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,200 4/3, be awesome. Well, all of that will be in 851 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:36,100 today's show notes. And in social media, when I 852 00:40:36,100 --> 00:40:39,100 share this episode, but thank you again, for coming on. 853 00:40:39,100 --> 00:40:41,900 She persisted and thank you for having me. 854 00:40:42,100 --> 00:40:46,300 Of course, to recap, this week's episode Fe and I drove deep into 855 00:40:46,300 --> 00:40:49,200 her journey of overcoming. Childhood trauma of being 856 00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,700 orphaned, we talked about the value of the coach client. 857 00:40:52,100 --> 00:40:54,200 Chip. We talked about exactly what 858 00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,400 manifestation is. We went deep here and talked 859 00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,700 about all the different misconceptions and buzzwords. 860 00:40:58,700 --> 00:41:01,400 You've seen floating around the internet, like angel numbers 861 00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:04,500 signs overnight, manifesting, all of that kind of stuff. 862 00:41:04,700 --> 00:41:07,100 We talked about the importance of subconscious programming. 863 00:41:07,100 --> 00:41:10,300 How mental health, and manifestation, interact and how 864 00:41:10,300 --> 00:41:13,300 race relates to manifesting. And so much more. 865 00:41:13,700 --> 00:41:16,300 If you enjoyed this week's episode, please be sure to leave 866 00:41:16,300 --> 00:41:19,600 a review on Apple podcast and Spotify make sure that you are 867 00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:21,900 subscribed so that you don't miss any upcoming episodes. 868 00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:23,900 Thus Odes. And if you share on social 869 00:41:23,900 --> 00:41:26,500 media, tag me at a cheaper assisted podcast. 870 00:41:26,500 --> 00:41:29,400 And I will make sure to repost and give you a little shout out. 871 00:41:29,500 --> 00:41:31,900 So with that, thank you for listening and I'll see you next 872 00:41:31,900 --> 00:41:32,400 week.