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Do I reach out after a week or 
let her come to me? 

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What's the context? 
Was there another question? 

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Nope. 
Yeah, give us a little more 

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context. 
If you had a first date and 

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you're thinking about setting 
the second date, you can call a 

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couple days after the first 
date. 

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A week after the first date, Doc
Love would say wait 7 to 9 days.

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At the end of the day, the girl 
really likes you and you wait 7 

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to 9 days. 
She and she's nice and 

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easygoing. 
She's going to be happy to hear 

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from you either way. 
And if she's a screwball or a 

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lunatic, she can be pissed off 
and that's why you do those 

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things. 
That's why you wait. 

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The girl that likes you will 
like you more, but the fucking 

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nut job is going to blow her 
top. 

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So you want to find out as 
quickly as possible. 

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Though the book will bring out 
the best and the best and the 

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worst and the worst really 
quickly. 

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Because you don't want to get 
you don't want to waste your 

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time. 
You don't want to end up in a a 

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situation where you're slipping 
1 past a goalie with a nut job, 

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or a girl that's inviting 
attention from other men, or 

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even though she's pregnant with 
another guy's child, she's 

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having flirtatious sexual 
conversations with another guy. 

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Added more context. 
Been seeing her a month and a 

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half and she's brain dead from 
her teaching job with kids last 

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week. 
Cancelled our date Saturday as 

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she had plans with her girls. 
I said no worries. 

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Have run no contacts since. 
Yeah, she cancelled a date. 

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Doc Love, the late, great Doc 
Love would said one chance per 

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girl per lifetime. 
Somebody cancels a date and 

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blows you off. 
Oh, I'm going to go hang out 

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with my girlfriends instead. 
She's basically saying, yeah, 

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I'd rather not see you. 
I'd rather hang out with my 

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girlfriends and maybe I'll meet 
somebody else. 

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So if she cancels a date, even 
if she reaches out again, you're

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not going to ask her out, you're
not going to mention getting 

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together. 
You'll talk. 

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If it's text, you'll send 3 or 4
texts and then just say, hey, I 

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got to run, I'll talk to you 
later. 

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If she calls you, talk for 3 or 
4 minutes, say hey, it was great

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hearing from you, I got to run, 
I'll talk to you later. 

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And never, ever bring up getting
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she brings it up first and one 
or two things will happen. 

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She'll either bring up getting 
together or you'll never hear 

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from her again. 
So the fact that she cancelled 

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and blew you off didn't offer or
mention a reschedule Looks like 

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she's riding off into the 
sunset. 

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So when that happens you stop 
moving forward. 

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And especially if it if she 
cancelled a date, you're not 

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going to bring up getting 
together. 

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And if she does, hey I want to 
see you or sorry if I want to 

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make it up to you. 
Then invite her over to make 

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dinner at your place, hang out, 
have fun, hook up, and after she

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leaves, say call me later and 
don't call her. 

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She has to reach out to you. 
You got to let this girl do all 

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the reaching out going forward 
because it looks like you may 

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have screwed the pooch and she 
was just dipping because she 

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didn't want to see you. 
And since several days have gone

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by since the cancellation, you 
haven't heard. 

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That would tell me that her 
interest went the wrong way, and

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you probably need to get back 
into the book and figure out 

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where you went wrong. 
He said five days, no contact, 

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thinking it's the cat analogy. 
Yeah, it's not the cat analogy. 

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She blew you. 
She cancelled a date. 

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It's like a cardinal sin so that
she cancelled a date because her

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interest is low. 
This is again, This is why you 

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don't call. 
You don't text for any reason. 

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Even if she does reach out to 
you, she has to bring up getting

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together because if she reaches 
out and you make a date, there's

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a good chance in the coming 
weeks she'll cancel another 

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date. 
You want her wondering where she

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stands with you. 
You want her worrying that she 

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fucked up, because if she 
worries that she fucked up, 

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she's going to try harder, and 
that's what you want. 

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He's trying to give her the 
benefit of the doubt. 

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He said it it was a loose 
planned date. 

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Yeah, again, the book says you 
don't make maybe dates. 

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If a girl says, well, I might 
have to go hang out my 

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girlfriends and say, well, let's
make plans for a night where 

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you're definitely available and 
you can go hang out with your 

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girlfriends on Saturday and I'll
do something else. 

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So you communicated that your 
time is not valuable and that's 

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why she wasted. 
I think Liam added a little more

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context. 
Met a girl that works at a 

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Country Club. 
I'm 27, she's 22. 

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She works as a teacher 8 to 3:00
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10:00 PM Should I wait two weeks
to reach out or something? 

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That's the one that doesn't 
reach out. 

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Well, if you've been on five 
dates and you got to understand,

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it's like, are you guys sleeping
together? 

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Usually by the second or third 
date, once you start sleeping 

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together, she'll start reaching 
out. 

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So we're in the process. 
You are. 

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Did she reach out after the 
first date? 

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But she hasn't reached out 
since. 

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Was it the fifth date that she 
reached out? 

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So it really depends. 
You can wait a whole week. 

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You could wait 10 or 12 days to 
see if she reaches out. 

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Maybe you can give us a little 
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interactions, like when did 
after what date did she reach 

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out? 
I had a girl cancel a date for a

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family trip and a surgery. 
How would you handle it if a 

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girl cancels for legit reasons? 
Roast me if you need, I've been 

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watching you for over 10 years. 
Thank you. 

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Well, is that a first date? 
Was it date number 5? 

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Was it date #10? 
That's important, but I'm she's 

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got something to take care of 
like that. 

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Remember, you want to give women
the time and space to follow 

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through in their plans and 
commitments or to flake out and 

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disappear forever. 
So she really doesn't want to be

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with you and doesn't want to see
you. 

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And she's using those as 
excuses. 

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We want to make it easy for her 
to dip. 

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So when she tells you, oh, I 
can't make it, I got to do this.

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I got to do that. 
I was like, oh, no problem. 

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I was like, yeah, you got to 
take care of your body. 

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So, you know, hit me up, let me 
know when you're all healed and 

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ready to get back out and have 
have a good time and I'll be 

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praying for you. 
I'll say a prayer for you and 

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let me know how it goes. 
And then you never call or text 

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her again for any reason 'cause 
if she cancels the date, says 

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she's going to have surgery or 
whatever, and she says, oh, I 

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definitely will. 
And, and you never hear from her

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again. 
Well, then you know that she 

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really didn't want to see you 
again. 

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And that's OK 'cause that's 
going to happen. 

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You got to be OK with people not
choosing you because it's going 

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to happen more than people do 
choose you. 

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And you want the people that 
celebrate you and support your 

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life and want you to be happy. 
So tarot bap 847, what advice 

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would you have? 
I mean, I'm sorry I missed the 

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wrong 1 here. 
Brand 550 coach, if you're at a 

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social hour and see two women 
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one of them and she left before 
you got to meet her, is it smart

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to give your number to her in 
hopes that she'll pass it along?

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Well, I mean if she's ideally 
what you should be doing if you 

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see a cute girl and especially 
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you, you should go up and talk 
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Hey ladies, what are you guys up
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Where you headed tonight? 
What are you doing? 

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And spend a little bit more time
focusing on the friend that you 

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don't like and getting her to 
talk and open up and create 

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rapport with her. 
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her and the friend likes you, 
then start focusing on the girl 

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that you really like 'cause if 
you go and you ignore the friend

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and you only talk to the girl 
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getting rapport and you're 
basically creating a cock 

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blocker and a clam slammer who 
will basically torpedo your 

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chances with her. 
So in that case, if you see a 

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girl and she leaves, you can 
just walk up to her and, and, 

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and say you could do it one of 
two ways. 

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You could give her your number 
or you go. 

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Ideally what you want to do is 
you have control of it. 

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If the girl saw you and you're 
pretty sure she would would 

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remember who you were. 
You can go up to your friend and

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say hey sorry to to bother you 
but your friend was really cute 

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and I wanted to come over and 
talk to you guys and introduce 

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myself and get her number. 
But when I came back out from 

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the bathroom she was already 
gone. 

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And is she single? 
I'd really like to take her on a

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date. 
She's really cute and is she a 

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nice girl? 
Is she a great girl today? 

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You can also ask some questions 
about her friend and then just 

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say, Hey, I'd really love if you
wouldn't mind me to get get her 

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number And she says, well, I 
don't really want to give it 

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out. 
Then just say, well, let's 

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exchange numbers. 
And then you can tell your 

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friend and if she's interested, 
she can hit me up. 

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And if not, you can say, hey, I 
talked to my friend. 

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She thought you were fugly or 
whatever. 

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That's that's fine. 
But you got to at least shoot 

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your shot. 
If it's if the girl's already 

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gone, it's going to happen. 
But ideally you should have 

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pulled the trigger when she was 
there. 

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So the chances of that turning 
into something is kind of slim 

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to none. 
However, example that I remember

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somebody that was famous, Bob 
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some friends that set him up. 
And he was in this restaurant 

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and there was this really 
beautiful, stunning Hostess who 

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was like 2425 and he was in his 
mid 50s like me at the time. 

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And so the date didn't go well. 
And after he left, he walked 

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back to the Hostess stand and I 
think she had left for the 

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evening. 
And he told me he's like, hey, I

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was on a blind date. 
And it just did not go well. 

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But man, that Hostess was really
beautiful. 

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And I'd really like to take her 
out. 

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And I'd really appreciate it if 
you could, you know, get my 

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number to her. 
And so he left his number there 

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for her And obviously the 
Hostess, who she knew who he was

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and the girl was like, Oh my 
God, Bob Seger left his number 

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for you. 
And so she called them. 

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They went out on a date and her 
parents were, you know, were his

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age. 
They were kind of skeptical. 

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It's like, hey, you're, you 
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And and he met, he met the 
parents and talked to them. 

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As a matter of fact, her parents
became like some of his absolute

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closest and best friends. 
And so they ended up dating, 

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They end up getting married. 
They had two boys together, I 

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think, before he passed away a 
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he, you know, he had kids. 
And I think they were adults by 

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then. 
And he really didn't want any 

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more kids. 
But she was, you know, 25 when 

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they met. 
And I think when she got into 

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her early 30s, he's like, you 
know, it'd be selfish of me to 

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deny her the ability to have 
kids. 

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And so even though I'm older, 
I'm going to have kids with her.

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And so I think his kids were 
1214 years old when he passed 

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away. 
And everybody lived happily ever

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after until he croaked. 
Not Bob. 

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It wasn't Bob Seger it Kenny 
Rogers. 

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So I'm thinking it was my bad, 
not Bob Seger. 

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Bob Seger still alive. 
I keep confusing it too because 

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they kind of look alike. 
So it was Kenny Rogers. 

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Kenny Rogers was the one I'm 
talking about, not Bob Seger.