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I'm sure you met some guys in 
your life who were absurdly 

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successful with women. 
With the amount of experience 

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behind your back in coaching, 
what were the things that made 

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that guy so successful? 
I was a couple of friends of 

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mine in particular. 
I was actually talking last 

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night with a client about this 
and both these guys are very 

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popular, probably two of the 
most popular guys in my class 

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and I didn't know what they were
doing in high school, but I just

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remember we'd be out. 
It's like they were so bold that

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like one of them in particular, 
one of the things he always used

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to do was that like you say, 
there's like a pool party or 

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something like that, or a bunch 
of us are hanging out in a pool 

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or in a Jacuzzi. 
It's late at night. 

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He's got a couple drinks in him.
He's going to he's going to be 

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like, hey, why don't you take 
your top off? 

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Just like very nonchalant and 
internally I'm watching this and

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it's kind of freaking me out on 
the inside. 

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I'm feeling pretty uncomfortable
with that. 

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But he's got a smile on his face
and she's like, no, I'm not 

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going to do that. 
He's like, come on, maybe just 

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show 11 nipple. 
Just do that. 

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And then, you know, he keeps 
goading her and eventually she 

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starts showing a little bit of 
nipple. 

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Then eventually the top comes 
off. 

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Then eventually, you know, he's 
taking her home later that 

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night. 
And I would watch this and I, I 

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was mortified, you know, 
watching this because it made me

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feel uncomfortable. 
I didn't have the balls to do 

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that. 
But he got away with it. 

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And sometimes he'd take it a 
little too far and he would go, 

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I apologize. 
I'm, I'm, I'm a drunk. 

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I'm, I'm too drunk. 
I should have said that. 

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And then he would change the 
subject and everybody get 

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laughing again. 
And then a little while later, 

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he'd take another run at it and,
you know, get her to loosen up. 

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And, you know, both those guys, 
it's like they went off to 

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college, joined fraternities, 
played the field. 

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And so by the time they both 
came back after college was 

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over, they they had eaten at the
all you can eat pussy buffet. 

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And so they both settled down 
and got married. 

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And both of them are living very
happily ever after. 

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But I didn't understand at the 
time, but I had a lot of 

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memories of watching them do 
these things. 

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And the biggest thing was they 
were just bold. 

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They were willing to shoot their
shot and and make the 

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environment safe and dare the 
women to do things that they 

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normally wouldn't do. 
And it's like talking her into 

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doing what you want and talking 
her into being naughty. 

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And if you're not creepy about 
it and you're just joking around

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and having a good time, you're 
very masculine. 

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And he also said in a very 
determined voice where he's 

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almost like, tell her, hey, take
your top off. 

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I can't do that. 
It's like, why not take your top

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off? 
Release the twins. 

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Come on, it's a party. 
Let's have a good time. 

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And he would just keep saying 
things and she'd be laughing and

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she'd start looking at her 
girlfriend. 

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And then next thing you know, 
both of them got their tops off.

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So they're willing to do it, 
they're willing to say it, 

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they're willing to go into the 
danger zone a little bit and be 

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bold and brash. 
And sometimes, you know, the 

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girl didn't like it or wasn't as
receptive and she get upset. 

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Like what? 
No kiss just like that. 

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Like it was absurd not to kiss 
me and not to like me. 

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And sometimes that would get a 
chuckle and a laugh and a kiss 

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and they would walk away. 
And then a little while later 

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they would come back. 
And again, when I was younger 

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watching that, it was like it 
didn't make sense because it 

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initially looked like he pissed 
them off. 

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And then yet they would fucking 
come back. 

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Now as part of what I was 
starting to see, how women are 

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kind of like cats. 
It's like they want to see if 

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you're bothered by them walking 
away and leaving you hanging. 

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And we don't really give a shit 
in one way or another. 

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Most guys can't can't do that. 
And so it's rare for the average

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woman to come across a guy that 
behaves that way. 

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That's why it'll come back and 
go home with you. 

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One thing I firmly believe is 
that women are right about where

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are all the good men? 
Most men, not the 3%, are not 

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taking care of themselves, 
especially looks wise. 

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Just signals incapable. 
Again, 74% of all Americans are 

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overweight or obese. 
That's why if you're relatively 

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fit and in shape, you're going 
to get looked at. 

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You're going to get noticed. 
Even if you're an older guy like

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myself, it's the younger women 
are going to be checking you out

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because most people are out of 
shape. 

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And so if you just do that, you 
set yourself apart. 

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You're going to get noticed. 
But I remember growing up 

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hearing friends of my parents, 
we're all the good men. 

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It was in TV shows. 
It's not like that's not 

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something new. 
So I think it's always been that

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way. 
It's very rarely do I mean, 

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think about it, 3% of the 
American, the only 3% of the 

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American people are colonists, 
supported, fought in and 

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financed the Revolutionary War. 
Most people didn't want to be 

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bothered. 
So most people are not 

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interested in peak performance. 
Most people are not interested 

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in reading a book on dating or 
relationships or a book like 

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Mastering yourself on 
discovering your purpose. 

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Or just they'll say, I don't 
have time, I'm too busy. 

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I got to do this, I got to do 
that. 

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They just have low standards.