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And I feel like nowadays it's 
rare to meet a woman I'm 

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actually attracted to and I have
a pretty active social life 

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during the weekends. 
It's a pretty doing little 

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mindset, like just you think 
you're not going to find it, 

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you're not going to find it. 
You think it's so rare. 

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But I think if you actually look
for it and then you're right to 

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look for better places. 
Yeah, if you're, if you're 

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going, it's like, yeah, I 
remember when I was younger and 

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we, you know, we were bar flies.
We were always going out. 

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Every weekend we go to a place 
and there's a, it's a fucking 

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sausage parties, a bunch of 
dudes in there. 

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Like this sucks. 
There's no girls here. 

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We would go somewhere else and 
if there's a lot of cute girls 

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there, we'd hang out. 
And if there wasn't, we would go

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somewhere else. 
So it really depends on what 

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you're doing and where you're at
and what you like doing for fun.

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And if your heart is really in 
it, sometimes when you're not 

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100% there, you're everyone is 
like not good enough because 

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you're mentally like already 
closing yourself. 

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Off you. 
Got to be ready, willing, able 

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and open to dating. 
An avoiding guy discarded me 

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after we had a good time 
together for a couple of months,

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but we're in different cities 
later on. 

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Is there any way I can get him 
back? 

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I know he has multiple options. 
Yeah, if he discarded you, you 

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got to love yourself enough to 
walk away from that. 

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Rejection breeds obsession. 
Typically girls that grew up 

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with an absent father didn't get
enough hugs and I love yous. 

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You guys get hooked on dudes to 
treat you that way because it it

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feels very familiar. 
It feels just like your 

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relationship with your father, 
which was he was absent, he 

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wasn't around. 
So in that case you got to have 

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enough self-control to recognize
the dude doesn't want you. 

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He's not making the effort so 
trying to get him back is 

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pointless. 
He doesn't want you back. 

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Sounds like you were a booty 
call for a while and he moved 

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on. 
But you haven't. 

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You want to be with people that 
are excited to be with you. 

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Ever since I turned 36, I have 
women from high school and 

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college reach out. 
That never gave me a chance 

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before. 
Am I someone they decided would 

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settle with them? 
It has been more than 5. 

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Sounds like you've been 
listening too much red pill 

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retardation. 
Because that's what those guys 

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all say. 
Oh, she's just settling with 

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you. 
Well, maybe you levelled up. 

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And the other thing you got to 
consider, which none of those, 

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you know, moronic retards 
understand or even contemplate, 

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is people do grow up. 
People do mature people. 

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They get make a lot of mistakes 
when they're ignorant and 

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they're young and they don't 
know any better. 

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So as as girls go through life, 
you know, especially when 

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they're younger, they go with 
what they feel mostly. 

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They don't really. 
There ain't a whole lot of logic

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and reason in that. 
Then when they get burned and 

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they're heartbroken a few times 
and they continually attract the

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same kind of guy, they start to 
realize that part of what's 

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happening is, you know, how 
they're showing up determines 

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who they attract into their own 
lives. 

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And so if you got, I mean, 
that's pretty common, you know, 

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especially if you've only, you 
know, 36. 

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It's like I remember when I got 
in my early 30s, it's like I got

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way more attention from women 
than I had ever gotten. 

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Where is like when I was a 
teenager, my early 20s, it 

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almost seemed like I was 
invisible. 

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So you know, a big part of that 
I would say is you leveling up 

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and you take it as a compliment 
and you need a vet everybody in 

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your life on a case by case 
basis, not listening to these 

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idiots in the red pill community
that don't know their asshole 

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from a hole in the ground. 
You know, all their whole thing 

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is they didn't get chosen. 
They didn't get the pussy that 

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they wanted. 
Women are evil. 

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And let me try to convince you 
why they are. 

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Hang out with positive, 
optimistic people, not a bunch 

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of fucking losers that can't get
their Dicks wet. 

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Should there be a minimum effort
in a girl's out of the blue text

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before responding? 
Hey is one thing but just a 

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random thing without words or 
explanation. 

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That's the way they are. 
Hey, hey, that's like the number

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one pick up line. 
A girl. 

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Hey, at the end of the day, 
she's reaching out. 

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As soon as she's reaching out, 
she probably wants to see you. 

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If you already got a date set 
and she's sending a meme, you 

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can just heart it, you know? 
Especially if she's sending you 

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lots of stuff and you're busy in
and out of meetings during the 

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day. 
You don't have time to stop what

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you're doing and joke around. 
Just heart the message that 

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acknowledges that you saw it, 
but obviously you don't have 

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time to chit chat. 
Does anybody hate maybe new 

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Carolina or Anna? 
I don't know why if I sent a 

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meme to like somebody and they 
do like a thumbs up, I feel like

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it's just like there's no 
reaction to it. 

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It's like, OK, yeah. 
It's like, OK, I saw it. 

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It's like, yeah, I got it. 
Wasn't very funny. 

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Yeah. 
Do better. 

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Yeah, I'm like, OK, just. 
Doing nothing, so it's not bad. 

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You know, yeah, well if you do 
nothing, they're going to think 

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you're ignoring them, so you got
to at least acknowledge it or 

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heart it or lol it or something.
Yeah, no thumbs up. 

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Feel like that's an insult? 
What if a woman complaints that 

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you only call once a week to set
a date, then disappear until the

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next week? 
And when you tell her she can 

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text too, she says I'm the girl,
I'm not supposed to text. 

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Well, she says something like 
that. 

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I would say, well, that's not 
going to work. 

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You. 
You're just basically telling me

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you're not going to make any 
effort to reach out or be in 

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contact with me and I have to do
100% of work is like, no, I'm 

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I'm not. 
I'm not down with that at all. 

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So that just tells me that 
you're just very thirsty and 

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you're willing to put up with 
stuff that you should not be 

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putting up with. 
And so if if a girl won't text 

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you at all and has the attitude 
that it's the man's job to do 

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all that work because some 
feminist told her that, then 

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that's a structured woman and 
you should not be dating 

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structured women. 
It's right out of the book. 

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So why are you trying to date a 
structured girl? 

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And then you're bothered that 
she's doing structured things. 

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So she's not acting natural 
because if she's thinking about 

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you and she likes you, she's 
going to text you. 

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And it would make it really easy
to get together and see each 

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other again when she's got the 
attitude that men are supposed 

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to be the pursuers and they have
to do all the work. 

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And I don't do anything. 
That's a structured girl. 

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So she's got rules and routines 
around everything. 

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Like, it never gets any better. 
So I wouldn't waste my time. 

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But if you want to try to 
reinvent the wheel, that's on 

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you. 
You know you're just spinning 

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your wheels with that. 
So weird, like looking at Chucky

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Chucky's head, it's like right 
here. 

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It looks like you're just 
staring like right at me cuz 

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your heads like not moving. 
Really. 

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Yeah.