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And your mom? Welcome to the sesh.
You know what? Just.
Be happy with your where you're. At Yeah, just be happy where
you're at. Like, you know.
Well, and that's the thing that we're always thinking about
where we can be. A little bit better on this,
yeah. I'll be happier when I'll be.
Yep. Yeah, you kind of like all of
that after time, because what good does it do you?
It doesn't. It's just what creates all of
our stress and depression and anxiety and like frustrations
and that it's like all of those moments that aren't right here
that it's like, oh, but it's a human.
It's what we grow up in. And so it's what our we like so
subconsciously do is it's just like we get fucked.
We're always trying to protect ourselves.
It's it's just innate. It's constantly trying to
protect ourselves. I don't know man, like didn't
been contemplating a lot about people getting along and that's
fair how often we we look for those differences to argue
about. Yeah, not the similarities.
Never. Not finding not.
Not recently. Are commonalities but like
finding the differences and arguing over them?
Like just making it such a you and a me or an us and a them
instead of commonalities like you said.
Well, it's like, I mean, I don't.
Yeah, I'll say it. So in these verses they're
talking about if your eye offend thee, then pluck it out.
You know, if your foot offends you, cut it off.
And and what it means is, is that why are you letting
everybody else offend you? Why are you letting them bother
you? I mean, is it really affecting
you? Well.
'Cause we choose. We choose to be.
Obsessed. Yeah, That's all offense is, is
a choice. It's like, oh, I chose to be
offended by that. Well, why did we choose to get
offended by that? What was it about that that we
are choosing to be offended by? You know, my counter is in my
head to to block out all of these, like immediate, like if
somebody's going to be really mean to me or rude to me, Yeah,
I just tap into my Adam Sandler. I think about that movie.
Big Daddy was so funny, like they he had this roommate was
Jon Stewart. I wiped my own.
Ass. No, no, no.
The party goes. The the woman, she's over there
she goes, We ruined the good surprise on you.
And he goes. Hey.
You know, he's just like, I don't give a fuck.
Yeah. And this is like, that's the way
I started thinking about it. Like, I'm only offended by what
I see because I choose to be offended.
Yeah. I'm only offended by what I can,
what I can engage with, what I hear because it's what I choose.
I don't need to be offended. I can, I can stand up for
people. I could be good to others.
I could be a good example. But I don't need to be this
person who's always upset. And I, I think it's a lot of,
it's just somebody has an agenda to get done.
And usually by the manipulation. Like my wife and I were talking
a few nights ago about she goes, it was one of those high
moments, you know? And she goes.
I wonder. I wonder who started eating the
first eggs for breakfast? Right.
Yeah, and it's the British, you know, why not?
But it was funny because started looking at.
She goes, well, what made it popular?
And I said, well, Edward Bernays did.
And she goes Edward Bernays. I said, yeah, In the United
States, Edward Bernays, in the early 1900s, he was hired by a
baking company, a ham company that makes bacon.
And they're like, we got to sell this bacon, but we don't know
how to sell it. So he came up with every morning
eggs and bacon. And not only did that, but he
got a bunch of doctors to verify and say that this is a healthy
thing. Now, in retrospect, it actually
is a very healthy thing. It's fats, it's protein.
It's good for you. But at the time, it wasn't a
staple. They wanted it to be popular.
Yeah, well, it's like the milk campaign or any of the other got
milk. You know, all of those things.
They're also just really strategic marketing campaigns a
lot of the time. Well, they have to.
Be. Yeah.
And then you can't just you. Know it's funny you were talking
about Scripture verses and as I was, I don't know, off and on in
my head over the last several days.
There's sorry. You're good.
I told you man, yeah, just make a cough.
Fucking turps. I've just had this like since
finding out I've had things in my head over the last week or so
I guess probably. Like on Total Recall, like you
have a tracker inside your brain?
Yep, you have to stick this thing up to your nose, no?
No, just like thoughts and stuff.
And I know I was like, you know, a scripture popped in my head
and I thought it was kind of funny because I have church
hymns. Oh yeah, church hymns, Primary
song. Shit like that pops in my.
Head randomly all the time. Me too, multiple times every
week. And so it was just funny because
sitting there and I was making the bed and in my head I was
like, you know, but I guess just if I don't forgive her or that
and hang on to it, it really just affects me.
And most of the time in my head, it was like that, like, oh, you
know, remove the, the beam from your own eye before you go and
try and remove the sliver from your brother's eye.
And how often are we so critical of someone else going, oh, they
did this or this or this or oh, look at this, that they're
doing. And yet we do so much shit on
our own. We do so many things.
And it's like, but yet we are so hyper critical of like, oh, but
they did this, you know, And I'm like, oh, but it was
interesting, 'cause I'm like, well, how many times do we
actually, when we see something else that someone else is doing,
how many times do we look at it and go, I've done that.
I wonder what's? Going on or you, you think, you
know, you did it, but you keep criticizing 'cause you're just
like, yeah, how dare you, how dare you?
Yeah. And it's so, it's so ridiculous,
this person, this. Motherfucker, what the fuck,
dude? And then you're like, wait, I've
done this exact same thing. That was me years ago in another
exact same. Moment.
Yeah, It's like a pious person condemning somebody for
pornography when they're over there jacking it every night.
Yeah. To their favorite only fan.
Star Oh, how dare they. But it's, it's so because we're,
we're taught it's like this dude, like recently, my wife's
always kind of like she's kind of shocked sometimes where like
I'm so open, even on the show about my iniquities.
And one of them was like yesterday.
She she's like, hey, I want to have a conversation.
And I'm like, OK, yeah, let's do it.
And I know it's not, I know it's something that she's having a
hard time coming to do with because she's worried of how I'm
going to react. Yeah.
And she called me out on like, you know, hey, like you're just
kind of just in this standby mode and we need help in this
house. She's like, I need you to get a
job like anywhere, like gas station something.
She's like, because I can't do this.
And it was like, it was really cool for her to do that because
she was able to speak up and she was just like bracing for
impact. And I said, that was probably
really difficult for you to say to me.
And she's like, it was. And I'm like, all right, I
appreciate you telling me that. And yeah.
And it was good and it was good, dude, because it, what it did
for me was it got me reinvigorated.
And. And The thing is, I could have
been offended by it. Yeah.
He'd be like, oh. Who the fuck?
What do you want me? To Do you know that it's usually
what happens? Yeah.
Like when you get called out you feel like upset.
Even in moments like how many times is it hard for us to
approach our partner or a friend or someone to have even in a
hard like so it shouldn't have been hard for me to tell Emily
that conversation. It shouldn't have, but it
actually was. It was really hard for me.
And I didn't tell her and I think it was the next day, but
it was because that whole day was crazy and stuff.
And then I was like, hey, can I tell you something?
And of course, that made her a bit nervous because she was
like, I, yeah. Usually it's a negative.
Yeah, but it was like, yeah, I don't know how to say this.
Worcestershire, yeah. Yeah, that's it.
That's exactly right. I think she might have said she
was like where? Something I was like, Oh yeah.
But. When I laugh about it.
Sarcasm and humor is how I function and and in
uncomfortable situations. That's definitely how I
function. I will make a joke because it
just it lightens the mood and sometimes you just need that
when things are really. Shitty need a break?
Hard and you're like OK, things are still OK we can still have
this hard conversation but like all right, like it's OK.
But you know even that one and I was surprised because she was
just fine with it She didn't like it wasn't her thing was
like Oh my God, I'm sorry. But for me it was something that
like I was having a difficulty approaching sharing that or like
doing. That wow, yeah, that's hard,
dude. It was weird.
That's really hard. But I, I know there's lots of
people who struggle with that too, or like, oh, I really, I
struggle with opening or sharing or having a difficult
conversation, you know? Well, it's understandable.
I mean, again, it goes back to your childhood where you know
you will be, you'll be lectured and you will be told, but you do
not have an opinion. Yeah, we got talked at often.
Yeah, you didn't have a conversation with you like, hey,
what's going on? Like what's underneath the
surface with this And it's it's really difficult, dude.
Did you get? A lot of conversations growing
up. No.
OK, I, I was like, I don't, I don't know.
A lot of kids like are age older.
A lot of people, I guess adults who have, who grew up with that,
who grew up with parents who are very conversational, discussing
like, hey, let's talk this out. You know, well, if you think
back from like, the Great Depression era, Oh yeah, it's
just gotten less and less. Abrasive.
Stoic. Yeah.
Because people just dealt with it.
It's like, it's like a consistent pain like you have
with your back and my knee. Yeah, once it's chronic, it's
your existence. It's all you know.
Like so it's just there and when it's not there you're like.
Like holy shit, that's. Neat, all right.
And the next day? Like the times that I smoke
something incredible or I have like a really good edible and
I'm like, holy shit, I don't have any pain right now.
Like that is this amazing miracle, but then it comes back
and I'm like, oh hey, welcome back.
Right. Yeah.
It's so frustrating, but at the same time, man, I'm like, I'm
the one that can decide how I feel and that I had an argument
that you remember that woman, Valerie.
Yes, very. Much did I tell you, she reached
out to me again. You did.
For no, no, no, just like recently, recently.
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, within the.
Last couple weeks or something, those guys who had that cannabis
documentary or show. Oh.
Yeah. Like Pawn Stars.
Yeah. But with cannabis, it's OK.
I'm just. Yeah.
Anyways. But when Valerie and I were
having a conversation, I was telling her about this is a long
time ago and this is something that I felt then, but now I've
confirmed it more. And I said, well, my son, one of
my sons, Xander had a really bad problem with temper.
And I was like, well, you're the one who decides if you're upset
or not. You're the one who could be
angry. No one can make you angry.
And she disagreed with it. And I said, well, how do you let
somebody else offend you? And she goes, well, they know
how to push your buttons. And they said that.
And I said, yeah, but you're the only one who takes offense.
Yeah. Like if you don't take offense,
it's really it's you got to pull in the Adam Sandler.
I just want to respond. If somebody goes, you know,
Jesse, you're a real fucking asshole, All right?
That's what I want to do now. It's going to be the Adam
Sandler, all right? Because it diffuses it.
And I laugh. It's just like, whatever, like,
you know, I think you're kind of an asshole.
Yeah, there are hard days, you know?
Like, what do you, what does that other person do you like?
You know what? I think you're a real fucking
prick. Hey, we're all entitled to our
opinion. So Addie had a really hard.
Oh yeah. Time at school, there was a kid
who was, I think really has a lot of struggles going on
mentally right now and I don't think their parents are helping
them navigate that in the best way.
And they probably don't know how to.
No, I don't think they do. And that's, but how many parents
do? And so I've seen, I've been
seeing that with Addie because she was like, hey, my this
friend is blaming our friend group, blaming us because they
are feeling depressed or sad. And so they're saying, oh, and
they brought a knife to school and tried to cut off their
finger in class and blamed that sadness or depression on that
friend group going, Oh, you guys only pitied me and brought me
into the friend group out of pity.
You didn't. You don't want to actually be my
friend. But yeah, Addie loves her and
cares about her just as like any of her other friends.
She's just like, right. She's 12.
She's like, I don't know how to navigate helping someone in the
with these struggles right now. And I'm like, that make sense?
Because even as adults, how many of us know to how know how to
help navigate or help someone else navigate those types of
struggles in those moments sometimes?
Well, it's, you know, a lot of it has to do with and, and I
wouldn't even say generational because I think it's just humans
in general. It's and you can blame
technology and all that one, but that's just a cop.
Out. I think it's just the hard
discussions because mental health isn't a big discussion.
A lot of it like, you know, depression, anxiety, mental
health in general, or are you having suicidal thoughts or self
harm thoughts like things like this, They're not common
conversations that we're having most of the time, you know?
Well, if you saw Australia made it illegal for any child under
the age of 16 to have social media.
And I think that's. Fantastic.
I think it's great too, because a lot of it it's, you think
about now like what's, what's 1 of the common problems that
they, these children have on social media And that's online
bullying. But I don't think it's online
bullying. What I think is, is that they
want to have some type of collective, a group of people
that understand them and like them.
And when you post something on social media and you start
getting parts from friends and family or randos, then you're
like, oh, I feel validated. I feel loved.
And then you get one motherfucker and there that goes
a troll. Yeah, you just like, hey, you
got a pig nose. And they go all of the good shit
that was told about them just goes away.
And it's the problem is, is that there's you're not going to be
validated by going on social media and saying, I'm having a
difficult time. And other people thought, don't
worry child, you know you're going to be OK.
Well, it's not a healthy spot for social media is not really a
healthy spot anyway. If you're struggling, if you got
really bad mental health, I don't think it's the place we
should be. But but again, what?
Why are they going there? It's because they need.
They're looking for validation. They.
Need connection. Unity.
They want someone because most of us in those moments are
feeling alone. We don't know how to talk about
it. No, we don't, let alone face to
face. So we can make jokes about it or
whatever online and someone else like goes, oh, they comment and
that because that resonates with them, because they're also
broken, fucked up and struggling in their own way just like the
rest of us. Yeah, totally.
And they're going, oh, hey, that's funny.
That's me too, you know. That's why that stoic man is
stoic idea is pretty prevalent with these older.
I mean like even I mean my generation, I am older.
I mean, I'm almost 50 and so and when you have like these
individuals, not necessarily that have grown up with trauma,
but they just grew up the way they grew up.
And it, it wasn't trauma, it was the way it is.
Like when I was at a table of this networking event, I said I
grew up in a time where my kids called it really abusive.
I know it as the 80s and they all started laughing and I'm
like, yeah, I mean, yeah. And they all laughed because
they're just like, yeah, I got my ass beat.
But it's never like ass beat. Like it's always like, yeah, I
got my ass beat. Oh yeah, no, we make like, we
make jokes all the time about getting paddled by my dad, about
the wooden paddle that he would have.
Like all of this stuff. We make jokes about it now
because like, yeah, we got our ass beat then.
But that was. But I didn't leave scar.
I didn't. And, and The thing is, is that
once you are left alone and other people who don't know you
are trying to give you validation.
It's wolves in sheep's clothing, man.
Like you don't know what that like.
I can't even trust anybody to talk to my kids online because I
think they're going to try and fuck them.
You know what I mean? Yeah.
I don't want my, my, my 15 year old son.
He's like, I want Instagram. I'm like, oh.
Why? What does he want that for
though? Well, because he sees his
cousin, his cousin's always on there.
And I said look at your cousin right now.
He's not happy. No, he's always depressed.
Everything is negative. Even then, it's like, I
understand they want to have it, but I look at how many people
have it and I'm like, what is Instagram?
Well, if you're not posting, you're not creating, you're not
doing. You're there to to just.
It's just another platform to binge, to view, to, to get.
To get dopamine. Yeah.
So what is the value you're gaining from that dopamine?
Is there more value on YouTube or something?
Because they're already going to get these things.
What value do you feel you're going to gain from Instagram?
Because there's nothing there that I feel they're truly going
to gain. Well, The thing is, is go with
with the a plan into there because like I found myself
yesterday cruising YouTube. OK.
Total and mindlessly so I was just like, OK, I'm going to cut
myself off. I'm going to have like a YouTube
fast. I'm not going to look at YouTube
at all today at all because I'm just like, what am I doing on
there anyways? I'm not learning anything.
I'm just looking for things to keep me entertained.
Like I can tell you all about Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively
just because it randomly pops up and I'm.
I'm high as shit last night and I'm like, and I'm like, what am
I doing? Yeah, I don't care about these
people. My other night, like I got I got
bored. I was, I tried playing a game
for a few minutes and I was like, I'm not in the mood for
this. So I put on Top Gear and I was
watching that and I'm just sitting there.
I'm like, but I don't want to just sit here.
So I went and grabbed my laptop and I sat down and I was like,
well, how hard is it to design an app?
Could I code an app? Could I do this?
So I sat down and I was just bored fucking around and I
started coding an app and. That's what I did till 11:00 and
then I was like I'm exhausted. I was like 2-3 nights ago and
then I went and passed out. But like I just, I haven't found
my mind going on doom scrolling as much and I think it's because
I've taken social media and made it just work.
So I'm no longer on any platform like that for anything aside
from work. So I don't look at it for fun or
entertainment or. I'll look for specific reasons
now it just got me. I don't go on social at all
other than YouTube. Like I'll go on Facebook
literally just for the funny stuff cuz I'll send them to you
just random and I'll only spend like 15 minutes on there to get
a couple laughs. Yeah, and that's it.
Cuz I just wanted a quick laugh. And it's not like people getting
fucked up or anything like that. Like I, I like the genuine, like
hilarious shit that people make. You're just making fun of how
humans live. But other than that, it, it's a
real easy way to get sucked down into this depressive state.
And that's like some of the drive that I have with these
like social gathering with younger people.
Like I, I told this kid last night I was at the gym and I was
like, yeah, I developed this off of my sales training that I, I
built out. I turn it into like a dating and
making friends thing. So you should check it out.
And he looked at it and he texted me last night and he's
like, dude, I'm going to try this tomorrow.
He's like, I'm just so I have no idea how to engage with people.
Like he's like, and it sounds stupid.
I'm like, Nope, it's not stupid. I was like, and it's not really
anybody's fault other than the cool new thing, dude.
Like when smartphones came in, Yeah, like, dude, it was the
coolest toy. You think back when you were a
kid, like dude, the first iPhone, nobody would even be
like Tigger, this archaic fucking shit.
But back then it was the most. Amazing thing.
Yeah, because I was out knocking doors and Vivint was like, oh
hey, if you get this, it'll increase your sales by this much
because it allows you to use this app and apps weren't a
thing and it was like very few all of this stuff.
And so I got the iPhone 3GS. I had that when it was out and I
was out knocking. That phone cost me way more than
any other phone I'd ever bought. And the monthly service on it
was way high because it had whole different data plan
because it was a smartphone. And I was just like, Oh my God.
Dude, do you remember that like when you would buy like a Nokia,
it was going to cost you like $300.00 and you're like, fuck,
you know? And now you're like. 2300 bucks
you're like Oh my God there's so much for your.
Phone so excited if you found like a 2 to $300.00 used phone,
but it was it was way more simplistic.
We should park behind that car. Oh yeah, that works.
Because this is full. Yeah, man, it was.
Can we park? Yeah.
Yeah, say no parking. Yeah, but that's the thing,
dude. Like I, I love that.
What were I talking about? I have no idea, science.
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