1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,480 I'm Brandon. And I'm Jesse, we're cannabis 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:07,880 school. Having cannabis infuse 3 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:09,920 conversations. With everyday people. 4 00:00:10,120 --> 00:00:12,080 Cannabis companies. Celebrities. 5 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:15,240 And your mom? Welcome to the sesh. 6 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:19,440 You know what? Just. 7 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,920 Be happy with your where you're. At Yeah, just be happy where 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:25,600 you're at. Like, you know. 9 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,560 Well, and that's the thing that we're always thinking about 10 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:33,680 where we can be. A little bit better on this, 11 00:00:33,840 --> 00:00:36,160 yeah. I'll be happier when I'll be. 12 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:40,040 Yep. Yeah, you kind of like all of 13 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:43,720 that after time, because what good does it do you? 14 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,440 It doesn't. It's just what creates all of 15 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,520 our stress and depression and anxiety and like frustrations 16 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:54,280 and that it's like all of those moments that aren't right here 17 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,080 that it's like, oh, but it's a human. 18 00:00:57,080 --> 00:01:00,160 It's what we grow up in. And so it's what our we like so 19 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:03,600 subconsciously do is it's just like we get fucked. 20 00:01:05,519 --> 00:01:07,160 We're always trying to protect ourselves. 21 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:11,200 It's it's just innate. It's constantly trying to 22 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:17,440 protect ourselves. I don't know man, like didn't 23 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:26,200 been contemplating a lot about people getting along and that's 24 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:33,560 fair how often we we look for those differences to argue 25 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:35,840 about. Yeah, not the similarities. 26 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:37,440 Never. Not finding not. 27 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:39,520 Not recently. Are commonalities but like 28 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,120 finding the differences and arguing over them? 29 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:48,160 Like just making it such a you and a me or an us and a them 30 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,520 instead of commonalities like you said. 31 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:52,440 Well, it's like, I mean, I don't. 32 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:58,240 Yeah, I'll say it. So in these verses they're 33 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:02,080 talking about if your eye offend thee, then pluck it out. 34 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,400 You know, if your foot offends you, cut it off. 35 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:09,840 And and what it means is, is that why are you letting 36 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,720 everybody else offend you? Why are you letting them bother 37 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,280 you? I mean, is it really affecting 38 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:15,560 you? Well. 39 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:17,840 'Cause we choose. We choose to be. 40 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,120 Obsessed. Yeah, That's all offense is, is 41 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,600 a choice. It's like, oh, I chose to be 42 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,520 offended by that. Well, why did we choose to get 43 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,600 offended by that? What was it about that that we 44 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:34,320 are choosing to be offended by? You know, my counter is in my 45 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:41,120 head to to block out all of these, like immediate, like if 46 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,840 somebody's going to be really mean to me or rude to me, Yeah, 47 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,480 I just tap into my Adam Sandler. I think about that movie. 48 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:53,480 Big Daddy was so funny, like they he had this roommate was 49 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:54,760 Jon Stewart. I wiped my own. 50 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:56,080 Ass. No, no, no. 51 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,960 The party goes. The the woman, she's over there 52 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:00,600 she goes, We ruined the good surprise on you. 53 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:01,720 And he goes. Hey. 54 00:03:02,640 --> 00:03:04,120 You know, he's just like, I don't give a fuck. 55 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:06,560 Yeah. And this is like, that's the way 56 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:10,080 I started thinking about it. Like, I'm only offended by what 57 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,640 I see because I choose to be offended. 58 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,280 Yeah. I'm only offended by what I can, 59 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:20,480 what I can engage with, what I hear because it's what I choose. 60 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:25,040 I don't need to be offended. I can, I can stand up for 61 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,200 people. I could be good to others. 62 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,320 I could be a good example. But I don't need to be this 63 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:34,600 person who's always upset. And I, I think it's a lot of, 64 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:39,880 it's just somebody has an agenda to get done. 65 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:43,600 And usually by the manipulation. Like my wife and I were talking 66 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:47,880 a few nights ago about she goes, it was one of those high 67 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:49,400 moments, you know? And she goes. 68 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:52,760 I wonder. I wonder who started eating the 69 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,720 first eggs for breakfast? Right. 70 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,920 Yeah, and it's the British, you know, why not? 71 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:03,360 But it was funny because started looking at. 72 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:05,400 She goes, well, what made it popular? 73 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,080 And I said, well, Edward Bernays did. 74 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:10,440 And she goes Edward Bernays. I said, yeah, In the United 75 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:14,920 States, Edward Bernays, in the early 1900s, he was hired by a 76 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,680 baking company, a ham company that makes bacon. 77 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,079 And they're like, we got to sell this bacon, but we don't know 78 00:04:21,079 --> 00:04:24,800 how to sell it. So he came up with every morning 79 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:28,160 eggs and bacon. And not only did that, but he 80 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:32,960 got a bunch of doctors to verify and say that this is a healthy 81 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:34,960 thing. Now, in retrospect, it actually 82 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,320 is a very healthy thing. It's fats, it's protein. 83 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:39,640 It's good for you. But at the time, it wasn't a 84 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,400 staple. They wanted it to be popular. 85 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:45,600 Yeah, well, it's like the milk campaign or any of the other got 86 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,360 milk. You know, all of those things. 87 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:52,160 They're also just really strategic marketing campaigns a 88 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:53,560 lot of the time. Well, they have to. 89 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:54,680 Be. Yeah. 90 00:04:55,000 --> 00:05:01,880 And then you can't just you. Know it's funny you were talking 91 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:08,040 about Scripture verses and as I was, I don't know, off and on in 92 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:11,600 my head over the last several days. 93 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:13,440 There's sorry. You're good. 94 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:17,880 I told you man, yeah, just make a cough. 95 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,320 Fucking turps. I've just had this like since 96 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:24,880 finding out I've had things in my head over the last week or so 97 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,640 I guess probably. Like on Total Recall, like you 98 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:29,120 have a tracker inside your brain? 99 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,560 Yep, you have to stick this thing up to your nose, no? 100 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:34,160 No, just like thoughts and stuff. 101 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:38,320 And I know I was like, you know, a scripture popped in my head 102 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,520 and I thought it was kind of funny because I have church 103 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:44,560 hymns. Oh yeah, church hymns, Primary 104 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:45,760 song. Shit like that pops in my. 105 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:49,480 Head randomly all the time. Me too, multiple times every 106 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,400 week. And so it was just funny because 107 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:56,000 sitting there and I was making the bed and in my head I was 108 00:05:56,000 --> 00:06:01,160 like, you know, but I guess just if I don't forgive her or that 109 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,440 and hang on to it, it really just affects me. 110 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:08,200 And most of the time in my head, it was like that, like, oh, you 111 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,600 know, remove the, the beam from your own eye before you go and 112 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:13,960 try and remove the sliver from your brother's eye. 113 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:18,280 And how often are we so critical of someone else going, oh, they 114 00:06:18,280 --> 00:06:20,760 did this or this or this or oh, look at this, that they're 115 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:24,920 doing. And yet we do so much shit on 116 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:26,720 our own. We do so many things. 117 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:31,400 And it's like, but yet we are so hyper critical of like, oh, but 118 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:35,840 they did this, you know, And I'm like, oh, but it was 119 00:06:35,840 --> 00:06:37,960 interesting, 'cause I'm like, well, how many times do we 120 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,360 actually, when we see something else that someone else is doing, 121 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,680 how many times do we look at it and go, I've done that. 122 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:48,000 I wonder what's? Going on or you, you think, you 123 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,720 know, you did it, but you keep criticizing 'cause you're just 124 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,120 like, yeah, how dare you, how dare you? 125 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,040 Yeah. And it's so, it's so ridiculous, 126 00:06:57,040 --> 00:06:59,320 this person, this. Motherfucker, what the fuck, 127 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,200 dude? And then you're like, wait, I've 128 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:06,240 done this exact same thing. That was me years ago in another 129 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:07,720 exact same. Moment. 130 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:11,720 Yeah, It's like a pious person condemning somebody for 131 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:14,720 pornography when they're over there jacking it every night. 132 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,920 Yeah. To their favorite only fan. 133 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,760 Star Oh, how dare they. But it's, it's so because we're, 134 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:24,680 we're taught it's like this dude, like recently, my wife's 135 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:29,040 always kind of like she's kind of shocked sometimes where like 136 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,360 I'm so open, even on the show about my iniquities. 137 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:34,600 And one of them was like yesterday. 138 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,160 She she's like, hey, I want to have a conversation. 139 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:38,680 And I'm like, OK, yeah, let's do it. 140 00:07:40,400 --> 00:07:43,560 And I know it's not, I know it's something that she's having a 141 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:48,240 hard time coming to do with because she's worried of how I'm 142 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:49,560 going to react. Yeah. 143 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:54,800 And she called me out on like, you know, hey, like you're just 144 00:07:54,800 --> 00:08:00,200 kind of just in this standby mode and we need help in this 145 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:01,840 house. She's like, I need you to get a 146 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:04,720 job like anywhere, like gas station something. 147 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:07,360 She's like, because I can't do this. 148 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,800 And it was like, it was really cool for her to do that because 149 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,560 she was able to speak up and she was just like bracing for 150 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:16,680 impact. And I said, that was probably 151 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:18,600 really difficult for you to say to me. 152 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:21,600 And she's like, it was. And I'm like, all right, I 153 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:23,080 appreciate you telling me that. And yeah. 154 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,840 And it was good and it was good, dude, because it, what it did 155 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,960 for me was it got me reinvigorated. 156 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:30,120 And. And The thing is, I could have 157 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:31,640 been offended by it. Yeah. 158 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:33,320 He'd be like, oh. Who the fuck? 159 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,799 What do you want me? To Do you know that it's usually 160 00:08:36,799 --> 00:08:37,799 what happens? Yeah. 161 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:41,480 Like when you get called out you feel like upset. 162 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:45,160 Even in moments like how many times is it hard for us to 163 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:50,320 approach our partner or a friend or someone to have even in a 164 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:56,040 hard like so it shouldn't have been hard for me to tell Emily 165 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:00,120 that conversation. It shouldn't have, but it 166 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,240 actually was. It was really hard for me. 167 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:06,480 And I didn't tell her and I think it was the next day, but 168 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:08,960 it was because that whole day was crazy and stuff. 169 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:11,960 And then I was like, hey, can I tell you something? 170 00:09:12,680 --> 00:09:18,000 And of course, that made her a bit nervous because she was 171 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,400 like, I, yeah. Usually it's a negative. 172 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,320 Yeah, but it was like, yeah, I don't know how to say this. 173 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:27,080 Worcestershire, yeah. Yeah, that's it. 174 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,320 That's exactly right. I think she might have said she 175 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:30,840 was like where? Something I was like, Oh yeah. 176 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:32,320 But. When I laugh about it. 177 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:36,840 Sarcasm and humor is how I function and and in 178 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:40,400 uncomfortable situations. That's definitely how I 179 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:43,640 function. I will make a joke because it 180 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:46,320 just it lightens the mood and sometimes you just need that 181 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:48,120 when things are really. Shitty need a break? 182 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:51,920 Hard and you're like OK, things are still OK we can still have 183 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:55,400 this hard conversation but like all right, like it's OK. 184 00:09:56,360 --> 00:10:00,480 But you know even that one and I was surprised because she was 185 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:04,520 just fine with it She didn't like it wasn't her thing was 186 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:07,600 like Oh my God, I'm sorry. But for me it was something that 187 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:11,640 like I was having a difficulty approaching sharing that or like 188 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:14,400 doing. That wow, yeah, that's hard, 189 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:15,240 dude. It was weird. 190 00:10:16,680 --> 00:10:19,120 That's really hard. But I, I know there's lots of 191 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:22,120 people who struggle with that too, or like, oh, I really, I 192 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,560 struggle with opening or sharing or having a difficult 193 00:10:24,560 --> 00:10:27,080 conversation, you know? Well, it's understandable. 194 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:29,800 I mean, again, it goes back to your childhood where you know 195 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,040 you will be, you'll be lectured and you will be told, but you do 196 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:35,920 not have an opinion. Yeah, we got talked at often. 197 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,120 Yeah, you didn't have a conversation with you like, hey, 198 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,200 what's going on? Like what's underneath the 199 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:43,760 surface with this And it's it's really difficult, dude. 200 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:45,680 Did you get? A lot of conversations growing 201 00:10:45,680 --> 00:10:46,240 up. No. 202 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:48,920 OK, I, I was like, I don't, I don't know. 203 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:52,080 A lot of kids like are age older. 204 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:57,280 A lot of people, I guess adults who have, who grew up with that, 205 00:10:57,560 --> 00:11:00,920 who grew up with parents who are very conversational, discussing 206 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:04,280 like, hey, let's talk this out. You know, well, if you think 207 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:08,360 back from like, the Great Depression era, Oh yeah, it's 208 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,760 just gotten less and less. Abrasive. 209 00:11:12,680 --> 00:11:14,080 Stoic. Yeah. 210 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,200 Because people just dealt with it. 211 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:20,960 It's like, it's like a consistent pain like you have 212 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:23,920 with your back and my knee. Yeah, once it's chronic, it's 213 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:25,600 your existence. It's all you know. 214 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:29,280 Like so it's just there and when it's not there you're like. 215 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,000 Like holy shit, that's. Neat, all right. 216 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:36,000 And the next day? Like the times that I smoke 217 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:39,200 something incredible or I have like a really good edible and 218 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,120 I'm like, holy shit, I don't have any pain right now. 219 00:11:42,560 --> 00:11:45,320 Like that is this amazing miracle, but then it comes back 220 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:47,120 and I'm like, oh hey, welcome back. 221 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:49,440 Right. Yeah. 222 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:54,320 It's so frustrating, but at the same time, man, I'm like, I'm 223 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:59,320 the one that can decide how I feel and that I had an argument 224 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:00,840 that you remember that woman, Valerie. 225 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:03,080 Yes, very. Much did I tell you, she reached 226 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:04,680 out to me again. You did. 227 00:12:04,680 --> 00:12:06,760 For no, no, no, just like recently, recently. 228 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:07,680 Yeah, yeah. Yeah, within the. 229 00:12:07,680 --> 00:12:10,360 Last couple weeks or something, those guys who had that cannabis 230 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:11,560 documentary or show. Oh. 231 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:13,440 Yeah. Like Pawn Stars. 232 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:15,640 Yeah. But with cannabis, it's OK. 233 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:18,000 I'm just. Yeah. 234 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:20,720 Anyways. But when Valerie and I were 235 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,240 having a conversation, I was telling her about this is a long 236 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:27,200 time ago and this is something that I felt then, but now I've 237 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:31,920 confirmed it more. And I said, well, my son, one of 238 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:35,400 my sons, Xander had a really bad problem with temper. 239 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:38,520 And I was like, well, you're the one who decides if you're upset 240 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:40,720 or not. You're the one who could be 241 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:42,680 angry. No one can make you angry. 242 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,320 And she disagreed with it. And I said, well, how do you let 243 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:50,720 somebody else offend you? And she goes, well, they know 244 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:52,120 how to push your buttons. And they said that. 245 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,440 And I said, yeah, but you're the only one who takes offense. 246 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,400 Yeah. Like if you don't take offense, 247 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:01,360 it's really it's you got to pull in the Adam Sandler. 248 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:03,920 I just want to respond. If somebody goes, you know, 249 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,320 Jesse, you're a real fucking asshole, All right? 250 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:08,800 That's what I want to do now. It's going to be the Adam 251 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:12,360 Sandler, all right? Because it diffuses it. 252 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:15,400 And I laugh. It's just like, whatever, like, 253 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,080 you know, I think you're kind of an asshole. 254 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:18,720 Yeah, there are hard days, you know? 255 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:21,680 Like, what do you, what does that other person do you like? 256 00:13:21,680 --> 00:13:23,760 You know what? I think you're a real fucking 257 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:25,160 prick. Hey, we're all entitled to our 258 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:29,000 opinion. So Addie had a really hard. 259 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:31,880 Oh yeah. Time at school, there was a kid 260 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:35,920 who was, I think really has a lot of struggles going on 261 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:39,360 mentally right now and I don't think their parents are helping 262 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:41,200 them navigate that in the best way. 263 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:42,320 And they probably don't know how to. 264 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:45,960 No, I don't think they do. And that's, but how many parents 265 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,240 do? And so I've seen, I've been 266 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:52,560 seeing that with Addie because she was like, hey, my this 267 00:13:52,560 --> 00:13:56,120 friend is blaming our friend group, blaming us because they 268 00:13:56,120 --> 00:14:01,400 are feeling depressed or sad. And so they're saying, oh, and 269 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,880 they brought a knife to school and tried to cut off their 270 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:09,440 finger in class and blamed that sadness or depression on that 271 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:12,880 friend group going, Oh, you guys only pitied me and brought me 272 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:14,280 into the friend group out of pity. 273 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:17,240 You didn't. You don't want to actually be my 274 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:21,880 friend. But yeah, Addie loves her and 275 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:24,080 cares about her just as like any of her other friends. 276 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:26,640 She's just like, right. She's 12. 277 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:30,040 She's like, I don't know how to navigate helping someone in the 278 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:34,160 with these struggles right now. And I'm like, that make sense? 279 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:37,240 Because even as adults, how many of us know to how know how to 280 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:40,640 help navigate or help someone else navigate those types of 281 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:42,240 struggles in those moments sometimes? 282 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:47,400 Well, it's, you know, a lot of it has to do with and, and I 283 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,880 wouldn't even say generational because I think it's just humans 284 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,280 in general. It's and you can blame 285 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:55,000 technology and all that one, but that's just a cop. 286 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:56,480 Out. I think it's just the hard 287 00:14:56,480 --> 00:15:01,040 discussions because mental health isn't a big discussion. 288 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:04,680 A lot of it like, you know, depression, anxiety, mental 289 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:08,920 health in general, or are you having suicidal thoughts or self 290 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:12,720 harm thoughts like things like this, They're not common 291 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:17,040 conversations that we're having most of the time, you know? 292 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:22,200 Well, if you saw Australia made it illegal for any child under 293 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,360 the age of 16 to have social media. 294 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:26,240 And I think that's. Fantastic. 295 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:30,760 I think it's great too, because a lot of it it's, you think 296 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:35,200 about now like what's, what's 1 of the common problems that 297 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:39,040 they, these children have on social media And that's online 298 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:41,000 bullying. But I don't think it's online 299 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,480 bullying. What I think is, is that they 300 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:47,520 want to have some type of collective, a group of people 301 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:49,200 that understand them and like them. 302 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:52,640 And when you post something on social media and you start 303 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:56,000 getting parts from friends and family or randos, then you're 304 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:58,280 like, oh, I feel validated. I feel loved. 305 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:00,440 And then you get one motherfucker and there that goes 306 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,160 a troll. Yeah, you just like, hey, you 307 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:05,880 got a pig nose. And they go all of the good shit 308 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:08,600 that was told about them just goes away. 309 00:16:09,240 --> 00:16:12,600 And it's the problem is, is that there's you're not going to be 310 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:18,160 validated by going on social media and saying, I'm having a 311 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,280 difficult time. And other people thought, don't 312 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:23,120 worry child, you know you're going to be OK. 313 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:28,120 Well, it's not a healthy spot for social media is not really a 314 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:30,800 healthy spot anyway. If you're struggling, if you got 315 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:33,320 really bad mental health, I don't think it's the place we 316 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:34,960 should be. But but again, what? 317 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,200 Why are they going there? It's because they need. 318 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:38,800 They're looking for validation. They. 319 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:40,120 Need connection. Unity. 320 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,120 They want someone because most of us in those moments are 321 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,400 feeling alone. We don't know how to talk about 322 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:48,600 it. No, we don't, let alone face to 323 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,200 face. So we can make jokes about it or 324 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:54,760 whatever online and someone else like goes, oh, they comment and 325 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:57,320 that because that resonates with them, because they're also 326 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:01,200 broken, fucked up and struggling in their own way just like the 327 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:02,520 rest of us. Yeah, totally. 328 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:05,359 And they're going, oh, hey, that's funny. 329 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:09,400 That's me too, you know. That's why that stoic man is 330 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,920 stoic idea is pretty prevalent with these older. 331 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,160 I mean like even I mean my generation, I am older. 332 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:21,040 I mean, I'm almost 50 and so and when you have like these 333 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:24,119 individuals, not necessarily that have grown up with trauma, 334 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:25,839 but they just grew up the way they grew up. 335 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:28,640 And it, it wasn't trauma, it was the way it is. 336 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:32,040 Like when I was at a table of this networking event, I said I 337 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,080 grew up in a time where my kids called it really abusive. 338 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:38,400 I know it as the 80s and they all started laughing and I'm 339 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:40,720 like, yeah, I mean, yeah. And they all laughed because 340 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,200 they're just like, yeah, I got my ass beat. 341 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:48,080 But it's never like ass beat. Like it's always like, yeah, I 342 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,800 got my ass beat. Oh yeah, no, we make like, we 343 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:54,920 make jokes all the time about getting paddled by my dad, about 344 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:56,440 the wooden paddle that he would have. 345 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:59,320 Like all of this stuff. We make jokes about it now 346 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:01,600 because like, yeah, we got our ass beat then. 347 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:04,800 But that was. But I didn't leave scar. 348 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,160 I didn't. And, and The thing is, is that 349 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:12,120 once you are left alone and other people who don't know you 350 00:18:12,120 --> 00:18:13,920 are trying to give you validation. 351 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:16,800 It's wolves in sheep's clothing, man. 352 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:18,760 Like you don't know what that like. 353 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:21,760 I can't even trust anybody to talk to my kids online because I 354 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:23,080 think they're going to try and fuck them. 355 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:25,120 You know what I mean? Yeah. 356 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:27,760 I don't want my, my, my 15 year old son. 357 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,640 He's like, I want Instagram. I'm like, oh. 358 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:32,400 Why? What does he want that for 359 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:33,680 though? Well, because he sees his 360 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:35,360 cousin, his cousin's always on there. 361 00:18:35,360 --> 00:18:37,080 And I said look at your cousin right now. 362 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,920 He's not happy. No, he's always depressed. 363 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:42,720 Everything is negative. Even then, it's like, I 364 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:46,000 understand they want to have it, but I look at how many people 365 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,240 have it and I'm like, what is Instagram? 366 00:18:49,360 --> 00:18:51,520 Well, if you're not posting, you're not creating, you're not 367 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:53,520 doing. You're there to to just. 368 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:59,240 It's just another platform to binge, to view, to, to get. 369 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,320 To get dopamine. Yeah. 370 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:04,200 So what is the value you're gaining from that dopamine? 371 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:05,880 Is there more value on YouTube or something? 372 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:07,600 Because they're already going to get these things. 373 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,160 What value do you feel you're going to gain from Instagram? 374 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:14,160 Because there's nothing there that I feel they're truly going 375 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,080 to gain. Well, The thing is, is go with 376 00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:20,440 with the a plan into there because like I found myself 377 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:23,160 yesterday cruising YouTube. OK. 378 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:27,000 Total and mindlessly so I was just like, OK, I'm going to cut 379 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:30,040 myself off. I'm going to have like a YouTube 380 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:31,480 fast. I'm not going to look at YouTube 381 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,040 at all today at all because I'm just like, what am I doing on 382 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,280 there anyways? I'm not learning anything. 383 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,720 I'm just looking for things to keep me entertained. 384 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:44,440 Like I can tell you all about Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively 385 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:46,840 just because it randomly pops up and I'm. 386 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:50,960 I'm high as shit last night and I'm like, and I'm like, what am 387 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:52,920 I doing? Yeah, I don't care about these 388 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:55,840 people. My other night, like I got I got 389 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:57,920 bored. I was, I tried playing a game 390 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,880 for a few minutes and I was like, I'm not in the mood for 391 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,400 this. So I put on Top Gear and I was 392 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:04,800 watching that and I'm just sitting there. 393 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:06,840 I'm like, but I don't want to just sit here. 394 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,520 So I went and grabbed my laptop and I sat down and I was like, 395 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:13,080 well, how hard is it to design an app? 396 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,320 Could I code an app? Could I do this? 397 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:18,520 So I sat down and I was just bored fucking around and I 398 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:24,280 started coding an app and. That's what I did till 11:00 and 399 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:28,840 then I was like I'm exhausted. I was like 2-3 nights ago and 400 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:35,200 then I went and passed out. But like I just, I haven't found 401 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:40,360 my mind going on doom scrolling as much and I think it's because 402 00:20:40,360 --> 00:20:43,280 I've taken social media and made it just work. 403 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:48,360 So I'm no longer on any platform like that for anything aside 404 00:20:48,360 --> 00:20:50,440 from work. So I don't look at it for fun or 405 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:54,000 entertainment or. I'll look for specific reasons 406 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,760 now it just got me. I don't go on social at all 407 00:20:56,800 --> 00:21:00,200 other than YouTube. Like I'll go on Facebook 408 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,720 literally just for the funny stuff cuz I'll send them to you 409 00:21:04,360 --> 00:21:08,400 just random and I'll only spend like 15 minutes on there to get 410 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:10,280 a couple laughs. Yeah, and that's it. 411 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:14,320 Cuz I just wanted a quick laugh. And it's not like people getting 412 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:17,560 fucked up or anything like that. Like I, I like the genuine, like 413 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:21,960 hilarious shit that people make. You're just making fun of how 414 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:26,360 humans live. But other than that, it, it's a 415 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:30,640 real easy way to get sucked down into this depressive state. 416 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,560 And that's like some of the drive that I have with these 417 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,200 like social gathering with younger people. 418 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:39,840 Like I, I told this kid last night I was at the gym and I was 419 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:44,080 like, yeah, I developed this off of my sales training that I, I 420 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,920 built out. I turn it into like a dating and 421 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:48,880 making friends thing. So you should check it out. 422 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,560 And he looked at it and he texted me last night and he's 423 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:53,000 like, dude, I'm going to try this tomorrow. 424 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:58,640 He's like, I'm just so I have no idea how to engage with people. 425 00:21:59,120 --> 00:22:00,760 Like he's like, and it sounds stupid. 426 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:04,880 I'm like, Nope, it's not stupid. I was like, and it's not really 427 00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:08,440 anybody's fault other than the cool new thing, dude. 428 00:22:09,360 --> 00:22:13,200 Like when smartphones came in, Yeah, like, dude, it was the 429 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,760 coolest toy. You think back when you were a 430 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:19,960 kid, like dude, the first iPhone, nobody would even be 431 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:22,040 like Tigger, this archaic fucking shit. 432 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,240 But back then it was the most. Amazing thing. 433 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,760 Yeah, because I was out knocking doors and Vivint was like, oh 434 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:32,120 hey, if you get this, it'll increase your sales by this much 435 00:22:32,120 --> 00:22:35,840 because it allows you to use this app and apps weren't a 436 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,960 thing and it was like very few all of this stuff. 437 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:43,720 And so I got the iPhone 3GS. I had that when it was out and I 438 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:48,240 was out knocking. That phone cost me way more than 439 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:51,600 any other phone I'd ever bought. And the monthly service on it 440 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,960 was way high because it had whole different data plan 441 00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:58,960 because it was a smartphone. And I was just like, Oh my God. 442 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:02,280 Dude, do you remember that like when you would buy like a Nokia, 443 00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:06,680 it was going to cost you like $300.00 and you're like, fuck, 444 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,480 you know? And now you're like. 2300 bucks 445 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,440 you're like Oh my God there's so much for your. 446 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,160 Phone so excited if you found like a 2 to $300.00 used phone, 447 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,520 but it was it was way more simplistic. 448 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,400 We should park behind that car. Oh yeah, that works. 449 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,520 Because this is full. Yeah, man, it was. 450 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:26,640 Can we park? Yeah. 451 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,520 Yeah, say no parking. Yeah, but that's the thing, 452 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,080 dude. Like I, I love that. 453 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,400 What were I talking about? 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